@apolo kabali I respect that, don't get me wrong man. It's just I think of the kids. I don't think mothers should introduce their kids to another man for a really long time for obvious reasons. Know what I mean? Kids can get attached and if they meet someone too early and their mother's relationship with him goes belly up then it hurtd them. Especially if it's like a rinse and repeat situation with certain bad mothers. It can be done, but it really has to be done correctly. If you don't mind it then more power to you man, seriously.
@@k20z3keith7 I agree. A woman I asked on a date invited me in her home when I picked her up and her young daughter ran across the living room and hugged my legs and said "daddy!" First date was also the last.
Single mothers are for single fathers. Nobody single with no kids should be investing or committing to a single parent. 9 times out of 10 it doesnt end good.
@av rmx Last week I was at a party and an unattractive overweight woman started talking to me and my friend. Suddenly she brought up Tinder. She says she had 2000 guys liking her and she just can't catch up with all the matches she is getting every day. So I don't blame women for being picky. It is men that have no standards that force women to be picky. If I would have 2000 girls matching me, I would also go look for the best out of these 2000 matches.
You fool! Single mothers are more picky because they need to be sure the guy is decent because they have kids to think about and they need a mature man not a young dumb prick! They need a man who is good around the house..knows how to fix things! They actually go look for real men and providers not the average single man who has no life experience.
"A man will get away with whatever the woman allows him to get away with" So true. Equally true is the flip of that, women will get away with whatever the man lets her. Too many selfish people out there trying to squeeze as much as they can from relationships while trying to give away as little as possible.
Wrong. It doesnt work both ways. Women can get away with whatever the man thinks sex is no longer worth for. Men get away with whatever the woman is not willing to withhold sex over
I will say it. she seems like she thinks she has a lot to offer and fact is she is a fat single mom with a busy full time job who thinks too high of herself. that already pushes away a lot of men. but her real problem is that she is being too easy to the men!
@@alexsxsxs1817 correct but understand women are ones who watch his show, buy his books, and attend his seminars. In other words women pay Steve Harvey's bills so he'll never tell them (even if its obvious) what you just mentioned. It's not good for business. He makes alot of money making women feel good and not helping them.
@av rmx I have to be honest, I thought that was where Steve was going. I did think he was going to ask what sort of guy she wanted. I'm assuming she wants a chivalrous man with a decent job about he own age. That just isn't going to happen. Guys like that were married long ago or are being chased by super-models, 10 years younger than her, who don't have a child by some other man. But you are right, the fact that you think you can get a guy like that; you are funny!
@av rmx Honestly - I really don't have much sympathy for men complaining either. It really is a sellers market for men. There are some gorgeous women out there who don't think they are wanted, because they don't have a career or haven't gone to University. They want a family and want to be with a man. All you need to do as a guy, is try to resist the urge to compete with the elite guys, stay away from the clubs and the bars, get a job, work out twice a week, be a decent person, and women will be all over you. Just try to avoid picking the 2/5 rotten apples!
Toris Efford she never had a date ever meaning that she used to fool around and now there’s 4 years that she “dated” meaning hasn’t been chased bc she has hit the wall and now she acts like it’s a big surprise.
Let's review: - single mother - career focused (combine those two means she has no time) - she has people actively telling her she has an overbearing attitude and she admits it So if I get with you, I get the pleasure of your company.... And the responsibility of children (that's a lot of time and money), and top it all off with her low self esteem, her obvious inability to be introspective and self aware, as well as her "I'm loud and too much but that's just me" (aka if you don't love me at my worst you don't deserve me at my best) attitude. Gee it's such a mystery why she's single
Steve would never say this to any woman because women pay his bills but getting pregnant w/o ever being on a date says the type if guys she let smash. Then post or near the wall (depending on a man's personal taste) she's asking for the nice guy.
You sir, hit the nail on the head..Yup, low self esteem....THAT is the root of the issue....dangerous.....a toxicity that determines all her other attributes , or lack there of.
And she said her mom said to turn it down. I joke around with guys but the second I see one I'm interested in, I stop all that. Know your audience. What straight guy wants to date basically a guy with a vagina?
Agree with Hug , but at the same time men are choosing to be and stay single more and more , due to #me too and feminist , The risk Out weight the benefits, and a lot of the women who would be good are just a casualty . It’s really a sad state I am even a MGTOW I love a woman’s energy and company it’s just not the same as it used to be . It’s still in my nature to provide but too risky
@@gregthompson9434 Too risky? Why?! Excuse me? Are you missing something here? It's not very difficult to understand the difference between repectful, loving contact with a woman who loves you, as opposed to committing rape and assault. In short: don't start forcefully grabbing at the body of a woman at your workplace, on a bus, etc. 🤪 Compare it to basic respect of human boundaries: barging into someone's house uninvited is a crime, breaking and entering, right? Normal people knock first and wait to see if they're invited in. Treat a woman's body with the same respect and you won't have any risk to worry about. 😉
+ali govro. Tell her the truth, so she's not wasting her time with someone not interested in her. If she's also not looking for anything serious, that's cool since your not in love with her, and she's not in love with you, as long as your both honest about what you both want in the relationship. Be honest.
I was always too accommodating because of my low self-esteem. But I won't do that any more until that man proves his worth to me. I will let him do that first. I am the prize.
I agree with Steve. You’re a single mom but you have never had a man treat you special and pick you up for a date? You let a man who didn’t give you the world or at least attempt to, give you a child?? Ladies, we have to do better.
Women do love bad boys after all. I work in a mostly female workplace and about 70 percent of them complain about the guys who are clearly not the gentlemen they claim to want. So its time for some personal responsibility.
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But if a woman is a single mother, why would a man want a serious relationship with her? Because she will always put her child before him, and he will have to be responsible for another mans child. Now I am just an ordinary Joe, but I wouldnt go there, and neither would many men
Was just going to say. She is a single mother and she has never had a guy pick her up at her house? Chances are the guy is probably not involved in her kids life. She is giving chances to the wrong people and has not set standards for herself
Although I have no idea why Shemar Moore is now a 'dating advocate' all of a sudden, I do like the advice he gave to the young lady. She needs to know she's worthy.
@LadyD True some men are like that, but often times good men are busy in a terrible relationship and good women are in a terrible relation ship. It's just life unfortunately. But don't say most men fake being good. A lot but not most. Plus women do it all the time. Just know your worth. STOP OPENING YOUR LEGS SO DAMN EARLY CAUSE HE IS "CUTE". And you will find that man whom is right.
@LadyD No ma'am... (With all due respect) That happens a lot because you ladies are REALLY QUICK TO GIVE IT UP! Let's take this lady on the video for example... Basically she claims that no one has taken her seriously in 4 years, right? That's because like Steve said, she's too busy drawing the wrong kind of attention with her "big personality" And I bet you 200% that every single man she encounter can see through her, and understand that her "big personality" = easy 🍪
Yep they only want to be friends with a decent guy but will hop in the bed with a horrible guy because she is trying to change him and then when it doesn’t happen she becomes a single mother who no decent guy wants to deal with now. She should have made better choices.
Girl plz... It has nothing to do with your breast trust me! Because I have them too and I also had gentlemen in my life that open my door, pull out my chair, take me on dates etc. It's about how you carry yourself! Showing someone how you should be treated. What you're willing to tolerate and not tolerate. Standards!
general mayhem Nah, we older successful girls are sitting on the wall, still looking good, and enjoying the view. We are so glad we didn’t waste our lives getting played by cruel men, and we chose self-sufficiency first. Only the best men get women now. Marriage is for the wealthy. Most MGTOW will be gone in 20 - 30 yrs, because they were to selfish to reproduce, have a family, and take care of their woman. Life goes on. ;)
Getting played by cruel men?? The first thing that should change in today's society is women need to pay for themselves on the first date and actually seem like they are very much into the guy without money being involved. with the number of replies the average good looking woman gets on a dating site form desperate males, the gold-digging/ the dude has to be very attractive mindset will continue to grow as the years go by and women expect more and more while the average male gets more and more desperate... I am only 32 years old and balding. I am now wearing a wig I need to replace every 4 months just to feel like I can be attractive in newer photos. I wouyldn't be surprised if the women I have gone on a couple of dates with currently will stop wanting to see me once I reveal i'm wearing a wig
HOLD ON STEVE: She is a single mother. You don't want everyone coming to her house. After she gets to know the man, then come pick her up. Overall great advise
Kids or not, I don't think it's safe to be letting every guy you go on a date with know your address to be honest. After I get more comfortable with you, ok but in 2018 a lot of women I know aren't comfortable with that as much.
Sometimes a player is able to give great advice because they are experts at playing the field and they have experience... being a player does not mean he doesn't know what it takes,... its a choice someone can make for themselves,.. and when the time is right, they may switch to the other side of the playing field
"I'm a middle aged overweight single mother... why don't men want to date me!?" I can't imagine why that might be... I, as an overweight, low income, average looking male can't figure out why women aren't throwing themselves at me... so strange.
Brother, I couldn't stop laughing at just how true your comment is! I watch this show like I watch a political debate... Just lies, lies, lies. Or should I say more of a car accident?
Na technology got nothing to do with anyone male or female lowering their standards. She's never had a guy pick her up and she managed to have a kid? Hope the child wasn't born out of a one night stand type of story or worse, continuous self dishonour. Again boundaries and standards.
MrJreed1000 I bet you cannot know all her life and judging like that isn’t healthy. It’s equal like someone would say about you, “ he’s black, so he’s a drug user or a criminal, simple math. There you go.” I hope you got it.
@@blueyellow3621 fact is she has a kid.. means she is not a great in relationships.. shes not a top catch by any means lol she should date ugly guys if she wants someone to be super nice to her
That speaks to a persons character though..what kind of people do you attract that you dont want them to know where you live...do you know where they live...just askn
It's all about a woman's standards and how she carries herself. I hear a lot of women say men don't date anymore, but I have not found that to be true in my experience. A man can't even get close to me if we're not going out on dates
Men absolutely still date, that's ridiculous. In fact I just called it quits an hour ago (mutually, and on great terms) with a woman I have been dating for a few weeks. It was entirely platonic, we went on dinner dates and even more fun things like stand up paddle boarding and a comedy club. I always picked her up from her place and opened every door (car included) for her, there was no going dutch or whatever other forms of skipping out on responsibility that younger generations are coming up with. There just wasn't a spark, it felt more like a friendship so that's what we decided! Like Shemar said, chivalry is NOT dead, and neither is dating/courtship by a LONG shot.
Yes its about standards but in my case its been over 2 years since i had a actual date or even a man for that matter because i keep turning down these Netflix and chill type of guys. Uggh the struggle is real
The best advice I heard was from the show Called According to Jim with Jim Belushi. He told her sister-in-law that if you want a man you have to speak about him. Woman these days emphasize them selfs. What they want, what they need, but never ask about the other half of the relationship, what the guy wants. They just controll and tell what they want. Never asking just telling.
My brother's fiancé is a single mother and she's great. Do you follow the MGTOW movement? Because if you do then that would explain why you have this mentality.
@@tommoore2012 Your brother is making a mistake. The odds of a successful marriage with a single mother are very low. I hope I'm wrong. But I don't think so.
@@icetray2727 It's not certain - but there is a very high probability. And child support cannot be negotiated out of a pre-nuptial agreement either. I hope the brother comes to his senses before it's too late..
This lady's story is typical. She's just stuck on what she used to be, not who she currently is. I'm middle aged and average looking but I wouldn't be interested in a woman like this for the simple fact that your investment could never match your return. It's the equivalent of buying a 15 year old Lexus and paying too much for it. Once men get burned they become wiser. Men are cool with getting burned, they just need to see value, as crude as it may seem.
Chivalry is not dead, its not appreciated anymore, I don't care how many times i"ve open doors for a woman, pull a chair out for her, or whatever she will give you the dirtiest look, and can't or won't say Thank you, and give you the "I don't need a man to do that speech" But the minute you don't do it, they conplain about there's no gentlemen out here, a man just don't know what to do anymore.
Today in Holland an English speaking guy let me go first in the bus. I said: no you go, there were only 5 places left, I'm not gonna steal your seat and then I said thanks and let him let me go first, cause I'm so not used to it. We all got out btw cause there was no room for anyone. I don't even know how to respond normal if a guy does that. I'm used to be pushed aside cause everyone wants to get in first.
I love chilvary. I’m always appreciative when it’s being expressed to me. I open the door when I get in the car for him. There’s some men who doesn’t appreciate a woman how shows appreciation as well. I’ve been dumped before Bc of it; all Bc I said thank u for everything he did for me. I’m in a different place to where I will continue to wait for that man who will appreciate me, Bc I also show it return.
@@JadeMaria1982 You'd be surprised how much dad bods get attention. Health is important while looking. Be happy with yourself, and learn about CONFIDENCE.
If you're a single mum, you should expect to be less eligible in the dating game. Socially, psychologically and financially is a big disadvantage dating a single parent. Problem is no one is telling the younger generation.
I married a Latina woman and before picking her up on our first date she had me meet her parents and family. It was nerve racking but I knew she valued me enough to do that. She made me a better man.
There was a time when a man considered himself lucky and privileged to wine and dine a woman on a date. He felt blessed to even be in the company of one. Today however, sex is cheap and free with little or no effort.
This lady sounds like a lady I knew. Super pretty, funny, smart...and a game player! I heard her say she stopped dating a guy because he was “too nice”. I asked her to explain, and she said he’d tell her how beautiful she was and he liked spending time with her. What’s wrong with that? That’s what a man should be saying to you. “He’s just too nice.” She dated this other guy that called her stupid and told her, “taking an hour to get ready doesn’t help if you’re not pretty to start.” She wouldn’t leave this guy for anything because she loved playing the games. Her friend who I went out with for a couple months was the same way. She thought she could see me and still talk to her ex boyfriend, but she was wrong.
You're like my brother - chasing wild girls when he was single, while decent, stable minded single girls were just around. Now he's married to a wild woman who was a single mom by a hit&run f*guy. She now treats my bro like a cash cow errand boy. Praying for his freedom.🙏🏻 Lesson learned, I guess.
1mrperfect247 No, men don't want to raise another man's kids. Having kids from a previous relationship is HUGE baggage and would be an absolute deal breaker for me. Why would I want to interrupt my quiet life with a disruptive and quite loud force of nature that'll destroy it that once again isn't even MY responsibility to begin with?
Men don’t want to raise their own kids, you cannot expect them to raise other man’s kid. It takes big love and a big heart to be a step dad. Only small percentage of men is capable of doing so. The others are just grass hoppers. Men don’t want ANY responsibilities at all, they want to have endless expensive hobbies but not kids, they want to have sex but not marriage, they prefer to have moms instead of wives.
And most women don't either. She should look for a single dad if she wants a guy and become Maria from the Sound of Music. It just doesn't work. For some it works. Know a single dad who married a single mom. They have 7 kids now. His sisters kids don't want to play there cause its so loud lol.
Because of the throwaway culture of relationships these days, thanks to social media and dating websites/apps, if you play that game of trying to be an individual and "special", you end up getting thrown by the wayside. It becomes a lonely route because people just move on to the next person in line. That applies to both sides.
Rachel MacDonald that means women never care because men do all kinds of things for women and women use them and leave them when they find something better. You can’t ask for something if your not willing to reciprocate the same.
@@gyver471 Women have been carrying babies & giving birth, whether they like it or not. Opening doors, offering seats and lifting their baby bags for 5 seconds are all you have to do once in a while. Things a lot of men never even did for their own mothers. If you're tgw kins of man who can sense the kind of women who appreciate those things with a smile & thanks, then you'd know who to do it for or avoid. Good luck.
I had a guy pick me up for a date a couple weeks ago and opened my doors. Buuut he drank 4 shots and 4 beers 🤦🤷. I had to call an Uber to get home, i refused to let him drive me home 😬.
She said it herself, she works, she has a child, she doesn't have time, she want men to do all those things for her but she doesn't have time. 1) If you're a single mom, im sorry you are not a market valuable women, no man want's a women that has bad that terrible decision on her early dating life, she was easy and by the sound of it, let herself be taken by men who where willing to date but not log term or have a relationship, her criteria was bad, and still is. 2) She's an easy target, late 20s, maybe yearly, mid or late 30s, she's easy to get as she's willing and open for anyone and anything almost, young guys will just smash and pass, so she needs someone same age that is wiling to settle or older. 3) She has a child, she doesn't have the time for the guy then, she needs to take the responsibility of that child and bring it up / take care of it, so she won't have the time for the guy. 4) Most single moms are responsible for their situation, they are stupid, have stupid criteria's like hight, looks and most the time aim too high. You will not see a 10 guy date a 8 girl, and girls that are -9 will really think they can get a 10, if they just have sex and open and make themselves always available, this just make you unattractive and thirsty, you are an easy smash and pass. No man or women will ever date below or have the chance to stay or get in a relationship with someone above in looks, get over yourselves, your not that valuable girls, especially when you become 18 and by 25 you've smashed about every guy in the mall and campus, no one want's a used women, this is just brutal truth, value your virginity and give it to someone that is worth it and has been in a long term relationship. Also girls that have grown up without a father are more likely to end up single mothers because of promiscuous, shameless and lack of modesty when they want self-esteem from guys and gratifications by have guys in their lives / sex lives for validation and confidence, and they are more likely to break up more often and be in unstable relationships. You can find these studies online
When in pursuit of "equality" women have come to find the power they sought has forced them to abandon the power they always had. Mens power lies in their ability to protect and provide which doesn't fade with age, women's power has always been their youth and beauty. Many stories in the Halls of history sing tales of that of a woman's love and beauty moving men to die in defense or attainment of such a thing. They sold themselves out by abandoning their power to be " self reliant " and then when they realized that the one thing they couldn't force men to do was be with them, they unsurprisingly complain about that too. We are a sum of our choices ladies and gentlemen and she chose poorly too many times.
Well said. Females gave up the power of femininity for masculine, but cant wield it over men because they are trying to beat us at our own game. You never beat someone at their own game. Femininity has such a power over masculinity, but most women can't see it or utilize it.
at 3:05 did you hear how the crow grew silent....I'm glad I'm not the only one who paused when HE TOLD THE WOMAN SHE HAD TO CHANGE....I think I'm in the middle with this one. There are so many MEN telling women what they should and shouldn't do to get a man, and there are FAR TOO MANY WOMEN ASKING AND SEEKING ME. In my opinion when a woman is totally comfortable with who she is, she shouldn't have to alter too much of herself to get a man, because then she's not herself anymore. Be OK being by yourself until the man that wants you for who you are comes along. If not, you'll begin compromising too much of who you are just to have a man around. PLEASE LADIE LISTEN, when you begin compromising too much of yourself to get a man, it's not a good thing, you can only hold up a persona for so long. And besides, who MADE MEN THE PRIZE AROUND HERE??? These men are conquering the masses by getting these women to think they should be chasing a man, changing for a man, dressing less, or dressing more, being more subtle, being more outgoing. PLEAAAASSSEEE.... YOU ARE NOT THE HUNTERS, YOU ARE THE HUNTED and when the roles switch, there's always heart break behind it. I would say she needs to be more specific about what she wants, and make her demands clear, and the right man who will see her for who she is will appreciate her. I can guarantee, MARJORIE didn't adjust too much of anything to keep Steve around. TRUST ME, she IS AND WILL ALWAYS BE WHO SHE IS, and IT'S STEVE WHO HAD TO ADJUST TO GET HER, MAKE NOTE OF THAT!!!!
Exactly!!!! As they say in my country "Every bread has its cheese" and someone will think she is the prize just by being herself. Once she becomes comfortable in her skin and situation and exude that confidence which is what I believe Steve's wife was when he met her.
to be honest I didn't understand a word you say in response to this video. I don't mean that literally, let me explain. The video is about this woman, who is somewhat frustrated that she hasn't been dating for years. Why is that happening and what can improve the situation. KEY POINT : she wanted a change in the current situation. She's been herself for years and love life just hasn't been working out. I don't see how "keep being yourself" and "focus on what you want in men" should help in that situation. Hell, I'm all for "being yourself" and having a personality. If she wanted to do that and be the hunted, fine by me, be confident and just wait it out. But it's her who realized that this really isn't going too well for her. She's the one who wanted a change. Not Steve forcing it on her. By the way, they did not suggest her to be the hunter, they suggested her to "put on more weight as the prey" so that she looks "tastier" to the hunters, or looks appealing to a wider audience. Either way, that should enhance the chances of her getting a man sooner. You don't get improvements out of zero changes.
***** I respect your opinion, but let me just clear up a couple things, I never said she shouldn't make ANY changes, I said she shouldn't compromise "too" much of who she is. She obviously loves herself and is wondering what is wrong with HER. There's nothing WRONG WITH HER, SHE IS WHO SHE IS, but from my understanding, she's never asked for what she wanted, which is why I said she should make her demands more clear. The entire dating culture has changed, and, my opinion is that maybe she should communicate exactly what it is she wants from a man, not downplay who she really is. If she has a big personality, and she shelters the fact, what happens when it comes out. Should she "trick" the man in believing she's something that she's not? I also didn't say that "They" suggested that she was the Hunter, my comment was that we are not THE HUNTERS, and we shouldn't be seeking out a man, Love lines up exactly the way it's supposed to and when it's right, it will be there waiting to embrace all your flaws. I just think when women start changing too much of who they are to get a man, it's a dangerous path to take. If she wants a man and that's her goal and she can't get one by staying the way she is and she's willing to change, then so be it if having a man outweighs her staying true to who she is. I respect it from both ends.
:) Again, I didn't say she shouldn't change, I said she shouldn't change "TOO" much of who she is, and to answer your question, there is no such thing as "marriage material", I think that's where people go wrong, they have an IDEA of what and how the person should be that they deem a wife or a husband. They create fantasies based on the ideologies of what society deems fitting to be "marriage material" and end up marrying a mirage. I see it all the time. My idea of a husband may not mirror the ideas of what other women may want in their husband. I will marry the man who makes me feel like I'm FOR HIM and NO ONE IN THE WORLD MATCHES WHO I AM OR COMPARES TO ME. One who will accept me in my entirety, flaws and all. If we all acted the same, then what will be special about each individual. I wouldn't want to marry anyone that puts me in a BOX of what I should be based on what others think. I've been married before, I know what it means to drown in an ideology and becoming someone you don't recognize in the mirror anymore. I've also witnessed other women who try to be something that they're not to appease a man, only to end up broken in the end. My point is I'm not arguing the fact the people should change in growth, I just don't think that ANYONE should change the core of who they are to APPEASE ANYONE, at the end of the day, if a man can't look at you with your big personality and be able to accept you as his wife or girl, then that only means, he's not the man for you. I hope you can respect my position in this as I whole heartedly respect yours, I just don't ENTIRELY AGREE WITH IT.
@ I will never want a women whom i love to change a bit of her,i will accept her as it is. I will never say my love to wear this,don't go here,avoid this or that,don't hear/watch this or that.I will never tell her lose wt if she is going fat in terms of cosmetic purpose. Though i still expect her to to change to be more kinder,to be more responsible,caring affectionate to me,my family.To give up arrogance if any,to have dreams/interest that are in range,not out of limits. Just 10 minutes back,i showed one gas burner to my mother on Flipkart portal who was interested in buying one new has stove/burner. I read one comment of user which said.. one needs to change cooking style.This burner has very strong flames,this may burn the food if one do not change the cooking habits. I can even send the link of that comment. Life is same like this,one has to change everytime. My father once wanted to be a politician,was in a very good position for progressing in career,though he was at junior level at that time with no income.Because of money he need to give up the dream to run the family by doing thing like running a cement shop,now he achieved what many people can never imagine to earn without resorting to unfair means. No dreams can be achieved without change, adaptation/change is the greatest formula to achieve success.
He tickles me acting like he wasn't married when he started messing with Margie! Dude...stooopppp it! You wanted her while you were with the other one. You left the other one and got a new one. She saw the money so she was the 2nd until she became the 1st. The end. WTF! I really wish he would just take himself out so he doesn't feel the need to continue to be dishonest. It is not indicative of a real man. Ugh!
Princess BC preach that!! Fake fraud. You can give advice based on your own experiences but anyone who acts holier than though in the midst pisses me off.
Sometimes when a person feels that they deserve to be special and be treated with special treatment....THEY ARE REPELLING THEIR DESIRES AND EXPECTATIONS....I KNOW.........I'm great at that and women tell me to "GET OFF MY HIGH HORSE" or "DAMN, WHATS WITH THE EGO?". Yup, I have a BIG ASS EGO and I'm slowly in the process of chopping it down EACH TIME I CATCH MY CONSCIOUS BEHAVIOR BEHAVING CONCEITEDLY OR LOOKING FOR ATTENTION!!!
You don't want a man to pick you up at your house if the date ends up not being enjoyable or he was creepy or scary. What then? You've got a guy you don't want to ever meet or talk to again, but he knows your address and can possibly stalk you. No thanks! You gotta be smart and not give out any personal info that could leave you open to possible abuse or harassment or worse. Don't give out your details. There are a lot of weirdos out there (men & women) and you just never know what's going to happen. Be alert and smart. Always meet in a public place where there will be other people. Biggest red flag I've heard while on a date? A casual dinner date at Olive Garden that started at 6 pm (after 20 minutes of salad and both of us drinking our 2nd glass of beer - waiting for what we ordered for dinner) he says to me : "I'm feeling tired and I've got an early morning ahead of me. We can continue this at my place if you want. cuz I really want to get to know you a lot more. I'm buzzed. You buzzed yet?" LMAO! What a jerk! I knew what he wanted and I had just met him and I didn't know much about him - so I ended the date right there. I stopped eating my salad, stared at him and lightly laughed. I wasn't going to fall for his crap. I'm a brave and independent woman, so I told him he's probably used that lame line on many women, he then looked like a kid getting caught in a cookie jar, I took a drink of my ice water, got up and said thanks, but no thanks and left. Oh - and for the record - no, I wasn't buzzed. Lame line Larry........
as a 34 year old man, it al about the smile from the woman lips and the spark in the eyes. If a walk by this beautiful lady, face to face, and either she busy looking to her mobile phone, or she looking at me without any smile or even a shadow of smile, neither a hint in her eyes, I wouldn't dare to ask her anything at all. Men need an allusion to start the first move, we just can't do anything without a little help. (that valid for men with high standards, i.e open the car door for you, and even helping or doing entire domistic work.
North Star that's actually a good point. Don't get me wrong, it's a two-way street but when men and women complain about not being approachable (nowadays that is) it's usually because they're on their phones 90% of the time.
I've actually found that even if they are smiling it doesn't necessarily mean she wants you to approach her. Women love playing head games. They are just now getting upset and confused because Men have stopped reacting and stopped noticing. Men today just keep walking and it's passing Women off because their games are no longer working
Jason Williams so smiling at someone is playing a game? XD Usually I smile at literally everyone cuz I feel like it cheers people up to give them a little smile and often they end up smiling themselves.
Nah, that isn't true. There are fatter women than her, who don't have a problem getting dates. Men with low standards even call them curvy nowadays....
Jonathan Harper I’ve been married 15 years. When I met my husband, a fighter pilot, he had never been married or had kids. I was the divorced mother of 3, the youngest was 2. I worked 60-80 hours a week for the DoD. Not all men go running from a single mother.
Author Janee Marie He certainly is not, single mothers are deal breakers to high value men. Her sexual market value or desirability factor goes down no matter how hot or beautiful she is. Would you buy a salvaged car with high mileage, high insurance premiums or a new car with low mileage low insurance? Answer that, then you will understand why women with kids are deal breakers to most men.
The single mom is her issue. There are lots of liabilities in dating women with children. The financial burdens, the inability of discipline someone else's children, the relationship with the baby daddy, the lack of any alone time to develop a relationship. But the biggest issue is, you will never be Number one in her life. The kids will always take that spot.
Ouch! Steve did not sugar coat his answer. She should go to Home Depot and spend the day looking around and asking questions. Surely, she'll find a man there.
@Porsha Carter just not the old single mother parts? She wants life long commitment. Ask any honest man he will tell you that youth, beauty, and not having another man's kids are big points in the woman's favor. But old, fat, bad attitude, and single mother? No man will commit to that. Oh they will hit it and quit it but never put a ring on it
Sorry in this day and age I don't want to have a man to pick me up. I will meet the man where ever the date is. If I want to leave I want to have that freedom and control of the situation thank you. Too many weirdos out there to have someone pick me up at my place. Meet at the restaurant or whatever it is.
Indeed he was... 100% Lest how soon he forgets, and how unwise his audiences are to accept his advice, the advice from an adulterer. But hey, I guess they was the same thing in thier relationships.
@@crazyinq8617 this people are getting advise from an entertainer, think about it, american religion for more than a centurie, they pretende, people of the lie with zero integrity.
There are girls like this and it's shocking. I took a girl out on a date and I guess I'm old school n picked her up ,took her flowers, held the door open for her and all that. At the end of the date I walked her back to her door and gave her a hug and she kissed me .. she told me she never had a guy do all that for her and she was really beautiful. I couldn't believe it .
Any time someone asks what they're doing wrong in dating, i think of the scene in the movie Hitch, when Will Smith's character sees his girlfriend making out with another guy and he asks, "What am i doing wrong?". The dude she's making out with says, "You're doing it right now".
"You can't be convenient and special at the same time" wow did I needed to hear this!
Deep stuff
You also can’t be a fat single mom with an attitude and expect to be treated like you’re something special.
@Thelondonbadger asking a guy out NEVER ever works. Don't do it. You want a man. Not a woman pretending to be a man.
@Round Robin my dude...I like u
@@windsofmarchjourneyperrytr2823 then have fun staying single or being used by guys that have no interest in a serious relationship
As soon as she said single mother... that's why it's hard to find dates. Men don't want to deal with that. The child is another man's responsibility.
@apolo kabali I respect that, don't get me wrong man. It's just I think of the kids. I don't think mothers should introduce their kids to another man for a really long time for obvious reasons. Know what I mean? Kids can get attached and if they meet someone too early and their mother's relationship with him goes belly up then it hurtd them. Especially if it's like a rinse and repeat situation with certain bad mothers. It can be done, but it really has to be done correctly. If you don't mind it then more power to you man, seriously.
Keith Fendley
True
apolo kabali - and if she could attract someone better, you’d be gone in ten seconds. Good thing for you, she can’t.
@@k20z3keith7 I agree. A woman I asked on a date invited me in her home when I picked her up and her young daughter ran across the living room and hugged my legs and said "daddy!" First date was also the last.
Single mothers are for single fathers. Nobody single with no kids should be investing or committing to a single parent. 9 times out of 10 it doesnt end good.
Ummm . . . personally I don't want no one coming to my house and picking me up. Naw playa, we just met, I'll meet you at the restaurant.
Dee Dee They may show up, unexpectedly.
Agreed! I dont want the killer to find me that easily lol
😒
yeah exactl y I dnt want no dude knowing my address, i wanna be able to ghost in peace lmao
Lol.. that for real real
Nahhh, don't believe it. She 's just not getting asked by the Guys she wants to be asked by, and the Guys that do ask don't count.
I don't think so. She is a single mom. They are much less picky than normal women.
SlideRulePirate she dumb
@av rmx Last week I was at a party and an unattractive overweight woman started talking to me and my friend. Suddenly she brought up Tinder. She says she had 2000 guys liking her and she just can't catch up with all the matches she is getting every day.
So I don't blame women for being picky. It is men that have no standards that force women to be picky. If I would have 2000 girls matching me, I would also go look for the best out of these 2000 matches.
You fool! Single mothers are more picky because they need to be sure the guy is decent because they have kids to think about and they need a mature man not a young dumb prick! They need a man who is good around the house..knows how to fix things! They actually go look for real men and providers not the average single man who has no life experience.
You hit the nail on the head!!!!
It’s more of the typical, “men don’t find me attractive, what’s wrong with men” attitude.
I don't care how attractive she is. If she got a kid and a hatred of men because her baby daddy ain't around, then you swipe left 100%
"I'm a single mother." Her first sentence explained why she shouldn't be dating. Having tats doesn't help.
Somehow they say its always men's fault lol
"A man will get away with whatever the woman allows him to get away with" So true. Equally true is the flip of that, women will get away with whatever the man lets her. Too many selfish people out there trying to squeeze as much as they can from relationships while trying to give away as little as possible.
Egypt 🖤
EXTREMELY TRUE 100%........ finally someone said it....!!
Wrong. It doesnt work both ways. Women can get away with whatever the man thinks sex is no longer worth for. Men get away with whatever the woman is not willing to withhold sex over
Everyone tries to be politically correct with women in this show. That’s why nothing is resolved or reasoned.
I will say it. she seems like she thinks she has a lot to offer and fact is she is a fat single mom with a busy full time job who thinks too high of herself. that already pushes away a lot of men. but her real problem is that she is being too easy to the men!
@@alexsxsxs1817 correct but understand women are ones who watch his show, buy his books, and attend his seminars. In other words women pay Steve Harvey's bills so he'll never tell them (even if its obvious) what you just mentioned. It's not good for business. He makes alot of money making women feel good and not helping them.
Get a dog...YA cant go wrong with a pooch that guards your home and is thrilled to see you every time ya come home.
@av rmx I have to be honest, I thought that was where Steve was going. I did think he was going to ask what sort of guy she wanted. I'm assuming she wants a chivalrous man with a decent job about he own age.
That just isn't going to happen. Guys like that were married long ago or are being chased by super-models, 10 years younger than her, who don't have a child by some other man.
But you are right, the fact that you think you can get a guy like that; you are funny!
@av rmx Honestly - I really don't have much sympathy for men complaining either. It really is a sellers market for men. There are some gorgeous women out there who don't think they are wanted, because they don't have a career or haven't gone to University. They want a family and want to be with a man.
All you need to do as a guy, is try to resist the urge to compete with the elite guys, stay away from the clubs and the bars, get a job, work out twice a week, be a decent person, and women will be all over you. Just try to avoid picking the 2/5 rotten apples!
4 years without a date?she didnt say she went 4 years with out getting laid
She's pretty ain't nobody chasing these older women when you can get a 21 year old blonde
Se A -Dates are something men put time and effort (and money) into, women generally just go along for the ride.
Toris Efford she never had a date ever meaning that she used to fool around and now there’s 4 years that she “dated” meaning hasn’t been chased bc she has hit the wall and now she acts like it’s a big surprise.
Single mom = free coochie samples
As soon as she said “single mom” ... thats why.
Let's review:
- single mother
- career focused (combine those two means she has no time)
- she has people actively telling her she has an overbearing attitude and she admits it
So if I get with you, I get the pleasure of your company.... And the responsibility of children (that's a lot of time and money), and top it all off with her low self esteem, her obvious inability to be introspective and self aware, as well as her "I'm loud and too much but that's just me" (aka if you don't love me at my worst you don't deserve me at my best) attitude. Gee it's such a mystery why she's single
Steve would never say this to any woman because women pay his bills but getting pregnant w/o ever being on a date says the type if guys she let smash. Then post or near the wall (depending on a man's personal taste) she's asking for the nice guy.
Awhh man dammit! Couldn’t have said it any better that that.
You sir, hit the nail on the head..Yup, low self esteem....THAT is the root of the issue....dangerous.....a toxicity that determines all her other attributes , or lack there of.
And she said her mom said to turn it down. I joke around with guys but the second I see one I'm interested in, I stop all that. Know your audience. What straight guy wants to date basically a guy with a vagina?
Man dammit on point ☝️☝️
that woman just needed a hug.
And a cat!
And a donut.
You're a kind man. Wish there were more like you out there.
Agree with Hug , but at the same time men are choosing to be and stay single more and more , due to #me too and feminist , The risk Out weight the benefits, and a lot of the women who would be good are just a casualty . It’s really a sad state I am even a MGTOW I love a woman’s energy and company it’s just not the same as it used to be . It’s still in my nature to provide but too risky
@@gregthompson9434 Too risky? Why?! Excuse me? Are you missing something here? It's not very difficult to understand the difference between repectful, loving contact with a woman who loves you, as opposed to committing rape and assault.
In short: don't start forcefully grabbing at the body of a woman at your workplace, on a bus, etc. 🤪
Compare it to basic respect of human boundaries: barging into someone's house uninvited is a crime, breaking and entering, right? Normal people knock first and wait to see if they're invited in.
Treat a woman's body with the same respect and you won't have any risk to worry about. 😉
since sex has become to easy to get, love has become harder to find.
i have hard time loving my gf but i just pretend bc i can't tell her there is no love haha
Yup in that order.
+ali govro. Tell her the truth, so she's not wasting her time with someone not interested in her. If she's also not looking for anything serious, that's cool since your not in love with her, and she's not in love with you, as long as your both honest about what you both want in the relationship. Be honest.
Too true.
+Bunny Cheeks Fair enough.
"You can't be convenient & special at the same time" This is GREAT advice 👏👏👏👏
I was always too accommodating because of my low self-esteem. But I won't do that any more until that man proves his worth to me. I will let him do that first. I am the prize.
She a single mom
Guys dont like touching that
I guess I have no hope.
I have no desire for it. I run actually.
@av rmx you're spot on accurate!! Took the words right out of my mouth!
@Sigma Nayo they don't want to pick-up in a game that's just on pause from they last player. No thanks. We run!
Canoga Parque 818 I disagree!
I agree with Steve. You’re a single mom but you have never had a man treat you special and pick you up for a date? You let a man who didn’t give you the world or at least attempt to, give you a child?? Ladies, we have to do better.
PREACH!!!
The CC and college already took a toll. Damaged goods, move along gents.
Women do love bad boys after all. I work in a mostly female workplace and about 70 percent of them complain about the guys who are clearly not the gentlemen they claim to want. So its time for some personal responsibility.
But if a woman is a single mother, why would a man want a serious relationship with her? Because she will always put her child before him, and he will have to be responsible for another mans child.
Now I am just an ordinary Joe, but I wouldnt go there, and neither would many men
Was just going to say. She is a single mother and she has never had a guy pick her up at her house? Chances are the guy is probably not involved in her kids life. She is giving chances to the wrong people and has not set standards for herself
I'm a single parent for 18 years and I had no dates. Now I can readjust things to the least and most importance to me. Thank you
Although I have no idea why Shemar Moore is now a 'dating advocate' all of a sudden, I do like the advice he gave to the young lady. She needs to know she's worthy.
I think it's to promote his new movie as a dating expert in the "The Bounce Back".
Often times the women give the wrong men a chance and won’t give the right men the time of day.
Ever think of that?
Exactly!
@LadyD True some men are like that, but often times good men are busy in a terrible relationship and good women are in a terrible relation ship. It's just life unfortunately. But don't say most men fake being good. A lot but not most. Plus women do it all the time. Just know your worth. STOP OPENING YOUR LEGS SO DAMN EARLY CAUSE HE IS "CUTE". And you will find that man whom is right.
@LadyD
No ma'am...
(With all due respect)
That happens a lot because you ladies are REALLY QUICK TO GIVE IT UP!
Let's take this lady on the video for example...
Basically she claims that no one has taken her seriously in 4 years, right?
That's because like Steve said, she's too busy drawing the wrong kind of attention with her "big personality"
And I bet you 200% that every single man she encounter can see through her, and understand that
her "big personality" = easy 🍪
Yep they only want to be friends with a decent guy but will hop in the bed with a horrible guy because she is trying to change him and then when it doesn’t happen she becomes a single mother who no decent guy wants to deal with now.
She should have made better choices.
@@CerronPritchett Thank you. Women need to own their agency.
Girl plz... It has nothing to do with your breast trust me! Because I have them too and I also had gentlemen in my life that open my door, pull out my chair, take me on dates etc. It's about how you carry yourself! Showing someone how you should be treated. What you're willing to tolerate and not tolerate. Standards!
Understood
I so agree, old post I understand but it's still true
the wall is gonna hurt
general mayhem Nah, we older successful girls are sitting on the wall, still looking good, and enjoying the view. We are so glad we didn’t waste our lives getting played by cruel men, and we chose self-sufficiency first. Only the best men get women now. Marriage is for the wealthy. Most MGTOW will be gone in 20 - 30 yrs, because they were to selfish to reproduce, have a family, and take care of their woman. Life goes on. ;)
Getting played by cruel men?? The first thing that should change in today's society is women need to pay for themselves on the first date and actually seem like they are very much into the guy without money being involved. with the number of replies the average good looking woman gets on a dating site form desperate males, the gold-digging/ the dude has to be very attractive mindset will continue to grow as the years go by and women expect more and more while the average male gets more and more desperate...
I am only 32 years old and balding. I am now wearing a wig I need to replace every 4 months just to feel like I can be attractive in newer photos. I wouyldn't be surprised if the women I have gone on a couple of dates with currently will stop wanting to see me once I reveal i'm wearing a wig
shemar omg just gets better with age love these two men
he's wine. I like wine dwl
HOLD ON STEVE: She is a single mother. You don't want everyone coming to her house. After she gets to know the man, then come pick her up. Overall great advise
That's exactly right!!
Katrina Stubbs but she said no guy has ever came to her house. that means before she had kids also
Yes I got that. Now she has kids, she has to caution of men coming to her home.
Kids or not, I don't think it's safe to be letting every guy you go on a date with know your address to be honest. After I get more comfortable with you, ok but in 2018 a lot of women I know aren't comfortable with that as much.
I don’t want anyone coming to my house unless I know the person well and have been dating at least 3 months.
No thanks! Psychos are out there.
"You cant be convenient and special at the same time" BLEW MY MIND WOAAAH
Shemar... 😍😍
FrenchyBelgian mmm
It's kinda ironic that Shemar who is a player is giving relationship advice
really he is? why is that people think because a man interact with a lot of females makes him a player
do as he says,not as he does if that's what you think...he never said he was a preacher or holy man...but the advice is true
Sometimes a player is able to give great advice because they are experts at playing the field and they have experience... being a player does not mean he doesn't know what it takes,... its a choice someone can make for themselves,.. and when the time is right, they may switch to the other side of the playing field
Alison Francis guuuuurrrrrl you better preach!
He was with Toni Braxton for a while, & then he was with Halle Berry for a while.
"I'm a middle aged overweight single mother... why don't men want to date me!?"
I can't imagine why that might be... I, as an overweight, low income, average looking male can't figure out why women aren't throwing themselves at me... so strange.
And an obnoxious "personality"
Brother,
I couldn't stop laughing at just how true your comment is!
I watch this show like I watch a political debate... Just lies, lies, lies. Or should I say more of a car accident?
I was about to make a similar comment but you said it all. She a low value woman.
@Amethyst Farah
She needs a trainer and a meal plan... just like me. The difference is I know what my problem is...
darksidehavok perfect response. People needa stop being lazy tbh
Technology has destroyed the dating scene. Too easy to cheat, and have more than one person in their lives. She is telling the truth.
Too True
Technology didn't destroy it, things like the #metoo movement have destroyed it
I agree with you Miss V.
Na technology got nothing to do with anyone male or female lowering their standards. She's never had a guy pick her up and she managed to have a kid? Hope the child wasn't born out of a one night stand type of story or worse, continuous self dishonour. Again boundaries and standards.
The better looking someone is, the higher the chance they will cheat on you.
I don't want men to pick me up at my house for a first date, because then they have my address much too soon.
Mireille Claire this goes both ways
"You can't be convenient and special at the same time" 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾
God bless you could tell she was really hurting about this
Never been on a date… but have a kid..simple math... There u go
MrJreed1000 I bet you cannot know all her life and judging like that isn’t healthy.
It’s equal like someone would say about you, “ he’s black, so he’s a drug user or a criminal, simple math. There you go.” I hope you got it.
she said in 4 years
Blue Yellow and there it is. You said it. 😂😂
@@christinaroseth5485 Never and 4 years contradicts themselves.
@@blueyellow3621 fact is she has a kid.. means she is not a great in relationships.. shes not a top catch by any means lol she should date ugly guys if she wants someone to be super nice to her
I don’t want anyone to pick me up from my house. I don’t want no one I don’t know to know where I live.
You’re all so paranoid. Nobody wants to go to her house and if you think some guy wants to kill you, even if it’s just a hunch, don’t go out with him.
Good point
That speaks to a persons character though..what kind of people do you attract that you dont want them to know where you live...do you know where they live...just askn
It's all about a woman's standards and how she carries herself. I hear a lot of women say men don't date anymore, but I have not found that to be true in my experience. A man can't even get close to me if we're not going out on dates
shut the hell up. you sound like somebodies grandma
Good job girl! That's exactly how it's suppose to be.
Men absolutely still date, that's ridiculous. In fact I just called it quits an hour ago (mutually, and on great terms) with a woman I have been dating for a few weeks. It was entirely platonic, we went on dinner dates and even more fun things like stand up paddle boarding and a comedy club. I always picked her up from her place and opened every door (car included) for her, there was no going dutch or whatever other forms of skipping out on responsibility that younger generations are coming up with. There just wasn't a spark, it felt more like a friendship so that's what we decided! Like Shemar said, chivalry is NOT dead, and neither is dating/courtship by a LONG shot.
Yes its about standards but in my case its been over 2 years since i had a actual date or even a man for that matter because i keep turning down these Netflix and chill type of guys. Uggh the struggle is real
C. M. Preachhhhh
The best advice I heard was from the show Called According to Jim with Jim Belushi. He told her sister-in-law that if you want a man you have to speak about him. Woman these days emphasize them selfs. What they want, what they need, but never ask about the other half of the relationship, what the guy wants. They just controll and tell what they want. Never asking just telling.
shopping for a servent throught sexuality.
Really? Most women are not half as self-centered as most men. Belushi was ridiculous. I never speak about the men I want but I got them anyway, so...
They don't say this is what I have to offer
Single mother. End of Story
My brother's fiancé is a single mother and she's great. Do you follow the MGTOW movement? Because if you do then that would explain why you have this mentality.
@@tommoore2012 Your brother is making a mistake. The odds of a successful marriage with a single mother are very low. I hope I'm wrong. But I don't think so.
@@john03063 What exactly are you basing those odds from?
@tommoore2012 I guarantee you that she’s gonna divorce your brother and he’ll be financially stuck
@@icetray2727 It's not certain - but there is a very high probability. And child support cannot be negotiated out of a pre-nuptial agreement either. I hope the brother comes to his senses before it's too late..
This lady's story is typical. She's just stuck on what she used to be, not who she currently is. I'm middle aged and average looking but I wouldn't be interested in a woman like this for the simple fact that your investment could never match your return. It's the equivalent of buying a 15 year old Lexus and paying too much for it. Once men get burned they become wiser. Men are cool with getting burned, they just need to see value, as crude as it may seem.
Chivalry is not dead, its not appreciated anymore, I don't care how many times i"ve open doors for a woman, pull a chair out for her, or whatever she will give you the dirtiest look, and can't or won't say Thank you, and give you the "I don't need a man to do that speech" But the minute you don't do it, they conplain about there's no gentlemen out here, a man just don't know what to do anymore.
any man that opens the door, pulls out my seat, etc. gets a smile and thank you from me!
The1baddman
_Chivalry is dead & women killed it._
-Dave Chappelle.
Today in Holland an English speaking guy let me go first in the bus. I said: no you go, there were only 5 places left, I'm not gonna steal your seat and then I said thanks and let him let me go first, cause I'm so not used to it. We all got out btw cause there was no room for anyone. I don't even know how to respond normal if a guy does that. I'm used to be pushed aside cause everyone wants to get in first.
I love chilvary. I’m always appreciative when it’s being expressed to me. I open the door when I get in the car for him. There’s some men who doesn’t appreciate a woman how shows appreciation as well. I’ve been dumped before Bc of it; all Bc I said thank u for everything he did for me. I’m in a different place to where I will continue to wait for that man who will appreciate me, Bc I also show it return.
could you do all of that for me pls? ill love you forever
Men are first attracted to the physical
Damarr Brown That’s exactly what I thought. Gym time!!!!!!
So are women, even more so.
Humans are first attracted to physical then all that other stuff follows.
Everyone is
@@JadeMaria1982 You'd be surprised how much dad bods get attention. Health is important while looking. Be happy with yourself, and learn about CONFIDENCE.
Due to feminism, and it's negative impact, men have become very suspicious of women, especially loud women
If you're a single mum, you should expect to be less eligible in the dating game. Socially, psychologically and financially is a big disadvantage dating a single parent. Problem is no one is telling the younger generation.
I married a Latina woman and before picking her up on our first date she had me meet her parents and family. It was nerve racking but I knew she valued me enough to do that. She made me a better man.
"You can't be convenient and special at the same time!"
DANG!!
She seems like the kind of girl who wants guys she can’t have
😂😂😂
The 1 And only KK that's every woman out there
There was a time when a man considered himself lucky and privileged to wine and dine a woman on a date. He felt blessed to even be in the company of one. Today however, sex is cheap and free with little or no effort.
Sad but true.
It was a "privilege" he had to pay for.
Free and easy??? For top 20% of men maybe. For rest of us its one big nope. Only chance are hookers
@@rotgutthebloated4730 I see that bubble bursting somedays and the fallout won't be good.
Facts
This lady sounds like a lady I knew. Super pretty, funny, smart...and a game player! I heard her say she stopped dating a guy because he was “too nice”. I asked her to explain, and she said he’d tell her how beautiful she was and he liked spending time with her. What’s wrong with that? That’s what a man should be saying to you. “He’s just too nice.” She dated this other guy that called her stupid and told her, “taking an hour to get ready doesn’t help if you’re not pretty to start.” She wouldn’t leave this guy for anything because she loved playing the games. Her friend who I went out with for a couple months was the same way. She thought she could see me and still talk to her ex boyfriend, but she was wrong.
You're like my brother - chasing wild girls when he was single, while decent, stable minded single girls were just around. Now he's married to a wild woman who was a single mom by a hit&run f*guy. She now treats my bro like a cash cow errand boy. Praying for his freedom.🙏🏻 Lesson learned, I guess.
You can't be convenient and special at the same time! Love that!! Goes for friends too.
If your Momma saying you need a filter. . . The answers right there.
Ok good one.
Why do I feel she’s also a Karen that screams at you on the customer service phone and looks for the manager(?
kids play a big role, in fact a huge role. Men don't want that responsibility (or package)
1mrperfect247 No, men don't want to raise another man's kids. Having kids from a previous relationship is HUGE baggage and would be an absolute deal breaker for me. Why would I want to interrupt my quiet life with a disruptive and quite loud force of nature that'll destroy it that once again isn't even MY responsibility to begin with?
Men don’t want to raise their own kids, you cannot expect them to raise other man’s kid. It takes big love and a big heart to be a step dad. Only small percentage of men is capable of doing so. The others are just grass hoppers.
Men don’t want ANY responsibilities at all, they want to have endless expensive hobbies but not kids, they want to have sex but not marriage, they prefer to have moms instead of wives.
yeah! !!!you got it right! !!
And most women don't either. She should look for a single dad if she wants a guy and become Maria from the Sound of Music. It just doesn't work. For some it works. Know a single dad who married a single mom. They have 7 kids now. His sisters kids don't want to play there cause its so loud lol.
Some of us are single fathers too tho.
Because of the throwaway culture of relationships these days, thanks to social media and dating websites/apps, if you play that game of trying to be an individual and "special", you end up getting thrown by the wayside. It becomes a lonely route because people just move on to the next person in line. That applies to both sides.
chivalry is kindness. if someone cares about you they should be kind and considerate.
Rachel MacDonald that means women never care because men do all kinds of things for women and women use them and leave them when they find something better. You can’t ask for something if your not willing to reciprocate the same.
@@gyver471 Women have been carrying babies & giving birth, whether they like it or not. Opening doors, offering seats and lifting their baby bags for 5 seconds are all you have to do once in a while. Things a lot of men never even did for their own mothers. If you're tgw kins of man who can sense the kind of women who appreciate those things with a smile & thanks, then you'd know who to do it for or avoid. Good luck.
I had a guy pick me up for a date a couple weeks ago and opened my doors. Buuut he drank 4 shots and 4 beers 🤦🤷. I had to call an Uber to get home, i refused to let him drive me home 😬.
3:46 she was looking at him up and down lol
She a single mom and want the best of both world.... nah that's not how it works
She said it herself, she works, she has a child, she doesn't have time, she want men to do all those things for her but she doesn't have time.
1) If you're a single mom, im sorry you are not a market valuable women, no man want's a women that has bad that terrible decision on her early dating life, she was easy and by the sound of it, let herself be taken by men who where willing to date but not log term or have a relationship, her criteria was bad, and still is.
2) She's an easy target, late 20s, maybe yearly, mid or late 30s, she's easy to get as she's willing and open for anyone and anything almost, young guys will just smash and pass, so she needs someone same age that is wiling to settle or older.
3) She has a child, she doesn't have the time for the guy then, she needs to take the responsibility of that child and bring it up / take care of it, so she won't have the time for the guy.
4) Most single moms are responsible for their situation, they are stupid, have stupid criteria's like hight, looks and most the time aim too high. You will not see a 10 guy date a 8 girl, and girls that are -9 will really think they can get a 10, if they just have sex and open and make themselves always available, this just make you unattractive and thirsty, you are an easy smash and pass. No man or women will ever date below or have the chance to stay or get in a relationship with someone above in looks, get over yourselves, your not that valuable girls, especially when you become 18 and by 25 you've smashed about every guy in the mall and campus, no one want's a used women, this is just brutal truth, value your virginity and give it to someone that is worth it and has been in a long term relationship.
Also girls that have grown up without a father are more likely to end up single mothers because of promiscuous, shameless and lack of modesty when they want self-esteem from guys and gratifications by have guys in their lives / sex lives for validation and confidence, and they are more likely to break up more often and be in unstable relationships. You can find these studies online
Steve always gives the daddy to daughter advice
Got you bb
Daammmn Shemar... Solid advice. Love that key from Harvey too. If men don't know what you want how can they treat you the way you wish they would?
When in pursuit of "equality" women have come to find the power they sought has forced them to abandon the power they always had. Mens power lies in their ability to protect and provide which doesn't fade with age, women's power has always been their youth and beauty. Many stories in the Halls of history sing tales of that of a woman's love and beauty moving men to die in defense or attainment of such a thing. They sold themselves out by abandoning their power to be " self reliant " and then when they realized that the one thing they couldn't force men to do was be with them, they unsurprisingly complain about that too. We are a sum of our choices ladies and gentlemen and she chose poorly too many times.
Well said. Females gave up the power of femininity for masculine, but cant wield it over men because they are trying to beat us at our own game. You never beat someone at their own game. Femininity has such a power over masculinity, but most women can't see it or utilize it.
Jokes
Mysterious only works for men, not women.
Also, MGTOW.
Marco Tucker
Also, INCEL.
@@sleepypuddle6474 Not every mgtow is an incel lol. Not everyone is traditional.
at 3:05 did you hear how the crow grew silent....I'm glad I'm not the only one who paused when HE TOLD THE WOMAN SHE HAD TO CHANGE....I think I'm in the middle with this one. There are so many MEN telling women what they should and shouldn't do to get a man, and there are FAR TOO MANY WOMEN ASKING AND SEEKING ME. In my opinion when a woman is totally comfortable with who she is, she shouldn't have to alter too much of herself to get a man, because then she's not herself anymore. Be OK being by yourself until the man that wants you for who you are comes along. If not, you'll begin compromising too much of who you are just to have a man around. PLEASE LADIE LISTEN, when you begin compromising too much of yourself to get a man, it's not a good thing, you can only hold up a persona for so long. And besides, who MADE MEN THE PRIZE AROUND HERE??? These men are conquering the masses by getting these women to think they should be chasing a man, changing for a man, dressing less, or dressing more, being more subtle, being more outgoing. PLEAAAASSSEEE.... YOU ARE NOT THE HUNTERS, YOU ARE THE HUNTED and when the roles switch, there's always heart break behind it. I would say she needs to be more specific about what she wants, and make her demands clear, and the right man who will see her for who she is will appreciate her. I can guarantee, MARJORIE didn't adjust too much of anything to keep Steve around. TRUST ME, she IS AND WILL ALWAYS BE WHO SHE IS, and IT'S STEVE WHO HAD TO ADJUST TO GET HER, MAKE NOTE OF THAT!!!!
Exactly!!!! As they say in my country "Every bread has its cheese" and someone will think she is the prize just by being herself. Once she becomes comfortable in her skin and situation and exude that confidence which is what I believe Steve's wife was when he met her.
to be honest I didn't understand a word you say in response to this video. I don't mean that literally, let me explain. The video is about this woman, who is somewhat frustrated that she hasn't been dating for years. Why is that happening and what can improve the situation. KEY POINT : she wanted a change in the current situation. She's been herself for years and love life just hasn't been working out. I don't see how "keep being yourself" and "focus on what you want in men" should help in that situation.
Hell, I'm all for "being yourself" and having a personality. If she wanted to do that and be the hunted, fine by me, be confident and just wait it out. But it's her who realized that this really isn't going too well for her. She's the one who wanted a change. Not Steve forcing it on her.
By the way, they did not suggest her to be the hunter, they suggested her to "put on more weight as the prey" so that she looks "tastier" to the hunters, or looks appealing to a wider audience. Either way, that should enhance the chances of her getting a man sooner. You don't get improvements out of zero changes.
***** I respect your opinion, but let me just clear up a couple things, I never said she shouldn't make ANY changes, I said she shouldn't compromise "too" much of who she is. She obviously loves herself and is wondering what is wrong with HER. There's nothing WRONG WITH HER, SHE IS WHO SHE IS, but from my understanding, she's never asked for what she wanted, which is why I said she should make her demands more clear.
The entire dating culture has changed, and, my opinion is that maybe she should communicate exactly what it is she wants from a man, not downplay who she really is. If she has a big personality, and she shelters the fact, what happens when it comes out. Should she "trick" the man in believing she's something that she's not?
I also didn't say that "They" suggested that she was the Hunter, my comment was that we are not THE HUNTERS, and we shouldn't be seeking out a man, Love lines up exactly the way it's supposed to and when it's right, it will be there waiting to embrace all your flaws. I just think when women start changing too much of who they are to get a man, it's a dangerous path to take. If she wants a man and that's her goal and she can't get one by staying the way she is and she's willing to change, then so be it if having a man outweighs her staying true to who she is. I respect it from both ends.
:) Again, I didn't say she shouldn't change, I said she shouldn't change "TOO" much of who she is, and to answer your question, there is no such thing as "marriage material",
I think that's where people go wrong, they have an IDEA of what and how the person should be that they deem a wife or a husband. They create fantasies based on the ideologies of what society deems fitting to be "marriage material" and end up marrying a mirage. I see it all the time. My idea of a husband may not mirror the ideas of what other women may want in their husband.
I will marry the man who makes me feel like I'm FOR HIM and NO ONE IN THE WORLD MATCHES WHO I AM OR COMPARES TO ME. One who will accept me in my entirety, flaws and all. If we all acted the same, then what will be special about each individual. I wouldn't want to marry anyone that puts me in a BOX of what I should be based on what others think.
I've been married before, I know what it means to drown in an ideology and becoming someone you don't recognize in the mirror anymore. I've also witnessed other women who try to be something that they're not to appease a man, only to end up broken in the end.
My point is I'm not arguing the fact the people should change in growth, I just don't think that ANYONE should change the core of who they are to APPEASE ANYONE, at the end of the day, if a man can't look at you with your big personality and be able to accept you as his wife or girl, then that only means, he's not the man for you. I hope you can respect my position in this as I whole heartedly respect yours, I just don't ENTIRELY AGREE WITH IT.
@ I will never want a women whom i love to change a bit of her,i will accept her as it is.
I will never say my love to wear this,don't go here,avoid this or that,don't hear/watch this or that.I will never tell her lose wt if she is going fat in terms of cosmetic purpose.
Though i still expect her to to change to be more kinder,to be more responsible,caring affectionate to me,my family.To give up arrogance if any,to have dreams/interest that are in range,not out of limits.
Just 10 minutes back,i showed one gas burner to my mother on Flipkart portal who was interested in buying one new has stove/burner.
I read one comment of user which said..
one needs to change cooking style.This burner has very strong flames,this may burn the food if one do not change the cooking habits.
I can even send the link of that comment.
Life is same like this,one has to change everytime.
My father once wanted to be a politician,was in a very good position for progressing in career,though he was at junior level at that time with no income.Because of money he need to give up the dream to run the family by doing thing like running a cement shop,now he achieved what many people can never imagine to earn without resorting to unfair means.
No dreams can be achieved without change,
adaptation/change is the greatest formula to achieve success.
I learned something from this video. Thank you :)
me too
Hiba I شكلج عراقية
What you should have learned is "don't become a single mother"
In these days. I do not want men knowing where I live. Until we get to that point.
Is that Morgan from Criminal Minds?
JP Alpha yep, that’s him, Shemar Moore.
He tickles me acting like he wasn't married when he started messing with Margie! Dude...stooopppp it! You wanted her while you were with the other one. You left the other one and got a new one. She saw the money so she was the 2nd until she became the 1st. The end. WTF! I really wish he would just take himself out so he doesn't feel the need to continue to be dishonest. It is not indicative of a real man. Ugh!
Princess BC preach that!! Fake fraud. You can give advice based on your own experiences but anyone who acts holier than though in the midst pisses me off.
Agreed
Was he sleeping with the older redhead chick from the show? I'm in Australia and we sometimes miss news things like that.
Guy: *has a mic on his jacket*
Lady in pink: hands im the mic everytime he speaks
i got hurt for her when steve told her to change :( like her standard yes when not her that's just sad
Steve gave some good ass advice
dehhj
dehhj
Sometimes when a person feels that they deserve to be special and be treated with special treatment....THEY ARE REPELLING THEIR DESIRES AND EXPECTATIONS....I KNOW.........I'm great at that and women tell me to "GET OFF MY HIGH HORSE" or "DAMN, WHATS WITH THE EGO?".
Yup, I have a BIG ASS EGO and I'm slowly in the process of chopping it down EACH TIME I CATCH MY CONSCIOUS BEHAVIOR BEHAVING CONCEITEDLY OR LOOKING FOR ATTENTION!!!
Rhonda Stinnie
Qi Huna
You don't want a man to pick you up at your house if the date ends up not being enjoyable or he was creepy or scary. What then? You've got a guy you don't want to ever meet or talk to again, but he knows your address and can possibly stalk you. No thanks! You gotta be smart and not give out any personal info that could leave you open to possible abuse or harassment or worse. Don't give out your details. There are a lot of weirdos out there (men & women) and you just never know what's going to happen. Be alert and smart. Always meet in a public place where there will be other people. Biggest red flag I've heard while on a date? A casual dinner date at Olive Garden that started at 6 pm (after 20 minutes of salad and both of us drinking our 2nd glass of beer - waiting for what we ordered for dinner) he says to me : "I'm feeling tired and I've got an early morning ahead of me. We can continue this at my place if you want. cuz I really want to get to know you a lot more. I'm buzzed. You buzzed yet?" LMAO! What a jerk! I knew what he wanted and I had just met him and I didn't know much about him - so I ended the date right there. I stopped eating my salad, stared at him and lightly laughed. I wasn't going to fall for his crap. I'm a brave and independent woman, so I told him he's probably used that lame line on many women, he then looked like a kid getting caught in a cookie jar, I took a drink of my ice water, got up and said thanks, but no thanks and left. Oh - and for the record - no, I wasn't buzzed. Lame line Larry........
She's desparate
as a 34 year old man, it al about the smile from the woman lips and the spark in the eyes.
If a walk by this beautiful lady, face to face, and either she busy looking to her mobile phone, or she looking at me without any smile or even a shadow of smile, neither a hint in her eyes, I wouldn't dare to ask her anything at all.
Men need an allusion to start the first move, we just can't do anything without a little help. (that valid for men with high standards, i.e open the car door for you, and even helping or doing entire domistic work.
shut yo punk ass up
North Star that's actually a good point. Don't get me wrong, it's a two-way street but when men and women complain about not being approachable (nowadays that is) it's usually because they're on their phones 90% of the time.
I've actually found that even if they are smiling it doesn't necessarily mean she wants you to approach her. Women love playing head games. They are just now getting upset and confused because Men have stopped reacting and stopped noticing. Men today just keep walking and it's passing Women off because their games are no longer working
Jason Williams so smiling at someone is playing a game? XD Usually I smile at literally everyone cuz I feel like it cheers people up to give them a little smile and often they end up smiling themselves.
That's an amazing advice
I died when she handed shemar that microphone 😂she was staring like she was ready to pounce
Shamar just asked you for your address fool give it to him.💃💃💃
Great Advice..Shamar and Steve Keeping it Real
Two words "single mother"
Nah, that isn't true. There are fatter women than her, who don't have a problem getting dates. Men with low standards even call them curvy nowadays....
Jonathan Harper I’ve been married 15 years. When I met my husband, a fighter pilot, he had never been married or had kids. I was the divorced mother of 3, the youngest was 2. I worked 60-80 hours a week for the DoD. Not all men go running from a single mother.
Chile boo i know people with several kids who get more dates then i ever did in life in i have none
Jonathan Harper You sir sound VERY ignorant. Ever heard of single dads?!?!
Author Janee Marie
He certainly is not, single mothers are deal breakers to high value men. Her sexual market value or desirability factor goes down no matter how hot or beautiful she is.
Would you buy a salvaged car with high mileage, high insurance premiums or a new car with low mileage low insurance? Answer that, then you will understand why women with kids are deal breakers to most men.
Losing the beer belly will definitely help.👍
The single mom is her issue. There are lots of liabilities in dating women with children. The financial burdens, the inability of discipline someone else's children, the relationship with the baby daddy, the lack of any alone time to develop a relationship. But the biggest issue is, you will never be Number one in her life. The kids will always take that spot.
Convenient and Special at the same time. Thanks
"key word: doses" oh steve XD
Preach Shemar!
Ouch! Steve did not sugar coat his answer. She should go to Home Depot and spend the day looking around and asking questions. Surely, she'll find a man there.
Why Home Depot though?
Oh my God, my two favorite people together. Love you both a lot. 💖💖💖 Love to see you on criminal mind. Love Shemar and Steve. 😍😍😍😍
She is over 30, over weight, and a single mother. Three strikes and you are out. She is a hit it and quit it girl nothing more
Loud and arrogant on top
@Porsha Carter just not the old single mother parts? She wants life long commitment. Ask any honest man he will tell you that youth, beauty, and not having another man's kids are big points in the woman's favor. But old, fat, bad attitude, and single mother? No man will commit to that. Oh they will hit it and quit it but never put a ring on it
So true when you seing someone you have to be willing to make some changes too. You can’t be the same 👌🏿😘
Yup if a woman doesnt ask me about me as much as I ask her, then I'm not going to take her out. Simple as that.
I LOVE these guys advice!!!
Sorry in this day and age I don't want to have a man to pick me up. I will meet the man where ever the date is. If I want to leave I want to have that freedom and control of the situation thank you. Too many weirdos out there to have someone pick me up at my place. Meet at the restaurant or whatever it is.
Seek God for a freaking good man point blank 💁🏽
Kittens for Peace You are TOO COMFORTABLE(life wise) that's why he doesn't exist.
Lol that’s ridiculous
Sherri Solomon wtf does that even mean
Amen
@@astarryeyedgirl why are you doing this to yourself?
Key word, single mother!
Single Mum with full time job. She is past dating.
You were married Steve when you first met Marjorie🤨
Indeed he was... 100%
Lest how soon he forgets, and how unwise his audiences are to accept his advice, the advice from an adulterer. But hey, I guess they was the same thing in thier relationships.
Do you know the full details of their marriage?
That Guy Absolutely, it’s documented and is public record.
@@freereign911 so you know exactly all the details?
@@crazyinq8617 this people are getting advise from an entertainer, think about it, american religion for more than a centurie, they pretende, people of the lie with zero integrity.
Hit the nail on head to much instant gratification in this world.
Wow
Never ever been picked up from the home ....
Something is wrong there
There are girls like this and it's shocking. I took a girl out on a date and I guess I'm old school n picked her up ,took her flowers, held the door open for her and all that. At the end of the date I walked her back to her door and gave her a hug and she kissed me .. she told me she never had a guy do all that for her and she was really beautiful. I couldn't believe it .
You all didn’t get the memo? Men went MGTOW, we tired of the unfair treatment, also we don’t date single moms
hell yeah
Shemar : whats ur address?
Blondie: ahhh wassup?
💀😭
They both not telling her the truth... just pandering to her feelings
I just love how real Steve is lol!
Got you
Any time someone asks what they're doing wrong in dating, i think of the scene in the movie Hitch, when Will Smith's character sees his girlfriend making out with another guy and he asks, "What am i doing wrong?". The dude she's making out with says, "You're doing it right now".
Baby Girl squad all day
*No guy is going to be able to pick her up...from anywhere. Not even a house fire.*
Don't be evil now.You can pick up a friend right.
I agree with you Libbey Welch!
"I'm a single mom", "That's just the way I am", "I'm funny". That's why.
she's sagittarius like myself, on point personality
I can relate to her. actually in the same situation
that's yo fault!
Okay 😂😂😂
are you funny tho ?
lose weight. do squats. you win
+Rage0x0 Be nice