It's been 4 years after my Divorce and I'm still healing and trying to figure out what's next. The Lord has done a great work in my heart since then but books like this really do help.
Keep praying for eachother's salvation and for your loved ones salvation. I layed my hand on my spouse's shoulder and said to him, "Be born again in Jesus' name.", and he's been believing in God ever since. He didn't believe in God before I did this. He's a lot more respectful now. Pray for your enemies' salvation also cuz if he/she has been unfaithful I think this is a good prayer for it.
Keep praying for eachother's salvation and maturity in Christ. Pray it for your loved ones also. I layed my hand on my spouse's shoulder and said to him, "Be born again in Jesus' name.", and he's been believing in God ever since. He didn't believe in God before I did this. He is a lot more respectful now. Pray for your enemies salvation also cuz if he /she has been unfaithful I think this prayer is good for it.
Such a STRONG woman. She gives me strength! I'm going through a divorce myself and have two little boys. The 5 stages of grieving are REAL! Nothing but thanks to GOD ALMIGHTY that I am now in the acceptance stage. The word tough is an understatement. To anyone going through or conteplating divorce, PLEASE do give it some serious thought first,( without the "emotions") and then decide to do what's right for YOUR mental health,YOUR self respect and most importantly for YOUR soul. God bless anyone reading this.
Thank you for saying that. I am currently going through a divorce as a christian. I am sharing my story on my youtube channel. Go check it out as I share empowering messages to those who are also going through or who have gone through a christian divorce.
Seems to me that your advice is best applied before getting married. One of life's most important principals is "The greater the difficulty of solving a problem, the greater the need to prevent the problem from occurring."
Keep praying for eachother's salvation. I layed my hand on my spouse's shoulder and said to him, "Be born again in Jesus' name.", and he's been believing in God ever since ( he didn't believe in God before I did this). He is so much more respectful now. And keep praying for salvation of the people in your lives. The right person for you is out there somewhere and maybe in need of prayer. Pray for his/ her salvation and ask God about it for He knows His plans for our life.
Amazing and brave woman. I myself was in the same position, the hardest thing for me was forgiving myself. I was in counseling myself. As I had to look back and take responsibility and understand how I got to where I was at. As time has passed I see now, because of looking back I see and it was so much easier forgiving him than myself. You are right we gain so much after and for me I know I was meant to be more and that one situation did not define my life. It help me continue my journey to be the best version of myself. You will never believe I had just told one of my friends yesterday that in the past I felt invisible like no one seen me, now when people look at me I feel like they see me and it really is amazing. Often times I feel like a new person, who I was meant to be. I am so much better and know that my future is so much better than my past and I am excited. God Bless:)
Thank you for saying that. I am currently going through a divorce. I am sharing my story on my youtube channel. Go check it out as I share empowering messages to those who are also going through or who have gone through a christian divorce.
My Pastor told us this you forgive others you can't forgive yourself God forgives you. Get this in your spirit. You cannot forgive yourself. It's all about God.✌✌✌❤❤❤
This is because it is never addressed in the pulpit or talked among each other.( not even a ministry for this.) Find a person who has gone thru and succede trust me it helps.✌✌✌❤❤❤
Not all men are bad I was a very loyal and attentive husband I did everything from helping with the housework to doing all the outside work on the house to bringing her flowers and cards When I hurt my back she suddenly changed Next I caught her cheating on me online When we split and the home I loved so much was gone I asked her why this all happened Her response I let you take away my independence Insane
Dude, 75% of divorces are filed by women. And almost all those men have the same story as yours. So when you say "not all men are bad"- I would encourage you to change that position to "most men are good". Read the book "rational male". It'll help to open your eyes and help you see that everything you have ever been told and everything you still believe about relationships is a lie.
With all due respect, some people only look at the good things they do and not the bad things. The bad things might not even be morally bad, but some women like myself do need alone time, and we long to have a social life with friends. If you are not a friend to your spouse, if you’re not connecting on an emotional level with her, she is going to find a source of connection. It doesn’t necessarily mean seeing other men, it might be hobbies, but that’s kind of how a couple can slowly drift away from each other.
So sad! After the divorce, 19 years for me, I allow my ex husband to come back seem like 500,000 times lol, It seems like open the scars all over again. I'm healing again .... This time I'm praying for me and moving on stronger than before.
Thank you for saying that. I am currently going through a divorce. I am sharing my story on my youtube channel. Go check it out as I share empowering messages to those who are also going through or who have gone through a christian divorce.
After a 30 yr. marriage I got the D. Papers in the mail while out of state..800 miles away visiting my mom . Some I did every year . Now i have finally gotten past it...yeah...30 years was nothing to sneeze at. The other woman works to pay my Divorce settlement. Good thing they met at work.
I'm having a hard time healing counseling not work. In constantly praying I wish my marriage could be restored. I just don't understand. I need strength
Give yourself time. Get alone with JESUS Christ. Much prayer and fasting will help. There will always be bad days but you will get thru because God will help and Strengthen you.
Keep praying for eachother's salvation and for your loved one's salvation. I layed my hand on my spouse's shoulder and said to him, "Be born again in Jesus' name.", and he's been believing in God ever since. He didn't believe in God before I did this. He is much more respectful now. You should also pray for your enemies' salvation. If he/ she has been unfaithful I think this prayer is good for it.
Brave woman ,positive attitude takes you long way .. It's so important to get out of this toxic environment that kills you daily ...... Better over and done once for all.
That's most likely not true. You're a great woman yourself. Everyone's got greatness within them. You just have to believe in yourself, look within and draw it out. Wish you the very best..
@CBN and Marcy. How do you factor in these sctripture verses: "12And if a woman divorces her husband and marries another man, she commits adultery.” (Mark 10:12) and "10To the married I give this command (not I, but the Lord): A wife must not separate from her husband. 11But if she does, she must remain unmarried or else be reconciled to her husband. And a husband must not divorce his wife. " (1 Corinthians 7) ????? Why do people typically not look directly at scripture when it comes to divorce ? Why haven't you quoted scripture here CBN and Marcy ??
What if you did mess up & talk bad about your soon to be ex husband with your children? Now I tell them I was sorry for talking bad about their daddy because I was hurting & couldn’t understand how I felt
Ask the Lord to forgive you he is the only one that forgives. You cannot forgive yourself. Not true that some made up story. You were hurt and thats what hurt people do. Paul said forgetting the things that are behind you. Phil 3 :13-16. Stay blessed.✌✌✌❤❤❤
That’s such a blanket statement and untrue. There are plenty of good men in the NFL. I was an NFL player for six years. I happen to be going through a divorce right now. No I didn’t cheat, physically, emotionally or verbally abuse her during our 20 year marriage. 17-19 was some of the worst years of my life battling depression and she checked out. Stop with these all athletes are bad statements you have no clue.
“Haven’t you read,” he replied, “that at the beginning the Creator ‘made them male and female, 5 and said, ‘For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh 6 So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate.” I don't understand this situation, this is what Jesus said.
To all women who want to get married. Don't ask yourself could I live forever with this guy. Ask yourself could I go through a divorce with this guy. If the answer is no don't marry him.
I finally heard someone who saw what was wrong with this ( ken Locke) God hates divorce! God is the only one who can exist you out of a marriage, she exited herself. I cannot perceive her future but what I do know is the grass is not greener on the other side.
@@marlyb176 then you separate yourself, not divorce them, it’s better to be a widow than a divorcee..when you honor God (and not worry what your opposing spouse does) you will win!!! If he/she serve you for a divorce you should give it to Them. Ultimately God will hold them accountable.
The pains of a broken marriage, is nothing compared to someone battling with cancer, or a stroke patient confined to a wheelchair, or Ukrainians who have lost their homes and loved ones. When you put things in perspective, things are really not so bad after all. Hope it helps.
Divorce is definitely like a death but this death you see all the time or constantly while you’re both are still alive … traumatic.., I pray God sends the husband that is for me because my ex wasn’t even though I thought he was … if only I listened and acknowledged the red instead of pushing them aside because I was so in love … next time I’m definitely listening to God’s red flags and will choose God’s plans and not my own .,
The divorce and remarriage for adultery doctrine is based solely on the supposed guilt of the wife in Matthew 5:32, and Matthew 19:9. However, the wife in Matthew 5:31-32 is clearly not guilty of fornication because the Jews that Jesus was speaking to were still living under the law, and if fornication was discovered, there was a moral obligation to report the offender according to Deuteronomy 22:13-24. The wife, who would have been found guilty of fornication, was subsequently stoned to death, according to the law, which had still governed the Jews up until Christ's death on the cross. The same for a woman caught in adultery, according to Leviticus 20:10. How could a wife, guilty of fornication, or adultery, under the law of Moses, be given a writing of divorcement and be caused to commit adultery with whosoever marries her, that is divorced? Jesus is clear, in these examples, that the wife is not guilty of fornication, but is still caused to commit adultery if she marries another man now that she is divorced. This is the only way that Matthew 5:31-32, and Matthew 19:9 keep harmony with Romans 7:2-3, and 1 Corinthians 7:39. Please use wisdom when living in any situation against what the scriptures command.
I don't know why this interview came on 700 club, if this is supporting divorce when the Bible clearly doesn't support it. She could have lived separately if it was not working and not to go through divorce. How about praying for your spouse? When the so called Christians are normalizing things like divorce then what about the rest of the world. My 65 year old maid in India had an extremely abusive husband but she brought up her 4 kids nicely. All are educated and settled. Now, her husband in his seventies is sober and respects her a lot and she is not even a believer. In the US divorce has become far too common.
So you are suggesting that one should stay with an abusive partner? And yes the children may educated and settle but what about the effect of their parents marriage on the their emotional / mental health ?
Watch some of the True Crime where women who didn't leave are dead. Then tell me which is better. My Father beat my Mother from the time I was 6 years old till about 20 years later. I'm sure she didnt do something right in your eyes, so that you can justify your idealization that no one should ever divorce. Promoting divorce is your skewered perception of this video.
@@MrJrock2010 you are a sick individual if you believe that this is about promoting divorce. God would never want anyone to stay in an abusive marriage where your dignity, safety and sanity is sacrifed. If anything that could be a form of idolizing a marriage instead of being spiritually and emotionally healthy.
Kudos for the Video clip! Apologies for butting in, I would love your initial thoughts. Have you thought about - Lammywalness His Happiness Guide (should be on google have a look)? It is a great one off guide for understanding what men really want minus the headache. Ive heard some decent things about it and my GF at very last got amazing results with it.
How sad that you would only blame this woman for her going through the divorce situation. She expressed her emotions and struggles and good as well. You T. T. express a ' coldness of heart, with a fickle judgment, how sad. M. M.
I agree with Tom because she didn't say anything about infidelity or abuse she just was like oh I'm not happy I'm out attitude but that's the foul feminist world we live in
It's been 4 years after my Divorce and I'm still healing and trying to figure out what's next. The Lord has done a great work in my heart since then but books like this really do help.
yes they do
Keep praying for eachother's salvation and for your loved ones salvation. I layed my hand on my spouse's shoulder and said to him, "Be born again in Jesus' name.", and he's been believing in God ever since. He didn't believe in God before I did this. He's a lot more respectful now.
Pray for your enemies' salvation also cuz if he/she has been unfaithful I think this is a good prayer for it.
When you separate and divorce it seems like death but know that Jesus rose from the dead 🌹🌹
Keep praying for eachother's salvation and maturity in Christ. Pray it for your loved ones also. I layed my hand on my spouse's shoulder and said to him, "Be born again in Jesus' name.", and he's been believing in God ever since. He didn't believe in God before I did this. He is a lot more respectful now.
Pray for your enemies salvation also cuz if he /she has been unfaithful I think this prayer is good for it.
It does. It is like death but I think worse. He kept appearing to see the kids. I cried for years. We were married 20 years.
@@grateful1929 I'm so sorry. 😔
Amen
@@lounaj7184 thank you ❤️
Such a STRONG woman. She gives me strength! I'm going through a divorce myself and have two little boys. The 5 stages of grieving are REAL! Nothing but thanks to GOD ALMIGHTY that I am now in the acceptance stage. The word tough is an understatement. To anyone going through or conteplating divorce, PLEASE do give it some serious thought first,( without the "emotions") and then decide to do what's right for YOUR mental health,YOUR self respect and most importantly for YOUR soul. God bless anyone reading this.
I've been married to a narcissist for 10years,and my heart been with him 100%
But his heart and body been with others
Thank you for saying that. I am currently going through a divorce as a christian. I am sharing my story on my youtube channel. Go check it out as I share empowering messages to those who are also going through or who have gone through a christian divorce.
Seems to me that your advice is best applied before getting married. One of life's most important principals is "The greater the difficulty of solving a problem, the greater the need to prevent the problem from occurring."
Keep praying for eachother's salvation. I layed my hand on my spouse's shoulder and said to him, "Be born again in Jesus' name.", and he's been believing in God ever since ( he didn't believe in God before I did this). He is so much more respectful now.
And keep praying for salvation of the people in your lives.
The right person for you is out there somewhere and maybe in need of prayer. Pray for his/ her salvation and ask God about it for He knows His plans for our life.
Amazing and brave woman. I myself was in the same position, the hardest thing for me was forgiving myself. I was in counseling myself. As I had to look back and take responsibility and understand how I got to where I was at. As time has passed I see now, because of looking back I see and it was so much easier forgiving him than myself. You are right we gain so much after and for me I know I was meant to be more and that one situation did not define my life. It help me continue my journey to be the best version of myself. You will never believe I had just told one of my friends yesterday that in the past I felt invisible like no one seen me, now when people look at me I feel like they see me and it really is amazing. Often times I feel like a new person, who I was meant to be. I am so much better and know that my future is so much better than my past and I am excited. God Bless:)
Thank you for saying that. I am currently going through a divorce. I am sharing my story on my youtube channel. Go check it out as I share empowering messages to those who are also going through or who have gone through a christian divorce.
My Pastor told us this you forgive others you can't forgive yourself God forgives you. Get this in your spirit. You cannot forgive yourself. It's all about God.✌✌✌❤❤❤
These stories are important to see. Our society normalizes many things that are tragic and life altering.
I expected to be treated as though I was invisible from my ex but I didn't expect it from my church and so called saved married friends...
This is because it is never addressed in the pulpit or talked among each other.( not even a ministry for this.) Find a person who has gone thru and succede trust me it helps.✌✌✌❤❤❤
Pray for that church congregation, pray for their salvation.
Im going through that now
My divorce brought me into full relationship with Christ like nothing else could. My life is so much better now.
Jesus Christ or your ap Christ
I understand that feeling invisible part.
Not all men are bad
I was a very loyal and attentive husband
I did everything from helping with the housework to doing all the outside work on the house to bringing her flowers and cards
When I hurt my back she suddenly changed
Next I caught her cheating on me online
When we split and the home I loved so much was gone I asked her why this all happened
Her response I let you take away my independence
Insane
Dude, 75% of divorces are filed by women. And almost all those men have the same story as yours. So when you say "not all men are bad"- I would encourage you to change that position to "most men are good". Read the book "rational male". It'll help to open your eyes and help you see that everything you have ever been told and everything you still believe about relationships is a lie.
Went through a similar situation but my ex said I was boring and that she was not attracted to me 😡
With all due respect, some people only look at the good things they do and not the bad things. The bad things might not even be morally bad, but some women like myself do need alone time, and we long to have a social life with friends. If you are not a friend to your spouse, if you’re not connecting on an emotional level with her, she is going to find a source of connection. It doesn’t necessarily mean seeing other men, it might be hobbies, but that’s kind of how a couple can slowly drift away from each other.
I'm so sorry. I absolutely hate divorce. My husband of 8 years wants a divorce.
@Kim C thank you So much. I feel so hopeless. I know God is here but I still feel this way. But thank you again.
She gives me inspiration.
So sad! After the divorce, 19 years for me, I allow my ex husband to come back seem like 500,000 times lol, It seems like open the scars all over again. I'm healing again .... This time I'm praying for me and moving on stronger than before.
Thank you for saying that. I am currently going through a divorce. I am sharing my story on my youtube channel. Go check it out as I share empowering messages to those who are also going through or who have gone through a christian divorce.
After a 30 yr. marriage I got the D. Papers in the mail while out of state..800 miles away visiting my mom . Some I did every year . Now i have finally gotten past it...yeah...30 years was nothing to sneeze at. The other woman works to pay my Divorce settlement. Good thing they met at work.
Yes, I have come to believe that many do walk down the isle with the option in mind that if it doesn't work out I can always divorce.
How are you doing today?i hope you having a great weekend Juneann?
I am trying my best to make it a great weekend. Thank you for asking.
My exact thought
@@birdie.b and that's not only sad, destructive, but a pain in God's heart. 💔 He ordained the marriage covenant for a reason.
I love how they've blurred his behind out because he's no longer around that's beautiful i love it LOL
I'm having a hard time healing counseling not work. In constantly praying I wish my marriage could be restored. I just don't understand. I need strength
The point is that you want your mariage to last. Let it go..
Prayers
DOT MAE look up Rejoice Marriage Ministries. There is hope! 🙏🏾
I feel that
Give yourself time. Get alone with JESUS Christ. Much prayer and fasting will help. There will always be bad days but you will get thru because God will help and Strengthen you.
Divorce is sucking for me right now
Keep praying for eachother's salvation and for your loved one's salvation. I layed my hand on my spouse's shoulder and said to him, "Be born again in Jesus' name.", and he's been believing in God ever since. He didn't believe in God before I did this. He is much more respectful now.
You should also pray for your enemies' salvation. If he/ she has been unfaithful I think this prayer is good for it.
Brave woman ,positive attitude takes you long way ..
It's so important to get out of this toxic environment that kills you daily ......
Better over and done once for all.
She's a far better woman than I'll ever be
That's most likely not true. You're a great woman yourself. Everyone's got greatness within them. You just have to believe in yourself, look within and draw it out. Wish you the very best..
I'm Proud of her. So, is GOD
@CBN and Marcy. How do you factor in these sctripture verses: "12And if a woman divorces her husband and marries another man, she commits adultery.” (Mark 10:12) and "10To the married I give this command (not I, but the Lord): A wife must not separate from her husband. 11But if she does, she must remain unmarried or else be reconciled to her husband. And a husband must not divorce his wife. " (1 Corinthians 7) ????? Why do people typically not look directly at scripture when it comes to divorce ? Why haven't you quoted scripture here CBN and Marcy ??
Jesus made an exception in Matthew where he allows divorce for adultery.
My exact thoughts
Short but great interview. I'll purchase the book.
What if you did mess up & talk bad about your soon to be ex husband with your children? Now I tell them I was sorry for talking bad about their daddy because I was hurting & couldn’t understand how I felt
Forgive yourself and do better in the future.
Ask the Lord to forgive you he is the only one that forgives. You cannot forgive yourself. Not true that some made up story. You were hurt and thats what hurt people do. Paul said forgetting the things that are behind you. Phil 3 :13-16. Stay blessed.✌✌✌❤❤❤
Understandable.. talk to your kids and apologize. Simple..
Professional ball players are probably the worst husband material
Women are throwing themselves at these guys everywhere they go
Women love money
@@Sp1n1985 It is probably filled with players on and off the field.
@@mrblackalchemist true but high testosterone, muscles and money. They have groupies for a reason
That’s such a blanket statement and untrue. There are plenty of good men in the NFL. I was an NFL player for six years. I happen to be going through a divorce right now. No I didn’t cheat, physically, emotionally or verbally abuse her during our 20 year marriage. 17-19 was some of the worst years of my life battling depression and she checked out. Stop with these all athletes are bad statements you have no clue.
bless them
“Haven’t you read,” he replied, “that at the beginning the Creator ‘made them male and female, 5 and said, ‘For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh 6 So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate.”
I don't understand this situation, this is what Jesus said.
To all women who want to get married. Don't ask yourself could I live forever with this guy. Ask yourself could I go through a divorce with this guy. If the answer is no don't marry him.
That is not what you do when you get married.
That's insane. As soon as the word divorce is in your mind, you can justify anything as a reason to walk away.
I finally heard someone who saw what was wrong with this ( ken Locke) God hates divorce!
God is the only one who can exist you out of a marriage, she exited herself.
I cannot perceive her future but what I do know is the grass is not greener on the other side.
That’s wrong
Look at the context behind God hates divorce . Stop encouraging believers to remain in abusive marriages
@@marlyb176 then you separate yourself, not divorce them, it’s better to be a widow than a divorcee..when you honor God (and not worry what your opposing spouse does) you will win!!!
If he/she serve you for a divorce you should give it to
Them. Ultimately God will hold them accountable.
The pains of a broken marriage, is nothing compared to someone battling with cancer, or a stroke patient confined to a wheelchair, or Ukrainians who have lost their homes and loved ones. When you put things in perspective, things are really not so bad after all. Hope it helps.
Divorce is definitely like a death but this death you see all the time or constantly while you’re both are still alive … traumatic.., I pray God sends the husband that is for me because my ex wasn’t even though I thought he was … if only I listened and acknowledged the red instead of pushing them aside because I was so in love … next time I’m definitely listening to God’s red flags and will choose God’s plans and not my own .,
The divorce and remarriage for adultery doctrine is based solely on the supposed guilt of the wife in Matthew 5:32, and Matthew 19:9. However, the wife in Matthew 5:31-32 is clearly not guilty of fornication because the Jews that Jesus was speaking to were still living under the law, and if fornication was discovered, there was a moral obligation to report the offender according to Deuteronomy 22:13-24. The wife, who would have been found guilty of fornication, was subsequently stoned to death, according to the law, which had still governed the Jews up until Christ's death on the cross. The same for a woman caught in adultery, according to Leviticus 20:10. How could a wife, guilty of fornication, or adultery, under the law of Moses, be given a writing of divorcement and be caused to commit adultery with whosoever marries her, that is divorced? Jesus is clear, in these examples, that the wife is not guilty of fornication, but is still caused to commit adultery if she marries another man now that she is divorced. This is the only way that Matthew 5:31-32, and Matthew 19:9 keep harmony with Romans 7:2-3, and 1 Corinthians 7:39. Please use wisdom when living in any situation against what the scriptures command.
I don't know why this interview came on 700 club, if this is supporting divorce when the Bible clearly doesn't support it. She could have lived separately if it was not working and not to go through divorce. How about praying for your spouse? When the so called Christians are normalizing things like divorce then what about the rest of the world.
My 65 year old maid in India had an extremely abusive husband but she brought up her 4 kids nicely. All are educated and settled. Now, her husband in his seventies is sober and respects her a lot and she is not even a believer. In the US divorce has become far too common.
Thank you for your comment!
So you are suggesting that one should stay with an abusive partner? And yes the children may educated and settle but what about the effect of their parents marriage on the their emotional / mental health ?
It's a disgrace to be promoting divorce and justifying it. Absolutely disgusting.
Watch some of the True Crime where women who didn't leave are dead. Then tell me which is better. My Father beat my Mother from the time I was 6 years old till about 20 years later. I'm sure she didnt do something right in your eyes, so that you can justify your idealization that no one should ever divorce. Promoting divorce is your skewered perception of this video.
was this woman being beaten ?
@@MrJrock2010 you are a sick individual if you believe that this is about promoting divorce. God would never want anyone to stay in an abusive marriage where your dignity, safety and sanity is sacrifed. If anything that could be a form of idolizing a marriage instead of being spiritually and emotionally healthy.
@Tellula. Where in the interview did she say that she was being abused ?
Amen. I thought the same. Divorce is so common in our culture and church today. Aren’t we as believers supposed to look different than the world?
Sounds like every other American woman. I need to be happy so I will quit this marriage. Pathetic.
Kudos for the Video clip! Apologies for butting in, I would love your initial thoughts. Have you thought about - Lammywalness His Happiness Guide (should be on google have a look)? It is a great one off guide for understanding what men really want minus the headache. Ive heard some decent things about it and my GF at very last got amazing results with it.
How sad that you would only blame this woman for her going through the divorce situation. She expressed her emotions and struggles and good as well. You T. T. express a ' coldness of heart, with a fickle judgment, how sad. M. M.
sounds like you are a winner.....your attitude towards women is 90% of the reason why there are divorces
I agree with Tom because she didn't say anything about infidelity or abuse she just was like oh I'm not happy I'm out attitude but that's the foul feminist world we live in
@@nycChristianChristJohn perhaps you should read the whole book she wrote then
I feel like a failure although I wanted the divorce.
Mee too!