OVERCOMING PPD: MY STORY | NEWBORN STRUGGLES, MENTAL HEALTH + THINGS PEOPLE DON’T TALK ABOUT

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  • Опубликовано: 17 ноя 2024

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  • @joannacontreras2046
    @joannacontreras2046 2 года назад +4

    Hi there! I am a nurse and I truly believe there is not enough information given to new moms regarding PPD. Thank you so much for sharing your experience. You have done an amazing job!!

  • @midgesilvers9316
    @midgesilvers9316 2 года назад +1

    You have gotta take care of yourself in order to take care of everyone else! 🙏

  • @mrsrara24
    @mrsrara24 2 года назад

    The moment you said you felt as if you weren't enough for him, it completely broke me down💔 Sadly I told myself this many times🥺 I am the proud mom of 2. My kids are now 18 and 15 years old. I became a mom at the young age of 16. For me, coming from a Hispanic culture, there was no such thing as postpartum depression. People wouldn't even talk about this. You just had to figure things out on your own. I had to learn on my own because my family and husband were at work. So I wouldn't have any adult interaction all day. Just me and my baby. My first born had jaundice also and was at the hospital for 1 week. I remember that I was so depressed! I couldn't eat, sleep and I couldnt breast feed. I felt like I let him down and I completely and utterly felt helpless. I remember what helped me get through those rough days was praying. I remember going to the chapel one day and surrendering myself to God. I got down on my knees and prayed with all my might. For God to please heal my baby. That very day I got the good news that my baby could come home. God heard my prayers🙏 Looking back now I definitely suffered from depression. The first 6 months were so hard. He had other problems but afterwards things got better and I felt better too. I only wish that I had help like all the resources they offer women now. But I am blessed with a great husband/father and family.

  • @nathaliecarre860
    @nathaliecarre860 2 года назад

    You made me cry! I’m married and I am also a mommy to an amazing baby boy. Being a first time mom is difficult but doing it during Covid made it harder. My husband was so so super amazing throughout the process. I never really spoke about my experience so hearing your story really made me emotional! Thank you for sharing! ❤️

  • @mrsrara24
    @mrsrara24 2 года назад

    I send love and light to any women suffering from this. It won't always be rough, things do get better❤❤❤

  • @kathleenfrench1364
    @kathleenfrench1364 2 года назад

    Hang in there sweetie. Thank you for sharing your story because I think it will help other moms. I wish I'd have had RUclips when I had my babies 25 years ago because I went through the EXACT same thing three times! You had to do what was right for your family. That's what wonderful mothers do.

  • @tammyrosenberger3023
    @tammyrosenberger3023 2 года назад

    🙋‍♀️God Bless you honey!🥰 Postpartum depression is real, serious and Not talked about enough. My youngest son's, who are now grown men, ❤❤, we're born exactly one year apart. I was nursing my oldest son when I got pregnant 3 mo later with my youngest son. No one talked about PD! Long story short, tried to breast feed a one yr old and a new born and while pregnant, got severely engorged, had to bind my breasts because it was just too much, mentally and physically. My husband helped as much as we could because we had a young daughter that needed me too. You would of thought because we were a military family, living on base, there would have been some kind of help, class etc, but no. I got tired of crying, guilt, pain etc and it was the best thing I ever did was switch to formula! Now I could feed both babies at once, hold them, burp them, love on them .That is the most important thing, not what anyone says or thinks you should or should not have done. Your doing great momma❤and love on that wonderful family of yours especially thru this, Jamal🥰

  • @Lyssa0711
    @Lyssa0711 2 года назад

    So glad you’re in a happy place now. Your health is so important, your family needs you. Being a mother of a newborn is so hard and exhausting. I also tried to breast feed and couldn’t produce enough. I compared myself to other women I know and saying “why what’s wrong with me” I would always feel so guilty. I watched your videos on Insta and you would say “a fed baby is a happy baby”. Thank you for always being so open and honest.❤️❤️

    • @AllThingsKhem
      @AllThingsKhem  2 года назад

      🥺🥺🥺 this made me tear up. Thank you mama. It is soooo hard. But literally, we are meant for this and we are amazing mothers. Fed is best, always!💕💕 love you girl! Thank you for always being kind to me and always encouraging! Xoxo

    • @Lyssa0711
      @Lyssa0711 2 года назад

      @@AllThingsKhem thank you for simply being you💕

  • @hawnatheart
    @hawnatheart 2 года назад +2

    Having a supportive partner helps a great deal. Good job Jamal! Your a great partner and good dad! Thanks for sharing what your PPD with everyone. we are so happy that you have recovered from it. 🌹❤️

  • @lisaparris7762
    @lisaparris7762 2 года назад

    Hey girl, you are beautiful and amazing and you do what is best for you to get through, don’t worry about anyone else! You are doing a fantastic job.

  • @jackie23g
    @jackie23g 2 года назад +4

    My Khem, thank you so much for sharing your testimony. Trust me this will validate and help so many women. It’s ok to not be ok sometimes, but we must remember to draw on our support systems, our faith and our inner strength to see the light at the end of the tunnel. You are enough. You are strong. And yes girl you are blessed beyond measure. May God continue to bless you and your beautiful family. Stay blessed 💕

  • @amissmer
    @amissmer 2 года назад

    I also joined a site with babies born the same month as my daughter, which helped me to realize I'm not alone. I thought being a single mom raising my daughter on my own that I was alone in this. There were women on there who felt as alone as I did and they were married. I bottle fed my daughter. I didn't care who looked at me funny. My daughter also failed her first hearing test. I made them test the ear that failed first during the second hearing test and she passed. Hang in there. You got this! It sounds like you have an amazing support system. I'm glad to hear you're doing better.

  • @juno2013
    @juno2013 2 года назад

    I’m so glad you did this video. You are very brave and transparent. Jamal is an amazing support. I’m so happy to see you back. Hugs to all.!

  • @jaquitad9842
    @jaquitad9842 2 года назад

    Sending you and the family so much love

  • @chaptertwomyretiredlife23
    @chaptertwomyretiredlife23 2 года назад

    Thankyou for sharing! I can’t imagine the pain you were feeling not being able to hold your baby on your chest. I’m glad you’re feeling better, and you’re right- time heals!

  • @carolwilliams2516
    @carolwilliams2516 2 года назад

    You truly are a beautiful person! You are definitely helping a struggling mom with this video! Keep up the great work…. It TRULY matters! 💞

  • @TinaMarieDiaries
    @TinaMarieDiaries 2 года назад

    And number one thing I tell everyone that everything we go through, is in stages. Whether it’s life, marriage, kids, everything we go through is stages and it doesn’t last. Tomorrow, next week, next month will be here before you know it.

  • @8781bre
    @8781bre 2 года назад

    I’m so happy that everyone is ok! I’m pregnant with my second baby and I have so many worries just like I had with my first one. I felt so emotional watching this video. It’s such a great feeling knowing that you have that significant other that is supportive and helpful! I’m glad you were able to pull out of that funk! You’re doing a great job! 🖤

  • @vickistanton8007
    @vickistanton8007 2 года назад

    I went through post-pardon depression with nursing. You are a great mom. Don’t feel guilty. You did great!

  • @tanyamj39
    @tanyamj39 2 года назад

    Thank you so much Khem for sharing your experience with us. You're a awesome mom and you deserve to do whatever you feel is best for you and your baby Kyrie. Let the goodness of God continue to be with you. 😇

  • @mommyinthechi
    @mommyinthechi 2 года назад +1

    I’m glad you’re feeling better Khem, and decided to put your mental health first. I’m almost 37 weeks with my first baby and it’s been a journey. I made a decision to leave a 4 year long toxic relationship, and be a single mom. It was incredibly difficult going through heartbreak while pregnant. On top of that, I ended up going into Diabetic Ketoacidosis, being hospitalized, and having to take insulin now. I felt a lot of guilt thinking I did something wrong to cause it, even though I was eating healthy and exercising. Now my baby is stuck in breech position, so it seems like nothing is going as planned during this pregnancy. I’m really trying to keep a positive attitude and I know God is in control. I feel like I’ve cried so much, that maybe I’ll be out of tears postpartum lol. I find your videos encouraging and I just adore your beautiful family. May God continue to bless you all. ❤️

    • @AllThingsKhem
      @AllThingsKhem  2 года назад +1

      Hi Bria! Wow.. If you have an IG, follow me! I would love to talk to you on there and get updates on your pregnancy. (@thai_disaster) You are so strong. Wow! You’re right, God is in control and he would not give you anything you couldn’t handle. Please always remember that. I am so sorry it’s been a tough pregnancy, I wish I could take all your heartache, tears and pain away! Stay strong! You are doing everything you can. 💕💕 love you!!

    • @monicaespinoza8325
      @monicaespinoza8325 2 года назад +1

      Your doing amazing mama!!!.. Im so happy you were able to get out of that relationship. I have been with my Partner going on 8 years and I probably have gone through what you went through. This gives me hope that I can do the same. I always tell myself I have 2 beautiful boys that need me when I'm in a dark place. Your strong & beautiful 😍.. I will pray for a healthy delivery 🙏

  • @tiffanyandnilasplaytimeadv3264
    @tiffanyandnilasplaytimeadv3264 2 года назад

    Thank you for sharing I’m just so happy you’re back 🤗🙏

  • @nrocha137
    @nrocha137 2 года назад +1

    Hi Khem, I'm so glad you took the time to share your postpartum story. I am a mom of 3 kiddos. My 1st I had a hard time breastfeeding, like your story I was also told to supplement my son ended up in Nicu due to jaundice. I felt guilty and a failure as a mother since I could not produce enough milk. I went thru postpartum depression due to that. With my 2nd child it was a similar cycle, not enough milk in the beging and jaundice, supplement with formula and feeling like a failure. My 3rd I did things different. I supplemented from day 1 knowing I've struggled in the past. I breast feed as much as I could then fully switched to formula by the end of month 1. Let me tell you I feel more bonded with her than I did with my first 2. I got alot of raised eyebrows and comments opinions etc but my daughter is 5 months now and is happy and healthy. Healthcare pushes breastfeeding alot so much that we feel like bad mom's if we can't do it. We as women need to support each other with difficult desicions like these. Blessings to you and your beautiful family 😊

  • @lawendy2073
    @lawendy2073 2 года назад

    I am so sorry you went through that dark time. Thank God you were able to find the light. It is so sweet and touching when you speak about Jamal. I can feel the love and gratitude through the screen. #nursesrock

  • @8887regina
    @8887regina 2 года назад +1

    I’m struggling as well my baby is 1 month I’m excited to hear… happy your back

  • @TinaMarieDiaries
    @TinaMarieDiaries 2 года назад

    My kiddos are older now, but I still love this video. Listen, you have to do what’s best for. Let the haters hate, Let the trolls roll lol. This is the thing, us as moms, don’t give each other enough credit. We all go through many different things and works best for you is the best way to go. Keep on, keeping on and do what’s best for your family and mainly what’s best for you🥰

  • @mynewtv209
    @mynewtv209 2 года назад

    Wow thank you so much for sharing. I felt the same.

  • @Kimberlygordon6065
    @Kimberlygordon6065 2 года назад

    Sending you ❤️! You’re amazing !

  • @mdketzer
    @mdketzer 2 года назад

    Oh sweetie I am so sorry you had to go through this. I thought I was following you on Instagram too but until recently, I guess I was not. I assumed you were just getting settled and taking care of the extra responsibilities, I am sorry I wasn’t there for you guys! Yes, I know what a wonderful caring man Jamal is, it shows! ❤️❤️❤️

  • @MargaritacPena
    @MargaritacPena 2 года назад

    Khem, I understand how you feel. I had my son 2 years ago. It will get better ❤. Keep your head up and keep pushing forward 💪 you got this!

  • @hhholmes714
    @hhholmes714 2 года назад

    Wow, Khem...Look at all that milk! What a blessing...And yes, my husband is one too! I wish we as women would empower our men more so that maybe they'd feel a little more confident to step up. Or even just rest in the fact that God has given women the capabilities to do more than even what we know sometimes. And if you "can't", rest in that too! I gave up trying to breastfeed with my daughter 8yrs ago, but I still want to try with my son and I refuse to let outside voices deter me from what will or won't happen. Those women sound like true lights in your life...Keep on keeping on, mama💕

  • @brivera5270
    @brivera5270 2 года назад

    Thank you for making this video and being so honest. I wish I would have seen a video like this when I was going through a similar situation. I have two kids my first I exclusively breastfed for 11 months but the first 3-4 months I had multiple clogs and cried every week in pain because of them. I wanted to quit so many times. With my daughter it was worse i had to nurse, supplement and pump afterwards for the first month. Her nursing journey was the hardest and I feel I had post partum depression for sure and the guilt of not being there for my two year old beciae of nursing or pumping . I supplemented with her from about 4 months on and quit breastfeeding completely at about 7 months for my own mental health. So glad you are in a better place!

  • @Evie0526
    @Evie0526 2 года назад

    Thanks for sharing your story ❤️ my son is 2 now, but I remember when he was born how hard breast feeding was. My milk didn’t come in until 5-6 days after having him. He lost over 10% of his birth weight and I felt like the worst mom ever. We supplemented with formula and I pumped as well until I eventually stopped pumping. My husband was such the biggest blessing as well❤️ so happy for you and your precious family!

  • @kathylee2065
    @kathylee2065 2 года назад

    Hi Khem! My kids are now in their 20's but I can still remember how hard it was to breast feed..the pain of engorged boobs is like no other..I remember crying because it hurt so much! I think it was worse pain then labour! So I feel what you are going through even though its been so many years ago..You are very lucky to have such a supportive and wonderful husband..and I can see how grateful you are for him!! You are blessed girl!! Take care and thank you for sharing your journey! 💕💕

  • @elizabeth-kang
    @elizabeth-kang 2 года назад

    Omg Khem. I went through terrible postpartum depression with my first baby. Due in June with my 2nd baby. I can relate so much with this video. Sending you love ❤️ this makes me cry 😭

  • @gwynniepooh5796
    @gwynniepooh5796 2 года назад +1

    Thank you for sharing❤

  • @gabytreto3214
    @gabytreto3214 2 года назад

    I honestly had this happen with my last boy. I'm a just enougher it was making me depressed. And I realized a happy fed baby is what matters. I was gaining a lot of weight always being hungry. It was rough did pump as much as I could. I have always struggled with this because I'm inverted. We as mommies go through a lot. More power to u mama ur doing amazing baby is precious 💖

  • @nikkil8342
    @nikkil8342 2 года назад

    I'm 6mos pregnant & I've already had a talk with my husband that if my sleep deprivation from nursing makes me miserable like it did last time, that I would supplement formula. And that's still hard for me to wrap my mind around because I nursed my daughter for 15 months. When she was a baby, she wanted to nurse every 2 hours. That's how often my sleep (if you can even call it that) was interrupted for the 1st year. I was a wreck from no sleep for months on end. I hated my life. Her latch initially was bad for 3 weeks which felt an eternity. I used a nipple shield from Target until she & I actually understood how to do it.

  • @angelavasquez2118
    @angelavasquez2118 2 года назад

    If I could of had a choice I wouldn't have wanted post partum. Now asks for the feeling. So I'm glad I was strong

  • @mrsjomy
    @mrsjomy 2 года назад +1

    Hey Khem, I went through this with my youngest! She was born at 36 weeks and failed her hearing test both times as well and passed her 3rd one! Praying for you and baby ❤️

    • @AllThingsKhem
      @AllThingsKhem  2 года назад +2

      Oh this gives me so much reassurance! Thank you💕💕

  • @marlenvelascodiaz6145
    @marlenvelascodiaz6145 2 года назад

    Hey Khem.., thank you for sharing your journey.. And feeling guilty it’s part of being a mom.. it really sucks. I have a 20 month and I was not able to breastfeed my son.. I try pumping and all kinds of remedies but nothing plus my son did not latch either so I had to use formula.. and the guilt of not been able to breastfeed was so much alike u said it made me cry every night.. being a mother is hard.. thanks for being so honest and transparent.. love ur videos and your beautiful family.. 💙💕.. god bless..!!

  • @gloriapena-reyes5449
    @gloriapena-reyes5449 2 года назад

    Thank you for sharing

  • @midgesilvers9316
    @midgesilvers9316 2 года назад

    Prayers for babies heading test!

  • @megdoyle305
    @megdoyle305 2 года назад +3

    Thank you for being extremely transparent and vulnerable….. you may not know this but this will help many mothers that are struggling with this. You rock. You are enough. ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️ TFS!!!!!🤍

  • @momma8954
    @momma8954 2 года назад

    Progesterone is the feel good, calm hormone. We get lots of that during pregnancy. Then bam it drops.

  • @angelavasquez2118
    @angelavasquez2118 2 года назад

    People that don't ever go through it will never know. It not a good feeling. Some think ( how are you in a dark place you just had a baby)?

  • @kimberlybastien5057
    @kimberlybastien5057 2 года назад +1

    Hey khem, does Instagram have a page like that in regards to following moms who have babies born in the same month ?

    • @AllThingsKhem
      @AllThingsKhem  2 года назад +1

      Hi!! I haven’t found any Instagram pages like that bc I think it would be really hard to interact with one another though a IG page. I know for sure Facebook has all the pages for mamas!

  • @tyara.collins
    @tyara.collins 2 года назад

    Keeping your family in my prayers ❤️ I’m happy you are making it through this. You have such an amazing support system with your husband by your side. Your energy and beauty literally radiate through the screen. You are enough and you are an amazing mom! It’s been so amazing watching your journey. Just seeing the glimmer in your eyes I can genuinely tell you are happy and I’m happy for you and hubby.

    • @AllThingsKhem
      @AllThingsKhem  2 года назад

      I’m almost in tears reading this🥺 Your words make my heart smile. Thank you so much! I can also feel your kind, genuine soul through your comments and I’m not going to lie, if I would have read these words while in the middle of my struggles, this would have made me feel 100000x better. ❤️ thank you for being so encouraging, your energy is so contagious! Stay blessed💕