Young black man shares his mother's unwritten rules l GMA Digital
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- Опубликовано: 4 окт 2024
- Cameron Welch took to TikTok to share the rules his mom makes him follow as a young black man in America.
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What’s crazy is as a black man in my 30’s with no record, I still live by these rules!! I have anxiety when a cop rides behind me even when I know I did nothing wrong.
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I'm so sorry. I have been thinking about this now when I drive or walk in public trying to imagine how this must feel.
I know brah. Sad but true. I definitely try not to stare at white women even though i think they're beautiful but its the way gotta live to get by
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I have been trained to live in fear while those who don’t look like me live free. It’s hard to imagine what it’s like but I’m always open with these conversations so everyone can have a better understanding.
slabbinonspokez z Yea I agree, these days it might not be the beautiful white women who will have a problem with you staring but instead her father who is in his 70’s or 80’s who will likely cause a uproar!
Almost all the things I say to my son now. Sad to hear, but real advice.
Had to read the school letter about all this and he was there...almost cried explaining it all. He took it better than I did and understood.
Don't be born black..
@@bozm9961 what the hell is wrong with you
Tonya Young 😢🙏
Jonny Karr 😢🙏
Smh, we get lessons like this starting at 8 yrs old. Even our little girls.
Yup. We told our son also. He is 8
@Mascara
Yesss, & shouldn't b getting the "How 2 stay alive & cm bac home 2 me" speech this early n life. Jus 😢 sad, bt Much needed!.💋
Yep my dad and mom added things like always look around if a man comes to close to you move far away especially if he's an older white man. Never go home the same way at the same time someone could be watching you. Always watch your surroundings never walk alone by yourself.
If you do go shirtless and it's hot, you'd risk being shamed.
I got those lessons as soon as I started school, so yeah 7 to 8
I’m a black female in my 40s and I was raised this very way. I didn’t realize it wasn’t normal until I went to lunch with a female white coworker and she saw my reaction when a cop was behind me . My first instinct was to setup straight turn down the radio and make sure I had my identification. she laughed. They have no clue of the things we deal with.
i am a black woman mother of a black son and daughter...Baby this will end God will make this will be a memory...I love you keep your head up stay strong in the Lord and the power of his might....
@sapphire catherine 🥱 blah blah we're all the same blah blah blah. You clearly don't get it its fine.
@sapphire catherine Yikes, these don't sound like excuses. As you yourself mentioned, everyone has to abide by a certain code. Be more specific, who is everyone and what are they tired of hearing?
@sapphire catherine you would do well to exorcise the demons of racism that dwells within your spirit. I know it feels better to live in darkness and lies. Truth is Light. Come out of the darkness of denial and shame.
@sapphire catherine Love. Light. And Healing to you.
That he recites this as his daily reality should shake anyone who doesn't have to but doesn't believe they are privileged.
This literally applies to everybody. Anyone using the word privileged is privileged.
@Hopeless in Nyc You say you are oppressed, tell that to the african immigrant woman who face to face yelled to everyone in the middle of an BLM manifestation: ...I AM BLACK, I'M NOT OPRESSED.... You don't know what is like to live really oppressed. Go to Venezuela, go to North Korea, go to Cuba... and you will really learn about it. Stop been haters. AL LIVES MATTER
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@@Digger-Nick you're ignorant
@@villanelles_suit7271 You're ignorant
Privilege is determined by the hardships you don’t have to face pertaining to your background versus that of someone else. It’s not determined by your other hardships. It’s determined by what you don’t go through versus what ithers go through unwarranted.
The mere fact that a mother has to teach her young son these things speaks volumes about the problem in the world. None of those things are illegal but simply doing them can put a person in a dangerous situation.
Preach
As a white woman I pretty much follow these same rules with a few exceptions regarding clothing and touching things I might not buy. Being aware of how your actions affect others should something everyone cares about. If I get pulled over by a cop I would never talk back. I do as I'm asked and therefore don't have problems.
@@AmishHitman73.Archive Get out and go where? Out of America?
@@sweet_jen7752 You are part of the problem hun. I would take the time to explain why but if you don't know it already it doesn't make sense. Maybe someone else will have the patience. Good luck.
@@sweet_jen7752 lots of differences in you; a white woman and a young black man. I'm not sure if you understand how problematic it is for you to even attempt a comparison. When you get ready to get in your car do you have to think about your hairstyle and how it might make you a target. Have you ever been pulled over for a traffic stop and been dragged out of the care and violently patted down. How many people do you know on a personal basis that has been beaten by a cop. Have you ever stared at a beautiful, interesting person and thought, oh I better not because they were of a different race. Have you ever heard of someone who was killed or jail for decades because they did. I could go on and on but I just wanted to give you a few examples of how your existence as a white woman is worlds away from a young black man.
So sad, that a parent should have to teach this. Heart breaking!!!
In a perfect world maybe they wouldn't
The saddest part is the Number of parents who are forced to teach this to their children and it still doesn't help.
Malicious intended cops will find ANY reason to harm a Black Man or Woman.
@Some One BTW you're wrong. This has nothing to do with parenting and everything to do with racism. I replied to one of your previous comments please read it.
Some One so they taught you not to stare at a Caucasian woman too that’s crazy so they told you it was cool to stare at a black woman wow that’s crazy . “ I hope you see and saw the beauty in these black queens like we do”
@Some One lol they taught u not to put your hoodie on? wow the lengths people go to fit in even when fitting in means being oppressed.
As a black parent this hits hard. These are the very lessons I taught my boys and they are grown men now and I am still asking them to just text me daily to let me know they made it home safe. But we know home is not safe anymore.
Exactly!!
I'm with you 100% as Hispanic mother.
@@duranelida1 yes you too face discrimnation i feel for you although its less its still discrimnative
Elida Duran I can totally relate it’s really really sad. I’m so scared for my children’s future. Hopefully their generation will make a change 🙏
Don’t matter color or race I’m Latino and always tell my sons to text me whenever they’re home , this is universal , I was race in a small country, my mother used tell to do good out there not to get in trouble every time I left the house . I’m old now have kids on my own and fallow the same thing
It’s sad that we have to tell our Black sons and daughters these rules to try too keep them safe😡🤬🤯
It's not even about keeping them just safe anymore baby we say it to keep them alive...SHM what we as a people have endured for over 400 years....400 years no other people could have done it....We are strong and we will stay strong...
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What effect word is sometimes the rules don't work
Alternatively, a white mother to her white son before he leaves the house: ' Have fun!'
@sapphire catherine yes, it's called white privilege
sapphire catherine Shut up.
sapphire catherine You dense cow.
@sapphire catherine STFU you rascist creature
Gabie French I’m Asian. My mother used to tell me most of these (with few exceptions) growing up. It’s common sense.
My children get tired of hearing it, but I can’t stop
He has a smart and loving mother. It makes me cry.
This makes me cry for our nation
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I say similar things to my black daughter when she leaves the house. The gender doesn’t matter these days.
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@@DOVraps Stop using this issue to market your music - that's what I think!
Ty for sharing this .
She's trying to keep her son alive and it's a damn shame he's got to follow all those rules but she wants him to to live and come home. Black lives matter
If black lives matter? Where is the outrage for David Dorn huh? 77 year old black man shot by a looter over a fucking TV. Where is the outrage? Where are the tweets? Where are the media reports? Pathetic, there are more black people killed by the looters and yet crickets? Hypocrisy at it's finest!
@Arcane Raven YOU DON'T HAVE A REAL ARGUMENT.
Arcane Raven y’all are hypocrites 💯 facts. black lives do matter absolutely. but it only matters to y’all when it’s a white man killing one of you.
Vivien Ortiz educate yo self u racist because google is free the dude that killed David adorn got put in prison we say BLACK LIVES MATTER because our people get killed by cops who are sworn to “protect and serve” and we never get justice fo it, if a black person kill another black person it’s bad we know but they ain’t get killed because of they skin color. There’s been countless incidents of unarmed black people killed by cops fo the color of they skin. That’s why we say black lives matter because bad cops are never brought to justice fo killing our people.
No she's not. On May 31, 2020. Eighty people (mostly black) were shot in one day in Chicago. 18 (mostly black) were killed in that 24 hr span. Not one police shooting.
So sad, someone has to go through the checklist to step outside of the house.
We taught our 3 a version of this starting as soon as they could play outside. Then added on to it as they grew up. My oldest 2 graduated from UC Berkeley (one now works at Google and the other is about to attend law school), and when they visit us we've added on NO jogging through the neighborhood. We are the only African American in our neighborhood, and many new people have been moving in. The last thing we need is for someone to call the cops about a black man looking suspicious for running in the neighborhood. With our teen daughter when she's out with friends I tell her to NEVER pick up things in the store unless she's going to buy it. As the only black girl among her friend group being singled out when something goes wrong will be a given. We live smack dab in the middle of "liberal" SF Bay Area suburbia, and STILL have to teach our kids this
Abc C nope, being vigilant is different than being a blacc man our skin color can cost us our life and it’s sad
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No mother should have to give her son 20 disclaimers before leaving the house. This has to change now and it starts with every single one of us acknowledging this is the reality for someone else's child and its unacceptable!
Agreed. 🤦🏼♂️
So true. It starts with us getting out there and registering to vote to get the people currently in power out so that there is a change. A change in which the world is better suited to all of us not just the white people.
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Encourage your family and friends to stop calling the Police for non criminal complaints. Educate them in the dangers it brings to non dangerous situations.
It’s scary. I have to give my son the same speech. Please don’t talk back just be compliant do NOT resist arrest. I will come pick you up at the jail. If they talk to you on the street just put your hands up so they can’t say you were reaching for a weapon. I shouldn’t have to keep giving this speech
This actually broke my heart how ignorant I actually am to your daily struggles.
Watching this made me cry
“Don’t touch anything you’re not buying”
I do this too so seeing my boyfriend who is not black touch EVERYTHING has been anxiety inducing to me. And an adjustment to say the least. I never want to be accused of anything
Right I tell my beautiful grandboo this and its normal for children to touch things but sadly it's not an equal world for brown skinned children
maybe owner has some experiences... you dont think about it?
Exactly, that's why I try to never go into my purse when I'm in the store, most times I'll trade out my money or card in my car and put it in my pocket, it I'll wait till I get to the cashier. And if my phone is not in my hand when I enter the store, I'll stand in an open area where I am clearly visible to make sure no one can accuse me of putting something in my purse. Even then though, I feel pressured and fear because of what someone MIGHT say it DO
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gem 4life omg YES!!! My mom taught me this at a very young age! I remember asking for gum while we were shopping and she told me no then explained to me that she didn’t want to be accused of anything. My mom is Hispanic, my dad is black.
Not only our black sons, but our black daughters have to be careful too because they only see our color.
Ka Ri Na, I hope that changes for you asap
@@KaRiNa-pj9sb they probably feel confused about if you hate them or are willing to fight for them
Only yesterday I told my mom about how my cousin and I had been stopped almost 20 years ago, because I was wearing a hoodie in the car. We're both female, we were 19 and 20 respectively, and the hoodie was cotton-candy pink. I never told my mom because it was awful but normalized.
@January Snow January Snow You are an ignorant person and that is what is wrong with this country. You only see color, no one asked you to stop and comment. If you don't like what you see, find a page where your views are appreciated and tolerated. Furthermore, you are misinformed and stereotyping.
@January Snow you must have no life, if you did, it's not a happy one. to take time out of your life to text something negative like this. And you must not have friends of different races. A happy content person wouldn't have time for the b.s. 😂😂😂
I pray this young man be allowed to grow up in peace, and make his mother even prouder than she is now. Well said young man. God bless you.🙏
I pray you give trump a chance
@@joetable663 no 🧚✨💞
0:40 Got me thinking about _Emmett Till._
As a Black Man, I don’t Follow ANY of these guidelines, Despite my Mom doing her part and teaching them to me too. I’m not against anyone of any creed who does this, however to me it’s as if “They” win, just by having me anxious 24/7, constantly 2nd guessing who’s judging me solely off of race. I can do all of this and STILL be a Victim, so I choose to JUST LIVE, and let no one taint my Freedom. ...My Shoulders Feel Lighter, yet My Heart Remains Heavy. 💙 May We All Find Some Peace.
Beautiful bro, I wish there were more men like you🧡.
Did you know that in the Bible God tells us to "not fear" at LEAST 80 times, bc that's what the enemies biggest weapon is.
If only people knew....
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What’s crazy is that if there were MORE men like him, there’d be LESS men like him! Smdh
@@GurlTalkkTV that's basically what I said..
GurlTalkkTV that’s Adorable, Since I’m Still Here Living. I’m a Brooklyn Baby, Born Staying on my P’s&Q’s. Although we have different approaches to Life, I TRULY HOPE you ain’t here Praying on the Downfall of a Brotha, just to keep your world view intact. I’ll give you the benefit of the Doubt. 💙
She taught him very well! He's a handsome young man wish him much succes in life.
Yes she taught him very well but he and my 3 college well educated sons couldn't live their lives out of the fear that us black parents have taught them, I played this for my 3 grow son's they all cried because it was their lives as young black boys they didn't understand why their dad and I had such rules and as adults they understand and still follow the rules. SADAF
I remember not having my ID and a cop accused me of being a 46 yr old man with warrants. I was in high school at the time.
Wow...pray for protection
Same thing happened to my dad when he was in high school.
How did you react?
sapphire catherine And you are a coward and a loser, lol.
sapphire catherine My goodness. I am appalled. What a horrible accusation. I would never!
This is so sad. I'm raising my 12 year old brother and I have told him some of these things but to hear it from him brought tears to my eyes.
“Don’t put your hands in your pocket” the one hit real hard. The first thing you learn as a black kid in America.
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It would be nice to just say “ have fun, be responsible, don’t stay out past curfew” no we have to give a speech and pray he makes it back home. That’s why we’re protesting because WE ARE TIRED!!!!!
PRAY becasue only God can save you.
I'm having to tell these things to my 10 year old nephew who attends a predominantly caucasian school. And he often times look at me in confusion when I tell him that I don't want him doing some of the things that his caucasian friends do. I have to explain to him that when they do certain things it's called horse play, but if he were to do the same things, then it would be considered criminal. I hate that he can't enjoy his childhood like his caucasian friends, but I'd rather he have to grow up fast, than not grow up at all.
Sounds like you are placing your limiting beliefs on him. Just because you believe it to be so doesn't mean it is.
@@Wagnerky , Mark not limiting beliefs, but FACTS. It would be a form of neglect if black parents didn't prepare there children for the REAL world. Black parents giving their children the talk when they are children, will hopefully keep them out of jail falsely accused of something, and live long enough to get grown.
This is the same conversation I had to have with my 10 year old son. He doesn't understand and it's sad that he can't just be a child. The really unfortunate part is that it's not the kids that see the color. It's SOME of the adults that see color and are teaching THEIR children to see color. And even when following all these rules and doing everything right, the bad ones STILL don't need a reason to judge and commit criminal acts. If only everyone had the opportunity to experience the world the way others do, I'm positive perspectives would change.
@Arcane Raven , Of course you're going to be profiled if you're a black African. You got to understand the racist mindset. As you get older and move through this world, especially in the U.S., they will consider you a double minority. And that is 1. that you're black. And 2 that you are African. Which to them means that you are black and you, and your parents are immigrants. And you heard what 45 said about African countries. That they were Sh- hole places, and unfortunately that's what a lot of racist people think about Africa, even though we all know that that's a lie. But that's their way of trying to feel superior over you. So stay strong, and never believe the garbage that they will try to feed you.
This is heart-wrenching...
Everyday I have this conversation with my 11 yr old.
So do I and she's a girl!😢
😥 How can you be Free when you live by a different set of rules than others?
Fuck the police
U can't
EXACTLY!!!
And still pay the same taxes but limited to where you can go.
This is how we’ve had to live.
WHYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYY!!! THATS ALL MY HEART CAN SCREAM😪 It shouldn't be this hard to LIVE.
What a sweet handsome young man.
The heartbreaking truth of raising a black man today
Tanya Karazan I drove my grandson to school everyday. In the parking lot, before he got out of the car, I cupped his head in my hands and blessed him with Numbers 6:24. " The Lord bless thee and keep thee; the Lord make his face to shine upon thee and be gracious unto thee; the Lord lift up his countenance upon thee, and give thee peace". I would end with "Father, open his eyes to see, open his mind to receive instruction, open his heart that he would be kind and not be a bully. Keep him strong. Amen.
Kudos and others are perfect examples of why some people should not be on the Internet.
Not everything points back to the police allot of it has to do with what black people do to each that gives them a bad representation- if most blacks folks followed the rules that this kid just said people allot will change for the better
the heartbreaking truth of raising a Black man AND woman. Trust, the girls are given similar instruction and this has taken place for generations - from the plantation right on up to 2020. Then when certain people say things have NOT changed, others cannot comprehend what is being said because they look at the paved roads, all the comforts of modern technology, and the one I LOVE the MOST - the FIRST Black president and say those people MUST be crazy. But the aforementioned are surface changes, calculated and very self serving changes. Beneath the surface is the same vile sludge that is the basis of this country's foundation.
Rich Lo you’re a part of the problem, you think that black people should live by and abide by these rules because they are the problem?! That is what You said. You don’t see the problem at hand at all, which is having to survive while being black while simply shopping or driving when law enforcement is around.
Yup. That's almost all of them...especially in the South and Southeast.
I’m so proud that my son now knows why I had to be harder on him... I let him know I’m was that way cause I had him at 16 and knew I had to be harder than the streets so when he got out there he was prepared. He thought I was the devil. Now we’re best friend cause he identifies and tells me I’m was the best mom and thanks me everyday. That’s a blessing. I can finally rest as he picks up the throne and carries himself like the king he is.
Well done, as a mom of 16 yo, I know what you're talking about, 💓🙌🏾 God bless and protect you and him...
I'm so proud of you young man everything you saying is true you can see you are raised up right God bless you
This breaks my heart 💔🥺
Being from the south, my mother instilled these things in me. She would always tell me “Just make it home.”
I am constantly praying and talking with my children about this each and every day!
Hi Sharon! Needed your help if you have a sec. I’m still trying to figure out why blacks predominantly vote democrat. Then I watched a Malcom X video and realized how many blacks are brainwashed into thinking they still live in the 1960s. It’s astonishing how so many compare their lives with his. It’s just not the same. Conversation desperately needs to be raised to a higher level. So do the black voting habits. I want to ask how you feel that white liberal women are walking around trying to get white men not to vote a certain way in the name of white privilege? They honestly don’t think they had more privilege than black women because of sexism. Once again, using YOU to fit their political needs. Don’t believe me? Start getting deeper with these liberal freaks! Liberals and democrats are holding the blacks back. How long is this going to go on? It’s so sad. Conservative blacks are treated like garbage. They should at least be heard not silenced. Young black men deserve to know the FACTS. They deserve to know the successes of black men! Instead of fighting the system, I fear you’ve been training your children for a political party! I’m just disgusted with leftist politics and would love to hear some black women take on this blatant white privilege in politics. Young black people deserve to hear the successes of doing the right thing. Speaking appropriately. Being respectful. Listening to authority. They deserve this chance in 2020 and beyond. Enough is enough! Please try to see this theory and test it out. I’m so sure of it. Another example. When you walk into a room with two other white people, that room becomes “diverse” in the eyes of a leftist or democrat. Whereas most conservatives will judge after the words come out. Why do you want to be equal and “diverse” at the same time? It doesn’t exactly make sense! Thanks for taking time to read. I really do care and am looking for someone to tell me why I’m wrong. Why are white women are telling me I’m racist for thinking this? Thanks!✌️
I tell my 15 year old son this daily and my husband and I have been telling him this since he was like 9. He’s learning to drive and it makes me nervous to know one day he will be behind the wheel of a car and all the obstacles he will encounter. My husband and I have to constantly explain to him that he can’t just go places with his friends and everything will be okay. He sees his white counterparts having the abilities to just be dropped off at Six Flags or the mall for the day without parental supervision. Earlier today I was taking my son out for his daily driving lesson and he had a “do rag “on his head and I was like take it off. He wants to wear his hair a certain way but my husband be like nah son people gonna stereotype you. My son is a straight A student and an awesome athlete in track and football. I tell him all the time stay away from them white girls, they have white daddies who don’t take to kindly of their daughters dating black boys. It’s exhausting and quite frankly I am tired. It’s time for a change.
Praying for your sons safety and that change will come soon. My heart as a mom, breaks for all moms who have children of color, how constant that anxiety must be.
I am afraid of all that and they just 8year old. I am afraid because I have to prepare them for that world !! Until now I was able to protect them and maybe for few years but I know we have to start to Talk about it .
Stay diligent mother. Change has not come yet. God bless you and your family.
ldorsey74
Hubby is a football coach at this prestigious school 🏫, this girls are fast, they mark their territory so quick, they know who to go for it. They don’t understand boundaries or no. It is scary, for black parents out there it is frustrating in so many ways to raise a teen who is a boy with potential in sports or school. It is almost like they mark our boy at such young age. Our rules include no sleep overs
Don’t receive a gift 🎁 from anyone for no apparent reason at all
Speak less and listen more
Don’t stay alone with a girl, have people around all the time
This is the most racist thing I ever heard and frankly very sad that you tell your son to stay away from white girl because there daddy’s don’t like black boys. God help the next generation if you getting your parenting skills off tv programs. White daddies don’t like black boys🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣delete these super ass comment and please don’t be filling your son with hatred
Black women get the same rules. Slightly different but for the most part, same rules
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15 turning 16 soon girl
A rule I'm growing up with is don't stare at a cop or security guard. Because they will think your suspicious or stealing.
I love you mama ♥ thing will change....
Omg! This broke my heart ! Sooo sad.
That’s exactly what I have taught my 3 sons from the age of middle school and it’s hurts that I have to worry about my 3 sons getting killed just for walking and being black
Yes I told my boys the same thing I have a 18. and 21 yo and am so terrified when they leave
Facts be safe young brotha
Sending you lots of love
My moms taught me the same thing except I already have my license and registration out the window when they come so I don’t have to reach for anything at all
Don’t do that because they may get suspicious seeing you reach for things. Just wait until they come to the window.
I heard once someone had given their kid an ID holder on the to keep their license and registration in so it can hang on the rear view mirror, around their neck or where they can grab it quickly to hang out the window or on top of the car quickly. No need to reach and search.
Right. I was taught to have everything ready, to not keep him waiting.
My mom has told me all the same things too 1:1
I believe this is something all most every Black parent tell their black children, especially their black sons, out of a matter of necessity.
What a Well mannered young man xx
Sad he has to go through all that though.
Right??❤️❤️❤️
I can only imagine the pain... OMG
My heart broke and I cried like I was at a funeral...those rules for a kid in the "land of the free "🇿🇼💔
@kudos 0000 ok........how many white people have we marched for who were killed by police brutality...please tell me..maybe you know something I don't....we say #blacklivesmatter as in "too" not as in "only"....take your time to digest that before you come at me with that because I didn't call for you and Trump.....get off my neck with that 🙄
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@kudos 0000 🍹
@kudos 0000 for a grown woman you seem dumb ok Karen 😒
@kudos 0000 so that's funny to you, people like you deserve a one way ticket to hell btw it's summer all season there enjoy karen💯
This is our reality sad 😞
My God what a world we are living in this is just so sad
The reality of ALL Black families..even the females...For centuries
@@KPasa177 Yup....I remember my mom and dad telling me this back in the 80s. Funny thing is they owned a grocery store and would not racially profile anyone. Everyone was welcomed but they would tell us, you're not welcomed by everyone. Both were from the Island and came to America in the late 60s. They knew from the beginning how to conduct themselves.
Made me tear up man
Everything I have said to my son with the addition of NO JOGGING or RUNNING outside unless you are with white friends.
My son is 9 and the day he started walking & talking I decided to teach him this...
Your really young to be a mother.
This new generation.
Israel Dillard 😂 your assumption is based on this picture. Thankfully my melanin is what makes me look young.
Devon G 💗
@@dg594 You just earned your daily virtue signaling points 😂
I have been teaching my son these things and he is only 8 years old.
Same
That is good.
Your are really young to be a mother.
I want to ask how you feel that white liberal women are walking around trying to get white men not to vote trump in the name of white privilege? They don’t think they had more privilege than black women because of sexism. Once again, using YOU to fit their political needs. Don’t believe me? Start getting deeper with these liberal freaks! Liberals and democrats are holding the blacks back. It’s so sad. Conservative blacks are treated like garbage. They should at least be heard not silenced. I’m just disgusted with leftist politics and would love to hear some black women take on this blatant white privilege in politics. Young black people deserve to hear the successes of they do the right thing. Speak appropriately. Be respectful. They deserve this chance in 2020 and beyond. Enough is enough! Please try to see this theory and test it out. I’m so sure of it. Another example. When you walk into a room with me a two other white people, that room becomes “diverse” in the eyes of a leftist or democrat . Whereas most conservatives will judge after the words come out. Why do you want to be equal and “diverse” at the same time? It doesn’t exactly make sense! Thanks for taking time to read. I really do care and am looking for someone to tell me why I’m wrong. Your son deserves to know blacks are dominated by democrats. He deserves to know Ben Carson’s story they are hiding from him. It just not right✌️
@@joetable663 Thank you for your thoughts. I do not allow my children to be shielded from the truth that are dealt. He is learning everyday about perception, assumptions, the misled, people who are not willing to have an open mind and aware of society and is pyramid of who is great or not.
When my nephew attended Colgate University in New York back in 2001.
Here's a tip that I told him to do:
When you are walking behind a group of women (especially at night) let your presence be known by jingling your keys. Try to walk pass them so they see that you're no threat!!!!
I was told something similar when I was a graduate student in the USA. I was also told to cross the street if the women are coming the opposite direction. This was so as not to make them feel threatened. There was a white waitress in one of the restaurants on campus who was real chatty, but I was also told to be careful in the presence of white women. I was told trouble could come regardless of whether I was respectful to them or not. So, being in the presence of white women was really stressful for me the whole four years I was there. One day a white friend offered me a lift in his car. We stopped by Walmart; I didn't have anything to do in the store so I stayed in the car. My friend went into the store, but to my consternation, she stayed in the car. A police officer parked right besides the car and asked her if she was alright. He didn't speak to me but I could just see the insolence in his reptilian eyes. His hand kept hovering over his weapon. It was frightening. He stayed by the car until my friend returned. He was all courteous to them talking about the weather and all but never once did he say a word to me. I remember sitting there my hands in my lap sweating and hoping that we would leave or he would leave. My friend and his girlfriend must have sensed my discomfort but they acted as though all was normal. Contact with a law enforcement officer in the USA is a life-threatening situation.
@@roccobrick thank you for your comment. It was very well written and punctuated. Most of the young white police officers are straight from the Iraq war and is ready for battle when they become police officers.
I cross the street so they do not feel threatened. I was also taught to stand where white women can see you in an elevator.
@@axucaroso very good. you sound like you have good character.
Good mom and good rules for everyone!!
I literally want to cry 😢
Look at that skin! Look at those eyes! Teeth!You're Beautiful!!! That's why they hate you!
I’m so sorry you have had to live this way. It’s time for truth and justice. All decent people are with you.
Love! 💔🕊💙
I have had this same conversation with my 15 year old son. The scary thing is not being there to make sure they listened, and not knowing if they will come home!
My son is 15 yrs old and 6ft he looked older. I'm always hoping the talks we have that he is listening.
This is "the talk" that Black folks teach their children, generation to generation, early on given the environment. It's repeated at times as the children get older. It doesn't matter if one is male or female, or even an adult. These rules are liken to those "Jim Crow" codes actually.
Your mother loves you....and you are cuuute
I'm a white woman, who has a mixed son. We live in Canada, and although he hasn't encountered the same racism as the states, he absolutely still has up here :( I still fear for him as he's a teenager now, also just got his license. I can relate to this video so much, as much as we don't want it to be the case, it's reality and you want to keep your kids safe. I really do hope this is a wake up call to the world with George Floyd's murder, and things will change. This is not acceptable. Enough is enough. Everyone is in this together. #blacklivesmatter
Respect...because many mixed kids will also encounter situations too.
Blaire Monroe I never am confusing anything. I just said I can relate to some things. Obviously not the same thing. I’m not discounting anything anyone else encounters or saying my situation is worse. I just commented from my experiences. Didn’t take away from yours at all.
Blaire Monroe stand down? I sense you’re trying to start something when all I did was comment. I’m sorry if I came across that I was against you, as I’m not at all. I’m on your side even if I’m not black. I’m standing up with you. Jeez I see posts that people say white people don’t care, when they post that they do care, they get scolded not to comment... smh 🤦♀️
@@LiveLifeLori please don't let that keep you from posting as a black woman I appreciated your post 😊
@Blaire Monroe it's very true but there is no place for this divide...your speaking to a mother with a son of color. We need to stop fighting or arguing amongst each other on the same side.
Let's not lose sight of the message the video is showing. The lady is simply saying she has to worry about her son just as much as you do. Can we can see that and build together for a better future.
I was given these rules at a early age also and i pray one day my nieces n nephews dont have to worry about this.
These were taught to me and I teach them to my daughter, Neices and nephews
So sad. As a young child my father had to remind me to keep my hands out my pockets when entering a store amongst other unwritten rules.
So sad. But the last two are good advice for anybody
That's so sad. I'm crying 😢
So sad but true our black mother's have to give a run down of rules that other mothers don't have to give.
0:16 that hit hard. I'm so old and I still do that. It's sad, but it feels right just in case someone tries to say I'm stealing.
Even as a black woman my mother always taught me alot of the unwritten rules also. I taught myself to keep my hands out of my pockets in stores just because, i never want them to think I might have stolen something...
You have a dear mother boy do all she thought u the same time it gives me heartache.
Oh dang😥😥😥....momma I love you
That is too sad and simply too cruel. Something is deeply wrong with the USA! Keep up the fight and fight for your right to be treated like human beings! Peace from Europe and support for the Black Lives Matter from an eastern European guy!
So many rules... just trying to stay alive.
I remember my mom always telling my sister and I not to dig in our purses when we’re inside s store.
I notice that whenever I reach in my purse to grab my phone (where I put my grocery list), someone will always be staring.
I’m in my 30’a and I STILL make sure my wallet and phone are near so I don’t have to dig in my purse while shopping 😔
I'm Hispanic and I was always told the same thing. I'm 57 and always make sure I have a receipt for anything I buy.
If I can I try not to take a big bag into the store. Just my wallet keys and phone. Keep my hands behind my back and look before I pick up anything. 😔😔
Girl sometimes in the changing room I put a little face powder on because my face is so shiny. But I’m afraid to open my bag in case someone hears and thinks I’m putting something IN the bag. I open my bag as quiet as I can and powder my shiny nose.I don’t even want to touch my bag in a store! I always have my credit card already in my hand. Smh
Thank you for being respectful to your mama
It breaks my heart
That's what I was taught 😞
@kudos 0000 karen is that you😒
@kudos 0000 So funny, I forgot to laugh Karen, how about you, go get a life and stop being a troll idiot.
@kudos 0000 you probably weren't raised right your parents grew you this way they probably racist too
About yo damn Trump, are you stupid karen, like use your brain for once.
I teach my son these same things. 😞😞expect don’t drive with a group of friends so cops won’t accuse you of being in a gang. It’s sad this why I’m trying to move us all to Africa. I’m tired.
Am sorry
Welcome Tanzania.
"Don't stare at a Caucasian woman."
So essentially, in this nation the rules of engagement have not been altered for some four-hundred plus years.
Nope they haven’t; many black men have DIED because of it. That’s not an opinion, it’s history and a fact!
Blaire Monroe I didn’t realize my comment about how I am raising my son would cause such a fuss. Oliver Murphy Fitness is having a real hard time with that one comment I made about white girls. Totally missed the whole point of this video and clearly has not read any of the other comments about these unwritten rules. Thank you for your support. My husband doesn’t want me to respond to Murphy Fitness but I am itching to give them a piece of my mind. Matter of fact I think I will 🤔
I guess we can't look a white man in the eye either.
So follow these rules and hope you don t get harrased or killed by the white man? Its insanity...something you do over and over and expect different results. Guess what ...black folks still getting killed! We need to do something else. World does not revolve around white folks!
That one is a lil much.
Thank you bro
Good teaching
My heart is breaking. As a white woman I am SORRY. I am sorry that I have never had to go through what you go through. I’m sorry that I have never had to think twice about the things that scare you the most. I am SORRY that you don’t feel safe. WE HAVE TO DO SOMETHING! Racism is a crime! BLACK LIVES MATTER. 👊🏿👊🏾👊🏽👊🏼👊🏻
We accept your apology 😘 thanks for standing with us
What a beautiful soul! Thank you ❤
U don't have to apologize for something ur not Leah.. U just keep being the wonderful person u are and stand up for what's right and maybe in a couple more generations we can look at all our beautiful grands and great grandkids and smile. Because when we come together the results are miraculous. No ethnicity is better than the other. My family is extremely diverse and I can tell u there are few things more beautiful mixed babies.. I call it "the best of both worlds".
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Yourdriver40 right 👏
This Speaks Volumes!
Wow it’s sad but, we gotta be smart ..., Lord help us 🙏🏽
Young king, You are great!
Sounds like we’ve been taken back to the 60s so sad. God wants us to go forward
I never realized until George Floyd's death that all this stuff in everyday African American lives has to take place. Like explaining to your child the rules of how to survive out in the world when you're a black person! Such as not keeping your hands in your pockets and things like that! I think if anything can be taken out of George Floyd's death that is positive is it's making a lot of us wake up and realize how difficult life really is for African Americans to live in this country! I hope and pray that things will change in this country and throughout the world so people of color can finally feel like they have a real home in this country! and that they belong in this country because me being white I do want you all here because I think you are part of the United States and without you here it wouldn't be the same it would be depressing! We all need color in our lives because it makes things that much more beautiful! God bless!!
Hime Emih sending much love to you. 😍 I feel that some people really didn’t get it until they saw it. That’s why the protest are happening. We’re tired of giving the kids this speech before they leave home.
Well, these incidents and deaths aren't new. They've been reported on the news and social media. Many people have seen such videos and denied them as proof of what many minorities (particularly, people of African descent) have been complaining about. It shouldn't require this type of killing, and these reactions for others to feel some empathy.
What did George Floyd's death have to do with racism? George was a career criminal who never wanted to stop committing crimes and he knew the officer personally from a previous job.
Hugh Jass i ask that same question. It seems the officer may have had a personal vendetta against him from what people that worked there said.
Hugh Jass so he deserved to die. The thing is he was loved by many people. Put yourself in the family shoes. What if you had a family member that was committing crime would you care if your family member got killed by a black officer would you want someone saying what you said about your family member? No you wouldn’t because you loved them.
😥😭😢 :40 its 2020 and we still living like this. I fought for this country as a proud Marine. But for the last few years I've been feeling the urge to get my two sons and find a place that's safe for us. But there is no such place...Africa is not safe. We have no where to go 😔
Mohammed Ali said whe you fight for America, but who gonna fight for you.
It's funny that out of everything he said that stood out to you. Says a lot lol, "brotha"? 🤔
You're the one thinking so bro. If you have your money Africa is safe. Forget what you're seeing on international TV. They will only be showing to you what will demoralise you. The number people dying annually in America is almost more than the people that are dying annually as a result of boko haram in the northeast (zambisa forest) in Nigeria. You can live a peaceful in Lagos and Ghana. We roll at any given time bro.
I lived in Lagos, Nigeria for 19 years. Every city has ups and downs but it's safe and constantly evolving for the better. We are very welcoming for foreigners too so there's no reason you won't be able to blossom as long as you have a job or business plan coming in.
I only left for schooling purposes, after my first degree and I'm definitely going back.
This video made me cry :( I'm from the Philippines and we have relatives in the states who are a part of the minority. All lives matter. No one should be fearful each time they step out of their homes.
Powerful.....
All I can say right now is, WOW!
It's SAD, but terrifying when our black men's can't go out and enjoy life without being killed
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