Job loss, unemployment, downsizing to a new apartment to prepare for a new job. It was too much.
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- Опубликовано: 11 май 2024
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I knew this might be a difficult transition for the three of us. But I didn't think it would be quite this rough. Facing a job loss wasn't fun. Navigating the unemployment system was stressful. Dealing with the current job market has been a nightmare. But I was ready for a change. I was feeling stale in my old apartment and was hopeful about moving to a new spot. But the apartment is WAY smaller than I was expecting. And WAY louder. I hear music constantly and I don't ever feel like I can rest in my own home.😳😞
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Carol, thank you SO much!! I truly appreciate all of your encouragement, positive words and support, it truly means so much!!💜
I should have this printed on tshirt. 😊
Please remember that you did not do anything wrong. You were a part of a mass layoff. You are not a failure.
You will get through it. I moved to a new state and didn't have a job. I left everything behind and now got a new remote job and a place to live. Im having a glass of wine and loving my peace.
And just think...no being forced to donate to the bdays, anniversaries, or whatever cash , gift giving reason for the clique they practically force you to donate to. Your peace is priceless!
I just lost my mom and am in danger of getting kicked out of my childhood home, and everyone at work wonders why i wont change positions that require me to get yelled at the DM every other week. I feel like we are ALL one step away from snapping and landing ourselves in jail or a hospital ward.
A loss of a parent is one worst things to go through, when I lost my mom it was like the end of the world believe me I feel your pain.
@@alfx5432yes me too .
Hey lady! I’m a 63 yr woman and my younger yrs as a divorced mom with 2 kids to raise alone, being laid off 4 times, times were worse back then, believe it or not, I survived with strength and knowledge from God. I’m not religious, but did serious growing and made it to now. So I’m trying to hang on 6 more years to experience what retirement is. I’m still alone with a house full of rescues. Kids are grown and out, amazingly still at the same company at 19 years. I’m struggling with this though. Needing to hang on longer. Things will calm down for you. Keep working hard at everything and it all will fall into place. I subbed to you as I am highly sensitive empath and understand where your at. Good times are coming ♥️Much love to you ♥️♥️
A true empath doesn’t compare their life to another’s.
And tell someone your situation was worse. 👎🏻👎🏻👎🏻
@pamala-You missed the point of my message. I wasn’t comparing anything. Just letting her know that no matter how bad things seem to be, things do get better. Just giving encouragement which we all need now a days.
I missed you on here and I suspected you were having a tough time. I’m glad to see you back and hear about how you’ve been doing. There is no shame in feeling down right now. Your whole life was upended and you put it all back together by your damn self! This tells me you are an incredibly strong bad-ass woman! You’ve got this Rachel!
Oh my gosh, thank you so much!!!!🥹❤️
Rachel, everything will work out....trust the process.
Peace, Love, and Light 🌷🌺
Rachel I hope you can get some good night's sleep soon! All those compounding factors sound so stressful and exhausting - the move and unpacking (moves are one of the most stressful life events, ever!), seasonal depression, job loss & anxiety, lack of privacy/having to share space at the hotel, music blaring and other sounds and inconsideration from the food shop, and the cats waking you up all night. Anyone would be at their wits' end. Wish I could bring you a warm cup of sleepytime tea.
For the sleep issues (I know this won't entirely cover the noise, but it might help), I would recommend a fan and a white noise machine, as well as ear plugs. Ear plugs and a mini USB fan are a must when I travel. The fan and white noise especially help our dogs sleep (in our bed). When in a new place, our smallest dog likes to wake up every few hours at night and run around - hemp treats have helped with this; I think they have some for cats too. Maybe the cats will settle down after a week?
I hope you are able to move somewhere quieter/peaceful when your lease is up. Neighbors like that can make your life hell. Just remember the sense of being overwhelmed is temporary due to the move, new job, all the boxes packed in (and the frustration of having to Tetris it all), etc. Give it a month a hopefully things will have improved. I am the same way with regard to not asking for help! I don't want to bother anyone, but then I get super stressed out and overwhelmed. I feel really down when I haven't had my coffee either. I have felt similar to you in situations when moving, experiencing job loss, etc.
Thank you for posting this video, it was very real. The entire time watching it, I just wanted to give you a hug through the screen. I hope and pray things get better for you soon, with a full night's sleep and some hot coffee in the morning :)
Such a kind and thoughtful comment :)
This is SO sweet, thank you so much!!💕
You already got a new apartment and a new job so all you can do is move forward. Reach out to your loved ones and accept help. You can always get a different job and/or a new apartment. You can always change your circumstances. Cats are resilient. Don't worry. They always adjust.
Morning Rachel,
I'm 50 and just moved. I just fixed coffee in my new place and sat down to watch RUclips. Saw your thumbnail and decided to watch. I am happy you pushed through. I'm in the unpacking process as well. Doing it alone and it's hard but I am doing a little at a time to not get overwhelmed. Everything you described I was feeling. Just know a lot of us women are really carrying heavy loads and it gets stressful but we always count our blessings and are grateful. It's admirable to show the process and be calm. Just know many women in thread understand and are here to let you know to hang in there.
It's ok. The kitty's will adjust. Just try and relax and don't absorb what you're seeing around you. Just do one thing at a time as you have the energy. That's what I'm doing. It's good to vent. Stop blaming yourself. Life shifts. Don't blame yourself for something you couldn't control. Big hug. You haven't failed, you're adjusting to change 😊
We missed you. Thank you for sharing the ups and downs of your new normal. I am struggling with my new normal too. You are fortunate to have a supportive family. I hope you make it home next year.
A sound machine might help. Especially, when you need to sleep.
My fan next to my bed is my sound machine. I live next door to an AirB&B and they can get very rowdy sometimes out by the pool. Someone will rent the house, then all their friends come over, and it's Yah Hah until 1 or 2 in the morning. BBQ's, beer, doors slamming, cars coming and going, and my bed is on the second floor which for some reason picks up more sound than the bedroom on the ground floor. So yes, get either a sound machine or a nice humming fan. Or both. I can't sleep without air circulating, so I do love my fan! It almost totally blocks out the wild parties next door.
i use a high powered fan works amazing to help sleep and i don’t hear any noises 😂
So happy you’re back!!!
Thanks for sharing with us. Life is so hard, I’m having a hard time too. But glad to see you’re doing better 😁
I usually don’t comment on yt but I just want to say hang in there Rachel. Things will get better and you are doing the best you can. Take it easy and might these rough days lead to the best phase of your life ❤
You’re so awesome ❤ so much truth and real talk. I appreciate your honesty 😢❤❤❤
Oh no I’m so sorry to hear about your living situation! I went through something very similar last year where I moved to a slightly cheaper but vastly smaller place and I also have two cats. I had downstairs neighbors that had very loud and violent marital arguments all night almost every night. The noise and space made me feel horrible for my cats and I ended up breaking my lease early and finding a new place that luckily worked out and is a huge space that’s even cheaper than the last place! I really hope things work out with your living situation I know how tough it can be and I really feel for you!
Oh my gosh, that’s terrible! I’m SO glad it worked out for the better! I know the same will happen for us, I just need to give it a little time. Thank you for being here.💜
Just found your channel, I really like how authentic you are. I know this will get better and your kitties have you so they will be fine too!
I'm so sorry to hear you've been struggling but give yourself grace. Change is never easy and life can feel overwhelming sometimes. I fully endorse a good cry and then you step out like the queen you are and keep working at your goals. Hope things settle out soon for you 💞
Thank you!!✨
You feel bad as a pet parent because you are a good person who cares, please don’t beat yourself up too much 😢 Moving is extremely stressful, even in the most perfect situations. You are doing a great job (hugs) :-)
Thank you!!✨
Rachel I’m sending you good positive vibes. I hope it all works out for you! You’re going to be ok my friend. 🙏🏽
So happy to see you again my dear!
Thinking of you! Change, especially this kind, is so so hard. Sending you much love and care.
Thank you!!✨
Moving is so stressful period! Give yourself grace! It’s a temporary stress to settle in!
So glad to hear from you. So sorry you have gone through this tough time. To top it off a roommate. Take your time getting back to us. I will be sending positive thoughts. Maybe something a little more quiet will become available. Take care
❤❤❤❤ things seem tough. Thank you for being honest
Hi Rachel, I am sorry to hear that you are going through a rough time and I wish you the bravery to listen to your intuition and adjust your life accordingly. All the best from Germany!
Thank you so much!
I applaud you for doing what you have to do. Take care of yourself and take everything one step at a time. You will be able to look back at your strength and know you can get through anything ❤️
Aw girl, I feel sorry for you and your cats. 😢 I felt like crying with you. It is hard when your home is not the place you need to be for you and your fur babies. Hang in there!! ❤ Things will be ok, if it's not ok it's not the end.
Like ur content⭐️⭐️⭐️ love your realism.
I was laid off also. You are doing awesome. Moving is really hard. All will be well with you.
A sound machine or 3 :) may help with the sound. We run a therapy practice with loud kid fun and those help so so much!
Things will get better. Hang in there!
You did the right thing. Getting a job early is good. You will put your stamp on the place. And your are a GREAT fur mommy. They feel our pain. Just love on them and they will make you feel better too.
Hope things get better soon. Completely understand about needing space for cooking.
I'm so glad to have found a stable job after being unemployed/Underemployed for almost a FRIGGIN year. It's unbelievable how I struggled to find a position harder than when I first got out of college with LITTLE experience. Even though I'm glad to have retirement, investments and savings still in tact, I'm gonna act like I'm down 0 games to 2 against LIFE in a best 4 games out of 7 series (NBA playoffs metaphor) and I literally have to win EVERY game by maxing out my 401k and saving on the side after all that time I lost.
I know the pain of unemployment and falling off the wagon, especially when you're getting older and nearly pushing 40. I know you will make your comeback. I know you've been frustrated with your situations with downsizing and feeling like going backward while your body STILL gets older. Reality really is scary and so hard to swallow. Keep on pulling through and staying strong, i know, easier said than done but keep pulling through and take good care of yourself 🙏
Matt, perfectly said!! Thank you so much for your support, encouragement and kind words! I am definitely going to need to financially regroup but luckily the foundations are in place.☺️
Happy to see you back Rachel, but sorry to hear things have been so rough. Allow yourself some grace - in a short period of time you have experienced multiple major life stressors. In time things will settle and you will find your rhythm again. Re the noise at your new place, perhaps consider investing in a quality set of noise canceling headphones. I had earthworks machinery operating next to my home for 3 and a half years whilst a new subdivision was built - I can’t begin to describe the stress I felt at the relentless noise and vibration through my home. The one thing I found which helped was listening to soothing/relaxing music and calming meditations through noise canceling headphones. Wishing you well.
Oh my gosh, that’s crazy!! I would not be okay in that situation.😕 Thank you for the tip!
Glad you are feeling better! Definitely just a temporary side quest!🔥
New here! Oh no, I’m sorry you are having to deal with the noise and reduced space. I know someone in a similar situation. I’m glad you found a new job and are in a good location. I think your channel was suggested because of minimalism tag. Hang in there.
Bless you. You were giving me stress.
Moving is rough, especially with small spaces. A tip for noisy environments: noise canceling headphones (the over the ear kind) have been a lifesaver for the daytime. They are excellent. For sleeping, earplugs and a white noise machine really help. The white noise might also help the cats - my dog finds it relaxing. There are white noise videos on RUclips so you can try without buying anything. In the long term, moving is the only thing that helps, but these have made a big difference in how felt and slept.
Proud of you. Stay strong.
Give your self some grace. it will all work out in the end. Gorgeous view of the seaside.
People are always willing to help when you ask especially if you are around to help them when they needed it.
So glad to see you back. I'm sorry it's been a rough time. Sending you good vibes 💜 Definitely agree with others re noise machines (I personally use a Hatch that I got off marketplace, it's technically a nursery one but who cares).
You got this girl!! I've been there, done that and 100% understand how you feel. Things do get better, I promise. My mom says, "when one door closes, another one opens, but damn is it hell in that damn hallway" Packing, moving, unpacking, and all of the is overwhelming. It's a lot change in your life. If you need someone to just listen, I'm a message/phone call away. If you want to take a break from life, I have a spare room at my place in Nashville. Dance away to some good tunes and smile and have some snacks during the day. Those simple little things helped me and maybe they will help you too. 🙂All is easier said than done. You are gonna get through this stronger than you were before 🙂
Mo!!!!🥹 Oh my gosh, hello! I hope you’re doing well! Thank you so much for the kind and supportive words, it means a LOT!💜
Take your time. Life is a journey. 💖
Is there a possibility to change units? I have been living in my current building for 4 years. However, I started out in another unit that I only lived in for 5 months. I moved because of certain issues in the unit. Being over a loud business is a good reason to change units and to a larger one if possible. You may consider inquiring to see if it’s possible. I am praying for your wellness and peace of mind. Also, you are amazingly organized and decorate so beautifully. Thank you for continuing to share your life.
very good things will emerge for your life and for you out of these trials....
Stay strong. I know what you mean about going on unemployment it’s such a sucky feeling. I remember when I first went onto unemployment and just standing in that line trying to apply for benefits.
Rachel, give yourself grace. You’ve done a lot it’s ok. I would recommend getting the kitties some CBD or calming medication just for the transition. Just remember the kitties want to be with you. Please get some rest & eat
properly. The good thing is if the apartment doesn’t work out you can move when the lease is up. The shop downstairs would be a big no for me. I would have called the landlord about the music being left on I don’t think it was an accident. You got this 😊❤😊I’m glad you took the food in. I wouldn’t have enjoyed finding out I had to share space w/ a stranger you aren’t weird.
Thank you Cat!! I definitely did. I’ve actually let them know 3 times now. The property management team has apologized profusely but unfortunately just the normal volume of music is just coming right up through the floor. Oh well! Time to apartment hunt again!
Aw Rachel I’m so sorry you’d to go through so much. The moving sounds like a bit of a nightmare especially when going to a smaller place. I’d ask the landlord if you could swap to a different apartment because of the noise for the same money. You are not a bad pet parent and they will adjust the same way you will too. The whole process has been very difficult. Just remember how strong you are and how much you’ve accomplished in the last 5 or 6 years. You are an inspiration for always keeping it real and you will survive this too. Sharing a hotel room as part of work is crossing a line I think and they should definitely have told you. Keeping you in my thoughts and prayers. Have a great week. Mary, Joes wife 🙇♀️👏💪👍🙏💐🐈⬛🐈
Thank you so much Mary!!💜
I’ve been wondering how your settling in. I got all my answers now :/ moving to a new state, new job and boxes everywhere is enough to drive any sane person insane! The music and notice would push me over the limit too!
After you get settled then you’ll have more time to find a better suited apt. We make decisions based on the information we have at the time and that’s all we can do.
That’s crazy after all that to have them give you a roommate you don’t even know :/ sending love your way 🫶🫶
Thank you!!💗
So sorry to hear how tough this transition has been. I relate very much to being independent to a fault. The hardest thing for me is that when i do ask family for help a couple times a year (such as help me assemble this lawnmower, help me manage these tradesmen so they don't know Im alone and rip me off) it gets thrown in my face, used against me, and generally causes arguments. Guess im oversharing just to say that I understand how it feels to feel like you're on your own and making mistakes. Even though you're doing the best you can in the circumstances. You WILL get through this. Id have a serious talk with your landlord. You have nothing to lose. It sounds like things were not shown accurately.
I’m so sorry to hear that! I really appreciate your sharing. I will definitely do that! Hang in there.✨
Ask a friend for help instead of family
Happy to see you.
I’m happy to “see” you all again too!!☺️
Often when we are under stress, we vent our stress on petty little things. Also, we also often vent our stress on safe things and people.
What have you done?
You’ve done what you had to.
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Thanks!
You are not a failure, life is so difficult especially when its just you , I know im struggling after leaving a job that almost killed me..just get it out and if u have help reach out no shame ❤
have you tried a side hussle?...you can scout yard sales for small electronics like digital cameras or even golf clubs..the mark ups can be ridiculous .. regularly I find digital cameras for under $5 that sell for way over $100...and storage space, a slide under tote would hold thousands of dollars of items.
Yikes I’m so sorry! Could you upgrade to a larger apartment? My first apt at 21 was a small studio so I can totally relate 😭 They let me upgrade to a 1 bdrm…
There are no options in my current building but I will start looking around the area.😌
How about a thick pad for underneath the rug (s)?
Moving is always traumatic. There are always things you don't see at a viewing that you won't come across until you are in. And then you just have to learn to live with it. You are not a failure. You are doing what has to be done. Finding a new job, and one that you are suited to, is something of a miracle right now. You could be serving fries at McDs. :)
Oh Rachel - sending love and support. Please be patient with yourself and your situation. You're doing alllllll the right things. You're so right: sleep, hydration, and time make a huge difference.
Thank you Christiana!!
I know it's really hard to grasp when you're in it but if you could view this entire thing from the outside you'd be bloody amazed at what you've achieved. Job loss, unemployment, job search, interviews, new job, leaving old flat, moving into new flat - I mean come on! That's like a whole tournament of effort! And by yourself??
The only thing you can do now is eat, sleep and get your mind back, then you can start looking at options/improvements. Don't make decisions when you're exhausted.
Also, cats are resilient. even the ones that seem less so. They will bounce back.
Thank you!!!💕
Crazy Things will get better. …. I love your banana tree impressive
Not sure if this would work for you but have you thought of downsizing your bed to a single bed? You could sell your current one and it would give you some more room to move. Try to get an extra thick pad for your rug so that will dampen the noise down a bit more. A white noise machine or even a small fan running can help with the noise also. Don't worry about the cats. They will settle down and adjust. They will take their cues from you. If you are stressed out, they can sense it. Things will work out. You don't have to stay in this apartment forever. You can move to a better place at some point in time when you feel a bit more financially secure. You've got this. Your sleep is important. Everything seems better when you are able to get enough sleep. Sending you love and prayers.
It will get better❤❤❤ How Do you eat an elephant? One bite at a time. You are awesome. You got this!!
Hi Rachel. You did what you had to in order to take care of yourself and the cats. It’s perfectly ok to have some therapeutic cries. Life was overwhelming the last few months and settling in to a new place and job isn’t easy.
Our society says independence is the only way to be. Being interdependent is not bad at all. Hopefully you’ll continue to make progress in asking for help.
Thank you William!! I really love that last sentence because I couldn't agree more! We try so hard to "make it on our own" and sometimes showing need for help is looked down upon, which is just crazy. We are meant to live communally and not isolated but things are all backwards!
Transitions are never easy (i.e. professionally, physically, etc) You need to take time to adjust. You have been strong all this time so i know you'll continue to do what you need to do (which means asking for help when you need it) and get back to the Rachel we know and love. ❤
Thank you so much!!❤️
The job market is really bad for real ! But actually it's not that bad in the service industry! I think it's mostly bad in tech and cooperate where they're doing mass lay offs and trying to operate at minimum cap to save money. If anyone is having trouble , please consider switching to a trade job or service job. For example we need HVAC techs, lpn nurses etc, you'll never worry about having a job again trust me!
Just started watching your channel and love how you love your cats. I also feel bad for your current situation. But I was wondering why you moved to save $50 (please I not being mean) just hope you feel better in the days to come.
Thank you so much!! I moved to relocate for the new job. Sadly, I was in the last place for so long, there’s been a lot of rent inflation over the last couple of years so it’s about the same money for half the space.
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I’d be angry if I was told I would have hotel accommodations for a new job to then show up and learn they gave me a roommate! They should be up front about that because if you have an issue with it you can plan in advance.
There are no failures just feedback. You are where you are but it won't be forever.
If it’s only $50 cheaper, why move? I empathize with your struggles… I had to break my lease from my last place due to the size of the apartment with a large dog and noise from the neighbors who’d installed subwoofers on the wall we shared who’d often fall asleep blazing music or movies! The noise drove me insane in combination with feeling claustrophobic. I now live in a house I rent for $150 more and even though I struggle more to make ends meet my peace of mind in the other areas of my life is worth it. I can finally rest.
Get a white noise machine! They are small; and will mask noises/music.
Deep breaths. It’s going to be ok.
I’m like you I’m so sensitive to noise.
U r making people depressed u have more then so many sell stuff so its small people r living in storage bins u took apartment get noise machine, or get more stressed move
You need do give yourself some grace and try to practice a little self care. You’re doing the best that you can do right now and that’s ok. Hang in there 🩷
Can you put yourself on a waiting list for a quieter place? My cat and I are both highly sensitive to noise and disruption. That would set my teeth on edge and I'd probably have words with the food shop.
I’m going to have a talk with the property management and see if they have any options!
Could you buy a leash and take them out on walks?
I do that with my cat and he enjoys it a lot, after getting used to the leash
What kind of shop is it? Oh, a food shop.
You are stressing about the wrong things. Pets adjust quicker than you will. Be happy you aren't homeless. You are going to be okay.., trust the process.
I would hate sharing a hotel room. Sry that happened to you.
How can u ha e a roommate in that small apt n do u take thecats eith u went goaway in reference to ur new job n go back to ue old place or mom's house etc
U should be so gray grateful for whatmu have dont need pity party u r much better off then so many
Rachel I'm in the same boat as you. I recently was laid off from my job. After being laid off, I found out my family member has cancer. I also had student debt. I agree the job market is tough. I applied for many jobs and I went through four interviews. Until I finally got a new job. I agree there's a lot of emotions that I too went through.
Hang in there Rachel, it will get better. Stay positive, take care of yourself and pray. I say change is hard and sudden job loss is also hard but it will turn out that change is good.
I would b looking for a new apt thsts bigger n whatu want
Make a area for the cats litter pan dish with food n water n fornow a blanket for them that way temporarily they will have their area
you should be wearing a sleep headband with sleep noises
What city did you move to
Praying for you ♥️
Why speed it up?
U went n looked at this new place had to see that it was small so y did u take it
I don't mind the size so much, it's the noise that is a huge problem.
They have you thats all they need. I would start getting rid of things you dont need.
U r blessed u have a place of y o ur own place so many people famalies homeless hungrey 7 r very blessed look ahead u r young u be ok the dang cats will adjust they ok so r u
I know I'm going to sound like a smartass, but have you had your vitamin D levels checked? I have been taking it year round for several years and it has really helped me with seasonal depression. At the same time, you can check your vitamin level B12. I'm really sorry if this is off topic.
Not off topic at all, I pay a lot of attention to those things too! Yes, I take both 🙂
Movers are almost always late.