This is the trend in today’s generation. The only thing we as parents can do is love our children the best we can as parents. Own our own home so we have a place to stay in old age. Save enough to bury ourselves and not depend on our children. If we know our children do not love us then before you die make a Will and donate your home and assets to charity instead of giving to your children if they do not love you. I say this to my children, “ whoever loves me and takes care of me when I can’t no longer take care of myself will get everything from me. I will not split it to those who don’t love or take care of me. My hard earned money will only go to those who love me. If you know you didn’t love me then don’t expect my savings and get upset you don’t get a penny when I’m gone.”
I’m beginning to think like you. Sad but true! Why give to those who don’t even acknowledge that you’re their own mother? Kids in these generations are so heartless and unappreciative because we gave them a good life.
I'm sorry, I don't agree with you. That's not unconditional love from a parent to a child. Our children did not choose us, just as we can't make them love us. We chose to have children knowing that we must provide them with unconditional love despite their ability to love us. We should provide what we can and love them with no expectations at all. The fact that you are telling them that they have to take care of you in order to gain anything from you is sad. As long as they love you and don't have any conflict with you, you should leave them what you can because they are your children. It's old parenting mentality like yours that is leading "today's generation" astray. It's a new era, and we need to understand that our children might not be able to take care of us the way we took care of our parents.
This is so sad and pathetic. Your mom deserves to be happy. She deserves to find love. I’m sick to the stomach listening to how you all mistreated your mom. One day, your kids will do that you all and even worse. 😢
Perhaps, this grandma did that to her mother or mother in law.. Maybe, just maybe.. that is why these children learn from her. But it's becoming a trend in the Hmong community.
Thaum tub ntxhais sib yuav. Kuv xav kom peb hmoob txhob sau nqi lawm. Vim thaum kawg. Tus ntxhais vauv tseem yog tus hlub niam thiab txiv dua cov tub nyab. Good story and thank you for sharing.
It's your mother.....i dont understand how could your brothers did that to your own mom. Omg....cas tu siab ua luag li os. It's your mother....your brothers are so educated and lawyer.....what the hell wrong with u guys? U guys act like u dont need love. Your brothers will get his karma one day.
@@yenghang542 why blaming nyab? It''s all the son's fault for being coward for not standing up to a man enough to teaching their wives to respect his parents. U to remember that cov nyab are from outsiders...have no right to disrespect the parents. It's all the son fault for allowing this happen to happen. They act like they never get old and don't need love.
If your brothers didn't want to be responsible for your mom than they shouldn't have accepted her money from selling her house. They should give that money to whoever that claims responsibility for her. Even though she remarried, if the step dad's sons don't care for her than your brothers should step up to do it since she is still your mom. Karma will get your brothers. Thank you for you and your sister that cared for her until the end.
Yes, I find that the boys can easily distance themselves from the mom. The step son is right....she is their mom, even if she re-married. It's the wives that have to step up to show love, then the son will follow though only some moms are lucky to get such a daughter in law. The sons will get karma that's coming to them.
This comes down to the traditional religion and cost of a traditional funeral. If those 2 things didn't exist in the story, there would be no issues with the 2 OGs marrying. I don’t agree with the personal treatment of the mom but overall, it's really no one's fault in this story but the traditional system's. Moving forward, this system has to be modified or abandoned.
It is NOT the traditional religion’s fault. This was an easy case. This grandma’s sons had a duty to cover the costs of the funeral. The step-sons should only be obligated to carry out the funeral rituals, which they did say they would do. The real problem was her own sons.
@yl7495 based on the traditional rules, if a woman marries into another family, that family is responsible for all burial expenses. I would agree that the rule should be changed so that her kids still cover the burial expenses and the new family takes care of the rituals (dab qhuas).
Your mom should’ve kept the money from the sale of her home and not split it among her children. It’s a shame what your brothers did to your mom. Whether she remarried or not, there are multiple ways to handle this sticky situation. They abandoned and left her to die alone.
Sad as hell….the mother and stepdad were fair and really loved one another. For once a story where the stepdad does not try to take advantage of the mom financially. The sons on both sides are messed up and were only looking out for their own best interests. Another story where the phrase “money is the root of all evil” is especially true in our culture.
Agreed. These sons and daughter in laws will reap their karma. Both parents loved each other. And the new father was kind and loving and considerate of the sons and kids.
I don't understand how someone can view their mother as old and disgusting when they should be seen as sweet and adorable for all the good they have done for their children throughout their life. It's disheartening to see educated kids with no compassion for their mother. I hope these sons experience the same challenges as their mother so they can truly understand how difficult her life has been.
Such evil kids. On both sides. It doesn't matter how old, some people get. They get lonely and deserve to find happiness and love. Karma always happens.
In actuality, her own kids were the evil ones. The step-sons should not have been expected, nor were they obligated, to carry the cost of her funeral. The step sins were right when they said they were willing to perform the funeral traditions.
Nyob zoo os niam ntsuab teev kv hloov kj cov neej neeg txua2txoj li kv zoo saib kawg os E kv thov kom kj ho mu pab tsev neeg tau kub nyiag nyob teb chaw meka ntawm kj nb kv nyob LAO Os kv pom ma kv hlb g txawj tag li kv cia siab tia kj yuav yog ib tug ua mu pab lawv pub rau peb tsev neeg hmoob thb thov vaj tswv yawm saub foom koob hmoob rau kj mog Kv thov kj tiag222 nb kv ma kuaj2 rau lv kawg kv ce qhov muag o tag li lm os
Shame on your loser brothers and their wife's, like seriously 5 of them and none couldn't love her not even 1. Karma will serve them. They don't deserve a penny from your mother🙏🏼💔😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭
Whoa… I love my mom so much to the point where if she ever wants to get remarry again, then I will support her decision and I will be right beside her just like she is for me all my life. I will get along with my step dad and his kids, so they will love my mom even more too. I will do anything just to see my mom happy and just to see her smile. I love my mom no matter what and I only have one mom in this lifetime. So sad that we the daughters are becoming the ones to love our parents more than the brothers.💔🥺😭 Remember that… our parents love us so much and we have only one job➡️ is to love them back when they are unable to take care of themselves.
Tu siab tiag2 lis os😢 tsi muaj ib lo lus yuav los hais tau tawm txoj kev mob hauv yus lub siab. Lub neej tsi kawg yuav tuag los tuag tsi tau nyob los nyob nrog txoj kev tu siab. Nrog tej me nyuam nyob los tu tu siab yuav mus yuav duab ib tug los cas nim yuav nyuaj ua luaj. Ntuj os lawv aw nim tsuas zoo rau nej cov uas tseem muaj txij muaj nkawm xwb os... peb cov tsi muaj no ces tag tag nqi tsi zoo dabtsi rau tej me nyuam lawm os. 😭
I think we are all in agreement that these childrem are a big disappointment. How do they sleep at night. Shame on all of them and their spouses. This is your own mother, your literal creator, who cared and loved you all her life. She even gave you her money. Wow. You all did her wrong. Shame.shame. shame.
Don’t blame the people-blame the cultural practices the enable the people’s actions. Honestly, no one is at fault and no is responsible. We are all responsible for our own actions.
LET THIS STORY AND MANY MORE TO COME BE A LESSON FOR THIS GENERATION TO LEARN.!!!!! To the nyab and tub, especially the nyab. Stop hating on your in-laws. To the tub! Stop being a 🐱 and be a man.
There has to be a way where cost of funeral goes down. The og who are complaining about a good funeral or bad funeral should stop. A funeral is a funeral, and more for the living than the decease. But overall wow brothers you guys really know how to be good people
Saddest thing for your mother sisters. I'll wish to have your mom to be my mom saddest story in my life too. Hopefully at the end of life will meet our parents. Much love 💕.
It’s your guys mom and all her money from the house giving all to you siblings so it’s all of you siblings responsibility to take care her till her last breath. I don’t blame the other side of family. It’s your guys job..
Cas tus siab ua luah os thaum nyob ce tsi muaj neeg xav hlub thaum niam tuag lawm ce mam sawv los sib txeeb nyiaj. Kuv niam los laus2 lawm thiab es kuv cog lus rau kuv tus kheej tias Kuv yuav nyob hlub kuv niam thiab kuv txiv txawm kuv yog ib leeg ntxhais xeb los kuv yeej yuav hlub kom kawg
Cas yuav tsis muaj kev ncaj ncees rau peb cov me poj niam hmoob li. Peb cov me nyuam tsis txhob phem phem thiab tsuav peb niam peb txiv zoo siab es cia lawv sib yuav lawv thaum laus los yeej tsis ua cas. No matter how old people are, they still need companion to keep them company. Txoj kev laus peb txhua tus yeej zam tsis dhau. Yog tsis tuag thaum hluas ces txoj kev no yuav tau taug. Tej laus twb hais tias yog yus ua li cas rau yus niam yus txiv ces yus cov yuav ua li ntawd rau yus thiab. Yus hlub lawv ces yus cov yuav hlub yus ib yam. Pab hlub koj niam. Thov kom koj niam koj txiv foom koob hmoov rau koj niam laus neb mog.
So sad at an old age hmong people aws. Cas yuav muab txoj niag hmoob cai lo hai kom ua excuses tsi txhob tau take care tu laus xwb. Please love your mom, you people.
OMFG, Sister, it's partially your brothers fault. But your mother has a right to pursue or seek happiness. Y'all just need to protect her assets and money. But she should've known better not to be behaving in such behavior. Okay, to have a boyfriend, but there no need to step beyond the door. WOW, I CANNOT BELIEVE YOUR BROTHER'S. THE AUDACITY OF THEM TREATING YOUR MOTHER LIKE THIS. YOU GUY'S SHOULD ALL BE ASHAMED. YOU GUY'S ARE A TOTAL WASTE OF YOUR MOTHER'S LOVE AND EFFORTS RAISING THEM. I HOPE GOD DISHES OUT KARMA TO HER CHILDREN AND DAUGHTER IN LAWS.
@@KevinVan-Kresnik amen. Everyone deserves to have happiness and love. Even if your spouse passes away you have every right to find love again. Just have to be smart about it. What this lady son's did to her is beyond cruel. They're horrible excuses for human beings much less son's. With children like these do not ever have any of them. They are a total waste of your and your husband sacrifices.
Tusiab ua luaj...kids have to understand that no matter how old the mom is she needs a partner to be by her side too..zoo li cas los yus yuav tsum tau hlub yus niam. Yus lub neej kiag xwb los yus twb tsis paub yuav zoo li cas Tom ntej thiab.
People need to let their elderly parents find love and stop bickering over who gets the money, funeral, and whatnot. They the same age. It's not like they went to laos to get scammed. Your momma birthed you. She deserves someone who cherishes her and gets some love-making too. Geesssh. Stop holding grudges and acting like just because mom is married then any and all responsibilities should fall on the step kids just cause we follow that ugly patriarchal tradition.
I dont quite understand why hmong people still act like they live in laos. When one of our parent dies our other parent deserves to be able to find love because we cannot love them the way a significant other does. These kids are selfish they want their mom to be lonely and sad the rest of her life. They should still treat her like their mom even though she found another love.
Nyob zoo os May. Koj tham txhua leej lub neej Koj ho tham txog Bis yaj = ntsuab teev yaj. Lub neej tham lawv poj niam Thiab me vaj lub neej Rau tsoom hmoob mloog nawv..
Felt so much pains, and felt so very sad, for the ways all the son had treat her they act like she is not a human and they didn’t pay back her energy. Her times , that she had provided to help to raised them sound like they never a ppreciated her for anything when listen this story then feeling hurts so much thank you for sharing.
vim yog tejlaus lub siab ntshaw chaw sov siab es tej menyuam thiaj li tsis quav ntsej los mas yog tias nws txhob mus yuav txiv ces nyaj cov tub yug tseem yuav hlub thiab tabsis cov tub yug ntshe yuav tu siab ib hnub twg od.
Kids 2020 now they don't UNDERSTAND OG just remember it's not your life it's they life all that matter is that they HAPPY it doesn't matter who the step dad is you still respect him CALL him DAD they should be glad they don't have a dad any more I think it's all about the money GL
Laus lawm los tseem ntshaw tus hlub rau thawm muaj mob. Tej me nyuam lawv muaj lawv neej lawv muaj mob muaj tus pab lawv ces lawv tsis nyiaj siab. Tus laus muaj kev nyuaj siab txom nyem tsis muaj tus txij nkawm ces yeej nkag siab. Cov me nyuam ua tsis yog rau leej niam lawm. Lawv yuav tsum tu lawv niam rau thawm laus tsis taus. Lawv ua tsis tau lawv kev cai dab qhuas rau tabsi qhov hlub thiab tu lawv yuav tsum ua tau. Lawv twb tau lub neej zoo zoo nyob tsev loj loj tabsi hos hlub tsis taus tus laus ma tsis yog lawm.
OMG… it’s so sad.😂😂😂😂😂 that’s why I don’t wait for anyone. As a mother you know which one love you and which one don’t. And to think she have a son that is a layer. He must not be to smart to treat his mom like that lol sorry to say
This is why these old folks need to Stop looking up to the sons only!! They really need to stop this culture crap stuff! This culture stuff is man made man built, that they need to learn!! Sometimes, I honestly don’t feel sorry for some of these old folks too because no matter how bad their sons treat them, they still want to stay with these sons. It’s so sad! I can’t believe these sons in this story!! I hope you reap what you sow! I hope your mom Comes back as a spirit & haunt these sons forever!!
Tab niam ho hla Tom ntej los twb tseem yog yus niam tab txawm Laus2 lawm los nyias saib nyias tus vim tsuav ho muaj tus pab hlub ib ntus nej xav tias nej twb tsis pub nrog nej Nyob ne txawm ua tsis tau nej dab qhuas Los txoj kev hlub nej yuav tau hlub Li yog nej niam hos
Wrong. I bought insurance to cover my portion not the entire funeral. When I pay the premium, I receive zero dollar from the other people so why should I take full responsibility.
@@yeebdawb1376 Because it's for the person we love? We bought $50,000 for each of our in-laws and we used it all up....in the end we didn't get anything but we're fine with it. I guess it depends how generous or greedy a person is.
Nej yuav tau ua li meskas ma. Tej laus lawv kho kho siab lawv ho sib yuav los nyias yeej muaj cai tu nyias niam nyias txiv li nyias nab thib. Nej muab nej niam hu plig kiag rov los ua nej niam xwb ces yeej tsis txhaum dab tsi li los ma... cas yuav ua nyuaj ua luaj li os.
..these are ungrateful kids....they should be happy that their mother got married and with sombody who loved her...these two parents should not leave anything to their kids...they only want his and her money after they die....
First, your mom made the mistake of remarried at that age, costed her at the end. Second, your siblings should take care your mom’s funeral expenses since you all benefited from your mom, not your step siblings.
Seriously. You think she doesn't deserve a partner? That is so selfish. She is an adult. Her children just needs to let her luve and be happy. Period. I hope your kids don't treat you that way when it's your turn.
@@KevinVan-Kresnik It’s not selfish, it is the culture. Everyone deserves a partner. But if a Hmong woman remarried near the end of her life time like this grandma, she put herself at risk of not getting the love and support from her children as as well as her step children. Once you leave the clan, culturally they are not responsible for you anymore. This is exactly what happened in this story.
Hmong "kev cai qub" uses "dab qhua" as an excuse to avoid taking responsibility... even for their own mother, sister, daughter. This is so wrong but Hmong men AND women still practice it.
kuv hais li no rau nej cov menyuam nawb ok nej lub neej tseem hluas2 nej tseem tsis tau txog koj niam tus neev taw nawb cov me nyuam kuv qhia nej cov hluas paub tias txhob txwv tejlaus os mog txog yus zeeg yus mam paub nawb nej cov me nyuam tsis txhob tusiab rau koj niam qhia nej paub nawb hnub twg av npog nkaus yus lub qhov muag lawm thaum ntawd yus mam li paun tias tus ntawd thiaj yog yus tus tiag2 li laus nej txhob cem2 niam thiab tsis txhob tu siab rau yus niam nawb hnub no nej cia li hais zoo rau nws cia kom nws muaj kev kaj siab thiab os mog
Peb cov 60 xyoo rov sau nawb tsis txhob muab nej pob nyiaj rau nej cov me nyuam nawb tseg cia thaum yus tsis tau lawm es leej twg hlub yus, yuav yus, tu yus ces mam li muab rau tus ntaw xwb nawb.
Ib leej niam muab tau ib pob nyiaj rau menyuam tabsis ib tug menyuam tsis kam muab ib duas las rau leej niam lub ntees yog kev tu siab tshaj plaws. Niam no yug tub ces nkim zog lawm xwb.
Tusiab tiag2 os niam aw…. Peb sawv daws yuav txawj laus, txawj tuag, I will not count on my kids as they were born in this country when my day comes sad😢
This is sad!!! All the kids on both side are selfish!!! Koj niam laus2 nws kho2 siab! She has the right to be with someone who loves her and she can confine in!! Nej mas phem kawg. Just do your jobs as children. I would never stop mom from being lonely and sad!!!
Laus npaum twg los yeej tseem need kev hlub os.. especially in old age companionship is needed. Yus niam yuav mus ua tsawg Tom neej los hu plig rov qhab xwb. Nej niam twb muab nyiaj tseej caum phav rau nej noj tag tsis npam los yeej yuav npam me me nawb. She shoulda never gave y’all all her money
Nej mas nkim koj niam lub zog yuag thiab tu dhau lau! Xyov li os cov laus no los yeej nkaus ua nyuaj tej hluas siab hos cov hluas los siab phem tsis paub hlub tej niam tej txiv li thiab os😢
😡🤬😡🤬 I don’t understand how you siblings cannot love your mom. She born all of you. Your marriages will not last for ever. One day either you or your spouses will leave the world b4 you and you will walk down the same road. She allowed you guys to find your happiness. She deserves to find hers too. If not you and your sibling should go raised your dad from his grave to be with her. Selfless educated children’s whom has no love but cheap selfless care. My kids dad died and I remarried, but I teach my kids no matter what at the end I’m their mom. I gave them life. At the end they need to stand up for me and do their part. Culture belief that the Hmong OG practices should not stand in their way. Omg! My blood boil for all you sibling in this story. Selfless children who will feel your mom pain at the end.
My dad died and had always wished my mom to remarried but she never did. She needed someone to love her. Kids love are never the same as the spouse. Let her be happy. Not like you kids can do that.
Wow! Just wow! Kids these days are horrible. Your brothers took the money from the sale of your parents house..geeze. your mom should have kept that money for herself. Why are your brothers fighting for the money anyway? Isn't one of them a lawyer? Lol...
Cov niag laus no me nyuam hlub tsis mploog me nyuam hais nyuam qhuav ntxim xwb os. Tsis musj chaw nyob los yog pheej nyob tsis tau ces txhob tu siab xwb. Ne nyuam tsis tawm hauv koj lub qhov quav los txhob vsm koj lawv hlub koj li os. Tim nplog laus yawg laus xwb thiaj li zoo li no los mas. Laus lawm nyob zoo zoo me nyuam thiab hlub nawb
Shame on your brothers. They were no longer expected to perform the funeral rituals for your mother, but they had a duty to physically take care of her. And they needed to cover her funeral expenses. The right thing to do: your brothers cover the funeral costs and the step-brothers perform the funeral rituals.
Goodness. You all are grown and have your own lives. Love your mom enough to want her to be happy. Whatever money she and your dad had belongs to her now that he’a gone. You kids are so selfish and immature.
If y’all can’t take care of her, put her in a nursing home. At least she will be taken care of, clothed, and fed. Geez. Why do kids always have to complicate things.
All the sons in this story are wrong!! Is your mother, no one will love your mother more than you! Shame of you all. To her sons, you all took the money from the house. You should have enough money to cover her funeral. Stop being 1975 mindset!
Ruam los ntse os.muab nyiaj tag nrho rau me nyuam cuag li yus yuav tuag tag kis.lub caij laus tseem yuav tau siv nyiaj ntau tshaj thaum hluas os vim phej muaj kev mob kev kho.ruam dhau lawm ces kav liam os
This is the trend in today’s generation. The only thing we as parents can do is love our children the best we can as parents. Own our own home so we have a place to stay in old age. Save enough to bury ourselves and not depend on our children. If we know our children do not love us then before you die make a Will and donate your home and assets to charity instead of giving to your children if they do not love you. I say this to my children, “ whoever loves me and takes care of me when I can’t no longer take care of myself will get everything from me. I will not split it to those who don’t love or take care of me. My hard earned money will only go to those who love me. If you know you didn’t love me then don’t expect my savings and get upset you don’t get a penny when I’m gone.”
Agreed..!
I’m beginning to think like you. Sad but true! Why give to those who don’t even acknowledge that you’re their own mother? Kids in these generations are so heartless and unappreciative because we gave them a good life.
I'm sorry, I don't agree with you. That's not unconditional love from a parent to a child. Our children did not choose us, just as we can't make them love us. We chose to have children knowing that we must provide them with unconditional love despite their ability to love us. We should provide what we can and love them with no expectations at all. The fact that you are telling them that they have to take care of you in order to gain anything from you is sad. As long as they love you and don't have any conflict with you, you should leave them what you can because they are your children. It's old parenting mentality like yours that is leading "today's generation" astray. It's a new era, and we need to understand that our children might not be able to take care of us the way we took care of our parents.
Hmong people can never change even after 40 years. Hmong people will always be hmong.
This is so sad and pathetic. Your mom deserves to be happy. She deserves to find love. I’m sick to the stomach listening to how you all mistreated your mom. One day, your kids will do that you all and even worse. 😢
Perhaps, this grandma did that to her mother or mother in law..
Maybe, just maybe.. that is why these children learn from her. But it's becoming a trend in the Hmong community.
Your older sister is the hero. She will get good fortune.
Thaum tub ntxhais sib yuav. Kuv xav kom peb hmoob txhob sau nqi lawm. Vim thaum kawg. Tus ntxhais vauv tseem yog tus hlub niam thiab txiv dua cov tub nyab. Good story and thank you for sharing.
It's your mother.....i dont understand how could your brothers did that to your own mom. Omg....cas tu siab ua luag li os. It's your mother....your brothers are so educated and lawyer.....what the hell wrong with u guys? U guys act like u dont need love. Your brothers will get his karma one day.
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It's not the brothers always the nyab. That's why people need to cherish the daughters. The world has turn.
@@yenghang542 why blaming nyab? It''s all the son's fault for being coward for not standing up to a man enough to teaching their wives to respect his parents. U to remember that cov nyab are from outsiders...have no right to disrespect the parents. It's all the son fault for allowing this happen to happen. They act like they never get old and don't need love.
If your brothers didn't want to be responsible for your mom than they shouldn't have accepted her money from selling her house. They should give that money to whoever that claims responsibility for her. Even though she remarried, if the step dad's sons don't care for her than your brothers should step up to do it since she is still your mom. Karma will get your brothers. Thank you for you and your sister that cared for her until the end.
Yes, I find that the boys can easily distance themselves from the mom. The step son is right....she is their mom, even if she re-married. It's the wives that have to step up to show love, then the son will follow though only some moms are lucky to get such a daughter in law. The sons will get karma that's coming to them.
Peb yuav tau hlub cov ntsxais dua nawb
This comes down to the traditional religion and cost of a traditional funeral. If those 2 things didn't exist in the story, there would be no issues with the 2 OGs marrying. I don’t agree with the personal treatment of the mom but overall, it's really no one's fault in this story but the traditional system's. Moving forward, this system has to be modified or abandoned.
Koj ho yuav muab tso pov tseg tau li cas?
Thov sib pauv tswv yim seb yom.
It is NOT the traditional religion’s fault. This was an easy case. This grandma’s sons had a duty to cover the costs of the funeral. The step-sons should only be obligated to carry out the funeral rituals, which they did say they would do. The real problem was her own sons.
@yl7495 based on the traditional rules, if a woman marries into another family, that family is responsible for all burial expenses. I would agree that the rule should be changed so that her kids still cover the burial expenses and the new family takes care of the rituals (dab qhuas).
Your mom should’ve kept the money from the sale of her home and not split it among her children. It’s a shame what your brothers did to your mom. Whether she remarried or not, there are multiple ways to handle this sticky situation. They abandoned and left her to die alone.
This grandma should have kept the money and given them to the step-sons, knowing that she was going to need them to perform her funeral rituals.
Sad as hell….the mother and stepdad were fair and really loved one another. For once a story where the stepdad does not try to take advantage of the mom financially. The sons on both sides are messed up and were only looking out for their own best interests. Another story where the phrase “money is the root of all evil” is especially true in our culture.
Agreed. These sons and daughter in laws will reap their karma. Both parents loved each other. And the new father was kind and loving and considerate of the sons and kids.
It’s not money that made them evil. It’s the people that are evil themselves!
I don't understand how someone can view their mother as old and disgusting when they should be seen as sweet and adorable for all the good they have done for their children throughout their life. It's disheartening to see educated kids with no compassion for their mother. I hope these sons experience the same challenges as their mother so they can truly understand how difficult her life has been.
The son’s from both sides are expose in this story. Evil..failed big time. karma will get them. Bless the sisters. You both will get the good fortune
Such evil kids. On both sides. It doesn't matter how old, some people get. They get lonely and deserve to find happiness and love. Karma always happens.
In actuality, her own kids were the evil ones. The step-sons should not have been expected, nor were they obligated, to carry the cost of her funeral. The step sins were right when they said they were willing to perform the funeral traditions.
Nyob zoo os niam ntsuab teev kv hloov kj cov neej neeg txua2txoj li kv zoo saib kawg os
E kv thov kom kj ho mu pab tsev neeg tau kub nyiag nyob teb chaw meka ntawm kj nb kv nyob LAO Os kv pom ma kv hlb g txawj tag li kv cia siab tia kj yuav yog ib tug ua mu pab lawv pub rau peb tsev neeg hmoob thb thov vaj tswv yawm saub foom koob hmoob rau kj mog
Kv thov kj tiag222 nb kv ma kuaj2 rau lv kawg kv ce qhov muag o tag li lm os
Niam lau aw ca zaj neej neeg no e yeej g txawv kv lub neej ib qhos li os mloog ma kv nim quaj 2 tag zog li os
Yuav hlub ces txhob tos twb ua ib pawg av lawm es mam li hlub os mog cov mi nus aw
Shame on your loser brothers and their wife's, like seriously 5 of them and none couldn't love her not even 1. Karma will serve them. They don't deserve a penny from your mother🙏🏼💔😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭
Niam tsuab teev, koj ceeb loj dhau lawm, koj thiaj li scary.
Thov vajtswv pab koj kuam koj ua siab loj loj os❤
Zaj dab neeg no Hai tau tu siab heev 😂😂😂😂
Tej niam tej txiv yeej xav kom tau kev hlub ntawm me nyuam.
Whoa… I love my mom so much to the point where if she ever wants to get remarry again, then I will support her decision and I will be right beside her just like she is for me all my life. I will get along with my step dad and his kids, so they will love my mom even more too. I will do anything just to see my mom happy and just to see her smile. I love my mom no matter what and I only have one mom in this lifetime. So sad that we the daughters are becoming the ones to love our parents more than the brothers.💔🥺😭 Remember that… our parents love us so much and we have only one job➡️ is to love them back when they are unable to take care of themselves.
Very true about daughters loving our moms more.
This is the problem. Cov nyab only loves her parents, not the in-laws. Remember tsis tus in-law ces tsis your handsome husband.
Hlub koj os grandma. Kuv niam los zoo li koj thiab os
Tu siab tiag2 lis os😢 tsi muaj ib lo lus yuav los hais tau tawm txoj kev mob hauv yus lub siab. Lub neej tsi kawg yuav tuag los tuag tsi tau nyob los nyob nrog txoj kev tu siab. Nrog tej me nyuam nyob los tu tu siab yuav mus yuav duab ib tug los cas nim yuav nyuaj ua luaj. Ntuj os lawv aw nim tsuas zoo rau nej cov uas tseem muaj txij muaj nkawm xwb os... peb cov tsi muaj no ces tag tag nqi tsi zoo dabtsi rau tej me nyuam lawm os. 😭
Tseem koj niam tsi mu yuav txiv lo koj cov nus yeej tsi hlub o
I think we are all in agreement that these childrem are a big disappointment. How do they sleep at night. Shame on all of them and their spouses. This is your own mother, your literal creator, who cared and loved you all her life. She even gave you her money. Wow. You all did her wrong. Shame.shame. shame.
If you’re claiming Hmong shaman/kev cai you better not be complaining. What they did is in accordance to it.
True
Yus nim thb hlub tshaj plwg 😂😂
Tsis tsim nyog yug cov mi nyuam no li os...cas phem ua luaj li. 😢😢😢zoo phem los yog yus niam yug yus os 😢😢😢
Thank you taking of your mom. Your sister and you did good by your mom.
Don’t blame the people-blame the cultural practices the enable the people’s actions. Honestly, no one is at fault and no is responsible. We are all responsible for our own actions.
Childrens needs to understand that even they're old but when they loss their partner they're very lonely.
Dear god, I pray bad karma comes to those bad kids and their spouses of this unlucky mother.
LET THIS STORY AND MANY MORE TO COME BE A LESSON FOR THIS GENERATION TO LEARN.!!!!! To the nyab and tub, especially the nyab. Stop hating on your in-laws. To the tub! Stop being a 🐱 and be a man.
That’s eff’d up. Your brothers don’t deserve a mother.
Sad sis 😂😂😂😂
There has to be a way where cost of funeral goes down. The og who are complaining about a good funeral or bad funeral should stop. A funeral is a funeral, and more for the living than the decease. But overall wow brothers you guys really know how to be good people
Tu siab ua luaj li😢😢😢😢ua li neb ua yog lawm mog mi ntxhais
Niamtshiab & txivtshiab laus lawm ces ua phoojywg nyob uake xwb txhob sib yuav thiaj tsis ua teebmeem rau 2 tog menyuam.
Pab tu siab ua luaj li txawm koj niam tsis yuav txiv tshiab los koj cov nyab thiab cov nus yeej tsis hlub li os.😢😢😢😢😢
Saddest thing for your mother sisters. I'll wish to have your mom to be my mom saddest story in my life too. Hopefully at the end of life will meet our parents. Much love 💕.
I know.
Tu siab ua luaj li ces peb txob yug tub lawm os lawv.
😭😭
It’s your guys mom and all her money from the house giving all to you siblings so it’s all of you siblings responsibility to take care her till her last breath. I don’t blame the other side of family. It’s your guys job..
Cas tus siab ua luah os thaum nyob ce tsi muaj neeg xav hlub thaum niam tuag lawm ce mam sawv los sib txeeb nyiaj.
Kuv niam los laus2 lawm thiab es kuv cog lus rau kuv tus kheej tias
Kuv yuav nyob hlub kuv niam thiab kuv txiv txawm kuv yog ib leeg ntxhais xeb los kuv yeej yuav hlub kom kawg
Cas yuav tsis muaj kev ncaj ncees rau peb cov me poj niam hmoob li. Peb cov me nyuam tsis txhob phem phem thiab tsuav peb niam peb txiv zoo siab es cia lawv sib yuav lawv thaum laus los yeej tsis ua cas. No matter how old people are, they still need companion to keep them company.
Txoj kev laus peb txhua tus yeej zam tsis dhau. Yog tsis tuag thaum hluas ces txoj kev no yuav tau taug. Tej laus twb hais tias yog yus ua li cas rau yus niam yus txiv ces yus cov yuav ua li ntawd rau yus thiab. Yus hlub lawv ces yus cov yuav hlub yus ib yam. Pab hlub koj niam. Thov kom koj niam koj txiv foom koob hmoov rau koj niam laus neb mog.
So sad at an old age hmong people aws. Cas yuav muab txoj niag hmoob cai lo hai kom ua excuses tsi txhob tau take care tu laus xwb. Please love your mom, you people.
OMFG, Sister, it's partially your brothers fault. But your mother has a right to pursue or seek happiness. Y'all just need to protect her assets and money. But she should've known better not to be behaving in such behavior. Okay, to have a boyfriend, but there no need to step beyond the door.
WOW, I CANNOT BELIEVE YOUR BROTHER'S. THE AUDACITY OF THEM TREATING YOUR MOTHER LIKE THIS. YOU GUY'S SHOULD ALL BE ASHAMED. YOU GUY'S ARE A TOTAL WASTE OF YOUR MOTHER'S LOVE AND EFFORTS RAISING THEM. I HOPE GOD DISHES OUT KARMA TO HER CHILDREN AND DAUGHTER IN LAWS.
Umm. Yes, she does have the right to find love again and get married. Elderly have the same basic human rights as you do.
@@KevinVan-Kresnik amen. Everyone deserves to have happiness and love. Even if your spouse passes away you have every right to find love again. Just have to be smart about it. What this lady son's did to her is beyond cruel. They're horrible excuses for human beings much less son's. With children like these do not ever have any of them. They are a total waste of your and your husband sacrifices.
Tusiab ua luaj...kids have to understand that no matter how old the mom is she needs a partner to be by her side too..zoo li cas los yus yuav tsum tau hlub yus niam. Yus lub neej kiag xwb los yus twb tsis paub yuav zoo li cas Tom ntej thiab.
People need to let their elderly parents find love and stop bickering over who gets the money, funeral, and whatnot. They the same age. It's not like they went to laos to get scammed. Your momma birthed you. She deserves someone who cherishes her and gets some love-making too. Geesssh. Stop holding grudges and acting like just because mom is married then any and all responsibilities should fall on the step kids just cause we follow that ugly patriarchal tradition.
Cas yuav tu siab ua luaj tsi tsim nyog nej niam hlub hlub nej es muab nyiaj faib rau nej tag txog thaum kawg nej niam tsi muaj chaw tuag.
I dont quite understand why hmong people still act like they live in laos. When one of our parent dies our other parent deserves to be able to find love because we cannot love them the way a significant other does. These kids are selfish they want their mom to be lonely and sad the rest of her life. They should still treat her like their mom even though she found another love.
Cov lau ce txhob hai li os hai lo lawv tseem foom you tia ib hnub kom you zoo li thiab no os 😢😥
Nyob zoo os May.
Koj tham txhua leej lub neej
Koj ho tham txog Bis yaj = ntsuab teev yaj.
Lub neej tham lawv poj niam
Thiab me vaj lub neej
Rau tsoom hmoob mloog nawv..
Kj tsi muaj lub neej zoo kj pom luag neej zoo e khib kj lov
Felt so much pains, and felt so very sad, for the ways all the son had treat her they act like she is not a human and they didn’t pay back her energy. Her times , that she had provided to help to raised them sound like they never a ppreciated her for anything when listen this story then feeling hurts so much thank you for sharing.
vim yog tejlaus lub siab ntshaw chaw sov siab es tej menyuam thiaj li tsis quav ntsej los mas yog tias nws txhob mus yuav txiv ces nyaj cov tub yug tseem yuav hlub thiab tabsis cov tub yug ntshe yuav tu siab ib hnub twg od.
Peb cov poj niam hmoob laus na. Mloog ua kev kawm nawb. Tsis txhob ntshaw2222 txiv lawm nawb
Txawm nyb los cov tub yeej g hlub os
Txawm tus hluas tus laus los yeej ntshaw txoj kev hlub. Txhob txwv tej laus
Kids 2020 now they don't UNDERSTAND OG just remember it's not your life it's they life all that matter is that they HAPPY it doesn't matter who the step dad is you still respect him CALL him DAD they should be glad they don't have a dad any more I think it's all about the money GL
Laus lawm los tseem ntshaw tus hlub rau thawm muaj mob. Tej me nyuam lawv muaj lawv neej lawv muaj mob muaj tus pab lawv ces lawv tsis nyiaj siab. Tus laus muaj kev nyuaj siab txom nyem tsis muaj tus txij nkawm ces yeej nkag siab. Cov me nyuam ua tsis yog rau leej niam lawm. Lawv yuav tsum tu lawv niam rau thawm laus tsis taus. Lawv ua tsis tau lawv kev cai dab qhuas rau tabsi qhov hlub thiab tu lawv yuav tsum ua tau. Lawv twb tau lub neej zoo zoo nyob tsev loj loj tabsi hos hlub tsis taus tus laus ma tsis yog lawm.
Too sadly
OMG… it’s so sad.😂😂😂😂😂 that’s why I don’t wait for anyone. As a mother you know which one love you and which one don’t. And to think she have a son that is a layer. He must not be to smart to treat his mom like that lol sorry to say
This is why these old folks need to Stop looking up to the sons only!! They really need to stop this culture crap stuff! This culture stuff is man made man built, that they need to learn!!
Sometimes, I honestly don’t feel sorry for some of these old folks too because no matter how bad their sons treat them, they still want to stay with these sons.
It’s so sad! I can’t believe these sons in this story!! I hope you reap what you sow! I hope your mom
Comes back as a spirit & haunt these sons forever!!
That tradition of no matter awful the sons treat them, these elders still tolerate n live with them. So saddening!
Thau ngb g hlu tuag ho sib txee ngiaj😂g tsim ngog
Tab niam ho hla Tom ntej los twb tseem yog yus niam tab txawm Laus2 lawm los nyias saib nyias tus vim tsuav ho muaj tus pab hlub ib ntus nej xav tias nej twb tsis pub nrog nej Nyob ne txawm ua tsis tau nej dab qhuas Los txoj kev hlub nej yuav tau hlub Li yog nej niam hos
Nyias twb yugyug tau nyias ib cos li o
I say whoever bought life insurance should have taken full responsibility for it because that's what life insurance is for....funeral.
Buying life insurance is not free. It’s a liability for that policy owner.
Wrong. I bought insurance to cover my portion not the entire funeral. When I pay the premium, I receive zero dollar from the other people so why should I take full responsibility.
@@yeebdawb1376 Because it's for the person we love? We bought $50,000 for each of our in-laws and we used it all up....in the end we didn't get anything but we're fine with it. I guess it depends how generous or greedy a person is.
You should buy and take full responsibility if that is fair for you . If you plan, you lose. If you are careless, you walk free. Lol.
Nej yuav tau ua li meskas ma. Tej laus lawv kho kho siab lawv ho sib yuav los nyias yeej muaj cai tu nyias niam nyias txiv li nyias nab thib. Nej muab nej niam hu plig kiag rov los ua nej niam xwb ces yeej tsis txhaum dab tsi li los ma... cas yuav ua nyuaj ua luaj li os.
Niam ntsuab lo yog may cas lawv hais lus tsis zoo rau kj txog qhov noj peb caug ntawv na qhov ua niam pab thaas na lo
Tsis tsim nyog koj niam yug nej li. Nej coob npaum li ko, nej ho hlub tsis tau.
..these are ungrateful kids....they should be happy that their mother got married and with sombody who loved her...these two parents should not leave anything to their kids...they only want his and her money after they die....
My comments for this story is too much for me to say, it might just be another story for May. I got my own situation.
First, your mom made the mistake of remarried at that age, costed her at the end. Second, your siblings should take care your mom’s funeral expenses since you all benefited from your mom, not your step siblings.
Seriously. You think she doesn't deserve a partner? That is so selfish. She is an adult. Her children just needs to let her luve and be happy. Period. I hope your kids don't treat you that way when it's your turn.
@@KevinVan-Kresnik
It’s not selfish, it is the culture. Everyone deserves a partner. But if a Hmong woman remarried near the end of her life time like this grandma, she put herself at risk of not getting the love and support from her children as as well as her step children. Once you leave the clan, culturally they are not responsible for you anymore. This is exactly what happened in this story.
Hmong "kev cai qub" uses "dab qhua" as an excuse to avoid taking responsibility... even for their own mother, sister, daughter. This is so wrong but Hmong men AND women still practice it.
kuv hais li no rau nej cov menyuam nawb ok nej lub neej tseem hluas2 nej tseem tsis tau txog koj niam tus neev taw nawb cov me nyuam kuv qhia nej cov hluas paub tias txhob txwv tejlaus os mog txog yus zeeg yus mam paub nawb nej cov me nyuam tsis txhob tusiab rau koj niam qhia nej paub nawb hnub twg av npog nkaus yus lub qhov muag lawm thaum ntawd yus mam li paun tias tus ntawd thiaj yog yus tus tiag2 li laus nej txhob cem2 niam thiab tsis txhob tu siab rau yus niam nawb hnub no nej cia li hais zoo rau nws cia kom nws muaj kev kaj siab thiab os mog
Peb cov 60 xyoo rov sau nawb tsis txhob muab nej pob nyiaj rau nej cov me nyuam nawb tseg cia thaum yus tsis tau lawm es leej twg hlub yus, yuav yus, tu yus ces mam li muab rau tus ntaw xwb nawb.
CAs tu siab ua luaj
Ib leej niam muab tau ib pob nyiaj rau menyuam tabsis ib tug menyuam tsis kam muab ib duas las rau leej niam lub ntees yog kev tu siab tshaj plaws. Niam no yug tub ces nkim zog lawm xwb.
Tusiab tiag2 os niam aw…. Peb sawv daws yuav txawj laus, txawj tuag, I will not count on my kids as they were born in this country when my day comes sad😢
Cov tub nyab tej zaum lawv xav tias lawv yuav tsis txawj ua poj nauj yawg nrauj thiab poj txhuam yawg ntshuam txog yus hnub yus thiaj yuav paub
Tom ntej no cov tub nyab tseem yuav txom nyem tshaj os tsis dim li nawb mog
This is sad!!! All the kids on both side are selfish!!! Koj niam laus2 nws kho2 siab! She has the right to be with someone who loves her and she can confine in!! Nej mas phem kawg. Just do your jobs as children. I would never stop mom from being lonely and sad!!!
Laus npaum twg los yeej tseem need kev hlub os.. especially in old age companionship is needed. Yus niam yuav mus ua tsawg Tom neej los hu plig rov qhab xwb. Nej niam twb muab nyiaj tseej caum phav rau nej noj tag tsis npam los yeej yuav npam me me nawb. She shoulda never gave y’all all her money
Yeej yog li cov nus sab tom nej txiv hais nej cov tub cov ntxhais uas yog koj yug yuav tau tuaj
Nej mas nkim koj niam lub zog yuag thiab tu dhau lau! Xyov li os cov laus no los yeej nkaus ua nyuaj tej hluas siab hos cov hluas los siab phem tsis paub hlub tej niam tej txiv li thiab os😢
Im so disgusted by these grown ass kids behaviors. Can’t even finish listening to this story.
Luag twb hais Tias 1leej niam yeej hlub tau 10 Tus me nyuam tab sis 10 Tus me nyuam yeej hlub tsis Tau 1 leej niam Li ?
😡🤬😡🤬 I don’t understand how you siblings cannot love your mom. She born all of you. Your marriages will not last for ever. One day either you or your spouses will leave the world b4 you and you will walk down the same road. She allowed you guys to find your happiness. She deserves to find hers too. If not you and your sibling should go raised your dad from his grave to be with her. Selfless educated children’s whom has no love but cheap selfless care. My kids dad died and I remarried, but I teach my kids no matter what at the end I’m their mom. I gave them life. At the end they need to stand up for me and do their part. Culture belief that the Hmong OG practices should not stand in their way.
Omg! My blood boil for all you sibling in this story. Selfless children who will feel your mom pain at the end.
Ua phem npaum cas ces yuav tau txais li rov qab xwb mas ntuj nyob qe qe lawm na khiav tsis dim yam ua tau ua cia ib zaug
My dad died and had always wished my mom to remarried but she never did. She needed someone to love her. Kids love are never the same as the spouse. Let her be happy. Not like you kids can do that.
Qhov tiag Tim koj niam xwb yog koj niam tseg koj niam qhov nyiaj muag tsev cia tsis faib rau leej twg li es thaum kawg leej twg hlub koj niam ces koj niam muab qhov nyiaj rau leej twg no ces lawv ntshaw2 koj niam cov nyiaj ces lawv yeej coj koj niam mus tu xwb. Koj niam hlub2 lawv tab sis lawv tsis hlub koj niam os.
Wow! Just wow! Kids these days are horrible. Your brothers took the money from the sale of your parents house..geeze. your mom should have kept that money for herself. Why are your brothers fighting for the money anyway? Isn't one of them a lawyer? Lol...
Cov niag laus no me nyuam hlub tsis mploog me nyuam hais nyuam qhuav ntxim xwb os. Tsis musj chaw nyob los yog pheej nyob tsis tau ces txhob tu siab xwb. Ne nyuam tsis tawm hauv koj lub qhov quav los txhob vsm koj lawv hlub koj li os. Tim nplog laus yawg laus xwb thiaj li zoo li no los mas. Laus lawm nyob zoo zoo me nyuam thiab hlub nawb
Lawv cov tub nyab lub neej laus lawv yeej yuav paub xwb xwb. Ib tiam ua rau ib tiam tsis muaj qhov xaus.
Shame on your brothers. They were no longer expected to perform the funeral rituals for your mother, but they had a duty to physically take care of her. And they needed to cover her funeral expenses. The right thing to do: your brothers cover the funeral costs and the step-brothers perform the funeral rituals.
Twb nyob teb chaws vam meej ua luaj cas tseem hais txog qhov qia dub thiab ntshaw nyiaj xwb es yug tau ib pab coob ua luaj los tseem pluag nyiaj tshaj cov yug tsis muaj thiab na me nyuam qia dub aw…
Goodness. You all are grown and have your own lives. Love your mom enough to want her to be happy. Whatever money she and your dad had belongs to her now that he’a gone. You kids are so selfish and immature.
If y’all can’t take care of her, put her in a nursing home. At least she will be taken care of, clothed, and fed. Geez. Why do kids always have to complicate things.
All the sons in this story are wrong!! Is your mother, no one will love your mother more than you! Shame of you all. To her sons, you all took the money from the house. You should have enough money to cover her funeral. Stop being 1975 mindset!
Pog ntxhais no nws niam muaj hluas nraug es nws tseem khib siab mob siab for nws txiv uas tuag lawm thiab? Vuag!!!!
Ruam los ntse os.muab nyiaj tag nrho rau me nyuam cuag li yus yuav tuag tag kis.lub caij laus tseem yuav tau siv nyiaj ntau tshaj thaum hluas os vim phej muaj kev mob kev kho.ruam dhau lawm ces kav liam os