Yes I sat beside a German gentleman on a flight to Munich in the early 90’s He was a hoot and we smoked our asses off and drank everyone under their trays in the late 80’s. He called English/ British people island monkeys
I mean in the established lore they know each other and have visited each other’s houses so I think no small talk and straight to deep talk is appropriate?
Being German I learned a lot from the Australians. They really have nice way to make you feel, they are happy to get to know you. I was a typical german before, but learnt, that the world can be much brighter, if we just use the unavoidable contacts each day as chance to make each others day a bit brighter. A smile, a friendly comment, a joke, a compliment. And a the English say: "Never be too busy to be polite." Greetings to all the Australians out there. You changed my life!
@@elisepetersen5292Brisbane, my favourite City. Lived there for 9 months. I still dream of it once in a while and always get very emotional. Greetings!
As an introvert , I discovered to have Germany in the heart. Ahahah. But I cannot deny that I like the English humor and sometimes these small talk, are not a problem for me.
Hey, the English guy is getting germanized! He heard "how are you today" and he actually gave an honest answer, instead of responding with "fine". That was a very German thing to do!
depends on the region of Germany I guess xD Where I come from most just say "gut" or "muss ja" and if you go any deeper (with acquaintances) everyone will be uncomfortable xD
@@namtellectjoonal7230 "muss ja" is the Thing you say when you feel Like crap but wanna Stay Polite (as in Not answering small Talk with a Life Story)
@@kooc1 I know some engineers, but they all live abroad lol I also know some American engineers that wanted to move to Germany but didn't like the pay.
@@kooc1 Living expenses vary greatly in the US. If you live in California or North Carolina makes a big difference. But overall ye, I think you'd live cheaper in Germany. Engineers still want to leave if they have the opportunity tho I think. I really think they should just pay them more and get them to come to Germany from all over the world. Brain-drain bad.
Oh, I know... like Liam going from masking to being vulnerable in 3 secs straight literally got to me... Even though it's supposed to be comedy but this happens to me all the time, people just telling me secrets and I am then in the know... it's a gift and a burden.
@@75egcgAmericans small talk like 7/10 mainly outside the big cities . Compared to Italy, France , Spain , Germany etc it’s completely different. Even dog walkers don’t want you to pay any attention to their dog in those countries 😂
@@harrystone8491 It all depends on the circumstances really, your common sense will tell you who is busy/in a hurry right now and who is able to talk to you. Don't be shy, some may be a bit bewildered by your approach at first, but we usually become more talkative as the conversation progresses. I hope you have a great stay in Germany and make some friends here. :)
I wish that were true for my neighbours, they’re nice people but damn, can’t walk pass them without wasting half an hour every time, and i *hate* small talk
I'm a German who is extroverted and I hate small talk too. it has no purpose but to fill the silence and I would rather have a real conversation than random weather talk.
I just had standard german smalltalk. Went to the elevators to leave the shop. An old man with a cart behind me. I put my bag in between the contacts to keep the door open. He looks at me in horror. Ventures a smile. I smile back. Nobody needs to talk. His smile gets real. He nods. Nuff said. We stood in this afterglow of a beautiful conversation. Until we, magically, arrived at the park deck we _both_ had to go to.
Sometimes it’s good to not brush people off…. We can become so self absorbed that we might miss an opportunity to relate to someone. They feel listened to ( especially in a world where people tend to ignore each other) and you might find someone to talk with about similar life issues. ❤
Different culture. It was also very Hard for me to get used to it, especially as a Hungarian person. We love "small talks" and when we ask someone "how are you?" the only appropriate answer is to tell your centire life since the moment of concievemnet up until the present. If you see your future, you tell it too, and if you remember your past lives you tell it also. 😁 The "fine thanks, and you?" as an answer is actually considered to be rude here. We need these "small talks" and it was a shock for me how different does it work in Germany. 🤷♀️
"It all started when I was born and both of my parents were absent ... blah blah blah ... needed to work as a garden gnome... blah blah blah ... got adopted by ocelots ... blah blah blah ... and that's why the house is on fire and a giant mole destroys the city. Anyway, how are you?"
Sometimes. But it is really a cultural thing. Hungarian people have always had a hard life, we (the average people) are living in tough circumstances... And by our version of "small talks" we share also our hardships and problems, and there's always someone who can help/who has right solution. A problem shared is a problem sloved kind of thing. It's very complex and may sounds weird but it works. It has much deeper roots than anyone can imagine.
@@amarantazadori7500 I see. That is actually kind of beautiful. You are right. It just surprises me that those stories seem to be shared with faint acquaintances. In Germany only close friends would talk about such things.
@@EYNIS_VARDA_SONGWRITER Somehow I can tell with just your comment that you're too used to use your friends as your free psycologists, we all know at least one annoying f**k like that.
@@EYNIS_VARDA_SONGWRITER I thought Americans were the one who didn't have any friends at all. Surface level small talks, and fake friendliness and smiles, arrogant, loud, one-ups themselves by pretending to be only nice to ones that are obviously inferior than them, passive aggressively mocks and makes fun of others, talking behind people's back
I hate small talk. Here in the US, all anyone ever does is talk about the weather and do the "how are you, I'm fine how are you, fine" routine. Well actually I should say here in New England (Boston) everyone does this, but I remember Southerners being more relaxed and casual. Up here it's always an awkward dance where both parties are uncomfortable but trying to follow the social norms. Keep up the good work, you are hilarious and one of the few people I watch regularly!
@@jeffhendrikson5733 better than being constantly paranoid if the other doesn't make eye contact or small talk... there's plenty of chances other than those shty american style small talk
I appreciate the little smile that he has when he responds to the small talk with a "small talk question" It's really "okay, fine, I like you so I'll reach out to your hand"
Nah, most Brits are very quiet/introverted and hate small talk too. The problem is that it’s the loud drunk assholes (who nobody in England likes) who then clog up all the European tourist hotspots and give us a bad reputation😂
The Germans do not usually have a small talk and did ingore me when I was being British (I'm not British but learnt English from them and do sonewhat behave like them) However once you have got to know the person somewhat for over months then when they start talking.... A super long talk. Almost an endless debate. Never stop. Up-and-down and even screaming with that sharp accent. I was pretty surprised as I used to see them only as super quiet people.
Thats absolutely how I and my German friends are. Instant deeptalk with friends, a "Ja, läuft, ne. Und du so?" reply towards people we have seen under 20 times minimum. I just dont consider a "how are you" from them of honest interest, because why should they be intrested when they dont know me 🤷♂️ therefore they get the short version. And I mostly expect a short reply, because why should they tell me their lifestory If I dont know their background nor am much interested in... 🙈
@@NotUnymousI love this, in the UK there's hardly any deep talk at all, it's got worse over the last couple of decades, it's like you can barely have a face to face disagreement with anyone or even suggest a different point of view, never mind a good old debate about life the universe and everything. It's got weird here. And when people do discuss meaningful things and disagree, it's like some sort of personal attack. Think we forgot how to communicate lol.
The germans love small Talk when their over 50, then every person will hold their beer in the summer and Talk 3000+ hours about how they cut their grass in the garden ToT
Two weeks ago, I checked in at this hotel in Düsseldorf, I stayed there like 5 times before. The receptionist looked almost happy to see me. His positive attitude swept away once I asked: "How are you?" He replied: "What? Why do you ask?"
I think he reacted like this because the staff is supposed to serve you, and it's not expected for you as a guest to think about his wellbeing. Which is stupid I think. In once worked as a waitress and was critizised for eating in front of the guests at an event even though there was no place for us to eat. So I had to eat in a shitty small corner. Because otherwise the guests might remember I was human, too.
In German, 'how are you' is not as commonly used as a greeting, is not interchangeable with 'hello' like it is in English. Personal questions are usually something you ask people you actually know, to strangers you'd rather talk about the weather or surroundings. While it's perfectly clear what you meant, he mightve misread the context. But he seemed to be happy to see you, he just didn't know what the purpose of your inquiry was 😅 we're effective. We only start necessary things
I feel this on a whole another level. Back home in India, I was usually the one who would avoid small talk, but here in Germany, I feel like no one talks to me anymore. 😂
@user-zv1ge1hs7y yeah, pretty much true. But, I'm able to enjoy it now. This suits my base nature better. Otherwise I always had to get into cringe smalltalks out if politeness back home.
This is why I don’t know my neighbour on the same floor with me. We don’t talk. Maybe a bit hello and goodbye in elevator, but most of time we ignore each other. I’m very much happy with this kind of thing.
I absolutely know the „I really don’t want to have small talk, but they’d potentially be sad or displeased if I don’t“ Even happens with fellow germans
I can confirm this. I’m a Puertorican, we are the most kind, loving, talkative, and caring people you will ever meet. We are very social. My Software Engineering professor is German. I tried to get to know him with a small talk on the way to his office he was indeed very dry and seemed like he wanted to avoid talking. 😂
Lo que dicen de que quizás estaba ocupado puede ser, también lo entiendo. Si no hablas mucho no tienes el hábito y te da ansiedad o nervios hablar. Me pasa y es un asco por qué me quedo en blanco y no sé qué decir.
@@JH-zs3bs That's just it. Whaf's up with his tone of voice and extreme avoidance and lack of humanity!!! Why didn't he explain!! The Englush guy probably already knows how anal Germans are about time, and human beings being friendly!!
I had been living in Germany for 7 years and i have moved back to Indonesia and am living here now. I had experienced all the things what was shown on these Videos. Almost all Germans (Not all of Them)that I ever encountered are rigid and no matter how long we have known each other,they would act upon me as if i am totally stranger. I know,they dont mean to be rude,except those Germans who have had experience living or studying abroad,they are more likely to be friendlier, because they knew how it felt to live in a place where no Family or relatives around them. I used to be sad and lonely for the first 2 years because it was so hard to befriend or get along with them,but afterwards I was kinda shocked and feeling weird when i found some Germans either at college or at workplace who were willing to approach me without being asked in the first place and it made me blushed. I have always mixed feeling about Germany and German. I see Germany as my second land and I see German people like my brother. When I see them in my country,I always have drive to help and get along with them. I wish I could go back to Germany for a vacation.
That's so sad 😢😢😢 Poor english guy, deserves a hug. 😍🤗 In my experience there are some germans that like small talk. Allthough, actually the english guy is pouring his heart out. That's not small talk.
@@lylavati This! When someone from an English speaking country asks me "How are you?", I always have to force myself just to say something like "Fine, and how are you?", because as a German I feel the urge to answer how I really am at this moment.
@@carmenschnitzer2739 I tend to do this too, especially if the other person seems interested. And British people sound interested - to me at least. 😄 It confused me so much at the beginning, that they say it like "Hi" and don't expect any answers at all. 🥴 It can be such a nice start into a conversation. Or an overwhelming experience. 😄
"... nonsensical chitter chatter" 😂😂 so sagt man also bei euch!! 😅 herrlich, mit diesem prachtvollen Ausspruch der Umgangssprache bereichere ich meinen winzigen, englischen Wortschatz.
In Hong Kong, we’ve been taught that when someone asks ‘how are you?’ The answer is always ‘I’m fine thank you.’ So if you speak English and start talking to people on the street, that’s usually the standard answer you’ll get.
Something similar happened to me while travelling Canada during my gap year. I went up to the cashier and asked: "How are you doing?" (cause that's apparently what North Americans do). But with this tiny question I kickstarted a whole monologue about how her mother had died and had left her nothing, but and I quote "THIS F***ING RING*. Then she went on about how unfair the inheritance distribution in her mother's will was and how nothing but this Ring was left to her. Her rant probably only lasted 2min, but from my point of view it took ages and I felt drained after that. After this traumatic experience, my shocked german self stuck to a simple "Hello", "Hi" or "Good morning" as a greeting and to "Have a good day" ONLY.
I've lived in Toronto all my life and I've never had anyone respond like that. You may have just found the most cringe person in Canada to ask how are you to lol.
As a Canadian, I can confirm we enjoy a little small talk, but your experience I have never run into here, and I live in a small town, notorious for over friendly, small talk, people. Lol Sorry for your experience. Lol
Canadian here. I assure you that isn't a normal response. This happened because she was going through an unusual and stressful situation and felt she had to share it with somebody. It's also possible she's just weird in general. Please don't be afraid to ask "How are you?" just because of that cashier.
Oh you poor thing, suffering so much for around 2 minutes. If I was a visitor, I would find it very interesting. And if it was only two mjnutes- ka pai! I gather you have never been through the trauma of losing a parent, then having nothing much to remind you of your Mum. I sense you are far too young to go through something harrowing like that. If she reads your comment, she will be as shocked as I am and you apparently were. One thing I have heard a lot from Germans is that Americans, Canadians and Aussies are 2 faced. We aren't. We take an interest in others and are quite laid back generally.
@@barbsmart7373h. I think it's a bit reaching to speak for all Americans, especially in this time period when many Americans would like to see other Americans suffer simply for difference of political opinion. Generalized statements are evil. We shouldn't generalize anything. It's also kind of hypocritical to talk about how caring we are while actively dissing and shaming someone from a different culture who has different values. You don't sound an awful lot like a voice of "open minded love and compassion." But, to be honest, I don't think it's appropriate to spill your woes to a stranger like that either. I wouldn't want to hear someone complain about their life or their problems either; as a parent-less foster child being forced to listen to someone complain about parents having left them ANYTHING because I should care about others doesn't really compute. And that doesn't make me a bad person. It just means you should talk to a friend, not a stranger. The way I see it is like this: we all have our own unique problems and woes. You never know how you complaining about your woes might hurt others due to their own. If you need a shoulder to cry on or ears to hear you, you should probably speak to a friend, or a therapist. This is why, as an American, I do not ask people "how are you?". I say hi if I say anything at all.
As a descendant of Germans on both sides of the family, I can confirm that this is exactly how it is here in the south of Brazil 🤣🤣🤣 Here most of people are German's descent and we are considered cold for acting like this 😅
The more i watch this channels videos.....the more i relate. Ima smidgen german, and gosh golly gee, do they seem like fun folks! Im always never in the mood to chat! Sounds delightful! I'm american, I grew up in new England and moved to the south at some point and DAMN do southerners like to chat @.@ no thaaaaanks!
Thank you Germandër for supporting your Englandër friend in the end 😊 That moment when the german friend asks the england friend how he's doing, that was heart melting. ❤
@Dipl. Ing. Toblerone ist ja nun slowakische Schoki und nicht mehr aus der Schwiiz: Toblerone ist künftig nicht mehr «aus der Schweiz», sondern nur noch «gegründet in der Schweiz»: Nachdem das Berner Traditionsunternehmen im Sommer angekündigt hatte, ab Ende 2023 Teile seiner Schokolade in der Slowakei zu produzieren, wird aus dem «of Switzerland» auf den Packungen ein «established in Switzerland».
So true! My neighbor who actually ist friendly with me walked through the garden yesterday as I was out with my dog. I said to her "Wow you are early today" (In German ofcourse) because usually she walks her dog later. SHe just kept walking and ignored me so I said something else...Still just smiled and kept walking....To an American (or a n Englander) that is very rude...YOu always atleast say something backk even if you don't stop.
I would actually see it rude from her point of view (I'm Russian, living in Germany). Why is this person judging that I'm early? Are they following me? Is that even their business? So, smiling was actually very nice from her (I guess she was just shocked). I feel it's ok to say "Hallo" to neighbours when you meet them in the elevator or near the house. And that is more than enough. If you want to actually talk, then try to build real relationships. Start from "My name is... I live on 3rd floor. It is nice to meet you". Otherwise why would you even talk to a person if you are not going to invest in the relationship?
As Russian, I actually love that Germans don't do small talks. I always feel uncomfortable with English and Canadian people who love to talk nonsense with complete strangers.
@@duhsunnyday8590 literature, music, history, science, philosophy, travelling, culture etc. We, like Germans, will ask you "how are you?" only if we really care about you, not because of courtesy. We won't smile to look polite. We will only smile if we feel it inside. We are not cold. We just have boundaries.
@@annayuchernyshova Talking to people is so much easier when you go straight to interesting topics! When it comes to smalltalk, I never know what to say and it's just a stressful, awkward waste of time for me. But if I meet a person with a common interest, I can talk for hours.
@@awetistic5295 exactly! I hate small talks, because they are awkward. Why would I open up to a person that I'm not related to (as a friend or even acquaintance)? And I am actually an extrovert! Small talks are just not for everyone...
Last week an elderly Asian dude asked me to help him buy a train ticket. It was awkward as hell because of language barrier. He didn't understand German at all and his English....wasn't the yellow from the egg lol But he was so sweet and I can't ignore elderly people who need help!
I'm German and this literally happened to me with my neighbour, although he was South African. He looked so pitiful, so I stopped and then he proceeded to tell me his wife ran away with their son...
I know how that feels. I cannot manage small talk, it petrifies me. Is that part of German DNA or what's going on with me? Ask me to speak on a subject that is up my alley for an hour and I can do that. But small talk, I cringe, I just want to run and hide.
As a Swede i can relate 100% , along with the other Nordic countries. ☺️. Denmark might be a little bit more chill than the rest of us. That's why I never had any misunderstandings when communicating with Germans. 🙂 A difference thou is when i have a conversation with a German, the are very straight to the point, on the verge of blunt. Swedes tend more to wrap up what they say and want in politebess. I have to say i like Germans for their directness. No bullshit, you know right away what they mean. I've been to Germany quite a lot and i like it there.
THATS MEEEEE I don't want to interact because I'm afraid it wont STOP. I try the quick answer thing because I don't wanna be rude. But don't really wanna chat!
Been all over Europe and this is more Swedish or urban Norwegian than it is German. A lot of Germans, especially in the south, were very friendly and open almost like Americans.
@@mauer1 sure dude are you just going to talk to a random guy about personal stuff right away? Not likely. People do small talk for a reason, its to establish a rapport with people you don't know. Obviously you don't need to do this with your friends. But if you are meeting new people small talk is necessary.
@@kevley26 depends on the situation. But no, if the kontext is already established like a business meeting, no smalltalk needed. What you say is when talking to complete stranger on day to day occasions like at the supermarket and guess what, we don't do that, so, no. smalltalk not needed.
you make no sense. man this is maybe why i hate living in germany, full of cold nonsense people like you everywhere, where i come from my people are way more welcoming open and warm..
I’m just back from Germany trip. I loved how Germans make eye contact and greet strangers with hallos or guten tags politely and happily all day everywhere. 💕 But if they already know you, no small talk, just direct information exchange, both when face to face or texting. We, Mediterraneans on the other hand can’t live without quick small talks in every occasion.
The German small talked out of the goodness of his heart even though he knew he'd regret it.
A truly astonishing sacrifice! 😵😵😵
Yeah thanks bro I saw the video too
A true German kindness! 😂
Thats what we do 😅😂
@@xSoulhunterDKx i agree
in the German accent „not this Engländer again“ absolutely fucking killed me!!!
Yes I sat beside a German gentleman on a flight to Munich in the early 90’s
He was a hoot and we smoked our asses off and drank everyone under their trays in the late 80’s. He called English/ British people island monkeys
See? See? No smalltalk! He learned and went straight to deep talk! That's the way to do it. I'm proud of you!
he should've went ''no talk'' as that would be the appropriate thing to do
@@verycreativ233oh, sorry, don't agree.
I mean in the established lore they know each other and have visited each other’s houses so I think no small talk and straight to deep talk is appropriate?
Being German I learned a lot from the Australians. They really have nice way to make you feel, they are happy to get to know you. I was a typical german before, but learnt, that the world can be much brighter, if we just use the unavoidable contacts each day as chance to make each others day a bit brighter. A smile, a friendly comment, a joke, a compliment.
And a the English say: "Never be too busy to be polite."
Greetings to all the Australians out there. You changed my life!
Greetings from Perth :D
Greetings from Brisbane 😀
So lovely.
Mexicans change life. Hard working, generous, great family cook outs, great sense of humor, Zero drama.
@@elisepetersen5292Brisbane, my favourite City. Lived there for 9 months. I still dream of it once in a while and always get very emotional. Greetings!
Greetings from rural Australia mate
I can’t help it, I’ve worked all over the world, but Germany has a special place in my heart…
"Wie geht's?"
"Gut. Dir?"
"Muss, muss..."
Alles gesagt.
Moin!
Moin!
...nuff said 😉
"Und so?"
"Joa. Dir?"
"Joa."
*Grillen zirpen*
Alles klar. Werde ich mich mal toten.
After living here for 3 years and finding a job. Can confirm
Most people don't know what to answer to "Na". It's a good way to stop a conversation before it even started.
All that happened to the English man and he still had a smile on his face. That is the level of contentment I want to achieve in life.
This is not contentment, this is a habit. It is considered impolite to not smile in some countries. It doesn't mean he feels ok.
it's called the English stiff upper lip. very unhealthy!
@@roseanncampbell7294 being English I can’t agree more but sometimes we don’t even know we’re doing it!
@@laurensadler3363as someone who is not Anglo Saxon this is so fascinating to me! But doesn't it get annoying at some point?
The usual tbh
Awww the German been touched is one of the most heartwarming moments 🥹
😢
Look at the end. He regretted it 😭
True. It only happens in the movies 😂...
As an introvert , I discovered to have Germany in the heart. Ahahah.
But I cannot deny that I like the English humor and sometimes these small talk, are not a problem for me.
Die Wende am Ende war süß. Liam hat so eine Sympathie für grumpy Germans.
Hey, the English guy is getting germanized!
He heard "how are you today" and he actually gave an honest answer, instead of responding with "fine". That was a very German thing to do!
Thats what I thought, too! 😆😁
depends on the region of Germany I guess xD Where I come from most just say "gut" or "muss ja" and if you go any deeper (with acquaintances) everyone will be uncomfortable xD
@@namtellectjoonal7230 "muss ja" is the Thing you say when you feel Like crap but wanna Stay Polite (as in Not answering small Talk with a Life Story)
Hahaha ... you're so right
@@namtellectjoonal7230 "Muss ja" can mean everything, its all about the pronounciation and your eyebrows.
Aww, my introvert self would love Germany.
They don't pay their engineers enough. They all move away when they can but then they need to accept the small talk. 😅
@@Broockle u weren't getting paid enough?
@@kooc1 I know some engineers, but they all live abroad lol
I also know some American engineers that wanted to move to Germany but didn't like the pay.
@@Broockle ofc America pays much better than germany, but I hear germany has lesser cost of living or like inflation didn't reach it
@@kooc1 Living expenses vary greatly in the US. If you live in California or North Carolina makes a big difference.
But overall ye, I think you'd live cheaper in Germany. Engineers still want to leave if they have the opportunity tho I think.
I really think they should just pay them more and get them to come to Germany from all over the world.
Brain-drain bad.
When small talk becomes deep talk
Oh, I know... like Liam going from masking to being vulnerable in 3 secs straight literally got to me...
Even though it's supposed to be comedy but this happens to me all the time, people just telling me secrets and I am then in the know... it's a gift and a burden.
big talk
Big talk
You don't say?
Yes, yes,
Too true.
Exactly.
Could be, could be
By the way I now remember what I called you about- "Your house is on fire! "
But I thought German love to gas people up
Wow I’m moving to Germany right away. Y’all seem like my kind of people
The German avoiding an English person’s monthly attempt at small talk, the English person avoiding an American’s daily attempt at small talk.
Idk. It usually makes a natural disaster to get us to talk here
@@75egcgAmericans small talk like 7/10 mainly outside the big cities . Compared to Italy, France , Spain , Germany etc it’s completely different. Even dog walkers don’t want you to pay any attention to their dog in those countries 😂
As a German can confirm that Germans dont like small talk...
Be serious man I'm about to travel to Munich. Shouldn't I do that then ?
@@harrystone8491 yes, as a pole i can say that its bad idea to try small talk with german...
@@harrystone8491 It all depends on the circumstances really, your common sense will tell you who is busy/in a hurry right now and who is able to talk to you. Don't be shy, some may be a bit bewildered by your approach at first, but we usually become more talkative as the conversation progresses. I hope you have a great stay in Germany and make some friends here. :)
I wish that were true for my neighbours, they’re nice people but damn, can’t walk pass them without wasting half an hour every time, and i *hate* small talk
What about big talks?
All us introverts are German at heart. ❤
XD Yess
I'm a German who is extroverted and I hate small talk too. it has no purpose but to fill the silence and I would rather have a real conversation than random weather talk.
Or Finnish 😂 But as a Finn I've always felt it so easy to visit Germany.
@@solala1312 Small talk serves as a gauge to how receptive someone is to conversing with you.
I was just telling myself that I'm in the wrong country 😂
If the German just ignored the English man the German would've been happy that the English man feels like a German
Commas can be your friend 🤗
@@mason96575 commas are not required here
@@pooki-dooki
One comma is necessary in this case.
kenn mi ned aus
@@pooki-dooki Yes, they are. Bigot. 😄
I just had standard german smalltalk.
Went to the elevators to leave the shop.
An old man with a cart behind me. I put my bag in between the contacts to keep the door open. He looks at me in horror. Ventures a smile. I smile back. Nobody needs to talk. His smile gets real. He nods.
Nuff said.
We stood in this afterglow of a beautiful conversation.
Until we, magically, arrived at the park deck we _both_ had to go to.
Prolly made the old man's day, proud of you
Sometimes it’s good to not brush people off…. We can become so self absorbed that we might miss an opportunity to relate to someone. They feel listened to ( especially in a world where people tend to ignore each other) and you might find someone to talk with about similar life issues. ❤
Meanwhile Small Talk in northern Germany:
"Jo moin"
"Tach"
"Na wie is?"
"Muss ne?"
"jo"
"Ich muss wieder ne?"
"jo bis denn"
Diese Konversation ist unrealistisch lang.
@@ag4444 es sei denn, dieser Austausch dauerte insgesamt mind. 30 Minuten und zwischendurch starrt man gemeinsam in die Ferne.
this is so accurate !!! i am DONE HAHAHAHA
@@issykasson1668 und trinkt ne buddel Flensburger.
can someone translate it please?..
Das “verdammt” kam vom Herzen aus der Seele
Different culture. It was also very Hard for me to get used to it, especially as a Hungarian person. We love "small talks" and when we ask someone "how are you?" the only appropriate answer is to tell your centire life since the moment of concievemnet up until the present. If you see your future, you tell it too, and if you remember your past lives you tell it also. 😁 The "fine thanks, and you?" as an answer is actually considered to be rude here. We need these "small talks" and it was a shock for me how different does it work in Germany. 🤷♀️
"It all started when I was born and both of my parents were absent ... blah blah blah ... needed to work as a garden gnome... blah blah blah ... got adopted by ocelots ... blah blah blah ... and that's why the house is on fire and a giant mole destroys the city. Anyway, how are you?"
But isn't there a point where it gets a bit... annoying?
I would imagine it becomes a bit stiff and uncomfortable
Sometimes. But it is really a cultural thing. Hungarian people have always had a hard life, we (the average people) are living in tough circumstances... And by our version of "small talks" we share also our hardships and problems, and there's always someone who can help/who has right solution. A problem shared is a problem sloved kind of thing. It's very complex and may sounds weird but it works. It has much deeper roots than anyone can imagine.
@@amarantazadori7500 I see. That is actually kind of beautiful. You are right. It just surprises me that those stories seem to be shared with faint acquaintances. In Germany only close friends would talk about such things.
That honestly sounds rather wonderful. Going to go learn some basic Hungarian :)
We Germans like our conversations to be quick and informative. No time for long conversations with short results 😊
@@EYNIS_VARDA_SONGWRITER Somehow I can tell with just your comment that you're too used to use your friends as your free psycologists, we all know at least one annoying f**k like that.
@@EYNIS_VARDA_SONGWRITER I thought Americans were the one who didn't have any friends at all. Surface level small talks, and fake friendliness and smiles, arrogant, loud, one-ups themselves by pretending to be only nice to ones that are obviously inferior than them, passive aggressively mocks and makes fun of others, talking behind people's back
I hate small talk. Here in the US, all anyone ever does is talk about the weather and do the "how are you, I'm fine how are you, fine" routine. Well actually I should say here in New England (Boston) everyone does this, but I remember Southerners being more relaxed and casual. Up here it's always an awkward dance where both parties are uncomfortable but trying to follow the social norms.
Keep up the good work, you are hilarious and one of the few people I watch regularly!
Then how do you ever get to know people, make friends, find a wife, etc?
@@jeffhendrikson5733 better than being constantly paranoid if the other doesn't make eye contact or small talk... there's plenty of chances other than those shty american style small talk
That last part, looking at the camera.
Silent verdammt.
I appreciate the little smile that he has when he responds to the small talk with a "small talk question"
It's really "okay, fine, I like you so I'll reach out to your hand"
The most introverted German vs the quietest Englander
LEAST introverted German lol
XD Yess, truly so
Nah, most Brits are very quiet/introverted and hate small talk too. The problem is that it’s the loud drunk assholes (who nobody in England likes) who then clog up all the European tourist hotspots and give us a bad reputation😂
You haven't seen my German boyfriend then. This man talks so much
Most introverted vs quitetest is there for a reason.
After seeing a lot of your content I feel like I might have a german soul
Thats what all introverts think until they actually meet a German and get turned off by their unintentional rudeness.
@@shawnredmond8402guess you've never been to Germany
Tf he just smiled and being talked upon again is EPIC 😂😂😂
That look to camera at the end! 🤣🤣🤣
Spot on, "I knew it would amount to this". 😂
Soooooooo guuuuuut 👍 da steckt soviel drin! Einer meiner Favoriten!
The Germans do not usually have a small talk and did ingore me when I was being British (I'm not British but learnt English from them and do sonewhat behave like them)
However once you have got to know the person somewhat for over months then when they start talking....
A super long talk. Almost an endless debate. Never stop. Up-and-down and even screaming with that sharp accent.
I was pretty surprised as I used to see them only as super quiet people.
Thats absolutely how I and my German friends are. Instant deeptalk with friends, a "Ja, läuft, ne. Und du so?" reply towards people we have seen under 20 times minimum.
I just dont consider a "how are you" from them of honest interest, because why should they be intrested when they dont know me 🤷♂️ therefore they get the short version. And I mostly expect a short reply, because why should they tell me their lifestory If I dont know their background nor am much interested in... 🙈
@@NotUnymousI love this, in the UK there's hardly any deep talk at all, it's got worse over the last couple of decades, it's like you can barely have a face to face disagreement with anyone or even suggest a different point of view, never mind a good old debate about life the universe and everything. It's got weird here. And when people do discuss meaningful things and disagree, it's like some sort of personal attack. Think we forgot how to communicate lol.
Liam is such a great actor!
Watching this channel made me realize even though I was born in america my soul born in germany.
Touched my heart, really. ❤🥹
The germans love small Talk when their over 50, then every person will hold their beer in the summer and Talk 3000+ hours about how they cut their grass in the garden ToT
Isn't that called "Fachsimpeln"? 😄
ok if it's important things like this it makes sense! 😂
@@lylavati idk I'm 15 I always need to listen to my grandma's talking
Ask about their new Weber grill and next vacation (Mallorca, Ostsee, Dänemark)!
Truer words have never been spoken. Also, everything their pet did, ate or stared at
Two weeks ago, I checked in at this hotel in Düsseldorf, I stayed there like 5 times before. The receptionist looked almost happy to see me.
His positive attitude swept away once I asked: "How are you?"
He replied: "What? Why do you ask?"
I think he reacted like this because the staff is supposed to serve you, and it's not expected for you as a guest to think about his wellbeing. Which is stupid I think. In once worked as a waitress and was critizised for eating in front of the guests at an event even though there was no place for us to eat. So I had to eat in a shitty small corner. Because otherwise the guests might remember I was human, too.
No. Asking this question implies something is seriously wrong with this person and you can see it in his face. You just made' em into a Pariah!
I think he assumed that he looked like we wasn't well. As if his face was pale, his hair messy, his eyes sleep-deprived or something like that
Analogous to you looking him in the face and him checking if he has some soot on his nose or something
In German, 'how are you' is not as commonly used as a greeting, is not interchangeable with 'hello' like it is in English.
Personal questions are usually something you ask people you actually know, to strangers you'd rather talk about the weather or surroundings.
While it's perfectly clear what you meant, he mightve misread the context.
But he seemed to be happy to see you, he just didn't know what the purpose of your inquiry was 😅 we're effective. We only start necessary things
Typical German Angst: If I talk to him, he wants to be friends with me... 😬
Run, Jürgen, run 🏃♂️💨
BORED..
Jüürgi, nimm die Beine in die Hand!
Antisocial vandals.
I feel this on a whole another level. Back home in India, I was usually the one who would avoid small talk, but here in Germany, I feel like no one talks to me anymore. 😂
In Germany a person just won't talk to you unless there is a reason to do so.
@user-zv1ge1hs7y yeah, pretty much true. But, I'm able to enjoy it now. This suits my base nature better. Otherwise I always had to get into cringe smalltalks out if politeness back home.
Best one yet!! No smirk at the end but I felt it in my bones!
This is why I don’t know my neighbour on the same floor with me. We don’t talk. Maybe a bit hello and goodbye in elevator, but most of time we ignore each other. I’m very much happy with this kind of thing.
Hahaha same here. I despise small talk so much lol
I absolutely know the „I really don’t want to have small talk, but they’d potentially be sad or displeased if I don’t“
Even happens with fellow germans
I can confirm this.
I’m a Puertorican, we are the most kind, loving, talkative, and caring people you will ever meet. We are very social.
My Software Engineering professor is German.
I tried to get to know him with a small talk on the way to his office he was indeed very dry and seemed like he wanted to avoid talking. 😂
Better to try in class. Chances are he really needed to go somewhere n was in a hurry or smth 😁
@@JH-zs3bs I think this is the case. Imma try in class.
Lo que dicen de que quizás estaba ocupado puede ser, también lo entiendo. Si no hablas mucho no tienes el hábito y te da ansiedad o nervios hablar. Me pasa y es un asco por qué me quedo en blanco y no sé qué decir.
Come to NZ or Oz. We would treat you the way you are accustomed to!!!
@@JH-zs3bs That's just it. Whaf's up with his tone of voice and extreme avoidance and lack of humanity!!! Why didn't he explain!! The Englush guy probably already knows how anal Germans are about time, and human beings being friendly!!
Chitter chatter😂😂😂 a crazy word. Hahaha ich liebe es
I had been living in Germany for 7 years and i have moved back to Indonesia and am living here now. I had experienced all the things what was shown on these Videos. Almost all Germans (Not all of Them)that I ever encountered are rigid and no matter how long we have known each other,they would act upon me as if i am totally stranger. I know,they dont mean to be rude,except those Germans who have had experience living or studying abroad,they are more likely to be friendlier, because they knew how it felt to live in a place where no Family or relatives around them. I used to be sad and lonely for the first 2 years because it was so hard to befriend or get along with them,but afterwards I was kinda shocked and feeling weird when i found some Germans either at college or at workplace who were willing to approach me without being asked in the first place and it made me blushed. I have always mixed feeling about Germany and German. I see Germany as my second land and I see German people like my brother. When I see them in my country,I always have drive to help and get along with them. I wish I could go back to Germany for a vacation.
That's so sad 😢😢😢 Poor english guy, deserves a hug. 😍🤗 In my experience there are some germans that like small talk. Allthough, actually the english guy is pouring his heart out. That's not small talk.
He answered the German way. 😄
@@lylavati This! When someone from an English speaking country asks me "How are you?", I always have to force myself just to say something like "Fine, and how are you?", because as a German I feel the urge to answer how I really am at this moment.
@@carmenschnitzer2739 I tend to do this too, especially if the other person seems interested. And British people sound interested - to me at least. 😄 It confused me so much at the beginning, that they say it like "Hi" and don't expect any answers at all. 🥴
It can be such a nice start into a conversation. Or an overwhelming experience. 😄
I am from the Czech Republic and I like the German way.
Do you say more than ahoi in CZ?
@@nichderjeniche There are chat people and non-chat people 🙂
THX 😊
He’s joking, but the German version reacted with compassion because the English half of him has felt the pain.
Speaking from experience.
What a lovely story. Heart taking and so romantic. Very joyful to watch
"... nonsensical chitter chatter" 😂😂 so sagt man also bei euch!! 😅 herrlich, mit diesem prachtvollen Ausspruch der Umgangssprache bereichere ich meinen winzigen, englischen Wortschatz.
they are not as cold hearted as they want to be
That is so true even when Grandma ask „und wie geht es dir so?“ im like „wie immer“ 🤣
Really nice pfp
@@Wouyyy perv
Even Omma?
That’s what I feel as a foreigner in England!
Don't make this nice Englishman sad. He deserves better! At least you could offer him a fresh tea!
I love them so much!❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
In Hong Kong, we’ve been taught that when someone asks ‘how are you?’
The answer is always ‘I’m fine thank you.’
So if you speak English and start talking to people on the street, that’s usually the standard answer you’ll get.
As a person from Finland. This is even worse. Small talk ends a relationship with another person.
This is truly fucked up, I’m sorry😢
There's no relationship in the first place. Nothing lost
😐
Then Finland seems to be a perfect place for living!(and that's not ironic)
Great country❤
In Germany we don't say: "Hallo, wie geht es dir heute?" - we say: "Und?!?" 👍🏻
And the answer would be: "passt schon!"
Na?
@@michaelfischer8324We often say: "Joa, muss ja ne?" XD
Immer noch eins meiner Favoriten..
This hits home so much. I moved to the UK a couple years ago and I am still so uncomfortable when cashiers are trying to small talk with me 🙈
One thing I loved about moving to Germany was not being chatted at by random people anymore. Always been a German at heart, it turns out lol.
And when you will be sick???
@@cristearoxanadaniela7845 I don’t understand this question.
Just keep walking, just keep walking... Doris "einfach schwimmen, einfach schwimmen"? Melodie klang so ähnlich 😁
The turn of head and stare at the camera at the end!! 😆😆
This is relatable regardless of where you live.
My German uni lunch chef was from England and we used to have quick chat like this in English. It felt so good to find someone to speak.
Something similar happened to me while travelling Canada during my gap year.
I went up to the cashier and asked: "How are you doing?" (cause that's apparently what North Americans do).
But with this tiny question I kickstarted a whole monologue about how her mother had died and had left her nothing, but and I quote "THIS F***ING RING*. Then she went on about how unfair the inheritance distribution in her mother's will was and how nothing but this Ring was left to her.
Her rant probably only lasted 2min, but from my point of view it took ages and I felt drained after that.
After this traumatic experience, my shocked german self stuck to a simple "Hello", "Hi" or "Good morning" as a greeting and to "Have a good day" ONLY.
I've lived in Toronto all my life and I've never had anyone respond like that. You may have just found the most cringe person in Canada to ask how are you to lol.
As a Canadian, I can confirm we enjoy a little small talk, but your experience I have never run into here, and I live in a small town, notorious for over friendly, small talk, people. Lol Sorry for your experience. Lol
Canadian here. I assure you that isn't a normal response. This happened because she was going through an unusual and stressful situation and felt she had to share it with somebody. It's also possible she's just weird in general. Please don't be afraid to ask "How are you?" just because of that cashier.
Oh you poor thing, suffering so much for around 2 minutes. If I was a visitor, I would find it very interesting.
And if it was only two mjnutes- ka pai!
I gather you have never been through the trauma of losing a parent, then having nothing much to remind you of your Mum.
I sense you are far too young to go through something harrowing like that.
If she reads your comment, she will be as shocked as I am and you apparently were.
One thing I have heard a lot from Germans is that
Americans, Canadians and Aussies are 2 faced. We aren't. We take an interest in others and are quite laid back generally.
@@barbsmart7373h. I think it's a bit reaching to speak for all Americans, especially in this time period when many Americans would like to see other Americans suffer simply for difference of political opinion. Generalized statements are evil. We shouldn't generalize anything. It's also kind of hypocritical to talk about how caring we are while actively dissing and shaming someone from a different culture who has different values. You don't sound an awful lot like a voice of "open minded love and compassion." But, to be honest, I don't think it's appropriate to spill your woes to a stranger like that either. I wouldn't want to hear someone complain about their life or their problems either; as a parent-less foster child being forced to listen to someone complain about parents having left them ANYTHING because I should care about others doesn't really compute. And that doesn't make me a bad person. It just means you should talk to a friend, not a stranger. The way I see it is like this: we all have our own unique problems and woes. You never know how you complaining about your woes might hurt others due to their own. If you need a shoulder to cry on or ears to hear you, you should probably speak to a friend, or a therapist. This is why, as an American, I do not ask people "how are you?". I say hi if I say anything at all.
This is way too accurate.
He's just like "never again" 🗿
Yay, Liam's back!! I was only wondering the other day about where he'd gone as I hadn't seen his vids for ages.
Ich liebe deine Videos! ❤
this too accurate man, I'm losing it
As a descendant of Germans on both sides of the family, I can confirm that this is exactly how it is here in the south of Brazil 🤣🤣🤣
Here most of people are German's descent and we are considered cold for acting like this 😅
What language do you speak at home? German or Portuguese?
Mentira, já fui nos dois e é bem diferente.
As a German I can confirm this is true.
The more i watch this channels videos.....the more i relate. Ima smidgen german, and gosh golly gee, do they seem like fun folks! Im always never in the mood to chat! Sounds delightful! I'm american, I grew up in new England and moved to the south at some point and DAMN do southerners like to chat @.@ no thaaaaanks!
Thank you Germandër for supporting your Englandër friend in the end 😊
That moment when the german friend asks the england friend how he's doing, that was heart melting. ❤
Do not give into their weak doe eyes, stay strong and keep walking :) 🥹💪🏃♂️🤣
I'm Swiss and actually find Germans so much more talkative than we are 😆
I'm german living in Switzerland. And elder people in Switzerland like to talk also a lot... 🗣️
Ihr Schweitzer habt ja auch nur zahlen im Kopf. 😉😂
@Dipl. Ing. Toblerone ist ja nun slowakische Schoki und nicht mehr aus der Schwiiz:
Toblerone ist künftig nicht mehr «aus der Schweiz», sondern nur noch «gegründet in der Schweiz»: Nachdem das Berner Traditionsunternehmen im Sommer angekündigt hatte, ab Ende 2023 Teile seiner Schokolade in der Slowakei zu produzieren, wird aus dem «of Switzerland» auf den Packungen ein «established in Switzerland».
Not a German, but as an introvert it is excruciating to engage meaningless small talks 😮💨
As an extrovert I feel the same. small talk drains my social battery within minutes.
I'm glad you still retained the "not too bad" 😂😂😂😂
He got that heart of courage
So true! My neighbor who actually ist friendly with me walked through the garden yesterday as I was out with my dog. I said to her "Wow you are early today" (In German ofcourse) because usually she walks her dog later. SHe just kept walking and ignored me so I said something else...Still just smiled and kept walking....To an American (or a n Englander) that is very rude...YOu always atleast say something backk even if you don't stop.
I would actually see it rude from her point of view (I'm Russian, living in Germany). Why is this person judging that I'm early? Are they following me? Is that even their business? So, smiling was actually very nice from her (I guess she was just shocked).
I feel it's ok to say "Hallo" to neighbours when you meet them in the elevator or near the house. And that is more than enough. If you want to actually talk, then try to build real relationships. Start from "My name is... I live on 3rd floor. It is nice to meet you". Otherwise why would you even talk to a person if you are not going to invest in the relationship?
As Russian, I actually love that Germans don't do small talks. I always feel uncomfortable with English and Canadian people who love to talk nonsense with complete strangers.
What do yall usually talk about ?
@@duhsunnyday8590 literature, music, history, science, philosophy, travelling, culture etc. We, like Germans, will ask you "how are you?" only if we really care about you, not because of courtesy. We won't smile to look polite. We will only smile if we feel it inside. We are not cold. We just have boundaries.
@@annayuchernyshova Talking to people is so much easier when you go straight to interesting topics! When it comes to smalltalk, I never know what to say and it's just a stressful, awkward waste of time for me. But if I meet a person with a common interest, I can talk for hours.
@@awetistic5295 exactly! I hate small talks, because they are awkward. Why would I open up to a person that I'm not related to (as a friend or even acquaintance)? And I am actually an extrovert! Small talks are just not for everyone...
@@annayuchernyshova - Well said 👍👍👍. From Germany.
Last week an elderly Asian dude asked me to help him buy a train ticket. It was awkward as hell because of language barrier. He didn't understand German at all and his English....wasn't the yellow from the egg lol
But he was so sweet and I can't ignore elderly people who need help!
The way he started doing the smile but stopped from "the weather is lovely today right?"
Why do i find it wholesome🥺
I'm German and this literally happened to me with my neighbour, although he was South African. He looked so pitiful, so I stopped and then he proceeded to tell me his wife ran away with their son...
In SA we will say" ag shame" in response, meaning: I am sorry to hear your sad news.
I know how that feels. I cannot manage small talk, it petrifies me. Is that part of German DNA or what's going on with me? Ask me to speak on a subject that is up my alley for an hour and I can do that. But small talk, I cringe, I just want to run and hide.
probably xD
As a Swede i can relate 100% , along with the other Nordic countries. ☺️. Denmark might be a little bit more chill than the rest of us.
That's why I never had any misunderstandings when communicating with Germans. 🙂
A difference thou is when i have a conversation with a German, the are very straight to the point, on the verge of blunt.
Swedes tend more to wrap up what they say and want in politebess.
I have to say i like Germans for their directness. No bullshit, you know right away what they mean. I've been to Germany quite a lot and i like it there.
I love your videos. So hilarious and true!😂
Love your channel! 😅
best short we germans have a heart
THATS MEEEEE
I don't want to interact because I'm afraid it wont STOP. I try the quick answer thing because I don't wanna be rude. But don't really wanna chat!
The broken up smile got me 😂
Lmao "Yes" 😂😂😂
Here in Mexico, that answer will make you friendless in no time 😂😂😂
😂😂
I love the character development 😂
Been all over Europe and this is more Swedish or urban Norwegian than it is German. A lot of Germans, especially in the south, were very friendly and open almost like Americans.
Everyone says they don't like small talk but it is almost always a necessary step before talking about deeper things.
no, we dont do that here.
if you wanna talk deep, talk deep.
Not really.
It often prevents deeper talk for me. I dread smalltalk so much that I tend to avoid conversation alltogether.
@@mauer1 sure dude are you just going to talk to a random guy about personal stuff right away? Not likely. People do small talk for a reason, its to establish a rapport with people you don't know. Obviously you don't need to do this with your friends. But if you are meeting new people small talk is necessary.
@@kevley26 depends on the situation.
But no, if the kontext is already established like a business meeting, no smalltalk needed.
What you say is when talking to complete stranger on day to day occasions like at the supermarket and guess what, we don't do that, so, no. smalltalk not needed.
Aa a german this would never happen, we would never react just cause the other got sad. If you are sas go to work, work makes us happy
you make no sense. man this is maybe why i hate living in germany, full of cold nonsense people like you everywhere, where i come from my people are way more welcoming open and warm..
@@cherrymewy you forgot the part where your people are also inefficient
Where's the very small smile at the end 😭 I live for this
I’m just back from Germany trip. I loved how Germans make eye contact and greet strangers with hallos or guten tags politely and happily all day everywhere. 💕 But if they already know you, no small talk, just direct information exchange, both when face to face or texting. We, Mediterraneans on the other hand can’t live without quick small talks in every occasion.