Heartbreak from the dumpers perspective
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My breakup has given me an interest in human behaviour and I’m now doing my psychology degree.
He nails it 110%.
Avoidants ignore their inner flaws and will never feel contentment
I am watching this video today 5 months later from when i watch it, i get everything way more clear ! Clutch you words and analysis brought part of this inner peace and acceptance ...
He turned to drugs and drinking to deal with it. Our relationship could of been worked out...makes no sense.
@@albertodeulofeu5277nothing to do with attraction and everything to do with they would rather take drugs or drink to numb the pain than do the work, that means they have to look in the mirror and they don't want to do that, they have run away from doing that there whole life, has nothing to do with you and everything to do with them. x
The hardest part of healing from my 19 year marriage/divorce was how she never once shed a tear leaving the kids and I. She came back 3 times and then just disappeared. 2 years later I’m my best ever, teens are solid and her whole life has fell apart. I pray for her and feel pity but she’s done zero to work on herself and now I love myself. Too much damage to repair or reconcile.
Hey bud first let may say excellent you worked on your self and raised your kids the right way.
Don't feel sorry for her she made the mistake she thought rhing well greener on the other side just be glad you dodge a bullet.
Good luck. Keep getting better
This inspires me. I need to regain myself and my purpose.
I can see you’re a good guy. You are giving educated advice. Straight. Not sugar coating anything but you say it with empathy. Thankyou.🙏🏻🍀🌈
Pretty awesome synopsis of what to do after a harsh breakup, particularly with a Dismissive Avoidant. I would add a book that might be helpful... "Who Moved My Cheese?". It is rather simplistic and is a very short read, but it solidifies one principle... move on and find "better cheese". Some people dont get this and wallow in their own misery for much too long. Thanks.
Profound!!!! Universe conspired so that I could hear this today... thank you 🙏🏼 I’m somewhere in between pity and acceptance.
I recommend you to a man who can help you manifest whoever you want to manifest within two-day ♥️♥️♥️
He was the person who helped me manifest back my ex three days ago with out delay 💯💯
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Whtsaap him**
Clutch is a freaking genius
Thank you so much for this.
If I take a particularly huge dump, I may feel some soreness and possibly a ruptured and bleeding hemorrhoid, but no heartbreak!
Let em walk they doing you a favor 😎👍
Appreciate this. I needed it!
I like your style ! No fluffy crap and spot on❤
this video hit my situation on the head!! im 6 months out and have reflected, grown, and devoured everything on attachment theory, mindset, no contact etc. My ex is DA and has shown zero emotion besides jealousy of me dating. we have 2 children and she has disconnected completely it seems and wont even open the door a crack to allow any emotions in. together 9 years. she asserts how happy she is single. breaks my damn heart. 9 years and never a discussion on feelings or how to work things out. she shut me out emotionally and continues to do so. icing on the cake is one of her reasons she gave for break... I disnt hold her hand enough and show affection??!!
Have you seen DA's ever come to terms and realize their mistakes? Show remorse? any empathy?
so similar to my wife , soon to ex, she is done with our relationship, 23 years .
damn, i was only in a relationship with a DA for 4 months. How did you guys make it years?
What’s a DA?
@@TheBlissCatalyst dismissive avoidant, one of the attachment styles
You should look into positive affOrmations. Where instead of saying positive statements to oneself, the person asks positive questions to oneself. For example: “Why am I enough?”. This will bypass the inner pessimist and the mind will seek to make it so. Because human thought is more geared towards the process of finding answers to questions
so genuine. i love it.
Thank you :)
There is no excuse for monkey branching. My FA ex left for another while still in a mostly good relationship with me. We could have had a conversation to go our own way like mature adults. We could have remained cordial. I would have just let him go. Actually, that’s what I did. I let him go without tears or drama. He offered friendship. I declined. I have moved on and am healing. I watch videos for educational purposes.
Say goodbye and find a better partner. If you don't, you will be like a dog bone ,but you're the one chewing your own bones .
Does this apply to the dumper who monkey branched??
Face reveal caught me off guard lol
Totally! Lol
Hey Clutch. Was kinda enjoying the mystery but wow great to see your face after all this time!! Lol...Great advice as always!...I guess the dumpers really don't know whats gonna hit them...
Love your channel dude. I have a question...how do you decide when to leave a relationship? Feeling lost and I can't even remember how I felt before the relationship. I think I was happier but I don't want to make the wrong decision...
I have a video I made before the new year called knowing when to leave that might help!
Does it work the same with someone with ADHD? I don’t see it with him, he even went back to the girl he was talking to before and who was using him for money
Sunshine Love most situations are different. I can’t say with a 100% certainty. What I cover here are blanket statements, what the average is. It’s not about knowing a persons actions , or what will be their actions. Rather getting perspective that our emotions and thoughts aren’t isolated in these times. It’s normal to wonder, try to not obsess, and work on yourself in this time of mourning
The Truth of Love thank you for replying. It’s actually not me who is involved. It’s a friend of mine and I only wanted to help ease her depression and anxiety.
Thanks
Great video...
Who is doing the washing up in the background?
Probably my girlfriend =)
My dumper is furious and devaluing because I dropped off some of his things outside his door.
He suggested I was stalking him and he's seen me running twice and therefore this was proof. We live 5 mins away from each other.
It's nearly 6 months, no contact, he's in a rebound.
What gives?
Without mind reading too deeply, this sounds a lot like projected insecurity. Do what you need to do for you. You shouldn't even be talking to him, if it's a case where he's talking to others, tell your friends you don't want to hear about it. They will see his true colours in time. I am sorry you're going through this.
@@TruthofLove it was a short text exchange when I dropped his stuff off. He got agro, very superior, accusatory and vile.
I wished him well and cut all contact.
Another very good video - thank you!
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