Being a bitter single mother will only affect your daughter’s future relationship with men | LNN
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- Опубликовано: 9 июл 2024
- “No matter how your marriage turns out, never separate the children from their father. These are the words of Grace Destiny, and she knows very well the price she had to pay for not having her father in her life
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What is your take home from today's conversation with Grace Destiny?
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Lynn yes she oozes with wisdom and an example of what doesn't kill you makes you stronger I pray for someone struggling with daddy issues will be encouraged today that yes they can be healed. Thanks Lynn for bringing her back I love her wisdom
Lynn I love your hairstyle I also do that work welcome
Lynn na kama ataki kuingiya kwa picture, tutafanya aje. My daughter has been rejected more than tree Times by her dad, she has been devastated. She was keeping Hope itakuwa different akiwa Nairobi atamuona. Na nikipita nairobii, she sent me calling him and to tell him : dad I just want to hear your voice. Nîmejikaza , I went beyond my pain and fear of humiliation , seeing the interest of the child, I called him while knowing that he will expressly humiliate me again. I didnt let him the Time to speak Bad, I just told him that she begg to hear his voice. He was ashamed, and promise to pick the phone but when I called I was already blocked. I think tusi wabebeshe single mothers lawama yote , wanapitiya mengi and no one anaitibu vidonda vyao. They are standing alone against all the society called to carry on them all the and even their own children.
Nafikiri ni ya muhimu kupatiya kila mutoto story yake. Don't hide anything cause the story Can be turned against you single mother. in each one story there step mape of the calling, the mission, gifts ans many thing. Our story has a powerful meaning. My daughter is facing this rejection with me, and understood that there are careless fathers and there are godly ones. Her positivity has strenghen me. she has been there when the father called us story tellers when the immigration officiers called him to confirm if he approuve the child to cross the boader. He respond waende Wale story tellers😢. Battling sikkle cell anemia, many health complications and severe Heart deficit, she was to get a Heart operation. Her joy was to see one her father. she was just want to hear him. He claims he want DNA to avoid any responsability and costs. The child research on Google about DNA meaning and implications. Now that she understand, she IS ready and Ask for DNA and give him peace. Kenyan society must look AT that issus properly, kenyan men are easly giving UP on their responsabilities, and the Law is encouraging by saying that the man will be providing only from the moment he has been siwed by the court and he IS free from other charges, and his presence is not made a must. This unfair. This need to be Taken seriously. The kenyan société has a Big number of single mothers and it IS going bigger and bigger without any assistance. Na unasikiya wanawake wakisema, even women children officiers, wewe leya tu autakuwa wa kwanza. Kuna wale wame achiwa na watoto tano, sasa wewe nyamanza. This IS was a chock to see kama wanamuke wenyewe take this as normal. No empaty, no humanity, no solidarity. I was discouraged. Nikatafuta LYNN Ngugi in vain. What are we teaching to the New generation 😢. What IS our legacy. I believe that single mothers and their kids, when partner with God, will bring forth a New generation of fathers and mothers Juu ni yule aana kiyato anajuwa maumivu, uchungu ya kutembeya kwa balabala chini ya jua kali na anaweza tengeneza viyatu powa.
Aki you've talked me and my children all through😢😢😢.
I pray that God gives me wisdom and strength to do the best and allow them to be them and not push them to feel me😢😢😢.
If you love your daughter or son, throw a likes here❤❤❤
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More than life ❤
Anybody loving her voice?
Meeeeee
Me
The voice is killing me
Me! Me! Me!
I was brought up by my mama while my father was alive but opted to be out of our lives , I never feel
any void , I appreciate my super mama ❤ .
True I also don't believe in that void thing . Lol I remember the guy akiwa sik bed alituma ma siz zake waje kunitafuta hapo ndio tulionania nikiwa over 18 years then I few weeks aka pass then watu wao still came looking for me that nikazike baba lol I was being treated like like a queen kwa burial n was like si hii mambo iishe mi niende zangu bana 😅 I mean I hardly know this guy ni stranger ata nita anzia wapi kulia ati ame die seriously na si kwa ubaya lol
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@ThankGod2024... UNTIL... pls listen, learn and humble yourself. We all have voids we pretend and cover up doesn't exist. May the good Lord give you understanding.
Kudos to your mum!!
@@ThankGod2024 ❤
I have been taking my daughters for dates, we just go and have a father daughter time, and it's working wonders... Thank you Grace, this is very powerful....
Kudos Sir 🎖🌟 🎊! May God bless you always for being a great Dad ❤❤❤🎉🎉🎉
wanaume let us gather here and acknowledge what this woman is saying.
Grace is full of wisdom, as a single mother to an amazing beautiful daughter, I have gone through all those stages. I live in a 2 bedroom house but I just can't seem to sleep without my angel next to me. She is my joy, my strength, my angel on earth. God saw me worthy of her. I was so angry and bitter when her father left but I purposed to love her and give her double portion. Funny thing, anytime I date, most guys feel that I love my daughter more, and it seems as if I have none left to give. God has blessed me so much for her, not for me.... she is the best thing to ever happen to me. My daughter, my flower, my angel.....❤❤❤❤❤❤
Wow this is me
You are destroying her unknowingly. Please allow the father to be present in her life, dont push him away. Thank me in 25yrs...
@@KK-ygh I did not say her father is not in her life.
Am already in love with this woman from her first story😅 she's a good story teller😅
Yes, I watched her story on different platforms as she is very captivating
With humor
A man is a very important factor in a girl’s life. My dad played a major role in my life. He also did the same to our brothers. My mom was there for critical analysis in my behavior for discipline. Love from Philadephia Pennsylvania. This lady is on point. CORRECT.
I wish people would understand that not all dead beats are worth being in their child's life. There are those that cause more harm than good. We block such not out of bitterness but loving our children and safeguarding their mental well being. Ask anyone co-parenting with a narcissist.
I agree with you 1000% some are better kept away... they're better out of the kids lives😢
So true..
@@marthawangechi9985 haha wueeh Narssists fathers can make you go to the graves before your time reaches. Wacha tu
its hard , i hear you.
I agree. My truth 100% true. No bitterness at all. It wasnt worth it so why be bitter?
brought up by a single mum from birth(my mum has never introduced me to any man) ....I am contented and I thank God for my mum who is my best friend,my confidant and my big sister...long live mama❤❤❤❤❤
This woman is really gifted. You just can't stop listening to her.
I agree. Very gifted i could listen to her daily ❤
I am a daughter
My dad's present
MY mom too
But if i was asked to chose again, I'd chose for them to be separated than together bcoz the chaos are just unbearable.
Sometimes we children wat we need is just peace.. And sometimes absense can be more peaceful than presence trust me u.
MY mom is a bitter mom bcoz my dad's polygamous and her sadness makes us more sad so yes,, it's not all times presence brings peace.
The ugly truth...u remind me how I used to pray every single day for my parents to separate...the fight was just too much to stand....My dream came to pass when I was in form 2...they finally separate and it was the best day of my life.Finally there was peace in the house ....to date they are still separate but my siblings and l love both of them and visit my dads place and we talk nd he love us so much.....Truth be told if marriage is not working let it go but don't let go of being a Father to your kids
Both Boys And Girls Need Their Father In Their Life. Not Just Girls.
Exactly.
What about those who are orphaned while still young
Of course all kids need their dads. Only for a girl, his a absence can destroy their self-esteem.
Rejection, especially by a parent is the worst hurt
This lady bring her more Lynn I will listen to her again and again ❤
How I wish my kids father could listen to this conversation, girls need their dad💯
Inauma😢, especially when is the dad who has no interest with his child
Very true 😢@@maggegachoki9688
I feel you am sailing in the same boat as a single mother
@@audreyrose20 hugs mammi
Not only girls but every child needs a father in their lives
Wow, I lost my dad when I was 5yrs. Nurtured by Mother and grandmother from my maternal side.😢 I realized I’m so desperate for a man now because I’m looking for a father figure.
Wao
I gat it.
Blessings Lynn and an amazing guest.
Same to me.
Same here 8yrs 🎉🎉🎉🎉
Aki Grace si uko mtamu! from the smile, the voice the wisdom, the laughter! Wow are you reLated to zippy Okoth? You relate especially the beautiful voice and laughter, i can listen to you forever. Welcome back to the show again and again cant get enough of you.
As a psychiatrist i agree with her 100%
Destiny, you are a powerhouse!
Salute Mr. Atuti. Receive your flowers Sir.
Muga, I thank you for wanting your 'Mum Lynn' look smart with earrings 🎉❤
Sometimes the father being there is too chaotic especially narcissist to the extent that everyone involved no longer has peace as a result both parents end up not being there emotionally in order to accommodate both parents being present
It was such a sweet moment seeing a crew member crawl on the floor just to pick up an earring 🥰. Great conversation. Dads please know that you are so special and moreso in the lives of your children 🙏🏾 ❤ 💕 .....
Been 20 year without his presence but I still give my mama her flowers❤ she did a good job
doesnt mean he does not exist he is there
@@georgegeorge4767 I know right
You might not feel it but your partner will feel it on how you treat him.
I loved her energy from her testimony on Life is Spiritual👏🏾❤️ there’s a way she narrates that’s just beautiful
my kids father is a deadbeat dad,but am never bitter about it.what makes me sick is his obsession with me that he can call a whole week asking me to go back to him and never asks how our kids are doing.i always have to ask him why he's not concerned about the kids,just asking how they are doing,and when i think I've put some sense in him tomorrow he'll still call and not ask anything about the kids,i ever wished that he would be there for the children even if it's not financially but i got tired and blocked him.if he doesn't love our kids,he looses all of us forever
Me needs a man like Muga... Waah! that is Effort all for an earring
Grace you are such vibe. You don't look or sound like your past. What a victor! Unakaa tu baby gal.
Thanx for bringing Destiny Geace back.....she was too vulnerable sharing her journey in the last episode.
I thought am punishing the man.I learn something from Grace🙏
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She is an excellent therapist
I think her experience made her great.....some test in life is to prepare you for greater calling.
Mr. Atuti was a father to many..NAGEE fraternity can attest .Grace Destiny ❤
This is totally me. I really looked for a father in all my previous relationship. Its high time I sit myself down and love me. I allow my kids fathers to see them but they are not bothered so my brother takes the gap of a father figure.
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This is so timely. Thank you Grace for sharing.
Sometimes we are not sure how to start on this journey amidst work , hustling for ugali etc .I learn its about intentionality
This Lady has wisdom and have learned alot. thank you Lynn for bringing her
Thats why I try my best to be in my daughters lives. I was blessed with 3 daughters and a son. And I love everyone of them UNEQUIVOCALLY. God bless every parent who will go lengths for their children. God bless every parent whose present in their children's lives no matter if you and your child's mother or father is not on good terms make sure you be in the lives of your children. No matter where you are and where they are love y'all children unconditionally.
This is a nice topic….could you please bring us someone who can talk about dealing with step children….especially when they come to your life when big
I have two step daughters and their mother is alive they live with her but I and my husband foots all their financial needs. I told him I can know he loves me if he love his own blood
I can listen to Grace Destiny over and over again. This lady is full of wisdom. Ata aongee kikuyu ama lusungu Grace is always a vibe!
Finally, I can lay a finger on what's going on in my daughter's life. It's never too late.
Tell them .... children needs all of us❤
I've followed her from hope fm,to cama wa muturire, to life is spiritual and bow here❤❤...awesome woman❤❤
This conversation was all i needed as a parent thank you .
Let us not ignore beautiful moments like earing falling. Let us make fun of it. Don't you think we Kenyans are too serious.
Instead of asking for likes, I share the show with at least 10 people so that the channel can keep on growing. Today's show was on 🔥 it was nothing but the bitter truth most women don't like to hear about😅. Thank Lynn and Grace God bless you
Yaani Lynn nimeshindwa la kusema, I am not a mother but I am learning a lot here
Children will always look for their father, my sister is 54years old and still demands to know her father from my mother. I totally agree.
Let her ask her aunties , they know alot about the family
Grace wherever you go, I'll go, woman got wisdom.....the strength and courage to share her story and educate us. Be blessed Grace ❤
I can't believe Grace is back. I love you both ladies, lots of love from South Africa❤
Team LNN silent followers ❤❤ DEEP!!!! Thank you for having this conversation!
I’m glad I looked for my dad when I was 22 , the wounds will heal with time , continue resting in peace papa our love was unconditional. What grace is saying is real I knew when my dad was sick and even when he passed on I felt it .
What?? whatever she's saying is totally true have been brought up by a single mother never known the important of a father and exactly what she's saying is what is going on with me
Lynn thanks so much I learn alot from your show actually ❤
I remember one day my daughter calls me and told me (mum tell dad to send me pocket money) i ask her who are you with and she told me (am with my friends)and she knows very well that she has never see the dad, I felt so bad 😥😥
Are you able to look for him? That is the best gift you can give your daughter this year. After watching Paternity court and Maury show, I have seen the importance of children knowing their parents. It gives identity and closure.
@@annewairimu1035Maury show is fake 😂😂😂
I hope you understood her
My sweet mother, you are really full of wisdom,, can't wait to meet you again mama❤@grace destiny
This master piece is a gold,just realising how much fatherly Love i missed from childhood to adulthood....I thank God for this wisdom.
This is a vibe, I am just following her in every channel. Thanks Lynn for this topic. She is speaking to is the parents
Wow....this conversation is the best I've heard being a mom to a daughter ❤. Thank you Lynn for bringing her.
Lynn please bring her back, can we be having sessions
I am here today, the first one😂😂😂😂
Thank you for joining us Judy❤❤
Grace Destiny Is Full Of Wisdom. You Have Really Enlightened Me.
Coming august holiday l will send my daughter to visit the dad
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I hope you know where she's going and the people who live there, safety first
Hi,thanks for bringing destiny back,the absence of father indeed affects a child's life,my dad separated with mum while lwas 7yrs old we are on and off with my dad.lnever used to talk to men ,until my late 20s,Now in 30s and not married.lhated men with passion ,but now interact with them very well.lam looking forward to getting married to aman and that is my prayer.
I disagree with you kidogo on this that the absence of the Dad affects a child. There those who have had that father and it has been hell pure hell so let's not view our lives or our childrens lives as being affected or not affected by the absence of be it a father or mother, hio perception watu hukua nayo I think its somewhat misleading in a way, as long as a child/ children have good guardianship they will grow very well without being affected be it guardianship from a single Mother, be it guardianship from a single father or both parents etc
@@gww-px8vcstability of a child matters.raising kids in a toxic environment makes them bitter and angry,hating how they were raised.. praying the day they will leave that home they will be like visitors?a child does not need 2 parents,but a stable peaceful, habitable environment to grow mentally okey...
@@gww-px8vcdad died wen I was only 8 I don't know even wat to comment 😢
@@auntiemylee3157 pole about that. Well if a father is actively involved then then tragedies like death, separations, divorces happen then children might feel that emptiness, but picture the totally absent ones ata watoto hawawajui masura zao then it's just human that the child/ children will really not have no emptiness or rather void , but also pple are different, well for me since he was a 100% absentia ata sura niliona alipotuma watu wao the sisters waje kunitafuta since he couldn't move he was just in his sik bed, there after he died and kwa burial sasa ata machozi zingetoka wapi jameni na sijui huyu mtu nime meet tu once 😲 I just went coz the sisters walinitafuta wakidai msichana the guy lazma akuje lols it looked like aka funny movie in my eyes , and then also we were introduced coz he had 2 boys my step bros I was mkubwa wao their father /our father😅 iyo kusema our father hukua hard small 😲😃had now died and boom they started depending on me since also there Mom had died, well I didn't show them my back I took good care of them ata watu hawatujui dint realyz we are steps, na watu wanatujua ikakua ni shock that me the girl who was tupwad by that father ndio I finally took great care of the boys , wuehh mambo ya God niya kiajabu " the stone that the builder rejects becomes the corner stone "
Very informative. Grace is such a vibe. Thank you for a very interesting story Lynn. Keep bringing her on the show..
I can relate in more ways than one.
Having lost my Dad at 2.....I know this void that's left all too well❤
@lynn ngugi I love the moment that Muga ensures our gal looks good with the earring ❤
I was affirmed by my father on my driving. No one under the sun can tell me otherwise about my driving. I know I'm good at it.
I understand her.
I wish my mum would have allowed me to meet my dad 😢😢😢
At 22 I feel empty en unworthy 😢😢
I love tho episode.i was raised by a single mum but she never deprived me to visit my Father
Listening to you makes me think about my niece 😢 she's living with her mum and her step father who my sister has been complaining that he's not treating her right
It's hurting 😞 I wish my sister could listen to this
As an alumni of Naivasha Girls I agree that Mr. Atuti was indeed an exceptional teacher ... Am happy to see that the positive impact he made still reverberates to date in the young minds he mentored.
We salute Mr. Atuti. Kumbe Goodness does n't die.
@@theresahbosire9419 Indeed.. hats off to him
You guys need to team up go appreciate him
@@Wanjamburu.23 Tuchangamke mara that that.
Thank you for that wonderful message about how mothers should not stop their daughters from getting affection from their dad because only a wicked person would sexualise their child 😢 This has been an insidious poison in so many african set ups, keeping fathers from daughters and sisters from their brothers.
"what you feel determines what you attract" good words from Grace Destiny.God bless you.
How i wish my baby daddy would listen to this,its so empowering
Some women have their eyes on the inheritance and husbands assets and dont want the child from outside the marriage to have a share.
I love you Lynn for bringing Grace Destiny back she’s a very real and authentic woman 🌹🌹
I wanna thank your daughter for coming out to you and saying how she created a father figure .I created a complete family knowing its me and my mom and everyone believed it .To date I wish to know my dad sometimes I go through things that me question if my mom was still married hawangemuonyesha madharau .I have two kids and I pray they never get to grow up without a father .It was tough back in primary school and they even wrote a song for me that babayangu ni makanga😅and now Am all grown I wish to meet him ata kama yeye ni huyo makanga
Thank you Lynn for bringing her back,I LOVED her from the last episode!!
Watching this interview while am 21 years with my 4 months old daughter and we separated with the Dad only co-parenting. The father sends money fearing the law but he never comes to see my daughter. God bring light beyond what I would wish ju nimetoa huyu mwanaume Kwa akili ju ya madharau amenifanyia ju ya familia Yao 😮
I can listen to this lady all day long. She is very articulate and knowledgeable. Thank God am not a bitter single mother and always encourage my daughter to talk to her dad and so far so good. It also needs a lot of prayer, it is not easy being single
Grace is Brilliant. I loved this episode so much. As a single mother I love what she said, "use your head more than your heart". It makes the journey so much easier.
It's untill today i realized it wasn't a mistake connecting my girl and her father after 17 yrs of life ....i used to feel like i did the wrong thing becouse even after i introduced them the father never become the dad i expected he is Always absent he doesn't support her in anyway
"Am man will never see a woman in a daughter period!"am in my 30's and still daddys little girl and because of that love and assurance ...
Lynn's menu always on point💯. As usual bouquet 💐💐 all for you Lynn
My case is different. We separated with my child's father when I was 2 months pregnant.through out me giving birth I have tried to make him be part of the baby's child but nothing.i never asked him to pay anything all I wanted is for him to be emotionally attached to my girl because I know how important that is but wueh..he onced said niko na watoto wengi sina haja na uyo..
Am sorry dear may God give you grace and strength to raise that child with love
Thank you Lynn and Grace, beautiful conversation. Grace, you are a natural ,truly walking in your Destiny. Much love ❤❤❤❤❤
Please parents put your emotions aside as far as children are concerned and rethink about their welfare because they only have you
Wholesome😊
I am learning to affirm myself, and embracing healing. I didn't understand just how much I needed help to navigate this until I got married. Expecting affirmation from my hubby wasn't sustainable, right now I keep on reminding myself he is not my father.
I look forward to seeing my healed version...and I hope my mum and bro will have the opportunity to heal
Let's continue such wholesome conversations🍻
What a beautiful lady with great wisdom. Valuable advice ❤
Am here following thinking of how I grew with rejection due to the love of my dad who was never presence in my childhood life and came when I was 13yrs . I didn’t know the bond was still intact. He was the first man I saw crying in my life when he met me after I lost my mum. Although he later died all I know is he loved me to eternity ❤
Thank you so much for this conversation.Grace you've really helped me and opened my mind .I can't wait to listen from you again.Thank you team Lynn for this insightful conversation.May you stay blessed.
She is a vibe! Thanks Lynn for bringing her back❤
I wish men can listen👂to this wonderful conversation and at least work upon themselves because our dear Dad’s we really need you in our lives please 👏
Always here with my 📝 and 🖊 ready to learn
Watching this, I feel like I've been the child in every situation they spoke about. She introduced me as her sister to the neighbours in her husband's village. She told me if I died(commited suicide), she wouldn't care only the boobs I sucked as a baby will feel pain. The man she introduced to me as my dad beat me up so bad I still have a mark on my leg; I always knew he wasn't my dad. When I asked about it, that's when she told me she wouldn't care if I died amongst other things. She has 4 kids with the man, she introduces her second born as her first born, even though I am the first born(she did this infront of me during a family gathering). I clutched to my class teacher in highschool as a father figure, even though we haven't spoken in years, I still hold him in high regard. She didn't raise me, after I grew up and understood the damage she'd done to me for years and consciously decided to keep her out of my life, she told my siblings that I wronged her and I don't want to associate with them. They didn't know we didn't have the same dad. When I told my sister, she became so angry and said I was telling the "kids" things they shouldn't know.
She blames me for her mistakes and I don't understand why.
Hugs dear
Sorry.
Waaahhh hugs dear,,look for Lynn ukuje kwa show they will get you therapy
Hugs
Thanks guys but I'm okay. I've had 30+ years to cry and sort of heal. I'm just indifferent to all of it now. The situation annoys me more than it hurts until I find stories like this.
Infact this woman is so blessed with wisdom....wow......,i have really enjoyed listening to her and can relate well to some points she was saying as a Single mother . May God bless 👏👏👏🙏🙏🙏you for sharing this with us and with very good advises and encouragements for us my dear sister .
May God watch over families out there
Following up😊
Another notification iz here again 😮 let me watch it, Good morning team Lnny ❤❤❤❤
What a lesson for us single parents, I now see en learn my mistake as a single mum to my daughter. How I wish I knew this, Grace may God bless you as you continue teaching us. Lynn be blessed too as you continue giving these wonderful pples platforms to enlighten us.
I am just listening attentively. This woman is so beautiful. Thank you for being this intentional about this issue. There is hope for single mothers and fathers if we do right by ourselves.
Thank you beautiful Lynn Ngugi.
Love from Cameroon always❤
Can't wait to listen to Mr. Wambugu Chuma works, he used to preach to us during CU conventions back in high school.