the little girl "switching" her doll isn't just mimicking her parents, she's acting out her own trauma. children express themselves through pain, and it's sickening to hear what those poor children must have went through.
The child repeats the pattern because it's the only one she knows, and will re-enact it with her own children one day - and so will her children, and their children.
Michael Cruise 1 second ago This book"Training up your Child" MICHAEL PREAL GUIDE TO CHILD ABUSE I study this I found to be wrong and even is a danger. It's still popular in a huge amount of Christian buying this book.
My niece did something similar when she was playing and pretending to be a teacher, she lined up her dolls and started screaming at them telling them off for talking and other things, I was just like what kind of shit teachers are you being taught by...
I grew up in a Christian-based cult. My parents used this book. My siblings and I were often beaten with a wooden spoon that my parents had drawn a line on to signify that it was being used when we "crossed the line". My sister is now an alcoholic with bipolar narcissistic psychopath. My brother is a manipulative sociopath. And I am a paranoid schizophrenic with severe anxiety. All of us are clinically diagnosed. The way I was brought up has given me severe trust issues and an inability to ever be comfortable with social interaction. It has ruined all three of our lives. Please don't beat your children.
"my child isn't trying to get into the pond? better push her into the pond so she knows not to get into the pond" what the flip kind of logic is that!?
He just doesn't want the kids to go to school or interact with other kids because they might see that what they're suffering is actually abuse. It's like she said: he's just worried they'll get caught rather than actually help the children
Oh my gods, I was thinking the same thing. It truly is disgusting that these people are even able to have this printed for the public to read. At least we know what they are doing behind closed doors. What saddens me is that they call themselves Christians, or it is hinted that they are. I'm sorry, but these parents clearly haven't understood a damn thing from the bible.
Reminds a little to a north korean refugee, that spoke about his past. He was born inside a NK labor camp. He went trough immense physical and psychological suffering, without even noticing, because that was just the normal thing inside there, he didn't know what a normal life was supposed to look like. He even saw his family executed for minor reasons, still didn't feel all that much at it. Or in other words said, if you grow up in a cage, you don't realize you are inprisoned.
@@sagichdirdochnicht4653 I guess it's the same with animals. The ones born in captivity are happy from the start while the captured/rescued ones need years to adjust or may even not get used to small enclosures at all.
Obviously. To them, and I remember this convo with BigBangNeverHappened years ago (and got blocked), they "indoctrinate" their kids into the "right way" of thinking, while atheists "brainwash" theirs into the "incorrect" way. I cannot go back to it, since it seems their channel no longer exists.
No, he wants his children to understand loyalty and obedience. When did obedience become such a bad thing? I mean, besides when the tide-pod eating generation baww and claim that it's mindlessness, and not honor and loyalty. If you took out the corporal punishment aspect, nothing she's said so far is in any way inappropriate, it's old fashioned, and probably 'bad optics' for a modern PC world, but it's nothing outlandish. It's just tide-pod chomping cuckbois triggered because their senpai with a vagina said to be.
I remember actually getting in trouble for hitting my younger siblings when I was a kid, which sure was wrong.....but my father's solution was hitting me. See how that sends mix messages to a kid? Or why I thought it was okay to solve problems using violence.
I read an article written by their daughter. It is horrific. Her writing sounds just like her parents.' She believes everything they did is justifiable and that she is the happiest person she knows. She recalls very few bad memories of childhood and writes how she has only one memory of spankings (maybe because they're traumatic and she unknowingly blocked them out). I can tell through the computer screen that she is a brainwashed carbon copy of her parents. A mindless shell of a person whose life and personality was stripped away by what few can call parenting. I cannot begin to imagine what her 3 kids will turn out like, and what a truly happy person she could have been. The only happiness she knows was defined by the same people that "parented" her. It was sad to read.
She can still say those things out of the fear of her parents, even if she is an adult now, I can imagine her being terrified of doing or saying something wrong in their eyes. I don't know what would be worse, her still living in fear or truly believing those things because of indoctrination.
considering how often she seems to of been spanked, the fact that she only remembers it once really shows how traumatizing it was, people with happy childhoods don't block out that much from their memory
The bit about pushing the child in the water was so shocking to me. I have always lived near a river and my fathers solution was to build a fence around the house to keep me and my little sister from falling in it. What kind of person almost drowns his kids by pushing them in the water?
I heard of people that didn't build a fence because they believed their children were in the hands of god and if they fell in and drowned it would be god's will. It's disgusting
@@grasswithflowers2991 uh what. Reminds me of the boat story. A guy was drowning and god sent 3 boats and each time the guy said no god will save me. He died and got to heaven and asked god why didnt he save him and god goes you idiot i sent you 3 boats! I grew up on the story. I would build a gate cus God gives us the option to BUILD A FUCKING GATE SEEING I HAVE HANDS. Like tf
Barbie isn’t a “sex goddess” she’s a president, astronaut, veterinarian, pediatrician, godmother, secretary, fashion designer, boutique owner, race car driver, equestrian.... damn, she’s had so many careers and one of her BFFs is a mother of 2! So HELL YEAH she takes care of kids! Plus she’s an older sister!
Pretty much noticed this when watching the show "Barbie, living in the dream house". Was a comedy show but still it made me aware of what a great role-model barbie actually can be.
They joke about this a lot in “life in the dream house”. She references her multiple careers, and her friends try to work out how old she is, figuring at least 35 as she has been to med school and once ran for President.
I used to work at a kindergarten, i started working there about two weeks after a girl transfered from another kindergarten. I started noticing she wouldn't play much with other children and then i saw how she was playing with the doll... She would shout at them, push them and even shake them holding their shoulders... After a while of that and trying to get closer to her to slowly let her get used to the other kids (after a month she still would play mostly alone) i talked one of my coworkers if she noticed that and if she knew why she would behave like that. Well, she told me all she knew was that she was taken out of the other kindergarten because apparently there was abuse there from the workers. The girl was mimicking the behavior she had experienced there, thinking that was normal. You could see the anger in that 2 yo girls eyes, for something she didn't even understand! Needless to say, it took her about half a year to become somewhat of a normal child, teaching her that her doll doesn't have to be hit and reminding her that we love her. When she peed the bed she would be terrified and id have to reasure her that she's just learning and all we need to do is change clothes and wash the matress and that she didn't have to be scared because things like that happen.... Chilred always learn, sometimes takes longer, but the result of such kind of aggression always lives marks...
@@reubenmanzo2054 ah my bad, i just looked it up, its called "infant day care"? From 3 months old to 3 years old. Im not a native English speaker, its like my fourth language lol. In German you say Kinderkrippe for example, which sounds close to Kindergarten so o thought it works similar in English so i just used the word i know of. Hope that clears it up.
The weirdest part of this book is that every now and then (amongst all of the horrible advice) they throw in a truly good parenting tidbit but then they ruin it with twisted and horrifying logic.
ArabellaTurner That is honestly the most horrifying bit. The only thing more mentally scaring than constantly torturing somebody is making them believe that if only they do well enough all will be fine, that they are even loved, and then you do act lovingly towards them, so they slightly let their guard down, only for you to randomly turn into torturing them again. That kind of thing will make you go crazy, much more than plain, full-time abuse would.
abusive parents have their moments, they pretend to actually care about their children occasionally so that the child feels guilty for any resentment they hold against the parents. my parents used this tactic to keep me from rebelling or telling someone what was happening to me. once in a while showing affection so to the child it overweighs all the abuse.
"A girl who doesn't want her life *encumbered* with children is suffering a deep hurt and is walking a road to misery." encumber: 1. restrict or burden (someone or something) in such a way that free action or movement is difficult. 2. saddle (a person or estate) with a debt or mortgage. 3. fill or block up (a place). Probably not a good idea to call children a burden in a book about parenting.
Lovely Tigress to be fair I think his original intention was that her opinion is that it is an encumbrance. He probably should have put it in quotes. However he’s a horrible human being and I hope all of his kids rebel against him and become better people.
@monaca towa "An eye for an eye and the world goes blind" I have no idea who said this btw. Even tho he completely deserves it, the kids would be better off moving on instead of getting revenge.
Krista Gale & Samuel Walton He'd probably like it though, saying that kids actually *want* to be beaten. *shakes head* Kinky bastard, there's a special place for people like him; and his wife too to be honest but I'd hope that what happened is she got brainwashed at birth and passed it on to her kids. Otherwise lord have mercy on her and him both.
Years ago I called all the Christian bookstores in my city and asked if they carried this book. If they did I asked if they were aware of its content and none of them were. It only took a reading of a few brief passages for all of them to agree to stop selling the books in the future. Felt good to help in some tiny way.
“Kids view the rod as a comfort because it relieves then of their guilt”.... “DONT PUNISH THEM WITH GOD BECAUSE THEY WILL FEAR AND RESENT GOD AS THE TOOL”
I could understand why they are against condoms and abortions. They think children are god's gift or something. But why are they against std checks? Thats stupid af. If one of them have stds and the other gets it from the partner and then they dont take medication and they die who the fuck will take care of your "precious children"? And psycological evaluation , i think they are afraid of it because they know if their children go to one councellor the parents will be in jail.
steveXracer because you're obviously mentally challanged. Nobody who is pro choice wants babies to die. Fetuses are killed during an abortion before they even feel pain or have sentience. Not as bad as killing a cow tbh. And excuse me, how are these two people innocent?? They've hurt their children for god sake.
El Cat they also don’t believe in sex before marriage. In their eyes, If you only have sex with your spouse, then std treatments aren’t needed, since there is no exposure to them. Never mind the fact that there are some other ways to get the diseases that aren’t from sex (tainted blood transfusions, born with hiv, etc.)
As someone who is getting a degree in psychology and Early Childhood, and has experience with children i can say that this book is extremely toxic and will cause children so much emotional trauma. It is preconditioning children to NOT TRUST ANY ADULT. Not just their parents. It also teaches them that either A) violence is okay or B) that its a dog eat dog world. The "do as i say not as i do" tone of this book is horrfic and completely based on control, not love and support. This book teaches the parent (and through the parent, the child) to react without thinking. Instead of teaching the child proper communication skills, you teach them that if they are adults they can be violent too.
No kidding, I could feel the voices of my professors screaming at every new quote from the book. I have experienced just a moderate version of this upbringing, and as a grown ass adult I still don't trust my parents, I have anxiety, depression, college was a crash course in social cues, and my adolescence was a horror story of mimicking their abuse against my younger siblings. It's bad enough that my doctors can't decide if I have autism or trauma. The only good thing my parents did was to encourage independence because they were too lazy to want complete control, but it was a subservient independence that still comes back to bite me and all but the youngest of my siblings.
What infuriates me is that one of the few reasons I'm working on my anger oubursts (yes, the irony is not lost on me) is that I don't want to make my future children irate, short-fused people like me (because this problem was aggravated by the familial environment I spent my teenage years in) if I can help it. Yet these human-shaped masses of spineless slugs that would slink away the first time you raise your voice at them DARE encourage clueless idiots to harm their children. Sometimes, VERY rarely you do need to put your child in line physically. Hold them still or something idk, kids can become hysterical and violent in places where that is too much of a problem and needs to be stopped then. But going from there to "i will make you piss your pants the moment I look at the belt hung on the wall" is insane.
Book Wyrm Autism and trauma can coexist. I was born with autism, but after my dad left when I was 18 months old, they struggled to tell whether I was the way I was because of autism, or trauma because I lost my dad. Although they suspected autism since I was a toddler, it took until my 6th birthday to get diagnosed with Asperger’s Syndrome. Additionally, in this cruel world, abuse parents WILL use a disability against you if you have one, to make you feel incompetent. I hope you get help, regardless or what your issues are.
@@xTwilightWolvesx A real tragic case of both coexisting are children with Autism that were "cured" through violence or "miracle" drugs ( mms, aka bleach used in less conzentrated form to whiten paper) . Basically they learned that they will be punished if they show their normal behaviour, the parents on the other hands think that the method really cured the chikdren.
I fell into the deep side of a swimming pool while wearing floats when I was three and although I was not in any danger of drowning, the experience left me terrified of water for years. Trying to imagine how much worse it would have been if I did not merely slip but if my dad or mom pushed me. This man is a sadist who enjoys hurting children.
Something similar to this happened to me when I was 6. I accidentally touched the hot stove and instead of beating me or getting upset my mom explained to me that’s why she didn’t want me to touch it. I can’t even imagine how I would feel if my mom enticed me to do that.
mymelody I was always super careful if my mom said something was hot or would hurt I wouldn’t touch it. I can’t Imagine how I would feel if she encouraged me to touch something that would hurt me
@@manci2016 My father told me, that when I was a kid, I was fascinated by the stove, and always wanted to touch it. One day he fed up, that they had to look out of me to not to touch the stove, so he grabbed my had and pushed it against the hot stove, so it would hurt me. Of course I never touched the stove after this... He was really proud of himself and his genius technique. Years later he laughed at this while he told me this story. Thankfully I was small enough, that I don't remember anything from this. Or maybe my brain just blocking this event.
Wait.. so isn't this like an open confession (with evidence) of child abuse and domestic violence?? These people could literally be arrested for this shist.. Someone notify UNICEF.
well sadly if there is no physical damage they dont ever prosecute. My father for example used many of the ideologies of this book without reading it and without religion. At one point when I was a teenager he choked me, not hard enough to bruise, but enough to stop my breathing and emotional trauma. The police did absolutely nothing. This was in America too. Why is this allowed?
I feel their exploiting a loophole that states (to paraphrase) something something, seperation of church n' state, er, religous undertone makes lagal. I dunno
In many states in the U S religious parents are not compelled by law to seek medical treatment for a sick child. They can literally pray over a sick child till it dies with no legal action taken.
When I was 12 or 13, my family went camping. On the second or third night, we were all sitting around playing board games, and my mom got up to take the trash to the edge of the campsite. After a minute, we heard her shout "GET IN THE CAR! NOW NOW NOW NOW NOW!!!!!" We did. My dad, my grandma, and I all piled into our suv with no question. We later learned that there had been a bear going through our trash, that had seemed to consider running into camp when it saw my mom. My mom is a wonderful person, she's never done anything close to as horrific as hitting me, much less throwing me in a pond. Especially when danger is concerned, she's never been anything but worried and loving. And I responded to hee panic without question just the same. Because that's what panic DOES, it's how human instinct works. Tldr, and I think we all know this, but the pond thing is bullshit. Your kids can listen to you and respect you without fearing you.
Hitting kids is so contradicting to human nature. Panic triggers fight or flight, right? Right. The panic comes from the threat of being hit, so they rush to do the task. Instead of rewarding them with the “better late then never” which applies in real life, they will still be hit. It triggers a choice: stay and fight, or run away in fear? But it also brings a third option: stay in fear. It’s conflicting the child’s instinct by staying. (Feel free to correct me I’m mostly just guessing, I literally know next to nothing about psychology)
@@ElricKyra only in certain situations. if someone is in panic and says for you to run away, your instincts il say for you to run away. If the person only screams, your natural instinct il say for you to look to the direction of the danger to see if it really is dangereous. So yeah, it depends on how the first person il react to it, causing a chain of natural reactions to the reaction of that person.
my mother actually did have a problem with me when i was like 9 or whatever in which i literally would not do anything she told me to unless i understood why. her solution was not to "train" me to fear and obey unquestioningly, it was to TELL ME WHY THIS WAS A BAD IDEA by providing examples of situations in which if she ever gave an order i had to obey for my own safety even if i didn't understand it. that made me understand why sometimes it's best to ask questions later, and got me to stop being that annoying kid who keeps going "but why? but why?" instead of doing the damn thing. like... there are many possible solutions to this issue if your children do develop it, and contrary to popular belief, not all of them involve HITTING YOUR CHILD WITH A STICK
I never thought if Barbies as sexual thing, when i was a child. They were just pretty ladies with pretty clothes.I would make my own storylines with them. Never liked a baby doll, since there is only one scenario you can play with them. With Barbies you can act out movies and books and whatever.
Yes! Barbie dolls are great for pretend play as well as development of creativity regarding roles and scenarios but baby dolls are limited to a single storyline.
@Sleepy Child I never played with dolls. My mother didn't have any girly toys because I was her first girl. When my mother bought dolls I played with my brother's toy cars instead. :)
@Sleepy Child I have a funny story about my brother and how he first walked. I was late with everything so I was on the floor playing. My brother was at the other side of the room. I dropped what I had and it rolled away so I couldn't reach it. Before I even had the time to cry my brother stood up walked over to me and gave what I dropped to me. I'm a triplet so we can understand each other better I suppose. I never thought of it as strange but stories like that always make me laugh.
I used to pretend my Barbies were prostitutes from a bad neighborhood, addicted to crack&heroin, looking for their next fix... and they'd get murdered by my ken doll after extreme bondage forplay gone wrong.. so I guess I kinda sexualized them a little but you're right, this book is absolutely ridiculous!!! Glad I can share my childhood experience on your youtube channel, love u girl ur awesome!
@@alexdoorn234 brothers and sisters have a special bond when they are little, i would say. everytime some stories like yours pop up and is always between siblings XD
No, Book Burning is _still_ wrong... But at least if you Bronze Bull the Pearls over a few hundred thousand copies, the paper's finally going to good use.
How to be a good parent: 1) not that throw that book out the window. 2) love them like nothing else in the world. 3) reward them for doing something good 4) teach them kindness and common sense, allow them to cry, nurture and care for them when their sad. 5) don’t punish them physically or mentally. If they do something wrong, explain to them how what they did was wrong in a way they can understand and tell them to not do that again. 6) they want a barbie or baby toy or both, let them have that. 7) just don’t be a jerk to your own kid.
I dont understand why these people dont just use the naughty corner and just tell them what they did wrong, it's way freaking better then what they are saying. They are basically telling how to abuse you're child and get a away with it. Wth.
@@thatonepotato276 no, burn every single copy of the book you can find, while hanging the Pearls over the fire after putting their own kids, grandkids, etc out of misery that they can no longer even recognize.
12:42 "What if your sons are gay?" Corrective measure is in order. "What if they don't want to get married?" You assume that's their choice to make. "What if they don't want kids?" How else are they going to pass off these teachings to the next generation? "What if the woman they marry doesn't want kids?" It's even less of her choice than the man. "What if their future wives can't have children?" Easy. Get a new wife. At least that's how I imagine the writers would respond to these questions.
By "corrective measures" maybe in due time they'll turn to Milo Fapadopolous' proposed "conversion therapy" camp. Because "conversion therapy" totally works...and Milo is "ex-gay" 🙄
@@ButWhyMe... I don't know exactly what self proclaimed "conversion therapists" do, other than shame LGBT youth for who they are and tell them they're going to hell...
You don't need to discipline a child not to touch a stove? If they did, their sensory neurons would do that for you. For God's sake, if you coax a kid to touch a stove so you can smack them for doing it, you're just going to give them burns AND bruises. Oh wait, I forgot, he's careful not to leave bruises so Social Services won't have anything to notice.
I think, ultimately, if you're luring your child into doing something and then beating them for doing it, and telling them to do arbitrary things like "touch the door" and beating them, what you're really teaching them is that they can't trust you. They can't trust you because you lure them into things and then hurt them, so they're now suspicious whenever you seem to be approving of something because you might snap and change at a moment's notice. They won't follow you're instructions when they might be in danger, because they've learnt that you are the danger and that your instructions are a pointless power play.
My mom made me touch then door knob and then spanked me. Only because I went outside and was near cows, who could've kicked my skull in (Happened to a cat of mine). I was like 3 to 4 years. But yeah, don't lure your child to touch something just because you don't want them to escape your abuse through the door.
I remember my mum and step father had a parenting book similar to this (not sure if they still have it) but I would constantly get hit with branches, rulers, paddles with holes drilled in them, etc. and I was always scared around them even when I wasn’t doing anything wrong. At one point my step father got mad at me for not showering twice in one day so he thought I was hiding something. He dragged me by my hair to the bathroom, physically RIPPED my clothes off and I was only around 6-7 years old so I was terrified and didn’t understand what was happening and he literally touched my entire body to make sure I was still “pure” and not hiding sinful things. Now I’m diagnosed with NPD and ASPD and still sometimes have to learn to control myself from lashing out when someone touches me because I panic. Books like these are absolutely fucking disgusting. I hope future generations learn that these books are doing more harm than good.
I hope you are having an easier time now that you are free of that abuse. That should never happen to anyone under any circumstances ever. I wish you all the best!
popsiclecat 456 luckily, he will be in prison until I’m at least 30 (I’m 20 right now, he got arrested when I was 14) for attempted murder of my mother and I because he forced me to take a whole bottle of pills and my mum stayed with me in the hospital when I was in a coma to he tried to shoot her 😅😅 you could probably also find old news articles about him leaving my brother and I in a hot car for 3 days when I was 7 and my brother was 1 😅 we were parked outside a drug dealers house while he was getting high. I’m glad that monster is out of my life. We all got restraining orders against him and I moved state.
popsiclecat 456 Hes awful but one good thing that came out of it was that I had the opportunity to testify and lay out all the things he has done to me over the years. I helped cause him to get the maximum sentence and I helped prevent him from harming my little brother. With all the bad, I’m glad that there was some good and I managed to get some closure. ☺️ therapy has helped me a lot with getting through that trauma
This looks like a classic case study in narcissistic parenting, especially leveraging religion as a justification. There's no regard in their writing for what will happen to their children as adults because they don't accept that their children will become adults. They are to always be an extension of the parents and never human.
as an atheist, religion makes no sense and is a belief and should not be forced on others. as a person with a brain, most things in the bible is either garbage human-ing or stolen from the torah. the rest is over politeness (except to Jews. oh and did i forget black people? and Asian Christians?)
As someone who has grown up dealing with narcissistic parenting, yes, that is true. My grandmother spent a lot of time raising me, and is definitely a narcissist. She has actively gone out of her way to make sure I can’t develop social skills of any kind. They will ensure you can’t become an independent person to make sure you can’t escape them
Feno 3000 ummm, i think taking their Bibles and replacing with a closed, shiny one would make them make up a more moral and righteous book than they have now.
I’m a mom to a 3 month old baby and I can’t imagine hitting him. He would have no idea why his mom who is supposed to be his comfort was suddenly hurting him. It makes me want to cry just thinking about it.
I seriously don't understand how such a book is still being sold or how it even got published in the first place. it's straight up child abuse. and since children have died from it, there's literally no reason why it's still out there. it's disgusting.
doesnt the author have to go through a publishing company to have it verified for publishing? sorry, i dont know how publishing works, if im wrong please explain the process to me
Pho Ehr No you can publish whatever you want for free. They'll check it when someone bought it but they continue because it's their job to print it out.
Also isolating a child is very very harmful to not only their social development but physical as well. It slows down their cognative developement and they will never understand social cues. This can be considered child abuse. As it has been scientifically proven that humans NEED human interation. In fact children who dont get the social nurturing they need, they are at a higher risk for mental illness and are more likely to be violent.
Another reason I see as to why the don't want to socialize their child is because they are afraid that their child they'll tell on them and get the parents in trouble for beat-, sorry, training their child
LoveDog789 that's what I thought they don't want their kids to realize that this behavior is absolutely not normal and very toxic. Similar thing in the last video with them not wanting to leave bruises or injuries so that no one would know about their... Training.
These people are making the homeschool community look ridiculous I was homeschooled, but I went to book clubs, did gymnastics took theatre classes, anything I could sign up for to make friends I did. Despite what this Michael is spewing, not all homeschool situations need to be isolating.
@@liamhunt1373 yessss! My parents found similar groups as well I always had friends that both were homeschooled and some in school its not that hard and you learn more going to museum's and historical sights :)
There's good home schooling and bad home schooling. Where it is good children are taken to classes in the community and mix with children and adults of different ages. I've met parents who were homeschooling in this way and also teens being home schoooled in this way. As for school teachers not being having to have empathy for children in their class as they aren't related well that's what they are trained in at college though in a large classroom they cannot treat children as individuals.
Explaining the 'why' to children is so effective, I cannot stress this enough. I started this at an early age, like 2 or 3. Children that age are little sponges, and they can learn so much! Explain yourself, they'll trust you instead of fear you.
Addy White yes. I baby sit my friends 2 and a half year old at times when my mam can't. I NEVER hit him or shout. I warn him he will go on the nauty step (my stairs) but only after he does what I told him not to do again. If he is struggling with regulating his emotions and have a melt down I try and calm him down with soothing tones and asking him what's what and asking him what he's feeling. He is well behaved for me over all anyway so he rarely goes on the nauty step. I'm an empath and psychology student. Even though I don't have children of my own I feel I know what they need.
I don't have kids yet, but this is so true. I've had so many people wonder why kids are well behaved when I watch them or my parents watch them. It's literally because we explain things to them like they're people (because they ARE)
Let's just consider that, as said by many experts, these "training" methods shouldn't be used on DOGS. Dogs that are being "trained" like that fear their owner, get aggressive easily, often don't understand why they're punished, do the opposite of what they're "trained" to do, don't understand basic social signals and have an hard time communicating (which makes them imprevedible since they'll send no signals before attacking someone), and live a sad and miserable life. If it does this to dogs, what do people think is gonna do to kids, that have a more complex brain and range of emotions?
@@dangerjoe8911 yes you can? Childbirth is at the very least straining on the body AND the mind. Post partum depression is something most women struggle with. Some just never recover phisically after one kid. Not to mention how society doesn't let a woman have both family and career, so a kid most of the times means leaving behind everything else you had going for you. It's the opposite of fulfilling. Joe, is it? Keep your nose in what concerns you. This is not it and you're full of shit.
@@Someone-sq8im I never said this would not be possible, all I ever ssid was the Idea, that ones life intend is to ensure the survival of your genes....
Coming from someone who remembers his childhood with parents who favored discipline like this I would always get into snacks like potato chips. Every morning if I got caught, they would spank me. It didn't teach me to not to steal the chips, it made me think of ways to do it without getting caught.
THAT! WAS! SPARTA!!! sorry, but just look up some of the training, they put those boys through. Only real difference there is that back then, that was the _intended_ lesson.
Not to mention even if reason truly won't work there's ways to reaffirm the dynamic without hitting them. Good example was I was babysitting my nephew, went to the gas station, he kept running off and wouldn't hold my hand to cross the street (he was 5) so quite simply he lost the privalage to walk picked him up sideways on my hip (most uncomfortable yet safe/non painful way I could figure) next time we crossed the street he behaved
Camryn Garrett reward if good, teach and explain if they do bad without knowing it and give a consequence if they do wrong knowing it was wrong, but still comprehend and communicate and see what drove them to mess up deliberately. Just don’t beat kids. It ain’t too hard. It doesn’t work. My parents learned on time that spanking me for being loud and slapping me across the mouth if I talked back was messing me up. So they put their hand away and used their mouth. Adults always claim to be the rational ones yet are the only ones that resort to be violent against someone half their size.
The plan of "having as many kids as possible so they can have as many kids as possible" is often thought of as outnumbering the other, the non Christians, the Democrats, and the Muslims. I was raised in this kind of environment (not the beatings thankfully), so trust me lol. It's disturbing.
Enticing the child to do something that you intend to punish them for teaches the children that you are arbitrary, rather then teaching them about right and wrong. Children, being humans, are smart enough to now that the enticing item was placed there by the parents, they are smart enough to know that you encouraged them to touch the item you are now punishing them for touching. This teaches that the parent is arbitrary and that punishment is given for arbitrary reasons. His daughter definitely knows that he pushed her into the pond. She may not know why he did it (in fact the why probably is irrelevant to her being overshadowed by fear) but she definitely knows that he did it, thus making his actions towards her arbitrary. This also teaches her that her father could and will cause her harm at any moment with out any cause thus she must be always hyper aware of where her father is at all times.
Beyond just that, because the child is presumably ONLY punished for reaching for the item when it's a part of a training exercise, it means that they'll learn that (A) if a parent is directly interacting with them it's because they want to lead them into a trap and (B) if they want to enjoy things, all they need to do is never EVER tell their parents.
It shows he is a good Christian. God put a fruit tree in the Garden of Eden and told Adam and Eve not to eat its fruit, although the purpose of fruit is to be eaten. God wanted to free the Hebrew slaves and hardened the heat of Pharaoh so he would not free them.
The constant adrenaline of hypervigilance can and does cause lifelong damage to the health and chronic health problems, they can't say they love their children and then make them afraid to 1) exist 2) ever be slightly slow in obeying any command for any reason including all valid reasons.
@@xxA5HL33xx & @Devil Ace let us form together and build a spaceship. Let's move to Pluto, because nobody else from this planet will find us. That idea is literally my dream
They didn't care. They don't feel responsible and claim the murderous parents were not applying the book's teachings properly. And they avoid the topic as much as they can. The Pearls are truly slime.
WeegeeSlayer Wife: How are the books sales going? Husband: Pretty good, honey. In fact, we have a couple of deaths on our hands. Wife: Our hands? The parents have obviously misread our book! Husband: I've read the news. They followed all of our instructions. Wife: FAKE NEWS! If the children weren't so self-aware, they wouldn't have died! Husband: Relax. It's not like we're going to get arrested or something.
My tailbone is stuck at a permanent L shape instead of the more curved C shape from being spanked with a broken tailbone. Since I was raised female (born with a vagina and all that), I was branded "dramatic" from the get-go, so my literally screaming in pain, clawing at my dad's leg to get away from the spanking, and literally curling on my side shaking uncontrollably afterwards was just seen as some kind of "temper tantrum," and my refusal to sit up straight (if I could be coaxed to sit at all) for MONTHS was just me "being a brat." With that said, _thank fuck_ my dad never got a hold of that book! I shudder to think what the hell else he would've done to me and my siblings if he had.
an... L shape? what kind of ridiculous anterior pelvic tilt would that be! I am sorry your childhood was sullied by such a.. well at best misguided and dismissive father. And i'm even more sorry that you have been forced to live with the scars of it in a way most of us do not.
Nathan Glazier - Yep, got lower back and hip problems (sacroilliac joint dysfunction is _such_ a joy, and the occasional sciatic nerve pain going clear down to my heels is just icing on the cake). The first doctor to see my tailbone X-rays was shocked that i could pass any BMs at all (oh yeah, digestive issues are also fun). I'm pretty used to most of it, though. Yours and Azure Griffin's condolences are greatly appreciated nonetheless.
This sounds just like a book my biological father would have had and loosely followed. You know why I say biological father and not father, because that spawn of hell didn’t stay in my life because I followed the advice of a tv show I saw him watching when I was patching myself up from being beaten accidentally too hard after dropping my spoon before eating what little food I was allowed to eat, cuz I wasn’t allowed to watch tv but I saw or heard some things he watched when I was busy cooking or cleaning or doing whatever I was told to do as a slave. The advice was running away from home. But because I was never allowed to leave the house or speak without being told “speak” or eat until everyone else had eaten and I had cleaned up. I was unable to actually live properly and still have trouble just speaking to people and going outside and expressing my emotions and anticipate being hit when someone gets too close or tries to shake my hand or tries to hug me or fix my hair or literally anything that involves raising your hand or getting close. I was diagnosed with insomnia and depression and anxiety and a handful of other things because of this treatment and the medication that I was required to take was thrown away by the spawn of hell that I was forced to survive with. Yes, this book is such GREAT advice to parents... who want to end up alone, in jail, or murdered. Hopefully the last two.... Yeah I’m just gonna comment this without rereading this because if I read over it again I’ll probably just delete it and I’m actually trying to socialise and have my voice heard for once, albeit quiet and anxious voice but a voice nonetheless 😅
I'm really speachless reading about your situation! I earnestly would like you to feel that I am by your side hoping you find my compassion. Keep on your struggles through your own reasons and rationality. Take care and all the best!♥️
It's alright to write out how you feel, please do! Even though I don't know you and I'm just some internet rando, my heart goes out to you. I sincerely hope you have and will be able to find peace in your life. What was done to you is wrong and horrific. Your "father" should feel ashamed, not you. He is the one who messed up, not you. It's sad you have to deal with the trauma he caused. I hope you find peace, kind person.
From an internet rando, I would like to say this to you, YOU MATTER, More then you could ever believe. You are STRONG, because you broke free, strong enough to break free from that hell, and break the cycle of abuse and strong enough to heal. Best of luck to you!
Al Hall YOU HAVE A VOICE, so don’t be afraid to use it! Please, develop your own opinions! Act upon your feelings, be yourself, and take time to explore who you are! Your father tried to break you and compromise your identity, but if you are still here, IT IS FOR A REASON. I promise you, you were created to be unique and beautiful in your own way. I know what it’s like for parents to try and take away your ability to speak out for yourself. It sucks, but you are free now. You can gain that back. Find yourself. Be yourself. Be yourself confidently! Don’t devalue your own emotions or thoughts or actions. You can love and care for others in the way that your father never did for you, because in the end, it is YOUR LIFE. He couldn’t take that away from you, and he certainly cannot do it now. YOU are free to be YOU, not HIS VERSION of you. Your father may have tried to chain you, but you can BREAK FREE from his hood on you. I swear, it’s not impossible. 💞💞 Love you and praying for you :))
As someone with diagnosed PTSD i depend deeply on triggerwarnings when browsing online, and thank you deeply for using one and being respectful about it. I can be normal, scrolling and watching videos, then see or hear one of my triggers and be completely incapacitated by fear, panic attacks, and distinct recollections of my trama. People have turned TWs into some sort of a joke when people like me need them. I get triggers enough from just walking down the street, let me browse the safe side of the web in peace please. TWs for just "im about to say a mean thing oh no" are just plain stupid. TWs are meant for gore, mentions of sexual/physical/animal abuse, or anything where physical or physiological harm came to a person or animal. Something people can experience and be scared for life over. Thank you for using one, and I loved your video.
I relate. I have BPD and I depend heavily on TW when online. I'm at a point now where I don't get triggered by content if I know what I'm about to experience, but if I don't know it's about to happen and it does... Full blown panic attacks and regressions and... It's not fun. I'm glad she used one, but her dismissal of TWs made me uncomfortable tbh
I always viewed them similar to horror movies. Like, they have ratings for a reason. Not everyone likes gore and death, wether its a simple preference or a deep rooted fear doesn't matter. If someone doesn't like something then they don't need to explain themselves. But at the same time, there's only so much a disclaimer can do. There's a kind of assumption when it comes to the genre. Like if it's labeled a horror movie, chances are someone is going to be killed on screen. And if someone goes into the theatre to watch a horror movie, with the *expectation* that there should be no blood or death, well then that's just on them at that point. It's kinda like a two-sided conversation that everyone on either side treats as the other persons' issue. So to have the video titled the way it is, one can assume when reading it that it most likely will be talking about child abuse. Of course disclaimers are still necessary. Things should still be rated accordingly, or descriptions need to be added to things that don't have a rating system (Like youtube videos). But the individual is also responsible for taking care of themselves to an extent, after all, they're the one that's gonna know what their mental state doesn't need in terms of consuming content. That's just how I've always viewed it with my experiences n such. There's only so much you can do with disclaimers unfortunately
The part about preventing your kids from learning and playing and growing... that’s literally just to make sure they never become more knowledgeable then their father and gain the autonomy to question him.
Well obviously if there smarter than him they might do such heinous acts as call the police on the torme- I mean holy parents or run away from literal hell on earth
The God of the Bible punished the descendants of the first humans with death, pestilence, and other horrible things because Eve dared to seek knowledge. The Pearl book teaches parents that they are essentially God incarnate in their children's lives. There's an obvious connection.
Dude, I LOVED barbies as a kid!! And I loved that my mom utilized that to teach me about compassion, how to show kindness, and that there are so many things a woman can do!! I remember getting Dr. Barbie, President Barbie, a fashion designer Barbie, I loved those dolls! I realized I could do anything, and that I could dress cute and wear some fly makeup too!
Alex Larson Barbies were cool to me growing up. I remember having a dollhouse and playing with Barbie and her friends (and I played with my brother too!) I also loved playing with my brother's trains because they were so cool! Thomas the tank engine was my favorite show back then lol.
I am a parent and I can tell you from experience that a child will learn a lot more and be more willing to listen to you if you just explain to them why it is not good to do certain things.
Whenever he says that when he beats them it’s supposed to show that he ‘loves’ them, is teaching them that if someone hurts you and abuses you their just trying to show their ‘love’ and that’s gonna cause major issues for these kids.
I have three girls and two boys. I guess I'm doing it wrong because I want them to question everything, even me. Critical thinking and skepticism are paramount. That doesn't mean they are allowed to be rude or disrespectful because they are taught to always consider how other people feel. I'll be happy and feel fulfilled as a parent if I leave my kids with 3 thing: anunderstanding ofthe golden rule; good self esteem; and, strong analytical skills. I'd be thrilled if my girls and boys turn out like you. You are a great role model.
Mario Alfaro I don't know you, but I'm pretty sure you're a really good parent (and likely a good person as well). If only there were more people raising their children like you do... Have a nice day and keep up the good work :)
@@qwertyCandy I would say he is a good parent, because mine raised me the same way. They never told me what to think. They only taught me to *think*, and have an open and curious mind and an interest in science. Of course this resulted in me becoming an independent-minded atheist, which is just terrible.
My parents used these techniques to raise me. I am living testament that it messes you up. Also I wasn't allowed to read Harry Potter because they thought it would make me a witch. I'm a tarot card illustrator for a living, I practice witchcraft, and I'm a pagan. I never read Harry Potter
Honestly, I love the mini-rant you give about Barbie dolls... They were some of my favorites (never had much time for baby dolls either), and my Barbies always helped my imagination run wild. Most of the time, they were a group of tough female spies who covertly defeated villains and saved the country from the brink of collapse.
futoma21 Having Barbie dolls was probably one of the driving forces to my love of story-telling. I could play with them and build stories for hours, they were the best! I hate when parents like this try to conflate their children having fun to something that will 'ruin' them.
When I played Barbie dolls and Bratz dolls I didn’t play the role of a ‘sex goddess’, I sent my dolls on fantastical adventures and assigned certain dolls a character I had already created in my mind. It helped my creativity and gave me new ideas (such as the goggles I put on a Winx Club doll giving me the idea of a magical species of human-like creatures that were almost blind but could sort of recognise light and had light-themed magic powers).
Reading the articles and how all 3 of those dead children were adopted, the last two specifically from Liberia & Ethiopia ... going to the trouble of an international adoption just to beat them. Feels like Missionary work "saving savage souls" garbage. Every single parent who follows this book should immediately lose custody. Absolute monsters.
Especially bc one of the children in question got savagely beaten (and died, iirc) bc they couldn't pronounce a word "properly", so....yeah, I think that brand of Christian racism had a lot to do with the severity of their "discipline", and why they died instead of any of the other children. :////////
My Barbies were serial killers who ran over their victims in a purple jeep. They would then use them as fertilizer for a garden that stocked the cafe they owned.
I honestly get the idea that a lot of adults don't understand (or remember, especially in the case of fellow women) what it *is* that children really do when they play. They seem to be under the impression that children are simply building "familial narratives" when in reality children are much more capable of creative and abstract thought than that. By hijacking childrens' playtime and pushing their imaginations in a certain direction through aggressively gendered toys and guidance, I honestly feel like these parents are stealing something valuable from their kids - a safe, non-judgemental space to explore ideas and concepts that interest them without any of the stakes of reality
My sisters barbies ran a daycare full of genius bean bag baby children that ran a massive computer to solve problems for the adults. I don't recall what problems, but the computer was the hero. It was a yellow step stool.
I used to deliver construction materials (i.e. lego) to the "town hall" (the shed) by riding my scooter up and down the garden several times while my little brother would act as an innocent pedestrian about to be run over.
At least Carrie got to go to school... Granted, she ended up covered in pig's blood and killed a bunch of people (idk the details, i never read/saw it) but she wasn't forced to be homeschooled by Christian pyschopaths
@@personne-fp6cr No, it was worse: she got abused systematically by everyone around her because her mother was a strict xtian and her classmates were assholes...
@@personne-fp6cr I'm pretty sure she was homeschooled by her crazy religious mom before going to high school Edit: she was. Here's the wiki about the book en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Carrie_(novel)
So... popcorn or peanuts? I mean ffs, the book's already out, and these steaming piles of Post-Roman inevitability have grandkids, so... might as well bring snacks.
I am so grateful for this review. It really brings some things about my childhood into perspective. My parents actually read this book as I was growing up, and I feel like while I was spared a lot of the nastier teachings - the repercussions of it certainly radiated into my and my brother's lives in so many ways. I remember my mother being the quiet submission one in the home (convinced by that book and other 'godly' women that she was doing as she was supposed to), and my father being someone to fear and NEVER cross. We certainly grew up obedient - but at what cost? My brothers have a strained relationship with my father (rightfully so) and my mother divorced my father immediately after I married. She never wants to see him again. I myself have been brainwashed to reflexively apologize to my husband for the tiniest thing. He feels sorry for me because I just can't seem to shake the feeling that I am about to be scolded when I slip up. It's really messed up. It wasn't just this book. A lot of manipulative, damaging texts circulate in Christian circles. I still have my faith - but I am ever vigilant to see through the deceptive bullshit these 'children of God' tout as truth. Anywho! You are amazing and I'm sorry this comment turned into an oversharing mess. xD
I mean, if this person is using God to justify. God never intended women to be lower or subservient. Eve was made from Adam’s rib, because they were meant to be by their side.
You sound like you would be a great significant other! You should always marry a person for who they are, not for who you think they should be. I wish you a happy future!
My mom started using this book and enforcing the rules taught in it when I was about 13-15. She would essentially force us to perform for her friends like dogs by having us run into the room, sit, lay down, crawl around, spin circles, etc. All of her friends loved it and followed the book as well. If i said a word, in our defense, or to say no to being treated as less than human, she would take me to the other room and spank me with a bamboo rod a little thicker than an adult thumb, and about 3 feet long. It would leave welts that lasted for well over 24 hours. She would then remind me that disobeying a command from her, was a sin because God had placed her as an authority in my life. She doesn’t understand why, as an adult, I have no desire to attend church with them after temporarily moving back home while I transition from an apartment, back to college. Her friends children are even worse off. They are emotionally stunted, have no idea how to interact outside of the family unit, and cannot think for themselves at all. The oldest is about 16 now, and has the social skills of a 12 year old. He never attended school, and the mother is in NO WAY smart enough to teach anyone past 1st grade due to, in my opinion, her own psychological delays. This book ruins peoples lives and I’ve lived through it.
I'm sorry, but the parents who read this book, liked what it had to say, and implemented its teachings were not good parents to begin with. Such parents probably got some degree of validation or even pleasure in finding a source of "moral" justification for what is essentially child abuse.
People who do this do not deserve to have youths and in order to do this we need to push for youths to be able to live without being dependent on potential abusers. Youths need autonomy and equity.
Oh please that sounds like you consider sex a fun activity? IT'S NOT. God created it for married couples to be able to have kids, not for anyone to enjoy! And if a girl gets pregnant at like 16, don't even think about abortion! The earlier you start, the more kids you can bring on this earth to fullfill gods wish! Be *happy* about pregnancy! (*facepalms*)
As someone who comes from an abusive household I can say that being abused as a child is one of the most disgusting most horrific things someone can experience.
This is the mindset my dad had when I was growing up. He's a narcissist also so it didn't help. He always egged me on, he'd set up situations to purposefully get me into trouble. Not only that but he'd mock me, call me names, he'd act like a baby and baby talk at me while having my siblings bully me. He 100% enjoyed it bc he still does it. I was brainwashed (& still am) to believe that nobody in the world could EVER love me & that I'm all sorts of things & how the world is unsafe & that I can ONLY trust my dad. It turns out he's the one I trust the least. Honestly the abuse I went through was horrific, & I wouldn't wish it on a single human soul.
If it's any consolation, I love you as a human being. I don't know you personally but I think you will be an amazing person in the future. Just stay strong and remember there is always someone to talk to. Even if it's some random person on the internet. :)
I'm so happy to hear you demonstrate why Barbie is actually an awesome role model because little girls do not care about the size of her waist or length of her legs, they care about dressing her up for different careers and exploring different scenarios. And if you grew up in the 2000s, then you grew up with Barbie on film, and holy fucking shit those movies are AMAZING. They're all about courage, bravery, intelligence, kindness - just every wonderful lesson imagineable that you could be sending to little girls. Yet adults fixate on Barbie's dimensions. And it's a little depressing.
Omg yessss. Speaking of films, Barbie in the Nutcracker was one of my favourite films of all time as a kid and led to me going to see the actual ballet when I was 18 - that's still one of the most beautiful, wonderful performances I've ever seen
I guess people are worried that, by taking Barbie as their role model whilst young, little girls will then want to look like her as well when becoming more conscious of their own body (I went through a phase like this myself). I do agree that there are now numerous toys/cartoons where characters have silly proportions but what people watching them are looking for is more the behaviour of the character and the atmosphere of the world they live in, than their appearance.
I would be fascinated to see a study demonstrating that playing with Barbie dolls/watching Barbie movies in early childhood years actually had a long-term effect on girls' sense of self-worth and self-image well into puberty. Very few teenagers actually model their body on Barbie - no one actually sees Barbie as a physical role model. We all know that she's unattainable. Just like Cabbage Patch Kids, we never tried to see her as a literal reflection of us. And it would be impossible to isolate Barbie influences from a much wider context of a society that really does objectify women, in actual meaningful ways. I would hate to speak for everyone, but my experiences as a Barbie-age child (say, 10 or younger) were that of a pre-puberty age where you don't have any concept of your self-image - it doesn't yet register in your mind that your appearance is important to other people ad may thus be important to yourself. Children that age do not tie appearance to self-worth. They barely even have a conception of self-worth. I sincerely believe that the hysteria over Barbie's dimensions are mere projections of what adult feminists see to be problematic - they obviously are hyper-aware of sociocultural influences that tie self esteem to body image so see these influences everywhere. they approach the Barbie issue from an academic feminist perspective rather than actually trying to see the doll through a child's eyes. The truth is, at that age, kids are way less superficial than these feminists think they are. By that I mean they may be interested in bright stimuli, material and fashion and exciting environments, but they actually do understand that they're just playing in a make-believe world, and ultimately the things that captivate them are stories, characters and worlds, not random costumes and body shapes. Kids may try to emulate their fantasies, but I think that's healthy. I remember when I wanted to emulate Barbie as a kid, I would pretend to be dancing in Swan Lake, or I'd sing songs from Princess and the Pauper, or I'd set up these mini stages where I'd get all my dolls together to recreate scenes. I wouldn't tie a corset around my waist or bleach my hair - because I was a kid. My love for Barbie was not based in her appearance, it was based in her fierce, wonderful, empowering personality. Speaking from my experience, I *loved* Barbie growing up, and I still do, because I have such a warm spot of nostalgia for how she shaped my childhood. I never really cared much about dressing up the dolls - I just cared about the stories in her movies. Cos kids like stories. Not once in my childhood can I be said to have adored Barbie because of her big tits and tiny waist - I was too young to understand the significance of those things. To a kid, those things seemed so trivial they were unimportant compared to the vibrant world of stories surrounding Barbie. I just think it's disappointing when people fixate on Barbie's physicality as a reason for her being a terrible role model, because that honestly strips the very concept of female role models of everything but their physical appearances - Barbie has had like 800 careers and has starred in movies that have nothing but empowering messages, yet all these apparent "feminists" can fixate on is the size of her bust. It's really disappointing for me, and I'm sure heaps of other girls who grew up loving Barbie for reasons that had fuck all to do with how pretty she was.
I can’t understand the whole telling your kids to do something and then yelling at them for doing it. “I wanna teach my kid to not touch the hot stove. I’m gonna make them touch it then yell at them.” That just causes confusion? Because now anytime you tell them to do something they’re going to be terrified that it’s a trap. It makes zero sense 😂 who tf let these people write a whole ass book.
My parents are extremely religious Christians and used to think that some of what this guy said is true. Not nearly to the same extent or done in such extreme ways but the basic ideology was there. When they were raising my brother, who is 11 years older than me, they spanked him any time he misbehaved. And he grew up to have frequent visits to juvie, impregnate a girl twice when he was 16, drop out of high school, steal my dad's car and run away from home, then get sent to a maximum security prison before he was 20, go on to have 4 more children by two other different women, beat his wife and get divorced. He's not religious but he's never rejected Christianity - because he just simply doesn't care enough to do so. Thankfully, this allowed them to realize that their approach to parenting wasn't effective and didn't produce a good son. So by the time I was born and when I was growing up, they never beat me. Ever. And I've never been arrested (or even pulled over), I not only graduated from high school but also college, I don't have any illegitimate children, I have never committed domestic abuse, and I'm not divorced. But there is some irony in the fact that I've firmly been an atheist-leaning agnostic since I was 14 and vehemently rejected my parents' religion. And the thing that makes me really sad is that they think they absolutely failed while raising both of us.
Once you said that your brother’s story helped them to realize that their methods of parenting were awful, I was really happy, because at least something better would come as a result of that tragedy. Then you said they considered both of you to be failures, and my heart collapsed into a black hole as I wondered on what planet how you described yourself would be considered a failure.
@@MegaSpideyman I'm an atheist leaning agnostic. For me it means I do not believe in any gods but I wish I could. Once I get that "it would be nice if some kind of god existed" out of my system, I'll be atheist. Also, agnostic is a cover I can use to get Christians to not just write me off as a lost cause. My family and my wife's family are all Christian and if I went full atheist, we'd be disowned.
Barbie has both been to the moon and been president. All the while looking fabulous. She promotes the idea that you can acomplich thinges and look fabulous while doing them.
I loved Barbie as a little girl. I had all different kinds of Barbies to add up to 87 in all. I had the Barbie house with the McDonalds downstairs and the apartment upstairs. It also had an elevator. I also had many different Ken dolls too adding to maybe 15. I had all of her cars too. She taught me how to be independent while being in a relationship as well. She taught me that it's okay to be smart and fashionable and that everyone is beautiful.
My daughter got the STEM Barbie for Christmas. It's awesome. It comes with all these things that you can build like a greenhouse, shoe rack, washing machine, and a hammock. It's neat. She also has an eye doctor Barbie.
I say good for her and that is a great Barbie. as we need more girls to be interested in STEM. as very few girls find that a suitable carreer as not many girls get introduced to that field. I think it would be great to have more women in the STEM feilds
I used to play with Barbie dolls as a child and grew up to be a engineer. Never understood why some people dislike them. Hope your girl has a bright future ahead doing whatever she loves!
This is just so maddening. I just can't imagine that someone wrote a guide to literally torture CHILDREN. That guy is a goshdang psycopath! This is not "training" your children. This is abuse and the worst part is, that people are actually listening to this and therefore destroy their childrens' lifes and scar them not only physicaly but mentaly
As a person that grew up being abused I can tell you that at least in my case it really didn't work. After a while I just stopped even trying to be good because I would always end up failing anyways. The beatings would come whether I tried or not, so it just wasn't worth it. As a result I also lied a lot... the: "I didn't do it" kind, to try and avoid the beatings. It rarely worked, though, because I was always blamed for things, whether I did it or not. It still affects me, although I haven't been beaten since I was 14. I have a buffet of problems and fears as a result of my childhood beatings. I will never be thankful for being abused. All it gave me is a view of how I will never treat a kid. On another note. I'm 32. I don't have any kids and never will. One of the main reasons is that I like the idea of living more than the idea of dying in childbirth. I have a genetic degenerative disease, which amongst other things makes all my joints very fragile(already quite a few needing replacement) and all my bones very brittle(I've broken plenty of bones). I've already had a hip surgery, I've got a Tarlov cyst in my hip, and I have a lot of surgeries coming up. I'm actually living my dreams, and living each day exactly suited to my wants, only to make my life worth living(successfully) I will never tie my short life down by a significant other or a kid. I do love kids, though. I have a 9 year old nephew that I'm very close with, and which I spoil rotten when ever given the chance, although we don't live in the same country, and I have another nephew on the way(due date in 3 days) back in my home country.
I began disobeying when I was 16 because I got tired of being walked over. I was denied Christmas gifts several years as a punishment and was even forced to throw my toys away as a punishment. I also was denied money to buy what I wanted and had birthday money stolen from me. When I turned 15 and got a job, I decided I'd buy everything I wanted when I grew up. I now own a bunch of Pokemon cards, Beyblades, Bakugan, and lightsabers. I'm trying to live my childhood before I leave for college.
I had a version of that, and never tried to do anything because what was the point? I was a useless person, a waste of space, so I could never do anything or be anything. (Even when I got my first book published I never got even a word of praise from her.) There were three younger brothers, who could never do anything wrong [cos BOYS], so anything that went wrong was automatically my fault. The last time she beat me I was in my mid-20s I'm in my 60s now and never had kids or wanted any. I couldn't face the thought that any kid I had might turn out like me, or that I might turn out like her - I don't know which of those frightened me the most. I know it's not compulsory that one turns out like one's same-sex parent, but why risk ruining another generation to find out?
I was raised in this strict homeschooled evangelical Christian culture in the U.S..i always loved barbies but mainly the "boy toys" like remote control cars and hot wheels. I wasn't "allowed " to like these things. I always learned lessons the "hard way" to make it stick. By my mother, not my father. I was taught to never ask "why" but to "trust and obey". Still haven't completely recovered. Thank you for making me feel less insane for recognizing this as insane.
Yeah as far as I’m aware, there’s absolutely nowhere in the Bible that women shouldn’t enjoy things that men do. (theres some verse that loosely implies they shouldn’t hold the same jobs. But that’s about it)
22:55 Well, you can buy Mein Kampf on Amazon. This book is awful and promotes terrible ideas, but let's be real; any parents taking advice from this book were likely abusive to begin with. If they didn't get their justification from the Pearls, they'd have gotten it elsewhere. Trust me when I say your video does more to destroy the ideas within this book than a match ever could; you're doing a good service.
Nononono mien kfuck is publicly denounced everywhere. This book could be found by the most dumb ass mean well who thinks hes a bad parent because hes turning his children into failures because this ass hole uses language such as new world order and "gawwwwwwwwwd" so they think this is a book god brought to them.
Sadly I’ve heard stories of people who escaped the Quiverfull movement who talk about how their parents became worse after reading this book. These two movements (Quiverfull and Train Up A Child) have a deeply dangerous and perverse relationship to each other.
Barbie is actually an inspirational figure. Look at this long list of professions: en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Barbie%27s_careers Her message is that you can be girly and feminine and still excel at any profession. This is actually a great way of introducing young girls to a variety of different jobs. Femininity is not a barrier to success in your career. Be yourself and reach for the stars. Oh and you can look fabulous whilst doing so. That is empowering. Okay. I am aware that the counter argument is that she is unrealistically pretty. She is also unrealistically performing in every job under the sun. It's a doll. It is not meant to be realistic. It is meant to be inspirational.
My Dad was like this about spankings, clothing, girls and boy interaction a well as who we dated. The church we went to told him it was okay that he didn't love us if he didn't do it. We went to public school though and he was later investigated by social services, after that he never touched us.
Hey, my parents have this book, and I was raised a Catholic and homeschooled. And it did far more damage then good. Started watching your videos recently and am a new sub. Love your videos! ✌
Brohamerer You should make YouTuve videos like this and maybe talk about it if that is something you're okay to do. It's always interesting to hear life experiences. I hope you're doing well now and looking after yourself.
Khloe Britton, thank you! I've been contemplating uploading videos, and I am doing better now. I don't how comfortable I am with talking about it now, but maybe that will come with time.
The biggest problem is still face today is being socially awkward, as being raised in a house with little outside connection does to you. Hopefully this will pass with time though
I grew up on a street that only had girls on it (besides my brother). I played with Barbies with them and I played with more "boy" toys with my brother and my friend who would sometimes visit. Am I a beautiful sex goddess now? lol But seriously I don't see the problem with Barbie, even if boys want to play with them. I don't know a single person who has ever been affected by the toys they play with. Otherwise my brother would be in several car accidents by now because he loved banging his toy cars together lol
"I don't know a single person who has ever been affected by the toys they play with." And this toy thing made me remember the my younger brother was quite annoyed at my younger sister because..... she was using his toy soldiers and such to play house with Kids use whatever they can find to play whatever games they want to play
Exactly, i used to have barbies as a kid and i p much just made them fight each other, while flying, in cool outfits (of course with intense backstories that id play out before that) yet you dont see me fighting people mid air
The only reason they say “sex goddess” is because it’s now frowned upon to criticize a woman being “well-rounded,” “educated” or “has a mind of her own”
It’s weird-Michael writes about how these methods make children better behaved, but my experience was the exact opposite growing up. I’m from a really small town and the kids who I remember saying they got a “whoopin’” (spanked with a belt or worse-just awful) and who had very Christian conservative parents were the same kids never listening to the teachers and drinking and smoking at parties at a really early age. Hmmm, wonder if it’s because they were constantly suppressed at home and just told to obey versus being explained WHY they shouldn’t do something? Also, my heart breaks for the kids of any parents who take this approach. I was a super sensitive child, so much that my parents could just put me in harmless “time out” for a few minutes and I’d never do the same thing again, lol. But if I’d had parents who hit me or employed any of these tactics, it would have destroyed me! It’s so sad! Children shouldn’t feel afraid of the people who are meant to protect and raise them.
I go to a christian school and ive seen the way the teachers deal with their own children and i've been there for years so i've watched the children grow, they go from perfectly normal babies to children who are unhappy, don't listen, dont trust their parents, ect. and the ones that get spanked the most are the most aggressive and angry (but if you bring it up to anyone then they'll be all like "he's not like that cause he gets spanked, he just gets spanked a lot cause that's how he is" which is a really retarded excuse)
i know this is pretty old but i can vouch for this as i first got truly drunk at 11 years old at school from alcohol i stole from my parents like, being abusive makes kids rebel more, not less
Not all children become obedient little soldiers when you abuse them, and when they do, it usually makes them unable to think or take care of themselves. as an example. My mother would verbally abuse and hit me and my sibling. I learn to fear her and listen to every word and answer every beck and call. I couldn't think for myself and every decision and life choices I made were in the thought of what she would want for me. It wasn't until I was older and out of the house that I finally stood up for myself. I have trust issues and still second guess all my actions. My sibling on the other hand, became a rebel, learn to be sneaky and manipulative to get what she wanted. Whenever we were alone she would act out, would even hit me herself when I didn't do what she wanted. She continuse to live without fear and dose things just to piss our mother off.
If the woman I loved had an abusive family, they'd be her dead ancestors. My biggest fear is that someone would beat my children. I fear this because I fear what I'd do to those people in the blind rage that would overcome me.
the little girl "switching" her doll isn't just mimicking her parents, she's acting out her own trauma. children express themselves through pain, and it's sickening to hear what those poor children must have went through.
The child repeats the pattern because it's the only one she knows, and will re-enact it with her own children one day - and so will her children, and their children.
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This book"Training up your Child" MICHAEL PREAL GUIDE TO CHILD ABUSE I study this I found to be wrong and even is a danger. It's still popular in a huge amount of Christian buying this book.
My niece did something similar when she was playing and pretending to be a teacher, she lined up her dolls and started screaming at them telling them off for talking and other things, I was just like what kind of shit teachers are you being taught by...
@@franl155 exactly, it's the saddest part of it all
@@Dee-V-Dee good grief, I hope your niece is alright! :(
I grew up in a Christian-based cult. My parents used this book. My siblings and I were often beaten with a wooden spoon that my parents had drawn a line on to signify that it was being used when we "crossed the line". My sister is now an alcoholic with bipolar narcissistic psychopath. My brother is a manipulative sociopath. And I am a paranoid schizophrenic with severe anxiety. All of us are clinically diagnosed. The way I was brought up has given me severe trust issues and an inability to ever be comfortable with social interaction. It has ruined all three of our lives.
Please don't beat your children.
I’ve always worried about what I would turn out like
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This was my childhood too
God, I’m sorry.
I had a similar childhood, it took years of therapy to get rid of my agressive behavior and anxiety towards my own parents, this book is poison
> Wants to teach child to not go into the pond
> Child doesn't go into the pond
> Pushes her in to save her afterwards
Brilliant.
For real wtf
They aren't exactly the most rational or intelligent people on the face of the planet.
Sounds like someone insecure has a Savior complex
She probably learned already from seeing her siblings falling in
What if the child drowned because she was pushed into the water. Then you are guilty of murder.
I had baby dolls and i did not play as a "mother" i made them fight to the death.
Ah yes, gladiatorial combat. My favorite pastime xD
SpixiCafé ive been laughing at this for 5 minutes the period made everything so much funnier
I didn't play with dolls. My brother's toys were much more interesting! :).
Is that not what they are built for?
@@alexdoorn234 did your brother have action figures?
"my child isn't trying to get into the pond? better push her into the pond so she knows not to get into the pond"
what the flip kind of logic is that!?
puppyhowler Troll logic.
Disgusting logic
I thought that it was called “viewer discretion.”
Reverse logic also known as “nonexistent”
Logic? What logic?
He just doesn't want the kids to go to school or interact with other kids because they might see that what they're suffering is actually abuse. It's like she said: he's just worried they'll get caught rather than actually help the children
Oh my gods, I was thinking the same thing. It truly is disgusting that these people are even able to have this printed for the public to read. At least we know what they are doing behind closed doors. What saddens me is that they call themselves Christians, or it is hinted that they are. I'm sorry, but these parents clearly haven't understood a damn thing from the bible.
@@SilverAshes001 The Bible advocates for stoning children who don't obey to death. They're not far off.
Reminds a little to a north korean refugee, that spoke about his past. He was born inside a NK labor camp. He went trough immense physical and psychological suffering, without even noticing, because that was just the normal thing inside there, he didn't know what a normal life was supposed to look like. He even saw his family executed for minor reasons, still didn't feel all that much at it.
Or in other words said, if you grow up in a cage, you don't realize you are inprisoned.
@@sagichdirdochnicht4653 I guess it's the same with animals. The ones born in captivity are happy from the start while the captured/rescued ones need years to adjust or may even not get used to small enclosures at all.
The Fox But Jesus stopped one from being stoned
Okay, he calls public schools "automaton factories," but he wants his kids to mindlessly obey. Got it.
Obviously. To them, and I remember this convo with BigBangNeverHappened years ago (and got blocked), they "indoctrinate" their kids into the "right way" of thinking, while atheists "brainwash" theirs into the "incorrect" way. I cannot go back to it, since it seems their channel no longer exists.
Nah. They produce workers since the 1750s... It is not like stuff ever changed!
These crazy atheists - they don't even need a paddle to beat their kids into submission. The mere power of words and reason seems to do the job.
No, he wants his children to understand loyalty and obedience. When did obedience become such a bad thing? I mean, besides when the tide-pod eating generation baww and claim that it's mindlessness, and not honor and loyalty. If you took out the corporal punishment aspect, nothing she's said so far is in any way inappropriate, it's old fashioned, and probably 'bad optics' for a modern PC world, but it's nothing outlandish. It's just tide-pod chomping cuckbois triggered because their senpai with a vagina said to be.
+bashpr0mpt If you take out the corporal punishment aspect there is no book.
It's weird how one of the first things we're taught is "no hitting!" Yet we have books like this.
No hitting!...unless you're me
Rules for thee but not for me.
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If it was a joke we wouldn't be laughing but I wish it was a joke.
@@mogshade66 It was not a joke. It is how some people think like the people in the book.
I remember actually getting in trouble for hitting my younger siblings when I was a kid, which sure was wrong.....but my father's solution was hitting me. See how that sends mix messages to a kid? Or why I thought it was okay to solve problems using violence.
I read an article written by their daughter. It is horrific. Her writing sounds just like her parents.' She believes everything they did is justifiable and that she is the happiest person she knows. She recalls very few bad memories of childhood and writes how she has only one memory of spankings (maybe because they're traumatic and she unknowingly blocked them out). I can tell through the computer screen that she is a brainwashed carbon copy of her parents. A mindless shell of a person whose life and personality was stripped away by what few can call parenting. I cannot begin to imagine what her 3 kids will turn out like, and what a truly happy person she could have been. The only happiness she knows was defined by the same people that "parented" her. It was sad to read.
Either she is a carbon copy or is only saying those things so she won't get beaten.
She can still say those things out of the fear of her parents, even if she is an adult now, I can imagine her being terrified of doing or saying something wrong in their eyes. I don't know what would be worse, her still living in fear or truly believing those things because of indoctrination.
Thats so sad...
I almost fell into the same trap, luckily my best friend saved me from that
considering how often she seems to of been spanked, the fact that she only remembers it once really shows how traumatizing it was, people with happy childhoods don't block out that much from their memory
The bit about pushing the child in the water was so shocking to me. I have always lived near a river and my fathers solution was to build a fence around the house to keep me and my little sister from falling in it. What kind of person almost drowns his kids by pushing them in the water?
I heard of people that didn't build a fence because they believed their children were in the hands of god and if they fell in and drowned it would be god's will. It's disgusting
@@grasswithflowers2991 well , isn't "training" your kid a distrust of godwill ?
The Pearls sound like demon possessed reprobates instead of christians.
KeepingItAnne, only sicko could do what he did. The stuff people do in the name of christianity sometimes makes me furious. The Pearls are disgusting.
@@grasswithflowers2991 uh what. Reminds me of the boat story. A guy was drowning and god sent 3 boats and each time the guy said no god will save me. He died and got to heaven and asked god why didnt he save him and god goes you idiot i sent you 3 boats! I grew up on the story. I would build a gate cus God gives us the option to BUILD A FUCKING GATE SEEING I HAVE HANDS. Like tf
Barbie isn’t a “sex goddess” she’s a president, astronaut, veterinarian, pediatrician, godmother, secretary, fashion designer, boutique owner, race car driver, equestrian.... damn, she’s had so many careers and one of her BFFs is a mother of 2! So HELL YEAH she takes care of kids! Plus she’s an older sister!
Holy shit I just found out that Barbie has had 130 jobs in her 50 years, that's one hell of a turnover rate
she might as well add it to the list. She's done everything else.
Oh my dear, that is a lot! She sure is a polyhistor.
Pretty much noticed this when watching the show "Barbie, living in the dream house". Was a comedy show but still it made me aware of what a great role-model barbie actually can be.
They joke about this a lot in “life in the dream house”. She references her multiple careers, and her friends try to work out how old she is, figuring at least 35 as she has been to med school and once ran for President.
I used to work at a kindergarten, i started working there about two weeks after a girl transfered from another kindergarten. I started noticing she wouldn't play much with other children and then i saw how she was playing with the doll... She would shout at them, push them and even shake them holding their shoulders... After a while of that and trying to get closer to her to slowly let her get used to the other kids (after a month she still would play mostly alone) i talked one of my coworkers if she noticed that and if she knew why she would behave like that. Well, she told me all she knew was that she was taken out of the other kindergarten because apparently there was abuse there from the workers.
The girl was mimicking the behavior she had experienced there, thinking that was normal. You could see the anger in that 2 yo girls eyes, for something she didn't even understand!
Needless to say, it took her about half a year to become somewhat of a normal child, teaching her that her doll doesn't have to be hit and reminding her that we love her. When she peed the bed she would be terrified and id have to reasure her that she's just learning and all we need to do is change clothes and wash the matress and that she didn't have to be scared because things like that happen....
Chilred always learn, sometimes takes longer, but the result of such kind of aggression always lives marks...
A 2 year old in kindergarten? How does that work?
@@reubenmanzo2054 ah my bad, i just looked it up, its called "infant day care"? From 3 months old to 3 years old.
Im not a native English speaker, its like my fourth language lol. In German you say Kinderkrippe for example, which sounds close to Kindergarten so o thought it works similar in English so i just used the word i know of. Hope that clears it up.
@@05bastille It does. Thank you.
The weirdest part of this book is that every now and then (amongst all of the horrible advice) they throw in a truly good parenting tidbit but then they ruin it with twisted and horrifying logic.
ArabellaTurner That is honestly the most horrifying bit. The only thing more mentally scaring than constantly torturing somebody is making them believe that if only they do well enough all will be fine, that they are even loved, and then you do act lovingly towards them, so they slightly let their guard down, only for you to randomly turn into torturing them again. That kind of thing will make you go crazy, much more than plain, full-time abuse would.
abusive parents have their moments, they pretend to actually care about their children occasionally so that the child feels guilty for any resentment they hold against the parents. my parents used this tactic to keep me from rebelling or telling someone what was happening to me. once in a while showing affection so to the child it overweighs all the abuse.
usagi tsukino u_u Believe me, I know about that
@@neetkun03 that's so true and it's s huge step towards healing to unlearn that thought
"A girl who doesn't want her life *encumbered* with children is suffering a deep hurt and is walking a road to misery."
encumber:
1. restrict or burden (someone or something) in such a way that free action or movement is difficult.
2. saddle (a person or estate) with a debt or mortgage.
3. fill or block up (a place).
Probably not a good idea to call children a burden in a book about parenting.
Lovely Tigress to be fair I think his original intention was that her opinion is that it is an encumbrance. He probably should have put it in quotes. However he’s a horrible human being and I hope all of his kids rebel against him and become better people.
@monaca towa "An eye for an eye and the world goes blind" I have no idea who said this btw. Even tho he completely deserves it, the kids would be better off moving on instead of getting revenge.
Krista Gale & Samuel Walton He'd probably like it though, saying that kids actually *want* to be beaten. *shakes head* Kinky bastard, there's a special place for people like him; and his wife too to be honest but I'd hope that what happened is she got brainwashed at birth and passed it on to her kids. Otherwise lord have mercy on her and him both.
I hate to be this guy but you need to site your source
While saying not having this “” burden”” is the worst sin you can commit
Years ago I called all the Christian bookstores in my city and asked if they carried this book. If they did I asked if they were aware of its content and none of them were. It only took a reading of a few brief passages for all of them to agree to stop selling the books in the future. Felt good to help in some tiny way.
I agree with Sapphire, respect to you good sir
Zombie Rights that's amazing
Zombie Rights good for you!
Zombie Rights I salute you for helping so many people. You're someone I respect.
Go you
“Kids view the rod as a comfort because it relieves then of their guilt”....
“DONT PUNISH THEM WITH GOD BECAUSE THEY WILL FEAR AND RESENT GOD AS THE TOOL”
So they are against condoms, abortion, std treatments, and psychological evaluations? That says a lot...
I could understand why they are against condoms and abortions. They think children are god's gift or something. But why are they against std checks? Thats stupid af. If one of them have stds and the other gets it from the partner and then they dont take medication and they die who the fuck will take care of your "precious children"? And psycological evaluation , i think they are afraid of it because they know if their children go to one councellor the parents will be in jail.
Yeah, the cognitive dissonance is strong with these people, I hope the surviving children turn out ok.
If you could go back in time - would you allow these two to be aborted?
steveXracer because you're obviously mentally challanged. Nobody who is pro choice wants babies to die. Fetuses are killed during an abortion before they even feel pain or have sentience. Not as bad as killing a cow tbh.
And excuse me, how are these two people innocent?? They've hurt their children for god sake.
El Cat they also don’t believe in sex before marriage. In their eyes, If you only have sex with your spouse, then std treatments aren’t needed, since there is no exposure to them. Never mind the fact that there are some other ways to get the diseases that aren’t from sex (tainted blood transfusions, born with hiv, etc.)
As someone who is getting a degree in psychology and Early Childhood, and has experience with children i can say that this book is extremely toxic and will cause children so much emotional trauma. It is preconditioning children to NOT TRUST ANY ADULT. Not just their parents. It also teaches them that either A) violence is okay or B) that its a dog eat dog world. The "do as i say not as i do" tone of this book is horrfic and completely based on control, not love and support. This book teaches the parent (and through the parent, the child) to react without thinking. Instead of teaching the child proper communication skills, you teach them that if they are adults they can be violent too.
No kidding, I could feel the voices of my professors screaming at every new quote from the book. I have experienced just a moderate version of this upbringing, and as a grown ass adult I still don't trust my parents, I have anxiety, depression, college was a crash course in social cues, and my adolescence was a horror story of mimicking their abuse against my younger siblings. It's bad enough that my doctors can't decide if I have autism or trauma. The only good thing my parents did was to encourage independence because they were too lazy to want complete control, but it was a subservient independence that still comes back to bite me and all but the youngest of my siblings.
I mean you don’t need to be a psychologist to see that
What infuriates me is that one of the few reasons I'm working on my anger oubursts (yes, the irony is not lost on me) is that I don't want to make my future children irate, short-fused people like me (because this problem was aggravated by the familial environment I spent my teenage years in) if I can help it. Yet these human-shaped masses of spineless slugs that would slink away the first time you raise your voice at them DARE encourage clueless idiots to harm their children. Sometimes, VERY rarely you do need to put your child in line physically. Hold them still or something idk, kids can become hysterical and violent in places where that is too much of a problem and needs to be stopped then. But going from there to "i will make you piss your pants the moment I look at the belt hung on the wall" is insane.
Book Wyrm Autism and trauma can coexist. I was born with autism, but after my dad left when I was 18 months old, they struggled to tell whether I was the way I was because of autism, or trauma because I lost my dad. Although they suspected autism since I was a toddler, it took until my 6th birthday to get diagnosed with Asperger’s Syndrome. Additionally, in this cruel world, abuse parents WILL use a disability against you if you have one, to make you feel incompetent. I hope you get help, regardless or what your issues are.
@@xTwilightWolvesx A real tragic case of both coexisting are children with Autism that were "cured" through violence or "miracle" drugs ( mms, aka bleach used in less conzentrated form to whiten paper) . Basically they learned that they will be punished if they show their normal behaviour, the parents on the other hands think that the method really cured the chikdren.
I fell into the deep side of a swimming pool while wearing floats when I was three and although I was not in any danger of drowning, the experience left me terrified of water for years. Trying to imagine how much worse it would have been if I did not merely slip but if my dad or mom pushed me. This man is a sadist who enjoys hurting children.
And even better [to him] he can dress it up in a righteous "God wants you to do this" while he polishes his halo
Something similar to this happened to me when I was 6. I accidentally touched the hot stove and instead of beating me or getting upset my mom explained to me that’s why she didn’t want me to touch it. I can’t even imagine how I would feel if my mom enticed me to do that.
mymelody I was always super careful if my mom said something was hot or would hurt I wouldn’t touch it. I can’t Imagine how I would feel if she encouraged me to touch something that would hurt me
@@manci2016 My father told me, that when I was a kid, I was fascinated by the stove, and always wanted to touch it.
One day he fed up, that they had to look out of me to not to touch the stove, so he grabbed my had and pushed it against the hot stove, so it would hurt me.
Of course I never touched the stove after this... He was really proud of himself and his genius technique. Years later he laughed at this while he told me this story.
Thankfully I was small enough, that I don't remember anything from this. Or maybe my brain just blocking this event.
@@bookfish thats fucked
Wait.. so isn't this like an open confession (with evidence) of child abuse and domestic violence?? These people could literally be arrested for this shist.. Someone notify UNICEF.
Erin Corcoran ikr. They flipping confessed all the horrible horrible crimes they've done.
i dedut it peolpe go on dr phile all the time who confess to crimes
well sadly if there is no physical damage they dont ever prosecute. My father for example used many of the ideologies of this book without reading it and without religion. At one point when I was a teenager he choked me, not hard enough to bruise, but enough to stop my breathing and emotional trauma. The police did absolutely nothing. This was in America too. Why is this allowed?
They are better at covering up their handiwork than their devotees.
People keep telling us that justice is real. It isn't. there's no such thing.
And they’re not in prison because...?
I feel their exploiting a loophole that states (to paraphrase) something something, seperation of church n' state, er, religous undertone makes lagal. I dunno
'murica
In many states in the U S religious parents are not compelled by law to seek medical treatment for a sick child. They can literally pray over a sick child till it dies with no legal action taken.
Because people are fucking insane
@@BaylaRose at this point religion if it causes death of a child should be prosecuted
When I was 12 or 13, my family went camping. On the second or third night, we were all sitting around playing board games, and my mom got up to take the trash to the edge of the campsite.
After a minute, we heard her shout "GET IN THE CAR! NOW NOW NOW NOW NOW!!!!!" We did. My dad, my grandma, and I all piled into our suv with no question. We later learned that there had been a bear going through our trash, that had seemed to consider running into camp when it saw my mom.
My mom is a wonderful person, she's never done anything close to as horrific as hitting me, much less throwing me in a pond. Especially when danger is concerned, she's never been anything but worried and loving. And I responded to hee panic without question just the same. Because that's what panic DOES, it's how human instinct works.
Tldr, and I think we all know this, but the pond thing is bullshit. Your kids can listen to you and respect you without fearing you.
Panic triggers a flight or fight instinct, and tends to lead to looking to see the source of the danger, right?
Hitting kids is so contradicting to human nature. Panic triggers fight or flight, right? Right. The panic comes from the threat of being hit, so they rush to do the task. Instead of rewarding them with the “better late then never” which applies in real life, they will still be hit. It triggers a choice: stay and fight, or run away in fear? But it also brings a third option: stay in fear. It’s conflicting the child’s instinct by staying. (Feel free to correct me I’m mostly just guessing, I literally know next to nothing about psychology)
@@ElricKyra only in certain situations. if someone is in panic and says for you to run away, your instincts il say for you to run away. If the person only screams, your natural instinct il say for you to look to the direction of the danger to see if it really is dangereous.
So yeah, it depends on how the first person il react to it, causing a chain of natural reactions to the reaction of that person.
But how will you learn that bear attacks are dangerous? A fiew bites never hurt anyone
my mother actually did have a problem with me when i was like 9 or whatever in which i literally would not do anything she told me to unless i understood why. her solution was not to "train" me to fear and obey unquestioningly, it was to TELL ME WHY THIS WAS A BAD IDEA by providing examples of situations in which if she ever gave an order i had to obey for my own safety even if i didn't understand it. that made me understand why sometimes it's best to ask questions later, and got me to stop being that annoying kid who keeps going "but why? but why?" instead of doing the damn thing.
like... there are many possible solutions to this issue if your children do develop it, and contrary to popular belief, not all of them involve HITTING YOUR CHILD WITH A STICK
Whoever wrote that passage about children roleplaying a sex goddess when playing with Barbie dolls has a fetish for dolls. Just saying.
What child at that age would even knows what sex is?
raininess it should be explained gradually. You should probably know about it in its entirety by 16.
probably inflatable ones
NickBush24 I still use barbies I make them food and books and “stuff animals” and blankets because I like making stories
Someone404 earlier than 16 I’d say 13
I never thought if Barbies as sexual thing, when i was a child. They were just pretty ladies with pretty clothes.I would make my own storylines with them.
Never liked a baby doll, since there is only one scenario you can play with them. With Barbies you can act out movies and books and whatever.
Yes! Barbie dolls are great for pretend play as well as development of creativity regarding roles and scenarios but baby dolls are limited to a single storyline.
@Sleepy Child I never played with dolls. My mother didn't have any girly toys because I was her first girl. When my mother bought dolls I played with my brother's toy cars instead. :)
@Sleepy Child I have a funny story about my brother and how he first walked. I was late with everything so I was on the floor playing. My brother was at the other side of the room. I dropped what I had and it rolled away so I couldn't reach it. Before I even had the time to cry my brother stood up walked over to me and gave what I dropped to me. I'm a triplet so we can understand each other better I suppose. I never thought of it as strange but stories like that always make me laugh.
I used to pretend my Barbies were prostitutes from a bad neighborhood, addicted to crack&heroin, looking for their next fix... and they'd get murdered by my ken doll after extreme bondage forplay gone wrong.. so I guess I kinda sexualized them a little but you're right, this book is absolutely ridiculous!!! Glad I can share my childhood experience on your youtube channel, love u girl ur awesome!
@@alexdoorn234 brothers and sisters have a special bond when they are little, i would say. everytime some stories like yours pop up and is always between siblings XD
I think book burning is wrong. But I think I would make an exception with this book.
Use it as toilet paper or tissues.
@@expertoflizardcorrugation3967 It's the only way to be sure ...
No, Book Burning is _still_ wrong...
But at least if you Bronze Bull the Pearls over a few hundred thousand copies, the paper's finally going to good use.
How to be a good parent:
1) not that throw that book out the window.
2) love them like nothing else in the world.
3) reward them for doing something good
4) teach them kindness and common sense, allow them to cry, nurture and care for them when their sad.
5) don’t punish them physically or mentally. If they do something wrong, explain to them how what they did was wrong in a way they can understand and tell them to not do that again.
6) they want a barbie or baby toy or both, let them have that.
7) just don’t be a jerk to your own kid.
Cotton Candy Queen yes. This is a good point!
Burn the book
Cotton Candy Queen the best advice I’ve pretty much ever heard.
I dont understand why these people dont just use the naughty corner and just tell them what they did wrong, it's way freaking better then what they are saying. They are basically telling how to abuse you're child and get a away with it. Wth.
@@thatonepotato276 no, burn every single copy of the book you can find, while hanging the Pearls over the fire after putting their own kids, grandkids, etc out of misery that they can no longer even recognize.
12:42
"What if your sons are gay?" Corrective measure is in order.
"What if they don't want to get married?" You assume that's their choice to make.
"What if they don't want kids?" How else are they going to pass off these teachings to the next generation?
"What if the woman they marry doesn't want kids?" It's even less of her choice than the man.
"What if their future wives can't have children?" Easy. Get a new wife.
At least that's how I imagine the writers would respond to these questions.
I couldn’t think of something that hit me harder than the first part.
That’s what they would say.
By "corrective measures" maybe in due time they'll turn to Milo Fapadopolous' proposed "conversion therapy" camp. Because "conversion therapy" totally works...and Milo is "ex-gay" 🙄
What would be the procedures@@samwindmill8264?
@@ButWhyMe... I don't know exactly what self proclaimed "conversion therapists" do, other than shame LGBT youth for who they are and tell them they're going to hell...
You don't need to discipline a child not to touch a stove? If they did, their sensory neurons would do that for you. For God's sake, if you coax a kid to touch a stove so you can smack them for doing it, you're just going to give them burns AND bruises.
Oh wait, I forgot, he's careful not to leave bruises so Social Services won't have anything to notice.
They have enough money to pay off the social services
I think, ultimately, if you're luring your child into doing something and then beating them for doing it, and telling them to do arbitrary things like "touch the door" and beating them, what you're really teaching them is that they can't trust you. They can't trust you because you lure them into things and then hurt them, so they're now suspicious whenever you seem to be approving of something because you might snap and change at a moment's notice. They won't follow you're instructions when they might be in danger, because they've learnt that you are the danger and that your instructions are a pointless power play.
My mom made me touch then door knob and then spanked me. Only because I went outside and was near cows, who could've kicked my skull in (Happened to a cat of mine). I was like 3 to 4 years. But yeah, don't lure your child to touch something just because you don't want them to escape your abuse through the door.
But then if u dont follow instructions you also get beat. Manipulative much?!
Exactly, thank you
"I'm not waterboarding my child, I'm just using an enhanced parenting technique."
50 shades of child rearing
Taylor Crane is the hottest person I've ever seen
That sounded like it came from a cult!
Taylor Crane is the hottest person I've ever seen
Don't know about hot, but she looks smart
"It is just a way to keep those little devils away from ponds, i just want my children to be nice and save"
Annabelle Loy a way of torture involving suffocating a victim in a way or another.
I remember my mum and step father had a parenting book similar to this (not sure if they still have it) but I would constantly get hit with branches, rulers, paddles with holes drilled in them, etc. and I was always scared around them even when I wasn’t doing anything wrong. At one point my step father got mad at me for not showering twice in one day so he thought I was hiding something. He dragged me by my hair to the bathroom, physically RIPPED my clothes off and I was only around 6-7 years old so I was terrified and didn’t understand what was happening and he literally touched my entire body to make sure I was still “pure” and not hiding sinful things. Now I’m diagnosed with NPD and ASPD and still sometimes have to learn to control myself from lashing out when someone touches me because I panic. Books like these are absolutely fucking disgusting. I hope future generations learn that these books are doing more harm than good.
I hope you are having an easier time now that you are free of that abuse. That should never happen to anyone under any circumstances ever. I wish you all the best!
Oh my god! Your step dad should be in prison!
popsiclecat 456 luckily, he will be in prison until I’m at least 30 (I’m 20 right now, he got arrested when I was 14) for attempted murder of my mother and I because he forced me to take a whole bottle of pills and my mum stayed with me in the hospital when I was in a coma to he tried to shoot her 😅😅 you could probably also find old news articles about him leaving my brother and I in a hot car for 3 days when I was 7 and my brother was 1 😅 we were parked outside a drug dealers house while he was getting high. I’m glad that monster is out of my life. We all got restraining orders against him and I moved state.
popsiclecat 456 Hes awful but one good thing that came out of it was that I had the opportunity to testify and lay out all the things he has done to me over the years. I helped cause him to get the maximum sentence and I helped prevent him from harming my little brother. With all the bad, I’m glad that there was some good and I managed to get some closure. ☺️ therapy has helped me a lot with getting through that trauma
One thing inmates don't like, are child abusers. I shouldn't wish harm on anyone, but he needs to know what it's like to have the tables turned on him
This looks like a classic case study in narcissistic parenting, especially leveraging religion as a justification. There's no regard in their writing for what will happen to their children as adults because they don't accept that their children will become adults. They are to always be an extension of the parents and never human.
Holy shit! You literally just described my mother exactly. Thank you
oof
as an atheist, religion makes no sense and is a belief and should not be forced on others. as a person with a brain, most things in the bible is either garbage human-ing or stolen from the torah. the rest is over politeness (except to Jews. oh and did i forget black people? and Asian Christians?)
Goth PinkCatMeow atheist gang I definitely agree!
As someone who has grown up dealing with narcissistic parenting, yes, that is true. My grandmother spent a lot of time raising me, and is definitely a narcissist. She has actively gone out of her way to make sure I can’t develop social skills of any kind. They will ensure you can’t become an independent person to make sure you can’t escape them
There is one good thing about these kinds of books.
It makes me appreciate my own parents.
Goldie Empyre I know. I was mad at my dad before I watched this, and after I hugged him.
Margo Keller aww www
At least you're thankful 😂
They make good kindling? Not that I condone book-burning but this would be an exception.
yeah i will never read this Christian koran to educate my children!
WTF he pushed his daughter into the pond? This guy is just a sadistic bully.
Welcome to the "religion of love"
Phelan You're describing the job of a "proof-reader", "editor", "copyeditor", or "sub-editor", perhaps?
Feno 3000 ummm, i think taking their Bibles and replacing with a closed, shiny one would make them make up a more moral and righteous book than they have now.
I hope this guy's kids were taken away, or he was charged he admits to it.
MrMetalover666 m
I’m a mom to a 3 month old baby and I can’t imagine hitting him. He would have no idea why his mom who is supposed to be his comfort was suddenly hurting him. It makes me want to cry just thinking about it.
How are you and your baby now? @Veronika Zdenka
@@PetMama1313 hopefully doing great
Hope thinks are going well for you and your baby ❤️❤️
He is 2 and my favorite person in the whole world. Thank you!
Wonder what they would say about me- a little girl playing with dinosaurs and rolling in dirt lol.
I loved that too!
BE FREE YOU BEAUTIFUL SMOL
YOU HAD AN AMAZING CHILDHOOD
i used to put food in front of ant nests and sleep with my plushies
I used to have an interest in insects, biology, and fashion dolls. I had toys for all of those. They would’ve burnt me at the stake.
I’m guessing something along the lines of “BURN THE WITCH!”
I seriously don't understand how such a book is still being sold or how it even got published in the first place. it's straight up child abuse. and since children have died from it, there's literally no reason why it's still out there. it's disgusting.
Cash, it probably makes the publisher a mountain of money.
despina mx
Self publishing.
doesnt the author have to go through a publishing company to have it verified for publishing?
sorry, i dont know how publishing works, if im wrong please explain the process to me
Pho Ehr
No you can publish whatever you want for free. They'll check it when someone bought it but they continue because it's their job to print it out.
@@baileysubliminals7192 oh alright
Also isolating a child is very very harmful to not only their social development but physical as well. It slows down their cognative developement and they will never understand social cues. This can be considered child abuse. As it has been scientifically proven that humans NEED human interation. In fact children who dont get the social nurturing they need, they are at a higher risk for mental illness and are more likely to be violent.
But they can watch HOLLYWOOD!!!! Durrr, that's just as good
@@mme.veronica735 of course! What was i thinking 😂😂😂😂
Another reason I see as to why the don't want to socialize their child is because they are afraid that their child they'll tell on them and get the parents in trouble for beat-, sorry, training their child
LoveDog789 that's what I thought they don't want their kids to realize that this behavior is absolutely not normal and very toxic. Similar thing in the last video with them not wanting to leave bruises or injuries so that no one would know about their... Training.
Im mentaly disabled and i missed points when I eas younger that socialization was being tought to me as it skiped through my brain
These people are making the homeschool community look ridiculous
I was homeschooled, but I went to book clubs, did gymnastics took theatre classes, anything I could sign up for to make friends I did. Despite what this Michael is spewing, not all homeschool situations need to be isolating.
EXACTLY! my parents found a homeschooling group where we could meet other kids, go on field trips, and take special classes taught by the parents
@@liamhunt1373 yessss! My parents found similar groups as well I always had friends that both were homeschooled and some in school its not that hard and you learn more going to museum's and historical sights :)
There's good home schooling and bad home schooling. Where it is good children are taken to classes in the community and mix with children and adults of different ages. I've met parents who were homeschooling in this way and also teens being home schoooled in this way.
As for school teachers not being having to have empathy for children in their class as they aren't related well that's what they are trained in at college though in a large classroom they cannot treat children as individuals.
Same. I just got a better middle school experience.
In my experience it’s 50/50. I’ve seen both sides. Even those happy co-ops are full of abused indoctrinated kids.
Explaining the 'why' to children is so effective, I cannot stress this enough.
I started this at an early age, like 2 or 3. Children that age are little sponges, and they can learn so much! Explain yourself, they'll trust you instead of fear you.
Addy White yes. I baby sit my friends 2 and a half year old at times when my mam can't. I NEVER hit him or shout. I warn him he will go on the nauty step (my stairs) but only after he does what I told him not to do again. If he is struggling with regulating his emotions and have a melt down I try and calm him down with soothing tones and asking him what's what and asking him what he's feeling. He is well behaved for me over all anyway so he rarely goes on the nauty step.
I'm an empath and psychology student. Even though I don't have children of my own I feel I know what they need.
I don't have kids yet, but this is so true. I've had so many people wonder why kids are well behaved when I watch them or my parents watch them. It's literally because we explain things to them like they're people (because they ARE)
As a child I always needed to know the reason why the rule was there
Let's just consider that, as said by many experts, these "training" methods shouldn't be used on DOGS.
Dogs that are being "trained" like that fear their owner, get aggressive easily, often don't understand why they're punished, do the opposite of what they're "trained" to do, don't understand basic social signals and have an hard time communicating (which makes them imprevedible since they'll send no signals before attacking someone), and live a sad and miserable life.
If it does this to dogs, what do people think is gonna do to kids, that have a more complex brain and range of emotions?
I hate how society likes to tell women that they MUST have children to have a fulfilling life
And yet, biologically speaking, you can not deny it as truth. No offense or great discussion about feminism or some such meant here, though.
@@dangerjoe8911 yes you can? Childbirth is at the very least straining on the body AND the mind. Post partum depression is something most women struggle with. Some just never recover phisically after one kid. Not to mention how society doesn't let a woman have both family and career, so a kid most of the times means leaving behind everything else you had going for you. It's the opposite of fulfilling. Joe, is it? Keep your nose in what concerns you. This is not it and you're full of shit.
Ahh, biology. You can still be fulfilled without children though.
@@00Kalypso Implying that ensuring the survival of your genes isn't your biological purpose...
@@Someone-sq8im I never said this would not be possible, all I ever ssid was the Idea, that ones life intend is to ensure the survival of your genes....
Coming from someone who remembers his childhood with parents who favored discipline like this
I would always get into snacks like potato chips. Every morning if I got caught, they would spank me. It didn't teach me to not to steal the chips, it made me think of ways to do it without getting caught.
THAT! WAS! SPARTA!!!
sorry, but just look up some of the training, they put those boys through. Only real difference there is that back then, that was the _intended_ lesson.
You know a good way to "train" your child? Reward them when they do well, don't hit them when they do bad.
textbook child psychology. I'dl ike to add 'tell them how to do it right when they do something wrong'.
Yes
Krissilla and to add to that “Tell them what they did wrong, help them do it right, *don’t* *hit* *them*
Not to mention even if reason truly won't work there's ways to reaffirm the dynamic without hitting them. Good example was I was babysitting my nephew, went to the gas station, he kept running off and wouldn't hold my hand to cross the street (he was 5) so quite simply he lost the privalage to walk picked him up sideways on my hip (most uncomfortable yet safe/non painful way I could figure) next time we crossed the street he behaved
Camryn Garrett reward if good, teach and explain if they do bad without knowing it and give a consequence if they do wrong knowing it was wrong, but still comprehend and communicate and see what drove them to mess up deliberately. Just don’t beat kids. It ain’t too hard. It doesn’t work. My parents learned on time that spanking me for being loud and slapping me across the mouth if I talked back was messing me up. So they put their hand away and used their mouth. Adults always claim to be the rational ones yet are the only ones that resort to be violent against someone half their size.
The plan of "having as many kids as possible so they can have as many kids as possible" is often thought of as outnumbering the other, the non Christians, the Democrats, and the Muslims. I was raised in this kind of environment (not the beatings thankfully), so trust me lol. It's disturbing.
MsRabblerouser they need to be stopped ban their religion arrest all the members put them in work can't whatever it takes to get rid of their kind.
Enticing the child to do something that you intend to punish them for teaches the children that you are arbitrary, rather then teaching them about right and wrong. Children, being humans, are smart enough to now that the enticing item was placed there by the parents, they are smart enough to know that you encouraged them to touch the item you are now punishing them for touching. This teaches that the parent is arbitrary and that punishment is given for arbitrary reasons.
His daughter definitely knows that he pushed her into the pond. She may not know why he did it (in fact the why probably is irrelevant to her being overshadowed by fear) but she definitely knows that he did it, thus making his actions towards her arbitrary. This also teaches her that her father could and will cause her harm at any moment with out any cause thus she must be always hyper aware of where her father is at all times.
Beyond just that, because the child is presumably ONLY punished for reaching for the item when it's a part of a training exercise, it means that they'll learn that (A) if a parent is directly interacting with them it's because they want to lead them into a trap and (B) if they want to enjoy things, all they need to do is never EVER tell their parents.
I think this is called learned helplessness, it's also 'taught' in those elsagate videos apparently.
It shows he is a good Christian.
God put a fruit tree in the Garden of Eden and told Adam and Eve not to eat its fruit, although the purpose of fruit is to be eaten. God wanted to free the Hebrew slaves and hardened the heat of Pharaoh so he would not free them.
spamfilter32 stress like that make young people into addicts
The constant adrenaline of hypervigilance can and does cause lifelong damage to the health and chronic health problems, they can't say they love their children and then make them afraid to 1) exist 2) ever be slightly slow in obeying any command for any reason including all valid reasons.
“How to creat your own mini cult” abuse, isolation, ideation and much more. Perfect.
That…….. explains a lot actually
Ok, so if her father beats her and sexually abused her, she’s supposed to be GRATEFUL?????
Angela Morgan WHAT THE FUCK
Yes of course. He is doing her a favor
@@xxA5HL33xx & @Devil Ace let us form together and build a spaceship. Let's move to Pluto, because nobody else from this planet will find us. That idea is literally my dream
Of course! Because that's what he expects from his own daughter. This book is rotten and anyone who agrees with its teaching is seriously mental!
Miss Uni You better be acting sarcastic because if you actually believe that, you should get a reality check.
"To Train Up Your Child" reccomended by Daddy 05
That's what I was thinking
Also the mother of the yt channel fantastic adventures
😬
I watched some of their videos (deleted) and I feel so bad for little Cody and the rest of them
I wonder how the authors of this book felt, knowing that their teachings caused a few deaths.
WeegeeSlayer
Justified.... *bleh* 🤢😡 truely disgusting human beings
They didn't care. They don't feel responsible and claim the murderous parents were not applying the book's teachings properly. And they avoid the topic as much as they can.
The Pearls are truly slime.
WeegeeSlayer
Wife: How are the books sales going?
Husband: Pretty good, honey. In fact, we have a couple of deaths on our hands.
Wife: Our hands? The parents have obviously misread our book!
Husband: I've read the news. They followed all of our instructions.
Wife: FAKE NEWS! If the children weren't so self-aware, they wouldn't have died!
Husband: Relax. It's not like we're going to get arrested or something.
Probably satisfied, cus they most likely to think that that's what God wants to happen.
WeegeeSlayer
Probably got hot and bothered.
"is three a big number?"
"depends on the context"
"dollars? no"
"dead children? yes"
“People who think this is legal? YES”
My tailbone is stuck at a permanent L shape instead of the more curved C shape from being spanked with a broken tailbone. Since I was raised female (born with a vagina and all that), I was branded "dramatic" from the get-go, so my literally screaming in pain, clawing at my dad's leg to get away from the spanking, and literally curling on my side shaking uncontrollably afterwards was just seen as some kind of "temper tantrum," and my refusal to sit up straight (if I could be coaxed to sit at all) for MONTHS was just me "being a brat."
With that said, _thank fuck_ my dad never got a hold of that book! I shudder to think what the hell else he would've done to me and my siblings if he had.
KarlAndArma4ever I have no words to adequately describe my horror at reading that. No fucking words. Just... Hell that's abhorrent.
an... L shape? what kind of ridiculous anterior pelvic tilt would that be! I am sorry your childhood was sullied by such a.. well at best misguided and dismissive father. And i'm even more sorry that you have been forced to live with the scars of it in a way most of us do not.
Nathan Glazier - Yep, got lower back and hip problems (sacroilliac joint dysfunction is _such_ a joy, and the occasional sciatic nerve pain going clear down to my heels is just icing on the cake). The first doctor to see my tailbone X-rays was shocked that i could pass any BMs at all (oh yeah, digestive issues are also fun). I'm pretty used to most of it, though.
Yours and Azure Griffin's condolences are greatly appreciated nonetheless.
KarlAndArma4ever you are welcome.
KarlAndArma4ever good good, I'm so sorry for you :(
This sounds just like a book my biological father would have had and loosely followed. You know why I say biological father and not father, because that spawn of hell didn’t stay in my life because I followed the advice of a tv show I saw him watching when I was patching myself up from being beaten accidentally too hard after dropping my spoon before eating what little food I was allowed to eat, cuz I wasn’t allowed to watch tv but I saw or heard some things he watched when I was busy cooking or cleaning or doing whatever I was told to do as a slave. The advice was running away from home. But because I was never allowed to leave the house or speak without being told “speak” or eat until everyone else had eaten and I had cleaned up. I was unable to actually live properly and still have trouble just speaking to people and going outside and expressing my emotions and anticipate being hit when someone gets too close or tries to shake my hand or tries to hug me or fix my hair or literally anything that involves raising your hand or getting close.
I was diagnosed with insomnia and depression and anxiety and a handful of other things because of this treatment and the medication that I was required to take was thrown away by the spawn of hell that I was forced to survive with.
Yes, this book is such GREAT advice to parents... who want to end up alone, in jail, or murdered. Hopefully the last two....
Yeah I’m just gonna comment this without rereading this because if I read over it again I’ll probably just delete it and I’m actually trying to socialise and have my voice heard for once, albeit quiet and anxious voice but a voice nonetheless 😅
I'm really speachless reading about your situation! I earnestly would like you to feel that I am by your side hoping you find my compassion. Keep on your struggles through your own reasons and rationality. Take care and all the best!♥️
It's alright to write out how you feel, please do! Even though I don't know you and I'm just some internet rando, my heart goes out to you. I sincerely hope you have and will be able to find peace in your life. What was done to you is wrong and horrific. Your "father" should feel ashamed, not you. He is the one who messed up, not you. It's sad you have to deal with the trauma he caused. I hope you find peace, kind person.
From an internet rando, I would like to say this to you, YOU MATTER, More then you could ever believe. You are STRONG, because you broke free, strong enough to break free from that hell, and break the cycle of abuse and strong enough to heal. Best of luck to you!
I hope you have some loving friends now.
Al Hall YOU HAVE A VOICE, so don’t be afraid to use it! Please, develop your own opinions! Act upon your feelings, be yourself, and take time to explore who you are! Your father tried to break you and compromise your identity, but if you are still here, IT IS FOR A REASON. I promise you, you were created to be unique and beautiful in your own way. I know what it’s like for parents to try and take away your ability to speak out for yourself. It sucks, but you are free now. You can gain that back. Find yourself. Be yourself. Be yourself confidently! Don’t devalue your own emotions or thoughts or actions. You can love and care for others in the way that your father never did for you, because in the end, it is YOUR LIFE. He couldn’t take that away from you, and he certainly cannot do it now. YOU are free to be YOU, not HIS VERSION of you.
Your father may have tried to chain you, but you can BREAK FREE from his hood on you. I swear, it’s not impossible. 💞💞
Love you and praying for you :))
As someone with diagnosed PTSD i depend deeply on triggerwarnings when browsing online, and thank you deeply for using one and being respectful about it. I can be normal, scrolling and watching videos, then see or hear one of my triggers and be completely incapacitated by fear, panic attacks, and distinct recollections of my trama. People have turned TWs into some sort of a joke when people like me need them. I get triggers enough from just walking down the street, let me browse the safe side of the web in peace please. TWs for just "im about to say a mean thing oh no" are just plain stupid. TWs are meant for gore, mentions of sexual/physical/animal abuse, or anything where physical or physiological harm came to a person or animal. Something people can experience and be scared for life over. Thank you for using one, and I loved your video.
Lilac Penguin, Me too. The “I think they’re stupid” part actually pissed me off a little bit if I am being honest. I found it quite disrespectful.
I relate. I have BPD and I depend heavily on TW when online. I'm at a point now where I don't get triggered by content if I know what I'm about to experience, but if I don't know it's about to happen and it does... Full blown panic attacks and regressions and... It's not fun. I'm glad she used one, but her dismissal of TWs made me uncomfortable tbh
Cat Serpent it’s because people without disorders use ‘triggered’ the wrong way. I’m sorry the attention addicts put that stigma on trigger warnings.
I always viewed them similar to horror movies. Like, they have ratings for a reason. Not everyone likes gore and death, wether its a simple preference or a deep rooted fear doesn't matter. If someone doesn't like something then they don't need to explain themselves. But at the same time, there's only so much a disclaimer can do. There's a kind of assumption when it comes to the genre. Like if it's labeled a horror movie, chances are someone is going to be killed on screen. And if someone goes into the theatre to watch a horror movie, with the *expectation* that there should be no blood or death, well then that's just on them at that point. It's kinda like a two-sided conversation that everyone on either side treats as the other persons' issue. So to have the video titled the way it is, one can assume when reading it that it most likely will be talking about child abuse. Of course disclaimers are still necessary. Things should still be rated accordingly, or descriptions need to be added to things that don't have a rating system (Like youtube videos). But the individual is also responsible for taking care of themselves to an extent, after all, they're the one that's gonna know what their mental state doesn't need in terms of consuming content. That's just how I've always viewed it with my experiences n such. There's only so much you can do with disclaimers unfortunately
The part about preventing your kids from learning and playing and growing... that’s literally just to make sure they never become more knowledgeable then their father and gain the autonomy to question him.
Well obviously if there smarter than him they might do such heinous acts as call the police on the torme- I mean holy parents or run away from literal hell on earth
The God of the Bible punished the descendants of the first humans with death, pestilence, and other horrible things because Eve dared to seek knowledge. The Pearl book teaches parents that they are essentially God incarnate in their children's lives. There's an obvious connection.
"Training examples" or as I call them "Confessions" and "damning evidence"
Why on in earth this guy in jail
why aren’t more people talking about this?? this is absolutely horrible
Dude, I LOVED barbies as a kid!! And I loved that my mom utilized that to teach me about compassion, how to show kindness, and that there are so many things a woman can do!! I remember getting Dr. Barbie, President Barbie, a fashion designer Barbie, I loved those dolls! I realized I could do anything, and that I could dress cute and wear some fly makeup too!
Alex Larson Barbies were cool to me growing up. I remember having a dollhouse and playing with Barbie and her friends (and I played with my brother too!)
I also loved playing with my brother's trains because they were so cool! Thomas the tank engine was my favorite show back then lol.
Do they have a teacher barbie? Oh, or a college student barbie! They should make some football player barbies
I am a parent and I can tell you from experience that a child will learn a lot more and be more willing to listen to you if you just explain to them why it is not good to do certain things.
What? Teaching your child about why something is bad works better than throwing them in the bonfire?!?!?!
I said this on the last video, but these guys need to be arrested. They're actively involved in child abuse
The people who bought it and gave the book five stars in Amazon should also be prosecuted.
Whenever he says that when he beats them it’s supposed to show that he ‘loves’ them, is teaching them that if someone hurts you and abuses you their just trying to show their ‘love’ and that’s gonna cause major issues for these kids.
Knowing the difference between torturing and loving is something the brain will learn INCREDIBLY quickly SO HOW DID THIER BRAINS NOT GET THE MEMO
I have three girls and two boys. I guess I'm doing it wrong because I want them to question everything, even me. Critical thinking and skepticism are paramount. That doesn't mean they are allowed to be rude or disrespectful because they are taught to always consider how other people feel. I'll be happy and feel fulfilled as a parent if I leave my kids with 3 thing: anunderstanding ofthe golden rule; good self esteem; and, strong analytical skills. I'd be thrilled if my girls and boys turn out like you. You are a great role model.
Mario Alfaro I don't know you, but I'm pretty sure you're a really good parent (and likely a good person as well). If only there were more people raising their children like you do... Have a nice day and keep up the good work :)
@@qwertyCandy I would say he is a good parent, because mine raised me the same way. They never told me what to think. They only taught me to *think*, and have an open and curious mind and an interest in science. Of course this resulted in me becoming an independent-minded atheist, which is just terrible.
My parents used these techniques to raise me. I am living testament that it messes you up.
Also I wasn't allowed to read Harry Potter because they thought it would make me a witch. I'm a tarot card illustrator for a living, I practice witchcraft, and I'm a pagan. I never read Harry Potter
Meanwhile my dad told me I wasn't allowed to read it, I read it anyways, and I'm not a witch. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
@@r.j.penfold Read Harry Potter to not become a heathen. Reverse logic.
Oddly enough Harry Potter is about a boy who is a victim of abuse
Go read Harry Potter.
@@EvieCorwell you right
Honestly, I love the mini-rant you give about Barbie dolls... They were some of my favorites (never had much time for baby dolls either), and my Barbies always helped my imagination run wild. Most of the time, they were a group of tough female spies who covertly defeated villains and saved the country from the brink of collapse.
futoma21 They should have had a cross over with the original Max Steel, I imagine they would have had a great time kicking Smiley off a cliff XD
futoma21 Having Barbie dolls was probably one of the driving forces to my love of story-telling. I could play with them and build stories for hours, they were the best! I hate when parents like this try to conflate their children having fun to something that will 'ruin' them.
bananasinfrench mine attended Hogwarts and ruled fairytale kingdoms! I loved making up stories with my barbies.
I liked Barbie, but my Bratz dolls where my favourites... I think that the authors would have minded that even more... if that is possible
When I played Barbie dolls and Bratz dolls I didn’t play the role of a ‘sex goddess’, I sent my dolls on fantastical adventures and assigned certain dolls a character I had already created in my mind. It helped my creativity and gave me new ideas (such as the goggles I put on a Winx Club doll giving me the idea of a magical species of human-like creatures that were almost blind but could sort of recognise light and had light-themed magic powers).
That's really cool sounds like you were a creative kid.
BearOwl write a book please 🙏🏻
Thank you! I write in my free time but I'm not a professional yet.
+BearOwl holy cow you have wonderful imagination :D
BearOwl OmG same!!! we would've been great friends if we were in elementary 😂
For God’s sake don’t tell the author of that book about sex dolls
LMFAO XD
LMAO😂😂😂
LMAO!!!! WHAT?!?!?!
Reading the articles and how all 3 of those dead children were adopted, the last two specifically from Liberia & Ethiopia ... going to the trouble of an international adoption just to beat them. Feels like Missionary work "saving savage souls" garbage. Every single parent who follows this book should immediately lose custody. Absolute monsters.
I mean, at least one of those kids got out of it instead of "surviving" the rest of her heartbeats...
Especially bc one of the children in question got savagely beaten (and died, iirc) bc they couldn't pronounce a word "properly", so....yeah, I think that brand of Christian racism had a lot to do with the severity of their "discipline", and why they died instead of any of the other children. :////////
My Barbies were serial killers who ran over their victims in a purple jeep. They would then use them as fertilizer for a garden that stocked the cafe they owned.
I honestly get the idea that a lot of adults don't understand (or remember, especially in the case of fellow women) what it *is* that children really do when they play. They seem to be under the impression that children are simply building "familial narratives" when in reality children are much more capable of creative and abstract thought than that. By hijacking childrens' playtime and pushing their imaginations in a certain direction through aggressively gendered toys and guidance, I honestly feel like these parents are stealing something valuable from their kids - a safe, non-judgemental space to explore ideas and concepts that interest them without any of the stakes of reality
My sisters barbies ran a daycare full of genius bean bag baby children that ran a massive computer to solve problems for the adults. I don't recall what problems, but the computer was the hero. It was a yellow step stool.
I used to deliver construction materials (i.e. lego) to the "town hall" (the shed) by riding my scooter up and down the garden several times while my little brother would act as an innocent pedestrian about to be run over.
doconnell565 that sounds like a superhero cartoon.
Oh, I want Robot Chicken to do an animation of that scenario!
Do you want another Carrie incident? Cuz this how you get a Stephen King book/movie in real life.
At least Carrie got to go to school... Granted, she ended up covered in pig's blood and killed a bunch of people (idk the details, i never read/saw it) but she wasn't forced to be homeschooled by Christian pyschopaths
@@personne-fp6cr Carrie did nothing wrong.
@@personne-fp6cr No, it was worse: she got abused systematically by everyone around her because her mother was a strict xtian and her classmates were assholes...
@@personne-fp6cr I'm pretty sure she was homeschooled by her crazy religious mom before going to high school
Edit: she was. Here's the wiki about the book
en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Carrie_(novel)
So... popcorn or peanuts?
I mean ffs, the book's already out, and these steaming piles of Post-Roman inevitability have grandkids, so... might as well bring snacks.
I am so grateful for this review. It really brings some things about my childhood into perspective. My parents actually read this book as I was growing up, and I feel like while I was spared a lot of the nastier teachings - the repercussions of it certainly radiated into my and my brother's lives in so many ways. I remember my mother being the quiet submission one in the home (convinced by that book and other 'godly' women that she was doing as she was supposed to), and my father being someone to fear and NEVER cross. We certainly grew up obedient - but at what cost? My brothers have a strained relationship with my father (rightfully so) and my mother divorced my father immediately after I married. She never wants to see him again. I myself have been brainwashed to reflexively apologize to my husband for the tiniest thing. He feels sorry for me because I just can't seem to shake the feeling that I am about to be scolded when I slip up. It's really messed up. It wasn't just this book. A lot of manipulative, damaging texts circulate in Christian circles. I still have my faith - but I am ever vigilant to see through the deceptive bullshit these 'children of God' tout as truth. Anywho! You are amazing and I'm sorry this comment turned into an oversharing mess. xD
I'm so sorry you had to go through that. That book caused so much suffering and heartache. May your life remain forever happy and blessed! 😊
Good thing at least your husband doesnt seem to agree with that
If I ever marry, I don’t want my wife to live her life in my shadow. That sounds totally unhealthy. Love can only thrive in a household of equals.
I mean, if this person is using God to justify. God never intended women to be lower or subservient. Eve was made from Adam’s rib, because they were meant to be by their side.
You sound like you would be a great significant other! You should always marry a person for who they are, not for who you think they should be. I wish you a happy future!
Diet Twist that’s really sweet wth
AMEN!
Life is too short to waste on a partner who sees you as nothing more than a servant or an incubator.
not a servant. They're paid for their work and can quit their jobs if they want.
franl155 he means husbands who view their wives, not bosses who view their workers
@@sushishush - so did I.
My mom started using this book and enforcing the rules taught in it when I was about 13-15. She would essentially force us to perform for her friends like dogs by having us run into the room, sit, lay down, crawl around, spin circles, etc. All of her friends loved it and followed the book as well.
If i said a word, in our defense, or to say no to being treated as less than human, she would take me to the other room and spank me with a bamboo rod a little thicker than an adult thumb, and about 3 feet long.
It would leave welts that lasted for well over 24 hours.
She would then remind me that disobeying a command from her, was a sin because God had placed her as an authority in my life.
She doesn’t understand why, as an adult, I have no desire to attend church with them after temporarily moving back home while I transition from an apartment, back to college.
Her friends children are even worse off. They are emotionally stunted, have no idea how to interact outside of the family unit, and cannot think for themselves at all. The oldest is about 16 now, and has the social skills of a 12 year old. He never attended school, and the mother is in NO WAY smart enough to teach anyone past 1st grade due to, in my opinion, her own psychological delays.
This book ruins peoples lives and I’ve lived through it.
So she treated you like racists treat non-whites but you were actually “”normal””?
I'm sorry, but the parents who read this book, liked what it had to say, and implemented its teachings were not good parents to begin with. Such parents probably got some degree of validation or even pleasure in finding a source of "moral" justification for what is essentially child abuse.
People who do this do not deserve to have youths and in order to do this we need to push for youths to be able to live without being dependent on potential abusers. Youths need autonomy and equity.
So he's against condoms AND abortion you gotta pick a side mate, it's one or the other
kitty nah, just don't bone unless you want kids, duh! *heavy sarcasm*
I think he's on the "Women are brood mares" side...
Oh please that sounds like you consider sex a fun activity? IT'S NOT. God created it for married couples to be able to have kids, not for anyone to enjoy! And if a girl gets pregnant at like 16, don't even think about abortion! The earlier you start, the more kids you can bring on this earth to fullfill gods wish! Be *happy* about pregnancy! (*facepalms*)
You don't need them if you're gay... Oh, let me guess, he's against that too.
Phelan oh right, sorry, my bad. god is proud of you, you have the right mindset
As someone who comes from an abusive household I can say that being abused as a child is one of the most disgusting most horrific things someone can experience.
This is the mindset my dad had when I was growing up. He's a narcissist also so it didn't help. He always egged me on, he'd set up situations to purposefully get me into trouble. Not only that but he'd mock me, call me names, he'd act like a baby and baby talk at me while having my siblings bully me. He 100% enjoyed it bc he still does it. I was brainwashed (& still am) to believe that nobody in the world could EVER love me & that I'm all sorts of things & how the world is unsafe & that I can ONLY trust my dad. It turns out he's the one I trust the least. Honestly the abuse I went through was horrific, & I wouldn't wish it on a single human soul.
If it's any consolation, I love you as a human being. I don't know you personally but I think you will be an amazing person in the future. Just stay strong and remember there is always someone to talk to. Even if it's some random person on the internet. :)
Pastel hocuspocus i hope you’re doing good:( i care and i don’t even know you so try not to listen to him angel🥺
so it's a family cult? ok
I'm so happy to hear you demonstrate why Barbie is actually an awesome role model because little girls do not care about the size of her waist or length of her legs, they care about dressing her up for different careers and exploring different scenarios. And if you grew up in the 2000s, then you grew up with Barbie on film, and holy fucking shit those movies are AMAZING. They're all about courage, bravery, intelligence, kindness - just every wonderful lesson imagineable that you could be sending to little girls. Yet adults fixate on Barbie's dimensions. And it's a little depressing.
Omg yessss. Speaking of films, Barbie in the Nutcracker was one of my favourite films of all time as a kid and led to me going to see the actual ballet when I was 18 - that's still one of the most beautiful, wonderful performances I've ever seen
I guess people are worried that, by taking Barbie as their role model whilst young, little girls will then want to look like her as well when becoming more conscious of their own body (I went through a phase like this myself). I do agree that there are now numerous toys/cartoons where characters have silly proportions but what people watching them are looking for is more the behaviour of the character and the atmosphere of the world they live in, than their appearance.
entertain7us14 i love the Barbie movies
I would be fascinated to see a study demonstrating that playing with Barbie dolls/watching Barbie movies in early childhood years actually had a long-term effect on girls' sense of self-worth and self-image well into puberty. Very few teenagers actually model their body on Barbie - no one actually sees Barbie as a physical role model. We all know that she's unattainable. Just like Cabbage Patch Kids, we never tried to see her as a literal reflection of us. And it would be impossible to isolate Barbie influences from a much wider context of a society that really does objectify women, in actual meaningful ways.
I would hate to speak for everyone, but my experiences as a Barbie-age child (say, 10 or younger) were that of a pre-puberty age where you don't have any concept of your self-image - it doesn't yet register in your mind that your appearance is important to other people ad may thus be important to yourself. Children that age do not tie appearance to self-worth. They barely even have a conception of self-worth.
I sincerely believe that the hysteria over Barbie's dimensions are mere projections of what adult feminists see to be problematic - they obviously are hyper-aware of sociocultural influences that tie self esteem to body image so see these influences everywhere. they approach the Barbie issue from an academic feminist perspective rather than actually trying to see the doll through a child's eyes.
The truth is, at that age, kids are way less superficial than these feminists think they are. By that I mean they may be interested in bright stimuli, material and fashion and exciting environments, but they actually do understand that they're just playing in a make-believe world, and ultimately the things that captivate them are stories, characters and worlds, not random costumes and body shapes. Kids may try to emulate their fantasies, but I think that's healthy. I remember when I wanted to emulate Barbie as a kid, I would pretend to be dancing in Swan Lake, or I'd sing songs from Princess and the Pauper, or I'd set up these mini stages where I'd get all my dolls together to recreate scenes. I wouldn't tie a corset around my waist or bleach my hair - because I was a kid. My love for Barbie was not based in her appearance, it was based in her fierce, wonderful, empowering personality.
Speaking from my experience, I *loved* Barbie growing up, and I still do, because I have such a warm spot of nostalgia for how she shaped my childhood. I never really cared much about dressing up the dolls - I just cared about the stories in her movies. Cos kids like stories. Not once in my childhood can I be said to have adored Barbie because of her big tits and tiny waist - I was too young to understand the significance of those things. To a kid, those things seemed so trivial they were unimportant compared to the vibrant world of stories surrounding Barbie.
I just think it's disappointing when people fixate on Barbie's physicality as a reason for her being a terrible role model, because that honestly strips the very concept of female role models of everything but their physical appearances - Barbie has had like 800 careers and has starred in movies that have nothing but empowering messages, yet all these apparent "feminists" can fixate on is the size of her bust. It's really disappointing for me, and I'm sure heaps of other girls who grew up loving Barbie for reasons that had fuck all to do with how pretty she was.
sorry for overly long rant btw, that was hella unintentional. the barbie feels just swept me away.
I can’t understand the whole telling your kids to do something and then yelling at them for doing it. “I wanna teach my kid to not touch the hot stove. I’m gonna make them touch it then yell at them.” That just causes confusion? Because now anytime you tell them to do something they’re going to be terrified that it’s a trap. It makes zero sense 😂 who tf let these people write a whole ass book.
Yeah like they want thier kids to listen to them and obey then shout at them for doing what they asked like whatttttt?
There are some people who think you only learn from experience and the hard way not by explaining things to them in advance.
My parents are extremely religious Christians and used to think that some of what this guy said is true. Not nearly to the same extent or done in such extreme ways but the basic ideology was there. When they were raising my brother, who is 11 years older than me, they spanked him any time he misbehaved. And he grew up to have frequent visits to juvie, impregnate a girl twice when he was 16, drop out of high school, steal my dad's car and run away from home, then get sent to a maximum security prison before he was 20, go on to have 4 more children by two other different women, beat his wife and get divorced. He's not religious but he's never rejected Christianity - because he just simply doesn't care enough to do so.
Thankfully, this allowed them to realize that their approach to parenting wasn't effective and didn't produce a good son. So by the time I was born and when I was growing up, they never beat me. Ever. And I've never been arrested (or even pulled over), I not only graduated from high school but also college, I don't have any illegitimate children, I have never committed domestic abuse, and I'm not divorced. But there is some irony in the fact that I've firmly been an atheist-leaning agnostic since I was 14 and vehemently rejected my parents' religion.
And the thing that makes me really sad is that they think they absolutely failed while raising both of us.
Your parents sound like douchebags.
@Wyatt Derp What do you mean atheist leaning agnostic?
Once you said that your brother’s story helped them to realize that their methods of parenting were awful, I was really happy, because at least something better would come as a result of that tragedy.
Then you said they considered both of you to be failures, and my heart collapsed into a black hole as I wondered on what planet how you described yourself would be considered a failure.
@@MegaSpideyman I'm an atheist leaning agnostic. For me it means I do not believe in any gods but I wish I could. Once I get that "it would be nice if some kind of god existed" out of my system, I'll be atheist. Also, agnostic is a cover I can use to get Christians to not just write me off as a lost cause. My family and my wife's family are all Christian and if I went full atheist, we'd be disowned.
Damn. That last sentence.....for all you are, they see you exactly the same as your brother just because you reject their BS religion. Smfh.
The was the best modern feminist breakdown of Barbie I have ever heard. You totally changed my opinion on her.
Barbie has both been to the moon and been president. All the while looking fabulous. She promotes the idea that you can acomplich thinges and look fabulous while doing them.
I loved Barbie as a little girl. I had all different kinds of Barbies to add up to 87 in all. I had the Barbie house with the McDonalds downstairs and the apartment upstairs. It also had an elevator. I also had many different Ken dolls too adding to maybe 15. I had all of her cars too. She taught me how to be independent while being in a relationship as well. She taught me that it's okay to be smart and fashionable and that everyone is beautiful.
My daughter got the STEM Barbie for Christmas. It's awesome. It comes with all these things that you can build like a greenhouse, shoe rack, washing machine, and a hammock. It's neat. She also has an eye doctor Barbie.
I say good for her and that is a great Barbie. as we need more girls to be interested in STEM. as very few girls find that a suitable carreer as not many girls get introduced to that field. I think it would be great to have more women in the STEM feilds
Technically cooking is a science because recipes are like formulas, so it could work. LOL!
Sabrina Loizides-Merideth and most below-average men can not work with such then - why else would they demand a woman making sandwiches for them? :3
I used to play with Barbie dolls as a child and grew up to be a engineer. Never understood why some people dislike them. Hope your girl has a bright future ahead doing whatever she loves!
The fact that this man and his wife haven’t been investigated for child abuse or anything regarding the contents of this book is simply astonishing.
They're rich.
They should be in jail for child abuse. This book is enough evidence
Hannah Surber so true, it’s disgusting
This is just so maddening. I just can't imagine that someone wrote a guide to literally torture CHILDREN. That guy is a goshdang psycopath! This is not "training" your children. This is abuse and the worst part is, that people are actually listening to this and therefore destroy their childrens' lifes and scar them not only physicaly but mentaly
As a person that grew up being abused I can tell you that at least in my case it really didn't work. After a while I just stopped even trying to be good because I would always end up failing anyways. The beatings would come whether I tried or not, so it just wasn't worth it. As a result I also lied a lot... the: "I didn't do it" kind, to try and avoid the beatings. It rarely worked, though, because I was always blamed for things, whether I did it or not.
It still affects me, although I haven't been beaten since I was 14. I have a buffet of problems and fears as a result of my childhood beatings.
I will never be thankful for being abused. All it gave me is a view of how I will never treat a kid.
On another note. I'm 32. I don't have any kids and never will. One of the main reasons is that I like the idea of living more than the idea of dying in childbirth.
I have a genetic degenerative disease, which amongst other things makes all my joints very fragile(already quite a few needing replacement) and all my bones very brittle(I've broken plenty of bones). I've already had a hip surgery, I've got a Tarlov cyst in my hip, and I have a lot of surgeries coming up.
I'm actually living my dreams, and living each day exactly suited to my wants, only to make my life worth living(successfully) I will never tie my short life down by a significant other or a kid.
I do love kids, though. I have a 9 year old nephew that I'm very close with, and which I spoil rotten when ever given the chance, although we don't live in the same country, and I have another nephew on the way(due date in 3 days) back in my home country.
Please adopt or do foster care you would be a beautiful parent
I hope your surgeries went well.
I began disobeying when I was 16 because I got tired of being walked over. I was denied Christmas gifts several years as a punishment and was even forced to throw my toys away as a punishment. I also was denied money to buy what I wanted and had birthday money stolen from me. When I turned 15 and got a job, I decided I'd buy everything I wanted when I grew up. I now own a bunch of Pokemon cards, Beyblades, Bakugan, and lightsabers. I'm trying to live my childhood before I leave for college.
I had a version of that, and never tried to do anything because what was the point? I was a useless person, a waste of space, so I could never do anything or be anything. (Even when I got my first book published I never got even a word of praise from her.)
There were three younger brothers, who could never do anything wrong [cos BOYS], so anything that went wrong was automatically my fault. The last time she beat me I was in my mid-20s
I'm in my 60s now and never had kids or wanted any. I couldn't face the thought that any kid I had might turn out like me, or that I might turn out like her - I don't know which of those frightened me the most. I know it's not compulsory that one turns out like one's same-sex parent, but why risk ruining another generation to find out?
@@megaascension2748 so they never gave you anything stole everything you owned because you were fed up with being walked over?
I’ve actually studied a little bit of children’s physical and mental development within school, and hearing this “advice” is terrifying.
I looked it up on Amazon. 64% one star out of five. 33% five star out of five.
A quote from Michelle A. "If you like this, you should be in Jail".
No. HE'LL NOT JAIL!
Jail is too light of a sentence, bring them into a North Korean prison camp instead.
They need to go to the medieval version of Hell!
@@theoffchannel2054 I gotta say, if god supports this, can I go to hell when I die?
@@shinyminunthetheatregeek2036 god supported slavery lol I think ur good
I was raised in this strict homeschooled evangelical Christian culture in the U.S..i always loved barbies but mainly the "boy toys" like remote control cars and hot wheels. I wasn't "allowed " to like these things. I always learned lessons the "hard way" to make it stick. By my mother, not my father. I was taught to never ask "why" but to "trust and obey". Still haven't completely recovered. Thank you for making me feel less insane for recognizing this as insane.
Yeah as far as I’m aware, there’s absolutely nowhere in the Bible that women shouldn’t enjoy things that men do. (theres some verse that loosely implies they shouldn’t hold the same jobs. But that’s about it)
22:55 Well, you can buy Mein Kampf on Amazon. This book is awful and promotes terrible ideas, but let's be real; any parents taking advice from this book were likely abusive to begin with. If they didn't get their justification from the Pearls, they'd have gotten it elsewhere. Trust me when I say your video does more to destroy the ideas within this book than a match ever could; you're doing a good service.
Pixelated Skeptic It is, though if you take it in context as a social study of the time.
I thought this whole comment was about mein Kampf for a minute...
It was slightly confusing
I didn't read most of Mein Kampf, but I think it has more useful things and logical conclusions than this one. It also explains his perspective.
Nononono mien kfuck is publicly denounced everywhere. This book could be found by the most dumb ass mean well who thinks hes a bad parent because hes turning his children into failures because this ass hole uses language such as new world order and "gawwwwwwwwwd" so they think this is a book god brought to them.
Sadly I’ve heard stories of people who escaped the Quiverfull movement who talk about how their parents became worse after reading this book. These two movements (Quiverfull and Train Up A Child) have a deeply dangerous and perverse relationship to each other.
Barbie is actually an inspirational figure.
Look at this long list of professions: en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Barbie%27s_careers
Her message is that you can be girly and feminine and still excel at any profession.
This is actually a great way of introducing young girls to a variety of different jobs.
Femininity is not a barrier to success in your career. Be yourself and reach for the stars. Oh and you can look fabulous whilst doing so. That is empowering.
Okay. I am aware that the counter argument is that she is unrealistically pretty. She is also unrealistically performing in every job under the sun. It's a doll. It is not meant to be realistic. It is meant to be inspirational.
In recent years, I've wondered if Barbie is actually a species and not an individual woman.
Hey, what about boys' army toys? They are not relistic either! I remember i had a bunch of ones with my brothers, we played just fine.
You're right. They're not realistic either.
There is nothing wrong with dolls and action figures.
Bobby Ranger
Barbie is, fundamentally, a _tabula rasa._ And a very good one, at that.
Bobby Ranger It's caused many of my own insecurities but other than that they're fine
My Dad was like this about spankings, clothing, girls and boy interaction a well as who we dated. The church we went to told him it was okay that he didn't love us if he didn't do it. We went to public school though and he was later investigated by social services, after that he never touched us.
"...never touched us."
You mean legit, or is this an Episode VI, "not a _scratch"_ thing?
@@seand.g423 no it’s a “sir if you ever touch this child ever again we will throw you in jail” kinda thing
Hey, my parents have this book, and I was raised a Catholic and homeschooled. And it did far more damage then good. Started watching your videos recently and am a new sub. Love your videos! ✌
Brohamerer You should make YouTuve videos like this and maybe talk about it if that is something you're okay to do. It's always interesting to hear life experiences. I hope you're doing well now and looking after yourself.
Khloe Britton, thank you! I've been contemplating uploading videos, and I am doing better now. I don't how comfortable I am with talking about it now, but maybe that will come with time.
The biggest problem is still face today is being socially awkward, as being raised in a house with little outside connection does to you. Hopefully this will pass with time though
Sorry to hear that. I'm grateful my mother considers such books "Dickensian."
Brohamerer subscribed for if/when you upload.
This sounds sickeningly less like disciplining your child and more like cult conditioning.
The crazy bastard says it's not discipline, its training... like with a dog.
I grew up on a street that only had girls on it (besides my brother). I played with Barbies with them and I played with more "boy" toys with my brother and my friend who would sometimes visit. Am I a beautiful sex goddess now? lol But seriously I don't see the problem with Barbie, even if boys want to play with them. I don't know a single person who has ever been affected by the toys they play with. Otherwise my brother would be in several car accidents by now because he loved banging his toy cars together lol
"I don't know a single person who has ever been affected by the toys they play with."
And this toy thing made me remember the my younger brother was quite annoyed at my younger sister because..... she was using his toy soldiers and such to play house with
Kids use whatever they can find to play whatever games they want to play
I love this comment, truuuue
Exactly, i used to have barbies as a kid and i p much just made them fight each other, while flying, in cool outfits (of course with intense backstories that id play out before that) yet you dont see me fighting people mid air
The only reason they say “sex goddess” is because it’s now frowned upon to criticize a woman being “well-rounded,” “educated” or “has a mind of her own”
It’s weird-Michael writes about how these methods make children better behaved, but my experience was the exact opposite growing up. I’m from a really small town and the kids who I remember saying they got a “whoopin’” (spanked with a belt or worse-just awful) and who had very Christian conservative parents were the same kids never listening to the teachers and drinking and smoking at parties at a really early age. Hmmm, wonder if it’s because they were constantly suppressed at home and just told to obey versus being explained WHY they shouldn’t do something?
Also, my heart breaks for the kids of any parents who take this approach. I was a super sensitive child, so much that my parents could just put me in harmless “time out” for a few minutes and I’d never do the same thing again, lol. But if I’d had parents who hit me or employed any of these tactics, it would have destroyed me! It’s so sad! Children shouldn’t feel afraid of the people who are meant to protect and raise them.
ModernDayOm
ACEs (Adverse Childhood Experiences ) lead to addictions
I go to a christian school and ive seen the way the teachers deal with their own children and i've been there for years so i've watched the children grow, they go from perfectly normal babies to children who are unhappy, don't listen, dont trust their parents, ect. and the ones that get spanked the most are the most aggressive and angry (but if you bring it up to anyone then they'll be all like "he's not like that cause he gets spanked, he just gets spanked a lot cause that's how he is" which is a really retarded excuse)
i know this is pretty old but i can vouch for this as i first got truly drunk at 11 years old at school from alcohol i stole from my parents like, being abusive makes kids rebel more, not less
Not all children become obedient little soldiers when you abuse them, and when they do, it usually makes them unable to think or take care of themselves. as an example.
My mother would verbally abuse and hit me and my sibling. I learn to fear her and listen to every word and answer every beck and call. I couldn't think for myself and every decision and life choices I made were in the thought of what she would want for me. It wasn't until I was older and out of the house that I finally stood up for myself. I have trust issues and still second guess all my actions.
My sibling on the other hand, became a rebel, learn to be sneaky and manipulative to get what she wanted. Whenever we were alone she would act out, would even hit me herself when I didn't do what she wanted. She continuse to live without fear and dose things just to piss our mother off.
If the woman I loved had an abusive family, they'd be her dead ancestors. My biggest fear is that someone would beat my children. I fear this because I fear what I'd do to those people in the blind rage that would overcome me.
Agreed, I would not let them into my house, nor visit them with my children. I would never ever invite them to anywhere.
That sounds like better parenting. Those abusive twats should get a taste of thier own medicine.
I was told that I could choose the "easy way" (obeying blindly) or the "hard way" (getting beaten). I moved out earlier this year at age 17.
I'm proud of you and happy for you, damn, that's amazing. Good luck in life.
@@franksonatra Thank you. I'm trying to move on with my life. I'm doing the best that I can.