I went through this with the man I married. I was not what he preferred in a woman but he truly loved me and he went all out for me and didn't stop until I married him and the marriage lasted until the day he died.
@@roselinejeremie2912 yes it is but it's priceless . God blessed that man to show me what à real man will do for love. It's not about how you look but what he feels and needs from a woman.
I've been going through this with a woman who goes to my gym. Typically, I usually go for women who are heavy set but she is the complete opposite. Instead of pulling me away from God like some women from my past, she has inspired me to seek Him more every day.
I feel that. I thought the girl I love was catholic bc she went to a catholic school back in HS, and one day I joked with her abt it and she said “I’m not catholic at all actually” and didn’t elaborate further. I remember my heart dropped and I didn’t know why cus with any other girl that wouldn’t have been a dealbreaker, but with this girl it would’ve been. She called me at 9am a few days later (on a Sunday) and I asked why she was up so early on the weekend and if everything was okay. She responded with “oh yea I’m fine, I’m just abt to go to church and wanted to tell you good morning.” I said “I thought you weren’t religious?” and she goes “I just meant that I’m not catholic, but I am a believer.” My heart jumped for joy! :)
Stephan said a man falls in love with a woman who makes him feel good, excited, and inspired. A female IG creator explained that passion paired with confidence produces this effect on people. It comes down simply to having a purpose, hobbies, and high self esteem. We exude joy, security, and fulfillment when we create purpose through work, relationships, and hobbies. It changes the way we feel about ourselves and the way we interact with others. That magnetizes people.
I would choose my husband time and again. He's just that amazing to me. We've been through pretty much EVERYTHING that would've sunk most marriages...because we never gave up and WORKED on us. 18 years and it's never been more solid and precious. 💯
Beautifully said! It’s scary to believe how someone can make you feel like a school kid in again, and make you feeling things you can’t explain or articulate. Thanks for enlightening us….. I hope we all get to experience such a connection!
Really appreciate this. Came at the right time. I questioned a man that told me what his "go to type" was and I look the opposite but he confessed he likes me and wants something more than friendship. I need to stop saying "but I'm not your type"
I will say tread cautiously if you are looking for marriage your time may possibly get wasted. Ask to see at least 2 photos of his exs if you don't fit the bill then you are not it. Go with your instincts. Regardless of what he says. Some Men are capable of just dating any woman that will do for now. Also watch Rebecca Pope vids
Actually I've never met a guy that hits me that way...met attractive guys, funny guys, well-travelled guys but none that make me feel there's 'something about them' deep attraction feeling. If I ever do, it usually means they're trouble.
He was not ready when we met. it was early of our 20s. We were too young when we met. The distance was too big when we met. We choosed to had ‚no contact‘ during a several years. He sent me a letter to my house 2 weeks before I got married when I was 24. And respect my decision that I choosed my own path with the man who respects me and put me always on his priorities. His mother contact me 5 years later that he’s passed away. I wish to meet him in another life or another dimention one day. The energy was so big. I know we will still meet „one day“. It just that we need to wait a little longer than before. But I know we will. RIP R.
yep. felt it from first interaction w her. there was something special about her personality and the way she communicates which i noticed instantly and i just knew. the more we talked the more i knew i would never let her go. i dont feel that way about hardly anyone at all so she clearly built different . its really that simple
Hi, I wouldnt agree. There is always a type in our brain and we are searching for it. So if you are not his type he will keep you aside until he finds his type. I have been through that so I dont want it again. I want to be with someone who is my type and vice versa.
I’m learning so much from you about men, women, relationships in general! I hope and pray I receive the man/husband I dreamt of as a little girl! I’m not giving up on it! Thank you for being a teacher and helper from GOD! Keep up the AMAZING work! Sending love and hugs your way! Keep smiling!💜🙏🏽👑🌟💪🏽
There is something about a Man in love ...that every woman can see if they looks closely..He smiles alot when thinking about the woman ..he glows like a shining star up in the sky ...Love is a beautiful thing, no one knows when it hits you hard and you say ..dammm how did she or he do that ..." ❤❤ that beats as ❤" ...Spread some love everyone. ".Love is a beautiful thing" #thinkingoutaloud
Thank u, good to know because I felt very insecure once I found out his preferences ...I guess it goes both ways... women have "preferences" as well but we do chose love n over our preference many times
I think that’s impossible. It’s human nature to look at something attractive or beautiful but what matters is what will you do about it. I’m a loyal person and have never cheated however I will look but keep it moving right after.
I don’t know how much should be based on feelings…feelings fluctuate…and having known a lot of emotionally unstable people it’s hard for me to trust in the feelings of others being any solid indicator of commitment and/or lasting love and dedication
I understand your point. Stephan said a man falls in love with a woman who makes him feel good, excited, and inspired. A female IG creator explained that passion paired with confidence produces this effect on people. It comes down simply to having a purpose and hobbies. We exude excitement, competence, and fulfillment when we create purpose through work, relationships, and hobbies. It changes the way we feel about ourselves and the way we interact with others. That magnetizes people.
2:40 - 2:55 ... totally agree... we all know inside what v want...and just wait for the right person everyone...one day u will remember that it was worth a wait...dont hustle...wait for divine timing and keep praying..God is much much bigger then our lives, problem, whole universe etc etc..
Although I appreciate your wisdom and I understand exactly what you were conveying in the video, the thought process behind it is unsettling to me. I understand what you mean that he can overlook the fact you don’t have big breasts because he sees something within you that fulfills more than just that desire, I get that, but for him to turn around and feel the need to look at those same types of women that he normally goes for from time to time to get his sexual desire satisfied is the part I don’t get. Bc yes I get that he’s with you because you check the rest of his boxes which allows him the ability to bypass your lack of physical traits he actually prefers, but to then have to fill the need of internally “getting off” on just that type of woman from time to time, well damn that’ll make even the most confident woman a little insecure when it comes to her security in knowing she’s the full thing for her man. From the man’s logic it seems like “I love you for x,y,z (which is more than likely smart, intelligent, nurturing-all the qualities that would make a woman wifey material) but sexually I still desire the big breasts.” Bc it’s not a secret SOME men marry women that are “marriage safe” meaning the women that has the wife qualities, a few of what I described above, bc she’s more likely to be accepted by friends/family, not accepted in the sense that they like her, but accepted in the sense that she’s not “controversial” I’ll say. You know as in the conversation about the “modest woman” vs the “hoe” and b4 someone comes for me saying that word I don’t think any woman is a hoe, that’s just the argument why some men choose to marry the “modest” woman bc he believes her image is more acceptable to his cohorts. But then a good of the time is the same man that cheats on her for the “hoe” which is the woman he actually prefers however he wouldn’t marry her bc she doesn’t fit his approval community.
Men are gonna look...it's in their DNA...I also look too. If I see a good looking man I am gonna look and think things but I don't do it to make him feel inadequate...we both agree humans in general are gonna look..
What you said is valid! I also very much appreciate Stephen even included the insecurities part because that could definitely come up. But there are SO many happy couples where the deeper in love you become, the more you truly become each other’s dream and the fantasies are released. Now some men can’t be changed one way or another but I personally try to focus on the best possible outcome. Keep the faith, god bless.
This is a good video, I would add that "listening" and "respecting" what he's expressing are equally as important and a factor in finding "the one" for a man! Obviously it's a 2 way street and it works both ways! Bless those men and women who do!
I disagree on this one. Over time not being his type eroded my self worth and he ended up not staying loyal so he could experience his type. Now we are divorced, that played a big part in it. You have a type for a reason, stick to it
He may not choose big breasts because you give him the right feeling, but when he meets another girl who has big breasts and right feelings too, he will switch to another girl.
Yes thats a serious issue is he is not content. You can do your best, but at some point if he still is lusting for other women, you cant change him only he himself. Never wait like that by giving him the sighn that everything is ok
Exactly. I have a male friend who married a woman who wasn’t his physical type but he fell in love with her for many other reasons. They just got divorced. In the end it wasn’t sustainable.
What if it is the typical man that chooses a women they are not very much attracted to as marriage material? I would not recommend that path, I was not my ex type, he chose me specifically cause I was not that bad and for him I was the one to stay with. But that was always a problem, he was trying to change me, I have always been skinny, he wanted me with more meat in my bones, I have always trained strength but I can't put on any muscle mass, and he was always criticizing that, I always felt less for him, never again I will be with a man to whom I am not his type!
A guy who looks around is a cheater. Seen this myself A guy who refuses to look at other girls does not cheat. So you dump the looker and be witj non looker. If guy is constantly searching for another he is looking to cheat if a guy does not look around he is not interested in finding another person for cheating. Trash men cheaters always looking everywhere they will only bring suffering, forever love is the one who is not attracted to other people at all because he thinks that you are the most attractive one from all others.
Okay my son's father always expressed that to me of 15 years we were together. He expressed it verbal, in writing etc. We were engaged. I even asked him, why he wants to be with me. He said he knew he wanted to marry me since he first saw me. He expressed he liked every bit of me,even our craziness and that it was even hard to explain what he was feeling. That went on for 15 years..But, he still end up marrying someone else even during when we were supposedly trying to work things out🤷♀️. I forgave him and just want him to be happy. Of course, I was sad, disappointed...but, all I can do is continue wish him well and forgive myself and him.
Thanks for sharing. So nice of you. I’m just being aware of it, even though I’m not wondering if I’m or not a type of any man. I wish i need those advices in a near future
Stephan, I LOVE your videos and this one in particular, I'm glad you laughed along with, probably, a lot of us. Anyway, you are so interesting to listen to and your videos are inspiring and helpful.. Thank you for making them. If I had a brother, I would want him to be just like you! You are wonderful and so insightful. Thanks again! Keep the videos cominig and keep up the good work!
But you never explained why he's still mesmerized by those other women and being weak to flesh, when hes clearly found "the one". I think this was mansplained. You're not explaining how its disrespectful and how men need to be more disciplined. Visually lusting is cheating and I'm aware between that and just acknowledging another woman is attractive. BIG DIFFERENCE. You're asking women to tolerate disrespect. NAH. If I gotta hold it down when I see the Kofi Soriboe's, so do you. This is why I say never date anyone who isn't your type and don't let anybody date you and you're not their type.
Crazy there's someone I consider to truly be my best friend. We didn't start out that way. We've been back and forth. Good and bad..... Have been in love with each other the whole time but have had ups and downs. For some reason won't turn away from each other. I felt soon after meeting him "that feeling". It was literally like a spark or a magnet. It's weird.... But we're still connected in that way. We understand one another and agree that were almost exactly alike. Lol Can't stay away from each other but can't understand or explain why. But we are most definitely always comfortable and happy in each other's company. Even in silence.
I was just talking to this random guy & he was listening to me. Then these 2 young skinny cute girls where walking up & he was 🎣he literally turned his back towards me as I was speaking & eyed them up & down right in front of me. I was thinking dang thats rude. As they passed he turned the other way & did it again as he watched them walk away. So
Disrespectful. I wasn't interested in him to begin with so I finished my story & as I walked away thought if that ever happens to me again I'm just going to walk away mid conversation. As I thought don't cast your pearls to swine. It would be different if actually in a relationship and I would of definitely addressed it. If you look at a woman lustfully you've committed adultry with her in your ❤. I have struggled with my weight most my life some is medical reasons but that was straight up disrespectful. There is so much more to a person than looks & I was even talking about God & my son as this man did this. Like really. Part of it could stem from past experiences but dang. You may always find someone who looks better on the outside but it's who they are you gotta live with. Thing is I knew immediately I was dealing with a boy not a man.
Idk what it is before I even said anything we work together it's just something. Just being around her makes my heart smile like my entire self changes. This has never happened to me in my life.
I think if he like big breasted women he should go after big breasted women. Looking at what you desire will of course make your woman feel uncomfortable
Hmm 🤔 Going by feeling seems misguided. I understand there are some wonderful relationships built off this intuition and that’s great. However, for those that experienced trauma please be careful in your feeling. Heal and understand yourself COMPLETELY to were no one can take that inner peace. I say this because those of us that are hurt tend to be drawn to the people that hurt us (think Depp/Heard case- she’s just like his mother) it’s a familiarity we seek. That is the love that we were accustomed to receiving. People of trauma internalize it differently so we become pleasers, people fixers, codependency issues with attracts toxic people like narcissists.
I listened until he said "he may like big breasted women and sometimes you'd find him looking at them etc etc" that means that person doesnt care about you.Too many things at stake here he may cheat on you and still come back home to you,this sounds like a man who would always have a side chick but would never leave his wife for the side chick. All i hear is an excuse for a man who is not content and doesn't know what he wants.
Finally someone saying some truth, I think he is saying whatever 😅sorry, and he is giving excuses to men with wondering eyes… exactly as you said who doesn’t know what they want
I don't know if I agree with this. Dating coaches and life coaches are telling me that you shouldn't depend on a man to make you happy and they are telling men the same thing so I don't understand. I am very confused. I also thought I made my ex happy for a great majority of the time!
I always dated guys who were 6 ft at least and with dark hair. Then this guy came along...5'8 and a ginger. The first time i heard him laugh...i was gone. There's just something.
@StephanSpeaksClips , what does it mean when a man says "When the time is right." In regards to marriage and doesn't give any sort of prerequisites to it?
I am with that type of guy. He is tall and thin and I am not. Now, he tells me, that he does not like my weight. He thinks I am too fat. I was like this when I met him and started going out with him, a year ago. I don't know what to think. Should I stay or go?
@@anoushkaramdeal3197 His requirements when dating all women, is that he wants them to be at their optimal looking - boob job & tummy tuck. That is probably the 6 women ahead of me are no longer in their relationship.
So I’m wasting my time with a guy who blocks his past girls and jumps to next to find better the right woman is worth waiting for 😢so I’m just same as those girls but guy been busy working have no time talking other girls
MOG! Is this funny? I know messing with you I Love it breaks up the tension if there is any and you break it down elementary so we can grab the meat of it or spit out the bones have a wonderful safe marvelous day 🙏❤️
Then I wouldn’t be the one!! I wouldn’t give a damn! He needs to take his turning head to Go to the big breast women. And I promise you I will throw up the deuce✌🏾 That’s very disrespectful because now he has made her feel insecure because he’s looking at big breast. Kick him to the damn curve! Women you don’t have to settle for shit like that! Even if he chose you,his mind still is on big breast. And you bet your last dollar he’s going to cheat I don’t care how much he loves you
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I went through this with the man I married. I was not what he preferred in a woman but he truly loved me and he went all out for me and didn't stop until I married him and the marriage lasted until the day he died.
Wow! That's beautiful.
Wow amazing
The ending is sad!
@@roselinejeremie2912 yes it is but it's priceless . God blessed that man to show me what à real man will do for love. It's not about how you look but what he feels and needs from a woman.
@@roselinejeremie2912 you're not immortal dude!
I've been going through this with a woman who goes to my gym. Typically, I usually go for women who are heavy set but she is the complete opposite. Instead of pulling me away from God like some women from my past, she has inspired me to seek Him more every day.
I feel that. I thought the girl I love was catholic bc she went to a catholic school back in HS, and one day I joked with her abt it and she said “I’m not catholic at all actually” and didn’t elaborate further. I remember my heart dropped and I didn’t know why cus with any other girl that wouldn’t have been a dealbreaker, but with this girl it would’ve been. She called me at 9am a few days later (on a Sunday) and I asked why she was up so early on the weekend and if everything was okay. She responded with “oh yea I’m fine, I’m just abt to go to church and wanted to tell you good morning.” I said “I thought you weren’t religious?” and she goes “I just meant that I’m not catholic, but I am a believer.”
My heart jumped for joy! :)
Stephan said a man falls in love with a woman who makes him feel good, excited, and inspired. A female IG creator explained that passion paired with confidence produces this effect on people. It comes down simply to having a purpose, hobbies, and high self esteem. We exude joy, security, and fulfillment when we create purpose through work, relationships, and hobbies. It changes the way we feel about ourselves and the way we interact with others. That magnetizes people.
❤ agree
I would choose my husband time and again. He's just that amazing to me. We've been through pretty much EVERYTHING that would've sunk most marriages...because we never gave up and WORKED on us. 18 years and it's never been more solid and precious. 💯
Beautifully said! It’s scary to believe how someone can make you feel like a school kid in again, and make you feeling things you can’t explain or articulate. Thanks for enlightening us….. I hope we all get to experience such a connection!
“There’s MORE to you than that for him!” Thank you, Stephen! Hit it on the nail with this line.
He's right there's somebody for everybody if we focus more on God send me what I need more so than what I want love would flourish
Really appreciate this. Came at the right time. I questioned a man that told me what his "go to type" was and I look the opposite but he confessed he likes me and wants something more than friendship. I need to stop saying "but I'm not your type"
That’s that rejection talking.
I will say tread cautiously if you are looking for marriage your time may possibly get wasted. Ask to see at least 2 photos of his exs if you don't fit the bill then you are not it. Go with your instincts. Regardless of what he says. Some Men are capable of just dating any woman that will do for now. Also watch Rebecca Pope vids
@@lf3554 Thank you for sharing this, feel what you’re saying here
@@CharCharJars You welcome. 👍
Nah don’t listen to these people! The guy I’m dating was not my type! There’s a reason that type didn’t work out❤️
Actually I've never met a guy that hits me that way...met attractive guys, funny guys, well-travelled guys but none that make me feel there's 'something about them' deep attraction feeling. If I ever do, it usually means they're trouble.
Lol 😂
Same!
That probably means you need therapy.
agreed!
@@kahron90210 yeah it's when you are troubled that you can't meet right guy
He was not ready when we met. it was early of our 20s. We were too young when we met. The distance was too big when we met. We choosed to had ‚no contact‘ during a several years. He sent me a letter to my house 2 weeks before I got married when I was 24. And respect my decision that I choosed my own path with the man who respects me and put me always on his priorities. His mother contact me 5 years later that he’s passed away. I wish to meet him in another life or another dimention one day. The energy was so big. I know we will still meet „one day“. It just that we need to wait a little longer than before. But I know we will. RIP R.
yep. felt it from first interaction w her. there was something special about her personality and the way she communicates which i noticed instantly and i just knew. the more we talked the more i knew i would never let her go. i dont feel that way about hardly anyone at all so she clearly built different . its really that simple
Hi, I wouldnt agree. There is always a type in our brain and we are searching for it. So if you are not his type he will keep you aside until he finds his type. I have been through that so I dont want it again. I want to be with someone who is my type and vice versa.
YES 💯
Learning men has been a journey.
I’m learning so much from you about men, women, relationships in general! I hope and pray I receive the man/husband I dreamt of as a little girl! I’m not giving up on it!
Thank you for being a teacher and helper from GOD! Keep up the AMAZING work! Sending love and hugs your way! Keep smiling!💜🙏🏽👑🌟💪🏽
You will, in Jesus name 😊
There is something about a Man in love ...that every woman can see if they looks closely..He smiles alot when thinking about the woman ..he glows like a shining star up in the sky ...Love is a beautiful thing, no one knows when it hits you hard and you say ..dammm how did she or he do that ..." ❤❤ that beats as ❤" ...Spread some love everyone. ".Love is a beautiful thing" #thinkingoutaloud
Thank u, good to know because I felt very insecure once I found out his preferences ...I guess it goes both ways... women have "preferences" as well but we do chose love n over our preference many times
If his eyes will stray, stay away.(my thoughts)
Sorry Stephon, one thing I’ll be praying for in addition, is a man that loves my full package.
It's one thing not to go around blind. It's another thing to stare. 🙏
I think that’s impossible. It’s human nature to look at something attractive or beautiful but what matters is what will you do about it. I’m a loyal person and have never cheated however I will look but keep it moving right after.
Right
I don’t know how much should be based on feelings…feelings fluctuate…and having known a lot of emotionally unstable people it’s hard for me to trust in the feelings of others being any solid indicator of commitment and/or lasting love and dedication
This is absolutely true! Gl
I understand your point. Stephan said a man falls in love with a woman who makes him feel good, excited, and inspired. A female IG creator explained that passion paired with confidence produces this effect on people. It comes down simply to having a purpose and hobbies. We exude excitement, competence, and fulfillment when we create purpose through work, relationships, and hobbies. It changes the way we feel about ourselves and the way we interact with others. That magnetizes people.
I love your delivery with your messages. It makes them very pleasant to receive.
2:40 - 2:55 ... totally agree... we all know inside what v want...and just wait for the right person everyone...one day u will remember that it was worth a wait...dont hustle...wait for divine timing and keep praying..God is much much bigger then our lives, problem, whole universe etc etc..
Although I appreciate your wisdom and I understand exactly what you were conveying in the video, the thought process behind it is unsettling to me. I understand what you mean that he can overlook the fact you don’t have big breasts because he sees something within you that fulfills more than just that desire, I get that, but for him to turn around and feel the need to look at those same types of women that he normally goes for from time to time to get his sexual desire satisfied is the part I don’t get. Bc yes I get that he’s with you because you check the rest of his boxes which allows him the ability to bypass your lack of physical traits he actually prefers, but to then have to fill the need of internally “getting off” on just that type of woman from time to time, well damn that’ll make even the most confident woman a little insecure when it comes to her security in knowing she’s the full thing for her man. From the man’s logic it seems like “I love you for x,y,z (which is more than likely smart, intelligent, nurturing-all the qualities that would make a woman wifey material) but sexually I still desire the big breasts.” Bc it’s not a secret SOME men marry women that are “marriage safe” meaning the women that has the wife qualities, a few of what I described above, bc she’s more likely to be accepted by friends/family, not accepted in the sense that they like her, but accepted in the sense that she’s not “controversial” I’ll say. You know as in the conversation about the “modest woman” vs the “hoe” and b4 someone comes for me saying that word I don’t think any woman is a hoe, that’s just the argument why some men choose to marry the “modest” woman bc he believes her image is more acceptable to his cohorts. But then a good of the time is the same man that cheats on her for the “hoe” which is the woman he actually prefers however he wouldn’t marry her bc she doesn’t fit his approval community.
You are so correct in bringing this up. I have personally witnessed this happen over and over again.
Yes, we'll said. Resonance
👏 same way suh.
Men are gonna look...it's in their DNA...I also look too. If I see a good looking man I am gonna look and think things but I don't do it to make him feel inadequate...we both agree humans in general are gonna look..
What you said is valid! I also very much appreciate Stephen even included the insecurities part because that could definitely come up. But there are SO many happy couples where the deeper in love you become, the more you truly become each other’s dream and the fantasies are released. Now some men can’t be changed one way or another but I personally try to focus on the best possible outcome. Keep the faith, god bless.
This is a good video, I would add that "listening" and "respecting" what he's expressing are equally as important and a factor in finding "the one" for a man! Obviously it's a 2 way street and it works both ways! Bless those men and women who do!
It helps. It's hard to fight insecurity
I disagree on this one. Over time not being his type eroded my self worth and he ended up not staying loyal so he could experience his type. Now we are divorced, that played a big part in it. You have a type for a reason, stick to it
Agree 💯
He may not choose big breasts because you give him the right feeling, but when he meets another girl who has big breasts and right feelings too, he will switch to another girl.
Yes thats a serious issue is he is not content. You can do your best, but at some point if he still is lusting for other women, you cant change him only he himself. Never wait like that by giving him the sighn that everything is ok
100%. Part of the reason I divorced my ex husband I was never his type everyone else could turn his head I couldn't lol
Thank you for saying it!
That's why feelings alone can't sustain a long-term relationship. Material attributes do, e.g. looks, financials. ofc morals matter too.
Exactly. I have a male friend who married a woman who wasn’t his physical type but he fell in love with her for many other reasons. They just got divorced. In the end it wasn’t sustainable.
No way its me and only me pick one!
What if it is the typical man that chooses a women they are not very much attracted to as marriage material? I would not recommend that path, I was not my ex type, he chose me specifically cause I was not that bad and for him I was the one to stay with. But that was always a problem, he was trying to change me, I have always been skinny, he wanted me with more meat in my bones, I have always trained strength but I can't put on any muscle mass, and he was always criticizing that, I always felt less for him, never again I will be with a man to whom I am not his type!
Stay Strong, Confident, and Beautiful inside and out in the best way possible.
He choose you😘
Such a intriguing video❣️🔥🔥🔥 Yes, I agree. I think opposite of each other really does attract. True Real Love conquer everything! ✨💫
You definitely gave me some clarity, your an awesome teacher. 👏👏👏
I was thinking about you wearing purple early this morning!💜🌟👑
GOD BLESS YOU, MAN OF GOD!🙏🏽THANK YOU, LORD IN ADVANCE!🙌🏽
Your videos are very informative.Thanks for helping us women out.
That’s so true. It was like that with my father and mother.
Thank you Stephan! If anything, this shows that we should be our (best) selves. Shrinking yourself can make you miss out
Amen 🙏🏾
A guy who looks around is a cheater. Seen this myself A guy who refuses to look at other girls does not cheat. So you dump the looker and be witj non looker. If guy is constantly searching for another he is looking to cheat if a guy does not look around he is not interested in finding another person for cheating. Trash men cheaters always looking everywhere they will only bring suffering, forever love is the one who is not attracted to other people at all because he thinks that you are the most attractive one from all others.
Agree 💯!!!
Needed to hear this!! Thank you Stephan ❤
YES and they are emotionally unavailable
Thanks I am that woman who feel that way but thanks to you I truly believe now that I'm the one like he often tells me and show me.
When he loves you, he needs to not be glancing or gazing on other women who has what you don't have.
This made me feel a lot better. thank you!
When a man can't show me he can provide or if it's just something I don't want with them then they need to stay out of my face.
Okay my son's father always expressed that to me of 15 years we were together. He expressed it verbal, in writing etc. We were engaged. I even asked him, why he wants to be with me. He said he knew he wanted to marry me since he first saw me. He expressed he liked every bit of me,even our craziness and that it was even hard to explain what he was feeling. That went on for 15 years..But, he still end up marrying someone else even during when we were supposedly trying to work things out🤷♀️. I forgave him and just want him to be happy. Of course, I was sad, disappointed...but, all I can do is continue wish him well and forgive myself and him.
He should have enough manners not to look in front of his date as its bad breeding
Thank you Stephan for this video answered a question I’ve always had. Blessings 🙏
Thanks for sharing. So nice of you. I’m just being aware of it, even though I’m not wondering if I’m or not a type of any man. I wish i need those advices in a near future
some men are just plain players. no matter what you are. they never change
These clips are genius!!
Stephan, I LOVE your videos and this one in particular, I'm glad you laughed along with, probably, a lot of us. Anyway, you are so interesting to listen to and your videos are inspiring and helpful.. Thank you for making them. If I had a brother, I would want him to be just like you! You are wonderful and so insightful. Thanks again! Keep the videos cominig and keep up the good work!
I luved the long version of this. I've watched it multiple times. Luv it!!!
Thanks Stephan for that video. You're absolutely right and vise verse for the women as well and tend to be indescribable and undeniable
Thank you for the word. I'm learning alot.
But you never explained why he's still mesmerized by those other women and being weak to flesh, when hes clearly found "the one".
I think this was mansplained.
You're not explaining how its disrespectful and how men need to be more disciplined. Visually lusting is cheating and I'm aware between that and just acknowledging another woman is attractive. BIG DIFFERENCE. You're asking women to tolerate disrespect. NAH.
If I gotta hold it down when I see the Kofi Soriboe's, so do you.
This is why I say never date anyone who isn't your type and don't let anybody date you and you're not their type.
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💯 Disrespectful!!!
Thank you Stephan
Crazy there's someone I consider to truly be my best friend. We didn't start out that way. We've been back and forth. Good and bad..... Have been in love with each other the whole time but have had ups and downs. For some reason won't turn away from each other. I felt soon after meeting him "that feeling". It was literally like a spark or a magnet. It's weird.... But we're still connected in that way. We understand one another and agree that were almost exactly alike. Lol Can't stay away from each other but can't understand or explain why. But we are most definitely always comfortable and happy in each other's company. Even in silence.
I was just talking to this random guy & he was listening to me. Then these 2 young skinny cute girls where walking up & he was 🎣he literally turned his back towards me as I was speaking & eyed them up & down right in front of me. I was thinking dang thats rude. As they passed he turned the other way & did it again as he watched them walk away. So
Disrespectful. I wasn't interested in him to begin with so I finished my story & as I walked away thought if that ever happens to me again I'm just going to walk away mid conversation. As I thought don't cast your pearls to swine.
It would be different if actually in a relationship and I would of definitely addressed it. If you look at a woman lustfully you've committed adultry with her in your ❤. I have struggled with my weight most my life some is medical reasons but that was straight up disrespectful. There is so much more to a person than looks & I was even talking about God & my son as this man did this. Like really. Part of it could stem from past experiences but dang. You may always find someone who looks better on the outside but it's who they are you gotta live with.
Thing is I knew immediately I was dealing with a boy not a man.
Idk what it is before I even said anything we work together it's just something. Just being around her makes my heart smile like my entire self changes. This has never happened to me in my life.
What if you're just convenient and it's not about him liking you for you?
Then there you have it. What are you asking??
@@user-zx5xw4yw2e wait did you make this channel? I ain't asking you.
@@mariiii-iii Doesn't matter. I'm trying to help YOU. Be grateful, not a smartass..
Man you hit the nail on the head thank you!
I think if he like big breasted women he should go after big breasted women. Looking at what you desire will of course make your woman feel uncomfortable
THIS is what I needed to know 😊
Thank you.
This was AWESOME 😍
Great content as ❤always! ❤
Great video
I truly agree to this , I met my husband on the 10 and on the 14 he already proposed to me and I was shocked ,
So, does it mean if you have the qualities he wants , he just wants to sleep with you? And wants nothing serious?
Excited, Inspired
Hmm 🤔 Going by feeling seems misguided. I understand there are some wonderful relationships built off this intuition and that’s great.
However, for those that experienced trauma please be careful in your feeling.
Heal and understand yourself COMPLETELY to were no one can take that inner peace.
I say this because those of us that are hurt tend to be drawn to the people that hurt us (think Depp/Heard case- she’s just like his mother) it’s a familiarity we seek. That is the love that we were accustomed to receiving. People of trauma internalize it differently so we become pleasers, people fixers, codependency issues with attracts toxic people like narcissists.
No thank you, if someone is an Ex for me, they are that for a reason. I don’t look at rear view mirror.
I love the way you crack yourself up💕😂
I wish you'd just 'say it' and not keep explaining why you have to say it. Just say it. We can take it.
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Love these short tidbits! Thanks💚💙
Thanks!
I listened until he said "he may like big breasted women and sometimes you'd find him looking at them etc etc" that means that person doesnt care about you.Too many things at stake here he may cheat on you and still come back home to you,this sounds like a man who would always have a side chick but would never leave his wife for the side chick. All i hear is an excuse for a man who is not content and doesn't know what he wants.
Finally someone saying some truth, I think he is saying whatever 😅sorry, and he is giving excuses to men with wondering eyes… exactly as you said who doesn’t know what they want
Noted Stephan .hugs 🫂 From Germany
What if I'm 18, and he's 38? Is this okay or should I pack up my bags and leave.
I love the way u explain it
Thank you
I don't know if I agree with this. Dating coaches and life coaches are telling me that you shouldn't depend on a man to make you happy and they are telling men the same thing so I don't understand. I am very confused. I also thought I made my ex happy for a great majority of the time!
Have never ever found that feeling and I am a women
Ok, thanks for sharing
I always dated guys who were 6 ft at least and with dark hair. Then this guy came along...5'8 and a ginger. The first time i heard him laugh...i was gone. There's just something.
👌🏾👌🏾👌🏾👌🏾👌🏾👌🏾👌🏾 On Point
So very true you
They don’t make you FEEL……….😂 how you described it …… lol
It’s true though ….. 🙏😘
@StephanSpeaksClips , what does it mean when a man says "When the time is right." In regards to marriage and doesn't give any sort of prerequisites to it?
So True
Stephan where's your wedding ring? 💍
It's just too much for me I'm out the game yall 😂😂😂😂😂😂
If he ask me to be serious will tell him how I feel about him but he will not tell me nothing that mean he not the real one for me
This guy I like told me that Im a wife material but no, Im not the one he wants and have accepted it. Im moving on
He told me I was his peace and mental ease, 1 year of dating and yet has ask me to be his girlfriend 🙄
What if she leaves you tho?
I am with that type of guy. He is tall and thin and I am not. Now, he tells me, that he does not like my weight. He thinks I am too fat. I was like this when I met him and started going out with him, a year ago. I don't know what to think. Should I stay or go?
If you want to change something about yourself, do it for you, not for him.
In my opinion,he doesnt love you,a man who love you will love everything about you,he will not try to change your appearance
@@anoushkaramdeal3197 His requirements when dating all women, is that he wants them to be at their optimal looking - boob job & tummy tuck. That is probably the 6 women ahead of me are no longer in their relationship.
Go!
Leave him.
How did breast come into the equation omg I had breast cancer so I am stuffed
Thanks
So I’m wasting my time with a guy who blocks his past girls and jumps to next to find better the right woman is worth waiting for 😢so I’m just same as those girls but guy been busy working have no time talking other girls
MOG! Is this funny? I know messing with you I Love it breaks up the tension if there is any and you break it down elementary so we can grab the meat of it or spit out the bones have a wonderful safe marvelous day 🙏❤️
I am Coach Samuel beautiful video#Stephan speaks
Then I wouldn’t be the one!! I wouldn’t give a damn! He needs to take his turning head to Go to the big breast women. And I promise you I will throw up the deuce✌🏾 That’s very disrespectful because now he has made her feel insecure because he’s looking at big breast. Kick him to the damn curve! Women you don’t have to settle for shit like that! Even if he chose you,his mind still is on big breast. And you bet your last dollar he’s going to cheat I don’t care how much he loves you
Agree 💯%
Totally untrue
That is Nit the Facts
It's like loving.a Denzel Washington
But you have a Loving man who isn't
A Denzel But you Love 💘 your man
For MORE Reasons then that!!! 🙏