thats interesting but I would love being able to choose what title you want. I know some people personally who don't mind what title or prefer wife or sister even being non-binary. so idk lol
The fact that Kayla attacked transphobes and said "you're not welcome here" made me really happy. I am friends with lots of trans and nonbinary people, love you fam!!
@@Crayolapup ok, good for you? no one wants you here, not even the youtuber herself, but you’re just giving her more money by commenting and continuing to watch her videos.
As a nonbinary trans person I choked up hearing you tell transphobes to leave. Thank you for your support... so many areas of gaming are toxic and dangerous for trans people and it's wonderful to hear the love and acceptance.
I also started crying in the club. Hearing Kayla so blatantly tell people to leave felt like unbridled acceptance, and I don't think I've ever felt that in the gaming community. So yeah, I feel you
I don't know how you've been treated, but 1 Those screaming slurs without provocation may be heard a lot, but there are lots of people just playing the game. Those are the majority, not the ones screaming slurs. Online I am not going to spend effort shouting against them, I just mute and/or find a new game, so you never hear my support, but know it is there. 2 If you have announced that you are trans, then everyone who doesn't care are not very likely to say anything. Those who do care are the ones who will make themselves heard, and those are also the bigots, so you have selected for bigots.
Using the words 'loser transphobes' tells you exactly the kind of person Kayla is. As a mental health nurse who has helped many suicidal transgender people over the years, it's great to see Kayla and the Sims 4 team supporting the LGBTQIA+ community xxx
as a trans dude i just loved how passionate she sounded while telling the loser transphobes to go away. i cried. thank you for making my life better every day simsie.
agh same I'm a closeted trans dude and I don't know what will happen in the future but it's so comforting to know lilsimsie will always be there, I really did tear up thank you kayla ♥
@@__Oscar There are tons of people out there supporting you! Even if the world can be mean, think about the people that do respect and support you for who you are. I hope you will be able to come out the way you wanted, and i hope you will have all the support you need! :) ❤️
I am Cis but I remember how making my character gay in the Sims when I was still closeted offered me an outlet to self expression and to be able to in at least a virtual reality be myself without having to face the pressures of the real world, so I understand how much this will mean to NB players. Can't wait for this update and for this to be available in other languages. I really appreciate how inclusive and open the community here is and how much of a safe space it is.
Damn I'm jealous. Gender neutral pronouns are tricky in my language so we probably won't get them for a while. (i just really hope we get them at all) I'm so mad you can't change the language in game i want to be able to play with them already.
@@postrachsmietnikow actually, you can change the language in your game! I thought it was impossible, but I really wished for it, so I looked it up and it's actually reallly easy. In your ea folder in your file explorer, the game will then generate a new folder with the name of the game in whatever language you seletcted. If you have any mods or cc, that you want in your game, you'll have to move those from your old folder into your new one, or, if you're downloading new stuff, you have to move them into your new folder as well. Personally, I wasn't able to delete the folder of my language, but that might just be a me-problem. I forgot how I did it though, but I'll look it up again and try to see if I can find the tutorial I used again
@@postrachsmietnikow I found not the tutorial, but the way again! It's really easy. You just go to Origin, go to the sims 4, open i's settings, then go to game features(?) (idk how it's called in english, my origin is in german, sorry, then you should see a small text giving you an epilepsy warning, and a checkmark where you can choose wether to activate Origin for the game, called general (?). You then see on the top something saying "advanced startup setting" you go there and can then choose the game language.
@@massive.nerd.potential thanks this is great! I looked it up and it seems like it could work. I'll give it a try when I'll have time! Is this a new option? I feel like at one point i searched everywhere for it but it just said that it was impossible unless i wanted to mess with game fails (which I'm usually to scared to do) Maybe I'm just bad at searching...
As a trans man myself, this video made me cry like 4 times. First off, let’s all give Kayla a big round of applause. Not for one second since starting to watch this channel did I believe anyone apart of her community is hateful, but having her come out and openly tell transphobes off was so incredibly to hear. So thank you for that girl. You are so wonderful Kayla, I truly hope you get everything you desire in life. Secondly, The Sims is quite literally my favorite game series of all time. And I cannot express how much joy it gives me that the developers are constantly taking steps to be more and more inclusive. Not just for the LGBQTIA+ community, but for literally everyone. They don’t care what story you want to tell or who you want to create. As long as you’re having a good time. And buying their games 😉 No but seriously, seeing this melts my heart. I hope they keep going, because they’re going in the right direction.
@@seza1695 “and the loser transphobes here, i wanna make it clear, that you are not welcome here! Dont know how you ended up here, but PLEASE, leave :)”
It's not normalizing it by having to bring it up every time though. Normalizing something means it's not brought up at all it just exists. You don't always bring up "Oh look at that cis straight guy." because that's just normalized. Having her sim, Blake, and having to constantly say "They use they/them pronouns." and keep bringing it up isn't normalizing. Normalizing something is like Loud House (a cartoon but a good example) where the best friend is black and then has 2 fathers.. one black and one white. It is NEVER brought up it's just something that exists. That's an example of normalizing something.
@@Eventide215 I think the main reason she does that is because of how the Sims currently works, she has to tell us that a sim is non-binary because there’s no way to us to really tell because of how the game currently works
@@Eventide215 i think it might also be like that because she wants to make sure people are respecting it. it sucks that its acknowledged so much but I think its necessary in a situation where people misgender that sim regularly
Being really honest, English speakers are SO lucky for having such a “welcoming” language for neopronouns and even more lucky for already having “they/them”. I’m a Portuguese native speaker and EVERYTHING in Portuguese is gendered. We’re still trying to “create” a more neutral language to include everyone but is SO HARD. We need to change and adapt so much and most people just reject any neopronoun because it honestly just sounds extremely unnatural to them. Just a quick example, verbs and adjectives are gendered. In English you would say “I’m tired” or “I’m a teacher” (two things that I actually am) and is already gender neutral. In Portuguese, “I’m tired” is “Estou cansadA” (feminine) OR “Estou cansadO” (masculine). Gender neutral could be (for example) “Estou cansadE” which actually didn’t really officially exists in our language. That’s why I understand how hard must be for the team to figure out how to update the game in all the other languages, is a unbelievable huge amount of work and I cannot thank them enough for trying and engaging on this, it means SO FUCKING MUCH
Turkish have the exact reversed situation: We have so few words to describe one's gender and only gender-neutral pronouns. For most Turkish speakers, the pronouns don't make much sense to think about when they're talking in English, so they're not aware of how big a change it's in the game and how important it is for the other language users. Since we're playing TS4 in English, hopefully, this would make them think a bit more about the importance of pronouns. + This is, of course, for the small portion of the society that's open to learning about it (since most of them are loser transphobes), but I believe it's still a very good step towards the future of the whole gaming industry.
Sim, e por isso acaba dificultando o costume de usar os pronomes neutros, pq vc tem que usar o e/o/u no final de todas as palavras, e não apenas mudar o she/he/they na frase :(
E fica mais difícil para pessoa que usa neopronouns porque o elu/delu, cansade, etc tem essa opção mas pra neopronouns precisa criar denovo de acordo com o pronome
also the portuguese problem: ive had spanish classes and there i noticed that BUT also there is another problem which there is in german too. When multiple male and female and diverse people are talked about in one big group its standard to use the male form of the word (for example Lehrer means a male teacher AND many male teachers AND many teachers of any gender while Lehrerin means a female teacher AND many female teachers) BUT now people are searching for a middle way (like Lehrer*innen and you speak it with a pause for the *) so thats annoying to use as its for some words so much longer and i wish we just a gender neutral form (also because there isnt a form EVER for nonbinary use, just male + female) i just want anything easy, even like Lehri which sounds kinda cute and a little bit childish but is still better than anything that gets officially approved rn
Honestly, all the latin languagues are like that and it’s just so damn hard to include inclusive words in our everyday life… I speak French and it’s the exact same for us… I’m glad some people are talking about and trying to figure out ways to make languages evolve 🙌🏼
Even for people who don’t identify as they/them, this opens up doors of opportunity for way more, new characters to be created. Like I’ve tried to create a character that was non-binary and was male at birth, but liked wearing feminine clothes and it just didn’t turn out as nice as I’d like and it kept misgendering the character. Good on them for giving us more options. If you’re against this, I don’t know why. You shouldn’t be against having more options in a game that’s built upon customization. And if you don’t ever want characters who are nonbinary or trans, etc. you shouldn’t use those options. Just don’t. It isn’t that hard to ignore it and move on. Clicking what is appropriate for your character shouldn’t be a huge deal at all. Idk, just my two sense
the people who are angry about this arent the kind to ignore, they're the kind who would be angry that somewhere in some distant country they've never even heard of, the king/president/prime minister is gay/genderfluid/trans, the kind who would start petitions if a kids show ever dared to include lgbtq+ characters, they're loud and annoying and hate everything that isn't 100% "normal"
I’m actually pretty excited about how this can help create many more stories and characters. I also think it will have ripple effects of acceptance for non-binary people
@@zoebenefer6149 I agree, I wouldn’t personally be using this as I only use she/her pronouns, but I’m glad they are including this for people who will use it and who knows. Maybe one day I’ll make a trans sim :)
Also I really like the fact that she doesn’t just call people homophonic if they’re just uneducated. She actually took the time to explain things. Because if you don’t know what transgender means, it doesn’t make you homophonic. If just means someone should explain what the word means. I wish more people took the time to explain things instead of just calling someone homophonic.
I'm so excited about this as someone who creates nonbinary pronouns, and I DO see how incredible this update is.... BUT ALSO... I am so going to create a sim that goes by "llama" and "llamaself" pronouns just for the pure fun of it.
literally have never been more proud to follow a youtuber between her and plumbella, omg. this made me so happy, its so important to know she has my back as a transmasc person who uses he/they
It does not set a good example. Calling people names just because they disagree with you on gender ideology is not okay. I believe trans gender people are worthy and deserve respect. I respect their pronouns and wish they have a happy life. But I don't agree that gender is a socialized construct and that there are no difference between men and women and that anyone who disagrees is a "loser transphobe," she is being way too harsh to people who may have a difference in opinion.
This is not something that affects me, personally. But I'm very glad that they're doing this because I know it's very important to a lot of people. I don't know why some people are against it. It's not like their pronouns are getting taken away. They can still play the game the same as before, there's just more choice now. I think that's a good thing. Thank you Sims team!
same.. i love it personally because it just means i get to play with more diverse sims.. now i'm nonbinary myself but i don't care what pronouns people use for me.. you can use she you can use they or he (i'm very loose with the base pronouns.. i however don't like deeper ones like Lady or Gentleman.. cuz i aint no Lady and i certainly aint Gentle.. but even then there are also exceptions to this rule.. if someone calls me a Queen i'm fine with that because i see it as more neutral anyways mainly due to Freddy Mercury so for me it's also an association thing kind of.. ) now i'm someone who also loves to play with a ton of different sims with different backstories.. one time i might create an Indian sim where as another time i might decide to go for a Russian sim. perhaps a sim from Congo or Brazil. it just spices up the stories that much more.. so being able to make a sim with whatever pronouns would be amazing because this just diversifies my sims even more !
I may be able to answer that (please don't ban me, they asked), I just need to know one thing first: What in your mind is the difference between a "he" and a "she"? What does a "he" have that a "she" cannot have and vice versa? If there is no such thing why not just have "they" for everyone? There is a reason there is a randomize button: to remove choices, because having to select a million different things before you can start playing isn't appealing to everyone. Also, if this is only for English they could have solved it so easily with just "they", but they spent all this development time that they can now not spend on other things.
I'm not in the LGBT community but I am a supporter because I believe everyone in this world deserves respect an understanding. While I don't always understand everyone, I always make an effort to be respectful, try my best to educate myself, and when it comes to gender, I definitely make an effect to respect what people would like to be called, because I think, "how would I feel if there were no she/her and everyone would just call me him" I wouldn't feel accepted, and I would feel like I'm not part of this world, and that would be hurtful, and depressing. I'm glad this happened in the Sims.
this is really encouraging to know that they are taking the time and care that this issue needs, I do hope that were is a option to use multiple pronouns. Like maybe you could pick up tp 3 and the game randomly decides which pronoun to use (which speaking from experience of using multiple pronouns I would like the randomness of it) I also hope there is a way to go back and change pronouns in cas after starting the game
I think with the cas.fulleditmode cheat it will be 100% be changeable, but I'm not sure about the normal Change sim option. Knowing EA, I assume this will be kinda disappointing too, and the cheat will be needed to change the pronouns
@@totalspiffage As someone who uses she/he/they, if they don't make a multiple pronouns feature my plan would be to put she for the first custom pronouns option, and he and they for the second/third options. It's not perfect, but it would mean that multiple pronouns would be used.
This shows us that indeed we can work together. I really love this. shows that they care for the most part. All of us should be safe to be as quirky as we want, and not feel shame for being such. You are still you even in the changes. every part of you is valid.
ive always appreciated how accepting and openminded Kayla is, and how she genuinely seems to care about the lgbtq+ community, ever since my best friend came out to me as genderfae, I've been more aware of the issues of gender neutral language and how discriminatory people can be simply because of a pronoun, I decided I didn't want my best friend to face that kind of discrimination when she comes over so I took the time to explain it to my mom (my siblings already knew about it) and she went from "wth does that even mean" to "OMG look, the gender neutral pronoun "iel" is being added to the french dictionary" (ngl I cried when I saw my mom being so accepting) ever since then I've been including my pronouns (just she/her, however I think that if cis people like me start including their pronouns in their bios, the stigma will lessen) in my bios
As a genderfluid bean, I appreciate 1) Kayla telling all of the buttholes to leave, 2) the game devs acknowledging why this needs to happen, and 3) that they are leaving room for customization. I do hope that they allow for customization after you finish creation in CAS. In game changes would be useful for fluid Sims, transitioning Sims, and birthed-in-game Sims.
i have thought about this! i am AFAB and came out at 17, i would like to play my childhood self in the sims and be able to make that change or "come out" and have those extra customizations without using mods in the future
In Swedish we have a third pronoun, she in Swedish is “hon” and he is “han”, and then we also have “hen” which is gender neutral, so it’s gonna be really interesting to see this update in Swedish!
They actually mentioned using hen for Swedish in the live stream! I don't know how long it will take for this update to come in all the different languages, but I hope they go ahead and do it quickly for languages that already have an obvious solution like this
Spanish is such a gendered language, that even the word "non-binary" has a gendered translation (No binario/no binaria). The current solution for this is using an "e" instead of an o/a, but that'd mean changing every single verb/adjective/etc in the text boxs
Maybe a solution would be just text boxes for personal pronouns (though there are fewer in Spanish anyway) and a checkbox for either removing the gendered vowel or subbing the neutral E with all custom sets?
Even for the people who are like “we don’t need this.” Then don’t use it. It’s an option, a choice. By not offering a CHOICE, you’re forcing someone to stick with one person’s idea. Use it, or don’t. Let people be happy.
@@jess6882 Then you just, put she/her or he/him as the Sims pronouns when the pronoun option comes up??? But OTHERs do want this update, as not everyone likes using those pronouns, and when you want to play as yourself and you're non-binary, you'd probably prefer if the game didn't misgender you whenever you raised a skill or got a promotion. It's good for other people. If you don't like it, then ignore it. It's an option other people enjoy and wanted.
@@jess6882 it's literally an option though..? it's shown in the video that you can choose she/her, he/him, they/them pronouns and customize if you want. You can still have she and he pronouns but have an option for they/them or other pronouns. It's really not that deep..
Exactly! Just because one person doesn't want an option, that doesn't mean no one can have that option. A Sims guru isn't going to put a gun to your head and force you to use this feature
i wonder if they’ll update existing some townies to have nonbinary pronouns, like for example i remember people speculating that morgyn from RoM might be nonbinary
In Brazilian portuguese the pronoun discussion is still a little out of sight for the "common cis citizen" even the ones in the LGBTQ+ community, but will be very pleasant to hear Elu(neutral pronoun in portuguese) to my own simself
Yes! (Fellow Brazilian here) I was thinking about this as well, it’s gonna be hard bc every word is gendered, even “bus” it’s “o ônibus”. So if they can pull it off, I think it’s gonna be a great deal for nonbinary people and gender equity 🥺❤️
I’ve actually seen a post with alternate ideas for daughter/son, wife/husband, aunt/uncle, etc., but it was in English. We don’t talk about it enough in the realm of Portuguese language and it’s much easier to solve this problem in English than in Portuguese, so I really hope that the Brazilian gender neutral language is more discussed.
Yes, as a brazilian, I'm really curious to see how they are going to make this work. I'm a cis woman but I think it's very important to include everybody in the game, so everyone can have some fun and also fell included
Because portuguese is a language that came from Latin, all the words have a gender, and finding ways to try to get around this is very nice for everyone
i’m so nervous about how they will translate the pronouns! i’m russian, and not only are all of our nouns and adjectives gendered, ‘they’ as a pronoun is strictly plural.. so while i wait on that i’m still incredibly excited by this news, thank you the sims team and thank you Kayla!
This! As well as maybe a function to change what pronouns are being used at any time. Like, say someone goes by he/they. It may be wishful thinking but if they could switch it up just to be more inclusive of people who use more than one label, it would be so cool
These pronouns are so hard to keep up with for me…..I only see reference to the changes etc on the internet. I’m 47 and live in a small town so we have just never encountered an instance where I’ve been corrected when addressing someone. I will say that if I’m unsure I avoid a gender specific pronoun to be respectful and avoid offending anyone. Just remember there are people like me out here that would never intentionally want to harm feelings…..I’m just not well versed in all these changes with pronouns and I’m kinda old and slower to adapt lol. I love you all regardless no matter what you have chosen ❤️
@@queerlibtardhippie9357 i mean there absolutely can be but there are also a lot of small towns where there are not people who (at least openly) use they/them. There's a multitude of reasons I could list if you want but it's not impossible that someone in a small town hasnt experienced neutral pronouns before! (Coming from a person who had to explain they/them pronouns to their small town grandma since she didn't know what they were)
It's sad she resorts to name calling over disagreements on gender. I respect trans people and will use their pronouns no problem, but I don't agree with transgender ideology that says gender is all fake and a made-up social construct, nor that you can just identify as a woman and that instantly makes you a biological female.
@@courtneywaters-jenkins2601 nearly nobody genuinely thinks these things. You can have disagreements with trans people but that's different than disagreeing with people being trans. I'm non binary and I disagree with other trans people on many things, we're normal people like you or simsie. Furthermore it doesn't make you transphobic, well it depends on the opinion. If you're not transphobic why are you concerned with transphobic people being called losers?
The English only (for now) thing makes sense. Sometimes it's really easy for us to forget how different other cultures and languages are. The gender spectrum looks a lot different across cultures so our gendered language solutions won't always be appropriate when localizing a game for different regions.
Yeah, that's what was my first thought. I'm a game translator into Russian, and currently even "they" pronounce is a big headache for translators, as you often don't know if it is about one or several people (in any smaller than AAA games you can have a great lack of context, and sometimes even AAA don't give all the needed info). And Russian doesn't have gender-neutral pronounces, and, as Spanish, have ALL words gender-tagged, therefore, if sometimes game designers didn't think of a character's gender and used "they", and then used some gendered pronounce later, it could make great mess. We have more neutral one, which is close to "it", but you just don't say it for people, it is as offensive as it is in English (it is about things, not people, and not all the things, but the ones that are "middle gender"). And to fit it as tags with such a changable language as Russian is pretty hard even with his/her only. Yet, I see, they are doing it right, and it's very good. I would say The Sims always had pretty good translation, at least into Russian, and it shows translators have a lot of info about game context, which is quite rare in the industry. Even though custom pronounce are not relatable to me, I'm respectful for such attention to the translation process.
@@Neyobe Yeah, eventually spanish can change to adap for a neutral pronoun with their own adjectives, verbs etc, etc. That can happen in a century probably??
I just want to say that as a trans person, I have so often felt like a controversy in every space I walk into. RUclipsrs are often on the fence about us. They will say "I support them," but they will never disrespect those in their community who don't. What you did in this video was a first for me. The no-nonsense attitude you had about it made me happy. From the bottom of my heart, thank you for that.
Why would they disrespect those who don't support it? lol. that's like going against your own words. if you want them to respect your gender identity, etc etc, then you have to respect them too! this goes for anything. Such as religion. If you are Christian, Muslim, Atheist, or anythign else, you're not going to ask someone or some community to respect you if your going to disrespect them. I apologize if I misread your comment or if I sounded rude/homophobic/transphobic. I only mean this with kindness and respect!
@@averagetwink. i’m a Christian, our beliefs are, “love everyone” “love the person hate the sin,” gay is a sin, so what does that tell u? we don’t hate gay people, we hate the sin, we love everyone, sure, some christian’s will make u feel bad and will be homophobic and when a lgbtq person is rude or disrespects my religion when i respect them, i go off on them which i try not to do, i’m sry that u feel that way but u should look into it more w religions, trust me, Christians aren’t that bad, we try our best to be accepting and it’s sometimes hard
@@shrodingerkat3296 i’m a Christian, our beliefs are, “love everyone” “love the person hate the sin,” gay is a sin, so what does that tell u? we don’t hate gay people, we hate the sin, we love everyone, sure, some christian’s will make u feel bad and will be homophobic and when a lgbtq person is rude or disrespects my religion when i respect them, i go off on them which i try not to do, i’m sry that u feel that way but u should look into it more w religions, trust me, Christians aren’t that bad, we try our best to be accepting and it’s sometimes hard “disrespect” if that’s how u see every christian towards lgbtq ppl, then u should check again, i’ll say this again, “i’m a Christian, our beliefs are, “love everyone” “love the person hate the sin,” gay is a sin, so what does that tell u? we don’t hate gay people, we hate the sin, we love everyone, sure, some christian’s will make u feel bad and will be homophobic and when a lgbtq person is rude or disrespects my religion when i respect them, i go off on them which i try not to do, i’m sry that u feel that way but u should look into it more w religions, trust me, Christians aren’t that bad, we try our best to be accepting and it’s sometimes hard” so pls don’t be blind to the truth, always look deeper into stuff to know the truth
As a nonbinary sims player who gets deadnamed/misgenders a lot, it really does put a smile on my face that the sims team is looking out for us :) and a big thank you to momo!!
It hurts me to see my dad call my sibling their full deadname whenever I call (I live in another country) I wish I could be there for them, if I feel like that I can't imagine the way they feel :(
Hi! I’m a teacher and I’m older. I’ve lived most my life with pronouns being strictly she/her and he/him. I didn’t know about more pronouns until recently (say the last 5 or so years) and I’m starting to get students in my school with pronouns I was not familiar with. The sims coming out with this is going to be a terrific educational experience for me! Just this video has taught me so much (ze pronouns is new to me). Playing the sims will help me understand this more and connect better with my students.
As someone who uses they pronouns, I just want to say thank you for educating yourself, and being excited to learn! Showing your students signs of respect, and inclusivity will mean the world to them! They need that safe space somewhere that they might not get at home, and being in your class will be a huge relief of the stresses that puts on them. ❤️❤️
Thats cool, and its relatable to be learning. Ze zir is a bit different, and so is seeing how it is applied to different languages too. So its still a learning curve here too
As someone who uses they/them, hearing Kayla tell transphobes to get out... it actually made me cry because I know Kayla would use my preferred pronouns, even though no one else in my family will.
Hi, please feel adopted by the sims family and myself. Found families are valid and one day you will find a irl familiy who will love and respect you how you want and deserve.
It's oke to not want to share your gender identities with other people, don't see it as closited which locks you in but as something personal an amazing you get to share at some point with the rest of the world
It's saddening to see her get aggressive over other people's opinions which do not harm her. I respect trans people but not everyone understands it. No need for name-calling.
@@courtneywaters-jenkins2601 Being transphobic isn't an opinion. Denying someone's identity or purposefully misgendering someone is harmful, not an opinion. It's harmful to Kayla in the same way it would be harmful to me if I saw it happening to my friends or family. She cares. It's called the paradox of intolerance. Not understanding it on its own doesn't make you transphobic. She literally spelled this out. She gave a very basic, easily understandable background to it and differentiated between those who just may not know or understand, and those who explicitly believe this isn't a big deal or think it's wrong, amoral, whatever. It doesn't directly affect me or how I play but holy crap, how amazing is it for those that do? Talking about it is so important, in ORDER for people to understand.
as someone who uses they/them, this is huge. when i first got animal crossing and my friend told me i wouldn't have to worry about pronouns and (another) very gendered game, i cried. it's such a small change that means so, so, so much to a lot of people
honestly, simsie making her channel a safe place, making it clear that transphobes arent welcome, including various pride flags in her builds,, making inclusive characters ?? i super appreciate it, thank you kayla
this update is something that i've been hoping for for years, as a neopronoun and they/them user. The fact that I can now actually see myself in the sims means so much to me.
My oldest child is 23. They stopped playing The Sims 4 years ago because the sims kept mis-gendering their self-sim. Being non binary is almost never reflected in modern media. I am super happy about this update. It won't change my game play, but it WILL make my oldest feel included, seen and acknowledged.
Exactly! It DOESNT change the gameplay! So why are, you know, transphobes acting like inclusivity is affecting them in ANY way. I hope your oldest can enjoy their game again!
i am so glad they will get that!! that's absolutely awesome. my partner is nonbinary and i haven't been able to make them a sim because they're uncomfortable with being misgendered even in-game. i'm very excited to be able to add them to my save!!
one thing I'm really REALLY badly hoping for is the ability to have multiple pronouns. I'm not entirely sure how it would work or be implemented, but it would make me feel so validated. I use she/they pronouns and I'm questioning my gender right now (feeling something slightly similar to genderfluid but not quite) and personally depending on the day but also in general, I prefer to be referred to with both (but don't feel particularly negative about only one pronoun set being used for me) but since I only just came started accepting myself around a month ago, being able to use multiple pronouns would be SO validating and make me really happy
Same! I thought custom meant being able to use she/they or they/she or he/they/she, etc. I go by she/they and I think I will have to choose one or the other to make my Simself.
I use she/they pronouns too, I'm planning on doing like she and them and hers, just so it changes here and there. And I imagine we can change pronouns whenever, which will be nice
I imagine you will be able to fill it in for a specific context (possessive as an example) So you can put in different ones but they will only be used in that form
OR maybe a option with like; Demi girl/boy for those ones and like gender fluid. So they don’t need all the options but it would make it so the game knows “oh hey use these pronouns interchangeably”
I hope they allow for mixed pronouns where you can for example have something like she/they, he/they, they/zim etc. but it’s amazing that they’re taking this into consideration
I feel like that’s a bit too much to ask due to programming, like when would they be interchanging them ? But hopefully you can just decide to change them for existing characters whenever you feel like it and it doesn’t lock you into a choice.
@@thepolitegamer1966 It doesn't stand for anything. It's what's referred to as a 'neo-pronoun'. It's basically just another pronoun for people to use instead of She/her, he/him, they/them, etc. Hope this wasn't a really bad explaination, im not the best at them :)
@@thepolitegamer1966 just like some people dont think she or he fit them, some people dont like they/them and neos are there for those people. Some people still like they/them and more gendered pronouns and just use neos as a bonus
If someone doesn’t like that they’re adding this, they don’t have to use it! If you don’t know why it’s being added, it’s not for you! I often play as myself in the sims and use she/her pronouns, so I wouldn’t likely get a ton of use out of this feature, but I’m not arrogant enough to think the entire game should only revolve around what I want, and I know a ton of people would love this feature, so I’m all for it!
it's the same people that were complaining about the skintone update and how afro hairstyles are being updated to look better and more natural. The Sims is a sandbox game, you can choose which feature you don't use. We should just be happy that people are getting more ways to play with their favourite game and that this amazing game is being more inclusive every day
@@colin2316 I don't want to start a fight, but as I said in my own comment section (where I just got insulted for politely stating my opinion), I would like it if it was something that can be disabled in the game settings. If people want to use the feature, they can use it, but I don't want to have it popping up in my game and would just click "off" and there, no problem. Like everyone is saying it's a game and everyone wants to play it their way, if it's a mandatory thing, it limits my freedom of playing the game and that's not fair. EA is gonna add this feature mandatory, we all know that, and it's not fair to other players. Why do I have to agree with something I don't want to agree with? And why do LGBT people attack someone for disagreeing with them? The world needs to tolerate them, why can't that community reciprocate and tolerate people with different views on the world?
I'm not trans or nonbinary, but I'm so excited for this update. I like making my sims diverse in their sexuality and gender, and I know this is so important to so many people!
Yeah, me too! I don't have a big group of friends, and don't have any friends I'm aware of who are trans or nonbinary. I consider educating myself about people in the rainbow community to be very important, and look forward to introducing realistic social diversity into my sims
If you don’t feel the need for this, then don’t use it. As a trans male this means a lot to me and the trans and nonbinary community, having these extreme binary boxes forced on you especially in your comfort game sucks. If you have a problem with it or if you’re offended then just go play another game. And the fact that they added CUSTOM PRONOUNS is so awesome. If you got a problem with neopronouns then sucks to be you🤷 all words are “made up”. Thank you Sims team for doing this and taking your time on it so it goes right. It really confused me for a long time why they put nonbinary pride flags in the game but never neutral pronouns. Thank goodness they’re finally doing it!
I didn't understand they/them. You explained that perfectly. I am big in wanting to understand. I want to be happy in my skin and I want the same for everyone else, and the more I understand the better. Now to learn more!
As someone who’s playing around with their gender, I really appreciate how Kayla broke down the use of pronouns in our everyday sentences and shed light on the importance of gender neutral language. I’m not that big into the sims but I feel like this is something that would draw in a lot more players (including myself) and bring some new excitement to such an important community. Kayla’s super cool for dedicating a whole video to this and I hope she knows that :)
In french we litteraly have two new pronouns for Non-Binary People : iel (combinaison between il (he) and elle (she)) and iels for the plural,and i think this and the pronouns update is a great step
This is literally sooo cool. As someone who is really scared about taking of pronouns bc of the Spanish NB community. I think is really cool that you guys have found a new pronoun to make up for it. It upsets me how bad the actual solution for non binary pronouns is right now in Spanish; but that’s literally it. But I think this solution in French (as someone who can speak some of it) it doesn’t sound nearly as bad.
@@LemonBarchie and for the verbs,when we use past there are many conjugations,like composed past that accords with its gender but there is also the imperfect wich dosen't,so yeah,adding a pronoun in french isn't that big of a deal 😁
@@Ethan-ee8rv she made the distinction between people who don't really understand but are willing to get with the program, and people who willfully don't want to learn (aka bigots)
@@Ethan-ee8rv oh that's pretty straightforward I think. Bigot = someone who treats others with hostility/intolerance because they don't wish to rethink their beliefs or prejudices even in the face of new information
@@claudehu3169 If people actually hate trans people then of course they’re bigoted and wrong, but I’m just talking about those who are fine with trans people but don’t really understand the need for custom pronouns. They don’t deserve to be bullied or murdered.
As a trans man, this is f***ing amazing. I don’t even need this but seeing this much representation makes me feel happy, and thank you simsie for being such a good ally, it’s ridiculous. Also, as a fellow Floridian I’m sure you’ve noticed it’s a hard area to be in as a trans person as it’s not the most progressive place in terms of politics. Glad to know there are sane and empathetic Floridians left lmfao No but really, you give me hope for the future Kayla
As an LGBTQ Floridian I agree! I live in the worst part of Florida when it comes to homophobia and transphobia and it's absolutely exhausting. That's why I'm glad to have spaces like this where I can feel included
Being trans in Florida is difficult oml, I just stopped telling new people that I’m trans here because it’s dangerous at times(I’ve gotten violent reactions). It makes me happy as well to see that other people in Florida are trans friendly!
What people might not understand is that literally the Sims is a game where queer people have been playing out lives it's too dangerous for them to live irl for 20 years. This update matters to us. It really does.
I am a straight cis woman, but somehow your comment made me cry. I just cannot imagine how difficult the life must be when you are gay/trans/non-binary. How many troubles you face apart from everyday troubles. You are strong. Sending lots of love to all folks from LGBTQIA+ community ❤️🥺
(I’m not an English speaker, if i said something wrong, I’m sorry) I think what most of the simmers who complains that “ea doesn’t care” (aside for the lack os representation in media and general) or that they’re taking so long doesn’t understand is: the sims is played in lots of countries that doesn’t speak English, i’m brazilian and here we don’t have an official neutral pronoun, we use “ele” (for he) and “ela” (for her), some of us uses “elu” for them/they, but it’s not official, and I think other countries use some variants too. The point is, it’s hard to think how can they translate every pronouns in a right and respectful way to all of the countries. For example: i think that some people use ze/zie, but if u put your sim to the gallery, how can they translate ze/zir if we don’t even have pronouns to represent someone that uses they/them? It’s a hard thing, and I’m really interested to see all of these, but we have to be pacients, and remember that the sims is not an English game only.
That actually does makes sense with the translation issues. I hope it can be available to those in other countries, though. I'm sure the Sims team will figure it out.
This is true translation for other languages will be really hard. I don’t see that happening in polish because we do conjugation of every word. Yeah and also just using sim name isn’t solving this problem because names are also specific to gender and also surnames so there are two types of the same surname feminine and masculine.
@@griffinthefrog9262 o mais provável que seja é terminar as palavras com gênero com X ou @, eu quero muito que consigam colocar o pronome neutro e os neos mesmo
as a trans demiboy this update makes me super happy but some things they should add either in the pronoun update or a diff update are any / all pronouns just their name (for the people who use just their name) orientations (sexuality, gender, romantic or sexual prefs like aro, ace, poly etc) binders (either as decor or in the clothing to make the afab characters chests flatter) pride flags (custom ones n more options)
I feel like my stupidity really showed when i clicked on this video. I instantly thought the pronouns were gonna be in simlish and were confused on how people would even know what it says.
As a trans-masculine, non binary person who's family doesn't support them, the first three minutes made me cry out of happiness. Thank you for being a safe space.
Couldn’t you not say me? Like I’m not tryna be pronoun phobic but I’m from NC and I’m not around much people who have different pronouns than she/her or he/him, so I’m still get the hang of it. But anyways, couldn’t you not say me? Because its not relating to any specific pronouns? (Also sorry that your parents don’t support you…but maybe they will someday…?)
@@that1liza881 that’s basic grammar. You can’t say the first three minutes made she cry out of happened or he cry out or they. They are talking in first person because they are talking about their self
@@that1liza881 huh? You want them to replace the word me?? even if your pronouns are she/her or he/his I don’t think you could change that word in this context and also have it still be grammatically correct. maybe do some research about pronouns, I don’t think that’s what they meant at all
I'm non binary and my family don't support me either. I'm over here with almost tears of happiness with the love, acceptance and recognition Kayla gives us
This has 3k comments so I'm sure this will fade into the background BUT I NEEDED to say how much I loved and appreciated your explanation at the beginning and telling people to leave if they refuse to just be respectful of people's preferences.
I wholeheartedly agree with you on Gender, however, do you truly believe that “You’re not welcome here” is representing an open-minded perspective that seeks to show respect even to those who do not?
When you try to include both wolves and sheep, you will only get wolves. Allowing bigoted people in a space that is meant to be welcoming inherently makes the space unsafe for a huge number of people. It's called the paradox of tolerance
@@DeianiraJax I understand entirely what you mean, and share your concern, however still, If we show respect to those that don't than don't we have a chance of providing bigoted people an example of what respect looks like, instead trying to fight fire with fire?
I'm so glad you are so supportive about this update. I just came from a Reddit post that was just full of microagressions, mostly "great for people that care. I don't care. Doesn't affect me. Would rather have them work on other things personally". Some people can't see outside the scope of how things personally affect them. Like imagine if people said this in response to the skin tones update or because they let you choose genders. Sims is about SIMulating real life and everyone should be able to recreate themselves or their friends in the game! Also, the fact that minorites can no longer see themselves represented in ANY form of media without people crying "PANDERING!" is just so so sad. It's a free update... Mostly for the people who already own the game who gave been asking for the ability for years. Stop trying to devalue or invalidate the representation that is important to some people. When I grew up, there was no representation and I felt alone... Like something was wrong with me. That I couldn't tell anyone. If I saw someone like me on TV, I would have felt so much better. People don't understand how important these things are.
How is it bad that some people don't care? Not everyone is transgender or will make transgendered Sims. This doesn't add much gameplay outside of textboxes and won't affect my gameplay because I do not make a non-binary Sim. It's very valid to want them to work on other things when they don't care about something else. And that does not make them transphobic, they just have other needs.
@@courtneywaters-jenkins2601 because it’s very clearly being said to down play or dismiss it. Recognizing a whole group of people as existing is pretty important to many people. Essential to representing themselves and people like them. Imagine them only adding dark skin tones now and people were like “I’d rather they work on other stuff” as if they can’t both exist. Also, people were going way beyond “I don’t care”. But if you don’t care, then keep it to yourself maybe
@@kstar1489 I see what you mean, but it is true that it is not important to everyone, as straight individuals do not use "pronouns" or need to choose them, and they are not transphobic losers because they wanted other things to be worked on. The Sims 4 has very much been slacking in terms of gameplay but they continually add CAS and build stuff which is clear that when people were demanding they add pronouns it does take away from gameplay because they have to do so much coding and research.
I absolutely love how she just “your transphobic. You are not welcome” I have never heard her say anybody is not welcome to her channel. I love how willing she was to say “hey. This is a pro trans channel. If you disagree. Well leave” the fact that I feel the need to love the fact she said that makes me kinda hurt I feel like you shouldn’t have to be proud of somebody for simply accepting trans people cause it’s such a simple thing. Yet I do because how many people seem to hate trans people for simply existing and wanting respect
i’m pretty sure she doesn’t talk a lot like that on her channel but she does often on her stream! anyone being offensive or hurtful in the chat gets banned or muted for a time by her mods too
It's very sad that people hate trans people simply for existing and wanting respect, that's for sure. They deserve respect like anyone else. But I am disappointed that Kayla resorted to name calling for people having a slight disagreement with her. She needs to respect other people's opinions. I was shocked to hear that she would alienate other people for having different opinions on the transgender debate. I can respect her pro-trans stance while still disagreeing with her, and she should do the same and set a good example for the kids who watch her. I disagree with her and I do not hate trans people and will respect them and their pronouns and such, but I don't agree with the ideology that gender is all just a fake social construct and that there is no difference between males and females, and that we should let biological men compete against biological women as that is unfair.
@@courtneywaters-jenkins2601 LMAO, is always "respect other peoples opinion" when it comes to shit like transphobes and stuff like that. if you feel butthurt about trans people having a safe space in here you are more than free to leave.
The Sims is a groundbreaking game. The fact that two dudes or two girls can have a child sharing both parents' genetics is incredible. As a cis gay dude I always felt underrepresented in gaming and media. I can only imagine what it must be like for the countless trans folk. I'm glad to see an update like this. Thank you, EA! Thank you, EA!
I can see this update being EXTREMELY healing for people who might not be able to use their name or pronouns around their family or in their community. The Sims is an escape from reality for a lot of people, and it’s SO important to let people be their authentic selves. Very well worded and educational video… looking forward to this update!
as a closeted trans guy i totally agree. i always play as a male character in games but then being able to put my pronouns in will make me really happy!
Not gonna lie this news made me cry a little. As someone who uses they/them as well as it/xe/other neopronouns I was so worried they weren't gonna give us the option to add custom ones and it was just gonna be the three most "common" sets [he/she/they]. I'd love to see it extended to fit the entire "usual" format for pronouns, ie they/them/their/their/themself for those who have more complex pronoun sets, as well as maybe an ability to save sets for future use?? The ability to switch between multiple sets would also be cool to see. Super excited about the future of this 🧡🧡🧡
@@mornasev yes same!! seeing cis people actually doing something for our community and not just saying they support us makes me so happy, i feel like the world is evolving a little bit
I have a question. What kind of gender is usually paired with "it" and "xe"? I know about the basic ones, like he, she, they, and cis female/male, transgender, genderfluid, non-binary, but I don't usually hear about it/xe pronouns, and this made me curious
@@Renikee pronouns don't equal gender but i get what you mean :) it/its pronouns are often used by agender people and by non binary people, and all neopronouns are gender neutral
This is so cool ! I remember being a tween and putting my sims in gay or lesbian relationships in the FISRT sims game. I'm bi and the sims are bi by default, it's entirely up to you, the player, to chose what their sexuality is . And as a young bi who felt the bi erasure really hard, I remember that playing the sims felt SO validating... I'm so excited for the younger players to learn about neopronouns and themselves through the sims... Changes like that have a massive impact on our culture. I know it's gonna be amazing for the trans / enby players but also for every other players who will learn through this gameplay. I can't wait for the update, and even if it's not gonna be perfect, it's clear that the sims team in charge of the project are doing it with care and the best intentions in mind.
I’m a cishet woman, I don’t know many non-binary/anyone who uses neopronouns irl (purely because of where I live and that fact that I’m an introvert who doesn’t meet many people lol) but I still appreciate this update a lot. I can’t say it affects me much as I’m not the audience that is now newly seeing themselves in this game, but it is still something I am so glad to see in a game that is supposed to be catered to everyone. This is huge for such a massive game and hopefully it’ll only get better ❤️❤️
Rachael’s speech about their pronouns actually made me cry, this is so important and I’m really glad that the sims team is working on this. Trans rights!! 🏳️⚧️
When I found out about the pronoun update I was SO happy as a non-binary person. I use he/they/xe pronouns, but choose the female Sim because cuter clothes and stuff. I've avoided making Sims that look too much like me because seeing a sim that looks like me but the being called by feminine terms ingame makes me super icky feeling.
@@plant5875 TW: r4p3 you give mad "they're asking for it by wearing revealing clothing" energy. its just not how it works. instead of hating on people using neopronouns for "making people be transphobic" you, idk, maybe teach and educate transphobes? just an idea.
as a nb fan watching you patiently and respectfully explain pronouns while also making it clear that your channel isn't for transphobes rlly got me right in the heart, but like, in a good way. thanks simsie
Im really glad they are doing this, I feel like most people don't understand how ambitious this project is. I am half Polish, half Lithuanian and both those languages are unfortunately very gender-oriented. Even in real-life it is so hard to talk to a person without ,,assuming" their pronouns. I work as a cashier in a clothing store and it's a constant fear of mine that I mispronounce someone... I really don't want to hurt anyone's feeling but it's so hard not to use any gender-oriented words in even the most basic sentences. I truly believe that both Lithuanian and (especially) Polish languages need to undergo some kind of a language ,,revolution" as unfortunately they are broken at their core which makes them extremely not inclusive. I am saying this only to make it easier for English speakers to understand how complicated and ambitious this whole EA's project is. Unfortunately, not every language is so easily converted to being more inclusive as English.
Thank you for this comment. I saw some anger on Reddit about this update and how it’s being done in English first and it sucks that other languages have to wait even longer. Which I agree with to an extent. It does suck to wait longer. But those comments ignored the scope and complexity of this project for a game played all over the world.
I'm Polish but i live in Germany and I am so so glad everyday that I can call my customers "Sie" and not "pan/pani"! I agree with you completely about our language needing to change, unfortunately I don't think it's gonna happen any time soon given how many Poles still aren't familiar with the trans culture and many are sadly still downright transphobic.
Ja w kawiarni też się zawsze boję, gdy pytam "co pani/panu podać", staram się używać "co mogę podać" ale to nie brzmi aż tak kulturalnie i ehhh... Jak żyć!
i was smiling through the whole intro! kayla was so forceful on her beliefs and acceptance and it made me so proud. i was like "yes, tell them transphobes kayla, they are not welcome!" i know im not perfect, im still learning pronouns and stuff and sometimes i mess up and have to correct myself, but the diff between me and transphobes is that i am trying! i am so proud of the sims 4 for trying as well
@@emashkebb.885 not rude at all :) but a lesbian is essentially a non-man (typically feminine presenting) loving other non-men (also typically femme). hope that makes sense
So glad they're working on this! I wish more of the feminine clothes fit masculine frames though, a lot of them add a breast bumps to the masculine frame.
Seeing people in the live chat when they were talking about pronouns say "they can add this but not _____???", "I'm bored"/"zzzz", or just blatantly being transphobic was so upsetting. I hate that people don't care about important things like this that makes the game more inclusive for a massive portion of TS4 community. This is game changing for a lot of people.
I'm genderfluid and although I'm completely fine with everyone using female pronouns when talking about me I always try to give my two cents when people are weird about they/them pronouns. I always try to explain they/them pronouns how you just did but some people just refuse to see it that way. I always love how open and accepting you are! 🥰
Hi, so this is a strange reply to your comment, but I'm questioning about being genderfluid and I was just wondering how it went for you coming out? How could you tell the difference between being genderfluid and gendernonconforming? You don't have to answer if you're uncomfortable.
I rlly hope sims 4 adds a option for you to have more than two pronouns and “change gender” option like the “change outfit” button for us genderfluid simmers
@@gracified4671 so in my personal experience being genderfluid may be that one day you feel happy with being female but the next you hate it with a burning passion or maybe somewhere in between. It can change randomly
@@gracified4671 Hi, not a strange reply at all! To be honest I really never came out I sort of just never hid it. And how I finally decided that I was genderfluid is a really long story, probably to long for RUclips comments. I'll happily tell it if you want me to tho. As for the difference between being genderfluid and gendernonconforming to me its all about the day to day. I think a lot of non-binary people always feel somewhere in the middle like never 100% male or female. As for me most days I'm perfectly fine with both feeling and acting like a girl but somedays I guess I just feel like more. Like I'm more then just a girl but not 100% to feeling like a boy. Although very rarely I just want to wear a suit and pee standing up lol. I hope this helped a little, I'll be happy to talk a lot more about this or answer any other questions! :)
Why is everyone so obsessed with gender? Just be your perfect self whether masculine/feminine and everything in between. You don't have to put a label on every new concept. I swear they come up with a new thing every year. This obsession with constantly having to define new labels is exhausting. Plus, these labels are going to be outdated in 10 years anyways.
Kayak, as a non-binary simmer, I appreciate you calling transphobes out SO MUCH. It makes me feel so safe in your community. Thanks MoMo for all your hard work! Edit: your community truly is my safe space 💕
I just wanted to underline to the fact, how confident Kayla invited all the noninclusive people to leave. A lot of respect to say all of this so firmly. RUclipsrs often tend to be so politically correct that they forget their values.Also - this update is a big step to make the world a better place!
Its so nice that the entire sims community is so supportive of the LGBTQIA+ community. Even EA them selfs recognize, and actively supports them. Maybe it just the fact that people are getting smarter now, and recognizing that hating on this type of stuff it pointless. Either way, nice to see the support
@@helldog9402 Regardless of WHY companies do it, all that matters is that they did it. Things that companies supported in the 20th century are still being talked about today. Capitalism or not, what's popular is what survives.
@@RandomCronch i think they just meant that the companies only do it for money. Like they use this for people like you or others who are lgbtqia or allies to get their attention and use your money to buy the game and they recieve it ofc and they dont actually care about lgbtqia...... they just want your money basically
I'm very excited for this update! As an LGBTQ person I've always appreciated how inclusive the Sims is. When I realized I'm bisexual, I had a lot of internalized biphobia and the Sims honestly helped me work through it. I've also been questioning my own gender identity and experimenting with pronouns, and I don't really have much support irl. So having a game that lets me play with these options is definitely nice. Also, thank you for standing up for the LGBTQ community! I've seen a lot of hate for the pronouns update, so it's good to be reminded that the Sims community is inclusive.
As a genderfluid: her "please leave" to the transphobe-losers really made me feel happy! Kayla is such a good person, all around! Ty for your support!!!
Let’s be honest, without simsie we wouldn’t know anything about the sims.
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lol this is so true
very true 😂
Every simmer I watch has such diversity with their sims like literally.
Soo true
Wondering if the neutral pronouns will affect the titles like "wife"/"husband"->"spouse", "sister"/"brother"->"sibling"
I'm really hoping you can customize the relationship titles too
thats interesting but I would love being able to choose what title you want. I know some people personally who don't mind what title or prefer wife or sister even being non-binary. so idk lol
It’s the sims 4… we can’t expect much just look at how they made the clothes fit the different frames
Agreed. Could we also get female butlers lol unless that’s already a thing. Is it?
Update: I’ve had so many butler women since this comment.
Probably, though I wonder what they will use to replace uncle/aunt
The fact that Kayla attacked transphobes and said "you're not welcome here" made me really happy. I am friends with lots of trans and nonbinary people, love you fam!!
same!
same😭
Kanna how did you get here lol
Kanna I swear you are stalking me XD
Mhm
This is great! I also love how Kayla explicitly said “no transphobes allowed”. Really great of her.
@@Crayolapup Go away
@@rahmel2009 im on your block next monday
@@Crayolapup Why?
@@Crayolapup ok, good for you? no one wants you here, not even the youtuber herself, but you’re just giving her more money by commenting and continuing to watch her videos.
@@Crayolapup closeted af
As a nonbinary trans person I choked up hearing you tell transphobes to leave. Thank you for your support... so many areas of gaming are toxic and dangerous for trans people and it's wonderful to hear the love and acceptance.
I also started crying in the club. Hearing Kayla so blatantly tell people to leave felt like unbridled acceptance, and I don't think I've ever felt that in the gaming community. So yeah, I feel you
I don't know how you've been treated, but
1 Those screaming slurs without provocation may be heard a lot, but there are lots of people just playing the game. Those are the majority, not the ones screaming slurs. Online I am not going to spend effort shouting against them, I just mute and/or find a new game, so you never hear my support, but know it is there.
2 If you have announced that you are trans, then everyone who doesn't care are not very likely to say anything. Those who do care are the ones who will make themselves heard, and those are also the bigots, so you have selected for bigots.
same dude
edit: sorry if this sounds a little short and insensitive
I don't like talking Abt my feelings
Don't cry. The world is slowly becoming safer for people like you. :)
you’re sensitive
Kayla calling transphobes losers was all I needed today
This made my day, I'm not kidding.
She made my day
@@andpad8380 no one is going to rise to you lmao, we’re all better than that - just leave.
@@andpad8380 wrong
what a joke, lol... thats a loser comment right there, lol...
Using the words 'loser transphobes' tells you exactly the kind of person Kayla is. As a mental health nurse who has helped many suicidal transgender people over the years, it's great to see Kayla and the Sims 4 team supporting the LGBTQIA+ community xxx
Thank you for helping my brothers, sisters and siblings when they're at their worst. Big love to you and all you do with your job ❤️
You’re doing very important work!! Thank you for all you do!
thank you for helping our trans siblings at their lowest !
Thank you so much for your love and support and for actively helping our community
It was iconic
as a trans dude i just loved how passionate she sounded while telling the loser transphobes to go away. i cried. thank you for making my life better every day simsie.
same!
agh same I'm a closeted trans dude and I don't know what will happen in the future but it's so comforting to know lilsimsie will always be there, I really did tear up thank you kayla ♥
@@__Oscar There are tons of people out there supporting you! Even if the world can be mean, think about the people that do respect and support you for who you are. I hope you will be able to come out the way you wanted, and i hope you will have all the support you need! :)
❤️
ok baby
Sameee
I am Cis but I remember how making my character gay in the Sims when I was still closeted offered me an outlet to self expression and to be able to in at least a virtual reality be myself without having to face the pressures of the real world, so I understand how much this will mean to NB players. Can't wait for this update and for this to be available in other languages. I really appreciate how inclusive and open the community here is and how much of a safe space it is.
Thats one of the best things about the sims is you can (close to literally) play as anybody :)
I did this too. Sims don't engage in homophobia so I got to figure things out without getting hurt, it's a good tool.
I very much agree with this update, but I never thought of it through this lens. Thank you for the perspective!!
Omg I did this too. Sims helped me realize I'm bi :D
I love how inclusive the sims community is! I don't play many video games but i doubt most games have such a welcoming and nice fanbase
Simsie standing up for trans folks makes me so happy.
I'm so happy that in Finnish we don't have she/he/they etc. Everyone is hän. But I am also happy that they are bringing this update to english Sims 😊
Damn I'm jealous. Gender neutral pronouns are tricky in my language so we probably won't get them for a while. (i just really hope we get them at all) I'm so mad you can't change the language in game i want to be able to play with them already.
@@postrachsmietnikow actually, you can change the language in your game! I thought it was impossible, but I really wished for it, so I looked it up and it's actually reallly easy. In your ea folder in your file explorer, the game will then generate a new folder with the name of the game in whatever language you seletcted. If you have any mods or cc, that you want in your game, you'll have to move those from your old folder into your new one, or, if you're downloading new stuff, you have to move them into your new folder as well. Personally, I wasn't able to delete the folder of my language, but that might just be a me-problem. I forgot how I did it though, but I'll look it up again and try to see if I can find the tutorial I used again
@@postrachsmietnikow I found not the tutorial, but the way again! It's really easy. You just go to Origin, go to the sims 4, open i's settings, then go to game features(?) (idk how it's called in english, my origin is in german, sorry, then you should see a small text giving you an epilepsy warning, and a checkmark where you can choose wether to activate Origin for the game, called general (?). You then see on the top something saying "advanced startup setting" you go there and can then choose the game language.
@@massive.nerd.potential thanks this is great! I looked it up and it seems like it could work. I'll give it a try when I'll have time! Is this a new option? I feel like at one point i searched everywhere for it but it just said that it was impossible unless i wanted to mess with game fails (which I'm usually to scared to do) Maybe I'm just bad at searching...
@@postrachsmietnikow I don't know how long this option was there, I changed it a few months ago
As a trans man myself, this video made me cry like 4 times. First off, let’s all give Kayla a big round of applause. Not for one second since starting to watch this channel did I believe anyone apart of her community is hateful, but having her come out and openly tell transphobes off was so incredibly to hear. So thank you for that girl. You are so wonderful Kayla, I truly hope you get everything you desire in life.
Secondly, The Sims is quite literally my favorite game series of all time. And I cannot express how much joy it gives me that the developers are constantly taking steps to be more and more inclusive. Not just for the LGBQTIA+ community, but for literally everyone. They don’t care what story you want to tell or who you want to create. As long as you’re having a good time. And buying their games 😉 No but seriously, seeing this melts my heart. I hope they keep going, because they’re going in the right direction.
same as a trans male this made me cry when she sent away the transphobes
I go by she/they pronouns and when i saw custom pronouns my heart honestly melted
This made me tear up.
ily
@@seza1695 “and the loser transphobes here, i wanna make it clear, that you are not welcome here! Dont know how you ended up here, but PLEASE, leave :)”
I love how she is normalizes inclusivity in her let’s plays and explains it so simply
Me too she’s so excepting and diverse.
As it should be :)
It's not normalizing it by having to bring it up every time though. Normalizing something means it's not brought up at all it just exists. You don't always bring up "Oh look at that cis straight guy." because that's just normalized. Having her sim, Blake, and having to constantly say "They use they/them pronouns." and keep bringing it up isn't normalizing. Normalizing something is like Loud House (a cartoon but a good example) where the best friend is black and then has 2 fathers.. one black and one white. It is NEVER brought up it's just something that exists. That's an example of normalizing something.
@@Eventide215 I think the main reason she does that is because of how the Sims currently works, she has to tell us that a sim is non-binary because there’s no way to us to really tell because of how the game currently works
@@Eventide215 i think it might also be like that because she wants to make sure people are respecting it. it sucks that its acknowledged so much but I think its necessary in a situation where people misgender that sim regularly
Being really honest, English speakers are SO lucky for having such a “welcoming” language for neopronouns and even more lucky for already having “they/them”. I’m a Portuguese native speaker and EVERYTHING in Portuguese is gendered. We’re still trying to “create” a more neutral language to include everyone but is SO HARD. We need to change and adapt so much and most people just reject any neopronoun because it honestly just sounds extremely unnatural to them.
Just a quick example, verbs and adjectives are gendered. In English you would say “I’m tired” or “I’m a teacher” (two things that I actually am) and is already gender neutral. In Portuguese, “I’m tired” is “Estou cansadA” (feminine) OR “Estou cansadO” (masculine). Gender neutral could be (for example) “Estou cansadE” which actually didn’t really officially exists in our language. That’s why I understand how hard must be for the team to figure out how to update the game in all the other languages, is a unbelievable huge amount of work and I cannot thank them enough for trying and engaging on this, it means SO FUCKING MUCH
Turkish have the exact reversed situation: We have so few words to describe one's gender and only gender-neutral pronouns. For most Turkish speakers, the pronouns don't make much sense to think about when they're talking in English, so they're not aware of how big a change it's in the game and how important it is for the other language users. Since we're playing TS4 in English, hopefully, this would make them think a bit more about the importance of pronouns. + This is, of course, for the small portion of the society that's open to learning about it (since most of them are loser transphobes), but I believe it's still a very good step towards the future of the whole gaming industry.
Sim, e por isso acaba dificultando o costume de usar os pronomes neutros, pq vc tem que usar o e/o/u no final de todas as palavras, e não apenas mudar o she/he/they na frase :(
E fica mais difícil para pessoa que usa neopronouns porque o elu/delu, cansade, etc tem essa opção mas pra neopronouns precisa criar denovo de acordo com o pronome
also the portuguese problem: ive had spanish classes and there i noticed that BUT also there is another problem which there is in german too.
When multiple male and female and diverse people are talked about in one big group its standard to use the male form of the word (for example Lehrer means a male teacher AND many male teachers AND many teachers of any gender while Lehrerin means a female teacher AND many female teachers)
BUT now people are searching for a middle way (like Lehrer*innen and you speak it with a pause for the *) so thats annoying to use as its for some words so much longer and i wish we just a gender neutral form
(also because there isnt a form EVER for nonbinary use, just male + female)
i just want anything easy, even like Lehri which sounds kinda cute and a little bit childish but is still better than anything that gets officially approved rn
Honestly, all the latin languagues are like that and it’s just so damn hard to include inclusive words in our everyday life… I speak French and it’s the exact same for us… I’m glad some people are talking about and trying to figure out ways to make languages evolve 🙌🏼
Even for people who don’t identify as they/them, this opens up doors of opportunity for way more, new characters to be created. Like I’ve tried to create a character that was non-binary and was male at birth, but liked wearing feminine clothes and it just didn’t turn out as nice as I’d like and it kept misgendering the character. Good on them for giving us more options. If you’re against this, I don’t know why. You shouldn’t be against having more options in a game that’s built upon customization. And if you don’t ever want characters who are nonbinary or trans, etc. you shouldn’t use those options. Just don’t. It isn’t that hard to ignore it and move on. Clicking what is appropriate for your character shouldn’t be a huge deal at all.
Idk, just my two sense
the people who are angry about this arent the kind to ignore, they're the kind who would be angry that somewhere in some distant country they've never even heard of, the king/president/prime minister is gay/genderfluid/trans, the kind who would start petitions if a kids show ever dared to include lgbtq+ characters, they're loud and annoying and hate everything that isn't 100% "normal"
100% agree with your post. Only thing- two cents not sense. It was bugging me sorry.🤨
I’m actually pretty excited about how this can help create many more stories and characters. I also think it will have ripple effects of acceptance for non-binary people
@@zoebenefer6149 I agree, I wouldn’t personally be using this as I only use she/her pronouns, but I’m glad they are including this for people who will use it and who knows. Maybe one day I’ll make a trans sim :)
Also I really like the fact that she doesn’t just call people homophonic if they’re just uneducated. She actually took the time to explain things. Because if you don’t know what transgender means, it doesn’t make you homophonic. If just means someone should explain what the word means. I wish more people took the time to explain things instead of just calling someone homophonic.
I'm so excited about this as someone who creates nonbinary pronouns, and I DO see how incredible this update is.... BUT ALSO... I am so going to create a sim that goes by "llama" and "llamaself" pronouns just for the pure fun of it.
I think that would be cool, but mostly I’m just excited to put myself in the game completely
@Loveblade ͒ No they're not :)
@Loveblade ͒ pronouns aren’t for pure fun that’s a weird thing to say. Can’t tell if you’re a transphobe or not
@Loveblade ͒ pronouns are based on truth, the truth that that's what they identified as
@Loveblade ͒ your grammar vaguely reminds me of a dinosaur
Kayla straight up calling out transphobes has watered my crops and cleared my skin.
Its also got me sushi
It made my parents stop deadnaming me
@@WarmBreadBearBuddy 🎉🎉
@@hollow4737 not rlly, I was just saying that i wished that would happen. Unfortunately not everyone is as accepting as Kayla
@@WarmBreadBearBuddy Ok. It's okay.
Hearing simsie call loser transphobes “loser transphobes” just made me so happy
same i literally squealed cause it made me so happy hahahaha
It made my heart so damn happy
Simsie verbally kicking bigots in the shins is 11/10.
literally have never been more proud to follow a youtuber between her and plumbella, omg. this made me so happy, its so important to know she has my back as a transmasc person who uses he/they
It does not set a good example. Calling people names just because they disagree with you on gender ideology is not okay. I believe trans gender people are worthy and deserve respect. I respect their pronouns and wish they have a happy life. But I don't agree that gender is a socialized construct and that there are no difference between men and women and that anyone who disagrees is a "loser transphobe," she is being way too harsh to people who may have a difference in opinion.
This is not something that affects me, personally. But I'm very glad that they're doing this because I know it's very important to a lot of people. I don't know why some people are against it. It's not like their pronouns are getting taken away. They can still play the game the same as before, there's just more choice now. I think that's a good thing. Thank you Sims team!
same.. i love it personally because it just means i get to play with more diverse sims.. now i'm nonbinary myself but i don't care what pronouns people use for me.. you can use she you can use they or he (i'm very loose with the base pronouns.. i however don't like deeper ones like Lady or Gentleman.. cuz i aint no Lady and i certainly aint Gentle.. but even then there are also exceptions to this rule.. if someone calls me a Queen i'm fine with that because i see it as more neutral anyways mainly due to Freddy Mercury so for me it's also an association thing kind of.. ) now i'm someone who also loves to play with a ton of different sims with different backstories.. one time i might create an Indian sim where as another time i might decide to go for a Russian sim. perhaps a sim from Congo or Brazil. it just spices up the stories that much more.. so being able to make a sim with whatever pronouns would be amazing because this just diversifies my sims even more !
thank you for saying this
I may be able to answer that (please don't ban me, they asked), I just need to know one thing first: What in your mind is the difference between a "he" and a "she"? What does a "he" have that a "she" cannot have and vice versa? If there is no such thing why not just have "they" for everyone?
There is a reason there is a randomize button: to remove choices, because having to select a million different things before you can start playing isn't appealing to everyone. Also, if this is only for English they could have solved it so easily with just "they", but they spent all this development time that they can now not spend on other things.
@@Hedning1390 dude what
@@__darkfuneral That is not enough feedback for me to elaborate on. What is it you don't understand?
I'm not in the LGBT community but I am a supporter because I believe everyone in this world deserves respect an understanding. While I don't always understand everyone, I always make an effort to be respectful, try my best to educate myself, and when it comes to gender, I definitely make an effect to respect what people would like to be called, because I think, "how would I feel if there were no she/her and everyone would just call me him" I wouldn't feel accepted, and I would feel like I'm not part of this world, and that would be hurtful, and depressing. I'm glad this happened in the Sims.
this is really encouraging to know that they are taking the time and care that this issue needs, I do hope that were is a option to use multiple pronouns. Like maybe you could pick up tp 3 and the game randomly decides which pronoun to use (which speaking from experience of using multiple pronouns I would like the randomness of it) I also hope there is a way to go back and change pronouns in cas after starting the game
I think with the cas.fulleditmode cheat it will be 100% be changeable, but I'm not sure about the normal Change sim option. Knowing EA, I assume this will be kinda disappointing too, and the cheat will be needed to change the pronouns
I would LOVE to see multiple pronoun usage in a game as someone who is genderfluid and uses multiple pronouns. I really hate having to choose ;-;
@@totalspiffage As someone who uses she/he/they, if they don't make a multiple pronouns feature my plan would be to put she for the first custom pronouns option, and he and they for the second/third options. It's not perfect, but it would mean that multiple pronouns would be used.
@@venvyre this is a good idea!!
@@Lex-zn5gv Thank you :)
I appreciate Kayla giving an intro to this topic for the people who don't know cause it's very draining to have to do as a trans person
For real. She took all the work that we usually have to do in every comment section and just... did it. Kayla, I love you
This shows us that indeed we can work together. I really love this.
shows that they care for the most part. All of us should be safe to be as quirky as we want, and not feel shame for being such.
You are still you even in the changes. every part of you is valid.
ive always appreciated how accepting and openminded Kayla is, and how she genuinely seems to care about the lgbtq+ community, ever since my best friend came out to me as genderfae, I've been more aware of the issues of gender neutral language and how discriminatory people can be simply because of a pronoun, I decided I didn't want my best friend to face that kind of discrimination when she comes over so I took the time to explain it to my mom (my siblings already knew about it) and she went from "wth does that even mean" to "OMG look, the gender neutral pronoun "iel" is being added to the french dictionary" (ngl I cried when I saw my mom being so accepting) ever since then I've been including my pronouns (just she/her, however I think that if cis people like me start including their pronouns in their bios, the stigma will lessen) in my bios
@@vstopbiaswreckingme7194 oh hey my girlfriend is genderfae! That's great that you took the time to explain to your mom and help decrease stigma!
i love kayla for being so open and accepting about this 😭
Same
She is such a tolerant person
My favorite line from this video honestly had nothing to do with the update. It was, “the loser transphobes, you are not welcome here….please leave.”
Yeah, it’s cute, but also sad how this isn’t basic logic as it should be
Kayla has truly foster an amazing and accepting community.
As a genderfluid bean, I appreciate 1) Kayla telling all of the buttholes to leave, 2) the game devs acknowledging why this needs to happen, and 3) that they are leaving room for customization. I do hope that they allow for customization after you finish creation in CAS. In game changes would be useful for fluid Sims, transitioning Sims, and birthed-in-game Sims.
Ok jillian
Same genderfluid too
:D
YESS DEFINITELY :0
i have thought about this! i am AFAB and came out at 17, i would like to play my childhood self in the sims and be able to make that change or "come out" and have those extra customizations without using mods in the future
In Swedish we have a third pronoun, she in Swedish is “hon” and he is “han”, and then we also have “hen” which is gender neutral, so it’s gonna be really interesting to see this update in Swedish!
They actually mentioned using hen for Swedish in the live stream! I don't know how long it will take for this update to come in all the different languages, but I hope they go ahead and do it quickly for languages that already have an obvious solution like this
Plumbelas hey hens has a whole new meaning to it now
lol I was thinking this too
“Hey hens!” -plumbella
Hey hens!
Spanish is such a gendered language, that even the word "non-binary" has a gendered translation (No binario/no binaria). The current solution for this is using an "e" instead of an o/a, but that'd mean changing every single verb/adjective/etc in the text boxs
Yes, unfortunately it's the same for Italian
it's the same for portuguese !
Russian's the same =(
Maybe a solution would be just text boxes for personal pronouns (though there are fewer in Spanish anyway) and a checkbox for either removing the gendered vowel or subbing the neutral E with all custom sets?
same for polish :/
Even for the people who are like “we don’t need this.” Then don’t use it. It’s an option, a choice. By not offering a CHOICE, you’re forcing someone to stick with one person’s idea. Use it, or don’t. Let people be happy.
it’s not really an option though. what if not everyone wants a general neutral terms in their game? what if i ljke having she and he?
@@jess6882 Then you just, put she/her or he/him as the Sims pronouns when the pronoun option comes up???
But OTHERs do want this update, as not everyone likes using those pronouns, and when you want to play as yourself and you're non-binary, you'd probably prefer if the game didn't misgender you whenever you raised a skill or got a promotion. It's good for other people. If you don't like it, then ignore it. It's an option other people enjoy and wanted.
@@jess6882 it's literally an option though..? it's shown in the video that you can choose she/her, he/him, they/them pronouns and customize if you want. You can still have she and he pronouns but have an option for they/them or other pronouns. It's really not that deep..
Exactly! Just because one person doesn't want an option, that doesn't mean no one can have that option. A Sims guru isn't going to put a gun to your head and force you to use this feature
In German they/them is the same word as she/her... That could be a problem
i wonder if they’ll update existing some townies to have nonbinary pronouns, like for example i remember people speculating that morgyn from RoM might be nonbinary
I hope so, and if they don't, I'm doing it manually 🥳
@@helldog9402 no one cares
@@helldog9402 social reject
@@lemonweirdo get a life
@@rabbiteen17 You're the reject, Simsie already told you to leave bozo
In Brazilian portuguese the pronoun discussion is still a little out of sight for the "common cis citizen" even the ones in the LGBTQ+ community, but will be very pleasant to hear Elu(neutral pronoun in portuguese) to my own simself
Yesssss
Yes! (Fellow Brazilian here) I was thinking about this as well, it’s gonna be hard bc every word is gendered, even “bus” it’s “o ônibus”. So if they can pull it off, I think it’s gonna be a great deal for nonbinary people and gender equity 🥺❤️
I’ve actually seen a post with alternate ideas for daughter/son, wife/husband, aunt/uncle, etc., but it was in English. We don’t talk about it enough in the realm of Portuguese language and it’s much easier to solve this problem in English than in Portuguese, so I really hope that the Brazilian gender neutral language is more discussed.
Yes, as a brazilian, I'm really curious to see how they are going to make this work. I'm a cis woman but I think it's very important to include everybody in the game, so everyone can have some fun and also fell included
Because portuguese is a language that came from Latin, all the words have a gender, and finding ways to try to get around this is very nice for everyone
i’m so nervous about how they will translate the pronouns! i’m russian, and not only are all of our nouns and adjectives gendered, ‘they’ as a pronoun is strictly plural.. so while i wait on that i’m still incredibly excited by this news, thank you the sims team and thank you Kayla!
I don’t know how it affects my game becouse we allready have non-binary word in finnish language😅
this is why i play the sims in english, even though i’m swedish 😅
i changed it to english years ago and never looked back
@@mollycatrin yesss i do that too! mostly because the translation is fucked up and wierd with all the puns they use.
@@hedvigdougan oh 100%, i changed back to swedish once because i was curious and nothing made sense 😂
@@mollycatrin how did you change the language ?
I hope we have the option the change pronouns once they’re set. For gender fluid sims, and just representing self discovery.
This! As well as maybe a function to change what pronouns are being used at any time. Like, say someone goes by he/they. It may be wishful thinking but if they could switch it up just to be more inclusive of people who use more than one label, it would be so cool
Yes agreed 100%!!!
@@Lycandii exactly!! i REALLY want to be able to use all three of my pronoun sets, not just have to choose one.
@@Lycandii thats what ive been thinking about, those of us that use multiple sets of pronouns
for the pronouns to randomly change in the game would be absolutely incredible
These pronouns are so hard to keep up with for me…..I only see reference to the changes etc on the internet. I’m 47 and live in a small town so we have just never encountered an instance where I’ve been corrected when addressing someone. I will say that if I’m unsure I avoid a gender specific pronoun to be respectful and avoid offending anyone. Just remember there are people like me out here that would never intentionally want to harm feelings…..I’m just not well versed in all these changes with pronouns and I’m kinda old and slower to adapt lol. I love you all regardless no matter what you have chosen ❤️
That is so sweet 🥺
I can tell from your comment you are a sweet loving person! Thank you for being so mindful! The LGBTQ+ community love and need more people like you xx
People in small towns use they/them
@@queerlibtardhippie9357 i mean there absolutely can be but there are also a lot of small towns where there are not people who (at least openly) use they/them. There's a multitude of reasons I could list if you want but it's not impossible that someone in a small town hasnt experienced neutral pronouns before! (Coming from a person who had to explain they/them pronouns to their small town grandma since she didn't know what they were)
You're doing amazing!! Thank you so much for trying. That means so much to people. You are m a g i c a l!!! ^w^
I really love how politely hateful simsie was when she was talking about ‘looser transphobes’
It's sad she resorts to name calling over disagreements on gender. I respect trans people and will use their pronouns no problem, but I don't agree with transgender ideology that says gender is all fake and a made-up social construct, nor that you can just identify as a woman and that instantly makes you a biological female.
@@courtneywaters-jenkins2601 nobody says that you can switch your biological gender?? literally nobody says that.
@@courtneywaters-jenkins2601 what ”transgender ideology”? transgenderism is biological.
@@courtneywaters-jenkins2601 nearly nobody genuinely thinks these things. You can have disagreements with trans people but that's different than disagreeing with people being trans. I'm non binary and I disagree with other trans people on many things, we're normal people like you or simsie. Furthermore it doesn't make you transphobic, well it depends on the opinion. If you're not transphobic why are you concerned with transphobic people being called losers?
@@danny8284 *biological sex
The English only (for now) thing makes sense. Sometimes it's really easy for us to forget how different other cultures and languages are. The gender spectrum looks a lot different across cultures so our gendered language solutions won't always be appropriate when localizing a game for different regions.
In Spanish they can't do this for example, is not possible.
Yeah, that's what was my first thought. I'm a game translator into Russian, and currently even "they" pronounce is a big headache for translators, as you often don't know if it is about one or several people (in any smaller than AAA games you can have a great lack of context, and sometimes even AAA don't give all the needed info). And Russian doesn't have gender-neutral pronounces, and, as Spanish, have ALL words gender-tagged, therefore, if sometimes game designers didn't think of a character's gender and used "they", and then used some gendered pronounce later, it could make great mess. We have more neutral one, which is close to "it", but you just don't say it for people, it is as offensive as it is in English (it is about things, not people, and not all the things, but the ones that are "middle gender"). And to fit it as tags with such a changable language as Russian is pretty hard even with his/her only.
Yet, I see, they are doing it right, and it's very good. I would say The Sims always had pretty good translation, at least into Russian, and it shows translators have a lot of info about game context, which is quite rare in the industry. Even though custom pronounce are not relatable to me, I'm respectful for such attention to the translation process.
Spanish for example would be almost impossible since nouns and adjectives as well as verbs include gender (male, female, thing)
@@Neyobe Yeah, eventually spanish can change to adap for a neutral pronoun with their own adjectives, verbs etc, etc. That can happen in a century probably??
@@LOSTmyHOST maybe ;)
I love the way you explain pronouns! Its about time we got more gender options in the Sims
I hope they just leave at pronouns and don’t specifically add genders because that can get very messy.
@@rachelcookie321 homophobe, get out of here
I just want to say that as a trans person, I have so often felt like a controversy in every space I walk into. RUclipsrs are often on the fence about us. They will say "I support them," but they will never disrespect those in their community who don't. What you did in this video was a first for me. The no-nonsense attitude you had about it made me happy. From the bottom of my heart, thank you for that.
Why would they disrespect those who don't support it? lol. that's like going against your own words. if you want them to respect your gender identity, etc etc, then you have to respect them too! this goes for anything. Such as religion. If you are Christian, Muslim, Atheist, or anythign else, you're not going to ask someone or some community to respect you if your going to disrespect them. I apologize if I misread your comment or if I sounded rude/homophobic/transphobic. I only mean this with kindness and respect!
@@yomtov29 They don't respect us simply by having bigoted beliefs. We don't have to respect disrespect.
@@yomtov29 respecting people who's basically against your entire existence is pretty hard.
@@averagetwink. i’m a Christian, our beliefs are, “love everyone” “love the person hate the sin,” gay is a sin, so what does that tell u? we don’t hate gay people, we hate the sin, we love everyone, sure, some christian’s will make u feel bad and will be homophobic and when a lgbtq person is rude or disrespects my religion when i respect them, i go off on them which i try not to do, i’m sry that u feel that way but u should look into it more w religions, trust me, Christians aren’t that bad, we try our best to be accepting and it’s sometimes hard
@@shrodingerkat3296 i’m a Christian, our beliefs are, “love everyone” “love the person hate the sin,” gay is a sin, so what does that tell u? we don’t hate gay people, we hate the sin, we love everyone, sure, some christian’s will make u feel bad and will be homophobic and when a lgbtq person is rude or disrespects my religion when i respect them, i go off on them which i try not to do, i’m sry that u feel that way but u should look into it more w religions, trust me, Christians aren’t that bad, we try our best to be accepting and it’s sometimes hard
“disrespect” if that’s how u see every christian towards lgbtq ppl, then u should check again, i’ll say this again, “i’m a Christian, our beliefs are, “love everyone” “love the person hate the sin,” gay is a sin, so what does that tell u? we don’t hate gay people, we hate the sin, we love everyone, sure, some christian’s will make u feel bad and will be homophobic and when a lgbtq person is rude or disrespects my religion when i respect them, i go off on them which i try not to do, i’m sry that u feel that way but u should look into it more w religions, trust me, Christians aren’t that bad, we try our best to be accepting and it’s sometimes hard” so pls don’t be blind to the truth, always look deeper into stuff to know the truth
As a nonbinary sims player who gets deadnamed/misgenders a lot, it really does put a smile on my face that the sims team is looking out for us :) and a big thank you to momo!!
Yh same but I'm genderfluid 😊
It hurts me to see my dad call my sibling their full deadname whenever I call (I live in another country) I wish I could be there for them, if I feel like that I can't imagine the way they feel :(
I feel your struggle, we're in this together, none of you are alone! 🖤✨
Yes that is so great and
I love your pfp
Hi! I’m a teacher and I’m older. I’ve lived most my life with pronouns being strictly she/her and he/him. I didn’t know about more pronouns until recently (say the last 5 or so years) and I’m starting to get students in my school with pronouns I was not familiar with. The sims coming out with this is going to be a terrific educational experience for me! Just this video has taught me so much (ze pronouns is new to me). Playing the sims will help me understand this more and connect better with my students.
You are a great teacher!!♡
As someone who uses they pronouns, I just want to say thank you for educating yourself, and being excited to learn! Showing your students signs of respect, and inclusivity will mean the world to them! They need that safe space somewhere that they might not get at home, and being in your class will be a huge relief of the stresses that puts on them. ❤️❤️
Thats cool, and its relatable to be learning. Ze zir is a bit different, and so is seeing how it is applied to different languages too. So its still a learning curve here too
you are a good person. sending you love and good vibes!
this is so lovely. thank you so much for doing your best to learn and understand your students!! I really appreciate that and I'm sure they do too!
As someone who uses they/them, hearing Kayla tell transphobes to get out... it actually made me cry because I know Kayla would use my preferred pronouns, even though no one else in my family will.
Same ;-;
I started crying too ,,
Hi, please feel adopted by the sims family and myself. Found families are valid and one day you will find a irl familiy who will love and respect you how you want and deserve.
omg bless you this made me cry i feel so sorry for you please keep going because you will find your safe place one day x
Okay imma change that, I now am your cool older brother (I go by them/them/his) and I'll punch anyone who dares to disrespect my bud >:(
I appreciate how Kayla explained the pronouns importance because I genuinely had no idea
being a closeted nonbinary, adding the option to give a sim pronouns would be amazing.
🤍
It’s ok to be closeted I was for 2 years before coming out as pan take your time do it when your ready
you’ll get there xx
Oooh Warrior Cats :D I love those books
It's oke to not want to share your gender identities with other people, don't see it as closited which locks you in but as something personal an amazing you get to share at some point with the rest of the world
“You won’t hurt our feelings, we’ll just laugh at you for being stupid.”
YESSS KAYAK GO OFFFF ✨✨✨
Yesssss
Do I spot a hooty in your profile picture?👀
Ahh yes kayak
Kayla being a protective big sis 🙏
i haven’t seen the name kayak for kayla for so long lmaooo
I love sassy Simsie! Especially when she’s anti-transphobia!
Me to
Transphobes are unreasonably upset about this. It's a life simulator game, it's literal GENRE promotes inclusivity. It's not for you!
It's SO crazy seeing like... a firm, aggressive, no-nonsense Kayla stating, "You are not welcome here." I love it so much. This is why we stan.
Right? It's so unexpected when she does it, which is why you are like...Dang girl. This is IMPORTANT. We definitely stan.
It's saddening to see her get aggressive over other people's opinions which do not harm her. I respect trans people but not everyone understands it. No need for name-calling.
@@courtneywaters-jenkins2601 Being transphobic isn't an opinion. Denying someone's identity or purposefully misgendering someone is harmful, not an opinion. It's harmful to Kayla in the same way it would be harmful to me if I saw it happening to my friends or family. She cares. It's called the paradox of intolerance.
Not understanding it on its own doesn't make you transphobic. She literally spelled this out. She gave a very basic, easily understandable background to it and differentiated between those who just may not know or understand, and those who explicitly believe this isn't a big deal or think it's wrong, amoral, whatever. It doesn't directly affect me or how I play but holy crap, how amazing is it for those that do? Talking about it is so important, in ORDER for people to understand.
@@courtneywaters-jenkins2601 yeah no need for name calling so I’m not going to but politely stfu :)
@@courtneywaters-jenkins2601 it's not an opinion tho u disagree with human rights ofc ppl aren't gonna be welcoming to u
as someone who uses they/them, this is huge. when i first got animal crossing and my friend told me i wouldn't have to worry about pronouns and (another) very gendered game, i cried. it's such a small change that means so, so, so much to a lot of people
girl, no one cares
fr tho this news is making me cry im so happy
@@nooneasked4687 Repeat your name to yourself.
@@nooneasked4687 you
@@nooneasked4687 if you dont care dont reply
honestly, simsie making her channel a safe place, making it clear that transphobes arent welcome, including various pride flags in her builds,, making inclusive characters ?? i super appreciate it, thank you kayla
this update is something that i've been hoping for for years, as a neopronoun and they/them user. The fact that I can now actually see myself in the sims means so much to me.
dude that speech at the beginning, as a trans guy was such a nice thing to hear! totally heartwarming to see someone support us more- you’re awesome!
I'm a trans girl and I honestly teared up a little hearing how passionate she is about it.
She such a good ally! As someone in lgbt Community she’s always been a safe space for me
My oldest child is 23. They stopped playing The Sims 4 years ago because the sims kept mis-gendering their self-sim. Being non binary is almost never reflected in modern media. I am super happy about this update. It won't change my game play, but it WILL make my oldest feel included, seen and acknowledged.
Exactly! It DOESNT change the gameplay! So why are, you know, transphobes acting like inclusivity is affecting them in ANY way.
I hope your oldest can enjoy their game again!
i am so glad they will get that!! that's absolutely awesome. my partner is nonbinary and i haven't been able to make them a sim because they're uncomfortable with being misgendered even in-game. i'm very excited to be able to add them to my save!!
one thing I'm really REALLY badly hoping for is the ability to have multiple pronouns. I'm not entirely sure how it would work or be implemented, but it would make me feel so validated. I use she/they pronouns and I'm questioning my gender right now (feeling something slightly similar to genderfluid but not quite) and personally depending on the day but also in general, I prefer to be referred to with both (but don't feel particularly negative about only one pronoun set being used for me) but since I only just came started accepting myself around a month ago, being able to use multiple pronouns would be SO validating and make me really happy
I think if you used the custom option you could do something similar!
Same! I thought custom meant being able to use she/they or they/she or he/they/she, etc. I go by she/they and I think I will have to choose one or the other to make my Simself.
I use she/they pronouns too, I'm planning on doing like she and them and hers, just so it changes here and there. And I imagine we can change pronouns whenever, which will be nice
I imagine you will be able to fill it in for a specific context (possessive as an example)
So you can put in different ones but they will only be used in that form
OR maybe a option with like; Demi girl/boy for those ones and like gender fluid. So they don’t need all the options but it would make it so the game knows “oh hey use these pronouns interchangeably”
I hope they allow for mixed pronouns where you can for example have something like she/they, he/they, they/zim etc. but it’s amazing that they’re taking this into consideration
I feel like that’s a bit too much to ask due to programming, like when would they be interchanging them ? But hopefully you can just decide to change them for existing characters whenever you feel like it and it doesn’t lock you into a choice.
If you do not mind me asking, what does ‘zim’ stand for?
@@thepolitegamer1966 It doesn't stand for anything. It's what's referred to as a 'neo-pronoun'. It's basically just another pronoun for people to use instead of She/her, he/him, they/them, etc. Hope this wasn't a really bad explaination, im not the best at them :)
@@asteria_ths Your explanation was perfectly fine but I am still struggling to follow along; what is the purpose of ‘neopronouns’?
@@thepolitegamer1966 just like some people dont think she or he fit them, some people dont like they/them and neos are there for those people. Some people still like they/them and more gendered pronouns and just use neos as a bonus
If someone doesn’t like that they’re adding this, they don’t have to use it! If you don’t know why it’s being added, it’s not for you! I often play as myself in the sims and use she/her pronouns, so I wouldn’t likely get a ton of use out of this feature, but I’m not arrogant enough to think the entire game should only revolve around what I want, and I know a ton of people would love this feature, so I’m all for it!
you scared me at first i read it as “as someone who doesnt like that theyre adding this” LOL
I think simsie put it better if you don’t like that they’re adding this you really don’t belong in the community
it's the same people that were complaining about the skintone update and how afro hairstyles are being updated to look better and more natural. The Sims is a sandbox game, you can choose which feature you don't use. We should just be happy that people are getting more ways to play with their favourite game and that this amazing game is being more inclusive every day
@@colin2316 I don't want to start a fight, but as I said in my own comment section (where I just got insulted for politely stating my opinion), I would like it if it was something that can be disabled in the game settings. If people want to use the feature, they can use it, but I don't want to have it popping up in my game and would just click "off" and there, no problem. Like everyone is saying it's a game and everyone wants to play it their way, if it's a mandatory thing, it limits my freedom of playing the game and that's not fair. EA is gonna add this feature mandatory, we all know that, and it's not fair to other players. Why do I have to agree with something I don't want to agree with? And why do LGBT people attack someone for disagreeing with them? The world needs to tolerate them, why can't that community reciprocate and tolerate people with different views on the world?
@@sarawolf6201 it doesn't limit u tho ur sim still uses pronouns
As a Trans female, the explanation of pronouns was on point and made me so happy! I also thought is was suiting to call transphobes "losers" 🤣
Yessss^^
I'm not trans or nonbinary, but I'm so excited for this update. I like making my sims diverse in their sexuality and gender, and I know this is so important to so many people!
Yeah, me too! I don't have a big group of friends, and don't have any friends I'm aware of who are trans or nonbinary. I consider educating myself about people in the rainbow community to be very important, and look forward to introducing realistic social diversity into my sims
SAME!!!
same!! i love making characters that aren’t me and i can create more DEPTH to these characters??? so awesome
I can't wait for the pedophile update coming in the next sims! Oops I means maps
@@markmywords5342 ???
If you don’t feel the need for this, then don’t use it. As a trans male this means a lot to me and the trans and nonbinary community, having these extreme binary boxes forced on you especially in your comfort game sucks. If you have a problem with it or if you’re offended then just go play another game. And the fact that they added CUSTOM PRONOUNS is so awesome. If you got a problem with neopronouns then sucks to be you🤷 all words are “made up”. Thank you Sims team for doing this and taking your time on it so it goes right. It really confused me for a long time why they put nonbinary pride flags in the game but never neutral pronouns. Thank goodness they’re finally doing it!
Exactly! It only becomes a problem when people decide to start complaining about it. You can literally just simply ignore that feature of the game! 😭😭
I didn't understand they/them. You explained that perfectly. I am big in wanting to understand. I want to be happy in my skin and I want the same for everyone else, and the more I understand the better. Now to learn more!
if you need any help understanding any other pronouns let me know if you want! i'm happy to help
The correct attitude to have
As someone who’s playing around with their gender, I really appreciate how Kayla broke down the use of pronouns in our everyday sentences and shed light on the importance of gender neutral language. I’m not that big into the sims but I feel like this is something that would draw in a lot more players (including myself) and bring some new excitement to such an important community. Kayla’s super cool for dedicating a whole video to this and I hope she knows that :)
In french we litteraly have two new pronouns for Non-Binary People : iel (combinaison between il (he) and elle (she)) and iels for the plural,and i think this and the pronouns update is a great step
omg i speak french and i didnt know that!! now that's interesting to know, thanks for sharing!❤❤
Go French!! 🙌 I've been wondering how gendered languages are going to evolve their language/grammar
So cool to know that it's starting to happen!
This is literally sooo cool. As someone who is really scared about taking of pronouns bc of the Spanish NB community. I think is really cool that you guys have found a new pronoun to make up for it. It upsets me how bad the actual solution for non binary pronouns is right now in Spanish; but that’s literally it. But I think this solution in French (as someone who can speak some of it) it doesn’t sound nearly as bad.
@@LemonBarchie and for the verbs,when we use past there are many conjugations,like composed past that accords with its gender but there is also the imperfect wich dosen't,so yeah,adding a pronoun in french isn't that big of a deal 😁
Thanks sm I take French in school and I was wondering if there was anything like this
idk why but the bluntness at “loser transphobes” just made it so utterly clear how much you’re done with bigots
How is it bigoted to not really understand the need for a custom pronouns feature? I’m trans btw
@@Ethan-ee8rv she made the distinction between people who don't really understand but are willing to get with the program, and people who willfully don't want to learn (aka bigots)
@@claudehu3169 I guess the criteria for what makes a bigot is a lot lower
@@Ethan-ee8rv oh that's pretty straightforward I think. Bigot = someone who treats others with hostility/intolerance because they don't wish to rethink their beliefs or prejudices even in the face of new information
@@claudehu3169 If people actually hate trans people then of course they’re bigoted and wrong, but I’m just talking about those who are fine with trans people but don’t really understand the need for custom pronouns. They don’t deserve to be bullied or murdered.
As a trans man, this is f***ing amazing. I don’t even need this but seeing this much representation makes me feel happy, and thank you simsie for being such a good ally, it’s ridiculous. Also, as a fellow Floridian I’m sure you’ve noticed it’s a hard area to be in as a trans person as it’s not the most progressive place in terms of politics. Glad to know there are sane and empathetic Floridians left lmfao
No but really, you give me hope for the future Kayla
oof theres a reason why i left florida, which is a shame because its where my home is u know?
I hope things change where you're from and it gets easier for your group to live in Florida.
As an LGBTQ Floridian I agree! I live in the worst part of Florida when it comes to homophobia and transphobia and it's absolutely exhausting. That's why I'm glad to have spaces like this where I can feel included
Being trans in Florida is difficult oml, I just stopped telling new people that I’m trans here because it’s dangerous at times(I’ve gotten violent reactions). It makes me happy as well to see that other people in Florida are trans friendly!
What people might not understand is that literally the Sims is a game where queer people have been playing out lives it's too dangerous for them to live irl for 20 years. This update matters to us. It really does.
Also I'm so happy to be in the Simsie community. She has always made this feel like a safe corner of RUclips. Love that.
I am a straight cis woman, but somehow your comment made me cry. I just cannot imagine how difficult the life must be when you are gay/trans/non-binary. How many troubles you face apart from everyday troubles. You are strong. Sending lots of love to all folks from LGBTQIA+ community ❤️🥺
(I’m not an English speaker, if i said something wrong, I’m sorry) I think what most of the simmers who complains that “ea doesn’t care” (aside for the lack os representation in media and general) or that they’re taking so long doesn’t understand is: the sims is played in lots of countries that doesn’t speak English, i’m brazilian and here we don’t have an official neutral pronoun, we use “ele” (for he) and “ela” (for her), some of us uses “elu” for them/they, but it’s not official, and I think other countries use some variants too. The point is, it’s hard to think how can they translate every pronouns in a right and respectful way to all of the countries. For example: i think that some people use ze/zie, but if u put your sim to the gallery, how can they translate ze/zir if we don’t even have pronouns to represent someone that uses they/them? It’s a hard thing, and I’m really interested to see all of these, but we have to be pacients, and remember that the sims is not an English game only.
That actually does makes sense with the translation issues. I hope it can be available to those in other countries, though. I'm sure the Sims team will figure it out.
Falou tudo parça
torcer pra não traduzirem they/them como elx/delx
This is true translation for other languages will be really hard. I don’t see that happening in polish because we do conjugation of every word.
Yeah and also just using sim name isn’t solving this problem because names are also specific to gender and also surnames so there are two types of the same surname feminine and masculine.
@@griffinthefrog9262 o mais provável que seja é terminar as palavras com gênero com X ou @, eu quero muito que consigam colocar o pronome neutro e os neos mesmo
as a trans demiboy this update makes me super happy but some things they should add either in the pronoun update or a diff update are
any / all pronouns
just their name (for the people who use just their name)
orientations (sexuality, gender, romantic or sexual prefs like aro, ace, poly etc)
binders (either as decor or in the clothing to make the afab characters chests flatter)
pride flags (custom ones n more options)
I feel like my stupidity really showed when i clicked on this video. I instantly thought the pronouns were gonna be in simlish and were confused on how people would even know what it says.
LMAO WAIT THATS HILARIOUS
As a trans-masculine, non binary person who's family doesn't support them, the first three minutes made me cry out of happiness. Thank you for being a safe space.
right T-T i’m wishing you the best! i hope you have / can have supportive people in your life
Couldn’t you not say me? Like I’m not tryna be pronoun phobic but I’m from NC and I’m not around much people who have different pronouns than she/her or he/him, so I’m still get the hang of it. But anyways, couldn’t you not say me? Because its not relating to any specific pronouns? (Also sorry that your parents don’t support you…but maybe they will someday…?)
@@that1liza881 that’s basic grammar. You can’t say the first three minutes made she cry out of happened or he cry out or they. They are talking in first person because they are talking about their self
@@that1liza881 huh? You want them to replace the word me?? even if your pronouns are she/her or he/his I don’t think you could change that word in this context and also have it still be grammatically correct. maybe do some research about pronouns, I don’t think that’s what they meant at all
I'm non binary and my family don't support me either. I'm over here with almost tears of happiness with the love, acceptance and recognition Kayla gives us
This has 3k comments so I'm sure this will fade into the background BUT I NEEDED to say how much I loved and appreciated your explanation at the beginning and telling people to leave if they refuse to just be respectful of people's preferences.
I wholeheartedly agree with you on Gender, however, do you truly believe that “You’re not welcome here” is representing an open-minded perspective that seeks to show respect even to those who do not?
When you try to include both wolves and sheep, you will only get wolves. Allowing bigoted people in a space that is meant to be welcoming inherently makes the space unsafe for a huge number of people. It's called the paradox of tolerance
@@DeianiraJax worded that very well, take my likes
@@DeianiraJax I understand entirely what you mean, and share your concern, however still, If we show respect to those that don't than don't we have a chance of providing bigoted people an example of what respect looks like, instead trying to fight fire with fire?
I'm so glad you are so supportive about this update. I just came from a Reddit post that was just full of microagressions, mostly "great for people that care. I don't care. Doesn't affect me. Would rather have them work on other things personally".
Some people can't see outside the scope of how things personally affect them. Like imagine if people said this in response to the skin tones update or because they let you choose genders.
Sims is about SIMulating real life and everyone should be able to recreate themselves or their friends in the game!
Also, the fact that minorites can no longer see themselves represented in ANY form of media without people crying "PANDERING!" is just so so sad. It's a free update... Mostly for the people who already own the game who gave been asking for the ability for years. Stop trying to devalue or invalidate the representation that is important to some people.
When I grew up, there was no representation and I felt alone... Like something was wrong with me. That I couldn't tell anyone. If I saw someone like me on TV, I would have felt so much better. People don't understand how important these things are.
How is it bad that some people don't care? Not everyone is transgender or will make transgendered Sims. This doesn't add much gameplay outside of textboxes and won't affect my gameplay because I do not make a non-binary Sim. It's very valid to want them to work on other things when they don't care about something else. And that does not make them transphobic, they just have other needs.
@@courtneywaters-jenkins2601 because it’s very clearly being said to down play or dismiss it. Recognizing a whole group of people as existing is pretty important to many people. Essential to representing themselves and people like them. Imagine them only adding dark skin tones now and people were like “I’d rather they work on other stuff” as if they can’t both exist. Also, people were going way beyond “I don’t care”. But if you don’t care, then keep it to yourself maybe
@@kstar1489 I see what you mean, but it is true that it is not important to everyone, as straight individuals do not use "pronouns" or need to choose them, and they are not transphobic losers because they wanted other things to be worked on. The Sims 4 has very much been slacking in terms of gameplay but they continually add CAS and build stuff which is clear that when people were demanding they add pronouns it does take away from gameplay because they have to do so much coding and research.
@@courtneywaters-jenkins2601 this update means so much to many ppl. And cis ppl still use pronouns everyone uses pronouns
@@courtneywaters-jenkins2601 just because you dont care about this update, doesn't mean the update is not important
I absolutely love how she just “your transphobic. You are not welcome” I have never heard her say anybody is not welcome to her channel. I love how willing she was to say “hey. This is a pro trans channel. If you disagree. Well leave” the fact that I feel the need to love the fact she said that makes me kinda hurt I feel like you shouldn’t have to be proud of somebody for simply accepting trans people cause it’s such a simple thing. Yet I do because how many people seem to hate trans people for simply existing and wanting respect
i’m pretty sure she doesn’t talk a lot like that on her channel but she does often on her stream! anyone being offensive or hurtful in the chat gets banned or muted for a time by her mods too
@@-kr1st1n52 Should also be in hell
It's very sad that people hate trans people simply for existing and wanting respect, that's for sure. They deserve respect like anyone else. But I am disappointed that Kayla resorted to name calling for people having a slight disagreement with her. She needs to respect other people's opinions. I was shocked to hear that she would alienate other people for having different opinions on the transgender debate. I can respect her pro-trans stance while still disagreeing with her, and she should do the same and set a good example for the kids who watch her. I disagree with her and I do not hate trans people and will respect them and their pronouns and such, but I don't agree with the ideology that gender is all just a fake social construct and that there is no difference between males and females, and that we should let biological men compete against biological women as that is unfair.
@@courtneywaters-jenkins2601 how would you describe gender then?
@@courtneywaters-jenkins2601 LMAO, is always "respect other peoples opinion" when it comes to shit like transphobes and stuff like that. if you feel butthurt about trans people having a safe space in here you are more than free to leave.
The Sims is a groundbreaking game. The fact that two dudes or two girls can have a child sharing both parents' genetics is incredible. As a cis gay dude I always felt underrepresented in gaming and media. I can only imagine what it must be like for the countless trans folk. I'm glad to see an update like this. Thank you, EA!
Thank you, EA!
I can see this update being EXTREMELY healing for people who might not be able to use their name or pronouns around their family or in their community. The Sims is an escape from reality for a lot of people, and it’s SO important to let people be their authentic selves. Very well worded and educational video… looking forward to this update!
as a closeted trans guy i totally agree. i always play as a male character in games but then being able to put my pronouns in will make me really happy!
I’m non-binary (my pronouns are she/they), and I’m SO HYPED about this!!!! My trans sims will finally be able to have the pronouns they deserve!!
Wait I recognise you from tiktok, pretty sure I'm following you. Hey fam! :D
@@leolion3323 that’s so cool! Yeah tiktok is my main place
as a non-binary person who uses they/them, this is very exciting!!!!
Yeah, i am so looking forward to it!!
sameeee
Same! It’ll definitely be a big improvement
same ahh im so excited !!
Not gonna lie this news made me cry a little. As someone who uses they/them as well as it/xe/other neopronouns I was so worried they weren't gonna give us the option to add custom ones and it was just gonna be the three most "common" sets [he/she/they].
I'd love to see it extended to fit the entire "usual" format for pronouns, ie they/them/their/their/themself for those who have more complex pronoun sets, as well as maybe an ability to save sets for future use?? The ability to switch between multiple sets would also be cool to see. Super excited about the future of this 🧡🧡🧡
I cried too. Especially when she told the ickies to go away. I love Kayla.
@@mornasev yes same!! seeing cis people actually doing something for our community and not just saying they support us makes me so happy, i feel like the world is evolving a little bit
I have a question. What kind of gender is usually paired with "it" and "xe"? I know about the basic ones, like he, she, they, and cis female/male, transgender, genderfluid, non-binary, but I don't usually hear about it/xe pronouns, and this made me curious
@@Renikee pronouns don't equal gender but i get what you mean :) it/its pronouns are often used by agender people and by non binary people, and all neopronouns are gender neutral
K, what are neopronouns? I’m so confused. 😅
My sims were gay before I was (aka before I realized lmao)
This is so cool ! I remember being a tween and putting my sims in gay or lesbian relationships in the FISRT sims game. I'm bi and the sims are bi by default, it's entirely up to you, the player, to chose what their sexuality is . And as a young bi who felt the bi erasure really hard, I remember that playing the sims felt SO validating... I'm so excited for the younger players to learn about neopronouns and themselves through the sims... Changes like that have a massive impact on our culture. I know it's gonna be amazing for the trans / enby players but also for every other players who will learn through this gameplay. I can't wait for the update, and even if it's not gonna be perfect, it's clear that the sims team in charge of the project are doing it with care and the best intentions in mind.
I’m a cishet woman, I don’t know many non-binary/anyone who uses neopronouns irl (purely because of where I live and that fact that I’m an introvert who doesn’t meet many people lol) but I still appreciate this update a lot. I can’t say it affects me much as I’m not the audience that is now newly seeing themselves in this game, but it is still something I am so glad to see in a game that is supposed to be catered to everyone. This is huge for such a massive game and hopefully it’ll only get better ❤️❤️
Thank you for being an ally
Rachael’s speech about their pronouns actually made me cry, this is so important and I’m really glad that the sims team is working on this. Trans rights!! 🏳️⚧️
When I found out about the pronoun update I was SO happy as a non-binary person.
I use he/they/xe pronouns, but choose the female Sim because cuter clothes and stuff. I've avoided making Sims that look too much like me because seeing a sim that looks like me but the being called by feminine terms ingame makes me super icky feeling.
neopronouns are transphobic
@Ness Lane its the reason people are scared of trans ppl and it mocks them generally anyway. Also transmasculinity doesn't exist trans men are men
@Ness Lane bruh
@@plant5875 TW: r4p3
you give mad "they're asking for it by wearing revealing clothing" energy. its just not how it works. instead of hating on people using neopronouns for "making people be transphobic" you, idk, maybe teach and educate transphobes? just an idea.
@@inkstock the tw lmao
Also it is exactly how it works. If neopronouns didn't exist itll be easier to teach transphobes
as a nb fan watching you patiently and respectfully explain pronouns while also making it clear that your channel isn't for transphobes rlly got me right in the heart, but like, in a good way. thanks simsie
Im really glad they are doing this, I feel like most people don't understand how ambitious this project is. I am half Polish, half Lithuanian and both those languages are unfortunately very gender-oriented. Even in real-life it is so hard to talk to a person without ,,assuming" their pronouns. I work as a cashier in a clothing store and it's a constant fear of mine that I mispronounce someone... I really don't want to hurt anyone's feeling but it's so hard not to use any gender-oriented words in even the most basic sentences. I truly believe that both Lithuanian and (especially) Polish languages need to undergo some kind of a language ,,revolution" as unfortunately they are broken at their core which makes them extremely not inclusive. I am saying this only to make it easier for English speakers to understand how complicated and ambitious this whole EA's project is. Unfortunately, not every language is so easily converted to being more inclusive as English.
yeah, same in portuguese :/ even the term "non-binary" has to be gendered... ("não-binária" or "não-binário") :|
Thank you for this comment.
I saw some anger on Reddit about this update and how it’s being done in English first and it sucks that other languages have to wait even longer.
Which I agree with to an extent. It does suck to wait longer. But those comments ignored the scope and complexity of this project for a game played all over the world.
I agree! Polish is so so gendered!
I'm Polish but i live in Germany and I am so so glad everyday that I can call my customers "Sie" and not "pan/pani"! I agree with you completely about our language needing to change, unfortunately I don't think it's gonna happen any time soon given how many Poles still aren't familiar with the trans culture and many are sadly still downright transphobic.
Ja w kawiarni też się zawsze boję, gdy pytam "co pani/panu podać", staram się używać "co mogę podać" ale to nie brzmi aż tak kulturalnie i ehhh... Jak żyć!
i was smiling through the whole intro! kayla was so forceful on her beliefs and acceptance and it made me so proud. i was like "yes, tell them transphobes kayla, they are not welcome!" i know im not perfect, im still learning pronouns and stuff and sometimes i mess up and have to correct myself, but the diff between me and transphobes is that i am trying! i am so proud of the sims 4 for trying as well
i love how simsie includes lgbtq+ characters into her game. as a genderfluid lesbian it makes me so happy :)
Wait... you're genderfluid, so are you lesbian and hetero at the same time? Sorry, I'm just curious, it's not to be rude, I'm sorry if I am
@@emashkebb.885 not rude at all :) but a lesbian is essentially a non-man (typically feminine presenting) loving other non-men (also typically femme). hope that makes sense
@@hellfaerie4553 since when did lesbian mean nonmen? we're women :/ lesbian isnt really an inclusive sexuality /nm
@@seomews well it is to them.
@@seomews i’m trans non-binary and also lesbian, we exist and it’s valid
So glad they're working on this! I wish more of the feminine clothes fit masculine frames though, a lot of them add a breast bumps to the masculine frame.
Yeah it looks very odd
Seeing people in the live chat when they were talking about pronouns say "they can add this but not _____???", "I'm bored"/"zzzz", or just blatantly being transphobic was so upsetting. I hate that people don't care about important things like this that makes the game more inclusive for a massive portion of TS4 community. This is game changing for a lot of people.
It’s so awful 😞😞😞😞 people were like that as well in the Latino community stream. So xenophobic and racist, I was massively triggered by it 🤡
@@silverflvme It happens pretty much every time they try to include a minority group. It's disgusting. I'm sorry you had to go through that.
I'm genderfluid and although I'm completely fine with everyone using female pronouns when talking about me I always try to give my two cents when people are weird about they/them pronouns. I always try to explain they/them pronouns how you just did but some people just refuse to see it that way. I always love how open and accepting you are! 🥰
Hi, so this is a strange reply to your comment, but I'm questioning about being genderfluid and I was just wondering how it went for you coming out? How could you tell the difference between being genderfluid and gendernonconforming? You don't have to answer if you're uncomfortable.
I rlly hope sims 4 adds a option for you to have more than two pronouns and “change gender” option like the “change outfit” button for us genderfluid simmers
@@gracified4671 so in my personal experience being genderfluid may be that one day you feel happy with being female but the next you hate it with a burning passion or maybe somewhere in between. It can change randomly
@@gracified4671 Hi, not a strange reply at all! To be honest I really never came out I sort of just never hid it. And how I finally decided that I was genderfluid is a really long story, probably to long for RUclips comments. I'll happily tell it if you want me to tho. As for the difference between being genderfluid and gendernonconforming to me its all about the day to day. I think a lot of non-binary people always feel somewhere in the middle like never 100% male or female. As for me most days I'm perfectly fine with both feeling and acting like a girl but somedays I guess I just feel like more. Like I'm more then just a girl but not 100% to feeling like a boy. Although very rarely I just want to wear a suit and pee standing up lol. I hope this helped a little, I'll be happy to talk a lot more about this or answer any other questions! :)
@@deasgusting that would be cool, especially if you want to play with a transgender sim who goes through transition while you play with them
Why is everyone so obsessed with gender? Just be your perfect self whether masculine/feminine and everything in between. You don't have to put a label on every new concept. I swear they come up with a new thing every year. This obsession with constantly having to define new labels is exhausting. Plus, these labels are going to be outdated in 10 years anyways.
Kayak, as a non-binary simmer, I appreciate you calling transphobes out SO MUCH. It makes me feel so safe in your community.
Thanks MoMo for all your hard work!
Edit: your community truly is my safe space 💕
I went to the comments to mock any transphobes who showed up.
I just wanted to underline to the fact, how confident Kayla invited all the noninclusive people to leave. A lot of respect to say all of this so firmly. RUclipsrs often tend to be so politically correct that they forget their values.Also - this update is a big step to make the world a better place!
Its so nice that the entire sims community is so supportive of the LGBTQIA+ community. Even EA them selfs recognize, and actively supports them. Maybe it just the fact that people are getting smarter now, and recognizing that hating on this type of stuff it pointless. Either way, nice to see the support
It's only capitalism, baby, don't be too flattered. Remember all of the horrible stuff that big brands of 20th century supported
@@helldog9402 Regardless of WHY companies do it, all that matters is that they did it. Things that companies supported in the 20th century are still being talked about today. Capitalism or not, what's popular is what survives.
@@helldog9402 i mean... sure! I don't know what that has to do with anything
@@RandomCronch i think they just meant that the companies only do it for money. Like they use this for people like you or others who are lgbtqia or allies to get their attention and use your money to buy the game and they recieve it ofc and they dont actually care about lgbtqia...... they just want your money basically
As a trans-nonbinary person, thank you SO much for being one of the (unfortunately) few youtubers who actively and loudly supports trans people.
I'm very excited for this update! As an LGBTQ person I've always appreciated how inclusive the Sims is. When I realized I'm bisexual, I had a lot of internalized biphobia and the Sims honestly helped me work through it. I've also been questioning my own gender identity and experimenting with pronouns, and I don't really have much support irl. So having a game that lets me play with these options is definitely nice.
Also, thank you for standing up for the LGBTQ community! I've seen a lot of hate for the pronouns update, so it's good to be reminded that the Sims community is inclusive.
As a genderfluid: her "please leave" to the transphobe-losers really made me feel happy! Kayla is such a good person, all around!
Ty for your support!!!
That explanation of pronouns in the beginning was probably so helpful and informative for many people. Thanks!
first 3 minutes of explaining was so well done Kayla, especially how they/them is used as a singular subject too!
Kayla did it better in a few minutes than most of English teachers I've encountered haha ;D
They/them has always been used for singular, people just don’t realise and it’s stupid.
My thoughts on this are as follows: i probably won’t use it, but it makes me smile that it’s there for people who will :)
this is exactly the attitude I wish more people had !
@@im.a.goblin4719 same here
Same, even if I make myself, I'll probably still use he/him in-game.
I've been waiting for a pronoun update forever! I'm definitely one of the people who have been requesting this 🥰
lol...
To the trolls lurking the comments: We wont feed you any attention, we will just simply laugh at you. But thank you for trying anyways