Passive Aggressive comments is a huge red flag for haters! Example: “Girl, why are you dressed up? You trying to be chosen tonight?, why are you wearing make up, we are just hanging out!” The reality of these comments are hidden in the words unsaid!
Every single example you mentioned plus more I have experienced. And to be transparent my own mother hates me & has told me she’s jealous of me. Yeah, a real Lifetime movie. 😐 I’ve accepted it all & moved on.
Had/Have an aunt like that as well as a sibling. The beauty - accepting it and living for you, your purpose, like you said...they and their perspectives fade...
Your workplace analysis is on point! I had to leave my job due to jealous coworkers who did everything they could to push me out, mainly passive aggressive and sabotaging behaviours. My boss had even asked me why do I think these women are behaving the way they were. My response took her aback, but I was direct and said clearly ‘they are jealous’ 🤭 I think she thought I was being arrogant but I could also tell that she knew there was truth in what I was saying 🤷🏾♀️
I'm a tomboy and dress more for comfort with light makeup or none, but I believe that I am genuinely feminine. I often attract masculine men, and I unfortunately often get vitriol from other women for no reason and am naturally soft-spoken. Oddly enough, sometimes a dressed down women can be more feminine than a dressed-up woman who has masculine energy.
I’m work in critical care as a nurse and I was so shocked at some of the evil women I met were older women who are successful. I was not prepared for that encounter. I had to adapt so quickly that I ended up changing but luckily I adapted so quickly to who I was and stayed the course. They are still negative but I go on living my life at work. It’s sad that some people actually go their way to make your life hell. This is a great video. Incredible.
I’m 67 and time flies. I say this to say, see it, it’s real and keep it moving. Don’t waste your energy. Most important part is know what you’re seeing is what it is. So very sad, but so very true. Anyone can be their best if that’s where they put their energy. Don’t even let their energy in.
I have experienced the first scenario as a teenager living in a foster home where the foster mother was literally worried and jealous of me that her 40-something year old boyfriend wouod like me. A minor! A teenager! I experienced so much hate and bullying from women as a child it made me distrustful and dislike women altogether. In my opinion, women who are clique-ish are not real feminine women. I have experienced being in groups where the women act as though they were feminine, but exclude me and other women in the group, i witness them talking about women and then the next day hanging out with the same woman. I have also experienced being in a friend groups black women who were dark skin complexion, but i would get microagressions from them because im lighter skin complexion.
My older sister had the hardest time accepting my femininity. She bullied me my whole life after I got married she even agreed with my husband that I shouldn’t buy makeup and wear it. I had already paid 17 thousand for my cosmetology certification and wearing makeup and dressing up was the one thing they instilled in us. My sister told my husband I need to learn to suffer and go without that because everything else was more important. I literally cried so much. Me and my husband don’t talk to them anymore she always threw me under the bus and never applauded my success.
I'm so glad you're talking about this topic. I've always had issues with women not liking me because of how I look. It bothered me to the point where I didn't want to go anywhere. I get nasty stares from some people in my family or just random strangers. It made me feel sad because I wanted friends but I realized that I had to be around women who were feminine like myself and separate from being with those types of people because it can be dangerous when dealing with jealous people.
I relate to your comment so much it’s my life. Yes this is a REAL thing. Women don’t like you just because you’re beautiful. I just connected with a long distance cousin that relocated to my city. She acted like she wanted to see me , do lunch, hang out.. when I arrived at her house I saw the ugly looks at me. It hurt because I did not grow up around any female cousins so I longed for that connection. Some are the same as regular women I see. Stay beautiful. God designed you that way. ❤️
That’s why I love this channel so much! It’s reaffirming why I’ve always had so much drama from other women…even before I did the work! I didn’t realize it’s the reason most people have bullied me throughout childhood and early adulthood as well! This is so good!
Dr.Daf thank you so much, I have a lot of haters because am elegant and feminine. My mother-in-law hates me just because am elegant and feminine. My husband asked her if I had done something bad to her, and she said I AM ALWAYS CLASSY, EVERYTHING MUST BE CLASSY.
Thank you for this message. A so Called a friend rated me a 5 & I felt embarrassed. Even if she felt that way, it’s just things you don’t need to say out loud. But now I feel like she feels guilty and it’s been awkward energy since I left her home.
I have dealt with just about everything you've stated. I only wish I could have known what was going on years ago. Thank you for breaking this down. I have always thought it must be something wrong with me.
Im a man and I watch your content because I love how you articulate yourself as a feminine woman, and literally everting you say applies to both men and women (though I know your lens is thru a feminine lens). It helps me understand women better, understand men better, understand myself.. esp bc even as a masculine man, I have been through variations of ALL of these from men AND women ! Thank you
Ive never been extremely feminine to my knowledge but ive always been kind, natural and respectful and comfortable un my own skin , not a hater of other women I actually had to stop complementing some women because they think its one up on you..smh I was nieve to the "game" ...at church they hated me. Smile in my face and talk about me behind my back ... i have a nice shape but not permiscuous.. the men in church would open doors and chat with me out of respect... when i realized what was going on, I was soo shocked to realize what was happening. I can not deal with catty women just real down to earth beautiful women (inside and out).
Yaaaasss❤ would you ever consider having a retreat? When you said so many of us have been following you for years that really hit me. I re started my feminine journey with you about four years ago and it’s been so revolutionary. We need a RETREAT so those of us who’ve been on this journey can meet, uplift each other and have a blast together for a few days😂
This video spoke to me. I was one of those people who believed that no one was jealous of me or didn't like me. I also experienced someone trying to sabotage me at work over a guy and she noticed I started levelling up. I have also experienced terrible comments from women who were way better than me in all aspects. Even the part about honouring certain parts of my feelings-I need to do it more.
"They do not like me" has been the biggest lesson of most of my "friendships" for the last several years. Thankfully, I'm getting much better at noticing when they don't like me and slowly backing out of the "friendship". "Why you so dressed up? We're only going here." -> I've heard that and it baffles me every time! Girl, if you want to be cute too, BE CUTE! But don't come for me because I like to look cute every time I leave the house!!
DR DAF May we have a part 2 with this please, i would like to hear another story of yours with a plot twist lmbo also very good points , it did used to bother me when i say good morning to another women and they wouldn't reply and now I'm just like ok whatever at least I have manners.
As a man, I can say this is what makes a woman truly captivating. It's a woman being who she truly is, and that's the best you can be. Don't let anyone stop you from being who you truly are.... Stay feminine , and keep being the wonderful woman you are ❤ Love the video. I hope it reaches out to all those women who need it...
I came across a video about femininity and the lady was speaking a bit roughly... And In my mind I was like "I can't watch this... She needs to speak like Dr Michelle she is so smooth and gentle ..." Your voice is so calming in itself no matter what you are talking about...
I love you so much. Your videos truly have this way of just reeling me in and keeping me hooked and spellbound. You’re so magnetic and captivating. And relatable and transparent. You have an incredibly inviting energy and I LOVE IT. I will ALWAYS support your content. I will always love you and what you stand for. If you lost all of your followers and subscribers today, rest assure you’d still always have ONE that’s not going anywhere. Thank you. God bless you queen.
I had to come to grips with this recently! This channel has helped transform me! This and feminine universe page. This junk is so real! Some people don't like you just because. Jealousy is real. Dimming your light is also real!!! As soon as I started to allow my light to shine all hell broke loose. 🕯️ ☀️
I have and am still experiencing this with people. I’ve learned to not let it bother me. ❤❤❤ Every scenario you mentioned, I’ve experienced with friends and family! It use to bother me when I was much younger because I didn’t understand then, but now that I’m older (47) I understand why now. It was really bad when I became a stay at home wife & homeschooling my children. I would get the looks and stares as if I was wasting my life, but yet they wondered how I still managed to stay put together. I even got the mean girl looks in the SAHM/homeschooling community too! 😂 Great video sis, thank you for sharing!
First of all, you look great! I watched this video several times. The beautiful thing is that it came out two days after I’d spoke to a friend on the issue of jealousy and strife so I felt that this was a great encouragement from the Lord! I’ve been in the hating giving side before realizing my blessings so I recognize some of the examples you gave. I love how articulate you are and your ability to convey truth. Lastly, I must say you look so cute making faces! I especially enjoyed the face made at 22:10 😂
Thank you so much for making this video Daphne and focusing on people jealous of FEMININE WOMEN this is a real thing that we battle with. This video really brought peace to me. ❤️
Thank you. I really needed this, thank you for sharing I didn’t have someone with more experience who could teach me or share thoughts like this. I admire your personality so I’m glad that I could hear this from you. Thanks again :)
Great video and encouragement lord know it’s hard out here. I love love 💕 anything feminine. Thank you Dr.Daf you look stunning and beautiful as usual 🫶🏽💕
Thank you for this!!! I am currently dealing with these issues at my job and with certain family members!!! It's like misery wants company, and I don't want to be miserable any more. My mind is made up in the Name of Jesus ✝️
I always enjoy listening to your videos. They are so relatable for us feminine girlies, it’s really tough for us out here because we are the ones putting in the footwork and trying to hold it together for everyone out here. I really appreciate your content, please continue to make more.
I've experienced all of this you explained and more except for the mother issue. I'm still going through it now and also in the workplace trying to make me lose my job, talking about me and spreading rumours about me. List goes and it's stressful and upsetting. I can't stop or turn off who I am and before I used to try to and to fit in but I don't anymore as I understand that's not how I'm designed. You look lovely and your videos are always helpful. Thank you for this video, it's very on point ❤️😘
Dr. Michelle, can you please cover the topic of avoiding conflict in your relationship/marriage & how to navigate arguments or dissolve them completely?
I understand and have experienced a lot if not all of what is said in this video. For reasons relating to abuse over the course of my life, I'd say and recognize that I've been pulled out of femininity because I was forced into defensive, closed state understandably. On appearances, there used to be joy I took in just existing as a woman and enjoying what that meant to me physically and no matter what, I still got hate (whether or not I was rich, or I was up to trends) because of the integrity I have inside. But have remained who I am inside. I will say that for me it matters less about how somebody looks to how they treat you. I understand that aligning with similar-minded people (so for the OP, women that are feminine of presence and looks), I do not agree that people taking care of themselves in some type of way translates to being treated better. I have been hated by all kinds because the personality, and character, and integrity is there that is threatening. I will also say, there are ugly cruel people no matter religion. Ideally, the positive teachings of religion that teach us to respect each other are so valuable... but as we know (and the people OP has come across) can be religious or claim whatever but the character and integrity is missing. If I were to evaluate myself, I uphold values that make religious people drawn to me but then will judge me for superficial reasons or based on hateful judgment for ultimately unimportant expectations that do not stand on how I treat others. This is to say to whoever matters, focus on how you treat others. That is the core. And it hurts so much when no matter, you will receive malice no matter what you do or don't do (this video touches on that). Sorry for the large post but maybe this helps whoever relates or you understand what I mean. This was a great video of value from Michelle and compelled me to post.
This is one of my top 3 favorite videos from you. I love that you even mentioned that this happens in the church community too 👀 it’s so sad. Every example and story you shared was spot on.
I love this so much, I have been having problems with this my whole life. People would say I'm not acting the way they want or I'm being too nice a soft for them. Thank you for this video. 😊💖
OMG, your look is just adorable! Your hair all braided up like that is just the cutest thing ever! And your whole outfit? Such an amazing sense of style and great topic
Dear Dr. Michelle Daf, Recently, I have been reflecting on my personal growth, especially in the context of relationships. I've encountered feedback from two individuals I've been dating, both noting that I may have a tendency to exhibit a quick-to-offend attitude. They both made a statement saying I have a bad attitude. Despite my efforts to improve, it seems there's more work to be done. Your expertise in psychology and personal development has inspired me, and I believe your insights could benefit not only myself but also others facing similar challenges. I would like to kindly request if you could consider creating a RUclips video on this issue, offering guidance on recognizing and transforming negative thought patterns and behaviors.Your wisdom and godly advice could truly make a positive difference in many lives, mine included.
God is really using you to touch lives, because the way i connect to everything you said. hmmmm...Please don't stop, Sending you love and may God continue to bless you💞
Been away for awhile…as following you from since the pandemic and when you opened up by sharing one of your first video.. Soooohappy to see the growth of your channel.. 🥰🥰… as usual coming through with your Godly message in a secular topic🥰🙏🏽🌺
Your examples are always head on with my experiences. I wished you took on clients for life coaching or talk therapy. Either way, thank you. Your videos ALWAYS bless me, sincerely.
I would like to know how to react as a feminist woman in front of what is happening in the world. I get very angry in front the injustice in Africa, in the holy land, in Ukraine… and don’t know how to react un a feminine way
I personally support women in these areas of conflict by buying certain fashion/accessories that is either produced by women in that region or the proceeds are donated to them, there are a couple of cookbooks that support women as well. I also socially follow women involved in world issues and philanthropy/humanitarian work (Amal Clooney, Meghan Duchess of Sussex, Angelina Jolie, etc..)
I, personally, avoid the daily news of such. I guard my ear and eye gates of emotional distress, avoid conversations about such and hence reduce my stress levels. Instead, I support those who are involved in grassroot organizations
What if you were the one dealing with jealousy and comparison? I struggle with it a lot. I feel very insecure around other women especially if they are more beautiful than me. I even feel some type of way if the guy I am with treats other women kindly I start thinking well does he want them. What if I am the one struggling with envy how can I deal with It? Ps I am also on my way to femininity and i absolutely love your channel. ❤
I have observed closely, many mums...There are only a few who are well put together and are good mums! Many of the mums who are very beautiful, are not good moms( giving there babys to someone else, to take beautytreatments many hours or go to gym, when they should be there for there babys etc) - they look good, but for what cost? I have decided that my priority at this short time is my baby. No Nails or Makeup etc... i do my best, to look fresh and clean and to be a good mum not a model or seeking Attention from other men- i dont think thats right. I also have a friend( a mom), she is really dressing so sexy, with very short dresses etc...i dont invite her when my man is at home😂
I think we need to make it clear that “some” men like feminine women not all obviously based on the current state of relationships of this culture. Many men love toxic women.
Women at my job complain about their weight etc all the time. I just stand there saying nothing, because I love myself. That just makes them dislike me more. I do get dirty looks from women all the time. Men usually stare, do a double-take, or look at me with their mouth open. I get men running to the door to open it for me. I don't think I'm all that tbh. I feel I am humble and comfortable with myself for the most part
Dr. Michelle, The most combative human being I've had these issues with is my very own Mother......It's worse because I have 2 daughters and I didn't interact with them in combative ways.
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Passive Aggressive comments is a huge red flag for haters!
Example: “Girl, why are you dressed up? You trying to be chosen tonight?, why are you wearing make up, we are just hanging out!”
The reality of these comments are hidden in the words unsaid!
YES!!!
Yes or just gaslighting in general! I’m so glad my vision is clearer now! 🤗
I get this comments all the time at Work,I don't dress up , but his is who I'm that's it
" you don't wanna mess with people who are close to God" 📌come on now!
That part! AMEN 🙏🏾
Loved the fact that you stated not matching others bad energy. When people do that the toxic cycle is never broken.
I LOVE being my feminine little me!!!💕 Praise the Lord!!!
Whenever I listen to your content I feel extra feminine.
🌺☺️🙏🏿
Ive dealt with jealousy from women everywhere church, school, street, grocery store, its pathetic and make me sick!!!!
Every single example you mentioned plus more I have experienced. And to be transparent my own mother hates me & has told me she’s jealous of me. Yeah, a real Lifetime movie. 😐 I’ve accepted it all & moved on.
So sorry 💔
Had/Have an aunt like that as well as a sibling. The beauty - accepting it and living for you, your purpose, like you said...they and their perspectives fade...
I'm so sorry sweetie! That is unreal. Praying for you and your healing 💕✨
Beautiful comment😘
I'm so sorry that your own mother is that way. It isn't you it's her obviously . ❤ stay strong
Your workplace analysis is on point! I had to leave my job due to jealous coworkers who did everything they could to push me out, mainly passive aggressive and sabotaging behaviours. My boss had even asked me why do I think these women are behaving the way they were. My response took her aback, but I was direct and said clearly ‘they are jealous’ 🤭 I think she thought I was being arrogant but I could also tell that she knew there was truth in what I was saying 🤷🏾♀️
Dealing with this at work right now. It’s making me want to quit. This video helps a lot.
I'm in a same situation right now😢
I'm a tomboy and dress more for comfort with light makeup or none, but I believe that I am genuinely feminine. I often attract masculine men, and I unfortunately often get vitriol from other women for no reason and am naturally soft-spoken. Oddly enough, sometimes a dressed down women can be more feminine than a dressed-up woman who has masculine energy.
I’m work in critical care as a nurse and I was so shocked at some of the evil women I met were older women who are successful. I was not prepared for that encounter. I had to adapt so quickly that I ended up changing but luckily I adapted so quickly to who I was and stayed the course. They are still negative but I go on living my life at work. It’s sad that some people actually go their way to make your life hell. This is a great video. Incredible.
I’m 67 and time flies. I say this to say, see it, it’s real and keep it moving. Don’t waste your energy. Most important part is know what you’re seeing is what it is. So very sad, but so very true. Anyone can be their best if that’s where they put their energy. Don’t even let their energy in.
Thanks so much for the wisdom! 🤍🎉
I have experienced the first scenario as a teenager living in a foster home where the foster mother was literally worried and jealous of me that her 40-something year old boyfriend wouod like me. A minor! A teenager! I experienced so much hate and bullying from women as a child it made me distrustful and dislike women altogether.
In my opinion, women who are clique-ish are not real feminine women. I have experienced being in groups where the women act as though they were feminine, but exclude me and other women in the group, i witness them talking about women and then the next day hanging out with the same woman. I have also experienced being in a friend groups black women who were dark skin complexion, but i would get microagressions from them because im lighter skin complexion.
My older sister had the hardest time accepting my femininity. She bullied me my whole life after I got married she even agreed with my husband that I shouldn’t buy makeup and wear it. I had already paid 17 thousand for my cosmetology certification and wearing makeup and dressing up was the one thing they instilled in us. My sister told my husband I need to learn to suffer and go without that because everything else was more important. I literally cried so much. Me and my husband don’t talk to them anymore she always threw me under the bus and never applauded my success.
I'm so glad you're talking about this topic. I've always had issues with women not liking me because of how I look. It bothered me to the point where I didn't want to go anywhere. I get nasty stares from some people in my family or just random strangers. It made me feel sad because I wanted friends but I realized that I had to be around women who were feminine like myself and separate from being with those types of people because it can be dangerous when dealing with jealous people.
I relate to your comment so much it’s my life. Yes this is a REAL thing. Women don’t like you just because you’re beautiful. I just connected with a long distance cousin that relocated to my city. She acted like she wanted to see me , do lunch, hang out.. when I arrived at her house I saw the ugly looks at me. It hurt because I did not grow up around any female cousins so I longed for that connection. Some are the same as regular women I see. Stay beautiful. God designed you that way. ❤️
Figure out right away if people like you or not. It is crucial!!!
That’s why I love this channel so much! It’s reaffirming why I’ve always had so much drama from other women…even before I did the work! I didn’t realize it’s the reason most people have bullied me throughout childhood and early adulthood as well! This is so good!
Dr.Daf thank you so much, I have a lot of haters because am elegant and feminine. My mother-in-law hates me just because am elegant and feminine.
My husband asked her if I had done something bad to her, and she said I AM ALWAYS CLASSY, EVERYTHING MUST BE CLASSY.
Thank you for this message. A so Called a friend rated me a 5 & I felt embarrassed. Even if she felt that way, it’s just things you don’t need to say out loud. But now I feel like she feels guilty and it’s been awkward energy since I left her home.
Honest question..what is wrong with being a 5?
She showed her true face. The mask came off😮😮 Time to block and move on🥱🥱
I have dealt with just about everything you've stated. I only wish I could have known what was going on years ago. Thank you for breaking this down. I have always thought it must be something wrong with me.
I'm sorry you had to deal with it and hope you can find healing in this area beautiful 💕🤍✨Thank you for watching ✨
Thanks Dr. Daf, sis am glad I got this coz literally am I have gone thru this, from my step mom, at work and from female neighbours. God bless.
As long as you’re genuine, it not you it’s them.
Im a man and I watch your content because I love how you articulate yourself as a feminine woman, and literally everting you say applies to both men and women (though I know your lens is thru a feminine lens). It helps me understand women better, understand men better, understand myself.. esp bc even as a masculine man, I have been through variations of ALL of these from men AND women ! Thank you
Ive never been extremely feminine to my knowledge but ive always been kind, natural and respectful and comfortable un my own skin , not a hater of other women I actually had to stop complementing some women because they think its one up on you..smh I was nieve to the "game" ...at church they hated me. Smile in my face and talk about me behind my back ... i have a nice shape but not permiscuous.. the men in church would open doors and chat with me out of respect... when i realized what was going on, I was soo shocked to realize what was happening. I can not deal with catty women just real down to earth beautiful women (inside and out).
Yaaaasss❤ would you ever consider having a retreat? When you said so many of us have been following you for years that really hit me. I re started my feminine journey with you about four years ago and it’s been so revolutionary. We need a RETREAT so those of us who’ve been on this journey can meet, uplift each other and have a blast together for a few days😂
@@shesonfire_ that would be incredible!!!!
YES!!
This video spoke to me. I was one of those people who believed that no one was jealous of me or didn't like me. I also experienced someone trying to sabotage me at work over a guy and she noticed I started levelling up. I have also experienced terrible comments from women who were way better than me in all aspects.
Even the part about honouring certain parts of my feelings-I need to do it more.
"They do not like me" has been the biggest lesson of most of my "friendships" for the last several years. Thankfully, I'm getting much better at noticing when they don't like me and slowly backing out of the "friendship".
"Why you so dressed up? We're only going here." -> I've heard that and it baffles me every time! Girl, if you want to be cute too, BE CUTE! But don't come for me because I like to look cute every time I leave the house!!
That was the plot twist we needed when the girl asked 'why do you like her' and he literally replied because she ask a lot of questions..BOOP!
DR DAF May we have a part 2 with this please, i would like to hear another story of yours with a plot twist lmbo also very good points , it did used to bother me when i say good morning to another women and they wouldn't reply and now I'm just like ok whatever at least I have manners.
Random comment but I love your flower arrangement ! ( i'm an artist so the small details always grab my attention) lovely video as always 💖
Oh thank you so much darling 💕✨
I haven’t even finished this video and already I’m so grateful . I honestly didn’t not understand the problem . Thank you
You are most welcome honey 🤍
As a man, I can say this is what makes a woman truly captivating. It's a woman being who she truly is, and that's the best you can be. Don't let anyone stop you from being who you truly are.... Stay feminine , and keep being the wonderful woman you are ❤
Love the video. I hope it reaches out to all those women who need it...
Saying, Touch not mine anointed, and do my prophets no harm. Psalm 105:15 and **new subscriber alert**
Wish I could’ve heard this 20 years ago ❤
I wonder what the Bible says about haters and hating,and how to overcome it or the the wisdom to live with haters in harmony, because wow!
I came across a video about femininity and the lady was speaking a bit roughly... And In my mind I was like "I can't watch this... She needs to speak like Dr Michelle she is so smooth and gentle ..." Your voice is so calming in itself no matter what you are talking about...
Thank you honey!
Yassssssssssssi got haters all day& Night around my apt
Thank you Dr ❤omg this was God sent I have dealt with this my whole life and still dealing with it 🙃
You are so welcome love. I pray you are able to handle it with the help of the Lord. Thank you for watching love!
I love you so much. Your videos truly have this way of just reeling me in and keeping me hooked and spellbound. You’re so magnetic and captivating. And relatable and transparent. You have an incredibly inviting energy and I LOVE IT. I will ALWAYS support your content. I will always love you and what you stand for. If you lost all of your followers and subscribers today, rest assure you’d still always have ONE that’s not going anywhere. Thank you. God bless you queen.
Wow, thank you! So sweet!! Love you too!
I had to come to grips with this recently! This channel has helped transform me! This and feminine universe page. This junk is so real! Some people don't like you just because. Jealousy is real. Dimming your light is also real!!! As soon as I started to allow my light to shine all hell broke loose. 🕯️ ☀️
I have and am still experiencing this with people. I’ve learned to not let it bother me. ❤❤❤ Every scenario you mentioned, I’ve experienced with friends and family! It use to bother me when I was much younger because I didn’t understand then, but now that I’m older (47) I understand why now. It was really bad when I became a stay at home wife & homeschooling my children. I would get the looks and stares as if I was wasting my life, but yet they wondered how I still managed to stay put together. I even got the mean girl looks in the SAHM/homeschooling community too! 😂 Great video sis, thank you for sharing!
First of all, you look great!
I watched this video several times. The beautiful thing is that it came out two days after I’d spoke to a friend on the issue of jealousy and strife so I felt that this was a great encouragement from the Lord!
I’ve been in the hating giving side before realizing my blessings so I recognize some of the examples you gave.
I love how articulate you are and your ability to convey truth.
Lastly, I must say you look so cute making faces! I especially enjoyed the face made at 22:10 😂
Thank you so much for making this video Daphne and focusing on people jealous of FEMININE WOMEN this is a real thing that we battle with. This video really brought peace to me. ❤️
Thank you. I really needed this, thank you for sharing I didn’t have someone with more experience who could teach me or share thoughts like this. I admire your personality so I’m glad that I could hear this from you. Thanks again :)
GOD'S Girls are GOLDEN Girls‼️💯❤🤝🍎🍓
That's right 💕✨
@@drmichelledaf 🩶🩷🤍
The accuracy of all these examples 😊🎉
Ain't been on the job a full month and already got a hater at work. WHYYYYYYYY. I just wanna come to work and be nice. 🙄
Right on time as always! ⌚ 🌹
Thank you for watching love 💋
Wow!!! Femininity takes discipline!!! STAY WHO YOU ARE!!! Thanks Doc!!! I needed this so freaking much!!! I thank God for you and your femininity 💛💛💛
Great video and encouragement lord know it’s hard out here. I love love 💕 anything feminine. Thank you Dr.Daf you look stunning and beautiful as usual 🫶🏽💕
Oh Michelle how I would love to be your friend 🤍 you don’t know me but you are my mentor. Thank you for another amazing video
Thank you for this!!! I am currently dealing with these issues at my job and with certain family members!!! It's like misery wants company, and I don't want to be miserable any more. My mind is made up in the Name of Jesus ✝️
Wow. Thank you for this. I didn’t realized that our own mothers did this.
I always enjoy listening to your videos. They are so relatable for us feminine girlies, it’s really tough for us out here because we are the ones putting in the footwork and trying to hold it together for everyone out here. I really appreciate your content, please continue to make more.
I've experienced all of this you explained and more except for the mother issue. I'm still going through it now and also in the workplace trying to make me lose my job, talking about me and spreading rumours about me. List goes and it's stressful and upsetting. I can't stop or turn off who I am and before I used to try to and to fit in but I don't anymore as I understand that's not how I'm designed. You look lovely and your videos are always helpful. Thank you for this video, it's very on point ❤️😘
Dr. Michelle, can you please cover the topic of avoiding conflict in your relationship/marriage & how to navigate arguments or dissolve them completely?
I needed this video at least a decade ago. I need this now.
So goods start a series on this, please! You are doing great❤️
I understand and have experienced a lot if not all of what is said in this video. For reasons relating to abuse over the course of my life, I'd say and recognize that I've been pulled out of femininity because I was forced into defensive, closed state understandably. On appearances, there used to be joy I took in just existing as a woman and enjoying what that meant to me physically and no matter what, I still got hate (whether or not I was rich, or I was up to trends) because of the integrity I have inside. But have remained who I am inside.
I will say that for me it matters less about how somebody looks to how they treat you. I understand that aligning with similar-minded people (so for the OP, women that are feminine of presence and looks), I do not agree that people taking care of themselves in some type of way translates to being treated better. I have been hated by all kinds because the personality, and character, and integrity is there that is threatening.
I will also say, there are ugly cruel people no matter religion. Ideally, the positive teachings of religion that teach us to respect each other are so valuable... but as we know (and the people OP has come across) can be religious or claim whatever but the character and integrity is missing. If I were to evaluate myself, I uphold values that make religious people drawn to me but then will judge me for superficial reasons or based on hateful judgment for ultimately unimportant expectations that do not stand on how I treat others.
This is to say to whoever matters, focus on how you treat others. That is the core. And it hurts so much when no matter, you will receive malice no matter what you do or don't do (this video touches on that).
Sorry for the large post but maybe this helps whoever relates or you understand what I mean. This was a great video of value from Michelle and compelled me to post.
This is one of my top 3 favorite videos from you. I love that you even mentioned that this happens in the church community too 👀 it’s so sad. Every example and story you shared was spot on.
I love this so much, I have been having problems with this my whole life. People would say I'm not acting the way they want or I'm being too nice a soft for them. Thank you for this video. 😊💖
Thank you so much for this uplifting content🙏🏽
You are most welcome honey
OMG, your look is just adorable! Your hair all braided up like that is just the cutest thing ever! And your whole outfit? Such an amazing sense of style and great topic
Dear Dr. Michelle Daf,
Recently, I have been reflecting on my personal growth, especially in the context of relationships. I've encountered feedback from two individuals I've been dating, both noting that I may have a tendency to exhibit a quick-to-offend attitude. They both made a statement saying I have a bad attitude. Despite my efforts to improve, it seems there's more work to be done.
Your expertise in psychology and personal development has inspired me, and I believe your insights could benefit not only myself but also others facing similar challenges. I would like to kindly request if you could consider creating a RUclips video on this issue, offering guidance on recognizing and transforming negative thought patterns and behaviors.Your wisdom and godly advice could truly make a positive difference in many lives, mine included.
God is really using you to touch lives, because the way i connect to everything you said. hmmmm...Please don't stop, Sending you love and may God continue to bless you💞
Been away for awhile…as following you from since the pandemic and when you opened up by sharing one of your first video.. Soooohappy to see the growth of your channel.. 🥰🥰… as usual coming through with your Godly message in a secular topic🥰🙏🏽🌺
Girl I love u 😘 these videos are apart of my testimony with my transformation of 2023. Work in progress.
I love you too and I'm soooo happy to hear that love 💕💕💕
Amazing as usual, always learning with you💋
Thank you for watching sweetie 💕✨
Beautiful video!! Thank you for inspiring God's daughters💛💛
Hello yes it helps me, thank you very much for sharing.
So glad to hear that love. You are most welcome
You are my big sister in Christ ! 🎉❤ Thank you for your content ! So needed ! Be blessed ! ❤🎉
Aww I'm so happy to be that for you love 💕God bless you too 💋
omg thank you i needed this so much! 💗
You're so welcome love 💕 Thank you for watching ✨
Thank you dr Michelle just want I needed to hear.God bless you abundantly 🙏🏻💕
I love you so much Michelle. Thanks for these teachings.
I love your grace and voice and so I just had to subscribe 😃😃 just lovely
Thanks for the lovely and informative video. You look stunning and the colour of your top reallg compliments your skin tone👌
I Thank God for your influence it's so refreshing.😘💋💅👄
Thank you for watching love
So true 😊 love your content! ❤
Thank you darling 💕✨
@@drmichelledaf ❤️🧚
Thank you! As always this is such a blessing ❤️
You are most welcome love
Your examples are always head on with my experiences. I wished you took on clients for life coaching or talk therapy. Either way, thank you. Your videos ALWAYS bless me, sincerely.
You are amazing and an angel, thank you so much for everything ❤
Love this, bring light to the enemies ways.
This was such a wonderful video. So much wisdom shared with so much grace. ❤
Thank you so much babe 💕
Spot on! Thank you! 💜
You are so welcome honey
Yeiiii!! I was asking for this video ❤❤❤❤
Relatable content!!
Loved this an really needed it today .. Thank You...💕
Is there anyway to prevent this?
Thank you 🥰🥰🥰. Another wonderful video!
This video was right on time. Thank you! ❤
You are so welcome love. Thank you for watching!
Hallelujah 🙌🏾God girl😊
very interesting and refreshing perspective :)
30:38 the exact same thing happened to me 🤯
love the realness 💓
Wow 8:05 hit hard, its true
Thank you!🙏🏾
You're welcome honey 💕✨
Needed this
Wow to be called a friend of Jesus it’s An honour ❤
I would like to know how to react as a feminist woman in front of what is happening in the world. I get very angry in front the injustice in Africa, in the holy land, in Ukraine… and don’t know how to react un a feminine way
I personally support women in these areas of conflict by buying certain fashion/accessories that is either produced by women in that region or the proceeds are donated to them, there are a couple of cookbooks that support women as well. I also socially follow women involved in world issues and philanthropy/humanitarian work (Amal Clooney, Meghan Duchess of Sussex, Angelina Jolie, etc..)
@@Mackenzietkd526 thank you ❤️
I, personally, avoid the daily news of such. I guard my ear and eye gates of emotional distress, avoid conversations about such and hence reduce my stress levels. Instead, I support those who are involved in grassroot organizations
@@mahoganypr1526 thank you for your advices
What if you were the one dealing with jealousy and comparison? I struggle with it a lot. I feel very insecure around other women especially if they are more beautiful than me. I even feel some type of way if the guy I am with treats other women kindly I start thinking well does he want them.
What if I am the one struggling with envy how can I deal with It?
Ps I am also on my way to femininity and i absolutely love your channel. ❤
I have observed closely, many mums...There are only a few who are well put together and are good mums! Many of the mums who are very beautiful, are not good moms( giving there babys to someone else, to take beautytreatments many hours or go to gym, when they should be there for there babys etc) - they look good, but for what cost? I have decided that my priority at this short time is my baby. No Nails or Makeup etc... i do my best, to look fresh and clean and to be a good mum not a model or seeking Attention from other men- i dont think thats right. I also have a friend( a mom), she is really dressing so sexy, with very short dresses etc...i dont invite her when my man is at home😂
I think we need to make it clear that “some” men like feminine women not all obviously based on the current state of relationships of this culture. Many men love toxic women.
Women at my job complain about their weight etc all the time. I just stand there saying nothing, because I love myself. That just makes them dislike me more. I do get dirty looks from women all the time. Men usually stare, do a double-take, or look at me with their mouth open. I get men running to the door to open it for me. I don't think I'm all that tbh. I feel I am humble and comfortable with myself for the most part
Great video
Glad you enjoyed it!
Dr. Michelle,
The most combative human being I've had these issues with is my very own Mother......It's worse because I have 2 daughters and I didn't interact with them in combative ways.