(03:11) - Watch Jazzy gives her take on submission (15:25) - Woman speaks on her ex who recently passed (22:12) - Convenience store clerk facing murder charge for defending himself (25:09) - Lady defends cheating with married man (33:24) - Woman says black women push black men to white women (49:42) - Men are taught that sex is what makes them a man (01:05:44) - Why men push good women away (01:22:45) - Do you give for the sake of giving or is there expectation? (01:30:10) - Who comes first: spouse, children or parents? (01:40:30) - Is love enough to make the relationship work? (01:49:48) - How to develop better people skills
Hi. It would be helpful if you guys would do a segment on a proper way to get closure after infidelity. What should a person know &/or shouldn't know concerning infidelity.
He hit the nail on the head when he brought up people never moving more than 5 miles from where they grew up. I moved 1000 miles away from my hometown and everyone said I was crazy. I’ve made more money than I ever thought I could since I moved.
This episode was so timely for me. I just cut things off with someone that is an amazing man because he’s not ready for commitment and doesn’t see marriage/kids in the next two years. If I were younger I would be cool with waiting. But I’m too old (😩) for that big of a what if. Thank y’all so much 🖤
Trill hit the nail on the head, I’m in Atlanta, and that rapper Trouble situation is one of the stories buzzing. No disrespect to the dead, it’s just hard to feel any type of remorse from a dude who out his own mouth ima interview bragged about sleeping a married woman. The. When asked what if the dude find out, his ego goes on Super Sayion and he states they know me and not to play with me like that. What happens but he gets killed by a woman’s x boy friend but in the home where that man’s name is still on the lease. I sincerely hope men took a lesson from that situation. I was brought up with the lessons that you don’t fool with a man’s money, woman, food or kids. I do understand and agree to a point as far as how we are mislead, and not taught properly within our community, but there’s a line. You are taught the difference between right and wrong early, you also learn what you like as individual what feels good and what doesn’t. Yes your environment does have a big impact on you, but you are responsible for your decisions and choices. I’ve witnessed domestic violence very closely to the point that now at 43 years old, I still hear the screams. That taught me how not to treat a women, and especially the mother of my children who I’ve been married to 23years this July 23. A lot of the things I learned was from others, my cousin did this, got the extension cord, so I know what not to do. At some point I’m sure it clicks in everyone’s mind, this isn’t right, this doesn’t feel right, there has to be another way. It’s up to you to find that other way. Lastly marriage is such a beautiful thing that it pains me to see how things are today, as well as how people are more worried what others think and feel about their life, then enjoy living their life unapologetically. It’s unfortunate that God has taken a back seat, and these unions are treated with the proper respect. And my wife appreciates the hell out of ninja. I have to disagree about compatibility simply because arranged marriages seem to work better then what we see here in America. Again, God has taken a back seat, and God being Love is being treated like a fleeting feeling.
I don't know why I don't watch this show more often. It gets to the topics that I like but you can tell these men have confidence and can look at both sides of the issues.
The question was HOW DO MEN PUSH AWAY GREAT WOMEN and these people figure out a way to blame the women. DESPITE the host trying to bring them back to the original point. Crazy.
Oh plz. Y'all wanted a Becky with good hair. Stop using sister's as an excuse of why you cross the line. All races of women have women that aren't girlfriend or wifey material. I just turned 60. I've been divorced for 15 years. And the men my age can't even hold a decent conversation. But that doesn't make me wanna cross the line to other races of men.
Pertaining to the topic at 33:24, Trill is correct. Dudes are (mostly) not vying to date non-black women; just going where we are more often wanted/appreciated. It seemed like the way black girls judged me back in school was different than the way white girls did. I got often roasted for being darkskinned, my African heritage, being nerdy, talking white, etc by black girls(not all). Other girls didn't disrespect me for those traits. Looking back, there were obviously black girls that did like me, but being a socially awkward kid, you practically had to spell it out for me 😂 because I really hated rejection Glad I went to an HBCU and encountered more high quality women, Ive only dated black women since. But I definitely could have been jaded at my early experiences.
To add on to what the brother was asking about his social life and trying to get his social game up. I found that getting a job that forces you to interact with people help me a lot in this department. If you do ride share and you have someone in the car and simply asking how your day was can start off a great conversation and get you used to talking to different people. The more you do it, the more variety you get with the passengers. Hope that helps brother.
Trill that's too funny when i wrote my comment i hadnt even got to the advice column yet. The fact that you said exactly what i said confirms i get it now compatibility is definitely a factor that must be considered
I'm glad that I got the full context of the putting your husband first since the clip taken from this podcast was so short. I think an important thing to note is that as a woman who has no children, you can have the mindset to make your husband your #1 priority, but actually putting that into practice, is a totally different matter and that can sound like a weird, or even dangerous concept to someone who has children and is not familiar with what that entails. The married women who are this woman's friends could very well (and I hope they are) be in happy and satisfying marriages where their husband reassured of his value and they both make time for one another, nurturing their relationship and their kids. However, they don't call this "putting my spouse first." Like I said, anyone who hears that without any elaboration would automatically think of women who submitting to a man without question, no matter how horrible he was to their children. There have been countless cases where a woman in a relationship, married or not, neglected her child for a man, taking his side when accusations of sexual abuse came forth, and other shit. Any mother who understands what this means wouldn't be alarmed. And you cannot understand how it feels to manage and have a love for a child of your own until you experience it. And those very same children who leave and grow, they may have to be there for you if the marriage did not work out despite doing everything right or what you thought was right for that person
The Bible passage is not talking about marriage/relationship love. The context is loving the common people around you and those in the church. Paul is laying out what love is because they are using gifts to build their own ego and following.
This was very good and intelligent 👌 👏 I'm very impressed. All of you guys had very valid opinions and were very real 💯. Keep the videos coming. This is helpful to our communities. 🤎👍great job guys. On the money with it 💰lol
Jazzy sure switched up real quick for some money. According to her you should only submit to men who are worth it. So basically 90% of women all want the top dude. However, only 10% actually qualify to try out😭
Wow. Baby she did not switch up. She said be careful who you give your energy too. She then expressed that she gives those things that she held on to to her current boyfriend. Now do any of us know who Cam Newtown is behind closed doors? No. She expresses what she likes to do for him without him asking. She expresses herself and receives enjoyment from her behavior. Then she gave an example of something she does to please him just for him. Nothing Jazzy said was wrong for her and them.
Trill’s explanation a bout why black men are pushed to white women is exactly my story. Except I’m a girl. I was the curved brown-skinned nerd that black boys ignored. Didn’t get my first boyfriend until college.. Now I’m paid, kinda cute, and accused of hating my own race cuz I date outside other races. It’s fair to say this is a problem within the community as a whole. (Not just black women)
You’re still in a relationship now? If so love who you love. If not, don’t put us all in one box, what the smart people say, black people aren’t a monolith
Did u get rejected by black men, it's not the same women don't shoot shots at men mainly. Hiding yourself until college was a choice. U want to justify your choice.
Do you, go where you are appreciated. But most likely there were some low status dudes (maybe ugly lol ) who wanted you but you didn't really see them, maybe they were shy etc, I've never see a girl that nobody wanted even the very ugly ones, the opposite exists though they are called Incels. But yeah if you found somebody that treats you good and that you can work with do you.
@@furiousrobinson men put us in one box all the time that one box thing is a way for a man to not take accountability. Her case is not uncommon. Men need to be held accountable.
I have heard black men and women date and have children out of their race for something as simple as wanting their children to have “good hair”, which shows self hate.
Yea I have 2 mixed children a guy I work with seen me out with those to and said I got 2 pretty kids too. I looked and said I keep the ugly ones by your standards home. He went silent. I hate that shit
Yes Growing up as a young woman being told by most of the women elders that “men aren’t shit!” Part of me believed that based off what I was told and also by what I experienced. And I am only attracted to black men. Learning my story has taught me how to counter that.
Man, I need time stamps for my comment but this was a great convo! Ken held it down today opinion wise 💪🏾. My guy Smoove is hilarious all the damn time🤣✊🏾. Keep em coming yall!
At 1:31:05, from a biblical standpoint, the man covers the woman and the woman covers the child. So in this aspect, if the man is handling business as the leader, there would never be a reason that he will get the house in a situation where there needs to be a choice between him or his legacy. Children need a leader to guide them and protect them. The goal is the man and women to fill each other’s cups so there is a lot left to ensure the Child’s cup gets filled as well. If the man and child are hanging off a cliff, the woman will save the child because that man has strength and a mind to pull up and save himself. So they work together. Just my thoughts.
I’m referring to the convo being had at 48:00.. Kenny is the only one with common sense on the subject! Black men push black women to other communities just as much as BW May push BM away. We can’t sit up here and say one happens more than the other.
Let’s stop being disingenuous here. 70-80% of out of wedlock black kids are made by 20% of unmarried black men. Black women, far more than black men, continuously choose horribly and overlook the stable partner. 30% of black men are married, 50% are childless in the middle class, and 20% are fathers to 70-80% of out of wedlock kids, and that 20% is pookie/rayray
A spousal relationship takes the most work children parents and friends will be there. A person that you are choosing to love is a whole different relationship.
Yeah. I think that sometimes we can end up taking blood for granted at times though. Honestly though, I think it's more of a matter of feeling that family will always be there and love you because they have to, but your spouse doesn't. You can Honestly have family that does stuff for you out of a since of duty for your blood, but they cannot like you or even resent you. That goes for parents too, even if they do provide for you
Weird how when black men say the same story of their hard time or bad experience with black women, everyone can agree. But a black woman saying the same story of her constantly having bad experiences with black men, she needs to choose better because good men are somehow overflowing and plenty and she’s just not choosing right 😆 Lawd 🤦🏾♀️
Women already have spaces where they can discuss their hard times with bm and hav agreement within that space which is no different here. You can say in both situations the issue is the choice they made.
At 1:29:00, we say thank you Kenny! A good woman will thank her man just because of who he is with her and how the family is thriving under his leadership. But I agree, it shouldn’t just happen after something is specifically done. Although it’s still something nice to do.
Great show first time for me y’all should keep your socials up longer or have it up intermittently so people can see it more easily and follow great show
36:50.... BRUH! You are so right. Absolutely spot on. Have to retrain ourselves to understand why they were that way early. We have to sort it all out as we get older. also @38:12 the answer to that question is Yes. The WYT girls/women give attention from pretty much the start. Or you get curved once or twice, but they still feel you and when you get curved, they're typically not snotty about it. Black girls were brutal back in the day and you could get run through the mud for just asking to holler.
On the topic of the convenience store clerk being charged with murder its prime example of why its important to know the laws in your state. I live in GA its a stand your grown state. Some states like California you have the duty to retreat. Example somebody breaks in your front door its your duty to run out the back door.
So if that man is not ready for a commitment or marriage , he knows he’s not ready, yet he wants to be in a relationship, then why couldn’t he communicate that with that woman? Why not be honest about what he wants? Good women want commitment and if that man don’t want that right now, say so. No one wants to be in a relationship that leads to nothing in the end. That’s not fair to anyone.
Real stuff was said that needs to be elaborated on. Marriage usually makes women happy. Marriage usually makes men miserable because the married man is no longer the free animal that he's meant to be. We put unfair and unnatural expectations on Men. Then men get shamed for not living up to these expectations. Men even shame themselves for not living up to these unnatural standards. 1. Men don't usually want to share a bed 2. Men don't need much time with their woman. Men don't usually need to see their woman every day. 3. Men want multiple women. This is a big one that needs true consideration, depth and intelligent discussion. 4. Men don't want to change diapers or push strollers 5. Men need more time with male comrades. Side note: women seriously need sisterhood time. Sister wives helps with sisterhood. *No, I'm not religious 6. BIG one...Men don't need to see their children every day. Men don't need very much time with children in order to have a significant impact on them. Essentially a free man who is a good man will do what he wants, which includes taking good care of his loved ones. This may not look the way we're used to seeing but I think joining with a woman long term will look more appealing to outsiders as soon as we change the norms that are currently in place
Do you give with the expectation of getting in return? That’s not a question that can’t be answered with a yes or no. I’m a giver with action based on the nature of my heart and how I’ve been blessed. In other words, all givers get in return, but it may not always come from that person. In a relationship you hope your cup is getting filled by the person or persons who cups you are filling as well. When your heart is in the right place, it will always come back to you.
We like to stereotype black women and how we are attracted to men. Other women do the same thing. Their men just don't disown them when they get money and power them swear off dating them. They just try to get the best version of their women that they can to showthat their the man. Talk about jordan peele, nick cannon, Russell Wilson etc. Take the equivalent in the white community, nobody can tell me women were throwing themselves at Bill Gates, Jeff Bezos, Tom Brady when they were younger men. No woman would've agreed to let Bill have a side woman if he was broke. Money and power changes things for various groups of women. Black women the only ones y'all call out on it.
Because it is a stereotypes, stereotypes tend to be uncomfortable truths. 20% of unmarried black men have 70-80% of the kids out of wedlock. That 20% is made up of pookie/rayray a. The fact of the matter is black women take this to a larger extreme than other women. Even when y’all work, y’all still get more masculine than other women.
@@kennethreed8746 stereotypes can have some truth in them but they aren't necessarily truths. I don't know what black women having jobs and being more masculine has to do with the statement about women in general not finding nerds/geeks attractive. I don't know how to respond to that part since i don't see the link between that and what i was talking about. Outside of that, whether or not you say we we disproportionately like "pookies and ray rays" i can't dispute your or any other black man's personal perception on that subject. But to say all that 20% are pookies and ray rays I'd like to see the scientific stats you used to come up with that answer. I don't think every man who has a child with a woman he's not married to is a pookie or ray ray. Human beings man or woman make dumb decisions. People mature at student rates, and some people only learn after messing up what not to do. That's a human thing. It happens to all women and men. All financial brackets, but is more likely to happen in poorer and environments where people are less educated on consequences. OR when parents aren't present to, or fail to properly prepare their kids for consequences of their actions. Either way women specifically not being drawn to our attracted to nerds is not a black woman thing. A lot of women are attracted to power, or men who are thought to be leaders of the pack. In our community that's not the nerd until we're all grown and that man is successful. Men don't even show those men respect they clown them. If men act like they're the weak links, and don't show them respect amongst the group why would a woman find the weak link attractive or suitable? Even to this day the ultimate examples of the "good guy" Russell Wilson black men don't show him respect. Steph Curry, while we don't know how he rolls for sure, there's no visible chinks in his relationship but boy do black men love to talk about him and his wife. Other Nba players like to throw shade at him as a player. Same stuff i saw with Russell Wilson even before he married Ciara. They were always rumors about the split in the locker room cause other players didn't like him. How are y'all asking women to look at men y'all don't respect as a whole with reverence that you don't. No woman wants to be with a man that isnt respected among other men. One thing we can lean from other groups of women however is we can just learn to not be as up front about it. Other women will marry her nerdy husband. Give him kids and then go sleep with the pool boy, her coworker, the broke neighbor, or her man's best friend to get her bad boy fix.
@@Jalafian That’s my mistake, I thought when you talked about money and power, I thought you were referring to the women earning money and power. I had to reread what you wrote. I didn’t say all of the 20% were pookie/rayrays , but best believe they are a large percentage. It’s the “Future” types with multiple baby mommas. Black men clown Russell Wilson and Steph Curry, not because of their own characteristics, but because of what they deal with in their women. They’re good men who picked bad women, and give other bad women something to look at thinking that’s what they’ll get eventually since Ciara was able to get Russell. They make good men look bad, by picking bad women and being a pushover in certain situations. You gotta understand that because I’m today’s age women have the first power of leverage, which is sex, they determine the type of men that get praised and looked at. If women picked good men more, there would be more good men. They’d essentially have to be good in order to get women, and nerdy men wouldn’t be as looked down upon.
@@kennethreed8746 i don't disagree that there are a bunch of future types in that group. Just disagreed with them all being pookies. The picking bad women is a bit of a projection? Who gets to decide what's a bad man or woman for someone else? Neither one of them seem unhappy with their decisions. They may actually like the characteristics in their wives that other men don't. Not every man or woman shares the same attraction or personality traits. They may be in the minority of men i guess. Who knows but why can't people find a match and what works for them and other people not hate on it because it's not what they would want for themselves. You don't want a woman who acts like Ciara or Ayeesha, cool. She's a bad fit for you. That doesn't make her a bad woman. I've heard no issues about them cheating on their men. No questions about the paternity of their children. Don't know about Ciara but Ayeesha obviously loves to cook. So what makes her a bad woman? Is it that she's seen vs. Being in the background where nobody knows anything about her? She has a personality that he knew about before they got married and he obviously liked it and kicked her down while they were young. In this scenario both women appear to have picked good men so I'm confused on what the issue is. With Ciara is that she was with Future first. Ok she corrected quickly. Who has a perfect dating record? Not many people.
@@Jalafian They’re both women who have been shown to be disrespectful to their husbands and add to this false narrative of “hoe into housewife”, maybe not Ayesha as a hoe but she still has disrespected steph in public. Ciara is the perfect example of a woman messing around with bad men all throughout her prime, then trying to find Mr.Clean up later. The problem lies within what their relationship represents and how it’s relatable to a bigger look at dating culture in the black community. The thing that really confuses me is, why would you have a child with a man that’s shown to be a deadbeat. I’m talking about future in this instance. Russell got with a woman with a good reputation, I promise you he wouldn’t be clowned so much. He’s clowned not because he’s a good man, but because he’s fed into the nonsense of the modern day woman. For the most part generally, men and women do share attraction in the same traits. It’s only in the small nuances where it’s different. You’re right about not knowing them, but we do know what they represent. The overall point is black woman overwhelmingly choose terrible men, blame all men, then try to find the nerds they curved all they life for clean up, and the guys who take that role as “Mr.Clean up” don’t deserve are gonna get much respect from other men.
Hide and Go Get It was only initiated if the guys who were playing were the guys the girls wanted to get it. Everybody was not privileged to join the game.
@1:50:46 That man is solid! #Givehimagoldstar🌟 Thank you also @TheTrillAC for your wisdom as well! #fellowpodcaster @Smuv___ Very good, deep thoughts and introspective toward the latter 1/3 portion of the podcast episode! My podcast is 'Greener Thoughts' 🌱🌎 🏔️ . Peace out you guys 👋🏽!
That's some bullshit excuses , we black people are masters of excuses. You can have the best and most perfect married parents but still failed in relationships.. The one thing that I completely agree with Mr Kevin Samuels, he said we spent hours, days , months and years in studies , jobs, careers to better ourselves and become the best at it , but we barely spent 1 hr learning about relationships, but expects it to work and be successful.. Your parents jobs were to taught you how to behave and become better kids , their roles were never to make their kids becomes better adults..
Bruh you not lying O when you said trust issues come from sniping married women. I know the depths that married women will go to, so I’m forever scarred by that. Ain’t nothing a female can tell me, that can truly make me believe anything she says but time and proving her. All of that has made me look at messing with married women different. I could never now. Unless she just throwing it because at that point I’m doing the husband a favor. At least me, I’m just gon hit it a couple of times, but somebody else witll try to usurp that whole situation from the husband. Im the light evil 👿 but only if they throwing it. Im not stepping on married 🐱
Statistically BW DO NOT marry outside their race more than BM. BM marry outside their race more than ANY OTHER ethnicity. The BW percentage is increasing, but not nearly close to that of BM.
On the subject @49:42 I remember at 5 years old my pops sat me down and popped in a flick called 'Brown Sugar' and said... This is wat u do to a woman, cuz they don't really care about ur feelings Period! And all my life I subconsciously tried to top my pops, cuz he plowed ALOT of women, and I can't even count on me, my brothers, and all immediate family members hands and toes, all the fields I've plowed...So I get wat dude was saying. I'm 43 now and even tho I'm still getting 🐱 thrown my way... it's fun but at the same time it's no substance, because it's no foundation. It's a catch 22
Thank you comes after a deed like you're welcome comes after thank you. Some things are just a little extra...come on now. Do you what the thank you or not...🙄🤷♀️😄
Shout out to my man reading scripture. They not on that level of understanding yet. So they really not getting those words. Was Jesus "compatible" with everyone he gave his life for? Or did he love them? "To death".Literally. Just some wisdom for those who have ears to hear. Be blessed fellas
( 8:55 ) @Smuv__ deanship shall be withheld under penalty. We do not stand on a moral high ground here sir. This double standard is worldwide. & We gon keep it lopsided. It ain't just the 💰 bag.
I kno in MI you can't defend yourself lethally unless your life is in danger. So if somebody is whoopin yo ass and they r by themselves and don't brandish a weapon of any kind. You will face a murder charge if u pull a weapon n kill them.
In regards to the Jazzy video, she’s not being submissive she’s being nice and she likes to be loved, she’s having a good time doing it. Submission is doing the things you don’t want to do, for example someone gives you their opinion say for example the women to her man, her “let’s leave on Thursday instead of Friday to Hawaii, the flight prices are better”, he says “I have a meeting Friday morning”, she submits to his lead. On another note women do not like this word! Yeesh
A man could also assist a woman not wasting her time by being honest about not being ready because in most cases they are not. They are busy enjoying the milk since the cow is there let's keep it real. The is responsibility to be taken on every side. Why was he even in that arena if he wasn't ready..she should not have even met you there if you were not ready. You were too early too. For yourself.
(03:11) - Watch Jazzy gives her take on submission
(15:25) - Woman speaks on her ex who recently passed
(22:12) - Convenience store clerk facing murder charge for defending himself
(25:09) - Lady defends cheating with married man
(33:24) - Woman says black women push black men to white women
(49:42) - Men are taught that sex is what makes them a man
(01:05:44) - Why men push good women away
(01:22:45) - Do you give for the sake of giving or is there expectation?
(01:30:10) - Who comes first: spouse, children or parents?
(01:40:30) - Is love enough to make the relationship work?
(01:49:48) - How to develop better people skills
Yall used to post early Tuesdays. Now its evenings. Is the new day for the public Wednesday now?
Hi. It would be helpful if you guys would do a segment on a proper way to get closure after infidelity. What should a person know &/or shouldn't know concerning infidelity.
“And then you fucked around and DIED” 🤣😂😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭
-SMUV 💯💯💯
That whole segment I was 😂😂😂😂…
What part was that again lol?
@@Gigga101 at the 15:25 part
@@Gigga101 21:15 Exactly 🤣🤣🤣
@@timelessmuszik1293 😂😂😂
He hit the nail on the head when he brought up people never moving more than 5 miles from where they grew up. I moved 1000 miles away from my hometown and everyone said I was crazy. I’ve made more money than I ever thought I could since I moved.
I say this all the time but people who have never done it wouldn’t understand
I love Smoove! When he’s not busy talking shit, he spit knowledge and logic. You can tell he’s a man in a good marriage. Shout out to you Smoove.
me too, the first episode i saw i didn't think i'd like him lol but he a good dude, just don't hold no punches.
Kenny got a whole meal 😂
This episode was so timely for me. I just cut things off with someone that is an amazing man because he’s not ready for commitment and doesn’t see marriage/kids in the next two years. If I were younger I would be cool with waiting. But I’m too old (😩) for that big of a what if. Thank y’all so much 🖤
Homie in the car caught that Final Destination!!
*Life be Life'in*
Trill hit the nail on the head, I’m in Atlanta, and that rapper Trouble situation is one of the stories buzzing. No disrespect to the dead, it’s just hard to feel any type of remorse from a dude who out his own mouth ima interview bragged about sleeping a married woman. The. When asked what if the dude find out, his ego goes on Super Sayion and he states they know me and not to play with me like that. What happens but he gets killed by a woman’s x boy friend but in the home where that man’s name is still on the lease. I sincerely hope men took a lesson from that situation. I was brought up with the lessons that you don’t fool with a man’s money, woman, food or kids. I do understand and agree to a point as far as how we are mislead, and not taught properly within our community, but there’s a line. You are taught the difference between right and wrong early, you also learn what you like as individual what feels good and what doesn’t. Yes your environment does have a big impact on you, but you are responsible for your decisions and choices. I’ve witnessed domestic violence very closely to the point that now at 43 years old, I still hear the screams. That taught me how not to treat a women, and especially the mother of my children who I’ve been married to 23years this July 23. A lot of the things I learned was from others, my cousin did this, got the extension cord, so I know what not to do. At some point I’m sure it clicks in everyone’s mind, this isn’t right, this doesn’t feel right, there has to be another way. It’s up to you to find that other way. Lastly marriage is such a beautiful thing that it pains me to see how things are today, as well as how people are more worried what others think and feel about their life, then enjoy living their life unapologetically. It’s unfortunate that God has taken a back seat, and these unions are treated with the proper respect. And my wife appreciates the hell out of ninja. I have to disagree about compatibility simply because arranged marriages seem to work better then what we see here in America. Again, God has taken a back seat, and God being Love is being treated like a fleeting feeling.
I don't know why I don't watch this show more often. It gets to the topics that I like but you can tell these men have confidence and can look at both sides of the issues.
I was crying laughing at the 2nd topic y'all out of pocket bro 😂😂😂
I love to hear TrillAC and Smuv laugh I be rolling over here
The question was HOW DO MEN PUSH AWAY GREAT WOMEN and these people figure out a way to blame the women. DESPITE the host trying to bring them back to the original point. Crazy.
But they did answer the question.
They're men. Delusion has men thinking that deflecting is holding themselves accountable.
Speak the truth.
Oh plz. Y'all wanted a Becky with good hair. Stop using sister's as an excuse of why you cross the line.
All races of women have women that aren't girlfriend or wifey material.
I just turned 60. I've been divorced for 15 years. And the men my age can't even hold a decent conversation. But that doesn't make me wanna cross the line to other races of men.
My favorite podcast in the world I swear I been rocking with y'all cats for years now. 💯💯💯💯
Been here since 2k congratulations og’s
Bruh on the right feels left out. He couldn’t hangout with the bad kids 😂. Y’all missed his pain. Give that man a hug 🤗 😂😂😂
It’s the fact they were cracking jokes about the dude dying sheesh 😂😂😂😂
New to this podcast channel and I LOVE IT. Loving the honesty, loving the realness & the different perspectives between y’all.
Pertaining to the topic at 33:24, Trill is correct. Dudes are (mostly) not vying to date non-black women; just going where we are more often wanted/appreciated.
It seemed like the way black girls judged me back in school was different than the way white girls did. I got often roasted for being darkskinned, my African heritage, being nerdy, talking white, etc by black girls(not all). Other girls didn't disrespect me for those traits.
Looking back, there were obviously black girls that did like me, but being a socially awkward kid, you practically had to spell it out for me 😂 because I really hated rejection
Glad I went to an HBCU and encountered more high quality women, Ive only dated black women since. But I definitely could have been jaded at my early experiences.
DA REALIST PODCAST!!💪🏽💯💯💯
To add on to what the brother was asking about his social life and trying to get his social game up. I found that getting a job that forces you to interact with people help me a lot in this department. If you do ride share and you have someone in the car and simply asking how your day was can start off a great conversation and get you used to talking to different people. The more you do it, the more variety you get with the passengers. Hope that helps brother.
Trill that's too funny when i wrote my comment i hadnt even got to the advice column yet. The fact that you said exactly what i said confirms i get it now compatibility is definitely a factor that must be considered
I love this podcast gentleman keep up the good work. 👏🏽👏🏽
I'm glad that I got the full context of the putting your husband first since the clip taken from this podcast was so short.
I think an important thing to note is that as a woman who has no children, you can have the mindset to make your husband your #1 priority, but actually putting that into practice, is a totally different matter and that can sound like a weird, or even dangerous concept to someone who has children and is not familiar with what that entails.
The married women who are this woman's friends could very well (and I hope they are) be in happy and satisfying marriages where their husband reassured of his value and they both make time for one another, nurturing their relationship and their kids. However, they don't call this "putting my spouse first."
Like I said, anyone who hears that without any elaboration would automatically think of women who submitting to a man without question, no matter how horrible he was to their children. There have been countless cases where a woman in a relationship, married or not, neglected her child for a man, taking his side when accusations of sexual abuse came forth, and other shit.
Any mother who understands what this means wouldn't be alarmed. And you cannot understand how it feels to manage and have a love for a child of your own until you experience it. And those very same children who leave and grow, they may have to be there for you if the marriage did not work out despite doing everything right or what you thought was right for that person
The Bible passage is not talking about marriage/relationship love. The context is loving the common people around you and those in the church. Paul is laying out what love is because they are using gifts to build their own ego and following.
Facts , a lot of people are using that verse out of context
This was very good and intelligent 👌 👏 I'm very impressed. All of you guys had very valid opinions and were very real 💯. Keep the videos coming. This is helpful to our communities. 🤎👍great job guys. On the money with it 💰lol
“You got money and you got bread, but my ass is not fed” 😂😂😂
Jazzy sure switched up real quick for some money. According to her you should only submit to men who are worth it. So basically 90% of women all want the top dude. However, only 10% actually qualify to try out😭
Wow. Baby she did not switch up. She said be careful who you give your energy too.
She then expressed that she gives those things that she held on to to her current boyfriend. Now do any of us know who Cam Newtown is behind closed doors? No.
She expresses what she likes to do for him without him asking. She expresses herself and receives enjoyment from her behavior.
Then she gave an example of something she does to please him just for him.
Nothing Jazzy said was wrong for her and them.
@@vilnap3002 If you remember the video it was a ways back she most def out here wilding JS
Yall are really vibing which you can tell even through the shorts
Trill’s explanation a bout why black men are pushed to white women is exactly my story. Except I’m a girl. I was the curved brown-skinned nerd that black boys ignored. Didn’t get my first boyfriend until college.. Now I’m paid, kinda cute, and accused of hating my own race cuz I date outside other races. It’s fair to say this is a problem within the community as a whole. (Not just black women)
You’re still in a relationship now? If so love who you love. If not, don’t put us all in one box, what the smart people say, black people aren’t a monolith
Thank you for telling your story
Did u get rejected by black men, it's not the same women don't shoot shots at men mainly. Hiding yourself until college was a choice. U want to justify your choice.
Do you, go where you are appreciated. But most likely there were some low status dudes (maybe ugly lol ) who wanted you but you didn't really see them, maybe they were shy etc, I've never see a girl that nobody wanted even the very ugly ones, the opposite exists though they are called Incels. But yeah if you found somebody that treats you good and that you can work with do you.
@@furiousrobinson men put us in one box all the time that one box thing is a way for a man to not take accountability. Her case is not uncommon. Men need to be held accountable.
I have heard black men and women date and have children out of their race for something as simple as wanting their children to have “good hair”, which shows self hate.
Yea I have 2 mixed children a guy I work with seen me out with those to and said I got 2 pretty kids too. I looked and said I keep the ugly ones by your standards home. He went silent. I hate that shit
White women routinely target black men for similar reasons
Agreed. I would’ve asked him to Describe ‘bad’ hair.
I just started watching y’all podcast last night and I love it.
We men need a new update "Code of conduct". Eating right, home is straight. Community is thriving.
You may not owe another man or woman anything but you owe your karma everything.
Yes
Growing up as a young woman being told by most of the women elders that “men aren’t shit!” Part of me believed that based off what I was told and also by what I experienced. And I am only attracted to black men. Learning my story has taught me how to counter that.
Got the thumbs up after yall tried to hit those high notes! ❤️❤️❤️🥰
Thank you Trill for holding Smooth feet to the fire
Man, I need time stamps for my comment but this was a great convo! Ken held it down today opinion wise 💪🏾. My guy Smoove is hilarious all the damn time🤣✊🏾. Keep em coming yall!
Nah man girls with glasses are top tier
Where’s the lie? 👀 For most of the point, the pendulum can swing both ways. Sticking to the topic, dude in the red is on point.
At 1:31:05, from a biblical standpoint, the man covers the woman and the woman covers the child. So in this aspect, if the man is handling business as the leader, there would never be a reason that he will get the house in a situation where there needs to be a choice between him or his legacy. Children need a leader to guide them and protect them. The goal is the man and women to fill each other’s cups so there is a lot left to ensure the Child’s cup gets filled as well. If the man and child are hanging off a cliff, the woman will save the child because that man has strength and a mind to pull up and save himself. So they work together. Just my thoughts.
I’m referring to the convo being had at 48:00.. Kenny is the only one with common sense on the subject! Black men push black women to other communities just as much as BW May push BM away. We can’t sit up here and say one happens more than the other.
Let’s stop being disingenuous here. 70-80% of out of wedlock black kids are made by 20% of unmarried black men. Black women, far more than black men, continuously choose horribly and overlook the stable partner. 30% of black men are married, 50% are childless in the middle class, and 20% are fathers to 70-80% of out of wedlock kids, and that 20% is pookie/rayray
My boy on the far left is the star of the show lmao !!!
Kenny hungry as hell 🤣🤣
Y'ALL spitting some FACTS! Loving this show/podcast!
"When you single, your not obligated."
I think that somes up it entirely. Thats the reason for it all.
Another dope episode‼️💯🙌🏽 keep ‘em coming fellas
It ain’t gone be me 😂
After hearing the full episode and their thoughts I can say we actually agree on must things the short clips are Deceiving
A spousal relationship takes the most work children parents and friends will be there. A person that you are choosing to love is a whole different relationship.
Yeah. I think that sometimes we can end up taking blood for granted at times though.
Honestly though, I think it's more of a matter of feeling that family will always be there and love you because they have to, but your spouse doesn't.
You can Honestly have family that does stuff for you out of a since of duty for your blood, but they cannot like you or even resent you. That goes for parents too, even if they do provide for you
Weird how when black men say the same story of their hard time or bad experience with black women, everyone can agree. But a black woman saying the same story of her constantly having bad experiences with black men, she needs to choose better because good men are somehow overflowing and plenty and she’s just not choosing right 😆 Lawd 🤦🏾♀️
Bad experiences and rejection are quite different…
@@neodaltiair8624 rejection is apart of experiences … women get rejected too
cuz you can say no.
@@dropcity772 and a man can’t?
Women already have spaces where they can discuss their hard times with bm and hav agreement within that space which is no different here.
You can say in both situations the issue is the choice they made.
At 1:29:00, we say thank you Kenny! A good woman will thank her man just because of who he is with her and how the family is thriving under his leadership. But I agree, it shouldn’t just happen after something is specifically done. Although it’s still something nice to do.
46:00 Kenny on this segment arguing against EVERYTHING 🤦🏾♂️
Great show first time for me y’all should keep your socials up longer or have it up intermittently so people can see it more easily and follow great show
36:50.... BRUH! You are so right. Absolutely spot on. Have to retrain ourselves to understand why they were that way early. We have to sort it all out as we get older. also @38:12 the answer to that question is Yes. The WYT girls/women give attention from pretty much the start. Or you get curved once or twice, but they still feel you and when you get curved, they're typically not snotty about it. Black girls were brutal back in the day and you could get run through the mud for just asking to holler.
Great one. The guy with social skills problem can start by paying compliments to people in passing, then graduate to other topics.
The gunshot is strong aF!
On the topic of the convenience store clerk being charged with murder its prime example of why its important to know the laws in your state. I live in GA its a stand your grown state. Some states like California you have the duty to retreat. Example somebody breaks in your front door its your duty to run out the back door.
There’s simply no polite way to tell people they’ve dedicated their lives to an illusion.
Daniel Dennett
So if that man is not ready for a commitment or marriage , he knows he’s not ready, yet he wants to be in a relationship, then why couldn’t he communicate that with that woman? Why not be honest about what he wants? Good women want commitment and if that man don’t want that right now, say so. No one wants to be in a relationship that leads to nothing in the end. That’s not fair to anyone.
Russell went to NC State first. He went to Wisconsin his senior year.
Real stuff was said that needs to be elaborated on. Marriage usually makes women happy. Marriage usually makes men miserable because the married man is no longer the free animal that he's meant to be. We put unfair and unnatural expectations on Men. Then men get shamed for not living up to these expectations. Men even shame themselves for not living up to these unnatural standards.
1. Men don't usually want to share a bed
2. Men don't need much time with their woman. Men don't usually need to see their woman every day.
3. Men want multiple women. This is a big one that needs true consideration, depth and intelligent discussion.
4. Men don't want to change diapers or push strollers
5. Men need more time with male comrades.
Side note: women seriously need sisterhood time. Sister wives helps with sisterhood. *No, I'm not religious
6. BIG one...Men don't need to see their children every day. Men don't need very much time with children in order to have a significant impact on them.
Essentially a free man who is a good man will do what he wants, which includes taking good care of his loved ones. This may not look the way we're used to seeing but I think joining with a woman long term will look more appealing to outsiders as soon as we change the norms that are currently in place
Men who feel this way should not get married don't let society push you into something you don't want.
@@dlhouston88able fair point. Or, men should set parameters that suit his desires before entering. This way there's no surprises.
God fearing men loves as he loves God
Y’all should line up, dark to light, no bullshit
Do you give with the expectation of getting in return? That’s not a question that can’t be answered with a yes or no. I’m a giver with action based on the nature of my heart and how I’ve been blessed. In other words, all givers get in return, but it may not always come from that person. In a relationship you hope your cup is getting filled by the person or persons who cups you are filling as well. When your heart is in the right place, it will always come back to you.
That boy Kenny podding!!!
Its immature to think that someone is a good person when they don't handle ANY situation correctly. Karma will not separate that shit trust me.
We like to stereotype black women and how we are attracted to men. Other women do the same thing. Their men just don't disown them when they get money and power them swear off dating them. They just try to get the best version of their women that they can to showthat their the man. Talk about jordan peele, nick cannon, Russell Wilson etc. Take the equivalent in the white community, nobody can tell me women were throwing themselves at Bill Gates, Jeff Bezos, Tom Brady when they were younger men. No woman would've agreed to let Bill have a side woman if he was broke. Money and power changes things for various groups of women. Black women the only ones y'all call out on it.
Because it is a stereotypes, stereotypes tend to be uncomfortable truths. 20% of unmarried black men have 70-80% of the kids out of wedlock. That 20% is made up of pookie/rayray a. The fact of the matter is black women take this to a larger extreme than other women. Even when y’all work, y’all still get more masculine than other women.
@@kennethreed8746 stereotypes can have some truth in them but they aren't necessarily truths. I don't know what black women having jobs and being more masculine has to do with the statement about women in general not finding nerds/geeks attractive. I don't know how to respond to that part since i don't see the link between that and what i was talking about. Outside of that, whether or not you say we we disproportionately like "pookies and ray rays" i can't dispute your or any other black man's personal perception on that subject. But to say all that 20% are pookies and ray rays I'd like to see the scientific stats you used to come up with that answer. I don't think every man who has a child with a woman he's not married to is a pookie or ray ray. Human beings man or woman make dumb decisions. People mature at student rates, and some people only learn after messing up what not to do. That's a human thing. It happens to all women and men. All financial brackets, but is more likely to happen in poorer and environments where people are less educated on consequences. OR when parents aren't present to, or fail to properly prepare their kids for consequences of their actions. Either way women specifically not being drawn to our attracted to nerds is not a black woman thing. A lot of women are attracted to power, or men who are thought to be leaders of the pack. In our community that's not the nerd until we're all grown and that man is successful. Men don't even show those men respect they clown them. If men act like they're the weak links, and don't show them respect amongst the group why would a woman find the weak link attractive or suitable? Even to this day the ultimate examples of the "good guy" Russell Wilson black men don't show him respect. Steph Curry, while we don't know how he rolls for sure, there's no visible chinks in his relationship but boy do black men love to talk about him and his wife. Other Nba players like to throw shade at him as a player. Same stuff i saw with Russell Wilson even before he married Ciara. They were always rumors about the split in the locker room cause other players didn't like him. How are y'all asking women to look at men y'all don't respect as a whole with reverence that you don't. No woman wants to be with a man that isnt respected among other men. One thing we can lean from other groups of women however is we can just learn to not be as up front about it. Other women will marry her nerdy husband. Give him kids and then go sleep with the pool boy, her coworker, the broke neighbor, or her man's best friend to get her bad boy fix.
@@Jalafian That’s my mistake, I thought when you talked about money and power, I thought you were referring to the women earning money and power. I had to reread what you wrote. I didn’t say all of the 20% were pookie/rayrays , but best believe they are a large percentage. It’s the “Future” types with multiple baby mommas. Black men clown Russell Wilson and Steph Curry, not because of their own characteristics, but because of what they deal with in their women. They’re good men who picked bad women, and give other bad women something to look at thinking that’s what they’ll get eventually since Ciara was able to get Russell. They make good men look bad, by picking bad women and being a pushover in certain situations. You gotta understand that because I’m today’s age women have the first power of leverage, which is sex, they determine the type of men that get praised and looked at. If women picked good men more, there would be more good men. They’d essentially have to be good in order to get women, and nerdy men wouldn’t be as looked down upon.
@@kennethreed8746 i don't disagree that there are a bunch of future types in that group. Just disagreed with them all being pookies. The picking bad women is a bit of a projection? Who gets to decide what's a bad man or woman for someone else? Neither one of them seem unhappy with their decisions. They may actually like the characteristics in their wives that other men don't. Not every man or woman shares the same attraction or personality traits. They may be in the minority of men i guess. Who knows but why can't people find a match and what works for them and other people not hate on it because it's not what they would want for themselves. You don't want a woman who acts like Ciara or Ayeesha, cool. She's a bad fit for you. That doesn't make her a bad woman. I've heard no issues about them cheating on their men. No questions about the paternity of their children. Don't know about Ciara but Ayeesha obviously loves to cook. So what makes her a bad woman? Is it that she's seen vs. Being in the background where nobody knows anything about her? She has a personality that he knew about before they got married and he obviously liked it and kicked her down while they were young. In this scenario both women appear to have picked good men so I'm confused on what the issue is. With Ciara is that she was with Future first. Ok she corrected quickly. Who has a perfect dating record? Not many people.
@@Jalafian They’re both women who have been shown to be disrespectful to their husbands and add to this false narrative of “hoe into housewife”, maybe not Ayesha as a hoe but she still has disrespected steph in public. Ciara is the perfect example of a woman messing around with bad men all throughout her prime, then trying to find Mr.Clean up later. The problem lies within what their relationship represents and how it’s relatable to a bigger look at dating culture in the black community. The thing that really confuses me is, why would you have a child with a man that’s shown to be a deadbeat. I’m talking about future in this instance. Russell got with a woman with a good reputation, I promise you he wouldn’t be clowned so much. He’s clowned not because he’s a good man, but because he’s fed into the nonsense of the modern day woman. For the most part generally, men and women do share attraction in the same traits. It’s only in the small nuances where it’s different. You’re right about not knowing them, but we do know what they represent. The overall point is black woman overwhelmingly choose terrible men, blame all men, then try to find the nerds they curved all they life for clean up, and the guys who take that role as “Mr.Clean up” don’t deserve are gonna get much respect from other men.
Yeah nah my guy, kids first spouse is the teammate we move together in prioritizing the kids
Nick became on all that
Hey how do I get on the podcast? I have a lot to say lol. I’m located in Dallas
Hide and Go Get It was only initiated if the guys who were playing were the guys the girls wanted to get it. Everybody was not privileged to join the game.
The for the wages of sin is death.
He died sis let it go😂
@1:50:46 That man is solid! #Givehimagoldstar🌟 Thank you also @TheTrillAC for your wisdom as well!
#fellowpodcaster
@Smuv___ Very good, deep thoughts and introspective toward the latter 1/3 portion of the podcast episode!
My podcast is 'Greener Thoughts' 🌱🌎 🏔️ . Peace out you guys 👋🏽!
People give to receive.
That’s the truth
That's some bullshit excuses , we black people are masters of excuses. You can have the best and most perfect married parents but still failed in relationships.. The one thing that I completely agree with Mr Kevin Samuels, he said we spent hours, days , months and years in studies , jobs, careers to better ourselves and become the best at it , but we barely spent 1 hr learning about relationships, but expects it to work and be successful.. Your parents jobs were to taught you how to behave and become better kids , their roles were never to make their kids becomes better adults..
Wait why can’t y’all shoutout the socials anymore?
These our queanz tho SSSIIIIMMMMPPPPP
Bruh you not lying O when you said trust issues come from sniping married women. I know the depths that married women will go to, so I’m forever scarred by that. Ain’t nothing a female can tell me, that can truly make me believe anything she says but time and proving her. All of that has made me look at messing with married women different. I could never now. Unless she just throwing it because at that point I’m doing the husband a favor. At least me, I’m just gon hit it a couple of times, but somebody else witll try to usurp that whole situation from the husband. Im the light evil 👿 but only if they throwing it. Im not stepping on married 🐱
I see the product placement. 👍🏾
Albanian white white Mexican Panamanian etc in the box right now 🤷🏿♀️
🤣 omg you guys are hilarious
Having her own bag means nothing it’s nothing like spending someone else’s money and saving your own let’s be honest
Statistically BW DO NOT marry outside their race more than BM. BM marry outside their race more than ANY OTHER ethnicity. The BW percentage is increasing, but not nearly close to that of BM.
On the subject @49:42 I remember at 5 years old my pops sat me down and popped in a flick called 'Brown Sugar' and said... This is wat u do to a woman, cuz they don't really care about ur feelings Period! And all my life I subconsciously tried to top my pops, cuz he plowed ALOT of women, and I can't even count on me, my brothers, and all immediate family members hands and toes, all the fields I've plowed...So I get wat dude was saying. I'm 43 now and even tho I'm still getting 🐱 thrown my way... it's fun but at the same time it's no substance, because it's no foundation. It's a catch 22
Thank you comes after a deed like you're welcome comes after thank you. Some things are just a little extra...come on now. Do you what the thank you or not...🙄🤷♀️😄
We here 🙌
Shout out to my man reading scripture. They not on that level of understanding yet. So they really not getting those words. Was Jesus "compatible" with everyone he gave his life for? Or did he love them? "To death".Literally. Just some wisdom for those who have ears to hear. Be blessed fellas
( 8:55 ) @Smuv__ deanship shall be withheld under penalty. We do not stand on a moral high ground here sir. This double standard is worldwide. & We gon keep it lopsided. It ain't just the 💰 bag.
Smooth you didn't answer the question?😊
Draining
I kno in MI you can't defend yourself lethally unless your life is in danger. So if somebody is whoopin yo ass and they r by themselves and don't brandish a weapon of any kind. You will face a murder charge if u pull a weapon n kill them.
Ativa 💯
homeboy on the Left laughs just like Tommy Rip tommy ford
The Bible tells us that wives submit onto your husband's as he submits onto the Lord. Thats all ima say ..
O be on point
That man knows he needs stop fronting with Jazzy and go get him A MAN that will LOVE it… yall just ignored that point. Hmmm
In regards to the Jazzy video, she’s not being submissive she’s being nice and she likes to be loved, she’s having a good time doing it.
Submission is doing the things you don’t want to do, for example someone gives you their opinion say for example the women to her man, her “let’s leave on Thursday instead of Friday to Hawaii, the flight prices are better”, he says “I have a meeting Friday morning”, she submits to his lead.
On another note women do not like this word! Yeesh
u are weird
A man could also assist a woman not wasting her time by being honest about not being ready because in most cases they are not. They are busy enjoying the milk since the cow is there let's keep it real. The is responsibility to be taken on every side. Why was he even in that arena if he wasn't ready..she should not have even met you there if you were not ready. You were too early too. For yourself.