Why I Can't Leave Japan
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So as many of you know, I’m an American who moved to Japan more than 20 years ago, now married to my Japanese wife with a 3 year old son. I still get asked if I’m ever going to move back to the US. Although it’s never off the table, for me as a Permanent Resident and now as a Parent in Japan having my Son grow up here just seems like the best option for us, at least for right now, and in this video I’m gonna share with you some of the reasons why I can’t leave Japan and why I don’t want to.
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hopefully you will notice this comment I just have a suggestion regarding your next video. its regarding pharmacy or medicine for young kids like wolfie. I will be traveling with a toddler same age as him and dont know where to purchase cold medicine or fever just in case my toddler get sick. doesnt have to be a medicine for toddler but also for adults too given that Japan has a lot of tourist coming from all over the world. It will be nice to have a great info or suggestions coming from someone like you who is very familiar in Japan. thanks and more power
I would like you to do a second part and perhaps talk about and with people that have decided to live despite all that is offered.
@paolofromtokyo are you Filipino?
I think for me I would like to live in Japan. As much as I love living in Scotland my home country, I started to not like it. My only issue is I have learning difficulties and trying to learn languages its extremely difficult. I wouldnt want to go there and end up offending someone, because that would really make me feel bad. I do hope I get to visit at some point.
Well i totally agree with all that you said paolo i think your right in never ever leaving japan.i was born in what i call the old england now its the new one riga mortice as set in i have wrote a lot on it on facebook still are doing.
I experienced the medical care when I was visiting Japan. I unfortunately injured my foot there and went to a Hospital. I told them I don't have insurance there since I was just a tourist, had an x-ray, medication, time with a Podiatrist and crutches to take home. At the end my total bill was 15,000 Yen, with the current exchange rate thats just about $140 USD. Couldn't believe it, also the doctor told me I should've just called an ambulance to go there since that would've been cheaper than using the taxi i came in on. Unbelievable!
this is normal for all of the developed world EXCEPT the US. Everyone else would read your comment with confusion and amusement.
Some of my favorite kind of comments to read on the internet are Americans being amazed at receiving reasonably priced healthcare haha
@@RandomUserX99 I love when foreigners who have no idea about the definition of socialism are so happy when they are taxed to oblivion to have five dollar healthcare. Nothing, and I mean absolutely nothing, is free kid. Somebody else is paying for that healthcare for you to make it seem like you're paying nothing. but hey, it looks like communism is working for you lol
If that was in the USA it would cost you a college tuition's worth.
I lived in Japan and can say the Healthcare system in Japan is complete crap compared to the US. Yes it is way cheaper, but it does suck. Even the premium hospital I stayed at was so crowded and so long to see a doctor. The basic public hospital was even worse, you could barely tell it was a hospital, it was so old and decrepit.
In my openion, the best part of Japan is how they emphasize teaching people to be polite and respectful whereas in most other countries that's not the case.
And the second best part is their insistence on keeping things that way. Many countries used to prioritize those values, but now believe it's mean and intolerant if you don't accept everyone acting however they want, no matter how rude.
I think it’s a bit simple to say that. A lot of countries teach it but in practice they don’t follow it, even those that teach it.
You also need to factor in having essentially no immigration, theyre extremely homogeneous ethnically and genetically, you don’t have new cultures with difffering views and values coming in to disrupt what the government pushes.
Finally it’s worth mentioning this has been enforced for literally centuries, I imagine those who were issues probably got breed out. There are other issues that also pop up because of this, if a group of people were on a sinking ship they wouldn’t jump off until the captain told them to, they’d all die waiting for permission.
JAPAN is Best country among all countries of the world.
This is the part why I like and idolize Japan so much since teenager compared to other countries in the world
The gov teaches hypocrisy hiding History and war crimes
Paolo, you've come a long way, my friend!!
I remember your early days in Japan, in the 2000s. When you were doing IT work for us when you worked for an unnamed IT company.
Japan is an awesome place and I am so glad you have found a home with your family !!
Wow! What and where were you guys in the US? I’m really curious! What was the history & story? It’s rare and good to see a comment like yours hahaha
@@Trostat We weren't in the U.S. We were in Japan. We both worked in Japan at the time and we knew each other because of that.
My daughter has lived in Japan the past 11 yrs. She lists a lot of the same reasons as you do. I live in the US, while it would be difficult to leave, I have thought about seeing if there was some way that I could move to Japan with my daughter. She is an English teacher and we have talked about some of the concerns you talked about in schools. She tries to use her English classes to have 'free thinking' activates. She loves when she can do things that encourage the kids to be creative. Other than missing her family back here in US. She loves living in Japan. I don't worry about her safety like I would if she moved back here.
Well, I’ve lived in Japan for over 20 years now (originally from Canada) and I can agree with almost everything Paolo said. Japan really is a great place to live. About the point of “Freedom”, though… I think it’s mostly true if you’re a foreign resident, because we don’t have the full weight of Japanese society pushing down on us. But I think for many Japanese people (especially in rural areas?) there is a feeling of pressure to ‘act appropriately’, not stand out, and follow a large number of rather intricate and limiting social rules. So I guess the how “free” Japan is depends on perspective.
So it's not that bad to live over there but actually good as well as visiting the place ?
@@missplainjane3905 If I didn’t live here, I would definitely come and visit!
You’ve mentioned that point about the “weight” of Japanese society before. Very interesting…but kind of hard to understand as a non-Japanese person. I think this could be a good topic for one of your videos.
@@DoctorEbot Thanks! Yeah, it’s on the list. 👍
yeah... as a Japanese person that moved to the states at a very young age (7- I'm now 28), it would be incredibly hard for me to go back. I'm sometimes bitter about it, seeing foreigners constantly use my hometown as their playground while I can't safely return.
I'm American living in Australia and feel the same way about a lot of the things you mentioned. My late wife and I decided to raise our family here and my children are now 5 and 8. After she passed away from cancer I considered going back to the US but I went through the same pros and cons again and decided that staying was still the best route. It's a bit hard being away from my family raising my 2 children on my own but the healthcare, education, freedom, and safety just far outweighs everything else I would get from moving back to the US.
What kind of freedoms do you have here in Aus that they don't have in the U.S? People from the U.S are always saying it's the freedom capital of the world and laugh about us having so many laws in Australia so I'm interested in your perspective!
@@miss_jess I think my idea of 'freedom' encompasses many things. It includes safety, comfort, and the ability to do things without too much worry. I'm a dark skinned person, grew up in America and I 100% feel more safe and comfortable in Australia. Yes, there is racism here as well but it's not on the same level and I can count the number of times I've felt it on one hand in the 11 years I've lived here. I also don't have to worry about someone pulling a gun on me just because they are having a bad day, mad I did something, or road raging. I'm not saying the chances are 0, but let's be real the chances are significantly less than the US. I enjoy hunting and fishing, and I can absolutely still do that here in Aus. I can own rifles and shotguns and take them out to hunt. Everything I did in America I am able to do in Australia and feel more safe and comfortable doing it. Maybe that's why my idea of it feeling like there is more 'freedom' here in Aus is the way it is? I'm not sure. Just how I feel about it.
I´m so sorry for your loss 🤍🕊
So sorry for ur lose, be strong for ur kids
In U.S freedom means "do whatever you want even if its bad or will affect someone else". Definitely not a good thing...@@miss_jess
Yeah I was in a car crash in Osaka last year. I had travel insurance so it was pretty awesome once my friend got to the hospital and explained that I had insurance. I was laid up for three days and I was freaking out about the cost and what was covered with all the attentiveness numerous X-rays and great food. The staff was pretty surprised why I would worry so much. They actually gave me estimates about how much everything cost before they did anything. Then I saw the bill and laughed! It came out to a bit over 1200$ usd all in, including outpatient therapy and medication for three weeks, which was really cool because I got to talk to so many lovely senior citizens at the clinic. In the end, I felt really taken care for. It was actual health care, close to NHS in the UK, something that really made me want to move there myself. My friend hired a lawyer to sue the other driver who was drunk. Interestingly, I got probably 10% of a settlement from his insurance company than I would have gotten in the states, but also I couldn’t sue for emotional distress because the law is different in Japan. After seeing how things work there, I’d love to live in Japan, especially since I enjoy being an outsider and don’t care much about “being Japanese”. I will say I did miss speaking fluent English there, used a lot of loan words there all the time. There’s a bit of discrimination sometimes, but it’s way worse in the US and seems innocent because the culture is so monolithic. I’d still definitely live there though.
the same thing in the US would cause around $60K.
@@mdhoanor they would discharge you in 12-hours long before you're ready.
Yeah it not kinda safe like I said a earthquake in Japan and I think not safe so she said and me either saying not safe
You are doing the right thing educating you son in Japan. I lived in _Fusa,_ a Tokyo suburb, from 70-75. It was a rough time. Vietnam was in full swing, it was only 25 yrs after WWII, so it was still a tender issue. However, I *_NEVER_* felt unsafe.
Feeling safe in Japan is a very big plus. I love visiting and I love the people.
We will always support you no matter what. Keep working hard as always.
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Wow Paulo I had no idea about your accident & all those injuries you sustained! You’re so fit and active now, it’s amazing how well you’ve recovered! 😮
Japan is definitely a place that I can't wait to visit someday. I love watching your videos and I'm so intrigue about the Japanese culture. I wish the US was more like that.
There’s nothing more heartwarming than walking around the streets of Japan and school kids yelling out HELLO and wanting to speak English to you haha ❤
Definitely better than when they scream
“fuck you” which was surprisingly common for a while there
I've been to Japan twice. During my first visit, I along with my elderly mother were approached by a group of teenage girls. They told us that they "forgave" us for starting WWII and trying to kill everyone with atomic bombs. Then they just stood staring at us - I thought they were waiting for an apology. My mom almost had a stroke - my dad fought in the war, but in Europe.
Several other people in our group reported the same thing. I think the teenagers had recently been taught that in school. Amazingly, all of the kids that approached our group were girls. I have no idea what the boys were doing, or what they thought.
@@ljwilson55Well if you would have thrown a nuke in my country I'll be pissed as well 😊
@@ljwilson55 was this in Hiroshima?
They’re taught to greet suspicious persons to deter them from doing malicious actions towards them. Seems like you were flagged
I just left Japan few days ago but I wish I didn't! I understand why you never want to leave haha~ Keep making awesome videos as always and have a great weekend :)
Right!!!!
You work so hard it shows
May your channel grow bigger and your family stays healthy ❤
So good to see your videos again. I agree with you. Great choice you made.
Thank you for never shying away from tough topics.
One thing I loved about living in Germany as a soldier was the ability to travel to many other countries without flying. Just hop on a train. I could go to Italy, have dinner and come back to base that night.
@@SaltareDiaboli I'll be perfectly honest with you. I loved EVERYTHING about Germany. It was, by far, the best 3 years of my life. I was there from 1989 to 1992. I got to see the Wall come down. I never met any German who was anything but friendly, polite and helpful. I miss Ludwigsburg and think of it often.
Ok I am sorry for being rude but what in the name of god does living in Germany have anything what Polo was talking about. which was living in japan
@@marshallellis6575 My point was that living in another country gives you opportunities you don't have in the USA. As Americans, we think of other countries as faraway places. Inaccessible to the common American.
@@marshallellis6575 wow another arm chair warrior attacking someone for sharing their traveling experiences like how Paolo does with his channel. Also saying sorry prior doesnt justify your actions of being a jackass. Not sorry...🖕🏻
off topic
Hey Paolo I have been a supporter for a long time now since 2019 when I found your channel and have been tuning in, I have not been the type to comment but I cannot explain my love for Japan and their people, I’m working to live there myself and with the last video you post about the earthquake that happened I wish I can donate to help so the best thing I can do is to pray for them ❤ your a good man!! Hope you see this.
I have been binge-watching most/all your vids, awesome detailed and informative.......and your adorable son has a strong resemblance to you.
Paolo, thanks for the very transparent and vulnerable video.
There are many pros especially with the medical differences with US being so privatized and costly. It was interesting you touched upon su*c*de as it is a prevalent topic, perhaps directly related to the work stress that Japanese people tend to encounter. As a whole, it does make complete sense to have Wolfy grow up in Japan. Perhaps maybe around university he will go to the US?
We lived in Japan for three years. We loved it. We would not mind returning for a visit one day.
I live in Tokyo now from the US and can agree with everything said in this video thank you! Plan to have a family here as well and it's nice to know alot of the things I've been thinking is expressed in this video.
Coming from America, the greatest thing about living in Japan is the sense of freedom. Big ways and small. I’m physically free: free from violent crime, free from police violence, have access to healthcare. But I’m free in little ways too, like even a tiny apartment has washing machine hookups (free from having to go to the laundromat), and an infinite supply of hot water (free from a hot water tank running out). The transportation network frees me from having to own a car or be stuck in traffic. Affordable urban rents give me the freedom to live where I want. Even the social rules that pervade Japan, once you get used to them, give you a freeing feeling of comfort wherever you go. Once you acclimatize to the culture and language you can go anywhere in Japan and feel comfortably at home. You can be in a back alley or a 3 star restaurant and be totally at ease. Interactions are predictable and no one is going out of their way to make you feel uncomfortable, or so obsessed with themselves that they don’t care who they bother or inconvenience. Instead you encounter hospitality in every little corner of the entire country. It’s amazing, and the difference from America is both stark and liberating.
IDK how you can claim to be free from police violence when you consider what happens if you get arrested for something there...
@@whitexenoPeople who are not criminals never have to worry about te police.
@@dimalicious888 this is completely false because people in every country get falsely accused and arrested and convicted all the time.
@@dimalicious888 Until they want to check your identification for looking different.
@peachcobblercake3968 so like African Americans in the US. At least you won't get shot in japan.
You know moving is never an easy thing to do.Theres Alot to consider but add a young child to the mix,and it opens up even more you have to think about when it comes to where you want to live.Also another great video!
I've lived in Tokyo and in Los Angeles. I now live in a suburb about an hour out of LA. I totally agree with Paolo. Japan wins out on food, safety, and overall quality of society. The US, at least in the area I live in, has become so dangerous in the past 10 years, my family and I are afraid to even go anywhere. I'm not joking. Here are some examples:
1. I caught a gang member breaking into my bedroom window at 10AM. When the police finally came, 2 hours later... They asked me if I had a gun and basically told me I could use it if that happens again. 😧
2. Our car was broken into while parked on the street. They broke the driver's-side window and it was expensive and a lot of trouble to replace. So, we don't park on the street anymore.
3. I found a loaded gun hidden in a bush in our front yard. The hammer was cocked and ready to fire. We called the police to come get it, concerned it could go off at any moment. They showed up 7 hours later to pick it up... We literally had to call again to make sure they were coming! 😐
4. There are mentally-ill drug addict homeless people wandering the streets and they are aggressive. I've had several scary encounters.
I could go on, but it seems people don't follow rules here anymore, crime is rampant, and the city and state governments aren't doing anything about it. I don't have kids, but if I did, I would not raise them here. So, I think Paolo is making the right decision. Sure, there are still a few nice areas in California, but I never feel totally safe like I did in Japan. And I recommend staying out of LA and the Inland Empire.
Why aren't people protesting in droves in California? I just don't get why they are not in the streets at the Governer's office!
After coming back to LA after having lived in Asia for 18 of the past 20 years, I totally see the changes. I had two punks try to jump through a window while I was home but the blinds and bed stopped them. Another crazy homeless lady threw a piece of metal against our garage door wall and was the same one screaming off and on at night. She is totally a drug addict homeless person. I miss the reasonably priced meals while eating out and the general safety and convenience. If it weren't for family reasons, there is no way in hell I'd be back.
Well, look at who controls the govt in CA. The ppl in your state voted for the far left liberals who enacted terrible policies for the past 40 years. Now the negative consequences are a big reality.
@@garlicgirl3149 People do protest, but lots of people still vote for Gavin Newsom for some reason, nothing changes, and it just keeps getting worse. After covid and DA George Gascón were elected in 2020, things really went downhill. Criminals don't get prosecuted and just get released. A lot of people are just leaving the state. Most of my neighbors did.
@@zz3410 I'm in the same boat. Stuck at the moment for family reasons. And yeah, the mentally ill drug-addict homeless people out here are aggressive. One big guy with a knife, asked me if he could come to my place to take a shower. When I told him "I'm sorry, no." he got all mad at me and cussed me out. Another guy digging in our trash late at night wouldn't leave when I confronted him. Then he finally left, but came back a couple minutes later and I had to tell him to leave again! Another guy on a bike was crossing the street with me and some other people and he just stops in the middle of the street and pees all over himself and the bike. Going to the post office became a nightmare because a crazy lady on drugs was always there yelling at everyone and the police would never make her leave. Finally they had to take her away one day because she attacked someone in the lobby who was trying to get their mail. It's dangerous for the general public and these people who are on drugs as well.
I don't watch your videos religiously but whenever I do I always enjoy them. You're such a nice guy and I'm never bored watching your videos. Thanks very much!
I've always preferred Japan over the US for the same reasons you do. I just can't convince my wife to move out of the states and we don't understand how to speak the language, however I did tell my wife I will be spending a lot of my retirement + vacation time in Japan.
Right on Paolo! Respect to you. We are Americans living overseas and all of the reasons you give are the same for us. Thanks for all your interesting videos and hard work.
Very good video Paolo. Safety is very important and Japan is very safe because of the rules with freedom. Do what you think is best for your family no matter where you live.
Love your videos. No one is perfect, no country is perfect. Just love the attitude and life style you showed. Keep doing the positive part even there’s unfriendly show up.
GREAT VIDEO, PAOLO! you covered it best when you said it work's BEST FOR YOU AND YOUR FAMILY!!!!!👨👩👦💯💯💯💯💯
Thank you for sharing this information. 🙏 It would be great if the US would learn from Japan!
Having grown up as a military brat and coming back to Japan as an adult, they are on different levels. Everything you said is spot and lucky my kids are now experiencing the same level of calmness and safety, something America can’t provide.
Hi Paolo, please stay in Japan, and continue to share your high quality videos’ contents to everyone. Thank you!❤
I live in Connecticut and my town is one of the safest in the country, we literally don’t have any sort of crime and no homeless anywhere. That said, it is also one of the most expensive places to live in the country and the cost of living is pretty stressful to say the least. But in general, it truly depends on where you live in the U.S. , unlike Japan, the whole country is pretty safe and visiting Japan was one of the most wonderful vacations I have ever experienced. I remember asking a random person if he can tell me where I can get a cab, he didn’t only tell me, he walked with me and showed me!!!! OMG! Personally, I would live in Japan, but darn work is keeping me in the U.S. 😞 …but one day! One day!!! 😊 Good work Paolo! Sending loads of Love to you and your family from Connecticut 🌎
I’m from South Windsor. What town are you from?
I would also Love the CONS now with Japan.. after you gave the pros... This is a good watch!
Paolo mentioned 'doing as your told' as a positivel. During WW2 Japanese soldiers were vicious in doing as their superiors told them to do. Not cool😊
@@scottstevens4633wait what??
❤Wow, wish I were much younger, I’d move toJapan in a heartbeat. What a wonderful place. Wish you and your family well.
Very interesting Paolo. You and your wife have to do what's good for your family. Regardless of what people think. Stay safe.
Sorry to hear about your snowboarding accident bro… glad you’re doing better now
As American citizen, who was raised in Japan. Even though it was on a military base, I was exposed enough to the culture that it really shaped the person that I am. I live in Florida now, I am everything that you mentioned is everything I complain about the US. Specially the safety part. I remember being 10 years old and my parents will let me go off the base and I would take a hour train ride and spend the weekend with the family that my mom taught English . So I was really immersed in Japanese culture. And they got to practice their English. It was a win-win. and as a child, it was a nice sense of independence. And also, it taught me how to problem solve. Something that American children don’t get the chance to develop. Because their parents shelter them so much because it’s so dangerous.
I think if Japan would change their work culture, it would be the best country in the world to live and immigrate to. I feel like it’s the only thing holding them back. And it’s holding them back not even from immigrants but also from their young people starting families. thanks for the video, 🙏🏻
I dont like Americans in the other countries, because they destroy people's culture.
I’m from the Midwest . I left the States in 2009. I live in South East Asia now. I used to think that I was happy in my little bubble traveling only within a 5 mile radius. Boy was I wrong. The world is big! There’s life outside of the US of A. A better life. Affordable healthcare, great education, and most importantly, not having to worry of getting killed or shot at. Japan is amazing. I’ve been to Japan 5x. I’m going skiing in Niseko next month. I was in Bangkok last month. Jakarta in December. I’m glad I left my comfort zone and opened up my eyes to great things that life has to offer. 🙏
Yes more people need to visit SEA. I was blown away tbh. Very cheap but the service and people are top notch. They are much more developed than what the media made me believe.
Welcome to SEA!
I swear I’ve been following this guy sense he started and even before individuals were into japans culture , but I can say that this Guy is expiring !! It’s like he does to of good job on this but he’s the best ! Had to be said
agree completely with you on all your points especially safety..and teaching kids how to be polite and respectful
I traveled to Japan last year and really enjoyed the experience. The people were so nice and the food was great. I look forward to 2025 when I can hopefully go back again. 😊
Paolo, I would love to live in Japan since the people there are very nice and helpful. While I was in Iawkuni and Okinawa, I found the people and the places I visited to be beautiful. I envy you brother. Wish I could live there based on what you just mentioned.
Thanks for another great video
You do what you gotta do, Paolo. I personally never felt right about asking personal questions, but I’m glad you cleared some things up. Whatever the scenario, the most important thing you can do right now is prioritize your family.
I know a couple just like Paolo. The husband in from the US and his wife is Japanese. They met in NYC dated, married and moved to Tokyo for her job. They lived there for about 8 years had a son, and then she decided she wanted to move back to the US because she wanted a better work-life balance. In Japan, she was leaving for work at like 7am and not getting home until after 9pm. She pretty much missed the first 8 years of her son's life because of work. They are much happier in the states than in Japan. I guess everyone is different, and it just depends on your priorities.
You visited sir
Yep. I'd only live in Japan if work/money wasn't an issue.
At least your friend still has a son, in Japan. If they were in the US, she could have a "daughter" now without even knowing how that happened. US does not have parental rights - your kids belong to the government.
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Could you elaborate
@@missplainjane3905 The current US government-controlled school union is pushing transgenderism. Children are bombarded with gender related school topics, such as gay, bisexual, sexual-fluidity, transgender and so on. If an under-aged child decides he/she wants to change his/her gender, then the school must not tell the parents and must comply with the child's request and provide sex-change medical treatment and procedure. Even if the parents find out, they have no legal right and standing to object for such sex change. There have been instances that the parents are completely in the dark and unaware of their child has already started or underwent sex change procedure. Young children are very impressionable, so naturally parents are concerned about children getting influenced and makes irrational life-altering decision without parents' input. When some parents objected and complained to the school districts, the officials have already said the parents do not have rights to decide how their children are educated because the children belong to the government. This is not a joke and sadly, it's the realty of the current situation in the US.
I’m happy you found HOME! That is what’s important!!!! Plus Asian culture is just different especially in Japan. The fact that your kid can walk to the grocery store at three years old in total safety is amazing. I’ll never leave Asia I might stay in America here and there to see family or for work. But Americans don’t really understand the way we do things so it’s kind of hard. Especially for my kids. People think they’re being rude if they don’t talk to people, but that’s just the culture to be quiet and respectful. Also the food is amazing 😂 love your channel thank you for sharing yours and your wife and Wolfy’s life
I walked to school at 3 years old in the US it not a big deal. Just a lot of parents are worried about everything in the US so it really just paranoia in most cases.
that is so true that you have to be acting very outgoing to fit in the society living in US.
@@kubota9751 Since when
Yeah I like how Japan maintains that and other traditions. They do seem to be falling behind on technology sometimes though (e.g. compared to Korea). However how they raise kids is really good. Some Asian countries (e.g. Vietnam) are falling for the western bs like picking them up from school in a big SUV, kinda sad.
@@hellowill we raised our children in both Korea and Japan. Our kids our Korean born but went to school in both countries and now our kids work in Japan for anime companies. It’s just when we go to America they don’t understand just taking the family to bathhouses to most westerners think it’s crazy to us it’s tradition. Some thing so simple I’ve seen people turn it to horrible things. It’s just comes to being raised two worlds apart. Just like when we visited African villages their cultures and beliefs are so different but we can find beauty in all. If everyone would stop hate and just respect and realize we are not all the same but inside we all bleed the same.
Thank you for sharing this video.
Thanks for always keeping it 100% with us Paolo! Definitely wasn’t expecting you to touch on things like food education/obesity and suicide but these are very important things to consider especially when thinking about your young family! You know I think the food education part clearly shows because there are so many things to indulge in Japan around every corner but there is a balance of indulgence and health
The healthy school lunches are definitely important. My eldest kids learnt good eating habits from kindergartern, but my youngest started school after we left Japan, and always asks for the fried food her friends bring to school.
I wish I could live in Japan too. Sounds wonderful and amazing. It’s a beautiful country too.
Great insights ! good take on all points!
I wish I could’ve learned all this when I was in middle school. Follow the rules, respecting people. What’s the right way and the wrong way. Being responsible and independent. I have an understanding why people say “live in harmony”. If I can relive my life again, I would definitely live in Japan. 🇯🇵 As always thank you for showing us things that I can always learn from you.
Like with anything, (unless you are 70 years old or something) you can do it now.
E.g. live somewhere or learn a language or instrument, start at any age!
it is never too late to try something new, you can do it 😊
it is never too late to try something new, you can do it 😊
Love this! Love this! Love this! So nice to go on a trip with you. So pleasant and calming.
Great video! Thank you Paolo
Thank you for information and your experience
Awesome video as always Paolo. One other thing that's different about Japan compared to the US is how clean the streets are in Japan.
The things I’m willing to do to have this kind of lifestyle.
I like to mind my own business, I like being considerate of fellow people- as long as they are the same with me.
Sure it ain’t perfect- but much better than majority of the US.
Such a great video thank you Paolo
Yes to safety! Will always love going back to Japan.
今日もありがとう！Thank you as always❤
Honestly.. everything you listed is very valid.. now I’m a car guy.. and I have ALWAYS considered Japan the “automotive mecca”.. and I’d do anything to live in Japan.. but now that I know there’s free healthcare that covers a good amount of stuff… I have the sudden urge to move there (if I can get permanent residence
Thanks Paolo, this was very educational.
hi, i think you are doing your best for your child, and just keep doing like you mentioned, your kid will be wery well, congratulations from Mexico
Currently here as an ALT in Japan and I agree with everything here. The one thing that is hard though is not seeing my family back in the US.
But we have zoom! When I lived in Japan in 1999 I had to go to a special public pay phone to call the USA because no one could afford cell phone rates. We were billed per minute. Now we can Whatsapp, Viber, Zoom for free or cheap. Yes I missed family but being so connected really helps.
@@happycook6737 in the 1990s, we had to write letters. Some of my friends and relatives kept some of my 4 to 6 page letters. I used to write suprisingly well! It is a lost art.
Japan isn’t being invaded by grown men from other countries and isn't run by a tyrannical government. I would stay there too.
辞めたほうがいいです。
日本は衰退するばかり。
Underrated statement
I lived in Japan from 2007-2013 and while I was there my experience was always amazing, I was always missing home (NJ-USA) then when I came back I started to miss Japan my second home.
Sounds amazing. I hope I get to visit one day.
I would love to move to Japan. I Think the culture is amazing and the food OMG.
Tokyo is a great place to live especially when you making good money to be able to enjoy what it offers… that’s why so many rich tourists flock there
Yep. I would not want to work there. Unless remote for a western company.
You could say that the US, Canada and Asia. Life is better when you have more money.
Thanks Paolo for this very personal sharing, it's greatly appreciated.
I had the chance to travel many times to Japan, I can concur with the reasons one would live there as a Parent. The incredible quality and affordability of food, services, safety, cleanliness, the state of public structures and traditions... I am always blown away by that. That's maybe the reason why I keep coming back
As a French, the only deal breaker is how they value the individuals VS the group. It's all good in paper, but puts a great pressure on all living souls in Japan. It has both good and bad outcomes
Thanks again for sharing, I am still enjoying the first batch of the fiery sauce you released. It's the toughest MF in my reserve to this day
This is awesome! As a 1st-Gen American whose family immigrated to the states, I see both the good and the bad of our country and I view Japan as a potential standard that we could hold ourselves to. My family and I have contemplated moving to Japan for some of these points; great video!
My family were born and brought up in Japan, my last daughter was born in December, we considered moving back to the UK then saw the stage of the country and decided not to. Like you I feel safe and happy here, we are all multilingual we work, healthcare is excellent as I have permanent healthcare problems I get taken care of really well. And my family are happy overall. The only thing I don’t like is too much school work for my 10 year old but he doesn’t mind .
I agree with you about living in Japan. Being a Senior in Canada, Japan seems to have much less "drama" than here. As for the schooling aspect, I wish there was a magic solution to take all aspects of the Japanese system and apply them in many countries, especially Canada and the US.
Wdym by drama
It great as long as you getting paid from Canada and not Japan.
oh yeah, they have a great school system...except for the whole institutionalized bullying and harassment by students and staff of anyone who stands out the tiniest bit.
The reason things work better here in Japan is because Japan is 97% Japanese. 97% of the population are raised the same way and behave the same way. The US has too many different races and cultures, all trying to outdo the others and put down the rest.
@@Mwoods2272 You sound like a nazi.
It seem to be a wonderful country to live in. Thanks for this video.❤️😘🙆♀️
Paolo we're always here for you and your family, I hope you guys are okay!!!
My dream one day is to move to Japan and retire there. Sadly, life has other plans and I haven't made it yet but still hopeful! I love everything about Japan especially the Respect the Japanese people have for everything. Safety is another important check mark for me and living in the US I can attest to all the violence and not feeling safe in certain areas/cities. Healthcare is just the icing on the cake!
With the community focus of Japanese culture I would definitely stay there too and never leave if I ever get the chance to live in Japan. I would just spend my time there tending a garden in the countryside, learning things like woodworking and repairing houses, reading, and going on bicycle rides!
Are you retired or rich?
I moved to Nagoya this past November and I love it here
Wait a second - was that Koffee Mammeya around 6:42? Best coffee shop in all of Tokyo. 👌🏼 You should make a day in the life of someone who works there. Another good video as always, cheers!
I agree with you a 100% if I lived in Japan I don’t think I would ever leave either.
In fact, Japan's health insurance system is great. While the co-payment for general medical care is 30%, for expensive surgeries there is a high-cost medical expense subsidy system that sets a ceiling on the amount to be paid.
For example, my mother's operation to implant an artificial joint in her knee cost 4.8 million yen, but since she was a low-income person living on a pension, her co-payment was 35,000 yen. The government pays the rest.
So in Japan, no one goes bankrupt because of medical expenses.
Americans don't just go bankrupt because of their private system, people actually die because they can't afford treatment. They're supposed to be the richest country in the world so it's just sad that they let each other die like that.
Sounds similar to the Singapore's system, which is more like NHS and American hybrid.
Singapore has a public “insurance” called Medisave and Medishield and a subsidy system for most stuff in the government system.
Tho MediSave a government mandated savings account for healthcare and part of, what western countries might say is the pension system, CPF, and MediShield is basic insurance for the more serious ailment and surgeries. There's also different classes of hospital beds (tho for some treatment there's a minimum class for it...
While no one really goes bankrupt, the system does have it's failing due to it being a personal responsibility system of sorts, where most of the burden is on the patient, especially when you or close ones have a rare or serious aliments like cancer. That's when the burden of money weighs heavy... even if you could get private insurance...
Dude, just watching yours, and John's, YT channels really made me missed Japan so much. I was stationed there at Yokosuka (1998-2000) had the excellent opportunity to live off-base. What a wonderful experience that was. I have never felt so much at home in Yokosuka than anywhere else in the USA. So clean, so safe, so courteous. And the food.....thank heaven for 7-11 and 24/7 gyudon restaurants. And another place tbat I do missed is Zushi. Especially the Hirako Bike Shop. 1st (or 2nd) Saturday, a couple of shipmates and I would go to Hirako for their mountain bike club and ride the trails in and around Zushi. We even stop halfway and have a quick lunch and some Jack Daniel's. Well...not too much of JD. Overall, it was a fun and amazing experience for me, because my only exposure to Japan was the anime (Akira and Bubblegum Crisis) in America.
You are a good man. I fully get you!!! Be blessed.
He's a very chill guy. 😎
I am an older Japanese American in California and I totally understand why feel that when considering your family you feel it is best to stay in Japan. Violence is so prevalent here and it is getting worse. Also the smash and grab robberies are so frequent I don’t think Japanese citizens would believe it. Homelessness is rampant in most cities . I myself do not like leaving my house after the sun goes down because of the crime.
Don't live in fear. We had to move from our community in Canada for your situation, we were getting older soon to retire, try to move to a safer community if you can, you won't regret getting your peace of mind back. I lived in Edmonton AB moved to a small town in BC
Why not move to Japan? I'd do it in a heartbeat if I was in your shoes.
I would guess that maybe his wife and kids live in the US, maybe extended family as well. Bit hard move to another country on a whim, also very expensive.@@anuragneti7098
I am in the same boat. When I tell my foreign coworkers and friends about how unsafe America is, people almost don't believe it. Then reality set in when they make a business trip to SF and get robbed or get their rental car broken into. In the old days, people fight for an opportunity to have a business trip to the US. Nowadays, no one wants to come, except the endless of migrants crossing the US border illegally.
California problems
Definitely understand that as a parent you see everything through a different lense. I moved from a big city to a small town in Ohio in my early 20s and safety is one of the reasons why I would never move back now that I have kids. I would want more diversity in the town I live but in the past couple of years, its been getting more diverse which I love. Keep making great videos, my family and I love your RUclips channel! ❤
Diverse how?
@@LillyEve1 How do you think?
@sammiller6631 Well, the OP should be specific. Is it more third-world immigration that's destroying our country, that kind of diversity... increased crime, burden on social systems, burden on our schools, etc... just a lot of negative effects.
More proof that big cities are giving people the wrong impression of the safety level in the US. If want more diversity then don't go to Japan its way worse.
It's safe because it's not diverse
As a parent, this was a wonderful and information video. If I was you, I would do the same and stay in Japan. At the end of the day, as parents we try to do our very best for our kid(s).
I agree with you japan is so safe and clean
Understandable my guy.🇯🇵
Safety, discipline and the healthy lunch meals are more than enough for me to live in Japan, plus it's easier to find part time jobs even beyond retirement age.
Paolo, you do what is best for you and your family. And don't forget, you can always come back to the States for a visit whenever you want to.
You have the best topics.
I love your reasons that you want to stay in Japan. In the U S, medical costs are too high. Love Japan. Love its people. Love its culture. Love its food. It is a beautiful country too.
I'm 49 and have only been to a doctor 3 times in my entire life. I live in Colorado and there's neighborhoods here so dangerous that the police recommend that you carry a handgun if going alone.
Hey Paolo! Interesting topic as I would suspect may people have ask you this question. Honestly it’s not my say to ask why stay in Japan. You are a family man where both you and Maiko have to make a decision on what’s best for your family. As long as you have a happy life and do your best to take care of your family, enjoy where you live no matter where it may be. Make it the best! Thank you for the video.
My son and his wife (no children) live in Tokyo. They have been there about 18 months. They love it! We are trying to go visit this summer. I've been watching your videos and a few others to get a better idea of where they live and the customs. I am very excited about the food and just Japan in general. I miss my children but I understand the draw.