Overcoming Male Rap* Abuse by Brother | Lokesh's Brave Journey on Kissey Podcast

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  • Опубликовано: 18 окт 2024
  • Join us on the Kissey Podcast for a compelling conversation with Lokesh, a male sexual abuse survivor and proud member of the queer community. Lokesh's story has been featured in prominent publications like Brut, The Print, and Humans of Bombay. Now, for the first time, he shares his powerful journey on a podcast.
    In this episode, Lokesh opens up about his experiences with sexual abuse, the challenges of coming to terms with his identity, and the strength it takes to rise above trauma. We delve into the societal stigma surrounding male sexual abuse, the importance of mental health, and the resilience of the human spirit.
    Tune in for an eye-opening and heartfelt discussion that aims to break the silence, foster understanding, and inspire others to find their voice.
    TimeStamps:-
    (00:02):- Hidden male rape abuse
    (02:35):- Sharing Empowers
    (08:04):- Forced oral sex by his brother
    (10:28):- Traumatic experience of male rape
    (15:38):- Overcoming internal struggle
    (18:00):- Assertive refusal.
    (24:50):- Addressing family abuse.
    (29:35):- Overcoming brother's abuse.
    (31:59):- Understanding transgender.
    (39:21):- Importance of speaking up .
    (46:26):- signs of incest and unhealthy relationships.
    (51:45):- Infidelity ethics.
    (53:59):- Non-monogamous relationships.
    (59:04):- love and lust
    (1:01:44):- True soul and purpose
    (1:06:53):- Acceptance is key .
    (1:09:13):- Fighting male abuse.
    (1:13:48):- LGBTQ+ Confusion.
    (1:16:05):- Community support
    (1:20:49):- overcoming male rape abuse
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Комментарии • 278

  • @NishaPotla
    @NishaPotla 3 месяца назад +136

    I am not able to find the right words to explain how I feel about this podcast, it’s heartbreaking yet beautiful. There’s so much beauty in the fact that Lokesh is not only able to talk about the horrendous things he’s been through but also use his experiences as a weapon to protect others. I was on the verge of tears several times while listening to Lokesh and even though the podcast was supposed to be about this terribly awful time of his life, yet I could see Lokesh here so much more than I could his experiences. I could see the kind, intelligent man he is. His incredible, respectful character, the kindness in his voice, his ability to form beliefs but also be tolerant to other people’s beliefs, his knowledge about current affairs and just his charisma. Lokesh is really strong but not because he survived after he unfortunately had to go through one of the most horrible things anyone could ever go through. He’s strong because of who he has become, a really great person from what I can see. It’s so easy to be a “bad” person, it’s the easiest and most convenient thing, yet he has chosen to be a good person despite having reasons that can excuse him for being “bad”. That’s why I loved this podcast, because of the strength I can see in it not because he went through the worst abuse imaginable but because of the beautiful person he is. People around Lokesh must feel really lucky to have him in their lives, I felt really lucky to have the opportunity to hear him out. I know it means nothing coming from a stranger (even though you might have heard half-truths about me by chance, maybe.) but I am so proud of you, Lokesh and I wish to have the kind of strength you do. I hope you come across my comment and get to read this, it’s been sent with good intentions only.
    Dishank Timble. I don’t think I need to express how proud I am of you, but I will. You are in every way the person I thought you were and I am so, so proud of what you have built and the perfect person you keep growing into and shaping yourself to become. You’re doing so well. Thank you, from me and I’m sure from everyone who watches your podcast. You are making so much difference, in the best way possible. You are going to change the world someday, stick around and make it happen. Thank you for posting this. But also, I will call you on Friday to talk about this podcast, I will write down the points I need to discuss so I can make it quick, so please be available. Thank you

  • @sauravdhillon3265
    @sauravdhillon3265 3 месяца назад +101

    The real hero of the story is Lokesh’s mom.The abuser was her brother’s son. She very well could have just shrugged the whole thing off and could have told Lokesh to be mum about it . But she fought and she made sure to confront the abuser and even had a conversation with the abuser’s mom. That act right there is what probably rendered Lokesh so much of strength.
    Lokesh if u are reading this know that am so proud of you. What you did is not easy. I hope you heal and be this incredible light that u are ✨

  • @Garima2837
    @Garima2837 3 месяца назад +44

    This is the podcast I'm talking about. The man is so courageous. This is gonna help so many people❤

  • @paruls636
    @paruls636 3 месяца назад +57

    One of the most powerful episodes. It is very difficult for the victims to talk about this issue. Kudos to the host and the speaker both. 🙏🏼👍🏼🕊️

  • @snehachakraborty2701
    @snehachakraborty2701 3 месяца назад +32

    More power to you Lokesh....I can't even understand why people do such horrendous things with the victims but yes you are brave enough to talk and spread awareness about it.
    Thank you Kissey for providing the platform to him to have a proper conversation.

  • @Mahadev19373
    @Mahadev19373 3 месяца назад +273

    Men not even leaving men:(

    • @amirbhat6143
      @amirbhat6143 3 месяца назад +14

      @@Mahadev19373 A brother to A kido brother like you doing with youre own son..am so sad sad sad.

    • @harishnaik9079
      @harishnaik9079 3 месяца назад +13

      Ye uska apna saga bhai nahin tha,mama ka ladka tha,(cousin brother)

    • @vipulpatil8876
      @vipulpatil8876 24 дня назад

      If he think he can bite his p****s for safety purpose

    • @nitathapa8559
      @nitathapa8559 18 дней назад

      ​@@harishnaik9079jo bhi ho lekin mard to thaa na?

  • @shaheerak2689
    @shaheerak2689 2 месяца назад +7

    I didn't know people can speak about it. I haven't told anyone what happened with me. I am in my 30s still struggling to cope up with it. Life sucks for me. I am so proud of you I wish I was like you.

  • @gladwynferreira9308
    @gladwynferreira9308 3 месяца назад +16

    My heart goes out to Lokesh not out of sympathy but out of concern and support
    I would love to connect with him, if he agrees, to share my story.

    • @Kisssey
      @Kisssey  3 месяца назад +6

      You can do so on his dms and you want to share it on pod you can connect with us

  • @jayeshpatel1262
    @jayeshpatel1262 3 месяца назад +13

    The person who is conducting this podcast is very genuine and nice person. Really can see the pain and agony he felt while conducting this podcast and his feeling and concern for the community

  • @yashika071
    @yashika071 3 месяца назад +91

    My own teacher tried to do it and im still traumatized coz of it .i was one of the very good student of the school but us teacher ki personality usne aise bna k rakhi thi ki if i would have talked about it pta nhi koi mujhe believe bhi krta .. that's how these ppl r 2 faced
    I will gather some courage and tell my principal soon so that atleast at schools children could feel safe

    • @beelzebubleo284
      @beelzebubleo284 3 месяца назад +5

      Yes, true ,more power to you also please be safe , do inform your parents if you could or someone you trust. You never know how the principal would take it , most of them just try to get away with it to save their school's name and not be involved. 🌼

    • @jyotimaurya7639
      @jyotimaurya7639 3 месяца назад +6

      @@yashika071 you go girl. More power to you. Always remember it's the teacher who did wrong. Never ever blame yourself for anything. Go and inform your parents.

    • @nanahaji6243
      @nanahaji6243 3 месяца назад +2

      Please share with your parents

    • @Gusjbwn6538
      @Gusjbwn6538 3 месяца назад +2

      Please share with your cousins for support or mother before complaining to principal, be brave and confident

    • @Jyotigautam52870
      @Jyotigautam52870 3 месяца назад +3

      Don't worry dear....if u have any doubt of not to b believed...try gathering proof...like ask him to meet u after school n let ur other friends come n record it....please...I faced it too..n nobody believed me..I had to gather proofs only then I was able to make that person pay for his sin...stay strong dear👍

  • @ritulraj8484
    @ritulraj8484 3 месяца назад +67

    Title is self explanatory itself and these things are not tolerable, can't even imagine what he has been gone through, this is beyond wrong, humans are loosing their humanity in the name of lust and glad that platform like kissey exist where people can share their traumas in a very comfortable environment n help others as well..

  • @BohoDevi
    @BohoDevi 3 месяца назад +83

    These culprits are called 'groomers', they groom their victims over the years and hence it takes a lot time for the survivor to realize that they have been abused. Often they victim shame to get out of the guilt when they've been caught.
    Taking therapy and having such conversation on platforms such as Yt can only spread awareness.

  • @taniyadalvi
    @taniyadalvi 3 месяца назад +24

    Lokesh more power & virtual hugs to you , asking the right questions , talking & spreading awareness around it & being such pure soul & kissey for being a great platform for people to have such open conversation 🤍

  • @gurpreetsinghbrar5773
    @gurpreetsinghbrar5773 3 месяца назад +23

    This is the first time i have seen this being shared on an Indian Platform. No one talks about it unfortunately.

  • @prangyaparimitadwibedi4715
    @prangyaparimitadwibedi4715 2 месяца назад +4

    This happing with lots of children but no one can rise his/her voice. Thank you to give us the courage to rise our voice and let people know how horney some people of our society that they even differentiate between children and adults. Everyone thinks that this can only happen with females. And some parents even let their kid suffer because of the society. Is the society is this much cruel to us. And some people even criticize the victim that what happened with them that was their falt.
    Thank you for being the voice of thousands of victims...

  • @TruthfulHeart-c5d
    @TruthfulHeart-c5d 3 месяца назад +28

    I'm a 29 year old man,
    I'm so sad and being the same victim, I'm shocked that he was at the same age when I was also 6. Lokesh was abused by a cousin. But I was abused by my own brother. He was 15 years old. I've been abused by him until I was 17 years old. My parents went to work, I used to come home soon and he too comes home too and used to molest me often. And when my parents sleep he used to do the same sometimes. I couldn't say it to my parents that time as he threatened me. I still remember those days and how he made me to do bad stuff. The wound is still fresh on my heart. He expired when he was 23 years old. He was also caring at sometimes, yet, after his demise, I'm feeling a lack in my heart. Actually jealous of others who has good brothers where they support their younger kin. I hate his way that he abused me yet, I miss the caring part of a brother. I'm in ruins, please give me a solution.

    • @TruthfulHeart-c5d
      @TruthfulHeart-c5d 3 месяца назад +2

      Thankfully, I'm straight!!!! 😊

    • @yuviraj6465
      @yuviraj6465 3 месяца назад

      Idk if ur straight or no but after getting abused u tend to become soft and if someone tries to over power you u tend to submit to them cuz of traumatic experience..​@@TruthfulHeart-c5d

    • @omfriend
      @omfriend 2 месяца назад +6

      @@TruthfulHeart-c5d Turn to Lord Shree Hari. He'll guide you for 😃 sure trust me

    • @goravupadhyay-e6o
      @goravupadhyay-e6o 2 месяца назад

      Same happened with with me and whenever I see him it's seems like happening again

    • @ahmedzubaerrivan5269
      @ahmedzubaerrivan5269 2 месяца назад

      If there's any brotherly relationship then both of you will going to miss each other as brother. You will most probably ignore the fact by thinking that you both were aroused and curious if there's no more possible sexual attraction
      So go sit with him try to ask him about it in a carely, brotherly manner. And not continuing about it . Because u both are men and have to marry an women. Also there's religious factor to discuss about too..
      And lastly forget about everything and don't talk about it Anymore with each other..

  • @Never_mind66
    @Never_mind66 2 месяца назад +4

    First of all hats off to lovekesh to actually speaking about this bringing this thing in front of people this would have taken a lot of courage... I am literally inspired by his bravery because for men it is even more difficult to bring these matters in front of people.... When you hear these kind of incidence you don't believe and think really the people can be this evil? They don't see right or wrong beyond their pleasures

  • @tramatictitan
    @tramatictitan 3 месяца назад +29

    So this happened with me too im a gay man, i always knew that something is up with me when it comes to boys and i was like 11 but i was not much sexually aware about all those things also i live in a village so my cousin brother who was like i guess 19 at that time once forced me to have anal sex with him i was very traumatized he even threatened me to not tell anyone or he would tell everyone what he did to me!? Idk i was scared and also afraid to tell my parents then it became a regualr thing he'd take me to his home on rooftop and would force me to induldge in the sexual activity! It became so normal that i myself then was not hesitant to do that, it continued for 3 years by the time i was 15 i looked upon to him as someone whom i can trust and get love! So in lockdown i rarely got out of my home and i started searching about my identity like being attracted to men and then this!? So i came to know about homosexuality and having uprotected sex with anyone can cause AIDS i was scared to death a very small allergy would give me horror thoughts! Time passed two years in between he asked me several time to have sex with him but i refused. i felt betrayed and also i came to realize how big mistake he made and me too! As i started being rebbelious he would call me by slurs whenever I'd come to talk to other boys of the village, he did tell some guys that he had sex with me and they approached me too and i felt really bad! Now im 18 i had sex with a man at the age of 17 as i thought he could be the ONE! he turned out to be married despite his age being 23! So after all this im just forced to not believe anyone! I sometime thinks that people say that we homosexual just seek sex but i believe that from the moment that i realised what precations should be taken and especially with whom we should have sex, i became more responsible in these things. I'd like more people to reach out for help when sexual harrasment is happening to them, just dont sit silent or you'll end up like me!

  • @KimHyunjoong-xh6vm
    @KimHyunjoong-xh6vm 2 месяца назад +22

    "....paanch saal enjoy kiya...." That line is hell itself, it makes you go through hell in a split second, and it is real not just a nightmare, people do say these kinds of things to the victims.

    • @Kisssey
      @Kisssey  2 месяца назад +3

      Grooming ke barey me study Karo that's what a victim Sadly goes through

    • @KimHyunjoong-xh6vm
      @KimHyunjoong-xh6vm 2 месяца назад +2

      @@Kisssey yes, Thank you for informing, suna to hai iss bare mein per main aur detail study karungi taaki uski gehrai samaj sakoon.

  • @sk5182
    @sk5182 3 месяца назад +21

    Well done guyz ...This was much needed 👏👏👏👏👏

  • @raavyak1853
    @raavyak1853 Месяц назад +1

    Just like my story. When I first Said no to my abuser it was very empowering!

  • @amarnathshagabanda9286
    @amarnathshagabanda9286 3 месяца назад +6

    Story was Somewhat relatable to me ..... But happy whatever happens it happens for a reason.... Lovely show .... I dint even felt that I'm watching a podcast.... Explained very well about the LGBT community.... Being a gay guy.... I agree whatever u guys spoke.... Felt very natural by watching the show.... Tq❤

  • @aayushmabhandari7167
    @aayushmabhandari7167 22 дня назад

    No matter who you are I want to urge everyone to overcome it and try to speak up with someone who will understand it.
    Happy and proud that he overcome it.
    But as he said it's very hard to talk because it could be hard to live on if it will be shared with some wrong people.

  • @ronyrod6971
    @ronyrod6971 3 месяца назад +3

    I’m really sorry about that man. Hopefully you find your peace.

  • @bhuwanbista1334
    @bhuwanbista1334 2 месяца назад +5

    Bruh I was too molested and caught in same Situation when _I was small child 😢and I was totally unkown Whats going on _my relative my phupu's brother did it to me now still_I can feel those memories which makes me feel shame...😢💔😭everytime Those things feel like trauma still..... . Iam from Nepal🇳🇵🥺why god 😭??
    Bro more power to you😢

  • @believethetruth130
    @believethetruth130 2 месяца назад +7

    His english is so good.

  • @Lakshmi51234
    @Lakshmi51234 3 месяца назад +18

    First of all homosexuality cannot be end .It just you control yourself and find higher purpose.Same as heterosexual you just know your soul purpose.
    So its not about homosexuality or heterosexualuty its about connecting soul to higher consciousness. Its weird how you said that they stop being homosexual .

  • @vdss2045
    @vdss2045 3 месяца назад +14

    More power to you @kissey!! Keep Going 👏

  • @aakashrawat7424
    @aakashrawat7424 3 месяца назад +5

    thank u so much guys, jb koi bhi kinner or male-jo talli baja ke pretant krte h ki wo kinner h train me to mujhe nhi pta tha ki unse kese bachna h qki kabhi mere papa ne bhi unko kuch nhi bola na koi or train wala but now i know ki unko bhi me no bol skta hu or ladh skta hu jbki mujhe laga tha ki wo aayenge or forcefully paise manenge or private part touch krenge to bohot dar lagta tha train me jane se but ab me esa kisi k saath nhi hone dunga or ye dar mera aaj 23 ki age me khatam hua h me sbse kisi bure kaam k liye fight kr skta tha but humari society ne bnaya h ki kinnar ko hum kuch bol nhi skte wo galat h aaj pata laga big thnx kissey

    • @kpopfanfrom2017
      @kpopfanfrom2017 Месяц назад +1

      Bhai, aap bilkul unhe mana kar sakte hain, agar aap nahi dena chahte paise ya aapko pasand nahi ye sab to aap straight away NO bol dijiye, koi baat nahi hain darne ki, main samajh sakti hoon, maine dekha hain boys ko bahut jyada darte huye inn sab cheezo se, sirf boys hi nahi but girls ko bhi darr lagta hain kinnaro se but darne ke jaroorat nahi hain brother

  • @artbittu5175
    @artbittu5175 3 месяца назад +5

    It also had happened with me... A local brother in our neighborhood became so close to my family.. And my parents believed him and let me to go with him to his house. And he carry me to his home and everyday he do these things with me.... And i was hardly 8 or 9 year old and couldn't even tell this to anyone cause he threatened me saying that if i said this to anyone he gonna throw me under the moving car! And i got so scared!
    And he made a gang with his other two friends and they also brings boys and girls about my ages... And they put all of us in a room and one by one they forse us to put off the clothes! And forced us to have oral activities 🥹😢😢😢😢😢😢😢
    Fortunately my papa's transfer bring us to a different place i was saved!
    I dunno what had happened woth them.
    Now i have to live my life woth this memory to the rest of my life.

  • @rushikeshkharade8741
    @rushikeshkharade8741 3 месяца назад +33

    U talked about lust..when my roomie was posted in psychiatry as mbbs intern..there was a case of 1st degree incest.. wife caught husband having sex with his mother..while listening that case our ass clinched in weirdest feeling ever..

    • @anuskachakraborty4639
      @anuskachakraborty4639 3 месяца назад

      @@rushikeshkharade8741 oh no dude how tf

    • @rushikeshkharade8741
      @rushikeshkharade8741 3 месяца назад +1

      @@anuskachakraborty4639 that was horrible feeling..never going to forget it

    • @Kisssey
      @Kisssey  3 месяца назад +2

      Kissey would love to host him as it is really needed for world to be aware of this!

    • @KrishLabra24
      @KrishLabra24 3 месяца назад

      @@anuskachakraborty4639 I know someone who is in similar situation. He has became alcoholic because of his mother

    • @Kisssey
      @Kisssey  3 месяца назад

      @@Amygdala10 oh god that really dangerous 😳

  • @saqlainmian9810
    @saqlainmian9810 3 месяца назад +7

    Abuser bring their victim to the point that he becomes habitual.... But what about professionals???

  • @ChiranjitDeb-sw5cf
    @ChiranjitDeb-sw5cf 3 месяца назад +6

    It's not easy that homosexually ever been ended..sex is not just a physically matter..it also has sextually pleasure..if you are homosexual people you must find out a proper guy who love you properly .. otherwise it not been working properly only just an adjustment..open the society at first with broad mind and accepted all kind truth..sex is a part of life not hard of life..doing proper sex with girls or guys and recognize you properly. ..

  • @alien4189
    @alien4189 3 месяца назад +42

    So I went through something a bit similar thing
    I haven't told this to anyone
    So jab mai shyad 7, 8 saal ki thi to I used to go to my mama ke ghr to
    There was my mama ka ladka
    Who used to touch me very weirdly so uss time pe ye insaan was like 14 or 15 he used to sleep on me and used to kiss me and I didn't know what it was mujhe Pata tha ki ye glt h but mai kisko batau cuz he used to care for me like my own brother so I still feel weird when someone touches me even in a good way FYI I am 17 now
    Idk when am gonna overcome this

    • @Kisssey
      @Kisssey  3 месяца назад +7

      Hey you can feel free and talk to us or lokesh and we might help you overcome it as we spoke in the podcast but take care and all the best for your future

    • @vattamma20
      @vattamma20 3 месяца назад +3

      @@alien4189 more Power to you for opening up. Please take professional help because it's not your fault. You are a victim.🙏💓

  • @SB-ht7zz
    @SB-ht7zz 15 дней назад

    Agree with you. Once you attain Atma gyan you see things differently well said.

  • @androgamezone8971
    @androgamezone8971 2 месяца назад +4

    If you tell someone then your family and you will not be able to show your face in the society. It is more dishonorable if someone do this with a boy. When i remember all this i feel like i want to die but I am not that brave. From 11 years to 13 years old I had to bear the pain silently.I'm 20 now but still feel disgust about me. Sometimes i feel i'm not a men any more but I tried to accept it as a part of life.i hope god will forgive me.🙂

    • @LaCitoyen
      @LaCitoyen 2 месяца назад +4

      @@androgamezone8971 here me out. You were a child back then. It was never your fault to begin with. If anything the horrendous person who did that to you needs to ask for forgiveness since he definitely isn't getting one. And I m proud of you for sustaining yourself for so long. God always is the answer. Ask him to guide you and live you. You should love yourself more than anybody. Bless you

    • @kpopfanfrom2017
      @kpopfanfrom2017 Месяц назад

      You haven't done anything, you were a child back at that time it's not your fault, don't worry God will forgive you, but please try to be a little brave, and trust yourself and love yourself more than anyone as you and your soul know that you've done nothing wrong, you're not the culprit instead you're the victim.

  • @Candice2711-m2x
    @Candice2711-m2x Месяц назад +1

    There are many such podcast ...many are coming forward n sharing their stories ...after being already abused....the thing is how to prevent such incidents now with kids ...need to bring awareness in kids n parents

  • @Lovesahil-s2s
    @Lovesahil-s2s 2 месяца назад +2

    It happened with almost every guy in 90 s n 2000 s.. especially ppl in small village..

  • @sheetalagarwal1944
    @sheetalagarwal1944 3 месяца назад +17

    I think sab log kabhi na kabhi apne childhood me yeh sab face karrte hai n multiple times also

    • @N.Sudhanssu
      @N.Sudhanssu 3 месяца назад

      not everyone

    • @N.Sudhanssu
      @N.Sudhanssu 3 месяца назад

      @@traveller-paban987 r u serious??

  • @gagankumar5471
    @gagankumar5471 2 месяца назад +3

    Its me 😢 the same story i have and seriously iske bad puri life bahut muskil ho jati h. aap kitna bhi comover kr lo us chij se par vo chij aapka pichha nahi chhodi. Study nahi ho pati sahi se balance ni kr pate chijo ko kitna bhi accept kr lo condition ko aap usse bhar ni aa sakte 🥺

    • @kpopfanfrom2017
      @kpopfanfrom2017 Месяц назад

      Bhai aap bahar aane ki koshish karo, nahi to aap lifetime ke liye imprisoned ho jaayenge apne traumas se, please jaroorat ho to aap psychiatrist se baat kariye but please try to come out of your past trauma

  • @tillu2809
    @tillu2809 2 месяца назад +5

    My cousin brother who was 7 years elder to me, abused me physically when i was too young around 8 years..when i grown up upto 15 he fucked me once..that was really painful..i had never thought this could happen to me..when he asked me to turn and bend..😢...for many years he was same to me..then i muster coursage to tell this to my colleague when i went for my first Job...he asked me to tell that incident to my parents but i didn't and asked my brother to stay from me..he understood..and said that i also enjoy etc .then ue went 5i overseas for the..job .he got married too in 2019..now i am meeting guys outside..drugs bhu lene laga..hiv hogaya..cd4 bhi sahi hai..viral load undetectable hai..ab mai pareshan hun..gay sex nhi karna chhata..shadi. Karna chhta..shadi bhi kaise karun.. Muslim pe upoer caste mein aata hun..ab mai Muslim hiv positive ladki kaha se dhundu..bahut zyada helpless n pareshan rehta hu

    • @user-iy5sy3cs5c
      @user-iy5sy3cs5c 2 месяца назад

      @@tillu2809 may allah heal u in a perfect manner and help you to leave a Normal life and may u get a good wife. Read surah furqan ayat 74 for good wife and children. And u get out from homosexualty recite the dua of prophet lut surah 26 ayat 169

    • @Gulab-y8u
      @Gulab-y8u 2 месяца назад

      @@tillu2809 hello i want to talk to you

    • @vijay91070
      @vijay91070 Месяц назад

      @@tillu2809 brother don't worry. Sab thik ho jayega. Apni helth pe dhyan do. Jo ho gaya so ho gaya. One day you will get somebudy. We all are with you. May God bless you. Be happy.

  • @Bengalkimua
    @Bengalkimua 3 месяца назад +5

    This has nothing to do with homosexuality so it if comes in ur mind , and What kind of a brother is aroused by his own brother like what the hell such a piece of menace , It is Heartbreaking to know such, Peace, me being sorry for him wont recover his trauma , so more power to you❤️

    • @Kisssey
      @Kisssey  3 месяца назад

      @@Bengalkimua read about victim grooming

    • @nikkuchoudhary9960
      @nikkuchoudhary9960 3 месяца назад +5

      Victim grooming has nothing to do with homosexuality.

  • @rudrakshapatel1221
    @rudrakshapatel1221 11 дней назад

    A younger brother is like a son to his Elder brother but...कामवासना destroying all the relationship

  • @ShreekumarNair-v7w
    @ShreekumarNair-v7w 3 месяца назад +2

    Hii,this same thing has happened with me.But many times with many men when I was 8 years,many things to say but can't say.Am a transwoman. ❤❤❤❤

  • @Jontiyal
    @Jontiyal Месяц назад +2

    😢same thing मेरे sath hua when i was 8th class but difference between this person and me
    That मैने kisi ko नही bataya 😢 aaj tk.
    But in my story many person,
    जिन्होने mere sath bahut गलत kiya
    And now i'm 18 with my troma and depressed 😢

  • @faryalsidiqui1367
    @faryalsidiqui1367 2 месяца назад +1

    Its sad i grew sick after listening it ur a brave young boy a survivor , im a female but i am sad on all that

  • @bhaveshkhanna4760
    @bhaveshkhanna4760 Месяц назад

    I am now 46 years old and I experienced this kind of trauma at the age of around 12 he was my neighbor since 4 years back he passed away and lot of children go through this kind of trauma but then parents can't keep watching 24 hours who is abusing whom.

  • @Exd_tariq
    @Exd_tariq 21 день назад

    These kindof cases are quite rare in some places but these are and I call stories like these (Dry lips ) because when it happens to you your body gets numbed and you don't find a way to get away but at last you have to be brave enough and move ahead

  • @_UtSaVGhOsH_
    @_UtSaVGhOsH_ 3 месяца назад +14

    54:02 Tharkipana in any form is wrong.

  • @DrSongs-rg4ry
    @DrSongs-rg4ry 2 месяца назад +2

    Its his cousin brother
    .....this is mostly due to all bluethings, like men n woman just they need someone that luat some people have even jot lraving their own ones, but his mother is challanging character to play in role

  • @manhwa__07
    @manhwa__07 Месяц назад

    Bhut logo ke saath hua h but sbhi log nhi bol pate yese, hats off bro❤

  • @AbanStudies-bv8xt
    @AbanStudies-bv8xt 2 месяца назад +1

    We must stop This as soon as possible !! Teach ur children about good touch and bad touch no matter how young they are !! They are vulnerable and u never wanna hear ur son saying that mom/dad I got raped at 4 (Me) !!

  • @madhvibhaarwe4461
    @madhvibhaarwe4461 2 месяца назад +3

    Mujhe lgta hai ki society mei logo ka mind set bhi thik krne ki jrurt hai ki ldke ho ya koi aadmi ho ya koi baccha ho agar uske sath Aisa hua hai to isme hsne ki baat nhi hai, bahut sare aadmi or ldke hste hai is bat pr ki kisi ldke ne ldke ke sath aisa kr diya koi bhi victim ki mental condition nhi smjh pata .

    • @Kisssey
      @Kisssey  2 месяца назад +1

      wahi koshish he ❤

    • @kpopfanfrom2017
      @kpopfanfrom2017 Месяц назад +1

      Exactly, logo oo apne soch ko badalne ki jaroorat hain, society needs to change their mentality towards these things

  • @siturajbongshi2038
    @siturajbongshi2038 2 месяца назад +3

    I havent told to anyone but when i was 7-8 i usedto go to tution after tution my teacher used to touch me weirdly he used to kiss me and puts me on his lap and he gets hard im 19 now i havent told anyone and one of my friend did tution during his class 10 he said that he was trying to assult him

  • @groot_here
    @groot_here 3 месяца назад +5

    More power to you ❤️

  • @harishnaik9079
    @harishnaik9079 3 месяца назад +12

    Apne bhai karke kyon likha title per ,wo uska saga Bhai nahin tha ,mama ka ladka tha ,(cousin brother) isse galat information jata hai.......

  • @thewayiam30vamshi90
    @thewayiam30vamshi90 3 месяца назад +5

    It happened to me when I was in my school 5 th class when my friend during playground said lets play something different and we went through a lonely place and he said i will ask you a question will you satisfy ny desire you should answer yes then he and his friend slept on me and I had full bite marks all over chest. I thought it was rude but then thought it was play I said same thing to my parents too when they asked me what are those bites. I almost forgot about it but I think it didn't impact me much

    • @daviddas5107
      @daviddas5107 2 месяца назад

      So wait you let them bite you? And where did this happen?

  • @abhishekchakrabarty2930
    @abhishekchakrabarty2930 2 месяца назад +5

    Same thing happened with me in the bus....during rush...42:01 but when I said that incident everyone took it as a joke and made fun of me 🙃

  • @vattamma20
    @vattamma20 3 месяца назад +7

    This is an eye opening podcast. We tell our kids to be careful with strangers but we need to talk about our own as well.
    Thank you both for talking about this abuse.
    More power to Lokesh❤ Thank You both.

  • @kitty3k5
    @kitty3k5 2 месяца назад +1

    I don't have words,what I say..😮😢

  • @Kimtae932
    @Kimtae932 2 месяца назад +2

    This is the same thing happened with me 😢 but I can't tell my parents😢

  • @yankithakuri7969
    @yankithakuri7969 2 месяца назад

    You really need courage to speak out.. As you had done so I pray all peace in you.. .God bless you

  • @debashishdas2068
    @debashishdas2068 2 месяца назад +2

    Great podcast. All power to Lokesh, I'm sure you will come out from your trauma one day soon. You are almost there. However, I couldn't agree on some points with the interviewer. I'm sorry I missed your name.
    It's not only homosexual ppl who might have to live alone. There are endless toxic straight marriages, they carry their relationships like dead bodies just to hold on the tag 'married'. Look at the divorce rate in India.
    There is no scientific evidence that male sexual abuse on another male could turn him gay. Please don't speak out anything whichever you think is right.
    If this Govt. or any Government legalizes marriage equality, still there will be law for non consensus sex between men/queer ppl. 377 is still there for this issue.
    Love is love is a populous idea for today's market. Of course all Loves are different from each other. If a woman is kind to a gay man that is not love. That could be a friendship, kindness from that woman - that can't be called love. Love is a soul connection, that can happen without sex. A queer person feels that connection to another queer through a verious way. They just can't flip as straight cuz someone is nice to them.
    Please fix your internal homophobia.

    • @Kisssey
      @Kisssey  2 месяца назад +1

      @@debashishdas2068 hey I never said abuse will turn you gay, he was groomed in a way that he had to choose or subconsciously become while you say I have a victim too but it's like 2 sides of same coin having discussion so we know and try to help eachother no offense or homophobia half of the homophobia or homopro mentality comes from identification issue of yourself and the soul rest of all comes with adaptation. That's what I said

  • @iftikharhussain5661
    @iftikharhussain5661 3 месяца назад +1

    So strong boy
    Hats off

  • @anonymous66606
    @anonymous66606 3 месяца назад +3

    More power to you ❤

  • @vikashsinghparihar8470
    @vikashsinghparihar8470 3 месяца назад +2

    The way he gernalise trans people and started talking about them, other than the incident he talked about. Make me feel that he's not a proper psychologist.

    • @varenyapandey6536
      @varenyapandey6536 3 месяца назад +3

      @@vikashsinghparihar8470 the host is immature and uneducated about most of the things said in this podcast

  • @Preetlawyer
    @Preetlawyer 3 месяца назад +4

    If you are gay then law is there as per new law

  • @totallyinsane2148
    @totallyinsane2148 3 месяца назад +1

    Kissey is very friendly stage to tell a story

  • @totallyinsane2148
    @totallyinsane2148 3 месяца назад +1

    Praise for your courage bro

  • @harshitsrivastava1327
    @harshitsrivastava1327 2 месяца назад +1

    Happened to me in metro... Plus people these days fantasize so much about incest role play

  • @SahilDhimaan-yl4qr
    @SahilDhimaan-yl4qr 2 месяца назад +4

    Happened with me as welll..i was i think 5 yr old when i was bathing in bathroom with my elder cousin...fckin interesting parents ne bhi allow kr diya ke bache hai...but he made me do that...i resist but i did...n jab jab me uske ghar jata he forcibly or somehow convince ke do this yaar...but jab me 8th class me hua...ab mujhe galt lagne laga ye sab...pehle bhi lagta tha, but i kept doing that bcoz i thoight we r in love n i will become a girl this way...yr me bewakoof bacha tha...but 8th k baad i stopped going there home forever...it was painful painful time even today it is painful n i shame myself that how i did that😭😭😭😭 i am not gay at alll...

    • @LaCitoyen
      @LaCitoyen 2 месяца назад

      It's okay. It was never your fault. Learn to love yourself and heal from this trauma and ask God for love too for yourself and that disgusting ass cousin is going to hell for sure.

    • @kpopfanfrom2017
      @kpopfanfrom2017 Месяц назад

      Calm down boy, it's totally not your fault, you're a child back then, and it's very easy to misunderstand these all things as love, in fact in my eyes you're not at fault at any cost. I don't know sorry but you know in childhood parents allow these things as its very common, so you can't blame parents too, good for you that you stop going there but I can understand that you've traumas. You may not be able to forget it for your lifetime but I'll really suggest you to come out from your traumatic past. And never ever blame yourself for anything, you haven't done anything. Always believe in yourself and love yourself more than anyone in this world. I know you're a brave boy, you'll get out of your trauma one day, till then keep fighting

  • @sharanswami
    @sharanswami 2 месяца назад

    Nice podcast guys well done

  • @poojapant6954
    @poojapant6954 3 месяца назад +1

    When you don't know how to say be blunt and say what you want . Simple

  • @AadarshaniSharma
    @AadarshaniSharma 3 месяца назад +9

    Please Podcast Hindi Main Kare... Hindi Main log zyda dekh paege or relate kar paege.... Zruri nh h english main hi bat karo tbhi podcast log dekhnge

    • @Kisssey
      @Kisssey  3 месяца назад +3

      @@AadarshaniSharma agreed isiliye hindi english marathi subtitle available he please on kar lijiye

    • @KaranMalviya-cw5cc
      @KaranMalviya-cw5cc 2 месяца назад

      @@Kisssey subtitles mai movie nahi dekhte podcast kya ghanta sunenge

    • @Kisssey
      @Kisssey  2 месяца назад +1

      @@KaranMalviya-cw5cc then apka problem he wo hamra nai he sabh spoon feeding nai karenge

    • @KaranMalviya-cw5cc
      @KaranMalviya-cw5cc 2 месяца назад

      @@Kisssey ha to nahi dekh rahe apka video ..na hi koi ahsaan kar rahe ho aur na hi mera interest hai in topic pe ... Vo to recommend mai aya isliye click kar ke dekh liya ek baar

    • @believethetruth130
      @believethetruth130 2 месяца назад +2

      @@AadarshaniSharma Ofcourse not. We understand English. We don't know Hindi. We are from India too.

  • @sam20002003
    @sam20002003 2 месяца назад +1

    At 32:26, I agree many men pretend to be Kinners but not all of them are gays. Straight men also do this to get extra bucks. Your words only gay men pretend to be kinner and sell themselves to demean Kinners That is totally wrong.

  • @jayeshdani8964
    @jayeshdani8964 3 месяца назад

    Ram ram both handsome yes stand up for the right to speak up. Very helpful yes I love the part listen to your heart is everything?🙏🙏🙏❤️❤️❤️❤️

  • @yuviraj6465
    @yuviraj6465 3 месяца назад +3

    34:57 that is abuse and rape

  • @kafir9250
    @kafir9250 2 месяца назад

    People should watch Baby reindeer

  • @shivanshrattan
    @shivanshrattan 3 месяца назад +2

    14:55-16:10

  • @sudhataneja8711
    @sudhataneja8711 2 месяца назад

    Bt,mother use stare her child,s body all the time.How ,his mother couldnt notice blood ,coming out her kids body.Actually , I m shocked ,how that injury of this kid,could not be noticed.😢

  • @SagarikaSahoo-s6l
    @SagarikaSahoo-s6l 6 дней назад

    No means NO, 😢 plzzz

  • @supratikpaul9772
    @supratikpaul9772 3 месяца назад

    This is way too common than people talk about

  • @Opensky3929
    @Opensky3929 3 месяца назад

    Ye sab koi aaj se start nahi huya jab se inshan is duniya me aaye tab se

  • @alliswellindia8219
    @alliswellindia8219 3 месяца назад +8

    Mard ko accident hotha hai fir bhi wo mard hee rehtha hai gay nahi banjatha. Gay janamse hee hotha hai..kisee ke karan nahi banjatha...

    • @yuviraj6465
      @yuviraj6465 3 месяца назад +2

      Exactly people won't get this

  • @ajaysombansi8923
    @ajaysombansi8923 3 месяца назад

    DEAR ,,AAJ KI DUNIYAA BAHUT NEECH HAI ,,,LOGON KA MAZAAK UDAATI HAI ,,,HENCE ITS BETTER TO LEAVE THINGS TO GOD AND DONT REVEAL WHAT YOU HAVE GONE THROUGH ,,OTHERWISE PEOPLE MAKE YOU A LAUGHING STOCK

    • @deepakyadav-yu6od
      @deepakyadav-yu6od 3 месяца назад

      @@ajaysombansi8923 it happens 20 year before now people reveals now what has happen to him before 20 year

  • @yuviraj6465
    @yuviraj6465 3 месяца назад +2

    Girls getting forced and abused..I've seen a lot of cases regarding this..and guys getting abused is different from girls getting abused because guys will be curious to know the stuff even when ur kids..and you should've told your parents when ur hit with abuse in the 1st time itself..ok let's say he manipulated you not to tell and all but atleast you should try to avoid him if you don't like what he is doing with you...
    Basically when a kid is scared of sth parents will get to know..even if u don't like some people they will get to know by your behaviour..
    In those 5years of abuse your abuser didn't even faced your parents..i mean like he didn't come to your house or didn't even talked to your parents infront of you..
    5 years or 6 years kid going out with someone on bike without knowing parents knowing?? How is this possible.. repeatedly??
    It feels like your parents are at fault dude.. who leaves a kid with another person for so long and not able to guess your behaviour when ue abuser is around?
    Atleast around 10 years of age you came out and told your parents good for you..
    And now talking about it playing a victim card it feels like idk....
    So brother whatever you went through is horrible at that age
    But fault is your parents and you too...i know all my discussion will be biased but truth and reality will be different because i know..
    I enjoyed and was curious initially to know what is all this when i was abused around 8 years by my cousins.. I can't call it abuse because we both are involved and when ever he comes home i used to run to him and play with him cuz i liked him and like the stuff what we are doing at that point of time and my parents also didn't get to know cuz we were happily playing..now I'm 24 and around 14 years i told him ok we should stop this. And after that he left and we never talked after that and I'm 24 now and he's 32 and married and i danced at his wedding.boozed with his friends..and never discussed about the past..so now what I'm trying to say is when ur 6 years old and when ur abuser is coming to your house u will run away from him after experiencing the 1st incident itself..and your behaviour changes when u feel like ur abuser is coming near like children tend to run away to their room or go behind mother or father and not going out with him when he calls..
    This is the reality man..

    • @daviddas5107
      @daviddas5107 2 месяца назад +1

      A six year old kid won't easily realise he's being abused, there's nothing wrong with leaving a six year old with a close relative,happens all the time, you're confused and victim blaming

  • @hashimkardaar3965
    @hashimkardaar3965 3 месяца назад

    Caption should be corrected.. cousin brother... but still.. it's barbaric.... and it's everywhere..... alot of people suffered and some still are suffering.....😢😢😢

  • @Songshumare
    @Songshumare 2 месяца назад

    who was the cameraman n editor.. u shud focus ur camera on the person who is talking not the other one around...

    • @Kisssey
      @Kisssey  2 месяца назад

      It's me alone in the studio and the problem is both camera are old and have limit of 30 mins and editor is me only

    • @Songshumare
      @Songshumare 2 месяца назад

      @@Kisssey oh ok take frnds help dude bt appreciate the good wrk u dng keep it up

  • @Tig_Old_Bitties
    @Tig_Old_Bitties 2 месяца назад +12

    Being gay has nothing to do with mole$tation. People who are saying "isko bhi accha lagta hain yeh sab" Matlab kya? Ladkiyokon apni pati saath yeh accha lagta hain, iska matlab kya yeh huwa ki ek ladki kisi ke bhi ath yeh sab kar legi????

  • @sanjit1.-_ravani
    @sanjit1.-_ravani 3 месяца назад

    I am one of them also😢

  • @saketmishra7272
    @saketmishra7272 3 месяца назад

    May be a better empathy would be to listen and not be expert. You are sitting with someone who was raped by a man and you are saying that if that’s the sort of people your partner is watching then red flag. Not only are you shaming someone but also passing a judgement that those who went through that trauma without consent should be disowned by “normal” people. Seriously this is exactly why people don’t share why they were raped… ironic isn’t it

    • @Kisssey
      @Kisssey  3 месяца назад +1

      For a fact I didn't wanted to say but what he has gone through has happened with me too 🙂. So speak using brains

  • @skyeverse-bm4wf
    @skyeverse-bm4wf 3 месяца назад +2

    i want to share my story, can you help me please.

    • @Kisssey
      @Kisssey  3 месяца назад +2

      @@skyeverse-bm4wf dm us on ig or mail

    • @Kisssey
      @Kisssey  3 месяца назад

      @@traveller-paban987 no one is inviting you it's free speach

    • @Kisssey
      @Kisssey  3 месяца назад

      @@traveller-paban987 ha bhai sure baki videos dekh mat aur bad bad karne chalu kar thikey, hope you or your family member never face this just hopping that you are triggered because you are a culprit just hopping.

  • @PiyushDharmale
    @PiyushDharmale 2 месяца назад +1

    Meri story bhi lay lo I want to tell everyone by you Please

    • @Kisssey
      @Kisssey  2 месяца назад

      @@PiyushDharmale please dm us or mail us we'd love to host

  • @nikiiiiiii3030
    @nikiiiiiii3030 2 месяца назад

    But kuch log ashy bi h jo khud to is chiz ka sikar hoty h or duro k sath bi whi krty h jo unky sath hua ho

  • @LUCKY-wl5sp
    @LUCKY-wl5sp 2 месяца назад +2

    Aby jb story hi nhi btni thi toh video kyu bani gossip hi nhi di kuch bkl

  • @rakhshaparmar-cg4cg
    @rakhshaparmar-cg4cg 3 месяца назад +1

    Bhai ye sabb astral domain me atta he..... Every fucked up thing like this gentleman is telling it's too much astral then physical and to know the astral we have to go back to our shastras.... Ye kalyug he matlab you have to know the astral and causal domain on your own ...do research......do not base on external perspective awek your intellectual body .... I don't knowhow to tell you but in a one word.. Do a RESEARCH

  • @shivamtiwari4775
    @shivamtiwari4775 2 месяца назад

    bro change your editor

  • @Dentalins123
    @Dentalins123 2 месяца назад

    That's a crime..

  • @ehsanulhaque3293
    @ehsanulhaque3293 2 месяца назад

    Same

  • @User254ghi
    @User254ghi 3 месяца назад