I’m a veteran of the Vietnam Nam War . When I arrived home at the airport no body gave a dam about what I’ve through. I was nineteen years old when I got drafted . It was my first time really sent away from home. It was one hell of experience. My friends at home had nothing to do with me when I came home. My only friends are veterans to this day because we all have something in common to matter what branch the are from. Thanks for your vlog and have a Merry Christmas stay save my friend.
This is the most well balanced channel for young people I have found. You’re not over the top with your takes, you’re not driving a flashy car and you’re not selling any e-courses. It’s nice.
My father was an angry abusive drunk. So was his dad, and his dad’s dad, and so on. I don’t hate my father for. I feel sorry that he went through that and didn’t know better. I am breaking the cycle with my own children.
Im really happy you broke the cycle. I have been addicted to pretty much anything: Alcohol, opiates, pills, weed, etc. And it destroyed my life , continue on ths right track Sir!
@@imissvainglory6216 everyone is entitled to their own opinions. I find that people who are more ego driven and who believe in free will are much less forgiving than people who are the opposite of that. Both views are valid. Your way of seeing the world is one of many. Have some tact and respect.
My daddy was real quiet. Passed away in 2017. He’d married a psychopath. He stayed & stayed. Only now with internet, I figure it all out. I feel so bad for him, because he basically just lived in his bedroom because she’d humiliate him in all kinds of ways. It breaks my heart. I loved him the most, he showed me peace, and the beauty of nature, and provided it all. He got took, and stayed. He didn’t have a clue the reality of the abuses he was in. It’s hurts.
My Uncle's first wife fits that description to a "T" only he divorced her (after she tried to stab him, no less) and eventually married my mom's sister. He was also a WWII vet in the European Theatre. Battle of the Bulge Vet. Rarely talked about it, too. I'm now retired from the Air Force and after 25 years of service, all I can say is: military guys, for some reason, pick lousy wives.
@@soonerdave01 Ues my dad was Korean War. He was 81 when he passed on. He always had his papers all organized, bills and everything. Anyway, I feel so quirky these days, because it hurts. He was so quiet. I never asked him much, but he said he was a medic. But it’s not true, my mom found awards for sniper and threw it all away. Anyway, it just wasn’t known back then, these abuses are wrong. We were all dysfunctional and had no clue. It feels horrid, because I know exactly how she had him feeling. He didn’t deserve it, no, not at all. She alienated us, right in our very own home, from him, from his side of the family. I’m sad, I’m hurt.
Fifteen years ago I was sitting at my desk and my 18 year old son came in and sat down. I asked him what he wanted and he told me that he wanted to go into the Airforce and become a medic who jumps out of a hovering helicopter on the battlefield to treat and rescue the wounded. For a moment I couldn't breathe. I felt horror come over me. I remembered my time as a crew chief and door gunner in Vietnam when I was 18 years old. In an instant I recalled raising him from an infant and again, terror filled me. I was speechless and I saw him sitting there looking back at me waiting for a response. As odd as it seemed to me at the time, the only thing that came out of my mouth was, "Do you want to end up like me?" He said no. He went to college instead. Dewayne, I don't know how you ever picked up on this topic or how you know so much about it. You did good here. Thanks.
sounded by they way he worded it the he is a nam vet, idk but he said they & then we the 2nd time I believe including himself. if so he didn't pick up on the topic, it is his topic. good call with your son, but just don't let what happened in nam be in vain & make sure you son wasn't indoctrinated into communism at college, 15 years ago isn't as bad as today but the seeds were planted that long ago that became the disgrace that is "higher learning" today. $100+k communism participation medals as diploma.
8:25 he changed they to we and then spoke as if he was there to know the reality of the war games being played. sounds like he was there but is just being really subtle about it.
Joining the marine corps changed my life and made me a good man with many friends. Just because you had a bad experience doesn't mean you have the right to shoot others dreams down. I wanted to be a marine since I was 13, and when I turned 18 I made that happen. Never regretted that decision... Even after 3 combat tours in Afghanistan. We all saw evil, but sometimes evil needs to be dealt with...
My uncle (my mother's brother) served as a ships surgeon on an aircraft carrier in the Pacific in WW2. He made it home, raised four boys and ran a successful medical practice. Don't know how he did it, because getting him to talk about his war experiences was very, very hard. He was trying his best to forget and carry on. That taught me something about respecting others.
@Squirt pussy Assfart hey, quit pointing out that the heads of the CDC, FDA, Wallstreet, and the Banking sector are mainly Jewish people, it means nothing
My father was a WWII vet. Purple heart recipient. Never talked about the war, only yes and no answers to direct questions. He kept it all inside. I could never understand why. Having read many war accounts and experiences of others it is obvious to me now that his silence was his way of keeping it all together. An account by another vet was that you never knew what might trigger a flashback to the war. Just the smell of diesel exhaust from a city bus might send you back "into the battle". You had to keep a strong hand on yourself to not let it take over. The strength of these men is humbling and inspiring. I salute them all for their military service and their strength to come back and raise the next generation.
My buddy got shot in the back in 1967 half paralyzed him in both legs, a year later a drunk driver ran him over in his wheel chair took his right arm off. He later raised 2 great kids, had many companies, he was my friend. He was one of the strongest person I knew. Much respect too everyone.
Dwayne , my dad wasn't from a lost generation , he was a member of the Greatest Generation. I've wrote to you before about him , he was a real "Cowboy" born in 1918 , lived in Indiana on a farm/ranch and he went through WW2 as a platoon leader (2nd LT) in the Philippines fighting the Japanese. When he came home he got his journeymans license as a machinist , raised a family of 2 sons and 1 daughter. He smoked and drank a little bit but what veteran didn't in that era. He never showed signs of PTSD although he probably had it to some extent being a combat vet. He passed away in 1971 and there's not a day that goes by that I don't think of him and I'm 61 now. He was a great man from the "Greatest Generation".
Beautiful story. Thank you for that. I have several videos about our veterans, all my great uncles served. I used to treat veteranss with PTSD. I grew up around folks born between 1880-1920. I feel lost today. Miss those folks terribly.
or the reality just never hit him believing in valor. I've heard Japan surrendered 3 days before the atom bombs were dropped, just like I've heard Japan declared war well before pearl harbor & the US detected the attack on radar but let it happen as a reason for public support to enter the war. regardless, saving lives by not deploying in Japan as an excuse to drop atomic bombs is ridiculous, the island could have been surrounded until they surrendered, dropping the bombs was an ungodly experiment by the side your dad desperately wanted to believe was the " good guys"
I often think about all the trauma people experienced through the ages that was never recorded. Up until the last 25 years or so you would've basically had to write a book if you wanted to get your story out. Imagine all the stuff people suffered alone with. Not even having the language or concepts to articulate it. Bad things happened, and that was that. Imagine all the trauma that's been passed down through hundreds of generations. It makes sense why things are the way they are today. But individuals have more power now than ever before to share kindness and compassion. It'll probably still take a while, but I hope I live to see that overcome the pain people are consumed by.
It was recognized as existing, but nobody ever knew what to do about it until recently. It went completely untreated. I’m just grateful you were not condescending or slightly arrogant in your post. Ignorance may be bliss but arrogance is a boil on the butt of humanity.
@@DryCreekWranglerSchool it was coined as shell shock but was probably understood before ww1, because although war brings out the extremes of inhumanity the reality is it's just the breaking point of a person. it's not specific or exclusive to witnessing war, everyone has a threshold limit & the extremes of war can easily exceed it. try being a Christian & knowing the reality of a constant spiritual war that everyone seems oblivious to but is participating in...
It's a nice sentiment but was addressed in biblical scripture thousands of years ago. all manner of circumstances have happened to someone at some time, so it's never an excuse. you wanna know something F'd up that was recorded, the bronze bull or brazen bull... or how about the roman colosseum. We're told not to worry about tomorrow because today has enough worries of it's own, isn't it foolish to go looking for worries of yesterday..? don't become obsessed with suffering & making it a competition looking for the high scores, it's irrelevant when you already know bad is bad no matter its degree.
I can't be responsible for a bunch of bloodthirsty freaks. If everything depended on me, I assure you that I would choose to live peacefully and create, rather than engage in murder and destruction.
@@tanelpolts7257FFS that's a damn ignorant comment. WTF do you know about what the average Russian thinks or has to live through. And if you can't see the irony of an American in the 2020s calling any country a warmongering nation you are a damn fool. US actively involved in trying to change around 70 regimes since 45. Regan promising NATO wouldn't expand one inch east in the 80s. Like the man says, show a single bit of grace to your fellow man.
Thank you for this video. Generational trauma is not talked about enough. It effects so many people, especially the "Boomer" and other older generations. When there was zero mental health understanding.
I really appreciate his point how easy it is to group think and label people by generation, color etc. I try to remember always to take the correct mindset people all people are indiduals. I wonder what the odds of a threat of nuclear exchange with former USSR. Transfer over into a trauma that is so intensity present it's hard to quantify what the effects of total Annihilation would do to a whole entire generation and they survived that test and thrived really ,and probably offended many by off the top drivel. I really appreciate all the men and women my fellow citizens who are the best in the world America is a true success no one can deny earlier and current generations are to be respected for there accomplishment . Dwayne is the Pinnacle of cool headed rational careful thought anyone would admire.
Good words of wisdom. We can all and SHOULD put forth the effort to build each other up instead of all this tearing apart that’s happening today!! God bless everybody and god bless America!! 💪💯🇺🇸
Well said Bryan. wish people had the same mentality think of how awesome things would be. Laughs having good ol times and not taking things so serious glad to see there is still good folks out here still god bless have a merry Christmas!
@@Longneckmexican hare Krishna Brother yeah be with God Be strong wisdom is lost from today's society. I'm a hindu from India Same happening in my country also Very sad to see new generation becoming 🐖like animals.
My great-grandfather was in WW1 and was discharged for what back then they called shell shock. One day he walked into the woods and was never seen again - still has not been found. His son, my grandfather, had bullet wounds in his back from WW2. He would never talk about it, and would sit alone in the dark and drink. He shot himself when my father was 19. The effect of all this on my father was obvious to me as a child. This trauma is generational. Great video on a topic that is too rarely discussed.
War has consequences on so many levels. Thank you for sharing your generational wounds. Hope you'll be able to pave the way for a scar-free generation.
Thank you for sharing your story! Based on the history that more and more people are studying, it becomes clear that what your great grandfather, grandfather and father witnessed was more than just battlefield combat and physical scars… God bless you and thank you again for sharing your story!
There are so many facets of this story to be told. I had the pleasure of befriending an old timer a few years back who passed away recently with dementia. He was a big tall strong fella and I can only imagine the strong character and force of nature he was as a young man fighting in Korea. He came home to his wife and children and went on to try to raise them, finding out much later in life that at least one of the children was not his own. He struggled to provide for his family and "do what was Right" to stay and his wife continued to be unfaithful. He stayed until all of the children were raised then divorced and went on to live alone for the last half of his life. I would stop by and have coffee now and then, as this big kindhearted fellow lived close by. I remember how he trembled at times telling me these stories of his life with deep sadness and anger still in his heart well into his 80's. Please spend more time on this subject Dwayne. So many need to hear it. Thanks for all you do on here.
that's messed up but before I got to the part about a kid not being his, I already had in mind all the fatherless kids left in these wars by troops getting the local women pregnant consenting or not. ppl are terrible monsters & shouldn't be glorified for finding a conscience & morals, that's the standard & expectation remember...
100% hit the nail on the head. Europe never really recovered from the loss of human potential from ww1. I say ww1 specifically because all the decent good men where the first ones to sign up for it because they didn't know better.
49 year old Vet here. I have been saying this for 20 years and it still leaves me broken hearted every time I walk into the VA and see the continuing casualties. The generational void is vacuous and we continue the madness. Thank you Dwayne. This is a real service. I have my own experiences to reconcile and I still live with Viet Nam when my father cries and screams in his sleep, reliving the horror of what he saw and did EVERY FREAKING NIGHT. I cannot describe the feelings this engenders in me. Pray God we find peace and reconciliation.
As of Vietnam vet Dwayne thank you thank you for saying the truth my father was a world war II vet he wasn't quite right me as a Vietnam vet I wasn't quite right I'm 75 now and I believe I'm beginning to get a little right I appreciate your thoughts and what you're doing and what you're saying the truth will always set you free and Merry Christmas to you and yours 🐝
Empathy….. imagine yourself in the other man’s boots, then imagine walking through the trenches in those boots. This is what this world is lacking. Everyone is spending so much time trying to make their voice heard, they spend no time trying to listen to what the other persons is saying and really trying to understand it and feel what they are feeling. Love your videos! Please keep speaking your truth so we all my learn by it.
When I was about 7 or 8 I remember being at a family Thanksgiving party and my uncle woke up back in Vietnam. The most blood curdling screaming you ever heard. That was maybe 18 or 19 years ago. A long time after he was there. Gave me a huge respect for the folks that fight for us. After he calmed down he went outside with my dad and his cousins and was telling stories I wasn't supposed to hear. The man saw and did awful shit. All in the name of country. I couldn't imagine the pain he lives with.
Man! Spot on! Thanks for the understanding. Being a real man isn't popular, but thank God for having heroes to look up to and be our role model I m almost 65 years old and have seen a lot of life. Keep up the good work. You're making a difference. God bless you and yours!
Very thoughtful video sir. When calling older individuals "boomers", it never crossed my mind that these people have had much harder childhoods than me.
I am on Hospice, I am expiring too. I am dying because of a US Navy fund command site with exposed chemicals. Three feet behind me is the bad that I will be laying on when I meet my Heavenly 'Father'. I have two boys that will not have a father. That's what scares me. This video is truly anointed. This video is what I needed. Thank you.
My father served on the Enterprise. I am thankful to you, because this country will have ups and downs but will also have our heroes that left the mark of excellence toe that line we also can be worthy of our past generations sacrifices. God bless you.
God be with you and guide you through your transition. I am truly grateful to you for your service but saddened to the core for what our government has done to so many such as yourself. When your time comes, fly proudly with the Angels and protect your family from above. We will continue the battle from here . God Bless 🙏❤
My father is a Marine that fought in Vietnam and was badly wounded. He came home, made a family and raised 6 kids pretty much on his own. It was a crazy life we came up in, but he did the best he could. The respect I have for him is and will always be beyond explainable. He's 76 now and I'm 43 with a family of my own and I owe a lot of who I came to be to him. Strongest man I know.
You’re spot on Dwayne, I grew with the WW2, Korean and Vietnam veterans. They were my uncles, supervisors and best of all my friends. I inherited my work ethic, compassion and love of family from those men.
Your channel just randomly popped up in my feed. I’m so glad it did. I love the way you say things and the points you make. You’re a good, genuine person unafraid to boldly and kindly speak Godly truth. It’s so refreshing to see. Thank you
“Some people meet some mentor along the way, they find what they need and get through it” You sir are that mentor to a lot of people, keep posting your advice us young folks need it! Love from UK
"Some people meet some mentor along the way, they find what they need and get through it” But for others, they themselves have to become the mentor they needed earlier in life, to find that's what they need to get through it.
I've honestly never thought about why older generations are how they are. It's not just the people who've been to war, but those raised by people who were sent to war. I really needed to hear this, thank you.
Sincere respect to you, Dwayne, on giving your thoughts on this topic. I am one of those you gave examples of. I served in the USMC in Vietnam and Desert Storm, now !00% disabled service connected paralyzed combat veteran. My Father and his two brothers served during WWII, Father at battle of the bulge, uncle at Iwo Jima, uncle in Italy campaigns. Great Grand uncle in Spanish American War, Great-Great GrandFather with Army of the Potomac, battles of Fredericksburg and Chancellorsville. Generations of our family serving as warriors go back even further according to my genealogy research. We have always looked at serving our country as our duty. It’s just what honorable men do. Yes, i experienced returning home from Vietnam to a country I didn’t know. It was tough, but most i, like most Vietnam vets, went to ground and simply got on with our lives the best we knew how. I have no regrets. I do it all again, 10,000 times. Those who criticize, assign labels to us, are just misguided and uninformed. I pray for them i do not have the power to change history of to change things they way they are today. I simply trust in God and pray. I’m 76 years old now, as my uncle used to say, “rounding third on my way to home.” Thank you, Dwayne, for your wisdom and willingness to share it.
Sir, it seems so inadequate for me to say thank you and your family for your service. But from the bottom of my heart, I think you. I have tremendous amount of respect and honor for you and those like you who did what was asked of you, and came back home and carried on. My hats off to you sir.
Thank you, for your service. My Dad list his older brother in Vietnam, and it messed him up. He lost his Dad when he was nine, and his brother was his protector. My Dad gave me his brothers Purple Heart when I was young, and I still cherish it. All you guys deserve nothing but respect. Thank you
God Bless You, my Brother. I am a veteran of two tours in Vietnam. I thank you for your service to our beloved country and to our fellow vets, for whom we both devoted our lives in battle. I can only wish you the very best and healing for your wounds. Rest comfortably in the arms of our great physician, Jesus.
Thank you for your service. And I thank all our military personnel who are active and our vets. People like you are what make America great and it will continue being great. Thank you for allowing us to continue having freedom of liberty. You have my respects
@@DryCreekWranglerSchool with all the respect, but isn't that one of the issues: "to do what one is asked to do" without properly thinking about it? See for example the covid situation, or any war or job related situation etc., when people feel deep within that it is not right, but they do it anyway, because they were asked to do so. Or they are brain washed and believe that this needs to be done. I don't want to attack anyone here and I'm sorry if that sounds harsh, but I'm asking myself this question.
My dad came home from WW2 and I was 3. He was a stranger. And we never bonded. It wasn't until much later I found out that there is an entire generation who had a stranger for a dad. I enjoy listening to your thoughtful and compassionate talks, you're a thinker and you make me think more. Thank you.
My grandfather was in the navy during Vietnam and was a gunner during the Cuban missile crisis. His father used to beat the hell out of him and in turn when it was my grandfather's turn he used to smack around my dad and uncles. It was less than what he got as a kid but he still did then when my parents had me my dad swore he would never lay a hand on his children in anger and he never hit me or my brother. Now my old man wasn't perfect by any measure but my family is slowly breaking the cycle of raising damaged children.
As a female I greatly enjoyed listening to this as you can take much of what you say as a poignant analogy that actually fits many females in my life. Great philosophical speech as usual my friend, you’re a living legend to me.
I appreciate the video, Dewayne. One important thing is that although everyone has a cross to bear - for example, being raised by broken people and ending up broken because of that -, it doesn't excuse, past a certain point and age, replicating bad behaviors. And these are precisely your thoughts, just in my own words, about the 'not excusing' people. Having empathy can help you understand why a man might spout hateful and racist words, for example. And empathy will help you understand why that man's son is likely to do the same someday. But a man isn't really fully grown until he sits down, reflects, studies, and realizes that he was raised wrong and needs to fix it. We all have some fixing up to do inside ourselves, I think.
Crien bien a sus hijos porque si ven que haces maldad ellos asi aprenderan, si ven que robas robaran si ven que eres negativo,maligno seran negativos pesimista, y cito unas escrituras, por sus frutos los conocereis,, crien a buenos hombres y mujeres, yo no fui criado lo mejor que se pudo, pero estoy aqui para cambiarlo todo, siento que jesucristo ya esta en mi vida ❤
Thank you. I've often reflected on this subject and realize the brokenness each of us face. May God give us the grace and compassion to treat each other better!
I've always been one to judge and have absolutely been the one to say "ok boomer" and just write stuff off because of someone's appearance or how they acted without thinking any further. this video has definitely been something to think about in my life. I used to be super into far right politics and racism etc. about 3 years ago. I stopped and have been much happier just not getting involved in any politics or conflicts whatsoever. Recently I've been through some life events that have left me completely broken and unable to function because my depression hit me like a truck and I've got ptsd from it. definitely makes me rethink what I assume of people at a first glance and I realized everybody's got something going on too or has had something happen that really affected them as well.
Grace requires contemplation, and contemplation requires discipline, and discipline requires self-reflection. Life doesn’t guarantee any of that, but life demands all of those …
My background-- Dad was on a boat that arrived in Japan a few days after the bomb. He became a minister. My brother was navy in Vietnam. He loaded shells in the big guns to bombard the land. Never saw land. I returned to Texas to be drafted in mid 73 only to be told it had been canceled three days before my induction. I promise you there were not many that recieved those notices. I certainly appreciate your perspective! I'm a pretty strong right, have all the respect in the world for military and law enforcement. Strong 2nd ammend. Sometimes feel guilty for not going but oh so lucky not to have. My brother and I have not spoken for years. I wish it was different but I somehow understand why he feels that way. Thanks for your continued teachings. They say what I feel. God bless and be safe
My grandfather was a corporal in the marine corps in WW2 he fought against the Japanese and he was a Lt on the riot squad for the NYPD . My uncle chuck did three tours in Vietnam he was in the army but I was taught to respect authority and the military like you. Sorry for the rant sir 🇺🇲 .
Great message filled with compassion. My uncle was a paratrooper in WW2. He was a Screaming Eagle in the 101st airborne and came home a paraplegic after the Battle of the Bulge. He didn't talk about the war. Years after he died I read 'Kurrahee' and was stunned to get a glimpse of what he endured. PBS put us there with some great documentaries like The Civil War and The Great War. You are on point, Dewayne. Explains the generations that should never be forgotten and the demons that haunted them if they were fortunate enough to come back and raise a family with some sense of normalcy. Post-war children had to be greatly affected. Thanks for your insight!
Your are absolutely right about having grace, I prefer the term respect. I’m a 22 yr veteran, my dad was a veteran and so was his. Most everyone I know is a vet. And most all of us have seen things and experienced things no one should ever have to. But freedom ain’t and we are men. And just because I went through something’s doesn’t relieve me of my my duties to family, friends and community. We all have our demons. The real question is whether or not we choose to let them make us victims or we choose to move forward
Thanks for saying there is a war on men. I agree. I have so much more to say but I will leave it at this... I will do my best to have more grace for my fellow man.
Hello Dwayne from Greece🇬🇷. I really appreciate your content and it gives me so many life lessons. You remind me of my grandfather... Stay strong and keep up your good work❤️
I truly believe that anyone, at any given time, can find strength to stop the wheel of pain. We never know the consequence of our actions, so we never know how much a simple "how are you?" might make a huge difference to someone. You are making the world a better place, Dwayne. Thank you for this video!
I live for these rambles! I've had your videos on repeat for when I do errands, study, or just need to decompress with some good content. Thanks to you and your wife for what you do ♡
It’s true, our generations lack proper thought. I was fortunate enough to meet an elder who was part of the Vietnam war. I consider him like my grandfather, since I never really met my own. The perspective and knowledge you gain just from talking is immense. Truly love talking to older generations. Not only for life insight but their experiences and stories spark me up knowing what their world was like. The more we talk the better we can be.
Thank you for this, I'm 33 and I needed to hear this message of forgiveness and compassion. It's been a real strigglento find an angle to have this understanding lately. My father worked all this life, hard and I feel he carries himself heavy, from the burdens and challenges, and the struggles he sees my brothers and I face alone, because he doesn't understand this world anymore. This made me want to really reach out.
I'm 42 & my dad would just beat me like an animal to release his stress. when asking for help like a co sign he'd say how he worked & paid for all his things. when paying rent to live in his house he put my things out on the curb for trash because he wanted me to leave, didn't understand things cost more & we get paid less than in his golden age. should let your dad know you appreciate him if you still can... ironically I guess these struggles of being a man are what feminists are saying what was oppression, lol when did men find the time for that recreation ?
I’ve always had a loving father who always made sure we were raised right. Taught us how to be a responsible accountable man. I’m glad you are putting this content out because I know way to many friends who weren’t taught how to be a man.
This one pulled at my heart strings and made me cry. I have so many grandfathers and great uncles that served, and the way you put it just choked me up. I am forever grateful for all of those who sacrificed for us. Wonderful video.
4 generations of duty and struggle. We faltered but eventually we all stood and passed on to the next what it was to be a man and a human. Unfortunately, I see little if that for the next generations. Thanks Dwayne
This is why we need to remember History. The cumulative effects of all the trauma and tribulations of previous generations matter. Makes you wonder how many veterans and families got left to fall between the cracks. Thank you so much for bringing this up
Well said, once again (and with such deserved emotion.) Thank you Dewayne. “No one’s bad when they’re born, but they can grow up that way. And we really don’t know what they go through each day.”
This 18.09 minutes of listening to an intelligent and kind man share his aged and broadened perspective is some of the most well spent time I've experienced on youtube.
Dewayne sir, you're such a blessing to so many of your viewers. I can only imagine how proud your children as well as Momma are of you. I will be a student of yours in the future, hell, I'm a student of your even now. I live and try to use this common saying as a an ethos: Hard times create strong men., Strong men create good times., Good times create weak men., Weak men create hard times." This resonates quite loudly within my soul and in so many different ways I feel it has been the "implied learning point" within many of your discussions. I truly hope that anyone stumbling across this video listens clearly to the entire thing but actually hears when you state that the way someone is or how someone responds to things despite how they were raised or the experiences or exposures they have had may be a reason and not a justification. I've been eagerly awaiting this next video from you and I cant thank you enough for taking the time to do one. Blessing my friend and Merry Christmas.
That was an excellent speech Dwayne! Thank you very much! This video reminded me of how I (as a younger person) am always called a “boomer” or a “nut head” by young peers around me who saw that I enjoyed chatting with older people. I’m always intrigued by the stories of older people (men and women), but never knew why or how to respond to such pathetic insults from my younger peers! Now I have a better perspective of things thanks to this video! Speaking of Lost Generations, I remember chatting with an elderly gentlemen several years ago about his career path. I was surprised to hear that he lost his father in a workplace accident when he was only 5 years old, and had a mother who was mostly absent in his youth (due to work). Back then in the 60s and 70s, he was labelled a retard by his teachers, guidance counsel, classmates and the school principles for being “uneducable”. In other words, nobody could teach him anything and he disliked everyone around him. However, he found an interest in electronics and radio equipment and would spend his free time building radios in his mom basement! Later on, he had a successful career as a radio technician apprentice and chief electronics technician! He only opened up to me because of my kind, easy going, and friendly personality! Everyone else just didn’t care or made quick judgements of him. I was amazed after that experience!
Thanks for bringing this up Dwayne. Two of my best friends fought in Vietnam. One of them got into drugs to cope. The other has the worst PTSD possible. I have a calming effect on him because I treat him with respect and listen. I am there for both of them and they would drop everything for me. I missed that war by a few months. I am younger than then. Peace and understanding to you.
Love from Serbia!!! That line with the trenches was the same one i speak every day to myself and others and I was shocked to hear it hear it from you Sir ! Keep it up, you are doing the Lords work with videos like these! God Bless to all of ya
People under the age of 25 or so probably don’t even understand what grace is. They have been failed by the schools, the “leaders” of this country and their parents. And those parents are probably the first generation that weren’t shipped off to war. Our society is declining unfortunately, but I can appreciate this video and I hope this message gets out there and maybe it’ll make the difference.
Every Generation of men ( including myself ) has served dating back to the Civil War to the Iraq and Afghanistan war that I served in. I totally understand what you are saying. I sometimes get totally immersed I'm my work and won't talk to my Wife about what's truly going on in my head. I will start. Thanks for the words!
One of the most realistic talks I've ever heard. My grandfather was totally disassociated from the society, he did not even work but had 6 children to feed. He did not even care about the family being in poverty. My grandmother on the other hand did whatever she could but my father ran away from home at 15 to search for a job. He started from scratch in a different city learning different languages. But my father is totally loving to us. Yes he had problems in his life but he did not turn out to be broken even after being brought up in such wretched condition 😭😭😭
My father came from world war 2 and got married and had 5 children..I remember him telling me what he did and what he saw. He described a horror picture of what he went through. I never spent most time with him as a child because he was always working to support the family. But he instilled in me much value of never giving up and being strong. Later in life as an adult when my father retired I got to spend a lot of time with him.. I'll always value his words and respect for how he did the best he could for the family.. what u said sir is so true about the lost generation and the baby boomers I'm one of them. I'm 66 now and still working. Thank u sir.
Thank you Dewayne. Earlier this month I was thinking about... umm, hmm. Ending 'it' ? And I had a hard time going through it because I don't have anyone I can talk to about it with confidentiality in place. Family is out of the question 'cause I do not want to worry them. Your videos, and other content I tend to watch has helped me maintain and stay level headed. I have found to like old hobbies again, I began going outside more often, taking care of my body, exercising and it has been quite a journey. I still have trouble when I think about being a man. I feel some sort of unecessary pressure to procreate and raise children under my name and I also feel this sort of urge that calls me towards nature, my curiosity peaks and I can't help but want more and more and more when it comes to knowledge and experience. I am still young. But I still crave it all.
The Lord is always listening my friend. But he can send someone like myself to remind you of that as well. 😉 Thing is,...are we listening to Him,...fully also? You're needed, you're valuable, and yes He's not done with you yet...so quit asking, start doing. Here's a sign. All glory to Him, Faithful and True! ☝️🙌🐑❤️
I can honestly say the same. I spent a good majority of my formative years wanting only to end it with no light at the tunnel and much the same I didn't want my family to worry so I never told any of em. I never really had a dad growing up so my mom was the one who raised me. My dad had his own demons like many out there do and never said anything about em. He never served far as I can tell but his side has a history of mental health issues. I spent the last 10 years of my life trying to somewhat fix and correct myself to a point where I can ask for the few issues I've still yet to resolve. And much the same I too have the same pressure to raise children even though I don't believe I'm mentally ready for it until I can completely lift the mental haze that has plagued me since my early teens. Like you I also have a tendency to want more when it comes to knowledge and experience. A calling to nature as well
One thing that I hope you can discover about life is how many times you can be surprised about its beauty. From the depths of the hardest or most bleak times, if one is lucky or determined, they can find new or precious reasons to enjoy life. I hope you find these reasons and feel like you can live with purpose. The world needs you
God is always with us but I understand because we have no physical humans with us. I dont even know what to say but to console you I just want to say I understand.
Great reminder that you never know what someone is going through. Thank you for all your wisdom. It's helping me right now more than I can possibly say.
Thank you for this video! Yes - we must give and have grace for the men in our lives. Your words brought back memories for me. In the early -80’s I was a young nursing student in a large metropolitan VA hospital. In the year of student life there I witnessed some of the horrific effects of PTSD on the veterans that were cared for in outpatient clinics. It was heartbreaking to see the struggles they endured. There was even a man in his sixties from world war 2 that was never far from reliving the horrors he endured. A lot of younger men that were veterans of Vietnam were out there alone without supportive families. They came into the clinic but much of their time was spent lost in their world of misery, alcohol and drugs. I could see glimpses of the men they were before being lost in the dark shadows. With your words I was remembering these particular men with clear pictures of them in my mind after more than 40 years. Much much more needs to be done for veterans as well as our current servicemen. I have tears of gratitude for their service. Each of us should never forget the human cost of their service. Thank you for your ever thoughtful messages in your videos.
You sir are an amazing with the way you speak, I sure wish I could of had this wisdom when I was younger,but now I'm gonna apply what I can now !! You are just incredible .thankyou🙏💞
I am from different country but I can relate to this. My both grandfathers fought in WW2. After the war they did not talk about what happened there and drank heavily in their free time. My father was very distant too and drank too much at his freetime. Now I drink bit too much too but I am very much involved with my kids and interested about their life and spend a lot of time with them. It may take many generations to heal from wartime traumas.
I think it’s horrific and incredibly sad that governments of the world send young men and women to fight their wars and do this to people who have tried to do it for the sake of ‘their country’. Great video sir!
My 82 year old dad had nightmares for decades from Vietnam. This past year he finally seemed more calm than I've ever seen him....cause he's loosing his memory.
The timing of this video could not have been more perfect. I have spent the last 2-3 hours thinking/watching videos and documentaries about war history in general feeling awful about the men (our ancestors..) that always go out to war. The horror most men have experienced in the last 150 years in astronomical, yet we still carry out these wars to this day. Some things will never change (at least not yet), and to see/hear others judge "boomers" based on what they know or think when they grew up in such a way is depressing., especially the further back you go. We are being ab*sed by greed and ignorance.
We all have to lift each other up no matter what, because we haven’t walked in their shoes. We all need compassion towards one another,. what you are talking about is generational curses That need to be broken by brave souls. Thank you Sir, much respect for your shares! Merry Christmas to you and yours!
I honestly wish more people would talk about this. Generational trauma is a deep wound lots of people carry. As a 34 year old from central europe with no war veterans in my family, I can't really join the commenters here in addressing that. But I would have a word or three on the war on men. I see so many people all over social media trying to push men into these tiny little pigeon holes. Calling men "weak", "lazy", "feminine" for opening up about their trauma, their stories, their upbringing. Not adhering to "the grind", not pushing themselves to work 12-15 hours per day, leaving behind their social lives or families. In my country, even going to see a therapist is taboo, especially for a man. Staying home for a "maternity leave" is considered weak. Being a good father to your new baby and a good husband who helps his wife in one of the most difficult times of her life, is considered weak. What is this world we live in? I think more of men who will play with her daughter and a dollhouse than a man who will force his son to hold a toy rifle the moment he can sit up straight. Far, far more. If only men - young and old - were allowed to express their feelings, to be themselves, to not have to act manly in front of the world and drown their traumas and struggles in alcohol or other addictions, leading them to pass their traumas on to their children. If only it was acceptable to perhaps not be deemed "a pussy" for not joining the military or being keen on fighting, a war or at a bar. Being a man is SO MUCH MORE than being an ape puffing out his chest whenever possible.
MERRY CHRISTMAS Duane and the very best to you and yours. I have a niece and sister who have been struggling for years because of the abusive upbringing we all had growling up. I shared this video as well as a few other of your videos to my niece yesterday. She's been binge watching them and your videos have helped them with understanding many things they couldn't understand or deal with. I am 69 years old and have been struggling with many things for years as well. Your way of explaining and your understanding of things is of immense value and I know that you have helped many people out there that have been struggling as well. THANK YOU SOOOO VERY MUCH. May God richly bless you and your family and may you have many more years of health and prosperity. Thank you
I'm 32 years old and my father was a Vietnam veteran. He fought in the 173rd airborne in some of the worst battles of the war. My mom's dad fought in WW2, Korea and Vietnam. He died in Vietnam from a heart attack (by that age he was behind the lines). Not only did you make me put into perspective my father's point of view, and how it has affected me but how much my mom's father affected her and how much she had to overcome when raising me, and dealing with my father at the same time. Thank you for giving me perspective.
My father escaped the USSR. The stories he told me about his life and his father’s life were horrid. You can even go back to WW2 and see how relentlessly traumatizing their lives were. My great grandfather never talked about his time in the army or surviving the holocaust. There’s so much strength in your ancestors, so you must respect them.
ya but this generation has the internet, smart phones & social media... they think they've ascended to godhood of knowledge & understanding then complain that school didn't teach them how to balance a check book, civilization is doa.
Thanks for sharing, Dewayne. No one knows what others have gone through, but they're awful quick to judge us despite that. I took my lumps on deployment in the early 2000's (⛩⛩⛩), like so many men my age, having lost a few buddies and having seen a few more get wounded, usually via IEDs. My grandfather saw some real shit in WW2 as well, though he never talked about it. My father didn't escape his dad's trauma (and thus inflicted it upon my brother and I), and my kids haven't escaped mine. I'm truly trying to deal with my own baggage to make a better life for myself, my kids, and my wife, but every day is a challenge. I'll never go down the path of self-pity, but I'm glad that I at least exist in a time where I have access to mental healthcare and the societal stigma for seeking such care isn't nearly as bad as it once was. I couldn't imagine having zero support beyond drinking buddies or condemning myself to work ridiculous hours. My kids haven't had the easiest time dealing with the repercussions of my own post-traumatic stress, anxiety, etc., which all bloomed to the surface after my time in the sandbox. But I have and continue to try to make myself better, more patient, more compassionate, and less angry at all of the things which surround me for the kids and my wife. I make sure I am involved in their school, their martial arts, their sports, and other activities. I may not always enjoy those things, but I make the effort for their sake. I try to talk to my young children about how awful war is and always will be, and about the camaraderie and pride I maintain after having served with outstanding soldiers, despite our differences and trials. I teach them to think, to use their logic and reasoning, to not rush to judgment, and to consider others' perspectives. Most importantly, I want them to avoid the pitfalls I've encountered, so they can build better lives for themselves and eventually their families. One day at a time, one generation at a time. That's how we make humanity better for all of us.
Another great video as always Dewayne. I'm a young 22 year old from Denmark and have wanted to cowboy as long as I can remember. I just wanted to tell you that your videos have helped me to keep chasing that life. Especially your videos about adjusting your expectations and taking responsibility for your own situation. If all goes well I'll have a bachelor degree in about 3-4 years, which makes me eligible for a visa. When I get back to Denmark from working in another country, I'll be taking woodworking lessons to hopefully make me a more attractive hire. Prober horse-riding lessons are hard to come by here, so that will have to wait. Anyways, just wanted to thank you for making these videos.
Serving infantry officer, here. Recently discovered your excellent channel (through Allen Harrelson’s ‘Pipe Cottage’) - just subscribed! Well said, sir. Greetings from Greece.
Uplifting talk this morning. Much appreciated. Taking time to understand the "why" behind people's behaviors goes a long way. I have found it almost always boils down to how you put it, that the child didn't have anyone to fill in the hole, to love them and raise them properly.
Thanks for your message. I think as parents we want the next generation to be more successful. We work to change some bad things and treat our parents with love and understanding. My grandfather on my dad’s side was a doctor and taken at gunpoint by the Japanese to treat their wounded. He also snuck off to treat American soldiers. His family left their home and hid in caves. My dad told me how some older boys chased them away when they found a bomb in a river. Those kids died when it detonated. He had nightmares all his life from these experiences. My mother’s dad was in the Bataan death march and presumed dead. She was raised by a foster family because her mother couldn’t take care of her. Her father returned some time later after his wife had moved on and remarried. My parents came to the US and did their best to make a life and raise a family.
Thank you to all our blessed veterans and servicemen. I am grateful for your protection and dedication. Prayers for you all at this holy time of year. 🕊
I’m a veteran of the Vietnam Nam War . When I arrived home at the airport no body gave a dam about what I’ve through. I was nineteen years old when I got drafted . It was my first time really sent away from home. It was one hell of experience. My friends at home had nothing to do with me when I came home. My only friends are veterans to this day because we all have something in common to matter what branch the are from. Thanks for your vlog and have a Merry Christmas stay save my friend.
I'm so sorry you experienced that. It's shameful.
Sir, it's my honor to say, thank you for your service. 🙏
@@cowdogg3085 Thank you . I appreciate that very much. I’m grateful their are still a few people like you around.
Thankyou for your service
Sir with respect I want to thank you for all that you have done.
This is the most well balanced channel for young people I have found. You’re not over the top with your takes, you’re not driving a flashy car and you’re not selling any e-courses. It’s nice.
The thing i definitely want
The way it should be!
Don’t give him any ideas 😂 nah I love this channel too
Not trying to induct us into his cult -_-
Just say Andrew Tate dude lmao
My father was an angry abusive drunk. So was his dad, and his dad’s dad, and so on. I don’t hate my father for. I feel sorry that he went through that and didn’t know better. I am breaking the cycle with my own children.
Im really happy you broke the cycle. I have been addicted to pretty much anything: Alcohol, opiates, pills, weed, etc. And it destroyed my life , continue on ths right track Sir!
That cycle of trauma is fucking real. Best of luck.
King
Sounds like my dad. You shouldn't feel sorry for someone who beats their kids. No offense but our dad's are pieces of shit
@@imissvainglory6216 everyone is entitled to their own opinions.
I find that people who are more ego driven and who believe in free will are much less forgiving than people who are the opposite of that. Both views are valid. Your way of seeing the world is one of many.
Have some tact and respect.
My daddy was real quiet. Passed away in 2017.
He’d married a psychopath. He stayed & stayed. Only now with internet, I figure it all out.
I feel so bad for him, because he basically just lived in his bedroom because she’d humiliate him in all kinds of ways.
It breaks my heart.
I loved him the most, he showed me peace, and the beauty of nature, and provided it all.
He got took, and stayed. He didn’t have a clue the reality of the abuses he was in.
It’s hurts.
So sad
Good men usually take more than they should
This Era has demonized all MEN
❤❤
My Uncle's first wife fits that description to a "T" only he divorced her (after she tried to stab him, no less) and eventually married my mom's sister. He was also a WWII vet in the European Theatre. Battle of the Bulge Vet. Rarely talked about it, too.
I'm now retired from the Air Force and after 25 years of service, all I can say is: military guys, for some reason, pick lousy wives.
@@soonerdave01 Ues my dad was Korean War. He was 81 when he passed on. He always had his papers all organized, bills and everything. Anyway, I feel so quirky these days, because it hurts. He was so quiet. I never asked him much, but he said he was a medic. But it’s not true, my mom found awards for sniper and threw it all away.
Anyway, it just wasn’t known back then, these abuses are wrong. We were all dysfunctional and had no clue.
It feels horrid, because I know exactly how she had him feeling.
He didn’t deserve it, no, not at all. She alienated us, right in our very own home, from him, from his side of the family.
I’m sad, I’m hurt.
SORRY
Fifteen years ago I was sitting at my desk and my 18 year old son came in and sat down. I asked him what he wanted and he told me that he wanted to go into the Airforce and become a medic who jumps out of a hovering helicopter on the battlefield to treat and rescue the wounded. For a moment I couldn't breathe. I felt horror come over me. I remembered my time as a crew chief and door gunner in Vietnam when I was 18 years old. In an instant I recalled raising him from an infant and again, terror filled me. I was speechless and I saw him sitting there looking back at me waiting for a response. As odd as it seemed to me at the time, the only thing that came out of my mouth was, "Do you want to end up like me?" He said no. He went to college instead. Dewayne, I don't know how you ever picked up on this topic or how you know so much about it. You did good here. Thanks.
sounded by they way he worded it the he is a nam vet, idk but he said they & then we the 2nd time I believe including himself.
if so he didn't pick up on the topic, it is his topic.
good call with your son, but just don't let what happened in nam be in vain & make sure you son wasn't indoctrinated into
communism at college, 15 years ago isn't as bad as today but the seeds were planted that long ago that became the
disgrace that is "higher learning" today. $100+k communism participation medals as diploma.
8:25
he changed they to we and then spoke as if he was there to know the reality of the war games being played.
sounds like he was there but is just being really subtle about it.
Joining the marine corps changed my life and made me a good man with many friends. Just because you had a bad experience doesn't mean you have the right to shoot others dreams down. I wanted to be a marine since I was 13, and when I turned 18 I made that happen. Never regretted that decision... Even after 3 combat tours in Afghanistan. We all saw evil, but sometimes evil needs to be dealt with...
He said he has never fought in a war in the video
He didn’t shoot his dreams down. He asked a question and answered it honestly
Guys Carefully listen to his every single word 🎉🙌✨
My uncle (my mother's brother) served as a ships surgeon on an aircraft carrier in the Pacific in WW2. He made it home, raised four boys and ran a successful medical practice. Don't know how he did it, because getting him to talk about his war experiences was very, very hard. He was trying his best to forget and carry on. That taught me something about respecting others.
@Squirt pussy Assfart hey, quit pointing out that the heads of the CDC, FDA, Wallstreet, and the Banking sector are mainly Jewish people, it means nothing
When you talk about things, it brings it back from the past, and you have to relive it ….. my mom talked about her experiences on her deathbed
My dad served in the Philippines, came home and for years drowned himself in the bottle until it took his life.
My grandfather did the same, medic in the pacific, came home and raised 4 boys. This is some good perspective. Thanks Dwayne.
@@kevindecoteau3186 😔 God bless you ❤🕊
My father was a WWII vet. Purple heart recipient. Never talked about the war, only yes and no answers to direct questions. He kept it all inside. I could never understand why. Having read many war accounts and experiences of others it is obvious to me now that his silence was his way of keeping it all together. An account by another vet was that you never knew what might trigger a flashback to the war. Just the smell of diesel exhaust from a city bus might send you back "into the battle". You had to keep a strong hand on yourself to not let it take over. The strength of these men is humbling and inspiring. I salute them all for their military service and their strength to come back and raise the next generation.
My buddy got shot in the back in 1967 half paralyzed him in both legs, a year later a drunk driver ran him over in his wheel chair took his right arm off. He later raised 2 great kids, had many companies, he was my friend. He was one of the strongest person I knew. Much respect too everyone.
Dwayne , my dad wasn't from a lost generation , he was a member of the Greatest Generation. I've wrote to you before about him , he was a real "Cowboy" born in 1918 , lived in Indiana on a farm/ranch and he went through WW2 as a platoon leader (2nd LT) in the Philippines fighting the Japanese. When he came home he got his journeymans license as a machinist , raised a family of 2 sons and 1 daughter. He smoked and drank a little bit but what veteran didn't in that era. He never showed signs of PTSD although he probably had it to some extent being a combat vet. He passed away in 1971 and there's not a day that goes by that I don't think of him and I'm 61 now. He was a great man from the "Greatest Generation".
Beautiful story. Thank you for that. I have several videos about our veterans, all my great uncles served. I used to treat veteranss with PTSD. I grew up around folks born between 1880-1920. I feel lost today. Miss those folks terribly.
or the reality just never hit him believing in valor.
I've heard Japan surrendered 3 days before the atom bombs were dropped,
just like I've heard Japan declared war well before pearl harbor & the US detected
the attack on radar but let it happen as a reason for public support to enter the war.
regardless, saving lives by not deploying in Japan as an excuse to drop atomic bombs
is ridiculous, the island could have been surrounded until they surrendered, dropping the
bombs was an ungodly experiment by the side your dad desperately wanted to believe was the " good guys"
I often think about all the trauma people experienced through the ages that was never recorded. Up until the last 25 years or so you would've basically had to write a book if you wanted to get your story out. Imagine all the stuff people suffered alone with. Not even having the language or concepts to articulate it. Bad things happened, and that was that. Imagine all the trauma that's been passed down through hundreds of generations. It makes sense why things are the way they are today. But individuals have more power now than ever before to share kindness and compassion. It'll probably still take a while, but I hope I live to see that overcome the pain people are consumed by.
@@osakarose5612 lol.
That's my favorite saying
Merry Christmas to you
It was recognized as existing, but nobody ever knew what to do about it until recently. It went completely untreated. I’m just grateful you were not condescending or slightly arrogant in your post. Ignorance may be bliss but arrogance is a boil on the butt of humanity.
Agreed. I think if each man kept a personal journal throughout the years, that would've helped to take a load off.
@@DryCreekWranglerSchool it was coined as shell shock but was probably understood before ww1,
because although war brings out the extremes of inhumanity the reality is it's just the breaking point of a person.
it's not specific or exclusive to witnessing war, everyone has a threshold limit & the extremes of war can easily exceed it.
try being a Christian & knowing the reality of a constant spiritual war that everyone seems oblivious to but is participating in...
It's a nice sentiment but was addressed in biblical scripture thousands of years ago.
all manner of circumstances have happened to someone at some time, so it's never an excuse.
you wanna know something F'd up that was recorded, the bronze bull or brazen bull... or how about the roman colosseum.
We're told not to worry about tomorrow because today has enough worries of it's own, isn't it foolish to go looking for worries of yesterday..?
don't become obsessed with suffering & making it a competition looking for the high scores, it's irrelevant when you already know bad is bad no matter its degree.
Great respect from Russia, sir. The worst thing is that wars will go on and humanity will never learn from its mistakes.
That's so funny coming from a country full of warmongers 😂
I can't be responsible for a bunch of bloodthirsty freaks. If everything depended on me, I assure you that I would choose to live peacefully and create, rather than engage in murder and destruction.
@@tanelpolts7257FFS that's a damn ignorant comment. WTF do you know about what the average Russian thinks or has to live through.
And if you can't see the irony of an American in the 2020s calling any country a warmongering nation you are a damn fool.
US actively involved in trying to change around 70 regimes since 45.
Regan promising NATO wouldn't expand one inch east in the 80s.
Like the man says, show a single bit of grace to your fellow man.
@@tanelpolts7257bro.. the states is 10X worse. 😂
Blind sheep.
@@tanelpolts7257are you to blame for the actions of your leaders? Then don’t blame him for being Russian you goof.. we’re all targets.
Thank you for this video. Generational trauma is not talked about enough. It effects so many people, especially the "Boomer" and other older generations. When there was zero mental health understanding.
I really appreciate his point how easy it is to group think and label people by generation, color etc. I try to remember always to take the correct mindset people all people are indiduals. I wonder what the odds of a threat of nuclear exchange with former USSR. Transfer over into a trauma that is so intensity present it's hard to quantify what the effects of total Annihilation would do to a whole entire generation and they survived that test and thrived really ,and probably offended many by off the top drivel. I really appreciate all the men and women my fellow citizens who are the best in the world America is a true success no one can deny earlier and current generations are to be respected for there accomplishment . Dwayne is the Pinnacle of cool headed rational careful thought anyone would admire.
There still isn't. Just people pretending to be nice.
I hear you. My partner used to always say don't judge other people as you don't know what they have had to endure. So true.
Good words of wisdom. We can all and SHOULD put forth the effort to build each other up instead of all this tearing apart that’s happening today!! God bless everybody and god bless America!! 💪💯🇺🇸
Well said Bryan. wish people had the same mentality think of how awesome things would be. Laughs having good ol times and not taking things so serious glad to see there is still good folks out here still god bless have a merry Christmas!
@@Longneckmexican hare Krishna
Brother yeah be with God
Be strong wisdom is lost from today's society.
I'm a hindu from India
Same happening in my country also
Very sad to see new generation becoming 🐖like animals.
My great-grandfather was in WW1 and was discharged for what back then they called shell shock. One day he walked into the woods and was never seen again - still has not been found. His son, my grandfather, had bullet wounds in his back from WW2. He would never talk about it, and would sit alone in the dark and drink. He shot himself when my father was 19. The effect of all this on my father was obvious to me as a child. This trauma is generational. Great video on a topic that is too rarely discussed.
Wow, horribly sad. Thanks for sharing
And you??? U having fun life
War has consequences on so many levels. Thank you for sharing your generational wounds. Hope you'll be able to pave the way for a scar-free generation.
Thank you for sharing your story!
Based on the history that more and more people are studying, it becomes clear that what your great grandfather, grandfather and father witnessed was more than just battlefield combat and physical scars…
God bless you and thank you again for sharing your story!
There are so many facets of this story to be told. I had the pleasure of befriending an old timer a few years back who passed away recently with dementia. He was a big tall strong fella and I can only imagine the strong character and force of nature he was as a young man fighting in Korea. He came home to his wife and children and went on to try to raise them, finding out much later in life that at least one of the children was not his own. He struggled to provide for his family and "do what was Right" to stay and his wife continued to be unfaithful. He stayed until all of the children were raised then divorced and went on to live alone for the last half of his life. I would stop by and have coffee now and then, as this big kindhearted fellow lived close by. I remember how he trembled at times telling me these stories of his life with deep sadness and anger still in his heart well into his 80's. Please spend more time on this subject Dwayne. So many need to hear it. Thanks for all you do on here.
Powerful comment.
Wow , thanks for the story
that's messed up but before I got to the part about a kid not being his, I already had in mind all the fatherless kids
left in these wars by troops getting the local women pregnant consenting or not.
ppl are terrible monsters & shouldn't be glorified for finding a conscience & morals, that's the standard & expectation remember...
Beautifully spoken. Man it’s insane how you just said all that from your brain.
Ikr I’d love to be as well spoken as he is
100% hit the nail on the head. Europe never really recovered from the loss of human potential from ww1. I say ww1 specifically because all the decent good men where the first ones to sign up for it because they didn't know better.
49 year old Vet here. I have been saying this for 20 years and it still leaves me broken hearted every time I walk into the VA and see the continuing casualties. The generational void is vacuous and we continue the madness. Thank you Dwayne. This is a real service. I have my own experiences to reconcile and I still live with Viet Nam when my father cries and screams in his sleep, reliving the horror of what he saw and did EVERY FREAKING NIGHT. I cannot describe the feelings this engenders in me. Pray God we find peace and reconciliation.
I work as an emt and I do a lot of work for the VA. The VA needs to step up their mental health services.
As of Vietnam vet Dwayne thank you thank you for saying the truth my father was a world war II vet he wasn't quite right me as a Vietnam vet I wasn't quite right I'm 75 now and I believe I'm beginning to get a little right I appreciate your thoughts and what you're doing and what you're saying the truth will always set you free and Merry Christmas to you and yours 🐝
Thank you for your service.
Empathy….. imagine yourself in the other man’s boots, then imagine walking through the trenches in those boots. This is what this world is lacking. Everyone is spending so much time trying to make their voice heard, they spend no time trying to listen to what the other persons is saying and really trying to understand it and feel what they are feeling. Love your videos! Please keep speaking your truth so we all my learn by it.
Man, Duane, if anything ever NEEDED to be said, it was this! This was powerful. Thank you!
When I was about 7 or 8 I remember being at a family Thanksgiving party and my uncle woke up back in Vietnam. The most blood curdling screaming you ever heard. That was maybe 18 or 19 years ago. A long time after he was there. Gave me a huge respect for the folks that fight for us. After he calmed down he went outside with my dad and his cousins and was telling stories I wasn't supposed to hear. The man saw and did awful shit. All in the name of country. I couldn't imagine the pain he lives with.
Man! Spot on! Thanks for the understanding. Being a real man isn't popular, but thank God for having heroes to look up to and be our role model I m almost 65 years old and have seen a lot of life. Keep up the good work. You're making a difference. God bless you and yours!
How refreshing is it to see a MAN! Man love this dude.
Very thoughtful video sir. When calling older individuals "boomers", it never crossed my mind that these people have had much harder childhoods than me.
I am on Hospice, I am expiring too. I am dying because of a US Navy fund command site with exposed chemicals. Three feet behind me is the bad that I will be laying on when I meet my Heavenly 'Father'. I have two boys that will not have a father. That's what scares me. This video is truly anointed. This video is what I needed. Thank you.
Praying for you. God bless.
My father served on the Enterprise. I am thankful to you, because this country will have ups and downs but will also have our heroes that left the mark of excellence toe that line we also can be worthy of our past generations sacrifices. God bless you.
God be with you and guide you through your transition. I am truly grateful to you for your service but saddened to the core for what our government has done to so many such as yourself. When your time comes, fly proudly with the Angels and protect your family from above. We will continue the battle from here . God Bless 🙏❤
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My father is a Marine that fought in Vietnam and was badly wounded. He came home, made a family and raised 6 kids pretty much on his own. It was a crazy life we came up in, but he did the best he could. The respect I have for him is and will always be beyond explainable. He's 76 now and I'm 43 with a family of my own and I owe a lot of who I came to be to him. Strongest man I know.
You’re spot on Dwayne, I grew with the WW2, Korean and Vietnam veterans. They were my uncles, supervisors and best of all my friends. I inherited my work ethic, compassion and love of family from those men.
Your channel just randomly popped up in my feed. I’m so glad it did. I love the way you say things and the points you make. You’re a good, genuine person unafraid to boldly and kindly speak Godly truth. It’s so refreshing to see. Thank you
“Some people meet some mentor along the way, they find what they need and get through it”
You sir are that mentor to a lot of people, keep posting your advice us young folks need it!
Love from UK
"Some people meet some mentor along the way, they find what they need and get through it”
But for others, they themselves have to become the mentor they needed earlier in life, to find that's what they need to get through it.
I've honestly never thought about why older generations are how they are. It's not just the people who've been to war, but those raised by people who were sent to war. I really needed to hear this, thank you.
Sincere respect to you, Dwayne, on giving your thoughts on this topic. I am one of those you gave examples of. I served in the USMC in Vietnam and Desert Storm, now !00% disabled service connected paralyzed combat veteran. My Father and his two brothers served during WWII, Father at battle of the bulge, uncle at Iwo Jima, uncle in Italy campaigns. Great Grand uncle in Spanish American War, Great-Great GrandFather with Army of the Potomac, battles of Fredericksburg and Chancellorsville. Generations of our family serving as warriors go back even further according to my genealogy research. We have always looked at serving our country as our duty. It’s just what honorable men do. Yes, i experienced returning home from Vietnam to a country I didn’t know. It was tough, but most i, like most Vietnam vets, went to ground and simply got on with our lives the best we knew how. I have no regrets. I do it all again, 10,000 times. Those who criticize, assign labels to us, are just misguided and uninformed. I pray for them i do not have the power to change history of to change things they way they are today. I simply trust in God and pray. I’m 76 years old now, as my uncle used to say, “rounding third on my way to home.” Thank you, Dwayne, for your wisdom and willingness to share it.
Sir, it seems so inadequate for me to say thank you and your family for your service. But from the bottom of my heart, I think you. I have tremendous amount of respect and honor for you and those like you who did what was asked of you, and came back home and carried on. My hats off to you sir.
Thank you, for your service.
My Dad list his older brother in Vietnam, and it messed him up. He lost his Dad when he was nine, and his brother was his protector. My Dad gave me his brothers Purple Heart when I was young, and I still cherish it.
All you guys deserve nothing but respect.
Thank you
God Bless You, my Brother. I am a veteran of two tours in Vietnam. I thank you for your service to our beloved country and to our fellow vets, for whom we both devoted our lives in battle. I can only wish you the very best and healing for your wounds. Rest comfortably in the arms of our great physician, Jesus.
Thank you for your service. And I thank all our military personnel who are active and our vets.
People like you are what make America great and it will continue being great.
Thank you for allowing us to continue having freedom of liberty.
You have my respects
@@DryCreekWranglerSchool with all the respect, but isn't that one of the issues: "to do what one is asked to do" without properly thinking about it? See for example the covid situation, or any war or job related situation etc., when people feel deep within that it is not right, but they do it anyway, because they were asked to do so. Or they are brain washed and believe that this needs to be done.
I don't want to attack anyone here and I'm sorry if that sounds harsh, but I'm asking myself this question.
Your like a grandpa i never had, i listen to you on some hard days. love from India
My dad came home from WW2 and I was 3. He was a stranger. And we never bonded. It wasn't until much later I found out that there is an entire generation who had a stranger for a dad. I enjoy listening to your thoughtful and compassionate talks, you're a thinker and you make me think more. Thank you.
My grandfather was in the navy during Vietnam and was a gunner during the Cuban missile crisis. His father used to beat the hell out of him and in turn when it was my grandfather's turn he used to smack around my dad and uncles. It was less than what he got as a kid but he still did then when my parents had me my dad swore he would never lay a hand on his children in anger and he never hit me or my brother. Now my old man wasn't perfect by any measure but my family is slowly breaking the cycle of raising damaged children.
As a female I greatly enjoyed listening to this as you can take much of what you say as a poignant analogy that actually fits many females in my life. Great philosophical speech as usual my friend, you’re a living legend to me.
I appreciate the video, Dewayne. One important thing is that although everyone has a cross to bear - for example, being raised by broken people and ending up broken because of that -, it doesn't excuse, past a certain point and age, replicating bad behaviors. And these are precisely your thoughts, just in my own words, about the 'not excusing' people. Having empathy can help you understand why a man might spout hateful and racist words, for example. And empathy will help you understand why that man's son is likely to do the same someday. But a man isn't really fully grown until he sits down, reflects, studies, and realizes that he was raised wrong and needs to fix it. We all have some fixing up to do inside ourselves, I think.
Crien bien a sus hijos porque si ven que haces maldad ellos asi aprenderan, si ven que robas robaran si ven que eres negativo,maligno seran negativos pesimista, y cito unas escrituras, por sus frutos los conocereis,, crien a buenos hombres y mujeres, yo no fui criado lo mejor que se pudo, pero estoy aqui para cambiarlo todo, siento que jesucristo ya esta en mi vida ❤
Thank you. I've often reflected on this subject and realize the brokenness each of us face. May God give us the grace and compassion to treat each other better!
I've always been one to judge and have absolutely been the one to say "ok boomer" and just write stuff off because of someone's appearance or how they acted without thinking any further. this video has definitely been something to think about in my life. I used to be super into far right politics and racism etc. about 3 years ago. I stopped and have been much happier just not getting involved in any politics or conflicts whatsoever. Recently I've been through some life events that have left me completely broken and unable to function because my depression hit me like a truck and I've got ptsd from it. definitely makes me rethink what I assume of people at a first glance and I realized everybody's got something going on too or has had something happen that really affected them as well.
Grace requires contemplation, and contemplation requires discipline, and discipline requires self-reflection. Life doesn’t guarantee any of that, but life demands all of those …
Well said
My background-- Dad was on a boat that arrived in Japan a few days after the bomb. He became a minister. My brother was navy in Vietnam. He loaded shells in the big guns to bombard the land. Never saw land. I returned to Texas to be drafted in mid 73 only to be told it had been canceled three days before my induction. I promise you there were not many that recieved those notices. I certainly appreciate your perspective! I'm a pretty strong right, have all the respect in the world for military and law enforcement. Strong 2nd ammend. Sometimes feel guilty for not going but oh so lucky not to have. My brother and I have not spoken for years. I wish it was different but I somehow understand why he feels that way. Thanks for your continued teachings. They say what I feel. God bless and be safe
My grandfather was a corporal in the marine corps in WW2 he fought against the Japanese and he was a
Lt on the riot squad for the NYPD . My uncle chuck did three tours in Vietnam he was in the army but I was taught to respect authority and the military like you. Sorry for the rant sir 🇺🇲 .
Great message filled with compassion. My uncle was a paratrooper in WW2. He was a Screaming Eagle in the 101st airborne and came home a paraplegic after the Battle of the Bulge. He didn't talk about the war. Years after he died I read 'Kurrahee' and was stunned to get a glimpse of what he endured. PBS put us there with some great documentaries like The Civil War and The Great War. You are on point, Dewayne. Explains the generations that should never be forgotten and the demons that haunted them if they were fortunate enough to come back and raise a family with some sense of normalcy. Post-war children had to be greatly affected. Thanks for your insight!
Respect to your uncle.
@@jharris0341 Thank you
Most serial killers had traumatic war times fathers
@@sadhu7191 or Mothers who were disconnected, or led a nefarious lifestyle. Studies say lead gasoline exposure played a role.
I think about this video all the time. It might be your best one.
Your are absolutely right about having grace, I prefer the term respect. I’m a 22 yr veteran, my dad was a veteran and so was his. Most everyone I know is a vet. And most all of us have seen things and experienced things no one should ever have to. But freedom ain’t and we are men. And just because I went through something’s doesn’t relieve me of my my duties to family, friends and community. We all have our demons. The real question is whether or not we choose to let them make us victims or we choose to move forward
Thanks for saying there is a war on men. I agree. I have so much more to say but I will leave it at this... I will do my best to have more grace for my fellow man.
Hello Dwayne from Greece🇬🇷. I really appreciate your content and it gives me so many life lessons. You remind me of my grandfather... Stay strong and keep up your good work❤️
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I truly believe that anyone, at any given time, can find strength to stop the wheel of pain. We never know the consequence of our actions, so we never know how much a simple "how are you?" might make a huge difference to someone. You are making the world a better place, Dwayne. Thank you for this video!
I live for these rambles! I've had your videos on repeat for when I do errands, study, or just need to decompress with some good content.
Thanks to you and your wife for what you do ♡
Yes! His videos definitely help decompress 👍🤠👍
Same! Im doing house chores right now and I enjoy listening to his talks. I always find pleasure in them.
It’s true, our generations lack proper thought. I was fortunate enough to meet an elder who was part of the Vietnam war. I consider him like my grandfather, since I never really met my own. The perspective and knowledge you gain just from talking is immense. Truly love talking to older generations. Not only for life insight but their experiences and stories spark me up knowing what their world was like. The more we talk the better we can be.
Thank you for this, I'm 33 and I needed to hear this message of forgiveness and compassion. It's been a real strigglento find an angle to have this understanding lately. My father worked all this life, hard and I feel he carries himself heavy, from the burdens and challenges, and the struggles he sees my brothers and I face alone, because he doesn't understand this world anymore. This made me want to really reach out.
I'm 42 & my dad would just beat me like an animal to release his stress.
when asking for help like a co sign he'd say how he worked & paid for all his things.
when paying rent to live in his house he put my things out on the curb for trash because
he wanted me to leave, didn't understand things cost more & we get paid less than in his golden age.
should let your dad know you appreciate him if you still can...
ironically I guess these struggles of being a man are what feminists are saying what was oppression,
lol when did men find the time for that recreation ?
I am 20 years old and I respect everything you say, the old ways are just so lost but your videos bring me a lot of joy sir.
I’ve always had a loving father who always made sure we were raised right. Taught us how to be a responsible accountable man. I’m glad you are putting this content out because I know way to many friends who weren’t taught how to be a man.
This one pulled at my heart strings and made me cry. I have so many grandfathers and great uncles that served, and the way you put it just choked me up. I am forever grateful for all of those who sacrificed for us. Wonderful video.
4 generations of duty and struggle. We faltered but eventually we all stood and passed on to the next what it was to be a man and a human. Unfortunately, I see little if that for the next generations. Thanks Dwayne
This is why we need to remember History. The cumulative effects of all the trauma and tribulations of previous generations matter. Makes you wonder how many veterans and families got left to fall between the cracks.
Thank you so much for bringing this up
Well said, once again (and with such deserved emotion.)
Thank you Dewayne.
“No one’s bad when they’re born,
but they can grow up that way.
And we really don’t know
what they go through each day.”
This 18.09 minutes of listening to an intelligent and kind man share his aged and broadened perspective is some of the most well spent time I've experienced on youtube.
Thank you for saying this, I served and proudly. "No one really knows" is the truest of the true sayings. Thank you sir 💪🇺🇸💪
We can pray for help for any one that needs help. God will help any one that asks!!!!
Dewayne sir, you're such a blessing to so many of your viewers. I can only imagine how proud your children as well as Momma are of you. I will be a student of yours in the future, hell, I'm a student of your even now. I live and try to use this common saying as a an ethos: Hard times create strong men., Strong men create good times., Good times create weak men., Weak men create hard times." This resonates quite loudly within my soul and in so many different ways I feel it has been the "implied learning point" within many of your discussions. I truly hope that anyone stumbling across this video listens clearly to the entire thing but actually hears when you state that the way someone is or how someone responds to things despite how they were raised or the experiences or exposures they have had may be a reason and not a justification. I've been eagerly awaiting this next video from you and I cant thank you enough for taking the time to do one. Blessing my friend and Merry Christmas.
That was an excellent speech Dwayne! Thank you very much!
This video reminded me of how I (as a younger person) am always called a “boomer” or a “nut head” by young peers around me who saw that I enjoyed chatting with older people. I’m always intrigued by the stories of older people (men and women), but never knew why or how to respond to such pathetic insults from my younger peers! Now I have a better perspective of things thanks to this video!
Speaking of Lost Generations, I remember chatting with an elderly gentlemen several years ago about his career path. I was surprised to hear that he lost his father in a workplace accident when he was only 5 years old, and had a mother who was mostly absent in his youth (due to work). Back then in the 60s and 70s, he was labelled a retard by his teachers, guidance counsel, classmates and the school principles for being “uneducable”. In other words, nobody could teach him anything and he disliked everyone around him. However, he found an interest in electronics and radio equipment and would spend his free time building radios in his mom basement! Later on, he had a successful career as a radio technician apprentice and chief electronics technician!
He only opened up to me because of my kind, easy going, and friendly personality! Everyone else just didn’t care or made quick judgements of him. I was amazed after that experience!
Thanks for bringing this up Dwayne. Two of my best friends fought in Vietnam. One of them got into drugs to cope. The other has the worst PTSD possible. I have a calming effect on him because I treat him with respect and listen. I am there for both of them and they would drop everything for me. I missed that war by a few months. I am younger than then. Peace and understanding to you.
Love from Serbia!!! That line with the trenches was the same one i speak every day to myself and others and I was shocked to hear it hear it from you Sir ! Keep it up, you are doing the Lords work with videos like these! God Bless to all of ya
You remind me of my dad so much. What a beautiful message. Thanks for sharing ❤
People under the age of 25 or so probably don’t even understand what grace is. They have been failed by the schools, the “leaders” of this country and their parents. And those parents are probably the first generation that weren’t shipped off to war. Our society is declining unfortunately, but I can appreciate this video and I hope this message gets out there and maybe it’ll make the difference.
It’s like listening to my dad talk, I love these videos thank you Sir we need more moments to reflect like this.
My dad is garbage and they day he dies I’ll pop a champagne bottle lmao
Every Generation of men ( including myself ) has served dating back to the Civil War to the Iraq and Afghanistan war that I served in. I totally understand what you are saying. I sometimes get totally immersed I'm my work and won't talk to my Wife about what's truly going on in my head. I will start. Thanks for the words!
One of the most realistic talks I've ever heard. My grandfather was totally disassociated from the society, he did not even work but had 6 children to feed. He did not even care about the family being in poverty. My grandmother on the other hand did whatever she could but my father ran away from home at 15 to search for a job. He started from scratch in a different city learning different languages. But my father is totally loving to us. Yes he had problems in his life but he did not turn out to be broken even after being brought up in such wretched condition 😭😭😭
My father came from world war 2 and got married and had 5 children..I remember him telling me what he did and what he saw. He described a horror picture of what he went through. I never spent most time with him as a child because he was always working to support the family. But he instilled in me much value of never giving up and being strong. Later in life as an adult when my father retired I got to spend a lot of time with him.. I'll always value his words and respect for how he did the best he could for the family.. what u said sir is so true about the lost generation and the baby boomers I'm one of them. I'm 66 now and still working. Thank u sir.
As the son of a Vietnam vet, who was in turn the son of a WWII vet, I feel this. Good topic, brother!
What a beautiful sober mind we are listening to!!! 👏🏾💙 I really love how you and your wife chose your words so carefully.
Thank you Dewayne. Earlier this month I was thinking about... umm, hmm. Ending 'it' ? And I had a hard time going through it because I don't have anyone I can talk to about it with confidentiality in place. Family is out of the question 'cause I do not want to worry them. Your videos, and other content I tend to watch has helped me maintain and stay level headed. I have found to like old hobbies again, I began going outside more often, taking care of my body, exercising and it has been quite a journey. I still have trouble when I think about being a man. I feel some sort of unecessary pressure to procreate and raise children under my name and I also feel this sort of urge that calls me towards nature, my curiosity peaks and I can't help but want more and more and more when it comes to knowledge and experience. I am still young. But I still crave it all.
The Lord is always listening my friend. But he can send someone like myself to remind you of that as well. 😉 Thing is,...are we listening to Him,...fully also? You're needed, you're valuable, and yes He's not done with you yet...so quit asking, start doing. Here's a sign. All glory to Him, Faithful and True! ☝️🙌🐑❤️
I can honestly say the same. I spent a good majority of my formative years wanting only to end it with no light at the tunnel and much the same I didn't want my family to worry so I never told any of em. I never really had a dad growing up so my mom was the one who raised me. My dad had his own demons like many out there do and never said anything about em. He never served far as I can tell but his side has a history of mental health issues. I spent the last 10 years of my life trying to somewhat fix and correct myself to a point where I can ask for the few issues I've still yet to resolve. And much the same I too have the same pressure to raise children even though I don't believe I'm mentally ready for it until I can completely lift the mental haze that has plagued me since my early teens. Like you I also have a tendency to want more when it comes to knowledge and experience. A calling to nature as well
Suicide is weakness my brother, you gonna die sooner or later anyway
One thing that I hope you can discover about life is how many times you can be surprised about its beauty. From the depths of the hardest or most bleak times, if one is lucky or determined, they can find new or precious reasons to enjoy life. I hope you find these reasons and feel like you can live with purpose. The world needs you
God is always with us but I understand because we have no physical humans with us. I dont even know what to say but to console you I just want to say I understand.
As a woman I Thankyou for speaking on this topic. Everyone needs to consider the wisdom you shared here. God bless you for sharing your wisdom.
Great reminder that you never know what someone is going through.
Thank you for all your wisdom. It's helping me right now more than I can possibly say.
Blessings, Dwayne. Thank you for taking the time. You are on point! PRESS ON!
Thank you for this video! Yes - we must give and have grace for the men in our lives. Your words brought back memories for me. In the early -80’s I was a young nursing student in a large metropolitan VA hospital. In the year of student life there I witnessed some of the horrific effects of PTSD on the veterans that were cared for in outpatient clinics. It was heartbreaking to see the struggles they endured. There was even a man in his sixties from world war 2 that was never far from reliving the horrors he endured. A lot of younger men that were veterans of Vietnam were out there alone without supportive families. They came into the clinic but much of their time was spent lost in their world of misery, alcohol and drugs. I could see glimpses of the men they were before being lost in the dark shadows. With your words I was remembering these particular men with clear pictures of them in my mind after more than 40 years. Much much more needs to be done for veterans as well as our current servicemen. I have tears of gratitude for their service. Each of us should never forget the human cost of their service. Thank you for your ever thoughtful messages in your videos.
You sir are an amazing with the way you speak, I sure wish I could of had this wisdom when I was younger,but now I'm gonna apply what I can now !! You are just incredible .thankyou🙏💞
I am from different country but I can relate to this. My both grandfathers fought in WW2. After the war they did not talk about what happened there and drank heavily in their free time. My father was very distant too and drank too much at his freetime. Now I drink bit too much too but I am very much involved with my kids and interested about their life and spend a lot of time with them. It may take many generations to heal from wartime traumas.
Great message today, men have always been disposable throughout history and we have suffered for it..
Merry Christmas to you and your family...
I think it’s horrific and incredibly sad that governments of the world send young men and women to fight their wars and do this to people who have tried to do it for the sake of ‘their country’. Great video sir!
My 82 year old dad had nightmares for decades from Vietnam. This past year he finally seemed more calm than I've ever seen him....cause he's loosing his memory.
The timing of this video could not have been more perfect. I have spent the last 2-3 hours thinking/watching videos and documentaries about war history in general feeling awful about the men (our ancestors..) that always go out to war. The horror most men have experienced in the last 150 years in astronomical, yet we still carry out these wars to this day. Some things will never change (at least not yet), and to see/hear others judge "boomers" based on what they know or think when they grew up in such a way is depressing., especially the further back you go. We are being ab*sed by greed and ignorance.
We all have to lift each other up no matter what, because we haven’t walked in their shoes. We all need compassion towards one another,. what you are talking about is generational curses That need to be broken by brave souls. Thank you Sir, much respect for your shares! Merry Christmas to you and yours!
I honestly wish more people would talk about this. Generational trauma is a deep wound lots of people carry. As a 34 year old from central europe with no war veterans in my family, I can't really join the commenters here in addressing that. But I would have a word or three on the war on men. I see so many people all over social media trying to push men into these tiny little pigeon holes. Calling men "weak", "lazy", "feminine" for opening up about their trauma, their stories, their upbringing. Not adhering to "the grind", not pushing themselves to work 12-15 hours per day, leaving behind their social lives or families.
In my country, even going to see a therapist is taboo, especially for a man. Staying home for a "maternity leave" is considered weak. Being a good father to your new baby and a good husband who helps his wife in one of the most difficult times of her life, is considered weak. What is this world we live in? I think more of men who will play with her daughter and a dollhouse than a man who will force his son to hold a toy rifle the moment he can sit up straight. Far, far more.
If only men - young and old - were allowed to express their feelings, to be themselves, to not have to act manly in front of the world and drown their traumas and struggles in alcohol or other addictions, leading them to pass their traumas on to their children. If only it was acceptable to perhaps not be deemed "a pussy" for not joining the military or being keen on fighting, a war or at a bar. Being a man is SO MUCH MORE than being an ape puffing out his chest whenever possible.
You’re describing what is commonly known as ‘toxic masculinity”:
Bravo. I am a Doctor who clears ptst for folks and this talk is PURE DEEP WISDOM!
DR. G
MERRY CHRISTMAS Duane and the very best to you and yours.
I have a niece and sister who have been struggling for years because of the abusive upbringing we all had growling up. I shared this video as well as a few other of your videos to my niece yesterday. She's been binge watching them and your videos have helped them with understanding many things they couldn't understand or deal with. I am 69 years old and have been struggling with many things for years as well. Your way of explaining and your understanding of things is of immense value and I know that you have helped many people out there that have been struggling as well. THANK YOU SOOOO VERY MUCH. May God richly bless you and your family and may you have many more years of health and prosperity. Thank you
I'm 32 years old and my father was a Vietnam veteran. He fought in the 173rd airborne in some of the worst battles of the war. My mom's dad fought in WW2, Korea and Vietnam. He died in Vietnam from a heart attack (by that age he was behind the lines). Not only did you make me put into perspective my father's point of view, and how it has affected me but how much my mom's father affected her and how much she had to overcome when raising me, and dealing with my father at the same time. Thank you for giving me perspective.
Well said! Every politician in Washington DC should hear this video.
Brought tears to my eyes. Thank you for allowing God to work through you.
My father escaped the USSR. The stories he told me about his life and his father’s life were horrid. You can even go back to WW2 and see how relentlessly traumatizing their lives were. My great grandfather never talked about his time in the army or surviving the holocaust. There’s so much strength in your ancestors, so you must respect them.
probably because the "holocaust" was greatly exaggerated.
ya but this generation has the internet, smart phones & social media...
they think they've ascended to godhood of knowledge & understanding
then complain that school didn't teach them how to balance a check book, civilization is doa.
Thanks for sharing, Dewayne. No one knows what others have gone through, but they're awful quick to judge us despite that.
I took my lumps on deployment in the early 2000's (⛩⛩⛩), like so many men my age, having lost a few buddies and having seen a few more get wounded, usually via IEDs. My grandfather saw some real shit in WW2 as well, though he never talked about it. My father didn't escape his dad's trauma (and thus inflicted it upon my brother and I), and my kids haven't escaped mine. I'm truly trying to deal with my own baggage to make a better life for myself, my kids, and my wife, but every day is a challenge.
I'll never go down the path of self-pity, but I'm glad that I at least exist in a time where I have access to mental healthcare and the societal stigma for seeking such care isn't nearly as bad as it once was. I couldn't imagine having zero support beyond drinking buddies or condemning myself to work ridiculous hours. My kids haven't had the easiest time dealing with the repercussions of my own post-traumatic stress, anxiety, etc., which all bloomed to the surface after my time in the sandbox. But I have and continue to try to make myself better, more patient, more compassionate, and less angry at all of the things which surround me for the kids and my wife.
I make sure I am involved in their school, their martial arts, their sports, and other activities. I may not always enjoy those things, but I make the effort for their sake. I try to talk to my young children about how awful war is and always will be, and about the camaraderie and pride I maintain after having served with outstanding soldiers, despite our differences and trials. I teach them to think, to use their logic and reasoning, to not rush to judgment, and to consider others' perspectives. Most importantly, I want them to avoid the pitfalls I've encountered, so they can build better lives for themselves and eventually their families.
One day at a time, one generation at a time. That's how we make humanity better for all of us.
Another great video as always Dewayne. I'm a young 22 year old from Denmark and have wanted to cowboy as long as I can remember. I just wanted to tell you that your videos have helped me to keep chasing that life. Especially your videos about adjusting your expectations and taking responsibility for your own situation. If all goes well I'll have a bachelor degree in about 3-4 years, which makes me eligible for a visa. When I get back to Denmark from working in another country, I'll be taking woodworking lessons to hopefully make me a more attractive hire. Prober horse-riding lessons are hard to come by here, so that will have to wait. Anyways, just wanted to thank you for making these videos.
Thank you sir God bless🇺🇲🥲
Too bad we can’t see this in our twenties. We have to live life and get hurt to realize others are hurting too☹️
Serving infantry officer, here. Recently discovered your excellent channel (through Allen Harrelson’s ‘Pipe Cottage’) - just subscribed! Well said, sir. Greetings from Greece.
Uplifting talk this morning. Much appreciated. Taking time to understand the "why" behind people's behaviors goes a long way. I have found it almost always boils down to how you put it, that the child didn't have anyone to fill in the hole, to love them and raise them properly.
You're the man among men, and we veterans salute you for the recognition of our "issues."
Thanks for your message. I think as parents we want the next generation to be more successful. We work to change some bad things and treat our parents with love and understanding.
My grandfather on my dad’s side was a doctor and taken at gunpoint by the Japanese to treat their wounded. He also snuck off to treat American soldiers. His family left their home and hid in caves. My dad told me how some older boys chased them away when they found a bomb in a river. Those kids died when it detonated. He had nightmares all his life from these experiences. My mother’s dad was in the Bataan death march and presumed dead. She was raised by a foster family because her mother couldn’t take care of her. Her father returned some time later after his wife had moved on and remarried. My parents came to the US and did their best to make a life and raise a family.
Your page is a breath of fresh air. As a man learning and currently growing, your words clear the fog.
Thank you to all our blessed veterans and servicemen. I am grateful for your protection and dedication. Prayers for you all at this holy time of year. 🕊