Hey guys hope this was helpful! Leave me a comment with your thoughts? Be sure to check out my brand new masterclass on the 5 Proven Steps to Rebuilding Your Relationship/Marriage. (Warning: Spots are limited) 💪 Here is the link to the MASTERCLASS! -> relationshipsmastered.com/masterclass 🎁 Download the FREE GUIDE! -> relationshipsmastered.com/healing-partner-emotions 🗣 Join the FB Group! -> facebook.com/groups/1032426806961329/ 🎉 To see how all my clients have achieved massive success through dire & hopeless circumstances, click here! ruclips.net/p/PLQ8tvyhQlPzsNm-vC_g_8SWGcJRngefgU
This video is NOT long enough! I've been following your channel for just over 1 month. Catching up on previous videos and I'm still trying to put all in perspective. I will say this..... It is unbelievable how much I've learned. About relationships that "I knew everything" about. Astonishing work. Geoffrey 👍🏽
Why can I give space? I've pushed her further away tonight because I can't leave her alone on the subject of what does space look like I can't walk away most of the time and I'm gonna lose ber
Right now I’m at the stage where she is angry and don’t believe my changes and don’t believe I truly loved her and instead of me losing control emotionally and I’m staying persistent and doing the work and be understanding on how she felt without telling her to “believe me or trust me.” Coming from a place that’s genuine cause I want to be better for myself and her long term. Thank you for videos man and keep up the work , joining your class soon.
Great, here is reminder of what your partner will need to see from you in order for her to truly believe in your changes. Also remember to ask yourself. 1) Are my changes the right changes? 2) Are they massive enough? 3) Are my changes permanent? ruclips.net/video/hwzvQEm6YAU/видео.html
Geoffrey has a deep understanding of human physiology. He says he helps men, but this is just as good for a female human being. It goes way deeper into the human mind than men sabotaging their marriages ❤
I love the way you think Geoffrey. Whenerver I listen to you, hope is rekindled within me. Other teachings just depress and discourage me, making me feel like there's nothing I can do. I think many a time, its these archaic ideas that cause people to break up, and these mental blocks that stem from incorrect ways of thinking. But once one has the right information, I think things get much easier.
The last 5 minutes of this video hit hard ive grown bitter over her breaking up with me and thinking about the possibilities of her hooking up with other guys and exploring her options but I realize now I have to treat her like another human not a robot that would just depend on me that hit hard :/ THANK you for all your videos will try to catch a masterclass tomorrow
She is definitely in the resistance stage…she text me at 1220AM…just a small conversation and then was good and responsive. But is still about the divorce, yet I can see the changes. This guy is for real. Better yourself for yourself and not the other person
I can understand these principles. I'm finding it difficult to work through these, however, as we have children and I keep emotionally struggling with the impact our current separation is having on them.
Yup we understand the challenge of this journey, which is why our program prioritizies the internal shifts first, before anything else. If you paid attention in the video, you'll see that the difficulty is often caused by tetheredness, and the tetheredness is most likely the core reasons why the relationships has broken down in the first place!
@@ted2136 I'm afraid I don't have any advice. I moved out, which has had some benefits, but I still have to see her everyday as we move the children between us. I've also not handled this text book style. I've broken down and pleaded many times. I'm not ashamed of that but it's really not helped.
Hey Jeffrey what’s happening brother, been following your stuff for quite some time now and I’ve been thinking how about if you made some videos coming from the wife’s perspective of how your program has changed the husbands for the better and what they now experience. Or even going back to some of your very first couples to see how they’re doing now with their testimonial. Getting closer to joining your program
Hi Fernando, Great suggestions and yes I will be sure to add this to my content ideas. Currently I just started doing 2 part interviews starting with this one below. So I can show viewers what the journey looks like in the first one and then the results in the second interview. ruclips.net/video/NUagwulpCJI/видео.html
Hi Aisha Musa, Around 20% of the 1500 clients I enroll annually are female. The information I teach works for any person, any gender, any culture. The process never changes.
Hi Geoffrey. Thks for your reply. My situation: I filed for divorce cos I found out the husband had 3 affairs. Reason for affairs: he said he cannot communicate with me. I admit i'm a tough nut to crack. I'm an introvert by nature. At this point, I have no intention to stay with him because he did not show any remorse and did nothing to save the marriage. But I have 2 young boys, and I want to improve my communication skills with them and everyone around me. So is this the right course for me?
It only becomes too much when you have to get your own place. Yet, financially are expected to still pay the mortgage and provide for a home you’re not living in
First to comment...it just happens we broke up today morning men for the second time since January....I think loving her is a losing game...we just ain't meant to be
If you actually watched the video, you're basically saying to yourself "Yeap - I don't have what it takes, and I don't really deserve to reconcile". And that is okay - not everyone does. But again, understand that these are lifelong skills you cannot avoid learning. So you might be able to use your negative attitude to excuse yourself from doing the work now, but know that the same problems will keep perpetuating until you learn the lessons you need to learn. But hey, it's your life, and the way you want to live it is completely up to you!
Thank you so much Geff! You helped me so much I'm joining on your class soon. Still I need to practice my English communication because I can't speak English fluently.
I've been watching your videos for quite a while now, and I must say that your content is so rich and complex that I've actually taken the values and principles and started to apply them. I truly appreciate you for that. I do have one question though, so if she tells you that she's made up her mind and don't want to be with you and has developed limerance with someone, what can you do to override her decision so that she can come back to you?
Love it! glad you are enjoying my content. I have a video detailing out just what you must do when dealing with a situation just like this. *Spoiler* Nothing changes, but check out the video and let me know what you must do. ruclips.net/video/nCLyCji33V4/видео.html
damn, I really gotta save to invest in myself by taking these classes, I wanna feel like I'm growing as a person, I'm getting no where on my own or if I am it's baby steps :/
I'm on the stage that she is gone with another female I'm going through a lot I can't sleep I feel lost idk how else to feel or how to deal with this I love my wife with all my heart and soul can you help me
What if you and your spouse still live together due to finances. You have kids together and she is currently in limerence with someone else. I am working on myself, but how do I go about ensure she has her space when we still currently depend on each other to live.
Hi Relaxing Sounds, Have you seen my many videos on how to artfully give your partner space when they have asked for it? Here is just one to check out, there are many more, also, be sure to follow these up with any questions you may have. ruclips.net/video/f4APw5oevCs/видео.html
Geoffrey what happens tho when you do the Changes and it feels like the attraction is lowering, almost like she feels she’s got you too easily, I kind of feel that with my still wife, she’s noticed the changes but I feel Like she’s manlier and I’m more feminine now ..
Will your program work if she has already moved out and we divorced 10 months ago? We have 2 children together and we are still in touch. I have worked a lot with myself and she sees my changes but says it is too late. Is there anything in your program that can make me an even better man and that might make my ex see me again?
Hi Danny, This questions reminds me of Scott when he first reached out to me. Be sure to check out his story and see if you are going through a similar situation. ruclips.net/video/lZ067u3t4Z8/видео.html
I have a question so do you believe that even if you’re married that you should allow your spouse to explore other avenues even if it becomes a sexual relationship …….. and what is your take it that avenue was already explored previously?
I am probably going to get bashed for saying this, but yes (I don't subscribe to dogmatic or traditional views of what marriage & relationships are supposed to be - those dogmatic and traditional values, in my opinion, lead to a lot of suppressed and unhappy relationships). The worst kind of marriage is one where both people are super unhappy but feel obligated to stay in the marriage to keep up with appearances, or because some piece of paper tells them to. Again - give your partner enough freedom so she can leave if she wants to, but treat her well enough so she won't want to. The answer is quite simple - if she is not saying "fuck yes" to you, and not able to surrender to her decision to spend her one and ONLY life with you, then you have to ask... Have I actually become irreplaceable? Do I actually understand what it truly means to become irreplaceable? This is especially true if you have explored other relationships previously, but your partner still finds that she cannot commit fully to you.
@@nothanks2023 Self-respect and self love has nothing to do with strong-arming and forcing your partner to stay. If you DEMAND that your partner stay with you, regardless of how unhappy she is... If you are unable to even look within and see your own faults when your partner wans to get out of the relationship... If you rob yourself of the opportunity to become irreplaceable because you're too afraid to admit that you may not be... Do you really have self-esteem? Or just pseudo, macho, hyper-masculine BS? I'll let you decide for yourself. I have a lot of videos and interviews regarding this topic, so if you really care for an answer, I am sure you can find many through my videos!
This can't be applied to anybody. There is truth to what you say, but there are some marriages that are not just meant to be. They can't be saved. And even if you do the work the new you may not be your ex is first choice. That does not mean you made the wrong changes necessarely. That might mean that that person is just not for you I believe im growth but i also believe in the wright person. You place all the blame and fault on the person that is left. And that is not accured, i bet that most of your clients are man. Which means is also gender specific. I do recognise value on the things you teach i just think there is more to it than it meets the eye or hear.
If It takes another 3 to 6 MORE months of your partner resisting you, all I see is disaster. Maybe I'm misunderstanding, but resisting means no sexual activity whatsoever. Google even agrees with long periods of time can cause health issues in men. She better have some fire down there to go that long. That's like a full-term pregnancy amount of time
I went on a meditation retreat where I did not have sex or ejaculate for 14 months. And my body and mind was fine. In fact, that taught me a valuable lesson where it allowed me to get away from NEEDING sex to WANTING sex... And that, ironically, has been amazing for our sex life. We're having more sex, and better sex, even almost a decade into our relationship. Why? Because coming to sex from a place of WANT and not NEED creates the right environment for passion to flourish. I discussed this in many of my videos. But if you're sure of your approach, then go for it!
Hi elias escobar, To me it seems like there are so many of those already on RUclips. Have you tried applying the same principles I teach to your own relationship regardless of the length of it?
Hey guys hope this was helpful! Leave me a comment with your thoughts? Be sure to check out my brand new masterclass on the 5 Proven Steps to Rebuilding Your Relationship/Marriage. (Warning: Spots are limited)
💪 Here is the link to the MASTERCLASS! -> relationshipsmastered.com/masterclass
🎁 Download the FREE GUIDE! -> relationshipsmastered.com/healing-partner-emotions
🗣 Join the FB Group! -> facebook.com/groups/1032426806961329/
🎉 To see how all my clients have achieved massive success through dire & hopeless circumstances, click here! ruclips.net/p/PLQ8tvyhQlPzsNm-vC_g_8SWGcJRngefgU
This video is NOT long enough! I've been following your channel for just over 1 month. Catching up on previous videos and I'm still trying to put all in perspective. I will say this..... It is unbelievable how much I've learned. About relationships that "I knew everything" about. Astonishing work. Geoffrey 👍🏽
Why can I give space? I've pushed her further away tonight because I can't leave her alone on the subject of what does space look like I can't walk away most of the time and I'm gonna lose ber
15:07 15:10 15:22
Right now I’m at the stage where she is angry and don’t believe my changes and don’t believe I truly loved her and instead of me losing control emotionally and I’m staying persistent and doing the work and be understanding on how she felt without telling her to “believe me or trust me.” Coming from a place that’s genuine cause I want to be better for myself and her long term. Thank you for videos man and keep up the work , joining your class soon.
Great, here is reminder of what your partner will need to see from you in order for her to truly believe in your changes.
Also remember to ask yourself.
1) Are my changes the right changes?
2) Are they massive enough?
3) Are my changes permanent?
ruclips.net/video/hwzvQEm6YAU/видео.html
Geoffrey has a deep understanding of human physiology. He says he helps men, but this is just as good for a female human being. It goes way deeper into the human mind than men sabotaging their marriages ❤
I love the way you think Geoffrey. Whenerver I listen to you, hope is rekindled within me. Other teachings just depress and discourage me, making me feel like there's nothing I can do. I think many a time, its these archaic ideas that cause people to break up, and these mental blocks that stem from incorrect ways of thinking. But once one has the right information, I think things get much easier.
The last 5 minutes of this video hit hard ive grown bitter over her breaking up with me and thinking about the possibilities of her hooking up with other guys and exploring her options but I realize now I have to treat her like another human not a robot that would just depend on me that hit hard :/ THANK you for all your videos will try to catch a masterclass tomorrow
She is definitely in the resistance stage…she text me at 1220AM…just a small conversation and then was good and responsive. But is still about the divorce, yet I can see the changes.
This guy is for real. Better yourself for yourself and not the other person
I can understand these principles. I'm finding it difficult to work through these, however, as we have children and I keep emotionally struggling with the impact our current separation is having on them.
Yup we understand the challenge of this journey, which is why our program prioritizies the internal shifts first, before anything else.
If you paid attention in the video, you'll see that the difficulty is often caused by tetheredness, and the tetheredness is most likely the core reasons why the relationships has broken down in the first place!
@@ted2136 I'm afraid I don't have any advice. I moved out, which has had some benefits, but I still have to see her everyday as we move the children between us.
I've also not handled this text book style. I've broken down and pleaded many times. I'm not ashamed of that but it's really not helped.
Great video! It makes me think that you need to prioritize impact over intention. Boy is that hard!
Hey Jeffrey what’s happening brother, been following your stuff for quite some time now and I’ve been thinking how about if you made some videos coming from the wife’s perspective of how your program has changed the husbands for the better and what they now experience. Or even going back to some of your very first couples to see how they’re doing now with their testimonial. Getting closer to joining your program
Hi Fernando,
Great suggestions and yes I will be sure to add this to my content ideas.
Currently I just started doing 2 part interviews starting with this one below. So I can show viewers what the journey looks like in the first one and then the results in the second interview.
ruclips.net/video/NUagwulpCJI/видео.html
More golden information.
Hi. What about advice for women going through marriage / relationship problems?
Hi Aisha Musa,
Around 20% of the 1500 clients I enroll annually are female. The information I teach works for any person, any gender, any culture. The process never changes.
Hi Geoffrey. Thks for your reply.
My situation:
I filed for divorce cos I found out the husband had 3 affairs. Reason for affairs: he said he cannot communicate with me. I admit i'm a tough nut to crack. I'm an introvert by nature. At this point, I have no intention to stay with him because he did not show any remorse and did nothing to save the marriage.
But I have 2 young boys, and I want to improve my communication skills with them and everyone around me.
So is this the right course for me?
It only becomes too much when you have to get your own place. Yet, financially are expected to still pay the mortgage and provide for a home you’re not living in
Does cases he dosen't mention
First to comment...it just happens we broke up today morning men for the second time since January....I think loving her is a losing game...we just ain't meant to be
If you actually watched the video, you're basically saying to yourself "Yeap - I don't have what it takes, and I don't really deserve to reconcile". And that is okay - not everyone does.
But again, understand that these are lifelong skills you cannot avoid learning. So you might be able to use your negative attitude to excuse yourself from doing the work now, but know that the same problems will keep perpetuating until you learn the lessons you need to learn.
But hey, it's your life, and the way you want to live it is completely up to you!
@@GeoffreySetiawan Thank you for wake up call....I know we still love each other...I will watch the video and learn....
Thank you so much Geff! You helped me so much I'm joining on your class soon. Still I need to practice my English communication because I can't speak English fluently.
Love it!!!
thank you geoffrey
I've been watching your videos for quite a while now, and I must say that your content is so rich and complex that I've actually taken the values and principles and started to apply them. I truly appreciate you for that. I do have one question though, so if she tells you that she's made up her mind and don't want to be with you and has developed limerance with someone, what can you do to override her decision so that she can come back to you?
Love it! glad you are enjoying my content.
I have a video detailing out just what you must do when dealing with a situation just like this.
*Spoiler* Nothing changes, but check out the video and let me know what you must do.
ruclips.net/video/nCLyCji33V4/видео.html
damn, I really gotta save to invest in myself by taking these classes, I wanna feel like I'm growing as a person, I'm getting no where on my own or if I am it's baby steps :/
I'm on the stage that she is gone with another female I'm going through a lot I can't sleep I feel lost idk how else to feel or how to deal with this I love my wife with all my heart and soul can you help me
I did change
Very good one
Love u G
What if you and your spouse still live together due to finances. You have kids together and she is currently in limerence with someone else. I am working on myself, but how do I go about ensure she has her space when we still currently depend on each other to live.
Hi Relaxing Sounds,
Have you seen my many videos on how to artfully give your partner space when they have asked for it?
Here is just one to check out, there are many more, also, be sure to follow these up with any questions you may have.
ruclips.net/video/f4APw5oevCs/видео.html
Geoffrey what happens tho when you do the Changes and it feels like the attraction is lowering, almost like she feels she’s got you too easily, I kind of feel that with my still wife, she’s noticed the changes but I feel
Like she’s manlier and I’m more feminine now ..
Then you have the wrong changes :)
Good day can i join with ur class ?
Will your program work if she has already moved out and we divorced 10 months ago? We have 2 children together and we are still in touch. I have worked a lot with myself and she sees my changes but says it is too late. Is there anything in your program that can make me an even better man and that might make my ex see me again?
Hi Danny,
This questions reminds me of Scott when he first reached out to me. Be sure to check out his story and see if you are going through a similar situation.
ruclips.net/video/lZ067u3t4Z8/видео.html
I am very desperate to get in contact with you I'm 16 I can't afford the program but I need it so kindly tell me what to do sir
I have a question so do you believe that even if you’re married that you should allow your spouse to explore other avenues even if it becomes a sexual relationship …….. and what is your take it that avenue was already explored previously?
I am probably going to get bashed for saying this, but yes (I don't subscribe to dogmatic or traditional views of what marriage & relationships are supposed to be - those dogmatic and traditional values, in my opinion, lead to a lot of suppressed and unhappy relationships).
The worst kind of marriage is one where both people are super unhappy but feel obligated to stay in the marriage to keep up with appearances, or because some piece of paper tells them to.
Again - give your partner enough freedom so she can leave if she wants to, but treat her well enough so she won't want to.
The answer is quite simple - if she is not saying "fuck yes" to you, and not able to surrender to her decision to spend her one and ONLY life with you, then you have to ask...
Have I actually become irreplaceable?
Do I actually understand what it truly means to become irreplaceable?
This is especially true if you have explored other relationships previously, but your partner still finds that she cannot commit fully to you.
@@nothanks2023 Self-respect and self love has nothing to do with strong-arming and forcing your partner to stay.
If you DEMAND that your partner stay with you, regardless of how unhappy she is...
If you are unable to even look within and see your own faults when your partner wans to get out of the relationship...
If you rob yourself of the opportunity to become irreplaceable because you're too afraid to admit that you may not be...
Do you really have self-esteem? Or just pseudo, macho, hyper-masculine BS?
I'll let you decide for yourself.
I have a lot of videos and interviews regarding this topic, so if you really care for an answer, I am sure you can find many through my videos!
Am I supposed to let her be in stage 5 and let her sleep around to eventually confirm she wants to be with me?
This can't be applied to anybody.
There is truth to what you say, but there are some marriages that are not just meant to be.
They can't be saved.
And even if you do the work the new you may not be your ex is first choice. That does not mean you made the wrong changes necessarely. That might mean that that person is just not for you
I believe im growth but i also believe in the wright person.
You place all the blame and fault on the person that is left. And that is not accured, i bet that most of your clients are man.
Which means is also gender specific.
I do recognise value on the things you teach i just think there is more to it than it meets the eye or hear.
If It takes another 3 to 6 MORE months of your partner resisting you, all I see is disaster. Maybe I'm misunderstanding, but resisting means no sexual activity whatsoever. Google even agrees with long periods of time can cause health issues in men. She better have some fire down there to go that long. That's like a full-term pregnancy amount of time
I went on a meditation retreat where I did not have sex or ejaculate for 14 months. And my body and mind was fine.
In fact, that taught me a valuable lesson where it allowed me to get away from NEEDING sex to WANTING sex...
And that, ironically, has been amazing for our sex life. We're having more sex, and better sex, even almost a decade into our relationship.
Why?
Because coming to sex from a place of WANT and not NEED creates the right environment for passion to flourish.
I discussed this in many of my videos.
But if you're sure of your approach, then go for it!
Do you think it's possible to break through limerence by following this process of self-improvement?
Come check out my approach when you are in this situation and what you can do to start reversing things.
ruclips.net/video/nCLyCji33V4/видео.html
can you do a short term relationship video
Hi elias escobar,
To me it seems like there are so many of those already on RUclips. Have you tried applying the same principles I teach to your own relationship regardless of the length of it?