Anybody else being an ISFJ that has problems voicing their opinion to people in fear of causing an argument or turbulence? I know i am, and i hope i can get better at it, my opinion does matter :(
Sounds so simple yet it is so hard. Sure i can voice my opinion under deaf ears but i really want to make them change their opinion because i know they are wrong. Fear of confrontation stops me from doing anything.
I have said that aswell and it works. But you still end up as the guy with no opinions. If i continue to say that to the same people they will eventually stop taking me seriously. But saying that is what works the most.
Both yes, and no. I have a "threshold of closeness" of which people I allow to instill that fear in me. When it comes to those very close to me, like long-time friends or family, that fear is very real. To the majority of my good friends, acquaintances, work colleagues, etc. I have no fear. For the most part, in the instances where I've given up speaking out to close friends or family, it has been over issues that have been argued over for years and years, to the point where the pain of the conflict has become greater than the pain I am speaking up over. It's not worth it at that point to argue.
As an ISFJ, I’m quite social for an introvert, I love meeting new people and my introverted side usually appears when there’s a large group of people where I tend to be more of the observant and calm type. As much as I love people, I prefer working alone when it comes to studying or serious stuff. But sharing the results and enjoying my time after, I love to do it among my people. A lot of people might say ISFJ’s are routine people, but I like trying new stuff and experimenting.
Introvert doesn't mean u don't like new people at all...I like talking to new people but mainly on social media...in real life too I like then but I can't be the 1st one to approach them
The worst part of being an ISFJ Is that it’s essy to suddenly feel like your being taken advantage of . When you finally muster the courage to speak your mind the other person has a blooming fit. It’s like where did this come from ? Well, it’s been there all along but I get caught up in helping the other person despite my misgivings. When I feel comfortable enough to express myself it’s usually to late and met with negativity furthering the cycle
Exactly!!! I hold my tongue for almost 29 years! because of tough periods I feel like I'm losing th ebattle with my inner self and social media isn't good 'cause on social media I can speak my mind but now someone I've known for 16 years has blocked me 'cause I changed to a bad person she said. I'm still me but I'm done with some bullshit from others.
As an ISFJ, I go out of my way to make others happy. Don't really get the same back as I do not have an assertive personality. I hate making others uncomfortable and I am very sensitive and perceptive to others emotions. I am also a very good reader of others. I tend to meet someone and know straight away whether I will like them or not. I am very set in stone with my morals and viewpoints too, which I guess makes me quite a judgmental person. But I balance it out by thinking of others point of view too, in order to not upset them. I think being an ISFJ is not the best personality type to have as its emotionally exhausting pleasing everyone. but it's great to have someone with this personality as your friend, because we are kind hearted people ☺️
Within the same paragraph you are first claiming to be "the best" but also claiming that you have low self-esteem. Those two things are contradictory. People who have low self-esteem don't think they are "the best". Rather, they worry that they are the worst.
As an ISFJ, this video has completely made my day. I sometimes doubt my type because of the way it is portrayed but when I see the full picture, as shown in this video I don't doubt it one bit. The only thing that is different is the 'warm and friendly' thing - I am warm and friendly to a point, but it would most certainly not be the first thing someone would notice about me, especially if they don't know me. I really appreciated how this video acknowledged the realism/cynical side of the ISFJ, because I've never really seen that before said by anyone else, even though it's one of my most definitive personality traits. Thanks so much for this video!!
My mother is an isfj and she can seem pretty stand offish but once you get to know her she's very sweet. But i know what you mean, there is also this distinct brashness that comes out sometimes.
ISFJ's are absolutely amazing. My mother had to deal with a lot of my personal problems (I'm an INFJ with terrible anxiety), and while she never really understood what anxiety really was, she would offer me comfort in the ways that she did know how to help me. My ISFJ mother also took care of me to the best of her ability after my father abandoned us due to alcoholism, and she would work overtime just to make sure I can dream. Seriously, you ISFJ's are some of the most loyal, powerful, and committed people. ISFJ's deserve more appreciation, because you make the world a safer place :).
You know, for ISFJ to be the most common personality type, I don’t think I’ve ever found anyone who is as moved by the external as I am. I’ve never expressed a passionate reaction to something that’s seemingly unimportant without it being met with funny looks and misalignment. Other ppl just don’t feel as strongly about humans, art, subtlety, philosophies, comedy as I do. Other ppl don’t relate to the level of sensitivity that I feel in SUCH strong, intense ways. Anyone else??
Is ISFJ one of the rarer personality types? Because I feel like I never meet people that remind me of me or that I connect with on a truly satisfying level. Don't even asking me about my dating life. It's like people don't get me.
According to some studies, ISFJ is in fact the most prominent of all types. However, that doesn't mean that you can find one right around the corner. More people is extrovert than they are introvert, for example.
Every ISFJ is vastly different due to subjective nature of Si. Don't believe all those people that say Si is all about memory & tradition. It's much more complex than that. Every SJ type has the most variability compared to types from other temperament
It's actually very common. I think about 16% of the U.S. population are ISFJ. I took the mbti about five years ago at junior college and got ISFJ. I was surprised. I remember thinking, "There's no way that's my personality type. I'm not popular! I don't have friends." I then proceeded to retake it several times. I thought for years that INFP was the closest fit. I have finally accepted that I am ISFJ. It only took 5 years.
I agree. I don't know people like me, with the same thoughts and personality. I think ISFJ should be a rare personality type, I don't trust statistics.
My mom is an isfj and she’s the nicest person i’ve ever known and she deals with a lot of shit. she’s so tough i don’t know how she does it but she’s like super woman. i admire her so much
As an ESFP, I really appreciate you ISFJs. And since I have so many ISFJs in my live to be thankful for, I know you guys appreciate some appreciation. :)
I was watching a video of a kid throwing a tantrum on a plane that lasted for 8 hours the other day and I felt really sorry for the mother having to put up with it and not being able to make him stop and then I scrolled down to the comments and every single one was so hostile and nasty towards the mother saying that she was a bad mother, that it's the parents fault the kid was like that, that the kid needed a good smack and so many other cruel things and I was taken aback at the lack of understanding and empathy towards her. I've just realised from watching this video that I felt the way I felt because of my ISFJ nature. It saddened me that so many people where just out to judge and be mean.
I'm an INTJ. Someone's feelings are irrelevant. It's a question of responsibility and people have the right to complain on a paid flight if someone was disturbing them. It's one thing if a baby cries occasionally and another if it's an all-time nuisance.
I'm an isfj but if I was on that plane oh god I would have lost my mind, if it's not the parents fault then who's fault is it? The kid? Kids don't even understand what they do.
I'm an ISFJ Male and also an Aquarius with Libra rising. This video was nice to see because it does represent me very well when I'm not depressed and under a low frequency. I grew up with not many friends so trying to keep things harmonious and looking out for the underdog is a result of that. I try to treat people the way I wasn't treated growing up, because I hated the feeling of being ostracized. t think being this way makes it harder to relate to people and in turn also makes me harder on myself. It's a blessing and a curse.
Blessing or curse, It depends on the lessons of life you learned as of the moment. I view this now as a blessing for me for i'm see the benefits i have from others and use the weakness i have to turn it to my favor. For example I never talk or participate on a group activity at first because i like observing things first. I'll only act and speak when the time needs it. This is my way of becoming a man better than others. ISFJ male here, Gemini and year of the Dog.
Yeah I know what you mean exactly as an ISFJ Male!!!! Yepper. It is what it is. It seems we are this type and isfj (males) are like this, often. lonely to some extent and mistreated by family/relatives MAYBE... Etc... Anyway I am Libra my horoschope I was born in September. Im not that into astrology more than that.
Also I believe that ISFJ's are not actually introvert type. I, for one, am an ambivert. I can interact with other people like extroverts but only for limited time. I spend my energies on worthy people and on worthy things that I know.
Frederick N True, true... I mean I am an Introvert . But it doesnt mean I cant socialize or dont like to talk to people at all. The energy resource is real, fo shure...
My mother is an ISFJ and this vid made me cry. (Im an ENFP lol) She is so self sacrificing and this video made me think of her in so many new ways, you described her perfectly. She is so quick to say “its my fault” and blame herself if there is conflict in the house. I feel like its cause the fact that she gets impressions on things instantly but if she fails to voice them out of fear of intruding others wants, she will be quick to blame herself if things don’t end up well. Its like you guys have future vision which means you guys may feel an incredible amount of responsibility towards outcomes as well. That is so selfless I love it🩵 keep being you! Yall bring an incredible amount of value to those around you fr!!
I love the explanation of how the INFJ sees the world through impressions. I’ve never heard this before but can relate. I have a hard time explaining my point of view when I’m trying to reason with someone. I hate arguing so will not push my opinions but at the same time know in my gut that I’ve got valid points. This video really helped me understand myself much better.
I’m an INFJ and I have a special relationship with ISFJs. My mom and three of my closest friends are ISFJs. They are the sweetest, most comforting and understanding people and I absolutely cherish them. They crack up at my “deep thoughts”. I bring them to see life in a new way and sometimes blow their minds. When I’m feeling upset about something I always go to my ISFJ peeps. They help calm me and keep me in perspective. My life would not be the same without my ISFJ pillars. 💗 I only have to be on guard about the nervous pessimism that sometimes comes through and can affect me, but I’m already aware and understanding of that. I also have to be careful about burdening them too much. I told my mom, you would cut off your arm for me. She said, yes I would! I said, I have to watch out for you. 😱😂
guys I'm infp and an isfj girl broke my fucking heart. She suggested that we go out for my birthday and she took me to this very romantic top of a hill from where you could see the sunset. I really really really liked her so I just said fuck it and confessed my love for her and to my surprise... SHE SAID SHE LIKED ME BACK. So she told that we should have a relationship but start off slow (which is fine by me if not better so I accepted)... Two hours after our date I texted her about stuff but she didn't reply(whilst replying to other friend and school groups I was in). I had a really bad feeling and intuitively knew where this was going but I couldn't admit it to myshelf so I stayed up all night wondering what else could have happened. The next day came along and I had received no message from her so I just said fuck it she is probably confused and tried to finish my homework with as much concentration as I had left.during the afternoon she called me... But instead of her normal heartwarmning apology I got a very very strict cold and absolute response to my questions : "i dont want a relationship anymore i got into a fight with my friend (a male esfp) yesterday after we left and i just lost all faith in people in general)". I was absolutely heartbroken! The next day came around and was very very shocked. I saw 20 people that we knew, but was more friends with her than me, mock me relentlessly and say things such as" i think rejection hurts "and "he is probably so sad right now" all this while laughing their faces out and staring at me in a pityfull way. I was deveastated so i stopped talking to the girl forever because this cost me a lot... I even went to a phychologist and a phychiatrist to help me cope with the pain she caused me without no reason at all while i thought she was my soulmate..... After all that she tried talking to me a few times just to get me to think of her even saying she wants to hang out again but then stoped all contact... Im once again great now after like 8 months have gone by But I just wanted to write this to remind people that isfj(and any personallity type for that matter can be evil and very hurt full if they are unhealthy enough) If you open up your hurt to some one just because they are the empathetic ones of the mbti (infp, enfp, infj, enfj, isfp, esfj, isfj) you might just end up like me... Hurtbroken and lonely.... Judge hearts not types people!
I’m an INFP but my mum is an ISFJ and while I love my mum we can’t seem to get along well, there’s some kind of communication problem. So I made my mum do a personality test and now I’m searching about isfj to try to understand my mum and communicate better with her.
I’m an ISFJ and my boyfriend is an INTP. Communication is definitely something we need to work on but we’ve been dating for 2 years and found a way to make it work. He keeps me from being to overly sensitive and I keep him from being too insensitive.
This is helping me see the real value of the ISFJ beyond the politically correct (not sure I am using the right phrasing here) sugary but not so useful portraits that do not penetrate into the psyche of the ISFJ. I actually feel like listening more to ISFJs now and asking for their opinion. Thank you!
I'm sorry but I'm not sure that this video is entirely accurate. I don't mean to be rude. From everything I've read, 2:13 - 2:30 is quite the opposite. Most pages say ISFJs are very stuck to their own beliefs. 2:40 - 4:20 This is absolutely INFJ stuff right here. ISFJs are more about concrete facts and details whereas INFJs are the ones who have that '6th sense' because of their iNtuition. That's essentially what intuition is -- knowing without necessarily having concrete facts to back it up but still being right. INFJs are the ones who get general impressions about how things feel. Again, I'm not trying to be hostile, just to keep things I feel are important clear.
Thanks, I was listening to the video and all the time thinking, isn't he's describing INFJ, why is the video titled ISF? I was about to start a research marathon for ISFJ vs. INFJ but glad I saw your comment. You get it. You are right. ISFJs lead by introverted sensing.Traditions, facts, and details are natural to them. Most likely, they will be aware that something is not going to work out well, not because of an unexplainable hunch like the INFJ, but from recollection of memory from a similar situation in the past. ISFJ memory from past events is usually accurate and they base their future decisions on that. INFJ figures out something will go bad without any concrete data to back up their claims. Nevertheless, both INFJ and ISFJ may find it difficult to argue with people who insist on a logical explanation; I think this is because of Fe, which both share as it is a conflict avoidance function
i used to be an intj earlier in high school, but i took it again last year in my 2nd year in college, and i found out i've become an isfj. i'm currently trying to understand myself, and this surely helps a lot, especially the people in the comments. :o
Been working as a nurse for many years now. I just took this personality test recently and voila, I'm an ISFJ. No wonder I feel happy and enthusiastic with my job yet remain very private with my emotions. Gave me creeps though when I read details about an ISFJ personality as it accurately described who I am.
I am a Clinical Psychologist with 30 years of experience dealing with people. I was branded a INFJ quite sometime ago. I never really accepted that evaluation because placing 'labels' on people puts them into a box. It limits their potentiality and personal growth. At worse, it can destroy a individual's self determination and freedom. However, the Myers Briggs Personally Test is interesting but somewhat incomplete. I have never encountered a 'classical' INFJ before. Why? Because certain characteristics of this personality type have many subgroups some of which overlap other MBTI personality types. That being said I will describe the characteristics of how a 'orthodox' INFJ thinks, behaves and responds in strict accordance with the MBTI Personalty Test. Be forewarned, I find some INFJ 'stereotypes' rather funny. And will approach such in a humorous fashion. INFJ's posess a wonderfully sense irony and will immediately recognize the silly 'stereotypes' others have attrubuted to them.....So let's start breaking some myths about the INFJ Personalty Type When a INFJ gives you the dreaded 'Death Stair' they are not attempting to understand you. They are wondering if you're carrying a gun. Killing INFJ's is a pleasurable experience. Why? Because everyone hates a smart ass. INFJ's frequently experience 'Sensory Overload' issues. They love Forests, Parks and Woodland areas to recharge their batteries. Why? Because trees don't talk! A squirrel cannot complain it has 'Daddy Issues'. Pine trees do not suffer from 'gender identity' problems. And I have never seen a bunny rabbit strung out on Crack Cocaine. Solitude is bliss. Never say to a INFJ, 'I do not understand', They will run away screaming or jump infront of a bus. No one understands them. INFJ's sometimes don't even understand themselves. INFJ's feel uncomfortable being around large groups of people. However, once you get them talking, they never shut up. Why do a INFJ 'Door Slam' people? Because it's called a Coping Mechanism. They dislike being emotionally hurt. There is nothing strange about this behavior. Some people become alcoholics others pill poppers. INFJ's will just run away and pretend you never existed. INFJ's have the psychic ability to absorb people's emotions. No. This is phenomen is called 'Transference'. If you continuously talk about your problems, a INFJ will unconsciously adopt some aspects of your emotional state. However, INFJ's posess strong identities which prevents them from going completely insane. INFJ's are the most honest, compassionate and sensative people on Earth. Not really. Mother Nature just screwed them up genetically. They're brains are hard wired to respond during crisis situation. A 'diehard' INFJ will instinctively sacrifice their life attempting to save yours. No questions asked. Why? I have no freaking idea. I didn't invent the rules. Ask God. I'm sure She knows. INFJ's think differently than others. Yes. They think outside the box. They live outside the box. They have never actually seen the box. What does it look like? Does it contain groceries? INFJ types are occasionally arrogant, cold towards others and aloof. This is actually true. Being omnipotent has its drawbacks. INFJ's have a difficult time sugar-coating the truth. Being overtly honest is their trademark. If they sense someone cannot handle the truth, they will lie to protect that person's emotions. INFJ's are stubborn yet will openly admit to errors in judgment or making mistakes. INFJ's think too deeply. They want to solve everyone's problems. They get frustrated when people ask for advice - then completely ignore their recommendations! They do not understand why everyone keeps making the same mistakes over and over again. Eventually, a INFJ will simply give up. The phrase 'People need to learn things the hard way' was invented by a INFJ. So was the 'unfriend' button on Facebook. INFJ's do not respect authority because they have developed their own Moral, Ethical, Spiritual and Cognative belief systems. Mature (older) INFJ's care very little about how people perceive them and less about the impressions they make upon others. INFJ's enjoy approval and acceptance (like everyone else) but infrequently compromise their princepals to simply fit in. Do not mistake a INFJ's confidence as egocentrismn. There is a difference. INFJ's are frequently interpreted as posessing a Narcissist Personalty Disorder. This stereotype is absolutely false. A Narcissist loves adoration and attention. The typical INFJ cares more about others than themselves, sometime to their own detriment. INFJ's dislike themselves. They feel alone within the world and misunderstood. Being a INFJ a curse. Consequently, a small minority INFJ's often experience psychological Depression, Alienation Issues and Avoident Behavior problems. The phrase 'You are your own worst enemy' accurately describes a INFJ's perception of themselves. The most admirable personality traits of the INFJ are (1) INFJ's are compassionate which makes them a easy targets for emotional exploitation and abuse. Never play 'Guilt Games' with a INFJ. They already persecute themselves (subconsciously) for being different. (2) They don't have the ability to forgive themselves for past mistakes, A INFJ's unforgiving 'Guilt Complex' is an integral part of their personality. INFJ's have occasionally been known to slowly kill themselves over time, believing they deserve such suffering. 'Hell on Earth' is their punishment and they willing accept it....sometimes. Not always. (3) Once you secure the trust of a INFJ, everything about them suddenly becomes clear. The stereotypes vanish. These are people you want within your life. They have incredible insight into human nature and will identify your weaknesses and lift you up from darkness. Seeing the world through a INFJ eyes is the greatest gift they can offer. It would be impossible to understand a MBTI typology without stating the negative traits of a specific personality group. The 'Dark Side' of a INFJ is rather frightening. Never test their 'Authenticity' or personal dignity. Do not play games with a INFJ. They have limitations like everyone else. A INFJ can determine your intentions or plans within minutes. Literally. This Hyperobservient behavior is quite unique. Avoid getting into heated arguments with a INFJ unless you are prepared to be intellectually, emotionally or psychologically castrated. They have cognitive resources almost beyond understanding. A vindictive INFJ will never stop until they destroy your life (this has nothing to do with physical murder). Such behavior is almost Psychopathic in nature (hence the concern INFJ's may be catorgized as possessing a Psychological Disorder rather than a Personality Dysfunction). Fortunately, INFJ's are not prone to violent behavior. They give up easily, This is where the 'Door Slam' or simply walking away from an argument comes from. Once they reveal their true inner nature, you will begin to understand why only 1% of the world's population are INFJ's. They are so dam charming. INFJ's dislike small talk, idle conversations, superficial people and hypocrites. Life is too short talking to such individuals (but they understand its occasionally necessary to be socially accepted) INFJ's are not spontaneous. They just pretend to be spontaneous. Their minds are always attempting to 'connect the dots....even when there are no dots! When the Zombie Apocalypse occurs, a INFJ will be eaten screaming, "I told you so... I told you so!" Imagine your on the Titanic. It's 1912. You see a Iceberg coming. Your jumping around and telling everyone the ship is about to sink. People just laugh and finish their Champagne. Welcome to the wonderful world of a INFJ. Avoid getting into deep conversations with a INFJ. They are walking encyclopedias. They will jump from topic to topic then back again to support a idea or theory. Male INFJ's are 'scattered brained' in the worst way possible. But there is method to such madness. The are searching for the correct answer to a specific problem. And 95% of the time they will discover it... or have a complete nervous breakdown trying. Occasionally, you will notice a INFJ acting mysteriously, doing unusual things or just behaving weird. Get used to this behavior. It has absolutely nothing to do with you. The INFJ is just going through a 'stage' or experimenting with something that interests them. Like building a Thermonuclear Bomb or discovering a cure for Herpes. Never tell a INFJ they have a 'Old Soul'. They are absolutely terrified of being reincarnated again. INFJ's are aware that neither Heaven or Hell wants them. Why? Because God doesn't need the extra competition on who should run Heaven (Him or a INFJ) and Satan can't deal with a INFJ pestering him for all eternity....that would be considered cruel and unusual punishment. Aliens will never abduct a INFJ. There are some things too bizarre even for Extraterrestrials. INFJ's have a difficult time forming a thought or idea into words. Yes. Someday a INFJ will develop Telekinesis and scare the hell out of everyone. Stop laughing, it's going to happen. So next time you accidentally encounter a INFJ, break all COVID 'Social Distancing' issues and hug them. INFJ's are a endangered species. Literally. Whatever purpose they were created for has already been accomplished. There represent only 1% of 7.7 billion people on planet Earth according to MBTI statistics. In my opinion, this Myers Briggs Personality represents the noblest aspects of humanity....Intelligent, Wise, Caring, Virtuous, Observent, Altruistic and Protective. Dispight their faults (which everyone has, no one is perfect) INFJ's are genuine. You get exactly what you see meeting these people. They also have a excellent sense of humor (wink)
+Maia We like to joke around a lot, but we also have a great amount of depth to our personality. We like to make up crazy plans (but we suck at executing them). All ENTP I know really enjoy music, including me. We're good at rational thinking and we can instantly point out flaws in many things. In conversation we may sometimes jump from subject to subject. We are very creative. However, we suck at planning and being organized.
+Maia We also love to argue about things (anything really), which is why many of us are into politics. We are very indecisive when it comes to that though, as we love seeing new perspectives to things, there are so many perspectives that it's hard to know which ones are true. As we are only navigating through an unsurmountable sea of information.
Can someone please tell me the name and artist of the beautiful impressionistic painting that was used in this clip? It appears from 2:54 to 2:56 but also in other parts as well. It looks like a Van Gogh, but I'm not sure??
What if you are borderline in introvert and extrovert? I am very talkative with people I feel comfortable around but quiet and shy when I am with people I don't know (until someone introduces me to the people).
NbaLive4ever I think it’s more of how you “recharge”. I’m an I, but I am very good at interacting with others. The downside is that it makes me tired and takes a lot of concerted energy to do so. I need time at home by myself to recharge my batteries in order to keep up the act of extroversion. Hope that helps!
For the longest time I kept getting mistyped as isfp, infp, infj, istj, and the fit to a certain extent but there was always stuff that wasn't quite me. But I found isfj and I'm like, wow! that's me! I've researched way more about cognitive functions too, if you don't understand why you're typed as you are I recommend researching it its so interesting!!!
I love All Fe types; they are the humanity. INFJ are complete advocates for society; ESFJ and ISFJ are considerate and pleasant humans you see daily. ENFJs are the default humanity leaders type. I love you guys and girls; you are beautiful. Don’t let the thinking type tell you otherwise. Feel your way through life; it is a magnificent way to live.
Jack Gardel It can be hard to know. Im now 18 years old (soon 19) and I got INFJ many times at first but now I've always gotten ISFJ for months or a year I think Im ISFJ.
As an Isfj, i am open and honest but to my closest friends i am not and i keep it inside in me without teling them what is bodering me and whenever i see that person i get angry and like i start hating them.. anyone having the same thing?
I'm more of an INFP personally, but this describes one of my characters I'm developing perfectly. The Myers brigs test is such a great tool for writers to flesh out and understand their characters better.
i really admire isfj's!! i dont have any isfj that i know of in my life rn, but reading about them made me think they're SO warm hearted :)) (btw i'm an infp)
I recently realized that nice guys do not necessarily finish first: I am making an effort to state my opinion no matter how much it hurts those that my opinion is directed to. Even if it hurts me, I am going to let the opinion fly!
why am i obsessively watching MBTI videos? Also, i am an impressionistic writer, but i keep getting infp when i take the test, i am confused of my own existence.
This was pretty accurate but so is the description of both INFJ and INFP. I score as a cognitive INFJ, but depending on my mood I am a functional ISFJ, INFP and sometimes an INFJ. So my conclusion after all of this: My personality has way too many aspects of it to fit into any one category. I have sub personalities, situational personalities, mood based personalities.
I can tell the moral character of someone almost immediately when I meet them. I can tell who people really are, what's on their heart. It's weird. It's like I have a strong moral compass or thermometer. I'm a good judge of ppl. Haha. Everyone probably thinks that though right.
This is pretty much me. I tell people all the time, I hate being right all the time. I also will pull myself back to align my opinions with someone else. I am all about the comfort and safety of others, even when it inconveniences me. I want people to feel happy and loved, and like they belong. It's hard to push my buttons, because I don't keep them out on display. Pretty accurate, I would say
To any ISFJ, image if your subconscious mind functioned as your conscious mind, and vice versa. Welcome to the crazy world of the ENTP. Our ISJF subconscious is build to handle the pain you guys feel in life. People think the ENTP lacks compassion, but deep down we care a great deal like you guys do on the surface.
My bf is an ISFJ and I kinda don't see it... Like? He loves stirring the pot half the time, has offensive humor, can be a jerk, and is quiet. He likes his alone time, has a go with the flow attitude, has no clue about what his purpose is from what it seems, and doesn't care too much about others. Though when it comes to me he is very sensitive, understanding and supportive, is always trying to keep peace whenever I flip out on someone. He's always in his head and I just wanna see the world from his perspective and understand him better. I'm an ENFP, by the way
Hahaha, I'm ISFJ and my man is ENFP and yes, I hear these stuff too. We are intriverted types so need a lot of 'self time' we have to reload our energy. Also I struggle with these feelings my own. I don't know what my purpose is, I care a lot and at the same time I don't care at all. It's what I hate about myself. Like I'm trapped in this mind. Lot of ISFJ have low self esteem and/ or anxiety. Maybe he has too? Deep in our hearts we care and it makes us cry inside when people say we're not but because of my social anxiety I do have problems speaking my mind and what's bothering me. We also want to keep peace so we avoid conflicts but at the same time by remaining silent we can be seen as cold and mean etc.. (to me personally it's fear) When we're in conflict I freeze, I got blackouts in my mind or it's a loop of what I should/can say but it's just not comming out of my mouth
I had a small chat with the patient , she asked me shake hands I Did and noticed her hand is big. I was amazed and ask what kind of a job she's on while she was young, Well, she s old, ad usual, I recieved unconvincing answer so just continued my cht with her. Today around 3:20〜Or so,
My mum's an ISFJ, and she's lovely. I think it's one the most motherly type, but I'm a guy so I wouldn't wanna be like her. As an ESTP, I've dismissed her opinions and advice many times.
I'm an ENTP and I think my Mom is an ISFJ and we dont get along. Theres no hate really, but it's probably a mix of complete misunderstanding and dismissal in both directions that causes so many problems. I feel sorry that she gets overwhelmed with life to the point where she has a hard time functioning without lists and plans and records, but I can appreciate the structure that brings, which I'm lacking. I have a hard time actually figuring out which of my ideas are worthwhile to pursue, and for the most part it leaves me quiet and observant. When I get upset at her high-strung nature, stubbornness, or seeming stupidity at what to me is obvious patterns in the flow of life that should be easy to predict and react to, she tends to make the problem worse by placating me with treats or compliments. I think I understand that it's an admission of misunderstanding, but it feels like I'm being treated like a dog who just stops bugging you when you finally give it a treat. She seems like she dismisses everything not directly relating to her life, and makes huge jumps into spirituality and the supernatural for the things she cant explain or doesnt consider important enough to devote energy into. A good example is that she has a cat. She didn't want the cat, but she saw how much my sister wanted one and agreed to it. She cares for it, but often forgets to feed it, and uses her toys and bed as storage areas for various things sometimes (the cat sleeps wherever). She is absolutely convinced that the cat is chasing ghosts when it runs around the house after nothing, completely ignoring the fact that the cat has no accessible toys, companions, and space to burn off energy, so shes probably just really restless, but since theres no obvious hard facts pointing to that, she jumps to ghosts and then moves on with her life.
To all ISFJ, please voice your opinion or struggles. (Saying this as an ENFJ. We want to help💙 and we can feel if you dont feel well, or you are keeping things to yourself, because you are scared to speak up. No need to be afraid and quiet, even if thats in your comfort zone.
I can read people easily and say if they're telling the thruth, if they're nervous, scared, etc. It's not like a sixth sense, it's more like analysis. My biggest problem is: I can't confront these people who are lying and say "well, you're lying". So I keep that information to myself and start to look for proof or facts, so I can show the other person that it is wrong and there's no arguing. I know that if I say something without proof will start a discussion and I hate discussions.
Anybody else being an ISFJ that has problems voicing their opinion to people in fear of causing an argument or turbulence?
I know i am, and i hope i can get better at it, my opinion does matter :(
it happens the same with me. i dont like more than half of the things my friends like and i reserve my opinions to dodge fights
Sounds so simple yet it is so hard.
Sure i can voice my opinion under deaf ears but i really want to make them change their opinion because i know they are wrong.
Fear of confrontation stops me from doing anything.
I have said that aswell and it works.
But you still end up as the guy with no opinions. If i continue to say that to the same people they will eventually stop taking me seriously.
But saying that is what works the most.
INTJ here, I just tell my opinion lol most times I don't even think about that
Both yes, and no. I have a "threshold of closeness" of which people I allow to instill that fear in me. When it comes to those very close to me, like long-time friends or family, that fear is very real. To the majority of my good friends, acquaintances, work colleagues, etc. I have no fear.
For the most part, in the instances where I've given up speaking out to close friends or family, it has been over issues that have been argued over for years and years, to the point where the pain of the conflict has become greater than the pain I am speaking up over. It's not worth it at that point to argue.
I don’t know if that’s an ISFJ thing, but I really tend to like giving gifts to people, surprising them on birthdays and parties.
I think it is an ISFJ thing. Cuz I do this all the time
This is why ISFJs are warm-hearted
사라* yeah ISFJs are people pleasers
it may be an isfj thing, but as an isfj, i don’t do that 🤔 am I really isfj??
same. I sometimes even overthink it
I am an ISFJ and I feel good gifting others..more like making them happy
As an ISFJ, I’m quite social for an introvert, I love meeting new people and my introverted side usually appears when there’s a large group of people where I tend to be more of the observant and calm type. As much as I love people, I prefer working alone when it comes to studying or serious stuff. But sharing the results and enjoying my time after, I love to do it among my people. A lot of people might say ISFJ’s are routine people, but I like trying new stuff and experimenting.
Finally..... a relatable person!
Amen
Introvert doesn't mean u don't like new people at all...I like talking to new people but mainly on social media...in real life too I like then but I can't be the 1st one to approach them
sameeee
samedt finally someone said it 🙌🏻
The worst part of being an ISFJ Is that it’s essy to suddenly feel like your being taken advantage of . When you finally muster the courage to speak your mind the other person has a blooming fit. It’s like where did this come from ? Well, it’s been there all along but I get caught up in helping the other person despite my misgivings. When I feel comfortable enough to express myself it’s usually to late and met with negativity furthering the cycle
Exactly!!! I hold my tongue for almost 29 years! because of tough periods I feel like I'm losing th ebattle with my inner self and social media isn't good 'cause on social media I can speak my mind but now someone I've known for 16 years has blocked me 'cause I changed to a bad person she said. I'm still me but I'm done with some bullshit from others.
So true
Preach!
Evileye68 I had a toxic friendship like that years ago. My mom helped me to finally realize that I was being taken advantage of by this person.
Yup...
As an ISFJ, I go out of my way to make others happy. Don't really get the same back as I do not have an assertive personality. I hate making others uncomfortable and I am very sensitive and perceptive to others emotions. I am also a very good reader of others. I tend to meet someone and know straight away whether I will like them or not. I am very set in stone with my morals and viewpoints too, which I guess makes me quite a judgmental person. But I balance it out by thinking of others point of view too, in order to not upset them. I think being an ISFJ is not the best personality type to have as its emotionally exhausting pleasing everyone. but it's great to have someone with this personality as your friend, because we are kind hearted people ☺️
Maays completely describes me.
@@rudy24286 im agree
Wow....to the t man...
Wow, eerily accurate! Totally me.
My isfj bf was nice to everyone but me lol
My ISFJ catchphrase: its my fault.
My ENFJ catchphrase: "No it's not!"
My ENTP catchphrase: you did it wrong
My INFP catchphrase: "I was suppose to do that?"
INTP: "who cares? We'll all be dead soon"
Yeah I think i'm isfj too I say that out loud and inside.
We ISFJs are the best.
Low self-esteem but still ready to sweat hard for the good of our children, parents, pets and close friends.
I agree with everything you said except low self-esteem :)
@@kimbjork6150 True! The ISFJ people I know are mostly among the confident and high self-esteem kind of persons
low self esteem isn’t a good thing lol
I have very low self-esteem, but I deeply care for others close to me.
Within the same paragraph you are first claiming to be "the best" but also claiming that you have low self-esteem. Those two things are contradictory. People who have low self-esteem don't think they are "the best". Rather, they worry that they are the worst.
Laughing at something other people don't see is so me!
I laughed at that part lol
LOL
Almost always me.
Me too and I'm ISFJ😂😂
All day! Hahaha
My mom is an ISFJ and she's the strongest and kindest woman I know! I love her :)
"Or they laugh very hard at something that other people do not necessarily see the humor in."
I feel attacked lol
It's Me omg me
Jesus this is exactly me lol.
As an ISFJ, this video has completely made my day. I sometimes doubt my type because of the way it is portrayed but when I see the full picture, as shown in this video I don't doubt it one bit. The only thing that is different is the 'warm and friendly' thing - I am warm and friendly to a point, but it would most certainly not be the first thing someone would notice about me, especially if they don't know me.
I really appreciated how this video acknowledged the realism/cynical side of the ISFJ, because I've never really seen that before said by anyone else, even though it's one of my most definitive personality traits.
Thanks so much for this video!!
My mother is an isfj and she can seem pretty stand offish but once you get to know her she's very sweet. But i know what you mean, there is also this distinct brashness that comes out sometimes.
I know an ISFJ, and she certainly doesn't seem "warm and friendly".
ISFJ's are absolutely amazing. My mother had to deal with a lot of my personal problems (I'm an INFJ with terrible anxiety), and while she never really understood what anxiety really was, she would offer me comfort in the ways that she did know how to help me. My ISFJ mother also took care of me to the best of her ability after my father abandoned us due to alcoholism, and she would work overtime just to make sure I can dream. Seriously, you ISFJ's are some of the most loyal, powerful, and committed people. ISFJ's deserve more appreciation, because you make the world a safer place :).
U have a good mother and ur mother has a great son like u ^^
More power to her and you ❤
Thank you so much for your kind words.
Thanks to The ISFJs the world is so much better place.
I love You all.
Thankyou..
@@mizahelin5245 You are welcome
Sameee.....
....idk why this makes me feel uncomfortable 😕
Thanks.
You know, for ISFJ to be the most common personality type, I don’t think I’ve ever found anyone who is as moved by the external as I am. I’ve never expressed a passionate reaction to something that’s seemingly unimportant without it being met with funny looks and misalignment. Other ppl just don’t feel as strongly about humans, art, subtlety, philosophies, comedy as I do. Other ppl don’t relate to the level of sensitivity that I feel in SUCH strong, intense ways. Anyone else??
💯💯💯
Agree!!!!
Yes!!
Me too.
ISFJ Male here.
Is ISFJ one of the rarer personality types? Because I feel like I never meet people that remind me of me or that I connect with on a truly satisfying level. Don't even asking me about my dating life. It's like people don't get me.
Jesse Rochon Same!
According to some studies, ISFJ is in fact the most prominent of all types. However, that doesn't mean that you can find one right around the corner. More people is extrovert than they are introvert, for example.
Every ISFJ is vastly different due to subjective nature of Si. Don't believe all those people that say Si is all about memory & tradition. It's much more complex than that. Every SJ type has the most variability compared to types from other temperament
It's actually very common. I think about 16% of the U.S. population are ISFJ. I took the mbti about five years ago at junior college and got ISFJ. I was surprised. I remember thinking, "There's no way that's my personality type. I'm not popular! I don't have friends." I then proceeded to retake it several times. I thought for years that INFP was the closest fit. I have finally accepted that I am ISFJ. It only took 5 years.
I agree. I don't know people like me, with the same thoughts and personality. I think ISFJ should be a rare personality type, I don't trust statistics.
My mom is an isfj and she’s the nicest person i’ve ever known and she deals with a lot of shit. she’s so tough i don’t know how she does it but she’s like super woman. i admire her so much
This is all me. Everyone always takes me for granted but I appreciate myself.
Felt that.
Im an ENTP and I just wanted to know what my polar opposite is like. I'm fascinated.
I’m an ENTP and my dad is an ISFJ..
Fellow Entp here! My best friend is isfj and we get along amazing. Once you become well-rounded entp, getting along people is so easy >
Same
My mom is ISFJ and so are some of my friends... they’re sooo sweet and caring.
Same here. Im ENTP and my dad is ISFJ. I also was intrested what personality is polar opposite of mine
5mins felt like 30mins to me
I’m an ISFJ but I’m not afraid of conflict, but only of brutal criticism.
As an ESFP, I really appreciate you ISFJs. And since I have so many ISFJs in my live to be thankful for, I know you guys appreciate some appreciation. :)
I was watching a video of a kid throwing a tantrum on a plane that lasted for 8 hours the other day and I felt really sorry for the mother having to put up with it and not being able to make him stop and then I scrolled down to the comments and every single one was so hostile and nasty towards the mother saying that she was a bad mother, that it's the parents fault the kid was like that, that the kid needed a good smack and so many other cruel things and I was taken aback at the lack of understanding and empathy towards her. I've just realised from watching this video that I felt the way I felt because of my ISFJ nature. It saddened me that so many people where just out to judge and be mean.
Becksnnc I felt the same way as you and I'm an INFJ :)
I'm an INTJ.
Someone's feelings are irrelevant. It's a question of responsibility and people have the right to complain on a paid flight if someone was disturbing them. It's one thing if a baby cries occasionally and another if it's an all-time nuisance.
i'm the exact same! i hate reading comments from certain websites on the internet, it's so toxic.
@@howelltitus2875 sOoOo edgy. Also way to miss the point entirely.
I'm an isfj but if I was on that plane oh god I would have lost my mind, if it's not the parents fault then who's fault is it? The kid? Kids don't even understand what they do.
I'm an ISFJ Male and also an Aquarius with Libra rising. This video was nice to see because it does represent me very well when I'm not depressed and under a low frequency. I grew up with not many friends so trying to keep things harmonious and looking out for the underdog is a result of that. I try to treat people the way I wasn't treated growing up, because I hated the feeling of being ostracized. t think being this way makes it harder to relate to people and in turn also makes me harder on myself. It's a blessing and a curse.
Blessing or curse, It depends on the lessons of life you learned as of the moment. I view this now as a blessing for me for i'm see the benefits i have from others and use the weakness i have to turn it to my favor. For example I never talk or participate on a group activity at first because i like observing things first. I'll only act and speak when the time needs it. This is my way of becoming a man better than others. ISFJ male here, Gemini and year of the Dog.
Bryan Ng same. i like to observe first. total fly on the wall before i engage with people.
Yeah I know what you mean exactly as an ISFJ Male!!!! Yepper. It is what it is. It seems we are this type and isfj (males) are like this, often. lonely to some extent and mistreated by family/relatives MAYBE... Etc...
Anyway I am Libra my horoschope I was born in September. Im not that into astrology more than that.
Also I believe that ISFJ's are not actually introvert type. I, for one, am an ambivert. I can interact with other people like extroverts but only for limited time. I spend my energies on worthy people and on worthy things that I know.
Frederick N True, true... I mean I am an Introvert . But it doesnt mean I cant socialize or dont like to talk to people at all. The energy resource is real, fo shure...
ISFJ ASSEMBLE!
I made my father do the MBTI test and he got ISFJ, it's like, I can recognize him in this and I wanna hug him now
my social worker is an isfj she gave me hope. one of the most common female types. you rock!!
My mother is an ISFJ and this vid made me cry. (Im an ENFP lol) She is so self sacrificing and this video made me think of her in so many new ways, you described her perfectly. She is so quick to say “its my fault” and blame herself if there is conflict in the house. I feel like its cause the fact that she gets impressions on things instantly but if she fails to voice them out of fear of intruding others wants, she will be quick to blame herself if things don’t end up well. Its like you guys have future vision which means you guys may feel an incredible amount of responsibility towards outcomes as well. That is so selfless I love it🩵 keep being you! Yall bring an incredible amount of value to those around you fr!!
At some point, ISFJ's get tired! I'm one of those
oh you dont say
I love the explanation of how the INFJ sees the world through impressions. I’ve never heard this before but can relate. I have a hard time explaining my point of view when I’m trying to reason with someone. I hate arguing so will not push my opinions but at the same time know in my gut that I’ve got valid points. This video really helped me understand myself much better.
my Mother is an ISFJ -- and she is amazing .. my true hero in this world.
I’m an INFJ and I have a special relationship with ISFJs. My mom and three of my closest friends are ISFJs. They are the sweetest, most comforting and understanding people and I absolutely cherish them. They crack up at my “deep thoughts”. I bring them to see life in a new way and sometimes blow their minds. When I’m feeling upset about something I always go to my ISFJ peeps. They help calm me and keep me in perspective. My life would not be the same without my ISFJ pillars. 💗
I only have to be on guard about the nervous pessimism that sometimes comes through and can affect me, but I’m already aware and understanding of that. I also have to be careful about burdening them too much. I told my mom, you would cut off your arm for me. She said, yes I would! I said, I have to watch out for you. 😱😂
guys I'm infp and an isfj girl broke my fucking heart. She suggested that we go out for my birthday and she took me to this very romantic top of a hill from where you could see the sunset. I really really really liked her so I just said fuck it and confessed my love for her and to my surprise... SHE SAID SHE LIKED ME BACK. So she told that we should have a relationship but start off slow (which is fine by me if not better so I accepted)... Two hours after our date I texted her about stuff but she didn't reply(whilst replying to other friend and school groups I was in). I had a really bad feeling and intuitively knew where this was going but I couldn't admit it to myshelf so I stayed up all night wondering what else could have happened. The next day came along and I had received no message from her so I just said fuck it she is probably confused and tried to finish my homework with as much concentration as I had left.during the afternoon she called me... But instead of her normal heartwarmning apology I got a very very strict cold and absolute response to my questions : "i dont want a relationship anymore i got into a fight with my friend (a male esfp) yesterday after we left and i just lost all faith in people in general)". I was absolutely heartbroken! The next day came around and was very very shocked. I saw 20 people that we knew, but was more friends with her than me, mock me relentlessly and say things such as" i think rejection hurts "and "he is probably so sad right now" all this while laughing their faces out and staring at me in a pityfull way. I was deveastated so i stopped talking to the girl forever because this cost me a lot...
I even went to a phychologist and a phychiatrist to help me cope with the pain she caused me without no reason at all while i thought she was my soulmate.....
After all that she tried talking to me a few times just to get me to think of her even saying she wants to hang out again but then stoped all contact...
Im once again great now after like 8 months have gone by
But I just wanted to write this to remind people that isfj(and any personallity type for that matter can be evil and very hurt full if they are unhealthy enough)
If you open up your hurt to some one just because they are the empathetic ones of the mbti (infp, enfp, infj, enfj, isfp, esfj, isfj) you might just end up like me... Hurtbroken and lonely....
Judge hearts not types people!
I’m an INFP but my mum is an ISFJ and while I love my mum we can’t seem to get along well, there’s some kind of communication problem. So I made my mum do a personality test and now I’m searching about isfj to try to understand my mum and communicate better with her.
Hope it worked out
75% of my office is ISFJ, I'm INTP. We get along, but communication... -_-
Mark Zemlin
I hear you. Too much concrete communication drains me.
I feel you...I'm an INTP and clash communication wise with isfj
Whats your career
I’m an ISFJ and my boyfriend is an INTP. Communication is definitely something we need to work on but we’ve been dating for 2 years and found a way to make it work. He keeps me from being to overly sensitive and I keep him from being too insensitive.
This is helping me see the real value of the ISFJ beyond the politically correct (not sure I am using the right phrasing here) sugary but not so useful portraits that do not penetrate into the psyche of the ISFJ. I actually feel like listening more to ISFJs now and asking for their opinion. Thank you!
I'm sorry but I'm not sure that this video is entirely accurate. I don't mean to be rude. From everything I've read, 2:13 - 2:30 is quite the opposite. Most pages say ISFJs are very stuck to their own beliefs. 2:40 - 4:20 This is absolutely INFJ stuff right here. ISFJs are more about concrete facts and details whereas INFJs are the ones who have that '6th sense' because of their iNtuition. That's essentially what intuition is -- knowing without necessarily having concrete facts to back it up but still being right. INFJs are the ones who get general impressions about how things feel.
Again, I'm not trying to be hostile, just to keep things I feel are important clear.
They have that in common.
ISFJs state and don't elaborate. That doesn't mean their intuitives. It means they are introverts, keeping communication at an absolute minimum.
Thanks, I was listening to the video and all the time thinking, isn't he's describing INFJ, why is the video titled ISF? I was about to start a research marathon for ISFJ vs. INFJ but glad I saw your comment. You get it. You are right. ISFJs lead by introverted sensing.Traditions, facts, and details are natural to them. Most likely, they will be aware that something is not going to work out well, not because of an unexplainable hunch like the INFJ, but from recollection of memory from a similar situation in the past. ISFJ memory from past events is usually accurate and they base their future decisions on that. INFJ figures out something will go bad without any concrete data to back up their claims. Nevertheless, both INFJ and ISFJ may find it difficult to argue with people who insist on a logical explanation; I think this is because of Fe, which both share as it is a conflict avoidance function
My mom's an ISFJ - she's very nurturing and caring - and will go above and beyond to help family and friends.
I feel like the combination of an INFJ and an ISFJ would be a match made in heaven.
I'm an ISFJ male
I’m an ENFP with an ISFJ best friend. I definitely feel her ‘safe, kind atmosphere/space’ and appreciate her for it 🥰
Now it's explained why everyone ignores what I say and my "i feel this person is bad" instinct
INFJ just passing through typing people at 6 in the morning.. 😂 Think I finally typed my Sister In-Law! ISFJ’s, y’all rock!! 💯👍🏿
i used to be an intj earlier in high school, but i took it again last year in my 2nd year in college, and i found out i've become an isfj. i'm currently trying to understand myself, and this surely helps a lot, especially the people in the comments. :o
Wow, I want to be friends with an ISFJ
-INFJ
Been working as a nurse for many years now. I just took this personality test recently and voila, I'm an ISFJ. No wonder I feel happy and enthusiastic with my job yet remain very private with my emotions. Gave me creeps though when I read details about an ISFJ personality as it accurately described who I am.
I am a Clinical Psychologist with 30 years of experience dealing with people. I was branded a INFJ quite sometime ago. I never really accepted that evaluation because placing 'labels' on people puts them into a box. It limits their potentiality and personal growth. At worse, it can destroy a individual's self determination and freedom. However, the Myers Briggs Personally Test is interesting but somewhat incomplete. I have never encountered a 'classical' INFJ before. Why? Because certain characteristics of this personality type have many subgroups some of which overlap other MBTI personality types. That being said I will describe the characteristics of how a 'orthodox' INFJ thinks, behaves and responds in strict accordance with the MBTI Personalty Test. Be forewarned, I find some INFJ 'stereotypes' rather funny. And will approach such in a humorous fashion. INFJ's posess a wonderfully sense irony and will immediately recognize the silly 'stereotypes' others have attrubuted to them.....So let's start breaking some myths about the INFJ Personalty Type
When a INFJ gives you the dreaded 'Death Stair' they are not attempting to understand you. They are wondering if you're carrying a gun. Killing INFJ's is a pleasurable experience. Why? Because everyone hates a smart ass.
INFJ's frequently experience 'Sensory Overload' issues. They love Forests, Parks and Woodland areas to recharge their batteries. Why? Because trees don't talk! A squirrel cannot complain it has 'Daddy Issues'. Pine trees do not suffer from 'gender identity' problems. And I have never seen a bunny rabbit strung out on Crack Cocaine. Solitude is bliss.
Never say to a INFJ, 'I do not understand', They will run away screaming or jump infront of a bus. No one understands them. INFJ's sometimes don't even understand themselves.
INFJ's feel uncomfortable being around large groups of people. However, once you get them talking, they never shut up.
Why do a INFJ 'Door Slam' people? Because it's called a Coping Mechanism. They dislike being emotionally hurt. There is nothing strange about this behavior. Some people become alcoholics others pill poppers. INFJ's will just run away and pretend you never existed.
INFJ's have the psychic ability to absorb people's emotions. No. This is phenomen is called 'Transference'. If you continuously talk about your problems, a INFJ will unconsciously adopt some aspects of your emotional state. However, INFJ's posess strong identities which prevents them from going completely insane.
INFJ's are the most honest, compassionate and sensative people on Earth. Not really. Mother Nature just screwed them up genetically. They're brains are hard wired to respond during crisis situation. A 'diehard' INFJ will instinctively sacrifice their life attempting to save yours. No questions asked. Why? I have no freaking idea. I didn't invent the rules. Ask God. I'm sure She knows.
INFJ's think differently than others. Yes. They think outside the box. They live outside the box. They have never actually seen the box. What does it look like? Does it contain groceries?
INFJ types are occasionally arrogant, cold towards others and aloof. This is actually true. Being omnipotent has its drawbacks. INFJ's have a difficult time sugar-coating the truth. Being overtly honest is their trademark. If they sense someone cannot handle the truth, they will lie to protect that person's emotions.
INFJ's are stubborn yet will openly admit to errors in judgment or making mistakes.
INFJ's think too deeply. They want to solve everyone's problems. They get frustrated when people ask for advice - then completely ignore their recommendations! They do not understand why everyone keeps making the same mistakes over and over again. Eventually, a INFJ will simply give up. The phrase 'People need to learn things the hard way' was invented by a INFJ. So was the 'unfriend' button on Facebook.
INFJ's do not respect authority because they have developed their own Moral, Ethical, Spiritual and Cognative belief systems. Mature (older) INFJ's care very little about how people perceive them and less about the impressions they make upon others. INFJ's enjoy approval and acceptance (like everyone else) but infrequently compromise their princepals to simply fit in.
Do not mistake a INFJ's confidence as egocentrismn. There is a difference.
INFJ's are frequently interpreted as posessing a Narcissist Personalty Disorder. This stereotype is absolutely false. A Narcissist loves adoration and attention. The typical INFJ cares more about others than themselves, sometime to their own detriment.
INFJ's dislike themselves. They feel alone within the world and misunderstood. Being a INFJ a curse. Consequently, a small minority INFJ's often experience psychological Depression, Alienation Issues and Avoident Behavior problems. The phrase 'You are your own worst enemy' accurately describes a INFJ's perception of themselves.
The most admirable personality traits of the INFJ are (1) INFJ's are compassionate which makes them a easy targets for emotional exploitation and abuse. Never play 'Guilt Games' with a INFJ. They already persecute themselves (subconsciously) for being different. (2) They don't have the ability to forgive themselves for past mistakes, A INFJ's unforgiving 'Guilt Complex' is an integral part of their personality. INFJ's have occasionally been known to slowly kill themselves over time, believing they deserve such suffering. 'Hell on Earth' is their punishment and they willing accept it....sometimes. Not always. (3) Once you secure the trust of a INFJ, everything about them suddenly becomes clear. The stereotypes vanish. These are people you want within your life. They have incredible insight into human nature and will identify your weaknesses and lift you up from darkness. Seeing the world through a INFJ eyes is the greatest gift they can offer.
It would be impossible to understand a MBTI typology without stating the negative traits of a specific personality group.
The 'Dark Side' of a INFJ is rather frightening. Never test their 'Authenticity' or personal dignity. Do not play games with a INFJ. They have limitations like everyone else. A INFJ can determine your intentions or plans within minutes. Literally. This Hyperobservient behavior is quite unique. Avoid getting into heated arguments with a INFJ unless you are prepared to be intellectually, emotionally or psychologically castrated. They have cognitive resources almost beyond understanding. A vindictive INFJ will never stop until they destroy your life (this has nothing to do with physical murder). Such behavior is almost Psychopathic in nature (hence the concern INFJ's may be catorgized as possessing a Psychological Disorder rather than a Personality Dysfunction). Fortunately, INFJ's are not prone to violent behavior. They give up easily, This is where the 'Door Slam' or simply walking away from an argument comes from. Once they reveal their true inner nature, you will begin to understand why only 1% of the world's population are INFJ's. They are so dam charming.
INFJ's dislike small talk, idle conversations, superficial people and hypocrites. Life is too short talking to such individuals (but they understand its occasionally necessary to be socially accepted)
INFJ's are not spontaneous. They just pretend to be spontaneous. Their minds are always attempting to 'connect the dots....even when there are no dots!
When the Zombie Apocalypse occurs, a INFJ will be eaten screaming, "I told you so... I told you so!"
Imagine your on the Titanic. It's 1912. You see a Iceberg coming. Your jumping around and telling everyone the ship is about to sink. People just laugh and finish their Champagne. Welcome to the wonderful world of a INFJ.
Avoid getting into deep conversations with a INFJ. They are walking encyclopedias. They will jump from topic to topic then back again to support a idea or theory. Male INFJ's are 'scattered brained' in the worst way possible. But there is method to such madness. The are searching for the correct answer to a specific problem. And 95% of the time they will discover it... or have a complete nervous breakdown trying.
Occasionally, you will notice a INFJ acting mysteriously, doing unusual things or just behaving weird. Get used to this behavior. It has absolutely nothing to do with you. The INFJ is just going through a 'stage' or experimenting with something that interests them. Like building a Thermonuclear Bomb or discovering a cure for Herpes.
Never tell a INFJ they have a 'Old Soul'. They are absolutely terrified of being reincarnated again. INFJ's are aware that neither Heaven or Hell wants them. Why? Because God doesn't need the extra competition on who should run Heaven (Him or a INFJ) and Satan can't deal with a INFJ pestering him for all eternity....that would be considered cruel and unusual punishment.
Aliens will never abduct a INFJ. There are some things too bizarre even for Extraterrestrials.
INFJ's have a difficult time forming a thought or idea into words. Yes. Someday a INFJ will develop Telekinesis and scare the hell out of everyone. Stop laughing, it's going to happen.
So next time you accidentally encounter a INFJ, break all COVID 'Social Distancing' issues and hug them. INFJ's are a endangered species. Literally. Whatever purpose they were created for has already been accomplished. There represent only 1% of 7.7 billion people on planet Earth according to MBTI statistics. In my opinion, this Myers Briggs Personality represents the noblest aspects of humanity....Intelligent, Wise, Caring, Virtuous, Observent, Altruistic and Protective. Dispight their faults (which everyone has, no one is perfect) INFJ's are genuine. You get exactly what you see meeting these people. They also have a excellent sense of humor (wink)
It's amazing how well this video is describing me as a person. ^_^
Hey ISFJ's, I'm an ENTP. We should be polar opposites, in theory. I want to meet some of you so I can see what happens.
+The Narrator Well let's see if the relationship they have accurately translates into the real world :)
Inkjet Printer What are ENTPs like? I'm guessing opposite of ISFJ
+Maia We like to joke around a lot, but we also have a great amount of depth to our personality. We like to make up crazy plans (but we suck at executing them). All ENTP I know really enjoy music, including me. We're good at rational thinking and we can instantly point out flaws in many things. In conversation we may sometimes jump from subject to subject. We are very creative. However, we suck at planning and being organized.
+Maia We also love to argue about things (anything really), which is why many of us are into politics. We are very indecisive when it comes to that though, as we love seeing new perspectives to things, there are so many perspectives that it's hard to know which ones are true. As we are only navigating through an unsurmountable sea of information.
Inkjet Printer i have a friend just like that. I bet he is my “polar opposite”
Can someone please tell me the name and artist of the beautiful impressionistic painting that was used in this clip? It appears from 2:54 to 2:56 but also in other parts as well. It looks like a Van Gogh, but I'm not sure??
What if you are borderline in introvert and extrovert? I am very talkative with people I feel comfortable around but quiet and shy when I am with people I don't know (until someone introduces me to the people).
NbaLive4ever I think it’s more of how you “recharge”.
I’m an I, but I am very good at interacting with others. The downside is that it makes me tired and takes a lot of concerted energy to do so.
I need time at home by myself to recharge my batteries in order to keep up the act of extroversion.
Hope that helps!
i love isfjs so much they are so cute and harmless and goofy and kind 💕 favorite type ☺️
the ending made me tear up. holy shit.. thank u
Every test i take gives a different answer... Its like im a mix of everything and nothing all at once! Just what the heck am i?!
Exactly! The same thing happens to me!
Divergent... jk. First thing comes to mind. I took the test several times and just pick the one felt closest
You are confused... like me... 😥
For the longest time I kept getting mistyped as isfp, infp, infj, istj, and the fit to a certain extent but there was always stuff that wasn't quite me. But I found isfj and I'm like, wow! that's me! I've researched way more about cognitive functions too, if you don't understand why you're typed as you are I recommend researching it its so interesting!!!
Well I took a test and I got ISFJ-T but idk anymore. Sometimes it doesn't describe me.
제니Jenni how old are you
So basically: my mom.
I love All Fe types; they are the humanity. INFJ are complete advocates for society; ESFJ and ISFJ are considerate and pleasant humans you see daily. ENFJs are the default humanity leaders type. I love you guys and girls; you are beautiful. Don’t let the thinking type tell you otherwise. Feel your way through life; it is a magnificent way to live.
I feel weird to be a male ISFJ :/
Don't, man :) its all good . im ISFJ Man male too. we are good man. stable decent honest strong men.
yep me to everyone is so fucking different than me xD
totaly feel ya
***** Yeah but I'm not even sure if I AM an ISFJ. My personality is so mixed I don't even know what I am anymore.
Jack Gardel It can be hard to know. Im now 18 years old (soon 19) and I got INFJ many times at first but now I've always gotten ISFJ for months or a year I think Im ISFJ.
ISFJ men are my absolute favorite.
I'm ISTP :)
As an Isfj, i am open and honest but to my closest friends i am not and i keep it inside in me without teling them what is bodering me and whenever i see that person i get angry and like i start hating them.. anyone having the same thing?
Yep and its a struggle even though now I am doing better. I just say it even if my mind is telling me to stop.
recognisable!
My mom is an ISFJ and she is the best mom
This is great! Can't wait for the INFP one :)
0:33 Afremov paintings - I’m an ISFJ and I’ve always loved his art!💛
I’m an ENFJ and my best friend is an ISFJ. I can’t say we ever argue. It’s a great Duo we makeb
This girl asked me out, and I started to cry, because I was going to say no, and I didn't want to hurt her feelings.
@Good Cook Sometimes we're too sensitive for our own good lol.
I'm more of an INFP personally, but this describes one of my characters I'm developing perfectly. The Myers brigs test is such a great tool for writers to flesh out and understand their characters better.
Just an ENTP checking out my type opposites hola party peoples
i really admire isfj's!! i dont have any isfj that i know of in my life rn, but reading about them made me think they're SO warm hearted :)) (btw i'm an infp)
Isfj here, hi
I recently realized that nice guys do not necessarily finish first: I am making an effort to state my opinion no matter how much it hurts those that my opinion is directed to. Even if it hurts me, I am going to let the opinion fly!
I'm a proud ISFJ. :)
Yes, we should be proud of being ISFJ.
@@GiovanniDeMaioLangella Absolutely.
that 6th sense thing is real people
why am i obsessively watching MBTI videos? Also, i am an impressionistic writer, but i keep getting infp when i take the test, i am confused of my own existence.
i can fully relate to 3:30-4:20...
This was pretty accurate but so is the description of both INFJ and INFP. I score as a cognitive INFJ, but depending on my mood I am a functional ISFJ, INFP and sometimes an INFJ. So my conclusion after all of this: My personality has way too many aspects of it to fit into any one category. I have sub personalities, situational personalities, mood based personalities.
I took 2 tests. One said I'm an infj other said isfj. So what am I? Don't know what to believe
INFP please!
I can tell the moral character of someone almost immediately when I meet them. I can tell who people really are, what's on their heart. It's weird. It's like I have a strong moral compass or thermometer. I'm a good judge of ppl. Haha. Everyone probably thinks that though right.
Not me... results in wasted time...
This is pretty much me. I tell people all the time, I hate being right all the time. I also will pull myself back to align my opinions with someone else. I am all about the comfort and safety of others, even when it inconveniences me. I want people to feel happy and loved, and like they belong. It's hard to push my buttons, because I don't keep them out on display. Pretty accurate, I would say
I feel like I was in between ISFJ and INFJ. I don't know why.
I took a personality test and now I see this and yes I can say that the test was right! I am Defender
my phrases are "i fucked it up" and "relax,lets all try to be pals"
To any ISFJ, image if your subconscious mind functioned as your conscious mind, and vice versa. Welcome to the crazy world of the ENTP. Our ISJF subconscious is build to handle the pain you guys feel in life. People think the ENTP lacks compassion, but deep down we care a great deal like you guys do on the surface.
ISFJ, the perfect employee.
The intro music is awesome.
The video description of them is so BAD. I'm so glad you made an alternative improve version of them cause this one was terrible.
My bf is an ISFJ and I kinda don't see it... Like? He loves stirring the pot half the time, has offensive humor, can be a jerk, and is quiet. He likes his alone time, has a go with the flow attitude, has no clue about what his purpose is from what it seems, and doesn't care too much about others. Though when it comes to me he is very sensitive, understanding and supportive, is always trying to keep peace whenever I flip out on someone. He's always in his head and I just wanna see the world from his perspective and understand him better. I'm an ENFP, by the way
He does not sound like an ISFJ. Perhaps redo the test.
Yea he sounds like an ISFJ
Hahaha, I'm ISFJ and my man is ENFP and yes, I hear these stuff too. We are intriverted types so need a lot of 'self time' we have to reload our energy.
Also I struggle with these feelings my own. I don't know what my purpose is, I care a lot and at the same time I don't care at all. It's what I hate about myself. Like I'm trapped in this mind.
Lot of ISFJ have low self esteem and/ or anxiety. Maybe he has too? Deep in our hearts we care and it makes us cry inside when people say we're not but because of my social anxiety I do have problems speaking my mind and what's bothering me. We also want to keep peace so we avoid conflicts but at the same time by remaining silent we can be seen as cold and mean etc.. (to me personally it's fear) When we're in conflict I freeze, I got blackouts in my mind or it's a loop of what I should/can say but it's just not comming out of my mouth
ISFJs, the vanguard, or meat shield... :(
I had a small chat with the patient , she asked me shake hands I Did and noticed her hand is big. I was amazed and ask what kind of a job she's on while she was young, Well, she s old, ad usual, I recieved unconvincing answer so just continued my cht with her. Today around 3:20〜Or so,
My mum's an ISFJ, and she's lovely. I think it's one the most motherly type, but I'm a guy so I wouldn't wanna be like her. As an ESTP, I've dismissed her opinions and advice many times.
Yes I’m so quiet 🤫 and shy person
I'm an ENTP and I think my Mom is an ISFJ and we dont get along. Theres no hate really, but it's probably a mix of complete misunderstanding and dismissal in both directions that causes so many problems.
I feel sorry that she gets overwhelmed with life to the point where she has a hard time functioning without lists and plans and records, but I can appreciate the structure that brings, which I'm lacking. I have a hard time actually figuring out which of my ideas are worthwhile to pursue, and for the most part it leaves me quiet and observant.
When I get upset at her high-strung nature, stubbornness, or seeming stupidity at what to me is obvious patterns in the flow of life that should be easy to predict and react to, she tends to make the problem worse by placating me with treats or compliments. I think I understand that it's an admission of misunderstanding, but it feels like I'm being treated like a dog who just stops bugging you when you finally give it a treat.
She seems like she dismisses everything not directly relating to her life, and makes huge jumps into spirituality and the supernatural for the things she cant explain or doesnt consider important enough to devote energy into.
A good example is that she has a cat. She didn't want the cat, but she saw how much my sister wanted one and agreed to it. She cares for it, but often forgets to feed it, and uses her toys and bed as storage areas for various things sometimes (the cat sleeps wherever). She is absolutely convinced that the cat is chasing ghosts when it runs around the house after nothing, completely ignoring the fact that the cat has no accessible toys, companions, and space to burn off energy, so shes probably just really restless, but since theres no obvious hard facts pointing to that, she jumps to ghosts and then moves on with her life.
Good analogy quiet heroes
As an ISFJ I agree
Michael jackson seems like an ISFJ
To all ISFJ, please voice your opinion or struggles. (Saying this as an ENFJ. We want to help💙 and we can feel if you dont feel well, or you are keeping things to yourself, because you are scared to speak up. No need to be afraid and quiet, even if thats in your comfort zone.
Idk if this fits me because I’m very assertive.
THE SIXTH SENSE ABOUT PEOPLE IS SOOOO TRUUEEEEE
ENTP dropping by in the comments, just trying to understand my opposite type! ;D
Miss Elle how do you get along with ISFJs around you?
WOW THIS NAILED ME SPOT ON
I can read people easily and say if they're telling the thruth, if they're nervous, scared, etc. It's not like a sixth sense, it's more like analysis. My biggest problem is: I can't confront these people who are lying and say "well, you're lying". So I keep that information to myself and start to look for proof or facts, so I can show the other person that it is wrong and there's no arguing. I know that if I say something without proof will start a discussion and I hate discussions.
ISFJ at heart ❤️:3