♿️HOW TO FEEL CONFIDENT IN A WHEELCHAIR | 9 USFUL TIPS
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- ♿️HOW TO FEEL MORE CONFIDENT IN A WHEELCHAIR? ITS ONE OF THE QUESTIONS I GET ASKED A LOT. HOPEFULLY IN THIS VIDOE I CAN GIVE YOU SOME TIPS TO HELP YO FEEL MORE CONFIDENT AS A WHEELCHAIR USER, OR WITH A DISABILITY.
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After suffering my spinal cord injury i have really had to adapt in life. So Im showing you my disability lifestyle to raise disability awareness. As a disabled woman and a woman in a wheelchair who is paralysed, I thought it would be interesting for you to see, and hopefully give you some inspiration and motivation so that you can live more independently. wether you are paraplegic or quadriplegic I hope that I can help you. The wheelsnoheels message is “so no one has to feel alone.”
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If someone out there is watching this, and they haven't been out in their wheelchair yet. What advice would you give them?
Thank you everyone who took part to make this video.
To younger me that was afraid to go out in my wheelchair, I would say just do it and don't think about what anyone else thinks of you. Enjoy the freedom of your wheelchair, don't be limited by it. (apart from inaccesability)
"Don't feel inferior if you can't do complex things like wheelies". I think you went a bit wrong by calling it a "basic skill". I know it's probably not advisable, but to feel completely confident on short trips, I don't take my diuretic tablet until I get home - so I'm not rushing to and from the loo.
Ok 1st off i had knee surgery ( fractured tibia R leg ) and was in rehab bout a month & 1/2. Ok my experience in wheelchair gives me a new perspective & yea ur butt does get sour & padding is ur friend. Lol my advice is Never give up on ur goals .
People aren't looking at your chair, they are looking at your fabulousness
try to go out with supportive friends especially if you're young. if you're out and about with your friends people tend to not stare as much when you're rolling around a store with people your age rather than with your parents.
I’ve found that with decorating my mobility scooter as well. People don’t ask me what’s wrong with me, they tell me they like my lights or flowers
I have a service dog and found I love having her cape and mobility harness be personalized. One set is nightmare before Christmas and the other is galaxy. I feel so much happier than when she was in a standard red and black one.
I definately second the fit and customization of the wheels
Other points to increase confidence:
1. Don't think of being "wheelchair bound" or "confined to a wheelchair" the wheelchair is the solution to a problem and they are in fact your legs and feet, your wheels get you where you want to go
2. Tied in to point 1, take care of your wheels (if you're physically able too), clean your casters and connection points of the big wheels regularly, this keeps them rolling smoothly
3. Wear comfortable clothing, there's a lot out there for both men and women and develop a new style check wheels2walking guys if you need tips, ladies Gem here has you covered
4. Get involved with the community, there are groups on social media, RUclips channels, adaptive sports clubs..... you name it, especially for you newer wheelies there's nothing like knowing people that can relate to how you feel (like had a flat tire? We get the hell of that, shout out to fellow latexallery folks that aren't allowed to change the tire themselves, we get it without any explanation)
5. Don't let people belittle you, just because you're in a wheelchair doesn't mean you're stupid
6. If you have the ability to stand and maybe walk a bit you're not a fraud or "lazy"
7. You don't owe anyone an explanation about why you're in wheels (frankly I find it rude if it's literally the first thing people ask when I don't know them and never answer it, you don't ask someone with glasses why they wear one right? Medical confidentiality exist for a reason) and if you don't want to explain then don't, I know quite a few that lie just to be done
8. Don't apologize if someone bumps into you because that person wasn't paying attention where he or she was going while you were
I'm a naturally really confident person but as an ambulatory wheelchair user I feel really really self conscious in my chair, so much so that I sometimes push myself by walking when i really shouldnt
Your videos are so helpful Gem xx
Tomorrow I get my first ever wheelchair, I'm 14 and this all feels so so new. This video really helped prepare me for everything that's about to happen, thank you so much, I will be watching lots more of your videos to help me out
I'm 14 and going to get a wheelchair ASAP, and I feel super alone, so thank you for putting this here. It's making me feel less alone, even if it was from a year ago
15 here. glad i’m not alone :’)
My wheelchair gloves (bike gloves...but wheelchair gloves lol) are lime green, so are the painted parts of my wheelchair and my backpack. 👍🏽 🦽💚
Fun! My wheelchair and lots of my accessories are purple 💜
This vid is so good I just. Got spinal I was in a car Accident I just recovered enough to start using the wheelchair not been bedbound
Hooray for no longer being bedbound!! Wheelchairs provide so much freedom 🎉💜
This is a great video! I like to match the colors of my wheelchair with my hair or nail polish. It is a fun conversation starter when on public transportation or at the airport. I was like, if people are going to stare at me I would give them something interesting to look at. I was so happy when I was approached by a curious little kid and her first questions were about my hair color and not why am I in a wheelchair. I actually love talking to curious kids, it bothers me more when parents get embarrassed and shoo them away. (let them learn something new!) Traveling to unfamiliar places more often helped build up my confidence.
Also just watching your videos and sharing them with my family has helped me, and also helped my family understand my needs as well as actual proof that I am not being stubborn when I insist I don't need help on certain tasks.
Aww this is so nice! Wonderful advice! As a veteran wheelchair user I think it is very important to give people advice and be a role "roll" model (hehe) with a new wheelchair user!! Also seeing the footage from last years Rollettes Experience is making me miss everyone SO MUCH!! I can't wait to go back! 😭
are you going this year? I wont be able to make it but planning 2021
@@Wheelsnoheels I am going this year!! You will be missed! But I'll also be back for 2021 hopefully!
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7 years with a wheelchair for me this March and I’ve personally never had a confidence issue in my chair once I got my first own chair delivered (which is the one I count as me starting to use a chair, I did have a loaner for about a month while waiting) I’m now on my third custom ordered chair because I wasn’t listened to the first two times lol But now I have a for me perfect chair that has the tapered front I wanted and need, a low backrest that doesn’t get in the way as I’m pushing, upholstery that is well padded so I don’t feel the metal or straps through all the time. I have Spinergy wheels and my whole chair is black except for metal color on footrest and the metal parts of the push handles. I even have black push rims on my chair as I use the Surge rims, and black spokes on my wheels hehe I didn’t get to pick color or wasn’t asked at least when my wheels were ordered but I have to admit I do like the all black look of my chair. Black just goes with everything! I’ve just customized my chair a bit with slap on bracelet style reflective strips above the casters on both sides, and one on the bar across the backrest. And I have valve caps on the wheels that light up as you roll, though the batteries have run out on both now so I need to change them lol But the lit up valve caps are both a fashion statement and cheap life insurance tbh. It makes my wheelchair more fun, and it makes it easier to see me when I go out anywhere after dark, and it also lights up the ground around me a little which means I also see better. Probably my best customization hack is the LED valve caps and reflective straps or tape or spoke decorations. Looks nice and saves your life when it’s dark outside, which it is here from about 16:00 in wintertime, even earlier just before Christmas. Sometimes around Christmas I’ve even put battery powered Christmas lights on the back of my chair lol
I have also used the LED valve caps. It gives everyone a nice light show if you're hurtling downhill at night. 😁
Led caps look awesome. Think Ill have to look inot getting sone
@@Wheelsnoheels They're meant for cars, but are apparently illegal in the UK. I got mine off Amazon.
Here the LED caps are sold in the bicycle aisle. I think they’re illegal on cars here as well, but legal on bicycles since they’re sold in physical shops too (I get mine from a chain called Biltema which is a shop that sells car parts and bicycles and accessories for the two along with a whole lot of other things too) But online has a lot more than physical shops has if a physical shop has any at all. I’m semi tempted to try multi colored LED caps sometime lol But I’m afraid the multi colored versions would be a bit too big and with that have a higher risk of breaking. The LED caps are still a lot higher than a regular cap so you need to be careful. It’s not in the way in any way, just have to be mindful and try to not hit the caps when they’re sticking up further than the standard caps.
But LED caps are totally worth it, both fun and better visibility!
I love the Christmas lights idea! I've been trying to think of some lights that will make my chair both safer and more fun in the dark. 💜
I have a close friend in a wheelchair, and I am that companion, helper, etc for him quite often.
One of the things I find really helps my confidence when going out is, because there aren't a lot of sidewalks (let alone curb cuts at the corners) where I live (small town in a rural area), I made sure I knew the laws about where it was legal to walk in the road on the outskirts of town (most are 2-lane roads, some with shoulders, some without), because that means that those are places I can take my chair. In fact, last spring, I had so much confidence from knowing those particular laws that someone, who apparently had great disdain for my audacity of going down a 2-lane road with no shoulder, decided to call the sheriff on me - all that person got was an earful of "she's perfectly within her rights, get over it" from the dispatch deputy (not sure whether it was the sheriff himself, or one of his deputies, that came up and told me that, but whoever it was took off after telling me that and, from the looks of it, probably went straight to the police station to let them know that if someone called them trying to report me, that the matter was already settled). I told my best friend about it later and we both had a good laugh.
A couple days ago For the first time in my wheelchair life I was able to pop a wheely and move forward to get up a uneven side walk crack ( like a good 3 inch lip that I would have gotten stuck on) and I was able to do it is because of your video. I have been in a wheelchair for a year and you have helped me so much thank you
oh yay. Well done xx
So, I am a relatively new wheelchair chair user, I’m not completely full time but I’d say about 98% of the time I’m a wheelchair user now. I didn’t used to need one as often but my disabilities progressed and I needed one. I just got a custom chair and it’s made life a lot easier but I’m still struggling with wanting to do the things I used to not need a chair for and you’ve really helped me not give in to depression during this time and I wanted to thank you so much for it. Your videos have helped me a ton!
I just like to say I love watching all your videos it helps me a lot when I am are a wheelchair user thank you
You are amazing person love you I support your channel you are inspireing person thanks my friend
thank you for your kind words. x
Wheelsnoheels - Gem Hubbard your welcome
Gem 💎 thank you so much for making these videos, while I’ve had a wheelchair for over ten years it’s been hard to keep myself positive and confident. I’m excited though that I’m getting a new wheelchair a tilite that is completely customized to me. I’ve had several others and everyone always tell me they love my chair cause it is hot pink and stands out.
amazing. I hope it all goes ok for you. :)
Finally got my new chair I love it. So nice and comfy!
I tend to take up the attitude of people are gonna stare, so give them something to look at. I've never been afraid to go bold with my fashion choices and I definitely don't shy away from unnatural hair colors. If I feel like going out in my cow print pants with bright purple hair I do so. At least then I can tell myself people are staring at me for the choices I made not the situation I have found myself in being a new wheelchair user
Gloves? Which, what, where, how and why?
I'm shopping for a replacement wheelchair. Your tips, etc, are useful indeed. My previous wheelchair was stolen from my front door. It was a wreck, tyres worn, fabric wornout and unbalanced. I do well on crutches...just!
(UK)
I am a part time wheelchair user. I do short walks, but anything longer th than 15 minutes causes too much pain. How do I get people to understand that my body has limits, and I cant just push through?
I have had MS for a while but am new to needing a wheelchair (more than briefly, years ago). Right now I've no idea how long I'll need it but am starting to think through all the logistics, what I can try to do and how. This video is so helpful! I especially appreciated the advice to take someone with you. I did feel a little guilty for feeling like I'd rather have someone with me when I'm trying different places in a wheelchair for the first time so I appreciate you normalizing that!
Most docs will tell you its not possible, but please check out diets like dr Wahls and AIP (autoimmune protocol) and don’t t eat junk food, it does make a difference in the decline.
One thing have not gotten to is learning how to wheelie. I do have a bit of an inner ear issue which doesnt help. But you and others have inspired me to get with it and learn how to wheelie. Never to late to learn, even at my age.
Had my custom chair evaluation today with numotion, I’m so anxious about if insurance will approve everything that I needed. Watching your videos makes me feel so much better though. Seeing how confident and independent you are makes me so positive❤️
Hope it all works out for you x
I admire people in wheelchairs, I use crutches myself, but there will be a time, when I will have to rely on a wheelchair, I have a wheelchair in case I have trouble walking with my crutches. I just wish small cars had more space to transport a Manuel wheelchair. On my wheelchair the two big wheels come off. I'm only petite, so I can only drive a small vehicle. By the way I like your video's 😀
I've hardly been able to go out recently as my other aids arenno longer enough saw wheelchair services today and have been approved to get a wheelchair with a priority referral so hopefully it will be here in a couple of weeks although I'm so excited to get my independence back I have been very nervous about and this helped so much thank you
Charlotte c I wish you good luck and speed on getting your new wheelchair. If I can make a recommendation; one of the lightest ones on the market is motion composites I have had this one for nearly 4 years and it is still very comfy and lightweight enough so that if I’m alone I can lift it into the car myself.
@@Jaggededge112 mines motion composite too :)
I hope you get the chair you need. I have a video about choosing a custom chair. That may help. x
I still don’t have a wheelchair yet but love all these tips. ❤️
A few confidence tips I learnt:
Take someone with you on your first few trips out then when you do go alone for the first time make it a short trip, somewhere you know so it can be a success, then you have more confidence for the next time.
Have the confidence to tell people you don’t need help/for them to push you but be polite, I always say something like “thank you so much for asking but I can manage”. I think it’s important not to scare them off from asking again because someone else or even me on a bad day may need that help. You may need to be really insistent as some people don’t like to accept no.
i have recently started using a crutch to help me walk, it made me feel self very conscious as it's the fist time my disability has been visible, I have since bought a nice smart looking one and I feel far more confident with it.
Hi , Just be confident in yourself, ignore the stares, I've had the same problem for years, I've learned not to take notice of people staring, as I get older. There are some great people out there, that are respectful, even though we are wheelchair users. So keep your chin up. 😉
Hi Gem, very interesting & helpful tutorial Thank You ❣️ I have got used to people looking to but what really upsets and most of all annoys me is that some people think just because u are disabled u haven't got the right to be in certain places my son took me to the theatre last year and the woman at the door said to me u cannot bring that thing in hear 😤 so my son said to hear why did u bring those things at the bottom of your legs in hear then yes my son said the scooter is my mams legs the woman didn't know wear to look and people around us said to my son good on you mate I was so proud of my son And yes I did enjoy the theatre even more then I wouldn't wish I'll health on anybody but that woman and people like that doesn't know what the future holds .....All the best Lin x
ugh what a vial woman, Glad you got to enjoy your time our with your son. x
@@Wheelsnoheels 👍☺️❣️
A lot of service dog handlers get that same flack, too. "Dude, it's medical equipment! You can't tell me I can't bring my medical equipment in with me!" (in the U.S., it's a federal violation to deny someone bringing their medical equipment into public places). And good on him - there are some disabled people where it's a choice between a snappy comeback and a meltdown when they're confronted about that sort of thing.
Knowing how to use it perfectly! In my case for that reason i broke my head.
I always like to have a drink with me, cold in summer and hot in winter so I've put a cycle bottle carrier on one of the front legs, and no, I'm in my 4th chair and there's always something that you would like different about it.
Nothing more to say than: GREAT!
i just watched your video about your heart surgery. I have the same type of scare on my rib cage, There was a valve in my heart that did not close properly. I also had a stint put in my heart and they had to go through my growing as well. It's crazy. I have never known anyone with the same scars as me other than my grandma and my mother, It is hereditary, Crazy. I
I used to be able to do wheelies but now because I own a heavy manual wheelchair because when I Did, I’d fall back and hit my head.
Hi Gem your videos have helped me so much, you have helped me feel more confident in my wheelchair. Thank you 😀 I'm a new subscriber 👍 PS I'm dyslexic too 👍😉
0:37 It's actually in the other corner.
2:49 How many years did you say? Nah, just kidding. I understood you.
5:02 I understand, but I rather like being seen as a person who happens to be sat in a wheelchair, as opposed to being seen as a wheelchair that happens to have a person sat in it.
6:50 I actually don't think you look that bad.
7:28 Oh, come on... Surely you don't smell that bad.
10:35 Uh...Gem...? Are you OK...?
I almost forgot your request for confidence tips. You actually kind of covered the only one I can think of:
Learn to use your wheelchair or whatever it is you use so that you never need to think about it. Figuring such things out will give you a sense of accomplishment, which is invaluable.
I decorate my wheelchair so they do not ask me what's wrong they just compliment the art work of my wheelchair
Can you recommend an large, open space to practice wheelchair skills? I'm a new, ambulatory wheelchair user. I have ME/FM/POTS but insurance wouldn't help at all so I'm studying your videos, along with #Wheels2walking, to learn the proper techniques. Your videos and positive, bubbly outlook have been invaluable to me and I can't thank you enough for every tip and insight. I keep wracking my brain to come up with an open, flat space to practice my skills, but the mall is the best I've come up with. Can you or anyone else here recommend a less crowded place?
Omg hi early xx
I'm getting stuff from Amazon. To decorate my mobility scooter
Hi
Just saw " how 2b conferences in a wheel chair " 1st off lov her accent , if i may ask can u feel anything below ur waistline ? And more power to all who are dealing with similar issues.
I don’t (yet) have a custom chair but rather a standard folding aluminium chair, only ‘different’ thing about it is that it’s a narrower seat. I am currently mid transition between mainly managing to walk with a rollator and using a chair for days out/longer trips to now having to use my wheelchair as the primary and rollator for only very short walks. As the transition progresses I will be continuing to work with my neurological physiotherapist and she will hopefully get the ball rolling (ha!) for at least getting a partial voucher for a custom chair but this takes time and until then I’m finding it a real struggle to have any real independence in the wheelchair, these chairs just aren’t designed for longer term independent lifestyles. I have got spoke reflectors, a pekka pack and good seat cushion and want to get some lights but I’m in a difficult in between situation with no good option. Physio is coming round tomorrow and I will talk with her more.
If anyone has any good customisation ideas for a four wheeled rollator with seat I would love to hear them, I’m at a bit of a loss, I want to do something that looks good and helps me be seen in low light.
I think annie Elainy (cant spell.) uses a rollator. Or look on instagram. lots of people on there use them and customise.. :)
I knew someone that would bling up her canes with strips of faux diamonds it was so pretty. Maybe you could look into getting something like that.
The only person who has stared at me is the lady that still thinks she can abuse me even though she is no longer my neighbour.
Hey! I'm from Chile. I have Spastic Diplegia, i use a wheelchair and sometimes is real issue😂I need help. I love your channel! Do you have instagram?
I want to give you a "tip" but I can't see a link for it below in your description. Maybe add a 'PayPal Me' link which will make it easier for people to send you a tip. Your videos are helping me and I want to show my appreciation. Thank you. xx
If my wheelchair backrest is at the height of mid back what level wiould my backrest be approximately I,e
, t7 im 5 ft 1 and 3 quarters
I'm getting married this summer and I'm using my wheelchair for distances longer than like 30 metres... for example the aisle in the church is probably... 60-70m? And then back and forth it's the double. I don't think I can manage to walk that distance without giving me A LOT of pain and ruining the day that way, but at the same time.. rolling down the aisle with all those stares would make me feel really uncomfortable. I've had the wheelchair for about two years now so I'm not very confident yet. I wouldn't be alone in the aisle since in Sweden traditionally the couple walk down the aisle together, but still, I feel very insecure. Any suggestions on what to do, anyone?
Oh wow congratulations. To be honest, if your walking or rolling, everyone will be looking at you. Because you are the beautiful bride, and you will be looked at by everyone who loves and cares the most about you. They wont see a disability, or a wheelchair. They will see a beautiful bride. xxx
@@Wheelsnoheels Thank you so much Gem for your answer and your kind words! I hope I can muster the confidence to do this. I feel quite okay with my friends and family, but I haven't even met half of the people my future husband has invited. So I guess I'm mainly nervous about them who have never seen me in a wheelchair before. But I'll try to think of your encouragement :)