My Big Fat Gypsy Wedding Cake | Irish Traveller Wedding

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  • Опубликовано: 30 окт 2024

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  • @indiabartholomew579
    @indiabartholomew579 3 года назад +4999

    I respect her mum so much for going against tradition and facing the judgement and persecution from her community by divorcing her husband for the sake of her children, I'm not a traveller and I can never understand the extent of their beliefs but I can see the incredible strength that the mother has displayed to give the best life to her children, mad respect

    • @heleshamaughan6772
      @heleshamaughan6772 3 года назад +88

      I’m a traveller and My mommy is good friends wit a few divorced women actually,one of dem was remarried until he passed away god give him a good bed in heaven

    • @Babiemelo
      @Babiemelo 3 года назад +44

      It’s definitely all stupid the the rules the girls have to follow by the men it’s not fair at all
      I’m so glad I live a normal life and not whatever this is

    • @shebsaturner9737
      @shebsaturner9737 3 года назад +21

      @@Babiemelo what do you call a "normal" life?

    • @shannluv8331
      @shannluv8331 3 года назад +10

      @@Babiemelo well life's great thanks🖒 you don't live a normal life babe what is normal these days

    • @maryroberts9233
      @maryroberts9233 3 года назад +46

      Being divorced is hard for anyone. Better to be out of an abusive relationship than in one. Its good that she's strong enough for herself and her children.

  • @lisasteen595
    @lisasteen595 3 года назад +2776

    I literally have tears in my eyes you could hear the fear in girls voices when the “grabbing” begins. It’s horrible, I don’t care that it’s “culture” it’s assault! I hope the police will do something agains this…

    • @TheBeezusjones
      @TheBeezusjones 2 года назад +279

      Yeah , it made me ill. Disgusting, in 2021, that any man should feel entitled to treat a human this way , and that any woman should think it acceptable to be treated this way.

    • @lighthouselaura4324
      @lighthouselaura4324 2 года назад +25

      I agree, but in most of the world- woman are 2nd class humans. Even in countries were women have equal rights- there isn't equality. Look what happens in America, canada, western Europe & Australia to women that report rapes. Or how many rapist see jail or repeat rapist of children that get out after a year. And those are the places were women have the most voice. In my lifetime it's become a crime to rape your wife. Women have only had the vote in those areas for 100 yrs. My mom couldn't were pants to public high school.

    • @annabel1751
      @annabel1751 2 года назад +247

      I actually used to work with traveller girls and they said that the programme is very accurate except for the grabbing. Apparently they really would just come up behind you and make you jump and ask for a kiss and you can say no. They said that they exaggerated it a lot for the programme so that's worth knowing I think

    • @denisesander7728
      @denisesander7728 2 года назад +41

      I agree. That's revolting. If that's the only way you can get a husband, then that in itself is horrible

    • @katieprater4417
      @katieprater4417 2 года назад +29

      “The police” 😂

  • @mompierce9306
    @mompierce9306 3 года назад +2086

    Out of all the gypsy weddings this one was my favorite so far! She had a tasteful dress and gorgeous cake. Give so much respect to her mother for being such a role model and removing her children from growing up in a home witnessing domestic violence. As far as that grabbing though - I would never tolerate anyone doing that to my daughter even if it was the thing to do.

    • @taffeta6232
      @taffeta6232 3 года назад +3

      True

    • @cherylharewood2549
      @cherylharewood2549 3 года назад +5

      @Mom Pierce true words however, you should watch "Mariage Gitan/ Francais" these are French gypsies. The bride's name is Claudia. She wore a white wedding dress with yellow flowers. The date of the wedding is 06-08-2016 Thank you

    • @kanda..asmrrr2440
      @kanda..asmrrr2440 2 года назад +2

      Dress is nice I always see the girl with the money dress she even hated it , cause yea it was horrid

    • @chantellematekino-louis2119
      @chantellematekino-louis2119 2 года назад +1

      Yep, that was my thought too

    • @georgina-a
      @georgina-a 2 года назад +19

      I just want to reiterate what Traveller Myths has said. I'm a Traveller, born and bred. I've been to more Traveller weddings than I care to remember and I have not once seen anyone get violently "grabbed", nor have I heard of this so-called tradition. The nearest I've seen is a boy trying to talk a girl into a kiss, and maybe a bit of play-fighting, but nothing remotely like this...
      I can tell you, though, that if anyone manhandled a girl like that - particularly at a function with a lot of Travellers present - every man in her family (closely followed by every self-respecting man in the community) would be out defending her and teaching the lad a lesson he'd never forget.
      Sadly, just like every culture, domestic violence cases occur in our community. It's a human problem, not just a Traveller problem. But we absolutely, categorically do *not* encourage the grabbing and harming women. That is neither our tradition nor our culture.

  • @Ava-ns5bk
    @Ava-ns5bk 3 года назад +858

    The wedding cakes in these videos are princess/castle/pink themed and would be most wanted by little girls, and I think that is a reminder to everyone just how young these girls are when they are getting married. Young enough to think things like "when I grow up".

    • @KathleenMahaney
      @KathleenMahaney 2 года назад +48

      They are so young and what they want at 17/18 and as an adult is totally different. These poor girls feeling the pressure to get married

    • @naylimsanchez3864
      @naylimsanchez3864 2 года назад +16

      I was thinking the same. These look like your average quinceañeras or Sweet 16s. Plus the receptions look like a child's birthday party where the kids outnumber the adults.

    • @alicruz4900
      @alicruz4900 2 года назад +7

      @@naylimsanchez3864 I thought the same thing. These girls should be celebrating their coming of womanhood with a sweet 16, not a wedding! I got married at 20 and it was too young.

    • @lauriannehoek
      @lauriannehoek Год назад +1

      I disagree with this because even when you grow up and are a adult, you should still make your inner child/teenager happy. I had a Tinkerbel party when I was 27 and I felt awesome. I am an adult but I themed parties. It really depends on the person. I personally feel like people expect that once you grow up play time is over when that is exactly what the world needs more of. The magic and the playfulness

    • @christineking2855
      @christineking2855 Год назад +1

      I love the cakes myself. Especially the pink and purple roses and feathers.💗💜

  • @aryane.azevedo23
    @aryane.azevedo23 3 года назад +1874

    This girl is really lovely, she has a soft voice, and it was so beautiful seeing her massage her moms hands

    • @TinkLuvsHarleys
      @TinkLuvsHarleys 3 года назад +52

      Instead of daddy's hands , its mammas hands. This made me cry because I too was a victim of DV and raised my babies as a single mother. Never underestimate the will and power of a woman when her child /children are involved. This lady done extremely well for her daughter and such a beautiful wedding too. The cake was gorgeous and the brides gown was magnificent.

    • @Mirmir.0
      @Mirmir.0 3 года назад +14

      @@TinkLuvsHarleys I’m in awe of you! I hope your children honor you.

    • @AngieJames4172
      @AngieJames4172 3 года назад +14

      @@TinkLuvsHarleys I've also walked that horrible path. And you are so right.!
      NEVER EVER underestimate the will and power of a woman when her child /children are involved!
      ❤🦁 ❤ 🐯❤

    • @phishlipsable
      @phishlipsable 2 года назад +5

      such love in that gesture

    • @YourMsRightHere
      @YourMsRightHere 2 года назад +2

      This makes me miss my mom and her arthritic hands.

  • @KF-cx8bm
    @KF-cx8bm 3 года назад +2340

    The bride's blue eyes with her dark hair is just stunning.

    • @jtz3563
      @jtz3563 3 года назад +17

      Blue eyes are scary looking. Actually there's been studies that show that blue eyes elicit brain signals of distrust. A sign of evil lol

    • @carmenhoma1782
      @carmenhoma1782 3 года назад +43

      She is just beautiful

    • @deaconsmom2000
      @deaconsmom2000 3 года назад +25

      That coloring came over on the boat in my family. Sadly, only in the men. At least they're gorgeous.

    • @shebsaturner9737
      @shebsaturner9737 3 года назад +11

      @@jtz3563 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

    • @JodiLeaSnakeQueen
      @JodiLeaSnakeQueen 3 года назад +18

      @@jtz3563 o...k then

  • @alyssamango4978
    @alyssamango4978 3 года назад +1564

    I appreciate the warning at the begining for the "grabbing", also the dress makers views on it were spot on. In the series they never had disclaimers, so thank you.

    • @ILovePink-x1v
      @ILovePink-x1v 2 года назад +99

      They don’t need a warning for “grabbing”, they need a warning for literal sexual assault and abuse. Say it with me Culture👏Doesn’t👏Make👏Harassment👏Or👏Abuse👏Okay👏

    • @georgina-a
      @georgina-a 2 года назад +33

      To be clear, what you are witnessing on that show was as much of a shock to me as it was to you - & I'm a Traveller. I've been to countless weddings and functions and I have not once seen anything like this.
      The nearest we get is a boy trying to sweet-talk a girl, maybe try and sneak a kiss, and there might be a bit of playfighting - but *nothing* that's actually aggressive like that. A girl's reputation is hugely important in my community, so if someone grabbed her like that, her family would be out defending her in a heartbeat and the lad responsible would wish he'd never been born.
      I'm assuming it's been made up for TV, because this horrific, violent "grabbing" just doesn't happen.

    • @ILovePink-x1v
      @ILovePink-x1v 2 года назад +9

      @@georgina-a Right, I have realised these shows make pretty gross scenes to attract audience. A Gypsy told me that they made the “grabbing” thing up for views but I’m not sure.

    • @georgina-a
      @georgina-a 2 года назад +25

      @@ILovePink-x1v I suspect that the Gypsy you spoke to was right, because I've never seen it happen and I don't know anyone who has ever partaken in "grabbing". I know that anyone who attacked a woman like that in front of Travellers would rue the day they were born, though...
      This TV show has a lot to answer for... It makes me so angry that they describe it in the trigger warning as "an Irish Traveller courtship ritual". Firstly, we're not wildlife, we don't have "courtship rituals" (you can almost hear it in Attenborough's voice, can't you?! 😂) & secondly, that is no tradition of mine (& I come from a huge Irish Traveller family - none of whom have heard of it). The women in my family have always demanded (& received) respect.
      Have you ever seen the shots of the young girls dancing inappropriately on the show? I went to a wedding where they were filming and this is how they got the shots: they went over to a group of girls who were sat chatting and minding their own business (as kids at every type of wedding do) & asked them to dance "like they see in the music videos". They told them the best girls would be on TV and the very best girl would win £20. Told them they "wanted to show the world that Traveller weddings are fun". The girls were young and did it, believing it was innocent and positive... For about a minute, until one girl's Mammy saw, went ballistic, and put a stop to it. They chopped that tiny bit of footage of those 8 girls into little segments, cropped out the empty dance floor so it looked full if dancing kids, and sprinkled it throughout the reception footage to make it look like it was happening constantly at the wedding.
      Again, shock value for views, at the expense of our community's reputation 😕

    • @ILovePink-x1v
      @ILovePink-x1v 2 года назад +6

      @@georgina-a I could easily believe that.

  • @HelloNewMoon
    @HelloNewMoon 3 года назад +649

    “Grabbing” is assault soooo not sure why we dont just call it that. They might have a little traditional word for it but it should be called what it is during these documentations. This girl was sadder than anything to leave her mom. So sad. She’s scared and why not, chances are the relationship started out with her being “grabbed”

    • @cattherat-ss4kv
      @cattherat-ss4kv 2 года назад +13

      ok so apparently this was played up for the show to make the culture more shocking. According to people in the comments who're actually part of the community they usually just pick you up and immediately put you down, to give you a little shock, then ask for a kiss which you can decline. I'm not saying that's right either but it's a lot better than what's being shown.

    • @AnniCarlsson
      @AnniCarlsson 2 года назад +4

      @Traveller Myths so why do people that say they are travlers confirm it over and over again then? So far just seen you saying it's not happening.

    • @TheLatiosnlatias02
      @TheLatiosnlatias02 2 года назад

      @Traveller Myths
      That's the same as Ala Kachuu (bride kidnapping) in Kazakhstan, Kyrgyzstan, Uzbekistan, Tajikistan, Vietnam (mainly H'Mông people), Armenia, Azerbaijan, Moldova
      Roma gypsies (kalderash) endorse child marriages.
      Rohingya families rid themselves of their daughters through forced/child marriages to paedophiles in Bangladesh, Malaysia.

    • @TheLatiosnlatias02
      @TheLatiosnlatias02 2 года назад

      @Traveller Myths
      Grabbing

    • @josephine4611
      @josephine4611 2 года назад +2

      @Traveller Myths would you be able to tell us if the daughters can see their family after they get married? I'm confused if its just moving from the family home, or if they don't see their family at all after. Thank you

  • @rachelschueler7390
    @rachelschueler7390 3 года назад +683

    The bakers assistant's love to make the fairytale cake come true is so cute. She really does love job.

    • @5martgir14ever
      @5martgir14ever 3 года назад +15

      She will probably have to give it up once she is married though. 😒😒😒

    • @OldJoeBlows
      @OldJoeBlows 2 года назад +10

      She was married. There is an episode on her.

    • @mercedesprecht-matuschek6026
      @mercedesprecht-matuschek6026 2 года назад +4

      @@OldJoeBlows , where can we find her?

    • @OldJoeBlows
      @OldJoeBlows 2 года назад +3

      @@mercedesprecht-matuschek6026 oh gosh. I don’t know. I saw an episode that she got married here on yt.

  • @LanDominiq
    @LanDominiq 3 года назад +994

    The niece giving props at the end 👏🏾. Seems like her mom did do the best she could. Coming from a single mom household with less turmoil and struggle as other children I knew with both parents, her mom did an awesome job. 👌🏾.

  • @AHunt2024
    @AHunt2024 3 года назад +691

    "in the absence of her father, her disabled 15 year old brother is walking her down the aisle" sobbing

    • @leafii.
      @leafii. 3 года назад +48

      I love how her brother does it! It’s even better he’s disabled cause it’s a rare experience most disabled people don’t experience

    • @karolinapupi19977
      @karolinapupi19977 3 года назад +36

      Dissabilities are common in the travelling community because of inbreeding

    • @AHunt2024
      @AHunt2024 3 года назад +8

      @@leafii. it honestly melted my heart

    • @AHunt2024
      @AHunt2024 3 года назад +11

      @@karolinapupi19977 this isn't something exclusive to the travelling community. i was simply commenting on how nice it was that he was able to do it🤷🏻‍♀️

    • @rachelcookie321
      @rachelcookie321 3 года назад +42

      I hate how they had to to call him disabled and couldn’t just call him her brother. Unless it’s important to know then they shouldn’t be calling him disabled like that’s all he is. As a disabled person, this is one of the things the disabled community hates the most. We are more then our disabilities.

  • @simonec3311
    @simonec3311 3 года назад +421

    Her mom is such a brave Lady. Many traveller women suffer in silence with domestic violence. She is one of very few to stand up and say no! Well done and I wish her the best.

    • @TheLatiosnlatias02
      @TheLatiosnlatias02 2 года назад +3

      Ala Kachuu (bride kidnapping) in Kazakhstan, Kyrgyzstan, Uzbekistan, Tajikistan, Vietnam (mainly H'Mông people), Armenia, Azerbaijan, Moldova
      Roma gypsies (kalderash) endorse child marriages.
      Rohingya families rid themselves of their daughters through forced/child marriages to paedophiles in Bangladesh, Malaysia.
      And this girl's ma is one I can respect

  • @qtippyyy
    @qtippyyy 3 года назад +1824

    Id literally kick a guy if he did the 'grabbing' thing to me. Absolutely not, homeboy would be in so much pain.

    • @fabiwilliams4644
      @fabiwilliams4644 3 года назад +79

      Yeah he'd be grabbing his privates & begging for mercy

    • @cutiepiedomx7539
      @cutiepiedomx7539 3 года назад +36

      🤣 It's their tradition sadly, so they know it's going to happen!! They wouldn't do that to a none gypsy.

    • @lindainglis8506
      @lindainglis8506 3 года назад +10

      Stacy, you have no idea what you are talking about in this patriarchy.

    • @abigailbee7208
      @abigailbee7208 3 года назад +171

      ‘Grabbing’, according to law, is sexual assault. Calling it a tradition does not make it acceptable.

    • @taffeta6232
      @taffeta6232 3 года назад +3

      @@fabiwilliams4644 🤣🤣🤣✋🏼 same

  • @claireflores1597
    @claireflores1597 3 года назад +261

    On my wedding day I could not stop smiling and giggling. It was the happiest day of my life… this poor young girl seemed so scared and unsure.

    • @TheLatiosnlatias02
      @TheLatiosnlatias02 2 года назад

      Well I hope your spouse is not giving you a hard time

    • @islandgirl3126
      @islandgirl3126 2 года назад +12

      Ye but you probably weren't leaving your mum who had severe disabilities behind. I think that's her fear

    • @jessH090
      @jessH090 Год назад +6

      @@islandgirl3126 maybe true, but I notice none of these girls are genuinely smiling and laughing on their wedding day. Sad.

    • @arlascott
      @arlascott Год назад +5

      Shame that this is one of the only comments I can find about this, she looked absolutely terrified

  • @SKC193
    @SKC193 3 года назад +342

    Yeah, feel like a princess for a day cause you’re gonna be a slave for the rest of your life.

    • @carrierodriguez6402
      @carrierodriguez6402 3 года назад +14

      U. MADE ME LAUGH MY ASS OFF W UOUR COMMENT BUT ITS THE TRUTH

    • @lAmWrath
      @lAmWrath 3 года назад +5

      Fr 💀

    • @Tigerman303
      @Tigerman303 2 года назад +6

      So sad...

    • @MsMurphster123
      @MsMurphster123 2 года назад +13

      Yep it reminds me of Cinderella, at midnight the carriage turns into a pumpkin and it’s back to cooking and cleaning.

    • @bbyblues2793
      @bbyblues2793 8 месяцев назад

      Sums up all Indian weddings 😂

  • @naturelovinjenn7223
    @naturelovinjenn7223 3 года назад +713

    Wtf.... seriously.
    This girl not once looked happy.
    They weren’t even looking at each other during wedding at all. That was heartbreaking to watch... but THEN they end it with this grabbing crap! That looked like girls getting raped to me. What in the world is going on here. Someone grab my daughter like that, and they would never be able to walk, talk, or grab anything again the rest of their life.

    • @eljay1980
      @eljay1980 3 года назад +113

      As someone who was sexually assaulted when I was younger, this scene made me feel physically sick and is so upsetting to watch. Call it what they want but it's assault pure and simple. I am all for communities and religions respecting their culture, but why does it have to be at the cost of innocent young girls and their freedom and self respect. Makes me so angry that this is allowed, and expected to continue through the generations.

    • @lilynecinka8276
      @lilynecinka8276 3 года назад +15

      @Nature Lovin Jenn **That looked like girls getting raped to me.** Same! I had to googled it in Urban Dictionary to find out what exactly it ment this **grabbing shit**

    • @bellabeaton8192
      @bellabeaton8192 3 года назад +11

      @@eljay1980 same. I couldn’t even watch the whole thing it disgusts me.

    • @spidermiss2426
      @spidermiss2426 3 года назад +28

      yes, pretty much the same. I was raped at the age of 18 and the fact that a relationship starts out as sexual assault is pretty sickening.

    • @tp8087
      @tp8087 3 года назад +7

      That is EXACTLY what "grabbing" is.

  • @BengiKayScarlet
    @BengiKayScarlet 3 года назад +263

    The way the daughter smiles at her mom is completely different from everyone. That is true love mother and daughter love 💕

  • @callilove8378
    @callilove8378 3 года назад +418

    I really really really appreciate the cake girl... her excitement and talent and expression is major high key positive vibes 💙💜💚❤

    • @Totalchaos0228
      @Totalchaos0228 2 года назад +20

      She is so sweet, isn't she? I hope she never loses her passion for what she does.

    • @ambrr_lily
      @ambrr_lily 2 года назад +12

      I also thought her brief explanation of the Gypsy weddings vs "country" people was really perfect. Not defensive, just proud and understanding how we are different. She's quite lovely in every way.

    • @mascara1777
      @mascara1777 2 года назад +7

      Yes, that's Noreen, she's awesome!

    • @SACHKIGAL
      @SACHKIGAL 2 года назад +4

      I like Noreens spirit!!

    • @kylieevolved7400
      @kylieevolved7400 2 года назад +1

      I love that she’s a working traveller girl. That she’s developing a trade for herself and she will be ok if she marries and anything goes awry.

  • @Miss_Camel
    @Miss_Camel 3 года назад +124

    Just a quick THANK YOU to whomever thought to add the trigger warning at the beginning, your consideration is recognized and appreciated. ❤️❤️❤️

  • @catezaida8081
    @catezaida8081 3 года назад +426

    Fascinating culture. VERY glad I was not born into it. My respect for the Mom is unending.

  • @Alice-ia7451
    @Alice-ia7451 2 года назад +114

    17:41 I was on the verge of tears.. I couldn’t imagine getting “grabbed” by someone, and people thinking it was okay because it is part of my “culture!”

  • @believeinyourself7511
    @believeinyourself7511 3 года назад +212

    Please know you can still get married and continue your education. There is even online classes. Anything your heart desires as a profession or open your own business will make you feel respected and worthy. Your marriage will just be part of your life. All of that will be what your known for!

    • @mrsleigh7806
      @mrsleigh7806 3 года назад +22

      It’s not just getting married that’s the problem; it’s the way they treat marriage. These girls will be expected to take care of their husbands as if they are children and then have children and do all the work of taking care of them. It would be hard to have time for school around all that.

    • @believeinyourself7511
      @believeinyourself7511 3 года назад +2

      @@mrsleigh7806 So true. Back in the day American women had to do the same thing. Luckily most of us went back to school like college.

    • @lah1667
      @lah1667 2 года назад +2

      @@believeinyourself7511 a generation of women deferred marriage and put career first. Now they are single in middle age/ age related infertility has caught up with them and they are freezing their eggs or having to remain childless and not necessarily through choice. I'm not saying the travellers are right to marry so young and for the women to not be educated / capable of financially supporting themselves independently but 'settled folk' haven't necessarily got things entirely right either. A career alone won't necessarily lead to happiness- a balanced life is what leads to happiness (career/ family/ friends/ spirituality all in sync, as far as is possible)

  • @josi4381
    @josi4381 3 года назад +503

    Okay, the "couples" whole demeanor at the wedding ceremony was heartbreaking. They looked both unhappy, forced and when she put the ring on his finger, it appeared as if she didn't want to touch him while he didn't really offer his hand. This is sad. Nobody seems to be ready for that marriage and yet everyoneet it happen.

    • @Ms.Nina_official
      @Ms.Nina_official 3 года назад +66

      Out of the comments I have read, this is the only one that makes sense. They are still kids you can clearly tell. The guy doesn't understand a single thing about relationships let alone marriage. It's quite sad when they are both clueless and expected to live together for life and uild a family

    • @nanodon4
      @nanodon4 3 года назад +44

      And he's standing there with his hands in his pockets. Not respecful of the ceremony at all.

    • @nanodon4
      @nanodon4 2 года назад +25

      I thought I saw someone say the bride was pregnant. If this was true, and this was a shotgun wedding, the demeanor of the couple makes sense.

    • @AbigailThinks
      @AbigailThinks 2 года назад +9

      @@nanodon4 I had to do a double take when the bride walks around her dress in one shot. It looked like she had a bump, I hate assuming that about women and much less a girl her age, but it almost looked like she did.

    • @jamielatham5422
      @jamielatham5422 2 года назад

      Agreed so sad

  • @slp_npjd8789
    @slp_npjd8789 3 года назад +192

    I'd rather be known for the one that punched the guy who didn't want to be grabbed.

  • @JodiLeaSnakeQueen
    @JodiLeaSnakeQueen 3 года назад +556

    First time ever watching this show and feel for this mother!
    She actually LEFT the marriage and I know I'm a nobody but im so happy for her! I left a marriage too when literally EVERYONE was telling me not to. "You're married now put up with it..."
    Like fuck no you don't just "put up" with abuse! Smh!

    • @naomisherred166
      @naomisherred166 3 года назад +22

      Me too hunni - best thing I ever did. Good on you and hope you have every happiness 😊

    • @MrMaike3009
      @MrMaike3009 3 года назад +18

      Same girl ! They can say that bs since they aren't the ones going through it. I hope you find happiness

    • @Totalchaos0228
      @Totalchaos0228 2 года назад +5

      I've never been married. I've been asked...but never thought it was necessary.

    • @TheBeezusjones
      @TheBeezusjones 2 года назад +15

      That's damn right. Do NOT put up with abuse. Ever.

    • @TheBeezusjones
      @TheBeezusjones 2 года назад +15

      I feel for you , sister, I am RIGHT there with you. I left my verbally abusive ex, despite him guilt tripping me saying "but , our vow!! Our vow!!" But an abuser has already broken THEIR vow.

  • @confuzzeledmarshmallow3312
    @confuzzeledmarshmallow3312 3 года назад +375

    “We’re travellers we can make anything happen” Yh except giving girls an education or freedom

    • @confuzzeledmarshmallow3312
      @confuzzeledmarshmallow3312 3 года назад +8

      @@CarlosHernandez-ko9su yes, because from all of these clips I’ve seen of traveller communities, they say that they take their girls out of education/school at around 14-16, and that continuing education is usually looked dow upon ( but I do assume that that’s more stricter travellers)

    • @confuzzeledmarshmallow3312
      @confuzzeledmarshmallow3312 3 года назад

      Down**

    • @dancingfirefly7761
      @dancingfirefly7761 2 года назад +5

      @Traveller Myths But what Confuzzeled Marshmallow said is true. Of all the traveller/gypsy videos I've watched, they say the girls leave school around age 14-16 and focus solely thereafter on learning the skills of being a homemaker and mother. And this info hasn't come from random commenters, but was stated by the traveller girls and their parents themselves.

    • @dancingfirefly7761
      @dancingfirefly7761 2 года назад

      @Traveller Myths So the show chooses mostly from that bottom 15% who are foolish and silly? Which makes traveller women look silly, not intelligent, shallow, and you not qualified for anything but taking care of the home and popping out babies?

    • @patriciabyrne5089
      @patriciabyrne5089 2 года назад +2

      @Traveller Myths Maybe you should tell the Traveller support group Pavee Point about this. They too are under the impression most Travellers leave education about 15/ 16 for girls and boys leave even younger. Your family might be the exception not the other way around.

  • @morgenlafae5624
    @morgenlafae5624 3 года назад +201

    I hope the bride and her mom get to spend lots of time together even if she’s married… lovely dress and I bet that cake was great….

  • @shaniathemen
    @shaniathemen 3 года назад +677

    The grabbing is just disgusting.

    • @Mirmir.0
      @Mirmir.0 3 года назад +64

      I’m horrified. God help the man that does that to my daughter. Her father and I would literally beat him to death. 🤌🏼 Literally. To death.

    • @fabiwilliams4644
      @fabiwilliams4644 3 года назад +64

      If it starts with ownership then you've got a situation of domestic violence right from the beginning

    • @bellabeaton8192
      @bellabeaton8192 3 года назад +31

      I’m literally so disgusted like I couldn’t even watch the whole thing. Imagine going to a wedding and seeing your daughter grabbed and her screaming no and just letting this random men take her. Literally no one stopped any of those men like it’s terrifying to me.

    • @therealmsdelight
      @therealmsdelight 2 года назад +5

      It's disguising and infuriating! I couldn't tell if the girls were going along with tradition and pretending to be scared while those boys were pretending to be rough or if they were actually being rough and the girls were truly terrified. It's sickening and surely past time to put an end to that tradition.

    • @Heather-xm9ul
      @Heather-xm9ul 2 года назад

      @@therealmsdelight I hope it was acting on both sides. The boy acts dominant, the girl acts scared, they get out of sight and giggle a bit... I doubt that's what's happening, but I hope it is.

  • @mmichelle4082
    @mmichelle4082 2 года назад +16

    out of all the girls on this show, she was one of my favorites. she stunning and gentle and just loves her mom so much it makes her worried about leaving her mother. I hope she got a happy ending and her husband treats her good.

  • @dna9077
    @dna9077 3 года назад +826

    The grabbing is horrifying I can’t imagine else goes on

    • @kimberlyhampton5332
      @kimberlyhampton5332 3 года назад +19

      Exactly!

    • @ellemmenn2930
      @ellemmenn2930 3 года назад +86

      I was like wtf did I just watch…. Did that-…. What the- …. Did he just …??

    • @phina8392
      @phina8392 3 года назад +6

      I know I don’t understand it.. Having read the books and seen the film on the Madeline Sisters, bless them girls…

    • @sylviaking8866
      @sylviaking8866 3 года назад +28

      Oh hell no. In this day and age that should not be happening.

    • @xohyoshidae43
      @xohyoshidae43 3 года назад +52

      That clip was genuinely so disturbing. Nothing ever really bothers me, but that one clip absolutely disgusted me. That was such a horrible thing to watch and I had to skip over it immediately. Makes you really thankful for what you've got in your own life.

  • @trishloiacono8524
    @trishloiacono8524 3 года назад +129

    Her mother is a very strong women who truely put her children first, she showed her children what is not acceptable and that they do not have to just put up with any form of abuse that so many do, the kids know that they can survive on their own if they have too.that’s the biggest gift the mother gave her children the knowledge something no cake or dress could do!

  • @heidrivandervyver4663
    @heidrivandervyver4663 3 года назад +107

    Clearly, I will never ever be able to be a Gypsy wife. If a man grabs me I will beat the living s@it out of him. Here in South Africa we usually say you are not married to a man, a man is married to an South African Woman. We are a force unto ourselves. 😆

    • @CC-ns9vn
      @CC-ns9vn 2 года назад +2

      Amen from a fellow South African wife 🤣

    • @sibellakingston52
      @sibellakingston52 2 года назад

      These aren't Gypsies, they're Travellers. Big difference.

  • @susieenglish302
    @susieenglish302 3 года назад +668

    Every group likes something different. It makes humans interesting. I just wish the girls had choice and education. Who knows we could have a traveller scientist, writer, nurse or psycologist. Anything is possible.

    • @vvandyke
      @vvandyke 3 года назад +41

      I think this is one of the best posts I've seen for a video like this. Its nice to see people wanting the best for others instead of tearing them down. I also appreciate the show for not being sensationalized like others.

    • @breannegiard4910
      @breannegiard4910 3 года назад +2

      Oh no they can only be baby makers! How dare you thinking woman should have a choice when it comes to her life at all.

    • @georgina-a
      @georgina-a 3 года назад +60

      Whilst a domesticated life is the norm for most Traveller girls, more and more families are allowing their daughters to make choices about their education and when they want to marry. I come from a Traveller family, I'm female, I didn't marry as a teenager and, instead, I went to university. I'm now a doctor working in the NHS, I love my job, and my family are really proud of me.
      After her children had grown up, my cousin (with the blessing of her husband) decided that she, too, wanted to restart her education. God willing, next summer she will graduate as a nurse.
      It wasn't that long ago that everybody lived in a trailer but now more and more Travellers live in houses. I very much doubt that we'll ever lose all of the old ways, but we're definitely evolving as a culture.

    • @jadeybaby007
      @jadeybaby007 3 года назад +18

      I have seen more families letting their daughters go onto college and work. Thelma (the dress maker) runs training programs and hires traveler girls. Their culture changes with the times just as any other culture.
      Gypsy culture in America is nothing like this! Nowhere near as strict with many being quite “trashy” almost.

    • @tinatomlin79
      @tinatomlin79 3 года назад +2

      @@breannegiard4910 haha 😄 you're so funny 🤣 😆 😂

  • @pattiannebrady3002
    @pattiannebrady3002 3 года назад +205

    She's too young to leave her mom❤️ poor thing, I don't think she wants to go

    • @TheRealGNC
      @TheRealGNC 3 года назад +34

      I was just watching and thinking ‘she looks scared’.

    • @ajp806
      @ajp806 3 года назад +31

      He doesn't look too happy as well.

    • @sy-zu4uz
      @sy-zu4uz 2 года назад +7

      @@ajp806 Thats worse since it looks like both of them are forced and confused. 🤧

  • @bernadettepatterson8244
    @bernadettepatterson8244 3 года назад +166

    All types of people have been in bad marriages. Good for her to leaving and doing the best for her children! Best of luck to her daughter ❤️🍀

  • @paigerussell3058
    @paigerussell3058 3 года назад +27

    Her eyes are actual oceans. They're absolutely stunning!

  • @jessicagroning8247
    @jessicagroning8247 2 года назад +11

    Those ladies who built those BEAUTIFUL AND AMAZING cakes are so talented. Great job

  • @justme-qj1mq
    @justme-qj1mq 3 года назад +36

    Good on her for not accepting a violent partner regardless of tradition!! She is so brave and strong to go against "the normal" show the next generation that they don't have to go through this pain and suffering because that's not love, nor being part of a partnership nor respect to your wife

  • @sp6990
    @sp6990 2 года назад +7

    Bridget’s mom and family are absolutely lovely. Such a strong and admirable family unit. Good for mama taking her babies away from danger and giving them a better life.

  • @madbluefogle210
    @madbluefogle210 3 года назад +135

    I loved te episode But the grabbing part was horrifying that poor little girl just screaming makes me sick to my stomach

    • @eljay1980
      @eljay1980 3 года назад +20

      As someone who was sexually assaulted when I was younger, this scene made me feel physically sick and is so upsetting to watch. Call it what they want but it's assault pure and simple. I am all for communities and religions respecting their culture, but why does it have to be at the cost of innocent young girls and their freedom and self respect. Makes me so angry that this is allowed, and expected to continue through the generations.

  • @suedoyle4526
    @suedoyle4526 3 года назад +39

    What a beautiful young girl and isn’t her mam a great and lovely woman. She’s brought her daughter up well and to know she doesn’t have to stay with any man that treats her badly. I hope they never lose that lovely bond they have between them ❤️

  • @baudelia6813
    @baudelia6813 3 года назад +130

    Everything was going so well up until "the grabbing" begun.

    • @calisongbird
      @calisongbird 3 года назад +18

      No, it wasn’t. This young bride looked miserable the whole time, and was not ready for marriage.

    • @spikesgirl9371
      @spikesgirl9371 2 года назад

      I thought how bad can be while reading comments. I was ok so a little kiss sneaked here and there. Dear Mother of God that's sexual violence 😳 . I need a stiff drink or two and a bath. That was disturbing on a whole nother level.

  • @skatiesadiemator5948
    @skatiesadiemator5948 3 года назад +208

    Imagine your dream being to be known for your wedding dress or cake.

    • @daniburke9452
      @daniburke9452 3 года назад +6

      She wasn't saying that exactly she was saying at least u will be known for something and people will always remember ur wedding

    • @silviaj4965
      @silviaj4965 3 года назад +21

      The dress lady said something really said in my opinion. She said these girls dream of their wedding, being a princess and all of that, but in the end many of them don’t marry princes so they go back to their domestic lifestyle as before.

    • @christineking2855
      @christineking2855 Год назад

      18:49 I love the cakes with pink and purple roses and feathers.💗💜

  • @sammykittens4150
    @sammykittens4150 2 года назад +8

    This girl's mum is absolutely amazing! I have so much respect for her & all she's done for her children. This young girl is so mature for her age, so helpful, kind & considerate. Love this episode & this mum & daughter are a beautiful family. So much respect.
    Her brother is so handsome! This mum is absolutely incredible, I'm amazed

  • @jessicaderosa9625
    @jessicaderosa9625 3 года назад +167

    It looks like they live eternally in the early 2000's 😂😂

  • @kelligray1848
    @kelligray1848 2 года назад +8

    This is the most tasteful traveler wedding I’ve ever seen. Lovely little family bless their hearts. Great job Mom.

  • @angelpatterson
    @angelpatterson 3 года назад +272

    Oh heck’s no, that grabbing bullshit would not slide with me 😂 that’s not right like how do they just let themselves get taken like that 😐

    • @carolsanders3979
      @carolsanders3979 3 года назад +31

      Yes when I saw that and listening to that lady talk and saying that that's tradition for the men to be dominant and a treat the women that way I'm all for marriage I've been with my husband for 30 years and I respect him but he also respects me there's no way in hell that would happen to me and I was a young wife and mother this s*** no way disrespectful.

    • @nurtenkocaman1699
      @nurtenkocaman1699 3 года назад +2

      @@carolsanders3979 👏👏👏👏

    • @nurtenkocaman1699
      @nurtenkocaman1699 3 года назад +4

      👏👏👏👏

    • @notthedoctor8621
      @notthedoctor8621 3 года назад +3

      If their own parents go against them, what can you expect?

    • @adri6658
      @adri6658 2 года назад +1

      exactly grab me like that youre getting back smacked, it was so disturbing to watch that part man.

  • @sophiaimperial8816
    @sophiaimperial8816 2 года назад +23

    You can see the bond between the mother and daughter I love that

  • @bongo9694
    @bongo9694 Год назад +3

    The cake baker's assistant is so excited about her job, her energy is so cute ❤

  • @Luvmeshannon
    @Luvmeshannon 3 года назад +78

    Why don’t the bride and groom look happy? They both look scared and unhappy about getting married…. If ur not happy to get married… DONT GET MARRIED…!!

    • @fabiwilliams4644
      @fabiwilliams4644 3 года назад +12

      That's where maturity comes in & they're both to young for that

  • @jennifercortes3653
    @jennifercortes3653 3 года назад +15

    The way she massages her momma's hands brought me to tears, I would massage my mom's hands, feet shoulders what ever she needs and I know I can at least ease her pain a little bit.

  • @itszenbaby
    @itszenbaby 3 года назад +68

    If I spent all that money on a massive wedding dress, I’d at least want it to fit me!

    • @jesuschrist472
      @jesuschrist472 2 года назад +5

      A bit random but ur profile pic is stunning

  • @katrinarepine3879
    @katrinarepine3879 3 года назад +27

    I have huge respect for her mom for choosing to leave her ex and thought it was super sweet of her brother to walk her down the isle.

  • @carolmk3114
    @carolmk3114 3 года назад +38

    Mrs Bridget Senior needs to give classes to girls on how she was able to provide for her children because that is the real barrier for the 50% of women who are abused.

  • @gemmafederico821
    @gemmafederico821 6 месяцев назад +1

    I really liked this family xx lovely children, the mum should be proud of herself and her children x

  • @bhreagh87
    @bhreagh87 3 года назад +59

    Wow I've watched this show for years and yes I noticed how sexual they were from a young age but wow I never seen the grabbing part. These girls were screaming and saying no!! Wow!! My heart completely sank.

    • @bhreagh87
      @bhreagh87 3 года назад +10

      And the couple getting married looked so Sad😢 she didn't want to do it and he didn't look like he cared. Oh my did this episode break me

  • @anthonystrunk6249
    @anthonystrunk6249 3 года назад +14

    Yes I am a southern girl or country girl. My kids father was the same way but I left him and now my husband is the best man in the world. My girls love there stepdad more then anything and they are his girls. God bless this mum and daughter I hope she finds happiness in her life

  • @dianekachovich7610
    @dianekachovich7610 3 года назад +28

    Beautiful family, her mum is lovely. Mum has done a beautiful job bringing up her daughter on her own. 🤗💝

  • @Bebedollie
    @Bebedollie 2 года назад +1

    I love that girl that helps make the cakes. She's so bubbly. And Thelma is lovely

  • @tp8087
    @tp8087 3 года назад +19

    The Mum Bridgette is just phenomenal. I loved her wedding attire and the Brides gown. Beautiful and I hope the Bride is in a safe, loving relationship.
    The rape horrifies me especially when girls are screaming "No" and fighting.

  • @Karen-er5bt
    @Karen-er5bt 2 года назад +6

    omg her eyes are stunning. such a beautiful bride and well done mum for doing the best with your children. you should be so proud of yourself ❤️

  • @Ebar-pl6ih
    @Ebar-pl6ih 3 года назад +5

    The end of this video is the most heart wrenching thing I have ever seen. This is horrible

  • @dlesher3101
    @dlesher3101 2 года назад +4

    such a beautiful and caring young woman this bride is.....you can tell she and her mother have a very special relationship.....I hope she is very happy in her married life and her husband is respectful and kind to her. Not all men are abusive.... And Noreen is such a peach....she explains things so well.

  • @totukimou
    @totukimou 2 года назад +6

    Her mother is a fighter, very serious person, and her daughter is the same as her! She looks responsible!

  • @buzzingbumblebee7816
    @buzzingbumblebee7816 2 года назад +5

    The mum did amazing especially as a single mom I can tell her mom really wants to make her happy while being traditional 💕💕🍀🍀

  • @catherinepaterson28
    @catherinepaterson28 2 года назад +10

    her mum is an incredible woman and she's raised an amazing and beautiful young woman

  • @aaaaaaaaaaaaaaa333
    @aaaaaaaaaaaaaaa333 3 года назад +17

    Bridget is beautiful, her black hair,tanned skin and blue eyes what a stunner

  • @AlohaNLight2All
    @AlohaNLight2All 3 года назад +20

    If you or someone you know are in harms way I'm sending you big Aloha. You deserve to be loved & safe.

    • @Mirmir.0
      @Mirmir.0 3 года назад +6

      I’d hug you if I could.

    • @AlohaNLight2All
      @AlohaNLight2All 3 года назад +4

      @@Mirmir.0 I'd hug YOU too. Been there..

  • @vvandyke
    @vvandyke 3 года назад +46

    The dress, while a bit big for my taste was very pretty and I think more tasteful than others. I. Sad though for her feeling like she has to leave her Mom. I would want my family to stay together.

  • @lindaaitken7679
    @lindaaitken7679 3 года назад +94

    Poor bridget doesn't want to leave her mum

  • @elizabethtrainer9732
    @elizabethtrainer9732 3 года назад +32

    How terribly sad that these GIRLS feel that their wedding is the ONLY thing that defines them.

  • @moname7017
    @moname7017 3 года назад +7

    I always thought it would be much simpler to decorate the cakes at the wedding hall and put the extras on it there assemble it there so that there's less of a chance of catastrophe. I have a lot of respect for her mother, being in an abusive relationship in the past I know how hard it is to get away. Kudos to her for wanting better for her children.

  • @aigatulifau6127
    @aigatulifau6127 3 года назад +13

    Mama Bridget you deserve to be so proud! I am sure your baby girl will have an amazing married life!

  • @kristinreynolds577
    @kristinreynolds577 3 года назад +33

    I clearly understand that I will never understand their culture, beliefs, morals, education, etc… So with saying all of that I am glad that I am born and raised in America! I had a husband once that was very verbally abusive, emotionally abusive, spiritually abusive and it wears you down!!! I am so proud of the Mom of the ride to show that it can be done!! 💗💗💗

    • @lexiwilliams9422
      @lexiwilliams9422 3 года назад +3

      What's being born in America got to with it , there are types of cultures in the uk and Ireland. We don't have to understand their culture ,just respect their way .

    • @karolinapupi19977
      @karolinapupi19977 3 года назад +1

      @@lexiwilliams9422 why should we respect their way??? It is disgusting what they do to these young girls. Also non of them work and have these big houses and weddings, it doesnt take a rocket scientist to figure out where the money comes from. Lived in Ireland for 14 years and travellers are the worst people I encountered in my entire life! Starting fights in city centre or an event few years back when they put a live horse on fire just for the laughs

    • @Princess_9510
      @Princess_9510 3 года назад

      @@lexiwilliams9422 why should we respect a pieces of shit like that

    • @rachelwhite438
      @rachelwhite438 2 года назад +1

      They have communities in America

    • @vicky4912
      @vicky4912 2 года назад

      @@lexiwilliams9422 can’t respect a culture that practices abuse

  • @dawnyofthelight
    @dawnyofthelight 3 года назад +62

    Bridget's wedding was absolutely beautiful I hope she can stay closer home Mom. As far as the grabbing goes that's disgusting if I was in that position and I was grabbed I probably would have punched somebody

  • @vailaw
    @vailaw 3 года назад +4

    By far my fav episode because of the mother daughter relationship and how amazing her mother is, also the lady whom made the dress and the niece that supported the mother for her hard work on raising her children on her own. The bride was absolutely beautiful and her blue eyes were gorgeous 😍💙

  • @picklecat4819
    @picklecat4819 3 года назад +9

    What an amazing mum. I have so much respect for her raising such a lovely family x

  • @bby04
    @bby04 3 года назад +65

    is it just me or does the bride not seem happy at all

    • @fabiwilliams4644
      @fabiwilliams4644 3 года назад +11

      She's a baby playing dress ups

    • @jbyrd9118
      @jbyrd9118 3 года назад +12

      she seems like a little girl, with how aggressive these men are, it really scares me to think about what her wedding night was like 😢

  • @IceCreamCarly3460
    @IceCreamCarly3460 2 года назад +9

    The fact that they have to say that they “Escaped a traveler marriage” means a lot cause it means that it’s so common. Otherwise they would have said “Gotten divorced”

  • @bettylynn66
    @bettylynn66 3 года назад +68

    I would love to see some updates on these couples

  • @lmm7762
    @lmm7762 3 года назад +15

    my heart goes out to this mom and daughter

  • @mollyanonymous925
    @mollyanonymous925 Год назад +6

    I can't believe no one has commented yet on how the dresses on their wedding day can cause SCARS. Thats horrific.

  • @jasminej6281
    @jasminej6281 2 года назад +3

    Awe I love this mum and daughter

  • @sheilarodriguez2870
    @sheilarodriguez2870 3 года назад +35

    The grabbing part.. just disturbing no matter what tradition/culture you practice, no excuse for that.

  • @dulceornelasortega2529
    @dulceornelasortega2529 2 года назад +5

    Omg just found this show and love it
    The girl that was helping make the cake is so so pretty

  • @gabriellemeadows1675
    @gabriellemeadows1675 2 года назад +1

    Stunning bride! 😍 and what a wonderful mother she has.... she said she was trying to give it back to her daughter, all because her daughter was/is there for her when she is in pain or sick, when she's already given her a life, and raised her to be a beautiful young lady with a heart of gold bless her, you did that Mum, no one else, you did!
    Congrats to the happy couples!

  • @daynawithawhy
    @daynawithawhy 3 года назад +31

    That interviewer is really getting on my nerves, asking questions about costs and pointing out the mum for leaving an abusive marriage. Find some tact guy, really

  • @BlackR0SEproductions
    @BlackR0SEproductions 2 года назад +2

    i love that she wore little to no makeup on the wedding day. She's such a natural beauty. Her eyes 😍

  • @anneg5720
    @anneg5720 3 года назад +7

    I'm so proud of the mum what a strong and courageous women. I wish her the best life ❤️

  • @LS-nj6oj
    @LS-nj6oj 2 года назад +1

    This mother and her family are honorable and admirable! Women are worthy of SAFETY, RESPECT, and LOVE. I pray this family lives peacefully

  • @kelly9714
    @kelly9714 3 года назад +35

    That “Grabbing” is repulsive 🤮
    Totally disrespectful and such a sad sight to see 😔
    The bride looks beautiful 💞

    • @eljay1980
      @eljay1980 3 года назад +4

      As someone who was sexually assaulted when I was younger, this scene made me feel physically sick and is so upsetting to watch. Call it what they want but it's assault pure and simple. I am all for communities and religions respecting their culture, but why does it have to be at the cost of innocent young girls and their freedom and self respect. Makes me so angry that this is allowed, and expected to continue through the generations.

    • @carlyk9634
      @carlyk9634 3 года назад

      what min the “grabbing” part happens. I can’t see it omg and everybody is talking about 😭

    • @kelly9714
      @kelly9714 3 года назад +1

      @@carlyk9634 after 17 minutes in xxx
      🤮🤮🤮

    • @jeweljochan
      @jeweljochan 2 года назад

      17:40
      Grabbing begins 😑

  • @bonnielass3975
    @bonnielass3975 2 года назад +1

    This has been My favorite episode. Her mother is the best! Just amazing lady there, strength is beautiful.

  • @fabiwilliams4644
    @fabiwilliams4644 3 года назад +15

    That's right feel like a princess for one day. It's all down hill after that

  • @robinsiciliano8923
    @robinsiciliano8923 2 года назад +2

    The mother/bride dance was precious and wonderful.

  • @debbiekearns2985
    @debbiekearns2985 3 года назад +14

    They are princesses for one day.... then they turn into Cinderella for the rest of they're lives xxx

  • @bigtalk7490
    @bigtalk7490 2 года назад +2

    I hope her and her mum always get to see each other you can see they need each other in a lot of ways

  • @xohyoshidae43
    @xohyoshidae43 3 года назад +23

    Watching these documentaries makes you realise how much freedom you actually have. I understand it is tradition and it is all a part of their culture, but just the thought of having to marry someone before the age of 21 is terrifying. These girls are literally children and they haven't even reached adulthood yet. The thought that you'd be married in your teens with the knowledge that your duty is to become a full time housewife for the rest of your life is scary. Women don't seem to have a lot of freedom when it comes to their future, it is all pretty much written out for them the day they're born. It is quite sad. It all seems so old fashioned.

  • @amberlinamiller9023
    @amberlinamiller9023 Год назад

    Of all the gypsy weddings and shows I’ve ever seen Bridgette is the most kindest, loving and sweetest girl. With an amazing, strong and determined mother.

  • @debeightonethree6346
    @debeightonethree6346 2 года назад +4

    16:03 omg! The pride in her aunt is beautiful

  • @Spoiled_horsegirl
    @Spoiled_horsegirl 2 года назад +1

    Awwww how cute when the cake maker was curling the barbies hair on the cake. 🎂💜