Dominant and Hedonistic Wife Shot After Repeatedly Striking Husband | Bryan Lawson Case Analysis

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Комментарии • 858

  • @soldatheero
    @soldatheero 4 часа назад +184

    Being dishonest about who is the father of your child is already a horrible thing to do

    • @SylviaM.2204
      @SylviaM.2204 3 часа назад +6

      Absolut 👍

    • @DirtyLifeLove
      @DirtyLifeLove 3 часа назад +3

      She was bipolar. Damaged goods, he should have known. He say a nice piece out of his league and took a gamble

    • @Aragorn66
      @Aragorn66 2 часа назад

      😞

    • @col.cottonhill6655
      @col.cottonhill6655 Час назад

      ​@@DirtyLifeLove absolutely. I have been in those kind of relationships. It's very easy to tell when someone doesn't care about you but you are so enamored you don't notice.

    • @NobodyHasToAgreeAllTheTime
      @NobodyHasToAgreeAllTheTime 45 минут назад

      @@DirtyLifeLove crazy hot matrix

  • @Bruce_Ma
    @Bruce_Ma 2 часа назад +97

    She was just a bad person. Being bipolar is not an excuse for abusing someone or cheating on someone.

    • @Kai...999
      @Kai...999 38 минут назад

      ... but considering it's a mental disorder, I don't see why it wouldn't be an excuse depending on the severity. I mean, I'm not saying it's right but it's on brand with the disorder.

    • @harryholiday5356
      @harryholiday5356 12 минут назад

      Bi-polar is the excuse used today for just plain old mean ass women. Men always pay the price of our stupid women. Time to repeal the 19th., amendment.

  • @rokess5053
    @rokess5053 5 часов назад +506

    Anybody named Beth who goes by Chandra is suspicious.

    • @phoenixrises1311
      @phoenixrises1311 5 часов назад +15

      Facts.. She's used aliases before for sure

    • @marianilsson8785
      @marianilsson8785 5 часов назад +8

      Lol, true

    • @grantorino2325
      @grantorino2325 5 часов назад +14

      In India, "Chandra" is a boy's name.

    • @5150lefont
      @5150lefont 5 часов назад +30

      My name is Brad but I go by Mustafa... 😂😂😂

    • @BuzzyStreet
      @BuzzyStreet 5 часов назад +12

      Was that her stripper name?

  • @bhnnca
    @bhnnca 3 часа назад +119

    I feel no sympathy for the woman. Abuse perpetrated by any gender is not acceptable.
    I only feel for the child who had to witness this.

    • @Nobodyishereexceptadam
      @Nobodyishereexceptadam 24 минуты назад

      You don’t feel any sympathy for someone who had a spinal/neck injury and then spiraled into drug abuse because of the pain?
      You don’t have to excuse or justify or agree with her actions to humanize her. You can humanize her and have pity on her while also recognizing that what she did was not okay.
      The reality is we are all capable of evil and all have a breaking point. I think it would be wise for all of us to acknowledge that. When we act like this person was a unique monster and pretend it couldn’t happen to us, we only inhibit our ability to address the problems

    • @Chuckler127
      @Chuckler127 17 минут назад

      @@Nobodyishereexceptadam Interesting. Should anyone ever humanize Hitler?

    • @bluespinningdotinspace
      @bluespinningdotinspace 3 минуты назад

      Tell me you're a woman without telling me you're a woman. What about the poor man who was straight up ABUSED

    • @ricktandron3669
      @ricktandron3669 Минуту назад

      I feel sad for Bryan. He is the victim of such terrible domestic abuse that changes your entire psychology.

  • @VanLeChimp
    @VanLeChimp 5 часов назад +318

    Imagine being abused like that daily. It breaks your mind

    • @ambergriffes6122
      @ambergriffes6122 4 часа назад +18

      Yes it does. I don't need to imagine, I remember.

    • @Drkbardockssj
      @Drkbardockssj 4 часа назад +12

      You gotta just walk away early.

    • @Despondencymusic
      @Despondencymusic 3 часа назад +3

      I was.

    • @CptnStickyBuds
      @CptnStickyBuds 3 часа назад +8

      @@Drkbardockssj Love how everyone has an easy solution to this extremely complicated situation to get out of.

    • @Johnny.Natural
      @Johnny.Natural 3 часа назад

      Yeah but he's still guilty, he planned that murder plan and simple, anybody with logical thinking can see he acted all meek and passive, then hide the gun then waited for her to strike again before shooting her without showing the gun, sure she abused him regularly but he didn't defend himself in his instance, he planned it that's the difference between homicide and self defense

  • @aubreyleonae4108
    @aubreyleonae4108 4 часа назад +67

    I was married to that for 20 years, the next guy ended her life and served 13 years.

    • @masterqueef1172
      @masterqueef1172 3 часа назад

      Sounds like he got a better deal than you did.

    • @Eric-10101
      @Eric-10101 3 часа назад +8

      DAMN 😳 How did you escape her?

    • @agamemnonofmycenae5258
      @agamemnonofmycenae5258 Час назад +4

      Bruh, you should have bailed year 1.

    • @col.cottonhill6655
      @col.cottonhill6655 Час назад

      ​@@agamemnonofmycenae5258 it probably got worse over the years. Alot of the time it starts off pretty good (yes usually red flags) but it's not usually that simple.

    • @crusoebower3391
      @crusoebower3391 Час назад +2

      That goes to show your bold character.
      Much respect brother glad you a free now

  • @KBArchery
    @KBArchery 2 часа назад +81

    That reminds me of the saying, “Beware the anger of a patient man.”

    • @CATNAPREAL1188
      @CATNAPREAL1188 Час назад +3

      Yes because revenge is a dish best served Cold !

  • @NickM_FirstofHisName
    @NickM_FirstofHisName 5 часов назад +178

    As someone who lived with a violent, abusive mother, i feel no sympathy for her.
    His reaction, debatable, but her actions, not justifiable.

    • @mollyram2997
      @mollyram2997 3 часа назад

      Yes. She was beaten down mentally and physically. That’s his house too. He doesn’t need to run and leave the kids behind with that wench.

    • @ChiquitaBanana-si5qq
      @ChiquitaBanana-si5qq 2 часа назад

      Right?

    • @col.cottonhill6655
      @col.cottonhill6655 Час назад +2

      I don't think it's a murder. But it's also not clean cut self defense. Brian is a victim and so is the child.

    • @ProudCanadian-vv6bk
      @ProudCanadian-vv6bk 46 минут назад

      ​@@col.cottonhill6655 nailed it

  • @CorSmit
    @CorSmit 4 часа назад +160

    Keeping a loaded gun in the living room, among their child’s toys?! Clearly no nominees for Parents of The Year

    • @kenmore01
      @kenmore01 4 часа назад +22

      I'm guessing he planted it there especially for this purpose.

    • @marymorningstar6832
      @marymorningstar6832 3 часа назад +16

      I do believe he planned to kill her

    • @FameeKafka
      @FameeKafka 2 часа назад

      Tru

    • @NondumisoNyembezi
      @NondumisoNyembezi 2 часа назад

      ​@@marymorningstar6832same. He "had proof of abuse".

    • @dg2517
      @dg2517 2 часа назад +9

      Agree. He’s an enabler Who got angry and retaliated. I am so shocked that Dr. Grande didn’t think he was guilty.

  • @eddiee2371
    @eddiee2371 5 часов назад +120

    Your role reversal example says it all.

    • @col.cottonhill6655
      @col.cottonhill6655 Час назад +6

      If this ever happened to me, I live in California. So I would immediately tell my lawyer I'm now trans and I demand to be referred to as "she" in court by the prosecutor.
      Two can play this game!!!

  • @KathyStrickland-nh9vx
    @KathyStrickland-nh9vx 5 часов назад +169

    She was guilty of spousal abuse.

    • @markallen2984
      @markallen2984 3 часа назад +12

      Honestly, what wife isn't?

    • @carterhammons-m7c
      @carterhammons-m7c 3 часа назад

      @@markallen2984boo, omg.

    • @Chill-mm4pn
      @Chill-mm4pn Час назад +1

      I mean not every woman or man.

    • @blackswan4486
      @blackswan4486 Час назад

      @@markallen2984uh. No

    • @col.cottonhill6655
      @col.cottonhill6655 Час назад

      ​@@markallen2984 alot of wives don't. And a lot of husbands don't. Most people are not abusers. But I really think there might be more abusive women out there than men.

  • @Vale0x3
    @Vale0x3 6 часов назад +352

    As a woman, its NOT okay to hit a man just because you're a woman. I don't feel bad for any retaliation of this bad behavior.

    • @Lez_awake
      @Lez_awake 5 часов назад +20

      I agree 💯

    • @robinlackey5159
      @robinlackey5159 5 часов назад +1

      Woman here. I agree w you unequivocally. Sickening behavior. My son is now 21. His own father has REPEATEDLY told him never to raise his hand to a female. However!! I have also told him that it is NEVER okay to let a woman put their hands on him either. The solution? WALK AWAY. Period.

    • @GanGster_Gato
      @GanGster_Gato 5 часов назад +15

      This woman agrees

    • @SueSA2009
      @SueSA2009 5 часов назад +12

      So does this lady, in agreement.

    • @ChineduOpara
      @ChineduOpara 4 часа назад

      Bless you. Basically, violence is wrong regardless of gender!

  • @pamelamays4186
    @pamelamays4186 5 часов назад +122

    What a horrible thing for a two year old to witness.

    • @Graymenn
      @Graymenn 3 часа назад

      That is anti semetic

    • @BMXOPHY
      @BMXOPHY Час назад +4

      That's what makes it for me to be unjustified.

    • @col.cottonhill6655
      @col.cottonhill6655 Час назад +1

      Hopefully too young to remember.

    • @K_M.G
      @K_M.G 57 минут назад +2

      Yes, to witness how his mom kept treating that man.

    • @MegaLivingIt
      @MegaLivingIt 51 минуту назад +3

      There were two toddlers present; take a look at the film again. Right there, not across the room. Bad. All you have to do is get up and grab the car keys and leave. Then go to police and report her assault which is on film. This didn't have to happen.🚔🚓

  • @Cerbera66
    @Cerbera66 5 часов назад +155

    Whether you're a man or a woman, anyone who believes that violence can improve a relationship is completely stupid. Sorry, had to get it out.

    • @RedWolf17
      @RedWolf17 5 часов назад +10

      @@Cerbera66 He could have fought back. No need to kill her…his life wasn’t in danger.

    • @nightcoreeclub
      @nightcoreeclub 5 часов назад +3

      agreed

    • @tomcook2040
      @tomcook2040 4 часа назад

      ​@@RedWolf17 what if he didnt feel capable of stopping her? What if he feared she would k*ll him if he tried? Should he then just have to get beaten for forever?

    • @bobs5596
      @bobs5596 3 часа назад

      she wanted to have sex.

    • @matt5977
      @matt5977 2 часа назад

      @@RedWolf17 From the limited information available, I agree.

  • @joeyperry705
    @joeyperry705 4 часа назад +44

    I think he was fed up with her hitting him. I left my ex in October of last year. If you hit a woman one time, you’re going to jail. I never hit her though, i left instead.

  • @LouisDargin
    @LouisDargin 43 минуты назад +5

    The video footage was very helpful, and shows how important it is to walk away from abuse early enough, before it escalates.

  • @PinkTorpedo909
    @PinkTorpedo909 5 часов назад +105

    I’m sure he can still hear her complaining from the grave

    • @col.cottonhill6655
      @col.cottonhill6655 Час назад +1

      😂 damn that is not a ghost you want haunting you either

    • @paulsto6516
      @paulsto6516 Час назад +1

      - "Harcourt Fenton Mudd!..."

  • @lionfish-j2m
    @lionfish-j2m 4 часа назад +34

    She was toxic in so many ways , violent, using drugs, threatening to kill the baby... I feel she wouldn't change due to her Mental health, a lot of people use the excuse of Bi Poler disorder when in reality they're just terrible people !!!

    • @col.cottonhill6655
      @col.cottonhill6655 48 минут назад +1

      And ADHD. I'm so sick of all the adults who want to act like children and pretend it's because of some disorder they can't overcome. LOSERS.

  • @Bebecat477
    @Bebecat477 5 часов назад +105

    Toxic relationship. He should have left long ago. Not okay to put your hands on someone. Child is the real victim.

    • @kingcosworth2643
      @kingcosworth2643 3 часа назад +9

      He's a bit of a victim too, you wouldn't say a women wasn't a victim if her husband was beating her daily

    • @chocolatethunder192
      @chocolatethunder192 2 часа назад

      @@kingcosworth2643 True! But he should've left the house at the time and called the cops. The abuse is on video. If she would've showed up to his house and threatened him after he left, then it would've made more sense for him to shoot her. But in front of the kid?? Not so much given the fact she wasn't threatening him with a deadly weapon at the time of the shooting. That poor child will be traumatized for the rest of his life. Imagine seeing your dad shoot your mom at 2!

    • @kathyvettraino2267
      @kathyvettraino2267 2 часа назад

      ​@@kingcosworth2643he left, he didn't have to come back. He could have pressed charges on her with the video evidence. Why was there a gun in the living room around a toddler?

    • @Rebecca-hc5ju
      @Rebecca-hc5ju 41 минуту назад

      He was also a victim. Both children are victims. They're all victims of her abuse.

    • @shelostit8008
      @shelostit8008 40 секунд назад

      He was also a victim too. He got a bad deal because he should have been given leniency because of the abuse

  • @454slowride
    @454slowride 5 часов назад +127

    Now he is free

    • @willnill7946
      @willnill7946 5 часов назад

      All men need to be freed

    • @complete_newb1718
      @complete_newb1718 5 часов назад +4

      Disgusting

    • @bowieupland6112
      @bowieupland6112 5 часов назад +27

      He should have always been free.

    • @bowieupland6112
      @bowieupland6112 5 часов назад +1

      ​@@complete_newb1718
      Yes. It's disgusting that he had to serve any time at all.

    • @Drkbardockssj
      @Drkbardockssj 4 часа назад +11

      He's a idiot for not just walking away but you are right

  • @NobodyHasToAgreeAllTheTime
    @NobodyHasToAgreeAllTheTime 5 часов назад +90

    I know it sounds harsh… but he def saved the next guys life from being ruined

    • @rockyevans1584
      @rockyevans1584 5 часов назад +15

      Yeah, what about traumatizing the poor kid over some slaps? She sucked, he clearly also sucks. What losers

    • @cookie_dough_hangover
      @cookie_dough_hangover 5 часов назад

      That poor baby 😢.​@@rockyevans1584

    • @kennethpullen6889
      @kennethpullen6889 4 часа назад +6

      I think he murdered her because he didn't want there to be a "next" guy.

    • @allananderson949
      @allananderson949 2 часа назад

      ​@@kennethpullen6889wasn't murder. Watch the video

    • @benfranklin1770
      @benfranklin1770 Час назад +2

      I don't think that's harsh...

  • @chelseapoet3664
    @chelseapoet3664 3 часа назад +27

    That poor little kid. Witness to violence probably from birth, lost his mother and his father for 3 years all at once.

    • @kuma1388
      @kuma1388 2 часа назад +1

      The child is not his

    • @col.cottonhill6655
      @col.cottonhill6655 52 минуты назад

      ​@@kuma1388 kid will probably never meet his actual father

  • @lisamh9037
    @lisamh9037 3 часа назад +9

    It's as terrifying and hard for a guy to just leave an abuser as it is a woman. She is crazy. No telling what she'd do left alone with the child, and or kill Brian for the crime of leaving her sorry ass. We see it every day, usually in reverse.

  • @marianilsson8785
    @marianilsson8785 5 часов назад +126

    I think that in HIS mind, this would be the only way to be free from her

    • @Johnny.Natural
      @Johnny.Natural 3 часа назад

      Planning homicide just to solve a bad situation is still murder

    • @barkeep25
      @barkeep25 Час назад +2

      Really? I think this was revenge.

    • @CATNAPREAL1188
      @CATNAPREAL1188 Час назад

      And to get the kids after he did his time.

    • @col.cottonhill6655
      @col.cottonhill6655 53 минуты назад

      ​@@CATNAPREAL1188 if he did a red rum, then he wouldn't be out of prison before his kids were already grown up. So that doesn't make sense

    • @lizziebreath9
      @lizziebreath9 11 минут назад

      @@barkeep25 Assuming he might have still thought Braden was his son, or even if he was aware that the boy wasn’t, would you leave that 2 year old alone with the woman threatening to kill him? The boy could have easily been part of who he was defending. All options to get him out of there would have taken time.

  • @GuarDeannAngel
    @GuarDeannAngel 5 часов назад +101

    Have a blessed Christmas, Dr. & Mrs. Grande! ❤ 🎄

  • @normavoyton3208
    @normavoyton3208 5 часов назад +178

    That poor baby.. also if the roles were reversed, she would've never been charged.

    • @arfriedman4577
      @arfriedman4577 5 часов назад

      They've locked up a few women that shot their husband's for domestic violence.

    • @Stephen-to7jx
      @Stephen-to7jx 4 часа назад +13

      I don't know about that. I know of a story in Massachusetts in which 8 women went to prison for killing their abusive significant others.

    • @crakhaed
      @crakhaed 4 часа назад +5

      ​@@Stephen-to7jx
      All separate trials? Otherwise that's a massive case 😂

    • @crakhaed
      @crakhaed 4 часа назад

      ​@@Stephen-to7jx
      Crazy how they were punished for fighting back. Definitely wrong

    • @Stephen-to7jx
      @Stephen-to7jx 4 часа назад +2

      @crakhaed It's separate trials but there was a documentary about them called The Framingham 8.

  • @Pa-we1lw
    @Pa-we1lw 4 часа назад +21

    Merry Christmas to you and your lovely wife, Dr. Grande.

  • @poloboy
    @poloboy 5 часов назад +57

    Nah let’s be honest here. The abuse from her part was physical AND emotional. He felt like it was his only way out of this mess at this point. Glad he is free now

  • @cindynimmo
    @cindynimmo Час назад +11

    The child in that situation is all I can think about when I watched this unfold. Witnessing Wrath like that is a horrible way to live

  • @blkcat93
    @blkcat93 5 часов назад +63

    Are we just skipping over the handgun kept behind the couch with kids in the house?

    • @LBdreamin
      @LBdreamin 4 часа назад +2

      I thought the same thing

    • @dtrain5171
      @dtrain5171 4 часа назад +2

      Or the fact that neither considered they were taping themselves while committing crimes.

    • @sheilarichards122
      @sheilarichards122 4 часа назад +5

      easy access for home invaders[drug gangs] d/t her high risk lifestyle[addict] that endangered all family members. This is common with those involved in high risk lifestyles...I am not saying it is the 'norm' of most stable homes.

    • @chocolatethunder192
      @chocolatethunder192 2 часа назад +3

      I was thinking the same thing!! Poor child. What a home life.

    • @kitty_765
      @kitty_765 2 часа назад

      Thank you!!

  • @nopereradicator
    @nopereradicator 4 часа назад +22

    Lying about paternity is nasty work.

  • @pamcates6134
    @pamcates6134 5 часов назад +40

    Battered husband syndrome.

    • @NealBurkard-ut1oo
      @NealBurkard-ut1oo 5 часов назад +7

      Right, probably why they call it battered spouse syndrome now

    • @boyermchristopher1
      @boyermchristopher1 4 часа назад +4

      I was a victim of domestic violence for 15 years.

    • @nathanhale6477
      @nathanhale6477 2 часа назад +8

      It happens far more often than people want to admit. Wife beating up husband, husband calls cops, cops arrest the husband. The only way the guy gets the charges dropped is if he has a video. Even if he has a video, it is extremely rare for anything to happen to the wife.

  • @christicovington
    @christicovington 5 часов назад +27

    Im not saying its okay to kill others but people can only take so much. I think she was abusive & he was pushed to the brink. Be kind to each other.

    • @barkeep25
      @barkeep25 Час назад

      That's exactly why I believe he is guilty.

  • @xilix
    @xilix 3 часа назад +11

    Plea bargain was the smartest move. He most likely would've lost the case based on how the law is typically interpreted. Setting precedence is important, but I wouldn't be rolling the dice with my freedom to set it. I'm glad he's free now and hope he can find a way to enjoy life again.

    • @dieselboy610
      @dieselboy610 36 минут назад

      Facts!! I would have took that plea in a heartbeat

  • @natalyaball1
    @natalyaball1 3 часа назад +19

    my sincerest condolences for that kid drawing a horrible family card.

  • @douggale5962
    @douggale5962 5 часов назад +59

    The justice system is a disgrace. What do you expect in the moron state?

    • @GoAskAlice23
      @GoAskAlice23 5 часов назад +4

      The only problem I have is that the child was nearby. Brian was probably tauntingly told that the child was not his. He is clearly a submissive man.

    • @benhartart9487
      @benhartart9487 5 часов назад +1

      Huh he got out quite fast

    • @bowieupland6112
      @bowieupland6112 5 часов назад

      ​@@benhartart9487
      You should not have spent a day in their. We all know that the woman never would have.

  • @SmilingBeaver-ou7nc
    @SmilingBeaver-ou7nc 5 часов назад +14

    Merry Christmas Dr. And Mrs. Grande 🎄

  • @buttersstotch6752
    @buttersstotch6752 4 часа назад +12

    So many cases are a preponderance of proof of the double standard. When the victim is male, we ask what he did to deserve it, and imply she's a secret victim, along with "his own" child. When the victim is female, we leap to vilify the male as a drug-fueled menace to an innocent mother and "her" babies. Asking why he "chose" to stay around her only to imply he had options that would have allowed him to leave without abandoning the child to her tender, caring threats to kill the kid. If he'd left, then she'd followed through, we'd be criticizing him for not reporting her threats.

  • @RullVox
    @RullVox 3 часа назад +4

    Chandra Lawson’s son Liam Windham, who was 17 at the time of the murder, had left for school on that day. He later cited that drug use could have led to the killing, and even claimed that he has forgiven Lawson. He further added to this by saying: “When he is released, he will have to live with that and live with the guilt for the rest of his life. I think that’s punishment enough.”

  • @NDcompetitiveshooter
    @NDcompetitiveshooter 5 часов назад +43

    Before judging Bryan for not leaving, you have to consider the danger the kid was in. Also, we don't know what his leaving option entailed. I had a friend that wanted to leave, but told me his wife said that if he did she would immediately falsely report him for sexually abusing her and the children. He knew that people would "believe all women," so he was trapped. "Chandra" could have made similar threats to control Bryan and also threatened to harm the child. These issues are often complex and not amenable to a snap judgment of what an abused partner 'should have done."

    • @ronald3836
      @ronald3836 4 часа назад +6

      He had everything on video, so he could have had her locked up if necessary.

    • @kenmore01
      @kenmore01 4 часа назад +3

      Could have doesn't work. He didn't say that. You're projecting your friends circumstances on them.

    • @jellysmith4350
      @jellysmith4350 4 часа назад +1

      He might also have provoked her deliberately, and planned the whole thing, knowing it was all on video🤷‍♂️ your "could have" is doing some heavy lifting here...

    • @kingcosworth2643
      @kingcosworth2643 3 часа назад +3

      @@ronald3836 Doesn't work like that my friend, everything wasn't on video. False allegations of SA and physical abuse from a women go very far.

    • @kingcosworth2643
      @kingcosworth2643 3 часа назад +1

      @@kenmore01 It's a common scenario that's why

  • @upsidedowngrief
    @upsidedowngrief 3 часа назад +5

    Abusing a man is no different from a man abusing a woman. This was definitely not the first time she used him as a punch bagg. Scream, humiliated him and called him al sorts of things.

  • @timothypatch5080
    @timothypatch5080 5 часов назад +54

    If the roles were reversed and he was beating her she wouldn’t have served a second of jail time

    • @lizb4156
      @lizb4156 5 часов назад +9

      He deliberately went and got a gun when nothing was happening between them. He could've left at any time or given her one punch, he is guilty.

    • @timothypatch5080
      @timothypatch5080 5 часов назад +1

      @ yes because she escalated and grabbed a bat who’s to say she wouldn’t escalate again and yeah he could’ve left and that would’ve been abandoning children with a unstable woman. What he did was self defense idc that she is bipolar you are responsible for your actions and if you attack someone and get killed for it, that’s called self defense. Turn on your brain

    • @bronco5334
      @bronco5334 4 часа назад +12

      @@lizb4156 Retrieving the gun is not proof of premeditation.
      If your spouse is beating you and has just deliberately collected ONE of the weapons from behind the couch (the bat) to attack you, it would be reasonable to assume she may go back for the other weapon soon (the gun).
      In that situation, it makes sense to retrieve and pocket the gun, because she has already shown the intent to use escalating violence against him, and there is a reasonable fear that she would go back for the gun to shoot him soon.

    • @chrismartin5450
      @chrismartin5450 3 часа назад +4

      @@lizb4156in many states you don’t have a duty to retreat.

    • @MathieuLLF
      @MathieuLLF 3 часа назад

      ​@@lizb4156 nope. She was an abuser.

  • @LúciaKitten
    @LúciaKitten 4 часа назад +7

    I wish Braden was nowhere near them when that happened...
    Thank you for your analysis on this case, Dr. Grande!

  • @stefaniecosme4774
    @stefaniecosme4774 3 часа назад +6

    As a DV Survivor, I know how enduring constant abuse, either emotional, physical, or both can Totally and Completely break a person in every conceivable way- So, I can Understand why Bryan might have felt that taking the Extreme route that he did was his Only Way out of his never ending nightmare- HOWEVER, Doing what he did in front of his 2 year old Son, Well, there is Almost No Justification- Needless to say, the Saddest and Most Tragic part of that whole situation is the children- Anyways, Wishing each and every one of you a Very Merry Christmas and a New Year that is filled with Many Blessings!

    • @chocolatethunder192
      @chocolatethunder192 2 часа назад +1

      I agree! Finally, a take that makes sense. People are ignoring all of this for some reason. Merry Christmas to you, too!

    • @naturalroyalflush
      @naturalroyalflush Час назад

      She began hitting him in front of the child.

  • @yipperdeyip
    @yipperdeyip 5 часов назад +71

    Equal rights
    Equal lefts ✨

    • @kimberlyhood4095
      @kimberlyhood4095 5 часов назад +5

      They actually have a name for it, mutual combat and both will be charged.

    • @jpettit27
      @jpettit27 4 часа назад +3

      @@kimberlyhood4095 not in many states. In most conservative states you have the right to self defense. The primary aggressor is the one who gets charged

    • @kimberlyhood4095
      @kimberlyhood4095 4 часа назад +3

      @@jpettit27 I live in Texas, this is new and my son is going to court because of her actions so the judge, DA and his attorney charged them both with mutual combat, that way they don't have to waste taxpayers money by going to court.

    • @Jewish.Redneck.Hybrid
      @Jewish.Redneck.Hybrid 3 часа назад

      If they are both being charged they are both going to court.​@@kimberlyhood4095

    • @stopgotdamndeletingmycomme8642
      @stopgotdamndeletingmycomme8642 Час назад

      Exactly💯

  • @weasellylittleliardude
    @weasellylittleliardude 5 часов назад +65

    We cant be sure since there was no audio, but he may have not left out of concern for the child. If she was that brazen with abusing her husband, it's not a stretch to believe she would inflict physical hurt upon her child as well.

    • @RedWolf17
      @RedWolf17 5 часов назад +13

      @@weasellylittleliardude Why shoot her with the child right next to her? That’s insane. His life wasn’t in danger at that moment.

    • @lisajean228
      @lisajean228 4 часа назад +3

      Or accuse him of abusing the child if he left

    • @RedWolf17
      @RedWolf17 4 часа назад +5

      @@weasellylittleliardude Showed zero concern for the child when he shot her with the child right next to her. He should do 10 years for that alone.

    • @weasellylittleliardude
      @weasellylittleliardude 4 часа назад +3

      @RedWolf17 I didn't say that I agreed with the use of a weapon, or even if he made the right or most logical choice. I made a statement as to why he may not have left or felt comfortable enough to remove himself from the situation.

    • @deounb
      @deounb 3 часа назад

      I dont believe she was going to do harm to her children she had a children bag with children stuff when she was premeditated murdered, alias the footage doesnt have sound, so we dont know why they were discussing. Sad for her untimely demise and for her children, and sad for Bryan not been behind bars.

  • @a.azazagoth5413
    @a.azazagoth5413 5 часов назад +47

    If a woman was beating a man like she was beating him there would be no question that it was self defense. Happy holidays Dr. Grande and all viewers!

    • @WhitLin31
      @WhitLin31 5 часов назад

      Wait

    • @ronald3836
      @ronald3836 4 часа назад +5

      But he could have defended himself with his bare hands. No need to shoot her without even warning her.

    • @list283
      @list283 4 часа назад +4

      No, that is no self deffense either way. If you have another solution, it is not self deffence.

    • @_Nobody_Special
      @_Nobody_Special 4 часа назад +3

      True, but there is a major strength disparity in this situation. He could have easily overpowered her. Of course that in itself would have had likely severe consequences for him.

    • @jackthehat8458
      @jackthehat8458 4 часа назад +4

      The man could have got onto domestic abuse police with his CCTV evidence. I think shooting her with a concealed weapon was outrageous and I know women are treated totally favourably by the courts. Now child is orphaned forever.

  • @KK-ri2gu
    @KK-ri2gu 5 часов назад +30

    Why not divorce and no contact ?

    • @catpisssniffer69
      @catpisssniffer69 5 часов назад +1

      It’s difficult with a kid. Plus divorcing someone like that in family court would be a nightmare…trust me I know

    • @kevinhullinger8743
      @kevinhullinger8743 4 часа назад +13

      The woman usually have th upper hand in court reguardless

    • @nopereradicator
      @nopereradicator 4 часа назад +10

      Because cluster b’s don’t respect no contact.
      Because cluster b’s unalive children as retaliation.
      Because the court system would deform his life and finances along with his foot.
      What a stupid question.

    • @nathanspreitzer6738
      @nathanspreitzer6738 3 часа назад +7

      He would’ve lost everything he owned, every dime he had, and 40% of his income for the next 16 years

    • @kingcosworth2643
      @kingcosworth2643 3 часа назад +5

      No doubt didn't want to lose access to his child, that is normally what keeps men trapped in awful marriages, I've had a few mates in that situation.

  • @Bonnie-cu5hx
    @Bonnie-cu5hx 5 часов назад +10

    Merry Christmas & Happy Healthy New Year 🎊 Mr. and Mrs. Grande

  • @acacacacacacaccaca7666
    @acacacacacacaccaca7666 Час назад +3

    A three year sentence seems like a fair trade

  • @eb0526
    @eb0526 5 часов назад +50

    As a mom of two sons, my husband and I taught our boys not to hit female even if she hits you first. But, I have changed my mind over the last 20 yrs. Too many women today are aggressive, mentally unstable and have daddy issues. It’s sad, they can’t keep their hands to themselves. IMHO, he shouldn’t have spent a day in prison. 💯

    • @maybeiam3367
      @maybeiam3367 5 часов назад +7

      You clearly don’t love your sons very much.

    • @jice7074
      @jice7074 5 часов назад +1

      White knights and the justice system will always side with the woman. You need to teach them to exit the situation and not go back. If you need to protect yourself from immediate harm you better be recording the incident as that's a mandatory part of self defense.

    • @complete_newb1718
      @complete_newb1718 5 часов назад

      Why? He literally murderd her. He went out his way to use deadly force. He could have defended himself but chose not to because he was planing to kill her when he had the chance.

    • @ChineduOpara
      @ChineduOpara 4 часа назад +3

      Thank you, mother of 2 sons! I am glad that you changed your views based on New Evidence and Experiences!

    • @Le_coq_sportiff
      @Le_coq_sportiff 4 часа назад

      Wen u mix anxiety medication with wine women become extremely unstable n Aggressive ,talking from experience

  • @uralbob1
    @uralbob1 5 часов назад +5

    Great episode! Thank you sincerely, Dr Grande!
    And thank you too, for a year of discovery of human behaviors!
    You have helped me to understand myself.

  • @efflux89
    @efflux89 5 часов назад +22

    "During this part of the confrontation the video converted from black and white to color." What is this the Wizard of Oz? lol

    • @bronco5334
      @bronco5334 4 часа назад +7

      More likely that either the camera system records the newest footage in color, but compresses older footage into lower-resolution black and white to save recording memory, OR the lights were dim in the start of the recording but enough lights turned on later for it to switch to color; many cameras have higher-sensitivity settings for low light that only detect in monochrome (and the human eye works in a similar way)

    • @ky7299
      @ky7299 3 часа назад +2

      Camera probably went from night to day mode as the sunlight hit brighter.

  • @joyceshiver6622
    @joyceshiver6622 6 часов назад +58

    *shocked pikachu face* when the man strikes back

    • @onlyechadtherebellious2467
      @onlyechadtherebellious2467 5 часов назад +11

      Exactly, the fact that there are still people who think it's okay to hurt others because of their gender is both stupid and toxic.

    • @olgasho6687
      @olgasho6687 5 часов назад +3

      Strikes back with… killing? Are you well?

    • @lisajean228
      @lisajean228 4 часа назад

      @@olgasho6687we don’t know definitively that killing was his objective, just that he’d had enough abuse and wanted it to end. There are a lot of details we won’t ever know.

  • @ogarzabello
    @ogarzabello 5 часов назад +90

    A simp who dates a single mom with bipolar disorder and substance abuse, what could go wrong?

    • @musicbrazilian7065
      @musicbrazilian7065 5 часов назад +7

      Hahahahahaha!

    • @MoreFunInTheNewWorld
      @MoreFunInTheNewWorld 5 часов назад +3

      Based

    • @dannnmerkle7930
      @dannnmerkle7930 4 часа назад +9

      Victim blaming yay

    • @helenestiernstrand6575
      @helenestiernstrand6575 4 часа назад +1

      Just lay off it - gender roles beeing reversed…

    • @MoreFunInTheNewWorld
      @MoreFunInTheNewWorld 4 часа назад +8

      @@dannnmerkle7930 this must of hit a sore spot on you but it ain’t victim blaming. It’s the truth . For a man to ignore that many red flags just so he can crawl up in those greasy mud flaps is asking a life of pain . Not saying I really blame him but all this could have been avoided.

  • @Elaine2374
    @Elaine2374 2 часа назад +2

    THANK YOU, Dr. Grande! I agree with everything you said. Merry Christmas and Happy Holidays!❤️🎄🎅🎁

  • @MidnightLight.
    @MidnightLight. 5 часов назад +9

    "Delia's gone, one more round, Delia's gone." - Johnny

  • @moonshineblues204
    @moonshineblues204 6 часов назад +29

    I always tell my kids, "People dont hit people"

    • @cannack
      @cannack 5 часов назад +4

      to quote my old man ``never start a fight & never hit someone when they are down, but you`ll never be in trouble with me for defending yourself``

    • @moonshineblues204
      @moonshineblues204 5 часов назад +1

      @cannack exactly 💯

  • @billcosgrave6232
    @billcosgrave6232 44 минуты назад +1

    Unfortunately, this situation of women physically abusing men is more common than you think. It frequently ends with the man striking the woman back. The result is the man usually ends up being charge with some form domestic violence.

  • @tuvia4082
    @tuvia4082 3 часа назад +2

    Thanks Dr. Grande, well said.

  • @xaxfixho
    @xaxfixho 5 часов назад +16

    That Taurus Judge is beautiful!!!

  • @LowKeyTired-q7d
    @LowKeyTired-q7d 5 часов назад +10

    The way she was getting in his face and all that looks extremely irritating but neveretheless he killed her ...

    • @rockyevans1584
      @rockyevans1584 5 часов назад

      Right in front of the kid too. She sucked, looks like he sucks too. Poor kid had no stable adults around

  • @lisanelson302
    @lisanelson302 5 часов назад +6

    She did have it coming no doubt. However for me i find it unreasonable that he killed her rather than just leaving. He had left the house came back in and got the gun. So far into the video she had hit him multiple times with her hand and acted like she was going to hit him with the bat. Yet she was about to leave when he came in. He While outside it seems decided he was going to kill her. Ive been in an abusive relationship. I know its traumatizing and things are not always simple to get out. But he had the choice to leave then wait for her to leave and then take those recordings to the police have her arrested and get a restraining order.

  • @vladiatorfilms4329
    @vladiatorfilms4329 4 часа назад +4

    I don't sympathize with Chandra. She had it coming, but this was clearly premeditated and avoidable. He could've stayed gone when he left, he could've brought this footage to the police after she left. He chose to come back armed and shoot her the next time he was assaulted. I feel for Bryan, and I get it, but let's be real about the situation. At the time of the shooting there was no genuine justification for it.

  • @eerielconstantine5051
    @eerielconstantine5051 6 часов назад +49

    That is a heavy title 😂

  • @k_a_bizzle
    @k_a_bizzle Час назад +2

    Damn that security cam footage pulled a Schindler’s List, that’s artsy.

  • @maryrichardson6029
    @maryrichardson6029 5 часов назад +2

    Always interesting
    Thank you❤

  • @Ironboots123
    @Ironboots123 4 часа назад +8

    This is why cameras in the house are a great idea. Too many abusive women think they can get away with their physical abusing.

  • @estherpennington7826
    @estherpennington7826 Час назад +1

    So sad, with that child standing right there

  • @hopefletcher7420
    @hopefletcher7420 2 часа назад +1

    My uncle told me we had an ancestor who murdered his wife. He was an assistant principal (back in the early 1900s) and his wife was a harridan. He went home o e day and was in the cellar working on the boiler and she was harranging him and he just picked up a hatchet and killed her. Apparently a lot of people spoke up for him at the trial. My uncle never said what happened to him.

  • @Liciablyth
    @Liciablyth 2 часа назад +4

    I am rather confused. There is no doubt that she was abusing her husband. But, was he in fear of his life sufficiently to warrant shooting in self defence? No. I cannot see that. Firstly in terms of body weight and height, he clearly was stronger than her and could have restrained her with ease. Small males are usually stronger than women anyway. A woman of his size might even have overpowered her. He could have walked out at any time. When she hit him, she used side swipe blows which are way less forceful than straight punches. Also, in using the bat, she repeatedly hit the couch and the floor, not him. Was she threatening extreme violence? Yes. Was he capable of restraining her and escaping? yes. Did he plan to kill her? yes. He retrieved the weapon and concealed it. WHen she had left the room, that was the time he could have left the room and the house. I think he is guilty of murder.

    • @lizb4156
      @lizb4156 Час назад +1

      My thoughts match your's anyone else is plain wrong.

  • @srper2
    @srper2 4 часа назад +7

    When she left the room he could have left but instead he waited and shot her. This was a toxic relationship and he chose to stay in it.

  • @GuessWhooou
    @GuessWhooou 2 часа назад +3

    This is not a self defense case. Yes she is physically and verbally abusive. What he could do is leave the house and the marriage. Leave to a motel or a family member's house, file for divorce and start a new life. You don't have to kill the woman. She is still someone's mother and was someone's daughter first even before she met you. So leave the house and file for divorce if you couldn't take it anymore. Don't straight up murder her, and try to claim self defense. Don't even give him a lighter sentence due to pity for the abusive he suffered. There were many chances to have left the marriage and home since.

    • @flazjsg
      @flazjsg Час назад +2

      He could have also just gone to bed and been beaten to death at night or stabbed. I see your point, he could have had her arrested and gotten an order of protection. He didn't and it didn't end well for her. He was clearly fed up. I agree with Dr. Grande 100% in this one.
      If he files for divorce, she gets cash and prizes for beating him. Great system we have, huh?

  • @Brian-sp5yz
    @Brian-sp5yz 3 часа назад +3

    He had a chance to disarm her or just leave

  • @kenwillis8487
    @kenwillis8487 5 часов назад +13

    I’m only speculating that had he not retrieved the pistol and placed it in his pocket prior to the shooting he may not have been charged. If the pistol had been within reach during the incident with the baseball bat and the child not present then it would be a totally different story but once he intentionally retrieved the pistol during a moment that he could have left and de escalated the situation that is a form of pre mediated thought!

    • @bronco5334
      @bronco5334 5 часов назад

      "Gee, this woman is threatening me and beating me with a baseball bat, I guess I'll just leave the gun sitting behind the couch where she can go get it when she gets angry enough instead of securing the gun so she can't use it against me", said no reasonable person, ever

    • @whittenaw
      @whittenaw 5 часов назад +5

      I agree. For me, that he did this in front of the baby, is unforgivable. He has the right to defend himself but clearly he had plenty of chances that didn't include doing it in front of innocent eyes

  • @birdworldist
    @birdworldist 6 часов назад +34

    Yes king go off

    • @Cerbera66
      @Cerbera66 6 часов назад +3

      👑🎆🎄😃

    • @birdworldist
      @birdworldist 5 часов назад +2

      @@Cerbera66 hug 🫂 🎉❤

  • @shawnalrea
    @shawnalrea 4 часа назад

    Thank you for your videos, Dr. Grande. I really appreciate how you give a rational, level-headed, and often witty accounting of these cases. Could you consider doing a video on the shooting of James and Lisa Goy by their neighbor, Jeffrey in 2021? This is such a crazy case. There is a video available on the internet of the actual shooting taking place. The Goys are said to have been very combative in the neighborhood and antagonized Jeffrey constantly. Even after he pulled a gun on them and was shooting, they were still yelling at him. I would love to hear your analysis of this.

  • @bhaskarmukherjee4768
    @bhaskarmukherjee4768 2 часа назад +1

    That poor kid is traumatized for life.

  • @LibraLeo325
    @LibraLeo325 3 часа назад +4

    I survived an abusive relationship and just wanted to get away, not delete my abusive ex. And who would plan to kill their abuser in front of a baby? That’s pretty sick.

  • @niclas9990
    @niclas9990 Час назад +1

    Was he guilty of murder? Not sure. Was he a spineless POS for doing it in front of the kid? 100%

  • @anthonyxavier6300
    @anthonyxavier6300 Час назад +1

    He honestly should of just broken up with her. Definitely not worth being in a relationship with substance.

  • @ambergriffes6122
    @ambergriffes6122 4 часа назад

    Good afternoon Dr. Grande, thank you for your informative analysis on this case. I hope you and your family have a wonderful Christmastime! 🎄✨️

  • @vickieflanigan4678
    @vickieflanigan4678 5 часов назад +4

    Merry Christmases Doc

  • @Eric-10101
    @Eric-10101 4 часа назад +12

    NO sympathy for her, just like I have NO sympathy for the United Healthcare CEO.

  • @stevenlewis7132
    @stevenlewis7132 5 часов назад +4

    Please, don't judge the Kingsport Tn community by this case. Kingsport tn is a beautiful place to raise a family. 24 yrs experience. Merry Christmas Dr. GRANDE. THX

    • @JayB-l7g
      @JayB-l7g 2 часа назад

      No it isn’t. They’re feminist liberals who hate men

  • @Mrs.Smarter
    @Mrs.Smarter 5 минут назад +2

    There’s no question that what she did was horrible. She could have been jailed for it too. But from a different view and a serious one, I notice two things here, besides her abusive nature:
    1. Security cameras good for evidence when he contacts law enforcement
    2. He had the time to conceal a gun, she had also left the room prior, so he could have left the house altogether and contacted the police. Then he could tell them about the abuse and security cameras, safely leaving the relationship and fighting for custody.
    It didn’t have to come to her death. She shouldn’t have been horribly abused though and sadly, her children are without a mother.

  • @barkeep25
    @barkeep25 Час назад +2

    She seems terrible and abusive, but i don't know to what extent. Those attributes don't necessarily warrant an execution, and that's what I believe this was. I believe he is guilty of being a coward and that he hated himself as much as her but was too scared to walk away. I think he premeditated this killing. He could of easily overpowered her, club foot and all. I don't believe he felt his life was in danger/serious injury, regardlessof the baseball bat. This seems like revenge. But the law is the law. So I believe moraly guilty of murder but not legally unfortunately. She was probably a monster so its easy to be emotionally on his side as a spectator. So I think my opinion will be unpopular because of this.

  • @thenewandrei4o94
    @thenewandrei4o94 4 часа назад +7

    I don't know how to feel about this. On one hand if we're solely following the letter of the law - it appears that he was in his right. On the other hand he wasn't REALLY threatened and he clearly waited for a nice justification to kill her. Planned and deliberate.
    I don't feel sorry for her though. A divorce would have probably been worse for him than prison lol.

  • @LindaLord-nr9pr
    @LindaLord-nr9pr 5 часов назад +8

    This reminds me of a similar case we had at the office. There was a salesman who was working with us & whose life was a living hell at home. He was maybe 35 yo not more. We never suspected anything. He was always busy ,discreet & polite. One day, police showed up to inform us he had had a bad crash. He was found dead. There were no marks of breaking on the road. I did not know him, but I never forgot. This is not only sad , this is unacceptable. This is what happens when you didn t learn to love yourself enough to pull out on time from the infernal spiral. RIP PETER 💔🥀

  • @SukiSays23
    @SukiSays23 5 часов назад +3

    We all know what would’ve happened had he gone the legal route to get away from her. It’s a shame the young boy was a witness tho. So sad all around

  • @bowieupland6112
    @bowieupland6112 5 часов назад +22

    We all already know that if the sex were reversed, she would be celebrated all over the media as a poor "victim of domestic violence."

    • @kingofthekingsjabril
      @kingofthekingsjabril 51 минуту назад

      No she wouldn’t. Women go to jail all the time for killing their abusive husbands . You live in la la land. 2 stop making it seem as if men and women are equal we are not.

  • @complete_newb1718
    @complete_newb1718 5 часов назад +3

    Why are you being biased? He literally murderd her. He went out his way to use deadly force. He could have defended himself but chose not to because he was planing to kill her when he had the chance. Both can be guilty it isnt one or the other. They both deserve jail.

  • @RullVox
    @RullVox 3 часа назад +1

    I've never even heard of someone only having to serve 20 percent of a sentence for killing someone. Too many of the justice system's sentencing guidelines are convoluted and can sometimes be absurd, imo.
    Let's be honest, the justice system was designed by lawyers, for lawyers.

  • @nicholasbintner4677
    @nicholasbintner4677 2 часа назад +1

    The way shes bent over screaming in his face is nuts

  • @JayB-l7g
    @JayB-l7g 2 часа назад +1

    WTF? !!!!!! Wtf!!!! How tf was he charged with anything.????? So women can claim battered woman syndrome but men get charged with 1st degree murder ? Wtf is happening.

  • @g-maald6884
    @g-maald6884 Час назад +1

    He is guilty. He armed himself. She was a really sick woman but didn't earn the the death penalty. He should have called the police.

  • @tinytim71301
    @tinytim71301 5 часов назад +2

    Having had an ex wife that hit and shouted, this was likely one of countless acts of abuse. Sadly, he didn’t call 911.

    • @ChineduOpara
      @ChineduOpara 4 часа назад +1

      Exactly. You GET it. Female-on-male abuse is EXTREMELY under-reported.

    • @ky7299
      @ky7299 3 часа назад +1

      He would not have been believed. Or she may had threatened him to accuse him of DV/SA and we all know what happens then.

    • @jimminycrunkett
      @jimminycrunkett Час назад

      the law is against men, better to leave her

  • @dannyreed2887
    @dannyreed2887 5 часов назад +4

    See, people like this give bipolar people a bad name.

  • @borbafette
    @borbafette 3 часа назад +1

    I agree with your assessment. I have had security cameras of thos type and you actually forget they're even there most of the time.
    If the roles had been reversed, Beth, aka Chandra, would never have been charged with anything. (I agree, anyone who prefers to be called Chandra over Beth is highly suspicious).
    This is a gross case of reverse sex prejudices

  • @loudtim265
    @loudtim265 5 часов назад +3

    What an odd couple! How did these two get together? I must know more….