I want to generally advise to not settle for less than you deserve, which is someone that is sure of you as well as someone that you are sure of. Not every relationship or connection is a home run, which is fine, but when you see the signs that someone is not sure of you, do yourself a favor and bow out. Six months is long enough to know whether it is a yes or no.
Usually caucasians get called out for giving unsolicited advice right away, but giving unsolicited advice does not discriminate, feel free to let us all know how your relationship is going. Why would you need to advise? Chile they got it. A healer needs a protector. Whatever their decision is, if they need "advisement" they can go to Dr. Raquel or Dr. Thema or any number of counselors.
@@cascade00 Sorry that something about what I said made you angry! Whether it is plainly stated or not, almost every comment on a Skin Deep video offers some sort of advice or opinion, and yet you’ve chosen mine to criticize. What I say always comes from a place of knowledge and experience. I think that people deserve to be in relationships where they’re wanted and vice versa. I think that’s a positive message. No need to try to one-up me or outsmart me.
@@cascade00 Your response is very bizarre. It sounds like her advise triggered you because someone once gave you the same advise and you ignored it, but you wish you hadn’t lol.
I am grateful to the gay couples who share their truths via this platform. Thank you for giving them all a voice and opportunity to use your tool as a way to make their voices, emotions, and views be heard!❤❤
If you’ve had past relationships that have lasted a year or longer and then failed. Uncertainty at 6 months actually makes a lot of sense. Sounds like there is a foundation of friendship and respect to build on.
"Sometimes you have to practice on people. . . ." No. You stay by yourself until you feel like you can approach people with an open heart. Don't get others caught up in your past. These two are a great reminder that you can't heal through others. You cannot hide in others, and I'm sure not going to be a broken person's safe haven.
It depends on what the practice is I think? If for example I have been not expressing my needs in my prior relationships, and as a result did not get them met. Then maybe I would want to practice communicating my needs in the next relationship. And practice trusting that my partner will listen with an open heart and hear me out.
Katie feels so deeply. You can see it in her eyes. When Abby says the compatibility thing, it really hurt Katie.😢 I also noticed when Abby mentioned compatibility thing, she put her hand up to her throat as if she was scared to say it. Much love to them!❤
I also feel like Abby is still stuck on a past relationship. And Katie can sense it and it’s just hurting and scaring the shit out of her. Abby doesn’t seem as “affected” as Katie does. I say all of this in love and I am sending hugs and positive vibes! I hope they can overcome their obstacles!
Its important for new relationship to stay private not closeted but private, so honestly, secured, warmest and everything a relationship needs to grow. coming on platforms like this open all kinds of insecurities that break a relationship, including this message
I scrolled and suddenly a comment that *made it make sense.* It's toxic but not overtly/obviously just a composed problem and (to me) purple seems to like playing with it where blondie was trying to understand it.
Queer and a secret did not work for me. Really triggered a lot of shame and heartache and yelling and disdain and regret...it was awful. It was a viscious cycle, holding it in, releasing my anger and hurt in a barrage of loud, verbal assaults and withdrawal, then right back to the shame. I really don't recommend it.
This feels like an experiment which is going to bring more anxiousness than security. They’re just different in their approach and love languages generated from previous experiences. I think they have different attachment styles as well and the one on the right definitely seems less emotionally attached and comes across as more “we’ll see how this goes” rather than making the other feel like she’s invested. Those relationships are hard but not impossible. But BOTH parties have to be present and willing to make it work and also be considerate of each other’s feeling. I really hope it works if that’s what they want.
Uhmmm.. 6 months in is usually the time two are in the obliviousness of love. These two women do not seem to be very much in love to me. And the "relationship" still being a secret after six months!? Well, maybe some connections are meant to be only a bridge to the other side.
Every relationship is unique. We don’t know how those 2 are going to evolve so who’s to say what’s going to be their relationship like? Only time will tell, not judgements based on how things “should” look like.
I agree. Their energy as a couple is “off” and some of the language they’re using in conversation doesn’t instill confidence in the relationship for either of them. They might not work out.
😂Yep she dont want to change,shes good with this situation. Makes me feeling sad for blonde bc she just wants a Real couple and meeting families etc@@PhoenixFeathers
Maybe it's because I haven't been keeping up with this channel, but I found this interesting to watch *because* they're unsure. I don't recall seeing any similar displays on this same level before. It's clear there is a lot that wasn't mentioned- and for good reason. I think they shared just enough to make us think, without compromising their trust/boundaries. I wonder if they chose to come on here as a way to intentionally expose themselves since the rela feels like a secret and also to see how it felt afterwards, since it's unlikely to be a secret (or the same level of secret) after this. If they *do* stay together long term, I'd be really interested in a follow-up to hear what changed, what was revealed and what moved the dynamic from uncertain to secure. If they don't, I'd still be interested in a follow-up discussing what they learned and/or why they tried for it. They seem like interesting people either way. Also, I agree that the purplish hair (Abby?) is quite pretty/unusual looking. Can't help but wonder if that has something to do with the past being referenced. Particularly pretty girls sometimes have unique challenges that compound whatever else is going on or inform behaviors that serve as defense mechanisms. Just a thought.
definitely not for the faint of heart lol - i think what‘s mainly challenging is finding a partner who‘s aligned in terms of commitment (ik it’s the same for cis str8 ppl) but like it’s more complicated in the queer space because there are also stereotypes and gay subcultures of non-monogamy which can make it challenging trying to settle down and find a committed partner in a scene where ”openness and exploration“ is the general expectation and practice…
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I want to generally advise to not settle for less than you deserve, which is someone that is sure of you as well as someone that you are sure of. Not every relationship or connection is a home run, which is fine, but when you see the signs that someone is not sure of you, do yourself a favor and bow out. Six months is long enough to know whether it is a yes or no.
Usually caucasians get called out for giving unsolicited advice right away, but giving unsolicited advice does not discriminate, feel free to let us all know how your relationship is going.
Why would you need to advise? Chile they got it. A healer needs a protector. Whatever their decision is, if they need "advisement" they can go to Dr. Raquel or Dr. Thema or any number of counselors.
@@cascade00 Sorry that something about what I said made you angry! Whether it is plainly stated or not, almost every comment on a Skin Deep video offers some sort of advice or opinion, and yet you’ve chosen mine to criticize. What I say always comes from a place of knowledge and experience. I think that people deserve to be in relationships where they’re wanted and vice versa. I think that’s a positive message. No need to try to one-up me or outsmart me.
@@cascade00 Your response is very bizarre. It sounds like her advise triggered you because someone once gave you the same advise and you ignored it, but you wish you hadn’t lol.
This was very intense. You can tell there's so much more going on. I wish them both the best
I am grateful to the gay couples who share their truths via this platform. Thank you for giving them all a voice and opportunity to use your tool as a way to make their voices, emotions, and views be heard!❤❤
The energy feels heavy.
If you’ve had past relationships that have lasted a year or longer and then failed. Uncertainty at 6 months actually makes a lot of sense. Sounds like there is a foundation of friendship and respect to build on.
Agreed. It’s funny, we see other relationships where they mention it started off and on but less often do we see what that might have looked like.
"Sometimes you have to practice on people. . . ." No. You stay by yourself until you feel like you can approach people with an open heart. Don't get others caught up in your past. These two are a great reminder that you can't heal through others. You cannot hide in others, and I'm sure not going to be a broken person's safe haven.
It depends on what the practice is I think? If for example I have been not expressing my needs in my prior relationships, and as a result did not get them met. Then maybe I would want to practice communicating my needs in the next relationship. And practice trusting that my partner will listen with an open heart and hear me out.
I feel….confused and anxious watching/listening to them. And want to hug Katie. 🥺
Katie feels so deeply. You can see it in her eyes. When Abby says the compatibility thing, it really hurt Katie.😢 I also noticed when Abby mentioned compatibility thing, she put her hand up to her throat as if she was scared to say it. Much love to them!❤
I also feel like Abby is still stuck on a past relationship. And Katie can sense it and it’s just hurting and scaring the shit out of her. Abby doesn’t seem as “affected” as Katie does. I say all of this in love and I am sending hugs and positive vibes! I hope they can overcome their obstacles!
exactlyyyy
I think they're both a little uncertain about one another.
What I got from this video is that they both like each other, there is chemistry. However, it doesn't seem like a genuine connection.
yup
Its important for new relationship to stay private not closeted but private, so honestly, secured, warmest and everything a relationship needs to grow. coming on platforms like this open all kinds of insecurities that break a relationship, including this message
The one on the left is all in. The one on the right is half in. That's my takeaway. Though I'm not an expert.
lmaoooo just floating in the air
Thank you for sharing such beauty with us all. Vulnerability is so soft, and light and good. Thank you 💛
No, relationships are not about trying things on people... They are about loving each other, building with each other, etc...
This is a calm toxic relationship. Run
I scrolled and suddenly a comment that *made it make sense.* It's toxic but not overtly/obviously just a composed problem and (to me) purple seems to like playing with it where blondie was trying to understand it.
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I cringed everytime I heard the word experiment
Queer and a secret did not work for me. Really triggered a lot of shame and heartache and yelling and disdain and regret...it was awful. It was a viscious cycle, holding it in, releasing my anger and hurt in a barrage of loud, verbal assaults and withdrawal, then right back to the shame. I really don't recommend it.
These two feel INTENSE.
This feels like an experiment which is going to bring more anxiousness than security. They’re just different in their approach and love languages generated from previous experiences. I think they have different attachment styles as well and the one on the right definitely seems less emotionally attached and comes across as more “we’ll see how this goes” rather than making the other feel like she’s invested. Those relationships are hard but not impossible. But BOTH parties have to be present and willing to make it work and also be considerate of each other’s feeling. I really hope it works if that’s what they want.
Blondie has cried a lot
I know Abby personally she’s literally the sweetest human on earth .
Uhmmm.. 6 months in is usually the time two are in the obliviousness of love. These two women do not seem to be very much in love to me. And the "relationship" still being a secret after six months!? Well, maybe some connections are meant to be only a bridge to the other side.
Every relationship is unique. We don’t know how those 2 are going to evolve so who’s to say what’s going to be their relationship like? Only time will tell, not judgements based on how things “should” look like.
I agree. Their energy as a couple is “off” and some of the language they’re using in conversation doesn’t instill confidence in the relationship for either of them. They might not work out.
I hope the one with the blonde hair leaves. I think she’ll find a partner that actually puts more effort in. Purple hair is…different to say the least
Whatever they call this ‘thing’ between them, Blondie is suffering from it while Purple is totally unaffected
😂Yep she dont want to change,shes good with this situation. Makes me feeling sad for blonde bc she just wants a Real couple and meeting families etc@@PhoenixFeathers
@@ninaalice2281absolutely 💯
Oh GOD! Purple hair feels sooo narcissistic. She’s enjoying this experiment SO much. Run. Run. RUN.
This couple is doing all the work on the front end.
Here too early for the juicy commentary but y'all.....
Sounds like they're not even sure why they're in a relationship and they're having a conversation about how they're going to breakup...
And that is why, as a queer woman, I refuse to be someone's secret... 😬
This is Gonna b so Insightful💜🔥🔥🔥👍n Happy Wednesday😀!!!….
Thank you ❤
Yoh, this was hard/cringey to watch. I hope they're both brave (soon) and face the truth... we all see it.
Maybe it's because I haven't been keeping up with this channel, but I found this interesting to watch *because* they're unsure. I don't recall seeing any similar displays on this same level before. It's clear there is a lot that wasn't mentioned- and for good reason. I think they shared just enough to make us think, without compromising their trust/boundaries. I wonder if they chose to come on here as a way to intentionally expose themselves since the rela feels like a secret and also to see how it felt afterwards, since it's unlikely to be a secret (or the same level of secret) after this.
If they *do* stay together long term, I'd be really interested in a follow-up to hear what changed, what was revealed and what moved the dynamic from uncertain to secure. If they don't, I'd still be interested in a follow-up discussing what they learned and/or why they tried for it. They seem like interesting people either way.
Also, I agree that the purplish hair (Abby?) is quite pretty/unusual looking. Can't help but wonder if that has something to do with the past being referenced. Particularly pretty girls sometimes have unique challenges that compound whatever else is going on or inform behaviors that serve as defense mechanisms. Just a thought.
Is it me or they feel like a queer couple from a movie or something ? The conversation was really insightful and vulnerable I must say though.
guys we all know it...
So I’m not a fan of Abby she’s not all in I don’t feel it from her
Neve C?
Hey! No backward hats around!
This dynamic is not going to work.
Sidney Prescott is that you ?
I don’t think Abby is in this
Gay/trans relationships seem very challenging
definitely not for the faint of heart lol - i think what‘s mainly challenging is finding a partner who‘s aligned in terms of commitment (ik it’s the same for cis str8 ppl) but like it’s more complicated in the queer space because there are also stereotypes and gay subcultures of non-monogamy which can make it challenging trying to settle down and find a committed partner in a scene where ”openness and exploration“ is the general expectation and practice…
@@SyreLikeAFireperfectly described.
@@SyreLikeAFire
Well said! 🤍
A relationship with a person who is unsure is never good for one's self esteem. 😢
Purple hair fine as hell
Getting narc vibes
@@PhoenixFeathers why
She knows it
@@NoSauceBoss-sm6zxthe narc smirk
@@PhoenixFeathers yeah same but shes fit asf LMAO
Best wishes from here in Australia to this lovely couple.