What I wish I learned in my 20's - Privacy Over Secrecy

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  • @AJ-jw6yp
    @AJ-jw6yp Месяц назад +182

    I couldn't agree more. Limit what you share of your private life. Not everyone wishes you well, and the more people know about you, the more entitled the feel to opinions about your life.

    • @beatricedevarenne2621
      @beatricedevarenne2621 Месяц назад +9

      Even in our own family

    • @marilynfarley9213
      @marilynfarley9213 Месяц назад +5

      Exactly.

    • @RocknRollDina
      @RocknRollDina Месяц назад +2

      sharing was how influencers were making their money back then. Now they can just do ad and pnly make videos with paid sponsorship. but 10 yrs ago if you werent sharing real life, no one was watching. Even today, a lot of people are trying to come up on social media by oversharing. It's jsut the game. You play it for a few yrs then shut it down and only post when paid to. The TY ad revenue isnt enough anyhow, sponsored content is what really pays

    • @leilariley936
      @leilariley936 Месяц назад +1

      It's the price you pay for fame...don't put your business out there,where nobody ask/push you;then when something happens...you suddenly start to 'drop words at the people who've stood by you,all these years,most of the vlogs currently are ads...and people are still committed .Attack the people coming directly for YOU!!

  • @CinnamonSanctuary
    @CinnamonSanctuary Месяц назад +53

    Good on you for wanting to keep things private. But I feel like influencers decide to stop sharing things right after a breakup. The pattern goes: oversharing then breakup then intense bouts of self-love, cue lots of posts about how we need to take care of number one then a YT post announcing that people are nosy, never sharing anything again etc. It’s a formula at this point, I’m seeing this everywhere for some reason!

    • @Rebel_Leader7
      @Rebel_Leader7 Месяц назад +7

      Spot on!
      Clearly, the lifestyle influencers private life is their CAREER/BUSINESS - nine and a half times out of ten. They put it all out there, milk it for every penny they can get then jump on the privacy bandwagon when they divorce or break up because the wonderful life and illusion of authenticity they were selling and making bank from is all collapsed.

    • @CinnamonSanctuary
      @CinnamonSanctuary Месяц назад +1

      @@Rebel_Leader7 You put it much more eloquently than me, absolutely agree!

    • @cillae8119
      @cillae8119 Месяц назад +1

      Has she said she broke up?

    • @NeneBlessing
      @NeneBlessing 24 дня назад

      Beautiful makeup looks 😍

  • @tendaihatoongo4433
    @tendaihatoongo4433 Месяц назад +131

    The Chicnatural is one influencer who strikes the perfect balance between sharing her life and privacy.

    • @Banzai026
      @Banzai026 Месяц назад +3

      I agree!! I love her content!!

    • @leocadiabaptista9516
      @leocadiabaptista9516 Месяц назад

      Couldn’t agree more, love her as well

    • @providenceluyiga4488
      @providenceluyiga4488 Месяц назад

      Yessss

    • @Flourish_today
      @Flourish_today Месяц назад +3

      I think Jenny Jenkins is also a private one. She has been private from the get go.

    • @suziesmith9076
      @suziesmith9076 Месяц назад +2

      @@Flourish_todayshe also lost her following. You can’t start sharing all your business then suddenly stop, your audience was built on knowing what goes on with you.

  • @marthal8862
    @marthal8862 Месяц назад +98

    Money Mel really has learned from the mistakes of the OGs and it’s lovely. You guys were trailblazers and you didn’t have instructions! You wrote the rule book and have now made this industry easier to navigate for the girls that came behind you and are still to come ❤

  • @therealmykag
    @therealmykag Месяц назад +69

    I know people are really excited to share their kids, but please don’t post their full government name and DOB online. Identity theft can ruin their whole life. Even private accounts, never forget that 90% of victims know the perpetrator.

  • @RavenRaeRaeAlexis
    @RavenRaeRaeAlexis Месяц назад +20

    Girl I’ve missed you! Haven’t seen a video in years, You were my favorite back like 5-6yrs ago. I’d watch your hauls everyday

  • @moniqueclarke-w2747
    @moniqueclarke-w2747 Месяц назад +21

    I always knew when my time came to be a mother, I didn’t ever want to share the most precious, transformative journey of my life so far online.

  • @kemiesther2971
    @kemiesther2971 Месяц назад +29

    This definitely applies to life outside of socials, especially because I've been getting questions from family members recently about when am I going to get married and I'm just thinking I don't talk to you like that so its none of your business smh

  • @peachypie3442
    @peachypie3442 Месяц назад +3

    Patricia, Patricia, Patricia! This was right on time and a true confirmation. Girl you’re successful. I’ve been with you since Day One( under another channel). Not everybody wishes you well and I have been a victim of situations like this. Now I move in silence. To hell with how people feel about it and what they have to say. I’m proud of you sis. Proud of all the Patty fam👏❤️‍🩹🙏💪

  • @veesvoyages
    @veesvoyages Месяц назад +2

    Really great topic! It's so true nowadays we need to get the balance right of what is shared online. Love this video format and concept!

  • @crestarose
    @crestarose Месяц назад +2

    Totally agree with this and love how private I’ve always been … it’s hard to grow a creative career though! Everyone wants to feel like they know you before they invest in you!

  • @LoreBrown
    @LoreBrown Месяц назад +28

    the skin match is rude! LOL! loved that!

  • @candisweets8627
    @candisweets8627 Месяц назад +8

    That skin match is insane ❤

  • @brendatajik6150
    @brendatajik6150 Месяц назад +3

    Excellent points, Patricia. I've been watching you for over 8 years, and you've made quite a life for you and your family. Well done!😊

  • @muk9463
    @muk9463 Месяц назад +6

    I love this Patricia, way to go.

  • @leiajack638
    @leiajack638 Месяц назад +3

    I feel like it works for Mel as her brand was never about her personal life, her hubby or kids. It’s about HER style! And she has never shared anything so people don’t expect that of her. She got her following without it.

  • @ChavonJWright
    @ChavonJWright Месяц назад +11

    Me, DEEP in these thirties, smashing the download button: Omg I need to hear this!!! 😅

  • @stylebykatb.5661
    @stylebykatb.5661 Месяц назад +23

    Although I have watched RUclips for years and have consumed a lot of videos regarding folks private lives I did kinda cringe at times when I would see folks exposing very intimate details of their lives on the internet to thousands of people. It’s just not wise to expose your life to strangers in such detail - something has to be sacred, especially folks kids. I would never expose my children on the internet too many creeps out there - this video is giving some good advice more video content creators should take heed

  • @tailsoftoulouse9458
    @tailsoftoulouse9458 Месяц назад

    I love your videos and makeup!!

  • @Bells2141
    @Bells2141 Месяц назад +1

    Never been those early!! Love this ❤

  • @jacquelineruple8339
    @jacquelineruple8339 Месяц назад +8

    Yes, keep your family protected with privacy. Enjoy your PEACE. You are the influencer . You are doing wonderful enjoy Yes the chicnatural has never shown her husband etc
    Just be happy

  • @Ayaayaayag
    @Ayaayaayag Месяц назад +46

    Girl what happened to Mike ??

  • @cynthiaetty3549
    @cynthiaetty3549 Месяц назад

    Thank you so much,was singing Tyla Jump the other day.🥰🥰😁😁😘😘

  • @zona_davani
    @zona_davani Месяц назад

    I’m so proud to see you in this place in your life. You started on this so young and social media influencing was untapped ground. You are one of the pioneer of this space so surely you will have gotten burnt for the ones after you to learn and for you to learn. You’re amazing Patricia. In my head you’re my bestie 😅❤

  • @adoremilliana
    @adoremilliana Месяц назад +5

    I know am going to love this 🥰

  • @FopsyTheGreat
    @FopsyTheGreat 26 дней назад

    Needed this! Thank you 🎉

  • @CocoFrankie
    @CocoFrankie Месяц назад

    Perfect timing ❤

  • @Jazeerakiko
    @Jazeerakiko Месяц назад

    So lovely
    And loved the makeup
    ❤❤❤❤❤

  • @homodeus8713
    @homodeus8713 Месяц назад +1

    So good to see you again. Algorithms are full of mischief!

  • @annalisemodeste9390
    @annalisemodeste9390 Месяц назад +4

    This is for me🙌🏾 lords know I talk to much😅

  • @Nourishwithdevin
    @Nourishwithdevin Месяц назад +2

    I so appreciate this perspective ❤️TY

  • @Mayan144
    @Mayan144 Месяц назад +1

    Hi Patricia!!!!!

  • @marissathomas9327
    @marissathomas9327 Месяц назад +2

    Here super early ! Where tf you been lol 😂 waitttt RUclips has not been notifying me 😭 I got a lot of catching up to do

  • @reginadmahabirfmworldperfu211
    @reginadmahabirfmworldperfu211 Месяц назад +1

    Hi Patricia how can one purchase the eyebrows pencil that you used?

  • @RocknRollDina
    @RocknRollDina Месяц назад +23

    But all that being said, the question is: Are you and Mike still married??...is that secret or private?

    • @LILIBOSSY
      @LILIBOSSY 8 дней назад

      She is wearing her wedding ring

  • @Ruby-kr6fh
    @Ruby-kr6fh Месяц назад +12

    In case you don't know, all of your social media links in the bio are dead, they don't go to your profiles. I tried visiting them and thought you wiped yourself off the face of the earth lol but when I googled your correct accounts came up

  • @cloudhi
    @cloudhi Месяц назад +3

    Can you please elaborate on the differences of secrecy vs privacy?

  • @theetravelhippie
    @theetravelhippie Месяц назад

    spot on

  • @naomeshylineTv
    @naomeshylineTv Месяц назад

    Hey Lady Patricia, may I have the name/link of your Rode microphone that you are using? Thank you

  • @RocknRollDina
    @RocknRollDina Месяц назад +11

    Patti was definitely an over-sharer. That delivery vlog of Nova was wild. But we love the openness. I think the nosiness comes from people not seeing Mike and wondering if you're together. Can't be surprised when you share your hubby then dont and people wonder where has he been. part of being an influencer is being personable (to a certain degree). But I get where you're coming from. I dont even share my kids on social media thats only my friends...nope. privacy always..but im also not an influencer. But lets be real, you only make sponsored content and all your instagram content is you flexing or promoting a product. I get it, its your job, no critique..just saying

    • @rsmith1820
      @rsmith1820 Месяц назад +6

      And that's why I only look for Patricia every now & then. She's like a friend who you've drifted apart from but you still care.
      Like she said, she went from sharing EVERY aspect of her life to trying to guide us to the path of investment & wealth to material things that some of us simply can't (or don't want to) afford
      As a viewer from WAY back, I am happy for her growth & hope she's happy
      But she just told us all - as tactfully as she could...
      TO MIND OUR BUSINESS ABOUT HER LIFE OUTSIDE OF WHAT SHE POSTS
      as long as the sponsors continue to roll in funding trips & gifting items, gotta respect her gangsta.

  • @QueenOyinkan
    @QueenOyinkan Месяц назад +3

    Peakmill is also great at keeping her personal life private

  • @awhi3765
    @awhi3765 Месяц назад +1

    I’m a nobody and when I was pregnant I didn’t tell a soul but family and close friends. If someone asked on social media because they heard from someone else, I would tell them. I was in my final few weeks before I ever made any comments relating to pregnancy and when I gave birth I shared a picture when my baby was christened. I’m just saying if me a nobody can value my privacy I don’t understand how public figures don’t. Fans don’t need to know your whole life. When you let them in too far it’s hard to keep them out later. Nothing wrong with holding the precious and emotional close to home.

    • @Flourish_today
      @Flourish_today Месяц назад

      Peakmill is one private woman on this youtube. No one even knew she was expecting. We saw her baby when she was about 2 years old. Even her marriage was private. In fact, she made a video saying, "i got married and had a baby"😂😂😂. People were shocked because they expected to see a 2 day old baby. The baby was 2 years old.

  • @mrsroseyp109
    @mrsroseyp109 Месяц назад +5

    Look what y’all done did…I’ve realized that creators that I grew with have all rebranded to being more private about their lives…I understand but I’m not sure how I personally feel about it…I’m personally super private…which is why while I thought being a creator was awesome, and I wanted to do it…I also don’t think I could…but that’s why I admired your bravery which is also why you’re also more successful

  • @micalexandria
    @micalexandria Месяц назад +2

    I think they do it for views, and to become in the circle of being an influencer. It's really sad! Do it for fun, to educate.

  • @bonsaikitchen
    @bonsaikitchen Месяц назад +1

    Big love from Bonsai Kitchen team. 🍴🔥🧑‍🍳

  • @Mabonga8
    @Mabonga8 Месяц назад +3

    She is talking about the RUclips GOAT Peakmill 🙌🏾🙌🏾

  • @leylac3856
    @leylac3856 Месяц назад +7

    Shes not with her husband anymore?

  • @TaylorTnava
    @TaylorTnava Месяц назад +3

    You do your makeup so fast 😭

  • @SloantheBeast
    @SloantheBeast 15 дней назад

    3/4 of my pregnancies were "secret" not just on socials but irl. I believe in "mal de ojo" people's intentions aren't always what they seem and protecting the peace of myself and my family is a non negotiable for me.

  • @coffeewednesday553
    @coffeewednesday553 Месяц назад +3

    Mel was going through a very difficult time and she needed privacy, until the birth of the baby

  • @ndoe1200
    @ndoe1200 Месяц назад +1

    I havent watched her vlogs since pre covid. At the start of video she mentioned breakup. Did she split up with her husband ?

  • @balance0212
    @balance0212 Месяц назад +1

    Hi Sister's ❤ what is the name of the serum please? I have replayed the video multiple times and still cannot catch the name 😂😂

    • @anitadhm_
      @anitadhm_ Месяц назад +1

      eclair parfumeries

    • @theohsospontaneous
      @theohsospontaneous Месяц назад +2

      The brand is called cle de peau, if you screenshot the image you should be able to find it on the website :)

  • @getuphereletsdance
    @getuphereletsdance 11 дней назад

    Definitely talking about melissaswardrobe in the beginning

  • @cillae8119
    @cillae8119 Месяц назад +2

    The influencer your referring to isn’t the same kind of creator are you tho Pb. She also didn’t share her wedding or her show her home…

  • @JulianAlbino
    @JulianAlbino Месяц назад

    gorge!

  • @coreysbaby3691
    @coreysbaby3691 Месяц назад

    ❤❤❤😊😊 it's been a while

  • @lucindawise5090
    @lucindawise5090 Месяц назад

    💯❤️❤️

  • @JANIQUEism
    @JANIQUEism Месяц назад

    cool video

  • @nickojunior2
    @nickojunior2 Месяц назад +5

    We back after a month 😂

  • @maxinemuhammad5979
    @maxinemuhammad5979 Месяц назад

    ❤️❤️❤️👍🏿👍🏿👍🏿👍🏿😍😍😍💯💯💯💯👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿well said

  • @memeeemm
    @memeeemm Месяц назад +24

    every time you upload now it’s an ad :(

  • @chelsaamie4664
    @chelsaamie4664 Месяц назад +1

    Referring to Melissa

  • @beverlynadom1109
    @beverlynadom1109 Месяц назад +3

    She’s from Nigeria😂

  • @Jointhebluezonefam
    @Jointhebluezonefam 24 дня назад

    It's obvious that her and her husband are not together because, as a wife myself, i would have hushed the rumor that my husband and i are no longer married. It's a quick come one guy me and Mike are locked in, and we have just decided to no longer document or post marriage on social media.

  • @katerinapavlou1586
    @katerinapavlou1586 Месяц назад

    Cute video

  • @cooky75015
    @cooky75015 20 дней назад

    You may actually need some time off social media. It is ok to do it. We tend to forget it as we got acustomed to share everything online. It is indeed important to live in the moment off camera

  • @Natasha_StyleZ
    @Natasha_StyleZ Месяц назад

    Better Help is so good if you are looking for a therapist, really love using them. Balance is key and sharing things that you are comfortable with 🌸

  • @user-rl8qn1nx5s
    @user-rl8qn1nx5s Месяц назад +6

    She's not her authentic self any more 😊😄

  • @egems6088
    @egems6088 Месяц назад +24

    But you made money from the over sharing??? No

    • @theromadziba
      @theromadziba Месяц назад +2

      She said privacy over secrecy.she didn't overshare. She showed parts of her life now and then but she made money from being a youtube sensation and investing in property.

    • @Nixed_66
      @Nixed_66 Месяц назад +9

      Live and learn! Yeah she made money back then, but she was younger, the Internet has changed & she has adjusted her boundaries to what keeps her real life healthy & thriving. Oversharing comes at a cost & this info is out there forever. It's kinda like sharing a nude, in the moment it was good, you liked and trusted that person, but when the relationship ends, you might have some regrets, you might not want that person having that personal photo & you can't always control what they do with it.

    • @oni2278
      @oni2278 Месяц назад +2

      ​@theromadziba and the "sensation" was due to her "oversharing"

    • @theromadziba
      @theromadziba Месяц назад +2

      @oni2278 you mean shopping has and GRWM and product reviews

  • @tb22k
    @tb22k Месяц назад +2

    Cover ur self up 😂❤😅

  • @NennaLena
    @NennaLena Месяц назад

    Who didn’t we know was pregnant?👀

  • @derrickomo8507
    @derrickomo8507 Месяц назад +9

    You talk too much

    • @ChavonJWright
      @ChavonJWright Месяц назад +6

      It's giving stalker 😮😅

    • @aaaangeee
      @aaaangeee Месяц назад +29

      What did you think she was gonna do instead?

    • @adams8830
      @adams8830 Месяц назад +10

      You complain too much.

    • @theromadziba
      @theromadziba Месяц назад +4

      You commented with this same comment some time ago.chill

    • @jackiedelvalle
      @jackiedelvalle Месяц назад +5

      What else was she gonna do on a vlog? Dance?

  • @dominique2o06
    @dominique2o06 Месяц назад +6

    Good to see you even us who watched for years don't feel like we need to know all your business you've given us enough just good to see you focusing on mental and physical at the same time 🤎

  • @rawkid2345
    @rawkid2345 Месяц назад +8

    As an old time subbie I can’t lie I miss seeing you and model Mike lol but I definitely understand that the internet is just not the same as before 🩵🩵🩵

    • @princesstc987
      @princesstc987 Месяц назад +1

      After watching a few episodes about people being stalked...the internet is definitely not the same anymore. There's people out there who get unhealthily obsessed with people they see online and they don't fear the police

  • @shelxx6528
    @shelxx6528 Месяц назад +5

    Not better help 🥹