Becoming Unstoppable: Control Your Reactions, Achieve More ❤️
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I once learned to write down everything I felt about a situation, before speaking my mind, while I was still angry or upset. Then I use a highlighter or underline ONLY the sentences or thoughts I could prove or absolutely knew to be factual. The rest of the words were only the story I was telling myself. Your video was good food for thought. Thanks Lisa!
Great advice Lisa! I always say “protect your peace!” I quietly walk away from negative people or negative relationships! 😊❤
Yes, so much more valuable! 🩷 Lisa
Yasssss! Especially narcissists. Distance e no contact sometimes has to happen.
Wow Lisa thank you. Such great advice. Your daughter is so very lucky to have you as a mom.
Thank you so much!! 💖 Lisa
You are on point about quality and joy of life being the primary focus and priority. I've learned to use the "Let them" philosophy. Someone cancels the plans - "Let them", Someone has different taste in clothes or home decor - "Let them", Someone likes to stir trouble and drama - "Remove myself and "Let them" do whatever it is they do", another couple has problems in their relationship - "Let them" work it out, Someone has a different political preference - "Let them", Someone thinks groceries are the cheapest they've ever been - "Let them". I just focus my thoughts around what brings me quality of life and peace.
PERFECT! Agree, as soon as I learned we can both "be right" it was easier to let it go and not worry about proving a point~Thank you!! ☺Lisa
Omgoodness, great food for thought! I loved this!❤
Loved this. Thank you for your positive motivation.
Well well said!
I love this! thank you
Good information. It's about not spending time brewing and stewing negative energy.
Yes---it's not good for us in any way, mentally and physically! Thank you for watching!! 🥰 Lisa
I love hearing your thoughts on these things. We all may not agree on everything and may handle some things differently, but that’s ok because we can always take away any little nuggets of information that may resonate with us and apply that. Thank you Lisa!💗
Absolutely!!! I always think that when I watch a video, read a book etc~I don't have to agree with the entirety of it, just take what I can use and be thankful! Thank YOU, Holly! 💖 Lisa
This is exactly why you have an amazing life, a loving family and a successful career...because of who you are, this right here. When you put out good, you get good back! ♥
Thank you so much!! ☺Lisa
I have learned that with age I am more chilled out. I don’t take offense at much.. water off a ducks back… if I think I offended someone by chance I will make a point to reach out to apologize and more often than not the person took no offense whatsoever.. but for peace of spirit and clarity it’s important to admit that and make sure that a mistake or misspoken words don’t hurt others.
You are so right about deep anger! The older I get the less things trigger me. It’s taken many years to get here. It sure does take time and thoughtfulness.
Yes!! I wish I would have been better about this earlier, but sometimes we have to learn the hard way!! Thank you!! 😊Lisa
I remember many years ago you said in one of your videos that everything that people say about us says nothing about us but everything about them. These words have stuck me since then. Thank you for sharing your thoughts ❤ As one of my friends said - you’re the only person with whom you’re going to live till the end of your life, so you’d better like yourself 😊 Have a lovely week, much love, Olga
Thank you, Olga!! Great advice!! 🩷 Lisa
Yes. Regulating your nervous system is a very complicated and sophisticated ability, and in my field of mental health Care it is a science of it’s own.
Yes I have the right to feel this way and I'm leaving my comment. I so enjoy visiting with you here. You make me smile!
Oh wow Lisa! I was just talking to God about some of these things! ❤ Spirit of offense, bitterness, judgment, gossiping is running rampant.
Yes, I do pray for strength and guidance---it's tough to be strong alone!! Thank YOU for your support!! 🥰 Lisa
Loved this so much! Thank you!❤
Thank you so much! ☺Lisa
So well said Lisa. I only wish I had control of my health and energy. I do however, keep a very positive attitude no matter what comes my way.
Your hair looks so beautiful and healthy
Thank you so much!!! ❤ Lisa
What you are describing is emotional maturity.
I agree controlling emotions is the key
Yes, I let loose a few too many times when I was younger, it never went well, lol! Thank goodness I have learned and I try to get better every day! Thank you! 😊 Lisa
Please never stop making these videos!
Thank you so much, I appreciate these comments more than you could ever imagine! They keep me going -- thanks again 💞💞 Lisa 🥰
I just love all of this! It's all in your perspective and what you allow to affect you. I wish more people had your view on all of these things! I tell my adult kids all the time that you're not going to be everyone's cup of tea, but as long as you stay true to yourself and respect others, you don't need to be everyone's cup of tea. And the part about having surface-level relationships with some people... oh boy! That is SO true! There are people who are comfortable being uncomfortable. They'd rather complain and defend themselves, than learn and grow. That's just where they are and where they feel comfortable, and until they are willing to change, you need to just keep it all surface-level because nothing you say will help. You have to set boundaries. Whenever anyone asks me for my opinion, I ask them to think about that first. I challenge them by saying, "Do you want me to tell you what you want to hear, or do you want me to tell you what I think?" Sometimes it'll make people think about what and why they're asking your opinion in the first place. I particularly love how you self-reflect. That is such a valuable habit and skill, but it's so crucial to growth! Beautiful!
I love your fashion and makeup videos, but I love these just as much! You are such a treasure...beautiful inside and out!
Thank you so much!! Wise words!! 💖 Lisa
You are a treasure. Lucky are all of those in your life.
A lot of this does come with age. As we age we realize what’s really important !I love Midlife Magic❤️
EXACTLY!! It's awesome, magic for sure!! 💖 Thank you!! Lisa
I love it, Midlife Magic!🩷
Yes girl . I don't tell friends anything anymore about make up hair home decor what i purchase or anything anymore people get a attitude and jealous . We all have things we like to spend our money on ... i am a home body and spend my money on my home . Yep same thing about the friend thing with me
Grace, grace grace 🙏...we need to give it to ourselves & others ...
“Giving away my positive energy” is what I think of if I react to someone else’s choices or opinions. I want to act rather than give my mental and emotional energy away.
SO GOOD!! Thank you, Heather!! ❤ Lisa
God is talking to me today. This is the third time I’ve heard this similar message.
Love that!! 🥰 Lisa
This is so great. In today’s culture where everyone seems to be “cocked and primed”, an old phrase of my sweet Daddy’s, this was a breath of fresh air. People are so ready these days to just go off on anyone who they feel has offended them. Maybe it’s age, but I’ve learned that I never feel guilty about taking the high road but I’ve definitely felt terrible when in the past my anger got the best of me. Recently in a convenience store the young lady at the counter was being so rude and ugly to all the customers for absolutely no reason. When it was my turn to check out, I quietly said hey you seem like you are having a bad day. I’m so sorry and I’m going to say a little prayer for you. I told her I hoped her day got better. She put her head down and then looked up and said thank you. Now in her head she may have wanted to strangle me but at least it diffused the situation! And she knew I was sincere. In my younger years, I wouldn’t have handled it the same way. God is never the author of confusion. That one sentence keeps me grounded and helps guide my actions. Most of the time. I’m still a work in progress! Thank you Lisa for videos that make us think and grow as women💞
homerun video! As believers in Christ we need to walk in humility and grace and not walk around offended. Give grace away. It's contagious!
Great video Lisa...I agree 100%...for years I let other people get to me..then one day I realized that some of those people were really just trying to make me miserable because they felt miserable about themselves. I felt so much better to let alot of those triggers go...My health is so much more important to me. Thanks again Lisa..great topic!❤🌹
Yes, it is still a daily thing with me, but I am proud of how far I have come~ Thank you, Lisa! 💗 Lisa
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I love my mother but she never managed to learn me these kinds of skills - I am thankful for your honest and great advice ❤
Lisa,
I view the world, life, and relationships so differently now that I’m older and more experienced.
Yes, mid-life IS magical! THANK YOU for sharing this video!
(I’m even thinking of changing my handle on my social media platforms because I don’t want to be viewed that way).
Thank you, thank you, thank you. 💗
@AngryLola - 🤣 You should change it. How about GratefulLola? 😊
Ooooo! How many times have I had to say "Do you want to be right or do you want to be happy?" to MYSELF. 😂 It has drastically improved my level of peace and happiness. Much love, Lisa. 😘
This made me think of one my favorite quotes - Everything can be taken from a man but one thing: the last of the human freedoms-to choose one’s attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one’s own way. - Victor Frankl
Take care Lisa! ❤
I tell the staff I manage and my kids, “be unoffendable” I heard that somewhere. I also always remember the other person most likely has best intentions they just have had a different life experience.
Loved this video Lisa! Everything you said is right on point! If we all just took a moment, how much more kindness would be in the world ❤️
I know!! I love being around happy, kind people--it is the best! Thank you! 😊Lisa
@@LisaLisaD1 Absolutely! ❤️
Thank you Lisa for the kind reminder that we should take a moment before we engage to a comment or opinion. We don’t have to take everything personally💖
You are spot on Lisa!!
This was really wonderful, Lisa. I am a no-drama person, and I avoid conflict as much as possible because, like you said, we say things we don't mean in the heat of an argument. I am the type of person that needs to take a few days to process and absorb the problem. I find this is the best thing to do, because when I get so upset, I get to the point of tears, and I have to calm myself down. It's better to take a step back, and assess the situation, and then after you've had a few days to think about it, you are better able to communicate how you feel and reach an understanding and resolution. I have become more mindful of my emotions as I have matured. I am 56 years-old, and I feel more comfortable with myself and have more confidence now than I did 20-years ago. I read that anger comes from love, because without love, there can be no anger. We get upset with family and friends sometimes, because we genuinely love them & care about them. ❤
Thank you, so true!! 💗 Lisa
I totally agree! You are very wise and thoughtful. We need to just focus/work on ourselves and let others do the same.
Beautiful video! totally agree with everything you've said! Wishing more videos like that - you really give very good advise ! Thank you Lisa! Highly appreciated 🙏
Lisa, thank you so much for your bravery and posting this. I must say I really took some time to reflect on your words. Then I went back and watched this video again. And I can honestly say he brought me to tears. Not all the time, but sometimes, I can be that person. I seem to think my opinion is so valuable and so important that I put it out there when no one‘s really asked me for it. There’s a part of me that cringed inside, listening to you. However, you are right and this world would be a better place if people just kept their opinions to themselves unless they were asked that is having proper manners.. I’m driving to do better but it is going to take a lot of mindfulness to get there. Thank you, and please keep it coming.!!!!!
Thank You!!🥰
Lisa thank you for this very compassionate reminder of how we should all take a moment before we speak when we are triggered. ❤️
I don't understand why some women are mean to their boyfriend or spouse...is it a power thing?....I don't get it. I don't think that makes for a good relationship at all, especially for the man. He may be too harassed and emotionally afraid to leave, the same as a woman would feel.
You are so very right!
Thank you Lisa very much
Great advice! I always say this to people who get angry about something a celebrity says. If celeb is clueless or dumb, why give them control of your emotions? If in a movie you love, why let them take that love away from you? Of course, it can be hard with some of the silly things people say 😅
I know!!! I refuse to give my power over to someone I don't even know~and I wish the celebrities wouldn't go into all of that, I love the fantasy, LOL! Thank you, Lisa!! 💖 Lisa
Thank you Lisa. We all need to remember this and find inner peace.
Thank you for watching!! ❤ Lisa
Good advice Lisa, esp about emotions
Great video, Lisa, and please make more like this! I wish we had all this wisdom when we were younger, especially doing the years when raising kids. And yes, I would LOVE to hear you talk more on how to have the BEST relationship with one's partner as you seem to have a very solid marriage, and also how to have the best relationship with grown kids.
Good old girl talk!!!!
Thank you, my friend!! 💖 Lisa
Thank you, this is how my life is going. I want to grow in these aspects everyday.
Thank you Lisa. I really needed to hear this today. I will be watching this video again daily to help me through the coming weeks/months/years.
I loved this!!! I agree with you, pick your battles basically. We are all allowed to feel how we feel. I mentioned to you in one of your post on IG how you are so motivating to me! I love listening to you. I was raised by my dad and didnt have a mom or sisters growing up. No females in my life to really talk to and learn from. You have helped me tremendously with that. I feel like you're a friend, especially bc we like so many of the same things and have so many of the same ideas and way of thinking. Im even carnivore too! Lol. I started out as keto for the last 13 years but have now been carnivore for the last 9 months or so. Please never stop connecting with us, I know I always look forward to it! ❤
Thank you SO MUCH!! ☺Lisa
This was a vlog that you put a lot of thought into. Thank you for sharing your thoughts. ✨🌼
Hi Lisa, retired a couple of years ago, adjusting to a new life and feel it took me a couple of years to adjust to not working everyday. Research and searching for betterment everyday is the best way to center myself. I am wearing lipstick again thanks to you ha! Also I have neck issues you mentioned in a past video John has neck issues the best thing is an invert table at about 85 degrees once or twice a day, its been life changing.
Thank you, Debbie! That makes me happy! 💋 He has one of those!! lol, I will tell him this, he was trying for his back, not sure he has thought of his neck 🥰 Lisa
I love this so much ~❤️
I loved the book "The Dance of Anger" which helped me a lot with thinking through reactions, and how to work though some emotions. It made a huge difference in how I carry myself in my work and my life.
Wonderful topic, Lisa! Well-spoken. Resonated with me a lot as since I turned 30 I've been consciously maturing into taking this approach and PEOPLE NOTICE 😂 It's been really interesting to notice that some people in my life almost like you MORE when you're easily triggered because it creates some kind of excitement or entertainment in a bizarre way. Anyway, feeling way happier now I am not so 'bothered' by everything. It's nice to hear you put this approach to life into simple language. God bless you and keep on sharing what's on your heart! 🥰
I’m in my early 30’s now but have watched you for 11 years. I’ve really taken on board your advice in some areas and I just want to say thank you. I am a happy person xx
Thank you SO MUCH!! ☺Lisa
You are my special auntie best loving and caring advice. Your delivery is so gentle but right on point❤
Lisa, somehow you have said all the things I needed to hear. Thank you for this! Process emotions before you make actions. Excellent advice!!!!
Loved this video! ❤ I’d love to learn more on how you trained yourself to control your emotions. Especially within your relationship when you feel hurt or slighted by a comment or are not aligned on a topic!
I am so glad you talked about this. I think I have become that "victim" and I need to work on myself. Thank God I have been learning to step back from my emotions and sleep on it. That alone has improved my life. I think I need to watch the video again!
Take back your power, never give anything or anyone else your power to live your most fabulous life!! 💖 Lisa
Very well said sister!💝
Good video. We are made up of our upbringing, beliefs, preferences and surroundings. Having an appreciation for our own differences is for me a cornerstone. I believe Perception is also key.
Absolutely! I remember a staff meeting at the restaurant I worked in for years, our Mgr was explaining a person's perception was their reality--and it stuck with me!! Thank you! 😊Lisa
I SOOOO needed this today! Thank you, Lisa
Great advise. Thank you ❤
Love this video! More! ❤
I love you and everything you said. Your family is super lucky to have you. I would love for you to make a video on female friendships, which i don't have many. Why do we struggle with them? Men seem to be better at friendships. Anywho, you look amazing and can't wait until the next video. ❤
Love this - thank you! ❤
Thank you Lisa! Good, wise and helpful advice! I love “do I want to be right or happy?” 💖
Great video... truth.
Lisa I already posted some thoughts, but wanted to add. This actually comes at a good time in my life and it’s something I’m constantly working on to keep the peace, mostly with family right now. My father has been in the hospital/rehab/hospital since the end of last year and it’s been a long stressful year so far for our family, so these things really apply in these types of situations with everyone being on edge. Thank you again, love your talks, you’re the sweetest 💗
Oh my goodness, absolutely~ we have to "look past" a lot, for the great good!!! ❤ Lisa
I know first hand what you are going thru, lost both parents and a brother all in same year. It was very stressful with siblings fighting over the will. A year and a half has passed now and all is peaceful. Keep your spirits up as this too shall pass for you.
@@LisaLisaD1 We truly do!❤️
@@elaineheim6477 Thank you! It’s never an easy time in life with aging parents. I’m very sorry for all you went through with the loss of your parents and brother. I can’t imagine how difficult that must have been.❤️
i love these topics!
Great video, Lisa! I do have two follow-up questions. How do you control your emotions in the moment when dealing with something or someone offensive? Also, the friends that you may only have a few things in common with, do you consider them friends? How do you maintain those relationships?
Hey!! First one, self control that comes through confidence, second there are different "types" of friends--so yes, and I maintain them by keeping that in mind and manage my expectations ❤ Quick answers, I can go deeper 🥰 Lisa
Wow I needed this today! Such a rough day at work. Thanks for helping me put things into perspective Lisa! ❤️
great!!! advice
I love that you did this more of us need these reminders beautiful Lisa!
Me, too!! Thank you for watching!! 💗Lisa
Yes Mid life Magic! I’m here for it!!
Great video Lisa thank you
Love this video Lisa. Understanding and working through my triggers are the best thing I’ve ever done for my mental health.
Yes!!! Me, too!! It gets to be almost fun and so rewarding when you do it a few times and it pays off~ peace is so much sweeter!! 💖 Lisa
wonderful advice!
Love this!
Just what I needed to hear. A reminder. 💜
Needed this today Lisa ❤
Really good advice Lisa! Thank you so much for sharing. Super helpful insights.
Thank you for sharing such substantive insights. Yes, I do want deep, meaningful connections…even if it’s with you online!
Thank you for this video, so good to hear these points!❤
So true!
Thank you for watching!! 💖 Lisa
What a GREAT message!! Good job pretty lady!💜
Hey Claire!! Thank you!! 😊Lisa
I love all of this! Thank you, Lisa!
Thank you for watching!! ❤ Lisa
I so agree with what you are saying!
Thank you!! 😊Lisa
Wise words.
This is such great advice ❤
Great advice!
Love your conversation in today’s video! Thank you for your opinion and inside advice … Wry appreciated it ❤
Great video - Thank you 🙏
This is so good. More of this please! ❤
Thank you!! 😊 Lisa
I needed this, thank you ❤