High in openness, agreeableness, and conscientiousness, and low in neuroticism... but also a Catholic TS who practices chaste celibacy before marriage... :: sigh ::
I definitely agree how overthinking kills one’s sex drive. Thankfully I have a very patient lover. He taught me a lot which made me realize I am open to kinky stuff lol. I am the agreeable type but he does encourage me to tell him what I want.
I'm an overthinker that can put it aside in a good time. But my last partner kept asking and asking and giving a mopey "are you sure" basically telling me "you don't react like other women, so I don't believe YOU are feeling the way you say or your responses are genuine for how you express enjoyment." I think he just compared everything to his ex wife.
I was overthinking during sexually activities and all of a sudden he didn’t feel like doing it anymore :((( I think I ruined it… I didn’t mean to. How do I fix it? ;-;…
@@SabrinaRina My ex was like that. He didn’t believe me just because I didn’t give the same reaction from the women he had been with. Thankfully that relationship ended.
@@tararosabelle7368 I was and can say still in the same boat albeit much lesser overthinking than the first few times. What I did was identify what makes me overthink when we do it, understand why then work on it. But what also helped was my lover’s encouragement and support.
Timestamps 1). But I can't relax and enjoy it 0:39 2). The compromiser 1:59 3). Routine shm-outine 3:09 4). Spotlight, please 4:22 5). Hard work pays off 5:16 Hope this helps you out. Hope you have a nice day. 💙💙💙💙💙💙
I noticed that the video quality has been more dynamic in animation and in content! Glad to see that it has been continuously improving! I would like to further inform myself with videos like these from you guys!
The important thing is that your future partner loves you for you, if you’re shy and reserved then it’s not a bad idea to make sure your partner knows m, and loves that about you. Although it could be that they too are that way, it would be a shame if you both were too scared. Just remember: the worst thing that can happen is you get rejected, it will feel bad, but you can get over it👍
Honestly posted the comment mostly as a bit of a joke. I don’t really have a crush now or anything. But I do agree with what you’re saying. I would never pretend to someone I’m not. Not around anyone. It’s just… for the few people I’m really close to the get to know the real me. I think I’d only be comfortable with romance if someone already knows something about the real me; me interests, beliefs, rich inner world (that’s where most things happen). And honestly, I can be everything but shy when I’m around people with whom I’m comfortable, but when it comes to strangers or acquaintances… I’m more closed off.
Great insights on how the big five personality traits impact sexual desires and behaviors. This information will definitely create awareness and help individuals better understand their sexual behaviors.
This video probably confirms that I'm Asexual. Because I didn't get anything this video tried to explain. I tried hard to understand but all of this just flies over my head. But I think my autism plays a big part in it as well. I'm not repulsed by it though. But when the time comes it's completely up the the woman to teach me the ways of sex.
Your self-awareness is valuable, and it's okay to have different experiences and perspectives. Understanding your comfort level is crucial, and communication with a partner is key. If you ever want to explore or discuss these feelings further, there are supportive communities and resources available. Your autonomy in deciding what feels right for you is important. How do you envision navigating these aspects in your own way?
I’m high in neuroticism, and in this regard it’s just made me dreadfully paranoid and fearful of anything sexual be it on the giving or receiving end or just. Anything related to sexuality at all. Nothing but fear and anxiety at the thought of it all.
Hey, that's valid! It's important to remember that you never have to have sex or do sexual things if you don't want to. That's the truth regardless of any cultural or social standard. And if you would like to try things out some day, expect your partner to be patient and compassionate with you. Nothing less! It may also be helpful to be gradual with any forms of affection. Do things at a pace comfortable for you. ❤️❤️❤️
Same bro. As soon as I'm in that situation it's like my brain hits a black mirror that is trying to force absolutely anything else into the forefront of my mind. I can't think because my mind can't focus on anything even what's happening in the room. I've had whole sessions that I don't remember even a single detail because my mind was refusing to be present. This causes me to have overwhelming anxiety and a sense of dread whenever it even might come up.
I am definitely open-minded, curious, creative and appreciate new experiences. Since I am indeed a bit kinky in my sexual fantasies I can confirm your point from my own perspective. Nevertheless, I am also anxious and feel a general fear of rejection when I approach women. The few times I was brave enough I got myself rejected.
I agree with the over-thinking one. I even was, at the least, emotionally cheating on my husband for years at the beginning of our marriage and didn't even realize it until I started noticing how my guy friends were acting towards me, which took a long time for me to notice and accept as the truth. Part of it was that I didn't enjoy intercourse, I'd only been with my husband, as much as I enjoyed being intimate through sweet words, touch and cuddling, as well as foreplay, so I unintentionally was looking for it elsewhere (the sweet words) and misconstrued my husband's love of intercourse as just something for him to do that, if he wanted to cheat, he could do with any other woman, when in fact for him, him wanting to do that with me was a form of him being intimate with me. But I was always over-thinking things, causing unnecessary issues between us.
I am constantly shifting between these two feeling: "I want the True One with a healthy relationship, including sex too" and "I turned 20 yesterday and I still haven't found a person who could be my True One, hell, I have never even found a really really close friend, I think I should give up and focus on other things". Happiness is relative. Everyone's happiness is different and my would be to have the True One. But I don't think I can achive that, overral I am a positive person, in this case, no. I am maybe too damaged for that. I have changed so much over the past one year, I am like a million times better, but I am still me, and I don't think I fully know myself, all I know is that... I am alone.
You said you just turned 20 years old? In that case, please don’t rush yourself. You have all the time in the world still. And you have not yet matured into a full adult, with all due respect. Enjoy youth while you can, in a healthy way. Starting a family is a wonderful thing, I have the same goal myself, but that also means you must be prepared to support your family both financially, physically and emotionally. This is a life long engagement and will forever be your first priority. Take your time to be sure about who your partner really are, before getting too serious about it. If I may give you one more advise, I would urge you not to seek out your soulmate to rid you of your loneliness - not saying that you are lonely, but a lot of people are lonely in this day and age, and I am also speaking from my own experiences. You should start building a strong relationship with yourself and love and respect yourself before you can truly love and take good care of a partner and a family. Just my opinion. Wish you all the luck and happiness.
I am in the same position, except that I'm 22 and still haven't found anyone. I'm not sad about it because i don't think i am in the right place at the moment. But we are both still young. And Andy Pandyh is right (words i never thought I'd say 😆), it's important to be comfortable and happy with yourself before you have a relationship. The universe knows I'm not haha. Also I'd love for soulmates to be real, but i frankly don't believe they exist. There isnt 'the one'. But there are probably many people out there who would be amazing to have experiences with. And once you find inner peace (if you haven't already), take these experiences, run with them and enjoy the hell out of them :)
I definitely feel you. I'm in a similar situation right as of right now. I'm just trying to trust God in this one. That He has a plan, even if I don't fully understand it currently. I wouldn't give up on the idea of love and relationships though. There's someone out there for you. :)
@@AndyPandyh I don't want a family yet, I just want a soulmate, I want to love. I was VERY lonely for around 19 and a half year. Basicly my whole life. I have got two friends the past half a year, one of them is my dad's friend too, she isn't my age (she is around 44), she can't always understand me etc. I also have a peer friend, but we aren't that close.
@@D3STRUCTOR_ Ok, I hope that situation turns out better for you soon. If you are able to find a connection with even just one good, close friend - then I believe you are set. One close friend is really all any of us really need. At the same time, if you surround yourself with family, this also can help battle loneliness. The last thing you should do is sit alone by yourself most of the time. Seek the company of other people (even if they are not close friends). I know you can still feel lonely though, even if you have friends and family, if your mind is set on finding «true love». If that’s the case it’s all about your mindset. Then you may consider reworking your priorities.
@@the_skeleton135 ha, inexperienced. Let's see how you like it when you're already over 50, then your false sense of safety is only naivete in disguise.
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That's a valid point. Curious to know your thoughts-what aspects of life do you believe have a more significant impact on shaping personality in the absence of a sex life?
I thought that this was about how your personality affects your sex life and not the other way round? Surely the affects of your sex life on your personality is a completely different question.
@@Psych2go My mental health regarding women/sex has been very introverted. From an early age, I saw it as something as wrong/shameful. Having feelings for a girl is something I still have difficulty with because of a traumatic event when I was in Grade 2. My homeroom teacher screamed at me in front of everyone after school because I had a crush on her daughter who was in Grade 4. As an adult nearly 40, I’ve had three dates (they were ok) and sex five times (pay to play) but no real experience with having a girlfriend so I came into those situations very nervous. Friends have mocked me, I’ve been given the brother/friend treatment countless times and something on a possible hookup (which I’ve worked for) which turned out that she already had a boyfriend that she wasn’t dating. (according to her) It’s been about 9 years since I last had sex and the closest I’ve come to sex in the past 9 years was two nude cuddle sessions with a cuddle therapist. I’d like to find romance but my heart has been broken so much that I’m scared to try and I don’t have friends who’ll help me beyond words of encouragement. I don’t feel normal being single as long as I’ve been and feel like I’m damaged goods. All I’ve got is my imagination but I know that is not a substitute.
@@Psych2gonot the op, but I believe with the absence of sex or a love life in general, your personality comes from the rest of your environment. Like friends, family, coworkers, and the hobbies you indulge in. I do believe we are often times a product of our environment, and while it doesn’t exclusively defines us, it does shape who we are. As someone who’s nearly 27 and never had sex or been in a romantic relationship as an adult, I feel like my personality comes from the people I spend time with the majority of the time, as well as my hobbies and interests that I spend my alone time enjoying.
Thnx for this video Psych2go!!! I'm 18 with paraphilia and an aquired brain injury as well as a complicated personality type. Again thank you. This video was very eye opening
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I indeed can't relax and enjoy it. Only when I'm alone lol. And I don't like the idea of ' relationship ' I think I might even be asexual or something along these lines because I sometimes get physically attracted but it fades and while I care about my friends, I can't really fall in love or develop deep bonds.
Quite so at least for the side of keeping distant, even when desire strikes. Generally, pessimism about the sustainability of a relationship is catching very quickly (or maybe it's my desire which is slow, I don't know xd).
I'm not much for cheating, but then, i'm an introvert, and i barely think about sex, especially when i'm with others. I don't really know my own personality, but everyone around me says i'm a nice guy, who's quite good with animals and children, even if i don't really like children. I'm not really a people person
It sounds like you have a strong sense of integrity regarding fidelity, and being introverted is a unique aspect of your personality. Being recognized as a kind person who's good with animals and children speaks volumes about your character. Embracing your introverted nature is perfectly fine, and it's essential to understand and appreciate your own personality at your own pace. What aspects of your personality do you find most defining or intriguing?
@@Psych2go the most defining aspect of my personality is probably that i'm an understanding guy. People doesn't seem to think that i understand much, only because i have autism and ADHD, but i understand way more than what i get credit for, so that's probably the most defining aspect of my personality. People who know me knows i understand more than most others would know
My first girlfriend and I were both shy introverts, and both neurotic overthinkers. At times, it was definitely like 2 similar charges that repel each other. But we always overcame troubles in the bedroom, because good sex was the goal for both of us. So you can overcome obstacles if you're willing to work on them together.
Doesn't shock me that overthinking and stress can kill sex drive. There's probably some underlying things too but I have legitimate issues with even getting in the mood. My mind just literally has no prioritization on it.
I don't even know why I am watching this, probably because your videos are so good and I still enjoy your art style. Being a loner in his early 30's with zero experiences (which includes even a slight kiss) and only one traumatizing love relationship so far, sex should be the least of my worries.
I’m a virgin but I don’t understand why I should want to be in a relationship if I don’t want to because people say that’s bad, I feel as if it’s a good thing.
There is no rule saying you have to have a relationship. If you don't feel like one would enhance your life, don't force yourself to get into one, even when others encourage/pressure you to. Faking it to appease others is not fair to you or your "partner."
@SymnGeeI generally agree with this, but whether you’re ready or not, people will always hurt each other at some point. Often unintentionally. It can’t be avoided. I say this, but of course I still shy away from relationships because I think my insecurities will be a burden on other people 😅
I’m a first year in college and still haven’t had my first kiss yet… I’m just hoping, dreaming and praying that I find that someone special. Your time will come!
I lost my virginity at 23 years old in college. Just focus on figuring out who you are and growing into the best version of yourself. People will notice your efforts and gravitate towards you naturally. You're under no obligation to anyone and you're no any more or less of a person worthy of respect because of your sexual status.
It's okay! I had my first kiss at 26. I'm 29 now and I'm still a virgin (I have a fiancé and we're waiting until marriage). Take your time and don't rush into things just because everyone else is. Save yourself for somebody who will love your heart, mind, soul, and body.
Did the ocean personality test twice for 2 classes. Kinda shows how consistent it is as a proper personality test. My neuroticism is very low at 5. My agreeableness, the only one that changed went from 1 to 0 lol. Openness is 63 Conscientiousness is 71 Extraversion is medium at 67 I wonder how being medium affects stuff. People did not expect my extraversion to be that high, seeing as I'm alone most of the time but it turns out my openness and disagreeability have made it very easy to talk to people I don't know. Also probably helps that I have no conscience or sense of shame lol. My conscientiousness is all from the fact that I do everything I promise and I tend to remember things very well, so my stuff isn't very neat and I don't actually plan things most of the time. Or rather I can plan things so fast that I don't bother until it's absolutely required. I literally do not rehearse for my presentations, I sometimes even switch the slides up last minute so I don't really know what I'm doing. My plan is always to wing it mad crazy. Which I probably why my openness is above 50, I don't particularly go out to do new things but I can adapt so well to most situations that I usually just agree to doing things. We did a project on relationship satisfaction relating to personality. And it seems my personality makes me not want to be in relationships at all.
I used a website called 16personalities. Turns out I'm an INFP-T (mediator) it has similar attributes and all that. I'm 80% introverted 73% intuitive 78% feeling 61% prospecting 93% turbulent Not gonna lie, it's pretty cool. I suggest you try it😊
@@capacitor8399 The big 5 is a personality test pretty much like mbti and enneagram but unlike those two i don't know that much about it all i know is that OCEAN is used and that each word strands for a different trait
There is a joke told by a standup comedian, about "men are only as freaky as they think they're allowed to be." I tend to somewhat agree with that. Outside of choking and binding me, I'm pretty open to what my partner wants. I can't speak for every man, but yeah. Plus he made me laugh telling the joke. Look him up. His name is Brad Williams.
Can I say extroverts are some breed watching them light up a room is exhausting as an introvert but in a good way they draw everybody out of their shells. I love you extroverts ❤️
Yes Maeve and Otis are different in some ways but I wouldn’t call Maeve confident. She may be popular with many admires but she’s actually pretty insecure and pretty introverted too. She’s bold, mature and brave but not necessarily confident.
I kinda go three different ways depending on mood. When I’m content with (mostly) everything I don’t really crave sex. However I do go through periods where I’m craving intimacy like no tomorrow. That’s usually when I’m most likely to try new stuff and probably be a little rougher in the bedroom lmao 🤣. But mostly I want a deep connection with someone and that’s usually when I’m either most vulnerable and shy or a very intimate and passionate partner. Idk if any of that makes sense, but hey, sex is a learning experience…. Right? 😅
I don't know what i like and don't like in general, i feel that may not be ideal for relationships. Since im annoymous here, i can say that i struggle a lot with most aspects of relationships because i generally struggle to know what to do or what i want, when i want it etc. I generally feel that i'm at a disadvantage with all relationship aspects, especially anything physical or romantic There's my little vent
Can't pick one for sure, i'm definitly a person who knows what they want and my stubbornness won't allow otherwise besides i'm quite specific in what i like and what i don't
@@Psych2go Just struggling to relax over my christmas break, exams had me stressed out(a week ago) and even now I cant seem find relaxation, even when theres nothing school related to do. I appreciate you taking your time to reply 🥰
I'm sorry to hear that you're feeling stressed, especially during your Christmas break. It's completely understandable given the challenges of exams. Taking time for yourself is crucial, and it's okay to prioritize relaxation. Whether it's enjoying a quiet moment, doing something you love, or simply taking a deep breath, I hope you find the peace you deserve. If there's anything specific on your mind or if you want to share more, I'm here to chat. Take care! 🌟 @@kyle7853
I used to be the neuroticism type during the first years dating my then boyfriend - now husband. He was "The Compromiser" and thank God for that coz he was my first (hopefully last s*x partner ever) We got married! And then poof! We both became the "shm-outine" and yesss we're both flirty until now! I'm happy that I can proudly say we complimented each other sexually😅
remember these are just studies and what the majority tends to be but it doesnt define you. I tend to be a neurotic person but when I get in bed with someone I really like I just turn into a different person and really enjoy my time, its like the few moments of my day when Im not really neurotic.
1.But I can't relax and enjoy it is totally me.Minus the cheating on him,I would never, I know know all the wonderful things he says about me are true, and that he means it.But overthinking everything is definitely something I always struggled with.
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neuroticism is a toughy. I'm quite high in it and it has caused me a great deal of grief. For anyone else dealing with neuroticism therapy can be really helpful and I personally want to seek more therapy for that reason.
I just wrote a comment on that lol before I looked at other comments if able find it read it lol might get reported or might get a like idk don't care youtube don't feed me nor please me🎉😮 lol But like watching it
The silent treatment is not a punishment it’s usually because you’re not being heard so then you feel like what’s the point in talking anyway since you’re not being heard. I really hate that. I remember my sweetheart thought I was giving him the silent treatment to punish him and I said no I’m literally upset because we got into an argument and you weren’t listening to anything I said, so what was the point of me talking at all at that point? So I don’t say nothing there’s no point to saying anything when you’re not being listened to..
I'm a bit confused. 4/5 are applicable to some extent (except for the extroverted side. I'm >85% introverted), but none of them fully are. Guess that's just life saying nope to the squares humanity wants to neatly organise everything into.
I used to be nuerotic it was rough bro, but at some point inbecame more opened about trying things and my partner is a lot like the last one we would sit and talk about then its like magic really voicing out doesnt mean arguement. Its just something youre asking for .
I'm 22. I'm working a 9 to 5 job with people way older than me. All my friends are already in a relationship. My younger siblings already had it before. And I never dated before. Ever. How screwed am I?
Trust me you are doing AMAZING. Some may disagree: but the idea of having sex ASAP before you become a 40 year old virgin is overrated. Sex can become overrated easily. What’s most important is knowing what’s best for you in every aspect. You need someone that is not only compatible with you, but understands/values your needs. Sex is great when the two people involved are in the same page. Which is at the discretion of those two people. Keep doing you, keep being you, and surround yourself with deserving people only🫶🏾
Not screwed at all, and your situation is really quite common. Whenever the time comes where it does happen, you will wonder why you let it control your thoughts/life, because honestly it isn't a big deal at all, and you will go "I let that control my life?". You don't magically become a different person after you have sex, so don't let it hang over you or make you feel down on yourself - you will be nervous the first few times sure, but don't let it keep you from having fun. It's not something serious, just focus on having a good time between you and the person you become intimate with.
The problem is that people view sex as one thing, for everyone all of the time. As if it cannot be multiple things to different people in different times of their life for different reasons. The problem is that people condescendingly think their way is the only way. It's really frustrating.
i'd say i am the first one but it's worse than that. i am extremely terrified of intimacy/sexual activities involving another person. i don't have sexual trauma but my anxiety surrounding sex it's so bad that i don't think i'd ever get involved with someone like that again.
I have yet to discover this with a future partner, but i can be quite adventurous and contiuous. I wanna be able to experience many countless fantasies and ideas with someone who's okay with it, with consent, wanting to experiment too and knows how to play her part.
Well i am a virgin. and die as a virgin. But thank you for this video,Psych2go. I am watching it out of curiosity. and your videos always makes me curious ♡
I see sex as a form of love if I have someone I love but if there is no lover to love then sex will become a necessity or mere pleasure which means preferring to do alone rather than having free sex without any love and clear relationship
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Great video, but I have to say that this voice had to make me listen to the video on my phone because of the shame I felt.
These videos are Important but what's happened to other topics on mental health
High in openness, agreeableness, and conscientiousness, and low in neuroticism... but also a Catholic TS who practices chaste celibacy before marriage... :: sigh ::
I definitely agree how overthinking kills one’s sex drive. Thankfully I have a very patient lover. He taught me a lot which made me realize I am open to kinky stuff lol. I am the agreeable type but he does encourage me to tell him what I want.
I'm an overthinker that can put it aside in a good time. But my last partner kept asking and asking and giving a mopey "are you sure" basically telling me "you don't react like other women, so I don't believe YOU are feeling the way you say or your responses are genuine for how you express enjoyment." I think he just compared everything to his ex wife.
I was overthinking during sexually activities and all of a sudden he didn’t feel like doing it anymore :((( I think I ruined it… I didn’t mean to. How do I fix it? ;-;…
I'm a huge overthinker yet my drive is through the roof. It may depend on *why* you overthink
@@SabrinaRina My ex was like that. He didn’t believe me just because I didn’t give the same reaction from the women he had been with. Thankfully that relationship ended.
@@tararosabelle7368 I was and can say still in the same boat albeit much lesser overthinking than the first few times. What I did was identify what makes me overthink when we do it, understand why then work on it. But what also helped was my lover’s encouragement and support.
Timestamps
1). But I can't relax and enjoy it 0:39
2). The compromiser 1:59
3). Routine shm-outine 3:09
4). Spotlight, please 4:22
5). Hard work pays off 5:16
Hope this helps you out. Hope you have a nice day. 💙💙💙💙💙💙
Thanks bruh and happy new year
@@adamamirul4025 happy new year too
I guess 2024 is 😢
You!
Yes you!
The one typing out all the timestamps for these videos!
Thank you ^_^
@@spacebarzzz860 not a problem happy to help 💙💙💙💙💙💙
I noticed that the video quality has been more dynamic in animation and in content! Glad to see that it has been continuously improving! I would like to further inform myself with videos like these from you guys!
Being extremely shy and reserved: Not going to ask anyone out ever, hoping that someone would walk up to me.
The important thing is that your future partner loves you for you, if you’re shy and reserved then it’s not a bad idea to make sure your partner knows m, and loves that about you. Although it could be that they too are that way, it would be a shame if you both were too scared. Just remember: the worst thing that can happen is you get rejected, it will feel bad, but you can get over it👍
Honestly posted the comment mostly as a bit of a joke. I don’t really have a crush now or anything. But I do agree with what you’re saying. I would never pretend to someone I’m not. Not around anyone. It’s just… for the few people I’m really close to the get to know the real me. I think I’d only be comfortable with romance if someone already knows something about the real me; me interests, beliefs, rich inner world (that’s where most things happen). And honestly, I can be everything but shy when I’m around people with whom I’m comfortable, but when it comes to strangers or acquaintances… I’m more closed off.
don't be like this, why? everyone is like this.
That's me.
Lol i always heard that the quietest ones in the room are secretly the most freaky 😂
It’s true coming from the quietest one.
Yeah 😂 Its actually true. I am an introvert and have high libido.
It's a common saying! People can surprise you with their hidden sides. What's your take on this amusing observation? 😄
I rarely talk but once you get through that ice barrier I'm Royal as a dog unless you treat me bad
@@Moshi_cha Same! I would never betray anyone, unless they will start doing bad things, cuz I don't want to be involved with bad ppl.
Great insights on how the big five personality traits impact sexual desires and behaviors. This information will definitely create awareness and help individuals better understand their sexual behaviors.
This video probably confirms that I'm Asexual. Because I didn't get anything this video tried to explain. I tried hard to understand but all of this just flies over my head. But I think my autism plays a big part in it as well. I'm not repulsed by it though. But when the time comes it's completely up the the woman to teach me the ways of sex.
Nice profile pic
Your self-awareness is valuable, and it's okay to have different experiences and perspectives. Understanding your comfort level is crucial, and communication with a partner is key. If you ever want to explore or discuss these feelings further, there are supportive communities and resources available. Your autonomy in deciding what feels right for you is important. How do you envision navigating these aspects in your own way?
>asexual
I envy you.
It also means you're shitty on understanding theory, cause one can be asexual and understand the video. lol
I love Rammstein
I’m high in neuroticism, and in this regard it’s just made me dreadfully paranoid and fearful of anything sexual be it on the giving or receiving end or just. Anything related to sexuality at all. Nothing but fear and anxiety at the thought of it all.
Hey, that's valid! It's important to remember that you never have to have sex or do sexual things if you don't want to. That's the truth regardless of any cultural or social standard.
And if you would like to try things out some day, expect your partner to be patient and compassionate with you. Nothing less!
It may also be helpful to be gradual with any forms of affection. Do things at a pace comfortable for you.
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Same bro. As soon as I'm in that situation it's like my brain hits a black mirror that is trying to force absolutely anything else into the forefront of my mind. I can't think because my mind can't focus on anything even what's happening in the room. I've had whole sessions that I don't remember even a single detail because my mind was refusing to be present. This causes me to have overwhelming anxiety and a sense of dread whenever it even might come up.
I am definitely open-minded, curious, creative and appreciate new experiences. Since I am indeed a bit kinky in my sexual fantasies I can confirm your point from my own perspective. Nevertheless, I am also anxious and feel a general fear of rejection when I approach women. The few times I was brave enough I got myself rejected.
I agree with the over-thinking one. I even was, at the least, emotionally cheating on my husband for years at the beginning of our marriage and didn't even realize it until I started noticing how my guy friends were acting towards me, which took a long time for me to notice and accept as the truth. Part of it was that I didn't enjoy intercourse, I'd only been with my husband, as much as I enjoyed being intimate through sweet words, touch and cuddling, as well as foreplay, so I unintentionally was looking for it elsewhere (the sweet words) and misconstrued my husband's love of intercourse as just something for him to do that, if he wanted to cheat, he could do with any other woman, when in fact for him, him wanting to do that with me was a form of him being intimate with me. But I was always over-thinking things, causing unnecessary issues between us.
I am constantly shifting between these two feeling: "I want the True One with a healthy relationship, including sex too" and "I turned 20 yesterday and I still haven't found a person who could be my True One, hell, I have never even found a really really close friend, I think I should give up and focus on other things". Happiness is relative. Everyone's happiness is different and my would be to have the True One. But I don't think I can achive that, overral I am a positive person, in this case, no. I am maybe too damaged for that. I have changed so much over the past one year, I am like a million times better, but I am still me, and I don't think I fully know myself, all I know is that... I am alone.
You said you just turned 20 years old? In that case, please don’t rush yourself. You have all the time in the world still. And you have not yet matured into a full adult, with all due respect. Enjoy youth while you can, in a healthy way. Starting a family is a wonderful thing, I have the same goal myself, but that also means you must be prepared to support your family both financially, physically and emotionally. This is a life long engagement and will forever be your first priority. Take your time to be sure about who your partner really are, before getting too serious about it.
If I may give you one more advise, I would urge you not to seek out your soulmate to rid you of your loneliness - not saying that you are lonely, but a lot of people are lonely in this day and age, and I am also speaking from my own experiences. You should start building a strong relationship with yourself and love and respect yourself before you can truly love and take good care of a partner and a family.
Just my opinion. Wish you all the luck and happiness.
I am in the same position, except that I'm 22 and still haven't found anyone. I'm not sad about it because i don't think i am in the right place at the moment. But we are both still young. And Andy Pandyh is right (words i never thought I'd say 😆), it's important to be comfortable and happy with yourself before you have a relationship. The universe knows I'm not haha. Also I'd love for soulmates to be real, but i frankly don't believe they exist. There isnt 'the one'. But there are probably many people out there who would be amazing to have experiences with. And once you find inner peace (if you haven't already), take these experiences, run with them and enjoy the hell out of them :)
I definitely feel you. I'm in a similar situation right as of right now. I'm just trying to trust God in this one. That He has a plan, even if I don't fully understand it currently. I wouldn't give up on the idea of love and relationships though. There's someone out there for you. :)
@@AndyPandyh I don't want a family yet, I just want a soulmate, I want to love. I was VERY lonely for around 19 and a half year. Basicly my whole life. I have got two friends the past half a year, one of them is my dad's friend too, she isn't my age (she is around 44), she can't always understand me etc. I also have a peer friend, but we aren't that close.
@@D3STRUCTOR_ Ok, I hope that situation turns out better for you soon. If you are able to find a connection with even just one good, close friend - then I believe you are set. One close friend is really all any of us really need. At the same time, if you surround yourself with family, this also can help battle loneliness. The last thing you should do is sit alone by yourself most of the time. Seek the company of other people (even if they are not close friends).
I know you can still feel lonely though, even if you have friends and family, if your mind is set on finding «true love». If that’s the case it’s all about your mindset. Then you may consider reworking your priorities.
"It's about what works for YOU and your PARTNER". For sure!👍
As for somebody that has no sex life or rizz, i see this as an absolute win
how come?
Same here bro
So you opted for zero intimacy thereby avoiding performance anxiety altogether. Your safetism will be your own downfall.
@@DomFortress nope, just too young lol
@@the_skeleton135 ha, inexperienced. Let's see how you like it when you're already over 50, then your false sense of safety is only naivete in disguise.
How doomed am I if I'm all of these? (minus the cheating part)
It's essential to remember that everyone is a unique individual, and a combination of traits or challenges doesn't necessarily determine your fate. People have the capacity for growth and change. If you're facing difficulties or challenges, consider seeking support from friends, family, or professionals who can provide guidance. What specific aspects are you concerned about, and how can I assist you further?
@@Psych2gohow are you soo smaart
@@Blatzzioit’s called studying a subject 😅
@@anthonytankersley1120 oh
You aren't "all of the above", when neuroticism alone through overthinking can cause fatalism and rumination, so work on that.
Your sex life can't affect your personality if you don't have a sex life.
Ohh please don't hit me more
That's a valid point. Curious to know your thoughts-what aspects of life do you believe have a more significant impact on shaping personality in the absence of a sex life?
I thought that this was about how your personality affects your sex life and not the other way round? Surely the affects of your sex life on your personality is a completely different question.
@@Psych2go
My mental health regarding women/sex has been very introverted. From an early age, I saw it as something as wrong/shameful.
Having feelings for a girl is something I still have difficulty with because of a traumatic event when I was in Grade 2. My homeroom teacher screamed at me in front of everyone after school because I had a crush on her daughter who was in Grade 4.
As an adult nearly 40, I’ve had three dates (they were ok) and sex five times (pay to play) but no real experience with having a girlfriend so I came into those situations very nervous.
Friends have mocked me, I’ve been given the brother/friend treatment countless times and something on a possible hookup (which I’ve worked for) which turned out that she already had a boyfriend that she wasn’t dating. (according to her)
It’s been about 9 years since I last had sex and the closest I’ve come to sex in the past 9 years was two nude cuddle sessions with a cuddle therapist.
I’d like to find romance but my heart has been broken so much that I’m scared to try and I don’t have friends who’ll help me beyond words of encouragement. I don’t feel normal being single as long as I’ve been and feel like I’m damaged goods. All I’ve got is my imagination but I know that is not a substitute.
@@Psych2gonot the op, but I believe with the absence of sex or a love life in general, your personality comes from the rest of your environment. Like friends, family, coworkers, and the hobbies you indulge in. I do believe we are often times a product of our environment, and while it doesn’t exclusively defines us, it does shape who we are. As someone who’s nearly 27 and never had sex or been in a romantic relationship as an adult, I feel like my personality comes from the people I spend time with the majority of the time, as well as my hobbies and interests that I spend my alone time enjoying.
Thnx for this video Psych2go!!! I'm 18 with paraphilia and an aquired brain injury as well as a complicated personality type. Again thank you. This video was very eye opening
You're welcome! We're glad the video resonated with you. If you have any questions or would like more information, feel free to ask. Take care! 😊 What other topics would you be interested in learning about?
All sorts!!! I've been watching your vids since last year and always found them very helpful
I indeed can't relax and enjoy it. Only when I'm alone lol. And I don't like the idea of ' relationship ' I think I might even be asexual or something along these lines because I sometimes get physically attracted but it fades and while I care about my friends, I can't really fall in love or develop deep bonds.
Quite so at least for the side of keeping distant, even when desire strikes. Generally, pessimism about the sustainability of a relationship is catching very quickly (or maybe it's my desire which is slow, I don't know xd).
I'm not much for cheating, but then, i'm an introvert, and i barely think about sex, especially when i'm with others. I don't really know my own personality, but everyone around me says i'm a nice guy, who's quite good with animals and children, even if i don't really like children. I'm not really a people person
It sounds like you have a strong sense of integrity regarding fidelity, and being introverted is a unique aspect of your personality. Being recognized as a kind person who's good with animals and children speaks volumes about your character. Embracing your introverted nature is perfectly fine, and it's essential to understand and appreciate your own personality at your own pace. What aspects of your personality do you find most defining or intriguing?
@@Psych2go the most defining aspect of my personality is probably that i'm an understanding guy. People doesn't seem to think that i understand much, only because i have autism and ADHD, but i understand way more than what i get credit for, so that's probably the most defining aspect of my personality. People who know me knows i understand more than most others would know
100% relatable here 😂
Where we direct our energy and focus is often related to beliefs we hold about ourselves and the world.-😇
God job on the video!
My first girlfriend and I were both shy introverts, and both neurotic overthinkers. At times, it was definitely like 2 similar charges that repel each other. But we always overcame troubles in the bedroom, because good sex was the goal for both of us. So you can overcome obstacles if you're willing to work on them together.
I noticed that only extroverts were mentioned. Just like in real life, introverts are overlooked
Doesn't shock me that overthinking and stress can kill sex drive. There's probably some underlying things too but I have legitimate issues with even getting in the mood. My mind just literally has no prioritization on it.
It’s very interesting to know about these traits relating to sexuality. They can be important to new relationships.
I don't even know why I am watching this, probably because your videos are so good and I still enjoy your art style.
Being a loner in his early 30's with zero experiences (which includes even a slight kiss) and only one traumatizing love relationship so far, sex should be the least of my worries.
I’m a virgin but I don’t understand why I should want to be in a relationship if I don’t want to because people say that’s bad, I feel as if it’s a good thing.
Relationships are a waste of time. I'm happier alone.
There is no rule saying you have to have a relationship. If you don't feel like one would enhance your life, don't force yourself to get into one, even when others encourage/pressure you to. Faking it to appease others is not fair to you or your "partner."
@SymnGeeI generally agree with this, but whether you’re ready or not, people will always hurt each other at some point. Often unintentionally. It can’t be avoided. I say this, but of course I still shy away from relationships because I think my insecurities will be a burden on other people 😅
Talking things out is hands down the way to go, trust me u will have the best late night session after talking things out
I’m a first year in college and still haven’t had my first kiss yet…
I’m just hoping, dreaming and praying that I find that someone special. Your time will come!
I lost my virginity at 23 years old in college.
Just focus on figuring out who you are and growing into the best version of yourself. People will notice your efforts and gravitate towards you naturally.
You're under no obligation to anyone and you're no any more or less of a person worthy of respect because of your sexual status.
It's okay! I had my first kiss at 26. I'm 29 now and I'm still a virgin (I have a fiancé and we're waiting until marriage). Take your time and don't rush into things just because everyone else is. Save yourself for somebody who will love your heart, mind, soul, and body.
There's a lot to learn for future relationships here, thank you for this video!
thanks for putting cute subtitles, and thanks for your work ! :)
Did the ocean personality test twice for 2 classes. Kinda shows how consistent it is as a proper personality test.
My neuroticism is very low at 5.
My agreeableness, the only one that changed went from 1 to 0 lol.
Openness is 63
Conscientiousness is 71
Extraversion is medium at 67
I wonder how being medium affects stuff.
People did not expect my extraversion to be that high, seeing as I'm alone most of the time but it turns out my openness and disagreeability have made it very easy to talk to people I don't know. Also probably helps that I have no conscience or sense of shame lol.
My conscientiousness is all from the fact that I do everything I promise and I tend to remember things very well, so my stuff isn't very neat and I don't actually plan things most of the time. Or rather I can plan things so fast that I don't bother until it's absolutely required. I literally do not rehearse for my presentations, I sometimes even switch the slides up last minute so I don't really know what I'm doing. My plan is always to wing it mad crazy.
Which I probably why my openness is above 50, I don't particularly go out to do new things but I can adapt so well to most situations that I usually just agree to doing things.
We did a project on relationship satisfaction relating to personality.
And it seems my personality makes me not want to be in relationships at all.
Who?
I used a website called 16personalities. Turns out I'm an INFP-T (mediator) it has similar attributes and all that.
I'm 80% introverted
73% intuitive
78% feeling
61% prospecting
93% turbulent
Not gonna lie, it's pretty cool. I suggest you try it😊
Would love to see a link to the OCEAN test that you used!
@@capacitor8399 The big 5 is a personality test pretty much like mbti and enneagram but unlike those two i don't know that much about it all i know is that OCEAN is used and that each word strands for a different trait
There is a joke told by a standup comedian, about "men are only as freaky as they think they're allowed to be." I tend to somewhat agree with that. Outside of choking and binding me, I'm pretty open to what my partner wants.
I can't speak for every man, but yeah. Plus he made me laugh telling the joke. Look him up. His name is Brad Williams.
Can I say extroverts are some breed watching them light up a room is exhausting as an introvert but in a good way they draw everybody out of their shells. I love you extroverts ❤️
Yes Maeve and Otis are different in some ways but I wouldn’t call Maeve confident. She may be popular with many admires but she’s actually pretty insecure and pretty introverted too. She’s bold, mature and brave but not necessarily confident.
wait, your personality has something to do with how you act think and feel , what you like and dont like? im blown away.
I wonder if “always tired” can be classed as a personality trait/ type 😂
I used to come to you for advice when I didn’t have a girlfriend but now I do it’s really been a while since I’ve watched this channel
I kinda go three different ways depending on mood. When I’m content with (mostly) everything I don’t really crave sex. However I do go through periods where I’m craving intimacy like no tomorrow. That’s usually when I’m most likely to try new stuff and probably be a little rougher in the bedroom lmao 🤣. But mostly I want a deep connection with someone and that’s usually when I’m either most vulnerable and shy or a very intimate and passionate partner. Idk if any of that makes sense, but hey, sex is a learning experience…. Right? 😅
I don't know what i like and don't like in general, i feel that may not be ideal for relationships. Since im annoymous here, i can say that i struggle a lot with most aspects of relationships because i generally struggle to know what to do or what i want, when i want it etc. I generally feel that i'm at a disadvantage with all relationship aspects, especially anything physical or romantic
There's my little vent
You still got a while to figure out some of this about yourself, there’s no rush
My level of overthinking makes me think I’m not even worthy of them, so cheating is less likely if anything honestly
Can't pick one for sure, i'm definitly a person who knows what they want and my stubbornness won't allow otherwise besides i'm quite specific in what i like and what i don't
I don't have a partner I just like watching your videos and enjoying learning them 😊
thank you :) what topics would you like us to cover next?
You comment omg but am not really which topic but whatever you choose I will watch 😊.
love content being uploaded at 4 am, some new content to watch while im fighting demons
I see, what is on your mind now?
@@Psych2go Just struggling to relax over my christmas break, exams had me stressed out(a week ago) and even now I cant seem find relaxation, even when theres nothing school related to do. I appreciate you taking your time to reply 🥰
I'm sorry to hear that you're feeling stressed, especially during your Christmas break. It's completely understandable given the challenges of exams. Taking time for yourself is crucial, and it's okay to prioritize relaxation. Whether it's enjoying a quiet moment, doing something you love, or simply taking a deep breath, I hope you find the peace you deserve. If there's anything specific on your mind or if you want to share more, I'm here to chat. Take care! 🌟
@@kyle7853
I think i am extemely a overthinker and i think its 100 percent accurate for me to relate with the first one
I just don’t have the rizz. I’m usually a quiet person and unsure of what to say.
I don’t wanna be creepy or anything, but your voice is my therapy 😚
Excellent video.
Could you please discuss dissociative personality disorder?
Asexuals: “I’m immune to all these problems”
I used to be the neuroticism type during the first years dating my then boyfriend - now husband. He was "The Compromiser" and thank God for that coz he was my first (hopefully last s*x partner ever)
We got married! And then poof! We both became the "shm-outine" and yesss we're both flirty until now!
I'm happy that I can proudly say we complimented each other sexually😅
remember these are just studies and what the majority tends to be but it doesnt define you. I tend to be a neurotic person but when I get in bed with someone I really like I just turn into a different person and really enjoy my time, its like the few moments of my day when Im not really neurotic.
You described me to a T, had no idea I was neurotic lmfao. Thank you so much
1, 2, 3, 5 !!
1 was TOO accurate
1.But I can't relax and enjoy it is totally me.Minus the cheating on him,I would never, I know know all the wonderful things he says about me are true, and that he means it.But overthinking everything is definitely something I always struggled with.
Nice thanks for the advice 👌 this will help alot and happy new year
You're welcome! I'm glad to hear the advice will be helpful. Wishing you a fantastic New Year filled with joy and success! If you have any more questions or need assistance, feel free to ask. Cheers! 🎉
@@Psych2go i wish ya happy new year too and thanks for helping others about these kinds of things 🎉
Wish ya goodluck
Hope this helps :) What other topics would you like us to cover next?
@@Psych2go hmm not sure myself haven’t thought of ine yet
Just start with the basics,it it vibes it’s good,it should not be over complicated.
neuroticism is a toughy. I'm quite high in it and it has caused me a great deal of grief. For anyone else dealing with neuroticism therapy can be really helpful and I personally want to seek more therapy for that reason.
The best part is finding out
1:24 explains me perfectly
What dose it mean to have a mix of all personalitys
I just wrote a comment on that lol before I looked at other comments if able find it read it lol might get reported or might get a like idk don't care youtube don't feed me nor please me🎉😮 lol
But like watching it
I'm taking notes.
Wow.. I don't recognize myself in any 5 traits... But I can relate to some.
I’m curious if these can also impact people’s love languages. 🤔
The silent treatment is not a punishment it’s usually because you’re not being heard so then you feel like what’s the point in talking anyway since you’re not being heard. I really hate that. I remember my sweetheart thought I was giving him the silent treatment to punish him and I said no I’m literally upset because we got into an argument and you weren’t listening to anything I said, so what was the point of me talking at all at that point? So I don’t say nothing there’s no point to saying anything when you’re not being listened to..
Guys that was a fire show! Aaaah
I'm a bit confused. 4/5 are applicable to some extent (except for the extroverted side. I'm >85% introverted), but none of them fully are. Guess that's just life saying nope to the squares humanity wants to neatly organise everything into.
this was very insightful for me, thank you.
Sometimes I wonder how this RUclips channel gets its ideas from, and no community post isn’t because well it’s a post.
Could you cover the introvert personality type not the shy type.
What about when you fall head over heels for fictional characters only
My personnality affects my sex life in the sense that it renders it inexistant
Thank you for this video I really appreciate this insight and your time and effort💐💐💐💐💐💐💐
2:43 got me laughing out loud i wasn't expecting freaking IRON MAN to show up in a sexual behavior video, LoL
Now how am I open-minded and Neurotic at the same time omggg😭
I used to be nuerotic it was rough bro, but at some point inbecame more opened about trying things and my partner is a lot like the last one we would sit and talk about then its like magic really voicing out doesnt mean arguement. Its just something youre asking for .
Very interesting video as always. Thanks Psych2go ❤
You are very welcome
I'm 22. I'm working a 9 to 5 job with people way older than me. All my friends are already in a relationship. My younger siblings already had it before. And I never dated before. Ever. How screwed am I?
Trust me you are doing AMAZING. Some may disagree: but the idea of having sex ASAP before you become a 40 year old virgin is overrated. Sex can become overrated easily. What’s most important is knowing what’s best for you in every aspect. You need someone that is not only compatible with you, but understands/values your needs. Sex is great when the two people involved are in the same page. Which is at the discretion of those two people. Keep doing you, keep being you, and surround yourself with deserving people only🫶🏾
Not screwed at all, and your situation is really quite common. Whenever the time comes where it does happen, you will wonder why you let it control your thoughts/life, because honestly it isn't a big deal at all, and you will go "I let that control my life?". You don't magically become a different person after you have sex, so don't let it hang over you or make you feel down on yourself - you will be nervous the first few times sure, but don't let it keep you from having fun. It's not something serious, just focus on having a good time between you and the person you become intimate with.
@@neawilliams7204 Thank you
Thank you@@twRage96
Your not screwed. I'm a lot like you too. I'm just trusting God in this process.
is it weird im kinda.. all of them?
Im autisic
so therefor no sex life lol
Just need to find right person.❤
I have a question for you. What do you think about online dating? I'm in a strange situation and feeling lost
So conscientious and compromiser that's me
Should I be concerned that I don't find myself matching to any of these traits?
had a dream of watching this video
What does it mean if I fell in love and can't talk to that person but can talk to others
The problem is that people view sex as one thing, for everyone all of the time. As if it cannot be multiple things to different people in different times of their life for different reasons. The problem is that people condescendingly think their way is the only way. It's really frustrating.
So i am doomed to never have a relationship
Interesting 🤔
I have quite a few of these personality traits, but I'm non-sexual. It is possible to extricate personality from sex.
i'd say i am the first one but it's worse than that. i am extremely terrified of intimacy/sexual activities involving another person. i don't have sexual trauma but my anxiety surrounding sex it's so bad that i don't think i'd ever get involved with someone like that again.
What About introvert people
Who are introvert to everyone but not to their partners....how is their personality?
No where feels safe anymore I can’t call anywhere home can u please make a video about this?
I’m a passionate introverted empath, I prefer romantic relationships so am I screwed or just rare?
You may be asexual
Well wow I can see a few of these with myself and now this got me thinking I'm like the first 3 now I really feel called out🤣🤣🤣
I got a woody from your voice, also like the content thanke you xx
In many of your other videos, you say there's no such thing as overreacting.
I am shy and introverted. I always thought sex was a huge chore, never had a good partner either. Also I don't want any diseases.
I have yet to discover this with a future partner, but i can be quite adventurous and contiuous. I wanna be able to experience many countless fantasies and ideas with someone who's okay with it, with consent, wanting to experiment too and knows how to play her part.
Well i am a virgin.
and die as a virgin.
But thank you for this video,Psych2go.
I am watching it out of curiosity.
and your videos always makes me curious ♡
Hello!
I see sex as a form of love if I have someone I love but if there is no lover to love then sex will become a necessity or mere pleasure which means preferring to do alone rather than having free sex without any love and clear relationship
Well i see sex just as behavior that pleasure people.