It's normal to feel like you're feeding all day. It's mostly because you are not used to it. BUT, this intensity usually only lasts for 3-4 months. After that, your body regulates it's milk production, baby gets to be a pro at breastfeeding. Newborn's are INTENSE. Revel in it. Cry. Lean on your partner. The rule of child raising is that YOU ALWAYS FEEL LIKE IT WILL LAST FOREVER, then it changes. Then you feel like the next stage will last forever. Then it changes. They keep you on your toes. Children are your ultimate teachers! They keep you in practice. love love love. and big love to you three!
Hi Mimi :) The feeding time is absolutely normal! The first two months of my son's life, I spent in the breastfeeding chair. He was literally eating for hours, sleep while eating even. Babies feed not only because they are hungry. They find comfort in this. They have been inside you for 9 months, so now this is the only world they know :) When my son became 3 months old, he became stronger and more aware of everything around him and he started feeding every 3-4 hours for 10-15 minutes. Babies feed when they are thirsty, hungry, afraid, they need their mother :) So be patient and happy for this connection you have, this is the best present you are giving your baby :) In a couple of months you will miss this :) You are a great mom!
Milena Tsoncheva yes, sure! They are much worse than bottles! there are so many babies who died due to pacifiers and due to plastic bottles! How can baby want it, if you never gave it a try! and your nipple is available all the time! Milena, just learn fysiologie of the baby! Then hopefully you'll understand what I meant.
irina mardari What a stupid comparison! My both kids stopped using pacifier themselfs when they were between 6 and 7 months. One of them talks a lot, other less. And the daughter of my gilfriend, who did not give her a pacifier, is getting 3 years next month and can's even say mama and papa yet and she is very unstable emotionally!
misterludakris um I think you are the one being over sensitive is it politically incorrect to encourage each other now. I did not criticise her. She said something like change frizzy and curly to perfect and straight I was encouraging her in the fact that even her frizzy and curly is beautiful... I say that as a long time supporter of her... It came from a place of encouragement and love but your state my sounds anything but... Don't attack me for a simple statement ... She is free of course to wear her hair as she pleases.
I think you're overreacting! I think she was just being encouraging and saying that there's nothing wrong with curly, frizzy hair, since a lot of women tend to think it's too messy or not nice. it's just a word of positivity! like, you know when you try on something and you don't think it looks good, but your friend will always tell you, "no, it looks great!", I think that's more or less what she's trying to say. :)
+Sawani Afzulpurkar he's Alex and Mimi's friend and coworker, he works with them since a long time and has even developed ideas with them! And he's the guy who's with them in this video, visiting them since 10 days. Did you watch the vlog, lol?
The end of this video brought me to tears. I am going through a lot of self doubt right now because of my job. It is very challenging and it is a lot of pressure. I need to remind myself to be grateful for this job and everything else I have. Thank you! I loved this video. Your videos always bring so much light into my life 💜
Most women are capable of breastfeeding their babies, but some choose not too because it's a hard commitment, especially in the beginning. women are too busy these days for various reasons, and don't put baby first. I always made breastfeeding and my babies first priority for the first year of their lives!! Giving baby the best start makes for a happier, healthier, smarter child in the future. Mimi, if you feel like you're not producing enough milk; my go to was fenugreek drops, brewers yeast, and mothers milk warm tea!! The warm tea before nursing or pumping will relax you and you will produce more milk quickly!! Be patient, what you're going through is normal!! It's hard to breastfeed baby in the beginning but easier as baby becomes more of an experienced nurser!! :) traveling with breasts are much easier then traveling with bottles :) Be patient, and positive; you can do this!!!
GandTforever hey! Sometime I wasn't able to breastfeed i felt so uncomfortable ! I did breastfeed my first baby for 6 months but second one just 2! Just sharing !!!! Breastfeeding is the best ❤️🤘🏻😋😘
GandTforever Shhhh with the other mommy shaming. Just cause you breastfed doesn't making you perfect! I'm sure you would want other people judging any of your parent decisions so.. shhhhh.
poop stick, cute name! haha Hey no shamming here; simply encouraging!! I had nursing problems too, and most friends would suggest giving baby formula; I didn't want to hear that. What I wanted to hear was some encouraging advice on how to continue breastfeeding! Of course, firstly do the best you can, and if that fails then you can always say you tried, and move on happily!! Only the parents that didn't do a very good job parenting get offended or feel shammed by my words!! again no one is perfect; but that doesn't mean we should give up!! perfection is achieved by never giving up; even if the route is bumpy!! :)
Mimi u should be grateful cause Alex can be all day with you, helping you get a lil time for yourself when he takes Alexa cause my husband works out all day and I'm alone with my little girl all day and sometimes I can't even get into the shower or put makeup on cause I'm always feeding her or she just wants to be held. I love her with all my heart and my husband too but sometimes it's really difficult. thanks for showing me I should be grateful cause there's so many woman that can't have a child or have to work outside and can't feed their babies
Just thank you guys for being exactly who you are: two inspiring, strong and open-hearted people, that are able to make other people life better!! Love you!
That's great :))) I really really enjoy watching you and Alex and now that you have Alexa I could watch you for hours and never get bored :DRegarding breastfeeding- you are doing great job Mimi, keep it up! It definitely gets easier with time. My daughters are 4,5 years and 9 months now and they were exactly like Alexa- always looking for mommy's boobies ;)) They didn't want to drink out of a bottle so it was not possible for me to go out alone for more than an hour without my daughters screaming for milk. As a new mom I was also surprisedt that breastfeeding can take so long and remember saying to my husband that it's a fulltime job after I calculated how many hours does it take in one day and night in total. Sometimes I felt overwhelmed and I thought it will never end but it will end. I promise. It didn't discourage me and breastfed my first daughter for 20 months. When she was 7.5 months old I was able to go back to work and to normal without pumping milk as she simply ate another food whan I wasn't there. Now I definitely don't want to stop until Helena is 1,5 years old as I can see how healthy and smart girl is my older daughter and I'm glad that I've made the decision to breastfeed her. It was a big commitment but so worth it! You have the right atittude as you know that it's the best you can do for Alexa at this stage and choose to do that despite the difficulties. Brave mom! You may not believe it right now but I've been there twice and I can tell you-time flies by so fast that you won't have this problem in couple of months anymore and will sometimes regret hat this tiny little baby that wanted to cuddle 24/7 is not there anymore when you will have a toddler ;)) Alexa will get more and more aware what is happening around her and interested in other things when she is 3-4 months old. She will also get better and will feed in 15-20 minutes, you can be sure. Later, when you have introduced solids, someone else will be able to replace you with giving her food. I almost can't belive that my little Helena is 9 months now and I can be outside for 8 hours a day. So enjoy this time, relax, reed books or listen to the audiobooks when you're breastfeeding and remember that being a parent ALWAYS means different challenges, also when the children get older. Kisses from Poland, love you!
I agree, routine is EVERYTHING with children Thats what will keep you from going bananas, but most importantly, is what will build your child confidence down the line
Mimi,breastfeeding gets easier.I remember for first 3 months it was really hard,they have sprouts every few weeks.I didnt go outside,but wait when she gets older,you will spend all day outside,she will nurse for 15minutes ;)
This is one of my first comments ever on RUclips, but I had to say something... I'm puzzled with all the negativity in the comment section! my child was born like a week before Alexa and I can totally emphasize with her and what she is feeling. Yes it is true that her life is way better than the majority of us but that doesn't take away her right to feel the things she feels. In my opinion it doesn't matter how many books you reed, how much you get informed, being a new mom is harder than you may initially think. If you didn't grow up around little children, and took care of them while you grew up that is no way for you get the full picture, and even then it would be challenging.People saying that she shouldn't talk about her frustrations because she is privileged are not making any sense, there are ALWAYS people that have it worst than you! And although you should acknowledge that, what is the point of playing the "who as it wrost" game?! If you are raising your children in country where there is no work (no money) but some human right you're still better than, the woman raising 4 children alone in a poor country where she has no voice, and this woman is still better off than the one that saw her children being murdered in front of her and then made a sex slave and raped by dozens of men. I know this is terrible to ready and I'm sorry for that, but that sadly still happens... Just trying to prove a point, if you see reality for what it is at the end of the day no one can complain because somewhere around the globe that is always a person living a harder life. Just stop being so negative, let people be true to themselves, talk about their feelings, heal and be better. Please stop disregarding what other people might be going through, it's their struggle, their individual battles. You don't need to understand it, if you don't, at least respect them.
I'm already so used to see the negative comments here for mimi that I don't even read them anymore. But you know what I realized? The people who comment negative things here are also the one's who never miss any of her new videos. They watch EVERYTHING so they can complain here later and put it out all the frustrations of their life in one comment by trying to make mimi feel bad and stupid. So I find it kinda weird.
Heah it's weird, it's like they try to empower themselves by making someone else feel bad, but the truth is: they are the ones who lose in the end. That kind of mindset just makes them more miserable... I guess it's like a dog chasing it's tail. It's sad really... Nobody is perfect, and I truly think Mimi is doing a great job. I honestly felt empowered by the video because although being a mum is the greatest blessing, you have to adjust to so many things that sometimes you feel like you are losing yourself in the process. Your child should always be a priority, but if you don't take care of yourself you end up frustrated and bitter, and that's not the feeling you should be passing on
Aura V Agree with you! I gave birth a few weeks earlier too and let me tell you - the first few weeks for a first time moms can be very challenging! it is such a change in ur life not to mention the hormones that r all over the place. postpartum anxiety is very real. I think Mimi does great job taking care of herself and the baby. I can relate and I know it s not easy. Now in order to reduce the nursing time I think a pacifier can be a good think to try and help stretch between feedings. also sometimes when I go outside with my baby and I dont feel like breastfeeding in public I just pump some milk prior to the walk and give my baby a bottle witb my breast milk.
I nursed my baby for a month and after that I started pumping. It was a relief I pumped 20 min every 3 hours and I was able to stay with it for 6month. Hope that's help. Your doing awesome. Love you.
She never said she doesn't trust professionals. Mimi and Alex just have their own opinions and i would say they consult different sources of information every time they have to sort out something, like articles, friends, family and some professionals. Also, Alexa is a newborn and when you have your first child i'm sure you feel a bit nervous and insecure in general, and specially if you haven't been around much babies as Mimi said about herself, so it's normal that they trust other's advices, including professionals.
1) English is not my first language. I want to see you all speak my language fluently,is laugh at you 😂 2) watch her video about delivery story and you'll know what I mean
It doesn't even matter how bad my day has been, even when my day has been just ok. I come on here and your vlogs are just light! Pure light! Thank you for that! 😊
A mama of teenagers here! You are doing a great job with her! Wish they came with a manual on how to do it right, but really there is no right way. She will get better at feeding and you will get better at knowing exactly what she needs and wants. Parenting is a learning process. It teaches us so much that we didn't know. Live in and love these moments with her now cause you will blink and she will be getting ready to go to school, blink again and she will be grown. Take it one day at a time. Learn as much as you can from others. Surround yourself with other mamas young and old who can help give you advice. Keep on getting up every morning and making yourself beautiful and head outside as much as you can. Baby blues are a real thing don't discount them nor feel embarrassed by them. And always remember "this is just a season, the season will change soon enough"
As difficult as breastfeeding is I miss it so much! Good for you for sticking with it, it's definitely not easy, and you're definitely awesome for being such a strong mama!
It does get better but it is so intense. Add hormones and...well....I don't know one new mom who hasn't shed tears over how hard it is. You can get through this. This stage will not last forever. There are other hard stages but it does get better. You remind me so much of how I was when I had my son. I was so independent before and it was very hard for me but I am so glad I went through it (and am happily about to again). You're doing a great job. Much love to you!
Start storing up milk.....That way you can see if she's really nursing or just wants the comfort. There is nothing wrong with pumping and also it will let Alex get a chance to feed her. Mimi you are doing great she has grown so healthy and beautiful. Thanks for sharing....
The love running in your family is so infectious. You make me want to be a better woman, a better mother and a better everything!!! My son used to feed as much, he was a guzzler as well especially during growth spurts. Its normal, it will get better when she is old enough to eat solids. xo
Mimi, i hope you read this. Breastfeeding IS NOT supposed to take 8-10 hours a day. Especially not when Alexa is 7 months old. It should not be more than maximum 30 minutes. That too is rare. Usually it should only last 10-20 minutes per side. I am talking from my own experiences and experiences of my family and friends. And now that Alex got this procedure done, please give it a few weeks until she learns to feed normally and with less time. If she continues to take as long as she does now. You should get it checked again because it should not take longer than 10-20 minutes. Plus, do you know when she gets done from one side? Like can you tell if she is actually sucking out milk or if she is just sucking on am empty breast? Because in my case i only produced 10 minutes worth of milk on each side and my baby would just suck on an empty breast for as song as 45 minutes. It took me months to realize that she wasn't getting anything out after the first 15-20 minutes
totally agree. Sometimes when I complain, I think about all the blessings I have and like you said feel guilty for even complaining. Love that quote Alex! It's not happy people who are thankful, it's thankful people who are happy.
Mimi I love all your videos, but this is my favorite right now...that magical moment when you are with Alexa telling her to smile for us and say hello, that was so zen, so beautiful I don't know how to explain...for the first time I have no words.
Mimi, what about bringing a bottle of breastmilk with you guys so you don't have to go home just to feed her? I did that with my baby, it worked well for me 😘 love your videos!!
Katie J. Overreact much? Look for conflict much? Geez... This was a perfectly friendly suggestion about the bottle, that Mimi doesn't have to take ...
I totally feel you on the intensity of having a child. My daughter is 2 years now, and I dont have enough words to express my gratitude and love for her, but phew it can be so hard. I have always been alone with her, and she was not a fan of sleep the first year and sometimes I wonder how I survived. In the beginning I had a lot of pains with breastfeeding (blisters, infections) but I am SO glad I pushed through and kept doing it. It does get easier!!
Hi Mimi ! I'm 21 so I can't judge anything of being a mother. However my mom used to tell me that she wasn't able to breast feed both because she didn't have milk and also because I was not collaborating 😂 I grew up with formula milk and soy milk ! I am totally fine now, I go to university and I'm a very healthy girl. I am very bond to my mother anyway. If you don't feel right breastfeeding I don't think you should force yourself , I imagine it is very stressful, but not breastfeeding will not make you less of a mother. Sending you lots of love and support 😘❤️ kisses from Italy
EMILY BARTOSKI You are absolutely right. You either hear that you bond better or that breastfeeding is better for them. If the baby is thriving on formula then I see no difference. Also what a mother eats goes into the milk. I never breastfed and my daughter is almost 30 and fine. She tried breastfeeding with her 2 and 3 year old and again with her 4 month old. Just didn't happen, no big deal.
EMILY BARTOSKI. Yep, my daughter is 1 and is formula fed. And she's obsessed with me, she sleeps with me and my partner. And I can't even be on the other side of the room without her following me.
hey mimi dont worry! it will be easier! breastfeeding is hard.. i know that for sure...our baby was so thirsty too all the time... but you will see maybe in a few weeks alexa will change her feeding habbits. breastfeeding is hard at the beginning but later it will be all good. My son is now almost 6 months the nights are still tough from now and then but thats how it is..every baby is different :) sending you lots of love from berlin!
Mimi Ikonn u r not alone. Breast feeding can lead to mental breakdown, it really helps to complain n rant about it as much as u can. Especially when you r a working woman, it takes away your independence. If u r sad about it, try pumping or even formula. I remember doctor telling me to quit everything and go on nursing vacation n I did not wanted to do tht. I started pumping n it lasted for 8 to 14 weeks. But doctor saw what was coming n she begged me to get formula. U will find ur life so much better n no it doesn't do anything bad to ur child. My baby is happy n healthy n all those nice things n NO IT DOES NOT EFFECT Your BOND With the baby, it can actually make it stronger as u r more happier n u can deliver that, have skin to skin time instead but for ur n Alex 's mental peace try formula. I honestly think breastfeeding is easier when u r mentally aware tht u r always gonna be home n no work with lots of family to take care of u r talk to u. But the kinda lifestyle u have it's always gonna be challenging. Not tht u have a bad lifestyle but give urself a break n baby will be full for more hours also as breastmilk is thinner than formula. Good luck 👍👍👍
harjeet Nahal actually mothers milk is so much better for the baby instead of formula. The imune system will be better if you breastfeed thats for sure. there is nothing more natural than giving your baby the breast and thats the natural way of bonding. ITS JUST THE BEGINNING where it is hard. My son is 6 months old now and breastfeeding is so much easier now because i know when he is ready to have some more milk (which is every 2 or 3 hours).
You did the right thing! I am currently a dental hygiene student and that painful two days saved her years of speech therapy and dental problems down the road! Parenting is hard, I have two baby boys. Don't worry, it gets easier. This stage won't last long, try to enjoy it and remind yourselves when it gets hard.
Thanks for posting this video! My son went through the same thing - he had his lip and tongue tie removed after 5 weeks of very painful feedings. It was such a difficult time in my life as I was constantly in pain and feedings would sometimes last an hour (but I actually had to unlatch him most of the time and cut feedings short because of the pain). After a few weeks of getting the procedure, I healed and he learned how to use his tongue/mouth much better. He's now 18 weeks and feedings are much shorter and painless. So yes it does get better - much much better! I also had the support of a positive partner who helped me when I felt I couldn't go on. We sacrifice so much as mamas but our hearts are full as we look at our little ones and know we are growing a miracle! Xo
This was such a heartwarming vlog! 🌞 I melted in a smile everytime you showed us your cute little munchkin! ^______^ ahhh. My heart is filled with joy and love for you guys! You are an incredible mom! ❤
Watching you guys do those exercises with Alexa is awesome. The way you talk her through it even though she's an infant is awesome. When she's older and has to go to the doctor or do anything medical and you speak to her like that it'll benefit her! That's exactly how we're taught to "handle" children in my CMA program. I love how confident you both are when you do those exercises too. Children can sense your energy and to be confident helps a lot!! Love watching you guys grow!!!!
in footage where you've just went out (about 7:50) you look like your sister so much! Usually you're quite different, but in those moment you were sooo similar to her! It's beautiful ❤
Mimi...i really loved this...loved how real and vulnerable you allowed yourself to be. when you spoke of Alex not complaining etc. and how you went over to him. oh i just love yall. my first child did hour long feeds too. i remember having quiet meltdowns. it gets easy fa sheezy
I just don't understand because there's so many girls who love being home all the time yet don't have kids,or most men are attracted to motherly type. I don't see u as the mom type
Why are you so agressive? She can do whatever she wants. It seems to me that she's doing great, she has a baby but also a personal life. Maybe you are not allowed to go out from time to time, but the rest of them mothers cand enjoy their life. Who told you to stay locked in the house if you have a baby? How can you be so closed minded?
Halfway through the video and I've just realized I've been smiling the whole time :) It has to be 'cause Alexa's beautiful smile! Thank you guys for being so positive and sharing it with us!
Mimi, little Alexa looks so happy and healthy. Yes, this challenging time will pass. My second child loved to feed for hours--for me, I pumped and supplemented with bottle feeds once a day. This freed time for "me" time. My husband was happy to have the bonding experience as well.
Also for the record: my nipples were ripped to shreds and bleeding like crazy! I cried and cried. It's so good to find other new moms and get a network for yourself going that are going thru what you are that TRULY get it. It's ok to cry! It's ok to complain! You can still be thankful, and cry and feel alone some days. 🙏❤️
Hi Mimi, I'm a mom of two kids, girl and boy. I breastfed both of them through the first year. I can tell you, it was the same experience with both of my kids as what you're experiencing with breastfeeding. I felt like ALL I DID was breastfeed my baby, ALL DAY LONG! It was easier with the second baby, but with first, I breastfed her through, blisters, cracked and bleeding nipples... Please don't stop! It will get easier, I promise :-) Nothing is wrong, it's all normal. She is not only eating, she is soothing herself while breastfeeding, she is using you as pacifier too. I KNOW WHAT YOU'RE GOING THROUGH! I've been there and I was asking the same questions you're wondering about, like when it will end?! It will get easier and believe me you will miss this time! It will get better with each month! At 3-4 month, you will start to introduce her to juices and soon after solid foods. You can try to pump your milk and introduce her to bottle. She may not like the bottle at first, I can tell you, she will fuss and cry even. She will be confused and will prefer a boob over a bottle, you can't blame her though. But will get used to it. It will give you a bit of change.
I breastfeed my son for 1 year and I NEVER had blood or blister! It's not normal to be in pain when you breastfeed and it's not me who say that but all doctors or midwives I saw.. If the baby position is good you don't have pain. For the 1h hour breastfeed it depands of the baby. My son was a fast one. In 15 min when he was very little it was good and after it was mabye 5 min.
omg that is painful, it's soooooooooooo painful, I was the same, and very upsetting, I was an emotional wreck, torn because I wanting to feed but I cried through each feed in pain!
Your honesty about your life is beautiful! It really allows people to connect with you and Alex. Thanks for sharing your experiences....remember that everything is temporary and will transition--- stay beautiful!
I used to dislike breastfeding I would cry and be in a lot of pain. What I didn't realize is that I needed to change my attitude about. I was so worried about if I was doing it correctly or if my baby was eating enough. The minute I did that I experienced the best and my milk came in and most of all I had a happy baby. Also breastfeding for a hour is normal. Breast milk is mostly water and gets digested super quick formula sit in the stomach. I successfully breastfed for 1 1/2 years.
First time mom here. My baby is 4 weeks today and the first few days I almost went to formula it was so stressful. I'm thankful I didn't give up now but I know how hard it can be. No one should judge anyone for this. Someone gave me a tip that when a babies hands relax they are full and might just be sucking for relaxation and they don't need to continue. Maybe that's why it went on for an hour? You can put a finger in her mouth and if she unlatches she is good. If she is hungry again she will let you know!
Hi mimi breastfeeding does get easier but for ur sanity (after Alexa gets the hang of breastfeeding since her lip tie removal) u should try introducing a bottle just so u can get a break! It's probably one of the best decisions I've ever made. It's gives me some ME time. If u decide to do it, keep in mind she might not take the first bottle u introduce, u might have to try a few different ones. And I noticed she doesn't use a soother is that right? Just a suggestions (not telling u what to do so people don't freak out) if Alexa just cries sometimes for no reason u can try a pacifier. It's human nature babies wanting to suck on something. Be patient. Everything gets better. Every stage has its challenges though so be prepared! U have a good support system. Take care :)
Oh and if u decide u want to introduce a bottle u should look into these two pumps. The medala and the lansinoh double electric pump. Almost everyone I know uses the medela but I use the lansinoh. It's a double electric pump and it works amazing. But it's $160 Canadian instead of $400 Canadian for the medela lol. I needed a cheaper but efficient option. A ton of good reviews on the lansinoh! Hope this helps. :)
Hey Riri, absolutely we should be very understanding and recommend alternatives if things aren't working well, but bottles and pacifiers can actually be even worse for breastfeeding in terms of nipple confusion. There is no reason why you should need to top up with formula for a normal healthy baby - your body makes more than enough if you are breastfeeding on-demand! Things will regulate and get better.
+Lydia Boon my daughter gets very fussy sometimes closer to the end of some feedings and won't latch so that's why i top her off and I find it works very well for us. As for nipple confusion babies are smarter than we think lol, she will be fine. I just choose a slow flow bottle nipple so my daughter still has to work for it.
+Lydia Boon oh and as for the pacifier I'm So glad my daughter takes it she loves it. My daughter sometimes like to comfort suck on my breast but as a mom and wife I have things to do around the house so I can't sit there for her to comfort suck lool that's why I give her the pacifier. I'm
Mimi as a breastfeeding Mom of three I highly recommend you get a baby carrier like an Ergo. You will be able to feed your baby anywhere hands free. It's easy to get on and off. It's how I was able to feed my kids, get things done, run after my older kids at the playground, etc.... I've even used it at many school meetings, parties, vacations, museums, theme parks, the grocery, restaurants. It will make your life so much easier. You guys are doing a great job. Good luck!
Mimi don't worry you are not the only one who felt that way. we are all grateful for healthy children but it is normal to miss your freedom. and I can understand that you feel guilty from feeling like you miss your old life. but it is normal. not to worry . enjoy your lil angel!
My little baby girl watches your videos with me all the time and it's so cute to see how much attention she pays and ever since Alexa has been on the videos I noticed she really enjoys watching other babies and their behavior
Mimi try to pump and put it in a bottle so you can feed her on the go. The bottle is also easier for the baby to eat and the Alex can feed her while you go out.
Too much positive is annoying. Alex is annoying and not realistic. It's normal to feel depressed, blue, anxious, or frustrated when you are a new Mom. We can still be thankful about our life circumstance, but be having a tough day. Alex, don't remind your wife about being positive, just empathize with her, ok ?
Love your videos, so peaceful and calming .You are such a positive mind and I love you for that. Sometimes I read through the comments and there are so many rude and disrespectful comments that I just cannot understand.. However, I appreciate your videos and your positiveness and to me, you are truly an inspiration ♡
What if your milk is not enough, heavy or thick (enough calories) for her? But if she is growing and gaining weight I wouldn't worry about it, also if she is not waking up at night as much to eat she is making up for it during the day.. Usually especially first two month new Boris wake up every 2-4 hour to eat so she is making up for it during the day!
If you do a simple google search you will find an endless plethora of research stating that breast milk is perfect and contains all the nutritional and fat that the baby needs. There is no such thing as too thin milk or too thick milk. That's an old wives tale
Hi! I got married a year and half ago and love watching your blogs especially now that you are a mom! I have an almost two year old nephew who I love so much. I've learned so much about babies just by seeing my nephew grow. One thing I wanted to suggest is when you guys are massaging her mouth her eyes are upwards and she's looking back wards doctors and friends who have kids always said not to make sure babies and infants are facing up like that because their eyes can roll back. Pointing it out Bc I saw it was a long period of time. It may not be big deal to you but just something all moms and doctors told us over so many years! Hope baby Alexa continues to grow happy and healthy
Yes motherhood is hard but so rewarding and I tell myself babies are little for a short time. Don't feel bad when you complain because when there's lack of sleep and frustration with breastfeeding then we get emotional. I would say after three months it's easier don't give up! When they get older the bond is stronger and it's hard to quit breastfeeding after lol. My son woke up every two and three hours at night until I stopped breastfeeding it was hard but now I miss it. My son used my breast as comfort so I made him take a pacifier at three months. So you can try giving her that to soothe her. Maybe try pumping and giving bottle to have break? I kno some moms breast feed and do things lol it's a talent. Yes I understand you I was born in Soviet Union too and came to Canada when I was one. Life here is much easier than when our parents lived.
Nice to see that not everything always is going smooth! But, you are an amazing mother and you have a lovely daughter. Enjoy the time you have with her.
I breastfed all of my 3 children. I remember with my first child feeding for about an 45 minutes to an hour each time too. And it seemed like constant feeding too. Sitting there for that long was so difficult, but I learned to just go with the flow. I think that my breastmilk did not flow that well. I had difficulty pumping milk too. I produced enough, just not much came out at once. It was the same with my other children as well. Sorry, it didn't get better until they started eating solid foods. I did find that it got easier psychologically when I just figured out how to adapt my life to feel like I wasn't just a feeding machine. My husband helped a lot by just being available to take the babies when I wasn't feeding so I could just stand up even! 😂 So, you and Alex are on the right track with him carrying her and being responsible for other types of care. The daddy bounce is magic! You're doing great! 👍🏽
i had similar experiences.....but have to tell you for sure its not a entirely feeding, she uses your breast as pacifier, when she feeds you should hear her swallows. that usually lasts for 10-30min at first, maybe 1h in the very beginning when learning, but for a 6 weeks she got used to you and use your breast as pacifier.
Alexa is SO beautiful!!! looking at her you see pure love. Mimi being a mother is a huge challenge but with love you can go through all the obstacles. you are doing an excellent job!! Congratulations and please make a photo of that moment Alexa is looking at the camera with you, you both look so beautiful! nice and blessed girls! love you both. kisses from where it all started: Rio de Janeiro.
My baby is 3 months now, breastfeeding is easier now.You are doing so well. There were times where I also would have break down, but now I'm just getting used to him.
My little one would feed for hours and then throw out everything he drank, it's really sad, then I started using the pacifier and it got better, I feed him with one breast for 10 to 15 minutes and then burp him and then the other breast for another 10 minutes and he would fall asleep and then I stick the pacifier into his mouth and falls asleep. I think you should try it too
You are seriously the cutest person ever. I love how much you adore your daughter. Alexa being this little will go by so fast and I feel like you are soaking in every moment of it. ❤️ loved this video! ❤️
Yup did it for 2 years straight with both our kids! It IS hard. And it's truly the hardest but most beautiful Job in the world. Just wait until she is walking/crawling. Each phase is very challenging in its own way. Nobody understands like another mom. So you're not alone! THIS IS HARD! The men won't truly get it:) be easy on yourself my love. You're doing great!
Hi Mimi, even though I'm not a mom, but what I can say is that when my mom had my little brother 12 years ago she breast feeded him for the first months and then made changes like breastfeeding when she could (cuz my mom is a professor) so what she did was breastfeed when she can and bottle breastfeed. So if you're looking for another alternative for the days when you want to take a "little break" just bottle breastfeed and have it with you when Alexa is hungry. I know that your situation is different from my mother's example, but here's another alternative to consider. :) You decide what's best for you and Alexa. :-)
Dorianne M Acosta hi Dorianne that is a great idea. personally I think mimi and alex are resisting change. they are both very stubborn and until they realize it's not about them they will be in pain. I watched two or three videos and in every video it is all about them going out or walking or restaurant. Have you seen any toys around the baby or some musical instruments or anything visual or colorful that baby's enjoy so much. It seems to me they are trying so hard to continue with the old life when in reality everything has changed. just my thoughts.
She is just 6 months. Babies up to 2 months dont really need toys, bears etc. You can always play the music tho but they play it, you can hear it in the background. But with one thing I agree - they seem to be sometimes small minded and assured of their right for 100% while they're not. ooo sorry I watched further... she's 8weeks now I guess. so they could think of smth for her
asmrsounds I still think it is very crucial for a baby to be exposed to at least holding a small squishy toy so she can feel and hear sounds. I think it's time for them to realize it is not their world anymore. Mimi was very sad that One just one day she couldn't get out because she had to take care of her baby. I'm sure she is a wonderful mom and loves her baby. But it's time to wake up. She might be a mother, but she is not motherish.
My son has a lip tie and i remember myself feeding him on a bottle literally for an hour everyday feeling really frustrated and crying all the time for having a sore back pain. I truly feel you! you're very strong and trust me time will fly quickly. It'll get better as she grows. Lots of love to you and your family
And think of all the mums (it was my case) who are all day long alone because their husbanda are at work. at least you have Alex who cooks for you while you feed her and helps with everything.
It is very normal for feeding to consume most of your days for the first few months. She is growing SO much every day, breastmilk digests very quickly, all normal! Both your and Alexa's health will benefit in the long run, and it helps having such an amazing partner supporting you all the way. ❤️
Alex i agree with you to a point but if something is not working. its ok to try something different. life is about finding with works for us. Breastfeeding is amazing if it works but if you're spending your whole day breastfeeding..its not working and that doesn't make you a failure.
Mimi And Alex 2016 has not been a great year for me, however using the 5 min journal for the last 8 months, i have captured the smallest blessings, the greatest smiles in the shortest moment, that vanish into thin air, when fighting depression. Looking back during defeated nights at my 5 min journal (grid review) reminds me its actually ok. so it enables me to look at back at positive things only - thank you for creating an amazing tool. Glad to see the baby wrapped up nice and warm when outdoors.
Thank you Mimi, Alex and Alexa! Love your energy! Thanks for sharing your experiences! I'm so happy for Alexa, she looks so great! I guess is at two years old they became to be call as an infants. Lots of love from Argentina!
Mimi, i can totally relate to being stuck in one spot nursing all day long. as much as its such a sweet bonding moment, it can be overwhelming! Remember it definetely gets better and as they grow they need you less and less which is a sad thing too! Keep in mind - the days are long but years are short!!
Yes Mimi! The feedings get better and shorter! I had similar struggles...my daughter is now 7 months and for the most part the days are now a breeze and a joy!
It's normal to feel like you're feeding all day. It's mostly because you are not used to it. BUT, this intensity usually only lasts for 3-4 months. After that, your body regulates it's milk production, baby gets to be a pro at breastfeeding. Newborn's are INTENSE. Revel in it. Cry. Lean on your partner. The rule of child raising is that YOU ALWAYS FEEL LIKE IT WILL LAST FOREVER, then it changes. Then you feel like the next stage will last forever. Then it changes. They keep you on your toes. Children are your ultimate teachers! They keep you in practice. love love love. and big love to you three!
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Yvette Yasui
" Children are your ultimate teachers! They keep you in practice."
Very true!
Hi Mimi :) The feeding time is absolutely normal! The first two months of my son's life, I spent in the breastfeeding chair. He was literally eating for hours, sleep while eating even. Babies feed not only because they are hungry. They find comfort in this. They have been inside you for 9 months, so now this is the only world they know :) When my son became 3 months old, he became stronger and more aware of everything around him and he started feeding every 3-4 hours for 10-15 minutes. Babies feed when they are thirsty, hungry, afraid, they need their mother :) So be patient and happy for this connection you have, this is the best present you are giving your baby :) In a couple of months you will miss this :) You are a great mom!
Milena Tsoncheva the baby needs a pacifier
Pacifiers are extremely bad for the teeth, if the baby doesn't want it, it's best
Milena Tsoncheva yes, sure! They are much worse than bottles! there are so many babies who died due to pacifiers and due to plastic bottles!
How can baby want it, if you never gave it a try! and your nipple is available all the time!
Milena, just learn fysiologie of the baby! Then hopefully you'll understand what I meant.
I gave it to my baby,she never liked and I'm really glad...she is 14 months and love to talk more than others with pacifiers.
irina mardari What a stupid comparison! My both kids stopped using pacifier themselfs when they were between 6 and 7 months. One of them talks a lot, other less. And the daughter of my gilfriend, who did not give her a pacifier, is getting 3 years next month and can's even say mama and papa yet and she is very unstable emotionally!
alex is the ultimate mate.. a man that always strives to bring out the best in his woman.. And thats what makes a great relashionship
You don't know him tho...you don't know who he really is
Nothing wrong with curly frizzy its beautiful! you should rock your curls sometimes :)
Yes!! :)
misterludakris um I think you are the one being over sensitive is it politically incorrect to encourage each other now. I did not criticise her. She said something like change frizzy and curly to perfect and straight I was encouraging her in the fact that even her frizzy and curly is beautiful... I say that as a long time supporter of her... It came from a place of encouragement and love but your state my sounds anything but... Don't attack me for a simple statement ... She is free of course to wear her hair as she pleases.
+misterludakris uhmm.. I think you are the oversensitive one 😂
I think you're overreacting! I think she was just being encouraging and saying that there's nothing wrong with curly, frizzy hair, since a lot of women tend to think it's too messy or not nice. it's just a word of positivity! like, you know when you try on something and you don't think it looks good, but your friend will always tell you, "no, it looks great!", I think that's more or less what she's trying to say. :)
Denny Goalmez thank you exactly my meaning
I love UJ and Mimi's friendship. Wish I could find myself a UJ.
holisticmaya I'm new to her channel, who is he?
me to
+Sawani Afzulpurkar he's Alex and Mimi's friend and coworker, he works with them since a long time and has even developed ideas with them! And he's the guy who's with them in this video, visiting them since 10 days. Did you watch the vlog, lol?
Who is the father? The white man or the Brown man?
good life.... It is Alex, the blonde guy.
The end of this video brought me to tears. I am going through a lot of self doubt right now because of my job. It is very challenging and it is a lot of pressure. I need to remind myself to be grateful for this job and everything else I have. Thank you! I loved this video. Your videos always bring so much light into my life 💜
Yayy another vlog!! Always love a good vlog from the Ikonn family
Your doing such an amazing doing work and looking after a newborn ♥ Sending you guys lots of love xo
+The Fashion Blogger ♡ agree
it's nice to see you being open and honest about being a new mother, it makes you more relatable 😘
Most women are capable of breastfeeding their babies, but some choose not too because it's a hard commitment, especially in the beginning. women are too busy these days for various reasons, and don't put baby first. I always made breastfeeding and my babies first priority for the first year of their lives!! Giving baby the best start makes for a happier, healthier, smarter child in the future. Mimi, if you feel like you're not producing enough milk; my go to was fenugreek drops, brewers yeast, and mothers milk warm tea!! The warm tea before nursing or pumping will relax you and you will produce more milk quickly!! Be patient, what you're going through is normal!! It's hard to breastfeed baby in the beginning but easier as baby becomes more of an experienced nurser!! :) traveling with breasts are much easier then traveling with bottles :) Be patient, and positive; you can do this!!!
GandTforever completely true
GandTforever hey! Sometime I wasn't able to breastfeed i felt so uncomfortable ! I did breastfeed my first baby for 6 months but second one just 2!
Just sharing !!!!
Breastfeeding is the best ❤️🤘🏻😋😘
GandTforever Shhhh with the other mommy shaming. Just cause you breastfed doesn't making you perfect! I'm sure you would want other people judging any of your parent decisions so.. shhhhh.
poop stick, cute name! haha Hey no shamming here; simply encouraging!! I had nursing problems too, and most friends would suggest giving baby formula; I didn't want to hear that. What I wanted to hear was some encouraging advice on how to continue breastfeeding! Of course, firstly do the best you can, and if that fails then you can always say you tried, and move on happily!! Only the parents that didn't do a very good job parenting get offended or feel shammed by my words!! again no one is perfect; but that doesn't mean we should give up!! perfection is achieved by never giving up; even if the route is bumpy!! :)
true!! :)
Mimi u should be grateful cause Alex can be all day with you, helping you get a lil time for yourself when he takes Alexa cause my husband works out all day and I'm alone with my little girl all day and sometimes I can't even get into the shower or put makeup on cause I'm always feeding her or she just wants to be held. I love her with all my heart and my husband too but sometimes it's really difficult. thanks for showing me I should be grateful cause there's so many woman that can't have a child or have to work outside and can't feed their babies
Thanks for the details! I always find those so interesting and helpful!
Xoxo
Oh my gosh I loved watching you guys interact with Alexa while doing her tongue tie massages! You guys are such an inspirational team!
Just thank you guys for being exactly who you are: two inspiring, strong and open-hearted people, that are able to make other people life better!! Love you!
Thank you dear Susie
banana flavour ?!? Who is fake?!
You should do a morning routine now with the baby
Yes, planning on it :)
Mimi Ikonn please advise on what prenatal vitamins you took
That's great :))) I really really enjoy watching you and Alex and now that you have Alexa I could watch you for hours and never get bored :DRegarding breastfeeding- you are doing great job Mimi, keep it up! It definitely gets easier with time. My daughters are 4,5 years and 9 months now and they were exactly like Alexa- always looking for mommy's boobies ;)) They didn't want to drink out of a bottle so it was not possible for me to go out alone for more than an hour without my daughters screaming for milk. As a new mom I was also surprisedt that breastfeeding can take so long and remember saying to my husband that it's a fulltime job after I calculated how many hours does it take in one day and night in total. Sometimes I felt overwhelmed and I thought it will never end but it will end. I promise. It didn't discourage me and breastfed my first daughter for 20 months. When she was 7.5 months old I was able to go back to work and to normal without pumping milk as she simply ate another food whan I wasn't there. Now I definitely don't want to stop until Helena is 1,5 years old as I can see how healthy and smart girl is my older daughter and I'm glad that I've made the decision to breastfeed her. It was a big commitment but so worth it!
You have the right atittude as you know that it's the best you can do for Alexa at this stage and choose to do that despite the difficulties. Brave mom!
You may not believe it right now but I've been there twice and I can tell you-time flies by so fast that you won't have this problem in couple of months anymore and will sometimes regret hat this tiny little baby that wanted to cuddle 24/7 is not there anymore when you will have a toddler ;)) Alexa will get more and more aware what is happening around her and interested in other things when she is 3-4 months old. She will also get better and will feed in 15-20 minutes, you can be sure. Later, when you have introduced solids, someone else will be able to replace you with giving her food. I almost can't belive that my little Helena is 9 months now and I can be outside for 8 hours a day. So enjoy this time, relax, reed books or listen to the audiobooks when you're breastfeeding and remember that being a parent ALWAYS means different challenges, also when the children get older. Kisses from Poland, love you!
I agree, routine is EVERYTHING with children Thats what will keep you from going bananas, but most importantly, is what will build your child confidence down the line
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I love how supportive you are of each other, always setting such an awesome example.
Mimi,breastfeeding gets easier.I remember for first 3 months it was really hard,they have sprouts every few weeks.I didnt go outside,but wait when she gets older,you will spend all day outside,she will nurse for 15minutes ;)
and when you get used to nursing then you will be lost in introducing food :p but dont worry it really really gets easier.
Smiljka Tanasic what you say is so cool :) (mother of a 1 month old)
This is one of my first comments ever on RUclips, but I had to say something... I'm puzzled with all the negativity in the comment section! my child was born like a week before Alexa and I can totally emphasize with her and what she is feeling. Yes it is true that her life is way better than the majority of us but that doesn't take away her right to feel the things she feels. In my opinion it doesn't matter how many books you reed, how much you get informed, being a new mom is harder than you may initially think. If you didn't grow up around little children, and took care of them while you grew up that is no way for you get the full picture, and even then it would be challenging.People saying that she shouldn't talk about her frustrations because she is privileged are not making any sense, there are ALWAYS people that have it worst than you! And although you should acknowledge that, what is the point of playing the "who as it wrost" game?! If you are raising your children in country where there is no work (no money) but some human right you're still better than, the woman raising 4 children alone in a poor country where she has no voice, and this woman is still better off than the one that saw her children being murdered in front of her and then made a sex slave and raped by dozens of men. I know this is terrible to ready and I'm sorry for that, but that sadly still happens... Just trying to prove a point, if you see reality for what it is at the end of the day no one can complain because somewhere around the globe that is always a person living a harder life. Just stop being so negative, let people be true to themselves, talk about their feelings, heal and be better. Please stop disregarding what other people might be going through, it's their struggle, their individual battles. You don't need to understand it, if you don't, at least respect them.
I'm already so used to see the negative comments here for mimi that I don't even read them anymore. But you know what I realized? The people who comment negative things here are also the one's who never miss any of her new videos. They watch EVERYTHING so they can complain here later and put it out all the frustrations of their life in one comment by trying to make mimi feel bad and stupid. So I find it kinda weird.
Heah it's weird, it's like they try to empower themselves by making someone else feel bad, but the truth is: they are the ones who lose in the end. That kind of mindset just makes them more miserable... I guess it's like a dog chasing it's tail.
It's sad really... Nobody is perfect, and I truly think Mimi is doing a great job. I honestly felt empowered by the video because although being a mum is the greatest blessing, you have to adjust to so many things that sometimes you feel like you are losing yourself in the process. Your child should always be a priority, but if you don't take care of yourself you end up frustrated and bitter, and that's not the feeling you should be passing on
Perfectly said!
Aura V Agree with you! I gave birth a few weeks earlier too and let me tell you - the first few weeks for a first time moms can be very challenging! it is such a change in ur life not to mention the hormones that r all over the place. postpartum anxiety is very real. I think Mimi does great job taking care of herself and the baby. I can relate and I know it s not easy. Now in order to reduce the nursing time I think a pacifier can be a good think to try and help stretch between feedings. also sometimes when I go outside with my baby and I dont feel like breastfeeding in public I just pump some milk prior to the walk and give my baby a bottle witb my breast milk.
I nursed my baby for a month and after that I started pumping. It was a relief I pumped 20 min every 3 hours and I was able to stay with it for 6month. Hope that's help. Your doing awesome. Love you.
Ok. So now,when you have some problems with a baby,you suddenly trust professionals? Such hipocrytes
Lol thanks for correcting me 😂
She never said she doesn't trust professionals. Mimi and Alex just have their own opinions and i would say they consult different sources of information every time they have to sort out something, like articles, friends, family and some professionals. Also, Alexa is a newborn and when you have your first child i'm sure you feel a bit nervous and insecure in general, and specially if you haven't been around much babies as Mimi said about herself, so it's normal that they trust other's advices, including professionals.
"hippocrates"
lizab I didn't notice xD
lizab lmfao im done
1) English is not my first language. I want to see you all speak my language fluently,is laugh at you 😂 2) watch her video about delivery story and you'll know what I mean
I Love how open and honest you guys are.
Just watching your regular vlogs gets me inspired to work on my dreams✨can't even explain why
It doesn't even matter how bad my day has been, even when my day has been just ok. I come on here and your vlogs are just light! Pure light! Thank you for that! 😊
A mama of teenagers here! You are doing a great job with her! Wish they came with a manual on how to do it right, but really there is no right way. She will get better at feeding and you will get better at knowing exactly what she needs and wants. Parenting is a learning process. It teaches us so much that we didn't know. Live in and love these moments with her now cause you will blink and she will be getting ready to go to school, blink again and she will be grown. Take it one day at a time. Learn as much as you can from others. Surround yourself with other mamas young and old who can help give you advice. Keep on getting up every morning and making yourself beautiful and head outside as much as you can. Baby blues are a real thing don't discount them nor feel embarrassed by them. And always remember "this is just a season, the season will change soon enough"
As difficult as breastfeeding is I miss it so much! Good for you for sticking with it, it's definitely not easy, and you're definitely awesome for being such a strong mama!
It does get better but it is so intense. Add hormones and...well....I don't know one new mom who hasn't shed tears over how hard it is. You can get through this. This stage will not last forever. There are other hard stages but it does get better. You remind me so much of how I was when I had my son. I was so independent before and it was very hard for me but I am so glad I went through it (and am happily about to again). You're doing a great job. Much love to you!
Gosh, I cant handle the her cuteness.
Start storing up milk.....That way you can see if she's really nursing or just wants the comfort. There is nothing wrong with pumping and also it will let Alex get a chance to feed her. Mimi you are doing great she has grown so healthy and beautiful. Thanks for sharing....
The love running in your family is so infectious. You make me want to be a better woman, a better mother and a better everything!!! My son used to feed as much, he was a guzzler as well especially during growth spurts. Its normal, it will get better when she is old enough to eat solids. xo
Mimi, i hope you read this. Breastfeeding IS NOT supposed to take 8-10 hours a day. Especially not when Alexa is 7 months old. It should not be more than maximum 30 minutes. That too is rare. Usually it should only last 10-20 minutes per side. I am talking from my own experiences and experiences of my family and friends. And now that Alex got this procedure done, please give it a few weeks until she learns to feed normally and with less time. If she continues to take as long as she does now. You should get it checked again because it should not take longer than 10-20 minutes. Plus, do you know when she gets done from one side? Like can you tell if she is actually sucking out milk or if she is just sucking on am empty breast? Because in my case i only produced 10 minutes worth of milk on each side and my baby would just suck on an empty breast for as song as 45 minutes. It took me months to realize that she wasn't getting anything out after the first 15-20 minutes
hiba syeda she's not 7 months old
hiba syeda Alexa is 2 months
hiba syeda she was 7 weeks* not months ! interesting comment thank you
hiba syeda what about pumping? I'm thinking mother's pump milk and preserve it to relieve the constant strain too, is that right?
totally agree. Sometimes when I complain, I think about all the blessings I have and like you said feel guilty for even complaining. Love that quote Alex! It's not happy people who are thankful, it's thankful people who are happy.
I did not think Alex and Mimi could be more full of love. But then Alexa came along and they are even more cute.
Mimi I love all your videos, but this is my favorite right now...that magical moment when you are with Alexa telling her to smile for us and say hello, that was so zen, so beautiful I don't know how to explain...for the first time I have no words.
Mimi, what about bringing a bottle of breastmilk with you guys so you don't have to go home just to feed her? I did that with my baby, it worked well for me 😘 love your videos!!
Alex sounds like your rock
I totally agree! It will also give you the possibility to check exactly how much she's drinking!
Katie J. Overreact much?
Look for conflict much?
Geez...
This was a perfectly friendly suggestion about the bottle, that Mimi doesn't have to take ...
"Gabble Away", "old petty know-it-all", etc....
Yeah, I am thinking you are definitely definitely looking for conflict.
Moving right along now.
ha this is awesome
I totally feel you on the intensity of having a child. My daughter is 2 years now, and I dont have enough words to express my gratitude and love for her, but phew it can be so hard. I have always been alone with her, and she was not a fan of sleep the first year and sometimes I wonder how I survived. In the beginning I had a lot of pains with breastfeeding (blisters, infections) but I am SO glad I pushed through and kept doing it. It does get easier!!
And curly hair is beautiful and perfect, also! :)
Hi Mimi ! I'm 21 so I can't judge anything of being a mother.
However my mom used to tell me that she wasn't able to breast feed both because she didn't have milk and also because I was not collaborating 😂 I grew up with formula milk and soy milk ! I am totally fine now, I go to university and I'm a very healthy girl. I am very bond to my mother anyway. If you don't feel right breastfeeding I don't think you should force yourself , I imagine it is very stressful, but not breastfeeding will not make you less of a mother. Sending you lots of love and support 😘❤️ kisses from Italy
EMILY BARTOSKI You are absolutely right. You either hear that you bond better or that breastfeeding is better for them. If the baby is thriving on formula then I see no difference. Also what a mother eats goes into the milk. I never breastfed and my daughter is almost 30 and fine. She tried breastfeeding with her 2 and 3 year old and again with her 4 month old. Just didn't happen, no big deal.
EMILY BARTOSKI. Yep, my daughter is 1 and is formula fed. And she's obsessed with me, she sleeps with me and my partner. And I can't even be on the other side of the room without her following me.
hey mimi dont worry! it will be easier! breastfeeding is hard.. i know that for sure...our baby was so thirsty too all the time... but you will see maybe in a few weeks alexa will change her feeding habbits. breastfeeding is hard at the beginning but later it will be all good. My son is now almost 6 months the nights are still tough from now and then but thats how it is..every baby is different :) sending you lots of love from berlin!
Thank you sweetie:)
Mimi Ikonn u r not alone. Breast feeding can lead to mental breakdown, it really helps to complain n rant about it as much as u can. Especially when you r a working woman, it takes away your independence. If u r sad about it, try pumping or even formula. I remember doctor telling me to quit everything and go on nursing vacation n I did not wanted to do tht. I started pumping n it lasted for 8 to 14 weeks. But doctor saw what was coming n she begged me to get formula. U will find ur life so much better n no it doesn't do anything bad to ur child. My baby is happy n healthy n all those nice things n NO IT DOES NOT EFFECT Your BOND With the baby, it can actually make it stronger as u r more happier n u can deliver that, have skin to skin time instead but for ur n Alex 's mental peace try formula. I honestly think breastfeeding is easier when u r mentally aware tht u r always gonna be home n no work with lots of family to take care of u r talk to u. But the kinda lifestyle u have it's always gonna be challenging. Not tht u have a bad lifestyle but give urself a break n baby will be full for more hours also as breastmilk is thinner than formula. Good luck 👍👍👍
Just enjoy the moments You are not alone! I'm still giving breastfeeding too.
Eileena Ley
harjeet Nahal actually mothers milk is so much better for the baby instead of formula. The imune system will be better if you breastfeed thats for sure. there is nothing more natural than giving your baby the breast and thats the natural way of bonding. ITS JUST THE BEGINNING where it is hard. My son is 6 months old now and breastfeeding is so much easier now because i know when he is ready to have some more milk (which is every 2 or 3 hours).
You did the right thing! I am currently a dental hygiene student and that painful two days saved her years of speech therapy and dental problems down the road! Parenting is hard, I have two baby boys. Don't worry, it gets easier. This stage won't last long, try to enjoy it and remind yourselves when it gets hard.
Thanks for posting this video! My son went through the same thing - he had his lip and tongue tie removed after 5 weeks of very painful feedings. It was such a difficult time in my life as I was constantly in pain and feedings would sometimes last an hour (but I actually had to unlatch him most of the time and cut feedings short because of the pain). After a few weeks of getting the procedure, I healed and he learned how to use his tongue/mouth much better. He's now 18 weeks and feedings are much shorter and painless. So yes it does get better - much much better! I also had the support of a positive partner who helped me when I felt I couldn't go on. We sacrifice so much as mamas but our hearts are full as we look at our little ones and know we are growing a miracle! Xo
Thank you for sharing that Tasha
This was such a heartwarming vlog! 🌞 I melted in a smile everytime you showed us your cute little munchkin! ^______^ ahhh. My heart is filled with joy and love for you guys! You are an incredible mom! ❤
Such a little beauty Alexa is! She has grown so much❤
You guys made one really cute and beautiful baby girl. I'm serious she is super adorable!!
Мими , Алекс - Вы замечательные родители , и малышка просто потрясающая )
удачи Вам и терпения )
Watching you guys do those exercises with Alexa is awesome. The way you talk her through it even though she's an infant is awesome. When she's older and has to go to the doctor or do anything medical and you speak to her like that it'll benefit her! That's exactly how we're taught to "handle" children in my CMA program. I love how confident you both are when you do those exercises too. Children can sense your energy and to be confident helps a lot!! Love watching you guys grow!!!!
in footage where you've just went out (about 7:50) you look like your sister so much! Usually you're quite different, but in those moment you were sooo similar to her! It's beautiful ❤
Camilla Caloi yeees! i saw that too :)
Camilla Caloi seriously!!
Camilla Caloi omg I saw that too!!!
i thought the same thing!!
Mimi...i really loved this...loved how real and vulnerable you allowed yourself to be. when you spoke of Alex not complaining etc. and how you went over to him. oh i just love yall. my first child did hour long feeds too. i remember having quiet meltdowns. it gets easy fa sheezy
Mimi, can you do a video on essential things for the baby that you found helpful?
Also, Mimi I'm so grateful for your honesty. I am pregnant and I find this honesty very helpful in helping me prepare for my baby. Thank you.
Yes, planning on it :)
Mimi Ikonn vvv v
Yes please I'm waiting my baby girl on 6/12 happy Sagittarius xx
Congrats Diana!
Girl welcome to motherhood u stay in the home all day,u wanted it
How did u possible think u go out all day? Mothers stay in all day why have a kid than.
I just don't understand because there's so many girls who love being home all the time yet don't have kids,or most men are attracted to motherly type. I don't see u as the mom type
Why are you so agressive? She can do whatever she wants. It seems to me that she's doing great, she has a baby but also a personal life. Maybe you are not allowed to go out from time to time, but the rest of them mothers cand enjoy their life. Who told you to stay locked in the house if you have a baby? How can you be so closed minded?
Halfway through the video and I've just realized I've been smiling the whole time :) It has to be 'cause Alexa's beautiful smile! Thank you guys for being so positive and sharing it with us!
Thank you for being so real and authentic in this video Mimi. It's encouraging to hear about other people's struggles
Mimi, little Alexa looks so happy and healthy. Yes, this challenging time will pass. My second child loved to feed for hours--for me, I pumped and supplemented with bottle feeds once a day. This freed time for "me" time. My husband was happy to have the bonding experience as well.
Also for the record: my nipples were ripped to shreds and bleeding like crazy! I cried and cried. It's so good to find other new moms and get a network for yourself going that are going thru what you are that TRULY get it. It's ok to cry! It's ok to complain! You can still be thankful, and cry and feel alone some days. 🙏❤️
Hi Mimi, I'm a mom of two kids, girl and boy. I breastfed both of them through the first year. I can tell you, it was the same experience with both of my kids as what you're experiencing with breastfeeding. I felt like ALL I DID was breastfeed my baby, ALL DAY LONG! It was easier with the second baby, but with first, I breastfed her through, blisters, cracked and bleeding nipples... Please don't stop! It will get easier, I promise :-) Nothing is wrong, it's all normal. She is not only eating, she is soothing herself while breastfeeding, she is using you as pacifier too. I KNOW WHAT YOU'RE GOING THROUGH! I've been there and I was asking the same questions you're wondering about, like when it will end?! It will get easier and believe me you will miss this time! It will get better with each month! At 3-4 month, you will start to introduce her to juices and soon after solid foods. You can try to pump your milk and introduce her to bottle. She may not like the bottle at first, I can tell you, she will fuss and cry even. She will be confused and will prefer a boob over a bottle, you can't blame her though. But will get used to it. It will give you a bit of change.
SZ 0917 what's wrong with pumping and alternating every day with bottle and breast
+okiloki That's what I was wondering, too. I'm not breast feeding all day long through blood and blisters. Nothing wrong with a rubber nipple.
I breastfeed my son for 1 year and I NEVER had blood or blister! It's not normal to be in pain when you breastfeed and it's not me who say that but all doctors or midwives I saw.. If the baby position is good you don't have pain.
For the 1h hour breastfeed it depands of the baby. My son was a fast one. In 15 min when he was very little it was good and after it was mabye 5 min.
Love your honesty, she's healthy and happy! Enjoy the slow moments, soon she will be running around!
omg that is painful, it's soooooooooooo painful, I was the same, and very upsetting, I was an emotional wreck, torn because I wanting to feed but I cried through each feed in pain!
Amy Lilley snap xxx
Amy Lilley I hope you feel better now
Amy Lilley breastfeeding is not supposed to be painful. Check Dr Jack Newman's videos for help...
Daily ups and downs yes thankyou 😊 that was a while ago. it was really traumatic, and I stopped after 6months :(
Amy Lilley That's good no more Pain
Your honesty about your life is beautiful! It really allows people to connect with you and Alex. Thanks for sharing your experiences....remember that everything is temporary and will transition--- stay beautiful!
I used to dislike breastfeding I would cry and be in a lot of pain. What I didn't realize is that I needed to change my attitude about. I was so worried about if I was doing it correctly or if my baby was eating enough. The minute I did that I experienced the best and my milk came in and most of all I had a happy baby. Also breastfeding for a hour is normal. Breast milk is mostly water and gets digested super quick formula sit in the stomach. I successfully breastfed for 1 1/2 years.
First time mom here. My baby is 4 weeks today and the first few days I almost went to formula it was so stressful. I'm thankful I didn't give up now but I know how hard it can be. No one should judge anyone for this. Someone gave me a tip that when a babies hands relax they are full and might just be sucking for relaxation and they don't need to continue. Maybe that's why it went on for an hour? You can put a finger in her mouth and if she unlatches she is good. If she is hungry again she will let you know!
Hi mimi breastfeeding does get easier but for ur sanity (after Alexa gets the hang of breastfeeding since her lip tie removal) u should try introducing a bottle just so u can get a break! It's probably one of the best decisions I've ever made. It's gives me some ME time. If u decide to do it, keep in mind she might not take the first bottle u introduce, u might have to try a few different ones. And I noticed she doesn't use a soother is that right? Just a suggestions (not telling u what to do so people don't freak out) if Alexa just cries sometimes for no reason u can try a pacifier. It's human nature babies wanting to suck on something. Be patient. Everything gets better. Every stage has its challenges though so be prepared! U have a good support system. Take care :)
Oh and if u decide u want to introduce a bottle u should look into these two pumps. The medala and the lansinoh double electric pump. Almost everyone I know uses the medela but I use the lansinoh. It's a double electric pump and it works amazing. But it's $160 Canadian instead of $400 Canadian for the medela lol. I needed a cheaper but efficient option. A ton of good reviews on the lansinoh! Hope this helps. :)
Lol sorry another thing. I also top her off about twice a day with formula just to make sure she's getting enough and full.
Hey Riri, absolutely we should be very understanding and recommend alternatives if things aren't working well, but bottles and pacifiers can actually be even worse for breastfeeding in terms of nipple confusion. There is no reason why you should need to top up with formula for a normal healthy baby - your body makes more than enough if you are breastfeeding on-demand! Things will regulate and get better.
+Lydia Boon my daughter gets very fussy sometimes closer to the end of some feedings and won't latch so that's why i top her off and I find it works very well for us. As for nipple confusion babies are smarter than we think lol, she will be fine. I just choose a slow flow bottle nipple so my daughter still has to work for it.
+Lydia Boon oh and as for the pacifier I'm
So glad my daughter takes it she loves it. My daughter sometimes like to comfort suck on my breast but as a mom and wife I have things to do around the house so I can't sit there for her to comfort suck lool that's why I give her the pacifier. I'm
you guyz are AMAZING parents she is lucky to have you both as parents. 😇
Mimi as a breastfeeding Mom of three I highly recommend you get a baby carrier like an Ergo. You will be able to feed your baby anywhere hands free. It's easy to get on and off. It's how I was able to feed my kids, get things done, run after my older kids at the playground, etc.... I've even used it at many school meetings, parties, vacations, museums, theme parks, the grocery, restaurants. It will make your life so much easier. You guys are doing a great job. Good luck!
omg that baby is so sweet!!!!! LOVE seeing her little face
You can also pump and bottle feed breastmilk until the baby is older then go back to direct feeding at like a month or so
You all have such a wonderful sense of positivity and calmness. I love and truly enjoy watching your vlogs.
Alexa is getting so big! So sweet 😍💕
Mimi don't worry you are not the only one who felt that way. we are all grateful for healthy children but it is normal to miss your freedom. and I can understand that you feel guilty from feeling like you miss your old life. but it is normal. not to worry . enjoy your lil angel!
A 35 minute vlog!? Awesome :)
My little baby girl watches your videos with me all the time and it's so cute to see how much attention she pays and ever since Alexa has been on the videos I noticed she really enjoys watching other babies and their behavior
Mimi try to pump and put it in a bottle so you can feed her on the go. The bottle is also easier for the baby to eat and the Alex can feed her while you go out.
my goodness she is such a beautiful baby, the smiles are wonderful to see!
Too much positive is annoying. Alex is annoying and not realistic. It's normal to feel depressed, blue, anxious, or frustrated when you are a new Mom. We can still be thankful about our life circumstance, but be having a tough day. Alex, don't remind your wife about being positive, just empathize with her, ok ?
Love your videos, so peaceful and calming .You are such a positive mind and I love you for that. Sometimes I read through the comments and there are so many rude and disrespectful comments that I just cannot understand.. However, I appreciate your videos and your positiveness and to me, you are truly an inspiration ♡
What if your milk is not enough, heavy or thick (enough calories) for her? But if she is growing and gaining weight I wouldn't worry about it, also if she is not waking up at night as much to eat she is making up for it during the day.. Usually especially first two month new Boris wake up every 2-4 hour to eat so she is making up for it during the day!
Breast milk is not thick.
Carol Wilson yes it's true some women produce very watery breast milk and other produce thicker breast milk.
myriam t this is a big myth. A mother's milk nutritionally has everything the baby needs regardless of consistency.
If you do a simple google search you will find an endless plethora of research stating that breast milk is perfect and contains all the nutritional and fat that the baby needs. There is no such thing as too thin milk or too thick milk. That's an old wives tale
Beautiful video, its a blessing to have both of your parents there to help out in the first few months.
Hi! I got married a year and half ago and love watching your blogs especially now that you are a mom! I have an almost two year old nephew who I love so much. I've learned so much about babies just by seeing my nephew grow. One thing I wanted to suggest is when you guys are massaging her mouth her eyes are upwards and she's looking back wards doctors and friends who have kids always said not to make sure babies and infants are facing up like that because their eyes can roll back. Pointing it out Bc I saw it was a long period of time. It may not be big deal to you but just something all moms and doctors told us over so many years! Hope baby Alexa continues to grow happy and healthy
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I like how they filled their old fireplace with candles. Very creative!!!
Yes motherhood is hard but so rewarding and I tell myself babies are little for a short time. Don't feel bad when you complain because when there's lack of sleep and frustration with breastfeeding then we get emotional. I would say after three months it's easier don't give up! When they get older the bond is stronger and it's hard to quit breastfeeding after lol. My son woke up every two and three hours at night until I stopped breastfeeding it was hard but now I miss it. My son used my breast as comfort so I made him take a pacifier at three months. So you can try giving her that to soothe her. Maybe try pumping and giving bottle to have break? I kno some moms breast feed and do things lol it's a talent. Yes I understand you I was born in Soviet Union too and came to Canada when I was one. Life here is much easier than when our parents lived.
Thank you for sharing sweetie:)
Nice to see that not everything always is going smooth! But, you are an amazing mother and you have a lovely daughter. Enjoy the time you have with her.
I breastfed all of my 3 children. I remember with my first child feeding for about an 45 minutes to an hour each time too. And it seemed like constant feeding too. Sitting there for that long was so difficult, but I learned to just go with the flow. I think that my breastmilk did not flow that well. I had difficulty pumping milk too. I produced enough, just not much came out at once. It was the same with my other children as well. Sorry, it didn't get better until they started eating solid foods. I did find that it got easier psychologically when I just figured out how to adapt my life to feel like I wasn't just a feeding machine. My husband helped a lot by just being available to take the babies when I wasn't feeding so I could just stand up even! 😂 So, you and Alex are on the right track with him carrying her and being responsible for other types of care. The daddy bounce is magic! You're doing great! 👍🏽
You're both beautiful parents and your baby girl is so precious. Congratulations!
i had similar experiences.....but have to tell you for sure its not a entirely feeding, she uses your breast as pacifier, when she feeds you should hear her swallows. that usually lasts for 10-30min at first, maybe 1h in the very beginning when learning, but for a 6 weeks she got used to you and use your breast as pacifier.
Alexa is so adorable! You guys make such a cute family, and I am so happy for all of you!
Alexa is SO beautiful!!! looking at her you see pure love.
Mimi being a mother is a huge challenge but with love you can go through all the obstacles. you are doing an excellent job!!
Congratulations and please make a photo of that moment Alexa is looking at the camera with you, you both look so beautiful! nice and blessed girls! love you both. kisses from where it all started: Rio de Janeiro.
I think you both are pretty incredible parents from what I'm able to see in the vlogs! Alexa is absolutely beautiful!
My baby is 3 months now, breastfeeding is easier now.You are doing so well. There were times where I also would have break down, but now I'm just getting used to him.
My little one would feed for hours and then throw out everything he drank, it's really sad, then I started using the pacifier and it got better, I feed him with one breast for 10 to 15 minutes and then burp him and then the other breast for another 10 minutes and he would fall asleep and then I stick the pacifier into his mouth and falls asleep. I think you should try it too
You are seriously the cutest person ever. I love how much you adore your daughter. Alexa being this little will go by so fast and I feel like you are soaking in every moment of it. ❤️ loved this video! ❤️
12:30 omg she looks like Leyla!
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Yup did it for 2 years straight with both our kids! It IS hard. And it's truly the hardest but most beautiful Job in the world. Just wait until she is walking/crawling. Each phase is very challenging in its own way. Nobody understands like another mom. So you're not alone! THIS IS HARD! The men won't truly get it:) be easy on yourself my love. You're doing great!
I love you guys so much.. you guys are goals 😍😍😍😍😍
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Alexa is so loved by you and Alex!! Such a sweet family!
Hi Mimi, even though I'm not a mom, but what I can say is that when my mom had my little brother 12 years ago she breast feeded him for the first months and then made changes like breastfeeding when she could (cuz my mom is a professor) so what she did was breastfeed when she can and bottle breastfeed. So if you're looking for another alternative for the days when you want to take a "little break" just bottle breastfeed and have it with you when Alexa is hungry.
I know that your situation is different from my mother's example, but here's another alternative to consider. :) You decide what's best for you and Alexa. :-)
Dorianne M Acosta hi Dorianne that is a great idea. personally I think mimi and alex are resisting change. they are both very stubborn and until they realize it's not about them they will be in pain. I watched two or three videos and in every video it is all about them going out or walking or restaurant. Have you seen any toys around the baby or some musical instruments or anything visual or colorful that baby's enjoy so much. It seems to me they are trying so hard to continue with the old life when in reality everything has changed. just my thoughts.
She is just 6 months. Babies up to 2 months dont really need toys, bears etc. You can always play the music tho but they play it, you can hear it in the background.
But with one thing I agree - they seem to be sometimes small minded and assured of their right for 100% while they're not.
ooo sorry I watched further... she's 8weeks now I guess. so they could think of smth for her
asmrsounds I still think it is very crucial for a baby to be exposed to at least holding a small squishy toy so she can feel and hear sounds. I think it's time for them to realize it is not their world anymore. Mimi was very sad that One just one day she couldn't get out because she had to take care of her baby. I'm sure she is a wonderful mom and loves her baby. But it's time to wake up. She might be a mother, but she is not motherish.
Agreed. Now, since Alexa is 8 weeks it's time to let her explore new things
My son has a lip tie and i remember myself feeding him on a bottle literally for an hour everyday feeling really frustrated and crying all the time for having a sore back pain. I truly feel you! you're very strong and trust me time will fly quickly. It'll get better as she grows. Lots of love to you and your family
And think of all the mums (it was my case) who are all day long alone because their husbanda are at work. at least you have Alex who cooks for you while you feed her and helps with everything.
It is very normal for feeding to consume most of your days for the first few months. She is growing SO much every day, breastmilk digests very quickly, all normal! Both your and Alexa's health will benefit in the long run, and it helps having such an amazing partner supporting you all the way. ❤️
Alex i agree with you to a point but if something is not working. its ok to try something different. life is about finding with works for us. Breastfeeding is amazing if it works but if you're spending your whole day breastfeeding..its not working and that doesn't make you a failure.
Mimi And Alex 2016 has not been a great year for me, however using the 5 min journal for the last 8 months, i have captured the smallest blessings, the greatest smiles in the shortest moment, that vanish into thin air, when fighting depression.
Looking back during defeated nights at my 5 min journal (grid review) reminds me its actually ok. so it enables me to look at back at positive things only - thank you for creating an amazing tool.
Glad to see the baby wrapped up nice and warm when outdoors.
You can do it Mimi! I breastfed Liam til 2 don't worry it gets better with time.
Thank you Mimi, Alex and Alexa! Love your energy! Thanks for sharing your experiences! I'm so happy for Alexa, she looks so great!
I guess is at two years old they became to be call as an infants. Lots of love from Argentina!
Aww such a beautiful lovely baby.
Mimi, i can totally relate to being stuck in one spot nursing all day long. as much as its such a sweet bonding moment, it can be overwhelming! Remember it definetely gets better and as they grow they need you less and less which is a sad thing too! Keep in mind - the days are long but years are short!!
Oh my goodness she's such a cutie!!
Yes Mimi! The feedings get better and shorter! I had similar struggles...my daughter is now 7 months and for the most part the days are now a breeze and a joy!