How to Cope With Getting Older | Real Talk with Elliott
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- Опубликовано: 12 сен 2024
- Let's face it, we all get older. It can be hard to look in the mirror and see a tired, wrinkled, gray haired reflection of yourself looking in the mirror.
But if we shift our perspective on what getting older means, maybe we can learn to embrace the aging process.
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Hi Elliot, I’m 62 and my greatest fear about aging is not so much about getting old, but being unwell or frail. There are worse things than dying. I work in aged care and I see this each day people wishing they were not here because they have very little quality of life.
At 79 I thank God for my ability to still be able to go for my walks & still live an independent life! Thank you for your wisdom!!
I recall saying to my Father in Law on his 80th Birthday, " Wow, you're 80!". He replied angrily, " NO, I'm RON".
haha, I'm going to keep that exchange in mind when someone exclaims I'm old!
LOL
I love it‼️
Well said Elliot! I’m 58, still working, still running, still enjoying my family and friends, still loving life. Long may it continue x
That sounds amazing Anne! That's great inspiration for me!
@@ElliottConnieSpeaks Dude you're changing people's lives by listening to them and making videos that help people cope
Thanks for such an inspirational message. I’m 70 years old and I’m truly thankful to still have my health, strength and family. Sometimes I forget that I’m old and surprised myself when I see myself in photos. I don’t immediately recognize that older woman. God is good.❤
It's mostly people around you who talk about your age and assuming you're too old to understand the time we live in. I call it 'the arrogance of youth'. The life experience you have is wisdom and in your heart you're still young. It's impossible to explain to young people. I'm 74 years old and have seen it all. The good and the bad in people. What keeps me going is my curiosity about life, the world, science, art, human experiences. Growing old is not easy. It takes courage. Like I said: the worst thing are younger people around you who treat you like a fool. They are clueless. If they're lucky they might reach your age and have your wisdom.
Amazing! Life changing perspective. On my Dads 75th Birthday I said to him, Happy birthday Old man- he said to me… well .. you will be blessed to make it to my age, with a wink 😉 I’m 48 and it was that comment that made me realize the Blessings of AGING! Not everyone makes it there. So congratulations to the Man who wrote in on this question- you are blessed!!! Smile and wish everyone the same. ❤️
Your dad is right! It really is a blessing, and something I'm looking forward to! Have a great day, Patricia!
Amen. Aging beats the hell out of the alternative. Thanks for the reminder! Good Luck in your new venture!
100% agree! Thanks for your kind words, Tommy!
LOVE your point of view, Elliott! I have most certainly struggled with getting older in some ways, BUT, I LOVE that I am constantly discovering "newness" in me...and even a more loving, more kind, and more compassionate person...Life's experiences....good and bad...Are now paying off, in surprising and delightful ways.
Well said, Cheri!
@@ElliottConnieSpeaks Thank you!
I sometimes look at myself and I think wow, old! And now 45 seems so young to me! Perspective shift! But I do yoga and meditate daily and, while I get tired more easily, I am strong and healthy!
It’s not the getting older part that scares me, it’s the fear of not knowing what’s to come and the fear of being alone forever. Most of my friends are now in long term relationships. I have never had a relationship that’s lasted one year. I’m just afraid of being left behind. I am fairly successful in the aspect of financial success. But that doesn’t really mean anything to me. I just don’t wanna grow old alone.
Same
@@mitch5222 we gonna get through it bro. Just don’t know how yet
@@michaellarrick8881 I am not that attracted to older woman anymore. So i really dont know how to handle it anymore. Maybe just a friend i dont know. Maybe a question for Elliott?
‘Dominos Tuesday’ is a great little novel I got on Amazon about a group of senior citizens on their last legs who throw caution to the wind and take a dangerous sea voyage on a small craft in the name of “going down swinging.” It’s one of those books that I know I’ll reread one day. (Elderly - tough elderly - dying with your boots on.
Hi Elliot, I’m 62 and my greatest fear about aging he’s not so much they’re getting old, but they’re being unwell or frail. There are worse things than dying. I work in age care and I see this each day people wishing they were not here because they have very little quality of life.
Elliott, I think that it is 💃🏽 wonderfully wonderful 💃🏽 that you have decided to make a new video regarding aging. I think that what you will have to say will help SO MANY‼️ I also know that this new journey of yours will be just as rewarding as your clinical channel, if not MORE‼️ God bless you for reaching out to help a group that is so often forgotten about. Which is interesting in itself because the very way that people look down on aging, one day (if blessed) they may be “the aged” in the future, and they would NOT want that (to be looked down on) for themselves‼️ It’s like being a pedestrian (at some point, we all are) we see them when we are driving but, we try to go around them or hurry them out of the way when war are driving but, at some point, we’ll be walking and we wouldn’t someone to hurry us out of the way. Society NEEDS MORE BE INTROSPECTIVE‼️ I’m a new member of SFU.
God Bless 🙏🏾 You‼️
Hi Lorine! Thank you for your insightful thoughts! That is so true that those of us who look down at others for getting older are very much likely to receive the same treatment once THEY are old. Definitely a good perspective to keep in mind before we pass judgement for others based on their age.
Welcome to the SFU! I hope you enjoy your time in our solution focused community. We are happy to have you here! And thanks for commenting on my video!
Thanks Elliott for sharing your thoughts about aging! Much like you, I love that I'm alive and aging well at 68. Can't wait to see what I'll become or look like at 69!
I'm so happy to hear that, Delores! Cheers to you!
How timely! I live in a community of 55 and older. Just TODAY, I was talking to our fitness director about what I can do to bring my SF wellness coaching skills to my fellow residents. And of course, aging is a key focus in all of this. I most definitely subscribe!
That's an amazing coincidence Julie! I hope this video sparks further conversations and thoughts so that you can help your community! That will be amazing!
thanks. I reaaaaally want to do this
In addition, ALL of my family of origin were robbed of seeing themselves age....one sister of mine passed at 47 years old. My other sister was only 59 years old. My only daughter, was a baby and didn't even get to experience life, as we have been blessed!
I’m 70 years old, and I’ve survived 3 occurrences of breast cancer over a 25 year period, early detection was the key. I am just glad to be on the planet, let alone looking young. I love your video here, it is cool to see how we look in our older age. I like all these bags and sags, lol…we’re blessed just to reach a certain age.
As someone who recently turned 60 and had a very hard time accepting it, I absolutely LOVED this message. Thank you. ❤
Elliott, you just gave me such a different perspective on something I do struggle with, and for that I am so grateful! I follow your videos and attend your live sessions, thank you for creating this new channel so we can better help our clients and ourselves.
I'm glad I could help your shift your perspective, Kristen! There is no shame in growing older. I hope you find my new videos super helpful and inspiring.
I’m 31 and I’m just trying to cope with not being relevant anymore and everything I like and grew up liking being “old”. I still play Nintendo games and do kid stuff. I had a traumatic childhood and I cope with anime and video games. But when I talk to younger people it makes me realize how much time has actually passed and it does scare me to not be cool anymore. I’ve gained SO MUCH WEIGHT and I feel fat fat fat fat I’m almost 300 pounds I look at my video from 15 years ago and I had these skinny little arms and I could look down and see my thighs because the stomach wasn’t there. Sorry I’m rambling just tired of this
‘Dominos Tuesday’ is a great little novel I got on Amazon about a group of senior citizens on their last legs who throw caution to the wind and take a dangerous sea voyage on a small craft in the name of “going down swinging.” It’s one of those books that I know I’ll reread one day. (Elderly - tough elderly - dying with your boots on.
Lose the weight then, don't be going blaming that on your age. Thin old people exist btw.
That's an awesome perspective to pass on to older clients and to keep in mind as I age myself.
Yes! I hope your older clients find value in this perspective!
I'm still fairly young myself, but this gives me hope for growing older. It won't be all that bad!
You have a vibrant life ahead of you!!!
we have a senior group at church ,and material like this is what i like to see keep it coming.
Thank you for this heartfelt and insightful video. It is a gift to age and experience all phases of this life. Thank you for making my life better and more hopeful. your videos are so inspiring.
I'm glad this video was helpful, River!
Wow that's just what I needed to hear thank you. Instead of getting depressed about our sagging jowls and wrinkles etc we should be embracing the fact that we have actually reached an age to even be able to see ourselves aging as many many people have never had this privilege. Well said Elliott you have actually got through to the depressive state I've been in regarding this as i have never looked at it this way before.
Well said!! You not only offered HOPE, you enticec an expectation to see myself in the future! And as I journey into the future, I want to share encouragement, wisdom and hope to support others to keep a'goin.
Beautifully said Elliott, you touched my heart and brought me out of my sad and depressed feeling
WOW!! Such perfect timing! God is always one step ahead of me and guiding me in the direction that brings me to just what I need when I need it. I am in the midst of getting an advanced degree in Marriage and Family Therapy, and I want to be an effective, no more than effective, I want to be a wise, impactful, compassionate, and merciful therapist. The one thing that seems to creep up on me (and that I often find myself struggling to shoot down) is my age. I still think of myself as vibrant young woman, who is just starting out (and often I feel just like that) but then I realize the reality of it all is that I am not JUST starting out. The thing is, I have been, and continue to fight against the temptation to think I am too old. Honestly, I believe it is because I have been listening to you tell me I can do it! Not personally, but in every video, in every training session, in every email, you tell me I can do this! God is still on His Throne and I keep listening to Him, and He keeps bringing me back to your work. Thank you for this, Elliott! You may be waaaayyy younger than me, but you have such a heart of love for people. I'm going to keep pressing in; I'm going to continue to press forward. I look forward to the things God has in store for me.
You are going to do amazing things on your journey, Amy! Best of luck to you in finishing your advanced degree in Marriage and Family Therapy. You will definitely change many lives!
Amen. I embrace my aging, my beautiful grey hair and wrinkle free face at the age of 68. I just had a birthday and thanking God for the peaks and valleys of my life. They have mostly been valleys,but God continues to give me breakthroughs. I’m waiting for my miracle
I hope your miracle comes soon, Oneida! Keep being amazing!
@@ElliottConnieSpeaks thank you
Did this so much, this is great. I’m older and now I’m going to look at getting older like I’m going to get to see the full movie.
I just love you Elliott!!! You are so encouraging, wise and full of love and inspiration. thank you for being so courageously transparent!!! What a great perspective to see getting to see ourselves age as a gift. I love your generosity in sharing your beautiful heart Elliot!!!
Thank you so much for your kindness, Teresa! I really appreciate this comment!
Insightful message!
Thanks for watching, Denise!
This was a great story, and I appreciate you sharing this. I’m 59 and can relate 💯
Totally agree Elliott, I'm just grateful to be here still 😊
Yes, same here!
I never looked @ aging that way! Thank you Elliott! ❤
Thank you, I needed this message more than you could know. ❤
love this
Thanks Scott!
I’m 42 and now 20 year olds call me Sir since I work traveling and stay at hotels. Thank you Sir. I never thought about age until recently when they say Sir. I have recently come to terms with I’m old
Bro, I'm 17 and some 18-year-old boys called me sir when I taught them math via videoconference, their face when they saw me in person still makes me laugh Xd. People will call you according to an image they have in their head, don't give it importance. I am not a native, I do not live in an English speaking country, I am sorry if I wrote something wrong.
This is the best thing I have ever heard on the internet!
I'm so encouraged by your perspective on aging. I wanted to mention that COVID lockdowns have sort of made it feel like everything needs to be three times as strong or big or eventful given the fact everyone had to stay home for three years or more, just wanted to voice my concern that music concerts and other sporting events might be more crowded, heated and fueld by drugs (some that are designer and much stronger) and alcohol, stay safe, God bless
🤖that Google maps bridge has not been built
Interesting perspective. Thank you!
With the Asian culture we value aging that why we don't call each other with just the name. the age reflect how many years you contribute to your community whether what you do. Otherwise, I can't be survive this world with all the disease, hashing weather, and human failure.
Love this
Thank you for sharing this part of your culture, Mary! I appreciate your perspective!
I love this perspective on aging. Thanks for sharing it!
Thank you Elliott...You're the best 😊
Im currently 27 years old but i cannot shake the thought of aging. I am having fears of aging and i was reminiscing my earlier years when i was a teenager or when i was 21 or 22. But ever since i turned 26 last year i noticed that my views in life had shifted and everything seemed so... repetitive and boring. So i thought that it was because of my brain being fully developed and mature now. So here i am at 27 feeling scared and nervous to even turn 30 but after watching this video my perception of time has changed. Im starting to associate aging with growth. And growing is a very good thing in this wonderful life. Thank you and may god bless you all 🙏
thanks man, thats helped me at 46
Yeah i am working now and there is many 17 years old kids and they call me sir i am 41 and yes it sucks getting old my father is 73 so i am scared
❤
And yes people today don't respect age
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I'm 37 and petrified
Hmmmmmmmmm
Makes absolutely no sense bro
Blacks look younger
Not all