The uncomfortable truth of getting older
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I'm envious that you came to this realization at 25. It took me 40 years to get to this point. You mentioned it will take time. My one suggestion is to not wait. Do it now. Slow down now. Set a goal to to accomplish half of what you want in a the course of a day in the next few months. The compounding affect of the greatness you can achieve once you slow down and focus will be nothing short of shocking to you.
Myself included. I turned 35 this year and it wasn't until 2020 or so, when life slowed down around me & I began working remote, that I began to understand the importance of living more slowly & deliberately. Less is indeed more & letting yourself focus on fewer things at a time only results in a better outcome. Whether it be learning something new or pursuing a creative goal, taking time to sit with ideas & concepts is far more productive in the long run than rushing or trying to figure out everything all at once. Thanks for this excellent reminder today!
Beautifully beautifully said.
Another 40s included here 👋 same same
Am 19 years but i swear i feel like 40
I lost my mind at 25 into full blown psychosis see how long I could go after 3 months I made some crappy story about being able to give people sex changes through playing guitar. I probably could.
As someone who is about to turn 55, my analogy for your desire to start slowing down is this: Life when you are young feels like sampling the hors d'oeuvres at a party, where you put a little bite of everything on your plate and eat while mingling with the crowd. As you get older you realize you want to sit down and enjoy every bite of a one dish, hopefully with people you love.
From another almost-55-year-old, I love this analogy! I may need to steal it!
Excellent analogy.
Wow, as a 23 year old this is beautiful
This is such a great analogy!
"I cannot approach my life in the way that I used to". Ooft. That hit me deep. I turned 25 this July and I feel the same way that you feel. I remember my teacher in school used to say "if you think of going through life as having a map. The map you use to get from 16 to 18, is not going to be the same map you use to get from 25 to 30". And I think this can even be applied on a micro-level. I've changed quite a lot in the last 6 months, so in a way, my approach has changed and I cannot do things (and don't want to do!) the way I did them 6 months ago. Thank you for another insightful video Nathaniel
Can relate!
what do you exactly mean by this? is living your life like it’s a map a bad thing?
@@sparklymud7168 I think it's more about how the perspective of the map changes with time. The map isn't good or bad it's just the way you lived those years I presume.
As someone on the eve of his 40th birthday, listening to a 25yo talk about getting older reminds me of many of the same thoughts I had at your age. I'm not here to tell you it gets better. It gets different and you gain a different perspective.
An honest comment.
I just turned 40 this year and I have a clear memory of thinking 25 was very old (when I was 18)😝 I have come to look at my life in chapters. Every chapter has different challenges and obstacles. I am also a ICU Nurse and my career path has taught me that every single day is an absolute gift, every breath is a gift and every year I age is a gift (I often think of how many of my patients didn’t make it to my age 😔). One thing that has come to me unexpectedly in my 40s is how comfortable I am with myself at this age - I completely accept myself - flaws and all. Cheers to another year and to another opportunity to fulfill goals and dreams.
And judging by your pfp you have kept your beauty! You’re right the key is to accept yourself and your path. Everyone’s path is different
Reminds me of one of my favorite quotes, "Nature does not hurry, yet everything is accomplished." Lao Tzu. I've tried to remind myself that there is no overarching concrete 'goal' to my life. Of course I have aspirations and smaller goals I want to achieve; but there is no end point, all we have for certain is right now. And for me the focusing on presence and the now is a really grounding way to slow yourself down.
I watched your video together with my dad today. My dad is 75, I'm turning 25 tomorrow. When we were watching the video, I was constantly reacting with 'omg same!' feeling so understood with everything that you're saying, while my dad just smiled and went 'yeah, I remember this'.
Both my dad and I are chaotic, passionate people like you, only my dad handles his chaos in bigger chunks and at a slower pace. I guess this is what you are talking about also. Thank you for making this video, it was fun watching it with my dad
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Wow ❤️
I am 24 and my dad is 75. It’s cool to see another like me. Good luck to you both ❤
@@masonklein that's so cool! Good luck to you too!
You two have a really sweet relationship. I've been going so fast that I haven't had time to form deep meaningful relationships because I've been viewing them as transient. That gets lonely as you can imagine, so I wouldn't advise it
@@masonklein My dad was 50 when I was born. We should start an old dad support group 😂😂
I used to think 22 was older-mature age because I was a teenager. But when I reached 22 I realised 22 is still young or definitely not old. The boxes, limit or checklist based on age are the ones we only put. Sometimes it helps, majority of the time pointless. Just learn and grow no matter what age you are in. Your life is yours, no one else can get the exact life you have or other people’s life that you can 100% duplicate.
First off Happy birthday! Second, your twenties is made for discovery. When I was your age I gave birth to my second child. I knew I wanted children and I wanted to have them early so I could enjoy my life in my 40’s. I raised my children, went to school and worked hard so I could and now that I’m in my 60’s I’m so glad I did.
You my love are on the right path. I follow your Dad’s channel and I know your parents are good people so you and your brother come from the right stuff. Take your time and just enjoy what life brings your way. You are far ahead of alot of other 25 yrs olds so just listen to what life has to offer. You will be okay.
I'm glad I had my child young too. I started a second career in my late 40's and have been having success at it. I'm 58.
I am 32 and not rolling my eyes. My mid 20's were hard because most of my friends were starting to have their own lives. I could see it happening but it took longer for my brain to accept these changes internally. I also, struggled with self-identity at this time a lot.
When I was on the eve of my 30th birthday and I saw I didn't have a bank account,a partner,a mortgage or any of those "milestones" or 'rites of passage' or whatever they are called I stopped trying to live the 'approved' way......and ended up having a really enjoyable life.
I don't know if it's different for young people now but when I was young it was like,a tacit promise from society,if you play the game and follow the rules a b c your reward will be x y z. But it's a lie of course.
@@janebaker966 yep. there is no right way in life. We are all on a different path worth living
You've done and figured out more at 25, than most of us at 45 (me included). You have *nothing* to worry about. You're most definitely on the right path. Always remember to take it slow, enjoy life and to always be a "kid" at heart.
I’m about to be 39. I learned this lesson early on similar to what you are learning now. I take my time. I don’t over burden my life with things I don’t care about. I also despise being late. I know how valuable my time is and I can’t stand the thought of waste someone else’s time waiting on me. All the best as you nose toward a more fulfilling time management for yourself.
You're only 25 😭😭 god I'm frigging old
I cannot believe I look up to a 25yo. I'm almost 40. Very wise fellow. Hey, Drew, you have helped me a lot! thanks!!
This is so crazy. I turned 24 a few days ago and made a video about some of the things I've learned. Damn near IDENTICAL opening about the different stages of our lives almost feeling like individual lives of their own. I've always really related to your videos but this is just nuts man.
These ideas always feel like they come from within but stuff like this makes me think these ideas have to be universal or coming from something outside of myself because you and so many others seem to come to them on their own. Literally started making videos because of you one year ago and it's really cool to see you wrestling with the same ideas that I am.
You've inspired the hell out of me dude and I hope I get to meet you one day. Happy birthday and good luck with the next chapter!
These kinda comments make me feel actually how similar we are as human beings keeping all the aggressive success stories behind, brings me peace 🕊️✌️🌿
This quote from Chris Williamson’s podcast really hit me
“What was adaptive in one part of your life will be maladaptive in the next”
I think you are ahead of the curve. You were working full time at 17 so now in your 20s you are realizing what some don’t until their 30s or 40s. As we develop and grow as individuals what once suited us or drove us won’t anymore because we have evolved. That is the beauty of life we don’t have to be the same person we once were. We can find contentment or even joy in new ways of living or experiencing life. I never really understood the idea of living with less and slowing down until my 40s but I’m beginning to embrace it more and more while still experiencing all that I want with whatever time I have remaining on earth.
I can really relate to the path you’re on - grind, grind, grind in my late teens and early twenties. That led to a lot of success and helped propel me to where I am now, but it gets tiring.
Add getting married, having kids, pets, etc and you’re really forced to slow down to have a more balanced life.
Ah Nathaniel. Yes I rolled my eyes, but also was impressed that you realised that life is ever evolving. As are you. Life is about learning from mistakes, figuring out what works for you (and what doesn't), what you are looking to get out of life. And what is particularly impressive is that you are realising this at your age. Many don't figure this out until much later in life - if at all. Well done.
I turned 25 last year and I remember I was really scared and not excited it about it At All. Now in hindsight it’s because of all these expectations I had placed on my self and felt like I wasn’t who I wanted to be and didn’t even know how to get started because I always placed myself last.
I felt like 25 was a very transitional number for me. I started making small goals and putting in the work that I needed to be who I wanted and it definitely took being more intentional with my time and who I was giving it to. So for me it was slowing down too- I’m still learning how to take things slow but 26 thus far has been nice because I’m learned to start living in the moment.
Thank you for this reminder!!
Turning 25 next week, and I relate 100% about the internal narrative push! Cheers to bigger and better things and moving on from old work habits! Love ya, dude
I felt this when I turned 25, and am still dealing with the guilt of "not doing enough". I was in a million things when I was in school (IB, AP, dual enrollment, online courses, kickboxing, etc.) and when I got out, part of me didn't want to stop. I started doing multiple degrees and online training and certifications. It wasn't really until now though, at 27, I'm starting to realize that I worked so hard so that I could relax, and not slowing down is letting down past and future me.
also 27. This feels relatable. There's so much we should be grateful. Let's take a bias for action and do the things we want to do, but don't forget to smell the flowers
38 here, not rolled eyes:) happy birthday, Nathaniel!
Thank you for this video. I switched from 10 years of freelance to full time job in a company in March. And man that’s is so stressful, I hold creative position of an art director, but doing creative stuff 8+ hours a day 5 days a week is bringing me down so much. I feel suffocated. Money and stability is well, alluring, but I don’t know how long I can bear it. Slowing down was my gradual plan over the last 8 years or so, and now I am supposed to grind like a mad woman. It is experience that teaches me something for sure now. Keep on doing what you are doing, you bring so much food to my brain ❤
Me turning 30: oh fuck, my life is going to end
Me turning 40 last week: ...anyways 🤷🏻♂️
I only turned 24 a few months ago, but I really needed this! On one hand, with only 1.5 years of work experience, my career has really just started. But it's at this point that I realize that I can't make the kind of progress I want without making sacrifices to other things I've been doing. I really felt it when you mentioned wanting to do less things, as I've been sitting myself down lately to ask myself what things I'll have to leave behind as I make my own shift into the next chapter my life.
But I think you really nailed it; just like how you now upload less frequently but with major improvements compared to your older videos, growing up seems to be about prioritizing quality over quantity.
Funnily enough, I did go to an orchestral concert too for my birthday this year. I'll be sure to go big for my 25th - and not be late 😂
Congrats on turning 25! For your age, you are definitely doing well. Just keep taking things easy and don’t put so much pressure on yourself because as we get older, we would always want to do more.
So just continue to enjoy the process and looking forward to more of your videos!
Truly amazing video!! I am 44F and I have been where you are a few years ago. Assessing my life and needing to make big adjustments. 40 hit me really hard. Suddenly I was able to see the finish line so to speak. It freaked me out. That was not how I wanted to spend the 2nd half of my life. But life is like a huge boat, it takes a while to change course.
It is my belief that the new obsession of "achieving our dreams" is the new rat race. It very cheesy but the present moment is the only one that we truly have. I only fully realized what it meant recently. I try to be more present and for that I need to slow down a lot. It is hard in this society but soooo worth it! I am the happiest I have ever been.
I am from Austria, 50 and grinning right now - but sitting here watching your videos and enjoying it - so relax, everything is great! Life is great! Just keep it up!
I love this so much. I spent all last weekend agonizing over the fact that I didn't have my next video finished to post on Monday, but I also knew that my mental & emotional health just weren't in the space to finish my message for my video so I decided to actually listen to my intuition and just wait for my mind to become clear. I want to only create and share content I'm truly proud of, and since I'm literally sharing my inner healing journey and all of the wisdom I've gained, the most important component of my work is my own personal health before the videos/messages themselves. Thank you so much for sharing these little, but super impactful, messages with us because I know I'm not the only one who feels this way.
I am nearly 25 and this hit hard. I, like you have spent the last few years trying everything I can to stay outside of the States, but at the cost of moving continuously. I love moving, learning cultures and languages, but I miss having the time to think creatively and develop deep relationships to places and people.
Hear you loud and clear Nate. Definitely I don’t think anyone expects you to bang out hit after hit every week (and if they do they’re crazy) but what I would love to see is just an occasional update. Doesn’t have to be anything high quality but just more so weekly check in about your life or “weekly reflections”. Yes, we love your high quality content but we also just love you and your story, and it’s good to see a regular check in to know you’re alive lol, but despite what you end up deciding we’ll support you. ❤️🤗🤟
I've just started my day with this video. How humbling and self aware. Makes me self reflect. Tahnks you Nathan!
Life will constantly present you with moments of contrast. I find it interesting that you're realizing and reflecting on these shifts in the Germanic-speaking part of the world, which is extremely punctual and prompt compared to other places you've lived in prior. The world will constantly reflect to you the patterns and behavoirs in your life that no longer serve you. It's not a coincidence you were in Austria and you found yourself shut out of a gift you intended to give to yourself. Had you been in Latin America instead, it likely wouldn't have mattered if you were late. But as you said, you're in a different place now. You're maturing. Your desires have changed and the universe is reflecting what it is that you need to do in order to move forward. Keep doing this kind of internal work. You're doing great.
That's great to hear! I myself am finding it hard to slow down, but have noticed that when I do I am far more at ease and content with the existence/path of my life. I'm trying to work on this mentality, fingers-crossed I succeed!
I also just turned 25 and I'm for sure going through a quarter-life crisis. Like you, I've spent a lot of my life sprinting and trying to achieve the next big thing. Now at 25, I am slowing down and taking some time to really think about what I want out of this life, who I really want to be, and what I really want to achieve. For the first time in my life, I'm living presently which is so weird but nice. Good luck on your journey! You are not alone in this :)
Losing a parent at a young age helped me wake up to life. Life before my dad dying was comfortable and easy. When his cancer progressed and suffering started it changed everything in my teenage mind. Memento Mori
Love these thoughts! Thank you for sharing them, Nathaniel. I'm 22 years old, but like you, I lived a very fast and passionate and hurried life until now. I convinced myself I wanted very lofty academic goals since I was 12, which I reached and am grateful that they opened up many doors for me to have the financial freedom to explore what I want to do. But this passion, as you express - estas ganas ardientes to change the world by myself - made my relationships more superficial and hurried, my travels snapshots of culture instead of experiences, my health second to everything. It also made it hard to trust others. Now, I'm trying very hard to live a slower and more intentional life. Deep work requires it!
Happy birthday Nathaniel! Enjoy every moment ❤
Wow. This reflection of yours really couldn’t have came at a better time. My birthdays tomorrow! turning 25 is seen as something monumental because just a second ago you were 21 but in reality many years has gone by and it just shows how quickly things happen. I have done many things in my life so far, and even then I still feel that I am not where I want to be. This “shift” you talked about is something that I kept repeating in my head over and over, even more so this year, but it won’t happen unless I change from that young child to that 25 year old who will get out of his comfort bubble to progress his current stagnant life. It’s a process for sure and I know it will happen.
But you don’t know how much joy and hope you bring me with each story/video you put out. I really look forward to what the future holds because we’re all going through it! Happy belated birthday 🙌
Happy birthday !
My midlife crisis was at 25... felt like a failure... had to leave work that day... but no other birthday has affected me like that. (Over 50 now)
Great reflection. I suggest researching the nervous system + polyvagal theory to get a better understanding why the rushing feeling became your baseline. Then learn how to balance it to create new patterns, so that taking time for things fits the new baseline.
Happy Birthday!!! My favorite life tagline these days is UNHUSTLE and be present while also still progressing & learning
i had a similar thought going on in my head in the past two weeks, I’m so glad u talked about this in this video! it made me think even more clearly about this new feeling of mine about life
Great video!! I'm really enjoying this candid short. You should incorporate these more.
The way I see it, you did the sprinting to get here. Now that you've built the foundation, take your time thoughtfully building the house so you can change it up and renovate it as your taste and styles change over time.
Maaaaan I relate to this on such a deep level, especially around minutes 5 and 6. Not often I feel like I align with a video like this, thank you for making this
Thank you for this video, it makes me think a lot.
I turned 24 a few months ago and it hit hard. I had just quit my job, I was hired to be a filmmaker/motion designer but I was actually paid to spend 90% of my time pressing Ctrl+C / Ctrl+V. Moreover my company did not align to my core values.
Here I was, 24, unemployed, single, not much things in my cupboard, not knowing how to move forward in my life.
I think what hit hard is the difference between the expectations I had as a kid/teen and the reality. No I dont have my own appartment/house, no I don't have a job I love, no I'm not starting a family and most importantly no I don't really know what I'm doing in my life.
Objectively my life is great, I have a family and friends I love and can count on, thanks to unemployment benefits I still can afford for my rent and food, I have a lot of hobbies. I definitely need to accept that life is not a checklist to complete. I don't have to rush toward the next "normal stage" of my life. I need to take the time to experience things, to reflect on it. No I don't have a job because I decided to put myself first, maybe that was my "next stage of life", let's wait and see how it shapes my future.
I think it's a good thing to hear when you're still in this previous phase. You're a great person to learn from, Nathaniel.
I love how real this is. I hope you keep yourself accountable.
This video was sooo relatable.. loved it! So many great little gems 💎 here to take from. I feel like sometimes it’s hard to end one chapter in our lives .. especially when we don’t know exactly where the next chapter is going. I guess there’s something special in the perspective of not just slowing down .. but being open to the fact that the next chapter may feel slower or just completely different .. and that’s just perfect. There’s a book that I’m still reading and highly recommend called IKIGAI - The Japanese Secret to a long and happy life. It’s been sooo instrumental for my particular journey ❤ Greetings from Hawai’i 🧘🏽♀️🌺✨
I am so pleased to have discovered your music. Exactly what I want to hear at this time in my life.
turned 25 in Amsterdam this year as well and feeling a lot of the same.. Seeing someone else share what feels like transcripts of my private thoughts is an... experience lol..
If you're ever up for a coffee to share stories just lmk
This was a great watch !
I’m so glad to embark on this journey called life with you
This is the video that i need right now . I feel so relaxed about the fact that i can listen your thoughts. Your brain is comforting me. Because most of the time your experiences, struggles, thoughts about life is just so similar with mine’s but with a difference. You always come up with a pozitive realistic and comforting perspective .After watching your videos my concern about something is just gone. I feel calm and my mind become brighter. So thank you a lot for being our lives and sharing your mind. Lastly i’m sorry if my English is bad i try to do my best. :)
I am 84 days away from my 28th birthday and I am having similar thoughts like yours.
In trying to juggle my online content writing, my novels, my personal essays, and trying to stay up with Instagram and Twitter, I am spreading myself too thin to do deep and impactful writing.
And yes, juggling did work for a year for me, but now I am noticing diminishing returns on my effort.
Which why I am stepping down from Twitter, almost not using Instagram and lowering my goals to a reasonable and sustainable quantity and pace.
Art, REAL ART, can't be rushed. It needs its time to mature. And so do we.
I couldn’t feel more related (being left outside for a while waiting to enter a concert in Vienna because of arriving late included).
Thank you SO much for sharing, it makes you feel like we are part of this weird path we all walk inevitably: to undersand that we all have to deal with getting old somehow and do different things to be happier is hard and necessary but incredibly rewarding.
Thank you and cheers to arriving punctual!
When I turned 25 it seemed like I was so clear in my path and that there was room for fooling around and making a couple mistakes was socially accepted, whereas now it feels like I have to know exactly where each decision is going to take me and it's very overwhelming bc i truly love so many different things at once, but have absolutely no idea what to pursue or what to let go, or if I have to let go necessarily. This started to happen the moment I turned 30 (I'm 31 now) and the label society puts upon us is so exhausting it just makes me want to go back to, say, 27, where I didn't feel under a microscope and the world seemed full of possibilities. I'm sure you'll be able to find your path and your happiness bc you've been asking yourself the right questions. Keep up the good work, Nathaniel! I truly am a fan of your work and your language skills bc in my case I speak 4 languages but no one else on my circle seems to be as obsessed with communication as I am hhhhhahaa. Anyways, take care!
Really needed to hear this. I just turned 20 about a month ago and this video really changed my perspective on everything I'm currently doing in life. Thank you very much for making such an important video ❤️
Tomorrow I'm turning 23 and I'm kinda emotional and then you post this video and I kinda want to cry! Getting older is scary, honestly, but this last year have been the best year of my life and I never thought I would say such a thing. You've been a big inspiration for me, they way you think and express yourself is amazing and has added value to my life.
It's so odd to me how we are just two strangers but throughout the life of your channels I've often found that you somehow are struggling with the same questions, changes, realizations, and phases in life as I am. Some of your success must be due to the fact that you capture something so universally human. It's a privilege to share this path with you!
this was the first time that I listened to one of your videos without the watching it because I couldn't and I realized that it's amazing to just hear you talking, you speak really well and I would gladly listen to an hour long podcast of you just talking about things
This video is directly talking to my soul, I'm 23 rn and just like you I've too been late to things... 5 mins late, 10 mins late. I too have been getting more conscious on how I want to live or what practices is essential/ will make my life richer. I'm feeling this push internally but it's almost as if my brain doesn't want to comprehend it. I'm nervous bout the change as well, but this video comforted me in knowing tht it will take time and I'm not alone in this drastic change... Thank you for doing what you do and being a light, Happy birthday dear one
First of all, feliz cumpleaños Nathaniel!! Your creative energy is something I can relate to. You want to do all the great things at once. In this journey you have moments where you are forced to pause and reflect. My reflection came at the cost of my health, I started having asthma attacks after being diagnosed 10 years ago and had to get an inhaler. Well, the literal cost of breathing made me look into myself. I need to do things with intention in the moment not just the intention of doing said thing is enough. I hope this is making sense. Watching your video made me realize that it’s ok to let go of my second job while juggling 6 classes in my final semester of Uni. As well as getting to my multiple manuscripts with proper intention and time to do it. Life goes by quickly and time has no regard for our understanding of it.
Thank you for being you and being true to yourself.
In my early 20's, I was just messing around and trying to explore the world as much as I could, travelling from one place to another acrossing continents, so to me the time flied really quickly, and 25 was my greatest age as I recall now from the age of 33. A year later I was to fall into a deep depression from a relationship that lasted until 6 years later. I wish I could get on a time machine and tell myself that everything is going to be okay.😄
yea man i can relate, long relationships ending like that are soul crushing, but you move on and it's up to you to keep on the path of creation or succumb to destruction and self hate.
Congratulations on turning 25!! Could totally relate! When I catch myself in such moments I ask myself "What is the rush?" and then my body and mind slows down a bit. On reflecting found that I was "optimising" my life for doing as many things as possible in the given time. Now trying to optimise for joy :)
Greetings from Vienna. Nice to hear that you’ve had such a fundamental experience/realization in my home town. Happy belated birthday & i hope you enjoyed the rest of the concert.
Hi Nathaniel, happy delated birthday !
I don't relate (yet) exactly to this reflexion on age, as I'm 22, but as this year I have to deal with uni, homework, internship, a thesis and trying to enjoy my exchange abroad, I had to make a change. For me it was cutting instagram and multitasking. I've heard many times that multitasking is not more productive but it's so tempting. Doing only one thing at the time really helps me now, and also it calms me, it's more peaceful.
I also had to chose priorities, as I can't do everything now. I only see my close friends, work and one or two hobbies. And I'm happy with that. My mind is more peaceful and I'm more happy and grateful for what I have.
Good luck on your journey!
First of all: thank you so much for sharing your journey it really has sparked so much inspiration in me. Secondly: I'm really glad to hear you feeling the urge to actually slow down to be able to be present with each thing you do. Please do it, because i had to make the experience of manifesting those stressors in my body that turned into illnesses and fell into a burn out. Listen to this intuition of yours! much love
Follow your unique individual path! Nice background music.
I want to commend you on having the awareness to notice... the patterns in your life... the way you do things... and the way you think about things. So many people just go through life doing what is expected of them. You took a very independent road earlier than most, so at 25 you are actually very ahead of the curve. Kudos to you for taking the time to reflect, and choosing to change how you do things. You are right, there is a rhythm and energy to each stage of life. And yet sometimes, as individuals, we choose to live in a different way. I am 68 and at the beginning stages of my third career. I am loving it, as I have taken all that I have learned in previous careers and combined them into one thing that is the culmination of a lifetime of experience. Happy Birthday Nathaniel. Slow down and enjoy the ride. It's amazing to be alive, exploring, creating and enjoying every step of the way!
You INSPIRE ME! Many thanks Nathaniel ♾
I'm excited to read your book. I love your stories.
Love your content, your personality and your approach to life. Thanks for the depth of your videos, they always make me reflect, draw parallels with my own life, and encourage me to slow down and try to live in a more meaningful way. Happy birthday xx
Hi Nathan,
Thank you for making this video.
I really relate to your story and i am also about your age..
I have started really early since i was 18...
I have been juggling everything in my life at once.
It brought me sucess but it started to feel exhausting as i age, the energy changes , the stress levels changes.
Also the people around me are mostly taking life at normal pace.
There is hardly anyone that i could relate to.
So thank you for sharing this and saying it out loud
As much as i tell these words to myself.. i change slowly but not much .. i just started to say NO to some stuff.
Which i am proud of doing.
One last thing i enjoy yur videos so much, its very inspiring.
I am also frequently late to most of my times commitments because I do not give myself enough time, and when I do I think I can squeeze in something extra that I probably should not. It is a crummy feeling knowing we could have controlled the situation better, so you saying you can’t continue to live in the same way as you used to really resonates. I want to be able to live my life slowly, not rushing around everywhere stressed about not being on time and missing important events. Learning how to do this may not come easily to me but I am willing to try because I am worth it. ❤
I feel the same sense of examining internal narratives in my sixties. I am almost never late to anything, but have felt rushed working FT and going to school. You may find that examining the level of perfection and performance that you demand from yourself will help you to limit projects. It also may help to anchor yourself to a regular (weekly?) meeting group of friends, not necessarily creatives, with a leader and a course of study like reading and discussing a book together. Pick the book. Create your own accountability group for change.
Happy birthday, dear boy. 🎂 😋 I’m 54. I’ve been watching and enjoying your excellent and thoughtful creations since the lockdown. You are so very mature for your years, I’m sure you hear this a lot. And this is good. Very good! I had this “pause button” moment in my 20s, too. The fame+fort game, I noticed, always has the same ending for folks who are connected: a gnawing at one’s insides that seem to ask: Is this really what I want for myself? “Life gets richer and more interesting…” indeed! Especially for people like you / like us l who take reflection and life lessons to heART. ONWARDS and keep going, young hero. You’re on the right path. Always. 😇
I feel so completely aligned with this message and you kinda confirmed that this is also what I need to do. Today I uninstalled instagram in an attempt to lose the feeling of needing to instantaneously reply to the outside world. Thank you Nathaniel I can't tell you how much your content impacts my life positively. ps I am visiting Paris for my birthday and I hope I get to bump into you although it is a huge city :)
Sometimes I struggle a lot with making myself clear, especially when discussing this kind of abstract questions. That's why I really liked what you did here: 0:18. Like, going out of your head and expressing something in terms that are clear even to someone who had not yet encountered such a perspective or idea. I can see it a lot in your videos, and maybe this is another reason why your content appeals to people so much.
I can absolutely relate to this. Before I used to put so much work on my back, constantly having to do something. Recently I have learned to pause and slow down so I can reflect more and also actually enjoy the process rather than rushing through life
Happy Birthday! I recently had a birthday and really f e l t it this year too...both how far I've come and what parts need more attention going forward. Keep following your heart, it is all we can do.
Hey Nathaniel! Excellent content as always. What you put on youtube is true art, and I think it will age like fine wine 🍷It's my birthday today so this vid is timely! I would love to see more frequent updates on this channel, and fewer, more meticlously crafted uploads on your main channel. Your attention to detail is staggering! I would also love to read this book you're working on eventually
First of all, happy birthday! I turned 25 this year as well and gotta say that 25 is really a big number for me. It hits me real hard when I ask myself which paths I want to pursue as a lot of friends seem to settle their life in a certain way that makes me feel intimidated. All pictures of future, jobs, and life I have imagined my whole life are totally different! lol But life is life. We still need to find our own ways. Sending care to those who are finding their ways. and yes don't rush. enjoy the moment of life ☺️
I'm about to turn 28 and I relate to this in terms of going slower/not rushing - but I think if I do things more intentionally, I'll do more meaningful work than I'm doing now. I'm sure you will feel fulfilled even though this is a big change in your identity :) Happy belated bday, looking forward to more reflections from you!
I get you on so many levels! Im 25, a kindergarten teacher, a professional runner, and I have multiple side gigs. "Moments" like birthdays triggered reflection for me as well and hearing you articulate my thoughts into the universe makes me feel less insane for considering slowing down.
Sometimes we overlook subtraction as a way of improving something. The art of taking away can produce amazing results. Great video and good luck to you!
With my birthday being tomorrow, this video had perfect timing.
oh wow, you expressed such complex thought pattern so flawlessly!
Happy birthday! ✨🎂🥳✨
I just had a birthday, too. Always a time a reflection for me.
The lateness thing might be resolved if you see it as the time is not only yours. Being late for a concert impacts the players seeing the empty seat, the other concert goers having their revelry interrupted by a latecomer being seated. A concert is a communal experience and your attendance enhances the performers and other audience members!
If you lean into being an empathetic person, seeing punctuality as a service, as a gift, as a sign of love and respect for others (and yourself because less stress!) literally showing up for people is a great way to think about it.
I do not mean this in a shaming way but in a way that when we show up it serves everyone as well as us!
I'm so impressed with people who are able to have self awareness, reflect on how things are going and then enact changes. And I know you figured every 30 year old was rolling their eyes at you being shaken by turning 25...but I have to tell you, as someone who is well over 25, that age hits MOST of us kind of hard. And yeah, 24 was fine, 26 will be fine...there is just something about that quarter of a century mark. Happy belated birthday. Thanks for all the vids.
Great insight Nathaniel! I can tell you that when we slow down, things still go fast. I can count the number of times I've had to reset myself over and over and outgrowing old habits to build new ones. I am 41 now. I started slowing down when I became at mom at 30. Then I reset myself again when I turned 40 because the old habits that were stressing and lead me to burnout and anxiety which I did not like. You definitely will keep reinventing yourself over and over again throughout your life. And this is one of the best features of being human! I recommend you read 'Do Nothing: How to Break Away from Overworking, Overdoing , and Underliving by Celeste Headlee'. It has changed my perspective about slowing down. Thank you for your videos :)
I turned 25 this year and I felt a looot of stress during months because of some things that hit me. I feel you ! I guess we all go through this stage. But that's a beautiful process ! I am still going through mini crises it's just the beginning haha ! Merci !
Hey Nathaniel,
Thank you so much for this video. I always love how you inspire me (and all the others watching your videos) to think about how I want to approach my own life. I'm 20 right now and I kind of feel the opposite way 🤣 at the moment I'm traveling by myself for the first time in my life, and I absolutely love it, I feel like I want to travel all my life instead of pursuing the path that society wants us to (school, college, working, etc.). But I feel like, in order to get to the point of doing this (traveling all time and being independent) I have to work a lot first to get the financial stability, and I am not really sure how to handle this situation at the moment.
However, thank you so much for the inspiring video 😍
I can’t believe you’re only 25, feels like you’ve been around a long time.
Oh, Nathaniel... You have accomplished waaay more than most people on this earth by your age. You are amazing! And it is amazing that you are having these realizations now. Wherever you go, whatever you decide to do, I can assure you that you are doing the right thing and you're gonna reach great success and leave a great impact. And there's no rush. The best, the biggest things are only yet to come, you are only entering now the summer season of your life!;) I would say, invest in learning. Learning and observing. You are inspiring. Thank you!
I just noticed as far as we are alive our story is not over!!!
Nathaniel you are so aware and reflective, bravo para ti
Turning 30 this Thursday, I have been thinking along these lines. I guess I too need to work on changing some of my behaviour patterns. Cool video ❤
Imo this is the honesty and story telling I have come to expect from your main channel, no captain sinbad-esque cuts of random laughing or clickbaity titles, just an honest assessment of a change in the everyday
I was just thinking how great it would be if you wrote a book! Go for it, looking forward to reading your interesting views on the world.