I saw this video early this morning by chance as if it was a message from God! At 7 months pregnant now I have been stuck in victim mode in a mentally and emotionally abusive relationship, scared to get out because I already have a young child with this man and this would be our second baby. I have been stuck in suffering on and off with this person for 5 grueling years trying to keep this image of a “family” together while being unhappy the whole time and now risking my second child’s health every time I end up in the hospital from stress. I want to take responsibility for my own happiness finally! It will be hard and is every time we split up and I have to pick up the pieces and continue to take care of my son, and I’m sure it will be even harder with two kids, but this video was so inspiring it brought me to tears. WILL SMITH THANK YOU! YOU’RE RIGHT! My happiness, my life, and my children’s happiness and lives are my responsibility ALONE! I’m ready to stop throwing fault around, stand my ground, and be Responsible for My own Happiness! You have always been an amazing artist and star but today, even though I may be just another fan saying it to some, I just want you to know that you are an AMAZING and INSPIRING PERSON!
Tiffany Rodriguez ...... Through my line of work I met this young Lady some years ago, & she shared with me her story which is very similar to yours. She & her ex husband were married for over 13 years. Literally as soon as they married, he became a different man than what he was when they dated. He became an alcoholic, verbally abusive, an adulterer, at times physically abusive, she lived in fear at times. They share two very Beautiful children but, after giving birth to her first she knew she did not wish to share any more with him. However, they had a second & she had her tubes tied at that moment. I asked her, if she experienced such a hard marriage, why did she remain with him for so long??? She stated that she didn't want the kids to have to deal with a broken home (However, it was always broken within those walls). Through all those years she says she remained faithful even still. But still, he NEVER saw her for the QUEEN she is, as he remained to be the monster. She finally built up the courage to leave that marriage & was at peace as she was prepared to be a single mom of two very young children. Yes she was scared & nervous in making such a decision, but she knew it was best for her & the children... she had to be strong for them & not allow them to witness such a dysfunctional home. Tiffany, I'm not telling you to leave this man nor am I telling you to stay, but I do encourage you to be strong for yourself, for your children. If you wish for peace within your life, sometimes you have to make hard choices for the moment & peace shall come. Your children & yourself will appreciate it. By the way, that Lady I was telling you about.... we had become such good friends that it turned into best friends, & then I married her. I became deeply in Love with her & those two Beautiful little children & they became strongly in Love with me. I'm a very Blessed man because she's such an amazingly phenomenal Woman. God Bless you & your children young Lady. I wish you all the best.
Tiffany Rodriguez I was in a very similar situation years ago and it has been tough but ultimately has made me feel much much stronger. Jane Roberts Seth material and most lately, Abraham Hicks has turned on the light in what used to be a dark room. They may help you too. Good luck!
Tiffany Rodriguez 😢 I wish you nothing but the best of everything that can bring you peace and joy... You are an amazing young woman and your children are blessed.
Yep. You either have control (power) over your life or someone else does. When you're a child, your parent(s) have the control to make hopefully good decisions for you. Once you are an adult, it's totally on you. Learn to master and control your own life.
James Einstein was a true genius. So it’s not expected for many to understand his simple yet very deep messages. . I think what he was trying to convey was that the masses that stand back and do nothing to stop the few evil elite in control, have more power than that very small minority controlling the masses. It’s like the storyline from the kids movie, “A Bug’s life”
@Goldie O did you watch the video? By Wills theory, which I thought was spot on, he states taking responsibility isn't letting the person off the hook. Its essentially taking responsibility for your own happiness.
Alphascrub I must have missed the part where someone said it was your fault. But also consider that if you live in the US and benefit from the US economy then you benefit from the economy that slavery built. It’s not your fault, but you got something out of it.
This is one of the clearest and insightful discussion on shame, blame, fault and responsibility .... it is your life and your choice. Unfortunately we don't get to pick the shit that happens, but we definitely get to choose if it defines who and what we gain from it.
This is true. I was abused as a child and it pisses me off that I am the one having to pay for their crimes. But I use that anger to push me into healing and growing into the best person I can be. And I know my life is getting better while theirs is staying the same.
so very true. I was stuck in the victim mentality for a long time. My husband cheated on me and left me and my 3 kids. I have MS and was waiting for him to pay the child support because it was his fault he left me and I couldn't pay the bills because he left. One day I decided that nope...it wasn't his responsibility to make sure my stuff was paid. So I got a 2nd job and do the best I can. It is my RESPONSIBILTY FOR MY LIFE AND HAPPINESS....can't use the excuse of it is his FAULT FOR LEAVING, NOT PAYING CHILD SUPPORT, ETC.... love this Will Smith. love this and have mad respect for you.
jennifer schleicher Do agree with you doing all you did for yourself and your children.However (and this is not your responsibility) as a state or country it is incumbent for a family to flourish and function that there is financial support for single mothers (or fathers).Ergo there needs to be legislation to force absentee fathers to be gainfully employed and child support deducted.If the parent incarcerated the state pays the child support and claws back after release.A healthy family is key to many of society’s problems.
Well that’s the issue with a lot of young black men these days ….they want to blame racism and slavery for why this why that ….you have no choice but to grow from that and become the best you you can to change the world rather it be change you and your kids life so that u can start a new positive bloodline …. I lost it all in my life and none of it was my fault I was a child with nobody ….but it was my responsibility to me and my children to not let that happen to me again and not let that happen to my boys EVER IN LIFE ….pressure and heat makes diamonds baby let’s gooo !
I sent this to my now grown children and they asked when I talked to Will Smith! With them it was endless excuses (placing blame and deflection). For them to understand "taking power back" I would ask, "if you give blame to that, no matter how legitimate, how can you fix it?" Ultimately you can't fix it if you don't own it, AND revenge is not fixing anything. Fault does not equal responsibility, responsibility is not an admission of fault or guilt, and vengeance is hate only multiplying the problem. Thank you for sharing this!
oh shut the fuck up. a relationship doesnt do this to anyone. a stupid worthless man let a whore fuck his SONS FRIENDS , this whore was out here sexualizing CHILDREN AND WAITING UNTIL THEY TURNED 18 TO POUNCE. hes fucking and defending a female pedophile. you worthless ass people who blame a relationship in general are why women like smiths wife even exist. congrats you fucking clown
I've been in a state of depression for some time & isolated.. from being hurt by ppl from my past who I thought loved me..cared...a man who lied & used me knowing he was already committed..I was his secret & now I'm here struggling to start my life over from scratch..the woman I use to be no longer exist..I questioned my value bur knowing God loves me makes it a lil better & now I see this video tonight & feel that NOW my life has just changed!!❤️
Dear Mr. Smith: Last week, you and your lovely wife were featured in my high school, "Hero of the Week" high school lesson. We discussed your work in philanthropy and how you are using your talents and resources to help others. Teaching in an urban setting has given me great joy as I guide my students toward adulthood, and I want to thank you for helping them in all the ways that you do. The videos you are making may have lasting impact. Keep them coming!
See, there are people who are programmed to make every situation be their responsibility though, and they've gotten so good at it that everyone else in their life just sits back and lets them take the reigns.
Will Smith is my inspiration to never preach because I know that like him I can never live up to my words and not sound like a hypocrite. I gave up on role models long ago, there aren’t any.
Your parents are your role models, grandparents, etc. Everyone else you learn knowledge, wisdom, or specific things. No man is infallible. If you are looking for a perfect human, they don't exist. People with excellent character exists but it doesn't mean you won't ever see something you don't like that they do if you hang around them long enough.
Those 2 concepts don't negate each other and can co-exist simultaneously. Fault is about what caused something to happen (and preventing it happening again). Responsibility is what you will now do to overcome it. One is tending to the past, the other is the future. Both necessary and relevant.
Nonsense Videos Japan ナンセンス ビデオ ジャパン I like the message. I think some people stay in that victim mode because the ones whose fault it is maybe are not owning up to it. That can make moving on harder and that closure tends to help the process.
Ex. It's your kids fault the living room lamp is broken. It's your responsibility to teach your kids not to play football in the house so the house don't fall apart.
Whose fault is the hurricane or the flood? Not everything has a cause that can be blamed. Sometimes searching for the fault keeps us stuck. Waiting for an apology or for wrongs to be righted can take many lifetimes... but we must take responsibility for how we live life with our harms unclaimed, or unapologized for. We often find ourselves angry that we must move on. But staying stuck only poisons and imprisons us more.
And along with the awesome concept of fault vs responsibility, is the concept of not taking anything personally. Your life becomes so much easier when you stop letting things become personal
My name is Alexis Cabreja, my son is in a rehab program “Family First” and I saw your video on parents therapy. I would like to ask you to continue talking about this subject, I’m 51yrs old and we are still learning about responsibility and emotional behavior. This is the best country in the world, but I don’t understand why this country don’t emphasize about the mental accept. I don’t understand the same way we donate to other institutions why don’t we have affordable/funded programs for institutional behavior that we can attend to? Thank you for your video. God bless you!
After 3 decades I’m finally seeking therapy for what happened to me in my youth. Never expected to live this long. I thought for sure by now I would have died.
Thank you Will. You made some excellent points here. I know people who are just stuck in that victim mode and it seems to be a vicious merry-go-round. At some point, they need to pull the plug and move on. Singular moments in your life do not define who you are but they can certainly help you craft who you become. We all create our own destiny both good or bad.
Thank you will Smith. I have been going through a rough time the last year and happened to come across this you have changed my way of thinking. And changed my life. Means so much to me. You are amazing. And what you say is very in powering.
Thank you for taking the time to explain the difference between fault and responsibility. We have learned as a people to lay blame and assert fault, but never to take or claim responsibility for our actions or inaction.
Well said. It is certainly easy to be leveled by someone else's mistake which has negatively affected you; however, wallowing in the self-pity is no way to live. Blaming someone else for your own failures is one of the worst forms of self-pity in which one can engage. You summed up the solution to overcoming the Zeitgeist of victimhood beautifully!
This is so very true, when you keep blaming and never take responsibility you become a very bitter angry person because you never allow yourself to move on.... also forgiving and letting things that you cant change go is part of this too, that forgiveness is for yourself when you do this you dont allow that person or situation to have power over you or over your happiness... its like you let go of a weight that is taking down drowning you, when you let it go you feel free and are able to breathe again... weightless
Great idea to have invited Will Smith! It'a always a pleasure to see him on screen - be it the small screen of a laptop rather than a big cinema screen. Still a pleasure! Thank you!
Thanks for this. I need this so badly. I’ve been stuck in pain over what somebody said to me and years of trauma before that. It’s so hard to get all that off my head. It’s as if I was stripped of all self-worth. I am so angry and I get easily triggered. Recently I’ve started to harm myself and for some reason, it’s physically painful but emotionally soothing. Like I‘ve heard all these things Will is saying and can’t find the strength to apply them, but hearing them from another person somehow helps.
Will...Hey man. From the depths of my heart. Thank you. I cannot express enough. Your care to spend the time to say a few words to help many people are invaluable and will add to the positivity fabric of society. Your message will create a positive mental process that can be used to help many start over. the moment they hear your message. Its partly because the life you have lived. what we have seen and what we have not seen. still, you reached back with a hand and pulled many up and have strengthened your legacy.
There is also a vast difference between fault and blame. Many times we listen to folk that want to "blame" us for their condition. Please know that just as it is your responsibly tho own your growth and development, you can't make anyone else own theirs. That does not mean you pick up the blame for their condition. In trying tho fix their stuff, you waste resources that were given to you to handle your stuff.
THANK YOU SO MUCH. I HAVE HEARD" IT'S YOUR RESPONSIBILITY TO DO THIS OR THAT". YES I HAVE A RESPONSIBILITY TO TAKE CARE MY HOUSE, BUT, IT HIT ME AND IT HIT ME HARD I'M NOT RESPONSIBLE FOR TAKING ON MORE THAN I CAN HANDLE.
Very well-said. I wish this could be played for kids in school. This kind of message means more coming from a celebrity. I wish more celebrities would use their influence to support values and character versus politics!
AMEN WILL!!! If more people took responsibility for their actions, more things in this world would be fixed. "Those who have the ability to take action have the RESPONSIBILITY to take action"..Declaration of Independence 4 July, 1776!!
Willy, I'm from Mexico ... and I just want to tell you that your message, conent and conviction really make me feel empowered ... every friend, colleague and people I know I share this message because if consider it a foundation to be happy, to face problems and more impornat to take control to solve it. This is very inspiring and I'm used to re-play it at least every quarter to recall my self the power we have to move on in this wonderful life!!!! :)
a lot of so-called professionals in psychology don't want to actually help. but only help to manage what may be hurting us if they actually helped everyone then they would lose business. and be out of the job. :-/ I find its best to have friends that are supportive and understanding more so then talk to those "professionals"
It's partly true for psychiatrists also. I don't think there's malice though, but indolence. The easiest path is to prescribe tons of pills and that's it. Most of those people are clueless, greedy and just want their salary and not to be bothered period.
@@IRosamelia true, its always best to avoid the ones that barely talk to you and say here take these pills on the very first visit. its why I much rather talk to a cognitive therapist they at least will talk and not throw pills down anyone's throat
Thank you for this video. Take responsibility and don't let anyone make you live in the past because you didn't do it when they thought you should have. Everyday is a new day for change.
This goes hand in hand with other can “cause” us pain but we are the only ones who can cause ourselves to suffer by not dealing with the pain and healing it. So other can “cause” us pain and it might feel like it is their “fault. But it is our responsibility to make sure we heal and don’t suffer.
I am an avid #MentalHealthAwareness advocate and performer, and I love this so much. I travel the country trying to bring that awareness on stages, in classrooms, hospitals, and on my RUclips channel, so I get excited when I see other advocates. 💙❤
Will Smith if you ever see this, I want you to know that I love you and I am so proud of you! You have come such a long way, and life goes on too! Thank you so much for those powerful words, you have always been and still are my hero because you were always a tough hot head like my army dad! Now you know how to handle my anger because of you, thank you so much! I promise not to waste it, my rage was my shadow...
Wow, I needed to hear that Will, thank you! I wish I would of realized long before I did. People-you only have a road of a much harder surface than the one if you learn to take your power back in a “love myself” way. Remember that strength isn’t anger, or the ability to not get hurt, quite the opposite in fact. Be vulnerable, love fiercely and take more risks after you get hurt!! The opposite of love is misery all alone.
If our headstones in the graveyard of "Life Ain't Fair Eternal Garden" had to sum up our lives in a short sentence, would yours read "My life was everyone else's fault"? Make sure it doesn't. This is the only chance we get. The sun rose today on all of us and brought the same opportunities to all of us. Some are further back from their goals than others today. Some were given a head start and some were handed obstacles. A man with no legs climbed MT. EVEREST...(Mic drop)
Fault and responsibility is essentially the same thing when something goes wrong. "Fault" usually connects in our mind with "who is to be punished" And "responsibility" connects with "who is in charge, who can make a change?" However If a responsible (for something) person makes a mistake it will be their fault. Make no mistake these two go hand in hand. For Exmple. "Its not somebody's fault if their father was an abusive alcoholic" but it is also not their responsibility. "Its for damn sure their responsibility to figure out how they gonna deal with those traumas and try to make a life out of it." and it's also damn sure, their fault if they dont! If you partner cheats on you it is their fault and their responsibility. Your reaction to that event is your responsibility and your fault, if the reaction is making your life worse. Punishment is not revenge, punishment is there (in theory) to make someone realize that they have made a mistake, consequently to make someone learn. Admitting your fault, (not fault of others) is esential for your progress and your advancement, do not corupt that mechansm. My advice is - never shift fault, learn from your mistakes, clearly understand your responsibilities.
Absolute truth! Taking Responsibility (taking action) is the key to change the world! And achieve greater survival For all! Is one of a human’s greatest abilities! Let’s use it! Don’t blame! Do something about it!
Thanks so much for this Will! I have used it as a starter discussion in my class of 11/12/13 yr old students. We have made our own list of what responsibility looks like and how to overcome the 'it's not my fault' blaming culture.
Exactly. We are responsible for our actions. Ours. Not anyone else’s. They are. If I hurt someone it is my responsibility to do everything to bring peace and love to them
Thank you for sharing this! Someone I respect a lot encouraged me to watch your videos on Fault v Responsibility and I’m glad I am! Thank you again, my family and I appreciate it!
Wow your amazing! Your right on time with with this video I’ve been with my girl for 15 years and she’s stuck in the pass addicted to the drama and never being responsible 🤦🏽♂️
Great content. I love this message, "It doesn't matter who's fault it is, it about who will take responsibility to fix it." Moving from victim and blame to courageous action is what our world needs more of, especially nowadays with the social justice mob. (liked and subscribed).
@@WhateverItTakesMotivation no it doesn't. The advice still stands. Y'all idolize the man instead of getting the message. He isn't a God and never said that he was or wanted to be.
I know that we have to take responsibility for our own actions and sometimes, well most of the times we have to take some time and also let others know that it's their responsibility to be responsible
This is accurate and inspiringing so many ways! I need to add that people do need to look into themselves because sometimes it isn't an amission to guilt , but sometimes it is. One does need to take responsibility when it is their fault. Only when admiting ones own fault and mistakes can you change and better yourself and not make the same mistake again. I am only really learning that now at 49. You are certainly correct that many times it is exactly 100 percent what you are saying.
Amazing, advice brother. Thank you, and thank you to my girlfriend. Who, took the time to find and share, this eye opening video. So, thank you Mr. Smith, and thank you Charlene. Respect, love, and blesses.
“It has been usual for men to think and to say, "Many men are slaves because one is an oppressor; let us hate the oppressor." Now, however, there is amongst an increasing few a tendency to reverse this judgment, and to say, "One man is an oppressor because many are slaves; let us despise the slaves." The truth is that oppressor and slave are co-operators in ignorance, and, while seeming to afflict each other, are in reality afflicting themselves. A perfect Knowledge perceives the action of law in the weakness of the oppressed and the misapplied power of the oppressor; a perfect Love, seeing the suffering, which both states entail, condemns neither; a perfect Compassion embraces both oppressor and oppressed.” ― James Allen, As a Man Thinketh
I saw this video early this morning by chance as if it was a message from God! At 7 months pregnant now I have been stuck in victim mode in a mentally and emotionally abusive relationship, scared to get out because I already have a young child with this man and this would be our second baby. I have been stuck in suffering on and off with this person for 5 grueling years trying to keep this image of a “family” together while being unhappy the whole time and now risking my second child’s health every time I end up in the hospital from stress. I want to take responsibility for my own happiness finally! It will be hard and is every time we split up and I have to pick up the pieces and continue to take care of my son, and I’m sure it will be even harder with two kids, but this video was so inspiring it brought me to tears. WILL SMITH THANK YOU! YOU’RE RIGHT! My happiness, my life, and my children’s happiness and lives are my responsibility ALONE! I’m ready to stop throwing fault around, stand my ground, and be Responsible for My own Happiness! You have always been an amazing artist and star but today, even though I may be just another fan saying it to some, I just want you to know that you are an AMAZING and INSPIRING PERSON!
Tiffany Rodriguez ...... Through my line of work I met this young Lady some years ago, & she shared with me her story which is very similar to yours.
She & her ex husband were married for over 13 years. Literally as soon as they married, he became a different man than what he was when they dated. He became an alcoholic, verbally abusive, an adulterer, at times physically abusive, she lived in fear at times. They share two very Beautiful children but, after giving birth to her first she knew she did not wish to share any more with him. However, they had a second & she had her tubes tied at that moment.
I asked her, if she experienced such a hard marriage, why did she remain with him for so long??? She stated that she didn't want the kids to have to deal with a broken home (However, it was always broken within those walls). Through all those years she says she remained faithful even still. But still, he NEVER saw her for the QUEEN she is, as he remained to be the monster.
She finally built up the courage to leave that marriage & was at peace as she was prepared to be a single mom of two very young children. Yes she was scared & nervous in making such a decision, but she knew it was best for her & the children... she had to be strong for them & not allow them to witness such a dysfunctional home.
Tiffany, I'm not telling you to leave this man nor am I telling you to stay, but I do encourage you to be strong for yourself, for your children. If you wish for peace within your life, sometimes you have to make hard choices for the moment & peace shall come. Your children & yourself will appreciate it.
By the way, that Lady I was telling you about.... we had become such good friends that it turned into best friends, & then I married her.
I became deeply in Love with her & those two Beautiful little children & they became strongly in Love with me. I'm a very Blessed man because she's such an amazingly phenomenal Woman.
God Bless you & your children young Lady. I wish you all the best.
KEEP GOING. 💜💜💜💜💜
Tiffany Rodriguez I was in a very similar situation years ago and it has been tough but ultimately has made me feel much much stronger. Jane Roberts Seth material and most lately, Abraham Hicks has turned on the light in what used to be a dark room. They may help you too. Good luck!
You are stronger than you think. Wishing you and your baby the very best.
Tiffany Rodriguez 😢 I wish you nothing but the best of everything that can bring you peace and joy... You are an amazing young woman and your children are blessed.
If you put the responsibility in the hands of others, you also put the power in their hands.
Best thing I've read all year
Yep. You either have control (power) over your life or someone else does. When you're a child, your parent(s) have the control to make hopefully good decisions for you. Once you are an adult, it's totally on you. Learn to master and control your own life.
The way I live my life. " If it doesn't bother you enough to get up and do something about it yourself , then shut up"
“The world will not be destroyed by those who do evil, but by those who watch them without doing anything”
Albert Einstein
By that logic it'll also be saved by the people watching others do good
James Einstein was a true genius. So it’s not expected for many to understand his simple yet very deep messages. . I think what he was trying to convey was that the masses that stand back and do nothing to stop the few evil elite in control, have more power than that very small minority controlling the masses.
It’s like the storyline from the kids movie, “A Bug’s life”
yougoBoy Einstein was a fraud
Robin TheHood A fitting statement, Mr. Hood.
Slavery wasn’t our fault. But it is our responsibility to step up and do better in spite of that.
@Goldie O did you watch the video? By Wills theory, which I thought was spot on, he states taking responsibility isn't letting the person off the hook. Its essentially taking responsibility for your own happiness.
Michael Best then can you explain lil pump and flava flav
Slavery wasn't my fault either. Sorry that shit happened man but I can't do anything about it now.
Alphascrub I must have missed the part where someone said it was your fault. But also consider that if you live in the US and benefit from the US economy then you benefit from the economy that slavery built. It’s not your fault, but you got something out of it.
+Erica Gray slam dunk girl!
This is one of the clearest and insightful discussion on shame, blame, fault and responsibility .... it is your life and your choice. Unfortunately we don't get to pick the shit that happens, but we definitely get to choose if it defines who and what we gain from it.
YES!
This is true. I was abused as a child and it pisses me off that I am the one having to pay for their crimes. But I use that anger to push me into healing and growing into the best person I can be. And I know my life is getting better while theirs is staying the same.
AnnaMarie Raven wow. Powerful story. Thank you for sharing. You are incredibly strong. Glad you liked the video! 😄
so very true. I was stuck in the victim mentality for a long time. My husband cheated on me and left me and my 3 kids. I have MS and was waiting for him to pay the child support because it was his fault he left me and I couldn't pay the bills because he left. One day I decided that nope...it wasn't his responsibility to make sure my stuff was paid. So I got a 2nd job and do the best I can. It is my RESPONSIBILTY FOR MY LIFE AND HAPPINESS....can't use the excuse of it is his FAULT FOR LEAVING, NOT PAYING CHILD SUPPORT, ETC.... love this Will Smith. love this and have mad respect for you.
jennifer schleicher INCREDIBLE story! 😄 thank you for watching and sharing!
jennifer schleicher Do agree with you doing all you did for yourself and your children.However (and this is not your responsibility) as a state or country it is incumbent for a family to flourish and function that there is financial support for single mothers (or fathers).Ergo there needs to be legislation to force absentee fathers to be gainfully employed and child support deducted.If the parent incarcerated the state pays the child support and claws back after release.A healthy family is key to many of society’s problems.
Well that’s the issue with a lot of young black men these days ….they want to blame racism and slavery for why this why that ….you have no choice but to grow from that and become the best you you can to change the world rather it be change you and your kids life so that u can start a new positive bloodline …. I lost it all in my life and none of it was my fault I was a child with nobody ….but it was my responsibility to me and my children to not let that happen to me again and not let that happen to my boys EVER IN LIFE ….pressure and heat makes diamonds baby let’s gooo !
this is one of the most powerful realizations that one can have after going through and trying to process trauma.
I sent this to my now grown children and they asked when I talked to Will Smith! With them it was endless excuses (placing blame and deflection). For them to understand "taking power back" I would ask, "if you give blame to that, no matter how legitimate, how can you fix it?" Ultimately you can't fix it if you don't own it, AND revenge is not fixing anything. Fault does not equal responsibility, responsibility is not an admission of fault or guilt, and vengeance is hate only multiplying the problem. Thank you for sharing this!
Coming here after the Oscar slap fiasco ☹️ This man had so much clarity here! Sucks what bad relationships can do to people
I feel bad for him and Chris I don't think it was his fault it's Jada's fault
oh shut the fuck up. a relationship doesnt do this to anyone. a stupid worthless man let a whore fuck his SONS FRIENDS , this whore was out here sexualizing CHILDREN AND WAITING UNTIL THEY TURNED 18 TO POUNCE. hes fucking and defending a female pedophile. you worthless ass people who blame a relationship in general are why women like smiths wife even exist. congrats you fucking clown
@@MarioSonicPhillyFan700 He is still at fault. She was his motivation to do so. That’s why people are flawed. I still love Will tho.
I've been in a state of depression for some time & isolated.. from being hurt by ppl from my past who I thought loved me..cared...a man who lied & used me knowing he was already committed..I was his secret & now I'm here struggling to start my life over from scratch..the woman I use to be no longer exist..I questioned my value bur knowing God loves me makes it a lil better & now I see this video tonight & feel that NOW my life has just changed!!❤️
Dear Mr. Smith: Last week, you and your lovely wife were featured in my high school, "Hero of the Week" high school lesson. We discussed your work in philanthropy and how you are using your talents and resources to help others. Teaching in an urban setting has given me great joy as I guide my students toward adulthood, and I want to thank you for helping them in all the ways that you do. The videos you are making may have lasting impact. Keep them coming!
As much I don't want to hear this, it's the fact that I don't that I know that I should. I very much needed this, Thank You.
This is a brutal & tough pill that some folks will simply never be able to swallow... Unfortunate, but it is what it is.
Love this. It's one of the reasons that Will has done so well "for himself."
"The road to power is in taking responsibility " 💕😊
I think I rewatch this every week. Here lies the answer to most problems
I totally agree! It should be required watching! Thanks for the comment
See, there are people who are programmed to make every situation be their responsibility though, and they've gotten so good at it that everyone else in their life just sits back and lets them take the reigns.
Absolutely. That's exactly the mentality that we should all strive to have! : - )
Will Smith is my inspiration to never preach because I know that like him I can never live up to my words and not sound like a hypocrite. I gave up on role models long ago, there aren’t any.
Your parents are your role models, grandparents, etc. Everyone else you learn knowledge, wisdom, or specific things. No man is infallible. If you are looking for a perfect human, they don't exist. People with excellent character exists but it doesn't mean you won't ever see something you don't like that they do if you hang around them long enough.
Taking responsibility is living above the status quo and is a reflection of self value.
As the Buddhists say: in western world the finger points outward. In Zen, the finger points inward.
not neccesserily !
u obviously never read greek philosophy!
Those 2 concepts don't negate each other and can co-exist simultaneously.
Fault is about what caused something to happen (and preventing it happening again).
Responsibility is what you will now do to overcome it.
One is tending to the past, the other is the future.
Both necessary and relevant.
Nonsense Videos Japan ナンセンス ビデオ ジャパン I like the message. I think some people stay in that victim mode because the ones whose fault it is maybe are not owning up to it. That can make moving on harder and that closure tends to help the process.
Fault is the event, responsibility is ensuring that event reoccurs or does not. It works both ways, positive or negative.
Ex. It's your kids fault the living room lamp is broken. It's your responsibility to teach your kids not to play football in the house so the house don't fall apart.
I would say working for the future is more important than dwelling in the past
Whose fault is the hurricane or the flood? Not everything has a cause that can be blamed. Sometimes searching for the fault keeps us stuck. Waiting for an apology or for wrongs to be righted can take many lifetimes... but we must take responsibility for how we live life with our harms unclaimed, or unapologized for. We often find ourselves angry that we must move on. But staying stuck only poisons and imprisons us more.
Never run for office-that message will never sell! Peddling victimhood is the new normal. Love this.
And along with the awesome concept of fault vs responsibility, is the concept of not taking anything personally. Your life becomes so much easier when you stop letting things become personal
Callmeishmel Melville absolutely! 😄👌👌👌
My name is Alexis Cabreja, my son is in a rehab program “Family First” and I saw your video on parents therapy. I would like to ask you to continue talking about this subject, I’m 51yrs old and we are still learning about responsibility and emotional behavior. This is the best country in the world, but I don’t understand why this country don’t emphasize about the mental accept. I don’t understand the same way we donate to other institutions why don’t we have affordable/funded programs for institutional behavior that we can attend to? Thank you for your video. God bless you!
After 3 decades I’m finally seeking therapy for what happened to me in my youth. Never expected to live this long. I thought for sure by now I would have died.
It often takes victims of severe trauma a lifetime to learn this.
Thank you Will. You made some excellent points here. I know people who are just stuck in that victim mode and it seems to be a vicious merry-go-round. At some point, they need to pull the plug and move on. Singular moments in your life do not define who you are but they can certainly help you craft who you become. We all create our own destiny both good or bad.
Ever since he posted this, this has stuck with me. And it’s made life a lot lighter
That's how a leader speaks. Please keep talking so other celebrities become easier to ignore.
But people who are going through that trauma and failure, needs support and encouragement.
Thank you will Smith. I have been going through a rough time the last year and happened to come across this you have changed my way of thinking. And changed my life. Means so much to me. You are amazing. And what you say is very in powering.
Thank you for taking the time to explain the difference between fault and responsibility. We have learned as a people to lay blame and assert fault, but never to take or claim responsibility for our actions or inaction.
Well said. It is certainly easy to be leveled by someone else's mistake which has negatively affected you; however, wallowing in the self-pity is no way to live. Blaming someone else for your own failures is one of the worst forms of self-pity in which one can engage.
You summed up the solution to overcoming the Zeitgeist of victimhood beautifully!
Everyone should see this video. Self responsibility is the number one issue is with the world today.
This is so very true, when you keep blaming and never take responsibility you become a very bitter angry person because you never allow yourself to move on.... also forgiving and letting things that you cant change go is part of this too, that forgiveness is for yourself when you do this you dont allow that person or situation to have power over you or over your happiness... its like you let go of a weight that is taking down drowning you, when you let it go you feel free and are able to breathe again... weightless
Finding fault disempowers everyone. Embracing responsibility empowers all. Thank you for speaking up.
Finding ways to make one self happy - there's nothing else that matters
Great idea to have invited Will Smith! It'a always a pleasure to see him on screen - be it the small screen of a laptop rather than a big cinema screen. Still a pleasure! Thank you!
Thanks for this. I need this so badly. I’ve been stuck in pain over what somebody said to me and years of trauma before that. It’s so hard to get all that off my head. It’s as if I was stripped of all self-worth. I am so angry and I get easily triggered. Recently I’ve started to harm myself and for some reason, it’s physically painful but emotionally soothing. Like I‘ve heard all these things Will is saying and can’t find the strength to apply them, but hearing them from another person somehow helps.
Will...Hey man. From the depths of my heart. Thank you. I cannot express enough. Your care to spend the time to say a few words to help many people are invaluable and will add to the positivity fabric of society. Your message will create a positive mental process that can be used to help many start over. the moment they hear your message. Its partly because the life you have lived. what we have seen and what we have not seen. still, you reached back with a hand and pulled many up and have strengthened your legacy.
There is also a vast difference between fault and blame. Many times we listen to folk that want to "blame" us for their condition. Please know that just as it is your responsibly tho own your growth and development, you can't make anyone else own theirs. That does not mean you pick up the blame for their condition. In trying tho fix their stuff, you waste resources that were given to you to handle your stuff.
THANK YOU SO MUCH. I HAVE HEARD" IT'S YOUR RESPONSIBILITY TO DO THIS OR THAT". YES I HAVE A RESPONSIBILITY TO TAKE CARE MY HOUSE, BUT, IT HIT ME AND IT HIT ME HARD I'M NOT RESPONSIBLE FOR TAKING ON MORE THAN I CAN HANDLE.
Great speech, will has always been an insperation to many
Very well-said. I wish this could be played for kids in school. This kind of message means more coming from a celebrity. I wish more celebrities would use their influence to support values and character versus politics!
AMEN WILL!!! If more people took responsibility for their actions, more things in this world would be fixed. "Those who have the ability to take action have the RESPONSIBILITY to take action"..Declaration of Independence 4 July, 1776!!
Willy, I'm from Mexico ... and I just want to tell you that your message, conent and conviction really make me feel empowered ... every friend, colleague and people I know I share this message because if consider it a foundation to be happy, to face problems and more impornat to take control to solve it. This is very inspiring and I'm used to re-play it at least every quarter to recall my self the power we have to move on in this wonderful life!!!! :)
I just learned something extremely important right now. Will Smith is an intuitive psychologist, way better than many licensed professionals out there
a lot of so-called professionals in psychology don't want to actually help. but only help to manage what may be hurting us if they actually helped everyone then they would lose business. and be out of the job. :-/
I find its best to have friends that are supportive and understanding more so then talk to those "professionals"
It's partly true for psychiatrists also. I don't think there's malice though, but indolence. The easiest path is to prescribe tons of pills and that's it. Most of those people are clueless, greedy and just want their salary and not to be bothered period.
@@IRosamelia true, its always best to avoid the ones that barely talk to you and say here take these pills on the very first visit.
its why I much rather talk to a cognitive therapist they at least will talk and not throw pills down anyone's throat
If you're looking to will Smith then you deserve what you get
It's a hard process letting go of blame and fault. I call it slow relief. Great words 👍
Thank you for this video. Take responsibility and don't let anyone make you live in the past because you didn't do it when they thought you should have. Everyday is a new day for change.
This goes hand in hand with other can “cause” us pain but we are the only ones who can cause ourselves to suffer by not dealing with the pain and healing it. So other can “cause” us pain and it might feel like it is their “fault. But it is our responsibility to make sure we heal and don’t suffer.
I am an avid #MentalHealthAwareness advocate and performer, and I love this so much. I travel the country trying to bring that awareness on stages, in classrooms, hospitals, and on my RUclips channel, so I get excited when I see other advocates. 💙❤
Will Smith if you ever see this, I want you to know that I love you and I am so proud of you!
You have come such a long way, and life goes on too!
Thank you so much for those powerful words, you have always been and still are my hero because you were always a tough hot head like my army dad!
Now you know how to handle my anger because of you, thank you so much!
I promise not to waste it, my rage was my shadow...
Wow, I needed to hear that Will, thank you! I wish I would of realized long before I did. People-you only have a road of a much harder surface than the one if you learn to take your power back in a “love myself” way. Remember that strength isn’t anger, or the ability to not get hurt, quite the opposite in fact. Be vulnerable, love fiercely and take more risks after you get hurt!! The opposite of love is misery all alone.
Tracie. Thank you for this incredible comment. Peace, love, and blessings to you.
If our headstones in the graveyard of "Life Ain't Fair Eternal Garden" had to sum up our lives in a short sentence, would yours read "My life was everyone else's fault"?
Make sure it doesn't. This is the only chance we get. The sun rose today on all of us and brought the same opportunities to all of us. Some are further back from their goals than others today. Some were given a head start and some were handed obstacles.
A man with no legs climbed MT. EVEREST...(Mic drop)
Fault and responsibility is essentially the same thing when something goes wrong.
"Fault" usually connects in our mind with "who is to be punished"
And "responsibility" connects with "who is in charge, who can make a change?"
However If a responsible (for something) person makes a mistake it will be their fault.
Make no mistake these two go hand in hand.
For Exmple.
"Its not somebody's fault if their father was an abusive alcoholic" but it is also not their responsibility.
"Its for damn sure their responsibility to figure out how they gonna deal with those traumas and try to make a life out of it." and it's also damn sure, their fault if they dont!
If you partner cheats on you it is their fault and their responsibility. Your reaction to that event is your responsibility and your fault, if the reaction is making your life worse.
Punishment is not revenge, punishment is there (in theory) to make someone realize that they have made a mistake, consequently to make someone learn.
Admitting your fault, (not fault of others) is esential for your progress and your advancement, do not corupt that mechansm.
My advice is - never shift fault, learn from your mistakes, clearly understand your responsibilities.
I've been living this for the last 3 years and ran across this..and I LOVE what he said.
He is straight up living what he preaches.
Absolute truth! Taking Responsibility (taking action) is the key to change the world! And achieve greater survival
For all! Is one of a human’s greatest abilities! Let’s use it! Don’t blame! Do something about it!
Wow, I needed this! Very true, Indeed! Relevant to my life. Definitely someone to look up to.
Not a victim/Does not need to victimize others mindset = Safety manifestation, spiritual wholeness. 💞
Seen this.Finally some1like will explains clearly on how I treat ppl or how I want to be treated.taking power back
I love this... Yes Fault and Blame are a WASTE of TIME... I have watched this over and over again. This is such a great message. Thanks Will Smith
I have shared this video many times and never get tired of watching it myself. Thank you Will Smith for these wise words!
Thanks so much for this Will! I have used it as a starter discussion in my class of 11/12/13 yr old students. We have made our own list of what responsibility looks like and how to overcome the 'it's not my fault' blaming culture.
Carol-Anne Kempster wow! Amazing work Carol-Anne. So glad to hear Wills speech is helping you and your students
Watching this clip after 'the slap heard round the world' gives it a whole new meaning.
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Exactly. We are responsible for our actions. Ours. Not anyone else’s. They are. If I hurt someone it is my responsibility to do everything to bring peace and love to them
hell yeah man! Feel like ive grown up with will smith! One very smart man!
We saw this while I was on my way to work and all I can say is thank goodness I saw it. ❤️💁
I'm back...lol...I watch this every day!! I even wrote this down & read it throughout day!!❤️
Dana Dorsey that's awesome! Glad you're getting so much from Will's amazing speech
That is one of the most intelligent think a ever hear and what I'm tried to teach my 2 boys!! Thank you
This speech is so touched. It's simple but easy to understand and positive. Thank you for sharing.
Yes!!! This is exactly what I keep saying! Fault and blame is disempowering/disempowered. Responsibility is powerfilled.
Crystal clear!! You couldn't have said it any better!! Thanks, Will!!! ❤️🌹
Thank you for sharing this! Someone I respect a lot encouraged me to watch your videos on Fault v Responsibility and I’m glad I am! Thank you again, my family and I appreciate it!
Beautiful... sent this to my son!
Wow your amazing! Your right on time with with this video I’ve been with my girl for 15 years and she’s stuck in the pass addicted to the drama and never being responsible 🤦🏽♂️
Great content. I love this message, "It doesn't matter who's fault it is, it about who will take responsibility to fix it." Moving from victim and blame to courageous action is what our world needs more of, especially nowadays with the social justice mob. (liked and subscribed).
I agree no matter what happened in your life with Gods help seek strength to overcome challenges and how you react to things.
I agree with him. RESPONS-ability is the opposite of being passive, not doing anything. OWN your life!
Thank you for capturing this so I can repost and share!!
Thanks for the compilation! Love the speech as well!
So true, and so well said. The best kind of teaching. Thank you, Will Smith!
He's definitely wright. My question is to everybody watching this video. WHAT ARE YOU GOING TO DO ABOUT IT!!!!!!!!!!
Well said Will...well said! You are an inspiration to many people. May God bless you!
Not your fault Jada got a joke made against her.. But it's absolutely your responsibility to resolve it without violence.
1000% Will has disappointed us. 😔Invalidated all of these videos on my channel
@@WhateverItTakesMotivation yeah exactly 😬
@@WhateverItTakesMotivation no it doesn't. The advice still stands. Y'all idolize the man instead of getting the message. He isn't a God and never said that he was or wanted to be.
Nicely said. Very powerful. Thank you Will.
I know that we have to take responsibility for our own actions and sometimes, well most of the times we have to take some time and also let others know that it's their responsibility to be responsible
I can't begin to tell you how refreshing this is!!!!
This is accurate and inspiringing so many ways! I need to add that people do need to look into themselves because sometimes it isn't an amission to guilt , but sometimes it is. One does need to take responsibility when it is their fault. Only when admiting ones own fault and mistakes can you change and better yourself and not make the same mistake again. I am only really learning that now at 49. You are certainly correct that many times it is exactly 100 percent what you are saying.
Wow will. Thank you for this channel and your inspiration...keep making the videos
This is the " The most simplistic Profound message I've ever heard.."
Amazing, advice brother. Thank you, and thank you to my girlfriend. Who, took the time to find and share, this eye opening video. So, thank you Mr. Smith, and thank you Charlene. Respect, love, and blesses.
Excellent message. I wish everyone could hear his message!
“It has been usual for men to think and to say, "Many men are slaves because one is an oppressor; let us hate the oppressor." Now, however, there is amongst an increasing few a tendency to reverse this judgment, and to say, "One man is an oppressor because many are slaves; let us despise the slaves." The truth is that oppressor and slave are co-operators in ignorance, and, while seeming to afflict each other, are in reality afflicting themselves. A perfect Knowledge perceives the action of law in the weakness of the oppressed and the misapplied power of the oppressor; a perfect Love, seeing the suffering, which both states entail, condemns neither; a perfect Compassion embraces both oppressor and oppressed.”
― James Allen, As a Man Thinketh
Thank you for this sir. This is the only answer I’ve been looking for in regards to taking responsibility and you answered it in less than 3 minutes.
This is an amazing video for those who deal with reactive attachment disorder...
I really do love this man. As far as I know he is a treasure
I really wish there were a "clean" version of this without the swear word in it so I could show it to my students. It's wonderful.