"Never ask for feedback" is peak advice. Differentiating your own personal values from those around you is true selfhood, so much beyond "just clothes".
For real. It's why I hate going clothing shopping with other people because then they always wanna see what you picked out and they always wanna see what it looks like on you when you try it on and I'm not about that life, lol. I'm not shopping for you, I'm shopping for me. 😂
I think as a creator you are clearly a lot more real than a lot of fashion creators right now, and I agree with a lot of what you said in this video. You're also clearly a lot more into fashion than I am, and I subscribed from this video and even joined the discord because I think your platform is valuable. However, when we're talking about personal style, you lose me when you things like "I want you to stop wearing X," or "you need to push Y." I understand the distaste for specific brands and trends, but for a lot of people fasion isn't about "pushing the boundaries of quality and design," different people want different things from fashion, and that's excatly what personal style is. For a lot of people fashion is a marker of community instead of a display of individuality. When the end goal of fashion is everybody dressing maximally with the specific goal to be "individual", things will collapse and we'll be in the same position of everybody essentially dressing the same. The pendulum in the fashion community will swing back to minimalism so people can feel more unqiue and that binary cycle will just continue forever. I also find the idea of specifically not being trendy to be flawed in the same way that trends themselves are flawed within the discussion of personal style. If the purpose of your style is to specifically resist fashion trends then that says nothing about you as a person except that you dislike fashion trends. The outset goal of being unusual is good if that's who you are as a person, but some people may want to dress in order to relate to their community, or even just look aesthetically nice. Even though I align more with styles resembling your own, and the maximalist ideas you advocate for, there is no correct way to do personal style. Finally, the idea that your style should be synthesized exclusivley from the vague "true inner self" within you and not inspired by other things to be silly. Like every other art form, fashion is a conversation. No art is entirely original or lacking inspriration, and nobody's style is like that either. The idea that "you're your only inspo" is true in the sense that you be inspired by things that you like, but entirely wrong when it's paired with the idea that your saved folder should be empty. Your personal style is influenced by things you like: your favorite movies, music, art, and even other people's fashion sense are all valid inspiration for your own style. Fashion isn't a competition of who can be the most unqiue or original. Like all other forms of art, fashion is about what you, the individual, gets out of it.
Very well stated and how I feel 100%. I love love love this very huge channel, but the perspective is sometimes too rooted in a Western individualistic mindset.
I agree with what you're saying, but I don't think Tuba said not to be inspired by others. Rather to trust your own gut feeling than placing importance on other people's feedback.
@@sliccowens And T A well know it is in dialogue with externals or she would not follow what the creators are up to. You made some good points, but then painted the talented Ms. A with too broad a brush.
Well said. You should make videos on this topic. I love your perspective. I'm a style strategist, I'll definitely use this comment on my channel. Thanks
As great as online communities are, I truly believe being on social media the amount that people are in this modern age is detrimental in MANY different ways, but especially in regard to the fashion industry and all that surrounds it. The road to personal style, in my opinion, is a lot more complex and deep than people understand. I look back at some of the outfits I used to wear and they were horrific, but at the same time I genuinely thought they looked good at the time and I was experimenting with stuff to see how it made me feel in it. Personal style and "individuality" is so much more than liking a few specific colors/fabrics/textures and more about looking inward at who you are, what your life is like, your personal politics/beliefs, your emotions, the art you consume, etc. To see this industry turn into what it has makes me sad because its so involved with the digital world and consumerism culture and I think it's really strayed away from the importance of getting in touch with yourself in a way that might even make you uncomfortable or that you might not know how to do just yet (but should try to).
Also I want to add (as someone who is low income and has been my whole life) that these "vintage" pop up shops and the amount of people who are reselling clothes has really driven up prices at the thrift stores. I have been priced out of something that used to be accessible and no longer is. Thrifting has been my way of discovering who I am the past decade and now it's turned into an upper class hobby because its all people peddle on tiktok/instagram. I will die on this hill and know I will get backlash for my comment but I dont care. Finding who you are through personal style has become less accessible due to social media and resellers.
@@foxwilliamulderI agree with you. I was poor most of my life and am very sad to see what thrift stores have turned into. Hell, even Emmaüs has driven their prices up
Woweee 🤩Tuba you hit every nail right on its head! I agree with every word… this label obsession is purely about social status… you find people walking about with GG or LV or whatever plastered all over themselves are actually just wearing a uniform it’s so lazy & frankly boring & elitist. I adore this channel… BRAVO from down under in Melbourne Australia 😍💕❤️💕❤️🌈🌈🌈
Utterly ridiculous how many influences are posting. Boring. Not creative. Might as well be dept. store mannequins. Playing dress-up for money. Uckkkkkkkkkk. Out on the street corner is MUCH more creative & FUN.
@@foxwilliamulder oh my goodness yes! I grew up poor and everything we had was second hand or thrifted. And now as an adult in this economy, I’m just as poor and so I turn to second hand to, you know, have what I need, but the prices at thrift stores are making it impossible to buy ANYWHERE! I was interested in a piece of home decor at a Goodwill and when I picked it up the price tag said 30 dollars? There are basic shirts are going for 15 dollars and forget about shoes! Low income people are being forced out of buying second hand now so where do we go from here? When I need something it’s cheaper to buy clearance from fast fashion or department stores so it makes wanting to make a sustainable choice seem almost impossible. I will die on this hill with you!
I know you said we shouldn’t ask for advice, but I finally feel so validated. I’m in my 30’s, been shopping thrift stores my entire life. A girl in my (very posh) highschool once said “Omg, your sweater is so…different, where did you get it?! 🤭” And I took the bait not realizing I was being trolled and said “Goodwill! 😁” she responded “I can tell! 😼” It’s haunted me for decades. But I have finally been gaining the courage to be more confidently authentic in my style again. Videos like these have helped.
I think when you think "I would never dare to wear this" that is the sign that you should definitely wear it. I did this for so long with certain silhouettes and when I threw caution to the wind and went for it; it suddenly felt so right and became a key part of my style. I didn't think I was "cool enough". Turned out I was.
Minimalism is popular for many reasons. Right now I feel like even for fashion people it’s a lot about not wanting to seem too extravangant in a time of economic crisis. I feel like it was the same in the 90s.
I LOVE the point about not asking for feedback. My late twenties has been so good mainly because I’ve slowed down on second guessing myself and I’m just getting more comfortable being present how I want. On personal stylists-I think a lot of people (probably not relevant really for your audience, but non-plugged-into-fashion people) don’t feel comfortable experimenting with clothes or haven’t enjoyed style as self expression maybe ever in their lives. I help style some of my friends, and they oftentimes need explicit encouragement or like a dedicated hour or 2 of time with someone they trust to try stuff on, decide they do/don’t like it, and make a strong claim about their taste with many iterations under their belt.
A very good video! I am definitely committed to not asking for other people’s opinions in the future. No more how I look. I have the ability to judge what I see in the mirror.
I love microtrends for inspiration. Like Light Academia, Dark Academia, Whimsygoth, Fairygrunge etc... and then I mix them with basics and these styles. Also bought clothes and jewelry from renfaires, that's creating a very own (and my very own) style.
years ago, in maybe 2017-18, i watched a woman's (i wish i could remember her channel name) video about how to nurture independence, and one of her tips was to stop asking for validation/advice and to make your own decisions
I just fell in love with you and your channel ❤️ that’s such an important video, thank you for putting into words my thoughts and prayers for style and fashion this days, I can’t agree more 🫡🙏🏽👏🏽❤
Tuba, you are so on point. I feel ao grateful that you are taking your time to explain the essence of what is happening with people’s style choices 📣📣📣📣📣
Yeah. My hot take is also on the archive/vintage trend and where it is going. I think we should call out the unhealthy pockets of it. Some stores are selling damaged or dirty clothes under the concept of archive. It’s very displeasing to me and frankly disrespectful to consumers to sell such garments at high prices. I respect vintage/archive stores for their research but I think it’s time for consumers to dictate what ‘archive’ pieces resonate with them and stop letting some Instagram account tell us which collection is better and why you should pay $5k for a piece of worn out garment from that collection. I also think these stores should find better ways to monetize so they don’t have to make people purchase worn out clothes. Sometimes I think they find a garment, wear and care for it poorly and then cook a narrative on why this is the most life changing collection at that time just to make a gain off a tired purchasing decision made in the past. And a 10x gain. I won’t call out some stores now but if anyone ever addresses this topic, I will name drop these pretty popular account.
Fact, I still dream about these super “ugly” sandals my mum stopped me from buying, I am never taking her shopping me with again. The weird thing is my family always stopped from buying what I wanted, then always complimented my style and outfit. 🤨😂
Amy Smilovic's version of dressing is simply HOW DO YOU FEEL IN THAT? DOES IT EXPRESS WHO YOU ARE? PLAY with your clothes! You own them - tailor them, cut them, pin them, rubber-band them, dye them, whatever - they are YOURS.
Personal style is just that - personal style - eventhough you have strong views on how to achieve it, most of us want a short cut - ie what is presented to us at any given time Secondhand bargains and try-ons take time and effort and not everyone can devote the time! The bargains are there and it can also be the thrill of the chase - but it can be a lot of work to find that one unique piece that you like We need balance in everything - what can you live with?
Your take on Paloma Wool is exactly how I feel about UNIF Parker boots and Demonias. When these shoes first came out, they were kinda cool. But they've now become the poster child for experimental footwear among influencers obsessed with the Y2K/90s aesthetic. I personally find them very boring because they are cheap copies of the classic Nine West or Via Spiga squared toed heeled boots that were super popular in the 90s. UNIF is also an annoying brand known for copying vintage designs and selling them for absurdly high prices. Both UNIF and Paloma Wool like to market themselves as progressive, cosmopolitan, and sustainable due to their labor practices, but their business models are fundamentally unsustainable given that they drive consumers away from thrifting and cultivating their own interpretation of the Y2K/90s aesthetic.
Overstyling is so prevalent in my opinion also because of how we increasingly live in an imagetic society, where photos of outfits are more important than the outfits in real life. Clothes are almost made now for the camera which is so horrible when you’re a regular lover of fashion and not an influencer
Honestly I love to see looks on the runway or on Instagram that I think look great and kinda replicate the silhouettes or colours. That’s it, I look in the mirror, I think “you look good” and I walk out the door feeling great. If I get approving looks from other people well that’s a lovely bonus. I live in a supposedly fashionable city, Melbourne, but I regularly feel that I rarely see anyone who makes an effort, most people still dress in very dull, conformist clothing. I don’t mind if someone buys the full look from a shop or brand I’m just grateful they made the effort.
The best thing I've done was quitting social media. Nothing influences me anymore. I feel like I'm being my most authentic self now, no trends, no influencers, no celebrities. It's truly freeing.
Great advice! I just got a Jil Sander second hand coat, Its quite long but i love the way it looks. I was having second thoughts about keeping it but I just took it to tailor to have arm length shortened. This inspired me to keep it as although it's plain, the unusual length is lovely to me and something unique
What a refreshing poit of view! I watch it 2 already, maybe I should make a notes. 😂 I’m talking this challenge for 2025. Thank you for all this great ideas.
I really really agreee, i been handpicking vintage and also sharing my finds over Vinted but also i dont follow these “vintage seller” traits or trends. I just figured as ppl were so curious about my fits and i started hating working with brands and collaborating… I figured i dont have to rely on these brand and making Own little entrepreneurs adventure out of this. As its was something i already been doing since age 8 going thrifting with grandma (also shopping in her closet,always) or with my mom every saturday morning lol 😂
I got ur point about the popularity of some brands but I see nothing wrong with supporting slow fashion brands like Paloma wool that cares about sustainability and ethical practices. the brand also works with many artists that are not very popular and they use eco friendly materials. so calling out people to not shop from brands that care about our environment is not really fair :/
@@JuliaCLundmark I didn't mention Ganni here :) I've been following Paloma Wool since it didn't have such a popularity. Paloma wool is very transparent regarding their production. The brand produces their items in Portugal and Spain. What I also really appreciate is that they mostly collaborate with artists who are not very well known, unlike other brands that always work with the Kardashians to generate more attention. Can not tell the same about Ganni.
@@JuliaCLundmark idk if it’s strictly “slow” fashion since it always seems to be trending somehow, but Ganni does some cool internally-funded textile innovation that is specifically geared towards sustainability and I like supporting specifically pieces that show demand for those newer lower-footprint materials. Maybe a bit like Coach creating their secondary label made from upcycled/offcuts of normal coach pieces.
I mean, I agree with Tuba. Any brand that drives consumers away from thrifting at the expense of peddling vintage knock-offs is not sustainable. Why shop at Paloma Wool for a cowl neck top when there are dozens of them sitting at your local thrift store or awaiting to be thrown in a landfill? I'm a big believer that no one should be starting a brand unless they have something truly unique and innovative to bring to the table. Clothing production is over satured right now, so the best way to be sustainable is simply not to buy new. Plus, Paloma Wool is not really known for its quality. All those eco-friendly fabrics like viscose and tencel are prone to degredation after a couple wears, which is reflected in the brand's negative reviews. It's not like they are investing in high quality materials, and it shows.
@@MrPeace999 @cbeghin0514 I mentioned them both because I know that they both label themselves as somewhat conscious brands that are leaning into more sustainable innovations etc. However, to be considered "slow fashion" in my POV you need to deliver on longevity and quality as well, and I don't think it rhymes with either PW or Ganni as they are extremely tend driven. No matter how innovative the material is, or who the brand collaborator is, if the item is "out of fashion" within a year it's still fast fashion.
I’m 39 and have worn everything from Gucci to Westwood to ann delumester to dries and I said early on that if I had to pick 3 that give me everything I need in fashion it’s Prada,margiela and Rick Owens. Now as I get older I only buy Prada. I don’t watch fashion shows and if I like something from years back I buy it don’t care if it’s out it never was in to begin with.
I've to be trendy be yet I always manage to stay true to my personal style. I believe if a trendy item is available and fits my style I'll get it. And for Styling trends thoose are so wonderful cause anyone can follow them. I really miss styling trends, I feel like now its almost exclusively item trends and VERY few styling trends. Like layer jewelry and hairstyles .
Having some issues with the self image (gained size that seems here to stay after having a child), this video couldn't come for me at a more perfect timing - especially the part with being inspired by styling of instagram girls..
Yes, once you pass age 40, you might realize "to give FUCK-ALL" about any potentially negative opinions . 46 Now, (people tend to guesstimate me 10 years younger) and I made a big style change in 2021; I had exclusively been wearing wide baggy pants since 1999. 2021 was the moment I switched from 15-20 years of baggy pants & cargo's to tight shiny spandex leggings. That's quite a drastic change for a mid 40's guy, but I realized life's too short to regret. And it makes sense for my personal style, because I moved from Europe to warm South East Asia.
Not asking for advice--yeah, my personality is the kind that doesn't ask others what they think about me. I both care too much and yet don't care. That's why I really don't like shopping with my friends (but if they want MY advice and I don't plan to buy anything, that's ok!!)
I think we should ask for feedback but only to a few and selective close friends. I've stopped some of my friends to make bad purchased (bad in the sense ''you will spend money for this piece of clothing, let it live in your closet for a couple of years and discarded it because it doesn't fit with your style) or push us to use more our stuff, again I have friend that I know have amazing piece and never wear them because 'they don't have any occasion to wear them' when in reality they are always out and about. Sometimes another pair of eyes to give a fresh point of view can help.
those criticizing slim/skinny jeans were the same wearing them back in the days. Now they feel so Elite because they've discovered loose/baggy fit. lol
It's up to us to get inspiration from "pre-styled" outfits in shops, on the catwalk and on social media and develop our own style, which usually happens gradually and also develops as we get older and fashions change or return. And it's up to me to maintain a slim weight because I know I look good in clothes if I'm slimmer, I am not conventionally beautiful (jolie-laide I hope) and also almost 60 years young, I have known since childhood that if you're slim clothes are likely to look great, hang well, you feel better so you take care of your appearance and feel more confident. All this body positivity movement (often promoted by stylists who are very slender themselves) cannot disguise the fact that if you're overweight, you are not going to look amazing, you might look good, like my lovely grandmas used to do in the 70s, but you will not look your best. I used to be fat so this is not intended to put anyone down, but I can't stand hypocrisy around this topic. For me at least, being slim is the one thing that I can do to look good whatever I'm wearing and also feel good and stay healthy and it doesn't cost anything. I am not saying it's easy, but if anyone is interested I lost half my body weight healthily by following the advice of non-profit trustworthy channels like Physicians Committee, Chef AJ (look up her free calorie density guide), Ryan Adams' Slim and Sustain and Dr John McDougall's Slim on Starch Programme (Google the free online version). These are kind people promoting a whole food (more) plant-based way of eating, and you can eat very generous portions while still losing weight - this may sound incredible but because plant foods are naturally lower in calories, you can shed lbs while still eating delicious big meals, without counting calories or becoming food-obsessed. Because you can eat a lot of food, cravings will gradually disappear and overcome disordered eating, bingeing, etc. If you're interested give it a try for 10-14 days.
I find it funny (in a kind way so please don't take offence) when someone promotes originality and maximalism and then just wears a sweatshirt, it's not just you, this is quite common in YT influencer videos, I wish some experts/stylists made more of an effort sometimes as what they wear reflects what their channel is all about
I would love to buy ready to wear second hand but all these rich women who bought it new are a size 34-38 EU and I don't fit in it. So my fat ass has to buy mostly new shit
"Never ask for feedback" is peak advice. Differentiating your own personal values from those around you is true selfhood, so much beyond "just clothes".
For real. It's why I hate going clothing shopping with other people because then they always wanna see what you picked out and they always wanna see what it looks like on you when you try it on and I'm not about that life, lol. I'm not shopping for you, I'm shopping for me. 😂
I think as a creator you are clearly a lot more real than a lot of fashion creators right now, and I agree with a lot of what you said in this video. You're also clearly a lot more into fashion than I am, and I subscribed from this video and even joined the discord because I think your platform is valuable.
However, when we're talking about personal style, you lose me when you things like "I want you to stop wearing X," or "you need to push Y." I understand the distaste for specific brands and trends, but for a lot of people fasion isn't about "pushing the boundaries of quality and design," different people want different things from fashion, and that's excatly what personal style is. For a lot of people fashion is a marker of community instead of a display of individuality. When the end goal of fashion is everybody dressing maximally with the specific goal to be "individual", things will collapse and we'll be in the same position of everybody essentially dressing the same. The pendulum in the fashion community will swing back to minimalism so people can feel more unqiue and that binary cycle will just continue forever.
I also find the idea of specifically not being trendy to be flawed in the same way that trends themselves are flawed within the discussion of personal style. If the purpose of your style is to specifically resist fashion trends then that says nothing about you as a person except that you dislike fashion trends. The outset goal of being unusual is good if that's who you are as a person, but some people may want to dress in order to relate to their community, or even just look aesthetically nice. Even though I align more with styles resembling your own, and the maximalist ideas you advocate for, there is no correct way to do personal style.
Finally, the idea that your style should be synthesized exclusivley from the vague "true inner self" within you and not inspired by other things to be silly. Like every other art form, fashion is a conversation. No art is entirely original or lacking inspriration, and nobody's style is like that either. The idea that "you're your only inspo" is true in the sense that you be inspired by things that you like, but entirely wrong when it's paired with the idea that your saved folder should be empty. Your personal style is influenced by things you like: your favorite movies, music, art, and even other people's fashion sense are all valid inspiration for your own style. Fashion isn't a competition of who can be the most unqiue or original. Like all other forms of art, fashion is about what you, the individual, gets out of it.
Very well stated and how I feel 100%. I love love love this very huge channel, but the perspective is sometimes too rooted in a Western individualistic mindset.
I agree with what you're saying, but I don't think Tuba said not to be inspired by others. Rather to trust your own gut feeling than placing importance on other people's feedback.
@@sliccowens And T A well know it is in dialogue with externals or she would not follow what the creators are up to. You made some good points, but then painted the talented Ms. A with too broad a brush.
Well said. You should make videos on this topic. I love your perspective. I'm a style strategist, I'll definitely use this comment on my channel. Thanks
Not asking for advice is SUCH GOOD ADVICE. I’ve been set back years by this
As great as online communities are, I truly believe being on social media the amount that people are in this modern age is detrimental in MANY different ways, but especially in regard to the fashion industry and all that surrounds it. The road to personal style, in my opinion, is a lot more complex and deep than people understand. I look back at some of the outfits I used to wear and they were horrific, but at the same time I genuinely thought they looked good at the time and I was experimenting with stuff to see how it made me feel in it. Personal style and "individuality" is so much more than liking a few specific colors/fabrics/textures and more about looking inward at who you are, what your life is like, your personal politics/beliefs, your emotions, the art you consume, etc. To see this industry turn into what it has makes me sad because its so involved with the digital world and consumerism culture and I think it's really strayed away from the importance of getting in touch with yourself in a way that might even make you uncomfortable or that you might not know how to do just yet (but should try to).
Also I want to add (as someone who is low income and has been my whole life) that these "vintage" pop up shops and the amount of people who are reselling clothes has really driven up prices at the thrift stores. I have been priced out of something that used to be accessible and no longer is. Thrifting has been my way of discovering who I am the past decade and now it's turned into an upper class hobby because its all people peddle on tiktok/instagram. I will die on this hill and know I will get backlash for my comment but I dont care. Finding who you are through personal style has become less accessible due to social media and resellers.
@@foxwilliamulderI agree with you. I was poor most of my life and am very sad to see what thrift stores have turned into. Hell, even Emmaüs has driven their prices up
Woweee 🤩Tuba you hit every nail right on its head! I agree with every word… this label obsession is purely about social status… you find people walking about with GG or LV or whatever plastered all over themselves are actually just wearing a uniform it’s so lazy & frankly boring & elitist. I adore this channel… BRAVO from down under in Melbourne Australia 😍💕❤️💕❤️🌈🌈🌈
Utterly ridiculous how many influences are posting. Boring. Not creative. Might as well be dept. store mannequins. Playing dress-up for money. Uckkkkkkkkkk. Out on the street corner is MUCH more creative & FUN.
@@foxwilliamulder oh my goodness yes! I grew up poor and everything we had was second hand or thrifted. And now as an adult in this economy, I’m just as poor and so I turn to second hand to, you know, have what I need, but the prices at thrift stores are making it impossible to buy ANYWHERE! I was interested in a piece of home decor at a Goodwill and when I picked it up the price tag said 30 dollars? There are basic shirts are going for 15 dollars and forget about shoes! Low income people are being forced out of buying second hand now so where do we go from here? When I need something it’s cheaper to buy clearance from fast fashion or department stores so it makes wanting to make a sustainable choice seem almost impossible. I will die on this hill with you!
*SAT HERE IN MY 1910* pattern fishtail trousers, braces, waistcoat and shirt smugly thinking "Im not in any danger of being trendy"
This sounds amazing
It sure does sound wonderful! 🤩❤️
Sitting in full Paul Harden head to toe thinking is this really me
@@youtubing2334 OH thank you 😀 I tailor them myself.
@@Happinc OH thank you 😀 I tailor them myself.
I know you said we shouldn’t ask for advice, but I finally feel so validated.
I’m in my 30’s, been shopping thrift stores my entire life. A girl in my (very posh) highschool once said “Omg, your sweater is so…different, where did you get it?! 🤭” And I took the bait not realizing I was being trolled and said “Goodwill! 😁” she responded “I can tell! 😼”
It’s haunted me for decades. But I have finally been gaining the courage to be more confidently authentic in my style again. Videos like these have helped.
I think when you think "I would never dare to wear this" that is the sign that you should definitely wear it. I did this for so long with certain silhouettes and when I threw caution to the wind and went for it; it suddenly felt so right and became a key part of my style. I didn't think I was "cool enough". Turned out I was.
Minimalism is popular for many reasons. Right now I feel like even for fashion people it’s a lot about not wanting to seem too extravangant in a time of economic crisis. I feel like it was the same in the 90s.
I LOVE the point about not asking for feedback. My late twenties has been so good mainly because I’ve slowed down on second guessing myself and I’m just getting more comfortable being present how I want.
On personal stylists-I think a lot of people (probably not relevant really for your audience, but non-plugged-into-fashion people) don’t feel comfortable experimenting with clothes or haven’t enjoyed style as self expression maybe ever in their lives. I help style some of my friends, and they oftentimes need explicit encouragement or like a dedicated hour or 2 of time with someone they trust to try stuff on, decide they do/don’t like it, and make a strong claim about their taste with many iterations under their belt.
not me having an existential crisis scrolling through depop
A very good video! I am definitely committed to not asking for other people’s opinions in the future. No more how I look. I have the ability to judge what I see in the mirror.
I love microtrends for inspiration. Like Light Academia, Dark Academia, Whimsygoth, Fairygrunge etc... and then I mix them with basics and these styles. Also bought clothes and jewelry from renfaires, that's creating a very own (and my very own) style.
Thank you for emphasizing maximalism and individuality. So many people are playing it safe and denying themselves their authenticity.
years ago, in maybe 2017-18, i watched a woman's (i wish i could remember her channel name) video about how to nurture independence, and one of her tips was to stop asking for validation/advice and to make your own decisions
Tuba - You Are The One to break down separate aspects of clothing: silhouette, color, texture, scale. You can do it. Onward, delightful one!
This is the root of it all-the personal style beginning and end. I think you’re brilliant
I just fell in love with you and your channel ❤️ that’s such an important video, thank you for putting into words my thoughts and prayers for style and fashion this days, I can’t agree more 🫡🙏🏽👏🏽❤
Tuba, you are so on point. I feel ao grateful that you are taking your time to explain the essence of what is happening with people’s style choices 📣📣📣📣📣
Yeah. My hot take is also on the archive/vintage trend and where it is going. I think we should call out the unhealthy pockets of it. Some stores are selling damaged or dirty clothes under the concept of archive. It’s very displeasing to me and frankly disrespectful to consumers to sell such garments at high prices. I respect vintage/archive stores for their research but I think it’s time for consumers to dictate what ‘archive’ pieces resonate with them and stop letting some Instagram account tell us which collection is better and why you should pay $5k for a piece of worn out garment from that collection. I also think these stores should find better ways to monetize so they don’t have to make people purchase worn out clothes. Sometimes I think they find a garment, wear and care for it poorly and then cook a narrative on why this is the most life changing collection at that time just to make a gain off a tired purchasing decision made in the past. And a 10x gain. I won’t call out some stores now but if anyone ever addresses this topic, I will name drop these pretty popular account.
Great video btw!
Fact, I still dream about these super “ugly” sandals my mum stopped me from buying, I am never taking her shopping me with again. The weird thing is my family always stopped from buying what I wanted, then always complimented my style and outfit. 🤨😂
Best fashion conversation I’ve listened to in so long.
Amy Smilovic's version of dressing is simply HOW DO YOU FEEL IN THAT? DOES IT EXPRESS WHO YOU ARE? PLAY with your clothes! You own them - tailor them, cut them, pin them, rubber-band them, dye them, whatever - they are YOURS.
Personal style is just that - personal style - eventhough you have strong views on how to achieve it, most of us want a short cut - ie what is presented to us at any given time
Secondhand bargains and try-ons take time and effort and not everyone can devote the time!
The bargains are there and it can also be the thrill of the chase - but it can be a lot of work to find that one unique piece that you like
We need balance in everything - what can you live with?
i never ever ever ask for feedback, and i think it's bc i grew up with my family "dampening" my style a lot. i always had to tone everything down :/
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Such great tips Tuba ❤
Your take on Paloma Wool is exactly how I feel about UNIF Parker boots and Demonias. When these shoes first came out, they were kinda cool. But they've now become the poster child for experimental footwear among influencers obsessed with the Y2K/90s aesthetic. I personally find them very boring because they are cheap copies of the classic Nine West or Via Spiga squared toed heeled boots that were super popular in the 90s. UNIF is also an annoying brand known for copying vintage designs and selling them for absurdly high prices. Both UNIF and Paloma Wool like to market themselves as progressive, cosmopolitan, and sustainable due to their labor practices, but their business models are fundamentally unsustainable given that they drive consumers away from thrifting and cultivating their own interpretation of the Y2K/90s aesthetic.
Overstyling is so prevalent in my opinion also because of how we increasingly live in an imagetic society, where photos of outfits are more important than the outfits in real life. Clothes are almost made now for the camera which is so horrible when you’re a regular lover of fashion and not an influencer
Vintage designer RTW is really where it’s at. No one in this dog park knows I’m wearing Lanvin and Helmut Lang.
How embarrassing. I’ve been texting my lawyer OOTD feedback requests every day for years without realizing it might not be appropriate or helpful.
girl...
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did they reply? we ought to know!!
Honestly I love to see looks on the runway or on Instagram that I think look great and kinda replicate the silhouettes or colours. That’s it, I look in the mirror, I think “you look good” and I walk out the door feeling great. If I get approving looks from other people well that’s a lovely bonus.
I live in a supposedly fashionable city, Melbourne, but I regularly feel that I rarely see anyone who makes an effort, most people still dress in very dull, conformist clothing. I don’t mind if someone buys the full look from a shop or brand I’m just grateful they made the effort.
yes to everything , 10/10 no notes
The best thing I've done was quitting social media. Nothing influences me anymore. I feel like I'm being my most authentic self now, no trends, no influencers, no celebrities. It's truly freeing.
Great advice! I just got a Jil Sander second hand coat, Its quite long but i love the way it looks. I was having second thoughts about keeping it but I just took it to tailor to have arm length shortened. This inspired me to keep it as although it's plain, the unusual length is lovely to me and something unique
Omg Tuba, sounds like you woke up and chose violence :D Couldn't agree more with what you said. Don't ask anyone and follow your gut feeling!
You have gained a new subscriber in me. Enough said.😊
What a refreshing poit of view! I watch it 2 already, maybe I should make a notes. 😂 I’m talking this challenge for 2025. Thank you for all this great ideas.
Tuba. Thank you for the enlightenment. Since day 01! I wonder how many people you have helped already. ❤❤❤
I love how weird you are😂 so am I ! Addicted
I still love long format youtube videos, even though the shorts are fun.
The discussion of the topic of the video starts after 4:00. You're welcome.
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I really enjoyed this video. It made laugh so hard, reflect, and feel inspired. Thanks for the great content ❤
I don't think I've ever asked for feedback in my entire life, obvi I can decide better than anyone, if it looks good or not
I really really agreee, i been handpicking vintage and also sharing my finds over Vinted but also i dont follow these “vintage seller” traits or trends. I just figured as ppl were so curious about my fits and i started hating working with brands and collaborating… I figured i dont have to rely on these brand and making
Own little entrepreneurs adventure out of this. As its was something i already been doing since age 8 going thrifting with grandma (also shopping in her closet,always) or with my mom every saturday morning lol 😂
thanks for the pep talk my queen!
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I got ur point about the popularity of some brands but I see nothing wrong with supporting slow fashion brands like Paloma wool that cares about sustainability and ethical practices. the brand also works with many artists that are not very popular and they use eco friendly materials. so calling out people to not shop from brands that care about our environment is not really fair :/
Is Paloma Wool and Ganni slow fashion tough? They go through the trend cycles as fast as anyone…
@@JuliaCLundmark I didn't mention Ganni here :) I've been following Paloma Wool since it didn't have such a popularity. Paloma wool is very transparent regarding their production. The brand produces their items in Portugal and Spain. What I also really appreciate is that they mostly collaborate with artists who are not very well known, unlike other brands that always work with the Kardashians to generate more attention. Can not tell the same about Ganni.
@@JuliaCLundmark idk if it’s strictly “slow” fashion since it always seems to be trending somehow, but Ganni does some cool internally-funded textile innovation that is specifically geared towards sustainability and I like supporting specifically pieces that show demand for those newer lower-footprint materials. Maybe a bit like Coach creating their secondary label made from upcycled/offcuts of normal coach pieces.
I mean, I agree with Tuba. Any brand that drives consumers away from thrifting at the expense of peddling vintage knock-offs is not sustainable. Why shop at Paloma Wool for a cowl neck top when there are dozens of them sitting at your local thrift store or awaiting to be thrown in a landfill? I'm a big believer that no one should be starting a brand unless they have something truly unique and innovative to bring to the table. Clothing production is over satured right now, so the best way to be sustainable is simply not to buy new. Plus, Paloma Wool is not really known for its quality. All those eco-friendly fabrics like viscose and tencel are prone to degredation after a couple wears, which is reflected in the brand's negative reviews. It's not like they are investing in high quality materials, and it shows.
@@MrPeace999 @cbeghin0514 I mentioned them both because I know that they both label themselves as somewhat conscious brands that are leaning into more sustainable innovations etc. However, to be considered "slow fashion" in my POV you need to deliver on longevity and quality as well, and I don't think it rhymes with either PW or Ganni as they are extremely tend driven. No matter how innovative the material is, or who the brand collaborator is, if the item is "out of fashion" within a year it's still fast fashion.
I will be listening to this video many times! Such great advice.
Ohhhhh am utterly an accessories person, however - must have sculptural basics so that i may ice the cake. Yummy.
thank you for this!
"trust your guts" love it
The age of information has KILLED my individuality. It's horrible
lmao the ad i go b4 the vid was "how to stay cozy and trendy in the fall"
I’m 39 and have worn everything from Gucci to Westwood to ann delumester to dries and I said early on that if I had to pick 3 that give me everything I need in fashion it’s Prada,margiela and Rick Owens.
Now as I get older I only buy Prada.
I don’t watch fashion shows and if I like something from years back I buy it don’t care if it’s out it never was in to begin with.
A lot of my daily wardrobe is paloma wool, its really hard to find good pants and their pants are cut perfectly for my body type
I just found your channel, subscribed!!!
Love hearing about the brands we should steer clear of.
Always insightful
This feels like I have 3 points and pushing for a 30 page paper
Love you TuBA super enjoyed that video xx thank you x
Great video! Thank you.
Yes to "never ask for feedback!!"
20:05 this is great advise and took me years to understand and experience
This was so inspiring!!
I've to be trendy be yet I always manage to stay true to my personal style. I believe if a trendy item is available and fits my style I'll get it. And for Styling trends thoose are so wonderful cause anyone can follow them. I really miss styling trends, I feel like now its almost exclusively item trends and VERY few styling trends. Like layer jewelry and hairstyles .
thank you so much for the end
Having some issues with the self image (gained size that seems here to stay after having a child), this video couldn't come for me at a more perfect timing - especially the part with being inspired by styling of instagram girls..
felt very SEEN when you talked about maximalism ❤
Cool shoes and cool hair. Also, try not to buy too much from those publicly traded companies. Shop small if you can.
Yes, once you pass age 40, you might realize "to give FUCK-ALL" about any potentially negative opinions . 46 Now, (people tend to guesstimate me 10 years younger) and I made a big style change in 2021; I had exclusively been wearing wide baggy pants since 1999. 2021 was the moment I switched from 15-20 years of baggy pants & cargo's to tight shiny spandex leggings. That's quite a drastic change for a mid 40's guy, but I realized life's too short to regret. And it makes sense for my personal style, because I moved from Europe to warm South East Asia.
I feel like I can’t be a ready to wear person because my shoulder measurements are freakishly wide 😢
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The moment I saw the TeleTubbie…. Thats when you got me
Not asking for advice--yeah, my personality is the kind that doesn't ask others what they think about me. I both care too much and yet don't care. That's why I really don't like shopping with my friends (but if they want MY advice and I don't plan to buy anything, that's ok!!)
would you please share the color of your eye shadow?
I think we should ask for feedback but only to a few and selective close friends. I've stopped some of my friends to make bad purchased (bad in the sense ''you will spend money for this piece of clothing, let it live in your closet for a couple of years and discarded it because it doesn't fit with your style) or push us to use more our stuff, again I have friend that I know have amazing piece and never wear them because 'they don't have any occasion to wear them' when in reality they are always out and about. Sometimes another pair of eyes to give a fresh point of view can help.
those criticizing slim/skinny jeans were the same wearing them back in the days. Now they feel so Elite because they've discovered loose/baggy fit. lol
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You should do a collab with Bliss Foster
dude yes
It's up to us to get inspiration from "pre-styled" outfits in shops, on the catwalk and on social media and develop our own style, which usually happens gradually and also develops as we get older and fashions change or return. And it's up to me to maintain a slim weight because I know I look good in clothes if I'm slimmer, I am not conventionally beautiful (jolie-laide I hope) and also almost 60 years young, I have known since childhood that if you're slim clothes are likely to look great, hang well, you feel better so you take care of your appearance and feel more confident. All this body positivity movement (often promoted by stylists who are very slender themselves) cannot disguise the fact that if you're overweight, you are not going to look amazing, you might look good, like my lovely grandmas used to do in the 70s, but you will not look your best. I used to be fat so this is not intended to put anyone down, but I can't stand hypocrisy around this topic.
For me at least, being slim is the one thing that I can do to look good whatever I'm wearing and also feel good and stay healthy and it doesn't cost anything. I am not saying it's easy, but if anyone is interested I lost half my body weight healthily by following the advice of non-profit trustworthy channels like Physicians Committee, Chef AJ (look up her free calorie density guide), Ryan Adams' Slim and Sustain and Dr John McDougall's Slim on Starch Programme (Google the free online version). These are kind people promoting a whole food (more) plant-based way of eating, and you can eat very generous portions while still losing weight - this may sound incredible but because plant foods are naturally lower in calories, you can shed lbs while still eating delicious big meals, without counting calories or becoming food-obsessed. Because you can eat a lot of food, cravings will gradually disappear and overcome disordered eating, bingeing, etc. If you're interested give it a try for 10-14 days.
ich weiss nicht Tuba … sollte Mode nicht einfach nur Spaß sein ❤❤❤❤
@tubavalon my dear, i'd love to hear your thought on bode ;)
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4mins before you started the topic!??????😮
I find it funny (in a kind way so please don't take offence) when someone promotes originality and maximalism and then just wears a sweatshirt, it's not just you, this is quite common in YT influencer videos, I wish some experts/stylists made more of an effort sometimes as what they wear reflects what their channel is all about
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i love u
i love the feedback comment
i am a contrarian at heart... i hate what other people do XD
ID on the hoddie plzzzz
It's a normal black hoodie
@@modanislove nah the shoulders r extra cute
I would love to buy ready to wear second hand but all these rich women who bought it new are a size 34-38 EU and I don't fit in it. So my fat ass has to buy mostly new shit
tuba omg hello
I am so not a shoes and bag person.
the biggest green flag of yours is "im sorry" by the tiktok link. Fourth year watching you
Hello just stumbled upon your channel I have seen that fashion these days not feminine or fun
It is so sad that you have to TEACH people to be themselves
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