"Never ask for feedback" is peak advice. Differentiating your own personal values from those around you is true selfhood, so much beyond "just clothes".
As great as online communities are, I truly believe being on social media the amount that people are in this modern age is detrimental in MANY different ways, but especially in regard to the fashion industry and all that surrounds it. The road to personal style, in my opinion, is a lot more complex and deep than people understand. I look back at some of the outfits I used to wear and they were horrific, but at the same time I genuinely thought they looked good at the time and I was experimenting with stuff to see how it made me feel in it. Personal style and "individuality" is so much more than liking a few specific colors/fabrics/textures and more about looking inward at who you are, what your life is like, your personal politics/beliefs, your emotions, the art you consume, etc. To see this industry turn into what it has makes me sad because its so involved with the digital world and consumerism culture and I think it's really strayed away from the importance of getting in touch with yourself in a way that might even make you uncomfortable or that you might not know how to do just yet (but should try to).
Also I want to add (as someone who is low income and has been my whole life) that these "vintage" pop up shops and the amount of people who are reselling clothes has really driven up prices at the thrift stores. I have been priced out of something that used to be accessible and no longer is. Thrifting has been my way of discovering who I am the past decade and now it's turned into an upper class hobby because its all people peddle on tiktok/instagram. I will die on this hill and know I will get backlash for my comment but I dont care. Finding who you are through personal style has become less accessible due to social media and resellers.
@@foxwilliamulderI agree with you. I was poor most of my life and am very sad to see what thrift stores have turned into. Hell, even Emmaüs has driven their prices up
I think when you think "I would never dare to wear this" that is the sign that you should definitely wear it. I did this for so long with certain silhouettes and when I threw caution to the wind and went for it; it suddenly felt so right and became a key part of my style. I didn't think I was "cool enough". Turned out I was.
I LOVE the point about not asking for feedback. My late twenties has been so good mainly because I’ve slowed down on second guessing myself and I’m just getting more comfortable being present how I want. On personal stylists-I think a lot of people (probably not relevant really for your audience, but non-plugged-into-fashion people) don’t feel comfortable experimenting with clothes or haven’t enjoyed style as self expression maybe ever in their lives. I help style some of my friends, and they oftentimes need explicit encouragement or like a dedicated hour or 2 of time with someone they trust to try stuff on, decide they do/don’t like it, and make a strong claim about their taste with many iterations under their belt.
A very good video! I am definitely committed to not asking for other people’s opinions in the future. No more how I look. I have the ability to judge what I see in the mirror.
Having some issues with the self image (gained size that seems here to stay after having a child), this video couldn't come for me at a more perfect timing - especially the part with being inspired by styling of instagram girls..
I got ur point about the popularity of some brands but I see nothing wrong with supporting slow fashion brands like Paloma wool that cares about sustainability and ethical practices. the brand also works with many artists that are not very popular and they use eco friendly materials. so calling out people to not shop from brands that care about our environment is not really fair :/
@@JuliaCLundmark I didn't mention Ganni here :) I've been following Paloma Wool since it didn't have such a popularity. Paloma wool is very transparent regarding their production. The brand produces their items in Portugal and Spain. What I also really appreciate is that they mostly collaborate with artists who are not very well known, unlike other brands that always work with the Kardashians to generate more attention. Can not tell the same about Ganni.
@@JuliaCLundmark idk if it’s strictly “slow” fashion since it always seems to be trending somehow, but Ganni does some cool internally-funded textile innovation that is specifically geared towards sustainability and I like supporting specifically pieces that show demand for those newer lower-footprint materials. Maybe a bit like Coach creating their secondary label made from upcycled/offcuts of normal coach pieces.
Yeah! Communities always strive for homogeneity. It’s not bad per se, but if you want to dress differently, you cannot rely on your community to give you salient style advice on how to do that.
I love my clothes, and I only carry designer bags. It doesn't have to be either/or for me, but if I had to choose between RTW and bags, I'd ditch the bags - they are the least important part of my wardrobe.
"Never ask for feedback" is peak advice. Differentiating your own personal values from those around you is true selfhood, so much beyond "just clothes".
Not asking for advice is SUCH GOOD ADVICE. I’ve been set back years by this
*SAT HERE IN MY 1910* pattern fishtail trousers, braces, waistcoat and shirt smugly thinking "Im not in any danger of being trendy"
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As great as online communities are, I truly believe being on social media the amount that people are in this modern age is detrimental in MANY different ways, but especially in regard to the fashion industry and all that surrounds it. The road to personal style, in my opinion, is a lot more complex and deep than people understand. I look back at some of the outfits I used to wear and they were horrific, but at the same time I genuinely thought they looked good at the time and I was experimenting with stuff to see how it made me feel in it. Personal style and "individuality" is so much more than liking a few specific colors/fabrics/textures and more about looking inward at who you are, what your life is like, your personal politics/beliefs, your emotions, the art you consume, etc. To see this industry turn into what it has makes me sad because its so involved with the digital world and consumerism culture and I think it's really strayed away from the importance of getting in touch with yourself in a way that might even make you uncomfortable or that you might not know how to do just yet (but should try to).
Also I want to add (as someone who is low income and has been my whole life) that these "vintage" pop up shops and the amount of people who are reselling clothes has really driven up prices at the thrift stores. I have been priced out of something that used to be accessible and no longer is. Thrifting has been my way of discovering who I am the past decade and now it's turned into an upper class hobby because its all people peddle on tiktok/instagram. I will die on this hill and know I will get backlash for my comment but I dont care. Finding who you are through personal style has become less accessible due to social media and resellers.
@@foxwilliamulderI agree with you. I was poor most of my life and am very sad to see what thrift stores have turned into. Hell, even Emmaüs has driven their prices up
How embarrassing. I’ve been texting my lawyer OOTD feedback requests every day for years without realizing it might not be appropriate or helpful.
I think when you think "I would never dare to wear this" that is the sign that you should definitely wear it. I did this for so long with certain silhouettes and when I threw caution to the wind and went for it; it suddenly felt so right and became a key part of my style. I didn't think I was "cool enough". Turned out I was.
I LOVE the point about not asking for feedback. My late twenties has been so good mainly because I’ve slowed down on second guessing myself and I’m just getting more comfortable being present how I want.
On personal stylists-I think a lot of people (probably not relevant really for your audience, but non-plugged-into-fashion people) don’t feel comfortable experimenting with clothes or haven’t enjoyed style as self expression maybe ever in their lives. I help style some of my friends, and they oftentimes need explicit encouragement or like a dedicated hour or 2 of time with someone they trust to try stuff on, decide they do/don’t like it, and make a strong claim about their taste with many iterations under their belt.
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A very good video! I am definitely committed to not asking for other people’s opinions in the future. No more how I look. I have the ability to judge what I see in the mirror.
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I don't think I've ever asked for feedback in my entire life, obvi I can decide better than anyone, if it looks good or not
Having some issues with the self image (gained size that seems here to stay after having a child), this video couldn't come for me at a more perfect timing - especially the part with being inspired by styling of instagram girls..
This was so inspiring!!
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I got ur point about the popularity of some brands but I see nothing wrong with supporting slow fashion brands like Paloma wool that cares about sustainability and ethical practices. the brand also works with many artists that are not very popular and they use eco friendly materials. so calling out people to not shop from brands that care about our environment is not really fair :/
Is Paloma Wool and Ganni slow fashion tough? They go through the trend cycles as fast as anyone…
@@JuliaCLundmark I didn't mention Ganni here :) I've been following Paloma Wool since it didn't have such a popularity. Paloma wool is very transparent regarding their production. The brand produces their items in Portugal and Spain. What I also really appreciate is that they mostly collaborate with artists who are not very well known, unlike other brands that always work with the Kardashians to generate more attention. Can not tell the same about Ganni.
@@JuliaCLundmark idk if it’s strictly “slow” fashion since it always seems to be trending somehow, but Ganni does some cool internally-funded textile innovation that is specifically geared towards sustainability and I like supporting specifically pieces that show demand for those newer lower-footprint materials. Maybe a bit like Coach creating their secondary label made from upcycled/offcuts of normal coach pieces.
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Yeah! Communities always strive for homogeneity. It’s not bad per se, but if you want to dress differently, you cannot rely on your community to give you salient style advice on how to do that.
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I love my clothes, and I only carry designer bags. It doesn't have to be either/or for me, but if I had to choose between RTW and bags, I'd ditch the bags - they are the least important part of my wardrobe.
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