Is your body carrying the tension of denial, delusion or otherwise avoiding the truth? Even though it can be extremely painful to face "what is", it can also feel like relaxation, relief and peace. Have you ever experienced this yourself? Please share! 💛
I have experienced peace, joy and a sort of lightness when I speak my truth about what I want and need and when i have acknowledged my traumas. I have been one that puts on the smile and pretends to be fine and do for others that's what kept me safe as a child. My different physical sensations that I have, I now realize my body is trying to tell me something. I have worked through and acknowledged those that I am aware of. Though I do believe I am missing something... And is it possible that it could be something that in my gut I feel is true, but don't have real proof so I am ignoring it?
@@deancamp6836 - I have been in this exact scenario. Very recently in fact. I have felt my body talking to me for the past 3 years, and I got a lot of answers. But there was still something there. In my experience, it's not so much "proof" that we are waiting for as it is clarity. Sometimes we're not ready to see certain truths. That was me in this recent example. Now that I have clarity, it's REALLY OBVIOUS what my body was trying to tell me. But my mind was extremely clever in protecting me from seeing it. I have this belief that we just can't see things until we're ready. As soon as we're ready, these things will be made evident. But we do need to put ourselves on the path of being open and curious (and patient with ourselves).
Elisha thank you so much for sharing your experience! It feels so good to hear that when I am ready to face the truth, it will be revealed and I will be able to process it. I will stay on my healing journey and "clarity" will come. Thank you so much for all you do. 💕 Debbie
I have realized most of my life has been focused outside of self... I have started looking inside and acknowledge that what has happened to me was trauma and I no longer tell myself it wasn't that bad. My body is still trying to tell me something but I am struggling as to what it is. I am learning to feel my emotions not stuff them and thanks to Dr Nicole when I get emotional and cry and not know why, I don't berate myself about it, I just let it come. It made me feel better when I heard you say after writing those 4 words in your journal it took a few years to work through your trauma, gives me hope... This video came to me at the moment I needed it. Thank you! 💕
I LOVE Nicole! So glad you're following her work, what she shares is so incredibly affirming and helpful. And thank you for sharing all of this. I believe with all my being that you can heal. That we all can. I'm so glad this video came at the right time for you! I actually needed this reminder myself. We got this 💛
I love this so much! I’m in the process of taking radical reclamation of myself! I’ve never heard of a dishonesty cleanse but I love the idea and yes I’m on board and adding that to my regime!
Hi Haley, big YES to radical reclamation! It takes courage, and it is SO WORTH IT. There are so many ways we delude ourselves or use denial/dishonesty to stay "safe" in familiar patterns instead of claiming our full selves. I hope this concept helps you as much as it did me 💛
I just want to endorse this idea, this video, your experience. I feel like you have been with me on my own journey. This week I learned that my cancer has spread to my brain, but in some weird way, there is just something in me that knows that is not a bad thing. I know, beyond a shadow of a doubt, that I created this disease and I am controlling it all the time. I know that I have purposely stalled out the healing I had started two years ago when I was first diagnosed. I know that I am starting to dredge up the exact things you're talking about, the things I'm not being honest with myself about. I know that for the last 6 months I got scared when I saw myself reduce the size of my tumors and I dropped out of the process I was engaging. I resumed dissociation and using food to tune out. I actually sought out and binged the foods that I know my body told me to avoid. I actually had a dream about someone taking my cancer away and me saying "No. It's mine. I need it." My subconscious is very busy giving my conscious mind a PhD in life and if it has to use my body as the workbook, it will. I don't think I AM my body, or my mind. I am extra-material. And the part of me that needs to traverse this life is so engaged and so involved. I am facing down my fears whether I want to or not. It's exciting and intriguing and it's MY life for the first time ever. thank you Alisha for your brave candor and making this channel. You have been one of the handles I have used to move up the rock face.
Tahiya, once again....THANK YOU. Thank you for modeling what radical self ownership looks like. Thank you for humbly and truthfully sharing from experience. I don't believe healing is a straight line for any of us, and you describe your up/down and all around process with so much honesty and self-compassion. You inspire ME 🌟💕 I honor ALL the parts of you, as each are worthy of being seen and being loved.
Hi Elisha. I watched this video again this morning, up to the point where you said the 4 words, then went on a walk. I asked myself what my words would be, and they would be something like, "I am scared into rigid paralysis", or "I am scared into a rigid "No!" On the walk, there was a loud noise or something; and I took in my breath and pulled in my arms tightly. That is the way I deal with everything; I draw into myself and tighten up, and say "no" to everything in order to avoid more of that experience. I do that in my body daily, in my relationships, in my work, in the idea of exploring hobbies or fun activities. I felt relieved when I said those words to myself, too. It was a good realization. Thank you again for sharing.
My journey started 4 years ago as well. have found gentler release just under the skin. Thigh, knee, shoulder. May I please speak with you? I Honestly, I’m in tears. Your words today....my insomnia is now feeling emotional. Trauma. Illness, and my husband of 22 years kicked me out. My heart. I have NOT been honest with myself. That is my journey. I want to share the releases I have found. Ones that release and comfort gently. Thank you. I must have found you on RUclips when you started. I share your videos frequently. ♥️
Hi! Thank you for sharing. Gentle is indeed better for some people, I'm so glad you listen to yourself and do what works for you. I hear such readiness in your words to honor what is true, to feel the pain of "what is" and heal. This takes tremendous bravery. I'm not sure what you're wanting to connect about, but you can email me at info@elishaceleste.com (new website coming soon). I do offer private consultations.
@@ElishaCeleste mostly what I’ve found with the location of physical triggers. It piggybacks on what you’ve shared. I’ve done a little work on an elderly lady and the differences in the same trigger spots led to softer release. That’s all. I follow you on RUclips and goodness, to say thank you is small. I could write it out, but I miss steps. Sorta a dyslexic fractured order right now. I’m healing.
Oh! I've been married 22 yrs. To my best friend. I know it must feel so painful for you to be spoken down to, after that long w someone. Bless you! Did things improve w you both? Or did you find a new life on your own?
I love this concept! I got a little teary just hearing you describe your own revelation as I also have tried to use my outer sunny disposition to mask the feeling of being utterly traumatized as a child and adult and am now dealing with so many aches and pains that I know are related to inner tensions that I am holding. I love your ability to be compassionate and caring and also intelligently able to describe the body mind connection. You are so right about the fear being the fear that whatever is emotionally hidden will overwhelm you so you are afraid to open that Pandora's box....thank you for creating a bridge from trauma to healing! :)
What an impactful video! ❤❤❤ Wow. I wish you were still doing videos. I just found you and am almost through all of them. Thank you so much! I really needed to see this one.
1. Thank you for your continued service as amazing n generous human being. 2. You’re high-key getting hotter as you deepen your relationship with yourself. 3. Omgah! That tortoise was huuuuge 🐢😱
Very interesting. Of course, I heard the story before, but it resonates a lot to me because of my (still ongoing) ASD diagnosis: ever since I was a child I was berated for speaking too loud, for reacting to sound and touch as I shouldn't have, for being "hysterical", for being weird. I took on all of this and kept feeling more and more tired - in my teens I could sleep 16 hours straight and still feel tired. Since then, I left my country, held down a job responsibly and started coming across literature about ASD. I also came across literature about raising children with the so called "low arousal method" which seeks to minimise certain stimuli. This might maybe seen at odds with what you said but to me it feels relevant: once I felt loved and accepted I started accepting myself too. My husband told me over and over again that if I don't feel like being hugged when I'm upset (common in autistic people, I'm told) that's fine. If I want a hug, that's fine too. I realised that I took on board all of the talk about being hysterical and demanding and didn't look after myself properly. I think other than really not seeing that the body and mind are not two different things, we also need to really understand that as much as we wouldn't tell a fair skinned person for needing more sun screen or a parasol when out in the sun, we should also not tell people off for needing to look after their mind. What that meant for me is that, aside from the niggling problem with my left leg which is nowadays very manageable and often just silent, I have over the years stopped waking up feeling like an 80 year old woman. I used to stretch in the morning and feel my sternum snap like balsa wood and now I'm ten years older I feel like I'm actually better physically than I was then. My diet isn't better, I don't exercise more: I think i just stopped telling myself off quite as much.
I have been realizing for quite awhile how the trauma I've experienced is stuck in my body. Sometimes I feel like my subconscious mind isn't lying so much as hiding things from me in an attempt to keep me safe but it is ultimately keeping me stuck. Thank you for sharing your work it is so needed.
Hi Jayne - you nailed it. The #1 job of the subconscious mind (which I equate with the nervous system, which of course lives in the body) is to help us survive. Often, this means keeping us in familiar patterns ("safe") even if those patterns are painful and don't allow us to thrive. Healing can actually feel terrifying to the nervous system. I plan to film a video about how to harness the power of your sympathetic nervous system to heal trauma stuck in the body, because there's a lot of focus on parasympathetic and creating so-called "safety" - but many of us actually need to learn how to fight, how to leave (flee), how to verbally protect ourselves (set boundaries) in order to relax (aka, feel truly safe). This helps that part of the nervous system chill out that tends to freak out any time we stray from the familiar. When our bodies know we can protect ourselves, they relax.
@@ElishaCeleste Reading this released a deep breath of relief. I’m only recently realizing that all my life I’ve protected others, but never learned to protect myself. In early childhood I let others beat me up, falsely accuse me, etc because I could not bear to feel healthy aggression toward others in my blood. Fighting back felt dangerously close to hatred or ill-will. I need to learn to fight, flee, assert boundaries and express anger without shame, guilt, etc. How to do it with dignity and grace? When we’re protecting others we feel inside an ocean of goodness/righteousness/love, but what positive, moral feelings can we swim in during self-defense. It feels like the warm flow of love for humanity suddenly gets blocked. I’m sure there’s a way. Does this make any sense?
Wow, I just discovered your channel and cannot believe the parallels in your experience and in mine. I grew up with lots of early life trauma but did not realize until later in life that the pain and tension and anxiety had direct connections back to those early days. I have discovered in my adult life that my body does in fact keep all of the scores And I need to pay more attention to what it’s trying to tell me. Physical exercise and stretching has been both mentally and emotionally helpful, and I do need to call on my introspective self to help me deal with lower back pain and hip flexor issues that are chronic and persistent. Thank you so much for this video and for being vulnerable - it helps all of us.
Yes,no, yes no, etc. The truth seems absurd. How people our culture claim will love and protect us fall short to be and do? Mind healing explored, yoga, meditation is short lived. Will nervous pain relief through TRE be the connection? I deeply want it to be. I'm worn from exploring methods .
I was shocked at what happened when I heard you say, I am traumatized! The minute you said the words, I burst out crying and felt relieved! I have never had anyone who allowed me to be affected by all my traumas. I had to be ok or I was rejected. I'm done with that!
Janice, I'm so glad you made your way here, and allowed yourself to feel the impact of my story. Thank you for sharing! I am sending a whole lot of love for the path back to your full self, where all your hurts can be acknowledged, felt and integrated. 💛
4 hours ago I told the same to myself! Saying the truth keeps you healthy, that is what I said. Amazing to hear this now. Thank you for sharing your story.
This is beautiful. ❤ thank you! I realized for years I've been lying to myself too♡ somatic exercises are incredible too. It's funny, when we are children these things come natural, we voice our emotions, journal, scream, play and have no idea how truly important they are as we grow ♡
You also have to give yourself 'permission' to relax. When you've been dealt a physical disability, you can spend your whole life trying to look and act normal, when in fact you're probably making the problem even worse. You may lose friends, or family, or lifestyle when you make the decision to relax, but being 'honest' with yourself allows you to actually find out what 'your' life really is. It's not the same as others, but it's yours. Take ownership of it and address it realistically and lovingly. My motto is: I do what I can, when I can and how I can. I sometimes have to repeat it to myself when I try to do more than my body is able or willing to accept. Above all, learning to forgive your past, both others and yourself, is probably the biggest step.
YES 🌟 Thank you for sharing. When we strip away any notion that there is such a thing as "normal," and we choose to live by our own intuitive knowing, our highest expression of health can manifest. And it looks different for all of us.
Although I have heard you tell this story before, it made me think. I realized that I do not accept my own best efforts if they do not measure up to some arbitrary standard I have set (usually, based on the strengths and admirable qualities of other people). Because of this, I am often disappointed in and even despise myself. I'm motivated to try harder, not because I find joy and fulfillment in it but because I feel it is a minimum requirement for self-acceptance. I already knew I was a perfectionist, but I didn't consider that I really am doing my best most days. I am not lazy or stupid or any of the awful things I tell myself. I don't have to beat myself up in order to motivate myself to improve each day. I naturally want to do better. I'm still working out a way to overcome this pattern, but just becoming aware of it is a big first step. 👍 Thanks for continuing to share your story.
Hi Lisa, thank you for sharing some of YOUR story (again 💕). As a recovering perfectionist/control freak and someone who used to despise herself, I can share from personal experience that these traits are cleverly designed to protect us from other forms of pain that we believe will be too scary or intolerable. For me, that was embarrassment, indignity and the feeling of being "othered" if I showed people who I really am (messy and imperfect) and was judged, rejected or banished as a result. I think it's useful to ask ourselves what these habitual thoughts and behaviors are trying to protect us from. Then we can see what we're really afraid of. Which leads to a new kind of honesty with ourselves. And YES - being aware of these patterns is the only way to start and is a BIG step in the right direction!
I LOVE that you found your words that started this growth in you!!! I think maybe we all have that short phrase that needs to be said by us, to us, in order for healing to begin. For me, I made HUGE progress in my emotional healing when I finally said the words "I Forgive Myself". That was when I realized all that I blamed myself for and I could finally start letting go.
Acknowledging as it is ...true to oneself without coverings Amazingly worked in all aspects of life , crux of Vipassana meditation, j Krishnamurthy philosophy
You're Amazing ❤, this was something I really needed to hear. I 60 days ago woke up and made the decision that I needed to make some mature decisions, I quit all sugar food and drink.i feel like a new man..Arthritis is way way down, strength is up,I'm practicing intermittent fasting. So I've lost weight and my energy levels are High.i sleep like a baby, no more stomach pain, and Anxiety I manageable. 😊, However I get cravings of my old ways now and then. Listening to you makes me feel like I've got some childhood things to work on.😊,I've got the tools and resources ❤. Thank you. Here we Go 😮😊.
Thank you Elisha for your videos. Ive been dealing with old issues that were triggered by a confrontation 2 weeks ago. So much old stuff came up, I’ve had frustration anger headaches back pain, and im ready for a change.🎉
I too was one who thought that the way to cope with trauma and pain was to put on a smile, be courageous and “fake it till you make it”. This video is poignant, yet powerful. Lately I’ve been focusing on speaking my truth instead of suppressing my voice for the sake of others comfort. But I see now, this was only part of the work necessary for my healing. Thank you!
Yessss. Before I saw this video I had an experience where I admitted to myself that I feel guilty consuming the things that being me pleasure. Once I allowed myself to have that moment the tension in my neck released.
Ive had so many law of attraction people tell me not to pay attention to my osin, or trauma, other things going on in my body, that what i ficus on grows. I belueved in this too, hence when i got very sick, which lead to me having to give up my business, i didnt share all the physical issues when i went to any practioner, holistic, or conventional. Thus lead me to obe, push it all down,including trauma. This also lead me to bot get my full disability.
100% spot on - and yes to the feeling of relaxation. One issue is that is can be really really hard to do this on your own as far as seeing precisely what it is that a person is not being honest with themselves about, particularly if it has been buried for a long long time. I know this as this has happened to me - where I understood the general issue but not WHO it was I was angry with, now to get on with letting all that go and let the healing happen.
Yes, it can be very hard to see this on your own. However, it's also been my experience that people can TRY to tell us or show us in all kinds of ways, and if we're not ready to see that particular truth...we just won't. Until we're ready.
The other day my mind, beliefs, desires were saying one thing and my body was saying another. My body was countering me in real time as I was saying something to someone about behavior in general. My body had accrued stress over their specific behavior, but I thought it would be better to wait, observe, understand and communicate later.
Hey Elisha, I wonder if it means anything that you have actually spelt "Traumatized" incorrectly. I have already learned from you that the body keeps the score and locks in emotional trauma. What you have to say about honesty is profound and moved me. I needed this reminder from you just to focus on the things that matter ( sounds hypocritical pointing out typos I know). Thanks again for all that you do 🌹
Stefan is actually the one who edits these videos (he creates all the graphics like words coming on screen). Both of us tend towards perfectionism, so making these errors publicly is a great exercise in letting go! 😆 I'm glad the content of the video was meaningful to you 💕
I truly love how you talk about the body’s knowingness. I absolutely agree. I think it knows truth, even including what is good and bad for us in every moment, and what we talk about as intuition, a knowingness beyond what we can imagine. I have found that acknowledging my body’s truths is very relieving and deeply healing, too. I personally use it most with my NVC practice when trying to identify what I feel and need, and when I work on healing my past. If I’m trying to work with a trauma, or just anything haunting me, I always start with the body because it knows and can take me there, show me what Ive buried. It’s so amazing. When I bring a subconscious memory back, I will often get an olfactory memory back too. For example, I did one on my childhood school and now I can remember the smells of the different classrooms. It’s amazing. It doesn’t sound that profound but it really is. I get the chance to process things that have a great meaning for me. It has helped me feel closer to myself. It a return to honesty, and so much more. It is a topic very dear to my heart.
I want to add that there are probably many modalities that rely on the body’s knowingness, the body’s truth. Byron Katie’s “the work,” Teal Swan’s “completion process,” and Donna Eden’s energy medicine are ones I can think of. My sister used to do a technique for a trauma clearing called NET that utilized muscle testing/body testing. I learned through studying shamanic journeying so mine is mostly styled like that, I call it doing a meditative journey to connect with myself. But it’s fun to learn the different ways people come to truth and to try it all! I think we all end up with our own unique way. It’s really exciting and beautiful and I wish it was more a part of our culture, reverence for the magic of our bodies.
Hi Taylor - thank you so much for sharing! I definitely agree. There are many paths for becoming more embodied and/or learning to listen to the body's wisdom. I also understand what you're saying about something that doesn't sound profound, but FEELS that way. Because it is. I believe these subtle sensory experiences help us tap into the communication network of the universe. Our bodies have incredible capacity for sensory gathering about the world around us, and they can store every single one of those memories. I appreciate the reverent way you described some of your process 💛
@@ElishaCeleste ❤️I love that you are so passionate and excited and this work. I feel less alone knowing you are on your adventure to yourself too. I know we all are, but still, it’s so nice to hear this talked about, and from so much heart. Thank you for reading my comments and writing to me☺️
Is your body carrying the tension of denial, delusion or otherwise avoiding the truth? Even though it can be extremely painful to face "what is", it can also feel like relaxation, relief and peace. Have you ever experienced this yourself? Please share! 💛
I have experienced peace, joy and a sort of lightness when I speak my truth about what I want and need and when i have acknowledged my traumas. I have been one that puts on the smile and pretends to be fine and do for others that's what kept me safe as a child. My different physical sensations that I have, I now realize my body is trying to tell me something. I have worked through and acknowledged those that I am aware of. Though I do believe I am missing something... And is it possible that it could be something that in my gut I feel is true, but don't have real proof so I am ignoring it?
@@deancamp6836 - I have been in this exact scenario. Very recently in fact. I have felt my body talking to me for the past 3 years, and I got a lot of answers. But there was still something there. In my experience, it's not so much "proof" that we are waiting for as it is clarity. Sometimes we're not ready to see certain truths. That was me in this recent example. Now that I have clarity, it's REALLY OBVIOUS what my body was trying to tell me. But my mind was extremely clever in protecting me from seeing it. I have this belief that we just can't see things until we're ready. As soon as we're ready, these things will be made evident. But we do need to put ourselves on the path of being open and curious (and patient with ourselves).
Elisha thank you so much for sharing your experience! It feels so good to hear that when I am ready to face the truth, it will be revealed and I will be able to process it. I will stay on my healing journey and "clarity" will come.
Thank you so much for all you do. 💕 Debbie
I have realized most of my life has been focused outside of self... I have started looking inside and acknowledge that what has happened to me was trauma and I no longer tell myself it wasn't that bad. My body is still trying to tell me something but I am struggling as to what it is. I am learning to feel my emotions not stuff them and thanks to Dr Nicole when I get emotional and cry and not know why, I don't berate myself about it, I just let it come. It made me feel better when I heard you say after writing those 4 words in your journal it took a few years to work through your trauma, gives me hope... This video came to me at the moment I needed it.
Thank you! 💕
I LOVE Nicole! So glad you're following her work, what she shares is so incredibly affirming and helpful. And thank you for sharing all of this. I believe with all my being that you can heal. That we all can. I'm so glad this video came at the right time for you! I actually needed this reminder myself. We got this 💛
I love this so much! I’m in the process of taking radical reclamation of myself! I’ve never heard of a dishonesty cleanse but I love the idea and yes I’m on board and adding that to my regime!
Hi Haley, big YES to radical reclamation! It takes courage, and it is SO WORTH IT. There are so many ways we delude ourselves or use denial/dishonesty to stay "safe" in familiar patterns instead of claiming our full selves. I hope this concept helps you as much as it did me 💛
I just want to endorse this idea, this video, your experience. I feel like you have been with me on my own journey.
This week I learned that my cancer has spread to my brain, but in some weird way, there is just something in me that knows that is not a bad thing. I know, beyond a shadow of a doubt, that I created this disease and I am controlling it all the time. I know that I have purposely stalled out the healing I had started two years ago when I was first diagnosed. I know that I am starting to dredge up the exact things you're talking about, the things I'm not being honest with myself about.
I know that for the last 6 months I got scared when I saw myself reduce the size of my tumors and I dropped out of the process I was engaging. I resumed dissociation and using food to tune out. I actually sought out and binged the foods that I know my body told me to avoid. I actually had a dream about someone taking my cancer away and me saying "No. It's mine. I need it."
My subconscious is very busy giving my conscious mind a PhD in life and if it has to use my body as the workbook, it will. I don't think I AM my body, or my mind. I am extra-material. And the part of me that needs to traverse this life is so engaged and so involved. I am facing down my fears whether I want to or not. It's exciting and intriguing and it's MY life for the first time ever. thank you Alisha for your brave candor and making this channel. You have been one of the handles I have used to move up the rock face.
Tahiya, once again....THANK YOU. Thank you for modeling what radical self ownership looks like. Thank you for humbly and truthfully sharing from experience. I don't believe healing is a straight line for any of us, and you describe your up/down and all around process with so much honesty and self-compassion. You inspire ME 🌟💕
I honor ALL the parts of you, as each are worthy of being seen and being loved.
Hi Elisha. I watched this video again this morning, up to the point where you said the 4 words, then went on a walk. I asked myself what my words would be, and they would be something like, "I am scared into rigid paralysis", or "I am scared into a rigid "No!" On the walk, there was a loud noise or something; and I took in my breath and pulled in my arms tightly. That is the way I deal with everything; I draw into myself and tighten up, and say "no" to everything in order to avoid more of that experience. I do that in my body daily, in my relationships, in my work, in the idea of exploring hobbies or fun activities. I felt relieved when I said those words to myself, too. It was a good realization. Thank you again for sharing.
My journey started 4 years ago as well. have found gentler release just under the skin. Thigh, knee, shoulder. May I please speak with you? I
Honestly, I’m in tears. Your words today....my insomnia is now feeling emotional. Trauma. Illness, and my husband of 22 years kicked me out. My heart. I have NOT been honest with myself. That is my journey. I want to share the releases I have found. Ones that release and comfort gently.
Thank you. I must have found you on RUclips when you started. I share your videos frequently.
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Hi! Thank you for sharing. Gentle is indeed better for some people, I'm so glad you listen to yourself and do what works for you. I hear such readiness in your words to honor what is true, to feel the pain of "what is" and heal. This takes tremendous bravery. I'm not sure what you're wanting to connect about, but you can email me at info@elishaceleste.com (new website coming soon). I do offer private consultations.
@@ElishaCeleste mostly what I’ve found with the location of physical triggers. It piggybacks on what you’ve shared. I’ve done a little work on an elderly lady and the differences in the same trigger spots led to softer release. That’s all. I follow you on RUclips and goodness, to say thank you is small. I could write it out, but I miss steps. Sorta a dyslexic fractured order right now. I’m healing.
Oh! I've been married 22 yrs. To my best friend.
I know it must feel so painful for you to be spoken down to, after that long w someone.
Bless you!
Did things improve w you both? Or did you find a new life on your own?
@@Kbmaas sadly my husband passed and I’m on my own. Continuing my healing path. 🥲
I love this concept! I got a little teary just hearing you describe your own revelation as I also have tried to use my outer sunny disposition to mask the feeling of being utterly traumatized as a child and adult and am now dealing with so many aches and pains that I know are related to inner tensions that I am holding. I love your ability to be compassionate and caring and also intelligently able to describe the body mind connection. You are so right about the fear being the fear that whatever is emotionally hidden will overwhelm you so you are afraid to open that Pandora's box....thank you for creating a bridge from trauma to healing! :)
Thank you. I love your videos but this one was especially beautiful. Truthfully, direct, loving. I appreciate your work.
What an impactful video! ❤❤❤
Wow. I wish you were still doing videos. I just found you and am almost through all of them.
Thank you so much! I really needed to see this one.
I'm happy to hear this video was impactful for you♥ I am returning to RUclips this year (by spring) with a podcast and more content like this.
@@ElishaCeleste Fantastic news! YES!! 👍
I too just found you! Your work is exactly what I need at this time of my life. Can't wait to see what you do in future.
1. Thank you for your continued service as amazing n generous human being.
2. You’re high-key getting hotter as you deepen your relationship with yourself.
3. Omgah! That tortoise was huuuuge 🐢😱
That was in the Galapagos Islands! Feels like a lifetime ago. They were super cool.
Very interesting. Of course, I heard the story before, but it resonates a lot to me because of my (still ongoing) ASD diagnosis: ever since I was a child I was berated for speaking too loud, for reacting to sound and touch as I shouldn't have, for being "hysterical", for being weird. I took on all of this and kept feeling more and more tired - in my teens I could sleep 16 hours straight and still feel tired.
Since then, I left my country, held down a job responsibly and started coming across literature about ASD. I also came across literature about raising children with the so called "low arousal method" which seeks to minimise certain stimuli. This might maybe seen at odds with what you said but to me it feels relevant: once I felt loved and accepted I started accepting myself too. My husband told me over and over again that if I don't feel like being hugged when I'm upset (common in autistic people, I'm told) that's fine. If I want a hug, that's fine too. I realised that I took on board all of the talk about being hysterical and demanding and didn't look after myself properly. I think other than really not seeing that the body and mind are not two different things, we also need to really understand that as much as we wouldn't tell a fair skinned person for needing more sun screen or a parasol when out in the sun, we should also not tell people off for needing to look after their mind.
What that meant for me is that, aside from the niggling problem with my left leg which is nowadays very manageable and often just silent, I have over the years stopped waking up feeling like an 80 year old woman. I used to stretch in the morning and feel my sternum snap like balsa wood and now I'm ten years older I feel like I'm actually better physically than I was then. My diet isn't better, I don't exercise more: I think i just stopped telling myself off quite as much.
I’m at the stage where I notice my body tensing and remind myself I’m ok. I’m safe. I learn and let go. Thanks E❣️
You're welcome! Letting go. Oof. That's been my #1 continual lesson (maybe for all of us, huh?) Thank you for sharing 💕
I have been realizing for quite awhile how the trauma I've experienced is stuck in my body. Sometimes I feel like my subconscious mind isn't lying so much as hiding things from me in an attempt to keep me safe but it is ultimately keeping me stuck. Thank you for sharing your work it is so needed.
Hi Jayne - you nailed it. The #1 job of the subconscious mind (which I equate with the nervous system, which of course lives in the body) is to help us survive. Often, this means keeping us in familiar patterns ("safe") even if those patterns are painful and don't allow us to thrive. Healing can actually feel terrifying to the nervous system. I plan to film a video about how to harness the power of your sympathetic nervous system to heal trauma stuck in the body, because there's a lot of focus on parasympathetic and creating so-called "safety" - but many of us actually need to learn how to fight, how to leave (flee), how to verbally protect ourselves (set boundaries) in order to relax (aka, feel truly safe). This helps that part of the nervous system chill out that tends to freak out any time we stray from the familiar. When our bodies know we can protect ourselves, they relax.
@@ElishaCeleste Reading this released a deep breath of relief. I’m only recently realizing that all my life I’ve protected others, but never learned to protect myself. In early childhood I let others beat me up, falsely accuse me, etc because I could not bear to feel healthy aggression toward others in my blood. Fighting back felt dangerously close to hatred or ill-will. I need to learn to fight, flee, assert boundaries and express anger without shame, guilt, etc. How to do it with dignity and grace? When we’re protecting others we feel inside an ocean of goodness/righteousness/love, but what positive, moral feelings can we swim in during self-defense. It feels like the warm flow of love for humanity suddenly gets blocked. I’m sure there’s a way. Does this make any sense?
Wow, I just discovered your channel and cannot believe the parallels in your experience and in mine. I grew up with lots of early life trauma but did not realize until later in life that the pain and tension and anxiety had direct connections back to those early days. I have discovered in my adult life that my body does in fact keep all of the scores And I need to pay more attention to what it’s trying to tell me. Physical exercise and stretching has been both mentally and emotionally helpful, and I do need to call on my introspective self to help me deal with lower back pain and hip flexor issues that are chronic and persistent. Thank you so much for this video and for being vulnerable - it helps all of us.
You're so welcome. Thank you for sharing! So many of us are feeling similarly, and it's great for all of us to know we're not alone and we can heal.
Yes,no, yes no, etc. The truth seems absurd. How people our culture claim will love and protect us fall short to be and do? Mind healing explored, yoga, meditation is short lived. Will nervous pain relief through TRE be the connection? I deeply want it to be. I'm worn from exploring methods .
I was shocked at what happened when I heard you say, I am traumatized! The minute you said the words, I burst out crying and felt relieved! I have never had anyone who allowed me to be affected by all my traumas. I had to be ok or I was rejected. I'm done with that!
Janice, I'm so glad you made your way here, and allowed yourself to feel the impact of my story. Thank you for sharing! I am sending a whole lot of love for the path back to your full self, where all your hurts can be acknowledged, felt and integrated. 💛
4 hours ago I told the same to myself! Saying the truth keeps you healthy, that is what I said. Amazing to hear this now. Thank you for sharing your story.
YES, the truth keeps us healthy! Love that.
This is beautiful. ❤ thank you! I realized for years I've been lying to myself too♡ somatic exercises are incredible too. It's funny, when we are children these things come natural, we voice our emotions, journal, scream, play and have no idea how truly important they are as we grow ♡
Unless we’re not allowed to voice our emotions, etc.
Love this. Thank you.❤
You also have to give yourself 'permission' to relax. When you've been dealt a physical disability, you can spend your whole life trying to look and act normal, when in fact you're probably making the problem even worse.
You may lose friends, or family, or lifestyle when you make the decision to relax, but being 'honest' with yourself allows you to actually find out what 'your' life really is. It's not the same as others, but it's yours.
Take ownership of it and address it realistically and lovingly. My motto is: I do what I can, when I can and how I can. I sometimes have to repeat it to myself when I try to do more than my body is able or willing to accept.
Above all, learning to forgive your past, both others and yourself, is probably the biggest step.
YES 🌟 Thank you for sharing. When we strip away any notion that there is such a thing as "normal," and we choose to live by our own intuitive knowing, our highest expression of health can manifest. And it looks different for all of us.
Although I have heard you tell this story before, it made me think. I realized that I do not accept my own best efforts if they do not measure up to some arbitrary standard I have set (usually, based on the strengths and admirable qualities of other people). Because of this, I am often disappointed in and even despise myself. I'm motivated to try harder, not because I find joy and fulfillment in it but because I feel it is a minimum requirement for self-acceptance.
I already knew I was a perfectionist, but I didn't consider that I really am doing my best most days. I am not lazy or stupid or any of the awful things I tell myself. I don't have to beat myself up in order to motivate myself to improve each day. I naturally want to do better. I'm still working out a way to overcome this pattern, but just becoming aware of it is a big first step. 👍 Thanks for continuing to share your story.
Hi Lisa, thank you for sharing some of YOUR story (again 💕). As a recovering perfectionist/control freak and someone who used to despise herself, I can share from personal experience that these traits are cleverly designed to protect us from other forms of pain that we believe will be too scary or intolerable. For me, that was embarrassment, indignity and the feeling of being "othered" if I showed people who I really am (messy and imperfect) and was judged, rejected or banished as a result. I think it's useful to ask ourselves what these habitual thoughts and behaviors are trying to protect us from. Then we can see what we're really afraid of. Which leads to a new kind of honesty with ourselves. And YES - being aware of these patterns is the only way to start and is a BIG step in the right direction!
I LOVE that you found your words that started this growth in you!!! I think maybe we all have that short phrase that needs to be said by us, to us, in order for healing to begin. For me, I made HUGE progress in my emotional healing when I finally said the words "I Forgive Myself". That was when I realized all that I blamed myself for and I could finally start letting go.
Beautiful, thank you for sharing 💛
Acknowledging as it is ...true to oneself without coverings
Amazingly worked in all aspects of life , crux of Vipassana meditation, j Krishnamurthy philosophy
You're Amazing ❤, this was something I really needed to hear. I 60 days ago woke up and made the decision that I needed to make some mature decisions, I quit all sugar food and drink.i feel like a new man..Arthritis is way way down, strength is up,I'm practicing intermittent fasting. So I've lost weight and my energy levels are High.i sleep like a baby, no more stomach pain, and Anxiety I manageable. 😊, However I get cravings of my old ways now and then. Listening to you makes me feel like I've got some childhood things to work on.😊,I've got the tools and resources ❤. Thank you. Here we Go 😮😊.
Thank you Elisha for your videos. Ive been dealing with old issues that were triggered by a confrontation 2 weeks ago. So much old stuff came up, I’ve had frustration anger headaches back pain, and im ready for a change.🎉
I too was one who thought that the way to cope with trauma and pain was to put on a smile, be courageous and “fake it till you make it”. This video is poignant, yet powerful. Lately I’ve been focusing on speaking my truth instead of suppressing my voice for the sake of others comfort. But I see now, this was only part of the work necessary for my healing.
Thank you!
Yessss. Before I saw this video I had an experience where I admitted to myself that I feel guilty consuming the things that being me pleasure. Once I allowed myself to have that moment the tension in my neck released.
Ive had so many law of attraction people tell me not to pay attention to my osin, or trauma, other things going on in my body, that what i ficus on grows. I belueved in this too, hence when i got very sick, which lead to me having to give up my business, i didnt share all the physical issues when i went to any practioner, holistic, or conventional. Thus lead me to obe, push it all down,including trauma. This also lead me to bot get my full disability.
Oh my goodness, this is a fantastic truth revelation, thankyou xxx
I actually had those relaxation moments but I still have a long way to go 😢
Thank you for sharing. I have experienced truth setting me free!
Thank you. Simply true. But great to hear it from another person. Much love.
Thank you for sharing your story. I'm in the process of letting go of my past as well. 🙏🌈♥️
Love your soul. I resonate so much with your approach
Yes definitely! You’re so right!
I would love to interview you for my channel!
You are amazing!! Thank you very much!!
I love this so much thank you 🙏🏻
@4:05 types of pain to journal about
100% spot on - and yes to the feeling of relaxation. One issue is that is can be really really hard to do this on your own as far as seeing precisely what it is that a person is not being honest with themselves about, particularly if it has been buried for a long long time. I know this as this has happened to me - where I understood the general issue but not WHO it was I was angry with, now to get on with letting all that go and let the healing happen.
Yes, it can be very hard to see this on your own. However, it's also been my experience that people can TRY to tell us or show us in all kinds of ways, and if we're not ready to see that particular truth...we just won't. Until we're ready.
Thanks for sharing 😊💜🙏
Thank you for the encouragement to recognize, understand, and acknowledge what is / what was
I needed it today.
The other day my mind, beliefs, desires were saying one thing and my body was saying another. My body was countering me in real time as I was saying something to someone about behavior in general.
My body had accrued stress over their specific behavior, but I thought it would be better to wait, observe, understand and communicate later.
congrats on over coming!
Absolutely 💯.
Hey Elisha, I wonder if it means anything that you have actually spelt "Traumatized" incorrectly. I have already learned from you that the body keeps the score and locks in emotional trauma. What you have to say about honesty is profound and moved me. I needed this reminder from you just to focus on the things that matter ( sounds hypocritical pointing out typos I know).
Thanks again for all that you do 🌹
Stefan is actually the one who edits these videos (he creates all the graphics like words coming on screen). Both of us tend towards perfectionism, so making these errors publicly is a great exercise in letting go! 😆 I'm glad the content of the video was meaningful to you 💕
In the U.S., spelt is a grain and 'spelled' is the past participle. It's all about context and perspective.
I truly love how you talk about the body’s knowingness. I absolutely agree. I think it knows truth, even including what is good and bad for us in every moment, and what we talk about as intuition, a knowingness beyond what we can imagine.
I have found that acknowledging my body’s truths is very relieving and deeply healing, too. I personally use it most with my NVC practice when trying to identify what I feel and need, and when I work on healing my past. If I’m trying to work with a trauma, or just anything haunting me, I always start with the body because it knows and can take me there, show me what Ive buried. It’s so amazing. When I bring a subconscious memory back, I will often get an olfactory memory back too. For example, I did one on my childhood school and now I can remember the smells of the different classrooms. It’s amazing. It doesn’t sound that profound but it really is. I get the chance to process things that have a great meaning for me. It has helped me feel closer to myself. It a return to honesty, and so much more.
It is a topic very dear to my heart.
I want to add that there are probably many modalities that rely on the body’s knowingness, the body’s truth. Byron Katie’s “the work,” Teal Swan’s “completion process,” and Donna Eden’s energy medicine are ones I can think of. My sister used to do a technique for a trauma clearing called NET that utilized muscle testing/body testing. I learned through studying shamanic journeying so mine is mostly styled like that, I call it doing a meditative journey to connect with myself. But it’s fun to learn the different ways people come to truth and to try it all! I think we all end up with our own unique way. It’s really exciting and beautiful and I wish it was more a part of our culture, reverence for the magic of our bodies.
Hi Taylor - thank you so much for sharing! I definitely agree. There are many paths for becoming more embodied and/or learning to listen to the body's wisdom. I also understand what you're saying about something that doesn't sound profound, but FEELS that way. Because it is. I believe these subtle sensory experiences help us tap into the communication network of the universe. Our bodies have incredible capacity for sensory gathering about the world around us, and they can store every single one of those memories. I appreciate the reverent way you described some of your process 💛
@@ElishaCeleste ❤️I love that you are so passionate and excited and this work. I feel less alone knowing you are on your adventure to yourself too. I know we all are, but still, it’s so nice to hear this talked about, and from so much heart. Thank you for reading my comments and writing to me☺️