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Hey there, RUclips fam! Welcome back to another juicy video on the channel. Today, we're diving deep into the glitzy world of Hollywood to uncover the truth about some of our favorite celebrities. But hold on tight, because we're about to expose the dark side of fame. That's right, folks, we're talking about "Celebrities Who Turn Out to be Total Jerks in Real Life."
In this eye-opening video, we'll take you on a rollercoaster ride through the lives of famous personalities who may have won our hearts on the silver screen but left a lot to be desired behind the scenes. Brace yourselves for some shocking revelations, my friends!
We kick things off with a megastar who seemingly can't control their diva attitude. We'll spill the beans on their outrageous demands, entitled behavior, and the horror stories shared by their former staff. Get ready to have your jaw hit the floor when you find out who it is!
But that's just the tip of the iceberg, folks. We'll also uncover the true colors of a beloved comedian who turns out to be far from funny when the cameras stop rolling. Prepare to have your heartbroken as we delve into the dark side of their persona and reveal the stories of their rude encounters with fans and industry professionals alike.
And let's not forget about the once-charming heartthrob who left their humble beginnings far behind. We'll delve into the tales of their arrogance, tantrums on set, and their general disdain for anyone they deem beneath them. Trust me, you won't believe some of the shocking firsthand accounts we've gathered.
But fear not, my friends, as we'll also shine a light on some celebrities who have managed to break the mold and maintain their down-to-earth personas, even amidst the glitz and glamour. We'll celebrate those stars who treat their fans with respect, engage in philanthropic endeavors, and use their platform to make a positive impact on the world.
So, if you're ready to have your illusions shattered and see your favorite celebrities in a whole new light, then buckle up and join me on this whirlwind journey. Hit that subscribe button, turn on notifications, and get ready for the truth to be revealed. It's about to get real, and it's going to be juicy!
Remember, folks, this video is all about entertainment and shedding light on the reality behind the celebrity facade. Let's keep the discussion respectful and focused on the facts. Now, without further ado, let's dive into the wild world of celebrities who turned out to be jerks in real life! Stay tuned and stay fabulous!
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I’m always SO excited to meet you guys in person! I can’t imagine a world or experience that would cause me to be rude for ANY reason. If you ever see me in public don’t hesitate to say hi!
Good morning 👑 Queen Potatoe🥔 💕
if i ever meet you i will share some of my own petty stories with you as a treat
Omg I really wish I could meet you!!!! You inspire me! Love your face! Love & light to you and everyone here! ❤🧿
I like your video
Seeing you in person is impossible 🥹 I'm from the philippines 🥹
I'm gonna be real, the people who don't take no for an answer when they want a pic should not feel entitled to it. Celebs have every right to get irritated if they're being nagged.
Agreed, if a fan is in your face or rude and won’t take no for an answer then it’s fair to be irritated!
I was thinking the same thing through that story. Whether the person really met with the real celebrities or not, his phrasing of the story made me feel uncomfortable, like he's the type of fan to pester a celebrity rather than respect their boundaries. Getting rejected for pics or autographs sucks, but we're not entitled to anyone's time or attention that isn't an agreed-upon meeting.
@@Rikrobatyeah it was a joke lol
@@ItsMeBarnaby - Okay, but the reality is that there are people who DO these things. It's a failure at satire if it's not funny.
@@victorianokes9043 was a joke
The only celebrity I've ever met was Johnny Depp. It was at least 20-25 years ago. He went to high school with my mom. He ran into her while in town and invited my family to dinner. He was so incredibly nice and absolutely hilarious.
Omg!!😲 that's the one to meet!❤️🔥😍 I've met Conan O'Brien & Brandy( the singer). LOL They were just quick, meet & greet type things. You are the winner winner Jonny Depp dinner!😁
I met Johnny while working at a Casino. He is really nice.
I have severe social anxiety, In also 6'6 ft tall. I feel like everyone is always scared of me and that I'm bonkers insane. I am but, I can't even go into a gas station without freaking out.
I have ADHD and used to have social anxiety. That combination is straight from hell. Because i say blunt and impulsive things sometimes or word things differently than most people and accidentally offend people i wanted to be friends with. That’s actually the reason i developed social anxiety, I lost all of my friends over the years and i thought i was a horrible person. Going to therapy and accepting on who i am has helped a lot. I now have a lot of friends with ADHD and not having to worry about what i say because they UNDERSTAND me is amazing, i can’t believe other people had this all their life
Why are you two talking about social anxiety in this comment thread? Like, where did that come from? That has nothing to do with the rest of the comments…
Lisa Kudrow went to school at Vassar College and did an internship at the not-for-profit I worked for. She and would work most of the day alone in the small office that was mine. In the afternoon, many staff and volunteers would come through the office. She was painfully shy and would turn to her typewriter and not make eye contact with anyone. The young guys were always around trying to meet the pretty girl and she would turn bright red if they spoke to her. I was so surprised when she became an actress. Not surprised that she has issues with fans remembering her shyness.
The person didn't expand on what made her feel that she was so rude, but it's totally possible that it was because she's shy. Shy people (like me) can come off as cold and aren't great at engaging in conversation
Lol...my mom was on a business trip and went to the bookstore after work. My mom tried to move past Jean Claude van Damme so she could leave saying "excuse me". He turns around and berates her to just wait and he will get to her for an autograph. She looked him dead in the eye and said "Why would I want your autograph, do I know you?"
😂😂😂👏👏👏 he is such a douche canoe lmao
Your mother is iconic!!! 👏🏽 👏🏽 👏🏽
I used to live in NYC and always let celebrities have their space if I saw one. BUT one time I saw Uma Thurman across the street and my brain broke and I just screamed ‘OH MY GOD UMA I LOVE YOU!’ She burst out laughing, gave a little wave, and shouted ‘LOVE YOU TOO!’ Icon behavior. And I will never stop loving her. 😂
Omg I saw her in Woodstock when I was a kid, she was shopping with her mom. My mother pointed her out to me and I *begged* to get her autograph but my mother told me to leave her alone.
All of that is to say, I'm very jealous 😂
Love her 🤠
you're so lucky! she's amazing!
Aww Uma ❤
I’m cracking up as someone from upstate and always in the city I’ve caught myself, only a handful of times, kindly loosing my shit as well seeing someone who’s a celeb or broadway whatever and reacting the same way like **PANIC** “OMG (insert celeb here) I LOVE YOU! “😂😂🥲
here's my take: don't disturb celebrities on their personal time. Just don't. You think it's no big deal, but likely since they got out of the house and until they reached the cafe you work at, they were stopped like 10 more times. I disagree that as fans, we are entitled to pictures, hugs, autographs etc. Not when you meet them in the wild. Smile if you want to show them you recognize and appreciate them, but leave them alone. Now, if you meet them at an event, that's a completely different situation.
I agree. I think everybody reaches their limit.
Mario Lopez came into the restaurant I worked at roughly 2 decades ago. I didn't care about him, but not a single one of us employees spoke to him aside from taking his order, etc.
Totally agree. I'm not from America but there are celebs in my country. People only mainly go a bit fan crazed at celeb events. At most times, they are comfortable doing everyday errands without disturbances. But wow the extent photographers and fans take to hunt down celebs in America is disturbing. Let them live guys
I don't particularly like the fact that people must take a picture with them in public space ( not an event). It can cause a breach of their privacy, a lot of discomfort etc . I think asking for an autograph will be less frowned upon , but that can't always be done .
I completely agree
Matthew McConaughey is a nice guy to meet and greet his fans. He was in a popular restaurant here in Del Rio, just chillin and watching TV. Folks recognized him and asked him for a pic. He even took a group shot with just about everyone in the restaurant. Cool guy...
“I’m a fan and I deserved it”. Even given he’s trolling his attitude is right in line with people that see a celeb and big them that they always need to do everything for the fans.
When I was in college, I went grocery shopping and got into line behind a minor celebrity. He paid and left, when it was my turn, the cashier asked if I knew who he was, he looked familiar. I said yes, gave his name, and she proceeded to get ballistic on me for not calling him out so others could go up and meet him. I said, he was just grocery shopping, he should be allowed to have time to himself. The cashier continued to berate me and even told me off to other cashiers, saying things like, "Can you believe this guy?" So, the actor wasn't the problem, it was the people around me who were.
You are right. So many of these bad celebrity encounter accounts conveniently forgot to mention how stupid and invasive they act before celebrities get rude and angry. Yes, most celebrities are A-holes but many fans too are entitled pricks.
ain't gonna lie, I live around where Dave Chappelle lives, worked at a mall he frequented, and waited on him numerous times, and people get /nasty/ about how 'rude' he is... and I was always like 'Yeah, he's with his kids and you got in his face while they're trying to eat their pretzels in the food court... the hell you expect?' I never had any issues with him because as I said to him, to his face, you're a person who deserves to be treated with basic respect. Still don't have a picture because it's on his off time, and that's why he always came back to my register *shrugs*
Especially since she didn’t know who he was, how big a fan could she be? It wasn’t your job to tell everyone, and I bet that celeb would have been grateful you didn’t, if they knew
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May I ask who it was?
@@karennaylor7138 I don't think she was actually a fan, just knew it was someone famous, and thus had to meet him.
in terms of social anxiety, i've been told multiple times that i've come across as rude or cold because my anxiety makes me distant and i actively try to get away from the situation that's causing me to panic. because of my anxiety, i suck at holding conversations and meeting new people, so since i'm not really engaging in conversation, people think i'm rude or stuck-up.
Yeah, I have social anxiety too and I think being "rude" or appearing rude at least depends a lot on how much you're able to read the room and how much you're panicking and how you're reacting to panic. Most of the time I will be the nicest person, like annoyingly nice. But if it's really to much and I have a panic attack I'll be the rudest I guess, like literally running out, no eye contact and not a word, also in that situation, I tend to forget I have shoulders and bump into everything and everyone.
I just put my two cents in on this same thing. Let’s just stay inside and watch movies all day 😂 that will keep us from being anxious and perceived as rude ❤
Same. I've had severe anxiety since childhood and have been told this also. 🙁
Oh I relate people think you’re being stuck up when you just wanna hide away
When I'm lost in my head I can have resting bitch face. I'm like but I was thinking about puppies....
I met Michael Oher twelve years ago when he visited my elementary school in Salisbury, Maryland when I was in kindergarten. He was doing a book signing for his autobiography “I Beat the Odds”. He was a very nice man. I remember my teacher would read samples of his book to me and my classmates prior to meeting Michael, so I already knew who he was. I was just excited to meet him 💜
I met Goldie Hawn in a budget guesthouse in Varanasi India in the early 2000s. She was traveling with her son Oliver and some friends. My buddy and I went up onto the roof to watch the sunset and there sat Goldie and a few friends. I thought I was having a stroke. The guesthouse wasn’t a dump by any means. But it was definitely a backpacker hotel, no bathrooms in the rooms, that sort of place, clean but zero luxuries.
Once I realized I wasn’t having my first psychotic episode and Goldie was actually sitting on the roof of my hotel, I waved and said hello. The legendary Miss Goldie Hawn asked us our names, about our travels, our schooling. She suggested some places to visit, shared some funny stories. She was fully engaged with us for 10-15 minutes and so kind. After that time she casually and gradually started shifting her attention back toward her companions. It was the most polite signal ever. We thanked her for the chat, wished each other safe travels and went on our way
To this day, that brief encounter on an Indian rooftop, sun setting behind the great Ganges River, chatting away with Goldie Hawn, is one of my favorite memories. There is a 0.0001% chance she even remembers it happened. But her willingness to be kind and her generosity of spirit gave me a memory to cherish for a lifetime. Thanks Goldie! 💙
P.S. The next day I accidentally ingested heroin and very nearly died. That was also memorable but much less pleasant. Be careful in Varanasi folks!
I know this coffee shop in Montana where Chris Hemsworth came once and the girls were fangirling over him so hard. He ended up being super nice to them and went outside to help the owners shovel snow. So there's a good story for you.
He was clearly willing to do anything to get away from the fan girls.
@@michelleobrien6996 Lol they said he was really sweet and they were trying not to overwhelm him. It was a great story. Also the owners have a picture of them with Rebe Mcentire on the wall. It's right below Big Sky where a bunch of them live so a lot of celebrities are down there. I think Justin Timberlake goes there a ton with his wife and then he also is at the trampoline park often with his kids.
Oh and Michael Keaton lives up there and is in there a lot.
This is why i don't want to meet my idols. I just want to enjoy the music or movies.
I work in Hollywood..this is a good call.
I have met my idol and I can only say good things tbh! She was just like I thought she was going to be, so sweet and nice to me. Even calmed me down when she saw how nervous I was.. But I bet that some celebrities/musicians aren’t so nice when interacting with their fans sadly
Same here
@@najadahmer4862I'd say it depends how many fans they encounter, how frequently, how demanding the fans are, what they are in the midst of doing at the time...
I have severe social anxiety. As a child I was snarky, sarcastic and cold. As an adult, I am working on overdrive to make up for my past behavior. And because I take after my mama, I will do my best to make sure you are comfortable, happy and most importantly, WELL FED!
Y’all need to stop approaching celebs thinking they give a damn. They don’t. They want their money and influence but they don’t care bout their fans. I have worked with many celebs before and I can tell you that telling celebs “Omg ___ I’m just a fan of you!” Is like a trigger word for them. They get annoyed instantly. Best to stop idolizing these people.
There’s a few exceptions… like Keanu for example.
I used to live in a small town where celebrities often vacationed. There was an unspoken rule that us normal people were to treat the celebrities like anyone else. Don’t pressure them to take a picture. Don’t make a fuss over them. Just treat them like anyone else. I can see why this is appealing to them. I’d hate to be “on” 24/7.
Sounds suspiciously like Highlands, NC. I realize you're probably not talking about that town, but it really does sound like it.
@@gothnate No, never been there. But now I want to check it out.
@@pepper922 I worked there a while. There are some celebrities that visit there occasionally, and some used to live there. Burt Reynolds bought a house up there for Loni at one point. My ex-father-in-law painted the house with his brother.
Aspen, CO - worked at a high end hotel - big banquets - same rules.
Had a "celebrity" buy a house in our small town, and while everyone knew through word of mouth, nobody bothered him.
In my experience, celebrities tend to want to be left alone. If they get offended at being treated like a normal human being, that's a "them" problem.
My experience, at my slightly advanced age, means I've met all of AC/DC, Queen, GWAR, Styx, Twisted Sister, and Warrant. My only gripe about any of them is that I've never been called 'darling' before I met Freddie Mercury. I miss that guy. Such a real one.
You met Freddie? You are so lucky!
That sounds so awesome! I would love to hear your stories about getting to meet them.
YOU ARE SO LUCKY OMG 😭
Oh my god I’m so jealous I absolutely adore warrent
I met Emma Watson once. It was in a school dance competition (my school vs hers and four others) for the global rock challenge. She was so stuck up and rude, looked down her nose at everyone and had so much special treatment (even though she has since said she never had any special treatment at school). She wouldn’t even say hi back to people who were being polite and saying it to everyone who passed them by. She just rolled her eyes at them. After that, my friend, who loved her, was so upset.
When anyone no matter how famous they are says “no. Leave me alone” u leave them alone. Don’t be a creep and follow them.
I had a really great meeting with Goldie Hawn and Kurt Russell. I was a wee little kid, and Sky High had just come out and quickly became my favorite movie at the time. I was in Santa Monica visiting relatives, and I ran into Kurt and Goldie at a Home Depot of all places. My little kid brain didn't process that Kurt wasn't actually the Commander in real life, and that Goldie wasn't Jetstream (not even the right actress), but they were super sweet and both went into character during the entire interaction. They also helped me find my family because I wandered off to go say hi to them, and STILL STAYED IN CHARACTER during that interaction too. It's one of my most cherished early childhood memories. Also, Goldie gives some of the best hugs, and Kurt has a super contagious smile. Love those two.
Aw!! That makes me like them even more!
so cool, love hearing this
I adore this story. How cute.
I’m so JEALOUS!!!!!
A lot of "celebrities were rude to me stories", Happen after you ask someone for a photo, while they are busy or trying to not be noticed.
I just don't think I would have the guts to ask a celebrity for a photo in the first place. Like if I finally got up the guts to say Hi to them, I would feel so bad for interrupting their day that I would never ask for a photo even if I really wanted one
I felt really sad for this little girl who walked up to Madonna and just wanted to say hello to her and Madonna turned around and yelled in her face “leave me the F___ alone!” and walked off. We all just stood there wordless. Then the little girl burst into tears. 😢
Not surprised. She’s a kook.
That’s horrible!!!
Well, that will teach her that is not ok to harass people
Lol you just made that up yourself
Madonna would never do that!
She’s a nice person so stfu
Little girl?, Where were her parents?
Actually as a person with recovering social anxiety we do seem actually really rude to people that don't know us, like we're very distant and try to stay out of convos. I realized for me that I thought people would know that I had anxiety but they obviously don't cause they don't know us. Social anxiety is different for people and it's very badly combined with short tempers which I have myself soooo it really does make me come off as rude and not interested. ☹️
Also just want to add some positivity... my dad took me and my brother to the Smithsonian, and Mr. Rogers was around because he had donated one of his cardigans or something to the Smithsonian and they were opening the exhibit that day. We just randomly ran into him, and while his handlers were trying to keep him on schedule, Mr. Rogers was exactly what you'd think Mr. Rogers would be when faced with a couple of eager kids who wanted to meet him. "Now, now, these young people have very important things to tell me. I think we can find the time to listen."
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Amazing!!!!! Of course he would listen to children and validate them. We should all be so thoughtful
OMG!!!! I don't care how old you get... That would be my #1 FOREVER!!!! He ACCOMPLISHED THINGS....
My daughter also has social anxiety. She's just like you...she's extremely nice and tries so hard to not be mean to anyone...even when she's about to have a panic attack.
From one redhead to another...love your videos, girl!! ❤❤❤
I get it. I was having a panic attack and was having trouble breathing. But all I could do was apologize to the EMTs for being a bother and that I knew they had more important patients that needed them.
It does take a good bit to not get feisty from all that stress. When I am super anxious about interactions, I feel like I am more irritable. But I also get very apologetic over the smallest things. 😖😖 I guess it really depends on the severity.
@@214luvbugs Literally sounds like me. There tends to be girls at my gym just simply rounding the same corner I am in the locker room. All I can do is apologize, keep eyes down and continue on. 😖😖
One time I went to Six Flags. I saw Red Man and Method Man. I remember wanting to approach them. I saw Method Man running asking everyone where is the bathroom. He was struggling as females flocked to hug him, completely disregarded that he needed to use the restroom. I told myself, i will never approach a celebrity, because of the agony on his face. Now i seen them and respectfully smile. No need to bother them on their personal time.
When it comes to social anxiety it’s different for everybody who has it. Some people have said I come off as rude or some people say I come as as too nice
I was about to get real upset because I've met John Leguizamo a few times as he is a regular at a restaurant I worked in NY. He was always an amazing guy and his wife was super sweet. Even when another waitress dropped a tray of drinks right in front of him he cracked jokes and tried to help her clean it up. So glad the pix was shown 😆
LMAO, that guy's delivery was spot on
yeahhh as soon as that guy started talking I KNEW he was full of it. lol. John would never treat someone like that.
I only heard good things about John Leguizamo but i know better than put too much faith on celebrities. That being same, i was like ??? That ain't fucking John Leguizamo 😂
@@gigglesmcfunI thought I was taking crazy pills for a minute.
When the guy claimed that he wasn’t John I remember a scene on the Big Bang theory where Leonard and raj thought Nathan Fillion was in a cafe. It was him ofc, but he played like if he wasn’t and it was funny “can I get a pic?” “Oh, you think I’m a celeb, but I’m not” “sure, sure…” lol
Nicholas Cage not knowing what chai is is such a Nicholas Cage thing to do lol
I’ve been lucky cuz I’ve never met a rude celebrity (not that I’ve met many. If I see them occasionally, I just ignore them cuz they deserve to have a chill day).
But the coolest one I’ve met was Michael Rooker (Yondu from Guardians of the Galaxy). My friends and I went to get a picture with him at a convention, and since no one was in line when we were there, he spent like 5-10 minutes talking with us about the convention, answered all the different questions we had, etc.
Super sweet guy. I still have our photo with him to this day almost 10 years later
Social anxiety makes you quiet.. not rude… awkward, nervous, apologetic and nice. Not rude ever.
The fact that Johnny Rotten, former lead singer of The Sex Pistols, who used to do the most insane things on stage like “gobbing” (spitting on the audience and they’d do it back to him) and was known to have quite the attitude (as least while performing) was said to be notoriously nice really warms my heart
And he was one of the few who tried to speak up about Jimmy Saville and what he was doing only to be shut down. I have so much respect for this man.
Too bad John Lydon is now a Trump supporter.
Can confirm, my husband and I met him in 2021 and he is just the absolute nicest person and asked his 'security' to take my phone and take some photos of us 💜
Same!
Most rock stars that used to have “attitudes” were nice irl
Can confirm that Pierce Brosnan is a sweetheart. Came to our very quiet hotel in the UK in the eighties, not staying, just for a drink or two because he heard we were unintrusive around celebs. He was so nice, and came in several times over a couple of weeks. He has been my celeb crush ever since. Also Freddie Garrity (of Freddie and the Dreamers) was a lovely unassuming man.
That makes me a happy. I'm starting to get into Pierce Brosnan's work (a little late, obviously), but I love him
@@kayleighandhercat1351 - yes, I’m old enough to have caught all his work first time around, 👵 enjoy, knowing he is a true gentleman.
@@marylynne9104 met Cedric the entertainer as a teenager when I was skateboarding on the boardwalk in San Diego California. It was a bit later in the evening after most of the day crowd was gone...most polite gracious man. He was so NICE! So were his body guards 😂😂 ( edit to elaborate bc most celebs would NOT go there in the day...toooo many people)
He's nice, his wife however...
@@karakask5488 - really? I never met his wife. I’m glad now that I didn’t.
I think it depends on where the social anxiety comes from- I always feel the need to be overly polite when anxious, because of manipulation from certain adults and my only "friend" in my life as I was growing up. But my sister has worse social anxiety and can break down into angry outbursts due to experiences of SA. You never know what someone's going through and how it will impact their reactions to things. No, not an excuse to treat others like dirt, but understanding that healing is a process.
“Asked what chai was and if they could get it with chocolate” 😂😂 why does that make me so happy?
The first one could be Rhianna, she is known for being very rude to fans and staff. She bullied a teen fan online for copying her dress for prom.
I've met a few celebs but ill always remember Norman Reedus & Jeffrey Dean Morgan,both gave such amazing hugs with the biggest smiles, hope to meet them again one day
I have the "too nice " problem. I replay convos again and again to make sure i was nice enough. If i think a bad impression was left it haunts me for years!
I have severe social anxiety and I am definitely extra nice to strangers! It’s never an excuse to be rude.
EXACTLY!
Me, too. It would cause me more anxiety to be rude.
Maybe there are varying degrees of social anxiety but for me, I feel so overwhelmed and trapped. I once ignored and ran from a guy I knew my whole life. It was flight mode, I didn't plan it. I am in my own head and that's why I've been called weird, etc from age 5.
Seriously. Social anxiety means I am working on my habit of tearing up on my drive home because maybe some other random person somehow misinterpreted my words or actions as mean or rude. I could never do it on purpose. I know some people freeze up or become terse with their anxiety, which might be misinterpreted as rudeness, but that’s not what’s going on in the first couple stories when this comes up…
Same I cry when I do something that I think was a little mean when they were a a-hole
"Never meet your heroes" is a truism. I have found it to be absolutely true during my somewhat long life.
Also, I worked with the mother of a somewhat famous actress (she starred in a childhood movie with McCauley Culkin). Said actress's agent was at a party where Warren Beatty was present, and he came up to start hitting on female agent. She said, "No thanks." Warren: "But ... but ... I'm WARREN BEATTY!" Agent: "I don't care who you are!" and walked past him. So it sounds like he was turned down more than once. Also, he wasn't young at this point, and apparently the effects of his facelifts are quite evident.
Wow that’s insane!
I absolutely believe this.
The only hero I met was an author I was obsessed with as a kid. When he came to the book store, I was the oldest kid there (he writes for 10-16 and I was like 18 and the other kids there was a couple school classes).
He allowed me to take a picture with him, and gave me his autograph and gave me one for my friend who couldn't come as she had to be rushed in hospital.
Yes, time and surgeons have not been kind to that face! He should take a hint and just accept that he's old now, but had a very good run in his youth.
He really was handsome, and a very good actor, but always had a reputation for being a Lothario. Probably why he was snubbed so many times by the Academy, and never won best actor even though he was nominated, a lot!
If you want to see him in his prime (a year before his 1st movie role), there was a show in 1959-early 1960s called "One Step Beyond" that was kind of like "Twilight Zone" except the stories were supposed to be "true". The episodes are on RUclips for free.
I was blown away by an episode called "The Visitor" because of the quality of the actors. Only two actors, and they were a young Warren Beatty and the legendary Joan Fontaine!
It's worth watching. I never knew about this show until a few years ago and was surprised by how good it was.
I totally agree with you... Whenever I had a bad day and mixed a little bit with social anxiety, I would be nicer than I would normally be... And I ended up in an awkward position😂 for example, I was eating at a restaurant and the waitress arrived with meals... "Enjoy the food." And I usually say "thank you" but that day I had a really bad case of social anxiety that I went on saying "Thank you, you too..." you too? YOU TOO??😂 My face just went 😬 for a few minutes of realisation 😂
Selena Gomez!! There was this Mexican news channel anchor that said she was rude and terrible at an event she had to interview for her. She said she was looking forward to meeting her because her daughter loved her. She said she was nasty
Well, wouldn't you be as well if people don't respect your space all because you are a celebrity. Like celebrities are human as well and they deserve the same kind of respect that we show others in public. Selena is actually very nice. Bombarding celebrities isn't ok in the slightest so stop glorifying that it is ok to bombard celebrities
I think it's fair to acknowledge that anxiety affects a lot of people in different ways, personally, I have severe social anxiety and while it doesn't make me rude, it does not make me nice either. The only thing I can focus on the whole time is just how much of a nervous wreck I feel, and how I think everyone can see right through me. I think it makes me very awkward to interact with in the very least
I can see being awkward and nervous and maybe a bit cold even becauee of the nerves, but I would break down in a panic attack before I could yell or berate anyone and never leave the house again after, the thought of causing confrontation would make me pass out 😂 so I may be awkward generally I'm over nice to ruffle feathers, but to yell and be nasty to someone I'd find it physically impossible due to the confrontation and not knowing the reaction
Same makes me awkward and somewhat antisocialish
I have social anxiety and I'm pretty sure I come off as a little rude sometimes. I especially find it hard to walk up and introduce myself to new people so I will just avoid doing it, which could come across as me being uninterested in them. In most social situations I find myself in these days I just throw myself into the conversation without introductions. Today I spent 3 hours talking to two girls I knew existed (and knew their names) but never really talked to before and ever introduced myself to.
I'm not extra nice. I avoid the interaction as best I can with "Resting-b*tch" face. If interaction must occur it's either total loss of verbal skills or verbal diarrhoea. Car crash city ☹️
it makes me bit too nice and talking awkward or outright go nope on any contact (which can be seen as rude)
My youngest son has SEVERE social anxiety (he wasn't even able to graduate with his classmates this year because the thought of stepping onto the stage scared him so much that he refused to go to school and now has to get his GED) and is very quiet in public but also INCREDIBLY polite. There have been times that I've had to step forward and say to strangers, "No. He was in line before you. You may NOT step in front with your group of 20." I agree with you, Charlotte. There's no way.
i used to have social anxiety and it made me nervous maybe walk in to a wall but never rude or dead stare that's what a narcissistic and physio whould do, not us
I work at a super exclusive spot in Las Vegas that’s constantly filled with celebrities and let me tell you… I have stories. If it wasn’t for the insane amounts of NDAs I’ve signed I would totally expose some of them lol.
The only time I’ve been rude in public was to tell off a customer yelling at the waitress in a restaurant I was at. And I was shaking and felt ill the entire time. But she did shut up and I felt proud of myself for once. Otherwise, yes social anxiety makes me nicer. I’d be mortified to be rude or hurt someone’s feelings.
You weren't being rude in defending someone else. Kudos to you !!
It depends on the person's nature, if u are a nice person then u will be nice no matter what but I surely arent like that I get very violent .
I did kind of the same thing, yelled at a bunch of my friend’s friends who were just sitting there chillen while the staff was trying to close the restaurant. I yelled at them with hand motions and everything and then walked out talking mad shït. I can’t believe they were being so rude.
You’re a customer service and food service workers dream! Lol. Every time I’ve been yelled at by a customer I’ve always hoped someone would put that rude person in their place for me but usually people are too shy to speak up. You hate confrontation but you still stood up for someone! That’s awesome! I bet that totally made that waitress day and she most likely told all her friends/family and co workers about it after that lol.
Social anxiety doesn't make you rude, but it comes off that way. I have mental illnesses that cross over with social anxiety and I've had people tell me that until they actually got to know me they thought I was rude and stuck up. They all changed their minds after sitting down and talking to me.
People with real mental illnesses (like diagnosed social anxiety) cannot handle social situations the same way other people do. It's never okay to be rude, but sometimes you have to consider that there is a reason behind that behavior that you can't see or understand.
W. People with social anxity makes them stiff, quite, looking uninterested, looking away. . And can come off as rude. But they are most often very sweet 😊
Yeah, but Kendall is rude.
I am autistic. Up until a year ago, I thought it was social anxiety.
It is SO uncomfortable making eye contact and talking to strangers. I'm talking full body stress pain. I would push through it and behave in a way everyone expected a "normal" person to behave subconsciously.
I was masking. Masking is often misinterpreted as a person being fake, rude, weird, etc. This masking is exhausting, I thought it was what everyone did, and thats what people meant when they'd say, "Life's hard."
I've officially burt out from masking and can no longer do it. It feels like it could kill me dead in my tracks when I try. So now I am fully me. And everyone hates me. My erratic behavior (excited to act like me), intense interests, truth telling (I'll tell a stranger they have a bugger), along with my fear of being judged for it all and staring at the wall during a conversation, apparently rub people the wrong way. But at this point, I must be truly me (I really am very kind, loyal, and all around awesome) or die, those are currently my only options.
So please, everyone, be much slower to judge someone on the way they behave. A person not saying the "right" thing, making good eye contact, or speaking much at all may not be rude.
This is an ablism most of us on the spectrum experience on a daily basis. Please try to look deeper than what is "normal."
Much 💜 to all of you beautiful humans!
My son is 6 and has autism and I can understand what you're talking about because I see it with him. I'm so glad you're now being fully yourself. You deserve to fully be yourself. Fuck what everyone else thinks. ❤
Hi 👋🏻 Fellow autistic here❤
Never drawing attention to oneself, is the first rule of social anxiety 😂
I was at a gas station in BFE Virginia, and a woman got out of a blue BMW and went to the register. I was behind her. The cashier said, “omg, do you know who you look like?” The blonde woman smiled, winked, and said “yeah, me.” Paid for her stuff and walked out. The cashier and I were just staring at each other. It was Heather Locklear, and her reaction couldn’t have been more perfect.
I work with K-pop idols and there’s one Idol in particular who is hugely popular because he’s so friendly and goes out of his way to greet everyone and take pics with fans. No one would ever guess that 10 minutes prior he was bent over in his chair, shaking like a leaf, and doing breathing exercises because he has severe social anxiety (often so severe he throws up before an event). After seeing him in action, no one can use that as an excuse to be a jerk to fans or staff ever again in my eyes.
That’s incredible. It’s true, getting appreciation from fans is part of the job. I hope his social anxiety is getting better and greeting fans will become easier for him. Truly a pure soul.
But if it takes ppl to do breathing exercises and to almost die just to prepare to interact with wild, screaming fans then i think anxiety is a pretty good excuse. You can't expect everyone to bite through it like that person does, if it's even true.
the expectations for k-pop idols to be nice no matter what they're going through is way higher than for american stars
so that a k-pop idol did everything he could to contain his social anxiety just tells me a lot about k-pop industry and culture
Please, we need a name or a group name or whatever the hint is 😟
I think it depends on the person, their branding and how they want to be seen. Arnold Schwarzenegger has to have a handler to keep him moving through the crowd and Johnny Depp has been snagged by his security bodily on a number of occasions. Some are cold. To a certain extent, fan service is a job requirement, as you point out, and those are also cases where it is a planned meet and greet. I used to live in NOLA, have visited Martha’s Vineyard (friend had a run in with Billy Joel) and lived in NYC. I have concluded that famous people like these areas for day to day because it is understood that you appreciate them from afar and otherwise let them live their lives. No one loves every aspect of their job and as don’t think we need to judge an entire industry or person when the message is singular.
15:05 Yes it does. Because you’re stressed in the situation and being stressed makes you anxious and just snappy. I honestly can relate to it. I just hope she doesn’t just use it as an excuse
Jamie Kee Curtis is absolutely lovely, caring, and kind, the way she looked after Keisha Castle Hughes when she had been nominated for an Academy Award was amazing.
From my personal experience, social anxiety definitely makes me retreat from interactions. I remember having a panic attack in a supermarket a while ago as it was super busy and overwhelming. Tons of people, annoying ads over the radio, a crying child behind me in line. I could not cope and just tried to get away from it all and definitely just ignored the cashier and everyone around me in that moment (usually I'm really nice). So I think it can show up differently for different people and I can totally see why celebs don't always feel like interacting with fans. Just let them be.
I had to leave a grocery line with just the things I had already rung up. The clerk was kind and could see I was upset. Noise cancelling headphones help. I realize some people think it's rude, but they don't have to live in my head
Same! I had won a small kindle tablet (only for reading ebooks) from a silent auction with the help of my grandmother and she kind of used an underhanded tactic to make sure "I" won. So it came time to announce the winner and it was MY name, and this middle aged woman came over to me, furious. She started yelling that we cheated while I was shocked and not even sure what was going on while my grandma tried to defend me. I just stiffly said I don't want it anymore and had to go sit in the corner to sob by myself for an HOUR.
I was so anxious and put in that spot without even really knowing what was happening and I judt froze up, unable to do anything but walk away quickly.
Yeah I hate the whole “well I have anxiety and act this way, so everyone else with anxiety should act this way too” it doesn’t work like that. People have different triggers, levels, etc etc and act completely differently even with the same diagnosis. People need to learn to just leave other people alone.
My best friend was late for work at Disney World and was basically sprinting backstage to not get points docked. She ended up accidentally bumping into someone backstage, apologized and continued to the clock. About an hour later she was pulled into the office and manager said they needed to discuss the incident earlier. She had no idea what they meant, and the manager said, "we got a complaint from the VIP tourguide that you were harassing John Travolta and even knocked him over." Her brain pretty much exploded and she almost got a write up for it until they realized she literally had no idea who she had run into.
He’s been known to show out at Disney World. Hope your friend doesn’t feel too bad!
What a f*ing baby!
That's so annoying. He thinks because he's famous no one can accidentally run into him without him thinking they're harassing him?😒😒
Thats wild my grandfather saw him working out while he was at a fancy dinner with co workers at this nice hotel. He noticed him through the glass walked in there and asked him if he would help play a prank on his co wokers. He agreed. My grandfather told him his name and they both went back to their table. They were acting like they were friends and had been for years. He said he was a great sport and really kind.
In my younger years social anxiety made me SEEM rude bc I wouldn’t make eye contact and could barely speak. I’ve learned to be more friendly by fully ignoring my anxieties and a whole bunch of therapy. It rarely made me want to people please, it mostly made me want to get away as fast as possible.
When my social anxiety is high I don’t talk and I have selective hearing. I isolate and make it clear that I rather not be bothered. Sometimes I’m actually, respectfully of course, vocal about it. But I will ignore people. Unless we are close my heart starts to race in public places especially with strangers. Even at work it’s hard.
I can’t imagine being rude, just because I feel like it. I had to stop at CVS for emergency food while passing a kidney stone. To say I felt terrible is an understatement. I had trouble with the self checkout and a kind employee came over to help me. I was embarrassed about my shortness with the computer and apologized, let her know I didn’t feel well. Super kind person. It doesn’t take much to be kind, even if you feel like crap.
💯 I'm a ppl pleaser by nature often to my detriment &I'm working on that but I hope I would NEVER get that bad being rude to s1 who didn't deserve it. & My experience has been predominantly w\ppl who respond well in customer service or anything if I get short bc I'm at the end of my rope kids screaming everything falling apart & meet w
ed tape. Some have been truly so nice & then go out of their way to help me find a loophole. Like when my phone broke & I needed to pay my electric bill b4 it was cut off but bc I had the app, I had to get a code from the app b4 I could log on to the website itself not the app (from a tablet) to transfer money & pay. & She was like even w\knowing your pin etc I CANT approve you or give u that 1 time code it has to come thru the app. I forget what work around we did but she was super helpful & we laughed a LOT Abt how crazy technology was & that it controlled everything now. I have had a VERY BAD HORRIBLE WORST EXP OF MY ENTIRE LIFE w\a lady from Medicaid who was completely bored & annoyed at having to speak to me & world NOT help me to save my life & I was bawling! & She kept saying yup nothing I can do now is that ALL? Ughhhh I loathe her & wish I'd gotten her name but I was so freaking upset! Trying to figure out how to do my dental insurance. Ugh
As someone with lifelong social anxiety, it can go either way. Either I’m people pleasing and overly nice or I’m in panic mode - shut down, can’t make eye contact and rude. The latter tends to happen with pushy sales people or when I think someone wants something from me. So yeah, I can see it being an issue with a celeb that has social anxiety. When you’re in that panic mode, you don’t see or reason logically - it’s pretty miserable, especially when you typically try to be kind to others but in that moment you lash out in order to escape and then feel horrible guilt about it later. It all comes down to how you handle the stress or threat - fight, flight, freeze or fawn. As a socially anxious person, I can’t think many careers worse than being a celebrity of some sort. Shudder
Yep ❤
Thank you for putting that into words better than I can lol
This exactly.
Idk with you but with my social anxiety it can get really dangerous for me if someone talks to me or touches me to the point that I will unintentionally hurt someone. I yelled at them by saying don't talk (or touch me) otherwise I will hurt you. So something as simple as a stranger touching my shoulder can change my day in a second.
Exactly how I feel!!
I have social anxiety and no matter what i go through im nice to people. Its the whole not wanting to be hated thing. Even when i do try to be mean i suck at it.
I have social anxiety and I alternate between being such an extreme people pleaser and being unintentionally rude. The last part usually happens when my socializing quota is so full that I need to recharge by not being around people for hours.
My dad used to meet celebs on flights often. The two nicest people he ever met were Walter Payton and Tommy Lee. Payton talked to my dad the entire flight. He even remembered my dad when he and my mom went to his restaurant a while later. Super down to earth guy.
Wooo love this!!! They called him "Sweetness" for a very good reason.
I have been diagnosed with social anxiety and voted as the nicest person in a group of people. So agree with you! social anxiety is NOT a valid excuse to be an a hole.
Oh yes! Same here
Same! Crippling social anxiety, voted "easiest to get along with." 🤣
My sisters social anxiety comes off as if she’s better than everyone… she was even mute for a long time due to her social anxiety, the no response and no eye contact would make people think she was rude but in reality she physically could respond due to the anxiety… once she was able to talk she basically could only say “no” to any unwanted attention and again it comes off mean. But knowing her I know how sweet she is and how much it hurts her that people judge her that way…. My social anxiety is more like yours
@@sarahcane2 i think im a mix of yours and yor sisters got 3 different forms if i have the mental space to be nice and logical i am if not i probely walk away and be seen as rude
90% of the time I am the same. But when you are paralysed with yor social anxiety and still out and people start approaching you and expecting you to do shit for them like take photos with them I can imagine I'd be so numb that I'd be short
Hey Charlotte, I'm here to back you up. As someone with pretty bad social anxiety, I am a real people pleaser for the same reasons that you described in your video. Always being extra nice even if people don't deserve it. I'd rather run and leave the scene before being rude to someone.
I have crippling social anxiety and people perceive me as rude most times till they get to know me. Also being in a community where greetings is so important and important, I'm considered rude when all I actually want to do is book it and hide under a cave
*John Leguizamo Story OP:* Ok look, I get it he has a big influence on Latino culture and you’re a big fan; there was no need to follow the man out to the parking lot for a picture. If he says “No” to a picture that means no. You aren’t entitled to a person’s time if they do not want to give it to you. Celebrities are humans too and they deserve as much privacy as you.
*EDIT:* While I get it was a joke, the above applies. 😅
I like John, funny guy and he has a "take no shit" attitude. I would expect and agree with him not tolerating being followed out to the parking lot. So many crazy violent people, especially when they get around celebs.
This was obviously a bit, and I think the guy making a video was really making fun of obsessive fans who demand time from celebs who owe them nothing.
I live like a hermit and go weeks at a time without speaking to anyone other than my son, so I can't imagine bothering a celeb, because I hate being approached by strangers and I'm NOBODY!
I accidentally scared the crap out of someone last week and it made me laugh once I realized it.
I live off-grid on a mountain, 3 miles down a rough dirt switchback road into a canyon where I'm literally the last house off that dirt road. However, there are a few others who have RVs or shacks who only come here Spring-Summer to tend their cannabis grows. Each property is 20 acres or more, so we are spread out and I mind my own business.
On my way back from getting supplies in town (only leave the house about 3 times a month), I happened to be behind an SUV for the whole 10 miles up the "hill". Then I was still behind him when he turned off the main road onto a narrow paved road, then I also was behind him when he turned onto the dirt road. He looked visibly scared, and he pulled over so I could pass him, which I did.
He kept his distance, but he must have really freaked when he saw me turn on my road, where I have the only house! Later we saw him pass by on our road on his way to the grow that is at the end of our dead-end road, well hidden (he thinks). We've known about it for years, since long before the previous owner was arrested and "went away" for 2 years. I guess this is the new property squatter, I mean, "owner".
Seems weird that he'd be afraid of me, as I've always been more afraid of people, especially those who have illegal grows. I don't go for hikes anymore because I'm afraid of accidentally finding one and getting murdered!
I met Sharon Osborne. In my little bum ass hometown, our county school system was going to rid our schools of the Arts & Music dept. We threw a big Battle of the Bands fundraiser to save those programs and she actually came out and supported us. She was so sweet and super kind. I'm sure she single handedly saved those programs. 😂
I was so scared you were gonna say something bad about her…another reason to love Sharon :)
The same Sharon Osborne who sacked her PA for not going into a burning building to get her dog.
Yeah, she seems to be ‘complicated.’
The one about Julian Casablancas is 1000% true. I've met Julian a couple times and he's been nice each time. The first time I met him was after the Voidz concert at the Roxy. There was a crowd of us waiting to see if we could meet the band after the show. His manager came out to say Julian was gonna come out to meet and greet if we formed an orderly line. I was very near the front of the line when he announced that but with a mob of people excited to meet Julian, I got pushed back a little. I recognized this girl from before the show who cut in line in front of me because she had like a group of 10 people. I was frustrated about that but I let it go. Then surprise surprise, the same girl tried cutting in front of me when I was next in line to meet Julian. I was gonna let it go again because I'd been patient and didn't want to make a scene, but Julian noticed. The girl was like "can I get a hug" but like already had her arms spread towards him and Julian pointed his finger at me and said "uh who's next?" And I was so happy he noticed and acknowledged me first the way that he did. I felt justice was served 🤣. I was so excited and shaky and he was so patient with my awkwardness and told me not to apologize when I semi panicked when I didn't have someone to take a photo of us. We just asked Julian's manager and they were super sweet during the entire interaction. Anyway short story long, Julian stayed and met the ENTIRE mob of fans. I've seen fan videos of him engaging with fans like he did with us that night 🥹
I actually have met the OP at a Strokes concert and she's really nice too. The timing of the video is cool bc the Strokes actually have a song called 12:51 and that's when she talks about Julian 😁
I have met Alex Turner a couple times and had a different experience with him. He was really patient with me being starstruck and fumbling my words. There was one time I was waiting to meet the bassist and drummer and Alex ran past us saying "I'm sorry" that he didn't stop but we weren't upset about it bc we had just met him a couple days before and were really trying to meet the rest of the band, which we were able to do ☺️
I also wanted to add about social anxiety... I feel I can get very self conscious and not think clearly. At times, I feel I overshare and then in retrospect regret opening my mouth. But I don't think it makes me be rude to others like some celebs seem to be when they claim to be socially anxious.
I did a lot of research on actors/actresses, movie sets, what happens on them during filming and production, etc. for a book that I wrote. The things I learned STILL astonish me. The story of Warren Beatty is all too common, unfortunately.
Did none of the women try to sue?? That is the most disgraceful, pathetic, grotesque thing I've ever heard that you can get fired for not sleeping with the actor on set!!!
@@danielleking262They're afraid of getting blacklisted. "Either sleep with the actor/director/producer or you won't even be able to get hired to act in a commercial," stuff like that. The worst part about it is that it has been happening for DECADES. Almost since TV/film became a thing.
What’s the name of the book? Would love to purchase.❤
@@savvyroca That's very sweet! I haven't published it yet. Still saving up for copy editing. It's expensive.
I've had the opposite experience when I met a celebrity that was so genuinely nice, kind and down to earth that it made me into a fan of hers and that celebrity was... Goldie Hawn. She came into the vintage clothing shop I worked at as a teen in her pjs with a messy bun, coffee cup clutched in hand and tiny dog in tow looking for 60s western style shirts for a themed party she was throwing and was as delightful as a human being can be.
She’s a ray of sunshine that everybody wishes was their mother 😂
@cocoono11 That's exactly the vibe she gives off.
Goldie and (what the heck is his name?!) owned a cabin in Manitoba and they had the local reputation of being so down to earth that you'd never guess they were celebrities.
Kurt Russell!!
@@camillel7174 The day I found out they were a couple was the best day ever!
I heard a quote once and it's helped me ever since, "why do you expect everyone to like you? You don't even like everyone yourself!" And that helped me with not people pleasing as much as I used to. Hope it helps someone else!
BUT EVERYONE MUST LIKE ME THEY MUST 😂
@@CharlotteDobreagreed 😂😤
Reminds me of a joke:
If you could get $100,000 for free, but the person you hate the most in the whole world would also get $100,000, would you take it?
Answer: "Of course! Why the hell would I refuse $200,000??"
@@CharlotteDobre 😂😂😂
@@LazyIRanch
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So nice to know others also feel compelled to be extra kind to others when I'm having a bad day. Thought I was weird.
Thank you
Yes! I have severe social anxiety and I am super nice, even when people are rude to me. I could never cause a scene or be rude to a stranger, I would obsess about it forever, then never be able to sleep or leave my house again!
Sucks so bad. I have this.
First one, we can definitely rule out JLo, because she’s never been accused of being nice to anyone 😂 My dad used to hunt with people who owned rural property that they would lease out for movies to be filmed on. She was rude to everyone, including kids apparently 🙄 My ex used to work in Vegas, and he said Gwen Stefanie was horrible towards absolutely everyone. Most of the famous people I’ve met are in rock bands. One particular singer of ones of my favorite bands has tried to get me into his trailer (I’ve seen them live a few times). I declined (he’s married), but he was a good sport about it. The others are about 50/50 nice/rude 🤷🏼♀️
Gwen was rude during her marriage to he previous partner and it sees to be due to he treatment after leaving she's been known to be nicer
50/50, you mean like the stats amongst the regular population. I would think it depends on the branding but the fact that people are surprised that a group of people, who make their money by demanding everyone’s attention could be controlling jerks, well it kind of irks me.
I have to say that I had severe anxiety when I was younger and especially in high school. I was never rude, but I was too terrified to talk to anyone so people got the impression that I was stuck up. I was tall and thin and not the worst, looking in the world, but no beauty. In truth, I felt like I was absolute garbage and being stuck up was the absolute opposite of what I was feeling. When I would get to know somebody a little one on one, they would say something like, “I can’t believe you’re so nice I thought you were so stuck up! “ and as for these celebrities… If they are looking up and down and rolling their eyes, they are not being socially awkward. They are being rude.
Oh my gosh this is EXACTLY what my experience with people was until I reached 30 - people would tell me they thought I was a stuck-up bitch until they conversed with me, but I was just extremely private
Had the same experience out of high-school. I didn't feel rubbish about myself, but I just was very trapped in my own bubble and had developed a habit of keeping people at arms length. Ppl would always say : I can't believe ure nice, I thought u were stuck up, just because u was an introvert and I found talking to strangers extremely uncomfortable (still do). Life after high-school taught me to develop some people skills, which helped. But I'm told I still have a pretty impressive resting bitch face - which is not at all intentional. I'm a softy and I think it's an instinctive form of protection. 😅
Sameeee! I've gotten "stuck up", "judgemental", and "posh" (which was the nicer way to say stuck up lol) because of my RBF. I just generally don't make a good impression on people at first, so I had to start giving disclaimers like "I swear I'm not making a face and being quiet because I'm judging you, I'm just seriously listening and processing what you're saying and have RBF" lol
Never gotten stuck up, “but untouchable” I’ve heard before
I seem to have resting bored face 😀 I was a very quiet and shy kid/teen. People were always saying I was acting bored when I was really intensely interested. Still happens sometimes when I'm with a group and not actively chatting, but observing.
I have social anxiety and take medication for it, I am extremely nice to people because I don't want to do ANYTHING that might offend someone or get me noticed.
I used to work for an older Hong Kong movie star at his restaurant in Seattle and he had worked with van damme and he didn’t have a good memory from it to say the very least. But if you want to know the stories he can go on and on about it. He has also worked with a lot of other actors and actresses and is friends with some producers of Hong Kong films as well. His restaurant is SpiceUp Szechuan Cuisine and the are located in bell town area which is between pike place market and the space needle. The food is amazing and the history of his family is inspiring. His name is David Leong and he is by far the best boss I have worked for
Thank you so much for sharing that explanation about social anxiety and being a people pleaser. I am almost 40 years old and on the autism spectrum and I am the exact same way like I have so much social anxiety and I am a huge people pleaser because I am so afraid of making either a bad impression or saying something wrong, and making it more awkward than it already is 😂😂😂😂😂 it’s so good to know I’m not alone and that somebody understands it and is able to explain it better than me. Thank you for that Charlotte. ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
PERIOD! I’m glad you feel the same way. Never understood the social anxiety excuse for being rude!
@@CharlotteDobre 🫂🫂🫂🫂🫂🫂 I just shared with my Bestie that you replied 🥹 you just made my day. I didn’t actually expect a response or for you to see this, but like you made my day! ❤❤ Please never change who you are, you’re absolutely AMAZING and I adore you 🥰 Thanks for making me laugh every day 🫂❤️
I'm ND and have pretty bad social anxiety with people I don't know. I'm definitely not rude but I will go out of my way to avoid verbal interaction with strangers lol. If I end up having to talk to someone I'm definitely "Canadian polite" 😉
I'm almost 40 too and i struggle with social anxiety since i was only 5 or 6. But i Always try to be nice and respectful to everyone.
If you act super nice, Charlotte, always imagine someone acting the exact opposite of you when they’re scared. What I’ve learned about fear (especially in group therapy where you meet all kinds) is that someone else will always act the complete opposite as well. That’s how people end up where we can’t understand.
Fear makes you do the crazy.
My friends and I met super sweet Tom Selleck while he was shopping on Rodeo Drive in Beverly Hills. We used to skip school and head there for lunch 😂. He wrote my name and Aloha then his name. Another time we were in Hollywood partying. Andrew Dice Clay stopped in a limo and invited us to a party. We didn’t go, but got his autograph- he just wrote his name, but was super cool.
I meet John Rhys-Davies at a con and he was legit the nicest man ever. He just enjoyed talking to everyone . Like a good 5 minute conversation. 10/10 I recommend meeting him. He got a great laugh about getting my friends drinking horn signed.
I have social anxiety and yes anxiety can absolutely make people perceive you as rude. Mostly due to speaking fast, not controlling tone of voice and being short with words. Especially during a full blown attack
Yeah, I have it too, but in my case I don't talk just walk away - I need to be away from people!"
I feel like Charlotte is right. I have autism with a side dish of social phobia and I tend to be super nice with strangers just to be safe. I have never used it as an excuse for being rude and I believe neither should other people, regardless of their fame or status. The only difference is that they are watched/recorded while being nice or rude and they have to come up with excuses for it later. There are lots of entitled people, yes, but being rude to everyone doesn't solve that problem.
I know right! I myself always do this nervous laugh whenever I think out there, a stranger or someone famous or someone I don’t really know. So what I do by default is be super nice as always smile make sure that I am always very agreeable and then when I come back home later that day, I’ll than just regret a lot of things like how I should’ve done this lol
I have a very strong anxiety disorder, where most of the time I can’t even pump myself up to leave the house. And I agree to a point. I try to be super nice when someone walks up to me, but until that point I try to be invisible, and not look anyone in the eyes. And on a bad day, I have headphones in (no music) so I can pretend not to hear to a point… sooo 50 50?
i try to pick a corner as far away as possible if i can. for things i am required to be around/socialize with others such as work i shutdown verbally and if someone starts a conversation with me i can end up talking incessantly about random things because, of my anxiety.( i think this might also be because, of my desire for approval from others but, it's so awkward i end up getting embarrassed and stabbing myself in the foot.) as soon as i feel drained i try to find any excuse to leave while apologizing but, it's extremely obvious i'm trying to run away because of my very obvious body movements.
when i have nothing going on all i do is isolate.
I have social anxiety and might be autistic too (in the process of finding a place to do the testing) I don't talk to nobody and I mean nobody because of an incident that happened in November (which is how I found out I might be autistic) I also don't use my conditions card I just say I don't like talking to people I don't know and if they touch me (I don't like strangers touching me) I say I'd appreciate if you don't touch me. If they do my anxiety becomes extremely dangerous to the point that I can unintentionally hurt the person that is trying to hurt me or touched me.
idk. I think saying a mental illness looks the same in all people is silly and a little bit dangerous. My anxiety can make me super irritable and I know the level of social interaction a celebrity engages in is really high. I think there is a balance between calling someone out on dickish behavior and being compassionate about MH.
I have social anxiety and i totally agree. It makes me so aware of how I'm acting to others and even when a discrepancy happens i just say thank you and move on bc the thought of telling someone there are pickles on my burger when i asked for there not to be makes me so uncomfortable and even tho my burger will taste like pickles is just easier to take them off myself and not bother anyone
Hi Charlotte, watching your video today made my day a lot better. I also have social anxiety (diagnosed by doctor). As a teen I would lie to skip social gatherings because the sole idea of having to go made me extremely anxious and uncomfortable. Just this morning (because of something that happened to me earlier) I realised that I always go above and beyond for my friends and that I do my best to pleased them and bend to their needs whilst although they also help when needed, they do it as long as it doesn’t affect them greatly or mess with their lives greatly. Listening to you talk about social anxiety and being able to relate just made my day a lot better. Thank you for being so awesome and making the best videos - they always make me laugh and bright up my day.
I think Charlotte's completely correct. In my experience, as someone who also has social anxiety, you treat the people taking your order politely because you want the social encounter to not be awkward or more troublesome than it already is. Especially if you're having a bad day and you just don't have the energy to deal with people. If you're polite, the interaction generally ends faster.
I have been around quite a few celebrities in my life. I will say one of the nicest people I ever met was Robin Williams- my uncle worked as a sound engineer for Disney and then later Pixar. He not only was friendly with Robin through working with him on countless movies but also had been friends with him and Jay Leno while they frequented the comedy clubs in CA (he and Jay had gone to college together). My family and I were visiting my uncle while they were filming with him…. We were brought into the lots while my uncle gave us a bit of a tour (which was so amazing… we even were walked down to see some of the vaults!). We went to the commissary to grab lunch before my uncle had to back to work. While I was walking to the table a man comes up behind me and starts making comments about my food as if he were the chef in a super silly voice… I was about 7 at the time and shy…it was Robin. He chatted with me in this “character” for a min while myself and my little brother who was 3 at the time giggled and laughed. He said he needed to “make sure my food was okay” and took a piece of my food and pretended to choke. My brother freaked out being only 3 hahaha- he quickly dropped the act and consoled him while my family laughed hysterically. He sat with us and ate his own lunch before leaving. He even did the Genie voice for my little brother to make him smile…This was Robin. This is who he was. He gave us a core memory I can never express how grateful I am for.
Also- Jim Carey is hilarious and kind. He is a fan of a death metal band I worked with. One of the best things I have ever seen in my life was him head banging side stage gutturally “singing” along to Cannibal Corpse. Every word. Each. And. Every. Word.
He took time to meet fans and take photos with them post show. I cannot say the same for his gf at the time Jenny McCarthy (there is a reason they most certainly did not end up together) who pouted and looked like she was taking the most painful poop of her life while waiting for him 😂
My bffs mom worked on Ace Ventura and said he was really friendly to everyone
I met him at the comedy club in Denver,I agree he was super nice and made me laugh with his jokes. I'm glad you had a nice experience with meeting him too,he was a genuinely nice person.
I can agree that Robin Williams was legend in person. His generosity was unrelenting. I only met him once, but that evening, he lifted the spirits of several hundred people who really needed it.
Thanks for sharing 😊
Legit diagnosed with social anxiety+ a lot of other letters...the thought of being rude to someone who doesn't deserve it is absolutely mortifying. I would 💀.
Yup social anxiety af and I have to mentally tell myself not to give away my shirt, keys, car, life just to stop an awkward silence.
Jewel needs to be on this list. I worked at a nightclub. One night we were dead cuz there was a Jewel concert nearby. Suddenly, everyone flooded in and we were slammed. Turns out a MASS of people walked out on her concert because of what a witch she was.
She would not let people drink, smoke, or talk while she was performing (in a venue that had "full bar with ID" on the tickets, so technically she was causing false advertising by refusing to let people drink). An intoxicated woman called for a cab, doing the responsible thing- Jewel literally STOPPED SINGING to yell at the woman and scream for security to remove her. The woman wasn't even near the stage, she was in the front of the venue near the entrance doors. Jewel's the ultimate Karen diva.
Woah that’s crazy!!
I get the smoking bit because it's invasive and could mess up her voice, but the rest.. yikes.
Wow, that's odd!
In the end only Kindness matters
😹omg purrfect comment!!!
I’ve met several celebrities at conventions. Nick Carter is my #1. I met him at a vip set at one of his concerts and again at the convention. At the convention, his booth was cash only and all the atms were empty, but my son wanted to meet him. We got in line, explained to his PR people that we weren’t buying a service but just wanted to meet him. He hugged my son and talked to him, hugged me and talked to me, and my son even snuck in a second hug. He was super cool about us taking up his time. He’s still my #1 celebrity crush.
All the BSBs are awesome :)
I so love you Charlotte❤! I love what you said about not being able to be rude in public! You are a special little gem of a lady!!!❤❤❤❤❤
I lived in a remote town in Indonesia for one year. I studied there and also taught English at local language school. This town is not famous for tourism so people are not used to see different faces, cultures or races. Every time I left my place to go grocery shopping or doing anything honestly, people were yelling at me on the street to make a conversation with me, wanting to take pictures with me at least 10 times a day and I couldn't sit at a restaurant and have a meal without being interrupted multiple times. It was really bizarre to me because I am literally nobody, just very ordinary person. And that's when I had a taste of how celebrities feel like every day of their life. And I have to tell you, I was always nice and polite but sometimes it was really hard to keep my composure when people started to be pushy!
And that's why I feel for celebrities, end of story lol
I kept saying I feel like Justin Bieber at teenage girls concert 😂
I worked at a theme park in the mid west that sometimes got visited by celebrities. These celebrities preferred coming to this theme park because people were not expecting to see celebrities and in general people around here din get star struck. We let people , even if we recognize them, to just BE. They were on vacation. With their kids! They didn’t even have handlers! I miss you Don and Melanie!!! ❤️❤️❤️❤️
Johnson?
I met Pete Carroll (Coach of Seattle Seahawks). He came into my work to order food. Me, not being a big football fan, had no idea who he was. So, me being his waitress I treated him like a regular customer. He was super nice! Then once everyone around him realized who he was they started flipping out. At this point I had to start telling my co-workers and the other customers to calm down and let him finish his meal before going up to him. My mom is a HUGE Seahawks fan but she was proud of me for making people chill. He should be allowed to eat his meal in peace with his woman damn it! Lol (oh, and, he eats Hawaiian style pizza. Canadian bacon and Pineapple)
He’s not really a celebrity
And your humanity & realness is why we love your work ❤
I'm the same with my anxiety, I will apologise to others for no real reason (just being overly nice as I'm not a fan of confrontations) to then be told that "people who apologise for no reason were abused as children". Now I have a mini guilt complex as I know my children take after me with being overly polite... and now I know what's is going round some peoples minds. I'm going back under my rock till winter.