For friendships I struggle with gauging “closeness levels.” From figuring out whether or not it’s acceptable to share certain things with one another, to the amount of energy I am supposed to be putting into friendships (and receiving). It’s always on my mind to want my friends to be comfortable around me and I try my best as to not overstep any boundaries.
I think in terms of whether or not it's acceptable to share certain things with one another - I think that will come with trial and error. Also, it depends on what type of relationship YOU want to develop. It could be helpful to determine what you first think is acceptable or not in a friendship then use that to determine what you share and the amount of energy you put into the friendship. Test your theory out and see what sticks!
As someone who's been a loner for years, the hardest part about making friends, is when I find someone I actually click with, I don't keep the momentum going.
When we do things that make us feel out of comfort zone, it's easy to revert back to our old ways - aka not keeping the momentum going. Friendships and building connections is just like everything else. We can keep working at it and get better and better at it.
Start out with a polite compliment to a person, people like when you notice details.
so true. sometimes this can lead to more conversation too!
For friendships I struggle with gauging “closeness levels.” From figuring out whether or not it’s acceptable to share certain things with one another, to the amount of energy I am supposed to be putting into friendships (and receiving).
It’s always on my mind to want my friends to be comfortable around me and I try my best as to not overstep any boundaries.
I think in terms of whether or not it's acceptable to share certain things with one another - I think that will come with trial and error. Also, it depends on what type of relationship YOU want to develop.
It could be helpful to determine what you first think is acceptable or not in a friendship then use that to determine what you share and the amount of energy you put into the friendship. Test your theory out and see what sticks!
@@stephnocoaching Thank you for your insightful response. I will give this a shot!
As someone who's been a loner for years, the hardest part about making friends, is when I find someone I actually click with, I don't keep the momentum going.
When we do things that make us feel out of comfort zone, it's easy to revert back to our old ways - aka not keeping the momentum going.
Friendships and building connections is just like everything else. We can keep working at it and get better and better at it.
It’s hard making new friends 😅
I struggle with finding the time to nurture these friendships.
what do you struggle with the most?
Trying to limit the amount of connection I'm willing to give; i.e My Golden Retriever syndrome goes too far and scares people