Projection; How Narcissists Tell on Themselves!
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Projection is a defensive mechanism whereby a person takes what’s going on inside of them, something uncomfortable, usually shameful, negative, unattractive, dishonest, or harmful, and projects it onto someone else. It’s the cheater who constantly badgers you about where you've been. The hateful, vengeful person who accuses you of vengefulness. The arrogant person who tells you you’re stuck up. The selfish person who says you’re so self-centered. The uncaring person who tells everyone how non-empathic you are. And the superficial person who points out your focus on superficial things. So often I will see an empathic client involved with a narcissist, turning themselves inside out trying to prove to the narc they are caring, empathic, trustworthy, unselfish, and not superficial. This plays right into the narc’s needs for constant attention, and feeding of their bottomless pit. Learn what to do instead!
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I still catch myself trying to prove I'm trustworthy even after realizing it is unwinnable. And we're not even together anymore.
My narc ex gf went on a whole on smear campaign against me after I caught her sleeping with her daughters boyfriend. She accused me of being a predator, an impoverished person living in squalor, reached out to all of the people on my contacts list trying to turn them against me. All of this to keep me so wrapped up in chaos so I wouldn't find out that she had also stolen a large amount of money for my business. When I figured it out, she had told me I had a harem of women in my Facebook, stating that maybe one of them went through my home at night while I slept.. I just can't even wrap my head around how much projection could keep her from feeling guilt. It's mind boggling.
Yep, it makes your head spin!!! Take good care of yourself! Best, Shannon
Narcissists seem to love nothing more than to call you a criminal if you get mad at them and show your anger as if this is the same as bullying.
[[BULLYING??]] GET OUT MY FRIEND [[out out!!]]
@@samueldev9137 Freaks like you will never get it, so slander me, if you are that stupid ,but it only shows your lack of knowledge, not mine.
@@samueldev9137 Narcissists like you prefer to bully others and pretend your victim is the one who don´t know the world, must be fun, get it right or shut the fuck up.
had leftover taco bell for breakfast. Now im bouta go sit on the toilet AND DROP A FEW NARCISSIST!!!
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My husband accused me of having a thing for my son in law 🤮 while the whole time he was having a 2 year affair 💔
My narc always.wondered about the boyfriend he thought I had on the side. His reasoning was if I wasn't " getting any" from him,.I must be getting.it from.someone.else. It was maddening, if I was texting I would hear " how is your boyfriend,.does.he miss you?". If I was late coming home from work, I would be asked if I stopped by his house. It was crazy, becomes I never cheated. I am faithful.
Maybe the sex life took a dive because I was tired and working, and didn't like his demanding and accusatory tone. As far as I know he isn't cheating, but the projection I think I am getting is his low self esteem,and his worry, that he isn't good enough for me. If he keeps the distrust going, I may have to leave. I can't be in a relationship when someone thinks I'm dishonest.
Thank you so much ! So true. I have seen the projection many times in relationships with the narcissists I have known.
Brilliant clarity on projection 👍
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This life lesson when learned comes with a price that most folks would rather not pay--and that's... the TRUTH. If a person accuses you of stealing, cheating, lying... for absolutely NO REASON (and that's an important caveat), then you can pretty much assume that they're the one who is stealing, cheating, lying--accusing you in a plot to throw you off the scent when your gut tells you otherwise, "S/he wouldn't do . S/h is always accusing me of that"
If it's an intimate relationship--it's time to get your ducks in a row. If it's in the workplace--document, document, document. Avoid offline conversations and provide summaries of conversations or anything that you suspect could go south. If they see that you're being hypervigilant they'll back down--or fire you (either is fine). I did both scenarios and saved me a lot of grief.
Absolute projection!
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I love videos like this. Informative and straight to the point. Thx
Thank you. Helpful video! I'm dealing with a roommate like this.
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Long time, really miss your new uploads, your every little video works as a big armament in my life. Thank you so much
Thanks Sukesh, i'm sorry i've been so busy and not posting. i'll get back on soon:) best, Shannon
@@TherapistTalks Happy to hear, you're gud. 😊
Very true!
Thank you so much for all your videos. I have more to watch, but you have such common sense and wisdom and I am learning so much already! You are an answer to my prayers. Thank you
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I love you Shannon Petrovitch. You help me and so many others. And by the way you look so ekstra pretty in this video
Well said.
Stepping away is very good advice. What would you say when narcissism seems to be a social phenomenon in your community? Narcissism seems to be getting worse in that fewer people are willing to call it out and have deluded themselves that narcissism victims and those with integrity are the narcissists, an accusation which demonstrates the narcissism of the crowd doing the accusing and false judging. It is surely abuse. Thank you for the video doctor.
The world is a lie, when you seek the truth you will see. The devil has his puppets to gaslight you and reap confusion amongst God's children.
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Thank you for your short yet very informative and to the point video. I’m trying to find videos to share certain behaviors with my children, and this would be very helpful, but im trying to not have the label “narcissist” in there. I’m hoping to find more content where there is no label involved, so they can learn about it and recognize it. Without me saying “your father is a narcissist”.
Regardless, this is a great video and yes! Listen and learn, because they are giving you such valuable information about themselves.
i understand and appreciate you're not trying to label their father. You can educate them about 'self-centered traits' and 'manipulative and controlling behaviors', or whatever you're most concerned about. Emphasize actions and behaviors and resist labeling as they are half him, and the labeling makes it seem inevitable rather than choices people make. People can choose to change these behaviors though they rarely do because one of the most challenging of the narcissistic traits is that they don't see themselves at fault in any of their troubles with relationships. Take care, Shannon
@@TherapistTalks I understand change is not going to happen. And I do address the behavior (or simply “toxic” traits in general) and how those make you feel, so they can recognize them. Videos like yours would be helpful though, because it is a neutral ground, not coming from me. Unfortunately, the labeling is almost always there, which makes I can’t use them for educational purposes.
Thank you again though, this is a great video.
How utterly traffic. What a nightmare.
Are you watching the Depp trial? If you are there is a live stream on RUclips with lawyers and other professionals commenting called Legal Bytes. They do not have a therapist and they need you. Contact Alyte who is running it I am sure she would love to have you on.
I haven't been watching; super busy right not. Thanks for this info, and I'll look into it when i have a minute. Best to you! Shannon
My wife would always tell me that her sister is having sex with men she meets on dating sites. Why did I need to know? She told me stories of people at work sleeping together also at that time it went in one ear and out the other thinking it was gossip. After seven years I discovered narcissism and she was textbook. Finally figured out I was the only one in town not having sex anymore😂
OMG i'm sorry for what you've been through. Thank you for sharing your story. Take care! Shannon
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That's me. Parents do the best they can, make mistakes stand up for they children but will always be to blame for example my daughter 17 teen acuse me for abuse. in grade 3 she start to say that if i yelled at her for doing wrong for telling me the children bully her at school then the teachers will tell me in front of her she is the 1 bulling the children, when i correct her she will yelled at me i said i must lie to stand up for her. When i tries discipline her she will threaten me and say she will call the police for abuse and brag how good she can lie and act. It's not good to hear im a bad mother but the next day she loves me and grateful for doing so much for her. She is going for counselling soon and is so vindictive and said she is still a teen and get me locked up. She even did a death spell on my mother in law and laughed when het friend pass away few months later and said the friend pass away was to hurt my mother in law so the spell worked in him and not my mother in law. She is in dark rituals. My heart is broken for my child. We need to pray for parents to be strong
Hard 2 hear🌺
STOP TRYING
[[DISHONEST]] [[HARMFUL]] MORE LIKE [[DICKHONEST]] [[CHARMFUL]] [[selfish crag]]
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