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Even in my 40s, I am still taking away some good advice from this.. Men in their 40’s and 50’s seem to play more games than they did in their 20’s and 30’s.. It’s a mine field out there and you not searching for gold (when you are older), you are searching for the least broken down item from the refuse pile. 🙄🤣🤣🤣
I love these videos. I'm a guy dating women. But, getting info on what a woman might be thinking is so much more valuable than men's dating advice. Men's dating advice is straight-up terrible advice.
Thank you for this reminder. Deep down I know these things to be true, but it's especially nice to hear it coming from a male perspective. I appreciate what you said about self disclosure. I've noticed there's a lot of self disclosure often without a lot of questions to get to know me better. Thanks as always for your insight.
True, and similar behaviour to that is the "love bombing", tons of compliments especially about your looks, but they don't really try to have a conversation, get to know you, the dialogue doesn't flow.
I had a guy wait 5 months (with consistency) for intimacy with me!!!! It was beautiful. He said and acted like he wanted a relationship. But once it happened, he immediately switched up on me. He’d only respond if he thought we would get physical. I chunked the deuces soon after. ✌🏽I realize now that he was probably seeing a lot of women and that’s why he didn’t pressure me during the dating phase. If I could go back in time, I would have waited until we were OBVIOUSLY exclusive instead of just presuming it would happen afterwards. Not with him-a better man of course. 🤞🏽 What a waste! 🙄
Omg same.. !!! Luckily I realised it after 3 months (we didn't have sex). I realised after he started to check out other girls infront of me. I knew it was over. Just dumped him. Luckily we didn't even hook up hahaha
These are great videos Ryan. Too bad there are so many users out there. I'm happily single, relationships are a pain in the a$$. I'll keep my funds, my enjoyment, my body, and my sanity, to myself.
Last month, I struck up what I thought was a hopeful future potential partner. We got on very well. On the 3rd date, I spent the night (he made me coffee in the morning). Last weekend, he sent me a wall of text: in short, he is emotionally unavailable. He hoped for friendship. Said that he deleted his online account, but I think he just unmatched me. I didn't respond. Just blocked him on everything. Life is too short to end up as someone's 2nd choice, or placeholder.
But...what if you're incompatible between the sheets? Not meaning to be flippant but this once broke a potential relationship for me. Sex is not everything, but, you sure can miss it when you're otherwise close to someone.
@@SuzD0n makes sense to some extend but then again i believe that incompartibilities comes when one of the partner isnt ready to be open especially in bedroom matters....as people come together its an opportunity to have an open mind and be ready to learn how to pleasure each other..both of you have to be open to learn and give each other a safe place to freely talk...i believe that but then again everyone is free to do exactly whats they want to do....and again as much as you decide to stay away from sex its also good to talk about it and get to understand the other partners views etc..
Your advice gave me the confidence I needed to refuse an invitation to go to a new man's house. I am looking for a long-term relationship, so I told him that spending time together being active, talking, and laughing together is the best way to help me feel safe and comfortable. He's not happy, bit he is on board with this! Thank you so much Ryan.
... and if you refuse to give them more if you are not ready, the wrong guy will often say something negative or will ridicule you. Be prepared for that. It will be actually a confirmation that he is the wrong one to be with. Stand your ground ;)
Good observation. They will try to put you down saying stuff like "this way, you will be alone forever, no real man will wait an eternity to get intimate, you're too picky, you're a prude, if I'm not getting it from you I can always go somewhere else"... clear signs he's not a quality guy.
Every night before a wedding ring is too soon. It messes with your head and ties you together and clouds your thought process as to whether he or she is the one you want to spend the rest of your life with. We can say “no”. If the guy doesn’t accept that answer, then think about what else he will not respect your boundaries. You’re worth the wait.
It’s too early when you don’t know what kind of demons he’s carrying and is going to transfer to you through the spirit to spirit connection of sexual intercourse.
@@mirand0la Yes sex is no joke. A disease or unwanted child isn’t the only risk to consider. There is the guaranteed one flesh bond, the soul tie and the sharing of demons - none of which can be seen nor prevented because it is spiritual yet very very real. It’s time to read up on the spiritual implications of sex, especially considering the way narcissists are running rampant today, getting their hooks in and spiritually, emotionally and financially destroying high quality women (and men). Women need to realize that we have been deceived about relationships, Stop believing false advertising and deceptively influenced ‘social norms’ that are destructive to the soul and start seeking a close personal relationship with the Creator of heaven and earth - the author of all that is true and right and who loves you with a perfect love that far surpasses the nonsense of today’s world. You are not here, as society would have you believe, to be desirous to a man but to please your Maker who will guide you to the perfect partner who is right for you - AFTER He cleans you up from the mess you’ve created for yourself!! I speak from personal experience.
You went on 10 dates in just one month?! That’s all gas no breaks, sheesh! In my personal opinion, that’s rushing into that relationship. Moving way too fast falling for someone rather than growing with them. Again, not trying to tell you what to do. Live your life however you want but moving this fast only benefits that person, not you. You’ll have more to lose with such rushed time investment.
@@magnolia2 Hmmm. We are in our 60’s and not getting any younger 😆. Emotionally mature too. Most of our dates have been hikes where we talk the whole time about the deeper issues. Religion political leanings financial status relationship goals past experiences etc etc. We felt the spark early on but have been waiting to know each better. I’ve met his family he’s planning future adventures etc so yes I think we are ready for the next step
@@DiraMcClintock why not try slowing it down to once a week for the 2nd month? See how he responds? You could just be "busier" all the sudden. Then wait til month 3 to go somewhere private with him.
@@DiraMcClintock Is meeting his family within one month a "safe" pace? Not to be a negative Nancy, and I don't know in what ways dating changes as you get older, but I've been reading up on narcissism to figure out some people I've dealt with (+it's everywhere on RUclips), and the love bombing seems to be a real thing... Definitely not saying this is your case, just please be careful. And good luck! 😊
It IS so challenging and hard to find a good man that wants the same as you. As patient as I want to be, I become frustrated and discouraged. Sometimes I lose hope but ik I can't give up
This was perfect timing for me to hear this message! Needed some reminders. 😉 Plus, you know I’m always up for a one on one session to get some of your great advice!
Hi Ryan I don’t comment very often but I love watching your videos… I am in a place where I am actually enjoying being single but would love to meet the right person… I love the way you did this video because it was just more matter of fact in terms of what we need to be thinking about. I love how you explain what goes on in a man’s head but most of us just need to focus on what’s right for us and stop trying to figure that out too much… If we know what we want and we need then we are less likely to settle… Totally love the fact that you are bringing things to our attention that we should be careful about though… You are making this process so much more fun and so much less stressful
We are best friends, we know each other four years but here in the last 8- 9 we work together, have met his family and met some of mine, we flirt around and couple of times almost end up in bed,but I stop it, because I don't want to be a rebound or just another notch in his belt as some men refer to of getting the girl, then they want to come back at ya and saying this isn't working out! He always said he always don't make it pass a Three years relationship and if he finds the one that last five years mark, then he would consider marriage, but from his first marriage , it's always been three years in relationship and then thing's go south for him! We do have a lot of things in common and a lot of same believes! And he feels that if we cross that line we would lose the friendship we have an he doesn't want to lose want we have! I told him you can't predict the future only God knows! I just don't know,but I can say our chemistry with each other is awesome, unbelievable too is when our hormones kick in , even when we dont touch each other we arouse each other! I just want someone to be good to me as I am to them and someone to be their self, and caring, passionate, trust worthy, not fake,honest up front, true to their self and not playing games with me or my head just to score points to talk to their buddies later! I'll keep on praying! Thank you!
I had a successful long distance relationship. He moved from abroad to be with me, and we were together for 7 years. Honestly I think the success of an LDR depends entirely on the people within it.
The hard part is to know if the other person is only looking for sex and not a relationship. But if you see at least 5 times without physical interaction, chances are he/she is really interested in you. Thanks for the video, keep up the good content! ❤️
I wish i had watched this video way earlier :( so that i wouldn’t have done that mistake 😭😭😭 sometimes i still miss him even though he was like that, is there even any chance to rewind 😭
I hear ya...... but... 30 days is a large time investment to put in, to then find out that there isn’t the right chemistry under the sheets..... Sex a obviously very important factor in a relationship. It would be nice to be able to explore that aspect sooner without compromising the stability
30 days is nothing, Lyd. Let’s be honest - you’ll know if there’s sexual chemistry in the bedroom waaaaaaay before you get to the bedroom. The key is letting it build up. The way I described, you simply lean back and accept dates (roughly one per week) and then, it’s ON 😄
I’ve been very unpleasantly surprised ...you never really know until it happens.....And then it’s very awquard because when you break up at that point, it’s obviously due to the bad sex.
Thank you Ryan for this video. This was the right subject for me right now. I have been dating someone a month now and it's going great! I think this helped me to say 'yes' when the question comes along, hopefully soon.
What if I’m the one that doesn’t want a relationship or to get married? There are definitely guys that I want just for sex. I’m very independent and don’t want to be tied down. Full disclosure: I’m 57, been married, had kids, now I just want to have fun. I also enjoy the physical connection.
Being an empath its hard to refuse or to say no I don’t want to see him disappointed when he started to kissed me I was wronged I blame myself after that after so long time to have courage to date again after abusive and toxic relationship but then I’ve learned lately it’s okay to say no it’s called boundaries! Thanks to him traumatic and nightmare but that was a huge lesson and I have more cautious and I guess it’s better I be single ☺️
I know what you mean, I dated him for six weeks. I let him take me home to watch a movie.He ended forcing himself on me. I haven’t dated in six years 🙏🙏🙏🙏
Honestly, I think this is less about being an empath than it is about your self-esteem not being quite as good as it could be. And this sometimes goes hand-in-hand with being empathic. This is what attracts toxic people to you as they see it as a weakness to exploit. Reroute the focus to yourself a bit. It's ok to be selfish sometimes.
I have to apologize. The last video I saw of your I thought (and think) was full of crap, but this one is brim to brim loaded with good advice. The one caveat I have is that of course everyone is different, which is why intuition is so important. I'm an EXTREMELY romantic guy and when I'm dating someone it's solely them all the way. At the same time, however, I love sex A LOT and Touch is my primary love language by far and sexual compatibility to me is extremely important (and very specific). Because of that, I've both held off from KISSING a woman until like the sixth date where she was sure by that point I was gay, but also STARTED long-term relationship--including a marriage--where we had sex the first date or in place of actually going to the second date I had planned for us. MY problem is that because of red flags SO MANY guys throw up as you describe, when I do them women sometimes see them as red flags (as they should, based on past experience) and I lose them. Luckily, women tend to get a really good sense of who I am quickly and their intuition lets me in. I get THEM revealing things that they sthen say, "I can't believe I'm telling you all this." But I do have to be careful.
I am still a virgin at 27 years, and I like to take things very very very slow so I would make him wait a long long long time. Like a year and half at least. And I haven’t been a lot of long relationships either.
Ryan, Ive seen a lot of your videos and they make a lot of sense. I generally am pretty good about setting boundaries esp when it comes to wushu washy behavior. I met this guy at work about a month ago. I ended up leaving my position recently and he asked me out. I made the mistake of sleeping with him on the first date. This are going really well he has set up two more since and has been very attentive, sincere, thoughtful, take initiative…etc. I’m just wondering if there is anything I can do to back step my first mistake of sleeping with him too fast. Should I hold off on more sex for a bit and make him wait? This would be an interesting video topic, and something I’m definitely curious about.
Talked with a guy for 4 months on a social media site. He says when we meet the first time we are having sex. I said nope not gonna happen and he is mad said I am being unreasonable. I don't think I am. Ryan, we need more help with this social media stuff and meeting guys....are there any rules any more?
The comment I hear most from guys is "I really want to make sure we have sexual chemistry... Things in the bedroom were not so good with my ex, blabla..."
I had my last bf wait for 3 months. Told him I’m old fashioned and we didn’t kiss on our first date either even though I wanted to. We broke it off because we wanted different things for our future, but we’re still friends.. we still talk and text.. and yes, I do sometimes miss that relationship.. but why stay when you know the future is not there..!! - I got a friend with him & I can still see him & he can find the happiness he deserves.. we go out still as friends.. Usually I’m the driver since he wants to drink & I don’t drink at all.. even when he drinks 1-2 beers - he doesn’t want to drive.. I like that about him.. I’m not in a hurry to find another relationship.. it’s pretty hard finding the man who’s actually going to do what they say.. instead of just say what they think I want to hear & sweet talk me.. esp going to bed.. I have standards & I don’t want to catch whatever he may be carrying..!! - I try to remind myself that.. IT IS NOT 100% - darn men have beautiful eyes & that’s my weakness..!! 🤦🏻♀️🤦🏻♀️🤦🏻♀️
Thank you for making these videos and offering your guidance. I needed this reminder on boundaries. It does indeed seem like the older a man gets the more games he plays. Give me 50 Ryan!
A guy said to me about going to hes and go in hes hot tub I actually questioned him on it then he texed me a few times and wasn't charming me any more and he hasn't texrd me after a while as stopped texting me completely xx
Great 👍!! Thank you for that advice. I just started dating a guy I like him a lot and seems like he likes me. He is very into sexting and I put boundaries and he respect that. But I’m getting kind of used to hear him sexting me and I enjoy . QUESTION What should I do?!!
@@SuzD0n thank you so very much for your advice and yes I’m doing exactly what you just said. I’m trying to not get into that anymore and slowly cutting it off.
I would like a one on one zoom meeting. I’ve dated in the past where the guy always wants to have sex. I keep declining over and over but they don’t seem to understand. Finally I just gave up and broke up with them. Once I did that, I felt that I did something wrong. I don’t know if I did the right or wrong thing. They want to be friends and that’s where we left it. Hardly talking. Ryan did I do the right thing by ending the relationship?
Yes you did the right thing. If they can’t understand why you are setting boundaries for something that intimate, then you shouldn’t be with them. It is indicative of immature behavior and bad intentions for the rest of the “relationship”. I’ve been in great, mostly healthy relationships, but turn sour when they try to pressure me for something more when I am not ready. Setting boundaries for yourself is never bad, and when you meet the right person it will not be all about sex or their expectations, it will be about you both.
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Even in my 40s, I am still taking away some good advice from this.. Men in their 40’s and 50’s seem to play more games than they did in their 20’s and 30’s.. It’s a mine field out there and you not searching for gold (when you are older), you are searching for the least broken down item from the refuse pile. 🙄🤣🤣🤣
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I love these videos. I'm a guy dating women. But, getting info on what a woman might be thinking is so much more valuable than men's dating advice. Men's dating advice is straight-up terrible advice.
Yah they are worse not serious they're narcissists. Selfish sad indeed
@@tsebosei1285 Because most of normal guys at this age group is taken.
Sadly true 😩
Thank you for this reminder. Deep down I know these things to be true, but it's especially nice to hear it coming from a male perspective. I appreciate what you said about self disclosure. I've noticed there's a lot of self disclosure often without a lot of questions to get to know me better. Thanks as always for your insight.
True, and similar behaviour to that is the "love bombing", tons of compliments especially about your looks, but they don't really try to have a conversation, get to know you, the dialogue doesn't flow.
@@mirand0la yes, so true
I had a guy wait 5 months (with consistency) for intimacy with me!!!! It was beautiful. He said and acted like he wanted a relationship. But once it happened, he immediately switched up on me. He’d only respond if he thought we would get physical. I chunked the deuces soon after. ✌🏽I realize now that he was probably seeing a lot of women and that’s why he didn’t pressure me during the dating phase. If I could go back in time, I would have waited until we were OBVIOUSLY exclusive instead of just presuming it would happen afterwards. Not with him-a better man of course. 🤞🏽 What a waste! 🙄
Omg same.. !!! Luckily I realised it after 3 months (we didn't have sex). I realised after he started to check out other girls infront of me. I knew it was over. Just dumped him. Luckily we didn't even hook up hahaha
@@nopoys Mad props to you!!! 👏🏽👏🏽
These are great videos Ryan. Too bad there are so many users out there. I'm happily single, relationships are a pain in the a$$. I'll keep my funds, my enjoyment, my body, and my sanity, to myself.
I'm single too. Not in a headspace where I want a relationship right now. But I love these videos because one day you never know!
Last month, I struck up what I thought was a hopeful future potential partner. We got on very well. On the 3rd date, I spent the night (he made me coffee in the morning). Last weekend, he sent me a wall of text: in short, he is emotionally unavailable. He hoped for friendship. Said that he deleted his online account, but I think he just unmatched me. I didn't respond. Just blocked him on everything. Life is too short to end up as someone's 2nd choice, or placeholder.
Wow, you rule! Great response.🥰
Men are so flaky. It's exhausting. I'm trying but can't seem to snag one to even have a relationship to get to spending the nite lol.
Thanks Ryan. People today are so focused on looking good, sex, etc. It's about trust & communication💚💚
Just turned away a guy who I really liked after he pushed boundaries on the second date. So proud of myself. Byeeeee ✌🏻
Personally if I was dating a guy. He will need to marry me. In order to get any sex. It's tottaly worth the wait.
am with you here, same here for sure..
But...what if you're incompatible between the sheets? Not meaning to be flippant but this once broke a potential relationship for me. Sex is not everything, but, you sure can miss it when you're otherwise close to someone.
@@SuzD0n makes sense to some extend but then again i believe that incompartibilities comes when one of the partner isnt ready to be open especially in bedroom matters....as people come together its an opportunity to have an open mind and be ready to learn how to pleasure each other..both of you have to be open to learn and give each other a safe place to freely talk...i believe that but then again everyone is free to do exactly whats they want to do....and again as much as you decide to stay away from sex its also good to talk about it and get to understand the other partners views etc..
Nope
Your advice gave me the confidence I needed to refuse an invitation to go to a new man's house. I am looking for a long-term relationship, so I told him that spending time together being active, talking, and laughing together is the best way to help me feel safe and comfortable. He's not happy, bit he is on board with this! Thank you so much Ryan.
... and if you refuse to give them more if you are not ready, the wrong guy will often say something negative or will ridicule you. Be prepared for that. It will be actually a confirmation that he is the wrong one to be with. Stand your ground ;)
Good observation. They will try to put you down saying stuff like "this way, you will be alone forever, no real man will wait an eternity to get intimate, you're too picky, you're a prude, if I'm not getting it from you I can always go somewhere else"... clear signs he's not a quality guy.
@@mirand0la Yes, exactly! One man told me 'you won't find anyone because you are too choosy'. Guess what ... I'm married to a handsome, gentleman now.
Oh this one is easy for me! Before marriage = too soon ❤️
Every night before a wedding ring is too soon. It messes with your head and ties you together and clouds your thought process as to whether he or she is the one you want to spend the rest of your life with. We can say “no”. If the guy doesn’t accept that answer, then think about what else he will not respect your boundaries. You’re worth the wait.
It’s too early when you don’t know what kind of demons he’s carrying and is going to transfer to you through the spirit to spirit connection of sexual intercourse.
@Deborah Nin I rarely hear these coaches talking about soul ties, and they should.
@@mirand0la Yes sex is no joke. A disease or unwanted child isn’t the only risk to consider. There is the guaranteed one flesh bond, the soul tie and the sharing of demons - none of which can be seen nor prevented because it is spiritual yet very very real. It’s time to read up on the spiritual implications of sex, especially considering the way narcissists are running rampant today, getting their hooks in and spiritually, emotionally and financially destroying high quality women (and men). Women need to realize that we have been deceived about relationships, Stop believing false advertising and deceptively influenced ‘social norms’ that are destructive to the soul and start seeking a close personal relationship with the Creator of heaven and earth - the author of all that is true and right and who loves you with a perfect love that far surpasses the nonsense of today’s world. You are not here, as society would have you believe, to be desirous to a man but to please your Maker who will guide you to the perfect partner who is right for you - AFTER He cleans you up from the mess you’ve created for yourself!! I speak from personal experience.
Apparently I’m doing everything right. It will be date 10 and one month this week. I’m ready for the next step 🤩. Thanks Ryan for your guidance
You went on 10 dates in just one month?! That’s all gas no breaks, sheesh! In my personal opinion, that’s rushing into that relationship. Moving way too fast falling for someone rather than growing with them. Again, not trying to tell you what to do. Live your life however you want but moving this fast only benefits that person, not you. You’ll have more to lose with such rushed time investment.
@@magnolia2 Hmmm. We are in our 60’s and not getting any younger 😆. Emotionally mature too. Most of our dates have been hikes where we talk the whole time about the deeper issues. Religion political leanings financial status relationship goals past experiences etc etc. We felt the spark early on but have been waiting to know each better. I’ve met his family he’s planning future adventures etc so yes I think we are ready for the next step
@@DiraMcClintock why not try slowing it down to once a week for the 2nd month? See how he responds? You could just be "busier" all the sudden. Then wait til month 3 to go somewhere private with him.
@@magnolia2 I agree with you.
@@DiraMcClintock Is meeting his family within one month a "safe" pace? Not to be a negative Nancy, and I don't know in what ways dating changes as you get older, but I've been reading up on narcissism to figure out some people I've dealt with (+it's everywhere on RUclips), and the love bombing seems to be a real thing... Definitely not saying this is your case, just please be careful. And good luck! 😊
30 dates??? One date a week, that's like 7 months!🥵
30 DAYS, V C. 4-5 dates you’ll know if he’s worth it or not. 👌
It IS so challenging and hard to find a good man that wants the same as you. As patient as I want to be, I become frustrated and discouraged. Sometimes I lose hope but ik I can't give up
I love your videos ❤️ Thank you Ryan ☺️ God Bless you 😇🥰
This video was 🔥 It answered so many questions I had. Spot on! Thank you Ryan!!
This was perfect timing for me to hear this message! Needed some reminders. 😉
Plus, you know I’m always up for a one on one session to get some of your great advice!
Hi Ryan I don’t comment very often but I love watching your videos… I am in a place where I am actually enjoying being single but would love to meet the right person… I love the way you did this video because it was just more matter of fact in terms of what we need to be thinking about. I love how you explain what goes on in a man’s head but most of us just need to focus on what’s right for us and stop trying to figure that out too much… If we know what we want and we need then we are less likely to settle… Totally love the fact that you are bringing things to our attention that we should be careful about though… You are making this process so much more fun and so much less stressful
You are RIGHT! Men love the GAME, tho it’s sick! Sex with a person you don’t know is a recipe for disaster because you Dont know a lot about them
We are best friends, we know each other four years but here in the last 8- 9 we work together, have met his family and met some of mine, we flirt around and couple of times almost end up in bed,but I stop it, because I don't want to be a rebound or just another notch in his belt as some men refer to of getting the girl, then they want to come back at ya and saying this isn't working out! He always said he always don't make it pass a Three years relationship and if he finds the one that last five years mark, then he would consider marriage, but from his first marriage , it's always been three years in relationship and then thing's go south for him! We do have a lot of things in common and a lot of same believes! And he feels that if we cross that line we would lose the friendship we have an he doesn't want to lose want we have! I told him you can't predict the future only God knows! I just don't know,but I can say our chemistry with each other is awesome, unbelievable too is when our hormones kick in , even when we dont touch each other we arouse each other! I just want someone to be good to me as I am to them and someone to be their self, and caring, passionate, trust worthy, not fake,honest up front, true to their self and not playing games with me or my head just to score points to talk to their buddies later! I'll keep on praying! Thank you!
me and my bf had to wait for like 8-9mo until we could even GET intimate lol. LDR does throw alot of wrenches :P
You are brave. Ryan does not even support LDRs, and I 100% agree with him.
what's an LDR!!?
@@MichelleDPetro It's a Long Distance Relationship
@@ellebee9864 ha ! duh
.. thanks😁
I had a successful long distance relationship. He moved from abroad to be with me, and we were together for 7 years. Honestly I think the success of an LDR depends entirely on the people within it.
The hard part is to know if the other person is only looking for sex and not a relationship. But if you see at least 5 times without physical interaction, chances are he/she is really interested in you. Thanks for the video, keep up the good content! ❤️
I wish i had watched this video way earlier :( so that i wouldn’t have done that mistake 😭😭😭 sometimes i still miss him even though he was like that, is there even any chance to rewind 😭
I hear ya...... but... 30 days is a large time investment to put in, to then find out that there isn’t the right chemistry under the sheets.....
Sex a obviously very important factor in a relationship. It would be nice to be able to explore that aspect sooner without compromising the stability
I need fifty a.Rayn
30 days is nothing, Lyd. Let’s be honest - you’ll know if there’s sexual chemistry in the bedroom waaaaaaay before you get to the bedroom. The key is letting it build up. The way I described, you simply lean back and accept dates (roughly one per week) and then, it’s ON 😄
You’ll know by the lead up, kissing etc.
I’ve been very unpleasantly surprised ...you never really know until it happens.....And then it’s very awquard because when you break up at that point, it’s obviously due to the bad sex.
You'll know if there is chemistry before having sex and there are other ways you can be affectionate without having sex! Kisses, cuddles, snuggles...
No dates.. he acts like he wants to spend the night.. not even a month.
Thank you Ryan for this video. This was the right subject for me right now. I have been dating someone a month now and it's going great! I think this helped me to say 'yes' when the question comes along, hopefully soon.
What if I’m the one that doesn’t want a relationship or to get married? There are definitely guys that I want just for sex. I’m very independent and don’t want to be tied down.
Full disclosure: I’m 57, been married, had kids, now I just want to have fun. I also enjoy the physical connection.
Live your best life!
Just let them know that's all your looking for
Give me fifty Ryan!
Also thank you for your videos.. you kind of remind me of my big brothers, looking out for me to avoid stupid people..
I liked the video! 😃👍 Single lady here. Currently not dating anybody.
I will wait until I get married.
Give me fifty Ryan!
I can't do this .. bye bye
Good advice thank you I will see how it goes x
Being an empath its hard to refuse or to say no I don’t want to see him disappointed when he started to kissed me I was wronged I blame myself after that after so long time to have courage to date again after abusive and toxic relationship but then I’ve learned lately it’s okay to say no it’s called boundaries! Thanks to him traumatic and nightmare but that was a huge lesson and I have more cautious and I guess it’s better I be single ☺️
I know what you mean, I dated him for six weeks. I let him take me home to watch a movie.He ended forcing himself on me. I haven’t dated in six years 🙏🙏🙏🙏
Honestly, I think this is less about being an empath than it is about your self-esteem not being quite as good as it could be. And this sometimes goes hand-in-hand with being empathic. This is what attracts toxic people to you as they see it as a weakness to exploit. Reroute the focus to yourself a bit. It's ok to be selfish sometimes.
Love your videos and your voice is so pleasant.
I have to apologize. The last video I saw of your I thought (and think) was full of crap, but this one is brim to brim loaded with good advice. The one caveat I have is that of course everyone is different, which is why intuition is so important. I'm an EXTREMELY romantic guy and when I'm dating someone it's solely them all the way. At the same time, however, I love sex A LOT and Touch is my primary love language by far and sexual compatibility to me is extremely important (and very specific). Because of that, I've both held off from KISSING a woman until like the sixth date where she was sure by that point I was gay, but also STARTED long-term relationship--including a marriage--where we had sex the first date or in place of actually going to the second date I had planned for us. MY problem is that because of red flags SO MANY guys throw up as you describe, when I do them women sometimes see them as red flags (as they should, based on past experience) and I lose them. Luckily, women tend to get a really good sense of who I am quickly and their intuition lets me in. I get THEM revealing things that they sthen say, "I can't believe I'm telling you all this." But I do have to be careful.
I am still a virgin at 27 years, and I like to take things very very very slow so I would make him wait a long long long time. Like a year and half at least. And I haven’t been a lot of long relationships either.
Ryan, Ive seen a lot of your videos and they make a lot of sense. I generally am pretty good about setting boundaries esp when it comes to wushu washy behavior. I met this guy at work about a month ago. I ended up leaving my position recently and he asked me out. I made the mistake of sleeping with him on the first date. This are going really well he has set up two more since and has been very attentive, sincere, thoughtful, take initiative…etc. I’m just wondering if there is anything I can do to back step my first mistake of sleeping with him too fast. Should I hold off on more sex for a bit and make him wait? This would be an interesting video topic, and something I’m definitely curious about.
Talked with a guy for 4 months on a social media site. He says when we meet the first time we are having sex. I said nope not gonna happen and he is mad said I am being unreasonable. I don't think I am. Ryan, we need more help with this social media stuff and meeting guys....are there any rules any more?
The comment I hear most from guys is "I really want to make sure we have sexual chemistry... Things in the bedroom were not so good with my ex, blabla..."
I had my last bf wait for 3 months. Told him I’m old fashioned and we didn’t kiss on our first date either even though I wanted to. We broke it off because we wanted different things for our future, but we’re still friends.. we still talk and text.. and yes, I do sometimes miss that relationship.. but why stay when you know the future is not there..!! - I got a friend with him & I can still see him & he can find the happiness he deserves.. we go out still as friends.. Usually I’m the driver since he wants to drink & I don’t drink at all.. even when he drinks 1-2 beers - he doesn’t want to drive.. I like that about him.. I’m not in a hurry to find another relationship.. it’s pretty hard finding the man who’s actually going to do what they say.. instead of just say what they think I want to hear & sweet talk me.. esp going to bed.. I have standards & I don’t want to catch whatever he may be carrying..!! - I try to remind myself that.. IT IS NOT 100% - darn men have beautiful eyes & that’s my weakness..!! 🤦🏻♀️🤦🏻♀️🤦🏻♀️
Same here!I find some guys eyes can be so hypnotically beautiful!!
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Love your content. Thanks for doing what you do.
I dated a guy for a year, never spent the night, but only hooked up once. Took him 4 months to kiss me. No he wasn't inexperienced.
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Thank you for making these videos and offering your guidance. I needed this reminder on boundaries. It does indeed seem like the older a man gets the more games he plays.
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A guy said to me about going to hes and go in hes hot tub I actually questioned him on it then he texed me a few times and wasn't charming me any more and he hasn't texrd me after a while as stopped texting me completely xx
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This video came handy right on time for me ! Thank you 😊 so much🙏
España!!!!! Welcome to my second home country
Thanks that is very true.. I try that 30s.
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Great 👍!! Thank you for that advice.
I just started dating a guy I like him a lot and seems like he likes me. He is very into sexting and I put boundaries and he respect that. But I’m getting kind of used to hear him sexting me and I enjoy . QUESTION What should I do?!!
If i were you I'd enjoy the sexting but try and steer towards more non-sexting chats. If those lead to a dead end then look elsewhere.
@@SuzD0n thank you so very much for your advice and yes I’m doing exactly what you just said. I’m trying to not get into that anymore and slowly cutting it off.
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I would like a one on one zoom meeting. I’ve dated in the past where the guy always wants to have sex. I keep declining over and over but they don’t seem to understand. Finally I just gave up and broke up with them. Once I did that, I felt that I did something wrong. I don’t know if I did the right or wrong thing. They want to be friends and that’s where we left it. Hardly talking. Ryan did I do the right thing by ending the relationship?
Yes you did the right thing. If they can’t understand why you are setting boundaries for something that intimate, then you shouldn’t be with them. It is indicative of immature behavior and bad intentions for the rest of the “relationship”. I’ve been in great, mostly healthy relationships, but turn sour when they try to pressure me for something more when I am not ready. Setting boundaries for yourself is never bad, and when you meet the right person it will not be all about sex or their expectations, it will be about you both.
@@zaribelle718 thank you for letting me know that I didn’t do anything wrong. I get pressured a lot by then bfs to strangers online, etc.
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In Norway, we do it on the first date.