Hey Brad! I finally got my ex back. He eventually came around and not only did he accept his mistake....he sorted out everything and communicated with me on how much he wants me in his life and now he is sure that he would do anything to work this relationship out with me!! This wouldn't have been possible without you. I watched every video of yours...did exactly what you told and especially the no contact thing. He finally realised that it's me who he wants and it was stupid of him to jeopardize a thing so good like this. And not only that....in this period i realised my self worth as well..... I know what i deserve because of your guidance and i know that i ain't gonna take shit from anyone. Thank you so so much Brad. You've been like a true friend and an angel. God bless❤️
Hello I had a brake up with my ex he wanted to be my friend by thinking about it geting ready to hangout with me maybe in 2025 or inb2024 all depending cuz he keep on thinking that I had cheated it on him asking guy to by me sneakers
But you wanted to take him back... My ex doesn't want to see me at all. Doesn't want to fix it even tho we can and she only has bad memories from our relationship. Recently she deleted viber so I can't speak to her at all(it was the only social that she didn't block me)
Brad your techniques work and i know that first hand now. I did all the wrong things in the initial breakup stage and drove her away further. Then went no contact for almost 2 months and in that time we would text a bit but no calls or in person contact. Making her remember the good times and being subtle about it and then one day she sends a mile long text about how we were meant to be together and she knows that now and we are now thankfully back together after 3 months of agony and heartbreak i finally have the love of my life back. To anyone reading this, if you play your cards right and listen to this man your chances are pretty damn good. And his quiz is no joke. If you answer honestly you will get your proper results and know if your chances are worth the effort
Hi Brad, I couldn’t agree with you more. This is a real perfect plan. My success story is a proof for your tips. I was dumped last December, the reason why I found your channel and became a subscriber. Your videos are great encouragement for me to pass through my hard times. I watched many of your videos and exactly followed your suggestions. To summarize my story, I did 31 days no contact (focusing self-improvement, very difficult though, I tried), reinitiated contact with funny memory text message, stayed light and no drama. We are in LDRS and no chance to re attract in person. But thanks to your LDRS tips, whoa!!! I did. My EX proposed me again after 6 months of our breakup, still LDRS. Patience is a key, no rush as you said. Thank you very much indeed and really appreciate your work. Best wishes to you for more success. Hope to see your videos more like how to maintain a healthy good relationship, no heartbreak again. Cheers!!
Awesome! Pat yourself on the back too for a job well done. I'm merely showing the path, you're the one who did the work and walk the talk! :-) Congrats!
Just do your best without putting that much pressure on yourself, yeah? The aim is to play your cards right as best as you can but it is partly still up to your ex to decide as well. Employ me as your coach if you need personal help, at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching
Hey Brad I have been watching several of your videos with the intention to get back with my ex but she honestly isn't worth the trouble. She has bipolar disorder and I believe she is a narcissist I'm done with her. Thank you for all the videos though it could help me later on down the line
You're welcome. Yes, discernment is key. If you think the relationship has become unhealthy or toxic for you, then moving on will be a good choice, indeed.
I was out last night and the ex was out with friends, her sister came over and asked how I was, she said she doesn't even know why she broke up with me but then said I just need to move on. I love the girl and want her back but now I'm starting to think she's over me
You do need to get over her in some way before you can restart something with her. What you do depends on which phase you're on. Never skip the "no contact" part! Watch this to get an overview on what steps you ought to take in each phase: ruclips.net/video/7JtmVbDkblw/видео.html Best of luck!
Hey man, thanks for supporting my product! I'm glad you found it to be applicable to your situation. Watch my other vids for reference as well. Best of luck!
Hey Brad, my wife filed for divorce back in the first week of June. She took a 3 week sabbatical in Mexico City. She FaceTimed in week 2 and expressed how much she is missing me. She asked to meet me a few days ago and revealed how much she has missed me and wished I had been in Mexico City with her. She said she has never been so comfortable with anyone. She said we "can easily remarry at some point". She also revealed she is dating someone and has been for a "few weeks". That definitely crushed me.... I will be watching more of your videos.
Omg. I am somehow in the same situation only that i was not married. The “in the future” part is in case it does not work out with other guys. I’m not sure we should be plan B even if we love them
Go focus on your own life first. The process of saving one's marriage is a bit complicated. I suggest you check out my Mend the Marriage guide at www.marriageguy.com as everything is on there, from how to communicate more effectively, down to how to handle the kids (if applicable), monitor your progress through worksheets and stuff. But while I certainly need more information to know what's going on between you two for sure, I suggest you check out more marriage-saving tips which you may find useful, check out this new channel I've dedicated solely for this purpose. Here's the link: y2u.be/dr2JTi_bCRU or sign up for my Mend the Marriage coaching program at www.marriageguy.com/coaching Take care!
Hey Brad, loved the video. Two months ago, my gf broke up with me because she lost attraction and because I've made some mistakes in my behaviour according to her. I have corrected these mistakes and I feel I am a better person after the no contact period, and I've reached out to her, building some good friendly conversations before asking to meet up somewhere. She initially agreed, but then piled up excuses for not being able to go. I asked her two days ago, and she agreed, but she insisted she was not ready when I asked to confirm. She has stated that she misses me at times and that she has some feelings. But right now, I don't know if she is in the right place mentally, as she is being hot and cold and contradictory to her opinions of me, and insisted that she didn't want to meet in person, but instead call. She told me that I should be a better form of myself if I want her back, but earlier today, she also insisted we wouldn't be back together. What should I do to make sure she sees me as a changed, new and better version of myself? And how would I be able to meet up with her after building friendly rapport considering that I have limited excuses (most of the excuses she may be able to search for an answer by only texting or online resources). Thanks Brad. Update: She has also blocked me on all social media, meaning I can't really contact her. I'm not quite sure what to do from here.
Yeah, play it cool and don't push for a meet up. Assuming you've properly done the 30-day "no contact" rule, focus on texting and try not to meet up when one of you or both of you aren't ready yet. The phase you're on is the second phase where you're rebuilding attraction. It's part two of the 3-phase system in my guide but here's a quick overview to help you understand better: y2u.be/7JtmVbDkblw but as you go on this phase, you'll notice one or more signs here: y2u.be/nmRM3dZAzDA and the best you can do is to continue to play your cards right and move to the third phase when you're both ready. Good luck!
Hey brad! I made the mistake of writing a letter telling my ex that I’m doing okay. I told her that I accept her decision to break up with me and I told her I wanted her to do whatever it is she has to do to move on. But now I’m regretting it. I still want to get back together with her. And recently she’s been posting videos of her and this guy (in a group setting) and I can’t help but feel jealous.
That's really all you can do once someone dumps you, so don't be too hard on yourself. This vid should hopefully help you see things clearly about the importance of the "no contact" rule as well as the common challenges and how to overcome them: ruclips.net/video/WVB0_l60SpM/видео.html Feel free to check out my other vids as well, especially this which should give you an idea on how to go about this: ruclips.net/video/7JtmVbDkblw/видео.html For a complete, step-by-step procedure though, consider getting my Ex Factor Guide at www.breakupbrad.com Good luck!
I’ve been trying NC rule again after I broke it last week because he messaged me about the stuff that I left at his place… this is insanely hard😫 i feel really bad for ignoring his texts asking how I’m doing and stuff… but I’m feeling better and more confident a little by little. Just focusing on work, workout, new hobby. Honestly looking at these comments really helps me a lot. So thank you everyone who left comments here and I’m sending love💞
It is very hard indeed, but try to stay strong, okay? Make it a point to balance yourself first. This should help guide you a bit if you haven't decided on getting my Ex Factor Guide yet, at: ruclips.net/video/ek_4wpkV66c/видео.html
No contact while loving together but in separate rooms and having kids together is seeming impossible. I try to cut off and limit interactions to only necessary or pertaining to the kids but no matter what I do or don't do or what I say or don't say she puts me in a damned if I do and damned if I don't box. She wants to sell the house but neither of us have anywhere else to go let alone be able to afford anything that could remotely compare to what we currently have for the price we're paying or rather I'm paying because she's stopped paying her portion of any of the mortgage since she decided it was officially over between us. She's seeing a new guy now as well. She refuses to go live somewhere else and doesn't want to live here and I also refuse to go live somewhere else because I sold my last home to move to this home so she could be closer to her family. I am close with her family. I'm excelling at my new job, being the best version of myself as a person and a dad, losing weight, taking better care of myself, being active and having fun with the children. Whenever she gets home she expects me to know when to be present and when to be absent but then will give me shit if I make myself scarce or leave unannounced after she's home. It's so exhausting to still live her and know that part of my inability to detach is because we have kids together and I fear for them and how toxic she is about me towards them and how she tries to turn anything and everything into an argument as has flat out said that she doesn't want to get along with me. The new person she's seeing she is progressing very fast with. Far faster than our own relationship progressed when we first met eachother. I don't bother pointing out the red flags to whom she's seeing because I know it won't matter. He's as old as her Dad, has never been married, has kids and grandkids, is in recovery... It of course hurts me to know and see how quickly she moved onto someone else especially while we still love together and while she still relies on me and twists everything and manipulates me to bend to her wants by trying to turn anything into something that could pertain to the kids and how she knows how bad she could make my life with how slanted towards women things are in our state when it comes to custody (basically a father only has a chance if he can absolutely prove abuse or drug use). Sorry for my rambling. I'm trying to be nothing but be the best person I can be for my kids through all of it but keep on getting the attitude of I could or should have been doing what I'm doing now all along and thinks it's some sort of act or manipulation when I've been maintaining how I've been conducting myself towards every aspect of life the same and with constant improvement for about a year now... Long enough that the changes I've made have become habitual and not just pure will power even though there does have to still be a fair amount of willpower with other changes I've made. I'm consistently improving and she's been consistently trying to make me fail.
Yes, it's awkward to be giving each other the silent treatment if you live in the same roof. You can make it less awkward though. It's a different set of rules if you live together. Do limited contact with your ex where you only discuss the essentials. Apply the tips here, too to help you out further: y2u.be/thVReUI9Vzs AND y2u.be/STL7ru4uSQk I know it's hard, but lots of folks have managed to follow the tips and succeeded. So if they can do it, then so can you! Good luck and be strong!
I’ve done everything to a ‘T’. I know what we had was pretty rare, and I know she’ll realize it one day. I am moving on w my life, and will let the chips fall where they may. She’ll come back, or she won’t. Her loss.
Sorry to hear that. There does come a point when you're too emotionally drained to fight for the relationship and when that happens, that's the way to go about it.
Hi Brad in basic terms I pushed my ex away because of my mood swings and jealousy, if she ever complimented a celebrity or anyone like that I would get mad, and I would be in a mood daily, when she started to pull back i became really clingy and needy. Which after the break up she said really annoyed her. She said to me that she deleted all my pictures and doesn’t love me she said there no argument and she just doesn’t feel anything towards me. But a mutual friend asked what I looked like and she said if I found out that she was sending people my pictures I would be mad, out mutual friend asked her oh you still like him? And she replied with ew no I hate him but he isn’t ugly in my opinion, She also said that’s i was a good bf and she said “I know how much he cared for me” but he was just so moody and clingy
Yeah, I mean, if you do it daily, it does get old, man, and exhausting for her for having to appease you regularly. This vid is for you: ruclips.net/video/8T1wX8D48Qg/видео.html Give her time to miss you after you sincerely apologize.
Hey Brad just an important question? What do I do if I have been kind of needy and obviously hurt when i'm near her? We broke up 5 days ago because she needed space and to be honest I think I wasn't really offering much and was quite needy. I started doing the 30 day no contact faze yesterday and we didn't leave on a good note. She really hasn't wanted to talk to me for the past 5 days and I feel that I've butchered it by trying to talk to her. I think she has blocked me aswell but I'm pretty sure she does still have a little desire inside of her to be with me. I'm just confused because she hasn't given many reasons as to why she even did.
Posted a vid about what happens in most breakups, look that up and/or check out this free in-depth vid presentation at www.breakupbrad.com But stop forcing things. Try to have self discipline and remember, love should never be forced. Otherwise it becomes an obsession, so be very careful of going that route. If your ex dumped you and showed you he/she doesn't want to be in your life at the moment, you ought to respect that, okay? For most dumpees that is the case. It doesn't mean that will be the case forever but at the moment, it surely is, so respect your ex's need for space and have some self discipline. Focus on yourself instead. Okay? This vid is for you: ruclips.net/video/WVB0_l60SpM/видео.html
i took the quiz. it said 70%. the best thing is I did not contact her too much. She has blocked me, but somehow I managed to get her on a call fortunately she unblocked or maybe she changed the phone. Anyhow, there has been some development that I am very much eager to share with her but she is not accepting to meet me. I did sent her a letter as well to her workplace. What I want to ask is, should I go to her workplace and catch her after work hours and discuss things that I need her to know? Is it too forceful or pressure or stalking?
Hey Brad. I'm new to the scene here but my s/o just broke up with me due to the stress about not being able to let go of our past( how we got together in the beginning and how I have hurt her before making her think that she is just a rebound or second option). We've dated for 2 months and we had a lot of sweet moments but she is hung up on the past which is how we began and is always stressed about not being to let go and she said it has been rough for her. She is tired and thinks that it is suffering and it will be better that we became friends back. She said she's a person who has hard time letting go about the past and the choice of letting me go really pains her. She felt that if we continued she will be more tired and we wouldn't be able to proceed to the next stage hence she doesn't want to think about the past and does not have the courage of to move on which finally led to her breaking up with me. We broke on good terms and she still admits she has feelings for me, so i am really lost and do not know what to do at this point.( I scored 70 in your quiz)
Hello Brad, thank your for everything you do! You help people a lot and you are truly the best breakup relation coach! Can you please also answer me one quick question? Is it bad idea, to simply ask her (not plead), if she wouldn't prefer break over break up? We have/had short, but happy relationship, until some major bad event has happened in her life (and is still happening). I failed to give her space and she said she probably wants to be alone, until she will deal with it. Do you think, that offering her a break would be better option, than agreeing with break up? Also, can you please make a video aimed at short term relationships? Thank you in advence and wish you the best!
Hey you're welcome! :-) Yes, you can ask/suggest her that, but make sure to ask just once and gauge her reaction and don't be needy. If she's hellbent in breaking up, however, then don't push it. Just give it time. Employ the 30-day "no contact" rule first. Here's how you can tell it's starting to work: ruclips.net/video/T4Sz6DiWRsQ/видео.html Though make sure you follow the tips here as well: ruclips.net/video/xgR03RcU8mw/видео.html AND some recent tips here: y2u.be/FLeP1eRCkCk Lots of folks seem to be oblivious about it, so here goes: the 30-day "no contact" rule, once COMPLETED, is just the first phase for most people (unless your ex sincerely wanted you back and it's shown in their actions). This would also help guide you on what to do after the "no contact" rule: ruclips.net/video/BAhMrmw3Sms/видео.html Anyway there are two more phases to go through if you want an ex back, and the third is to rekindle/rebuild the attraction with an ex. Learn the basics here: y2u.be/7JtmVbDkblw
Hey brad i need some advice, My ex broke up with me a week ago. Claiming mental health issues because of the fights. I ignored the breakup text and immediatly innitiated no contact. 3 days later she folded and told me she wants me back! I responded slow, but interested. We met up 2 days later and talked about getting back together. She here admitted that during the breakup she had been close with this other guy, who liked her. During out meet up she texted him that she thought things between them were ''moving too fast'' and that she still had feelings for me and just wanted to be friends. The guy blocked her and said he didnt want to be friends with her. She was very upset by this and remained pretty quiet for the remainer of our meet up. At the end of the evening we agreed to get back together but 2 days later i feel like im in a relationship with a stranger. She's kind of distant, not like what we had before and i have this heavy feeling in my stomach. Do you think i'm a plan B she doesn't want to lose? do you think she just needs space or is she testing me? Should i ask for some more time before we commit to the relationship again? I'm kind of lost because i want to make things work but i feel like she's playing me. What do you advise?? Thanks brother.
Testing each other are for new relationships. When it comes to exes or someone you've had history with, there's really no need for that in most cases especially the way you've described it where you've already gotten back together. In your case, I say give it time and observe but don't overthink. You're basically starting from scratch with hopefully the two of you being the better version of yourselves, so don't expect for things to get back to normal right away. There's bound to be an adjustment period so try to chill, okay? Sorry but I would need more info to help you deduct what's happening. You can work with me one-on-one so I get to learn more about the situation and therefore be more equipped to help you out, at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching
Hey Brad, my ex broke up with me because of her depression. I went no contact for 2 weeks and I broke it to check on her. She ignored my message. I’m back in no contact and I really don’t know what to do. We never fought about anything and she kept telling me that I deserve better. She seemed really upset about the breakup but now seems super happy and posts all the time.
If your ex has a mental disorder like depression, bipolar disorder, IED, NPD, or the like, the most loving thing you can do is to give each other space while he/she gets help. Encourage your ex to seek treatment because this is something only a therapist specializing on this can handle, even this is outside of my scope. But I can help you how to handle things on YOUR end as you go through this difficult ordeal. I know it can be incredibly tough knowing you’ve given it your best shot, yet your partner still fails to appreciate it or is breaking up despite it being a good relationship. Anyway it's a bad idea to be friends with an ex especially knowing they have a mental health condition. In the end, they will drain you and leave you with lots of scars that would take years of therapy. Consider signing up for my coaching program so I can help assess your situation clearly, look at all the other factors at play and see things you might have missed, then guide you accordingly on a regular, ongoing basis at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching
Hi Brad! My boyfriend broke up with me a week ago and i begged him for a couple of days and have been in total no contact for 2 days now. Is the no contact plan still going to work??
This vid should hopefully help you see things clearly about the importance of the "no contact" rule as well as the common challenges and how to overcome them: ruclips.net/video/WVB0_l60SpM/видео.html Feel free to check out my other vids as well, especially this which should give you an idea on how to go about this: ruclips.net/video/7JtmVbDkblw/видео.html For a complete, step-by-step procedure though, consider getting my Ex Factor Guide at www.breakupbrad.com Good luck!
Hey Brad I was wondering if short term relationships (we were together for 7-8 months) are less likely to get back tgt? Since it was short, maybe my ex simply didn’t feel a connection as much as I did. Do you have some success stories of short-term relationships getting back tgt? Short background story, he suddenly broke up a week ago (I really didn’t see it coming) because he said he needed space. He wants to focus on his hobby and job and doesn’t know what he wants for his future. I didn’t beg him, argued or anything like that. However, I did reached out to him after that to ask him if he wanted to find a solution/discuss about the breakup, and he clearly told that he doesn’t wanna get back tgt right now. Once again, I didn’t beg and just kept it like that. I’m meeting new people, focusing on me and my new goals, doing the right things. But sometimes I do wonder if our relationship was too short to even have a slight chance of recovering.
Relationships that last longer have more chance but this is affected by a ton of factors. Depending on what really cut the relationship short, it may be time to consider moving on from this. But don't rush. Always take the time to give each other space first, all right? Do a minimum of 3 weeks of "no contact" and see if you still want your ex and if your ex is receptive to contact AFTER that period. Watch this: ruclips.net/video/zw0ChuXCEmw/видео.html
My ex broke up with me last night so now we're in stage 1 so I saved this video so I can watch stage 2 in September Thank you brad I'll edit my comment in a month to tell the results
Hi Brad, thank you for your video. I have a question though, what do you think about sending pictures (by whatsapp) for the second phase? Like either old pictures to remind him of nice memories, or some pics that I found that didn't even know they existed. And what about sending pictures of myself? Do you think it would be a good idea? Thank you so much in advance.
Hi Brad, so I'm watching lots of videos and listening at work. Day 4 since serious breakup. Not the 1st call off. Relationship started 1 month very serious intense. Toxic ex wife intervened. Crossing boundaries stayed and entered my house still selling with kids separately. 1st time was incident with a previous friend living situations. I was honest but she doesn't want that in her life. I took quick action both times but never fully recovered from the 1st. The second was the end. There's one more thing but can not share that here. My solution was get ex to begin boundary. And exit my life day to day. Having struggled. Any input? Travis
Yes, set some boundaries. An ex can't intervene unless you allow her to. Hi there! Although I'd like to offer more tips, there's simply too many elements to your situation that makes this too complex for me to properly respond here, including your history with the ex… please consider signing up for coaching if you want to talk at length about your situation: www.breakupbrad.com/coaching
Hey Brad.. My 1 year and 5 month relationship bf decided to separate our ways, and the reason is he said that his family is not in favor of our relationship, ( but I doubt this as an excuse of him trying to leave me) he was the one, who always wanted me to talk to his mom on call, or want me to visit his place to visit his FAM and now out of sudden in may last week of 22, during my final exam days, he started behaving weird and so I found out about this, he was all set to leave me after my exam gets over, of course I did love him so much, was so damn loyal, always mention him in prayer, had lots of godly plan for us, but seeing everything breaking in front of my eyes it really pain me🤧😭, may n June month had been on n off, after 8 days of complete no contact, he call up out of sudden a day ahead of his birthday in July 8, and me being very sensitive person couldn't control my emotions and I cried again, I wish him advance for his birthday on the day ahead he call, and I decided to completely vanished from his life and I decided to go on NC, and also he told me not to blame myself, he also said that m the best ever gift and blessing that life could ever give him, he also said sorry for letting me go through this, he said he will never regret for meeting me though maybe for a short period All he wish is happiness, success and love for me , he also mention that his love for me will always carry on no matter what journey or destiny we have, he wish for me to get heal soon.. This is what he said and I just left seen.. What do u think is there any chance of him coming back to me 🤧
I say generally it's still fair game unless you see most if not all the signs that your ex is over you. Here's the vid: ruclips.net/video/ZyJRphwDca4/видео.html and especially if those signs prevail over a prolonged period of time. If you're asking about your chances, I really wish I could give you a direct yes or no. However, as it is, each situation is unique, so I suggest you take the free quiz as it hits on the critical elements that will determine your chances depending on your answers. In other words, my quiz can give you a more accurate answer than I can since as you may have noticed, there are various factors at play here which needs to be looked at as well as your own actions after the breakup. Here's the link: www.breakupbrad.com/quiz Best of luck!
So today is my DAY 1 of no contact , you really have been a good support whenever I sat alone in the corner and cried missing her so much. but yes it's time I become the best version of myself. will get back to this video after completing my no contact !
@@BradBrowning it's DAY 14 tomorrow, I feel bad about myself now after I begged and pleaded to her and even begged her guy friend (now her boyfriend). these two weeks have been hard for me, without stalking her or knowing if she doing fine or not. I have gone into complete radio silence. I wanted to ask if I have begged or pleaded should I be in no contact for 30 days or more than that.
Its been 48 days since the breakup, and 27 days since the no contact, my ex is reaching out to me for some help or in a way to talk to me. But also she blocks me without any reason, just cos the other guy is telling her to do. So I am doing radio silence and she is reaching to my mutual friend telling that she feels bad of hurting me and misses me.
Important question: I mafe a huge mistake by breaking no contact on the 3rd day speaking to all her friends... She was PISSED AF and blocked me everyehere.... What do I do? I still have one way of communication open but I'm afraid she'll block me there too
Hey Brad, my wife and I split up following 22 years a month and a half ago. I became a workaholic, and stopped giving of myself to her, my life with work and stress created a barrier between us over the course of a few years. I became lazy, controlling not abusive but a real hard ass and as a result the relationship broke down and the relationship with my 3 children suffered.she finally had enough of my baseless accusations and the garbage I had created over the past few years and ended the relationship. The breakup for me was shock therapy, it opened my eyes and forced me to go through an emotional awakening, and forced me to realise what I had done, who I had become and how far I had allowed this to go. I went through everything you would expect, thoughts of suicide, depression, heart break denial I'd go to work and just break down crying out of guilt, and heart ache, it was like going through levels of guilt. I hit rock bottom and at that point found self motivation on you tube, it was like another awakening and slowly I started to build, to work on myself, to drive out the anger, the self hate and my focus shifted to rebuilding with my children. My wife denied everything but basic contact over the last 6 weeks. I signed up to do a course in depression and suicide prevention hoping to find a rewarding career. Over the last 6 weeks, I've grown, I've changed I'm moving forward with the love of my kids, when I relapse into the anger I take time out and listen to self motivation vids in order to refocus and recentre myself, it's been a hard and on going fight to rebuild myself from the angry person I became but my focus is on my children and reconnecting with my wife we have unknowingly gone through the period of no contact I made all the mistakes you would expect I begged, I pleaded asked why I did it all but then I realised I was wrong in my behaviour so I backed right off she has told me she is angry and hurt but after 6/7 weeks apart she has agreed to give this one more chance. We are separated in everything but the agreement to try again. I truly and deeply love her, she is the love of my life and the mother of my children but she is hurt and angry by everything I've done, by the man I allowed myself to become by my failures to give of my true self I'm at a standstill and am soul-searching as to how to move forward in this.
Time is your ally here, so try to get back to yourself and get yourself together before even trying to fix your relationship. However, I do suggest you heed my advice from this vid, first and foremost: ruclips.net/video/jikW4YYC9yo/видео.html and from my other vid here: ruclips.net/video/PN-07kAtIjw/видео.html but also make sure you aren't being defensive or deflecting the blame because that's as annoying as ever. It may help to apply the tips here first: ruclips.net/video/qnE192fUKxI/видео.html Remember to be patient and let things play out first. Let time do its job since it's your biggest ally at this point. Good luck!
@@BradBrowning thank you Brad your advice was spot on me and my wife are together again and going away for some time to reconnect we are working on things together, thankyou so much.
Hey!! Do only your free videos work, I am on day 7 of No-Contact, And the relationship was Long-Distance, Him and I have never met, And was wondering if instead of Meeting up in person, Would FaceTime work as an alternative to a meetup? I don’t want to risk spending my money, Weather if it works or doesn’t work, Do only your free videos work just as Good 🤔
There should be none of that happening since the breakup is still too early. As to using social media, that can only work to a certain extent before things take a stalemate because that doesn't really help in rebuilding attraction the way meeting in person does, if it ever comes to that point. Good luck!
Hello Brady I broke up with my bf because I slept at a friends place who is a boy and decided we break up But he told me we be friends with time we may evaluate ourselves from there I can’t stop thinking about him texting him asking for a second chance though he said if again I bring up that conversation we shall also lose the friendship What shout really do
Yeah, I think you have no business sleeping at a male friend's house though. But the least you could've done is inform your boyfriend about it to see what he thinks. When you're in a relationship, both partner's feelings have to be taken into consideration after all. Anyway apply the tips on this vid: ruclips.net/video/7t2fqkGVInI/видео.html
It varies in every situation, but what really matters is the intention behind why they get into a new relationship. Some feel a genuine connection with each other while others just get into it just to forget their ex. I've covered more of this topic here: ruclips.net/video/lG2shYI1h9k/видео.html and ruclips.net/video/TBtb34gy6zw/видео.html
Hey Brad thanks for the amazing videos you've been a lifeline dealing with this breakup. I've employed the no contact rule and it's been 2 weeks so far. I didn't fight the break up and agreed to be friends she ended up jumping at the chance to come to the snow with me and a mate for 3 days. I did muck up and try to get her back after a few days she was super emotional and says she still loves me but said she couldn't promise anything bla bla. We were messaging pretty much everyday for a week after the breakup before I cut contact using the I've got work to do on myself text and we were on good terms at the time. I'm struggling not to reach out do I really need to wait the full 30 days? She broke a rib skiing so it feels kinda harsh not to even check in on her.
You can express concern, but keep it very minimal as you need time to accept the breakup... so don't act like her boyfriend. A key component is to avoid small talk as much as possible, especially during the most critical stage: 30-day "no contact" rule because there's a huge chance your ex may be slowly easing herself away from you. If anything, your ex is suffering, too, even though it may not seem like it. Discussed that here: y2u.be/7KE6nb4-ndA The thing with exes, especially the one whose idea is to break the relationship, is they also struggle with the breakup and finding all means to cope...including talking to someone they're used to talking to, a.k.a you. What that leaves you, however, is unknowingly becoming their emotional sponge. So if you want this ex back, you ought to let her feel what it's like not to have you in her life first, so employ the 30-day "no contact" rule, okay? Here's how it can help you: ruclips.net/video/zw0ChuXCEmw/видео.html An exception is if your ex is trying to contact you about something really important or is sincerely asking you to get back together. Understand that you risk too much by staying in touch and you best not respond unless it’s about something important. Watch this, too: ruclips.net/video/gUBNd6pDINM/видео.html
@@BradBrowning Cheers I did sense something wasn't right so after about 2.5 weeks I just sent her a message checking up on her injury. She said she'd been struggling and in a really bad place so she was very happy to hear from me. We caught up for brunch and I told her I was proud of what she was working towards and she started crying and later said I struck a chord and she felt a bit silly doing that and apologised. I think she definitely misses me and the no contact has already worked... I'm going to attempt to catch up again and try a bit of kino to see where it leads. She bought up sex randomly in our convo (she always does that when it's on her mind so I teased her about it being a new PB taking 40 mins) and her hug at the start was very lingering. Wish me luck mate... otherwise if this fails I guess it's back to no contact!
@@shibby7379 update us did u guys get back together I’m going through the same thing except we still in contact with each other n live together as roommate
Hi Brad, my Ex of ended things with me last weekend after nearly 2 years together. For the majority, our relationship was amazing. We were each others first loves and had only just got back from a holiday together. Our families become very close and would meet up without the two of us. We broke up because over the last few months we'd lost our connection and I wasn't engaging in conversation as much as i used to. I said i'd work on things but i never actually went to the route of my issue. I'd also become slightly jealous on nights out with other people, i'd get annoyed at her for not spending time with me during the whole night. She kept on warning me but my actions never showed change, it got to a point where she said enough is enough. She said we need space and that we need to make ourselves happy before we can make each other happy. In reflection now the dust has settled, i know that my hate for my job has caused me to lose a lot of my confidence and i perhaps became a man she didn't fall in love with initially. Because i felt low, i wasn't giving her the engagement she needs, she loves deep conversations and so do i, but I stopped doing this, deep connected chats is her love language. She said that she still fancies me and cares about me but doesn't see right now how we'd make things work between each other. I probably become too needy which has pushed her away, I guess i felt like i needed her because of the point i was in my life. She also has things which are occupying her life, her parents are going through a break up, she has health anxieties, her skin isn't the best and she feels very hormonal ever since she got the implant. I now know that i don't need her but really want her as my over half in life. She's been finding this just as tough as me, she's had to take time off work and has been crying and not eating. Her parents and brother have also cried over our break up. We spoke a couple times and have both reached out since but we keep on receiving mix messages. I started no contact 2 days ago by saying that as much as i disagree with her decision, i respect it and will give her the space and time she's asked for and that i hope that with time things work out. She replied saying that she's upset still and things are raw but she stands by her decision right now that we both need time and space away from each other and that with time we will both know what we want and need. I have since deleted our pictures of Instagram and highlights. The majority and most recent pictures of me are still on her profile and she has added more pictures of us onto a different Instagram highlight. I now need to become the man that i know i am, to do this i am going to get myself a new job (something i relied on her to help me with all the time), focus on my football and the gym. I know that once I've done these goals that my attraction levels will raise significantly. I guess I lost the man she fell in love with and the man i love. Right now she probably thinks i've changed as a person but in actual fact I just need to improve myself. Let's see what space and no contact does for us. Any advice Brad?
Sorry, this is a bit too complex for me to properly respond here… please consider signing up for coaching if you want to talk at length about your situation: www.breakupbrad.com/coaching
Hi Brad, I broke up with my boyfriend of four years four months ago and I messed up the initial breakup stage by begging, pleading and fighting. He's currently in a relationship now and we're just friends. He says we might get together in future. Do I do the no contact stage again because I really love him and need him back.
Hi! My ex and I had a very decent meeting up last week. He also got jealous, shared jokes, we laughed together and we had a romantic interaction…my question is that who should initiate the conversation via text? Should i wait until he texts me every time? I was very needy back then. I always texted long paragraphs and i was the first who texted first so many times. We broke up 2 months ago and we went through hot and cold times a lot. Now finally i feel like he really wants me back.
Hey Brad! My girlfriend broke it off after 10 months because I became codependent and stopped working on myself during a very dark time in my life and I just focused on them. Her son and I got stupid close so it hurts double. She asked for space then we went no contact where we talked 3 times (exchanging of stuff, keys, and his birthday). Of course I tried to appeal to her logic that I’d change, but I never begged. I’ve cut down my social media because she looks at all my posts/stories. I got a 72 on your quiz and I’m not sure what to do next. What should I do now?
If you do have to make some changes, then do it for yourself and never for anyone else, okay? See, making changes for the sake of someone is considered seeking validation, and that's an unattractive trait in and of itself… so it naturally won't do anything to rebuild the attraction necessary to get your ex back in the long run. On the other hand, if these are changes that you know within yourself that you need to make, then it's important to take time so be sure you aren’t rushing it because permanent, lasting changes don't happen overnight and your ex can actually see through it. Also, pain (that's why your ex dumped you) is a very good teacher and motivator not to mention a huge catalyst, so making these changes within yourself in order for the possibility to come back together stronger and better is what you can expect and you will be able to use this progress if not for your ex, then with someone new. Does that make sense? With that in mind, watch this vid to subtly show these changes to your ex: ruclips.net/video/bZ1KetALZrc/видео.html
@@BradBrowning these changes are definitely what I need/wanted to do, they’re not for her (she did know I wanted to do some of these things before I started them though) BUT this break up did help me see that I got lost in the relationship and I stopped improving on myself. I’m already feeling a lot better mentally and physically. I just got the Ex Factor guide so hopefully it’ll get me where I need to be. Just don’t know how long to implement no contact for now and I already said everything the “clean slate” text said in person before I knew it existed when I first did no contact.
Hey Brad, My ex and I broke up mid April. After a week apart, we started to hang out, but never actually got back together. We did everything together though just like we were still a couple. We held hands, kissed, made love, talked multiple times a day. I was falling deeper in love. She was talking to a new guy. Eventually she started hanging out more and more with him. Over about a 10 day period, there were three instances in which I did what I shouldn't have. I found out about no contact. I started 40 days ago. She has contacted me 4 times, I contacted her once because I got her plate registration in the mail. She asks how I'm doing and will talk about her family and something we both like a lot. She asked if I was mad and hated her. I told her I don't hate her and to go to bed. It was late and she works early. I don't ask about the boyfriend because it's none of my business and it would hurt more than help. We were together for almost 2.5 years.
A key component is to avoid small talk as much as possible, especially during the most critical stage: 30-day "no contact" rule because there's a huge chance your ex may be slowly easing herself away from you. If anything, your ex is suffering, too, even though it may not seem like it. Discussed that here: y2u.be/7KE6nb4-ndA The thing with exes, especially the one whose idea is to break the relationship, is they also struggle with the breakup and finding all means to cope...including talking to someone they're used to talking to, a.k.a you. What that leaves you, however, is unknowingly becoming their emotional sponge. So if you want this ex back, you ought to let her feel what it's like not to have you in her life first, so employ the 30-day "no contact" rule, okay? Here's how it can help you: ruclips.net/video/zw0ChuXCEmw/видео.html An exception is if your ex is trying to contact you about something really important or is sincerely asking you to get back together. Understand that you risk too much by staying in touch and you best not respond unless it’s about something important. Watch this, too: ruclips.net/video/gUBNd6pDINM/видео.html
I was in a very short term relationship of about 2.5 months.Four months ago despite her mistakes she broke up with me and after doing 21 days no contact she started giving mixed signals and after that she completely went in silent mode.Should I hope for her or it's over? She is still single and we both are in same class
I can't gauge your situation unless I know more about it, usually after a few email exchanges. But once you've already completed the full 30-day "no contact" rule and assuming you did it correctly, then the texting tips here will be a good starter: ruclips.net/video/XonMtLFo000/видео.html but make sure you tick off the checklist here first: ruclips.net/video/BAhMrmw3Sms/видео.html This means you take time focusing on the second phase and eventually the third phase when the time is right. This won’t happen overnight, of course, but it’s something you ought to continue to work on to the point where you’re gradually building attraction again. This is what my guide is for. Have you checked it out yet? It's too complicated to explain everything on here, but here's an overview of these phases and what to expect in each one: ruclips.net/video/aeGNPBdpnsI/видео.html Good luck!
Hi Brad! We just broke up after 6 years. We lived together for a year. Both of us at uni, so we are living a very stressfull life. Half a year ago our relationship started to became very flat, she had to study a lot, she was in constant stress, so we didn’t speak as much with each other during daytime. I started loosing interest in her, due to her wavering nature. I tried not to get in conflict with her because she is very stubborn, and I swept my problems under the carpet. A week ago we had a very bad argument, both of us lost control, I became agressive and pushed her under the shower, later she hit me with something in the face. I felt this whole argument was her responsibility, so I didn’t try apologize to her. I left our rent and went home to my parents, so we didnt speak for a whole week. Yesterday she called me to take my stuffs away and forget each other. I met her at our rent, we both apologized to each other, but we broke up because we bring out the worst in each other and she said she doesn’t want to solve this and this is the best we can do. Funny, but after this, we had the best conversations in a while. The farewell was hard,she said she loves me, we gave each other a hug and we didn’t want to let each other go. I know we did terrible things that shouldn’t happen in a healthy relationship, but i don’t want to lose her. Im doing no contact, but I’ll have to meet her when im going to get my stuffs away from the rent. Any advice Brad? Thank you for your answer.
Looks like things got really heated between you two. Definitely give each other time and space and stop forcing things. Try to have self discipline and remember, love should never be forced. Otherwise it becomes an obsession, so be very careful of going that route. If your ex dumped you and showed you he/she doesn't want to be in your life at the moment, you ought to respect that, okay? For most dumpees that is the case. It doesn't mean that will be the case forever but at the moment, it surely is, so respect your ex's need for space and have some self discipline. Focus on yourself instead. Okay? This vid is for you: ruclips.net/video/WVB0_l60SpM/видео.html
Hi Brad, My girlfriend gave me breakup. In the beginning, I did try to convince with sorry, begging,etc. I finally accepted the breakup and let her go. I told her with right state of mind that I accept it. It has been some days. I want to do no contact to make her feel if she misses me and reconsider. I do not want to make this obvious also. She sends short messages or likes my posts, etc. What is the best way to do this? I do not want to ignore messages, I give short replies without asking any questions in back. Is it good to ignore messages? She does value me and is grateful for the time we were together. Right now, the relationship is too much for her. I truly belive in no contact and also wants to heal myself in that period. Please help.
We broke up many times and he came back every time after no contact..this time when we had an argument i brought up the times when he came back but he told me that it will not happen again and he won't come back this time... Will it work this time? Brad?
Fighting is often unavoidable, but when it becomes too much, it’s time to nip the problem in the bud if you still can. So it's either that or you go on a break and discuss the logistics as well as how it should go and how long it should be. What were you two fighting or arguing about? It's best to consider the relationship overall first, so watch this: ruclips.net/video/XuJFf5Kch5o/видео.html Anyways it's best to give it time because all this arguing had taken a toll in your relationship. This may help: ruclips.net/video/BBEhaY3gLIw/видео.html Perhaps you've both argued more than you had a good time with each other? It could also be you're too incompatible or stubborn to meet each other halfway. If the negatives outweigh the positives in the relationship, that's when an imbalance happens and the relationship will keel over wherein one or both people will likely abandon ship, as the case with your ex. It's time to reset things. Start with the 30-day "no contact" rule to get your ex into a psychological neutral. Here's how it can help you: y2u.be/zw0ChuXCEmw
@@BradBrowning the arguments were always started by me and i regret it now...he started avoiding me so whenever I ask he's always like don't bring up that topic again and again and i used to get terrified by his careless responses because I was getting hurt and he didn't understand.he spoke to me only when he was interested... maybe it was my fault that i didn't give him any space.. gradually he lost interest in me I guess he lost it because of me starting these arguments again and again.. !!
What am I supposed to do if it's been 2+ months since the breakup (so the NC rule has also been used) but she has just gone to Australia for an exchange program for 3+ months? Which is like... on the other site of the planet?
You have to wait till she gets back. While she’s gone, use that time to turn into the best version of yourself so that when she returns, she’s like WOW 🤩 !!
You can contact to test the waters. Watch my other vids for texting tips on how to go about this. Otherwise, enjoy your single life and wait til she's physically where you're at to start texting. Let her enjoy life without you while you do the same. Good luck!
hey brad , my GF BK with me 5 days ago and I did everything but she is so stuborn and avoidant and few times she send me hot and cold massage . I does not able to understand what's happened because that's very quick and every relation has a small problems and I does not think what she did it right. what should I do ? because she acting so weird and we had a 5 years of relation so it's too hard to see him like that . should I stop chasing him ?
Sorry to hear that. Your ex may not be avoidant but really just needs her space at the moment. Also that kind of confusing behaviour coming from your ex is somewhat expected after a fresh/recent breakup. That's why you ought to give it enough time where there's totally no contact between you and your ex for at least 30 days. A wide array of different emotions coming from an ex is somewhat expected when a breakup is still fresh and this includes the likelihood of your ex giving you mixed or weird signals. Watch this: y2u.be/siApAVtx8zE This is why I tell people to cut off contact for at least a month first and NOT deal with this ex. You both need to clear your minds first, all right? A breakup hurts both people in it regardless of who has done the breaking up. This is something I've discussed here, so watch it to learn a few tips to help you on how to go about it: ruclips.net/video/1kJ1ybuFIHE/видео.html
Hey Brad, I've an issue. Basically 10 years, lots of ups and downs (some my own issues some hers). We have 2 kids, 7 and 3, and we broke up 2 weeks ago on my birthday but honestly it started 2 months ago though I was only able to find accommodation for myself 2 weeks ago so I moved out. Found not she was messaging her ex of 10 years ago. Didn't take that well. So yeah I've been a needy weepy sensitive arse. I have the logical arguments for not being it but the feels kick in and weepy needy bugger comes out again. My issue is 2 fold. I believe she's in a rebound with this other guy and I can't really do no contact as we have kids. I have tried to self improve. Some days easier than others but that's the way of it and I believe I've grown relatively well in that time. How do you do no contact when you HAVE to contact them about kids stuff? And how do you deal with the issues of jealousy and panic when you think of the rebound. And anyone reading what helped when you guys got the "oh no she's forgetting about me" panic mode?
You can't control the rebound or who she's with or who she chooses, so try as much to let that go. It's going to be tougher than usual with kid/s involved and/or usually other responsibilities still tied to your ex, but it's best you do limited contact or what I call the dynamic "no contact" rule. Prepare for an uphill battle but if you play your cards right and depending on the extent of damage done, it can actually still be salvaged. Try to prevent things from getting even more awkward than it has to be by applying the tips here as much as possible: ruclips.net/video/GTjEAGJWTuA/видео.html AND ruclips.net/video/dDZrnNh8LOg/видео.html
@@BradBrowning thanks they are very helpful videos, do you have any videos that focus on the panic induced moments of no contact? Like I mentioned above I believe she is in a rebound (left two weeks ago and my kids have met him) and how to control your general mental state when everything's crashing down.
Yes, that was totally the wrong approach and oftentimes invalidates the no contact rule. You ought to review this first: ruclips.net/video/L0hxYTCJ2hU/видео.html and in fact, apply the tips here too instead of taking the shortcut: ruclips.net/video/1kJ1ybuFIHE/видео.html In the future, if you're still not sure about what you're doing, I really suggest you sign up for my coaching program so I can assess your situation properly and guide you accordingly at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching
Hey Brad! I’ve been watching your videos since my boyfriend of 8 months dumped me 3 weeks ago. I cried and pleaded to try to save the relationship and even talked down about myself because I’m 36 years old and my dating life is over. I’m still extremely hurt, cry everyday, and feel I’m not worth a penny. He dumped me because he said he doesn’t see a future with me after 8 months of dating. He complained that I’m too “complacent” with my career aka mediocre on his eyes, take too long to reply text messages and never initiate them, and the fact that I’m almost 36 years old and he wants kids in 5 years when I’ll be over 40 years old. And the other reason was that we live two hours away from each other. I had no problem taking turns, but it seems it was an issue for him. My self esteem is shattered. I’m a retail store manager making a pretty decent salary, have zero baggage, and no debt besides my mortgage and car is almost paid off. He’s a lawyer, got a new high paying job in march in a large firm making 6 figures. We used to make the same before this new job. I feel he dumped me because he got a major salary increase and now he can go and get a younger and “better” girlfriend. I started no contact 2 weeks ago, he tried to reach out the first week 3 times, zero times the second week. I just entered week 3 and hasn’t reached out to me. Am I doing this right? I miss him so much, we spent so much quality time together and don’t see myself with anybody else. I saw myself marrying him one day.
He's pretty much given you the truth, it seems. Take some time to see if you really wanna to try again with him as there seems to be so much disrespect there. Anyway yes, unless your situation falls under one or more of the scenarios here: ruclips.net/video/ek_4wpkV66c/видео.html AND ruclips.net/video/W7iC-gHmZ2A/видео.html it's best you ignore contact from your ex. If your ex continues to reach out to you during the no contact stage, however, then this really depends on the frequency and nature of the contact from your ex and whether or not you've reached the phase where you're supposed to be talking again. The only exception is if your ex asks for you back and is sincere about it. If your ex continually messages you, then it’s important to put your ex’s messages into context, more so if this happened during the “no contact” phase. Is your ex trying to contact you about something really important, like an emergency, unpaid bills, or something equally urgent? These are reasons to respond, including messages where they get angry due to your lack of response. Discussed that in full detail here: ruclips.net/video/GTjEAGJWTuA/видео.html So if your ex is really just texting some useless random stuff and/or asses their power over you, then you can just ignore and continue on with the 30-day "no contact" rule. Use your discretion. Watch and follow the tips here: ruclips.net/video/bgOG9s1fac8/видео.html
@@BradBrowning thank you for your reply. He hasn’t contact me after the first week of no contact. It’s been 2 weeks since he texted me for the last time and 3 weeks since we last interacted. This is beyond painful. I haven’t broke the no contact period, I trust the process but afraid he’ll forget about me completely during this time.
Hey brade .....after 4 months of no contact i msged him and we are talking right now he said sorry to me for hurting me and he feels guilty then he asked me for help i said yes for that .....he was talking veery normally but idk after some days he ignored my msgs but when i msg him about new topic he responded very well on it ....but yesterday he send me some girls pics and said they are hot and blah blah .... 🙄🙄🙄What he is trying to do I don't understand plz tell me ...
You're on the right track, assuming you've done the first phase (30-day "no contact" rule) correctly and basically had set the stage for this second part. Be sure to check out my other videos for more tips on how to go about this, especially this: y2u.be/gUBNd6pDINM Since you've only recently reconnected, then don't expect your ex to warm up easily. Getting an ex back is a process. Here's a short infograph to guide you in each process: ruclips.net/video/7JtmVbDkblw/видео.html Look out for the signs that your ex has moved on, though: y2u.be/TnZzeEIPEik But evaluate things, too. Are you sure you're not trying to rush it? Setting a deadline is a good way to fail when it comes to exes, so I highly discourage it. What steps have you taken to get your ex back? It's time to re-assess those and see what's working versus what's not working. Sometimes, getting an ex back is like trying to fit a square into a circle, but oftentimes, chances are you're letting emotion dictate you and therefore end up making the wrong choices. Have you checked out my guide yet? It’s ultimately up to you to act (or not act, depending on which phase you’re in) on getting your ex back, but it helps if you read it to ensure that you’re on the right track. Check it out at www.breakupbrad.com
I walked out on my ex 8 years ago. At the time I didn't care, but recently it finely hit me, and I realized what a mistake I made. I contacted her a year ago, and apologized to her for not trying harder to hold our relationship together. She accepted my apology, but a few days later I tried talking to her further, and she had told me, she moved on and wished me luck. Its strange she would say that, when she still had pictures of me on her FB. I don't know what my chances are at making this work again, 8 years is a really long time, but neither one of us have dated anyone else in that time. Is is still possible to get her back?
8 years is a long time... and having your picture still up on her profile doesn't really translate to your ex pining for you. Watch this first to help set your expectations: y2u.be/82uUJ7kPXhE and look out for the signs that your ex has moved on: y2u.be/TnZzeEIPEik If you see only one or zero signs, then this vid is for you: ruclips.net/video/9LC1ewgBkIQ/видео.html If the conditions are right, then make sure you tick off the checklist here as well: y2u.be/BAhMrmw3Sms It's important to rebuild the attraction naturally so your ex will be amenable to working things out, eventually. This is what my guide is for but you can also learn the basic principles of my 3R system here and watch the vid til' the end so you don't end up missing the important points: y2u.be/aeGNPBdpnsI and the golden rules here: y2u.be/1kJ1ybuFIHE
also, some coaches suggest to not reach out to exes until a good amount of time like 3 months. and wait for them to reach out. your opinions on that ? ( thank you for everything you do, grateful) !!!!
Here are my thoughts on that: ruclips.net/video/7JtmVbDkblw/видео.html but for a more in-depth explanation, watch the full-length video presentation at www.breakupbrad.com
Sorry, I don't do phone, live or in-person coaching for reasons I've given here: ruclips.net/video/RjF4u2PJUJQ/видео.html but if you're up for a private one-on-one email coaching, you can sign up using the link here: www.breakupbrad.com/coaching
@@BradBrowning sorry to inform, it's a bit to late, I have broke with my gf, so everything is over and it's useless to talk to you and waste your time..... Thanks for your response ☺
Hey Brad , I was in a ldr for last 4 years and now after breakup, the only question i have is that how do i execute this plan when i can't even meet her in person ,atleast not more than once a year , anyway I've started the 30days no contact and I'm counting on this strategy completely
The distance will always be a major culprit. Is this long distance scenario temporary? Because if it isn't, then may be as good as over. Watch/review and apply the pointers here first: ruclips.net/video/GQY4N04uvtA/видео.html AND ruclips.net/video/5nfWRJRrnAs/видео.html However, if you believe your situation is unique and there may still be a chance between you two, then let's take a look at your situation in-depth via my one-on-one coaching session at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching
Brad, My girlfriend broke up with me for another guy after 2 yr relationship. I begged and pleaded a lot. I even criticized her new boyfriend badly. She still need me as a friend. But, I want her to love me again.Plz help me🙏
Sorry, man, but chances are your girl has been at least emotionally cheating on you. Discussed that in depth here: y2u.be/7KE6nb4-ndA There's no easy way to say this but the answer is is to move on, especially if your ex doesn't seem to be regretting their actions and asking to get back together. Most of the time, a lot of people would move on, but a few would still fight for the relationship, so this all depends which side you're on and what your views are. But take into consideration about what I’ve mentioned here, too: ruclips.net/video/m27TLeyUmwg/видео.html There is no right or wrong answer here because it is your relationship and it's personal to you. Make sense? Anyway men and women cheat for different reasons, but if you think your ex is worth it and if there's been a genuine connection between you two before the cheating happened, then try to see the roles that you BOTH played that led to all this mess and see once and for all if it can be resolved or not, okay? Whatever the case, it's important you forgive yourself because no one's perfect, and forgive your ex too. Really take your time before deciding though and be sure not to make any hasty decisions from an emotional place but never force things with her if you can see she no longer wants to try. Take care!
Not really. Average time is 30 days but can go anywhere from 4 to 6 weeks in usual cases. If there's been some endless begging and/or refusing to cut off contact on your end, however, I usually suggest to give it more time, around 2 months or even more. Cheating instances are different if you've cheated, could be longer or shorter depending on how your ex reacts. Do take note that in some instances where the dumpee just couldn't take the hint and continually bugs their ex for months, there comes a time where the ex reaches a "breaking point" and confirms it's the right decision to break up and becomes hellbent in moving on from you. So the bottom line is the "no contact" rule is best applied when the breakup is still fresh. Discussed the importance of silence here: ruclips.net/video/zw0ChuXCEmw/видео.html Also don't forget to watch my other vids so you'll know what to do after the "no contact" phase, especially if you're not getting my Ex Factor Guide. Good luck!
Hey brad, my wife and I split about two weeks ago and at first I tried to be calm and reasonable. (Three year relationship) She said she just needed some space because she was overwhelmed with life in general, a lot his been going on with her family, she wasn’t getting what she wanted out of the relationship but was still optimistic about being with me again. She stated she was emotionally exhausted feeling like she was living for someone else and she is just not trying to have a relationship right now. She made it clear that she still wanted me in her life, so we stayed talking casually for a week roughly and hung out once. While we hung out we talked about other things we’d like to do in terms of hanging out again. Two days after we hung out I asked her to go to the beach this weekend and she asked if we could do it next week. I agreed and she said “ sounds good to me” since then I have initiated no-contact. It’s been three days I have no plans on reaching out. I’m truly working on myself because I am genuinely disappointed with the way I’ve treated myself these last couple of years. I don’t even plan on confirming plans for the beach if she truly wants to she could reach out, and I guess that’s my only conflict should I even meet up with her so soon? At that point it will have 12 days of NC and 14 of not seeing each other. A major issue I have is I always preached communication but never truly listened which is the most important part. I have come to that realization in this short time and I feel like I will continue to notice more tendencies and behaviors that were just exhausting for a partner. So my question is do I meet up with her if she reaches out in regards to the beach day I proposed, or should I follow up on it myself if she doesn’t reach out by the day prior?
It's rare for the no contact rule to be applicable if you're married to each other. You can hang out, yes, but it's important not to dismiss the real reason/s why there's this disconnect in the first place. If you need me to take a look at your situation, consider signing up for my Mend the Marriage coaching program at www.marriageguy.com/coaching
Brad!!!! I’ve been in the no contact zone for almost two weeks and my ex messaged me “hey how are you?” today. I’m unsure what to say or if I should say anything. Please help
That's what I call the "check-in" text and your ex is somewhat expected to send one or more of these sooner or later and I've got just the vid for that. Discussed that in one of the vids, including how to handle that kind of message, here: ruclips.net/video/VMAHVJ6tvSM/видео.html
Hello! My situation is very complicated and I cannot use mehtods that you and everyone else is telling. Can we have a 1 on 1 chat. Please you can save my life.
What if we never dated to start with? We were best friends, and the other started dating someone before we could meet each other and be able to confess face to face. I made every mistake you warn in other videos. Confessed, cried, begged, got angry and jealous... everything seemed to unite them even more. Now we are ok. Put our mistakes in the past, back to be friends again and get along well. Yet, it hurts... I started applying no contact with reltively succesful outcome. We are best friends, we have so much more in common than his boyfriend, and your advice is helping indeed to make me miss me and reach and share more. Yet.. they have been dating for a year, and even tho we know each other for 5 years, we have never seen each other in person. Is there really a chance or should I use no contact to definitely end my feelings?
Sorry to hear that. I know it's tough but it looks like the odds are working against you as he has moved on to someone else and you haven't met in person yet. Let this one go and be open to new opportunities coming your way as your connection with him doesn't seem to be coming together. I wish I had better news, but consider moving on for good from this, okay? Take care!
Hey Brad,really nice video,full of good advices. I have one question.. I was with my ex for 9 years,she dumped me and I tried NO CONTACT and she called me after 5 days,we had a nice talk but I was rushing in and we get in a fight... Now Im using again no contact,it had been 15 days..can no contact use like this? Thanks,best wishes
You need time to heal and accept what happened first, so give each other space. Once you've accepted, you really won't feel the need to fight her decision. Anyway unless your situation falls under one or more of the scenarios here: ruclips.net/video/ek_4wpkV66c/видео.html AND ruclips.net/video/W7iC-gHmZ2A/видео.html it's best you ignore contact from your ex. If your ex continues to reach out to you during the no contact stage, however, then this really depends on the frequency and nature of the contact from your ex and whether or not you've reached the phase where you're supposed to be talking again. The only exception is if your ex asks for you back and is sincere about it. If your ex continually messages you, then it’s important to put your ex’s messages into context, more so if this happened during the “no contact” phase. Is your ex trying to contact you about something really important, like an emergency, unpaid bills, or something equally urgent? These are reasons to respond, including messages where they get angry due to your lack of response. Discussed that in full detail here: ruclips.net/video/GTjEAGJWTuA/видео.html So if your ex is really just texting some useless random stuff and/or asses their power over you, then you can just ignore and continue on with the 30-day "no contact" rule. Use your discretion. Watch and follow the tips here: ruclips.net/video/bgOG9s1fac8/видео.html
Hey Brad! Great video as always, you've always gave honest great breakup advice that works and i have been following you on you tube for a while now, Just a quick question below, Is re-attracting your ex like you've just met them the ex for the very first time and you are restarting the whole dating process of learning about them from scratch? Thank you
Hey, thanks for the support, David. Yes, it's in a nutshell starting from scratch because you'd be rebuilding a new relationship with the ex with hopefully all the lessons learned and you individually become better versions of yourselves as a result of the death of the old relationship. Does that makes sense? If you need more help, sign up for my coaching program. Best of luck!
Hey Brad! I had breakup 3 months ago and In this stage I begged and plead many time and I fee like I had lost her I just started watching your video rn at starting she was saying that she will come back after some years and now after begging and pleading for months even I did try to suicide on that phase when we are talking and i Was putting mental pressure on her she told me that she is having crush on someone and it kills me is there any chance of getting back together??please help me Brad I really need you this time suggest me something!!
You ought to learn to give her space first. Unfortunately if you've begged for months on end, then I'm really sorry, but your window of opportunity may have already passed. Discussed that here: ruclips.net/video/e3l5KWEpIpw/видео.html and especially if you see the signs here: y2u.be/k1myDIp0gSc
My ex is now dating someone for over a month and it’s been 4 years since our breakup. I was very clingy towards him after our breakup that now according to his friends he doesn’t want to speak to me, nor does he even talk about me anymore.. I still love him and I want to know what my odds are of getting back together with him. I got a 68% before on your quiz but now I feel like my odds have changed. Next week on Monday his planning to tell all of his friends that his dating someone new... Also at the moment I’m continuing my reseted no contact and I want to know if I’m friends with his friends and I’m forced to sit there at lunch while he’s there does this break no contact? Because we don’t really talk to each other during lunch
Watch this first to help set your expectations: y2u.be/82uUJ7kPXhE and look out for the signs that your ex has moved on: y2u.be/TnZzeEIPEik If you see only one or zero signs, then this vid is for you: ruclips.net/video/9LC1ewgBkIQ/видео.html If the conditions are right, then make sure you tick off the checklist here as well: y2u.be/BAhMrmw3Sms It's important to rebuild the attraction naturally so your ex will be amenable to working things out, eventually. This is what my guide is for but you can also learn the basic principles of my 3R system here and watch the vid til' the end so you don't end up missing the important points: y2u.be/aeGNPBdpnsI and the golden rules here: y2u.be/1kJ1ybuFIHE
hey brad! the end of the no contact stage is on my ex's birthday actually. do i send him a happy birthday text? if so what can i say after that to rekindle?
I already did. :-) Do limited contact instead and keep any limited conversation you have strictly work-related. You've got a long way to go but for starters, you can follow the tips here to prevent things from getting even more awkward than it has to be: ruclips.net/video/GTjEAGJWTuA/видео.html AND ruclips.net/video/dDZrnNh8LOg/видео.html
Hi Brad, after 2 days of no contact, she sent me message as u mentioned,,, "hey r u okay, is ur hand okay" because my hand got hurted 4 days ago... should i reply shortly ??
Hey Brad! Me and my date broke off after 4 months of being together, and she claims she couldn't bare the fact that she could hurt me in the future and don't see a future with me since our lifestyles and the way we think is different. Her feelings stayed stagnant for the most part and infact she started pushing me away like cold replies and slow replies. I was emotional and kept on asking her to reconsider and she told me why I would want to ruin even my friendship with her. I don't even know what she is currently thinking or whether or not she misses me or not furthermore, she wants us to stay as friends as she finds that there's no point in trying again with me if she's not ready to commit or even have any romantic feelings for me. Yes she said she enjoyed the time spent together with me and those memories but does no contact really work on this case? I told her I couldn't see us as friends and told her that I'm going to give us some distance that's where I started my no contact.
Don't do it, man. She's lost attraction for you and it's a terrible idea to be friends with her. You ought to cut off contact for at least 30 days first. Silence is key and here's why: ruclips.net/video/zw0ChuXCEmw/видео.html If you continue being friends right away, the boundaries won't be clear and you're technically both free to date other people. Wouldn't it be pure torture if your ex dates a rebound in front of you because you're only "friends" now, don't you think? So it’s not a good idea, especially if you want this ex back. Watch these two videos so you’ll know why being friends won’t lead you anywhere you wanna be with your ex and how to get out of this trap, respectively at ruclips.net/video/pv_cjzhVKAY/видео.html and ruclips.net/video/sS4V4IOcOgs/видео.html but read my Ex Factor Guide since that’s much more detailed and so you'll know how to go about it, what to do after each phase (there are three phases in total), including what to say, do or not do, along with bonus materials for texting. Good luck!
Hey Brad I recently had my break up from a 13 year long relationship. My ex is currently in a relationship for like 3 weeks with a guy who was like a brother to her few months back. I have been watching your videos. I am hopeful that your advice works.
Sorry, man, but chances are your girl has been at least emotionally cheating on you but give it time and space since your history together with your ex was pretty extensive. Discussed that in depth here: y2u.be/7KE6nb4-ndA There's no easy way to say this but the answer is is to move on, especially if your ex doesn't seem to be regretting their actions and asking to get back together. Most of the time, a lot of people would move on, but a few would still fight for the relationship, so this all depends which side you're on and what your views are. But take into consideration about what I’ve mentioned here, too: ruclips.net/video/m27TLeyUmwg/видео.html There is no right or wrong answer here because it is your relationship and it's personal to you. Make sense? Anyway men and women cheat for different reasons, but if you think your ex is worth it and if there's been a genuine connection between you two before the cheating happened, then try to see the roles that you BOTH played that led to all this mess and see once and for all if it can be resolved or not, okay? Whatever the case, it's important you forgive yourself because no one's perfect, and forgive your ex too. Really take your time before deciding though and be sure not to make any hasty decisions from an emotional place but never force things with her if you can see she no longer wants to try. Take care!
Hey Brad, my boyfriend broke up eith me last week and I made the mistake if begging him to come back and now he has blocked me but he said he still loves me he just doesn't feel attracted to me because of the bad decisions I make. What can I do if he wants nothing to do with me?
Wait for a better time before interacting with your ex, however, don't wait around doing nothing. Take a leap of faith on a new path as well because you never know where life can take you, which may be better without your ex. Use this time to heal and prioritize yourself. But if it's been more than a year or so, make sure to check the signs if your ex has moved on, here: y2u.be/ZyJRphwDca4 and this should help guide you on what to do for the time being: y2u.be/hlikXIfMYN8 However, make it a point to be really productive with your time being apart. Follow the tips here to help guide you further: y2u.be/gUBNd6pDINM AND ruclips.net/video/WVFZVqFDFV4/видео.html now when the time comes where your ex is free or is constantly contacting you, check out my other videos here in RUclips to help you with a lot of texting tips as well as when to give up trying. Good luck!
Hey Brad! I have been dating this guy for months, and suddenly he brought up that he doesn't want to continue to be with me anymore. At first, I tried to talk to him in person and agreed to take space. Then after about a month, I messaged him just to check on him, but he told me sorry he really don't want to be with me, or work things out with me. My mistake I even plead and begged for him to stay. He said that, he was happy those times I gave him space, he suddenly felt sad the time I reached out. He was stress-free lately and doesn't want to stress himself by meeting up with me or even call. I still want to come back with him and to start over. Please help. Thank you in advance
Hi there! At this point, it's becoming clear that he doesn't want to rekindle things with you. It's best you continue to give him space for 2-3 more weeks and see if he reaches out and reach out with a light message after and see if anything changes. But be prepared to move on if things remain the same by then. Whatever the case, it's important to focus on your own well-being and create happiness on your own first.
Hello Brad! Thanks for another video! I have a question, my ex broke up with me a week ago, and I haven't talked to him since. We lived together, so some of his things are still at my house. In the day of the breakup I kindly asked if he wanted to take his things, he said he didn't want to come upstairs... Neither of us has said anything since. But I was wondering, should I say something about the stuff or should I wait until he says something? I'm kinda dreading that because it does feel so final once his stuff is gone as well.. Thank you!
You're welcome! What's the current situation though? How long has it been since the breakup? If he moved out, then just make sure you stop forcing things. Try to have self discipline and remember, love should never be forced. Otherwise it becomes an obsession, so be very careful of going that route. If your ex dumped you and showed you he doesn't want to be in your life at the moment, you ought to respect that, okay? For most dumpees that is the case. It doesn't mean that will be the case forever but at the moment, it surely is, so respect your ex's need for space and have some self discipline. Focus on yourself instead. Okay? This vid is for you: ruclips.net/video/WVB0_l60SpM/видео.html
Hi Brad! I'm in a sticky situation right now, me and my boyfriend of 2 years just broke up and I have to move away. Which is in around 1 month until that happens. I'm planning on doing the 30 days no communication... But I'm afraid that he won't think much of it because he broke up with me because "He wasn't ready for a relationship" "I need my free space." I really love him, and I'll be focusing on my studies now and myself but I'm really sad about that he says he's not ready. Since we lived together for 1 year in a small flat.. been together for 2 years. I'm conflicted what to do in my situation.
Sorry to hear that. Until you move away, I suggest you do limited contact with your ex in the meantime where you only discuss the essentials. Apply the tips here, too to help you out further: y2u.be/thVReUI9Vzs AND y2u.be/STL7ru4uSQk I know it's hard, but lots of folks have managed to follow the tips and succeeded. So if they can do it, then so can you! Good luck and be strong!
HELP- if my ex was crying to me only 3 weeks ago that she couldn’t sleep or eat thinking about me all day that she was suffering because we were on a break and now that I want to be with her she tells me she doesn’t love me anymore, when only 3 weeks ago she did. Will it be possible following these strategies to still get her back or the fact that she said she doesn’t love me makes it too late? Is it possible she’s just hurt and just said that out of anger but she does love me? The connection me and her have doesn’t compare to anything I’ve ever had in my life and don’t want to lose her. I’ve already made mistakes of showing up at her door crying, writing her letters and sending her gifts and I think that turned her off even more but after watching these videos I learned about the no contact rule so I will not reach out again but is it too late?
Yes, it's possible. However, the breakup meant there's been a significant loss of attraction on his end. It's important to cut off contact for at least 30 days where you put the entire focus back to yourself. Just take note of the mistake most people make here so you won't be making them: ruclips.net/video/1cBpNrDDHnw/видео.html Also don’t wait for this person to have an epiphany. If you want your ex back, then keep track of what you've been doing to see if it's productive or not. Here's a quick overview to hopefully help you out: ruclips.net/video/xgR03RcU8mw/видео.html it's best to go by the golden rules here: ruclips.net/video/1kJ1ybuFIHE/видео.html Have you checked out my guide yet? It may be time to revamp your techniques. Before anything else though, take the free quiz on my website to gauge your chances of getting your ex back. Good luck!
She’s playing games dude , messing with your head …she’s just trying to keep you from not moving on and meeting someone else…… you are her safety net if her plans don’t work out for her and she knows that you’re still a backup option
Hi Brad, I've recently broken up from a 4 year relationship for 2-3 weeks now. I've messed up the initial stages of the break up by begging and pleading, which ultimately drew her away from me even further. Although she claims she hates me, and that she doesn't want to talk to me, we somehow still engage in some conversations, even though we have unfriended/unfollowed each other in social media. Recently, I've also sent her a clean state message which is still yet to be responded with. I'm confused on what to do, should I start my no contact period? And for how long?
Redo the "no contact" rule and make sure you stick to it this time. But watch this first to help manage your expectations: ruclips.net/video/OzVymYnQFTk/видео.html Here's how you can tell you're doing the "no contact" rule properly: ruclips.net/video/f7zuXk-sVsI/видео.html It may help to make use of the clean slate template, which is a free version from a piece of my Ex Factor Guide. Watch this: ruclips.net/video/6K3xufEwEFg/видео.html The main goal is to bring your ex into an emotional neutral state by employing the 30-day “no contact” rule -- let your ex miss you and don't rush it. But in order to fully understand how this concept works, watch the free in-depth video on my website to learn some psychology techniques and understand how giving each other space for around a month can benefit you than otherwise, at www.breakupbrad.com
I have a question brad so me and my ex gf broke up lack of communication between us plus she don’t think I am manly and we haven’t been imminent in a while so how can I fix that
Sorry, this is a bit too complex for me to properly respond here… please consider signing up for coaching if you want to talk at length about your situation: www.breakupbrad.com/coaching
Hi Brad! What about if she's texting me short texts in this time,texts as ,,hello,how are you...,, should I reply or not. I'm asking because after just 1 day of non contact she just texted me
That's what I call the "check-in" text and your ex is somewhat expected to send one or more of these sooner or later and I've got just the vid for that. Discussed that in one of the vids, including how to handle that kind of message, here: ruclips.net/video/VMAHVJ6tvSM/видео.html
Hey Brad, I wanted to ask since most of those videos are about feelings between the two people but what about if it was a mutual agreement and because of outside circumstances, is there a chance?
You both agreed the breakup is for the best... so what's the sense in trying to revive it? Might be time to move on from this. Since your situation may be unique, you'd benefit by working with me one-on-one so I get to learn more about the situation and therefore be more equipped to help you out, at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching
What am i supposed to do? My boyfriend and I dated for 2 years. I have 3 kids from my previous relationship, he has none. I'm 36, he's 41. In the beginning, everything was great. A year later, things still going great. Over the last 6 months, I started a new job, the kids baseball season came upon on...and left us with zero relationship time to do things alone. Yes we went to baseball together, and had dinner at night, but no dates, no escapes, no just us, time. He dumped me July 3rd. We have had no contact since then. Any advice?
It's too soon to be talking to each other. Try to let go of the memories of the past because he just dumped you and that's what you ought to process first. This vid should hopefully help you see things clearly about the importance of the "no contact" rule as well as the common challenges and how to overcome them: ruclips.net/video/WVB0_l60SpM/видео.html Feel free to check out my other vids as well, especially this which should give you an idea on how to go about this: ruclips.net/video/7JtmVbDkblw/видео.html For a complete, step-by-step procedure though, consider getting my Ex Factor Guide at www.breakupbrad.com Good luck!
Hey Brad, I had breakup a month ago, the mistake was mine. I know her as a friend for 9 year, We were a relationship for 5 years. While I proposed her she said no but she would like to have me throughout her life, Our bond became stronger and she started loving me. We used to date often, share feelings. She always felt Comfortable with me. She was possessive on me and i started getting possessive on her sometimes that brought some problem between us but everything was cleared on that day itself. We had a strong intimate and romantic relationship. After 4 years she move to abroad for studies i missed her a lot and she too cried everyday in phone calls. I always convinced her, i kept her calm. After some months she was filled with lot of work and responsibilities she didn't talk to me much. And also the romantic talks started looking like a foolishness for her. I was waiting for her daily, But she didn't come. I thought she stopped prioritising me. I didn't understand she had work. I forced her. I fighted with her a lot. I showed myself pity. She asked me to give some space i said she will be back as mine. I didn't give her the time. I pressurized her. I said leave me now itself i don't want u, ur not mine like that. And started blackmailing that i going to die. Atlast i was extremely depressed about a accident, i sent the picture of that accident, She thought that its as usual a trick by me by showing myself pity. And she came to know that's true and she called me just after my message and started calling me non stop. I finally pickedup and i scoulded her that i don't need u. But she said u r speaking in anger lets just work it out tomorrow please hold on she said. But in frustration i dnt want u, u stay happy. And i cut my hand and wrote her name in blood in a paper of art of herself which i drawn. She saw that and got afraid and i tried calling her she dnt pick the whole night. Next day morning she said she never want she is afraid of me i will never change and she blocked me in all possible social media and call. Then i tried contacting by my mutual friends. She called me and said she never loved me, she never wanted me, i was around her and she was in a relationship just like a arranged marriage, she said it was her mistake to give me hope and she would never comeback. She said she will contact me after 10days. I didn't wait i had another family issue so i tried again with my mutual friend and again she called me and said she will never ever need me and she will die if she is with me, if u want me to be happy please leave me is what she said and she said wait for 10 days i will call but if i didn't, do not make someone to call me, she said and cut down the call. She did everything for me brad. I gave everything i could. I love her a lot. We dreamnt of our life till the end. But i destroyed it in seconds. I don't know what to do about this brand. Help me get her back. I watched all ur videos and now im following the no contact rule.
Sorry, this is a bit too complex for me to properly respond here… please consider signing up for coaching if you want to talk at length about your situation: www.breakupbrad.com/coaching
Thanks Brad for answering all the people your the best♥️, Unfortunately I cheated on my ex 4M ago I apologised in a sincere way and got blocked everywhere, and ever since she's giving me the hot and cold in her social media, did no contact for 2 months and worked on myself and she broke it 2 times every 30 days by showing me nostalgic memories and when I answer her in a nostalgic way, she don't respond at all and reblocked me, but after 5 days from the last block she unblocked me to say "I hate you" I didn't answer, reblocked me again what should I do?
Give it time but learn to discern whether she can forgive you or not. Some folks just can't get past it and if that's the situation you're on, it may be time to consider moving on for good. Otherwise, give it time after giving your most sincere apology. Others take a short amount of time to forgive while others take almost forever to do so. So again, learn to discern. Good luck!
Hi Brad, if this possible to win back my ex if he broke up with me 2 times? We've been with eachother few years ago, had a 2 years break, then we've been together for 2 years and now he broke up saying that he doesn't see a relationship with me at the moment and he doesn't know if he will see. We always had problems with communication, we quarreled a lot, we stopped showing affection.He stopped trying a long time ago, at the beginning he showed a lot of interest and effort but after 6 months just stopped.
If you're asking about your chances, I really wish I could give you a direct yes or no. However, as it is, each situation is unique, so I suggest you take the free quiz as it hits on the critical elements that will determine your chances depending on your answers. In other words, my quiz can give you a more accurate answer than I can since as you may have noticed, there are various factors at play here which needs to be looked at as well as your own actions after the breakup. Here's the link: www.breakupbrad.com/quiz Best of luck!
What do you do if she says she loves me but has a boyfriend that she isnt aure she is going to stay with longterm but they have a kid together? And she kisses me and has slept with me but after a month she says shes scared to come over because she knows she willw ant to sleep with me? How do i know where to go to get her back..
You don't try to get her back if she's dealing with someone else. She needs to make up her mind first. Give her the space to do that. Assuming you hadn't came in between their relationship, apply the tips here: ruclips.net/video/4Qe-4A-CpVY/видео.html
I break up with my ex for one year now but sometimes she act like she with me but next day she act like she not with me but she always says let be just friend ,and she cook food for me to eat and I Don like to friend with her .Brad shall I do now
The next step will end up pending for a while. Here are the most common reasons for being blocked and my thoughts about it, including what to do: y2u.be/s52sRweJlm8 and don't forget to take the quiz if you still want to know what your chances are and/or still have questions on what to do after, at www.breakupbrad.com/quiz
Hey brad, I've been following the no contact for two months now. We are in a long distance relationship.She has texted me three four times and call me quite a few times. Should I go and meet her ???? Will that be a good idea.
When did the texts and calls came and what is it about? Sorry, this is a bit too complex for me to properly respond here… please consider signing up for coaching if you want to talk at length about your situation: www.breakupbrad.com/coaching
Hey brad it's been just few days back. She call me and texted saying she love me, misses me telling me I'm the best ( quite a few times she had call and texted )so I've decided to go and meet. When I told her that i was coming she was excited about it and the very next morning she told me not to come again. Should I just go or not?????? Please help brad
Hey brad, thanks for this... I chatted my ex after 4months of no contact, and he called me, we had a long conversation and he was excited to hear from me.... But since then (last week) we have not spoken again. He only views my WhatsApp status.... What next should I do please... We are not in the same country currently.
You're welcome! You're on the right track, assuming you've done the first phase (30-day "no contact" rule) correctly and basically had set the stage for this second part. Be sure to check out my other videos for more tips on how to go about this, especially this: y2u.be/gUBNd6pDINM Since you've only recently reconnected, then don't expect your ex to warm up easily. Getting an ex back is a process. Here's a short infograph to guide you in each process: ruclips.net/video/7JtmVbDkblw/видео.html Look out for the signs that your ex has moved on, though: y2u.be/TnZzeEIPEik But evaluate things, too. Are you sure you're not trying to rush it? Setting a deadline is a good way to fail when it comes to exes, so I highly discourage it. What steps have you taken to get your ex back? It's time to re-assess those and see what's working versus what's not working. Sometimes, getting an ex back is like trying to fit a square into a circle, but oftentimes, chances are you're letting emotion dictate you and therefore end up making the wrong choices. Have you checked out my guide yet? It’s ultimately up to you to act (or not act, depending on which phase you’re in) on getting your ex back, but it helps if you read it to ensure that you’re on the right track. Check it out at www.breakupbrad.com
I don't see this as a cause for concern really, unless you've done something really epic to mess things up or really hurt your ex, there's no reason to worry as much, really, because it could be due to the top 3 reasons I've stated on this vid: y2u.be/fjtv90o9bkI Blocking you could just be your ex’s way of coping so I wouldn’t worry too much about it if I were you, at least not initially. So give it time. If you stay blocked after months though, then that’s another story, especially if you have no other means of communication or have no mutual friends. More about that on here: ruclips.net/video/5UT92IB5ugs/видео.html Anyway social media should be the least of your concerns. Focus on all three phases and your ex may naturally unblock you, in time, as you learn to rebuild that attraction and re-attract this ex back to your life.. Here are the basics of all three phases to getting an ex back: ruclips.net/video/aeGNPBdpnsI/видео.html and social-media wise, here (but then again, don't let it become your sole focus) : ruclips.net/video/D1GpR5MApQk/видео.html Good luck!
Hi again Brad, again ty for the video for me to watch to stay in no contact, i've been watching other videos of a like of "goodbye messages" before no contact, if i just say "i need time for myself" before no contact to my ex will that be ok ? Or should i fix it somehow
Heej Brad, i have a little problem with the no contact. I am doing that and even dont go to same places. But she does contact me regerly. She wants me in friendzone. Iam guessing she is getting angy at me for avoiding her? I scored 68 on your quiz
Some exes do want their ex in the friendzone but that won't really do you any good. If anything, it will only keep you stuck especially if you aren't open to dating other women. Anyway here's how to gracefully bow out of the offer: ruclips.net/video/SWERv_y3c5w/видео.html
Hey Brad, how do i know what was the reason why she broke up with me if she hadn't told me anything about her decision? it’s been a more than month when we broke up and I tried no contact after which I texted her like u told in your other videos and at first she was really friendly and I already thought that no contact worked perfectly but after few days she replied to me do you see a point of this conversation and after that message i just think that thats the end and the hopes are dead because it seems like she’s done. Or not?
Text her less because chances are there's too much too soon in this interaction. Learn to space out your messages! Consider getting my guide and/or check out my other vids for more reference. Good luck!
Hey Brad it was almost an year after we break up. But I sent her a letter with invitation and she accept it. Is it late to make another period of No Contact / Rekindeling/ Re-attraction or better to wait move from her from this point? Thanks!
An invitation to what? I suggest to take it easy at first and try not to meet up when you're both not ready yet. Watch this: ruclips.net/video/jka4S6syZPs/видео.html
That's what I call the "check-in" text and your ex is somewhat expected to send one or more of these sooner or later and I've got just the vid for that. Discussed that in one of the vids, including how to handle that kind of message, here: ruclips.net/video/VMAHVJ6tvSM/видео.html
Hi brad, I think I was stuck on friendzone with my ex so the other day I ask her what's keeping our communication open, she was triggered and block me on messenger but were still friends on fb. Is that okay for us since Im still hoping for us to get back together, I'd plan to apply the no contact so I can improve myself but I cant before we still have open communication 3mos from break up? Any advice or thoughts🙏
What's a bad goodbye message? If you meant you've begged or been dramatic, then redo the "no contact" rule and make sure you stick to it this time. But watch this first to help manage your expectations: ruclips.net/video/OzVymYnQFTk/видео.html Here's how you can tell you're doing the "no contact" rule properly: ruclips.net/video/f7zuXk-sVsI/видео.html It may help to make use of the clean slate template, which is a free version from a piece of my Ex Factor Guide. Watch this: ruclips.net/video/6K3xufEwEFg/видео.html The main goal is to bring your ex into an emotional neutral state by employing the 30-day “no contact” rule -- let your ex miss you and don't rush it. But in order to fully understand how this concept works, watch the free in-depth video on my website to learn some psychology techniques and understand how giving each other space for around a month can benefit you than otherwise, at www.breakupbrad.com
@@BradBrowning so is it ok if i just reply with like a goodnight sleep message and we'll meet if we have connections then i just disappeared, and did no contact for a long time, i texted that when i was emotional, unstable, so should i just stay in no contact ?
Hey Brad! I finally got my ex back. He eventually came around and not only did he accept his mistake....he sorted out everything and communicated with me on how much he wants me in his life and now he is sure that he would do anything to work this relationship out with me!!
This wouldn't have been possible without you. I watched every video of yours...did exactly what you told and especially the no contact thing. He finally realised that it's me who he wants and it was stupid of him to jeopardize a thing so good like this. And not only that....in this period i realised my self worth as well..... I know what i deserve because of your guidance and i know that i ain't gonna take shit from anyone. Thank you so so much Brad. You've been like a true friend and an angel. God bless❤️
Always happy to read another success story. Congrats! And you're welcome! :-)
How long were you together before and how long apart?
I'm happy for you!
Hello I had a brake up with my ex he wanted to be my friend by thinking about it geting ready to hangout with me maybe in 2025 or inb2024 all depending cuz he keep on thinking that I had cheated it on him asking guy to by me sneakers
But you wanted to take him back... My ex doesn't want to see me at all. Doesn't want to fix it even tho we can and she only has bad memories from our relationship. Recently she deleted viber so I can't speak to her at all(it was the only social that she didn't block me)
Brad your techniques work and i know that first hand now. I did all the wrong things in the initial breakup stage and drove her away further. Then went no contact for almost 2 months and in that time we would text a bit but no calls or in person contact. Making her remember the good times and being subtle about it and then one day she sends a mile long text about how we were meant to be together and she knows that now and we are now thankfully back together after 3 months of agony and heartbreak i finally have the love of my life back. To anyone reading this, if you play your cards right and listen to this man your chances are pretty damn good. And his quiz is no joke. If you answer honestly you will get your proper results and know if your chances are worth the effort
Another success story. So happy to hear this, man. Thanks for sharing! :-)
Hi Brad, I couldn’t agree with you more. This is a real perfect plan. My success story is a proof for your tips. I was dumped last December, the reason why I found your channel and became a subscriber.
Your videos are great encouragement for me to pass through my hard times. I watched many of your videos and exactly followed your suggestions. To summarize my story, I did 31 days no contact (focusing self-improvement, very difficult though, I tried), reinitiated contact with funny memory text message, stayed light and no drama. We are in LDRS and no chance to re attract in person. But thanks to your LDRS tips, whoa!!! I did. My EX proposed me again after 6 months of our breakup, still LDRS. Patience is a key, no rush as you said.
Thank you very much indeed and really appreciate your work. Best wishes to you for more success.
Hope to see your videos more like how to maintain a healthy good relationship, no heartbreak again. Cheers!!
Awesome! Pat yourself on the back too for a job well done. I'm merely showing the path, you're the one who did the work and walk the talk! :-) Congrats!
Sounds like a plan❣️
Thank you for this, I am confident it's going to happen exactly like this. Those are the best chances, it is the only way
Just do your best without putting that much pressure on yourself, yeah? The aim is to play your cards right as best as you can but it is partly still up to your ex to decide as well. Employ me as your coach if you need personal help, at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching
Time has never been on our side..lost her cause of things i didn't had control on but my love for her was pure and always will be 💔.
Hey Brad I have been watching several of your videos with the intention to get back with my ex but she honestly isn't worth the trouble. She has bipolar disorder and I believe she is a narcissist I'm done with her. Thank you for all the videos though it could help me later on down the line
You're welcome. Yes, discernment is key. If you think the relationship has become unhealthy or toxic for you, then moving on will be a good choice, indeed.
I was out last night and the ex was out with friends, her sister came over and asked how I was, she said she doesn't even know why she broke up with me but then said I just need to move on. I love the girl and want her back but now I'm starting to think she's over me
You do need to get over her in some way before you can restart something with her. What you do depends on which phase you're on. Never skip the "no contact" part! Watch this to get an overview on what steps you ought to take in each phase: ruclips.net/video/7JtmVbDkblw/видео.html Best of luck!
Hi Brad.....i finished Ex Factor 2.0 in 2 days....going to read it again....great info....worth the price as i learned alot!!
Hey man, thanks for supporting my product! I'm glad you found it to be applicable to your situation. Watch my other vids for reference as well. Best of luck!
Hey Brad, my wife filed for divorce back in the first week of June. She took a 3 week sabbatical in Mexico City. She FaceTimed in week 2 and expressed how much she is missing me. She asked to meet me a few days ago and revealed how much she has missed me and wished I had been in Mexico City with her. She said she has never been so comfortable with anyone. She said we "can easily remarry at some point". She also revealed she is dating someone and has been for a "few weeks". That definitely crushed me.... I will be watching more of your videos.
Omg. I am somehow in the same situation only that i was not married. The “in the future” part is in case it does not work out with other guys. I’m not sure we should be plan B even if we love them
Go focus on your own life first. The process of saving one's marriage is a bit complicated. I suggest you check out my Mend the Marriage guide at www.marriageguy.com as everything is on there, from how to communicate more effectively, down to how to handle the kids (if applicable), monitor your progress through worksheets and stuff. But while I certainly need more information to know what's going on between you two for sure, I suggest you check out more marriage-saving tips which you may find useful, check out this new channel I've dedicated solely for this purpose. Here's the link: y2u.be/dr2JTi_bCRU or sign up for my Mend the Marriage coaching program at www.marriageguy.com/coaching Take care!
Hey Brad, loved the video. Two months ago, my gf broke up with me because she lost attraction and because I've made some mistakes in my behaviour according to her. I have corrected these mistakes and I feel I am a better person after the no contact period, and I've reached out to her, building some good friendly conversations before asking to meet up somewhere. She initially agreed, but then piled up excuses for not being able to go. I asked her two days ago, and she agreed, but she insisted she was not ready when I asked to confirm. She has stated that she misses me at times and that she has some feelings. But right now, I don't know if she is in the right place mentally, as she is being hot and cold and contradictory to her opinions of me, and insisted that she didn't want to meet in person, but instead call. She told me that I should be a better form of myself if I want her back, but earlier today, she also insisted we wouldn't be back together. What should I do to make sure she sees me as a changed, new and better version of myself? And how would I be able to meet up with her after building friendly rapport considering that I have limited excuses (most of the excuses she may be able to search for an answer by only texting or online resources). Thanks Brad.
Update: She has also blocked me on all social media, meaning I can't really contact her. I'm not quite sure what to do from here.
Yeah, play it cool and don't push for a meet up. Assuming you've properly done the 30-day "no contact" rule, focus on texting and try not to meet up when one of you or both of you aren't ready yet. The phase you're on is the second phase where you're rebuilding attraction. It's part two of the 3-phase system in my guide but here's a quick overview to help you understand better: y2u.be/7JtmVbDkblw but as you go on this phase, you'll notice one or more signs here: y2u.be/nmRM3dZAzDA and the best you can do is to continue to play your cards right and move to the third phase when you're both ready. Good luck!
Hey man do you have an update with you’re ex??
Hi..does this trick works to the narcissist??.
Hey brad! I made the mistake of writing a letter telling my ex that I’m doing okay. I told her that I accept her decision to break up with me and I told her I wanted her to do whatever it is she has to do to move on. But now I’m regretting it. I still want to get back together with her. And recently she’s been posting videos of her and this guy (in a group setting) and I can’t help but feel jealous.
That's really all you can do once someone dumps you, so don't be too hard on yourself. This vid should hopefully help you see things clearly about the importance of the "no contact" rule as well as the common challenges and how to overcome them: ruclips.net/video/WVB0_l60SpM/видео.html Feel free to check out my other vids as well, especially this which should give you an idea on how to go about this: ruclips.net/video/7JtmVbDkblw/видео.html For a complete, step-by-step procedure though, consider getting my Ex Factor Guide at www.breakupbrad.com Good luck!
I’ve been trying NC rule again after I broke it last week because he messaged me about the stuff that I left at his place… this is insanely hard😫 i feel really bad for ignoring his texts asking how I’m doing and stuff… but I’m feeling better and more confident a little by little. Just focusing on work, workout, new hobby.
Honestly looking at these comments really helps me a lot. So thank you everyone who left comments here and I’m sending love💞
It is very hard indeed, but try to stay strong, okay? Make it a point to balance yourself first. This should help guide you a bit if you haven't decided on getting my Ex Factor Guide yet, at: ruclips.net/video/ek_4wpkV66c/видео.html
No contact while loving together but in separate rooms and having kids together is seeming impossible. I try to cut off and limit interactions to only necessary or pertaining to the kids but no matter what I do or don't do or what I say or don't say she puts me in a damned if I do and damned if I don't box. She wants to sell the house but neither of us have anywhere else to go let alone be able to afford anything that could remotely compare to what we currently have for the price we're paying or rather I'm paying because she's stopped paying her portion of any of the mortgage since she decided it was officially over between us. She's seeing a new guy now as well. She refuses to go live somewhere else and doesn't want to live here and I also refuse to go live somewhere else because I sold my last home to move to this home so she could be closer to her family. I am close with her family. I'm excelling at my new job, being the best version of myself as a person and a dad, losing weight, taking better care of myself, being active and having fun with the children. Whenever she gets home she expects me to know when to be present and when to be absent but then will give me shit if I make myself scarce or leave unannounced after she's home. It's so exhausting to still live her and know that part of my inability to detach is because we have kids together and I fear for them and how toxic she is about me towards them and how she tries to turn anything and everything into an argument as has flat out said that she doesn't want to get along with me. The new person she's seeing she is progressing very fast with. Far faster than our own relationship progressed when we first met eachother. I don't bother pointing out the red flags to whom she's seeing because I know it won't matter. He's as old as her Dad, has never been married, has kids and grandkids, is in recovery... It of course hurts me to know and see how quickly she moved onto someone else especially while we still love together and while she still relies on me and twists everything and manipulates me to bend to her wants by trying to turn anything into something that could pertain to the kids and how she knows how bad she could make my life with how slanted towards women things are in our state when it comes to custody (basically a father only has a chance if he can absolutely prove abuse or drug use). Sorry for my rambling. I'm trying to be nothing but be the best person I can be for my kids through all of it but keep on getting the attitude of I could or should have been doing what I'm doing now all along and thinks it's some sort of act or manipulation when I've been maintaining how I've been conducting myself towards every aspect of life the same and with constant improvement for about a year now... Long enough that the changes I've made have become habitual and not just pure will power even though there does have to still be a fair amount of willpower with other changes I've made. I'm consistently improving and she's been consistently trying to make me fail.
Yes, it's awkward to be giving each other the silent treatment if you live in the same roof. You can make it less awkward though. It's a different set of rules if you live together. Do limited contact with your ex where you only discuss the essentials. Apply the tips here, too to help you out further: y2u.be/thVReUI9Vzs AND y2u.be/STL7ru4uSQk I know it's hard, but lots of folks have managed to follow the tips and succeeded. So if they can do it, then so can you! Good luck and be strong!
I’ve done everything to a ‘T’. I know what we had was pretty rare, and I know she’ll realize it one day. I am moving on w my life, and will let the chips fall where they may. She’ll come back, or she won’t. Her loss.
Sorry to hear that. There does come a point when you're too emotionally drained to fight for the relationship and when that happens, that's the way to go about it.
I have used no contact rule for 5 days already but I miss him like crazy 🤯 He is the love of my life. I really don’t want to lose him.
Exactly how I felt but you have to trust yourself he will come back but he needs the time to miss you first
Try to stay strong. This vid is for you: ruclips.net/video/sFi45h907hw/видео.html
Hi Brad in basic terms I pushed my ex away because of my mood swings and jealousy, if she ever complimented a celebrity or anyone like that I would get mad, and I would be in a mood daily, when she started to pull back i became really clingy and needy. Which after the break up she said really annoyed her. She said to me that she deleted all my pictures and doesn’t love me she said there no argument and she just doesn’t feel anything towards me.
But a mutual friend asked what I looked like and she said if I found out that she was sending people my pictures I would be mad, out mutual friend asked her oh you still like him? And she replied with ew no I hate him but he isn’t ugly in my opinion,
She also said that’s i was a good bf and she said “I know how much he cared for me” but he was just so moody and clingy
Yeah, I mean, if you do it daily, it does get old, man, and exhausting for her for having to appease you regularly. This vid is for you: ruclips.net/video/8T1wX8D48Qg/видео.html Give her time to miss you after you sincerely apologize.
@@BradBrowning it’s been a month I DOMT think she misses me what can I do I’m in no contact?
Hey Brad just an important question?
What do I do if I have been kind of needy and obviously hurt when i'm near her? We broke up 5 days ago because she needed space and to be honest I think I wasn't really offering much and was quite needy. I started doing the 30 day no contact faze yesterday and we didn't leave on a good note. She really hasn't wanted to talk to me for the past 5 days and I feel that I've butchered it by trying to talk to her. I think she has blocked me aswell but I'm pretty sure she does still have a little desire inside of her to be with me. I'm just confused because she hasn't given many reasons as to why she even did.
Posted a vid about what happens in most breakups, look that up and/or check out this free in-depth vid presentation at www.breakupbrad.com But stop forcing things. Try to have self discipline and remember, love should never be forced. Otherwise it becomes an obsession, so be very careful of going that route. If your ex dumped you and showed you he/she doesn't want to be in your life at the moment, you ought to respect that, okay? For most dumpees that is the case. It doesn't mean that will be the case forever but at the moment, it surely is, so respect your ex's need for space and have some self discipline. Focus on yourself instead. Okay? This vid is for you: ruclips.net/video/WVB0_l60SpM/видео.html
@@BradBrowning thank you this actually really helps and I've been giving her space for a couple days now thanks again brad
i took the quiz. it said 70%. the best thing is I did not contact her too much. She has blocked me, but somehow I managed to get her on a call fortunately she unblocked or maybe she changed the phone. Anyhow, there has been some development that I am very much eager to share with her but she is not accepting to meet me. I did sent her a letter as well to her workplace. What I want to ask is, should I go to her workplace and catch her after work hours and discuss things that I need her to know? Is it too forceful or pressure or stalking?
Hey Brad. I'm new to the scene here but my s/o just broke up with me due to the stress about not being able to let go of our past( how we got together in the beginning and how I have hurt her before making her think that she is just a rebound or second option). We've dated for 2 months and we had a lot of sweet moments but she is hung up on the past which is how we began and is always stressed about not being to let go and she said it has been rough for her. She is tired and thinks that it is suffering and it will be better that we became friends back. She said she's a person who has hard time letting go about the past and the choice of letting me go really pains her. She felt that if we continued she will be more tired and we wouldn't be able to proceed to the next stage hence she doesn't want to think about the past and does not have the courage of to move on which finally led to her breaking up with me. We broke on good terms and she still admits she has feelings for me, so i am really lost and do not know what to do at this point.( I scored 70 in your quiz)
She left me for someone else. How to I get her back if she is with someone else? Won't she just bond better with the new guy if I am completely gone?
Hello Brad, thank your for everything you do! You help people a lot and you are truly the best breakup relation coach!
Can you please also answer me one quick question?
Is it bad idea, to simply ask her (not plead), if she wouldn't prefer break over break up?
We have/had short, but happy relationship, until some major bad event has happened in her life (and is still happening). I failed to give her space and she said she probably wants to be alone, until she will deal with it.
Do you think, that offering her a break would be better option, than agreeing with break up?
Also, can you please make a video aimed at short term relationships?
Thank you in advence and wish you the best!
Hey you're welcome! :-) Yes, you can ask/suggest her that, but make sure to ask just once and gauge her reaction and don't be needy. If she's hellbent in breaking up, however, then don't push it. Just give it time. Employ the 30-day "no contact" rule first. Here's how you can tell it's starting to work: ruclips.net/video/T4Sz6DiWRsQ/видео.html Though make sure you follow the tips here as well: ruclips.net/video/xgR03RcU8mw/видео.html AND some recent tips here: y2u.be/FLeP1eRCkCk Lots of folks seem to be oblivious about it, so here goes: the 30-day "no contact" rule, once COMPLETED, is just the first phase for most people (unless your ex sincerely wanted you back and it's shown in their actions). This would also help guide you on what to do after the "no contact" rule: ruclips.net/video/BAhMrmw3Sms/видео.html Anyway there are two more phases to go through if you want an ex back, and the third is to rekindle/rebuild the attraction with an ex. Learn the basics here: y2u.be/7JtmVbDkblw
Hey brad i need some advice,
My ex broke up with me a week ago. Claiming mental health issues because of the fights.
I ignored the breakup text and immediatly innitiated no contact. 3 days later she folded and told me she wants me back! I responded slow, but interested. We met up 2 days later and talked about getting back together. She here admitted that during the breakup she had been close with this other guy, who liked her. During out meet up she texted him that she thought things between them were ''moving too fast'' and that she still had feelings for me and just wanted to be friends. The guy blocked her and said he didnt want to be friends with her. She was very upset by this and remained pretty quiet for the remainer of our meet up. At the end of the evening we agreed to get back together but 2 days later i feel like im in a relationship with a stranger. She's kind of distant, not like what we had before and i have this heavy feeling in my stomach. Do you think i'm a plan B she doesn't want to lose? do you think she just needs space or is she testing me? Should i ask for some more time before we commit to the relationship again? I'm kind of lost because i want to make things work but i feel like she's playing me. What do you advise??
Thanks brother.
Testing each other are for new relationships. When it comes to exes or someone you've had history with, there's really no need for that in most cases especially the way you've described it where you've already gotten back together. In your case, I say give it time and observe but don't overthink. You're basically starting from scratch with hopefully the two of you being the better version of yourselves, so don't expect for things to get back to normal right away. There's bound to be an adjustment period so try to chill, okay? Sorry but I would need more info to help you deduct what's happening. You can work with me one-on-one so I get to learn more about the situation and therefore be more equipped to help you out, at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching
Hey Brad, my ex broke up with me because of her depression. I went no contact for 2 weeks and I broke it to check on her. She ignored my message. I’m back in no contact and I really don’t know what to do. We never fought about anything and she kept telling me that I deserve better. She seemed really upset about the breakup but now seems super happy and posts all the time.
If your ex has a mental disorder like depression, bipolar disorder, IED, NPD, or the like, the most loving thing you can do is to give each other space while he/she gets help. Encourage your ex to seek treatment because this is something only a therapist specializing on this can handle, even this is outside of my scope. But I can help you how to handle things on YOUR end as you go through this difficult ordeal. I know it can be incredibly tough knowing you’ve given it your best shot, yet your partner still fails to appreciate it or is breaking up despite it being a good relationship. Anyway it's a bad idea to be friends with an ex especially knowing they have a mental health condition. In the end, they will drain you and leave you with lots of scars that would take years of therapy. Consider signing up for my coaching program so I can help assess your situation clearly, look at all the other factors at play and see things you might have missed, then guide you accordingly on a regular, ongoing basis at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching
Hi Brad! My boyfriend broke up with me a week ago and i begged him for a couple of days and have been in total no contact for 2 days now. Is the no contact plan still going to work??
This vid should hopefully help you see things clearly about the importance of the "no contact" rule as well as the common challenges and how to overcome them: ruclips.net/video/WVB0_l60SpM/видео.html Feel free to check out my other vids as well, especially this which should give you an idea on how to go about this: ruclips.net/video/7JtmVbDkblw/видео.html For a complete, step-by-step procedure though, consider getting my Ex Factor Guide at www.breakupbrad.com Good luck!
Hey Brad I was wondering if short term relationships (we were together for 7-8 months) are less likely to get back tgt? Since it was short, maybe my ex simply didn’t feel a connection as much as I did. Do you have some success stories of short-term relationships getting back tgt?
Short background story, he suddenly broke up a week ago (I really didn’t see it coming) because he said he needed space. He wants to focus on his hobby and job and doesn’t know what he wants for his future. I didn’t beg him, argued or anything like that. However, I did reached out to him after that to ask him if he wanted to find a solution/discuss about the breakup, and he clearly told that he doesn’t wanna get back tgt right now. Once again, I didn’t beg and just kept it like that. I’m meeting new people, focusing on me and my new goals, doing the right things. But sometimes I do wonder if our relationship was too short to even have a slight chance of recovering.
Relationships that last longer have more chance but this is affected by a ton of factors. Depending on what really cut the relationship short, it may be time to consider moving on from this. But don't rush. Always take the time to give each other space first, all right? Do a minimum of 3 weeks of "no contact" and see if you still want your ex and if your ex is receptive to contact AFTER that period. Watch this: ruclips.net/video/zw0ChuXCEmw/видео.html
@@BradBrowning thank you!!!
My ex broke up with me last night so now we're in stage 1 so I saved this video so I can watch stage 2 in September
Thank you brad I'll edit my comment in a month to tell the results
Good luck!
well what went down?
I kept fucking up and now I restarted it so now I haven't talked to her in 12 days
Hi Brad, thank you for your video. I have a question though, what do you think about sending pictures (by whatsapp) for the second phase? Like either old pictures to remind him of nice memories, or some pics that I found that didn't even know they existed. And what about sending pictures of myself? Do you think it would be a good idea? Thank you so much in advance.
Yes, but don't make it a habit. So send a picture and then say something playful about it. Good luck!
Hi Brad, so I'm watching lots of videos and listening at work. Day 4 since serious breakup. Not the 1st call off. Relationship started 1 month very serious intense. Toxic ex wife intervened. Crossing boundaries stayed and entered my house still selling with kids separately. 1st time was incident with a previous friend living situations.
I was honest but she doesn't want that in her life. I took quick action both times but never fully recovered from the 1st. The second was the end.
There's one more thing but can not share that here.
My solution was get ex to begin boundary. And exit my life day to day. Having struggled.
Any input?
Travis
Yes, set some boundaries. An ex can't intervene unless you allow her to. Hi there! Although I'd like to offer more tips, there's simply too many elements to your situation that makes this too complex for me to properly respond here, including your history with the ex… please consider signing up for coaching if you want to talk at length about your situation: www.breakupbrad.com/coaching
Hey Brad..
My 1 year and 5 month relationship bf decided to separate our ways, and the reason is he said that his family is not in favor of our relationship, ( but I doubt this as an excuse of him trying to leave me) he was the one, who always wanted me to talk to his mom on call, or want me to visit his place to visit his FAM and now out of sudden in may last week of 22, during my final exam days, he started behaving weird and so I found out about this, he was all set to leave me after my exam gets over, of course I did love him so much, was so damn loyal, always mention him in prayer, had lots of godly plan for us, but seeing everything breaking in front of my eyes it really pain me🤧😭, may n June month had been on n off, after 8 days of complete no contact, he call up out of sudden a day ahead of his birthday in July 8, and me being very sensitive person couldn't control my emotions and I cried again, I wish him advance for his birthday on the day ahead he call, and I decided to completely vanished from his life and I decided to go on NC, and also he told me not to blame myself, he also said that m the best ever gift and blessing that life could ever give him, he also said sorry for letting me go through this, he said he will never regret for meeting me though maybe for a short period
All he wish is happiness, success and love for me , he also mention that his love for me will always carry on no matter what journey or destiny we have, he wish for me to get heal soon..
This is what he said and I just left seen..
What do u think is there any chance of him coming back to me 🤧
I say generally it's still fair game unless you see most if not all the signs that your ex is over you. Here's the vid: ruclips.net/video/ZyJRphwDca4/видео.html and especially if those signs prevail over a prolonged period of time. If you're asking about your chances, I really wish I could give you a direct yes or no. However, as it is, each situation is unique, so I suggest you take the free quiz as it hits on the critical elements that will determine your chances depending on your answers. In other words, my quiz can give you a more accurate answer than I can since as you may have noticed, there are various factors at play here which needs to be looked at as well as your own actions after the breakup. Here's the link: www.breakupbrad.com/quiz Best of luck!
So today is my DAY 1 of no contact , you really have been a good support whenever I sat alone in the corner and cried missing her so much. but yes it's time I become the best version of myself. will get back to this video after completing my no contact !
Good good! Give all the love you have/had to your ex back to yourself first.
@@BradBrowning it's DAY 14 tomorrow, I feel bad about myself now after I begged and pleaded to her and even begged her guy friend (now her boyfriend). these two weeks have been hard for me, without stalking her or knowing if she doing fine or not. I have gone into complete radio silence. I wanted to ask if I have begged or pleaded should I be in no contact for 30 days or more than that.
@@BradBrowning DAY 15, my ex unblocked me in all social media accounts. this no contact is changing everything I knew about myself
Its been 48 days since the breakup, and 27 days since the no contact, my ex is reaching out to me for some help or in a way to talk to me. But also she blocks me without any reason, just cos the other guy is telling her to do. So I am doing radio silence and she is reaching to my mutual friend telling that she feels bad of hurting me and misses me.
Important question:
I mafe a huge mistake by breaking no contact on the 3rd day speaking to all her friends...
She was PISSED AF and blocked me everyehere....
What do I do? I still have one way of communication open but I'm afraid she'll block me there too
Hey Brad, my wife and I split up following 22 years a month and a half ago. I became a workaholic, and stopped giving of myself to her, my life with work and stress created a barrier between us over the course of a few years. I became lazy, controlling not abusive but a real hard ass and as a result the relationship broke down and the relationship with my 3 children suffered.she finally had enough of my baseless accusations and the garbage I had created over the past few years and ended the relationship. The breakup for me was shock therapy, it opened my eyes and forced me to go through an emotional awakening, and forced me to realise what I had done, who I had become and how far I had allowed this to go. I went through everything you would expect, thoughts of suicide, depression, heart break denial I'd go to work and just break down crying out of guilt, and heart ache, it was like going through levels of guilt. I hit rock bottom and at that point found self motivation on you tube, it was like another awakening and slowly I started to build, to work on myself, to drive out the anger, the self hate and my focus shifted to rebuilding with my children. My wife denied everything but basic contact over the last 6 weeks. I signed up to do a course in depression and suicide prevention hoping to find a rewarding career. Over the last 6 weeks, I've grown, I've changed I'm moving forward with the love of my kids, when I relapse into the anger I take time out and listen to self motivation vids in order to refocus and recentre myself, it's been a hard and on going fight to rebuild myself from the angry person I became but my focus is on my children and reconnecting with my wife we have unknowingly gone through the period of no contact I made all the mistakes you would expect I begged, I pleaded asked why I did it all but then I realised I was wrong in my behaviour so I backed right off she has told me she is angry and hurt but after 6/7 weeks apart she has agreed to give this one more chance. We are separated in everything but the agreement to try again. I truly and deeply love her, she is the love of my life and the mother of my children but she is hurt and angry by everything I've done, by the man I allowed myself to become by my failures to give of my true self I'm at a standstill and am soul-searching as to how to move forward in this.
Time is your ally here, so try to get back to yourself and get yourself together before even trying to fix your relationship. However, I do suggest you heed my advice from this vid, first and foremost: ruclips.net/video/jikW4YYC9yo/видео.html and from my other vid here: ruclips.net/video/PN-07kAtIjw/видео.html but also make sure you aren't being defensive or deflecting the blame because that's as annoying as ever. It may help to apply the tips here first: ruclips.net/video/qnE192fUKxI/видео.html
Remember to be patient and let things play out first. Let time do its job since it's your biggest ally at this point. Good luck!
@@BradBrowning thank you Brad your advice was spot on me and my wife are together again and going away for some time to reconnect we are working on things together, thankyou so much.
Hey!!
Do only your free videos work, I am on day 7 of No-Contact, And the relationship was Long-Distance, Him and I have never met, And was wondering if instead of Meeting up in person, Would FaceTime work as an alternative to a meetup? I don’t want to risk spending my money, Weather if it works or doesn’t work, Do only your free videos work just as Good 🤔
There should be none of that happening since the breakup is still too early. As to using social media, that can only work to a certain extent before things take a stalemate because that doesn't really help in rebuilding attraction the way meeting in person does, if it ever comes to that point. Good luck!
Hello Brady
I broke up with my bf because I slept at a friends place who is a boy and decided we break up
But he told me we be friends with time we may evaluate ourselves from there
I can’t stop thinking about him texting him asking for a second chance though he said if again I bring up that conversation we shall also lose the friendship
What shout really do
Yeah, I think you have no business sleeping at a male friend's house though. But the least you could've done is inform your boyfriend about it to see what he thinks. When you're in a relationship, both partner's feelings have to be taken into consideration after all. Anyway apply the tips on this vid: ruclips.net/video/7t2fqkGVInI/видео.html
Brad, how long do rebound relationship last?
It varies in every situation, but what really matters is the intention behind why they get into a new relationship. Some feel a genuine connection with each other while others just get into it just to forget their ex. I've covered more of this topic here: ruclips.net/video/lG2shYI1h9k/видео.html and ruclips.net/video/TBtb34gy6zw/видео.html
Hey Brad thanks for the amazing videos you've been a lifeline dealing with this breakup. I've employed the no contact rule and it's been 2 weeks so far. I didn't fight the break up and agreed to be friends she ended up jumping at the chance to come to the snow with me and a mate for 3 days. I did muck up and try to get her back after a few days she was super emotional and says she still loves me but said she couldn't promise anything bla bla. We were messaging pretty much everyday for a week after the breakup before I cut contact using the I've got work to do on myself text and we were on good terms at the time. I'm struggling not to reach out do I really need to wait the full 30 days? She broke a rib skiing so it feels kinda harsh not to even check in on her.
You can express concern, but keep it very minimal as you need time to accept the breakup... so don't act like her boyfriend. A key component is to avoid small talk as much as possible, especially during the most critical stage: 30-day "no contact" rule because there's a huge chance your ex may be slowly easing herself away from you. If anything, your ex is suffering, too, even though it may not seem like it. Discussed that here: y2u.be/7KE6nb4-ndA The thing with exes, especially the one whose idea is to break the relationship, is they also struggle with the breakup and finding all means to cope...including talking to someone they're used to talking to, a.k.a you. What that leaves you, however, is unknowingly becoming their emotional sponge. So if you want this ex back, you ought to let her feel what it's like not to have you in her life first, so employ the 30-day "no contact" rule, okay? Here's how it can help you: ruclips.net/video/zw0ChuXCEmw/видео.html An exception is if your ex is trying to contact you about something really important or is sincerely asking you to get back together. Understand that you risk too much by staying in touch and you best not respond unless it’s about something important. Watch this, too: ruclips.net/video/gUBNd6pDINM/видео.html
@@BradBrowning Cheers I did sense something wasn't right so after about 2.5 weeks I just sent her a message checking up on her injury. She said she'd been struggling and in a really bad place so she was very happy to hear from me. We caught up for brunch and I told her I was proud of what she was working towards and she started crying and later said I struck a chord and she felt a bit silly doing that and apologised. I think she definitely misses me and the no contact has already worked... I'm going to attempt to catch up again and try a bit of kino to see where it leads. She bought up sex randomly in our convo (she always does that when it's on her mind so I teased her about it being a new PB taking 40 mins) and her hug at the start was very lingering. Wish me luck mate... otherwise if this fails I guess it's back to no contact!
@@shibby7379 update us did u guys get back together I’m going through the same thing except we still in contact with each other n live together as roommate
Hi Brad, my Ex of ended things with me last weekend after nearly 2 years together. For the majority, our relationship was amazing. We were each others first loves and had only just got back from a holiday together. Our families become very close and would meet up without the two of us. We broke up because over the last few months we'd lost our connection and I wasn't engaging in conversation as much as i used to. I said i'd work on things but i never actually went to the route of my issue. I'd also become slightly jealous on nights out with other people, i'd get annoyed at her for not spending time with me during the whole night. She kept on warning me but my actions never showed change, it got to a point where she said enough is enough. She said we need space and that we need to make ourselves happy before we can make each other happy. In reflection now the dust has settled, i know that my hate for my job has caused me to lose a lot of my confidence and i perhaps became a man she didn't fall in love with initially. Because i felt low, i wasn't giving her the engagement she needs, she loves deep conversations and so do i, but I stopped doing this, deep connected chats is her love language. She said that she still fancies me and cares about me but doesn't see right now how we'd make things work between each other. I probably become too needy which has pushed her away, I guess i felt like i needed her because of the point i was in my life. She also has things which are occupying her life, her parents are going through a break up, she has health anxieties, her skin isn't the best and she feels very hormonal ever since she got the implant. I now know that i don't need her but really want her as my over half in life. She's been finding this just as tough as me, she's had to take time off work and has been crying and not eating. Her parents and brother have also cried over our break up. We spoke a couple times and have both reached out since but we keep on receiving mix messages. I started no contact 2 days ago by saying that as much as i disagree with her decision, i respect it and will give her the space and time she's asked for and that i hope that with time things work out. She replied saying that she's upset still and things are raw but she stands by her decision right now that we both need time and space away from each other and that with time we will both know what we want and need. I have since deleted our pictures of Instagram and highlights. The majority and most recent pictures of me are still on her profile and she has added more pictures of us onto a different Instagram highlight. I now need to become the man that i know i am, to do this i am going to get myself a new job (something i relied on her to help me with all the time), focus on my football and the gym. I know that once I've done these goals that my attraction levels will raise significantly. I guess I lost the man she fell in love with and the man i love. Right now she probably thinks i've changed as a person but in actual fact I just need to improve myself. Let's see what space and no contact does for us. Any advice Brad?
Sorry, this is a bit too complex for me to properly respond here… please consider signing up for coaching if you want to talk at length about your situation: www.breakupbrad.com/coaching
Hi Brad, I broke up with my boyfriend of four years four months ago and I messed up the initial breakup stage by begging, pleading and fighting.
He's currently in a relationship now and we're just friends. He says we might get together in future.
Do I do the no contact stage again because I really love him and need him back.
how did it go, any news?
Hi! My ex and I had a very decent meeting up last week. He also got jealous, shared jokes, we laughed together and we had a romantic interaction…my question is that who should initiate the conversation via text? Should i wait until he texts me every time? I was very needy back then. I always texted long paragraphs and i was the first who texted first so many times. We broke up 2 months ago and we went through hot and cold times a lot. Now finally i feel like he really wants me back.
Wait for him to text first but if he doesn't, then you can initiate. Avoid long drawn out text messages though. Keep it simple.
Hey Brad! My girlfriend broke it off after 10 months because I became codependent and stopped working on myself during a very dark time in my life and I just focused on them. Her son and I got stupid close so it hurts double. She asked for space then we went no contact where we talked 3 times (exchanging of stuff, keys, and his birthday). Of course I tried to appeal to her logic that I’d change, but I never begged.
I’ve cut down my social media because she looks at all my posts/stories. I got a 72 on your quiz and I’m not sure what to do next. What should I do now?
If you do have to make some changes, then do it for yourself and never for anyone else, okay? See, making changes for the sake of someone is considered seeking validation, and that's an unattractive trait in and of itself… so it naturally won't do anything to rebuild the attraction necessary to get your ex back in the long run. On the other hand, if these are changes that you know within yourself that you need to make, then it's important to take time so be sure you aren’t rushing it because permanent, lasting changes don't happen overnight and your ex can actually see through it. Also, pain (that's why your ex dumped you) is a very good teacher and motivator not to mention a huge catalyst, so making these changes within yourself in order for the possibility to come back together stronger and better is what you can expect and you will be able to use this progress if not for your ex, then with someone new. Does that make sense? With that in mind, watch this vid to subtly show these changes to your ex: ruclips.net/video/bZ1KetALZrc/видео.html
@@BradBrowning these changes are definitely what I need/wanted to do, they’re not for her (she did know I wanted to do some of these things before I started them though) BUT this break up did help me see that I got lost in the relationship and I stopped improving on myself. I’m already feeling a lot better mentally and physically.
I just got the Ex Factor guide so hopefully it’ll get me where I need to be. Just don’t know how long to implement no contact for now and I already said everything the “clean slate” text said in person before I knew it existed when I first did no contact.
@@noirrugger How did it work out for you?did u guys get back together
Hey Brad,
My ex and I broke up mid April. After a week apart, we started to hang out, but never actually got back together. We did everything together though just like we were still a couple. We held hands, kissed, made love, talked multiple times a day. I was falling deeper in love. She was talking to a new guy. Eventually she started hanging out more and more with him. Over about a 10 day period, there were three instances in which I did what I shouldn't have. I found out about no contact. I started 40 days ago. She has contacted me 4 times, I contacted her once because I got her plate registration in the mail. She asks how I'm doing and will talk about her family and something we both like a lot. She asked if I was mad and hated her. I told her I don't hate her and to go to bed. It was late and she works early. I don't ask about the boyfriend because it's none of my business and it would hurt more than help. We were together for almost 2.5 years.
A key component is to avoid small talk as much as possible, especially during the most critical stage: 30-day "no contact" rule because there's a huge chance your ex may be slowly easing herself away from you. If anything, your ex is suffering, too, even though it may not seem like it. Discussed that here: y2u.be/7KE6nb4-ndA The thing with exes, especially the one whose idea is to break the relationship, is they also struggle with the breakup and finding all means to cope...including talking to someone they're used to talking to, a.k.a you. What that leaves you, however, is unknowingly becoming their emotional sponge. So if you want this ex back, you ought to let her feel what it's like not to have you in her life first, so employ the 30-day "no contact" rule, okay? Here's how it can help you: ruclips.net/video/zw0ChuXCEmw/видео.html An exception is if your ex is trying to contact you about something really important or is sincerely asking you to get back together. Understand that you risk too much by staying in touch and you best not respond unless it’s about something important. Watch this, too: ruclips.net/video/gUBNd6pDINM/видео.html
Brad thx big bro mane I think I spark some feelings with my ex I start a week of no contact then it work 🥺
Good. Congrats! :-)
I was in a very short term relationship of about 2.5 months.Four months ago despite her mistakes she broke up with me and after doing 21 days no contact she started giving mixed signals and after that she completely went in silent mode.Should I hope for her or it's over? She is still single and we both are in same class
I can't gauge your situation unless I know more about it, usually after a few email exchanges. But once you've already completed the full 30-day "no contact" rule and assuming you did it correctly, then the texting tips here will be a good starter: ruclips.net/video/XonMtLFo000/видео.html but make sure you tick off the checklist here first: ruclips.net/video/BAhMrmw3Sms/видео.html This means you take time focusing on the second phase and eventually the third phase when the time is right. This won’t happen overnight, of course, but it’s something you ought to continue to work on to the point where you’re gradually building attraction again. This is what my guide is for. Have you checked it out yet? It's too complicated to explain everything on here, but here's an overview of these phases and what to expect in each one: ruclips.net/video/aeGNPBdpnsI/видео.html Good luck!
Hi Brad! We just broke up after 6 years. We lived together for a year. Both of us at uni, so we are living a very stressfull life. Half a year ago our relationship started to became very flat, she had to study a lot, she was in constant stress, so we didn’t speak as much with each other during daytime. I started loosing interest in her, due to her wavering nature. I tried not to get in conflict with her because she is very stubborn, and I swept my problems under the carpet. A week ago we had a very bad argument, both of us lost control, I became agressive and pushed her under the shower, later she hit me with something in the face. I felt this whole argument was her responsibility, so I didn’t try apologize to her. I left our rent and went home to my parents, so we didnt speak for a whole week. Yesterday she called me to take my stuffs away and forget each other. I met her at our rent, we both apologized to each other, but we broke up because we bring out the worst in each other and she said she doesn’t want to solve this and this is the best we can do. Funny, but after this, we had the best conversations in a while. The farewell was hard,she said she loves me, we gave each other a hug and we didn’t want to let each other go.
I know we did terrible things that shouldn’t happen in a healthy relationship, but i don’t want to lose her. Im doing no contact, but I’ll have to meet her when im going to get my stuffs away from the rent. Any advice Brad? Thank you for your answer.
Looks like things got really heated between you two. Definitely give each other time and space and stop forcing things. Try to have self discipline and remember, love should never be forced. Otherwise it becomes an obsession, so be very careful of going that route. If your ex dumped you and showed you he/she doesn't want to be in your life at the moment, you ought to respect that, okay? For most dumpees that is the case. It doesn't mean that will be the case forever but at the moment, it surely is, so respect your ex's need for space and have some self discipline. Focus on yourself instead. Okay? This vid is for you: ruclips.net/video/WVB0_l60SpM/видео.html
Hi Brad,
My girlfriend gave me breakup. In the beginning, I did try to convince with sorry, begging,etc. I finally accepted the breakup and let her go. I told her with right state of mind that I accept it. It has been some days. I want to do no contact to make her feel if she misses me and reconsider. I do not want to make this obvious also. She sends short messages or likes my posts, etc. What is the best way to do this? I do not want to ignore messages, I give short replies without asking any questions in back. Is it good to ignore messages? She does value me and is grateful for the time we were together. Right now, the relationship is too much for her. I truly belive in no contact and also wants to heal myself in that period. Please help.
We broke up many times and he came back every time after no contact..this time when we had an argument i brought up the times when he came back but he told me that it will not happen again and he won't come back this time... Will it work this time? Brad?
Fighting is often unavoidable, but when it becomes too much, it’s time to nip the problem in the bud if you still can. So it's either that or you go on a break and discuss the logistics as well as how it should go and how long it should be. What were you two fighting or arguing about? It's best to consider the relationship overall first, so watch this: ruclips.net/video/XuJFf5Kch5o/видео.html Anyways it's best to give it time because all this arguing had taken a toll in your relationship. This may help: ruclips.net/video/BBEhaY3gLIw/видео.html Perhaps you've both argued more than you had a good time with each other? It could also be you're too incompatible or stubborn to meet each other halfway. If the negatives outweigh the positives in the relationship, that's when an imbalance happens and the relationship will keel over wherein one or both people will likely abandon ship, as the case with your ex. It's time to reset things. Start with the 30-day "no contact" rule to get your ex into a psychological neutral. Here's how it can help you: y2u.be/zw0ChuXCEmw
@@BradBrowning the arguments were always started by me and i regret it now...he started avoiding me so whenever I ask he's always like don't bring up that topic again and again and i used to get terrified by his careless responses because I was getting hurt and he didn't understand.he spoke to me only when he was interested... maybe it was my fault that i didn't give him any space.. gradually he lost interest in me I guess he lost it because of me starting these arguments again and again.. !!
What am I supposed to do if it's been 2+ months since the breakup (so the NC rule has also been used) but she has just gone to Australia for an exchange program for 3+ months? Which is like... on the other site of the planet?
You have to wait till she gets back. While she’s gone, use that time to turn into the best version of yourself so that when she returns, she’s like WOW 🤩 !!
You can contact to test the waters. Watch my other vids for texting tips on how to go about this. Otherwise, enjoy your single life and wait til she's physically where you're at to start texting. Let her enjoy life without you while you do the same. Good luck!
So when should the no contact period start? When we broke up or the last text I sent to her?
It starts when there's a period of zero contact between you and your ex in any way, shape or form, ideally should be done right after the breakup.
hey brad , my GF BK with me 5 days ago and I did everything but she is so stuborn and avoidant and few times she send me hot and cold massage . I does not able to understand what's happened because that's very quick and every relation has a small problems and I does not think what she did it right. what should I do ? because she acting so weird and we had a 5 years of relation so it's too hard to see him like that . should I stop chasing him ?
Sorry to hear that. Your ex may not be avoidant but really just needs her space at the moment. Also that kind of confusing behaviour coming from your ex is somewhat expected after a fresh/recent breakup. That's why you ought to give it enough time where there's totally no contact between you and your ex for at least 30 days. A wide array of different emotions coming from an ex is somewhat expected when a breakup is still fresh and this includes the likelihood of your ex giving you mixed or weird signals. Watch this: y2u.be/siApAVtx8zE This is why I tell people to cut off contact for at least a month first and NOT deal with this ex. You both need to clear your minds first, all right? A breakup hurts both people in it regardless of who has done the breaking up. This is something I've discussed here, so watch it to learn a few tips to help you on how to go about it: ruclips.net/video/1kJ1ybuFIHE/видео.html
Hey Brad, I've an issue. Basically 10 years, lots of ups and downs (some my own issues some hers). We have 2 kids, 7 and 3, and we broke up 2 weeks ago on my birthday but honestly it started 2 months ago though I was only able to find accommodation for myself 2 weeks ago so I moved out. Found not she was messaging her ex of 10 years ago.
Didn't take that well. So yeah I've been a needy weepy sensitive arse. I have the logical arguments for not being it but the feels kick in and weepy needy bugger comes out again. My issue is 2 fold. I believe she's in a rebound with this other guy and I can't really do no contact as we have kids.
I have tried to self improve. Some days easier than others but that's the way of it and I believe I've grown relatively well in that time. How do you do no contact when you HAVE to contact them about kids stuff? And how do you deal with the issues of jealousy and panic when you think of the rebound.
And anyone reading what helped when you guys got the "oh no she's forgetting about me" panic mode?
You can't control the rebound or who she's with or who she chooses, so try as much to let that go. It's going to be tougher than usual with kid/s involved and/or usually other responsibilities still tied to your ex, but it's best you do limited contact or what I call the dynamic "no contact" rule. Prepare for an uphill battle but if you play your cards right and depending on the extent of damage done, it can actually still be salvaged. Try to prevent things from getting even more awkward than it has to be by applying the tips here as much as possible: ruclips.net/video/GTjEAGJWTuA/видео.html AND ruclips.net/video/dDZrnNh8LOg/видео.html
@@BradBrowning thanks they are very helpful videos, do you have any videos that focus on the panic induced moments of no contact? Like I mentioned above I believe she is in a rebound (left two weeks ago and my kids have met him) and how to control your general mental state when everything's crashing down.
After 27 days of no contact I begged her to come back with me. By watching your video I came to know that I did a mistake. What to do now Brad?
Yes, that was totally the wrong approach and oftentimes invalidates the no contact rule. You ought to review this first: ruclips.net/video/L0hxYTCJ2hU/видео.html and in fact, apply the tips here too instead of taking the shortcut: ruclips.net/video/1kJ1ybuFIHE/видео.html In the future, if you're still not sure about what you're doing, I really suggest you sign up for my coaching program so I can assess your situation properly and guide you accordingly at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching
Hey Brad! I’ve been watching your videos since my boyfriend of 8 months dumped me 3 weeks ago. I cried and pleaded to try to save the relationship and even talked down about myself because I’m 36 years old and my dating life is over. I’m still extremely hurt, cry everyday, and feel I’m not worth a penny. He dumped me because he said he doesn’t see a future with me after 8 months of dating. He complained that I’m too “complacent” with my career aka mediocre on his eyes, take too long to reply text messages and never initiate them, and the fact that I’m almost 36 years old and he wants kids in 5 years when I’ll be over 40 years old. And the other reason was that we live two hours away from each other. I had no problem taking turns, but it seems it was an issue for him. My self esteem is shattered. I’m a retail store manager making a pretty decent salary, have zero baggage, and no debt besides my mortgage and car is almost paid off. He’s a lawyer, got a new high paying job in march in a large firm making 6 figures. We used to make the same before this new job. I feel he dumped me because he got a major salary increase and now he can go and get a younger and “better” girlfriend. I started no contact 2 weeks ago, he tried to reach out the first week 3 times, zero times the second week. I just entered week 3 and hasn’t reached out to me. Am I doing this right? I miss him so much, we spent so much quality time together and don’t see myself with anybody else. I saw myself marrying him one day.
He's pretty much given you the truth, it seems. Take some time to see if you really wanna to try again with him as there seems to be so much disrespect there. Anyway yes, unless your situation falls under one or more of the scenarios here: ruclips.net/video/ek_4wpkV66c/видео.html AND ruclips.net/video/W7iC-gHmZ2A/видео.html it's best you ignore contact from your ex. If your ex continues to reach out to you during the no contact stage, however, then this really depends on the frequency and nature of the contact from your ex and whether or not you've reached the phase where you're supposed to be talking again. The only exception is if your ex asks for you back and is sincere about it. If your ex continually messages you, then it’s important to put your ex’s messages into context, more so if this happened during the “no contact” phase. Is your ex trying to contact you about something really important, like an emergency, unpaid bills, or something equally urgent? These are reasons to respond, including messages where they get angry due to your lack of response. Discussed that in full detail here: ruclips.net/video/GTjEAGJWTuA/видео.html So if your ex is really just texting some useless random stuff and/or asses their power over you, then you can just ignore and continue on with the 30-day "no contact" rule. Use your discretion. Watch and follow the tips here: ruclips.net/video/bgOG9s1fac8/видео.html
@@BradBrowning thank you for your reply. He hasn’t contact me after the first week of no contact. It’s been 2 weeks since he texted me for the last time and 3 weeks since we last interacted. This is beyond painful. I haven’t broke the no contact period, I trust the process but afraid he’ll forget about me completely during this time.
Hey brade .....after 4 months of no contact i msged him and we are talking right now he said sorry to me for hurting me and he feels guilty then he asked me for help i said yes for that .....he was talking veery normally but idk after some days he ignored my msgs but when i msg him about new topic he responded very well on it ....but yesterday he send me some girls pics and said they are hot and blah blah .... 🙄🙄🙄What he is trying to do I don't understand plz tell me ...
You're on the right track, assuming you've done the first phase (30-day "no contact" rule) correctly and basically had set the stage for this second part. Be sure to check out my other videos for more tips on how to go about this, especially this: y2u.be/gUBNd6pDINM Since you've only recently reconnected, then don't expect your ex to warm up easily. Getting an ex back is a process. Here's a short infograph to guide you in each process: ruclips.net/video/7JtmVbDkblw/видео.html Look out for the signs that your ex has moved on, though: y2u.be/TnZzeEIPEik But evaluate things, too. Are you sure you're not trying to rush it? Setting a deadline is a good way to fail when it comes to exes, so I highly discourage it. What steps have you taken to get your ex back? It's time to re-assess those and see what's working versus what's not working. Sometimes, getting an ex back is like trying to fit a square into a circle, but oftentimes, chances are you're letting emotion dictate you and therefore end up making the wrong choices. Have you checked out my guide yet? It’s ultimately up to you to act (or not act, depending on which phase you’re in) on getting your ex back, but it helps if you read it to ensure that you’re on the right track. Check it out at www.breakupbrad.com
I walked out on my ex 8 years ago. At the time I didn't care, but recently it finely hit me, and I realized what a mistake I made. I contacted her a year ago, and apologized to her for not trying harder to hold our relationship together. She accepted my apology, but a few days later I tried talking to her further, and she had told me, she moved on and wished me luck. Its strange she would say that, when she still had pictures of me on her FB. I don't know what my chances are at making this work again, 8 years is a really long time, but neither one of us have dated anyone else in that time. Is is still possible to get her back?
8 years is a long time... and having your picture still up on her profile doesn't really translate to your ex pining for you. Watch this first to help set your expectations: y2u.be/82uUJ7kPXhE and look out for the signs that your ex has moved on: y2u.be/TnZzeEIPEik If you see only one or zero signs, then this vid is for you: ruclips.net/video/9LC1ewgBkIQ/видео.html If the conditions are right, then make sure you tick off the checklist here as well: y2u.be/BAhMrmw3Sms It's important to rebuild the attraction naturally so your ex will be amenable to working things out, eventually. This is what my guide is for but you can also learn the basic principles of my 3R system here and watch the vid til' the end so you don't end up missing the important points: y2u.be/aeGNPBdpnsI and the golden rules here: y2u.be/1kJ1ybuFIHE
@@BradBrowning thank you for the advice and the links.
also, some coaches suggest to not reach out to exes until a good amount of time like 3 months. and wait for them to reach out. your opinions on that ? ( thank you for everything you do, grateful) !!!!
Here are my thoughts on that: ruclips.net/video/7JtmVbDkblw/видео.html but for a more in-depth explanation, watch the full-length video presentation at www.breakupbrad.com
Hey Brad, I want to talk to you personally?
Please how can I talk to you ?please answer
Sorry, I don't do phone, live or in-person coaching for reasons I've given here: ruclips.net/video/RjF4u2PJUJQ/видео.html but if you're up for a private one-on-one email coaching, you can sign up using the link here: www.breakupbrad.com/coaching
@@BradBrowning sorry to inform, it's a bit to late, I have broke with my gf, so everything is over and it's useless to talk to you and waste your time..... Thanks for your response ☺
Hey Brad , I was in a ldr for last 4 years and now after breakup, the only question i have is that how do i execute this plan when i can't even meet her in person ,atleast not more than once a year , anyway I've started the 30days no contact and I'm counting on this strategy completely
The distance will always be a major culprit. Is this long distance scenario temporary? Because if it isn't, then may be as good as over. Watch/review and apply the pointers here first: ruclips.net/video/GQY4N04uvtA/видео.html AND ruclips.net/video/5nfWRJRrnAs/видео.html However, if you believe your situation is unique and there may still be a chance between you two, then let's take a look at your situation in-depth via my one-on-one coaching session at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching
Brad, My girlfriend broke up with me for another guy after 2 yr relationship. I begged and pleaded a lot. I even criticized her new boyfriend badly. She still need me as a friend. But, I want her to love me again.Plz help me🙏
Sorry, man, but chances are your girl has been at least emotionally cheating on you. Discussed that in depth here: y2u.be/7KE6nb4-ndA There's no easy way to say this but the answer is is to move on, especially if your ex doesn't seem to be regretting their actions and asking to get back together. Most of the time, a lot of people would move on, but a few would still fight for the relationship, so this all depends which side you're on and what your views are. But take into consideration about what I’ve mentioned here, too: ruclips.net/video/m27TLeyUmwg/видео.html There is no right or wrong answer here because it is your relationship and it's personal to you. Make sense? Anyway men and women cheat for different reasons, but if you think your ex is worth it and if there's been a genuine connection between you two before the cheating happened, then try to see the roles that you BOTH played that led to all this mess and see once and for all if it can be resolved or not, okay? Whatever the case, it's important you forgive yourself because no one's perfect, and forgive your ex too. Really take your time before deciding though and be sure not to make any hasty decisions from an emotional place but never force things with her if you can see she no longer wants to try. Take care!
Hi Brad. Am doing no contact for 60 days. Just feel like 30 days is not really enough. Am I staying in no contact too long.
Not really. Average time is 30 days but can go anywhere from 4 to 6 weeks in usual cases. If there's been some endless begging and/or refusing to cut off contact on your end, however, I usually suggest to give it more time, around 2 months or even more. Cheating instances are different if you've cheated, could be longer or shorter depending on how your ex reacts. Do take note that in some instances where the dumpee just couldn't take the hint and continually bugs their ex for months, there comes a time where the ex reaches a "breaking point" and confirms it's the right decision to break up and becomes hellbent in moving on from you. So the bottom line is the "no contact" rule is best applied when the breakup is still fresh. Discussed the importance of silence here: ruclips.net/video/zw0ChuXCEmw/видео.html Also don't forget to watch my other vids so you'll know what to do after the "no contact" phase, especially if you're not getting my Ex Factor Guide. Good luck!
Hey brad, my wife and I split about two weeks ago and at first I tried to be calm and reasonable. (Three year relationship) She said she just needed some space because she was overwhelmed with life in general, a lot his been going on with her family, she wasn’t getting what she wanted out of the relationship but was still optimistic about being with me again. She stated she was emotionally exhausted feeling like she was living for someone else and she is just not trying to have a relationship right now. She made it clear that she still wanted me in her life, so we stayed talking casually for a week roughly and hung out once. While we hung out we talked about other things we’d like to do in terms of hanging out again. Two days after we hung out I asked her to go to the beach this weekend and she asked if we could do it next week. I agreed and she said “ sounds good to me” since then I have initiated no-contact. It’s been three days I have no plans on reaching out. I’m truly working on myself because I am genuinely disappointed with the way I’ve treated myself these last couple of years. I don’t even plan on confirming plans for the beach if she truly wants to she could reach out, and I guess that’s my only conflict should I even meet up with her so soon? At that point it will have 12 days of NC and 14 of not seeing each other. A major issue I have is I always preached communication but never truly listened which is the most important part. I have come to that realization in this short time and I feel like I will continue to notice more tendencies and behaviors that were just exhausting for a partner. So my question is do I meet up with her if she reaches out in regards to the beach day I proposed, or should I follow up on it myself if she doesn’t reach out by the day prior?
It's rare for the no contact rule to be applicable if you're married to each other. You can hang out, yes, but it's important not to dismiss the real reason/s why there's this disconnect in the first place. If you need me to take a look at your situation, consider signing up for my Mend the Marriage coaching program at www.marriageguy.com/coaching
Brad!!!! I’ve been in the no contact zone for almost two weeks and my ex messaged me “hey how are you?” today. I’m unsure what to say or if I should say anything. Please help
That's what I call the "check-in" text and your ex is somewhat expected to send one or more of these sooner or later and I've got just the vid for that. Discussed that in one of the vids, including how to handle that kind of message, here: ruclips.net/video/VMAHVJ6tvSM/видео.html
Hello!
My situation is very complicated and I cannot use mehtods that you and everyone else is telling. Can we have a 1 on 1 chat. Please you can save my life.
Sure! Sign up for my one-on-one private email coaching at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching
What if we never dated to start with?
We were best friends, and the other started dating someone before we could meet each other and be able to confess face to face.
I made every mistake you warn in other videos. Confessed, cried, begged, got angry and jealous... everything seemed to unite them even more.
Now we are ok. Put our mistakes in the past, back to be friends again and get along well. Yet, it hurts...
I started applying no contact with reltively succesful outcome.
We are best friends, we have so much more in common than his boyfriend, and your advice is helping indeed to make me miss me and reach and share more.
Yet.. they have been dating for a year, and even tho we know each other for 5 years, we have never seen each other in person.
Is there really a chance or should I use no contact to definitely end my feelings?
Sorry to hear that. I know it's tough but it looks like the odds are working against you as he has moved on to someone else and you haven't met in person yet. Let this one go and be open to new opportunities coming your way as your connection with him doesn't seem to be coming together. I wish I had better news, but consider moving on for good from this, okay? Take care!
Hey Brad,really nice video,full of good advices.
I have one question..
I was with my ex for 9 years,she dumped me and I tried NO CONTACT and she called me after 5 days,we had a nice talk but I was rushing in and we get in a fight...
Now Im using again no contact,it had been 15 days..can no contact use like this?
Thanks,best wishes
You need time to heal and accept what happened first, so give each other space. Once you've accepted, you really won't feel the need to fight her decision. Anyway unless your situation falls under one or more of the scenarios here: ruclips.net/video/ek_4wpkV66c/видео.html AND ruclips.net/video/W7iC-gHmZ2A/видео.html it's best you ignore contact from your ex. If your ex continues to reach out to you during the no contact stage, however, then this really depends on the frequency and nature of the contact from your ex and whether or not you've reached the phase where you're supposed to be talking again. The only exception is if your ex asks for you back and is sincere about it. If your ex continually messages you, then it’s important to put your ex’s messages into context, more so if this happened during the “no contact” phase. Is your ex trying to contact you about something really important, like an emergency, unpaid bills, or something equally urgent? These are reasons to respond, including messages where they get angry due to your lack of response. Discussed that in full detail here: ruclips.net/video/GTjEAGJWTuA/видео.html So if your ex is really just texting some useless random stuff and/or asses their power over you, then you can just ignore and continue on with the 30-day "no contact" rule. Use your discretion. Watch and follow the tips here: ruclips.net/video/bgOG9s1fac8/видео.html
Hey Brad!
Great video as always, you've always gave honest great breakup advice that works and i have been following you on you tube for a while now,
Just a quick question below,
Is re-attracting your ex like you've just met them the ex for the very first time and you are restarting the whole dating process of learning about them from scratch?
Thank you
Hey, thanks for the support, David. Yes, it's in a nutshell starting from scratch because you'd be rebuilding a new relationship with the ex with hopefully all the lessons learned and you individually become better versions of yourselves as a result of the death of the old relationship. Does that makes sense? If you need more help, sign up for my coaching program. Best of luck!
@@BradBrowning makes perfect sense Brad!
Thank you,
Kind regards,
David
Hey Brad! I had breakup 3 months ago and In this stage I begged and plead many time and I fee like I had lost her I just started watching your video rn at starting she was saying that she will come back after some years and now after begging and pleading for months even I did try to suicide on that phase when we are talking and i Was putting mental pressure on her she told me that she is having crush on someone and it kills me is there any chance of getting back together??please help me Brad I really need you this time suggest me something!!
You ought to learn to give her space first. Unfortunately if you've begged for months on end, then I'm really sorry, but your window of opportunity may have already passed. Discussed that here: ruclips.net/video/e3l5KWEpIpw/видео.html and especially if you see the signs here: y2u.be/k1myDIp0gSc
My ex is now dating someone for over a month and it’s been 4 years since our breakup. I was very clingy towards him after our breakup that now according to his friends he doesn’t want to speak to me, nor does he even talk about me anymore.. I still love him and I want to know what my odds are of getting back together with him. I got a 68% before on your quiz but now I feel like my odds have changed.
Next week on Monday his planning to tell all of his friends that his dating someone new...
Also at the moment I’m continuing my reseted no contact and I want to know if I’m friends with his friends and I’m forced to sit there at lunch while he’s there does this break no contact? Because we don’t really talk to each other during lunch
Watch this first to help set your expectations: y2u.be/82uUJ7kPXhE and look out for the signs that your ex has moved on: y2u.be/TnZzeEIPEik If you see only one or zero signs, then this vid is for you: ruclips.net/video/9LC1ewgBkIQ/видео.html If the conditions are right, then make sure you tick off the checklist here as well: y2u.be/BAhMrmw3Sms It's important to rebuild the attraction naturally so your ex will be amenable to working things out, eventually. This is what my guide is for but you can also learn the basic principles of my 3R system here and watch the vid til' the end so you don't end up missing the important points: y2u.be/aeGNPBdpnsI and the golden rules here: y2u.be/1kJ1ybuFIHE
hey brad! the end of the no contact stage is on my ex's birthday actually. do i send him a happy birthday text? if so what can i say after that to rekindle?
Hi Brad what if my ex is my coworker? May I humbly ask you to have a video about this?
I already did. :-) Do limited contact instead and keep any limited conversation you have strictly work-related. You've got a long way to go but for starters, you can follow the tips here to prevent things from getting even more awkward than it has to be: ruclips.net/video/GTjEAGJWTuA/видео.html AND ruclips.net/video/dDZrnNh8LOg/видео.html
@@BradBrowning thank you 💗
Hi Brad, after 2 days of no contact, she sent me message as u mentioned,,, "hey r u okay, is ur hand okay" because my hand got hurted 4 days ago... should i reply shortly ??
Yeah, a quick short response will do, then go back to the no contact rule until you complete the 30-day mark.
Hey Brad! Me and my date broke off after 4 months of being together, and she claims she couldn't bare the fact that she could hurt me in the future and don't see a future with me since our lifestyles and the way we think is different. Her feelings stayed stagnant for the most part and infact she started pushing me away like cold replies and slow replies. I was emotional and kept on asking her to reconsider and she told me why I would want to ruin even my friendship with her. I don't even know what she is currently thinking or whether or not she misses me or not furthermore, she wants us to stay as friends as she finds that there's no point in trying again with me if she's not ready to commit or even have any romantic feelings for me. Yes she said she enjoyed the time spent together with me and those memories but does no contact really work on this case? I told her I couldn't see us as friends and told her that I'm going to give us some distance that's where I started my no contact.
Don't do it, man. She's lost attraction for you and it's a terrible idea to be friends with her. You ought to cut off contact for at least 30 days first. Silence is key and here's why: ruclips.net/video/zw0ChuXCEmw/видео.html If you continue being friends right away, the boundaries won't be clear and you're technically both free to date other people. Wouldn't it be pure torture if your ex dates a rebound in front of you because you're only "friends" now, don't you think? So it’s not a good idea, especially if you want this ex back. Watch these two videos so you’ll know why being friends won’t lead you anywhere you wanna be with your ex and how to get out of this trap, respectively at ruclips.net/video/pv_cjzhVKAY/видео.html and ruclips.net/video/sS4V4IOcOgs/видео.html but read my Ex Factor Guide since that’s much more detailed and so you'll know how to go about it, what to do after each phase (there are three phases in total), including what to say, do or not do, along with bonus materials for texting. Good luck!
Hey Brad
I recently had my break up from a 13 year long relationship. My ex is currently in a relationship for like 3 weeks with a guy who was like a brother to her few months back. I have been watching your videos.
I am hopeful that your advice works.
Sorry, man, but chances are your girl has been at least emotionally cheating on you but give it time and space since your history together with your ex was pretty extensive. Discussed that in depth here: y2u.be/7KE6nb4-ndA There's no easy way to say this but the answer is is to move on, especially if your ex doesn't seem to be regretting their actions and asking to get back together. Most of the time, a lot of people would move on, but a few would still fight for the relationship, so this all depends which side you're on and what your views are. But take into consideration about what I’ve mentioned here, too: ruclips.net/video/m27TLeyUmwg/видео.html There is no right or wrong answer here because it is your relationship and it's personal to you. Make sense? Anyway men and women cheat for different reasons, but if you think your ex is worth it and if there's been a genuine connection between you two before the cheating happened, then try to see the roles that you BOTH played that led to all this mess and see once and for all if it can be resolved or not, okay? Whatever the case, it's important you forgive yourself because no one's perfect, and forgive your ex too. Really take your time before deciding though and be sure not to make any hasty decisions from an emotional place but never force things with her if you can see she no longer wants to try. Take care!
Thanks mam for the reply
I still have very high hopes.
update?? hows it going??
Hey Brad, my boyfriend broke up eith me last week and I made the mistake if begging him to come back and now he has blocked me but he said he still loves me he just doesn't feel attracted to me because of the bad decisions I make. What can I do if he wants nothing to do with me?
What if he has a girlfriend and you want him back?
Wait for a better time before interacting with your ex, however, don't wait around doing nothing. Take a leap of faith on a new path as well because you never know where life can take you, which may be better without your ex. Use this time to heal and prioritize yourself. But if it's been more than a year or so, make sure to check the signs if your ex has moved on, here: y2u.be/ZyJRphwDca4 and this should help guide you on what to do for the time being: y2u.be/hlikXIfMYN8 However, make it a point to be really productive with your time being apart. Follow the tips here to help guide you further: y2u.be/gUBNd6pDINM AND ruclips.net/video/WVFZVqFDFV4/видео.html now when the time comes where your ex is free or is constantly contacting you, check out my other videos here in RUclips to help you with a lot of texting tips as well as when to give up trying. Good luck!
Hey Brad! I have been dating this guy for months, and suddenly he brought up that he doesn't want to continue to be with me anymore. At first, I tried to talk to him in person and agreed to take space. Then after about a month, I messaged him just to check on him, but he told me sorry he really don't want to be with me, or work things out with me. My mistake I even plead and begged for him to stay. He said that, he was happy those times I gave him space, he suddenly felt sad the time I reached out. He was stress-free lately and doesn't want to stress himself by meeting up with me or even call.
I still want to come back with him and to start over. Please help. Thank you in advance
Hi there! At this point, it's becoming clear that he doesn't want to rekindle things with you. It's best you continue to give him space for 2-3 more weeks and see if he reaches out and reach out with a light message after and see if anything changes. But be prepared to move on if things remain the same by then. Whatever the case, it's important to focus on your own well-being and create happiness on your own first.
Hello Brad! Thanks for another video! I have a question, my ex broke up with me a week ago, and I haven't talked to him since. We lived together, so some of his things are still at my house. In the day of the breakup I kindly asked if he wanted to take his things, he said he didn't want to come upstairs... Neither of us has said anything since. But I was wondering, should I say something about the stuff or should I wait until he says something? I'm kinda dreading that because it does feel so final once his stuff is gone as well.. Thank you!
You're welcome! What's the current situation though? How long has it been since the breakup? If he moved out, then just make sure you stop forcing things. Try to have self discipline and remember, love should never be forced. Otherwise it becomes an obsession, so be very careful of going that route. If your ex dumped you and showed you he doesn't want to be in your life at the moment, you ought to respect that, okay? For most dumpees that is the case. It doesn't mean that will be the case forever but at the moment, it surely is, so respect your ex's need for space and have some self discipline. Focus on yourself instead. Okay? This vid is for you: ruclips.net/video/WVB0_l60SpM/видео.html
Hi Brad!
I'm in a sticky situation right now, me and my boyfriend of 2 years just broke up and I have to move away. Which is in around 1 month until that happens. I'm planning on doing the 30 days no communication...
But I'm afraid that he won't think much of it because he broke up with me because "He wasn't ready for a relationship"
"I need my free space."
I really love him, and I'll be focusing on my studies now and myself but I'm really sad about that he says he's not ready.
Since we lived together for 1 year in a small flat.. been together for 2 years.
I'm conflicted what to do in my situation.
Sorry to hear that. Until you move away, I suggest you do limited contact with your ex in the meantime where you only discuss the essentials. Apply the tips here, too to help you out further: y2u.be/thVReUI9Vzs AND y2u.be/STL7ru4uSQk I know it's hard, but lots of folks have managed to follow the tips and succeeded. So if they can do it, then so can you! Good luck and be strong!
HELP- if my ex was crying to me only 3 weeks ago that she couldn’t sleep or eat thinking about me all day that she was suffering because we were on a break and now that I want to be with her she tells me she doesn’t love me anymore, when only 3 weeks ago she did. Will it be possible following these strategies to still get her back or the fact that she said she doesn’t love me makes it too late? Is it possible she’s just hurt and just said that out of anger but she does love me? The connection me and her have doesn’t compare to anything I’ve ever had in my life and don’t want to lose her. I’ve already made mistakes of showing up at her door crying, writing her letters and sending her gifts and I think that turned her off even more but after watching these videos I learned about the no contact rule so I will not reach out again but is it too late?
Yes, it's possible. However, the breakup meant there's been a significant loss of attraction on his end. It's important to cut off contact for at least 30 days where you put the entire focus back to yourself. Just take note of the mistake most people make here so you won't be making them: ruclips.net/video/1cBpNrDDHnw/видео.html Also don’t wait for this person to have an epiphany. If you want your ex back, then keep track of what you've been doing to see if it's productive or not. Here's a quick overview to hopefully help you out: ruclips.net/video/xgR03RcU8mw/видео.html it's best to go by the golden rules here: ruclips.net/video/1kJ1ybuFIHE/видео.html Have you checked out my guide yet? It may be time to revamp your techniques. Before anything else though, take the free quiz on my website to gauge your chances of getting your ex back. Good luck!
She’s playing games dude , messing with your head …she’s just trying to keep you from not moving on and meeting someone else…… you are her safety net if her plans don’t work out for her and she knows that you’re still a backup option
Hi Brad, I've recently broken up from a 4 year relationship for 2-3 weeks now. I've messed up the initial stages of the break up by begging and pleading, which ultimately drew her away from me even further. Although she claims she hates me, and that she doesn't want to talk to me, we somehow still engage in some conversations, even though we have unfriended/unfollowed each other in social media. Recently, I've also sent her a clean state message which is still yet to be responded with. I'm confused on what to do, should I start my no contact period? And for how long?
Redo the "no contact" rule and make sure you stick to it this time. But watch this first to help manage your expectations: ruclips.net/video/OzVymYnQFTk/видео.html Here's how you can tell you're doing the "no contact" rule properly: ruclips.net/video/f7zuXk-sVsI/видео.html It may help to make use of the clean slate template, which is a free version from a piece of my Ex Factor Guide. Watch this: ruclips.net/video/6K3xufEwEFg/видео.html The main goal is to bring your ex into an emotional neutral state by employing the 30-day “no contact” rule -- let your ex miss you and don't rush it. But in order to fully understand how this concept works, watch the free in-depth video on my website to learn some psychology techniques and understand how giving each other space for around a month can benefit you than otherwise, at www.breakupbrad.com
I have a question brad so me and my ex gf broke up lack of communication between us plus she don’t think I am manly and we haven’t been imminent in a while so how can I fix that
Sorry, this is a bit too complex for me to properly respond here… please consider signing up for coaching if you want to talk at length about your situation: www.breakupbrad.com/coaching
Hi Brad! What about if she's texting me short texts in this time,texts as ,,hello,how are you...,, should I reply or not. I'm asking because after just 1 day of non contact she just texted me
That's what I call the "check-in" text and your ex is somewhat expected to send one or more of these sooner or later and I've got just the vid for that. Discussed that in one of the vids, including how to handle that kind of message, here: ruclips.net/video/VMAHVJ6tvSM/видео.html
Hey Brad, I wanted to ask since most of those videos are about feelings between the two people but what about if it was a mutual agreement and because of outside circumstances, is there a chance?
You both agreed the breakup is for the best... so what's the sense in trying to revive it? Might be time to move on from this. Since your situation may be unique, you'd benefit by working with me one-on-one so I get to learn more about the situation and therefore be more equipped to help you out, at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching
What am i supposed to do? My boyfriend and I dated for 2 years. I have 3 kids from my previous relationship, he has none. I'm 36, he's 41.
In the beginning, everything was great. A year later, things still going great. Over the last 6 months, I started a new job, the kids baseball season came upon on...and left us with zero relationship time to do things alone. Yes we went to baseball together, and had dinner at night, but no dates, no escapes, no just us, time. He dumped me July 3rd. We have had no contact since then. Any advice?
It's too soon to be talking to each other. Try to let go of the memories of the past because he just dumped you and that's what you ought to process first. This vid should hopefully help you see things clearly about the importance of the "no contact" rule as well as the common challenges and how to overcome them: ruclips.net/video/WVB0_l60SpM/видео.html Feel free to check out my other vids as well, especially this which should give you an idea on how to go about this: ruclips.net/video/7JtmVbDkblw/видео.html For a complete, step-by-step procedure though, consider getting my Ex Factor Guide at www.breakupbrad.com Good luck!
Hey Brad,
I had breakup a month ago, the mistake was mine. I know her as a friend for 9 year, We were a relationship for 5 years. While I proposed her she said no but she would like to have me throughout her life, Our bond became stronger and she started loving me. We used to date often, share feelings. She always felt Comfortable with me. She was possessive on me and i started getting possessive on her sometimes that brought some problem between us but everything was cleared on that day itself. We had a strong intimate and romantic relationship. After 4 years she move to abroad for studies i missed her a lot and she too cried everyday in phone calls. I always convinced her, i kept her calm. After some months she was filled with lot of work and responsibilities she didn't talk to me much. And also the romantic talks started looking like a foolishness for her. I was waiting for her daily, But she didn't come. I thought she stopped prioritising me. I didn't understand she had work. I forced her. I fighted with her a lot. I showed myself pity. She asked me to give some space i said she will be back as mine. I didn't give her the time. I pressurized her. I said leave me now itself i don't want u, ur not mine like that. And started blackmailing that i going to die. Atlast i was extremely depressed about a accident, i sent the picture of that accident, She thought that its as usual a trick by me by showing myself pity. And she came to know that's true and she called me just after my message and started calling me non stop. I finally pickedup and i scoulded her that i don't need u. But she said u r speaking in anger lets just work it out tomorrow please hold on she said. But in frustration i dnt want u, u stay happy. And i cut my hand and wrote her name in blood in a paper of art of herself which i drawn. She saw that and got afraid and i tried calling her she dnt pick the whole night. Next day morning she said she never want she is afraid of me i will never change and she blocked me in all possible social media and call. Then i tried contacting by my mutual friends. She called me and said she never loved me, she never wanted me, i was around her and she was in a relationship just like a arranged marriage, she said it was her mistake to give me hope and she would never comeback. She said she will contact me after 10days. I didn't wait i had another family issue so i tried again with my mutual friend and again she called me and said she will never ever need me and she will die if she is with me, if u want me to be happy please leave me is what she said and she said wait for 10 days i will call but if i didn't, do not make someone to call me, she said and cut down the call.
She did everything for me brad. I gave everything i could. I love her a lot. We dreamnt of our life till the end. But i destroyed it in seconds. I don't know what to do about this brand. Help me get her back.
I watched all ur videos and now im following the no contact rule.
Sorry, this is a bit too complex for me to properly respond here… please consider signing up for coaching if you want to talk at length about your situation: www.breakupbrad.com/coaching
Thanks Brad for answering all the people your the best♥️, Unfortunately I cheated on my ex 4M ago I apologised in a sincere way and got blocked everywhere, and ever since she's giving me the hot and cold in her social media, did no contact for 2 months and worked on myself and she broke it 2 times every 30 days by showing me nostalgic memories and when I answer her in a nostalgic way, she don't respond at all and reblocked me, but after 5 days from the last block she unblocked me to say "I hate you" I didn't answer, reblocked me again what should I do?
Give it time but learn to discern whether she can forgive you or not. Some folks just can't get past it and if that's the situation you're on, it may be time to consider moving on for good. Otherwise, give it time after giving your most sincere apology. Others take a short amount of time to forgive while others take almost forever to do so. So again, learn to discern. Good luck!
@@BradBrowning Thank you Brad I really Appreciate it ♥️
Hi Brad, if this possible to win back my ex if he broke up with me 2 times? We've been with eachother few years ago, had a 2 years break, then we've been together for 2 years and now he broke up saying that he doesn't see a relationship with me at the moment and he doesn't know if he will see. We always had problems with communication, we quarreled a lot, we stopped showing affection.He stopped trying a long time ago, at the beginning he showed a lot of interest and effort but after 6 months just stopped.
If you're asking about your chances, I really wish I could give you a direct yes or no. However, as it is, each situation is unique, so I suggest you take the free quiz as it hits on the critical elements that will determine your chances depending on your answers. In other words, my quiz can give you a more accurate answer than I can since as you may have noticed, there are various factors at play here which needs to be looked at as well as your own actions after the breakup. Here's the link: www.breakupbrad.com/quiz Best of luck!
What do you do if she says she loves me but has a boyfriend that she isnt aure she is going to stay with longterm but they have a kid together? And she kisses me and has slept with me but after a month she says shes scared to come over because she knows she willw ant to sleep with me? How do i know where to go to get her back..
You don't try to get her back if she's dealing with someone else. She needs to make up her mind first. Give her the space to do that. Assuming you hadn't came in between their relationship, apply the tips here: ruclips.net/video/4Qe-4A-CpVY/видео.html
I break up with my ex for one year now but sometimes she act like she with me but next day she act like she not with me but she always says let be just friend ,and she cook food for me to eat and I Don like to friend with her .Brad shall I do now
My ex’s said there is nothing more to talk about but she’s accepted my apology for everything thing happen in our relationship.
Yeah
True, hence you give each other space and not fight the breakup. That's what the "no contact" rule helps achieve.
@@BradBrowning thank you
How does this work if you’ve been blocked for 30 days and still aren’t unblocked? On about Step 2 (rekindling)
The next step will end up pending for a while. Here are the most common reasons for being blocked and my thoughts about it, including what to do: y2u.be/s52sRweJlm8 and don't forget to take the quiz if you still want to know what your chances are and/or still have questions on what to do after, at www.breakupbrad.com/quiz
Hey brad, I've been following the no contact for two months now. We are in a long distance relationship.She has texted me three four times and call me quite a few times. Should I go and meet her ???? Will that be a good idea.
When did the texts and calls came and what is it about? Sorry, this is a bit too complex for me to properly respond here… please consider signing up for coaching if you want to talk at length about your situation: www.breakupbrad.com/coaching
Hey brad it's been just few days back. She call me and texted saying she love me, misses me telling me I'm the best ( quite a few times she had call and texted )so I've decided to go and meet. When I told her that i was coming she was excited about it and the very next morning she told me not to come again. Should I just go or not?????? Please help brad
Hey brad, thanks for this...
I chatted my ex after 4months of no contact, and he called me, we had a long conversation and he was excited to hear from me....
But since then (last week) we have not spoken again. He only views my WhatsApp status....
What next should I do please...
We are not in the same country currently.
You're welcome! You're on the right track, assuming you've done the first phase (30-day "no contact" rule) correctly and basically had set the stage for this second part. Be sure to check out my other videos for more tips on how to go about this, especially this: y2u.be/gUBNd6pDINM Since you've only recently reconnected, then don't expect your ex to warm up easily. Getting an ex back is a process. Here's a short infograph to guide you in each process: ruclips.net/video/7JtmVbDkblw/видео.html Look out for the signs that your ex has moved on, though: y2u.be/TnZzeEIPEik But evaluate things, too. Are you sure you're not trying to rush it? Setting a deadline is a good way to fail when it comes to exes, so I highly discourage it. What steps have you taken to get your ex back? It's time to re-assess those and see what's working versus what's not working. Sometimes, getting an ex back is like trying to fit a square into a circle, but oftentimes, chances are you're letting emotion dictate you and therefore end up making the wrong choices. Have you checked out my guide yet? It’s ultimately up to you to act (or not act, depending on which phase you’re in) on getting your ex back, but it helps if you read it to ensure that you’re on the right track. Check it out at www.breakupbrad.com
It’s been 5 months since me and my ex broke up and he has blocked me everywhere what should I do?
I don't see this as a cause for concern really, unless you've done something really epic to mess things up or really hurt your ex, there's no reason to worry as much, really, because it could be due to the top 3 reasons I've stated on this vid: y2u.be/fjtv90o9bkI Blocking you could just be your ex’s way of coping so I wouldn’t worry too much about it if I were you, at least not initially. So give it time. If you stay blocked after months though, then that’s another story, especially if you have no other means of communication or have no mutual friends. More about that on here: ruclips.net/video/5UT92IB5ugs/видео.html Anyway social media should be the least of your concerns. Focus on all three phases and your ex may naturally unblock you, in time, as you learn to rebuild that attraction and re-attract this ex back to your life.. Here are the basics of all three phases to getting an ex back: ruclips.net/video/aeGNPBdpnsI/видео.html and social-media wise, here (but then again, don't let it become your sole focus) : ruclips.net/video/D1GpR5MApQk/видео.html Good luck!
@@BradBrowning my ex owes me $2,000 and blocked me in order to avoid paying me. What should I do in this situation?
Hi again Brad, again ty for the video for me to watch to stay in no contact, i've been watching other videos of a like of "goodbye messages" before no contact, if i just say "i need time for myself" before no contact to my ex will that be ok ? Or should i fix it somehow
If you've been dumped, there's no need to tell your ex about the no contact rule. Watch/review the tips here: ruclips.net/video/l821YmAohSI/видео.html
Heej Brad, i have a little problem with the no contact. I am doing that and even dont go to same places. But she does contact me regerly. She wants me in friendzone. Iam guessing she is getting angy at me for avoiding her? I scored 68 on your quiz
Some exes do want their ex in the friendzone but that won't really do you any good. If anything, it will only keep you stuck especially if you aren't open to dating other women. Anyway here's how to gracefully bow out of the offer: ruclips.net/video/SWERv_y3c5w/видео.html
Hey Brad, how do i know what was the reason why she broke up with me if she hadn't told me anything about her decision? it’s been a more than month when we broke up and I tried no contact after which I texted her like u told in your other videos and at first she was really friendly and I already thought that no contact worked perfectly but after few days she replied to me do you see a point of this conversation and after that message i just think that thats the end and the hopes are dead because it seems like she’s done. Or not?
Text her less because chances are there's too much too soon in this interaction. Learn to space out your messages! Consider getting my guide and/or check out my other vids for more reference. Good luck!
Hey Brad it was almost an year after we break up. But I sent her a letter with invitation and she accept it.
Is it late to make another period of No Contact / Rekindeling/ Re-attraction or better to wait move from her from this point?
Thanks!
An invitation to what? I suggest to take it easy at first and try not to meet up when you're both not ready yet. Watch this: ruclips.net/video/jka4S6syZPs/видео.html
Hi Brad, I started No contact rule 8 days ago and today my ex text me if everything is ok? Should I reply to her? Thanks
That's what I call the "check-in" text and your ex is somewhat expected to send one or more of these sooner or later and I've got just the vid for that. Discussed that in one of the vids, including how to handle that kind of message, here: ruclips.net/video/VMAHVJ6tvSM/видео.html
Hi brad, I think I was stuck on friendzone with my ex so the other day I ask her what's keeping our communication open, she was triggered and block me on messenger but were still friends on fb. Is that okay for us since Im still hoping for us to get back together, I'd plan to apply the no contact so I can improve myself but I cant before we still have open communication 3mos from break up? Any advice or thoughts🙏
This vid is for you: ruclips.net/video/ba3FLEk0pPw/видео.html
Hey brad, quick question but
If i have a bad "goodbye message" to start no contact will it still work ?
What's a bad goodbye message? If you meant you've begged or been dramatic, then redo the "no contact" rule and make sure you stick to it this time. But watch this first to help manage your expectations: ruclips.net/video/OzVymYnQFTk/видео.html Here's how you can tell you're doing the "no contact" rule properly: ruclips.net/video/f7zuXk-sVsI/видео.html It may help to make use of the clean slate template, which is a free version from a piece of my Ex Factor Guide. Watch this: ruclips.net/video/6K3xufEwEFg/видео.html The main goal is to bring your ex into an emotional neutral state by employing the 30-day “no contact” rule -- let your ex miss you and don't rush it. But in order to fully understand how this concept works, watch the free in-depth video on my website to learn some psychology techniques and understand how giving each other space for around a month can benefit you than otherwise, at www.breakupbrad.com
@@BradBrowning so is it ok if i just reply with like a goodnight sleep message and we'll meet if we have connections then i just disappeared, and did no contact for a long time, i texted that when i was emotional, unstable, so should i just stay in no contact ?