Sometimes, I look at my parents when they're sitting down, reading a newspaper, or watching a movie, or just looking outside the window and I feel jealous of them for how focused they are at those moments and how they can just "be" there. They don't have that constant nagging of "doing something" or "seeing what's going on on the internet".
I “forced” myself to read everyday for 3 months, from 10 pages a day to 300 pages a day. It was tortured to build habit. But after this “forcing” phase, now I have to read everyday, it’s become addicting, I’m glued to my habit.
The same thing with me. Just in my case, the goal was to make a habit of working about every day. It was hard in the beginning. It still is hard to continue. There are always those times when I miss a day. But overall, I was able to form that habit, to a point where not working out now means feeling unaccomplished for the day or the body just not feeling good. Congratulations on your achievement, mate!
Same I'd get so addicted to reading and trying to find awnsers. Then when I take a break its hard for me to go back and read again. I read that it has something to do with mental activity where one gets addicted to something and cant stop and its hard to get rid of the attachment to the activity because of fear of boredom or laziness.
As an older person who grew up long before internet, I can so relate to the distraction & anxiety that being continuously online creates. I have experienced my attention span go way, way down through the years. In some ways, I wish I had never gotten a smartphone. Due to ongoing family situation, I have to have one right now. But when/if this ever passes, I am seriously considering going back to a basic phone. Don't get me wrong. I love the internet. My phone has many conveniences that I love and that I would miss. But you are not kidding when you speak of the distraction, the anxiety, the mental buzzing of being "always on." The times when my internet or power have been out, it's been like a physical withdrawal. But once that passes, the clarity of mind is such a contrast! And then I realize I didn't really miss out on that much after all. I salute younger people like you. You've grown up with this stuff and don't know anything different. Fighting against it must be doubly difficult.
Ya, I envy my grandmother who grew up in the 50s, she has the ability to be unbothered by solitude and it amazes me. I inherited ADHD from my father, technology definitely worsened it, and it has been standing in my way of self education for years now. I don’t want to take pills, so I think I’m going to try meditation and just constantly test my will power.
Thank you so much for acknowledging it. I hope things got better since you last wrote that comment. Honestly, I am even happy about the first 10 years of my life which I got to enjoy without a smartphone. Many kids these days use tablets or smartphones at only 4 years… :(
I love quiet. I love sitting in a room by myself, in silence, either reading a book or journaling. I love going to museums first thing at opening before the crowds so it’s quiet, or cafes early in the morning before they fill up. I love going for long walks on nature trails far away from people and roads. I appreciate people who can sit in silence with me and for it to not feel awkward. I’m not on social media (I used to be) and so I don’t have apps I mindlessly scroll through and I don’t feel the need to see what everyone is doing all the time or let them know what I’m doing. I don’t know why I like the quiet, and my friends sometimes think I don’t want to hang out with them when I say I’d rather do something on my own. I’m not antisocial, I just value my quiet time to process my thoughts and feel at peace. Being in the quiet away from other people and the internet makes me feel like I can breathe.
I like that too, i know instantly if I am going to click with someone when we can just sit in a room together quietly and not speak and be busy on our own stuff . Greenflag
Now I can say I got something that I needed I have watched so many videos on RUclips and read so many articles on Google about I don't feel like studying and I didn't get any good thing to apply and be more productive all I got to know is this"you have to work your ass off , work like hell work 24 hours a day and others shitty things like this" their mindset was to just force yourself which doesn't work but this is the video I wanted to watch thanks bro to give us this knowledge
This has really hit the nail on the head for me. I didn’t really understand the reason why I struggle to read, but this makes so much sense. I have every intention to read- I buy a lot of books but never read them. This has been the case for most of my adult life, but I was a good reader when I was young- perhaps the advent of the internet has some significance here! Thanks for this- I’m going to try to get comfortable with being uncomfortable and break this barrier once and for all!
When I was a child I was in love with reading. I read all the time. We didn't have TV, just a DVD and vcr machine. As soon as I found TV streaming like Netflix I stopped reading. I'm so sad that it's so difficult to sit quietly even read a page now when it used to be so easy to read a whole book in a day or two.
Best RUclips video I’ve ever seen! I couldn’t concentrate while reading and I would stop after 30 pages. I felt guilty about it and asked myself why I never seemed to enjoy reading...I just couldn’t READ! 14 minutes that I will never regret “spending” because this might actually change my life. Thank you so much, this is exactly what I needed to hear.
In portuguese, we have two very similar words, but with crucial differences in their meaning: "solidão" and "solitude": "Solidão" translates to loneliness, which is the fear and sadness of being alone, resembling to a melancholic state. "Solitude" however, in my language, refers to the state of being alone, but still feeling whole. It actually resembles to the portuguese word "plenitude", which translates to fullness. I figured this etymological comparison is very close to what you explained in your video.
I know what you mean. It’s amazing how relaxing without noise. Alone at home just reading book for 6 to 8 hours. Not only relaxing in make it can teach so many things in life. My dream is to read book for living.
I don't know if it's my attention span or intellectual boredom, but I don't like sitting on a certain subject for too long. Part of me is intimidated, and another part is bored, constantly seeking a new, more novel subject.
May I suggest that it is not *fear* of quietude that destabilizes us when we try to read. It is a drop in dopamine levels. There is a withdrawal from the noise, tension, constant rewarding of the ping of the text message. It is chemically driven, not emotionally driven. I agree with the timing--it takes a few days for the brain to adjust to the lower levels of dopamine. Perhaps some people may be more excited by the more romantic idea of *fear* of quietude. It's sounds prettier, for sure. But there is a physiological thing happening underneath the emotion.
Oh man, I had put a video of yours while I was doing my art homework... Imagine my surprise when *this* video popped up next! It is true tho. I started doing it in silence. Then I got the feeling of "I could put music or something" when I decided on RUclips videos... We really should try to be in company of silence more often.
I like how there is no music in the background in this video compared to other videos ^^. Gives the message so much more. Thank you for the great work !
Not sure if I agree in my case. I can be hyper focused on an art project for my program which takes many hours to self-critique and complete. But in history they throw a handful of primary and secondary sources at you and say “answer these questions based on this information”. It’s not so much the subject matter but the process in which one acquires the knowledge. This is why podcasts are so popular and such an effective learning tool. There is human discussion and they’re presented in a format that one can receive and process the information while giving significant attention to another task. Reading requires nearly all your attention to receive the information.
this stuff really resonates with me. even after not using my phone for 2 months to try and improve my concentration i just find other ways to distract myself. its really difficult to get yourself in the zone and just sit and read without any intrusive thoughts, but once you're there its pure bliss
Thank you so much! you dont know how difficult is for me to find people I can realte to. I live in Ecuador, and people just dont read at all here, and is really difficult to find people that speak english. I sometimes feel I live in a crazy world were everyone is just glued to their phones in fear of losing social status instead of doing stuff and enjoying in this wonderful and magical age we live in. Thank you for sharing this. It is impossible for you to know how much you are helping me stay motivated and sane, you are changing my life for the best. The best content I have found this year.
I dont think that people fear solitude and quietness. Their problem is WORK.... until you are well versed at reading, reading is a chore, it is work, hard work. You must focus, engage, concentrate, and work in order to read. Most people, firstly don't understand the rewards of good reading, they don't understand the real benefits, they think they are grown adults, and that the days of study are pretty much finished; yet they fully understand the benefit of sitting down and letting someone else do the work, i.e. watching tv. or listening to some music. They don't understand that reading is enriching and fun and profound.... they, possibly due to their peers or upbringing, practice a lot of escapism, tv, as stated earlier, drinking, having a laugh with mates, supporting their football team.................. they also, due to their lives have very short attention spans, and so get bored easily whilst reading a book, partially due to thinking ...wow this is like work, this is tedious.... society has made people want instant gratification....drugs , tv, webbrowsing.... if you look at russia whilst being a communist country, with very few facilities and really boring radio and stations, the people used to read a lot of books and got educated, fun for the communist russian, (apart from drinking) was a good book, that got passed around from family to family, group to group...anyway , that is just my opinion....and as you can see, not very well written, but the point has been made.
Bruh. Your videos are game-changing. These are all things I've felt subconsciously but never managed to clearly see or put into words. Keep going woohoo ✨
you should train your mind to detach from all the distractions and all the variables to meditate upon achieving focus and concentration by learning to be in solitude to lower your dopamine and detox from all the exposure and be aware to identify what is necessary to avoid these obstacles; it's just that you are not used to living in your room alone like a minimalist or you have never meditated and you are so habituated to these bad habits that it will take time to get there but if you are aware of it and use your volition and conscience to get rid of these insecurities/bad habits it will soon be your new normal to read and finish tasks because you are now sensitive enough to percieve and be aware of the distractions and eliminate these absurdities and work naturally and effortlessly efficiently as you should always have. This vid resonated so much to what i had been thinking all along so im just saying the same things as i learned from this vid.
I and my siblings were recently talking about how our parents or sat anyone from that generation doesn't have "bore" word in their dictionary. Even when they are sitting idle and doing absolutely nothing they would never say "Oh, I'm bored" And I absolutely admire that.
Yes! Great point. Pascal was interested in this phenomenon, as he said, "every problem in the world comes from not being able to sit alone in a room." We've come in a culture so soaked up in entertainment that were estranged from both being quiet and still, alone with ourselves, and from actually being with others, interacting and sharing thoughts and bits of life. All too often we feel uncomfortable both to sit down and think about a video and to comment and interact with what others about it. A like isn't the same as a comment; watching something isn't the same as thinking and coming to grips with it.
I experienced this many years ago after a hurricane hit my area and I lost all power in my house. I do remember it felt so nice having nothing pulling you somewhere else. I disagree that we don't read because we're afraid to be alone. It's because the book is static and sometimes we ourselves have to come up with the engagement to give the book life and that requires effort. Reading sometimes requires effort.
This is why I have shows on repeat or the radio, especially with youtube. It keeps me company but also I can't read while doing it. Its totally as he says its fear of being alone.
I'd like to add that reading, especially for self education and learning purposes, takes so much mental effort, concentration and energy from us, that most people just don't have those resources available to them. It's not just the media and fear of solitude, it's the job, the spouse, the family, the kids etc unless you're only talking about students without any adult problems and responsibilities.
What i do, and i hope this helps other people, is to look up videos of library sounds or rain sounds in order to tune out all the noises or artificial silence from the city. This helps me get into my head, drive away all distractions and it almost sets the mood for studying/reading/thinkng. I also try to use the same video every time so i avoid the rabbit hole of endless browsing.
Best self-improvement video I've ever watched. Considering saving and rewatching again and again. Thanks for your good observations. I respect your intelligence man
Yeah, yeah you're right. I constantly need something in the background while I am trying to study or complete my assignments. I am in constant loneliness and attach myself too much to women who show me love. I can go down this rabbit hole of self hate but listening you talk about this subject really hit it for me. Thank you. I need to try little by little turning my loneliness into solitude.
This is awesome information. I was wondering why do I have all these books but never can sit down to read them. I finally acknowledge what the problem is. Thank you!
Hi Waldun! Can you imagine that some of us (like me) clicked this video because they wanted background noises and had this unconcious fear of solitude. Instead your video was a key to "escape" this fear. It's like we are stuck in a dream and someone in the dream (you) knows that it's just a dream and is giving other people hints to escape it. Perhaps im exaggerating but that's really how i thought! I just wanted to let you know my appreciation. I hope you read this!
I lived at a place without internet for a year, worked full time and did the most from reading to drawing, writing and travelling I've ever done. I'd personally say it is more about enduring the boredom and solitude rather then "fear" but I agree otherwise with you. Edit: Or rather enduring the boredom trough the phase where your brain is used to being over-stimulated. Great Video. This was the input I needed in these disastrous Online-Uni days...
Lol. I cam here to learn to read since I have trouble reading and yet this is good. I cant self learn. Ive wanted to learn game developing but I couldnt stop watching yt videos. Listening to this vid and listening to head space a meditating app. Makes me realise that the brain can wonder where ever it wants to go and we have to learn to exept those thoughs that pass by and learn to have no noise.
That "inner peace" you speak of is something I was able to experience earlier this year. One week I made it a goal of mine to embrace solitude and getting away from my phone and laptop. I read more, sat with my thoughts more. At the beginning it was uncomfortable, but after about 4 days I felt better than ever in years, just sitting with my own thoughts and surroundings of the room. I wish I continued this routine, but of course I lacked the discipline and made lame excuses to go back to my own ways. Really hoping I find the discipline to be able to stick to this for the long run in the near future. Great video!
I'm grateful for finding this video, albeit a bit late. This describes the never ending cycle of constant stimulation we trap ourselves in. Thank you for sharing this thought❤️
You are certainly wasting my time. I really enjoy listening to you. Please continue on your path. You should be writing about this to. I think you are definately onto something great here. I use drawing as my still place of solitude.
Hi! I'm from México, so my english is not so good, but I watch you a lot lately and I totally love you. You have so right! That thing happen to me recently. Was so weird!! But now I understand that process.
Damn man, the message in this content is huge! A lot of similar messages that said greats like Blaise Pascal and Nietzsche (I mean especially the solitude in a room and the solitude with ourself). Compliments from Italy! 🇮🇹
you are able to argue really well. I completely agree with your point of view and it is a pleasure to draw inspiration from your videos to make some reflections. my compliments, I really encourage you to continue. Greetings from Italy
I never had any problem with solitude and quietude, I always had the best time reading or studying in complete silence barely looking at my phone for hours. Then 2020 happened - a big anxiety monster just swallowed me whole. I basically wasted months trying to distract myself on youtube or twitter, anytime I tried to sit down and read I couldn't get past the first 10 minutes. I had to download an app to help me study for a test, I couldn't just put away my phone deliberately like I used to...which, obviously, made me very sad, increased my anxiety and need for even more distraction :D Now I have a job that requires me to get out the house and never look at my phone for hours, which helps me a little bit, but I'm still not completely over this constant need of distraction when I'm home. I found your channel last week and it is really helping me. I started reading again. I'm motivated to tackle some big books that have been sitting on the shelf for a while, at my own very slow pace. So, yeah, this whole comment is just to say thank you haha
it is definitely the anxiety for many people, it's easier to put something on that is constantly humming, more distracting ..sometimes you just try to read the book and catch yourself rereading the same sentence because all the worries, things on your schedule and problems keeps flowing into your mind in waves. Nevertheless the the small library is growing and I will get my solitude one day
Because it takes sustained cognitive effort that most people are not willing to give especially in the modern world when the internet accelerates learning and movies/tv is a more entertaining alternative to fiction. All classic literature has been made into films as well so there is NO incentive to read unless if you aspire to become a writer or derive pleasure from reading.
i'm currently binge-watching this channel's content. these are the things i've always felt and somehow realised but only subconsciously. but you put those things in words, so well. that it helps me to put my own thoughts in order. what a treaure trove of good ass content i've stumbled upon. thank u for this.
I am afraid to turn off the lofi hiphop while studying; it's sort of like an addiction now. I cannot study without that music even though sometimes I think that "oh my that music is so distracting!!" Am I an idiot?? LOL
I have 3 or 4 Google books that I've purchased in the last few months, and I've hardly read one. They're musical textbooks so very info heavy and I've thought about it, but it just seems so hard to mentally start reading. And this is coming from an introvert who hasn't been galvanised by social media.
My AC stopped humming in the background right after you finished telling the "humming AC" analogy...I felt fear indeed! In this instance, of course, because of the coincidence.
Now I understand why it was easier for me to start reading (I love silence and my alone time, I don't watch TV, don't use my phone more than 1 hour a day). Now I understand why my cousin doesn't find reading enjoyable.
Good to know that you enjoy reading... how did you manage to use mobile only for an hour per day.. because for every now and then I take up my cellphone and start watching RUclips videos, using WhatsApp, Twitter .. I just want to get rid of this mobile addiction.. it would be helpful for me if you give me one or two tips.. thanks in advance.. love and prayers from India..
@@seemamulla2196 the main reason why I don't stay for so long is because I only have Instagram where I follow mostly artist. I'm not into other social platforms except for RUclips and pinterest but even then I know when to stop watching; although there will always be those times when you won't be able to do nothing else than just stay on your phone
@@seemamulla2196 you need to change the way you see social media to be able to separate yourself from the addiction. Find something else more interesting than just endless scrolling through depression
This might be one fear preventing one from diving into a subject, but another might be that they expect (perhaps correctly, perhaps not) to come out of the other side with no specific, let alone special, insight. I know this is one fear I have myself. But imagining silence: my room with nothing but a desk to write on, a chair, and bookshelf, I got uncomfortable real fast. It felt like half my being was torn out. I guess the "silence" is a legit fear for myself too.
I really love your work. Thank you so much. I am not in the majority but I am in the minority like you have told in one of the videos. Well to be honest it is very hard to be that kind of person. But you inspire me to do better. I love reading and I always feel lonely in these days most of my friends are not reading deeply. But when I found your channel, I felt so amazing. I just feel that I found a long lost friend ☺️ who understand. Thank you for your time
Loved the vid man! I was hoping you would also tell us HOW DID YOU START! Like was it something where you would turn off all devices and leave them out for a short period of time and then increased the increments of time without using them? Please let me know! I want to experience what you have experienced! :)
This is not a one-off process, humans don't work like that. The obsession to the constant humming noise can actually be viewed as an addiction that requires a slow process of "detoxification" to slowly get "sober" from. Although I am not there yet myself, but through slowly becoming comfortable during idle moments (during a bus ride, waiting for someone at the cafe) without distractions, you will gradually train up the muscle to face this "quietutde" and become more focused and content. Take it very, very slowly: you don't want a drastic backlash where you spend a week completely tech-free and another month binging Netflex Series. But overall, the most important thing is to have the right intention. You must see the value of this "silence" along with a focused mind. If you want it bad enough, you will eventually have it given that you don't quit the process of "detox". Hope it helped :)
Sometimes, I look at my parents when they're sitting down, reading a newspaper, or watching a movie, or just looking outside the window and I feel jealous of them for how focused they are at those moments and how they can just "be" there. They don't have that constant nagging of "doing something" or "seeing what's going on on the internet".
Maybe try meditation?
That could definetly help with finding contentment in: just, being.
This is so true cause i remember getting anxiety at night knowing that I'll have to study alone at night while everybody is going to sleep.
I “forced” myself to read everyday for 3 months, from 10 pages a day to 300 pages a day. It was tortured to build habit. But after this “forcing” phase, now I have to read everyday, it’s become addicting, I’m glued to my habit.
@Tanya Talwar I think he meant that he read between 10-300 pages per day, so some days he read 300 but most days he read far less
The same thing with me. Just in my case, the goal was to make a habit of working about every day.
It was hard in the beginning. It still is hard to continue. There are always those times when I miss a day. But overall, I was able to form that habit, to a point where not working out now means feeling unaccomplished for the day or the body just not feeling good.
Congratulations on your achievement, mate!
@Tanya Talwar honestly reading that again I think the meaning is ambiguous
Same I'd get so addicted to reading and trying to find awnsers. Then when I take a break its hard for me to go back and read again. I read that it has something to do with mental activity where one gets addicted to something and cant stop and its hard to get rid of the attachment to the activity because of fear of boredom or laziness.
@Tanya theres a trick where you can read super fast
As an older person who grew up long before internet, I can so relate to the distraction & anxiety that being continuously online creates. I have experienced my attention span go way, way down through the years. In some ways, I wish I had never gotten a smartphone. Due to ongoing family situation, I have to have one right now. But when/if this ever passes, I am seriously considering going back to a basic phone.
Don't get me wrong. I love the internet. My phone has many conveniences that I love and that I would miss. But you are not kidding when you speak of the distraction, the anxiety, the mental buzzing of being "always on." The times when my internet or power have been out, it's been like a physical withdrawal. But once that passes, the clarity of mind is such a contrast! And then I realize I didn't really miss out on that much after all.
I salute younger people like you. You've grown up with this stuff and don't know anything different. Fighting against it must be doubly difficult.
Well said, Yessica.
Ya, I envy my grandmother who grew up in the 50s, she has the ability to be unbothered by solitude and it amazes me. I inherited ADHD from my father, technology definitely worsened it, and it has been standing in my way of self education for years now. I don’t want to take pills, so I think I’m going to try meditation and just constantly test my will power.
Thank you so much for acknowledging it. I hope things got better since you last wrote that comment. Honestly, I am even happy about the first 10 years of my life which I got to enjoy without a smartphone. Many kids these days use tablets or smartphones at only 4 years… :(
I love quiet. I love sitting in a room by myself, in silence, either reading a book or journaling. I love going to museums first thing at opening before the crowds so it’s quiet, or cafes early in the morning before they fill up. I love going for long walks on nature trails far away from people and roads. I appreciate people who can sit in silence with me and for it to not feel awkward. I’m not on social media (I used to be) and so I don’t have apps I mindlessly scroll through and I don’t feel the need to see what everyone is doing all the time or let them know what I’m doing. I don’t know why I like the quiet, and my friends sometimes think I don’t want to hang out with them when I say I’d rather do something on my own. I’m not antisocial, I just value my quiet time to process my thoughts and feel at peace. Being in the quiet away from other people and the internet makes me feel like I can breathe.
Good for you
I like that too, i know instantly if I am going to click with someone when we can just sit in a room together quietly and not speak and be busy on our own stuff . Greenflag
Now I can say I got something that I needed I have watched so many videos on RUclips and read so many articles on Google about I don't feel like studying and I didn't get any good thing to apply and be more productive all I got to know is this"you have to work your ass off , work like hell work 24 hours a day and others shitty things like this" their mindset was to just force yourself which doesn't work but this is the video I wanted to watch thanks bro to give us this knowledge
Fear of silence and solitude, especially in the mind. Well said!
This has really hit the nail on the head for me. I didn’t really understand the reason why I struggle to read, but this makes so much sense. I have every intention to read- I buy a lot of books but never read them. This has been the case for most of my adult life, but I was a good reader when I was young- perhaps the advent of the internet has some significance here! Thanks for this- I’m going to try to get comfortable with being uncomfortable and break this barrier once and for all!
It's hard when the source of education is a phone/computer itself.
Same here. Try investing in a kindle tablet
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Bruh you be initiating good shit in my life and I feel like subscribing ain't enough of a thank you
When I was a child I was in love with reading. I read all the time. We didn't have TV, just a DVD and vcr machine. As soon as I found TV streaming like Netflix I stopped reading. I'm so sad that it's so difficult to sit quietly even read a page now when it used to be so easy to read a whole book in a day or two.
Best RUclips video I’ve ever seen! I couldn’t concentrate while reading and I would stop after 30 pages. I felt guilty about it and asked myself why I never seemed to enjoy reading...I just couldn’t READ! 14 minutes that I will never regret “spending” because this might actually change my life. Thank you so much, this is exactly what I needed to hear.
Did your reading habit change?
Always giving hidden gems of knowledge! Great videos as always
Cheers Brother!! Thank you for watching!
In portuguese, we have two very similar words, but with crucial differences in their meaning: "solidão" and "solitude":
"Solidão" translates to loneliness, which is the fear and sadness of being alone, resembling to a melancholic state. "Solitude" however, in my language, refers to the state of being alone, but still feeling whole. It actually resembles to the portuguese word "plenitude", which translates to fullness.
I figured this etymological comparison is very close to what you explained in your video.
That state where you've embraced solitude and being is so real and powerful... I'm glad I was able to find someone put it into good words
I needed to have this discussion with myself.
I know what you mean. It’s amazing how relaxing without noise. Alone at home just reading book for 6 to 8 hours. Not only relaxing in make it can teach so many things in life. My dream is to read book for living.
I don't know if it's my attention span or intellectual boredom, but I don't like sitting on a certain subject for too long. Part of me is intimidated, and another part is bored, constantly seeking a new, more novel subject.
May I suggest that it is not *fear* of quietude that destabilizes us when we try to read. It is a drop in dopamine levels. There is a withdrawal from the noise, tension, constant rewarding of the ping of the text message. It is chemically driven, not emotionally driven. I agree with the timing--it takes a few days for the brain to adjust to the lower levels of dopamine.
Perhaps some people may be more excited by the more romantic idea of *fear* of quietude. It's sounds prettier, for sure. But there is a physiological thing happening underneath the emotion.
Oh man, I had put a video of yours while I was doing my art homework... Imagine my surprise when *this* video popped up next!
It is true tho. I started doing it in silence. Then I got the feeling of "I could put music or something" when I decided on RUclips videos...
We really should try to be in company of silence more often.
I like how there is no music in the background in this video compared to other videos ^^.
Gives the message so much more. Thank you for the great work !
Not sure if I agree in my case. I can be hyper focused on an art project for my program which takes many hours to self-critique and complete. But in history they throw a handful of primary and secondary sources at you and say “answer these questions based on this information”. It’s not so much the subject matter but the process in which one acquires the knowledge. This is why podcasts are so popular and such an effective learning tool. There is human discussion and they’re presented in a format that one can receive and process the information while giving significant attention to another task. Reading requires nearly all your attention to receive the information.
this stuff really resonates with me. even after not using my phone for 2 months to try and improve my concentration i just find other ways to distract myself. its really difficult to get yourself in the zone and just sit and read without any intrusive thoughts, but once you're there its pure bliss
Thank you so much! you dont know how difficult is for me to find people I can realte to. I live in Ecuador, and people just dont read at all here, and is really difficult to find people that speak english. I sometimes feel I live in a crazy world were everyone is just glued to their phones in fear of losing social status instead of doing stuff and enjoying in this wonderful and magical age we live in. Thank you for sharing this. It is impossible for you to know how much you are helping me stay motivated and sane, you are changing my life for the best. The best content I have found this year.
Finally someone said something that really relates to my current situation and now I understand what I'm lacking
for me, i don't think it's the fear of solitude but rather the boredom or lack of dopamine from the activity.
I dont think that people fear solitude and quietness. Their problem is WORK.... until you are well versed at reading, reading is a chore, it is work, hard work. You must focus, engage, concentrate, and work in order to read. Most people, firstly don't understand the rewards of good reading, they don't understand the real benefits, they think they are grown adults, and that the days of study are pretty much finished; yet they fully understand the benefit of sitting down and letting someone else do the work, i.e. watching tv. or listening to some music. They don't understand that reading is enriching and fun and profound.... they, possibly due to their peers or upbringing, practice a lot of escapism, tv, as stated earlier, drinking, having a laugh with mates, supporting their football team.................. they also, due to their lives have very short attention spans, and so get bored easily whilst reading a book, partially due to thinking ...wow this is like work, this is tedious.... society has made people want instant gratification....drugs , tv, webbrowsing.... if you look at russia whilst being a communist country, with very few facilities and really boring radio and stations, the people used to read a lot of books and got educated, fun for the communist russian, (apart from drinking) was a good book, that got passed around from family to family, group to group...anyway , that is just my opinion....and as you can see, not very well written, but the point has been made.
Bruh. Your videos are game-changing. These are all things I've felt subconsciously but never managed to clearly see or put into words. Keep going woohoo ✨
you should train your mind to detach from all the distractions and all the variables to meditate upon achieving focus and concentration by learning to be in solitude to lower your dopamine and detox from all the exposure and be aware to identify what is necessary to avoid these obstacles; it's just that you are not used to living in your room alone like a minimalist or you have never meditated and you are so habituated to these bad habits that it will take time to get there but if you are aware of it and use your volition and conscience to get rid of these insecurities/bad habits it will soon be your new normal to read and finish tasks because you are now sensitive enough to percieve and be aware of the distractions and eliminate these absurdities and work naturally and effortlessly efficiently as you should always have. This vid resonated so much to what i had been thinking all along so im just saying the same things as i learned from this vid.
I and my siblings were recently talking about how our parents or sat anyone from that generation doesn't have "bore" word in their dictionary. Even when they are sitting idle and doing absolutely nothing they would never say "Oh, I'm bored"
And I absolutely admire that.
Yes; I feel it. It’s like a state of energized meditation. Like being in the flow.
Tips for reading e-books on a computer.
- Utilize F11.
- Discipline.
Couldn't have said it better myself. Also dim blue light down.
Yes! Great point.
Pascal was interested in this phenomenon, as he said, "every problem in the world comes from not being able to sit alone in a room."
We've come in a culture so soaked up in entertainment that were estranged from both being quiet and still, alone with ourselves, and from actually being with others, interacting and sharing thoughts and bits of life. All too often we feel uncomfortable both to sit down and think about a video and to comment and interact with what others about it.
A like isn't the same as a comment; watching something isn't the same as thinking and coming to grips with it.
Every time I see your videos, you gave me a different point of view. I really enjoy this. Greetings from Brazil!
I experienced this many years ago after a hurricane hit my area and I lost all power in my house. I do remember it felt so nice having nothing pulling you somewhere else. I disagree that we don't read because we're afraid to be alone. It's because the book is static and sometimes we ourselves have to come up with the engagement to give the book life and that requires effort. Reading sometimes requires effort.
This is why I have shows on repeat or the radio, especially with youtube. It keeps me company but also I can't read while doing it. Its totally as he says its fear of being alone.
I'd like to add that reading, especially for self education and learning purposes, takes so much mental effort, concentration and energy from us, that most people just don't have those resources available to them. It's not just the media and fear of solitude, it's the job, the spouse, the family, the kids etc unless you're only talking about students without any adult problems and responsibilities.
What i do, and i hope this helps other people, is to look up videos of library sounds or rain sounds in order to tune out all the noises or artificial silence from the city. This helps me get into my head, drive away all distractions and it almost sets the mood for studying/reading/thinkng. I also try to use the same video every time so i avoid the rabbit hole of endless browsing.
Best self-improvement video I've ever watched. Considering saving and rewatching again and again. Thanks for your good observations. I respect your intelligence man
Yeah, yeah you're right. I constantly need something in the background while I am trying to study or complete my assignments. I am in constant loneliness and attach myself too much to women who show me love. I can go down this rabbit hole of self hate but listening you talk about this subject really hit it for me. Thank you. I need to try little by little turning my loneliness into solitude.
This is awesome information. I was wondering why do I have all these books but never can sit down to read them. I finally acknowledge what the problem is. Thank you!
Well, being honest, this boosted my performance. A lot!!
Fear is the worst fucking thing that blocks us from giving ourselves to life fully and thus experience it more deeply and fulfilling
Hi Waldun! Can you imagine that some of us (like me) clicked this video because they wanted background noises and had this unconcious fear of solitude. Instead your video was a key to "escape" this fear. It's like we are stuck in a dream and someone in the dream (you) knows that it's just a dream and is giving other people hints to escape it. Perhaps im exaggerating but that's really how i thought!
I just wanted to let you know my appreciation. I hope you read this!
I lived at a place without internet for a year, worked full time and did the most from reading to drawing, writing and travelling I've ever done.
I'd personally say it is more about enduring the boredom and solitude rather then "fear" but I agree otherwise with you. Edit: Or rather enduring the boredom trough the phase where your brain is used to being over-stimulated.
Great Video. This was the input I needed in these disastrous Online-Uni days...
Lol. I cam here to learn to read since I have trouble reading and yet this is good. I cant self learn. Ive wanted to learn game developing but I couldnt stop watching yt videos. Listening to this vid and listening to head space a meditating app. Makes me realise that the brain can wonder where ever it wants to go and we have to learn to exept those thoughs that pass by and learn to have no noise.
golden message
Life changing realization
13:19 I don't know those people and I don't listen to them, I am knowing you and listening to you, so, it doesn't make it anything for my side
That "inner peace" you speak of is something I was able to experience earlier this year. One week I made it a goal of mine to embrace solitude and getting away from my phone and laptop. I read more, sat with my thoughts more. At the beginning it was uncomfortable, but after about 4 days I felt better than ever in years, just sitting with my own thoughts and surroundings of the room. I wish I continued this routine, but of course I lacked the discipline and made lame excuses to go back to my own ways. Really hoping I find the discipline to be able to stick to this for the long run in the near future. Great video!
I'm grateful for finding this video, albeit a bit late. This describes the never ending cycle of constant stimulation we trap ourselves in. Thank you for sharing this thought❤️
This is a very special spirit guide 'boy'... Wow... I wonder how old he was here. He speaks like a boy , but sounds like a deeply wise prophet.. ✨
cant believe i wasn't subscribed to you king. thank you for your videos !
You are certainly wasting my time. I really enjoy listening to you. Please continue on your path. You should be writing about this to. I think you are definately onto something great here. I use drawing as my still place of solitude.
Hi! I'm from México, so my english is not so good, but I watch you a lot lately and I totally love you. You have so right! That thing happen to me recently. Was so weird!! But now I understand that process.
Damn man, the message in this content is huge! A lot of similar messages that said greats like Blaise Pascal and Nietzsche (I mean especially the solitude in a room and the solitude with ourself). Compliments from Italy! 🇮🇹
you are able to argue really well. I completely agree with your point of view and it is a pleasure to draw inspiration from your videos to make some reflections. my compliments, I really encourage you to continue. Greetings from Italy
True this
i do not know about others but i am totally fine with silence and solitude.
i hate listening to my own thoughts😬
I never had any problem with solitude and quietude, I always had the best time reading or studying in complete silence barely looking at my phone for hours. Then 2020 happened - a big anxiety monster just swallowed me whole. I basically wasted months trying to distract myself on youtube or twitter, anytime I tried to sit down and read I couldn't get past the first 10 minutes. I had to download an app to help me study for a test, I couldn't just put away my phone deliberately like I used to...which, obviously, made me very sad, increased my anxiety and need for even more distraction :D
Now I have a job that requires me to get out the house and never look at my phone for hours, which helps me a little bit, but I'm still not completely over this constant need of distraction when I'm home.
I found your channel last week and it is really helping me. I started reading again. I'm motivated to tackle some big books that have been sitting on the shelf for a while, at my own very slow pace.
So, yeah, this whole comment is just to say thank you haha
it is definitely the anxiety for many people, it's easier to put something on that is constantly humming, more distracting
..sometimes you just try to read the book and catch yourself rereading the same sentence because all the worries, things on your schedule and problems keeps flowing into your mind in waves. Nevertheless the the small library is growing and I will get my solitude one day
It makes sense... I love the idea of reading books but never can get myself to do it. I will try sitting in solitude to see if this works :)
Because it takes sustained cognitive effort that most people are not willing to give especially in the modern world when the internet accelerates learning and movies/tv is a more entertaining alternative to fiction. All classic literature has been made into films as well so there is NO incentive to read unless if you aspire to become a writer or derive pleasure from reading.
keep up the good work my dude!
i'm currently binge-watching this channel's content. these are the things i've always felt and somehow realised but only subconsciously. but you put those things in words, so well. that it helps me to put my own thoughts in order. what a treaure trove of good ass content i've stumbled upon. thank u for this.
Yall go read now once this video finishes
Great video, you out hear speaking facts. I guess this is why I can revise much easily in the library than in my room, thumbs up and subscribed!
thank u
So hard but necessary
This was a very powerful video, thanks a lot:)
I am afraid to turn off the lofi hiphop while studying; it's sort of like an addiction now. I cannot study without that music even though sometimes I think that "oh my that music is so distracting!!" Am I an idiot?? LOL
If you have single coil guitar pickups you will get a hum....so get hummbuckers!
I have 3 or 4 Google books that I've purchased in the last few months, and I've hardly read one. They're musical textbooks so very info heavy and I've thought about it, but it just seems so hard to mentally start reading. And this is coming from an introvert who hasn't been galvanised by social media.
Subbed. loved this vid
My AC stopped humming in the background right after you finished telling the "humming AC" analogy...I felt fear indeed! In this instance, of course, because of the coincidence.
Now I understand why it was easier for me to start reading
(I love silence and my alone time, I don't watch TV, don't use my phone more than 1 hour a day). Now I understand why my cousin doesn't find reading enjoyable.
Good to know that you enjoy reading... how did you manage to use mobile only for an hour per day.. because for every now and then I take up my cellphone and start watching RUclips videos, using WhatsApp, Twitter .. I just want to get rid of this mobile addiction.. it would be helpful for me if you give me one or two tips.. thanks in advance.. love and prayers from India..
@@seemamulla2196 the main reason why I don't stay for so long is because I only have Instagram where I follow mostly artist. I'm not into other social platforms except for RUclips and pinterest but even then I know when to stop watching; although there will always be those times when you won't be able to do nothing else than just stay on your phone
@@seemamulla2196 you need to change the way you see social media to be able to separate yourself from the addiction. Find something else more interesting than just endless scrolling through depression
@@seemamulla2196 I wish you good luck and don't give up. Take care :)
@@katnaz_ thank you so much 🙏🙏
does this guy think stuff over and realize stuff by himself?
because if he does, he's amazing!
This might be one fear preventing one from diving into a subject, but another might be that they expect (perhaps correctly, perhaps not) to come out of the other side with no specific, let alone special, insight. I know this is one fear I have myself. But imagining silence: my room with nothing but a desk to write on, a chair, and bookshelf, I got uncomfortable real fast. It felt like half my being was torn out. I guess the "silence" is a legit fear for myself too.
Why am i watching your vlogs like movie marathon night. Videos after videos
4:14 fearing 7:01 10:05
Thank you. i'll be trying this now :)
👏 Thanks You Man 👍🏼
Great 👍. Thank you Robin
I can't read alone without any sound, that's why i have a noise machine.
This video actualy verry helps
Amazing...
I experienced it and it was a great video
The humming background is actually your Tinnitus.
You are so amazing
i needed this video long ago. loved this video
Great content.. really helpful
This video really helped put into words what I have been experiencing and learning these last few months. Love it!
2:39 feel you mate
Thanks for this, man. I had been playing with this idea for quite some time. Now I know what I really have to do.
damn, your voice man... it is good
Thanks
this is really interesting - also delighted to see you're from Melbourne too #melbournianrepresent keep it up
I really love your work. Thank you so much. I am not in the majority but I am in the minority like you have told in one of the videos.
Well to be honest it is very hard to be that kind of person. But you inspire me to do better.
I love reading and I always feel lonely in these days most of my friends are not reading deeply.
But when I found your channel, I felt so amazing. I just feel that I found a long lost friend ☺️ who understand.
Thank you for your time
It had really helped me . Appreciate it
Loved the vid man! I was hoping you would also tell us HOW DID YOU START! Like was it something where you would turn off all devices and leave them out for a short period of time and then increased the increments of time without using them? Please let me know! I want to experience what you have experienced! :)
This is not a one-off process, humans don't work like that. The obsession to the constant humming noise can actually be viewed as an addiction that requires a slow process of "detoxification" to slowly get "sober" from.
Although I am not there yet myself, but through slowly becoming comfortable during idle moments (during a bus ride, waiting for someone at the cafe) without distractions, you will gradually train up the muscle to face this "quietutde" and become more focused and content. Take it very, very slowly: you don't want a drastic backlash where you spend a week completely tech-free and another month binging Netflex Series.
But overall, the most important thing is to have the right intention. You must see the value of this "silence" along with a focused mind. If you want it bad enough, you will eventually have it given that you don't quit the process of "detox".
Hope it helped :)
Here's a video that explained it best: ruclips.net/video/G5ZYV-IMIUU/видео.html