That's why I dislike the phrase "Follow your dreams". Dreams are just an romanticized idea of yourself in the future. You don't know why you had this idea and where it came from. It could be a dream of someone else or just a fabrication of your pride, greed or other questionable desires. I think people who have a genuine calling are rather rare and I'm happy for people who could give their life meaning with something like that. But I think it's okay to have no calling like it is okay to be not great in anything. You can give your life meaning in a different way and just enjoy your life.
You are so right. Many people tend to fantasize too much but a few are willing to work hard to achieve those fantasies and turning them into actual achievements.
This is so true. This so called “dream” that apparently “I” wanted ever since I was a kid has a possibility of never being what I wanted. It could be something I took from hearing from my elders. Right now I’m scared. I don’t know who I am.
@@pevindigamage6242 Look, you don't have to have everything figured out. That's the power of youth! You have so much time so use it explore and find yourself and your passion.
@Some Guy With A Beard thanks for the advice. It won’t be all that easy for me to convince my parents even if I find my passion (coming from a traditional Asian family has its cons lol) but I’ll try my best and find myself. Thanks again
Ironically I believe many people, including myself, discovered our true passion through liking the idea of "look like one" in the first place. Without this level of hypocrisy, many of us would not even at least try something.
@@Sky-cp6kt People want the identity associated with a certain profession and not the actual work associated with said stereotype. Just because this is common, I don't think it's a wise way to pursue any dream, someone should fall in love with the dream of doing something they have an aptitude for and love doing, not the end result and external rewards/prestige. I think this dark academia nonsense is a symptom of superficial self-deception.
@@TheTheode wtf of course you need the end result, but it may end up different then expected and THAT is something we have to start accomodating to! And not the idea that an idea of being something in itself is toxic... Honestly, i dont find thats how human work no matter how much we want to
@@ajmosutra7667 I think pretending to be something you're not apt to be, nor enjoy the actual work of is fraudulent and in the long term regressive and "toxic" for said individual. Coming to terms with unfulfilled dreams is a different question, I'm talking about the original motivation behind the aspirations themselves. And yes, sometimes the idea of a profession is what causes people to acquire the skills and talents necessary to do it, ambition acquires talent, but if that external motivation is all it ever is, or you discover you don't have the innate attributes needed to be successful then I think those people should readdress what they actually wanted from that dream and try to find something that shares a lateral quality and is more suited to them. Pseudo intellectuals that seek to be prestigious academics while lacking the necessary ability, or interest/work ethic create a Sisyphean task for themselves that will lead to wrath, or depression. They've sought out something that's unattainable from the very start and therefore they will feel unfulfilled until they acknowledge it.
OMG. This is on point. I thought I'd lost my "writing spark", so I upturned my entire life, moved to another country and got even bigger student loans than I already had, because I'd convinced myself that I was going to become a zoologist. My writing wasn't meaningful enough, wasn't making enough of a difference in the "real" world. After a year, I can say with confidence that I do NOT want to do science. I'd imagined it as a sort of Darwin-like curiosity, but in reality, it's memorising what others have already figured out, doing statistics, and working in Excel. I hate Excel. With my entire body. Absolutely detest it. But I love writing. I hadn't actually lost my writing spark, I just thought I had, because I was writing philosophical essays as opposed to the poetry that I'd previously been writing. But I was still writing. And I had to be forced to not write in order to realise that THAT is what I love doing. How stupidly expensive fear, self-doubt and depression can be... So I guess if I'd add anything to your essay, it would be this: Do you actually dislike what you do, or is your mental health in a really bad place? What do you do when you're HEALTHY? That's it, that's the thing.
I've gone through this with design and, for me, comparison can be crippling. My field is rife with diversionary potential in the amount of disciplines, complicating the matter. I have significant student debt as well due to this issue...I also have a background in math. In my heart I know that if I go back to the experimental tendency with design and making with client-free work, that is where the heart lies.
I So desperately needed to hear that... I've never heard it put in the context "What do you do when you're Healthy?". That was Absolutely Mindblowing. Thank you so much for that inspiration!
@@Cam-xp2ep This actually makes more sense than asking what you do when you are healthy. Well observed there mate! Example- I'm relatively healthy, yet I don't exercise at all, barely eat enough healthy meals, and have a terrible sleep schedule. But if I were to *heal* I'd need to do the opposite of what I'd be doing while *healthy*. Stuff like eating less before sleep, going on walks or runs, improving sleep schedule and sleep quality etc.
wow.."Thank you so much for that cmt "what do you do when you are healthy?" this made me so clear that all crafts while I am dreaming or wish to be while I am in bad mental health or unhealthy times are not my true passions
I was in love with the idea of being a musician. But when I started to get serious into it, playing piano everyday for 2 hours (for like, almost a whole year), it became unbearable. I wasn't happy. I didn't want to compose or produce anything, I just wanted to be like others. Not me. I finally realized that no matter how hard I study, how many pieces I learn how to play or even if I would learned how to compose a really good piece, I'll never be happy with it, because it isn't me. It was just the romanticized idea of the "tortured artist" At the end I found my true passion. Videogame design. Since I was a child I remember watching videos on how to create a 2D platform game or how to use RPG Maker. Just the idea of sitting in front of my computer, learning how to use all these programs and creating new worlds (even though at first they won't be good) makes me happy and excited about future. It's really hard to find your true calling. My personal advice would be, try, just try. And be honest with yourself. If you're not living the life you want, do something. Because we don't know if there's anything left when we die. *Sorry if my english isn't good heh*
Been dealing with that myself , I feel I basically steal other peoples dreams cause I see them be so passionate about it that I want to try it too so I can feel that way too and ive done it so long that I dont know what I actually enjoy doing myself but ive narrowed it down at least I'm looking within instead of out and try and curb that coveting instinct , its def hard with youtube and Instagram lol
As a lifelong pianist who recently (annoyingly right before a pandemic) I discovered how receptive people are to my singing and fell in love with singing and performing live. I was already getting paid gigs three months after my first ever open mic. All my life I have had basically a compulsion to sing. I can't go a day without it. I wouldn't do anything to become a concert pianist, which is why I dropped out of my Piano major and college entirely. Now I know that it was meant to be vocal performance all along.
Lucia Castro I am also in love the idea of being an artist. An artist who draw and paints the one who sell their artwork. But i just love the idea of being good at drawing i realized that i cant im not happy also when im doing art in the long run it become dull and boring to me now. I even scream and dream that i am going to be an artist last year but then the reality hit me drawing is not my passion its just a hobby. I thought it was because thats the only thing im good at. Now i feel empty.... ...
The idea is whether after you die do you wish to have left some trace of yourself in the world. (Art, books, good impressions, an invention, children, etc.)
Passion is when you're not afraid to fail doing something you love because doing it is all that matters. You don't feel pressured to be the best, you don't feel the need to prove it to anyone that you're better than them. Being passionate is when you still go for it even though it's "hard". It's not so hard when you're having fun doing it but for others, it's a constant struggle. (So check yourself which side you're in) Passion is the only thing you know that makes sense... that's why you do it anyway. (edit: Has anyone felt that before because I have.)
I sort of does with my current major. But of couurse at the edge of the room the voice is like "can u complete that lab report please', u have no idea how many other assignments u gonna have to complete before xxxx". All these deadlines are killing my soul slowly but im aware im innit for the long run. Except that now... I need to f*kin breathe.
yeah, I kind of understand what you mean. like, I've been singing since I was 7, and playing piano since 9. now I'm 16 and I really like these things. I don't care about what others whoud say or think when I sing. I just like singing. the same thing with piano. I could play almost all day, when I found a piece I want to learn, and I'm not tired of any bit of it. by the way, I am a very shy person and it's very uncommon of me to not care about others opinions, so I'd say piano and singing is my passion. sorry if there any mistakes, I'm still learning English.
"Fall in love with the craft, not the idea of it." Wow, that really resonated with me. (And everything else you said) Great video, as always! Thank you :-)
I experienced the distinction between the Passion and the Idea of a Passion. I dropped out of architecture school because I only loved the idea of being a somewhat hybrid of an engineer and an Artist. Now I found my passion in psychology, because I really am passionate about data, analysing, trying to understand mankind and how our society developed and how certain life experiences can cause certain behavioral patterns. This Video is such an important life lesson!
that really makes sense to me. currently i feel like I'm pursuing the idea of a passion but I'm willing to wait around a bit longer to find out. great comment btw!
Hi ! I'd like to ask something, even if it seems a bit out of place and that you might not have the answer but - Is math required to study psychology ? Obviously, you studied architecture so im aware that you must have a great understanding of math. I'm beginning my last year of high school, and I want to study psychology and philosophy. Those subjects animate me, I've developed a passion for learning to the point where I truly believe it has become the main purpose of my existence ahah Only im currently studying in high school (along with "classic" subjects such as history, geography, English etc) humanities and culture and foreign languages (those are called "specialities") I am afraid that the fact that I didn't take any scientific subject will h Hold me back from studying what I love Ive had really great grades in maths and science in general at my GCSE, don't know if it matters a lot tho, and studied biology last year. (I'd like to explain the way school works here in France but its a bit complicated and new, since education got reformed and the subjects completely changed etc... but basically I had to gave up one subject this year) I intend to have a gap year, during which I'll focus on expend my knowledge and work on myself for the better. I thought perhaps, that I could get back to mathematics and especially statistics during that time, but I don't know if it could be taken into consideration or if It will make me eligible to study psychology... Moreover, I'd like to apply to a pretty prestigious university in England... My great interest for psychology is new, so I haven't chose subjects according to what I wanted to study (because I didn't know). Anyway, sorry for the long and quiet messy comment, I hope It was still understandable (English is my second language). Thank you if you do answer !
@@safala Unlike most people I break down statements like I'm doing maths. I don't care if I don't agree with someone, there's value in what others do even if you don't get them. Not to mention, if you look closer, *I'm not even talking about the dude In the video* . What I address in my comment is what _I think_ , the og comment thinks about the dude in the video. As in, the og comment is basically saying "You have wisdom beyond your age". And what I say is basically that if you agree with someone, their words will sound like wisdom or some incredible reflection. In other words, _your evaluation of the value of someone else's words increases if you already agree with them, sometimes a bit too much compared to their actual value_ . That is all. Which is not a critique of the dude in the video, but rather of what the commenter thinks of what he said.
"if you truly found your life calling, at times you wouldn't even be aware of it, your muse certainly wouldn't spare a second for you to fantasize about what it may be like to be a writer, you will be already be near in your room typing or scribbling away, all that is in front of you is the art that you cherish, that craft that you love"
"Go do some soul searching. Go experience stuff." This is a very powerful advice especially for those who are still uncertain and worries too much for their future career like me. When you're lost, it's alright to wander. Explore and widen your perspective. You will surely find something. If not, at least you gained some experience.
I think hobbies are a great way, that we can do to start during the pandemic, to do some soul searching. List out things that you enjoy doing and your interests. Don’t stress about finding the right path, just focus on what you genuinely enjoy doing. Think about the kind of life that you enjoy too and how your potential career can cater to those. I think now is a great time to take a breather guilt free to examine what we truly want.
@Mama Queen Welp, I dunno the details of your life, so do take what I say with a grain of salt, but... I think, in my humble opinion, two things: first, college can be a place to experiment and find out what you want, I know cause it helped me and others out, that's why you see so many people changing degrees before they graduate; two, if you are over 18 supposedly you can do whatever, and I do mean whatever, the heck you want (if in the US, except drinking; and also if under 24 you need your parents financial information and help to apply for financial aid and go to college, which I think is absurd, but...). The main issue with college is that it is unecessarily expensive, but you can not only ask for scholarships, you can also try these websites to take your general requirements and electives for free or WAY cheaper. Check them out! I kid you not, wish I'd known of them before. You can also get your degree in record time apparently, so long as your college of choice accepts them. You can complete a class in like two days. Look: sophia . Org, straighterline . Com, learn . Saylor . Org. My final note is this: Ultimately, this is your life, and whatever happens or not is gonna be your responsability. Every action, your consequences. If you choose to not go to college because you are over 18, that's fine, but remember that, as far as I know, your parents can also kick you out, and that's also fine. Because you are, technically, an adult. So you get to do whatever you want as a grown up, and that is awesome! :D Trust me. But you also have to answer for it. So if I were you I'd do some deep meditation for a few days to find out what you really want. And don't fret, if college also taught me something is that you can change your mind, and you will, somehow, and it's not the end of the world :) You have a lifetime to figure out what you want to do. Take your time!
Ofc, I'd love to do that, for months now I have been hooked of nature, Idk if it is my passion or is just fake, I wish I could do soul searching to places which are only nature but covid happened, welp.
He's so cute, he's that one cousin you can just chill with and share silence and be very comfortable. That cousin that helps you out in the most unforseen ways... Thanks Waldun
I have a cousin just like him. She really helps me about things that no one can help. And fun fact she studied literature. So it was weird to read your comment. 😂
I've spent my whole childhood dreaming about becoming a scientist because i thought it'd give me the answers to all the questions i had. In high school i had doubts but eventually came back to physics. And now, 6 weeks in physics major it feels like a dread instead of a blessing. I get lots of mechanical stuff that i basically don't understand and just try to memorize. I specifically avoided engineering to strive for the higher. I wanted to be somewhere in the clouds, but now i'm actually feeling more pressed to the ground than ever. My parents say that it's just because i'm finally getting to the difficult stuff. I'm not convinced. My only other viable option was to get trained as a sommelier since I've found myself helping everyone i know choose wines. Nevertheless, i don't find myself among the talented tasters because of my partial inability to feel and recognise the smells. That's why I'm feeling so lost right now. I know that i'm generally interested in culture and politics isn't that foreign to me because I've been an activist for the last couple of years and follow the events in my and neighbouring countries quite closely. - So should i do journalism? -Nah, I'm not that good at writing texts and i have a bit of a stutter so reporting isn't my thing. - Maybe a degree in international law will do? - Do i even want to be a lawyer? - Not sure, but the judges look cool in their robes. You could work for the UN or some kind of international NGO. - Art history? - What am i going to work as with that useless piece of paper? - But the learning process must be interesting. - Yeah, but can i just take a course online and save myself four years of my life. - So do i even need to get a degree? - You do. How are you going to afford retiring in a mansion somewhere in the Mediterranean without a degree? - Am I even going to live that long? - So maybe just get that physics degree? - Do you want me dead !? Thanks for reading my inner monologue, as I'm trying to find excuses not to do my mechanics homework and finally give up mathematical analysis so that i can't have fairly stable mental health again. Updates my relatives' opinions: Mom: You're quite fearless so you could think about becoming a nurse. Grandma: That university near your house specializes in architecture. Your aunt's ex went there and enjoyed his time so you should go there and become an architect. Dad: Why do you even think about changing your major? Physics isn't that hard. Friends: Get the fuck out of the physics program ASAP, you can do international relations and finally learn French and German. Me : Can I just get a sugar daddy and forget about going to university? Further updates: I actually chose to leave the physics program. Because of how education system in Ukraine works I'm now actually dropping out of university and will be reapplying to my alma mater in summer after i take some additional exams. I'm still in doubt between urban planning and political science so will be taking exams for both. I've also got myself a free semester, which is awesome, although pandemic limits my opportunities a lot. My mental health is at its best again. I have no idea what i'm going to do in life but it doesn't bother me that much, because I'm just 17 and have enough time on my hands to make mistakes, try different things and change my mind like a hundred times. I've finally got myself some time to live. It's been a month since my last physics class and to be honest I don't miss them. So I guess I've made the right choice. November 2021 update: I'm studying urban planning now and I like it a lot more than physics. March 2023 update: I moved to France last year, and I'm still pursuing a human geography/urban planning degree. Some great French professors made me fall in love with the disciplines, and now i can't really imagine myself in another field. I speak more French than I ever expected to, and I did start learning German. So things played out really well for me, even if we keep in mind the not-so-pretty reason i moved to France in the first place.
My advice almost three years in college is. You’re not meant to know everything yet especially if you’re just starting out. No one expects you to know everything about science or whatever you decide to pursue. I had to tell myself this when I first got into college because of how different it is from high school. But fr sugar daddy sounds nice to me too.
I think you should go along with the subject that always finds a way into your mind. I did 2 years of psychology at university because I thought I wanted to help people and felt a sense of responsibility and meaning attached to that, I was good at helping people since I was a kid and all, always had the observer eye and all that. I thought it was right but I often found myself wondering about the structures that Psychology is built on, it goes like that: Psychology, Philosophy, Biology, Chemistry, Physics. I always seemed to go back to Physics and wanted to understand that structure. My mind was always bringing me there, now I'm in Physics and I deeply love it (I honestly dont give a damn about mechanics but it's still... bearable). It just ~feels~ right, I know I want to understand the world in this lense. You seem to enjoy social subjects or more human-related subjects. There are plenty of beautiful subjects to choose from and I think you really should follow your heart on that. You only have so much time to live, choose what's meaningful and don't be afraid of being wrong, it happens. I hope you'll find your way
After watching this video, I found myself thinking, what do I do every single day? I watch RUclips, I watch live streams, I play games. But mother says they are obsessions, addictions, telling me to stop. Are they just my way to escape life? Or are they what I truly love to do? So what's the difference between obsession/addiction and passion?
Addiction usually is of inverted nature, based on consuming something. But passion is of extraverted nature, creating and giving something to the world and those around you.
Addiction. Id say. I still struggle with internet addiction but I am cutting off many social medias. I used to be very addicted to reddit, because I liked talking to people. Ranting. Getting attention. J have no friends and reddit provided the attention j needed. But j was never satisfied. No one never gave me attention enough and after a while I just got so bored of it. I couldn't bear it anymore. Writing posts there thinking anyone could help me but their advice was never useful for me. They never understood me. So I decided to delete it and go back to journaling and therapy. I get the feedback from the therapist and the journaling allows me to think on my own, reflect, rant and gain autonomy. With tv shows it was the same. It felt like having friends. But I grew tired of following fictional characters drama. I replaced it with reading lol. And after the pandemic I need to make more effort to make some friends. So I guess, find out what makes u hooked on it, do you feel good or like a failure? I always felt like it was wasting my time but I felt so attached and lonely. I didn't know who I was without these things. Tv shows were so much my identity that I considered doing film school. But I realized I only liked the finished product. The one tree hill kind of friendship. The fun, loyalty. But it's not real. It's fiction. Real life is scary. Real life involves emotional riscs. Sometimes social consequence, anxiety, fear of being abandoned, not being in control of who likes you and who doesn't and so on... Virtual life is easy. You can hide behind a screen. Take your mask off. Pretend your confident. Be your ideal self. But real life involves traumas. Childhood fears. Insecurities. Life is naturally insecure. You never know when you'll die...
But if you truly believe that it's a passion...try an online course, maybe look for design, programming, etc see if the doing is just as fun as the watching. It's like that student that complains about bad grades but didn't care to study. Asks the nerd to give her a resume. Doesn't bother about reading the full thing but just the synthetized product.
There is no difference. An obession is on the far end of enjoyment, just before an addiction. Let me use myself as an example. As a child I used to prefer gaming above all else, it was pure fun and I enjoyed being pushed to discover new ways to solve the same problem. Thus, I didn't care much for school. Sitting around listening wasn't something for me. At that point it was simple enjoyment, I loved gaming and I disliked being at school and studying, unless it involved something I liked. Then, with time, all I wanted to do was play some other game, they were so fun after all. I had other stuff I liked but gaming was top. During middle school, I genuinely felt my muscles longing for a controller. I just wanted to go play something. But it wasn't enough anymore, and what did I do at the end? I stopped just short of an addiction. I was playing AC2 at the time and I decided I wanted to be like Ezio so I started doing parkour, and I was good enough at it. I kept doing it for years, it was a lot of fun. When you get an obsession, alternatives start looking boring or straight up undesirable, mild consequences start manifesting themselves. Easy example, kids who pee themselves playing fortnite. My cousin was so fixated on the game, he shat behind his couch. When you're addicted, the only thing giving you some meaning is that. You can't live without it and you look dead. You may or may not start selling personal belongings to follow your addiction. Inevitably you build tolerance and so you need more and more of it, when at some point it breaks you. I for one have learned to obsess over things temporarily, obsessions are actually very productive. Your like for the subject of obsession grows the more you spend time with it, which means if you get obsessed on something useful you can become _very good_ at something without being excellent to start with.
I realised I found my passion when I had stood at my easel for hours so focused that I did not realised how tired I had become, the fact I hadn’t eaten, my brothers constant fighting, how numb I’d gotten and how loud the music my neighbours were playing was until I had finished the painting and sat down to admire it. It was at that moment the the world regained noise and I felt everything. I was so intoxicated with my craft that my brain had blocked out everything but what I was doing so that I could enjoy it. And man did I love it. I still love that painting even though I have improved. Partly because of the feeling it reminds me of and the feeling I have every time I pick up the paintbrush
I think I felt in love with the idea of working as a mathematician along with its romanticized aesthetic, I tried working like one in my University work and did pretty well with the exam and I dare say the craft itself grew on me like it's ingrained in my mind, I hit a terrible burnout the following year.
@@indrajabahadurdesai2787 stoppp :(( me too.. ive been planning on being singer/songwriter/ producer for a year now. all my time just went down the drain because i realised i don't like it and i never have...
I've read from a commentor from one of his videos asking him what his thoughts were for audiobooks, he said he wasn't a fan because it like takes the magic of reading it personally.
I’m 33 years old and I think I’ve found my passion. I ran from it for so long..in denial of the dream of just wanting to tell stories. Until I gathered the courage and took a writing workshop. Just get it over with and see if it’s what I truly wanted. then 2 months later I was so immersed in my storytelling, my characters woke me in my dreams, I spent hours in my closet working on drafts for 2 to 4 hours at a time. Wake at 4/5am and write before my kids woke up for school. And No it wasn’t perfect writing. Messy and sloppy. The first draft was hot off the press and it was go go go. It played like a movie happening in real time. Ive spent hours upstairs in my nook, placing post-it’s in place of character arcs their time lines, and seasons. My youngest referred to them as ‘mommy’s squares’ I then felt deeply in my soul: I found myself. I could do this forever. Live in my head then tell you a tale. You have to know and must know. And tell it the right way and the way it’s meant to be written. Love your advise and charisma ❤️
It is suffice to say though that there are points in your life where it isn’t so black and white. I am an artist and I am now at a point in my life where everyday I make art, I feel so inspired and motivated to work and I never loved my passion more. That’s said, a year ago I felt more like someone who was only in love with the idea as I wasn’t making much. Basically what I’m trying to say is there will be moments in your life where do find your true passion but it will feel like you haven’t. You would feel like you have to force it and that you really don’t like what you’re doing. For me it was because of the pressure to be the best and working to the point where I burnt myself out. So I urge people to really really think about their passions and that it isn’t always gonna be this romanized fantasy even when you find what you love to do.
Thank you so much, because that’s what I’m feeling. I think truly writing is my passion, but I become so distracted by ideas of being a writer or puplishing stuff that it becomes hard. I am not a person who just do stuff, never. I have to think first, always. So the only way to live along my passion is to force me to do it every day. And I hope I am right about it, because he scared the hell out of me with his words.
thank you for saying this. i've always been a creative person, and i mentally struggle a lot with the idea of working a basic, everyday job. so i've been trying to think of ways to make money off of what i love for a long time, and it always turns back to putting my work out there on social media. videos, photography, paintings, writing, music, all of it. and i've been noticing that now when i get an idea, i always instantly think it has to be a certain way, or it can't include this or that, or has to have this, etc. because i know it'll be shared on instagram (or something else.) i stopped writing poetry/writing or really creating anything for awhile because i thought none of it was good enough or i was too scared to share it with anyone. tldr: i feel like everything i create is for social media, and that scares me. its taking away the fun of creating and sharing, and i'm trying to find the balance.
Take a week to study yourself. Look into the movies you like to watch, the types of video games you primarily like to play, and any odd quirky things you may do in your spare time. Follow yourself without judgment for one week and pay attention to the things you talk about. Your passion/s will lie there. I help people find their passions. Mostly by putting them under. Which makes them so much easier to work with.
Is it weird that I am obsessed with the psychology of women. How they view (attraction)men and how some men can emotionally hook girls and play them like a marionette. I like to dive deep into that topix
This video is so important! Right now I’m having this exact problem as I’m almost done with high school and still not knowing what my passion is. I’m a really flexible person in interests. I love a lot ideas and themes. I’m curious about almost every field which confuses me. It makes my choice difficult. Writing is something I enjoy a lot but I would never consider becoming a full-time author. I love solving mathematic problems but would never consider becoming a mathematician. I could go on and on. I’m confused. Anyways, awesome video with an really important thought.
Same. And the current situation doesn't necessarily provide everyone with the same freedom to pursue one thing or both things at the same time... May you find your path or perhaps forge a path that allows you to enjoy both
I have the exact same problem, but now I think that most of the ideas I indulge in are merely because I fell in love with the idea of it, not the thing itself.. Why didn't I stumble upon his channel before? I could have started way early but better late than never! Hope you discover, or as I prefer to say invent/forge something you love to do. I'm definitely sharing this with the world☺.
Same here, I've got a lot of interests (and am good at) from music to literature to science. The problem is that I just can't find that ONE thing I'll enjoy the process of doing it in the long run, rather than the idea itself. I'm so confused at the moment you can't believe it😆
I loved this video so much I almost cried. I'm from Argentina, and I've been in love with English since I was a child, had that kind of 'natural talent' with it. Still, I never pictured myself doing much with it than just speaking it. In my case, I loved the idea of being a publisher: spending my days reading, editing. A big office, cherishing beautiful pieces of writing with a cup of coffee in my hand. The thing is, after a few courses of study, I realised I hated it. I loved reading -still do- , but publishing meant something completely different. So, who would tell me that, after all these years, I actually had my passion right in front of me. Nowadays I'm studying to be an English teacher, even though I never pictured myself teaching -crazy thing. But omg I love it so much, nothing feels as right for me as English does. So I completely felt every word you said
I've never felt a "calling" before. I used to do okay in elementary school, in the top class, scored the highest in science and math but things just went haywire in high school. School seemed boring so I started sketching as a distraction. Eventually after years, I got better at it that everyone was starting to praise me. I was basically invisible in highschool but I realized people would stop by and ask me to show them my artworks. People would use to envy me for being "talented" in something and that's when I started to love the idea of me being a "naturally talented artist". I kept doing it eventhough the process of it was immensely boring. Thinking back, I wasn't really into the craft at all. What motivated me to create artworks was thinking about the praises I would get for this. I've had enough and quit "doing arts" completely when the lockdown started this year. I stopped drawing because I just hate the whole process of it, and I hate when people address me as an artist when I clearly know that I am not. I stopped questioning about my future, I just decided to go with the flow since my family can't afford my college fees anyways. The second lockdown started, I lose my temporary job, decided that I should retake my high-school tests so that I can get into certain colleges with hopefully a scholarship or fees reduction. Picked up an astronomy book that was thrown out by my sibling to enhance my science knowledge, thought that I would stop reading after a few pages, surprisingly I was hooked. Now clouds are my new enemy, I would go out and study the stars almost every night, grinning like an idiot especially when i found the orion nebula that i would always read about. Physics and math used to be my lullabies since all they do was to make me sleep, but now all I think of is the science around us. I found passion in figuring out how the world works, scientifically. I'm afraid actually, its the first time for me that I've found something I love so much, I'm afraid the spark would eventually die off. The first time in years, I'm actually afraid of death. When I get questions whether I had made peace with my death, my old self would be like "sure, I'm always ready, bring it on". When I got this exact question a few days ago, by my annoying younger sibling, who's always talking gibberish, I actually contemplated on his words and said "no, not until they've figured out how the quantum mechanics work, if the quantum particles will travel to another dimension when they crushed the particles into even smaller pieces, the theory of everything, the dragonfly project to Titan, Saturn's moon, the next full solar eclipse, crewed mission to moon and MARS in a few years, not until I've bought my first telescope and look at the planets upclose with my own eyes" just im thinking of all the possibilities of new discoveries, and I'm not ready at all until I watched all these unfold. I know my past self sounded depressing, I was probably depressed back then, but again I'm not trying to self diagnose, that was just my raw thoughts, back then. I truly hope my passion for whatever I've fallen for, will not die out. And I hope for those who haven't found theirs yet, I hope you make peace with your current self and eventually stumble upon your true calling. Even though I'm still struggling to understand math and physics since its been years since I've graduated high school, but unlike my old self, I'm actually trying to understand them now.
Hi, you could always go to a community college. It is much cheaper than a regular 4 year university and you can get your first 2 years done for much much cheaper. Look into it! Also, continue learning about your interests!
@@ZBooneBeats Hi, thank you for your encouragement ! Community colleges, there's only a few here in where I live. I've had plans but I had graduates warned me not to since it would be impossible to land a job. I'll have to save up and hopefully get some fees reduction. Btw Merry Christmas!
@@moonbunnies5216 Merry Christmas! Yes, you probably wouldn't graduate from a community college and get a job. You should transfer to a 4 year university and get your bachelors degree because that is more marketable. I didn't mean stop your education at a community college. You should get a bachelors degree :) Although, there are some certificates that may land you a job right after community college. My point is it's cheaper and you still will get the same degree as other students. But paying for it will be much easier.
I feel there is also a deeper level to this. Sometimes we have been conditioned by others, or by a self deprecating narrative that we stop liking the “everyday craft.” For example we may have enjoyed writing but others have said we are not good enough. Then we start to believe that, and we start fantasizing “if only..” and start thinking of that success that we don’t have. At the start you just liked writing for the fun of it but now your opinion and view has changed that you don’t like it anymore. That’s what I I’m struggling to grasp. I know there was a day where I really enjoyed the craft, and I see glimpses of it when I fully let go, but the narrative I’ve built for myself comes back and it’s back to the day dreaming about the futureee
When I was a kid, I always wanted to be an artist; specifically draw and paint. I wanted to be like Leonardo DaVinci, Vincent Van Gogh and Picasso. I used to draw in my sketch book and make a few sketches once every few weeks. Overtime, I began to realize that maybe I loved drawing because of the idea of being an artist. Maybe daydreaming of being like Leonardo DaVinci, Vincent Van Gogh and Picasso was just a fantasy of me wanting be seen as a great artist and what it feels to be like one. I then realized that being a sketch artist and a painter wasn't my calling. The only time I ever actually loved drawing was drawing characters, clothes, objects, and symbols. I soon picked up writing and saw how amusing it was. I love daydreaming about characters, scenarios, and worlds. I even fantasize about being the next great writer like Tolkien, George R.R. Martin, J.K. Rowling, Charles Dickens, H.P. Lovecraft, Edgar Allen Poe, and Bram Stoker. But I don't fantasize on what it's like to be a great writer. I want to tell stories, get people to read them and have them fall in love with the stories while also being in love with the story myself. I want to become a great writer and write stories that are true to me. Even if I don't become that great writer, being loved by millions and have my name be recorded through history, I atleast got some people to read my work and like it. That's how I know that writing is my true calling because I find it amusing, fun and pleasurable. It's also something that I have to do to get my word across.
Indeed, this last two years i fantasized about the idea of being a prolific musician. I played covers and studies of musicians i admired. The thing is that i wanted to compose my own music. That never happened. I hated the process, i couldn´t put myself to work, to write a frickin melody. That´s when i realized (not so long ago) that i was romantizicing the idea of being an artist. It hitted hard, of course. Things get rough when you loose your identity; nevertheless, these two years were very formative for me. I learned the art of being disciplined in regards of getting good at an instrument. I recommend people this: let yourself fantasize, fool yourself and rejoice with your dreams, but when the times comes, be prepared to face the truth. Nothing wrong with fantasy, thats where it all starts. It´s try and error. Without experience of failure, you couldn´t posibly check if that´s your craft or not. Sorry for my ambiguous english, not native.
i was super depressed and had to fight not killing myself every minute in august, i felt like there was nothing i could do in life there was no purpose, and then i decided to start drawing this anime character i liked, and then i started drawing more and more. i used to draw all the time until middle school when i was told by everyone to get a “normal career” and i had to discared my somewhat natural talent. then as a sophomore in highschool, i only drew for art class, but i still sucked. but then i got an ipad in september and started practicing digital art 7+ hours a day (yes as a junior in highschool), and realized it was my passion, and now im in the process of creating a webtoon. creating comics and drawing was the passion i naturally had but had to abandon. but now its the only thing that made me happy and got me through depression, although i do struggle some... but i feel like i can do something with life now :) and you will find your passion one day too!
I think I was about 5 or 6 years old when my parents took me to my first orchestra show. Sitting in our front row seats, the music began and I was so entranced by the whole experience . It was like something I’ve ever seen. At some point, my mother pointed out the violinist, who at the time, looked to be a young girl around 13 years old. I saw her and I fell in love with the image of of her holding this delicate instrument and playing something beautiful. I pictured myself in the image instead of the girl and for years I held onto it, without ever even touching a single violin! Then In grade 7 we were allowed a choice of instruments and when I heard they offered violin lessons I could not believe it! It felt like destiny. For about a year and a half I played it at school and performed with it, just like the girl from the orchestra many years ago. But the longer I played, the less apparent seemed the reason be to continue. I thought I loved playing the violin but after so many practices I came to hate the damn thing. I realized I wasn’t really in love with all the hours and practices that came with playing such instrument, but I loved performing in front of an audience so much that I couldn’t quit right away. I tried other instruments and the same thing happened: I hated the practice and the instrument but I loved the part where we got to perform. So I realized that I was never meant to be a musician, I just loved the delicate nature of the violinist and that image of beauty and grace. Performing stuck with me though. When everyone else was anxious over The performance, I was excited to be out there in front of other people again. I can’t say that I’m pursuing a path in the performance yet, but I found passion in theatre. I didn’t care about the red carpets or awards though. I think that’s how I knew it was meant for me. Not sure how to begin such a path in theatre just yet but someday I will make it happen.
You are so inspiring. People our age have a fear of passion. I think society tries to stamp out its embers where it sees it, because passion is resistance. We are shoved in and told to keep quiet. But passion lights up a person! A life without it would be lukewarm. We, as young people, need to foster our passions, so we can light up like signal fires, one after the other. You, in part, have lit me. And I hope to light someone someday too.
I'm a journalism major currently reconsidering said major and when you said "How do you actually know you're really going to enjoy journalism?" I almost choked on my drink
Abit of a strange thing to point out, but your teeth are cool to look at. As someone who struggles with irregular teeth, seeing someone so comfortable with their words and intent, gives me some courage to be unique too. A hidden gem of a channel.
My first love was/is art. I’ve been searching feverishly to find a path that could lead to some feeling of success. The idea of the ‘broke and tortured’ artist actually repelled me from diving deeper into my craft. The thought of doing tons of cheap commissions that would be tossed only a few years later made me ill lol. It isn’t really until now I feel like it’s all I have and all I really know how to do pretty decently. I’m still uncertain of the specifics to ‘success’ but this video has reassured my call to listen to the innocence of my passions.
I really appreciate your video & essay. It is true we all gravitate towards something we enjoy, but I fear if I pursue what comes innately to me, it will become tarnished by becoming the source of my income & ability to sustain myself. If anything, I view these things that come naturally as my reprieve from the responsibilities the world asks from me. Tethering what brings me joy changes the whole dynamic that I have with the interest. The pressure of perfecting a craft or having the limits of doing what I love for a fixed amount of hours in exchange for money is something that intimidates me.
As an illustrator, I think this video makes a great point. In a lot of these creative fields, people have a completely skewed viewpoint of what that lifestyle is. However, I’d like to say if you are genuinely pursuing something, not simply the idea of it, does not make passion easy. Nearly everyone has days where they’d rather do nothing and fall into habits of laziness in a life of exhaustion, but passion is the thing that even when you’re doing nothing, and your day is empty, your mind wanders back to it- an idea to write or improve what you’ve written, a new compositional idea, a desire to return to your passion. While he’s a lovely speaker, being someone with bad habits or an untrained focus doesn’t mean that you’re without passion, but instead a lack of commitment- which is something everyone can train and become better with. I’m an artist and I love what I do- when I was still a high school student who was excited by art but couldn’t spend days painting didn’t mean that I had a false passion, but instead that I was in an environment that wasn’t conducive to it. What I’m saying is, a true passion is only part of the equation, commitment and environment are what you must pursue if you want your passions to bear fruit.
I believe you are absolutely right about this. But just the thought, that not everyone will find their passion within their lifetime and that I could be one of those people, is really terrifying.
I think those who didn’t find it wasn’t prioritizing their passion. If it terrifies you, then keep trying. Finding something we like isn’t as complicated as we make it to be. We try and try to find a partner who we like and grow the relationship but why aren’t we doing the same with our passion.
This made me cry. I have fallen in love with the idea of becoming a director, but I am very afraid of making my own films. However, I have always known that I would become a teacher. It was just something in my soul that I knew would, some way or another, come to fruition. Thank you for helping me find my true calling.
I feel the same way, I'm studying Law but singing is my real passion.. But I'm scared of pursuing it man because I see a lot of people on RUclips who sing better than me and I just get discouraged
@@google_me2567 Don't compare yourself with other people. You compare yourself with your past self and see if you improved or not. That's my way to not get discouraged knowing that there will always a better people than me.
@@google_me2567 join a singing club at your university! Join your choir group at church? Or take a singing lesson. Join a band if you feel like singing on youtube is too much pressure. It’ll broaden your singing world and open new opportunities if you are meant for it.
Im an art student, and this might be a minor view, but listening to this makes me feel so happy that I trult have found my passion. Art is what I can imagine myself doing for the rest of my life, every hour spent doing it feels like a breeze of joy.
This video made me recognize that what I currently want to pursue is correct. Composing music is my real passion. Never have I found the idea of being a composer (or an artist in general) to be somehow desirable. Yet I love what I do. And I love it so much that there's nothing else in this world I'd rather do.
I got into digital painting last year and I told myself that if I am consistent at this then you'll improve drastically, A year has passed and my painting skills has drastically improved since the day when I first started putting random blobs of colors on a canvas. I've spent over a hundred hours now on my craft and I still don't know if I even want to be a "Digital Painter" but what I do know is that I love creating, The thought of creating something from just your imagination and depicting it into reality is just what I live for. So most probably the thought of being an artist isn't what I yearn for, But more on crafting ideas into reality is most likely what I want to do for the rest of my life. If most likely someone is reading this, There will be ups n downs and you just have to get up from it. May I remind you I've done previous kinds of mediums before but they're all related to creating ideas into reality and I've now settled with Digital Painting for the time being. There's no other person who will push you than you, yourself. To achieve that 'passion' of yours, There will be times where you're unmotivated and not interested in doing anything or pursuing that 'passion' and that's okay. There are definitely times like that, I've had a lot of art blocks before where I don't even know what to create but I still keep on moving forward and that's the key to achieving success is to keep going and not looking back. Thank you for reading my TedxTalk. :D I'll go back to painting now..
One thing that comes in our way to actually choose the path we want is the pressure we get from outside. It can be our family, friends or colleagues etc. It's always common after highschool to have everything figured out and go to work or to university and then eventually take a job in the respective field we majored in. This so called 'time' pressure scares us and somehow pushes us forward to chose whatever it might be, just to do something in life and not be left behind. This pressure of being behind or seeing that others have already achieved so much, makes us feel like we failed and therefore many don't stick to trying to find something they truly enjoy BECAUSE IT TAKES TIME TO FIGURE THAT OUT. And that is how I felt for the last couple of years until now...I finished highschool and changed so many university majors until I finally found something that truly interests me. I have to admit that througout this time and even now, I get that feeling that these 3 years have gone in vain and that I am such a failure, but I soon realized that no matter what happened, all those experience, ups and downs, formed me to the person I am today. That's why, if it takes you longer to figure out what your truly calling is or if you'll feel like you have messed up your life because of the time that has passed and you still haven't actually decided on what you truly want to do in life, but I am here to tell you: IT'S COMPLETELY FINE!!!! Just go on and never stop searching for your your dreams. Even if you feel like your future may may look hopeless, don't stop fighting, continue on searching for what you're meant to do and when you've finally figured it out, you'll feel so much better to fully chase that dream and never let it go.
as a child i was constantly drawing and creating art daily , i was convinced that when i grew up i would be an artist. i lost that spark momentarily from the ages of 9-12 but i regained it my freshman year of highschool and fell in love with the craft again. i strived to take all of the art classes offered in my school , even ap drawing & painting as well as ap 2d. towards the end of my sophomore year , i noticed that i was starting to lose interest again , but this change became extremely drastic as i entered my junior year of hs. that year was when i took ap drawing and found myself not only at a complete loss of motivation , but starting to develop a hatred for creating art and waking up every single morning dreading the amount of time i would have to spend on it. i am a bit of a perfectionist in certain aspects of life: if i fail at something , even if it was my first try at it , i immediately ditch all plans and give up. i know it should never be that way because of course all successful people failed yet picked themselves back up again and again. however , the constant anxiety of having to deal with failure coupled with the dread of having to work on art (especially since ppl were expected to spend 8+ hours per week on it , as well as it counting towards a grade and my work being made public to my peers and my teacher who i looked up to) took an immense toll on my mental health and i became extremely burnt out , depressed , and s**cidal. it would be a beautiful day outside and nothing particularly bad would happen during that day , but i still always managed to burst into tears every day for hours and hours on end. although i was in a lot of pain , i thankfully got through it and held my ground and ended up getting a decent score on my portfolio. but i’ve noticed after that that i had absolutely 0 motivation or creativity or drive to get up and make something. to be exact , i would only make one piece of art every 6 months. i still love looking at other people’s art and admiring all the different styles and mediums but the thought of me actually sitting down and drawing / painting from start to finish still gives me a tinge of dread. i’ll only be able to create if i have just enough motivation and energy to do so. one of the reasons i highly appreciate this video is because it made me realize that i wasn’t alone and that i wasnt a sad case of another kid getting burnt out. i kept telling my loved ones that i have a weird relationship with art but no one fully understood , not even my family. they said that i was just experiencing an “art block” and that i would get over it soon. but to be completely honest i feel like i’ll never get over it and i’ll always have this outlook on creating art for the rest of my life. however , seeing so many people relate in the comments makes me feel so much better and i finally don’t feel like the only person going through this. i’ve recently picked up an interest in baking , especially over quarantine , as i find it therapeutic and of course i have a major sweet tooth so that also gets fulfilled. i don’t know if this will be a permanent love or interest , maybe it might be or maybe it won’t but i may still do it causally from time to time. i just have to open myself up to new things and keep experimenting. after all , experiencing new things is one of the most beautiful things about life (^:
When he said how you'll be writing down and would actually be doing the stuff you wanted....i looked around me and juat saw my notes and books and the laptop screen showing the book on physics...how i wanted to be physicist and now im so engaged in it, now I'm pursuing my degree in Physics. I kind of felt so energized. yess! This is it! I won't doubt!
This video was so good that I felt the urge to write something down here but I don't seem to come up with a proper set of words that expresses how much I enjoyed listening to you. Anyway, thanks for sharing your thoughts.
Haven’t finished the video but I want to say as an artist it is okay to have self doubt and start off doing it for the end result. If you have that feeling don’t give up. Recognize how you feel about it and how you should feel. Enjoying the process. I’ve spoke to artist friends who have changed by perception about being an artist. I broke my collarbone and it’s been an eye opener because I want to work on stuff SO BADLY. In short: If you find yourself doing something for the wrong reasons don’t give up and find something else. Try sticking with it with a different mindset.
I'm a Full Stack Bootcamp instructor, graduated Computer Science from university. Previously I was deeply infatuated with theoretical physics, particularly (pun intended) interested in particle physics. With no job in sight in that field where I live, CS came to my aid. Behind all this experience, writing, journaling, and what I now know is called writing essays have always been my quiet friends. I may have actually written more English in my journals and essays, both public and private, than I have written code. It's inspiring to hear your story and your insights on the matter. You're the most intelligent and articulate and insightful and coherent 19 (or 20?) year old I've come across. I've always been praised for my intelligence and articulation relative to my age, but I think you have me beat on that one. Keep up the good work! I'm glad I found your channel.
"What do you want to become?" a question we all have been asked to since childhood. I really never knew what I wanted to become. Maybe I still don't. I had so many beautiful options in front of me to choose from as a career. I have aways wanted to make choices I wouldn't regret later...but its as important to make wrong choices. Graduated high school and joined a prep class for med school entrance exam which cost my parents around a $1000. I know I will be criticized a lot if I change my path now. What have I ever wanted to become? Its not that medicine is not a beautiful path. It is.. But I thought I would be okay if I just choose a path and go on... I don't feel okay. All I know is I made wrong choices. Do I regret them? Hell no! Had I not made them I wouldn't be knowing what I really want to do. Thanks a load for posting this video. You truly have cleared a ton of confusion in my head. edit- thanks for 5 likes!!!
You probably think like this due to the broken educational system. Trust me, there are awesome things in science and stuff you are supposed to learn at school. They just manage to make their students hate everything.
@@user-nw1qb6jd9o Oh, I know there are awesome things in science, both natural and social. I loved my first 2 years in university (majoring in biology). I listen to lectures on youtube for fun and even as a kid documentaries were my favorite. I just hate working hard. As long as I can learn science that someone has condensed for me - I love it! But the slow and tedious work of doing science myself? Ugh no. I need things to be constantly exciting and full of awe, or it feels like my brain is clawing it's way out to desperately focus on anything else. Sadly that's just not realistic in science.
I just finished college, I studied computer science. I thought it would be nice since I'm really comfortable with math but didn't "love it" so at the least it was going to be easy. I was wrong. It wasn't THAT HARD for me, for the most part I didn't struggle to understand my classes or exams. The shitty part came when I realized that I didn't give a shit about programming, like I was good at it but didn't care beyond exams and grades. I only finished because of social pressure. And I have to say that computer science is and AMAZING field like I love how many things you can do and build and how to contribute to other fields. I gave up searching for a passion. Yeah I like a lot of things and have many interests but nothing that I can call passion. The mere idea of having a passion without any knowledge of the skills required is funny to me. How would you know it's your passion if you've never tried it. It's silly from my point of view.
@@NOCLUEinvalid Just googled it! Really interesting stuff, at last some sane and useful advice that I'm actually excited to read more about. Like, I can actually do something to adress my problem instead of waiting for a passion to magically manifest itself. Thanks a lot for the info!
@@Violetaasvideo I'm really glad you found my recommendation helpful! I have also struggled a lot with really wanting one sole passion so I really related to your original comment.
In addition to all the comments speaking about how true passion feels like, I can add my piece: there would be times when you feel tired and sick of it, nothing works out and you start hating it, telling yourself you'll never return to this work again. But as soon as you leave it, you know you've been lying. Something still calls you and you look forward to get back to work as soon as you get some rest. And you know - everything will work out this time. Or some other time, maybe in a year and three year, when you get more knowledge. The one thing you know - you don't WANT to give up
this was so, so mind opening. I've been writing and drawing for the same amount of time now, and it's been 8 years, and I always thought that both crafts were as important to me. But really, I've always wanted to call myself an artist and I loved seeing my finished pieces, I was proud of myself - but what I really loved was the end result. I loved the idea of being an artist a bit more than I actually loved to draw and paint. And this was so different with writing. I never really called myself a writer out in the open. I bought notebooks, wrote down every idea that came to mind, be it at 4am or on the bus to school, I wrote. I loved writing, thought about writing all the time; and I wrote. Despite English not being my first language, despite being a 13 year old back then with no real idea of how most things worked. And it never changed. Sometimes, not all the time, I feel obligated to paint or draw, because it's a skill I've been polishing for so long. But when I write, it's because I feel the urge to write; every day. Thinking about writing gives me as much pleasure as actually writing. And I think that makes such a big difference. You can love a craft, but it doesn't always mean that it is your one true passion.
finding a passion is such an incredible feeling. i am passionate about ballet and i could literally stand at the barre for hours and hours everyday and pick apart my technique. i never get tired of it. it is such a dynamic and vibrant art form that is so historical and somehow so contemporary! great video man
Hi. This comment might be a bit late and you might not even see it, but i guess i just need to get it off my chest. I apologize in advance bc this might seem a bit scattered and english is also not my first language. I've always been a reader, and I started writing when I was 9 years old. It's been around ten years now, and I'm currently in med school, almost (as soon as next month) 20 years old. Mind you, I've never been too fast of a writer, maybe because of myself or because of one reason and the other. But I've always liked writing. I've always liked teeling stories out of my imagination (stories that were always there even before I started writing them), expressing my feelings through words. And when I started to be more aware of the whole process, even the investigation and studying that comes with writing seemed attractive to me. Art and creation seem attractive to me. Now, why am I in med school? To be honest, at this point I have no clue. It's something I liked as a kid and, don't get me wrong, I do like to learn about science and this super cool stuff. And I apply to med school and other careers to see what my chances were. When I took my chance with med school, I did it with the thought that I could manage both things. Being a doctor and writing, it seemed like a cool idea. But the thruth is that, up until now, I haven't really managed to do so. I remember there was a time where I had already gratuated from highschool but hadn't started classes in medschool yet, for reasons out of my control. During that time, I was able to pour myself even more into my writing, and I managed to pull out a few of short stories and even planned somethings. And then college started. And since college started, I haven't been able to finish not one of my stories in the last two years. It's come to the point where I've thought: "should I just drop writing?" but I can't. I swear to god I just can't even follow that line of thought the whole idea of not writing ever again makes me feel sick to my stomach so much that I feel like crying and idk if I'm just being stubborn. But thinking of a Me in the future that does not write in any ways feels empty and pointless. I'm growing more and more frustrated about it and my lack of motivation is really something else. Sometimes I'd be doing some studying and I'd suddenly think "heck, why am I doing this and not researching for this one story?" or "why am I not writing?" and when I do have the time to do such things, I am so emotionally drained that i just can't do it or it comes out in too tiny of bits. When I go on vacations, I just wanna wrap myself on a blanket and not know anything about the world and more specifically, not anything about medschool. Which sucks bc sometimes I have to study while Im on vacation. Heck, even know during the pandemics I don't feel like I want to go back to classes, and in the last few months I had been having trouble concentrating even in reading books for fun. And It is just during these times when Im not doing much about college (online classes are sort of a complicated matter here), during the last two months or so, that I've been able to go back to my writing, even if im only doing little short things by bits, I feel so happy just for the fact that I am progressing somehow. And I'm starting to think: "Has my passion always been there and I've just neglected it one way or the other?". It doesn't sound too far fetched. And honestly, at this point it's not like I want to be a great author that everyone worships. Of course I would love to publish a book or a collection of my short stories and having an audience even if its small, that'd be great. But even the idea of writing for, idk, a show or making storylines or essays or whatever, just the idea of taking creative writing and making a living out of it in any ways seems like it'd be enough for me. But of course I'm also scared. What if I'm wrong. What if im just depressed and changing my career wouldn't do any difference. What if I try and I fail. And im not even going for the "my family won't like this" rute bc the decision is not made but I'm aware of that as well. And idk. I just feel too bad about this whole thing. Desperate, I dare say.
Thank you both for your nice comments. There's no compliment that gives me as much joy as someone telling me I'm a good writer :) During these past few months I've realized that should in fact leave medschool and take a while to sort out myself and my mental health a little bit, and thought I am not sure which steps to take with precision, hopefully I'll find out soon enough. Thank you for your good, sweet wishes. I appreaciate them a lot.
@@pinxied_ I hope you figure out the best thing for you. Since you write stories and I can do some art(I still have to learn a lot) why don't we make a webtoon? Its a platform of web comics with various genres...Maybe you can still write and balance your medschool?? The decision is yours obviously(if you like comics).I was thinking about making a webtoon for quite some time.Am I fantasizing too much? 😔 😭
I can sense that you experienced yourself every possible images that you talk about. Stating it indirectly like it was something universal. I can see the kinds of people you described in you ... Im looking forward for more insights from you.. :))
I put this on to play in the background while I sculpt and oh my god, the irony - @2:38 mins in you propose 'maybe sculpting's not for you.' 👀 _That_ made me pause. Great video, love how you handled this topic.
this kind of discussion is so valid for people taking courses like the one i am. it's illustration and animation, meaning MANY illustrators apply because they hope to become animators, and quickly discover how truly tedious it can be, then have to completely reassess their goals.
This video is so accurate. I think this happens to many people. I wanted to become a writer when I grew up, but I have figured out that, as you said, I was more in love with the idea of being a writer than writing itself. I think I had kind of idealized it,but the truth is that I barely write becuase I never find the inspiration and it takes a lot of effort for me. I think since I have always liked reading and literature I figured that being a writer would be cool, and that idea amused me. Also, lately I have trouble in finding something I love, I think that I'm a bit lost, so I just held to that idea of being a writer, but which I have now realized that is not right for me, or at least not for this time in my life.I'm happy for you for being so passionate about something. I hope that one day I could feel that way too. Now I know that that thing won't magically come to me and I should try new stuff and keep trying.
Thank you for this. I am in a bit of a tough situation at the moment. As a kid, I loved reading, and everything that had to do with books. My dream was to open a bookshop. Years later to where I know am. I am doing a writing course, and have come to the realization that I don't actually enjoy writing. This video has made me realize that I have always liked the idea of writing. I have never written before I started doing this course, and I feel like an outcast, because every one of my classmates says that writing is part of who they are, that they do it very often. I don't feel that way. I absolutely love books though, and have been trying for YEARS now to get hired at a bookstore. Maybe working as a bookseller, selling stories that I love and that other authors have written is my true calling. Food for thought.
I went to Uni to study music, because I thought I wanted to be an opera singer. And I really did, and I still somewhat do. The issue was I became so disillusioned with the industry the more I saw it up close, and the lifestyle of a freelance musician can be really lonely. You have to sacrifice a normal, stable life to have a career in opera. And as I continued on in university I found myself feeling more and more unfulfilled with my classes. I became really intellectually restless. I felt less like I was being educated and more like I was being taught a skill, which is essentially the goal of music school and it's great for those who want that. My saving grace was taking a summer music history course through another university, and taking literature courses my senior year just for fun. I fell in love with research and writing and learning about the history of music. Now I know for sure that my goal in life is to become an academic and to share the joy of learning with others. I know academia is just as fucked up as opera (although in different ways), and there is no such thing as the perfect career, and we have to be extremely careful not to derive our entire life's purpose and happiness from a job, but I'm willing to deal with all of that if it means I can do what I love. And that's the difference, for me.
R. C. Waldun here calling out my silent thoughts. I’ve confronted this problem time and time again in regards of writing. Apprehension mostly comes from the worry of being successful vs the actual writing itself, but even so I see the problem with that train of thought. The point is to write, not necessarily the conclusion of payment. Your viewpoint is very valuable to me Waldun. Keep up the great work!
I love your eloquence and your articulation. I’ve felt every word you’ve said because of it. Thank you so much for imparting your beautiful encounters in life. You may not acknowledged it entirely but you’re helping a lot of us who’re stagnant in life. I hope you’re having a beautiful day today!
I like writing. Creatively or academically, I like expressing myself with writing. I decided to write a story that's been building in my head for almost a decade. I was excited about it until I went around social media platforms looking around writing posts. It feels nice to have a community but I was drained out looking at the posts. Writing just didn't feel personal anymore. I stopped for a long while after writing down notes and plotlines in a couple journals. I pressured myself to belong in the long run during browsing the posts for months when my passion or addiction-turned-productive-hobby only comes alive to me in my personal growth and space. It took me a whle to remind myself that one's passion is, at it's core, just self-pleasing. And it's okay. With or without passion, indulge yourself and not a collective image.
Your article made me take more of a critical angle on that idealised image which comes down to how one would like to be looked upon. It's a pretty difuse image and a superficial choice of a passion is just a shape filling the crude outline of that image. While this can be a good start to figure out what you'd like to do, the only way that image of yourself can start to be rendered more accurately is through a slower process anchored in concrete experience and aplication, creating a particular and unique version of what you imagine you'd want to be.
I used to like the idea of becoming a philosopher, even to the point that I earned a BA in it. However, know that I never read philosophy in my spare time, and spent it instead reading up on politics, and listening to music. If only I had been honest with myself, as well as willing to eat my pride, and admit that I was wrong, I would have pursued the arts. Thankfully, due to a strange series of events, I have been able to not only pursue additional studies in art but also seemingly have a chance of pursuing an MFA. We'll see. I'm hoping for the best. One thing they don't tell you is that in pursuing your true craft, you will likely have to eat your pride, have your ego wounded, and start all over. But it's easier to do if you do it early. Don't wait till after your BA, like I did.
I’m a busy stay at home mom to two kids and these days all I can think of that I want to do, is veg out with my own thoughts, jotting down some ideas and connections I made that day, plug some music in my ears, no interruptions lol. I love so many creative things but not sure which one yet.
I had this idea of a story I´ve been creating all this time: my characters were somewhat developed, their origins, their behaviour, etc. But I still found myself in this block where I couldn´t even write the first words of the story because I thought my writing is not enough (when I was young I did write some little things, short novels, and other stories though). However, when I started watching your videos mainly because of the philosophical part, I stumbled across this video of yours about writing and that you published your novel. This inspired me enormously, and now, after two days I could write at least two paragraphs of the beginning of the story. I am so glad you share your thoughts on this platform and I thank you for it. God bless RUclips recommendations
Omg that is so true. I never understood why we have to choose a career path so young.. You barely experienced life, you barely know yourself.. And you have to decide your future ? Sadly, our society doesn't care at all about our well-beeing/desires and self development, as long as we bring money... I've always felt pressured by that... I disliked my studies. I chose bc I had to choose something. I went to work bc I had to get money. But having no purpose was really depressing. I traveled since then and tried all kind of stuffs ! It helped me a lot to understand what makes me happy, which environment do I feel comfortable in. I just discovered something I already knew.. Without realizing it was a passion , without realizing it was possible to have a career out of it. I love cats , animals in general and It's obvious to me now I wanna work with them.. I really encourage ppl to have new experiences and try new things if you're curious about something. You don't have to choose one btw. And if you're tired of it, you still have the possibility to change. You're not stuck. We evolve through the years, it's normal !
Ok. It's 2:41 a. m. and reading some comments made me want to write a little bit about my situation. I think I would say the weirdest things, and my grammar mistakes will make everything worse, but I'm behind a screen, so I feel some safety here. I grew up being a strange girl. I grew up watching TV novels that showed love as the most important thing in life. No matter the plot, no matter the characters, only love was shown as a big deal (indeed, I remember how the intimacy scenes were, and now I'm older I would not want a kid to watch them). For that reason, and the fact that my father left me, I have some problems with the opposite sex even now. The thing is that that fact began everything, and now I have so many holes in my education because I preferred to be online than studying. But what I was doing online? Watching TV novels? I was writing. I joined a community, and I did roleplayer for years. But I was doing that because it stimulated my brain, as love still does now because of the TV novels mindset. And not only because of the writing itself, but it was also the people I met there and the effect that online interactions had on me. I kind of improved over the years, and an interest in humanities grew. I wrote some stories, and people seem to like them somehow (I have some certificates, but these are only an illustration of how nights without sleeping and being on Facebook had its effect). But then something happened. I went to a literature festival in my city, and I entered the conference. I didn't know the man that was talking, but he seemed important, so I was preparing to ask for an autograph. The conference eventually ended, and even if he gave me the autograph, something died that day. I watched the interactions between that writer and other writers, and I rejected it so much. I did not like the hypocrisy I saw. I did not like the effort that they pushed to put a smile. That day I remember it as the day I decided I won't do a career in humanities. I started searching for sciences, and now I'm still doing so. But sometimes something just feel not alright! I like learning science, but because I don't have a great history with science, I feel I am only faking it. That I won't be a good scientist, that I deserve being in humanity major, not because of humanities itself, but because I won't be good at anything else. That even if being a physician interested me, maybe it's just the idea, and I could hurt someone if I become one. That even if I like biology, I just got normal grades in biology courses, that I'm only a girl with some weirds ideas on her head, daddy issues, family issues, insecurities, financial problems, and with no friends. And now I'm 18 years old, and I believe if someone would know all of my problems, they would say they are no important, but if I don't do something to fix them, I will become a problematic adult in the future. Because that is precisely the problem in our society, sometimes people, and the people around these people, let problems pass, and they don't face them. However, these problems will accumulate and will convert a potential genius into a pathetic adult with mental problems, for example. And... I just want to say that I feel so lost right now that sometimes I think if I were a man and if I were born in the US, with a different family, with a different mindset, with a different personality, maybe I could be a better human. But that did not happen. I have a XX chromosome, and I am Latin American. I grew up with no father and an unemployed mother. I have to work if I want to study, and I need to make money to find a therapist and being able to be normal. And I need to do all of this while I'm searching if medicine and science are my passions. But all of these goals requires energy. So it's better to sleep right now. Thanks if someone reading, and I'm sorry with you.
what you said during the first minutes was so accurate it kind of hurt. you just said out loud what i've subconciously known but chose to ignore for a very long time. you honestly made me cry, this was exactly everything i needed to hear. greetings!
I feel little when I listened this bc you are the kind of person that I´d like to talk with and I´m just 15. I really wanted a channel like yours, thx u. I love it. Greetings from Peru!
It is impossible to not comprehend this man is extremely well versed. I am just now getting into writing and can see how important reading is. Very intelligent man right here. A piece of advice, from a man who has made this very detrimental mistake, surround yourself with likeminded individuals. Young people, such as you and I (19), are around volatile societal standards. As a musician who will never leave producing no matter the fruits of my labor (even produced/written while homeless), I can say, he is speaking truthfully. Good points brother. Follow what you enjoy WORKING for. Most people go to their day jobs to dream of more just to go home and... well... frankly waste their time with distractions. TO FIND YOUR TRUE CALLING TURN YOUR PHONE OFF, TV OFF AND JUST DO IT! The addictions will call. THATS why it must be something you ENJOY working at. Distractions fade away into the everlasting abyss of nothingness.
I can't relate to this one. I knew my passion from 3 years old. It hasn't changed. The real problem is this...its never easy, and it's not always fun. If you are looking for something that's always easy for you or that's always fun, you'll never have a passion. A passion is something you'd bleed for on good days and bad days. Not because of how it makes you look but how it makes you feel. It's worth each ounce of blood you pour into it. If you expect to love the process all the time you'll never have passion. It's not something you discover...its something you've been doing all along and it just clicks for you. You have to do it. Not because you want to but because you were born to. Or at least that's what you feel anyway. You feel made for it. For people who haven't found it...you might have to keep looking. Or maybe work isn't your passion. Maybe family is...or you have a hobby. But regardless, don't feel like you need a passion to be happy. You'll find what you need in time.
Gosh this video speaks to me on a completely new level! I learned the very same thing but the hard way. I think what many of us don't realize when choosing a career is that watching someone else doing the thing and actually doing it ourselves are two very different things. All my life I've loved languages and I spent years learning new languages just for the joy it brought me. Apart from reading and my passion for languages, I didn't have much of an idea about what to do with my life. Then when I got an offer to take on postgraduate research, I jumped at it thinking what could be better suited for me?! Well, turns out a lot of things. The mind-numbing drudgery of endless postgraduate days was soul-destroying, and reading dense papers chock-full of statistical charts covering obscure topics with little real-world application just contributed to the unsettling feeling I'd made a huge mistake in my choice of career. So for anyone out there, I'd say take out a sheet of paper and take down all the responsibilities you're likely to have in your desired job. And go deeper than that - list out the various small tasks you'll need to do, sketch out what your day-to-day will look like and then ask yourslef if the type of tasks you'll need to do every day match well with your personality. For someone restless and a bit hyperactive like me, the sheer thought of sitting down with tons of data wrangling numbers on excel sheets to produce statistics, still sends chills down my spine.
So here's my scenario. I'm at a point in my life where I've just been confused about what my true calling is for the past.. many years (it's embarrassing, really). I had always had a bunch of ideas about what I could do and be, but it was hard to boil it down into something I could actually see myself carrying out. When I look at stuff I just do on my own every day, it's, first and foremost, writing. The kicker is, out of everything I've ever wanted to be in life, I never wanted to be a writer and never envisioned myself as an author, it was just always something I did as a hobby. Even now as I'm writing this, the idea of a fantasy "author's life" doesn't really appeal to me lol. But, I think maybe I should give it a shot and see where it takes me.
This really helped me thank you. I have certain “hobbies”/ activities that are so effortless and enjoyable for me, but I judge them and fear letting myself accept them as my calling. I judge them thinking it’s selfish or not useful enough or not “hard” enough to be considered respectable or worthy. But if “god” made me find the process of these actions enjoyable and effortless, it would be a shame to force myself to do anything else.
I bet you didn't know that you are a romanticized version of an intellect, that I seem to like the idea of. I always feel inadequacy when it comes to the dominance hierarchy of the world. My highest qualification is a higher certificate, in design. I feel like if I don't force myself to read these difficult books on philosophy and esoteric studies, that somehow history will sweep me under the rug and it probably will. Keep up the good work man (^-^/)
At the moment I'm having all of these questions for myself and its getting quite torturous... sometimes I wake up in the morning and I feel so unsure and lost- obsessive thoughts are filling up my head, and I have contradicting thoughts on money vs passion and I feel like if I don't figure it out I won't become as successful in whichever profession I choose
Hi I stumbled across your comment and I would like to give you my input, feel free to take or leave it: I advise you to brainstorm on paper your interests and those ideas you have - then try out your ideas for example if you want to play an instrument do it and on another piece of paper/ papers make pros and cons list for each career/ interest you have. and researching too idk you're entire circumstance (ie if you struggle with motivation) so i can only give you brief advice. Hope this is helpful
@@cannonballlight4939 thanks i’ve ended up making the decision to pursue my passion since commenting this, and i’ve decided that i’m going to actively find a loophole. if there’s a way to begin generating income right now to make my dream possible, I will find it- and i will do it. but money isn’t everything.. I think if my mind only searches for safety it will become very unhealthy- why become obsessed with money!!
Such a great distinction that people NEED to be able to make for themselves. I often found myself falling in the same trap. Loving the idea in my head of what I wanted to do but not being able to handle the actual reality of doing said thing. I had to learn that 1. I was living too much in fantasy 2. That if I ever wanted to actually do something I had to actually do the un glamourous work that goes into it and 3. Being able to find the joy in the work and being satisfied with the final work even if it might not have turned out as good as my perfectionist fantasy
I used to fantasize about being a writer. It look many years to realize that my passion for texts did not require that I produce them. Now, I’m a PhD candidate in English will the goal of becoming either a professor, lecturer, or private school teacher. I just want to talk about the books and introduce them to students. 🥰
I watched a couple of your videos and I really just wanted to say thank you for sharing your wisdom. It truly helps, especially in this "lost" kind of state I'm in right now.
I love your voice, intonation, choice of words! Also I have very much respect for you not editing or scripting your videos! I would be too much of a perfectionist in order to be able to do that :)
The rule of ten: You will be happiest doing what you loved doing at the age of 10. This rule isn’t perfect (you haven’t tried everything yet at that age) but it is a start.
I spent a long time in my teen years and first year or so of uni thinking I was going to go into a very academic field, so research or become a professor. After doing some work as a literacy mentor I realised that my passion was to take my passion as a lifelong learner and become an educator. I love working with kids and after trying to go into developmental psychology/cognitive science I changed my major to comparative literature and decided to pursue K-12 language education. Now teaching ... is a tricky career to get into :’) since teachers are the lowest paid professionals and the turnover rate for teachers is extremely high- but I found this to be my calling as I find working with young students to be the most rewarding and meaningful job I could possibly do! Also, kids are just adorable! I will never ever forget my 1st grade tutoring students and my current 8th graders are just so much wild fun! And their success and thriving has become my passion. Though I do have my own passions! I love to write poetry and I love art and music, all of which I do for joy! And I would love to write a children’s book one day!
i didnt know my passion. I imagined myself as jobs. I tried imagining myself as teacher, i didnt know if it was "the thing". I imagined myself as translator, i even tried to become one; no it wasnt fun work to me. After years, i now know what i want with my whole heart and i can give my life to it. Then i realised this desire was always inside of me, i took steps to this job unconciously. It is being a youtuber. And i am sure i love the work because "a youtuber" doesnt sound so good here, not as much as "a doctor". Specificly though i want to make gaming and traveling. And i know teaching is not my passion because i get too angry when i teach for little reason. Whatever hopefully all of us finds "the right" passion and achieves it. BTW you dont have "that much time" to think about your passion, just decide. Your heart will say something.
For me Charles Bukowski's poem "so you want to be a writer then?" always helps to get back on track. I'm a musician but I struggle with depression. I know there's nothing I rather do than make music, but at the same time I can't get out of the bed.
I think a big part of the problem is that we are asked what we want to become and not what we enjoy to do.
OH SHIT! YES!
exactly :o
Definitely agree
Ya goddamn right
We should be asked both
That's why I dislike the phrase "Follow your dreams". Dreams are just an romanticized idea of yourself in the future. You don't know why you had this idea and where it came from. It could be a dream of someone else or just a fabrication of your pride, greed or other questionable desires. I think people who have a genuine calling are rather rare and I'm happy for people who could give their life meaning with something like that. But I think it's okay to have no calling like it is okay to be not great in anything. You can give your life meaning in a different way and just enjoy your life.
You are so right. Many people tend to fantasize too much but a few are willing to work hard to achieve those fantasies and turning them into actual achievements.
yes we dun have to have passion like other people
This is so true. This so called “dream” that apparently “I” wanted ever since I was a kid has a possibility of never being what I wanted. It could be something I took from hearing from my elders. Right now I’m scared. I don’t know who I am.
@@pevindigamage6242 Look, you don't have to have everything figured out. That's the power of youth! You have so much time so use it explore and find yourself and your passion.
@Some Guy With A Beard thanks for the advice. It won’t be all that easy for me to convince my parents even if I find my passion (coming from a traditional Asian family has its cons lol) but I’ll try my best and find myself. Thanks again
Ironically I believe many people, including myself, discovered our true passion through liking the idea of "look like one" in the first place. Without this level of hypocrisy, many of us would not even at least try something.
yesss!! exactly!! you put everything i was thinking into wordss thank youuuu aslfjalfj
Explain this man ,my soul is feeling this but not the mind
@@Sky-cp6kt People want the identity associated with a certain profession and not the actual work associated with said stereotype. Just because this is common, I don't think it's a wise way to pursue any dream, someone should fall in love with the dream of doing something they have an aptitude for and love doing, not the end result and external rewards/prestige. I think this dark academia nonsense is a symptom of superficial self-deception.
@@TheTheode wtf of course you need the end result, but it may end up different then expected and THAT is something we have to start accomodating to! And not the idea that an idea of being something in itself is toxic... Honestly, i dont find thats how human work no matter how much we want to
@@ajmosutra7667 I think pretending to be something you're not apt to be, nor enjoy the actual work of is fraudulent and in the long term regressive and "toxic" for said individual. Coming to terms with unfulfilled dreams is a different question, I'm talking about the original motivation behind the aspirations themselves. And yes, sometimes the idea of a profession is what causes people to acquire the skills and talents necessary to do it, ambition acquires talent, but if that external motivation is all it ever is, or you discover you don't have the innate attributes needed to be successful then I think those people should readdress what they actually wanted from that dream and try to find something that shares a lateral quality and is more suited to them.
Pseudo intellectuals that seek to be prestigious academics while lacking the necessary ability, or interest/work ethic create a Sisyphean task for themselves that will lead to wrath, or depression. They've sought out something that's unattainable from the very start and therefore they will feel unfulfilled until they acknowledge it.
OMG. This is on point. I thought I'd lost my "writing spark", so I upturned my entire life, moved to another country and got even bigger student loans than I already had, because I'd convinced myself that I was going to become a zoologist. My writing wasn't meaningful enough, wasn't making enough of a difference in the "real" world. After a year, I can say with confidence that I do NOT want to do science. I'd imagined it as a sort of Darwin-like curiosity, but in reality, it's memorising what others have already figured out, doing statistics, and working in Excel. I hate Excel. With my entire body. Absolutely detest it. But I love writing. I hadn't actually lost my writing spark, I just thought I had, because I was writing philosophical essays as opposed to the poetry that I'd previously been writing. But I was still writing. And I had to be forced to not write in order to realise that THAT is what I love doing. How stupidly expensive fear, self-doubt and depression can be... So I guess if I'd add anything to your essay, it would be this: Do you actually dislike what you do, or is your mental health in a really bad place? What do you do when you're HEALTHY? That's it, that's the thing.
I've gone through this with design and, for me, comparison can be crippling. My field is rife with diversionary potential in the amount of disciplines, complicating the matter. I have significant student debt as well due to this issue...I also have a background in math. In my heart I know that if I go back to the experimental tendency with design and making with client-free work, that is where the heart lies.
I So desperately needed to hear that... I've never heard it put in the context "What do you do when you're Healthy?". That was Absolutely Mindblowing. Thank you so much for that inspiration!
or maybe even "what do you do to HEAL?"
@@Cam-xp2ep This actually makes more sense than asking what you do when you are healthy. Well observed there mate!
Example- I'm relatively healthy, yet I don't exercise at all, barely eat enough healthy meals, and have a terrible sleep schedule. But if I were to *heal* I'd need to do the opposite of what I'd be doing while *healthy*. Stuff like eating less before sleep, going on walks or runs, improving sleep schedule and sleep quality etc.
wow.."Thank you so much for that cmt "what do you do when you are healthy?" this made me so clear that all crafts while I am dreaming or wish to be while I am in bad mental health or unhealthy times are not my true passions
I was in love with the idea of being a musician. But when I started to get serious into it, playing piano everyday for 2 hours (for like, almost a whole year), it became unbearable. I wasn't happy. I didn't want to compose or produce anything, I just wanted to be like others. Not me.
I finally realized that no matter how hard I study, how many pieces I learn how to play or even if I would learned how to compose a really good piece, I'll never be happy with it, because it isn't me. It was just the romanticized idea of the "tortured artist"
At the end I found my true passion. Videogame design. Since I was a child I remember watching videos on how to create a 2D platform game or how to use RPG Maker. Just the idea of sitting in front of my computer, learning how to use all these programs and creating new worlds (even though at first they won't be good) makes me happy and excited about future.
It's really hard to find your true calling. My personal advice would be, try, just try. And be honest with yourself.
If you're not living the life you want, do something. Because we don't know if there's anything left when we die.
*Sorry if my english isn't good heh*
you inspired me! thank you.
@@Hilal-ct3uh makes me really happy to read that! Good luck :)
Been dealing with that myself , I feel I basically steal other peoples dreams cause I see them be so passionate about it that I want to try it too so I can feel that way too and ive done it so long that I dont know what I actually enjoy doing myself but ive narrowed it down at least
I'm looking within instead of out and try and curb that coveting instinct , its def hard with youtube and Instagram lol
As a lifelong pianist who recently (annoyingly right before a pandemic) I discovered how receptive people are to my singing and fell in love with singing and performing live. I was already getting paid gigs three months after my first ever open mic. All my life I have had basically a compulsion to sing. I can't go a day without it. I wouldn't do anything to become a concert pianist, which is why I dropped out of my Piano major and college entirely. Now I know that it was meant to be vocal performance all along.
Lucia Castro I am also in love the idea of being an artist. An artist who draw and paints the one who sell their artwork. But i just love the idea of being good at drawing i realized that i cant im not happy also when im doing art in the long run it become dull and boring to me now. I even scream and dream that i am going to be an artist last year but then the reality hit me drawing is not my passion its just a hobby. I thought it was because thats the only thing im good at. Now i feel empty.... ...
"What is the one thing that you want to spend the rest of your life in?"
Hobbyists: Why just have one?
This thought hunts me on a daily basis
Oof
srsly I cant focus on a single thing, and I love doing them all.
@@njpromethium We gotta narrow it down though :( Im picking Art and music, they've been around the longest for me.
@@njpromethium yes mine too cant focus on em all
You r such a good speaker .. irresistable clarity and charm.
You are the son I wish I had and the man I wish to become!
I agree
It’s the voice
Yea his voice is so... beautifully deep
Yes, he could sell his voice for sure!!
man, dying has never looked sexier
I know right? I will never experience this "calling"
Istg
The idea is whether after you die do you wish to have left some trace of yourself in the world. (Art, books, good impressions, an invention, children, etc.)
@@TinyWolfxx not personally
I hope all of you get some counseling and maybe medicine
Passion is when you're not afraid to fail doing something you love because doing it is all that matters. You don't feel pressured to be the best, you don't feel the need to prove it to anyone that you're better than them. Being passionate is when you still go for it even though it's "hard". It's not so hard when you're having fun doing it but for others, it's a constant struggle. (So check yourself which side you're in)
Passion is the only thing you know that makes sense... that's why you do it anyway.
(edit: Has anyone felt that before because I have.)
I sort of does with my current major. But of couurse at the edge of the room the voice is like "can u complete that lab report please', u have no idea how many other assignments u gonna have to complete before xxxx". All these deadlines are killing my soul slowly but im aware im innit for the long run. Except that now... I need to f*kin breathe.
@Co thinker It's called an ambition. You dream of becoming the best filmaker by doing what you're passionate about which is, filming.
yeah, I kind of understand what you mean. like, I've been singing since I was 7, and playing piano since 9. now I'm 16 and I really like these things. I don't care about what others whoud say or think when I sing. I just like singing. the same thing with piano. I could play almost all day, when I found a piece I want to learn, and I'm not tired of any bit of it. by the way, I am a very shy person and it's very uncommon of me to not care about others opinions, so I'd say piano and singing is my passion. sorry if there any mistakes, I'm still learning English.
@Co thinker so all you have to do now is to start doing filmmaking, then. Live your dream :)
Oh man i wish
"Fall in love with the craft, not the idea of it."
Wow, that really resonated with me. (And everything else you said) Great video, as always! Thank you :-)
I experienced the distinction between the Passion and the Idea of a Passion. I dropped out of architecture school because I only loved the idea of being a somewhat hybrid of an engineer and an Artist. Now I found my passion in psychology, because I really am passionate about data, analysing, trying to understand mankind and how our society developed and how certain life experiences can cause certain behavioral patterns. This Video is such an important life lesson!
that really makes sense to me. currently i feel like I'm pursuing the idea of a passion but I'm willing to wait around a bit longer to find out. great comment btw!
This work sounds really interesting. What exactly did you study for learning this. Some kind of psycho-anthro hybrid course?
@@satyawanshekhawat3841 No, I am doing my Bachelors in Psychology, just a regular degree
All the best..!!!!! I wish you are as passionate about this subject for years..
Hi ! I'd like to ask something, even if it seems a bit out of place and that you might not have the answer but -
Is math required to study psychology ? Obviously, you studied architecture so im aware that you must have a great understanding of math.
I'm beginning my last year of high school, and I want to study psychology and philosophy. Those subjects animate me, I've developed a passion for learning to the point where I truly believe it has become the main purpose of my existence ahah
Only im currently studying in high school (along with "classic" subjects such as history, geography, English etc) humanities and culture and foreign languages (those are called "specialities")
I am afraid that the fact that I didn't take any scientific subject will h
Hold me back from studying what I love
Ive had really great grades in maths and science in general at my GCSE, don't know if it matters a lot tho, and studied biology last year. (I'd like to explain the way school works here in France but its a bit complicated and new, since education got reformed and the subjects completely changed etc... but basically I had to gave up one subject this year)
I intend to have a gap year, during which I'll focus on expend my knowledge and work on myself for the better. I thought perhaps, that I could get back to mathematics and especially statistics during that time, but I don't know if it could be taken into consideration or if It will make me eligible to study psychology...
Moreover, I'd like to apply to a pretty prestigious university in England...
My great interest for psychology is new, so I haven't chose subjects according to what I wanted to study (because I didn't know).
Anyway, sorry for the long and quiet messy comment, I hope It was still understandable (English is my second language).
Thank you if you do answer !
This man is beautiful, he’s so so so beautiful. His mind is beautiful. How do I express this.
Express it like this...
exactly!
YES.
uh like that
You express it by saying it is beautiful.
You look like 18, sound like 28 and write with the wisdom of a 68 year old.
Haha ikr
Which makes him about 34.667 years old
No it's because you agree with him. His points are ego stroking with only some of what he says being actually valuable.
@@BygoneT Or, it could be that you think so because you don’t agree with him.
@@safala Unlike most people I break down statements like I'm doing maths. I don't care if I don't agree with someone, there's value in what others do even if you don't get them.
Not to mention, if you look closer, *I'm not even talking about the dude In the video* . What I address in my comment is what _I think_ , the og comment thinks about the dude in the video. As in, the og comment is basically saying "You have wisdom beyond your age". And what I say is basically that if you agree with someone, their words will sound like wisdom or some incredible reflection. In other words, _your evaluation of the value of someone else's words increases if you already agree with them, sometimes a bit too much compared to their actual value_ .
That is all. Which is not a critique of the dude in the video, but rather of what the commenter thinks of what he said.
"if you truly found your life calling, at times you wouldn't even be aware of it, your muse certainly wouldn't spare a second for you to fantasize about what it may be like to be a writer, you will be already be near in your room typing or scribbling away, all that is in front of you is the art that you cherish, that craft that you love"
"Go do some soul searching. Go experience stuff."
This is a very powerful advice especially for those who are still uncertain and worries too much for their future career like me. When you're lost, it's alright to wander. Explore and widen your perspective. You will surely find something. If not, at least you gained some experience.
Me, ready to do stuff... *Covid happens*
Me: 👁️👄👁️
It reminds me of the Tolkien's quote, "Not all those who wander are lost." Of course in the original story it's meant as a riddle, but still.
I think hobbies are a great way, that we can do to start during the pandemic, to do some soul searching. List out things that you enjoy doing and your interests. Don’t stress about finding the right path, just focus on what you genuinely enjoy doing. Think about the kind of life that you enjoy too and how your potential career can cater to those. I think now is a great time to take a breather guilt free to examine what we truly want.
@Mama Queen Welp, I dunno the details of your life, so do take what I say with a grain of salt, but...
I think, in my humble opinion, two things: first, college can be a place to experiment and find out what you want, I know cause it helped me and others out, that's why you see so many people changing degrees before they graduate; two, if you are over 18 supposedly you can do whatever, and I do mean whatever, the heck you want (if in the US, except drinking; and also if under 24 you need your parents financial information and help to apply for financial aid and go to college, which I think is absurd, but...).
The main issue with college is that it is unecessarily expensive, but you can not only ask for scholarships, you can also try these websites to take your general requirements and electives for free or WAY cheaper. Check them out! I kid you not, wish I'd known of them before. You can also get your degree in record time apparently, so long as your college of choice accepts them. You can complete a class in like two days. Look: sophia . Org, straighterline . Com, learn . Saylor . Org.
My final note is this: Ultimately, this is your life, and whatever happens or not is gonna be your responsability. Every action, your consequences. If you choose to not go to college because you are over 18, that's fine, but remember that, as far as I know, your parents can also kick you out, and that's also fine. Because you are, technically, an adult. So you get to do whatever you want as a grown up, and that is awesome! :D Trust me. But you also have to answer for it. So if I were you I'd do some deep meditation for a few days to find out what you really want. And don't fret, if college also taught me something is that you can change your mind, and you will, somehow, and it's not the end of the world :) You have a lifetime to figure out what you want to do. Take your time!
Ofc, I'd love to do that, for months now I have been hooked of nature, Idk if it is my passion or is just fake, I wish I could do soul searching to places which are only nature but covid happened, welp.
He's so cute, he's that one cousin you can just chill with and share silence and be very comfortable. That cousin that helps you out in the most unforseen ways... Thanks Waldun
For real, he seems like the nicest guy.
Fellas, that's what wisdom does to you.
I have a cousin just like him. She really helps me about things that no one can help. And fun fact she studied literature. So it was weird to read your comment. 😂
Creepy
I've spent my whole childhood dreaming about becoming a scientist because i thought it'd give me the answers to all the questions i had. In high school i had doubts but eventually came back to physics. And now, 6 weeks in physics major it feels like a dread instead of a blessing. I get lots of mechanical stuff that i basically don't understand and just try to memorize. I specifically avoided engineering to strive for the higher. I wanted to be somewhere in the clouds, but now i'm actually feeling more pressed to the ground than ever. My parents say that it's just because i'm finally getting to the difficult stuff. I'm not convinced.
My only other viable option was to get trained as a sommelier since I've found myself helping everyone i know choose wines. Nevertheless, i don't find myself among the talented tasters because of my partial inability to feel and recognise the smells. That's why I'm feeling so lost right now. I know that i'm generally interested in culture and politics isn't that foreign to me because I've been an activist for the last couple of years and follow the events in my and neighbouring countries quite closely.
- So should i do journalism?
-Nah, I'm not that good at writing texts and i have a bit of a stutter so reporting isn't my thing.
- Maybe a degree in international law will do?
- Do i even want to be a lawyer?
- Not sure, but the judges look cool in their robes. You could work for the UN or some kind of international NGO.
- Art history?
- What am i going to work as with that useless piece of paper?
- But the learning process must be interesting.
- Yeah, but can i just take a course online and save myself four years of my life.
- So do i even need to get a degree?
- You do. How are you going to afford retiring in a mansion somewhere in the Mediterranean without a degree?
- Am I even going to live that long?
- So maybe just get that physics degree?
- Do you want me dead !?
Thanks for reading my inner monologue, as I'm trying to find excuses not to do my mechanics homework and finally give up mathematical analysis so that i can't have fairly stable mental health again.
Updates my relatives' opinions:
Mom: You're quite fearless so you could think about becoming a nurse.
Grandma: That university near your house specializes in architecture. Your aunt's ex went there and enjoyed his time so you should go there and become an architect.
Dad: Why do you even think about changing your major? Physics isn't that hard.
Friends: Get the fuck out of the physics program ASAP, you can do international relations and finally learn French and German.
Me : Can I just get a sugar daddy and forget about going to university?
Further updates:
I actually chose to leave the physics program. Because of how education system in Ukraine works I'm now actually dropping out of university and will be reapplying to my alma mater in summer after i take some additional exams. I'm still in doubt between urban planning and political science so will be taking exams for both. I've also got myself a free semester, which is awesome, although pandemic limits my opportunities a lot.
My mental health is at its best again. I have no idea what i'm going to do in life but it doesn't bother me that much, because I'm just 17 and have enough time on my hands to make mistakes, try different things and change my mind like a hundred times.
I've finally got myself some time to live. It's been a month since my last physics class and to be honest I don't miss them. So I guess I've made the right choice.
November 2021 update:
I'm studying urban planning now and I like it a lot more than physics.
March 2023 update:
I moved to France last year, and I'm still pursuing a human geography/urban planning degree. Some great French professors made me fall in love with the disciplines, and now i can't really imagine myself in another field. I speak more French than I ever expected to, and I did start learning German. So things played out really well for me, even if we keep in mind the not-so-pretty reason i moved to France in the first place.
I relate to your comment. So much so, I actually should be doing mechanics homework now🙄
My advice almost three years in college is. You’re not meant to know everything yet especially if you’re just starting out. No one expects you to know everything about science or whatever you decide to pursue. I had to tell myself this when I first got into college because of how different it is from high school. But fr sugar daddy sounds nice to me too.
I think you should go along with the subject that always finds a way into your mind.
I did 2 years of psychology at university because I thought I wanted to help people and felt a sense of responsibility and meaning attached to that, I was good at helping people since I was a kid and all, always had the observer eye and all that. I thought it was right but I often found myself wondering about the structures that Psychology is built on, it goes like that: Psychology, Philosophy, Biology, Chemistry, Physics. I always seemed to go back to Physics and wanted to understand that structure. My mind was always bringing me there, now I'm in Physics and I deeply love it (I honestly dont give a damn about mechanics but it's still... bearable). It just ~feels~ right, I know I want to understand the world in this lense.
You seem to enjoy social subjects or more human-related subjects. There are plenty of beautiful subjects to choose from and I think you really should follow your heart on that. You only have so much time to live, choose what's meaningful and don't be afraid of being wrong, it happens.
I hope you'll find your way
French and German? Ooo u didn’t mention that at all. Stick to ur friends, they sound like they’re being real w u
“Useless piece of paper” 😕🙄
After watching this video, I found myself thinking, what do I do every single day? I watch RUclips, I watch live streams, I play games. But mother says they are obsessions, addictions, telling me to stop. Are they just my way to escape life? Or are they what I truly love to do? So what's the difference between obsession/addiction and passion?
Addiction usually is of inverted nature, based on consuming something. But passion is of extraverted nature, creating and giving something to the world and those around you.
Addiction. Id say. I still struggle with internet addiction but I am cutting off many social medias. I used to be very addicted to reddit, because I liked talking to people. Ranting. Getting attention. J have no friends and reddit provided the attention j needed. But j was never satisfied. No one never gave me attention enough and after a while I just got so bored of it. I couldn't bear it anymore. Writing posts there thinking anyone could help me but their advice was never useful for me. They never understood me. So I decided to delete it and go back to journaling and therapy. I get the feedback from the therapist and the journaling allows me to think on my own, reflect, rant and gain autonomy. With tv shows it was the same. It felt like having friends. But I grew tired of following fictional characters drama. I replaced it with reading lol. And after the pandemic I need to make more effort to make some friends. So I guess, find out what makes u hooked on it, do you feel good or like a failure? I always felt like it was wasting my time but I felt so attached and lonely. I didn't know who I was without these things. Tv shows were so much my identity that I considered doing film school. But I realized I only liked the finished product. The one tree hill kind of friendship. The fun, loyalty. But it's not real. It's fiction. Real life is scary. Real life involves emotional riscs. Sometimes social consequence, anxiety, fear of being abandoned, not being in control of who likes you and who doesn't and so on... Virtual life is easy. You can hide behind a screen. Take your mask off. Pretend your confident. Be your ideal self. But real life involves traumas. Childhood fears. Insecurities. Life is naturally insecure. You never know when you'll die...
But if you truly believe that it's a passion...try an online course, maybe look for design, programming, etc see if the doing is just as fun as the watching.
It's like that student that complains about bad grades but didn't care to study. Asks the nerd to give her a resume. Doesn't bother about reading the full thing but just the synthetized product.
@@katrin6388 i was so much hoping for the happy ending of your comment...well now i'm sad
There is no difference. An obession is on the far end of enjoyment, just before an addiction.
Let me use myself as an example. As a child I used to prefer gaming above all else, it was pure fun and I enjoyed being pushed to discover new ways to solve the same problem. Thus, I didn't care much for school. Sitting around listening wasn't something for me.
At that point it was simple enjoyment, I loved gaming and I disliked being at school and studying, unless it involved something I liked.
Then, with time, all I wanted to do was play some other game, they were so fun after all. I had other stuff I liked but gaming was top.
During middle school, I genuinely felt my muscles longing for a controller. I just wanted to go play something. But it wasn't enough anymore, and what did I do at the end? I stopped just short of an addiction. I was playing AC2 at the time and I decided I wanted to be like Ezio so I started doing parkour, and I was good enough at it. I kept doing it for years, it was a lot of fun.
When you get an obsession, alternatives start looking boring or straight up undesirable, mild consequences start manifesting themselves. Easy example, kids who pee themselves playing fortnite. My cousin was so fixated on the game, he shat behind his couch.
When you're addicted, the only thing giving you some meaning is that. You can't live without it and you look dead. You may or may not start selling personal belongings to follow your addiction.
Inevitably you build tolerance and so you need more and more of it, when at some point it breaks you.
I for one have learned to obsess over things temporarily, obsessions are actually very productive. Your like for the subject of obsession grows the more you spend time with it, which means if you get obsessed on something useful you can become _very good_ at something without being excellent to start with.
I realised I found my passion when I had stood at my easel for hours so focused that I did not realised how tired I had become, the fact I hadn’t eaten, my brothers constant fighting, how numb I’d gotten and how loud the music my neighbours were playing was until I had finished the painting and sat down to admire it. It was at that moment the the world regained noise and I felt everything. I was so intoxicated with my craft that my brain had blocked out everything but what I was doing so that I could enjoy it. And man did I love it. I still love that painting even though I have improved. Partly because of the feeling it reminds me of and the feeling I have every time I pick up the paintbrush
I think I felt in love with the idea of working as a mathematician along with its romanticized aesthetic, I tried working like one in my University work and did pretty well with the exam and I dare say the craft itself grew on me like it's ingrained in my mind, I hit a terrible burnout the following year.
This cleared my head but is giving me hyper anxiety.
Same
SAME. i dont know if i wanna do music anymore
@@guitaria6 and I don't think I can write anything. :-(
Try anyway! Its always ok to shift passions if u end up not feeling it :)
@@indrajabahadurdesai2787 stoppp :(( me too.. ive been planning on being singer/songwriter/ producer for a year now. all my time just went down the drain because i realised i don't like it and i never have...
This guy should record an audiobook.
I was thinking this exactly
agree or a podcast
Yep.
I've read from a commentor from one of his videos asking him what his thoughts were for audiobooks, he said he wasn't a fan because it like takes the magic of reading it personally.
His writing + his voice = 👌🙌
I’m 33 years old and I think I’ve found my passion. I ran from it for so long..in denial of the dream of just wanting to tell stories. Until I gathered the courage and took a writing workshop. Just get it over with and see if it’s what I truly wanted. then 2 months later I was so immersed in my storytelling, my characters woke me in my dreams, I spent hours in my closet working on drafts for 2 to 4 hours at a time. Wake at 4/5am and write before my kids woke up for school. And No it wasn’t perfect writing. Messy and sloppy. The first draft was hot off the press and it was go go go. It played like a movie happening in real time. Ive spent hours upstairs in my nook, placing post-it’s in place of character arcs their time lines, and seasons. My youngest referred to them as ‘mommy’s squares’ I then felt deeply in my soul: I found myself. I could do this forever. Live in my head then tell you a tale. You have to know and must know. And tell it the right way and the way it’s meant to be written.
Love your advise and charisma ❤️
It is suffice to say though that there are points in your life where it isn’t so black and white. I am an artist and I am now at a point in my life where everyday I make art, I feel so inspired and motivated to work and I never loved my passion more. That’s said, a year ago I felt more like someone who was only in love with the idea as I wasn’t making much. Basically what I’m trying to say is there will be moments in your life where do find your true passion but it will feel like you haven’t. You would feel like you have to force it and that you really don’t like what you’re doing. For me it was because of the pressure to be the best and working to the point where I burnt myself out. So I urge people to really really think about their passions and that it isn’t always gonna be this romanized fantasy even when you find what you love to do.
Thank you so much, because that’s what I’m feeling. I think truly writing is my passion, but I become so distracted by ideas of being a writer or puplishing stuff that it becomes hard. I am not a person who just do stuff, never. I have to think first, always. So the only way to live along my passion is to force me to do it every day. And I hope I am right about it, because he scared the hell out of me with his words.
Thanks, I needed this
Timely, thank you for your insight. Extremely helpful
Thank you for validating both experiences! In the end it’s all a matter of choice, as long as we’re satisfied in and feel fulfilled from our decision
thank you for saying this. i've always been a creative person, and i mentally struggle a lot with the idea of working a basic, everyday job. so i've been trying to think of ways to make money off of what i love for a long time, and it always turns back to putting my work out there on social media. videos, photography, paintings, writing, music, all of it. and i've been noticing that now when i get an idea, i always instantly think it has to be a certain way, or it can't include this or that, or has to have this, etc. because i know it'll be shared on instagram (or something else.) i stopped writing poetry/writing or really creating anything for awhile because i thought none of it was good enough or i was too scared to share it with anyone. tldr: i feel like everything i create is for social media, and that scares me. its taking away the fun of creating and sharing, and i'm trying to find the balance.
Take a week to study yourself. Look into the movies you like to watch, the types of video games you primarily like to play, and any odd quirky things you may do in your spare time. Follow yourself without judgment for one week and pay attention to the things you talk about. Your passion/s will lie there. I help people find their passions. Mostly by putting them under. Which makes them so much easier to work with.
What’s “putting people under” mean?
@@Yaser-ih2cx killing them
@@Gofaw LMAO 😂
@@Gofaw bruh you made me laugh irl HAHAHAHA
Is it weird that I am obsessed with the psychology of women. How they view (attraction)men and how some men can emotionally hook girls and play them like a marionette. I like to dive deep into that topix
This video is so important! Right now I’m having this exact problem as I’m almost done with high school and still not knowing what my passion is. I’m a really flexible person in interests. I love a lot ideas and themes. I’m curious about almost every field which confuses me. It makes my choice difficult. Writing is something I enjoy a lot but I would never consider becoming a full-time author. I love solving mathematic problems but would never consider becoming a mathematician. I could go on and on. I’m confused. Anyways, awesome video with an really important thought.
Same. And the current situation doesn't necessarily provide everyone with the same freedom to pursue one thing or both things at the same time... May you find your path or perhaps forge a path that allows you to enjoy both
I have the exact same problem, but now I think that most of the ideas I indulge in are merely because I fell in love with the idea of it, not the thing itself.. Why didn't I stumble upon his channel before? I could have started way early but better late than never! Hope you discover, or as I prefer to say invent/forge something you love to do. I'm definitely sharing this with the world☺.
Exactly it is even harder when you're good at everything right !
Same, but I don't really excel in anything so I'm pretty clueless hehe
Same here, I've got a lot of interests (and am good at) from music to literature to science. The problem is that I just can't find that ONE thing I'll enjoy the process of doing it in the long run, rather than the idea itself. I'm so confused at the moment you can't believe it😆
I loved this video so much I almost cried. I'm from Argentina, and I've been in love with English since I was a child, had that kind of 'natural talent' with it. Still, I never pictured myself doing much with it than just speaking it. In my case, I loved the idea of being a publisher: spending my days reading, editing. A big office, cherishing beautiful pieces of writing with a cup of coffee in my hand. The thing is, after a few courses of study, I realised I hated it. I loved reading -still do- , but publishing meant something completely different. So, who would tell me that, after all these years, I actually had my passion right in front of me. Nowadays I'm studying to be an English teacher, even though I never pictured myself teaching -crazy thing. But omg I love it so much, nothing feels as right for me as English does. So I completely felt every word you said
I've never felt a "calling" before. I used to do okay in elementary school, in the top class, scored the highest in science and math but things just went haywire in high school. School seemed boring so I started sketching as a distraction. Eventually after years, I got better at it that everyone was starting to praise me. I was basically invisible in highschool but I realized people would stop by and ask me to show them my artworks. People would use to envy me for being "talented" in something and that's when I started to love the idea of me being a "naturally talented artist". I kept doing it eventhough the process of it was immensely boring. Thinking back, I wasn't really into the craft at all. What motivated me to create artworks was thinking about the praises I would get for this. I've had enough and quit "doing arts" completely when the lockdown started this year. I stopped drawing because I just hate the whole process of it, and I hate when people address me as an artist when I clearly know that I am not. I stopped questioning about my future, I just decided to go with the flow since my family can't afford my college fees anyways. The second lockdown started, I lose my temporary job, decided that I should retake my high-school tests so that I can get into certain colleges with hopefully a scholarship or fees reduction. Picked up an astronomy book that was thrown out by my sibling to enhance my science knowledge, thought that I would stop reading after a few pages, surprisingly I was hooked. Now clouds are my new enemy, I would go out and study the stars almost every night, grinning like an idiot especially when i found the orion nebula that i would always read about. Physics and math used to be my lullabies since all they do was to make me sleep, but now all I think of is the science around us. I found passion in figuring out how the world works, scientifically. I'm afraid actually, its the first time for me that I've found something I love so much, I'm afraid the spark would eventually die off. The first time in years, I'm actually afraid of death. When I get questions whether I had made peace with my death, my old self would be like "sure, I'm always ready, bring it on". When I got this exact question a few days ago, by my annoying younger sibling, who's always talking gibberish, I actually contemplated on his words and said "no, not until they've figured out how the quantum mechanics work, if the quantum particles will travel to another dimension when they crushed the particles into even smaller pieces, the theory of everything, the dragonfly project to Titan, Saturn's moon, the next full solar eclipse, crewed mission to moon and MARS in a few years, not until I've bought my first telescope and look at the planets upclose with my own eyes" just im thinking of all the possibilities of new discoveries, and I'm not ready at all until I watched all these unfold. I know my past self sounded depressing, I was probably depressed back then, but again I'm not trying to self diagnose, that was just my raw thoughts, back then. I truly hope my passion for whatever I've fallen for, will not die out. And I hope for those who haven't found theirs yet, I hope you make peace with your current self and eventually stumble upon your true calling. Even though I'm still struggling to understand math and physics since its been years since I've graduated high school, but unlike my old self, I'm actually trying to understand them now.
So many words
Hi, you could always go to a community college. It is much cheaper than a regular 4 year university and you can get your first 2 years done for much much cheaper. Look into it! Also, continue learning about your interests!
@@SnoozeTheRecluse forgive me :( thats just the way I express myself. See, I don't really open up irl so when I do, I let it all out.
@@ZBooneBeats Hi, thank you for your encouragement ! Community colleges, there's only a few here in where I live. I've had plans but I had graduates warned me not to since it would be impossible to land a job. I'll have to save up and hopefully get some fees reduction. Btw Merry Christmas!
@@moonbunnies5216 Merry Christmas! Yes, you probably wouldn't graduate from a community college and get a job. You should transfer to a 4 year university and get your bachelors degree because that is more marketable. I didn't mean stop your education at a community college. You should get a bachelors degree :) Although, there are some certificates that may land you a job right after community college. My point is it's cheaper and you still will get the same degree as other students. But paying for it will be much easier.
I feel there is also a deeper level to this. Sometimes we have been conditioned by others, or by a self deprecating narrative that we stop liking the “everyday craft.” For example we may have enjoyed writing but others have said we are not good enough. Then we start to believe that, and we start fantasizing “if only..” and start thinking of that success that we don’t have. At the start you just liked writing for the fun of it but now your opinion and view has changed that you don’t like it anymore.
That’s what I I’m struggling to grasp. I know there was a day where I really enjoyed the craft, and I see glimpses of it when I fully let go, but the narrative I’ve built for myself comes back and it’s back to the day dreaming about the futureee
When I was a kid, I always wanted to be an artist; specifically draw and paint. I wanted to be like Leonardo DaVinci, Vincent Van Gogh and Picasso. I used to draw in my sketch book and make a few sketches once every few weeks. Overtime, I began to realize that maybe I loved drawing because of the idea of being an artist. Maybe daydreaming of being like Leonardo DaVinci, Vincent Van Gogh and Picasso was just a fantasy of me wanting be seen as a great artist and what it feels to be like one. I then realized that being a sketch artist and a painter wasn't my calling. The only time I ever actually loved drawing was drawing characters, clothes, objects, and symbols. I soon picked up writing and saw how amusing it was. I love daydreaming about characters, scenarios, and worlds. I even fantasize about being the next great writer like Tolkien, George R.R. Martin, J.K. Rowling, Charles Dickens, H.P. Lovecraft, Edgar Allen Poe, and Bram Stoker. But I don't fantasize on what it's like to be a great writer. I want to tell stories, get people to read them and have them fall in love with the stories while also being in love with the story myself. I want to become a great writer and write stories that are true to me. Even if I don't become that great writer, being loved by millions and have my name be recorded through history, I atleast got some people to read my work and like it. That's how I know that writing is my true calling because I find it amusing, fun and pleasurable. It's also something that I have to do to get my word across.
Indeed, this last two years i fantasized about the idea of being a prolific musician. I played covers and studies of musicians i admired. The thing is that i wanted to compose my own music. That never happened. I hated the process, i couldn´t put myself to work, to write a frickin melody. That´s when i realized (not so long ago) that i was romantizicing the idea of being an artist. It hitted hard, of course. Things get rough when you loose your identity; nevertheless, these two years were very formative for me. I learned the art of being disciplined in regards of getting good at an instrument. I recommend people this: let yourself fantasize, fool yourself and rejoice with your dreams, but when the times comes, be prepared to face the truth. Nothing wrong with fantasy, thats where it all starts. It´s try and error. Without experience of failure, you couldn´t posibly check if that´s your craft or not.
Sorry for my ambiguous english, not native.
i was super depressed and had to fight not killing myself every minute in august, i felt like there was nothing i could do in life there was no purpose, and then i decided to start drawing this anime character i liked, and then i started drawing more and more. i used to draw all the time until middle school when i was told by everyone to get a “normal career” and i had to discared my somewhat natural talent. then as a sophomore in highschool, i only drew for art class, but i still sucked. but then i got an ipad in september and started practicing digital art 7+ hours a day (yes as a junior in highschool), and realized it was my passion, and now im in the process of creating a webtoon. creating comics and drawing was the passion i naturally had but had to abandon. but now its the only thing that made me happy and got me through depression, although i do struggle some... but i feel like i can do something with life now :) and you will find your passion one day too!
Hey I’m an artist too! What’s your insta?
Omg i literally will read your webtoon lmk when it comes out
Interesting, it was quite the opposite for me, I’m in my second year in art and now I figured out just how much I hate drawing
Yaser Ibrahim i havnt really posted on it buts @astraartss i want some artist friends :)
Vivian omg thank you ill update you im going start to release it in the summer!
If I can find my passion, you can too. I believe in you guys
I think I was about 5 or 6 years old when my parents took me to my first orchestra show. Sitting in our front row seats, the music began and I was so entranced by the whole experience . It was like something I’ve ever seen. At some point, my mother pointed out the violinist, who at the time, looked to be a young girl around 13 years old. I saw her and I fell in love with the image of of her holding this delicate instrument and playing something beautiful. I pictured myself in the image instead of the girl and for years I held onto it, without ever even touching a single violin! Then In grade 7 we were allowed a choice of instruments and when I heard they offered violin lessons I could not believe it! It felt like destiny. For about a year and a half I played it at school and performed with it, just like the girl from the orchestra many years ago. But the longer I played, the less apparent seemed the reason be to continue. I thought I loved playing the violin but after so many practices I came to hate the damn thing. I realized I wasn’t really in love with all the hours and practices that came with playing such instrument, but I loved performing in front of an audience so much that I couldn’t quit right away. I tried other instruments and the same thing happened: I hated the practice and the instrument but I loved the part where we got to perform. So I realized that I was never meant to be a musician, I just loved the delicate nature of the violinist and that image of beauty and grace. Performing stuck with me though. When everyone else was anxious over The performance, I was excited to be out there in front of other people again. I can’t say that I’m pursuing a path in the performance yet, but I found passion in theatre. I didn’t care about the red carpets or awards though. I think that’s how I knew it was meant for me. Not sure how to begin such a path in theatre just yet but someday I will make it happen.
why did i discover this man only now?
I have been missing out :/
same
Same
Write your complains to the algorithm.
You are so inspiring. People our age have a fear of passion. I think society tries to stamp out its embers where it sees it, because passion is resistance. We are shoved in and told to keep quiet. But passion lights up a person! A life without it would be lukewarm. We, as young people, need to foster our passions, so we can light up like signal fires, one after the other. You, in part, have lit me. And I hope to light someone someday too.
I swear you have the soul of a wise 70 year old professor
I'm a journalism major currently reconsidering said major and when you said "How do you actually know you're really going to enjoy journalism?" I almost choked on my drink
Abit of a strange thing to point out, but your teeth are cool to look at. As someone who struggles with irregular teeth, seeing someone so comfortable with their words and intent, gives me some courage to be unique too. A hidden gem of a channel.
My first love was/is art. I’ve been searching feverishly to find a path that could lead to some feeling of success. The idea of the ‘broke and tortured’ artist actually repelled me from diving deeper into my craft. The thought of doing tons of cheap commissions that would be tossed only a few years later made me ill lol. It isn’t really until now I feel like it’s all I have and all I really know how to do pretty decently. I’m still uncertain of the specifics to ‘success’ but this video has reassured my call to listen to the innocence of my passions.
I really appreciate your video & essay. It is true we all gravitate towards something we enjoy, but I fear if I pursue what comes innately to me, it will become tarnished by becoming the source of my income & ability to sustain myself. If anything, I view these things that come naturally as my reprieve from the responsibilities the world asks from me. Tethering what brings me joy changes the whole dynamic that I have with the interest. The pressure of perfecting a craft or having the limits of doing what I love for a fixed amount of hours in exchange for money is something that intimidates me.
As an illustrator, I think this video makes a great point. In a lot of these creative fields, people have a completely skewed viewpoint of what that lifestyle is. However, I’d like to say if you are genuinely pursuing something, not simply the idea of it, does not make passion easy. Nearly everyone has days where they’d rather do nothing and fall into habits of laziness in a life of exhaustion, but passion is the thing that even when you’re doing nothing, and your day is empty, your mind wanders back to it- an idea to write or improve what you’ve written, a new compositional idea, a desire to return to your passion.
While he’s a lovely speaker, being someone with bad habits or an untrained focus doesn’t mean that you’re without passion, but instead a lack of commitment- which is something everyone can train and become better with. I’m an artist and I love what I do- when I was still a high school student who was excited by art but couldn’t spend days painting didn’t mean that I had a false passion, but instead that I was in an environment that wasn’t conducive to it.
What I’m saying is, a true passion is only part of the equation, commitment and environment are what you must pursue if you want your passions to bear fruit.
I believe you are absolutely right about this. But just the thought, that not everyone will find their passion within their lifetime and that I could be one of those people, is really terrifying.
I think those who didn’t find it wasn’t prioritizing their passion. If it terrifies you, then keep trying.
Finding something we like isn’t as complicated as we make it to be. We try and try to find a partner who we like and grow the relationship but why aren’t we doing the same with our passion.
This made me cry. I have fallen in love with the idea of becoming a director, but I am very afraid of making my own films. However, I have always known that I would become a teacher. It was just something in my soul that I knew would, some way or another, come to fruition. Thank you for helping me find my true calling.
I feel the same way, I'm studying Law but singing is my real passion.. But I'm scared of pursuing it man because I see a lot of people on RUclips who sing better than me and I just get discouraged
@@google_me2567 Don't compare yourself with other people. You compare yourself with your past self and see if you improved or not. That's my way to not get discouraged knowing that there will always a better people than me.
@@google_me2567 join a singing club at your university! Join your choir group at church? Or take a singing lesson. Join a band if you feel like singing on youtube is too much pressure. It’ll broaden your singing world and open new opportunities if you are meant for it.
Im an art student, and this might be a minor view, but listening to this makes me feel so happy that I trult have found my passion. Art is what I can imagine myself doing for the rest of my life, every hour spent doing it feels like a breeze of joy.
This video made me recognize that what I currently want to pursue is correct. Composing music is my real passion. Never have I found the idea of being a composer (or an artist in general) to be somehow desirable. Yet I love what I do. And I love it so much that there's nothing else in this world I'd rather do.
I got into digital painting last year and I told myself that if I am consistent at this then you'll improve drastically, A year has passed and my painting skills has drastically improved since the day when I first started putting random blobs of colors on a canvas. I've spent over a hundred hours now on my craft and I still don't know if I even want to be a "Digital Painter" but what I do know is that I love creating, The thought of creating something from just your imagination and depicting it into reality is just what I live for.
So most probably the thought of being an artist isn't what I yearn for, But more on crafting ideas into reality is most likely what I want to do for the rest of my life. If most likely someone is reading this, There will be ups n downs and you just have to get up from it. May I remind you I've done previous kinds of mediums before but they're all related to creating ideas into reality and I've now settled with Digital Painting for the time being.
There's no other person who will push you than you, yourself. To achieve that 'passion' of yours, There will be times where you're unmotivated and not interested in doing anything or pursuing that 'passion' and that's okay. There are definitely times like that, I've had a lot of art blocks before where I don't even know what to create but I still keep on moving forward and that's the key to achieving success is to keep going and not looking back.
Thank you for reading my TedxTalk. :D
I'll go back to painting now..
One thing that comes in our way to actually choose the path we want is the pressure we get from outside. It can be our family, friends or colleagues etc. It's always common after highschool to have everything figured out and go to work or to university and then eventually take a job in the respective field we majored in.
This so called 'time' pressure scares us and somehow pushes us forward to chose whatever it might be, just to do something in life and not be left behind. This pressure of being behind or seeing that others have already achieved so much, makes us feel like we failed and therefore many don't stick to trying to find something they truly enjoy BECAUSE IT TAKES TIME TO FIGURE THAT OUT.
And that is how I felt for the last couple of years until now...I finished highschool and changed so many university majors until I finally found something that truly interests me. I have to admit that througout this time and even now, I get that feeling that these 3 years have gone in vain and that I am such a failure, but I soon realized that no matter what happened, all those experience, ups and downs, formed me to the person I am today.
That's why, if it takes you longer to figure out what your truly calling is or if you'll feel like you have messed up your life because of the time that has passed and you still haven't actually decided on what you truly want to do in life, but I am here to tell you: IT'S COMPLETELY FINE!!!! Just go on and never stop searching for your your dreams. Even if you feel like your future may may look hopeless, don't stop fighting, continue on searching for what you're meant to do and when you've finally figured it out, you'll feel so much better to fully chase that dream and never let it go.
as a child i was constantly drawing and creating art daily , i was convinced that when i grew up i would be an artist. i lost that spark momentarily from the ages of 9-12 but i regained it my freshman year of highschool and fell in love with the craft again. i strived to take all of the art classes offered in my school , even ap drawing & painting as well as ap 2d. towards the end of my sophomore year , i noticed that i was starting to lose interest again , but this change became extremely drastic as i entered my junior year of hs. that year was when i took ap drawing and found myself not only at a complete loss of motivation , but starting to develop a hatred for creating art and waking up every single morning dreading the amount of time i would have to spend on it. i am a bit of a perfectionist in certain aspects of life: if i fail at something , even if it was my first try at it , i immediately ditch all plans and give up. i know it should never be that way because of course all successful people failed yet picked themselves back up again and again. however , the constant anxiety of having to deal with failure coupled with the dread of having to work on art (especially since ppl were expected to spend 8+ hours per week on it , as well as it counting towards a grade and my work being made public to my peers and my teacher who i looked up to) took an immense toll on my mental health and i became extremely burnt out , depressed , and s**cidal. it would be a beautiful day outside and nothing particularly bad would happen during that day , but i still always managed to burst into tears every day for hours and hours on end. although i was in a lot of pain , i thankfully got through it and held my ground and ended up getting a decent score on my portfolio. but i’ve noticed after that that i had absolutely 0 motivation or creativity or drive to get up and make something. to be exact , i would only make one piece of art every 6 months. i still love looking at other people’s art and admiring all the different styles and mediums but the thought of me actually sitting down and drawing / painting from start to finish still gives me a tinge of dread. i’ll only be able to create if i have just enough motivation and energy to do so.
one of the reasons i highly appreciate this video is because it made me realize that i wasn’t alone and that i wasnt a sad case of another kid getting burnt out. i kept telling my loved ones that i have a weird relationship with art but no one fully understood , not even my family. they said that i was just experiencing an “art block” and that i would get over it soon. but to be completely honest i feel like i’ll never get over it and i’ll always have this outlook on creating art for the rest of my life. however , seeing so many people relate in the comments makes me feel so much better and i finally don’t feel like the only person going through this. i’ve recently picked up an interest in baking , especially over quarantine , as i find it therapeutic and of course i have a major sweet tooth so that also gets fulfilled. i don’t know if this will be a permanent love or interest , maybe it might be or maybe it won’t but i may still do it causally from time to time. i just have to open myself up to new things and keep experimenting. after all , experiencing new things is one of the most beautiful things about life (^:
When he said how you'll be writing down and would actually be doing the stuff you wanted....i looked around me and juat saw my notes and books and the laptop screen showing the book on physics...how i wanted to be physicist and now im so engaged in it, now I'm pursuing my degree in Physics. I kind of felt so energized. yess! This is it! I won't doubt!
This video was so good that I felt the urge to write something down here but I don't seem to come up with a proper set of words that expresses how much I enjoyed listening to you. Anyway, thanks for sharing your thoughts.
“do you love the work itself or do you love the idea of the craft” not even 2 minutes into the video and i am already contemplating my whole life.
Haven’t finished the video but I want to say as an artist it is okay to have self doubt and start off doing it for the end result. If you have that feeling don’t give up. Recognize how you feel about it and how you should feel. Enjoying the process.
I’ve spoke to artist friends who have changed by perception about being an artist. I broke my collarbone and it’s been an eye opener because I want to work on stuff SO BADLY.
In short: If you find yourself doing something for the wrong reasons don’t give up and find something else. Try sticking with it with a different mindset.
Absolutely agree ✨🍃
I'm a Full Stack Bootcamp instructor, graduated Computer Science from university. Previously I was deeply infatuated with theoretical physics, particularly (pun intended) interested in particle physics. With no job in sight in that field where I live, CS came to my aid.
Behind all this experience, writing, journaling, and what I now know is called writing essays have always been my quiet friends. I may have actually written more English in my journals and essays, both public and private, than I have written code.
It's inspiring to hear your story and your insights on the matter. You're the most intelligent and articulate and insightful and coherent 19 (or 20?) year old I've come across. I've always been praised for my intelligence and articulation relative to my age, but I think you have me beat on that one.
Keep up the good work! I'm glad I found your channel.
"What do you want to become?" a question we all have been asked to since childhood. I really never knew what I wanted to become. Maybe I still don't. I had so many beautiful options in front of me to choose from as a career. I have aways wanted to make choices I wouldn't regret later...but its as important to make wrong choices. Graduated high school and joined a prep class for med school entrance exam which cost my parents around a $1000. I know I will be criticized a lot if I change my path now. What have I ever wanted to become? Its not that medicine is not a beautiful path. It is.. But I thought I would be okay if I just choose a path and go on... I don't feel okay. All I know is I made wrong choices. Do I regret them? Hell no! Had I not made them I wouldn't be knowing what I really want to do. Thanks a load for posting this video. You truly have cleared a ton of confusion in my head.
edit- thanks for 5 likes!!!
so what path did you chose against medicine?
@@RatchetRorschach Language and writing!!!
@@ayshanawaz2391 didn't get that from any of your paragraph above, but okay...
@@RatchetRorschach oof harsh
What if you hate all work? I can't exactly make a career out of watching youtube and reading fanfiction.
An editor perhaps?
*LOL... Why did you describe my life?*
Go into fandom studies, it's a real thing 😂
You probably think like this due to the broken educational system. Trust me, there are awesome things in science and stuff you are supposed to learn at school. They just manage to make their students hate everything.
@@user-nw1qb6jd9o Oh, I know there are awesome things in science, both natural and social. I loved my first 2 years in university (majoring in biology). I listen to lectures on youtube for fun and even as a kid documentaries were my favorite. I just hate working hard. As long as I can learn science that someone has condensed for me - I love it! But the slow and tedious work of doing science myself? Ugh no. I need things to be constantly exciting and full of awe, or it feels like my brain is clawing it's way out to desperately focus on anything else. Sadly that's just not realistic in science.
I just finished college, I studied computer science. I thought it would be nice since I'm really comfortable with math but didn't "love it" so at the least it was going to be easy. I was wrong. It wasn't THAT HARD for me, for the most part I didn't struggle to understand my classes or exams. The shitty part came when I realized that I didn't give a shit about programming, like I was good at it but didn't care beyond exams and grades. I only finished because of social pressure. And I have to say that computer science is and AMAZING field like I love how many things you can do and build and how to contribute to other fields. I gave up searching for a passion. Yeah I like a lot of things and have many interests but nothing that I can call passion. The mere idea of having a passion without any knowledge of the skills required is funny to me. How would you know it's your passion if you've never tried it. It's silly from my point of view.
Totally agree! You should check out what Cal Newport says about passion.
@@NOCLUEinvalid Just googled it! Really interesting stuff, at last some sane and useful advice that I'm actually excited to read more about. Like, I can actually do something to adress my problem instead of waiting for a passion to magically manifest itself. Thanks a lot for the info!
@@Violetaasvideo I'm really glad you found my recommendation helpful! I have also struggled a lot with really wanting one sole passion so I really related to your original comment.
In addition to all the comments speaking about how true passion feels like, I can add my piece: there would be times when you feel tired and sick of it, nothing works out and you start hating it, telling yourself you'll never return to this work again. But as soon as you leave it, you know you've been lying. Something still calls you and you look forward to get back to work as soon as you get some rest. And you know - everything will work out this time. Or some other time, maybe in a year and three year, when you get more knowledge. The one thing you know - you don't WANT to give up
this was so, so mind opening.
I've been writing and drawing for the same amount of time now, and it's been 8 years, and I always thought that both crafts were as important to me. But really, I've always wanted to call myself an artist and I loved seeing my finished pieces, I was proud of myself - but what I really loved was the end result. I loved the idea of being an artist a bit more than I actually loved to draw and paint. And this was so different with writing. I never really called myself a writer out in the open. I bought notebooks, wrote down every idea that came to mind, be it at 4am or on the bus to school, I wrote. I loved writing, thought about writing all the time; and I wrote. Despite English not being my first language, despite being a 13 year old back then with no real idea of how most things worked. And it never changed. Sometimes, not all the time, I feel obligated to paint or draw, because it's a skill I've been polishing for so long. But when I write, it's because I feel the urge to write; every day. Thinking about writing gives me as much pleasure as actually writing. And I think that makes such a big difference. You can love a craft, but it doesn't always mean that it is your one true passion.
finding a passion is such an incredible feeling. i am passionate about ballet and i could literally stand at the barre for hours and hours everyday and pick apart my technique. i never get tired of it. it is such a dynamic and vibrant art form that is so historical and somehow so contemporary! great video man
Hi. This comment might be a bit late and you might not even see it, but i guess i just need to get it off my chest. I apologize in advance bc this might seem a bit scattered and english is also not my first language.
I've always been a reader, and I started writing when I was 9 years old. It's been around ten years now, and I'm currently in med school, almost (as soon as next month) 20 years old. Mind you, I've never been too fast of a writer, maybe because of myself or because of one reason and the other. But I've always liked writing. I've always liked teeling stories out of my imagination (stories that were always there even before I started writing them), expressing my feelings through words. And when I started to be more aware of the whole process, even the investigation and studying that comes with writing seemed attractive to me. Art and creation seem attractive to me.
Now, why am I in med school? To be honest, at this point I have no clue. It's something I liked as a kid and, don't get me wrong, I do like to learn about science and this super cool stuff. And I apply to med school and other careers to see what my chances were. When I took my chance with med school, I did it with the thought that I could manage both things. Being a doctor and writing, it seemed like a cool idea. But the thruth is that, up until now, I haven't really managed to do so.
I remember there was a time where I had already gratuated from highschool but hadn't started classes in medschool yet, for reasons out of my control. During that time, I was able to pour myself even more into my writing, and I managed to pull out a few of short stories and even planned somethings. And then college started. And since college started, I haven't been able to finish not one of my stories in the last two years. It's come to the point where I've thought: "should I just drop writing?" but I can't. I swear to god I just can't even follow that line of thought the whole idea of not writing ever again makes me feel sick to my stomach so much that I feel like crying and idk if I'm just being stubborn. But thinking of a Me in the future that does not write in any ways feels empty and pointless.
I'm growing more and more frustrated about it and my lack of motivation is really something else. Sometimes I'd be doing some studying and I'd suddenly think "heck, why am I doing this and not researching for this one story?" or "why am I not writing?" and when I do have the time to do such things, I am so emotionally drained that i just can't do it or it comes out in too tiny of bits. When I go on vacations, I just wanna wrap myself on a blanket and not know anything about the world and more specifically, not anything about medschool. Which sucks bc sometimes I have to study while Im on vacation. Heck, even know during the pandemics I don't feel like I want to go back to classes, and in the last few months I had been having trouble concentrating even in reading books for fun. And It is just during these times when Im not doing much about college (online classes are sort of a complicated matter here), during the last two months or so, that I've been able to go back to my writing, even if im only doing little short things by bits, I feel so happy just for the fact that I am progressing somehow. And I'm starting to think: "Has my passion always been there and I've just neglected it one way or the other?". It doesn't sound too far fetched.
And honestly, at this point it's not like I want to be a great author that everyone worships. Of course I would love to publish a book or a collection of my short stories and having an audience even if its small, that'd be great. But even the idea of writing for, idk, a show or making storylines or essays or whatever, just the idea of taking creative writing and making a living out of it in any ways seems like it'd be enough for me.
But of course I'm also scared. What if I'm wrong. What if im just depressed and changing my career wouldn't do any difference. What if I try and I fail. And im not even going for the "my family won't like this" rute bc the decision is not made but I'm aware of that as well. And idk.
I just feel too bad about this whole thing. Desperate, I dare say.
Just so damn relatable, thank you so very much, dear sir or madam.
Thank you both for your nice comments. There's no compliment that gives me as much joy as someone telling me I'm a good writer :) During these past few months I've realized that should in fact leave medschool and take a while to sort out myself and my mental health a little bit, and thought I am not sure which steps to take with precision, hopefully I'll find out soon enough. Thank you for your good, sweet wishes. I appreaciate them a lot.
This is soo damn relatable! ❤️
@@pinxied_ I hope you figure out the best thing for you. Since you write stories and I can do some art(I still have to learn a lot) why don't we make a webtoon? Its a platform of web comics with various genres...Maybe you can still write and balance your medschool?? The decision is yours obviously(if you like comics).I was thinking about making a webtoon for quite some time.Am I fantasizing too much? 😔 😭
@@sarwathsultana3253 I do like comics, we could try it out ^^
I can sense that you experienced yourself every possible images that you talk about. Stating it indirectly like it was something universal. I can see the kinds of people you described in you ... Im looking forward for more insights from you.. :))
Remember once a singer said in a vlog, "overtime, you realise that it's not about how much you love singing, but about how much you need it..."
I've never thought I'd have my life changed by a RUclips video
I put this on to play in the background while I sculpt and oh my god, the irony - @2:38 mins in you propose 'maybe sculpting's not for you.'
👀
_That_ made me pause. Great video, love how you handled this topic.
this kind of discussion is so valid for people taking courses like the one i am. it's illustration and animation, meaning MANY illustrators apply because they hope to become animators, and quickly discover how truly tedious it can be, then have to completely reassess their goals.
This video is so accurate. I think this happens to many people. I wanted to become a writer when I grew up, but I have figured out that, as you said, I was more in love with the idea of being a writer than writing itself. I think I had kind of idealized it,but the truth is that I barely write becuase I never find the inspiration and it takes a lot of effort for me. I think since I have always liked reading and literature I figured that being a writer would be cool, and that idea amused me. Also, lately I have trouble in finding something I love, I think that I'm a bit lost, so I just held to that idea of being a writer, but which I have now realized that is not right for me, or at least not for this time in my life.I'm happy for you for being so passionate about something. I hope that one day I could feel that way too. Now I know that that thing won't magically come to me and I should try new stuff and keep trying.
Thank you for this. I am in a bit of a tough situation at the moment. As a kid, I loved reading, and everything that had to do with books. My dream was to open a bookshop. Years later to where I know am. I am doing a writing course, and have come to the realization that I don't actually enjoy writing. This video has made me realize that I have always liked the idea of writing. I have never written before I started doing this course, and I feel like an outcast, because every one of my classmates says that writing is part of who they are, that they do it very often. I don't feel that way.
I absolutely love books though, and have been trying for YEARS now to get hired at a bookstore. Maybe working as a bookseller, selling stories that I love and that other authors have written is my true calling. Food for thought.
I went to Uni to study music, because I thought I wanted to be an opera singer. And I really did, and I still somewhat do. The issue was I became so disillusioned with the industry the more I saw it up close, and the lifestyle of a freelance musician can be really lonely. You have to sacrifice a normal, stable life to have a career in opera. And as I continued on in university I found myself feeling more and more unfulfilled with my classes. I became really intellectually restless. I felt less like I was being educated and more like I was being taught a skill, which is essentially the goal of music school and it's great for those who want that.
My saving grace was taking a summer music history course through another university, and taking literature courses my senior year just for fun. I fell in love with research and writing and learning about the history of music. Now I know for sure that my goal in life is to become an academic and to share the joy of learning with others. I know academia is just as fucked up as opera (although in different ways), and there is no such thing as the perfect career, and we have to be extremely careful not to derive our entire life's purpose and happiness from a job, but I'm willing to deal with all of that if it means I can do what I love. And that's the difference, for me.
My god i thought I was the only one who wanted to do this... man I agree 100%
R. C. Waldun here calling out my silent thoughts. I’ve confronted this problem time and time again in regards of writing. Apprehension mostly comes from the worry of being successful vs the actual writing itself, but even so I see the problem with that train of thought. The point is to write, not necessarily the conclusion of payment.
Your viewpoint is very valuable to me Waldun. Keep up the great work!
I love your eloquence and your articulation. I’ve felt every word you’ve said because of it. Thank you so much for imparting your beautiful encounters in life. You may not acknowledged it entirely but you’re helping a lot of us who’re stagnant in life. I hope you’re having a beautiful day today!
I like writing. Creatively or academically, I like expressing myself with writing. I decided to write a story that's been building in my head for almost a decade. I was excited about it until I went around social media platforms looking around writing posts.
It feels nice to have a community but I was drained out looking at the posts. Writing just didn't feel personal anymore. I stopped for a long while after writing down notes and plotlines in a couple journals.
I pressured myself to belong in the long run during browsing the posts for months when my passion or addiction-turned-productive-hobby only comes alive to me in my personal growth and space.
It took me a whle to remind myself that one's passion is, at it's core, just self-pleasing. And it's okay. With or without passion, indulge yourself and not a collective image.
Your article made me take more of a critical angle on that idealised image which comes down to how one would like to be looked upon. It's a pretty difuse image and a superficial choice of a passion is just a shape filling the crude outline of that image. While this can be a good start to figure out what you'd like to do, the only way that image of yourself can start to be rendered more accurately is through a slower process anchored in concrete experience and aplication, creating a particular and unique version of what you imagine you'd want to be.
Perfectly put :)
I love the long hours at work but I love the long hours I put into writing poetry and things in general. Glad to have stumbled across this video.
I used to like the idea of becoming a philosopher, even to the point that I earned a BA in it. However, know that I never read philosophy in my spare time, and spent it instead reading up on politics, and listening to music. If only I had been honest with myself, as well as willing to eat my pride, and admit that I was wrong, I would have pursued the arts. Thankfully, due to a strange series of events, I have been able to not only pursue additional studies in art but also seemingly have a chance of pursuing an MFA. We'll see. I'm hoping for the best.
One thing they don't tell you is that in pursuing your true craft, you will likely have to eat your pride, have your ego wounded, and start all over. But it's easier to do if you do it early. Don't wait till after your BA, like I did.
I felt every bit of this.
I’m a busy stay at home mom to two kids and these days all I can think of that I want to do, is veg out with my own thoughts, jotting down some ideas and connections I made that day, plug some music in my ears, no interruptions lol. I love so many creative things but not sure which one yet.
I had this idea of a story I´ve been creating all this time: my characters were somewhat developed, their origins, their behaviour, etc. But I still found myself in this block where I couldn´t even write the first words of the story because I thought my writing is not enough (when I was young I did write some little things, short novels, and other stories though). However, when I started watching your videos mainly because of the philosophical part, I stumbled across this video of yours about writing and that you published your novel. This inspired me enormously, and now, after two days I could write at least two paragraphs of the beginning of the story. I am so glad you share your thoughts on this platform and I thank you for it. God bless RUclips recommendations
Omg that is so true. I never understood why we have to choose a career path so young.. You barely experienced life, you barely know yourself.. And you have to decide your future ? Sadly, our society doesn't care at all about our well-beeing/desires and self development, as long as we bring money... I've always felt pressured by that... I disliked my studies. I chose bc I had to choose something. I went to work bc I had to get money. But having no purpose was really depressing. I traveled since then and tried all kind of stuffs ! It helped me a lot to understand what makes me happy, which environment do I feel comfortable in. I just discovered something I already knew.. Without realizing it was a passion , without realizing it was possible to have a career out of it. I love cats , animals in general and It's obvious to me now I wanna work with them.. I really encourage ppl to have new experiences and try new things if you're curious about something. You don't have to choose one btw. And if you're tired of it, you still have the possibility to change. You're not stuck. We evolve through the years, it's normal !
Ok. It's 2:41 a. m. and reading some comments made me want to write a little bit about my situation. I think I would say the weirdest things, and my grammar mistakes will make everything worse, but I'm behind a screen, so I feel some safety here.
I grew up being a strange girl. I grew up watching TV novels that showed love as the most important thing in life. No matter the plot, no matter the characters, only love was shown as a big deal (indeed, I remember how the intimacy scenes were, and now I'm older I would not want a kid to watch them). For that reason, and the fact that my father left me, I have some problems with the opposite sex even now.
The thing is that that fact began everything, and now I have so many holes in my education because I preferred to be online than studying. But what I was doing online? Watching TV novels? I was writing. I joined a community, and I did roleplayer for years. But I was doing that because it stimulated my brain, as love still does now because of the TV novels mindset. And not only because of the writing itself, but it was also the people I met there and the effect that online interactions had on me. I kind of improved over the years, and an interest in humanities grew. I wrote some stories, and people seem to like them somehow (I have some certificates, but these are only an illustration of how nights without sleeping and being on Facebook had its effect). But then something happened.
I went to a literature festival in my city, and I entered the conference. I didn't know the man that was talking, but he seemed important, so I was preparing to ask for an autograph. The conference eventually ended, and even if he gave me the autograph, something died that day. I watched the interactions between that writer and other writers, and I rejected it so much. I did not like the hypocrisy I saw. I did not like the effort that they pushed to put a smile. That day I remember it as the day I decided I won't do a career in humanities.
I started searching for sciences, and now I'm still doing so. But sometimes something just feel not alright! I like learning science, but because I don't have a great history with science, I feel I am only faking it. That I won't be a good scientist, that I deserve being in humanity major, not because of humanities itself, but because I won't be good at anything else. That even if being a physician interested me, maybe it's just the idea, and I could hurt someone if I become one. That even if I like biology, I just got normal grades in biology courses, that I'm only a girl with some weirds ideas on her head, daddy issues, family issues, insecurities, financial problems, and with no friends.
And now I'm 18 years old, and I believe if someone would know all of my problems, they would say they are no important, but if I don't do something to fix them, I will become a problematic adult in the future. Because that is precisely the problem in our society, sometimes people, and the people around these people, let problems pass, and they don't face them. However, these problems will accumulate and will convert a potential genius into a pathetic adult with mental problems, for example.
And... I just want to say that I feel so lost right now that sometimes I think if I were a man and if I were born in the US, with a different family, with a different mindset, with a different personality, maybe I could be a better human. But that did not happen. I have a XX chromosome, and I am Latin American. I grew up with no father and an unemployed mother. I have to work if I want to study, and I need to make money to find a therapist and being able to be normal. And I need to do all of this while I'm searching if medicine and science are my passions. But all of these goals requires energy. So it's better to sleep right now.
Thanks if someone reading, and I'm sorry with you.
what you said during the first minutes was so accurate it kind of hurt. you just said out loud what i've subconciously known but chose to ignore for a very long time. you honestly made me cry, this was exactly everything i needed to hear. greetings!
I feel little when I listened this bc you are the kind of person that I´d like to talk with and I´m just 15. I really wanted a channel like yours, thx u. I love it. Greetings from Peru!
It is impossible to not comprehend this man is extremely well versed. I am just now getting into writing and can see how important reading is. Very intelligent man right here. A piece of advice, from a man who has made this very detrimental mistake, surround yourself with likeminded individuals. Young people, such as you and I (19), are around volatile societal standards. As a musician who will never leave producing no matter the fruits of my labor (even produced/written while homeless), I can say, he is speaking truthfully. Good points brother. Follow what you enjoy WORKING for. Most people go to their day jobs to dream of more just to go home and... well... frankly waste their time with distractions. TO FIND YOUR TRUE CALLING TURN YOUR PHONE OFF, TV OFF AND JUST DO IT! The addictions will call. THATS why it must be something you ENJOY working at. Distractions fade away into the everlasting abyss of nothingness.
I can't relate to this one. I knew my passion from 3 years old. It hasn't changed. The real problem is this...its never easy, and it's not always fun. If you are looking for something that's always easy for you or that's always fun, you'll never have a passion. A passion is something you'd bleed for on good days and bad days. Not because of how it makes you look but how it makes you feel. It's worth each ounce of blood you pour into it. If you expect to love the process all the time you'll never have passion. It's not something you discover...its something you've been doing all along and it just clicks for you. You have to do it. Not because you want to but because you were born to. Or at least that's what you feel anyway. You feel made for it.
For people who haven't found it...you might have to keep looking. Or maybe work isn't your passion. Maybe family is...or you have a hobby. But regardless, don't feel like you need a passion to be happy. You'll find what you need in time.
Gosh this video speaks to me on a completely new level! I learned the very same thing but the hard way. I think what many of us don't realize when choosing a career is that watching someone else doing the thing and actually doing it ourselves are two very different things. All my life I've loved languages and I spent years learning new languages just for the joy it brought me. Apart from reading and my passion for languages, I didn't have much of an idea about what to do with my life. Then when I got an offer to take on postgraduate research, I jumped at it thinking what could be better suited for me?! Well, turns out a lot of things. The mind-numbing drudgery of endless postgraduate days was soul-destroying, and reading dense papers chock-full of statistical charts covering obscure topics with little real-world application just contributed to the unsettling feeling I'd made a huge mistake in my choice of career. So for anyone out there, I'd say take out a sheet of paper and take down all the responsibilities you're likely to have in your desired job. And go deeper than that - list out the various small tasks you'll need to do, sketch out what your day-to-day will look like and then ask yourslef if the type of tasks you'll need to do every day match well with your personality. For someone restless and a bit hyperactive like me, the sheer thought of sitting down with tons of data wrangling numbers on excel sheets to produce statistics, still sends chills down my spine.
So here's my scenario.
I'm at a point in my life where I've just been confused about what my true calling is for the past.. many years (it's embarrassing, really). I had always had a bunch of ideas about what I could do and be, but it was hard to boil it down into something I could actually see myself carrying out. When I look at stuff I just do on my own every day, it's, first and foremost, writing. The kicker is, out of everything I've ever wanted to be in life, I never wanted to be a writer and never envisioned myself as an author, it was just always something I did as a hobby. Even now as I'm writing this, the idea of a fantasy "author's life" doesn't really appeal to me lol. But, I think maybe I should give it a shot and see where it takes me.
This really helped me thank you. I have certain “hobbies”/ activities that are so effortless and enjoyable for me, but I judge them and fear letting myself accept them as my calling. I judge them thinking it’s selfish or not useful enough or not “hard” enough to be considered respectable or worthy. But if “god” made me find the process of these actions enjoyable and effortless, it would be a shame to force myself to do anything else.
I bet you didn't know that you are a romanticized version of an intellect, that I seem to like the idea of. I always feel inadequacy when it comes to the dominance hierarchy of the world. My highest qualification is a higher certificate, in design. I feel like if I don't force myself to read these difficult books on philosophy and esoteric studies, that somehow history will sweep me under the rug and it probably will.
Keep up the good work man (^-^/)
I am a Romantic down to my bones. :) Overtime the difficulties in reading will morph into joy. Trust in the process.
Robin you are very fortunate find that great passion. I'm trying..
At the moment I'm having all of these questions for myself and its getting quite torturous... sometimes I wake up in the morning and I feel so unsure and lost- obsessive thoughts are filling up my head, and I have contradicting thoughts on money vs passion and I feel like if I don't figure it out I won't become as successful in whichever profession I choose
Hi I stumbled across your comment and I would like to give you my input, feel free to take or leave it: I advise you to brainstorm on paper your interests and those ideas you have - then try out your ideas for example if you want to play an instrument do it and on another piece of paper/ papers make pros and cons list for each career/ interest you have. and researching too idk you're entire circumstance (ie if you struggle with motivation) so i can only give you brief advice. Hope this is helpful
Yes bro it's always passion vs money. I mean we need money to follow our passion or to figure it out. We can't rely on our parents forever 😔
@@cannonballlight4939 thanks i’ve ended up making the decision to pursue my passion since commenting this, and i’ve decided that i’m going to actively find a loophole. if there’s a way to begin generating income right now to make my dream possible, I will find it- and i will do it. but money isn’t everything.. I think if my mind only searches for safety it will become very unhealthy- why become obsessed with money!!
@@namka8588 it’s ok i’m finding a way, I hope you will also.
@@namka8588 and is that namjoon 🌚🌚
Such a great distinction that people NEED to be able to make for themselves. I often found myself falling in the same trap. Loving the idea in my head of what I wanted to do but not being able to handle the actual reality of doing said thing. I had to learn that 1. I was living too much in fantasy 2. That if I ever wanted to actually do something I had to actually do the un glamourous work that goes into it and 3. Being able to find the joy in the work and being satisfied with the final work even if it might not have turned out as good as my perfectionist fantasy
This reminds me of how in high school I wanted to be a novelist so bad, but i hated writing short stories.
I'm in a life long pursuit of who it that I REALLY am. You have made a step towards the staircase of self-discovery clear to me. Thank you
I used to fantasize about being a writer. It look many years to realize that my passion for texts did not require that I produce them. Now, I’m a PhD candidate in English will the goal of becoming either a professor, lecturer, or private school teacher. I just want to talk about the books and introduce them to students. 🥰
I watched a couple of your videos and I really just wanted to say thank you for sharing your wisdom. It truly helps, especially in this "lost" kind of state I'm in right now.
I love your voice, intonation, choice of words! Also I have very much respect for you not editing or scripting your videos! I would be too much of a perfectionist in order to be able to do that :)
you just saved me from a part of my identity crisis and u r such a special gem for showing up from my feed tysm for all of these.
The rule of ten: You will be happiest doing what you loved doing at the age of 10. This rule isn’t perfect (you haven’t tried everything yet at that age) but it is a start.
I spent a long time in my teen years and first year or so of uni thinking I was going to go into a very academic field, so research or become a professor.
After doing some work as a literacy mentor I realised that my passion was to take my passion as a lifelong learner and become an educator. I love working with kids and after trying to go into developmental psychology/cognitive science I changed my major to comparative literature and decided to pursue K-12 language education. Now teaching ... is a tricky career to get into :’) since teachers are the lowest paid professionals and the turnover rate for teachers is extremely high- but I found this to be my calling as I find working with young students to be the most rewarding and meaningful job I could possibly do! Also, kids are just adorable! I will never ever forget my 1st grade tutoring students and my current 8th graders are just so much wild fun! And their success and thriving has become my passion. Though I do have my own passions! I love to write poetry and I love art and music, all of which I do for joy! And I would love to write a children’s book one day!
i didnt know my passion. I imagined myself as jobs. I tried imagining myself as teacher, i didnt know if it was "the thing". I imagined myself as translator, i even tried to become one; no it wasnt fun work to me. After years, i now know what i want with my whole heart and i can give my life to it. Then i realised this desire was always inside of me, i took steps to this job unconciously. It is being a youtuber. And i am sure i love the work because "a youtuber" doesnt sound so good here, not as much as "a doctor". Specificly though i want to make gaming and traveling. And i know teaching is not my passion because i get too angry when i teach for little reason. Whatever hopefully all of us finds "the right" passion and achieves it. BTW you dont have "that much time" to think about your passion, just decide. Your heart will say something.
For me Charles Bukowski's poem "so you want to be a writer then?" always helps to get back on track. I'm a musician but I struggle with depression. I know there's nothing I rather do than make music, but at the same time I can't get out of the bed.