The hardest thing to accept is that a man can go through hurting a lot of women then he can heal and when he is ready he can still be with an amazing woman bc there are plenty of options. There are so many women who have healed but they are single 10-15 years in their healing state. They don’t always get the chance to heal and still find a partner who they can now build with. A lot of women have to accept yes I’ve healed but in that healing I have to be ok being alone not lonely but alone realizing there’s not a huge pool of equally healed men to choose from.
Why is this hard to accept? If a person honestly changes and becomes someone who is able to express themselves, they should be allowed happiness just as anyone else. We do not choose to grow into emotionally unavailable men. I see it a lot in the comments here and people are probably unaware. There is something called the fundamental attribution error. In a nutshell it means people apply one's traits to the person when it is the environment. E.G: The man is unavailable, but he grew up in a home with a dad who portrayed this. Now he has similar traits. Is that his fault? No. He is subconsciously like this now and needs to heal. E.G: A woman is stressing and leaves a man like this but now speaks rather venomous words of the guy. Her fault? No. It is her environment influencing her. The point is, you fix the environment and influence what you can rather than fix the person and things will change. Facts.
You are both right. Her point was on her last line. After a woman puts in the work to be a healthy person, the pool of healed men to choose from, is veeeeerrryyy small.
I am rereading it and it was definitely two points. I agree with the “applicant pool” issue but she clearly stated it is hard to accept that the man who did the hurting can heal anf then still get an amazing partner. That’s life. It is definitely unfair in a sense of numbers but the work the damaged man has to put in to no longer be a complete piece of poo is far beyond anything I have experienced before. Which is also “unfair” since men are molded in this manner nowadays
Please do a part 4 I left a 2 year relationship with this type of person. I loved him much but he made no effort push pull so I had enough and walked away they may not mean to hurt you but it hurts a lot.Thank you.
May I ask if you have reached back out to this person? My ex left me as well for being emotionally unavailable to her. I’m just curious if you have and how long it was if you reached back out to him. Thank you
I Appreciate you sharing. I just thought it was an Aquarius thing but realized that he was unhealed from childhood trauma and did not want to do the shadow work, sadly! Namaste!
Many years ago I got bored after a few months into a relationship once i got to know the woman..Its as if i down loaded a book ,read it with great interest and moved on.
What a great and honest series. Thank you. This coming from a woman who only attracted men who wanted to use me sexually. So hard not to be the most pretty girl in the room all the time. Thank you.
I really appreciate the effort and vulnerability in this series. After an EU man dropped out of our incredible relationship, I learned about attachment issues (in both parties) and found I, too, was EU!! Shocked me as much as the break up! I don’t believe we should get back together (unlike you, I do not believe he will ever do the inner work to heal, unfortunately, for him and those who love him) but find I still search to understand what goes on for EU people. Your perspective put words I couldn’t find to describe how it felt to live so detached. I’m happy for you! And so happy to hv found this series! Blessings!
Great Information. Seeing your videos on this subject is really eye opening. You have described the man I was dealing with to the T.....16 exhausting years....LOML but I had to let him go. He's not even ready to look deep and do the work. It's very sad to walk away from someone you love. Thank you for sharing.🙏
Hey I just binged the channel and still watching this one I love the info I’m getting from this I’m connecting to myself and learning more about myself I won’t say drop a part 4 but instead a video going more into helping a man to become vulnerable
Wow such a great topic! Crazy because I be catching myself ( being ) the same way ! I said NO MORE ! I had to take a deep dive abandonment & rejection is basically all “ being emotionally unavailable “ Thank you 🙏🏾 for being vulnerable n sharing
Thank you for these videos. Very helpful for those of us on the receiving end as well. I hope you find a good Christian church that teaches the truth about God and his love. We do not have to earn it ❤️
Thank you so much for sharing your truth!! Life completely changes when we dare to face our shadows and open our hearts! Yay for authenticity and self love!!! ❤❤❤
Thank you dear brother. This is definitely hitting home for me. As I sit here and view this video... alll of this speaks to who I was( working on leaving this behind), and looking forward to honoring my AUTHENTIC self. Thank you for posting this!! Many blessings to you. #newsubscriber
The hardest thing to accept is that a man can go through hurting a lot of women then he can heal and when he is ready he can still be with an amazing woman bc there are plenty of options. There are so many women who have healed but they are single 10-15 years in their healing state. They don’t always get the chance to heal and still find a partner who they can now build with. A lot of women have to accept yes I’ve healed but in that healing I have to be ok being alone not lonely but alone realizing there’s not a huge pool of equally healed men to choose from.
Why is this hard to accept? If a person honestly changes and becomes someone who is able to express themselves, they should be allowed happiness just as anyone else. We do not choose to grow into emotionally unavailable men.
I see it a lot in the comments here and people are probably unaware. There is something called the fundamental attribution error. In a nutshell it means people apply one's traits to the person when it is the environment.
E.G: The man is unavailable, but he grew up in a home with a dad who portrayed this. Now he has similar traits. Is that his fault? No. He is subconsciously like this now and needs to heal.
E.G: A woman is stressing and leaves a man like this but now speaks rather venomous words of the guy. Her fault? No. It is her environment influencing her.
The point is, you fix the environment and influence what you can rather than fix the person and things will change. Facts.
Comparison is the thief of joy 💯
You are both right. Her point was on her last line. After a woman puts in the work to be a healthy person, the pool of healed men to choose from, is veeeeerrryyy small.
I am rereading it and it was definitely two points. I agree with the “applicant pool” issue but she clearly stated it is hard to accept that the man who did the hurting can heal anf then still get an amazing partner.
That’s life. It is definitely unfair in a sense of numbers but the work the damaged man has to put in to no longer be a complete piece of poo is far beyond anything I have experienced before. Which is also “unfair” since men are molded in this manner nowadays
Please do a part 4 I left a 2 year relationship with this type of person. I loved him much but he made no effort push pull so I had enough and walked away they may not mean to hurt you but it hurts a lot.Thank you.
May I ask if you have reached back out to this person? My ex left me as well for being emotionally unavailable to her. I’m just curious if you have and how long it was if you reached back out to him. Thank you
I Appreciate you sharing. I just thought it was an Aquarius thing but realized that he was unhealed from childhood trauma and did not want to do the shadow work, sadly! Namaste!
Many years ago I got bored after a few months into a relationship once i got to know the woman..Its as if i down loaded a book ,read it with great interest and moved on.
This part… I am a woman.
What a great and honest series. Thank you. This coming from a woman who only attracted men who wanted to use me sexually. So hard not to be the most pretty girl in the room all the time. Thank you.
Loved to hear a pt4. Appreciate your authenticity.
Thank you sis🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾I’ll for sure be coming out with a part 4
Thank you for your transparency. We need a part 4.
🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
I really appreciate the effort and vulnerability in this series. After an EU man dropped out of our incredible relationship, I learned about attachment issues (in both parties) and found I, too, was EU!! Shocked me as much as the break up! I don’t believe we should get back together (unlike you, I do not believe he will ever do the inner work to heal, unfortunately, for him and those who love him) but find I still search to understand what goes on for EU people. Your perspective put words I couldn’t find to describe how it felt to live so detached. I’m happy for you! And so happy to hv found this series! Blessings!
Great Information. Seeing your videos on this subject is really eye opening. You have described the man I was dealing with to the T.....16 exhausting years....LOML but I had to let him go. He's not even ready to look deep and do the work. It's very sad to walk away from someone you love. Thank you for sharing.🙏
Appreciate you for for tapping in!
Hey I just binged the channel and still watching this one I love the info I’m getting from this I’m connecting to myself and learning more about myself I won’t say drop a part 4 but instead a video going more into helping a man to become vulnerable
Wow such a great topic! Crazy because I be catching myself ( being ) the same way ! I said NO MORE ! I had to take a deep dive abandonment & rejection is basically all “ being emotionally unavailable “ Thank you 🙏🏾 for being vulnerable n sharing
Thank you for these videos. Very helpful for those of us on the receiving end as well. I hope you find a good Christian church that teaches the truth about God and his love. We do not have to earn it ❤️
Thank you so much for sharing your truth!! Life completely changes when we dare to face our shadows and open our hearts! Yay for authenticity and self love!!! ❤❤❤
Part 4, because you answer my question. Love your video, and your strength to recognize to heal. 🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽
This is so healing to hear
My advice to the people dating one -run becouse they will take their own time to come out of it if ever!
Yes, please do a part 4
How to send to ex without sending to ex 😂
Send it from anonymous email 🤫
Thank you dear brother. This is definitely hitting home for me. As I sit here and view this video... alll of this speaks to who I was( working on leaving this behind), and looking forward to honoring my AUTHENTIC self. Thank you for posting this!!
Many blessings to you. #newsubscriber
How can I get him to recognise this in himself? It's affecting my health and wellbeing.
You can't. Walk away.
Were you only emotionally unavailable in your romantic relationships? What about with friendships, family and otherwise?
My emotionally unavailable BF is closer to his best friend than me, but still does things on his own terms.
Yes plz part 4
This was a great series
Definitely want a Part 4…..do you think it would be helpful to have him watch these videos? Or should I not point this out to him?
Keep up the good work I would like to see live videos
How long did it take you to change from when you first realised it to how you are now?
You need an UNemotionally available woman. Then she is not available and u are not available. Perfect. Keep looking.
man you need to fix the audio, maybe using the mic or at least make it less echo,