Love your videos, and I am watching them because of my best friend who is cocaine addict. The worst of all is that I havent seen him for 11 months now, since he admitted to me that he is a cocaine addict. He works as a seamen, with contracts 4 months at sea, 2 at home. So while he was on work, i used to send him messages like "I havent forgot you, I think about you often and hope you are ok and i hope we could see each other when you come back home" No response at all. Then after he came, 5 days after, he was sending me a message in a night when he was relapsing, after 4 months being clean, telling me what he is doing and how I am the only one that doesnt want him to do that, how I am the only one who cares and that I dont deserve friend like him. I was all night on phone with him, and he promised me that he will see me in 2 days. I reached out to him again, and his response was: "Better not today, I dont wanna company." Can you tell me what is it about, that he thinks about me only in the middle of the night and that is when he is using it, and that he only wants to see me when he is high? No matter that he knows that I wouldnt feel comfortable seeing him like that. Why is it obviously so hard to him to go and have a coffee with me since he admitted me that he is cocaine addict?
Hey so sorry ur going thru that you have to understand to not take so many things addicts do personal I know that sounds stupid and very hard. But when he comes home from being at sea for 4 months his brain has 1 thing on its mind...coke coke cocaine.. he probably gets paid right when he gets back and goes on a binge an when someone using alot of coke they basically go legally insane for a little while, coke bugs, paranoia, hallucinations, I went thru that nightly. when someone is using that much drugs they dont think normal like u are. He prob goes on binges and then has a moment of clarity and thinks about u. Remember its not ur normal friends its the drugs taking over. U might think "wow how does he not ever think about me" he is he is just feeling so much guilt and shame he does more drugs. Addicts think everyone else is gonna lecture and judge them so they avoid them. Also im sure he is lying when he says ur the only one who cares about his drugs use. Im sure the people he uses drugs with dont care because they use with him but everyone else whos not using does. Hang in there stay strong
@@Soberdogs Thank you. :) The thing is I am the only one who knows, that doesnt do any drugs. He admitted it only to me. He is hiding it very well. He is not even doing it with his "friends", he is doing it alone whole night and whole morning(3 to 4 grams he said), then goes to sleep for 15,16 hours. Also sometimes smokes crack. He said I dont wanna do it anymore with them, because they see me as cash cow, so i rather do it alone now. I had a very gentle approach to him, I even told him, we can go buy something to eat and drink, we dont even need to talk about drugs if you dont want to. I dont want to see you to force rehab on you, or to shame you. (Because I know that wouldnt work.) But he still avoids to see me in person.
@@shinylittlestar4958 yea its a very tough situation he is just probably isolating from anyone and everyone I wouldn't take it to personal I bet he has cut pretty much everyone out of his life. Unfoirtunalty his brain is telling him 24/7 "more coke more coke" and everything else is an afterthought. Just let him know ur there to talk or hang whenever he's ready and u wont guilt him besides that not much u can do its up to him sorry u dealing with this
There's many routes that end up alone as an addict. I was and still am an opioid addict. I got into treatment around 6+ years ago, methadone clinic saved my life, no doubt. Before treatment i began to hate addicts, including myself. I began getting what i needed just to function semi normally, id go home and isolate . This sorta worked until an event led to blme getting real help and i havnt looked back.... except for the isolation part. I still do that. Very few friends, i NEVER go out anymore. I used to be a guitarist in a band, i still play all the time of course, but almost always alone at home. I post a few vids sometimes and tried giving lessons but i cannot and dont seem to want to break my isolation. I have my animals, cat, dog, chickens and more, but idk how to properly cope with ppl anymore.
Dude I'm a addict and 5 years off dope and I'm a introvert so I love being by myself and my dog ! So I agree but disagree ! When my addiction was going on it wasn't about getting high it was about feeling normal and not being sick
Damn thats a great point Johnny. Dogs saved my life many times. I love dogs so so much but I'm an extrovert but can totally understand what your saying.
That could nearly word for word be something I wrote. Every part of that is exactly the same except im closer to 6 years in recovery now. Near the end it was not about getting high, only about being well and being able to function. I got what I needed and then stayed away at home. After getting into treatment I kept that the same. I stay at home all the time alone, play guitar alone instead of with a band like I used to.
You just described my life, but with a cat. Congrats on staying clean buddy. Haviing an animal in your life really helps with sobriety, keeping you out of your own head. The majority of my using days were just to not be sick, so that I could hold down a job. Mostly it was just a bag about every 24 hours.
This helps to understand my housemate, she has stopped caring and has cut off healthy people who care, love and support her. She cut me off as a friend and housemate, cut off all her friends, cut off her own children and grandchildren and has left hurt people in every place. She picks fights now is belligerent, verbally and emotionally abusive and can no longer show up to work without a hangover or drinking before and after work.
I was an addict to H for nearly 30 years and I have now been sober/clean for about 4 and a half years now (feels like a lot longer!) with just one or two Lost Weekend relapses in the first year, but I am STILL isolating, hardly going out and doing everything to avoid bumping into any of the neighbours, EVERYONE. Even putting off phone calls more and more. I'm getting worse. It's really a big problem.
I agree to most of what your saying till the end when u say put drink and drugs down and all get back to normal with family and friends not for me im more isolated now cos partly I can't be myself and before I was mad fun now im tiered worn out ect when will I be better in 5 yrs sober
I know what you mean. I just made a similar comment too. It's shit isn't it. I don't WANT to be like this bit the longer it goes on the harder it is to socialise.
Subs have made my mindset so horrible... Lazy..no motivation and short temper..I can't be the only one... Haven't done opiates since the real oxys..subs have been so hard for me to kick
Theoreticaly it's more of a POISON than a drug, whereas Heroin ISN'T toxic. I know it sounds mad, seeing as it equally destroys peoples lives but it's true.
I been a addict for ten plus yrs now I got to were I can function now on Suboxone but no one gets why I like to be alone either I do have ptsd really bad but I know God is there I feel stuck
Love your videos, and I am watching them because of my best friend who is cocaine addict. The worst of all is that I havent seen him for 11 months now, since he admitted to me that he is a cocaine addict. He works as a seamen, with contracts 4 months at sea, 2 at home. So while he was on work, i used to send him messages like "I havent forgot you, I think about you often and hope you are ok and i hope we could see each other when you come back home" No response at all. Then after he came, 5 days after, he was sending me a message in a night when he was relapsing, after 4 months being clean, telling me what he is doing and how I am the only one that doesnt want him to do that, how I am the only one who cares and that I dont deserve friend like him. I was all night on phone with him, and he promised me that he will see me in 2 days. I reached out to him again, and his response was: "Better not today, I dont wanna company."
Can you tell me what is it about, that he thinks about me only in the middle of the night and that is when he is using it, and that he only wants to see me when he is high? No matter that he knows that I wouldnt feel comfortable seeing him like that. Why is it obviously so hard to him to go and have a coffee with me since he admitted me that he is cocaine addict?
Hey so sorry ur going thru that you have to understand to not take so many things addicts do personal I know that sounds stupid and very hard. But when he comes home from being at sea for 4 months his brain has 1 thing on its mind...coke coke cocaine.. he probably gets paid right when he gets back and goes on a binge an when someone using alot of coke they basically go legally insane for a little while, coke bugs, paranoia, hallucinations, I went thru that nightly.
when someone is using that much drugs they dont think normal like u are. He prob goes on binges and then has a moment of clarity and thinks about u. Remember its not ur normal friends its the drugs taking over. U might think "wow how does he not ever think about me" he is he is just feeling so much guilt and shame he does more drugs. Addicts think everyone else is gonna lecture and judge them so they avoid them. Also im sure he is lying when he says ur the only one who cares about his drugs use. Im sure the people he uses drugs with dont care because they use with him but everyone else whos not using does. Hang in there stay strong
@@Soberdogs Thank you. :)
The thing is I am the only one who knows, that doesnt do any drugs. He admitted it only to me. He is hiding it very well.
He is not even doing it with his "friends", he is doing it alone whole night and whole morning(3 to 4 grams he said), then goes to sleep for 15,16 hours. Also sometimes smokes crack. He said I dont wanna do it anymore with them, because they see me as cash cow, so i rather do it alone now.
I had a very gentle approach to him, I even told him, we can go buy something to eat and drink, we dont even need to talk about drugs if you dont want to. I dont want to see you to force rehab on you, or to shame you. (Because I know that wouldnt work.) But he still avoids to see me in person.
@@shinylittlestar4958 yea its a very tough situation he is just probably isolating from anyone and everyone I wouldn't take it to personal I bet he has cut pretty much everyone out of his life. Unfoirtunalty his brain is telling him 24/7 "more coke more coke" and everything else is an afterthought. Just let him know ur there to talk or hang whenever he's ready and u wont guilt him besides that not much u can do its up to him sorry u dealing with this
There's many routes that end up alone as an addict. I was and still am an opioid addict. I got into treatment around 6+ years ago, methadone clinic saved my life, no doubt. Before treatment i began to hate addicts, including myself. I began getting what i needed just to function semi normally, id go home and isolate . This sorta worked until an event led to blme getting real help and i havnt looked back.... except for the isolation part. I still do that. Very few friends, i NEVER go out anymore. I used to be a guitarist in a band, i still play all the time of course, but almost always alone at home. I post a few vids sometimes and tried giving lessons but i cannot and dont seem to want to break my isolation. I have my animals, cat, dog, chickens and more, but idk how to properly cope with ppl anymore.
Yeah, similar story here, Mr Jones. I don't like being like this but I don't know how to get out of it.
I wish you luck and courage, man.
Dude I'm a addict and 5 years off dope and I'm a introvert so I love being by myself and my dog ! So I agree but disagree ! When my addiction was going on it wasn't about getting high it was about feeling normal and not being sick
Damn thats a great point Johnny. Dogs saved my life many times. I love dogs so so much but I'm an extrovert but can totally understand what your saying.
That could nearly word for word be something I wrote. Every part of that is exactly the same except im closer to 6 years in recovery now. Near the end it was not about getting high, only about being well and being able to function. I got what I needed and then stayed away at home. After getting into treatment I kept that the same. I stay at home all the time alone, play guitar alone instead of with a band like I used to.
You just described my life, but with a cat. Congrats on staying clean buddy. Haviing an animal in your life really helps with sobriety, keeping you out of your own head.
The majority of my using days were just to not be sick, so that I could hold down a job. Mostly it was just a bag about every 24 hours.
This helps to understand my housemate, she has stopped caring and has cut off healthy people who care, love and support her. She cut me off as a friend and housemate, cut off all her friends, cut off her own children and grandchildren and has left hurt people in every place. She picks fights now is belligerent, verbally and emotionally abusive and can no longer show up to work without a hangover or drinking before and after work.
I was an addict to H for nearly 30 years and I have now been sober/clean for about 4 and a half years now (feels like a lot longer!) with just one or two Lost Weekend relapses in the first year, but I am STILL isolating, hardly going out and doing everything to avoid bumping into any of the neighbours, EVERYONE. Even putting off phone calls more and more. I'm getting worse. It's really a big problem.
How are you doing now?
I agree to most of what your saying till the end when u say put drink and drugs down and all get back to normal with family and friends not for me im more isolated now cos partly I can't be myself and before I was mad fun now im tiered worn out ect when will I be better in 5 yrs sober
I know what you mean. I just made a similar comment too. It's shit isn't it. I don't WANT to be like this bit the longer it goes on the harder it is to socialise.
The opposite of addiction is connection ! ✌️Great video brotha !
- Sober_Sparky801 😉
thanks brotha!!!! Nice to see u on here to!!!!!!
I WISH !
Hey sober dog love you!! Thanks so much for you’re videos they help out so much
Amazing tips and advice....
Glad it was helpful!
I stoped all.drugs and alcohol and still isolating help
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Anyone else think K-rugz is super entertaining?
If I am using I wreck everything around me, and if I isolate myself. I don't wreck everything around me. I wreck myself.
I started to notice how much you were isolating. It was awful abd scary. This makes sense though.
yea crazy ma so glad we are done with that at ;east for now one day at a time
In my experience is because the combination of drugs I was on were my friends.
so i dont have to share
Why dont you want to share?
Subs have made my mindset so horrible... Lazy..no motivation and short temper..I can't be the only one... Haven't done opiates since the real oxys..subs have been so hard for me to kick
Well, I'm on Subs too but I don't know if it's them that are the problem. I don't know at all. 😒
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The phrase “drugs AND alcohol” is inaccurate and dangerous. Alcohol IS a drug and it’s one of the most dangerous and destructive drugs in existence.
Theoreticaly it's more of a POISON than a drug, whereas Heroin ISN'T toxic. I know it sounds mad, seeing as it equally destroys peoples lives but it's true.
I been a addict for ten plus yrs now I got to were I can function now on Suboxone but no one gets why I like to be alone either I do have ptsd really bad but I know God is there I feel stuck
I feel you❤❤ im the Same you are not alone I wish we didn't have to go threw this shit
Stay strong