Why narcissists hate when you ignore them

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  • Опубликовано: 1 дек 2024

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  • @nopereradicator
    @nopereradicator 11 месяцев назад +110

    One thing I learned is to never let them talk too long. That gives them time to hypnotize you and cast their spells.

    • @ainahaga
      @ainahaga 11 месяцев назад +5

      This is so true! Mine did this to me. Casted spells on me to get me to kiss him, cause I didnt actually want to😳🤢 in The end of The relationship

    • @emilycunningham8125
      @emilycunningham8125 11 месяцев назад +17

      Good point! Maybe this is why they get so frustrated when you attempt to interject and have a two way conversation.

    • @sinsin999
      @sinsin999 11 месяцев назад +3

      💯

    • @ainahaga
      @ainahaga 11 месяцев назад +7

      @@sinsin999 if I ever meet mine again I will run! I will not open my mouth to him. Ive heard that they can also stand at your door. Im not opening either then! Or I will pretend Im not home. But I do not think my narsisist will ever return.

    • @sinsin999
      @sinsin999 11 месяцев назад +3

      @@ainahaga 🙏🫂 please stay strong and safe

  • @ets5697
    @ets5697 11 месяцев назад +37

    Most people have feelings. Narcissists have fuelings.

  • @heatherwagar5868
    @heatherwagar5868 11 месяцев назад +57

    I will never surrender my dignity again. No matter how I feel he will never know. I took my power back and I rest in that fact

    • @wendyhannan2454
      @wendyhannan2454 11 месяцев назад +3

      Good for you, I like that ..✅

  • @qubex
    @qubex 11 месяцев назад +45

    I’ve been Hardcore No Contact for 34 weeks now after a fourteen month relationship. Days pass easily and I’d rather cut off an arm than to reach out to her.

    • @stillhuman4662
      @stillhuman4662 11 месяцев назад +7

      Impressive. It’s only been a few months for myself but the negative memories are starting to drown out any positive ones 👍

    • @rambultruesdell3412
      @rambultruesdell3412 11 месяцев назад +3

      Yup😊😊 not easy.. i have been on cold no contact since April this year. Spoke by text once, "not interested in anything from/with you." 😊

    • @qubex
      @qubex 11 месяцев назад

      @@rambultruesdell3412 I broke contact in April too. We must be in a similar timeframe.

    • @adamishaq9184
      @adamishaq9184 9 месяцев назад +1

      Very impressive approach

  • @johnnycorn7225
    @johnnycorn7225 11 месяцев назад +52

    50 years old and she still can't figure out why her 100% inexcusable abusive toxic behavior makes me run. They never change, they're always dying to feed.

    • @stillhuman4662
      @stillhuman4662 11 месяцев назад +10

      My ex was 52 and would rage and act out like a toddler, never once taking responsibility or self reflecting,,
      Just pathetic.

    • @johnnycorn7225
      @johnnycorn7225 11 месяцев назад

      @@stillhuman4662 you realize that it really is a lack of brain function and complete disorder after witnessing it how the hell do you not grow up at all 50 years right

    • @SoniaProteau-cj6tk
      @SoniaProteau-cj6tk 11 месяцев назад +5

      You end up like who u hang out with, that a why I keep to myself, I enjoy my own company.

    • @johnnycorn7225
      @johnnycorn7225 11 месяцев назад +2

      @@SoniaProteau-cj6tk I can agree with every word of that, much better without all the negative for certain!

  • @Melvina1975
    @Melvina1975 3 месяца назад +4

    I will never understand how they get sooooo mad and upset when we ignore them without ever thinking to themselves that it's something so foul/disrespectful that they did that caused us to ignore them in the first place!🤷!!!!SMDH

    • @2014moon
      @2014moon 27 дней назад +1

      They know but the sense of care isn’t there you feel it I feel it but the Narc don’t have that sense working in there brain it kinda sad 😢

  • @kp153
    @kp153 11 месяцев назад +21

    As long as the supply isn’t me and they keep away from me I’m good.

  • @franknhonest
    @franknhonest 11 месяцев назад +9

    Got a Christmas present and hoover letter. Discarded the present, tore up the letter, and staying no contact.

  • @dclarke1896
    @dclarke1896 11 месяцев назад +19

    Excellent video! The narcissist that I went no contact with told me he took advantage. When I asked him what he meant he wouldn’t answer. Now that I have been healing I know what he meant he took advantage of my kind and caring nature. Since it comes naturally to me I didn’t know what he was talking about. What a piece of trash! Going no contact was one of the best things I ever did!

  • @stillhuman4662
    @stillhuman4662 11 месяцев назад +51

    The funny thing is they are only interesting when mimicking us, so we essentially fall in love with ourselves 😆
    They are empty, boring and not fit to evaluate anyone. Never let anyone tell you your worth, your self worth is priceless.

    • @familiamckenziefriend1130
      @familiamckenziefriend1130 11 месяцев назад +5

      Oh my god that's the truest thing I heard!!! The narc ex knew nothing about art when we met..nothing. I was happy to show him, and enjoyed doing so. He literally said to me in front of someone else about 6 months before we split "well you know how much I love my art". 😂 Total mimics.

    • @stillhuman4662
      @stillhuman4662 11 месяцев назад +1

      @@familiamckenziefriend1130 😆 what a fraud.

    • @notaclue822
      @notaclue822 10 месяцев назад +2

      It's true. They are so empty it's bizarre. The fact that others often respect their point of view more than yours is completely bizarre.

    • @MrBeard-ig5zc
      @MrBeard-ig5zc 3 месяца назад

      That’s the voodoo. They have no constellated self. They mirror.

    • @2014moon
      @2014moon 26 дней назад

      @@notaclue822They have to see the real in due time it won’t last narcs always show there true self to all 😢

  • @busman2169
    @busman2169 11 месяцев назад +38

    This is remarkably accurate. My ex, who displayed narcissistic traits, perplexingly reached out to me just five days after a period of giving me nothing and ultimately discarding our relationship. She casually inquired about how I was doing. I confidently replied the next day, letting her know I was doing great. This seemed to confuse her. Later, she noticed a jewelry box, mistakenly assuming it was for her. In reality, it was a graduation gift for my sister, a detail unknown to her. Her curiosity peaked when I calmly stated that the recipient of the jewelry box was none of her concern. I could see the confusion in her eyes as she tried to process this. Given her past behavior, I suspect her current partner might now be facing her wrath. But that's no longer my concern.

  • @SF-wr4zn
    @SF-wr4zn 11 месяцев назад +10

    “Love is the quality of attention you show someone”…this is what the narcissist used as her social media profile slogan.
    I never knew what this really ment until it was too late!

    • @rambultruesdell3412
      @rambultruesdell3412 11 месяцев назад +1

      Narcissists and BPD alike often are smart and cunning... good quote... shame the author is offering a clue and not a personal virtue 😐.

  • @Ikecantstop1
    @Ikecantstop1 11 месяцев назад +11

    We were at the " I'll discard you if you're looking at me wrong" stage in a relationship.
    It almost felt like I was in Boot Camp. No mistakes allowed sir!!! Do you UNDERSTAND!? OR I'LL DISCARD YOU!
    To think the first 2 months we didn't have a single argument.

    • @dervish108
      @dervish108 10 месяцев назад +1

      My ex discarded me because she claimed I looked sad at lunch.

  • @BrendaBaBoom
    @BrendaBaBoom 11 месяцев назад +31

    They feel abandoned when you ignore them even though their behavior warrants it. Take your power back from these subspecies.

  • @lifeofaninteriordesigner1305
    @lifeofaninteriordesigner1305 5 месяцев назад +2

    The narc once told me he hates when I ignore him. That was before I knew he was a covert Narcisst. Seeing all the signs after can be overwhelming but I've learned so much!

  • @Gwendeline
    @Gwendeline 7 месяцев назад +3

    They seriously need a rehab for this horrible addiction it’s worse than drugs and alchol

  • @flowergirl-yz3ki
    @flowergirl-yz3ki 11 месяцев назад +13

    Stay resilliant. Great word. As usual...beautiful images.

  • @IsabellaPiesch
    @IsabellaPiesch 11 месяцев назад +29

    I don´t care - I ignore for my peace!

  • @slayerofsatan1049
    @slayerofsatan1049 11 месяцев назад +18

    Excellent work. Keep up the good work. I like your delivery. You’re right on point. Thank you.

  • @mattsmith1137
    @mattsmith1137 11 месяцев назад +29

    My god there is a $hit load of information and channels dedicated to this topic. Apparently our entire society has become narcissistic. Thanks social media. 👍

    • @SagittariusBabe87
      @SagittariusBabe87 11 месяцев назад +6

      It absolutely has! Keep educating yourself & getting the wisdom💪 It's your duty to now. It's Us against the Narcississt 🙄🙏

    • @familiamckenziefriend1130
      @familiamckenziefriend1130 11 месяцев назад +6

      It is better that those of us who have experienced multiple narcissistic relationships (one is one too many) are educated. We're also not stupid and can separate the inaccurate and unhelpful resources from the helpful. These resources have saved my sanity.

    • @mattsmith1137
      @mattsmith1137 11 месяцев назад +2

      @@familiamckenziefriend1130 Absorbing this content has helped me as well. Been a rough last couple months. A lot of the misinformation and bad advice can be attributed to how the meaning of the word narcissist has over time morphed from clinical diagnosis to a trendy insult people like to hurl at each other willy nilly.

    • @emmarae4322
      @emmarae4322 10 месяцев назад

      Ever think there might just be more knowledge?

    • @flowersofthefield340
      @flowersofthefield340 3 месяца назад

      AND GOVERMENTS ........... HIGH FUNCTION DANGEROUS NARCS

  • @Phoenixrising0000
    @Phoenixrising0000 11 месяцев назад +6

    I detached and didn't even realize what I did I was just so tired and my glass was empty...then I met my real husband the devil himself, not the lie I've spent 7 years with.

  • @MrBeard-ig5zc
    @MrBeard-ig5zc 3 месяца назад +2

    Remember when we didn’t know what cluster b was.
    Take the lesson.

  • @leoallan2225
    @leoallan2225 11 месяцев назад +2

    Once she cross the line she was deemed as toxic, and I am far less needy than she is.

  • @Gwendeline
    @Gwendeline 7 месяцев назад

    I absolutely love listening to joes soothing old school radio voice

  • @Freethnkr
    @Freethnkr 11 месяцев назад +5

    Need a video on the plethora of things empaths dislike about the narcs...

  • @karenmurphy6003
    @karenmurphy6003 11 месяцев назад +9

    I am starting to think I am with a narccisist I am constanty thinking why he came back 8 months ago and no change with him. Cold and distant.I see him differently now.No emotion from him. What you are saying is how it is for me at the moment

    • @lioubovgrant1935
      @lioubovgrant1935 11 месяцев назад

      Watch it, girl, Joe gave you all clues !

    • @SagittariusBabe87
      @SagittariusBabe87 11 месяцев назад +3

      Get away asap, it's only gonna get worse. Reverse discard him before he discards you!

    • @stillhuman4662
      @stillhuman4662 11 месяцев назад +5

      Whether he is a narcissist or not, you don’t need a label if he is abusive.
      Just get away and be safe Karen.

    • @BrendaBaBoom
      @BrendaBaBoom 11 месяцев назад +2

      RUN! ….🏃🏽‍♀️ …. 🏃🏽‍♀️ ….

  • @KR-pp7wp
    @KR-pp7wp 7 месяцев назад

    If they owe you money, they think your silence signifies they have won....nothing could be further from the truth...

  • @flowersofthefield340
    @flowersofthefield340 3 месяца назад +2

    They need fuel ⛽ to survive .......... toxic or pure to fuel their demons ⚠️

  • @terencehennegan1439
    @terencehennegan1439 10 месяцев назад +1

    They try to make you feel obligated to give them attention especially when they’re falsely being nice. Don’t fall for it, it’s one of their tactics.

  • @scottwwsi
    @scottwwsi 10 месяцев назад +2

    it was around my third attempt at going no contact, but I didn't block every avenue....I got a text.."why won't you talk to me? do you really hate that much?'

  • @lioubovgrant1935
    @lioubovgrant1935 11 месяцев назад +4

    Good morning ! 🌞 Thank you for a nice surprise, new video and a cup of joe ☕☕ with Joe is my favorite thing, also i always enjoying all beautiful images 😍, loved the music too, when you added it to your videos sometime. 🎸🎷 Thank you Joe !!! 🤗❤

    • @SagittariusBabe87
      @SagittariusBabe87 11 месяцев назад +2

      I really like when he has music 🎶 in his videos, too. It's calming and soothing🎶

    • @lioubovgrant1935
      @lioubovgrant1935 11 месяцев назад +2

      @@SagittariusBabe87 Yes his choice of images for his videos absolutely the best , choice of music is the best too😊🤗

  • @onlydebra4580
    @onlydebra4580 11 месяцев назад +3

    They need you yeah, but don't care if you need the smallest thing..

  • @carolovesteven
    @carolovesteven 9 месяцев назад +4

    If you coming with a source of “envy” you might want to re-evaluate yourself. I had disdain for his behavior and pain in my disappointment when I came to knowledge that he was a fake. A fraud. Envy? No. I’d never want to be like him. I praise God for making me in the way that God has.

  • @JesseLawrence-g7r
    @JesseLawrence-g7r 20 дней назад

    Am I just blessed it’s been 3 months I blocked everything but no contact thank goodness 🙏🏻! I never want to see what I saw that day again.

  • @Gwendeline
    @Gwendeline 7 месяцев назад

    Oh it’s like they are gasing you when they talk to a blackout of promises

  • @fjc11212
    @fjc11212 6 месяцев назад

    Thank you,

  • @glennosborn8400
    @glennosborn8400 8 месяцев назад

    You become a MONSTER FIGHTING A MONSTER ❤

  • @mintberrycrunch4333
    @mintberrycrunch4333 25 дней назад

    Maybe, but most of them love an audience and won't shut up, and the more they talk, the more they tell on themselves, which is very helpful especially in the aftermath

  • @notaclue822
    @notaclue822 10 месяцев назад

    The one i know needs eveybodys supply. I was only a casual aquaintance and i got the full on smear campaign. She gets a lot of attention from that and I don't think she could ever get enough of that.

  • @1111spiritualone
    @1111spiritualone 11 месяцев назад +3

    is this even when they discard you?

    • @juliettehasenbar9211
      @juliettehasenbar9211 11 месяцев назад +6

      Yep. Particularly after the new supply is no longer shiny and new for them, they think you have recovered and have more to offer.

  • @PenninkJacob
    @PenninkJacob 11 месяцев назад +2

    ❤❤❤👍

  • @yoskeezo
    @yoskeezo 11 месяцев назад +1

  • @darnellanders8768
    @darnellanders8768 11 месяцев назад +3

    I am done with narcissist now after years of the mind games taking my kindness for weakness especially now knowing that too many have trespassed on what i thought was private property. The narc constantly discarded the sign all behind much needed validation to ease their fragile ego. I had even started doubling up to protect myself. I now know that the only validaion I need is from God who loves us and whom will never leave us or forsake us. The narcissist is doomed to be alone within their misery with no one to project it on. THis is when they will be forced to reflect on all of their wrong doings. No one excapes that.. Not even the narc..

    • @RandallGlatt
      @RandallGlatt 10 месяцев назад

      Yeah the next someone blatantly disrespects you, you'll say something and stick up for yourself

    • @FWGFX
      @FWGFX 6 месяцев назад

      “Every knee shall bow”

  • @lizp5449
    @lizp5449 9 месяцев назад +1

    If u feel the bad guy,you need to reflect on this, that's all programming

  • @marasoltanis3596
    @marasoltanis3596 11 месяцев назад

    You Are Womderfu

  • @Gwendeline
    @Gwendeline 4 месяца назад

    I’m lucky as he can’t drive n lives with his mommy who cooks n cleans n drives his old skinny ass around. And he gets his bottle at bedtime called Pilsner 😂

  • @Gwendeline
    @Gwendeline 4 месяца назад

    When I dumped my ex off at his mothers I said I wouldn’t have entertained you if I had of known that he sleeps in his mothers bed and is actually married to her n he’s 53 ewwwww

  • @godekchen9658
    @godekchen9658 11 месяцев назад

    Why their attention is not the other fuel : human shit

  • @AJ-gd6cy
    @AJ-gd6cy 9 месяцев назад

    With me it was my narc ex having his new supply try to contact me several times. I didn't read any of the messages. I just deleted them. I got another one from her recently even though I haven't spoken to my ex or seen him since our break up 3 years ago. I don't want to get sucked into anything that has to do with him in any way.