Responding Honestly to Your Assumptions (is this what you really think of me?)
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- Опубликовано: 27 сен 2024
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Have you ever thought of making a video about asexual lesbians? Such as homoromantic asexual women (like me) who want a relationship with women but are not into the sex part? I've always felt in between the asexual community and the lesbian community, and it would be nice to hear your thoughts about us and if we are potential girlfriends or if lesbians should shaun us because of the lack of sex? And what are your thoughts on those of us who ARE okay with having sex, but still don't feel sexual attraction (like when you had sex with men).
Since you talk about the entire LGBT+ community I would be very grateful for some inclusive asexual representation
@@deppressoespressoart1744 I've found many on reddit, I don't think we're that scarce. No one is my own country though, lol.
We need a Fear Street reaction!
The feet thing is joke. It also draws attention. See. It worked with you...I don't have any interest in feet.
Alayna, my daughter is gay and in a lovely relationship, i've always been so happy for her. I was in a relationship with my husband for 20 years we have 4 children, we split 2.5 years ago, I've recently met someone who I have feelings for, to my surprise it's not a man! Who knew!!! Thank you for sharing your videos. P.S Pineappple is a must on pizza and forearms are great until you get bingo wings lol now i just hide them :/
So happy for you 😍❤️
That’s so amazing!! Congrats! Wish you a lifetime of love and happiness!
Your daughter is amazing gay or not
I guess there’s something in your genes, maybe skittles🤷♀️
Let the wings be free. Life is too short to hide
"i'm not afraid of making the first move" oh we know, ms. flying across the ocean in the middle of a pandemic for a tiktok gal
Hahaha 😂😂😂
So true about how folks assume who is a top or who is a bottom! It feels so similar to putting gender roles on queer relationships because we read different presentations/ways of carrying yourself as more confident/masculine or submissive/feminine. Like those things are not indicative of how you like to have sex!
To be honest if you’re top and bottom there’s double the fun, who’s gonna wonna a miss out on that?.?. On the serious side it’s no-ones business what any one prefers if it’s healthy and agreed between partners, there said it
I would suggest those who want to know should give info if they’re top or bottom perhaps, would y’all tell????
yes!!! I'm a small femme and everyone assumes I must be a bottom I really hate it like why is the way I act in bed based on the way I dress and act??
I also think these top/bottom memes can be pretty harmful in terms of setting expectations for sex. Like a lesbian with short hair doesn't necessarily wear a strap.
Yeah I think about how I wanna present, and act when I can present as a woman. And I think like "oh I wanna be xyz, like a top." But that isnt how people work
Yup its just plain stereotyping based on femme/masc presentation
Alayna: “Here’s the thing with this whole top and bottom business”
Ad: “Whatever stereotype you’re gonna try to put on me won’t work” ☠️☠️
Alayna’s rant about assuming top vs bottom like thank you finally someone said it smh
I simply assume it means who's most often the initiator.
@@ireallyreallyhategoogle But that's not even true because that's again another arbitrary factor because that depends on libido/sexual energy, which can vary greatly in a person month, years, life, and isn't even a personality trait. Basically Top and Bottom are words whose defintion varies so much from person ot person that it doesn't mean anything clear.
@@mariebourgot4949 I said "most often", that does imply it can vary.
No one said it's a personality trait.
Alayna: anyone who likes smooth peanut butter is a psychopath
Me:*currently eating smooth peanut butter* 😳oh dear
guess I'm a psychopath!
i'm eating smooth peanut butter right now as well
uh oh
On the contrary it is those who like the crunch who are the psychos!!
I'm apparently a psychopath too.
Alayna is 5’4????? I ALWAYS pictured her as taller than me for all these years like 5’8. This is shattering my perception of reality
people wanting to put top and bottom onto lesbian relationships always feels like the people themselves are... inexperienced. like, once you've had sex you Know it really just depends on the mood and vibes of the moment.
It also gives me "Who is the man" vibes?
In some relationships, not just lesbians, there's one person that is almost always the initiator when it comes to sex.
@@deadassb6576 Yes it does, that's the most common definition of top and bottom.
@@ireallyreallyhategoogle noooo it doesn't... top or bottom is about who takes control of the situation once it's underway
@@DaniCal1forn1a It can mean both or either.
I love that I KNEW you'd say that sweet popcorn is an abomination and actually use the word abomination xD xD xD
How did u comment 1 day ago on an hour old video?
Eyy! Not often you run into familiar people here 😂💜
@@kristinahostacna9628 Probably some patreon thing
Me in highschool: I'm "not like other girls"
Me now: is not a girl
relatable 😌✨
💀
same ahahahah
same-ish (genderfluid ✌)
Yup, now enby
I would love a video about rock climbing. How did you start. How you progress etc. 😁
yessss
I really want to make this but I don't know if people would like it?? Also I still feel like such a beginner??
@@AlaynaJoyOfficial you make me want to get into it but I have no idea where to start! So to see your relationship with rock climbing from beginning to now would be awesome 🥰 also it’ll be cool for you to look back on and see how much more you’ve grown!
I would love this video, I've been climbing before and get really into it, then life gets in the way or my climbing buddy leaves and I don't do it for ages. It might get me back into it
Most (good) climbing walls have “ladies days” to encourage women to go and try climbing and just hang out, have a coffee and make new friends so it’s worth asking about those.
Failing that just see if there’s an induction you can do or go with a friend who is already into climbing.
For rope climbing you need a partner to belay you but if you do bouldering then it’s possible to go by yourself or with others, so it’s a bit more easy to fit into life.
Whatever you do though, if you’re interested then definitely give it a go because you’ll love it 😊
There are Tuxedo-Dresses out there!
My fave so far is the one Garnet wears at her wedding in Steven Universe. (Yeah it's an animation, but it could easily be translated irl)
YHE WHOLE 6PM MEETING THING!!!! ALAYNA I HAD NO IDEA OTHER PEOPLE THOUGJT LIKE THAT omg im not alone
IT TAKES UP THE WHOLE DAY
@@AlaynaJoyOfficial this is an ADHD thing according to the internet hehe - can relate so much - ill find the word for it and share !
@@sarahpawngily Oh no, this too?!
Gosh it’s so validating hearing you talk about your experiences with anxiety. That not being able to do anything if you have one meeting at the end of the day thing hit particularly hard jfhdjddjjd
OMG the manipulating top/bottom thing made me LOL so hard! You totally nailed it.
Starting at 28 has made you the person you are today, if you came out earlier you may not have made such videos and therefore “explored” your road that you’re now on, hope that makes sense
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I agree 100% about soulmates. I also believe that we’re meant to be with and love a number of people (in my case, one at a time) in our life, not just one. People walk into our lives and leave us either with happy memories or lessons
You look really, really good, like this happy, gay glow. You seem so much happier and so free
"I put pants on today!" Congratulations, my friend.
i feel like the top or bottom conversation is based a lot in heteronormativity, stereotypically meaning more “masc presenting” are the tops/ dominant ones, whereas more femme girls are submissive and bottoms. i feel like this probsbly isn’t a new conversation but you talking abt it made me want to bring it up
@G Bogart i agree! labels are so unnecessary and can be very harmful. my comment was agreeing with what alayna was saying in the video i hope it came across that way.
@@emmachilman4750 labels help a lot of people too
@@oghenevokemuagba2306 oh yea 100%! i use them, i just meant in the convo about tops and bottoms, and how they don’t have to be as black and white as that, ya know?
@@emmachilman4750 I get you
@Thomas McDonald the word is "switch"
I love that you want a dress and a suit. As a non binary im always mixing gender fashions.
Honestly the best things that I've done have been things that my anxiety has said not to and I've done anyway.
i'd like it if you went in depth about things you've learned on therapy, only if that'd be good for you though! don't want to pressure you into sharing things you're not comfortable with
Anna Akana does that and it's great.
I so agree with the top/bottom thing! What's with the obsession? Why is it relevant??
Because misogynistic obsession of "who is the man?".
Thank you for being so candid and open about yourself! Often times people don't bring up if they've had negative relationships with food, exercise, and body image and it can be easy to assume people have always been confident with themselves. It's reassuring to see someone so positive and genuine be open about struggling with those things and working to create a healthier relationship with themselves
I’ve never heard of anyone else who gets LESS anxious when others around them are anxious, but I 100% relate to that! I don’t know why it makes me calmer, but it does - it makes me see the situation so differently and ignites my desire to be the “strong” person.
I vote for "Say Yes Anyway" merch
My very own Nike spinoff
I feel that being able to be calm and supportive when someone else is panic. But constant anxiety at all other times, so like, 99% of the time 🙃😭
I've never met a lesbian who doesn't have a thing for hands
okay wait is that why there's that one chuck tingle book about the physical manifestation of hand washing? i feel there's some correlation there
Haven’t meet me yet then.
But I overall don’t really get the whole “I really like this body part thing”.
Idk, it’s a body? If it’s a boob, elbow, toe or hand, all the same to me.
But I’m also Demi-sexual, so I never had a crush on a celebrity or something growing up either, maybe it’s correlated idk.
Your comment just made me realize that I have a thing for* hands. 😳
@@jeisafontenele8689 Congrats, I guess😅
"Though she be but little she is fierce"
Haha I love your editor’s side commentary
Yes, but she did miss a chance to correct her math.
@@ireallyreallyhategoogle ikr
@@ireallyreallyhategoogle you're assuming the editor is a he lol (it's me) i was never good at maths
@@Leadley There, fixed it.
3.5/5 Stars
Despite the best intentions of the maître d', there was significantly more feet than I was anticipating. Also, pineapple is a key ingredient for good pizza and the main chef said I needed my head checked. She also called sweet popcorn an abomination, despite the existence of kettle corn. The consent/roles were fantastic though, so I think I'll return for them. Atmosphere was open and fun, too, so can't discount that.
Thank you for coming to my Yelp Review.
Ohhh lightbulb moment thank you!!
That whole comment about things going wrong not getting to you, but things involving other people you get stuck on... I realise I totally experience that too. Good moment of reflection. Phew. Thanks for your openness 🙌
As a straight man and ally, I have to share... I find you to be an amazing human being. And your smile (both mouth and eyes) are infectious. I can't help but smile when I watch your videos! Thank you for being you.
“maybe its my Aries sun”
- starts regretting already -
as an aries sun myself (with scorpio rising and virgo moon), yes the aries is where the chaos comes from
this channel has been such a safe space for me every few weeks - ty alayna for giving me that, it means the world
◀Sun in Pisces 🌊
◀Moon in Scorpio🌊
◀Rising in Aries🔥
Welcome to balancing the chaos🤙
These interactive style video's are very entertaining😆
Proud of you keep up the hard work!
A tip I've learned in dating women the past 13 years is take her to dinner, cook or bring food. Even if she says she's not hungry she can probably go for a snack always. Conversation is much more peaceful and easier to concentrate.
Lol to continue:
🎶Look at this trove
Treasures untold
How many wonders can one cavern(😂) hold?
Looking around here you'd think
Sure, she's got everything
I've got gadgets and gizmos a-plenty
I've got whozits and whatzits galore
You want thingamabobs?
I've got twenty!
But who cares?
No big deal
I want more🎶
It's not negative behaviour to be assertive and powerful.
"I love a bum" 😄 I love a parade!💜🌈💜
my favourite body part are hands and teeth, i'm 5'2, have one hell of a sweet tooth, love peanut butter of any type.
my yelp review: 9/10 i love the way you shared your view on your life and how genuine you convey both your strengths and weaknesses, you're one of the people i relate to the most. ever since i started watching your videos, i began thinking about my identity even more and you make it clearer and easier for me.
Alayna, thank you for making such a positive environment on your channel. There aren't many youtubers that I get super excited about literally anything they post and instantly click but you're at the top of that list. And I've never been disappointed! Thank you for being such a positive person that I know will lift my spirits even on the shittiest of days. You're truly the GOAT and we're all blessed by your existence and content amen ily🙏
In general, I really don’t think top and bottom rolls exist. There are the exceptions of pillow princesses or people who only top, but overall most people are switches
*vers hahaha. verses are the ones who switch between top or bottom, but switches are only for BDSM
@@sarahturner4148 That.
And the opposite of a pillow princess are touch me not.
@@mariebourgot4949 yess!
Ooh. Please talk more about the planning and doing things anyways thing, change etc (around 12.30).
8:50 THANK YOU
Now that you‘ve explained your zodiac sign, everything makes sense.
When you mentioned climbing, it made me realise you remind me of Cordelia from Emil Abrahamsson’s channel!
16:21 That was totally an “I’m leaving it at that”
Dress AND suit!
For me too actually!!
I absolutely agree with you about the unnecessary top and bottom discourse. I would argue that most people are in fact switches. Yes, you can be more dominant or more submissive, but it's a spectrum, not a fixed thing, and it also depends on who you're sleeping with and what's your level of experience, or even what's your comfort level at a certain point in life.
Agree with you except you mixed top/bottom and BDSM, which are two different things and shows even more that al of these "definitions" are confusing and contradictory. Anyway, the word you were searching for is "verse", switch is for bdsm. :)
Top tier content always
WAAAAIT you're 5'4"?!?! I absolutely had you pegged as a tall person, at least 5'9" 😂 how wrong that assumption was
Yelp review: 10/10 video 11/10 demonstration of body positioning to broadcast sone preferences. I mean of course yes its stereotyped and easy to out on but also I'm taking notes so io can say different things at different times depending on my mood. I'm a bedroom switch, more top, who is constantly assumed to be a pillow princess and that demo was actually super helpful because my flirting body language is always small and looking up and literally never knew that broadcast bottom.
Tiny but mighty! 💪💪💪
Google says the average height of a Canadian woman is 5’3.4” so you’re possibly slightly taller than average. I’m taller than you, but shorter than the UK average. Wonder why UK women are taller... must be all the sunshine we have to help us grow big. 🙄😂😂😂
How tall are you?
@@kirttnabala2385 5’4”. Not very tall!
Luvvvv your "carpe veritas" tattoo!! 💖🤘🏻
Loved your soulmate theory
"Sweet things ruin salty things" might be correct (although I personally would disagree in some cases), but it still does not apply to popcorn, since corn is inherently sweet!
Sweet corn is sweet. Popping corn is not.
I was just using my cbd grinder and looking in the mirror. Couldn’t help but think “Alayna would really love my forearms “. 😂 😂💕💕
Loved the video, Alayna!! Your content always brightens my day! Also, completely unrelated, your Rising and Sun sign are the reverse of mine. I chuckled a bit at that like a dork XD
“Top” Alayna hits different…🙂
I KNEW YOU WOULD BE INTO FOLK MUSIC
Soul mates are chapters, twin flames are happy endings. ✌🏽
Oh no… when she was talking about saying yes to things… that has really hit me right where it hurts 🤦… a huge control freak and have the need to plan everything so when I have a day sketched out I have hard time adjusting it according to new opportunities and plans… hmm 🤔… something to think about 😅…
Also! Lovely!! Keep working with BEDUCATED! I signed up for like... a whole YEAR thanks to you and their sponsorship of you! Woot! :D
Maybe I can get over my silly self-conscious with ladies thing.....
your hair looks so good
The only channel I have notifications on for 🥰🥰
i could see you in a wedding outfit like Hannah Harts! with a magical cape
i love Fridays so much bc you postttt
lol I am also in the Hands & Forearms Appreciation Society
I didn’t choose the chaos, the chaos chose me. 😂😂
I love you say bag like "bay-ag"
9/10! Love you so much! And can't wait to get a hold of you(R) merch! 😘
How did you take those first steps to not have so much anxiety over change and opportunities?
Nice to see haunted doll still haunting
I also love a bum 😂. 10/10 video. Would recommend. Also got really excited when I remembered this is the first video with my name listed as a 🎶 vitally important producer 🎶
I am sun Aries, moon Sagittarius, and Virgo rising. You wanna imagine how crazy my personality is?
when you called yourself small but intimidating... i giggled
Always love the content!
Love the soulmates and top bottom parts. Definitely agree about soulmates! And I'm neither a top or a bottom, turn on the switch 🤣
i love how i remember when you changed your name and it fits so good i dont even remember how it was before
3:04 ah, pasta layna, my favorite Canadian-English Italian dish!
Thanks for the laugh. ^^
Clean dry feet are the best!
Sincerity!
9/10 - High quality content with high quality sponsors. Amusing viewing. Would view again. For full 10/10, I would require more of the Tiktok Lesbian
09:05 wow 💌 what a slick advice
I hope you are having a good day today! Thank you for making videos of all kinds and for bringing joy to everyone:) I think we need to investigate the haunted faucet more…is Anna still there?
10/10! Honestly Honey you could talk about absolutely nothing and I'd still love you. Have I mentioned I love you? Let's get married.
Im forever learning more about you
I’m so excited!!!
I will always be more anxious for you. Now you can relax. 💕🌈
Lollling at your examples of “switch, top, bottom” looks 😂
that adorable little shake 9:22
Alayna: "Sweet things ruin salty things"
Chilli Jam: Hold my beer, gotta make things straight here.
(Tee-hee :P)
Same, I wanna get married in a dress and a suit too 😂😂
Alayna: Acts as a top
Me: 😳
Alayna: Acts as a bottom
Me: 😏
both killed me, woah fam. She's such a power switch! 😅
This video radiates the most Aries energy omg
here for the singing content
Libra sun, Aries rising and moon here! Haiii Alaynaa 🌹😍
10/10. Five stars. Will watch again.
You should do a video on body image (or something on the subject). But only if you feel comfortable of course!