Bro I respect the hell out of you for continuing to put on fire content. Found your channel 3 months ago. Out of all my friends am the least good looking and one of the shortest at 5 8 but have had the most success with girls here in Hawaii. Thanks again Dan! Btw almost done with reading the flow first time. Going to read the whole thing front-to-back 5 more times this summer. It works.
"Out of all my friends am the least good looking and one of the shortest at 5 8 but have had the most success with girls" - that's so cool to hear. So cool. Well done man! From here on: Make sure you are using the confidence technique at the start of the section on Confidence in The Flow. It's so important. The more you do it, the more natural and automatic it becomes for you. Women sense the depth of your confidence and it's intoxicating to them. I did it when I was out there picking up the 100s of women I did and I still naturally and automatically do it with my wife and it always turns her on. Always. You will notice that you get increasingly better results from now on, as long as you are using that technique when going through The Flow. Enjoy the fun times ahead my friend and thank you for sharing your success story. I hope to hear more success stories from you in future. Cheers, Dan 👍
@@DanBacon_Dan is my online dad because my dad wasnt a masculine man and failed to be the strength my mother was looking for which is why she had to be the leader in our household but now im unlearning that and will be the man i can be.
Brilliant video!! 🌞 Once you realize that women are designed to be a natural challenge to men and to make them into better men, you can love and appreciate women for who they really are. 👍
Thank you Dan. Bought some of your materials and you give the most honest and effective advice without manipulating women and keeping our integrity. Today I was at the doctors office and a beautiful girl walks in and sits two benches away. But there was a lovely old lady on the bench between us, so I couldn't exactly just start talking to babe over the top of granny. I also didn't want to go over and corner babe, so thought there was no way in. Then a light bulb went off, and I decided to start talking to granny knowing babe would be unable to avoid listening in. With that I was able to reel babe into my discussion with granny. Worked perfectly........for about 2 minutes.... when doc called her in so soon. Thought I was stuffed again, but second light bulb went off and I wrote a short note with my number and handed it to receptionist asking her to give to babe on way out. Babe messaged an hour later. (I have a feeling granny knew she was just a prop but that she was also impressed how I manoeuvred that)
Wow - this is your best video yet Dan! Thank you! I'm currently chatting to a cute girl (at her work). I told her last week I think she has an awesome sense of style. At the time she gave a sincere thank you & smiled (I think she may have blushed). Since then I have just been making confident, chatty small talk. She engages & smiles but she's also not giving any obvious signals either way - she's not closing down nor is she giving any green light. I'm going to chat another few times, find out a little more, then ask her out. This keeps me confident - to focus on the quality & energy my interaction - not to second guess what her perceptions may or may not be! As my brother said recently, 'focus on giving sincere energy, without expecting something in return'.
I have found your videos more relatable than any other youtube channel who talk about dating. Thanks for being here and sharing all this knowledge with us.
Perfect video Dan! I love it! I always appreciate your work. I want to ask you what is your "giving up" point? I mean girls don't always show you clear interest because they test you, but there are times when they don't show you clear interest simply because they are not interested and it is a waste of time to proceed the interaction and you should move on and look for something else, so how do you understand that it is time to move on?
Independent confidence... How can I get to that point, Dan? Is it a mindset, a track of successful results? Thanks from your biggest fan here in Spain, your videos are gold!
This is one of the insights and principles that has helped me most of all. The way you explain it in your videos and courses , nuanced and relatable , has been really life changing in regards to my romantic/sexual life with women. Really has been.Before i always felt as if i was bothering women by confidently showing man to woman interest in them. I was socially always good with women , but noticed that after a while they would become a little irritated. I assumed it was because i was bothering them. Now i know it's because they were waiting for me to make a move , because that's what they wanted. The realisation was a bit unreal at first , because it happened so frequently , and with a lot of women. Guess the ' fairer sex ' really likes me !!
Hi Dan, I’ve been watching your videos and programs religiously for awhile now and I want to say thank you for helping me dramatically improve my confidence. I haven’t gotten the results I’ve been wanting yet but I definitely notice people have been reacting to me differently. I work as a rideshare driver and I’ve been cracking a lot more jokes and getting great reactions from people, including hot women. I find myself in situations where I wonder if I should ask for a phone number but I don’t want to risk getting suspended from the apps hahaha. I just need to take that same confidence to bars, clubs, concerts and other social events more often. I do go out at least once a week, I just need to either muster the energy to go out more or be sure that I’m using that one outing to get out of my own way to approach and make some moves. I still struggle at times to use the confidence technique you mention in The Flow since I’ve had a habit for most of my life of looking for signs people aren’t interested. I’m pretty aware at this point of what I need to improve on, so I trust that I will get the results I’m looking for, which is having more sexual experiences and then finding myself a high quality girlfriend. Thank you so much for being an amazing resource. You’re changing my life.
Hi Adam - great to hear of your progress! 👍 You're almost there my friend. So close. In terms of the confidence technique from The Flow - practice makes perfect. The more you do it, the more natural and automatic it will become for you. You simply cannot rely on women to make it obvious that they like you. You've got to use that technique instead. Okay, I hope to hear more success stories from you soon! Cheers, Dan
Great video Dan. How do deal with rejection mentally? What is the best way to think about and process rejectjon so that it doesnt affect your overall self esteem?
Wow this video is a fucking golden treasure gentleman... as well as every video that Dan have made since he started. Thanks so much for everything mate. You are the best 💪🏿💪🏿💪🏿🔥
dan you are a legend! i've been implementing alot of your teachings and I'm beginning to see very real results. i have a question however, i am an aspiring musician which i love honestly and i feel is my purpose in life. creating music is very emotional and does at times make me feel asthough i am too sensitive. you mention time and time again about 'emotional weakness', by this do you just mean 'negative' emotions like being sad and always moaning, because music can also use postive emotions or trascendental emotions (like rock music) i've always had this insecurity about myself. in past relationships i have just turned into the robot you mention because i'd rather be an unemotional boyfriend rather than get all emotional but because of this i have lost some amazing girls and the relationships didn't have that depth which i want. i am seeing a new one now and i am getting closer emotionally like you teach and this is cool because instead of letting my emotions become uncontrollable like before when i was disconnected from myself, i am now recognizing when i am getting jealous or angry and i have more control if this all makes sense.. long message i know but hopefully this can help others also. thanks again
Dude, your advice needs to be heard by every men. You've nailed all of my issues with my approach to dating, feels like tailor made advice. Deep down we all know winging about women being unfair won't help us, but we don't notice how much it's seriously holding back our confident optimist mindset.
Hey Dan, love your content and all you provide for us! I’ve been talking to a girl back and forth and believe that I have attracted her in some way (these conversations over text occurred prior to watching most of you videos haha). Id say she has 0:01 medium interest in me, but we haven’t met yet so I can’t say for certain. I went for the date after a few good chats back and forth, and she denied due to a 2 week vacation that she was going on the next day or so (showed some excitement, but said she was going on a trip - she also didn’t offer a response such as “maybe another time, etc.). Should I wait until she is back from the trip for a week or so to re-engage, or should I reach out while she is on this trip once just to flirt a bit and then end the conversation.
Hi Dan, I’ve been watching your videos one after the next, very informative. Quick question please which program of yours do you recommend for a guy that’s in a marriage relationship with a woman that lost all attraction to him?
Great to hear you're enjoying the vids. The best program for you is: store.themodernman.com/make_her_love_you_for_life.html That's the approach I used with girlfriends and that I use with my wife, which results in the attraction always being there. Enjoy the great times ahead with your wife! Cheers, Dan 👍
Hi Dan. Can you recommend a video on how to react when a women is trying to be overly bossy with you. Like shes deliberately trying to get you to react in anger. Please
How do i stop being so logical when i meet a new girl. Im good after i know them for a while but when i first meet them, im super logical. Im not an anxious person and im not nervous. Idk what it is
Hi Brian - that would be because somewhere in your mind, you think that being logical is what will make her see what you want her to see (i.e. that you're intelligent, take life seriously, reliable, trustworthy) and then like you. Yet, women only care about those things AFTER they feel attracted to you. If you want to make a woman instantly feel attracted to you when you meet her, then you need to switch into another mode of interacting (i.e. flirting, or using playfully challenging humor) first. Examples here: store.themodernman.com/in/3b7354c Cheers, Dan 👍
Amazing as usual, Dan. Thanks. I was wondering, has this ever been a problem that the girl you are chasing for serious mating isn't a virgin? I know it seems to be an outdated topic nowadays, but for some reason i just can't step over this issue. What should I understand here?
Quite the opposite. Your comment actually made me remember a virgin that I slept with (I was 32, she was 21) and it was one of the most annoying, frustrating sexual experiences ever. She wanted the sex so much, but was also nervous and kept tensing up and closing her legs from the pain. It was hard to get it in. I ended up using about 6 or 7 condoms and we tried for about 45 mins, before it eventually went in. It wasn't fun. She also had no idea how to give oral sex, so it was a mediocre experience. In terms of your term of 'serious mating' - just because a woman has slept with other guys, it doesn't mean she can't have a serious relationship, or commit to a man for life. The divorce rate has been decreasing for quite a while and one of the reasons why, is that couples aren't jumping right into a marriage with someone they haven't tried a relationship with first. Personally, I didn't say yes to my wife's marriage proposal (multiple girlfriends had asked me to marry them, due to the approach I teach in my program, Better Than a Bad Boy, which results in a woman wanting you and only you) until 2 years into the relationship. She had proven herself to be a loyal, loving, enjoyable girlfriend and our relationship just kept getting better and better (it still does). We've been together for more than 11 years now. Here's what happened: www.themodernman.com/relationship/why-i-decided-to-accept-my-girlfriends-marriage-proposal.html Also, another thing: When you have sex with a woman, you're not thinking of all the other women you've slept with and the same applies to women IF you are being attractive (i.e. confident, masculine) and have created the right relationship dynamic (i.e. you are a bit more powerful than her, she feels the need to impress you a little more than you do her, both of you feel loved, respected and safe in the relationship and so on). So, just because she's slept with other guys, it doesn't mean she can focus on you, love you and only want to be with you. She can and she will, if you approach the relationship correctly. Cheers Dan
Dear Dan, if i buy The Flow audio, how does it work to listen to it on the phone? And if i change phones, does the download transfers to the new one? Cheers! 🐺
Here's how it works: - You have instant and then lifetime access to download whatever you purchase from my site. You just need to log in and your products will always be there for you. - You can listen to The Flow audio version within your account - just click play and all the audio files will play one after the other, without you having to click again. Alternatively, you can also download it to your phone, where you can either click the audio file and when it's finished, click the new audio file to play it, or download a free app like 'BookPlayer' or 'Documents By Readdle' to play the files continuously, without needing to click again. The Flow: store.themodernman.com/in/3b7354c
@@DanBacon_ Ok so once you purchase the product an account is automatically created for you and to listen to it you just log in the account and you can go back and forth to it as you please. And if you change phones the account remains yours to access from any device. Like your email or Facebook or shit like that.. 🐺
Hi Dan, great video again! I have a question about 'confidence' & would like to see your opinion on it Some guys who perform in front of a crowd & all the public eyes are on them. Example musician, dj, singer, athletics, male strippers, politician, lawyers at court. Are they real confidence? In my opinion, they're 'conditional confidence' & only confidence at their particular talented area. Most of the time they shows their 'conditional confidence' as a path to get money & get laid. If that the case, in fact, they're quite insecure. What's your thought ? Thanks Dan 👍
Hi Dan. I'm from India. I really wanted to share it with you. 3 and a half years ago when I was in school, I fell in love with a girl in my class. One day, she shifted along with her family to Canada. On her last day, we exchanged sentences like "I will miss you"" this and that and continued to remain in touch through call and chat. Her behaviour suggested that she respected me, liked me and showed interest in me too. Whenever we were going to talk on call, I used to think about what to talk about with her. I was very good at humour but brought boring topics to talk about also. One day when we were talking on call, I confessed my deep feelings for her but in an emotional way. I cried too. She first seemed excited and said she liked me too but two days later on call, the day I proposed her, she rejected me saying our religion is different but that I knew was not the actual reason. We continued to talk for some months. I wrote poems for her, sent a video of me playing a song on piano for her on her birthday, confessed my feelings again and again, always used to direct the conversation towards my love and felt hurt when I thought based on some evidence that she loves and feels attracted to someone else. On the advice of my father, one day, I told her that that would be our last conversation and we didn't talk for a year. My father said that now she will herself bring up the love topic with you and she did after an year when she texted me justifying her rejection, showed a lot of interest and even said she has started loving me. My father had advised me to only talk when she calls or texts but sometimes I initiated conversations too, flirted with her but despite loving her, I did not show that interest, you can say I played it cool, tried to make her jealous and convey that other girls like me. Her behaviour started changing as if she was losing interest and one day at 3 a.m. (Indian Time), I called her and said sorry if through my behaviour she felt unappreciated. We talked two or three times after that but on the last call, I again did not show much interest and conversation ended early, I don't remember but may be I was thinking at that time that I will first learn and then talk, I don't know. We again didn't talk for 4 months and then I texted her and called her. She was may be playing hard to get as she talked on voice calls but used to avoid video calls, used to not turn her camera on while on video call, used to not pick up call when I called or told her beforehand I would call, etc. On calls, I tried to talk in a way that would make her think that other girls like me and I have interest in other girls. One day, I don't know what I was thinking, when she didn't pick up call when I called her an hour later after she said she was having lunch and told me to call after sometime, I texted her that I feel disrespected, she always makes some excuses, makes me wait and even said I won't talk with a person who makes me feel disrespected. In her reply, she mentioned she also wants to talk with me, this and that and then we had a conversation for nearly 3 hours and in that conversation, I was may be talking in desperate or emotional way, directing the whole conversation towards what or why it happened in the past or my feelings, how I see our bond, you said this and that, etc. Some days later, I apologized too for the way I behaved and talked and tried to address it in a mature way in whose reply she involved the words "as a friend" referring to her "as my friend". We talked two or three times more, those conversation had nothing in them, were may be, I don't know boring, lacked a lot and something was missing in them. After some time, she texted me one or two times and I replied after some days and to-the-point and didn't start a conversation. I don't know, may be I was thinking I should not talk and take some time as I wasn't in the right mindset or may be I knew I will make mistakes if I talk. 4 months have passed, no conversation and again I'm planning to start something by texting her on her birthday and also planning to introspect about what happened, approach the situation better, be true to myself and align my actions with how I genuinely feel. When I checked social media (She doesn't follow me), I saw her comments on some guys' posts praising them seeming to be attracted by them. I feel something is missing, that emotional connection is vanishing and I may not be going to Canada ever but I really really love her. How you see my situation and what's your advice ? What should I do and how can I become a better person in life ? Sorry for a very long message.
Pratham - it doesn't sound like you will get with her. You said you're never going to Canada where she now lives. So, unless she comes back to India and you can meet up with her, you're just wasting time on something that won't ever be. You should be focusing on meeting and dating other women. You should also stop talking to her for so long (3 hours...man, that is what girls do. Men who are focused on their purpose and goals in life don't have time to waste talking to a girl for 3 hours on a regular basis. A 5-10 minute chat is more than enough to attract a woman and make her miss you and want to be with you). If you're willing to attract her properly from now on and then visit her in Canada, or meet with her in India, then great - watch this: ruclips.net/video/VDGoxOjMgW4/видео.html Yet, if you're not, then just focus on other girls. Cheers, Dan 👍
Dan, the mother of my child still hangs out with me and get along at times for casual breakfast. It’s been a year since separation, and been calling me every morning. But is hesitant to commit to relationship. Advice?
Quick question Dan, I know you released the modernx for testosterone, was it because of you were experiencing low testosterone, I just ask because they say nowadays most men are on the lower spectrum even young men, and also do you think as you became stronger as a man, slept with beautiful girls etc. that your testosterone was naturally higher?
Yes, my testosterone was dropping due to being in my 40s. As you may have noticed, I now look much more masculine physically than I used to (look at a video of me 3 years ago for example). That's one of the things that increased testosterone does. It also gives you additional sex drive and drive for life. Here's the supplement for those reading along: www.modernx.com/product/max-man/ About your other question: I definitely became stronger mentally and emotionally during that time, but not physically. I've only become more physically strong since boosting my testosterone. However, it has been shown that sex temporarily boosts your testosterone, so yes - I would have had little spikes of testosterone with all the women I was sleeping with. Now though, I have a consistently high level of testosterone, in addition to the spikes I get from bouncing my wife around the bedroom. Cheers Dan
I just had a second date with a woman. We had a good time but she refused to kiss me back. Still she showed me where she lives and wants to come to my place for dinner on the 3rd date next week. I'm a bit confused ;)
Dan the man! I have two points, if you're interested in replaying I'd be grateful. 1. Dan, will you ever present nore of your personal life with us? I'm a little curious as to see more of the great man you are outside of the RUclips videos in this format. 2. Also, in your previous video you said good women can be corrupted to turn to cheating because of the guy's behavior. Do uou think that can also happen if you're too sexual with a girlfriend and she becomes very uninhibited sexually or too confident in her sexual appeal? I feel like my girlfriend has opened up sexually a lot since we started our relationship 10 months ago (she was a virgin too). I'm just thinking wether it's a bad thing if she becomes too sexual and it could cause her to be like that with other men too (at first just for fun)?
Hi George 1. Only if it will benefit the viewer. I spent 10 years enjoying my choice of women (was with over 250 women) before settling down with my wife, who I've been with for nearly 11 years now. We have twin daughters who are almost 5 years old now, so I don't know what about my personal life would be beneficial for guys to see. Seeing me at a park with my wife and daughters - how would that benefit anyone, lol 😄 My videos are about helping men succeed with women; not about talking about myself. I only mention myself and my success with women, if and when necessary. All other times, I am 100% focused on helping the viewer become more successful with women. That's all that matters. 2. Yes, that can happen if the relationship falls out of balance (i.e. she ends up having too much power, doesn't feel the need to respect you, ends up losing attraction for you). However, a woman is almost guaranteed not to cheat or leave you if you do this: ruclips.net/video/J0MtRKER1h4/видео.html Cheers Dan 👍
Hi, Dan. I recently have experienced a problem where I'm able to have sex with the girl, but not been available to convicent her to stay with me. This has happened to me twice in the last year, with two different girls. I don't think that it was because of bad sex, because these girls looked for me more than once. I did it maybe five or six times with each, but none of them stayed at the end, even when I really wanted to commit. Can you help me? I feel like I am doing something wrong in the last stage of the process.
Yes, start being confident and actively making her feel attracted. Watch these videos for some examples: ruclips.net/video/C1IjqT7PXjw/видео.html ruclips.net/video/G9ThUt9icy0/видео.html
I went broke and my girlfriend slowly started putting on an attitude, she still loves me but oftentimes she disrespects me and apologizes later… we have been dating for 5 years and this wasn’t common with us until my business collapsed
That's possible if you got a girlfriend who chose you because of your money and success, or if you lead with the promise of becoming a successful man, or lead with buying her things, etc. Personally speaking, when I met my wife, she was working as a hairdresser and made more than me (including tips) even though I had been running The Modern Man for 7 years before meeting her. About 3 months or so into our relationship, Google changed their algorithm and TheModernMan.com lost about 90% of it's traffic. I worked on fixing that issue for 2 years and during that time, I was earning next to nothing. My wife (she was my girlfriend at the time), didn't lose respect for me, disrespect me or threaten to leave because of how I approached the situation and the relationship (i.e. I was focused on fixing it and I also never tried to promise any success to her. I have always just been focused on helping men succeed with women and if success comes from that, then so be it). So, you either have yourself a gold digger woman, or she isn't a gold digger, but has lost respect for you based on how you've handled the situation. If you want to begin turning things around, watch this: ruclips.net/video/CF54ljVirro/видео.html Cheers, Dan 👍
Bro I respect the hell out of you for continuing to put on fire content. Found your channel 3 months ago. Out of all my friends am the least good looking and one of the shortest at 5 8 but have had the most success with girls here in Hawaii. Thanks again Dan!
Btw almost done with reading the flow first time. Going to read the whole thing front-to-back 5 more times this summer. It works.
"Out of all my friends am the least good looking and one of the shortest at 5 8 but have had the most success with girls" - that's so cool to hear. So cool. Well done man! From here on: Make sure you are using the confidence technique at the start of the section on Confidence in The Flow. It's so important. The more you do it, the more natural and automatic it becomes for you. Women sense the depth of your confidence and it's intoxicating to them. I did it when I was out there picking up the 100s of women I did and I still naturally and automatically do it with my wife and it always turns her on. Always. You will notice that you get increasingly better results from now on, as long as you are using that technique when going through The Flow. Enjoy the fun times ahead my friend and thank you for sharing your success story. I hope to hear more success stories from you in future. Cheers, Dan 👍
@@DanBacon_Dan is my online dad because my dad wasnt a masculine man and failed to be the strength my mother was looking for which is why she had to be the leader in our household but now im unlearning that and will be the man i can be.
@@DanBacon_thanks for the content
How do you work on your confidence though? Is it just believing in yourself ? What if you're experiencing depression?
Brilliant video!! 🌞 Once you realize that women are designed to be a natural challenge to men and to make them into better men, you can love and appreciate women for who they really are. 👍
Thank you Dan. Bought some of your materials and you give the most honest and effective advice without manipulating women and keeping our integrity.
Today I was at the doctors office and a beautiful girl walks in and sits two benches away. But there was a lovely old lady on the bench between us, so I couldn't exactly just start talking to babe over the top of granny. I also didn't want to go over and corner babe, so thought there was no way in. Then a light bulb went off, and I decided to start talking to granny knowing babe would be unable to avoid listening in. With that I was able to reel babe into my discussion with granny. Worked perfectly........for about 2 minutes.... when doc called her in so soon. Thought I was stuffed again, but second light bulb went off and I wrote a short note with my number and handed it to receptionist asking her to give to babe on way out. Babe messaged an hour later.
(I have a feeling granny knew she was just a prop but that she was also impressed how I manoeuvred that)
Being honest ,you always give a clarification from a different angel and your channel is the best
Wow - this is your best video yet Dan! Thank you! I'm currently chatting to a cute girl (at her work). I told her last week I think she has an awesome sense of style. At the time she gave a sincere thank you & smiled (I think she may have blushed). Since then I have just been making confident, chatty small talk. She engages & smiles but she's also not giving any obvious signals either way - she's not closing down nor is she giving any green light. I'm going to chat another few times, find out a little more, then ask her out.
This keeps me confident - to focus on the quality & energy my interaction - not to second guess what her perceptions may or may not be!
As my brother said recently, 'focus on giving sincere energy, without expecting something in return'.
Reminds me of a rock star attitude.. .whether making mistakes or kicking butt, you keep that winning attitude..Nice one Dan.
I have found your videos more relatable than any other youtube channel who talk about dating. Thanks for being here and sharing all this knowledge with us.
This helped me a lot. Thank you Dan! Sticking with your content since about 4 years now, greetings from Mexico
You are one of the best I have ever seen on RUclips. Thanks for all you do man
Perfect video Dan! I love it! I always appreciate your work. I want to ask you what is your "giving up" point? I mean girls don't always show you clear interest because they test you, but there are times when they don't show you clear interest simply because they are not interested and it is a waste of time to proceed the interaction and you should move on and look for something else, so how do you understand that it is time to move on?
Independent confidence... How can I get to that point, Dan?
Is it a mindset, a track of successful results?
Thanks from your biggest fan here in Spain, your videos are gold!
Always shows up at the right time
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This is one of the insights and principles that has helped me most of all. The way you explain it in your videos and courses , nuanced and relatable , has been really life changing in regards to my romantic/sexual life with women. Really has been.Before i always felt as if i was bothering women by confidently showing man to woman interest in them. I was socially always good with women , but noticed that after a while they would become a little irritated. I assumed it was because i was bothering them. Now i know it's because they were waiting for me to make a move , because that's what they wanted. The realisation was a bit unreal at first , because it happened so frequently , and with a lot of women. Guess the ' fairer sex ' really likes me !!
Thank you as always, Dan!
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Thank you Dan -- thank you so much 🙏🙏🙏
Hi Dan, I’ve been watching your videos and programs religiously for awhile now and I want to say thank you for helping me dramatically improve my confidence. I haven’t gotten the results I’ve been wanting yet but I definitely notice people have been reacting to me differently. I work as a rideshare driver and I’ve been cracking a lot more jokes and getting great reactions from people, including hot women. I find myself in situations where I wonder if I should ask for a phone number but I don’t want to risk getting suspended from the apps hahaha.
I just need to take that same confidence to bars, clubs, concerts and other social events more often. I do go out at least once a week, I just need to either muster the energy to go out more or be sure that I’m using that one outing to get out of my own way to approach and make some moves.
I still struggle at times to use the confidence technique you mention in The Flow since I’ve had a habit for most of my life of looking for signs people aren’t interested.
I’m pretty aware at this point of what I need to improve on, so I trust that I will get the results I’m looking for, which is having more sexual experiences and then finding myself a high quality girlfriend.
Thank you so much for being an amazing resource. You’re changing my life.
Hi Adam - great to hear of your progress! 👍 You're almost there my friend. So close. In terms of the confidence technique from The Flow - practice makes perfect. The more you do it, the more natural and automatic it will become for you. You simply cannot rely on women to make it obvious that they like you. You've got to use that technique instead. Okay, I hope to hear more success stories from you soon! Cheers, Dan
Great advice as always Dan. Cheers mate. I bought The Flow. I must read it again.
Great clip emphasizing confidence & masculinity.
Great video Dan. How do deal with rejection mentally? What is the best way to think about and process rejectjon so that it doesnt affect your overall self esteem?
😊❤Great !!
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Confidence is key.
Always the right content at the right time..
Wow this video is a fucking golden treasure gentleman... as well as every video that Dan have made since he started. Thanks so much for everything mate. You are the best 💪🏿💪🏿💪🏿🔥
Dan you're a master. Women are like trying to navigate thru a maze but this was awesome!
dan you are a legend! i've been implementing alot of your teachings and I'm beginning to see very real results. i have a question however, i am an aspiring musician which i love honestly and i feel is my purpose in life. creating music is very emotional and does at times make me feel asthough i am too sensitive. you mention time and time again about 'emotional weakness', by this do you just mean 'negative' emotions like being sad and always moaning, because music can also use postive emotions or trascendental emotions (like rock music) i've always had this insecurity about myself. in past relationships i have just turned into the robot you mention because i'd rather be an unemotional boyfriend rather than get all emotional but because of this i have lost some amazing girls and the relationships didn't have that depth which i want.
i am seeing a new one now and i am getting closer emotionally like you teach and this is cool because instead of letting my emotions become uncontrollable like before when i was disconnected from myself, i am now recognizing when i am getting jealous or angry and i have more control if this all makes sense.. long message i know but hopefully this can help others also. thanks again
thanks, good video
Dude, your advice needs to be heard by every men.
You've nailed all of my issues with my approach to dating, feels like tailor made advice.
Deep down we all know winging about women being unfair won't help us, but we don't notice how much it's seriously holding back our confident optimist mindset.
Hey Dan, love your content and all you provide for us!
I’ve been talking to a girl back and forth and believe that I have attracted her in some way (these conversations over text occurred prior to watching most of you videos haha). Id say she has 0:01 medium interest in me, but we haven’t met yet so I can’t say for certain. I went for the date after a few good chats back and forth, and she denied due to a 2 week vacation that she was going on the next day or so (showed some excitement, but said she was going on a trip - she also didn’t offer a response such as “maybe another time, etc.). Should I wait until she is back from the trip for a week or so to re-engage, or should I reach out while she is on this trip once just to flirt a bit and then end the conversation.
Hi Dan, I’ve been watching your videos one after the next, very informative.
Quick question please which program of yours do you recommend for a guy that’s in a marriage relationship with a woman that lost all attraction to him?
Great to hear you're enjoying the vids. The best program for you is: store.themodernman.com/make_her_love_you_for_life.html That's the approach I used with girlfriends and that I use with my wife, which results in the attraction always being there. Enjoy the great times ahead with your wife! Cheers, Dan 👍
The gestures and body movements are golden. Hail to Lord Dan.
Hey Dan. I just wanna say you got good taste, brotha. Every girl you post in your videos are gorgeous lol
I like your videos
Hi Dan. Can you recommend a video on how to react when a women is trying to be overly bossy with you. Like shes deliberately trying to get you to react in anger. Please
How do i stop being so logical when i meet a new girl. Im good after i know them for a while but when i first meet them, im super logical. Im not an anxious person and im not nervous. Idk what it is
Hi Brian - that would be because somewhere in your mind, you think that being logical is what will make her see what you want her to see (i.e. that you're intelligent, take life seriously, reliable, trustworthy) and then like you. Yet, women only care about those things AFTER they feel attracted to you. If you want to make a woman instantly feel attracted to you when you meet her, then you need to switch into another mode of interacting (i.e. flirting, or using playfully challenging humor) first. Examples here: store.themodernman.com/in/3b7354c Cheers, Dan 👍
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Amazing as usual, Dan. Thanks. I was wondering, has this ever been a problem that the girl you are chasing for serious mating isn't a virgin? I know it seems to be an outdated topic nowadays, but for some reason i just can't step over this issue. What should I understand here?
Quite the opposite.
Your comment actually made me remember a virgin that I slept with (I was 32, she was 21) and it was one of the most annoying, frustrating sexual experiences ever. She wanted the sex so much, but was also nervous and kept tensing up and closing her legs from the pain. It was hard to get it in. I ended up using about 6 or 7 condoms and we tried for about 45 mins, before it eventually went in. It wasn't fun. She also had no idea how to give oral sex, so it was a mediocre experience.
In terms of your term of 'serious mating' - just because a woman has slept with other guys, it doesn't mean she can't have a serious relationship, or commit to a man for life.
The divorce rate has been decreasing for quite a while and one of the reasons why, is that couples aren't jumping right into a marriage with someone they haven't tried a relationship with first.
Personally, I didn't say yes to my wife's marriage proposal (multiple girlfriends had asked me to marry them, due to the approach I teach in my program, Better Than a Bad Boy, which results in a woman wanting you and only you) until 2 years into the relationship.
She had proven herself to be a loyal, loving, enjoyable girlfriend and our relationship just kept getting better and better (it still does).
We've been together for more than 11 years now. Here's what happened:
www.themodernman.com/relationship/why-i-decided-to-accept-my-girlfriends-marriage-proposal.html
Also, another thing: When you have sex with a woman, you're not thinking of all the other women you've slept with and the same applies to women IF you are being attractive (i.e. confident, masculine) and have created the right relationship dynamic (i.e. you are a bit more powerful than her, she feels the need to impress you a little more than you do her, both of you feel loved, respected and safe in the relationship and so on).
So, just because she's slept with other guys, it doesn't mean she can focus on you, love you and only want to be with you. She can and she will, if you approach the relationship correctly.
Cheers
Dan
Dear Dan, if i buy The Flow audio, how does it work to listen to it on the phone?
And if i change phones, does the download transfers to the new one?
Cheers!
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Here's how it works:
- You have instant and then lifetime access to download whatever you purchase from my site. You just need to log in and your products will always be there for you.
- You can listen to The Flow audio version within your account - just click play and all the audio files will play one after the other, without you having to click again. Alternatively, you can also download it to your phone, where you can either click the audio file and when it's finished, click the new audio file to play it, or download a free app like 'BookPlayer' or 'Documents By Readdle' to play the files continuously, without needing to click again.
The Flow: store.themodernman.com/in/3b7354c
@@DanBacon_ Ok so once you purchase the product an account is automatically created for you and to listen to it you just log in the account and you can go back and forth to it as you please.
And if you change phones the account remains yours to access from any device. Like your email or Facebook or shit like that..
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Hi Dan, great video again!
I have a question about 'confidence' & would like to see your opinion on it
Some guys who perform in front of a crowd & all the public eyes are on them. Example musician, dj, singer, athletics, male strippers, politician, lawyers at court. Are they real confidence? In my opinion, they're 'conditional confidence' & only confidence at their particular talented area. Most of the time they shows their 'conditional confidence' as a path to get money & get laid. If that the case, in fact, they're quite insecure. What's your thought ? Thanks Dan 👍
Hi Dan. I'm from India. I really wanted to share it with you. 3 and a half years ago when I was in school, I fell in love with a girl in my class. One day, she shifted along with her family to Canada. On her last day, we exchanged sentences like "I will miss you"" this and that and continued to remain in touch through call and chat. Her behaviour suggested that she respected me, liked me and showed interest in me too. Whenever we were going to talk on call, I used to think about what to talk about with her. I was very good at humour but brought boring topics to talk about also. One day when we were talking on call, I confessed my deep feelings for her but in an emotional way. I cried too. She first seemed excited and said she liked me too but two days later on call, the day I proposed her, she rejected me saying our religion is different but that I knew was not the actual reason. We continued to talk for some months. I wrote poems for her, sent a video of me playing a song on piano for her on her birthday, confessed my feelings again and again, always used to direct the conversation towards my love and felt hurt when I thought based on some evidence that she loves and feels attracted to someone else. On the advice of my father, one day, I told her that that would be our last conversation and we didn't talk for a year. My father said that now she will herself bring up the love topic with you and she did after an year when she texted me justifying her rejection, showed a lot of interest and even said she has started loving me. My father had advised me to only talk when she calls or texts but sometimes I initiated conversations too, flirted with her but despite loving her, I did not show that interest, you can say I played it cool, tried to make her jealous and convey that other girls like me. Her behaviour started changing as if she was losing interest and one day at 3 a.m. (Indian Time), I called her and said sorry if through my behaviour she felt unappreciated. We talked two or three times after that but on the last call, I again did not show much interest and conversation ended early, I don't remember but may be I was thinking at that time that I will first learn and then talk, I don't know. We again didn't talk for 4 months and then I texted her and called her. She was may be playing hard to get as she talked on voice calls but used to avoid video calls, used to not turn her camera on while on video call, used to not pick up call when I called or told her beforehand I would call, etc. On calls, I tried to talk in a way that would make her think that other girls like me and I have interest in other girls. One day, I don't know what I was thinking, when she didn't pick up call when I called her an hour later after she said she was having lunch and told me to call after sometime, I texted her that I feel disrespected, she always makes some excuses, makes me wait and even said I won't talk with a person who makes me feel disrespected. In her reply, she mentioned she also wants to talk with me, this and that and then we had a conversation for nearly 3 hours and in that conversation, I was may be talking in desperate or emotional way, directing the whole conversation towards what or why it happened in the past or my feelings, how I see our bond, you said this and that, etc. Some days later, I apologized too for the way I behaved and talked and tried to address it in a mature way in whose reply she involved the words "as a friend" referring to her "as my friend". We talked two or three times more, those conversation had nothing in them, were may be, I don't know boring, lacked a lot and something was missing in them. After some time, she texted me one or two times and I replied after some days and to-the-point and didn't start a conversation. I don't know, may be I was thinking I should not talk and take some time as I wasn't in the right mindset or may be I knew I will make mistakes if I talk. 4 months have passed, no conversation and again I'm planning to start something by texting her on her birthday and also planning to introspect about what happened, approach the situation better, be true to myself and align my actions with how I genuinely feel. When I checked social media (She doesn't follow me), I saw her comments on some guys' posts praising them seeming to be attracted by them. I feel something is missing, that emotional connection is vanishing and I may not be going to Canada ever but I really really love her. How you see my situation and what's your advice ? What should I do and how can I become a better person in life ? Sorry for a very long message.
Pratham - it doesn't sound like you will get with her. You said you're never going to Canada where she now lives. So, unless she comes back to India and you can meet up with her, you're just wasting time on something that won't ever be. You should be focusing on meeting and dating other women. You should also stop talking to her for so long (3 hours...man, that is what girls do. Men who are focused on their purpose and goals in life don't have time to waste talking to a girl for 3 hours on a regular basis. A 5-10 minute chat is more than enough to attract a woman and make her miss you and want to be with you). If you're willing to attract her properly from now on and then visit her in Canada, or meet with her in India, then great - watch this: ruclips.net/video/VDGoxOjMgW4/видео.html Yet, if you're not, then just focus on other girls. Cheers, Dan 👍
Dan, the mother of my child still hangs out with me and get along at times for casual breakfast.
It’s been a year since separation, and been calling me every morning.
But is hesitant to commit to relationship. Advice?
Tha k you Mr. 🥓 bacon
That's what I'm dealing with.
Hi Dan i love your videos.😊 and i hope your day is going great.😊
Cheers - glad you're enjoying the vids 👍
Hey Dan what should I do because I really really like someone but I don’t know how to tell them and do you think she will say yes when I ask her out
Watch this: ruclips.net/video/g24upbUlcik/видео.html
@@DanBacon_thanks bro 😎
What a about if she has a boyfriend?
Quick question Dan, I know you released the modernx for testosterone, was it because of you were experiencing low testosterone, I just ask because they say nowadays most men are on the lower spectrum even young men, and also do you think as you became stronger as a man, slept with beautiful girls etc. that your testosterone was naturally higher?
Yes, my testosterone was dropping due to being in my 40s. As you may have noticed, I now look much more masculine physically than I used to (look at a video of me 3 years ago for example).
That's one of the things that increased testosterone does. It also gives you additional sex drive and drive for life. Here's the supplement for those reading along: www.modernx.com/product/max-man/
About your other question: I definitely became stronger mentally and emotionally during that time, but not physically. I've only become more physically strong since boosting my testosterone. However, it has been shown that sex temporarily boosts your testosterone, so yes - I would have had little spikes of testosterone with all the women I was sleeping with. Now though, I have a consistently high level of testosterone, in addition to the spikes I get from bouncing my wife around the bedroom.
Cheers
Dan
I just had a second date with a woman. We had a good time but she refused to kiss me back. Still she showed me where she lives and wants to come to my place for dinner on the 3rd date next week. I'm a bit confused ;)
Does a guy need to wait for obvious signals before he goes for a kiss?
Dan the man! I have two points, if you're interested in replaying I'd be grateful.
1. Dan, will you ever present nore of your personal life with us? I'm a little curious as to see more of the great man you are outside of the RUclips videos in this format.
2. Also, in your previous video you said good women can be corrupted to turn to cheating because of the guy's behavior. Do uou think that can also happen if you're too sexual with a girlfriend and she becomes very uninhibited sexually or too confident in her sexual appeal? I feel like my girlfriend has opened up sexually a lot since we started our relationship 10 months ago (she was a virgin too). I'm just thinking wether it's a bad thing if she becomes too sexual and it could cause her to be like that with other men too (at first just for fun)?
Hi George
1. Only if it will benefit the viewer. I spent 10 years enjoying my choice of women (was with over 250 women) before settling down with my wife, who I've been with for nearly 11 years now. We have twin daughters who are almost 5 years old now, so I don't know what about my personal life would be beneficial for guys to see. Seeing me at a park with my wife and daughters - how would that benefit anyone, lol 😄 My videos are about helping men succeed with women; not about talking about myself. I only mention myself and my success with women, if and when necessary. All other times, I am 100% focused on helping the viewer become more successful with women. That's all that matters.
2. Yes, that can happen if the relationship falls out of balance (i.e. she ends up having too much power, doesn't feel the need to respect you, ends up losing attraction for you). However, a woman is almost guaranteed not to cheat or leave you if you do this: ruclips.net/video/J0MtRKER1h4/видео.html
Cheers
Dan 👍
@@DanBacon_ alright got it! Thanks a lot
Hi, Dan. I recently have experienced a problem where I'm able to have sex with the girl, but not been available to convicent her to stay with me. This has happened to me twice in the last year, with two different girls. I don't think that it was because of bad sex, because these girls looked for me more than once. I did it maybe five or six times with each, but none of them stayed at the end, even when I really wanted to commit. Can you help me? I feel like I am doing something wrong in the last stage of the process.
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Even after 1 year she isn't showing interest 😅,now also to pursue as a confident person
Yes, start being confident and actively making her feel attracted. Watch these videos for some examples:
ruclips.net/video/C1IjqT7PXjw/видео.html
ruclips.net/video/G9ThUt9icy0/видео.html
I went broke and my girlfriend slowly started putting on an attitude, she still loves me but oftentimes she disrespects me and apologizes later… we have been dating for 5 years and this wasn’t common with us until my business collapsed
That's possible if you got a girlfriend who chose you because of your money and success, or if you lead with the promise of becoming a successful man, or lead with buying her things, etc. Personally speaking, when I met my wife, she was working as a hairdresser and made more than me (including tips) even though I had been running The Modern Man for 7 years before meeting her. About 3 months or so into our relationship, Google changed their algorithm and TheModernMan.com lost about 90% of it's traffic. I worked on fixing that issue for 2 years and during that time, I was earning next to nothing. My wife (she was my girlfriend at the time), didn't lose respect for me, disrespect me or threaten to leave because of how I approached the situation and the relationship (i.e. I was focused on fixing it and I also never tried to promise any success to her. I have always just been focused on helping men succeed with women and if success comes from that, then so be it). So, you either have yourself a gold digger woman, or she isn't a gold digger, but has lost respect for you based on how you've handled the situation. If you want to begin turning things around, watch this: ruclips.net/video/CF54ljVirro/видео.html Cheers, Dan 👍