I went from not doing a whole lot around the house to doing laundry, giving the kids baths, making the bed, to now cooking dinner 90% of the time and now I'm at the point where my wife couldn't stand to be with me. We've been 30 days and there's no sign of anything getting better. And my wife's love language is service but she just doesn't feel like it. I'm in a broken place right now, and she seems fine with her love affair with her phone. Please pray for a marriage. Somehow having sex once a month she's pregnant with her fourth kid. And I'm supposed to be okay with all this
Wes, we're sorry to hear that you and your wife are struggling. We want you to know that there is hope for your marriage. Here are some resources we hope will help you: xomarriage.com/crisis. You are in our prayers.
@@XOMarriage I really do appreciate it. I'm in a broken spot right now that I don't know how to get out of. I knew something was up with my wife and realize that she took a pregnancy test that was in our upper cabinet a week ago. And every time I tried talking to her she closed down and made an excuse to not talk to me. She finally came through this week to tell me she was pregnant and I told her I already knew. And she was surprised because she put pads in the trash for two days and I knew better. Anyways the reason she wasn't telling me was because she wanted to go get an abortion. And I could completely understand why she would have that feeling being that we have three kids from 18 down to 2. But when she talked to me about it it was because she didn't think she would get away with that at first but then she said she had second thoughts and she knew there's no way I would be okay with that no matter how tired I am.. now a lot of things make sense. We're lucky to have sex once a month and when I asked her about her lying to me she says that's her right and she should not have to talk to me about that. I don't know whether to think she's cheating on me or shes just got a cold heart. Please pray for my family because right now I don't have a clue what is going on or how to fix it.. now I can't even get her to go to church so I'm taking the two older kids to try to do my best as a leader but that's hard to do when I just want everything to be okay at home. But I do realize that that only happens by me doing my part
Can I suggest: battery powered "candles". We had to go that route on our anniversary because most motels and 'B&B's' don't allow open flames. LOVE our candle !! 2 C batteries.
Ashley, you give new meaning to “pulling weeds.” My wife is a weed puller & I’m definitely going to share this w her. Btw, Do you have you the same reaction if Dave does the vacuuming? Asking for a few friends. 😂
O.M.G. - Tonight's Our Date Night and We just finished the most romantic candlelight dinner out on Our lanai with music and a little dancing and a LOT of 'flirting" and innuendo and Hubby says He saw something earlier on RUclips that We should watch and up come the Sex-perts from XO Marriage and We're both almost rolling on the ground in the first two minutes. Asked hubby what the Seasons of Sex sounds like to Him and He replied "Fall, Winter, Spring, Summer, at noon, before breakfast, midway on Saturday during ChoreDay, in the garage, on the way to WalMart (YEP HE SAID THAT!!)....STOP!!!! The kicker was "...so that at least one of Us has a climax." Have a feeling there's gonna be a LOT more laughing Tonight...😎😻
Being attracted to other people outside your marriage is no joke to laugh about. It's all funny until your spouse actually starts talking to someone else and starts actually having an emotional relationship with someone else. I know because my wife and I were just like you, joking about these things. Now we know better than to joke and laugh about it because it almost destroyed our marriage.
Same. My husband started talking to girls online. It almost destroyed our marriage. It was devastating to me. He hid it as long as he could. When I discovered these messages, I was shaking and nearly passed out. It took months for me to move past the anger and hurt this infidelity caused. No joking matter.
@@Cassandra9235 Yes, I can relate. My wife started talking to her gym instructor and ended up going out drinking with him. It almost ended our marriage and I'm still working on building trust with her. It's not wise for married couples to joke and make light of dating other people. It shows a lack of fear of the Lord and a lack of understanding of the power of the devil.
How about for a sex tip you actually have to have sex with your spouse. 20 years in apparently I'm so disgusting that my wife doesn't want to touch me or be touched by me. But somehow she got pregnant with the one time per month we have sex and then tried to figure out a way to abort that child before telling me about it.. I'm so broken right now I don't know what else there is to say
@Allen Williams thank you. I just talked to her right off the bat mostly because she didn't tell me in this would be our fourth child and she never waited this long to talk to me about being pregnant before. Of course that made me wonder and when I asked she didn't say no she just said when would I have time to cheat which after half a day of thinking about it made me even more worried. If she did I don't know that any amount of counseling would work. I do love her so much but just the thought of her being like that with another man would probably end me. And it would definitely end my ability to be with her again. I truly praying on this is happens and my battle is with the Devil and not my wife. But sometimes recently it feels like she is taking the side of the enemy, instead of the side of the righteousness have a God. Almost like she's bitter to me and him both
@Allen Williams I appreciate it brother and I will try again. She hasn't exactly been acceptive of the idea of going to counseling. But I have been praying for God to soften her heart and mine and it does seem to be working a little bit at least so maybe I can get her there and maybe we both can be receptive. I'm happy to hear about your progress in your marriage. Thank you for taking some interest and some stranger on the internet just venting. God is good all the time
From a wife who's husband would just send me stuff and when he would come to church with me, would nudge me during a sermon and say "you should do this". What he wouldn't do is sit down with me, really listen to me, express himself, and talk with me from a place of love, encouragement, being humble, appreciation and respect. From a place of sharing, learning and willing to work on a marriage. There are a few videos out there from Jimmy which goes into how important this is. If you just point the finger but don't listen and really hear the other party... Guaranteed resentment and decline sets in. So maybe sit down with her rather than sending her stuff. And ask "darling, what will make you feel loved and appreciated in this marriage". It takes a serving heart from both parties to make a great marriage!
That really saddens my heart. I don’t even know you, and I could do thousands of times better than she’s treating you if I had made the decision to marry you. But she did, and somewhere buried under all that disrespect must be a reason she’s so cynical. I hope you’re a praying man. God is your only hope. I was married 36 years to a man who disrespected me much out of those years until he finally gave his heart to the Lord. What a difference Jesus made in his heart! I only had 10 good years and unfortunately he was too sick for any sex between us and died. but God is good and gave me a good man this time who loves the Lord and me.
I heard someone teach that marriage is like a garden in which each spouse sows and reaps. Ideally each spouse should be sowing 100%, but as life goes on the balance may become offset one way or another at times. But as you are faithful to sow into your wife and love her in the way that she needs right now, God is faithful to honor that and bring forth a harvest. Often when problems arise, it's a good time to ask God what can I learn from this, what do you want me to see? He doesn't cause the problems, but He can use it to help foster positive change in you. You're the only one you can control. Then in the meantime trust and believe God for HIM to change your wife's heart and just follow His lead. It may seem hopeless at first but with God there's always hope, you just have to stand firm and remain faithful to keep sowing those seeds. He will take care of the rest and He will take care of you. He deeply loves both of you and cares a great deal about the success of your marriage, even more than you do. You can trust that He is willing and able to work it out for your good 😊
I've been in the "hurry up and get it overwith less than once a month" season for almost 10 years now. If it doesn't change pretty soon, I'm filing for divorce.
This is great content but how can a man ever value sex if his wife gave it to another man for over a year. Cleary I wasn't good enough for her and her desire
This episode of "Fridays with Dave and Ashley" promises interesting questions and topics to explore, with something for everyone. It sounds like a great watch! Thanks, @life-is-here
Your all’s intros are 🌶️🌶️😆! Love you guys!
Laughed so hard at the weed screen. That is me when my husband does a project for me 😂
Excellent video! So funny. Kept me laughing as I learned.
Daggumit, that was comical...and I loved it all (Informative as well)
How is this the same channel that Jimmy Evans preaches on?
Dave w the Dripppp!
You guys are so funny- my love language is acts of service so pulling the weeds video 😂 it resonates with me ❤
The weeds 😂 I almost spit out my water!
I went from not doing a whole lot around the house to doing laundry, giving the kids baths, making the bed, to now cooking dinner 90% of the time and now I'm at the point where my wife couldn't stand to be with me. We've been 30 days and there's no sign of anything getting better. And my wife's love language is service but she just doesn't feel like it. I'm in a broken place right now, and she seems fine with her love affair with her phone. Please pray for a marriage. Somehow having sex once a month she's pregnant with her fourth kid. And I'm supposed to be okay with all this
Wes, we're sorry to hear that you and your wife are struggling. We want you to know that there is hope for your marriage. Here are some resources we hope will help you: xomarriage.com/crisis. You are in our prayers.
@@XOMarriage I really do appreciate it. I'm in a broken spot right now that I don't know how to get out of. I knew something was up with my wife and realize that she took a pregnancy test that was in our upper cabinet a week ago. And every time I tried talking to her she closed down and made an excuse to not talk to me. She finally came through this week to tell me she was pregnant and I told her I already knew. And she was surprised because she put pads in the trash for two days and I knew better. Anyways the reason she wasn't telling me was because she wanted to go get an abortion. And I could completely understand why she would have that feeling being that we have three kids from 18 down to 2. But when she talked to me about it it was because she didn't think she would get away with that at first but then she said she had second thoughts and she knew there's no way I would be okay with that no matter how tired I am.. now a lot of things make sense. We're lucky to have sex once a month and when I asked her about her lying to me she says that's her right and she should not have to talk to me about that. I don't know whether to think she's cheating on me or shes just got a cold heart. Please pray for my family because right now I don't have a clue what is going on or how to fix it.. now I can't even get her to go to church so I'm taking the two older kids to try to do my best as a leader but that's hard to do when I just want everything to be okay at home. But I do realize that that only happens by me doing my part
Can I suggest: battery powered "candles". We had to go that route on our anniversary because most motels and 'B&B's' don't allow open flames. LOVE our candle !! 2 C batteries.
😂 I can’t stop laughing. I love this episode.🎉
Ashley, you give new meaning to “pulling weeds.” My wife is a weed puller & I’m definitely going to share this w her. Btw, Do you have you the same reaction if Dave does the vacuuming? Asking for a few friends. 😂
O.M.G. - Tonight's Our Date Night and We just finished the most romantic candlelight dinner out on Our lanai with music and a little dancing and a LOT of 'flirting" and innuendo and Hubby says He saw something earlier on RUclips that We should watch and up come the Sex-perts from XO Marriage and We're both almost rolling on the ground in the first two minutes. Asked hubby what the Seasons of Sex sounds like to Him and He replied "Fall, Winter, Spring, Summer, at noon, before breakfast, midway on Saturday during ChoreDay, in the garage, on the way to WalMart (YEP HE SAID THAT!!)....STOP!!!! The kicker was "...so that at least one of Us has a climax." Have a feeling there's gonna be a LOT more laughing Tonight...😎😻
Dave with a hat 😄
Being attracted to other people outside your marriage is no joke to laugh about. It's all funny until your spouse actually starts talking to someone else and starts actually having an emotional relationship with someone else. I know because my wife and I were just like you, joking about these things. Now we know better than to joke and laugh about it because it almost destroyed our marriage.
Same. My husband started talking to girls online. It almost destroyed our marriage. It was devastating to me. He hid it as long as he could. When I discovered these messages, I was shaking and nearly passed out. It took months for me to move past the anger and hurt this infidelity caused. No joking matter.
@@Cassandra9235 Yes, I can relate. My wife started talking to her gym instructor and ended up going out drinking with him. It almost ended our marriage and I'm still working on building trust with her. It's not wise for married couples to joke and make light of dating other people. It shows a lack of fear of the Lord and a lack of understanding of the power of the devil.
Naked, naked naked! Say it loud and proud. Both physical and emotional nakedness are necessary.
How about for a sex tip you actually have to have sex with your spouse. 20 years in apparently I'm so disgusting that my wife doesn't want to touch me or be touched by me. But somehow she got pregnant with the one time per month we have sex and then tried to figure out a way to abort that child before telling me about it.. I'm so broken right now I don't know what else there is to say
@Allen Williams thank you. I just talked to her right off the bat mostly because she didn't tell me in this would be our fourth child and she never waited this long to talk to me about being pregnant before. Of course that made me wonder and when I asked she didn't say no she just said when would I have time to cheat which after half a day of thinking about it made me even more worried. If she did I don't know that any amount of counseling would work. I do love her so much but just the thought of her being like that with another man would probably end me. And it would definitely end my ability to be with her again. I truly praying on this is happens and my battle is with the Devil and not my wife. But sometimes recently it feels like she is taking the side of the enemy, instead of the side of the righteousness have a God. Almost like she's bitter to me and him both
@Allen Williams I appreciate it brother and I will try again. She hasn't exactly been acceptive of the idea of going to counseling. But I have been praying for God to soften her heart and mine and it does seem to be working a little bit at least so maybe I can get her there and maybe we both can be receptive. I'm happy to hear about your progress in your marriage. Thank you for taking some interest and some stranger on the internet just venting. God is good all the time
@Allen Williams thank you my friend and I mean that sincerely
I wish my wife would invest in our marriage even a little bit. I send her things like this and all she does is sigh and say ugh a another one
My husband doesn't make comments like that, but i feel ya. God knows, and we have to pray for our spouses.
From a wife who's husband would just send me stuff and when he would come to church with me, would nudge me during a sermon and say "you should do this".
What he wouldn't do is sit down with me, really listen to me, express himself, and talk with me from a place of love, encouragement, being humble, appreciation and respect. From a place of sharing, learning and willing to work on a marriage. There are a few videos out there from Jimmy which goes into how important this is. If you just point the finger but don't listen and really hear the other party... Guaranteed resentment and decline sets in.
So maybe sit down with her rather than sending her stuff. And ask "darling, what will make you feel loved and appreciated in this marriage". It takes a serving heart from both parties to make a great marriage!
That really saddens my heart. I don’t even know you, and I could do thousands of times better than she’s treating you if I had made the decision to marry you. But she did, and somewhere buried under all that disrespect must be a reason she’s so cynical. I hope you’re a praying man. God is your only hope.
I was married 36 years to a man who disrespected me much out of those years until he finally gave his heart to the Lord. What a difference Jesus made in his heart! I only had 10 good years and unfortunately he was too sick for any sex between us and died. but God is good and gave me a good man this time who loves the Lord and me.
I heard someone teach that marriage is like a garden in which each spouse sows and reaps. Ideally each spouse should be sowing 100%, but as life goes on the balance may become offset one way or another at times. But as you are faithful to sow into your wife and love her in the way that she needs right now, God is faithful to honor that and bring forth a harvest. Often when problems arise, it's a good time to ask God what can I learn from this, what do you want me to see? He doesn't cause the problems, but He can use it to help foster positive change in you. You're the only one you can control. Then in the meantime trust and believe God for HIM to change your wife's heart and just follow His lead. It may seem hopeless at first but with God there's always hope, you just have to stand firm and remain faithful to keep sowing those seeds. He will take care of the rest and He will take care of you. He deeply loves both of you and cares a great deal about the success of your marriage, even more than you do. You can trust that He is willing and able to work it out for your good 😊
@@nikkijoy478 oh I definitely try she doesn't have time for that
I've been in the "hurry up and get it overwith less than once a month" season for almost 10 years now.
If it doesn't change pretty soon, I'm filing for divorce.
There is hope for your marriage. Go to xomarriage.com/crisis for immediate marriage help.
This is great content but how can a man ever value sex if his wife gave it to another man for over a year. Cleary I wasn't good enough for her and her desire
shes dreaming
The editing is getting to be too much
This episode of "Fridays with Dave and Ashley" promises interesting questions and topics to explore, with something for everyone. It sounds like a great watch!
Thanks, @life-is-here