Adult Friendships (How to Make, Break, or Maintain them) | Oddvice S4 EP. 12
HTML-код
- Опубликовано: 16 ноя 2024
- This has been a highly requested topic, so let's dive in. We're curious to hear your thoughts too! Every friendship is so different, but we hope our perspectives can help 👯♀️
Exclusive Patreon episodes every Friday!: / oddvicepodcast
🃏 order DECK O' DECKS here! 🃏 - bicyclecards.c...
Relief in Palestine 🤍 - manylink.co/@o...
Hosted by Kristen McAtee (@kristenmcatee) & Alex Koot (@alexkoot.jpg). Follow Oddvice on Instagram & Twitter (@oddvicepodcast).
✨ Thank you to our sponsors! ✨
Kristen, I love that you don't shy away from mentioning Scott and even giving him credit at times. Shows that you have a healthy relationship with that relationship and can see that person for what they are-- someone you loved for a reason... while also sounding at peace with the relationship being over.
Alex has this absolute talent of being able to talk about herself but never coming off as too self concerned or too into herself. Just the chillest girl. Love you both.
Love the warm tone of the set😍
Hey y'all! Ive been watching your podcast for a while now. I must say: this is your best season yet! Y'all are really shining and glowing differently. Ive been really enjoying every single episode ❤
This episode really hit home for me. I’m 29 and have had the same 3 best friends since middle school. The four of us would spend basically every weekend together while also seeing each other everyday at school. I remember us talking about how we couldn’t wait until we were older so we could always be together, but that couldn’t be farther from reality. We’re all in different seasons of life right now: marriage, kids, careers etc. so we tend to go months without seeing each other sometimes, sadly. And the thing is, we don’t even live far from each other. But as you get older, your focus switches and life becomes so dang busy. But none of us take it personally, and we all understand. It truly just makes us appreciate the time we do get to spend with each other.
Anyways, love the pod as always 🩷 happy Monday ladies!
perfectly said!
The warm lights fit the set so well I love it
I’m definitely not a podcast girly, but y’all’s podcast makes me feel so at ease and happy. Absolutely love listening to these conversations between you both 💘
Love the lighting ladies!!!!!
I'm so glad that you guys are touching base on this topic. One of my best friends since the 8th grade just texted me today saying that she wants to let the friendship go. I think it's mostly because we have a long distance friendship going on since I moved from california to new york and it's not the same as like living 15 minutes away from each other. I've never gone through a friendship breakup before and wasn't sure how to go about it. You guys always have the best advice on what to do and this def was a much needed listen ♥ love ur pod sm!
I've been watching since episode one. I've always struggled maintaining my female friendships and I honestly think you guys helped me manifest my strongest one in the last year. Thank you for giving us a standard of real girl friendship. From being honest about your time apart, to growing across the country together. Y'all have something so special and remind me I'm worthy of it too. 💚
you are so incredibly worthy of it ❤
Open to new friendships! Mom & wife. 27 today! 🎂
Happy bday!!
happy birthday!! 🎈
Happy birthday ❤️
This is one of my favorite episodes you two have ever done, and I’ve been here since the beginning.
I just moved across the country two years ago and I am still struggling to make friends here. It’s so different at 24 then it is when we are younger.
Alex you said that you didn’t mean to recreate your friendships from back home and I realized that’s exactly what I have been trying to do. This hit home. Thank you girls
I'm sorry to hear Link hurt her hip but I'm glad to hear it's been getting better! I have heard that getting dogs like little stairs up to the bed or a couch can really help reduce jumping which can help reduce excess force on their joints!
You guys pretty much answered a oddvice email i had sent in to y'all regarding friendship grief and forcing the friendship. I love your guys' perspective on everything and this really helped me see thing clearer on the matter with your great duo energy explaining it in all the ways possible❤
No alex i totally understand you im a freshman in college and i don’t know how to make friends and if i meet someone i know they will not be as close as my best friends because that “place” is taken yk?so I don’t put that much of an effort
Your life is your story, you are the main character! Some friends were placed into your life just to be there for a few chapters. And those chapters could still be beautiful even though they ended and you turned the page.❤
I loooooovvvveee how strong yall dynamic is. Your bond is warm, chill, loving and supportive. You two love and appreciate each other. I’m here for it!!❤❤
I love your podcast and listening to your takes!! Ive been listening for years and have loved watching the two of you grow and blossom into who you are!! My best friend has been the same girly ever since we were 4 years olf and it is the most special thing in the world to be so bonded with someone through EVERYTHING. I always imagine how amazing it would be to live together in the same city the way you two do!! What a force to be reckoned with! That being said it is such a huge huge privilege to have such a strong and healthy relationship with someone for so long. I've also had my share of horrible friendships, emotional abuse/ manipulation/ growing at different rates or in different directions and not being able to maintain friendships/ losing friends after moving cities/ struggling to make friends or have any friends when living in a new city/ having different values that tear the friendship apart etc. etc. I think the ep really missed some of the nuances and challenges of adult friendships (and maybe that's because you both have been blessed with really positive friendship experiences which is incredible!!)
omg when y'all started crying I STARTED CRYING TOOOOO because i get it and I HAVE THAT TOO 😭
16:00 when kristen started singing i lost it. like why was it good tho?? 😂
This episode is so needed right now! Love you ladies ❤
54:52, my phone thought you were saying “Siri” and it stopped the video to listen for a command 🤯 weeeeiirrddd 😂
Thanks for this, going through it atm with my MOH…. Curse got me and don’t know what to do.. but realized I’m being stiff armed.. thanks ❤❤❤❤ not forcing it anymore love you girls so much ❤
I AM SOBBING lol I love you guys so much. 🩷
i sat through the ads for yall 🫶🏽 i love the new lights
Loved this episode! Definitely felt the friendship break parts. Haven't heard from two of my good friends from high school very much the past couple of years. Haven't reached out to either since right before the holidays and still haven't heard from either of them. Got tired of reaching out constantly with zero response from either of them. Just was getting too frustrating on my end being the one always texting and never hearing anything back. Just am not messaging them hardly at all anymore to just see if either of them bothers to check in on me for a change versus me constantly being the one checking in on them. One of the girls has been in and out of rehab since around covid times and the other girl has a daughter who is four years old. So I get that they're busy. Just got to a too draining point of me constantly reaching out a couple times a month and getting zero responses anytime I reached out just saying hey what's up type of a message. And they're my only friends from high school who've stayed in touch even if it's been very little to no contact this past year.
Love this and you❤ needed to hear alot of this
43:12 wait Alex I soo relate this and I don’t think it’s abnormal at all. I have three core girl friends and we barely get together maybe once a month. Even then I’m so satisfied with our friendship and my family. I don’t have the urge to get close with my school friends and coworkers even tho they’re such great girls! I just don’t really have the energy to even do random outings with people who aren’t a part of my core circle. It is a bit daunting for me too lol
I'm like Alex too.. I moved to a new town 3 years ago and I just find it more comfortable to be by myself. I prefer spending my time alone but at the same time I have 0 friends and don't talk to my fam much lol
“I feel bad and I don’t know how to get out of it” hits hard for me.. the friendship ended up in an explosion and I wish it didn’t bc we were such good friends we just weren’t seeing eye to eye. I wish it didn’t go that way but I don’t know what I would’ve done differently
Yes. I’m exactly like Alex . I have no desire to go to lunch with even a really cool person. It just doesn’t even register as fun to me. I don’t have the energy to care ? That sounds terrible but I don’t have the capacity to force myself to make a friendship with someone if it doesn’t naturally happen very very easily
My mom’s dog has hip dysplasia and she gives her bone broth to help strengthen her hips and she also gives her frankincense mixed with coconut oil to help her with pain!
I ghosted a friend once at a bar. She was soooo extremely toxic. Emotionally and verbally abusive. I had tried to break off the friendship so many times and I was so young that I fell for the apologies. Finally at age like 22, she said something that struck so deep that I said I was going to the bathroom and I got in an Uber and left and we never spoke again. Not saying it’s the right thing to do but 10 years later, I regret nothing. She knows exactly what she did.
thats type of toxic situation is where we're saying ghosting is more so cutting them off cold turkey. which is great! proud of you for cutting that off 🫶
one track minds are something i never knew existed. I have adhd (combined type if you're into the specifics) and hearing kristen say alex thinks on one path rather than like 30 like me is actually crazy to me. (I know it's unrelated to the episode itself but it really baffled me for a moment, brains are crazy man!)
You guys should expand on female and male friendships cause I got a lot of both and I’m struggling
Loved this one!!!
this one made me think. I'm 26 and do not have a core friendship. I moved to a different city 5 years ago to live with my boyfriend and work a now my life is so different from my former friends. along with the distance problem, all of them still live with their parents (I'm from Brazil, so its kinda normal), even tho all of them work, some are still in college. they don't have the same interests as me, the same responsibilities etc. even when I visit or when they come to te city I live, almost none of them make an effort to see me, I'm the only one trying.
nowdays, I'm not as bothered by that as before, but it was hard. My friends now are friends of my boyfriend (all of them are couples), that live here, have the same interests as us, have similar responsibilities and all. But I still wish I could have "my girls" kinda friends
I’m crying with y’all 🥹😭❤️
Ugh love you guys!
Ok I know this is not what you meant when you said breakfast hibachi but my mind immediately went to Waffle House. IYKYK 😂
I was literally about to type this 😂😂😂
This is soo funny
Right as Kristen mentioned Chipotle, I had just pressed the chipotle order button for my lunch hehe
what did ya get
4:31 I’m with you Alex! I have the biggest resting bitch face when I’m focused, people assume I’m really mad or upset abt something 😩
Kristen does look more like a Stephanie!!!!
10/10 pod I watched twice because of Kristen feet keep doing you because you are amazing 💯🔥
Animal chiropractors can take crippled animals and make them walk again. We all have bones and muscles that get wonky and out of place and too tight :)
if time was currency.. poverty would be expensive.
Perez Thomas Garcia Carol Hernandez Barbara
48:10
I think alex should've taken more responsibility of how she made Kristen feel during their friendship temporary break and apologized. And also given her a reason why she was the way she was
alex and I have moved on from this for years now. we've had many convos, don't you worry ❤
Kristen, your beauty is ALWAYS recognized 🫵❣️🫶🏼
I needed this episode way more than I realized I did when I first started watching it. Thank you both, I’m so thankful for this podcast & both of your ODDvice!!! 🩷🩷🩷
No new friends crew 🥲😭 but because the new friends I use to have all hurt me and now I don’t want friends 🥹
I felt this so hard