As a 65 yr old cis man, the whole concept of being trans took some time to accept. I appreciate your being so open about the process. Your videos have answered many of my questions. In modern society, I don’t know if I have ever met a transgender person. Unless they tell me, it is none of my business. You appear to me as a man, no reason for me question that. Thank you for helping to educate this old man.
this makes me so happy that you are educating yourself though and trying to learn more so you can accept it, a lot of people just make an opinion without knowing anything so thank you so much for doing this ☺️
It's so amazing that you want to learn! I'm glad there are people like you who educate themselves. I know people younger than you that don't even know the terms or even how to comment on a vid haha
whiterun guard can relate. It’s just like, when a toaster has a mode that I know I’ll never use, but I still had to pay for it. I’m the toaster, pregnancy is the mode that I won’t use, and my period is the price I don’t want to pay, but have to.
I’m transgender as well. I was born female but identify as male. I really want the surgery but I’ve started testosterone therapy so I’m happy about that. The name ive chosen is Liam. Your seriously a huge inspiration to me
I love how nonjudgemental you are of people's weird questions. Sometimes it's hard to ask when you're not sure what kind of response you're going to get, but you always manage to give great answers without being preachy. One of the reasons why I love this channel :)
@Zara Gupta as a lesbian woman myself, no. He is not mysoginistic and homophobic by 'not accepting being a lesbian' he is a man. A trans man, but a man nonetheless. He isn't being homophobic, you're just being transphobic.
6:10 Trans woman here.... THIS BUT THE OPPOSITE DIRECTION. The widening of emotional experiences is certainly one of the impacts of HRT I felt it in the first month or two. Still getting used to how emotional I can get. And being able to actually cry is amazing!!!
I'm wondering about what it's like for trans guys with endometriosis. Since T stops periods and endo pain can be the worst while having a period (though can be all the time too) I wonder if there is some relief from symptoms while on T. Because one of the ways they manage symptoms for cis women is to put them on BC, or other treatment that stops periods.
it depends, for me it helped for a couple years, until it got worse, I transitioned as an adult. the actual science part is still being done, but there's a theory that for some of us, after a few years (some research show about 4-7yrs) where the best explanation so far is, "youre transitioning into a man, so your reproductive bits start saying either use me or lose me". there are some reports of "ghost visits" without the, unwanted in the underwear, or T doesnt stop it anymore and/or its worse, and other kinda crappy things. In my case, after a couple years, it triggered alot of pain, bloating sometimes 4 pant sizes, and bathroom issues..i could go on. my surgeon described my organs as a "hot-dysfunctional mess" due to health issues uncovered by the surgery. I had *every* test run since my teens, several repeated tests, but results always clean... Finally 3 yrs ago, I got surgery that took 4+ hours more than expected. T saved me from kidney failure and soon-to-be cancer, whatever that means. Hope this gave some context to your question. regardless of medical topic, if you know somethings wrong, push for it, took me 10yrs, but if i didnt push, id be fighting worse things than the word "no" today
I started T July 2nd 2020 so I’m early af my periods stopped granted they we’re always light but they were painful af now sometimes I get like phantom cramps at the time I’m supposed to get my period but their not as bad as before so maybe honestly I think it’s different for everyone
@Zara Gupta thanks for the troll, hope you find a life outside of being concerned over other people’s lives, and feeling the need to tell strangers what to do
"Does testosterone change your sexual orientation?" No. If you only like females as a female, then come out as a trans man, but you still like only women technically the label changed, but thats about it. Like he said, it might make you more open, but the only thing that changes your orientation is your gender attraction
I've honestly worried about this as I heard it might alter your sex drive. An as a sex-repulsed asexual I really don't like this idea, I want to stay completely nope on that front. So it definitely doesn't change orientation, I've seen multiple people say that on this video and comments and that helps
@@reedsylvier5250 yep, not everyone but it might affect your sex drive. Im not asexual so idk, but i would think that you might feel the need for sex, but not want it yk?
MtF here. I'd only had an attraction to 1 guy before my transition n never acted on it, I always kinda assumed it was just him n not other men. When I came out I knew that I would give guys a try post-op but once I took my hormones they did throw my libido out of wack n I got crazy horny n spent 30 hrs in bed touching myself trying to learn how to masturbate (I'd only done it 3 times n now my erogenous zones were all changed around. I started listening to some adult audio roleplays n realized I was super into the scenarios with guys. Thought about it more n more n so when I joined okcupid I left my options open n got so many straight guys talking to me n went on some dates n ya, dick is pretty sweet but I still think I like vaginas a lil more (I miss vaginas, it's been a few months since my ex n I had our last FWB moment). Currently I have 2 bfs n a transvestite gf so all I've been getting is the D. I have my bf's fleshlight n pocket pussy at my place (doesn't want his brother or parents to find it) but it just doesn't do it for me. I still very rarely masturbate n when I do it's not for long n I don't finish cuz I really need another person or it just isn't fun to me. Funny how it took yrs to convince my friends that I didn't wank it but now that I'm trans if I say that nobody bats an eye, do people still think that girls don't masturbate? Edit: due to logistical problems thx to covid I haven't had my hormones for a month n my dick is more sensitive again n I've been masturbating more with the pocket pussy, works great :3 still like the D tho so clearly the hormones didn't do it :P
honestly, when I identified as female I was leaning towards using the term lesbian. now as a trans guy I am leaning towards the mlm label,, I just think I always knew I wasn't straight just didn't understand my gender yet, many trans guys I know have had a similar situation
Here's a thing that people need to know. Anything a cis man can do a trans man can do (well, besides the stuff that goes against our anatomy) A cis man can wear skirts, a trans man can A cis man can do drag, a trans man can A cis man can be really feminine, a trans guy can And guess what? This goes for trans women as well! I hate when people (even other trans people) invalidate some trans people because they don't fit into the gender roles of the gender they transitioned into. You wouldn't (rather, shouldn't) call a man a girl if he is feminine, why a trans man?
Exactly! For my family its hard enough to accept cishet people going against their gender roles, it really infuriates me, as i am closeted. I hope they open their minds and start to accept trans people cause it feels so shit to be around family members who outright say offrnsive things about the trans community and just not being able to say or do anything.
I mean yeah but no, as a cis guy who is a little feminine if I wore a skirt everyone will make funny of me and my parents would beat me up with with a belt
@Zara Gupta you’re right, trans men are biologically women, but they identify as men and are trans so respect that. gender doesn’t = sex by the way. trans men are still men, just not biologically. also, friend, gender is a spectrum- which means that anyone can identify as anything, really. With sex it’s different. You probably think that there’s only 2 sexs, which isn’t actually correct- there are 6 sexs.
I'm not trans, but my oldest friend who I grew up with is (and is very much out), and when my Mum found out initially she was worried that he'd be a different person. I still remember her face as we walked away from having coffee with him for the first time after he was out and on T. She just looked so happy for him because, "He's exactly the same, except now he actually looks comfortable in his body!" I always think of that when people make comments about hormones changing or supressing trans people's personalities.
I agree with you and your mom. The only thing that suppresses my personality as a trans man is bigotry, and not being able to change my profile pic on certain websites due to struggling to resize photo or change it without a computer. I feel like people say something judgemental and then wonder why trans people around them seem more reserved after coming out.
@Monica Merino they were born like that. Or if you believe in god god made them so. The only known treatment is to change the body to align with the mind 🤷♀️
Manna I don’t think it’s disgusting , being in a relationship with a trans isn’t disgusting at all , but I do agree that’s before u kiss or do anything with someone tell them if ur trans , it’s unfair to the partner but I don’t see trans people as disgusting
@@samwallaceee That is a matter of prejudice, people should definitely not have a problem with genre or sexual orientation. It is just something we learnt the wrong way.
Me : I'm happy I don't have any doubts about my gender, I'm a man and nothing in my female appearance will stop me- Mother : "yOu'Re tOo SeNSitIVe tO Be a mAN"
Sensitive men are the ones that don't perpetuate toxic masculinity. As a cis-het woman and a survivor of domestic violence, I love seeing a man being in touch with his emotions, and caring about and nurturing the people around him
@Teal Rose Totally agree. My best friend tells me it's like I'm dating a gay friend since my partner is quite in touch with his feelings lmao but I can't imagine been in a healthiest relationship.
In the end it's not like things are femenine or masculine, it's just about being considerate, communicate with others well and just being a good person.
"are you sure you're trans?" "No, I think I may have just imagined having a traditionally female body and presenting as female for 17 years"??? What kind of question is THAT.????
I used to work at a bank call center and we were specifically trained not to assume someone is committing fraud just because their voice sounds to be one gender, but their name is typical for another gender. The bank i worked for was also ardently pro-trans rights, and transphobia was not tolerated. In fact, transphobia was considered a valid reason to hang up on a customer if they persisted after being told to stop.
10:23...and it also okay if after questioning it turns out you are cis. That wasn't time wasted, that was time spent in knowing yourself and that's always worth it!
Basically, it’s ok to be whoever you are, and to question yourself. Time spent questioning yourself is never wasted, especially when it makes you confident in knowing who you are.
@Zara Gupta literally shut up nobody cares abt ur opinion, like what did you think was gonna happen I was gonna suddenly realize that ur right and everything I believe suddenly doesn’t matter? Lmao ur not that influential, also the fact that ur calling him Jamie is going against ur point. Have a bad day :)
Guys...... when his eyebrows are in the right spot he looks like David Tennant. Also your vids are so educational and positive thank you for sharing. But really, David Tennant or am I tripping?
Hey Jamie - thank you so much for answering all the invasive and downright rude questions. I know a lot of the people asking them are just being prurient, but for young trans lads and their parents, you are a life-changing fountain of honest information. Kudos.
Jammi, I live in a religious and conservative country and there aren't very many out and proud trans people here. At least there isn't any that I personally know of. I'm not trans myself, but your videos have been something for me to learn from! It's eye-opening on something I have little idea about previously. Thank you for that. If anyone in my life are to be trans, I'd refer them to you.
Don't wanna sound creepy or weird, but you are so, so handsome. And your transition is the best I've ever seen. You are so attractive and confident, I mean...you are such a hot man.
this video is so pure, and i’m glad it’s getting attention because you’re just so open and honest and just want to help people understand and share your experience. big love to you x
This has nothing to do with anything, but I was watching the thumbnail thinking "I bet he has a British accent" Might be the Irish in me, but I know a British man when I see one 😂
@@sydssolanumsamsys ",,," has a different meaning than "..."! I'm not sure what yet because it creeped into my internet dialect after a friend used it a lot lmao, but I usually mean it to use a different kind of hesitation/pause than three periods.
I am not trans, so i cannot know for sure, but i imagine that videos like this are so important to young trans people who just discovered their true self and are still shy to talk about it and ask questions. And just having google can be a bit overwhelming and impersonal. To have someone who went through the process themself and being so open about it and helping answering such intimate questions (wich is not something everyone can or want to do) is so helpful and you are so kind while doing so, that even for me i feel safe watching your video and trying to remember the information i got, so i can act more informed in the future. And as a cis watcher i can give the feedback: i think a lot of people who have no contact with the LGBTQ+ community, there is only fear of something they do not understand, because it IS something they do not understand. Of course it should be a given to respect the people around you anyway, but that was never how humans work. Things they do not understand, they tend to fear. In order to lessen the fear of those who are not so open minded themselves, information sometimes can clear up a mystery and transform it into something normal in the world, because they now understand it. And with this i think, a lot of people can be pulled into the group of informed and open minded humans, who then can inform and lessen the fear of other uniformed ones in the future. And human for humann we transform, hopefully, the society from a fearful unknowing one, to a open minded and informed one that can easily understand needs of others and respect them for what they are ( and not having misconception set in the world by hateful people). You are being kind and a just a wonderful human being with giving something from yourself to make this transformation happen and progress possible. I enjoy every video i have seen from you so far and i have learned so much already, that i can teach my children, who can already be part of a better generation. From the age of 5 on ,they learned, that there is more than two gender and that gender ist not always, what a docter sees, when a baby is born. The got it right away and never questioned it to this day. I know this is an old video and you won't see this, but i case you ever do though: thank you for all your patience with the world
when i got my name changed and went to my bank to get it changed on their system. without even saying anything to them about being trans they quietly said to me 'do you want us to change your gender on our system as well?' which made it more clear to me that i was very clearly a guy and have always passed as 1 even to people who havnt really known me before
well u made a bank account as Jenna, later on you show up asking for change as Jhon, how the heck u think ppl will react to that? u do understand that a lot of ppl dont know how to put it without offending in USA, CA, AU, UK? whats your point here?
@@scorpy21 no my name was never jenna or jhon. My point is my bank let me change my gender on their system even tho legally I'm not Male yet and it made me happy and more comfortable
@@Charlieto from what i`m getting from above is you changed your name from Jenna to Jhon and ppl got confused cuz we all know Jhon wont have boobs poping out their shirt as a male. btw those names Jenna and Jhon were made up to distinguish between male and female easier. also nothing bad about stating u made an account somewhere as male but u came up and asked to change it under a female name. as for you gender not being legal, well for your sake i do hope the bank doesnt go bankrupt as it will show you as a female in their system. i dont understand why u find it weird when u say that your name is Jhon but you look like a Jenna and ppl ask you if you wanna change your gender on an account. one thing for sure regardless of your gender, when you make a bank account you really want to be as accurate as you can be when you talk about paperwork. bank gets boom and they say they own 10 000 $ to Jenna, but not to Jhon.
@@Charlieto dono if you notice but if i put an "le" at the end of my name that will look 100% as a female name, altho i`m 100% male and surprise i identify as one. hope you see what i mean when it comes to paperwork
I actually have a bit of a story about "does testosterone change your personality". I've been on testosterone for a little over 6 months, and have been in the process of transitioning for over a year. I recently went to see my dad that I haven't seen in over 10 years. He informed me that I have far more confidence in myself and am more outspoken, to the point his wife mentioned that she was surprised that she enjoyed talking to me.
@@slvsh77 That kinda goes hand in hand. Taking testosterone helps the dysphoria by make the certain attributes that cause the dysphoria to lessen( voice gets deeper, certain bodily functions stop(for me anyway, so far, as he mentioned may appear again), and just overall feeling better and more comfortable in your body). I'm just saying that testosterone helps me personally both mentally and physically. I just got to experience seeing someone who knew me before and saw me as I am now. I'm actually quite proud of my progress.
And to a comment that I actually can't see on the post, but got a notification for. As for empathy and apathy, I used to get so upset over the littlest things around a certain time of month( to the point of Iwas having panic attacks where I couldn't breathe or think, which went into spiral of despair and depression), now however I find that I can think rationally about most things. I myself am not a very aggressive person, but I come from a rather largely female dominated family. Which are extremely aggressive( I take after my dad, using sarcasm and humor to get through most troubles), speaking only of my family, not women in general. I've found that I am less likely to just take people trying to basically manipulate me into doing things that I would have accepted as my fate and done it(I am working on not being a pushover). I grew up in a family that showed love through actions, not physical touch. That being said I hate being touched, I still panic when people get close. I'm working on that, but while testosterone is helping with my mental state, I think that aspect is going to have to be worked on. This is just my experience though
Estrogen causes mood swings. Testosterone evens everything out. It doesn't change your personality neccesarily, but evens you out. At least that's my theory, but I'm pre-t so I am unsure.
My ex had a bit of a rollercoaster with this. She became a lot more confident and outgoing after she came out, it has been noted by both of our families and a lot of friends. Because she had realized how dysphoric she was, it triggered a lot of depression. Her depression pretty much disappeared after bottom surgery, and now she's just doing a lot better for herself. It's kinda why we broke up, she didn't feel like she needed the support of dating someone and it became stifling when I needed more support and she didn't.
I love hearing how it has gone for you, and how things feel/happen/etc. I still have a lot of fears, doubts, and massive dysphoria. Close to 40 and won't be able to transition till I leave where I am and even then, it's a lot of saving to do and hoping wherever I work is accepting. Watching you is calming, and gives me some hope. Thank you so much.
Please do part three - have you always known that you’re a binary trans guy or ever questioned whether you were non binary? Also could you do a video on passing/ people thinking you’re cis and your feelings on it
How amazing are you ! Answering all those personal questions in such a great way. I 'm Mum to a non binary teenager who has a trans boyfriend ( love them both so much). I find I'm on a huge learning curve and can sometimes say the wrong things unintentionally. They understand though and don't give me too much of a hard time thankfully. I have often wanted to ask things ( because I'm curious)but rarely do, after all, someone's body, love life etc etc is their own business. I just love to see my kid happy, surely everyone deserves that.
I love how open you are. I know some of the questions are super personal and awkward, but you take it all in stride and help people to feel more comfortable in their own Journey. I loved when you talked about your pre transition life, and how it is just a part of you that you don't want to erase, the good and the bad. You may be the most mentally healthy trans guy I have ever seen, and I am grateful to you for showing us all that we can accept what we are, change what we need to, and go on in life in a healthy way. You are an inspiration.
I Found this channel a year ago. As a teacher, I appreciate your sharing information and stories. I have come upon a student recently who is quite young and was born male. This child often comes to school dressed in gender neutral clothing but occasionally has pink sparkly shoes on which I figured was due to having an older sister. However in the heat of the final days of school, this child came to school in a dress with hair braided. It doesn’t mean that this child has made any distinctive decisions about gender at this young age but I was so grateful for my awareness of this. I am also quite proud of the classroom teacher who has been very welcoming in her classroom and has likely addressed some questions from other students. The other students were so accepting in my classroom and that is great. Educators need more information on how to support children who may be diverse in so many ways.
Thank you for this video! Im straight but have been trying to learn more about the LGBTQ+ community and trans is one of the ones ive been having a harder time comprehending!
Thanks for all your informative, comforting and inspiring videos. You have alleviated so many of my concerns and worries. I am a grandmother of a 14-yr-old trans male and am grateful to have learned more about the transition process, how it is different for everybody and it was also nice to catch a glimpse of you living fully as a trans male. You have answered so many of the personal questions I could never ask him or his parents. What are relationships like before and after, what gender are you attracted to? What are the different surgical options and what do they mean? What does taking T do? What about periods? What are some of the emotional/mental issues he might be grappling with? And thanks for reminding me that in the end it comes down to the choices only he can make to achieve what he wants for himself. A lot of these questions are probably answered in books somewhere, but it's so much better to see you talk about actual experiences and not just hypotheticals.
I'm genderfluid and I can say I feel dysphoria most often when I am feeling very fem or very masc but can't seem to get the right clothing to make my outward appearance match my inner self. Also my hair. My hair is just... I bounce from a masc faux hawk to a fem bob and then back again- I tried fem bob with undercut that did make me feel good on both spectrums, but most of the time I ended up an upset bean in sweats and a beanie. That word vomit aside, I enjoyed watching this vid and hearing your answers. They just click so well, making all the light bulbs ting. That makes sense, right? Right? Okay, I'll stop now.
Well as a girl that bounces between tomboy and princes I get u. I just keep mine so long that I can still tie it back, so I feel like a vintage guy with low ponytail, dunno if that makes sense...
Your story around the 5:20 mark just opened my eyes. As a 34 year old cis woman, I'm young enough to really see the emergence of the LGBTQ acceptance movement - that sounds awful but I cant think of what to call it, because it sounds like we are barely tolerating the LGBTQ which is not at all what I mean, but that's the best way I can think to describe it right after I've woken up. Feel free, ppl, to respond with a better term. So, my dad used to love watching Ellen's first sitcom. I was 7 when it first aired. When she came out, I was 10. He refused to watch her show when she came out and explained to us why. Then my older brother started calling everyone 'queerbait' and the f word, etc. In my religious household, in my elementary and high schools, being LGBTQ was not at all accepted. I knew I had bi feelings from about age 9 before I ever knew what that meant, and I learned to hide that part of myself until my mid 20s although I have still never hooked up with or dated a woman, largely bc of my family. Anyway, I'm saying all this because it has been amazing to see the changes in society although we all have a long way to go. BUT it has also been a very steep learning curve for me, especially because as my religious affiliation waxed, then waned, then waxed and waned again in my early 20s, my thoughts and feelings about all this changed too. Now, I am totally open and totally accepting, but I still make blunders. I mention this because when I clicked on your video, my reaction was the same as the person at that convention: 'You're trans?! No way! You're not, you can't be! Really? Well, you totally pass. I can't believe you're trans! I'd never have known! You look so good!' I mean, maybe I wouldn't react that strongly but I may have said SOME of those things, and while the intention behind my words is innocent, it's still really icky behaviour. My reaction should be, 'Oh yeah? That's cool!' It conveys that I accept you as you are, shows mt interest in what you're saying, but doesn't make this huge deal about a part of yourself that you can't change. Maybe I'm being too analytical but I can see how making such a big deal about the fact that you pass could make not only you uncomfortable but also others who are insecure that they may not pass. Thanks for being open and for continuing to educate those of us who are here to learn! And sorry for such a long comment, I'm not fully awake yet and couldn't think of a more succinct way to say that!
I find these types of videos interesting. My brother is trans and you’re explaining things in a way it’s easier to understand. I also have on brother that is bi and one other that I assume is heterosexual as I am. I love them all even though we just found out I am not biologically related to any of my “family”. Apparently the woman formally known as my mother got me at a hospital. That’s all she’ll say. She doesn’t want me calling her mom anymore and my brothers kinda feel the same even though we grew up together. I’ve listed my dna results in the registry. It would be cool to know if I have a family. Only thing about me that was true is I’m Puerto Rican, almost 100% instead of Irish too. I’m still there for my transgender brother and let him know that. Having no family, and my soon to be ex-wife walking out on our sons and I put me into a pretty bad depression. Just telling you because although I’ma cisgender heterosexual man, I enjoy your videos.
That really sucks man. It says a lot of your character that you still support your brothers and send nice messages to strangers on the internet when shitty stuff is happening. I hope things will get better soon for you and that you're safe. Be well :)
Susana Restrepo Thank you. Even with the stuff that happened, I will always support my brothers. I treat others how I would hope to be treated. Thank you for your kind message.
I hate that half of my dreams I am a girl. like everybody's like "oh in my dreams I'm a man and it's an escape from reality" while I'm stuck here being a girl in my dreams, not being able to escape to my dreams.
Ah man I think our dreams are like, representations of things we're anxious about, or old hang ups, yknow? I've been out of school for years but I had a stressful time at school and I still dream about having loads of deadlines and missing them. It's annoying how your brain drags up old shit 🙄 but you will have good dreams mixed with bad ones, too. The more you confront things in your waking life the less there is weighing on your subconscious, I guess
1) I'd never ask rudely personal questions,, but thank you for sharing this information. 2) I think some people feel more confident when on T because you're treating the dysphoria, and that's the whole point! (Says the cis-het mama of an n.b. on T.) Have a blessed day! ❤️
Honestly I never have asked questions about transgender but I never knew that I would benefit so much from learning about someone who became themselves. I’ve always felt that you should be comfortable in your own skin and I’m not about to judge someone when I don’t live their battles. For a lot of people it’s figuring out a style and attitude that makes them happy and that goes for anyone and everyone even whom makes changes to their gender. But I never realized the hate and negativity and the rude questions that go on top of deciding to be another gender. Thank you for making this video and showing us how happy you are just being you even when you’re asked rude questions, thank you for answering those rude questions bc I am ignorant about knowing anything about changing gender. This would be something I’d watch if I was serious about changing genders. Or if I needed to understand more about it.
If you kick me in the vulva I will react like someone with nuts because guess what, IT'S A SENSITIVE AREA lmaoo. Hitting it right on that venus bone thing.. Girl.. I've been curled up on the floor almost crying tears.
not same thing. thats on the pelvic bone so you really have to aim for that. with guys u just have to focus like hit them from under in general area and sharp brain pain will make them fall as soon as you hit that general area and they will cry like babies.
As a curious cis person, I really appreciate your matter of fact approach. It helps me learn so I can be empathetic and kind to others I come accross in real life. Thank you. You are very brave.
Jaime, saw your bottom surgery video, and then this one. You are looking so much healthier and happier here. Hope things continue to be positive for you in your life.
Oh my thank you so much I've never been very dysphoric about my... bottom parts compared to my chest (ftm), which has caused a lot of stress and anxiety about "faking" being trans. I could physically _feel_ myself relax when you said not all people experience it the same and now I feel like sobbing in relief. Just. Thanks. So much
I really like these types of videos :) I'm learning a lot and you're not judgemental about the questions. Thank you for always being open and honest ❤ I hope to see a part 3
This doesn't really relate to this video, but i was just thinking about it and figured I'd share my thoughts here. One thing i find interesting about the "bathroom bills" (people must use the bathrooms that match their assigned gender from birth) is that if you are someone who has fully undergone transition and "pass" as your gender, no one notices that you're using the "wrong" bathroom (sorry for all the quotations, i don't know a better way to phrase what I'm thinking). These bills and bans only effect those that are, for a lack of a better phrase, "obviously" trans. It's purely about people's prejudices and ingrained gender norms. You could be sharing a bathroom with a person who is transgender and not even know it, so why does it matter? I think the idea of separate bathrooms for men and women is a stupid idea in the first place, but that's a whole separate gripe.
Elizabeth Cox Plus it’ll target cis women who look too masculine or cis men who are very feminine. TERFs has already attacked cis women who “look like men” and called security/etc on trans men in states with those laws
Agree with your main point. Men and women should have separate bathrooms because: 1. women need safe spaces away from men. 2. Men miss the toilet more than women - particularly where there is alcohol served. I'm not sharing with that 3. Urinals are a good idea - however, I do not want to walk into a room where a load of men have their cocks out, nor do I think they would want me to. 4. Girls going through puberty need somewhere away from boys to change their sanitary products. Stalls are not that private.... 5. I have been assaulted by a man in a women's bathroom. If I thought he had a right to be there, I would not have been so on my guard when I spotted him, so that story may have had a different ending.... There are some good reasons for them to be gender neutral, but for me, the above outweigh them.
@Speaking Truth yes! I hadn't even considered Muslim women for example - that's a really good point. My old colleague used to sort her hijab out in the loos - she would literally have nowhere to let her hair down, so to speak....
a lot of these questions seem too private to normally ask someone. which is not to say that people would not be curious about. so ty sfm for being so open about such personal things! education!! 🌈💖
As someone with anxiety I can kind of imagine what dysphoria feels like in the sense that those thoughts and feelings don't always have a rational or logical reason to exist. So I'm saying this hoping it will reassure you though understanding it may not. I have never thought of your hips as curvy or "womanly". I know it's different seeing people in person than on a screen and also with clothes versus not, but that comment genuinely surprised me when you said that's what currently gives you the most dysphoria because to me you just look like a typical skinny/lanky/tall guy. I'd also like to say how proud I am of you and every trans person who has made their transition I think it's one of the bravest things a person can do and for that I salute you. :)
As a 37 year old “cis” woman I appreciate you explaining all this in your videos! I didn’t know anything about being trans before watching your videos and now I feel so much more educated and I appreciate how you answer every question whether it’s completely ridiculous or serious. You still answer them all, that’s so refreshing to see. Also, I just want you to know that if I had seen you in public or met you in public I would have had no idea you were trans. You are a very attractive man!
I remmeber watching this last year, struggeling with therapists and wantng to give up everything and now im half a year on Testosterone. Watching your Videos gave me so much strengh to continue with everything and I am so glad that I did because im happier now
I think in this and all of your videos you have handled the topic so well. You've been educating while being tasteful, fun and real. I really have enjoyed and appreciated learning about your journey. Much respect.
Although sometimes the questions are quite personal, I think that your openness and willingness to discuss uncomfortable topics helps de-mystify things and battle stigmas by helping people understand trans individuals. Unfortunately there is still a lot of ignorance and to this day I still hear people confusing it with transvestism (cross-dressing).
I've had a question for you for some time that I don't think is something you've covered before. I know it's a rather intrusive question, nevertheless, I think it's something very important that all trans men may need to think about. Since I assume that a portion of your viewers are trans men, I'd like to broach the topic for discussion. I'm a cis female who has had endometrial cancer and had to have a hysterectomy because of it. Without regular screening this could have been a life threatening condition for me. As a trans person with a uterus, have you continued to see a gynecologist for health screenings? If so, is it awkward in the waiting room or dealing with admin personnel? How have you dealt with this and what are your recommendations for trans men in the same situation?
I’m am a trans male but I am only 13 so I haven’t had to go to any of those kinds of visits and I have wondered the same exact thing for when I get older
Yes, they tell you that you should go the gynecologist, because you still can get cancer or other unhealthy things (I dont know about the time after the complete removal of the ""female"" parts in your stomach). It's the same thing with your chest. Even though you might have had top-surgery, they still tell you that you should go to the checks, if you have Breast Cancer (because you never know if all of the parts are 100% removed (i dont know the word in english)). At least in my country they tell you to go and see a professional. I guess there might be different rules in other countries. I hope this is what you meant and it helped
I'm a cis female but I live in the UK and use the NHS, which I think Jamie does too. Here the only regular screening we do is a cervical screening every three years. It's usually performed by a Nurse Practioner at your usual GP. We'd only be referred to a gynaecologist if we've already been diagnosed with a gynaecological problem or if we get pregnant.
yeah im trans in the deep south and i have never seen a gynecologist because i've heard horror stories from other local trans men about being harassed and straight up abused and mocked by personell at womens health centers so i'm like welp. if my uterus takes me out it takes me out. its a rlly big problem and whenever we bring it up even in liberal spaces we get accused of making reproductive health issues about men when its a documented fact that it's not only difficult to access (insurance often won't cover it if you've had your gender changed regardless of your anatomy) and if you can access it there's a high chance it'll be extremely psychologically taxing. i can only speak for the southern US though (ive lived in georgia and texas since i started transitioning), idk if it's this bad in other places
I'm an 18 yr old trans guy from the midwest, and I don't know a single trans guy who has ever gone to a gynecologist post transition. It's hard getting any kind of medical attention while trans, due to the fact that many of us have had to become financially independent at a young age and don't have proper insurance. That's not even taking into account how transphobic the american medical system can be, and how dysphoria inducing getting examined is. The last time I had to be inspected by a professional, I literally wanted to run out of the room. So no, to my knowledge it isn't very common, despite there being some evidence that T can raise your risks of endometriosis and possibly cervical cancer, though bc trans research is so rare it isn't very conclusive. I know for a fact I don't ever plan to step foot in a gynecology office unless I'm getting a hysterectomy. If my uteris ganks me, then c'est la vie I suppose
I really appreciate your openness on your channel. As a bisexual woman I have always been accepting of all LGBTQ people. When my son came out as trans at 17 (which I actually asked him about around a year earlier because I was seeing some changes in style and the like) I was able to embrace him for who he is. But, the curiosity and concern remained surrounding aspects of a full transition and it is wonderful to learn about your experience. It helps relieve that mom worry I have for him. Thank you for your bravery.
Thank you for being such an open communicator and helping people in our community understand transgender concerns. I guess I’m what you call a cis woman. I’m not transgender. However, I have friends and people around me who are that I feel should be ok with who ever they feel they are. This video popped up in my feed and I decided I should watch it because, yes this subject is much more discussed than when I was young. I appreciate that you are willing to have an open forum that can help both cis and trans understand what’s happening in the World, so we can be more supportive to one another. Honestly I just learned a few terms I’ve never heard before which I found helpful. As a nurse, we often work with families that are transgender or part of the LGBTQ community that is changing more daily in terms of respectful identification, open mindedness, and parenting identification role preferences. So, thank you for your uplifting forum and being vulnerable to help others. It definitely helps me as a care provider to be more aware and supportive in our community.
As a high school teacher, I’m so glad I found your channel. It’s so helpful and enlightening to hear your experience. Also, I’ve never heard of bottom surgery until today!
I just wanted to thank you for your positivity and your willingness to answer questions and be candid about the answers. You seem very comfortable in your own skin (hard without dysphoria!) and I appreciate the role model you are for your community. Whatever your life experiences, pre- and post-surgery, they have shaped you into a very capable and healthy person. Thanks again.
So as another trans guy, I've experienced days where I ask myself, "Would I be happier if I'd never realized I was trans or started my transition?" The answer is always no. I'd be purely miserable. It's normal and healthy as a trans person to ask yourself questions like this because you have an opportunity then to re-examine and affirm your feelings and decisions as the right ones for you and your future/past happiness. Some people really like to gatekeep about these kinds of feelings, but don't be ashamed to ask yourself hard questions on bad days.
The person asking about faking hurting when getting hit in the crotch confuses me. I am a cis woman and getting hit in the crotch hurts! It's a matter of degree.
eustacia03 being hit anywhere to an extent hurts 🤷🏽♀️ I didn’t get that question either. I’m a girl. Born a girl and I’ve been kicked in the private before and it hurt. Being kicked anywhere it’s a gender specific question. It can hurt anyone
Well even though being kicked everywhere hurts, testicles are full of sensory nerve endings, more so than vaginas, and they don't have any more structures to take the hit so the pain people with testicles feel when kicked there is very intense. The point on the question was that if he didn't fake, people would be able to tell something's off because, even though I have not experienced it, the anatomy of both male and female genitalia sheds a light to the difference in being kicked in one and the other
I'm mtf and a year and a half hrt, it's so interesting to hear about the effects going the other direction on the spectrum. I wish my nose got smaller though.
Thanks for sharing Jaime . You and your wife are beautiful people and are most definitely helping me through what feels like the darkest and hardest time of my life. I’m 45 FTM and I’ve been married to my wife for 5 years we’ve been together for 8 . We’ve got a son and although I have the love and support of the two of them I’m just starting my journey to change my body into the person I’ve always been and living in what I call Hell ( South Mississippi. USA) saying that transitioning is difficult is an understatement. We are on public healthcare so that’s the only way I could afford to actually start taking Testosterone but they don’t pay for binders or packers or anything like that, so I get called ma’am several times a day 😒 I’m a patient fella but my dysphoria is through the roof. Especially when it happens in front of my son. He’s 9 and since he was in diapers he’s always called me dad and although I was forced to try and explain the situation to him he’s still too young to understand completely. With all that said your videos and Q&A’s have given me inspiration and shown me other ways to think about things 😌So THANK YOU 🙏🏼 You two are a blessing to me !!!!!
Again...another awesome informative video. I could listen to to talk about such important issues all day. And sometimes they're very personal issues. I love so much how you answer the questions honestly and with such ease, without delving too far into your personal life...ie: your private relationship with Shaaba. Some things are just sacred. Much Love, as always, from Ontario, Canada🍁...Keli💖
I’m a straight female and have 2 friends who are doing this female to male transition. everything I’ve seen on the internet about this has been mind blowing and I’m trying to understand with compassion. kinda shocked I had no idea all this existed and the surgery you guys get. I’ve never actually wanted to ask them what they are going through because I know it can be a sensitive subject for some. 🤯 what you guys go through as “trans” people is kinda astonishing. I will admit , I was once one of those judgmental people. I couldn’t imagine being that way now. People can live there lives how they choose to. Whatever makes you happy and it’s not harming anyone else, hey more power to you! And Kudos to you sir. It takes a lot courage and strength for one to live their life this way and in their truth. Love and light! 🙏🏾✨
I just wanted to say thank you for making these videos. My kid just came out to me as trans yesterday so I'm doing what I can to better understand how he is feeling and learning what I can do to be supportive and help him. Ive been binge watching your videos and I must say you are an absolutely amazing person and these videos have been very informative for me.
As a child who's parents reacted quite poorly and who are not supportive, I love hearing about parents that are. Thank you for being an awesome parent and your son is lucky to have you. =)
the last question is so true about having doubts, for a while I thought I was trans and wanted to transition to a female, after a few years I came to realised that I loved some of the male parts of me, so I came out as Bigender, I now blend both male and female into my looks
Thanks for answering these questions. I have a friend transitioning now and it provides some insight as to what they may experience, especially the crazy questions.
Yeah but I think it's like a WHOLE other thing hurting your testes. Like it will make you feel almost sick or like you'll even pass out. Whereas getting kicked in the vag is just regular pain haha
It's cool knowing that there are other trans guys out there who don't cry as much anymore. Since I started T about 8 months ago, I've only cried once or twice, when I used to cry a lot. I was always afraid I was basing that on bad stereotypes.
I was once given a piece of advice about being trans that really stuck with me. If you are trans, and you are on or considered hormones or transitioning and feeling doubt about if you are trans or are just an imposter, know that a cis person would at the very least never think about these things and at worst physically recoil in horror at the thought. Doubt doesn’t mean you aren’t trans, doubt means that you are analyzing yourself and asking if this is right, and you are taking the time to understand who you are as a person. Doubt is natural, and a cis person has none because they never had any before, but a trans person will always doubt themself because they aren’t confident in who they are. With time the doubt will ease, and your confidence will grow, just remember that no one knows you better than you. People only know what you let them know, so don’t let anyone but yourself tell you who you are.
The harder to cry thing is due to hormones. Women have more of a certain hormone I forget the name, this means that it takes less stimulation to cry, so you being on male hormones means that suddenly it takes more to make you cry. Science yeah.
The part about having doubts about being trans really hit me. I'm a cis bi guy and I still have doubts from time to time about my sexualtiy but if I wasn't bi it "wouldn't really matter" in the sense that I don't have to change anything. Having doubts must be so much worse when you are about to transition or in the process or even after it. Mad respect to all you trans folks for being so strong
Thankyou for your content! As hard as it is to some times discuss or ask these questions. It is nice to see someone being so open about these topics as uncomfortable as it is. Cheers to you! Keep it up!
I would just like to say that as a non-regular viewer (I know, I'm sorry) your face seems fuller than last time I would never usually comment on someone's weight, but I know this is something you've been wanting to happen
I had an experience at the bank when I was trying to open a savings account and the guy was showing me the screen, I saw it still said miss and I just said "that's says miss" and pointed and the guy was like "oh I can change that, sorry, it's obviously a mistake." Now it says Mr but my bank card has no title on it lol.
i think this is really amazing that you answer these crazy and sometimes normal questions. It helps a lot of people understand random things about trans life when they lived in a closed off environment. very cool of you to do. very helpful, informative, and sweet of you.
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As a 65 yr old cis man, the whole concept of being trans took some time to accept. I appreciate your being so open about the process. Your videos have answered many of my questions. In modern society, I don’t know if I have ever met a transgender person. Unless they tell me, it is none of my business. You appear to me as a man, no reason for me question that. Thank you for helping to educate this old man.
this makes me so happy that you are educating yourself though and trying to learn more so you can accept it, a lot of people just make an opinion without knowing anything so thank you so much for doing this ☺️
Your open-minded approach is really refreshing! Thank you for taking the time to learn and understand.
It's so amazing that you want to learn! I'm glad there are people like you who educate themselves. I know people younger than you that don't even know the terms or even how to comment on a vid haha
i wish my family was as openminded and accepting as you. you're amazing
James Dennis It’s so amazing how you approach this subject so open minded and accepting!
I am a cis female and I will now refer to my period exclusively as an “unwanted visit.”
ditto im litterly gay and dont like kids i dont want it make with fucking stop
whiterun guard I’m bi and I don’t want kids lol
Hahahaha😉🤞🏻
or shark week or satans water fall from hell
whiterun guard can relate.
It’s just like, when a toaster has a mode that I know I’ll never use, but I still had to pay for it.
I’m the toaster, pregnancy is the mode that I won’t use, and my period is the price I don’t want to pay, but have to.
Wow, he really handsome.
Ananya Acharya he is😮
Meh reminds me of my uncle
Very handsome
Wru from I'm from India TN
Wru frm
"does being kicked in the vag. hurt?"
Honey, being kicked in the everywhere hurts😂😂
yeah no matter what genitals you have, it hurts getting kicked down there.
Probably not quite as badly as being kicked in the twig and berries but yes, it does indeed hurt
... it .... Doesn't hurt me....
It hurts me the most when I get elbowed in my titties especially during periods.
Makes me wanna commit neck rope
@@HollowToob what I meant was being kicked anywhere on ur body hurts
I’m transgender as well. I was born female but identify as male. I really want the surgery but I’ve started testosterone therapy so I’m happy about that. The name ive chosen is Liam. Your seriously a huge inspiration to me
Ooh I like Liam! Congrats btw!
liam's a cool name
Thanx everyone😁😁
that's cool liam
Hi Liam! Hope your transition is going well, and you have lots of safe support. ❤
I love how nonjudgemental you are of people's weird questions. Sometimes it's hard to ask when you're not sure what kind of response you're going to get, but you always manage to give great answers without being preachy. One of the reasons why I love this channel :)
hidingfromsomeone after!! He’s so friendly and informative.
Asking questions is the way to learn and luckily he understands :)
Same! Very cool person to listen to. ♥️
I feel this sentiment so much, he's so understanding it's amazing
@Zara Gupta as a lesbian woman myself, no. He is not mysoginistic and homophobic by 'not accepting being a lesbian' he is a man. A trans man, but a man nonetheless. He isn't being homophobic, you're just being transphobic.
6:10 Trans woman here.... THIS BUT THE OPPOSITE DIRECTION. The widening of emotional experiences is certainly one of the impacts of HRT I felt it in the first month or two. Still getting used to how emotional I can get. And being able to actually cry is amazing!!!
I'm wondering about what it's like for trans guys with endometriosis. Since T stops periods and endo pain can be the worst while having a period (though can be all the time too) I wonder if there is some relief from symptoms while on T. Because one of the ways they manage symptoms for cis women is to put them on BC, or other treatment that stops periods.
it depends, for me it helped for a couple years, until it got worse, I transitioned as an adult. the actual science part is still being done, but there's a theory that for some of us, after a few years (some research show about 4-7yrs) where the best explanation so far is, "youre transitioning into a man, so your reproductive bits start saying either use me or lose me". there are some reports of "ghost visits" without the, unwanted in the underwear, or T doesnt stop it anymore and/or its worse, and other kinda crappy things.
In my case, after a couple years, it triggered alot of pain, bloating sometimes 4 pant sizes, and bathroom issues..i could go on. my surgeon described my organs as a "hot-dysfunctional mess" due to health issues uncovered by the surgery. I had *every* test run since my teens, several repeated tests, but results always clean... Finally 3 yrs ago, I got surgery that took 4+ hours more than expected. T saved me from kidney failure and soon-to-be cancer, whatever that means. Hope this gave some context to your question. regardless of medical topic, if you know somethings wrong, push for it, took me 10yrs, but if i didnt push, id be fighting worse things than the word "no" today
@@slaternapier1640 thank you for your response and explaining that :)
I started T July 2nd 2020 so I’m early af my periods stopped granted they we’re always light but they were painful af now sometimes I get like phantom cramps at the time I’m supposed to get my period but their not as bad as before so maybe honestly I think it’s different for everyone
@@behindthen0thing no.
@Zara Gupta thanks for the troll, hope you find a life outside of being concerned over other people’s lives, and feeling the need to tell strangers what to do
"Does testosterone change your sexual orientation?" No. If you only like females as a female, then come out as a trans man, but you still like only women technically the label changed, but thats about it. Like he said, it might make you more open, but the only thing that changes your orientation is your gender attraction
I've honestly worried about this as I heard it might alter your sex drive. An as a sex-repulsed asexual I really don't like this idea, I want to stay completely nope on that front. So it definitely doesn't change orientation, I've seen multiple people say that on this video and comments and that helps
@@reedsylvier5250 yep, not everyone but it might affect your sex drive. Im not asexual so idk, but i would think that you might feel the need for sex, but not want it yk?
MtF here. I'd only had an attraction to 1 guy before my transition n never acted on it, I always kinda assumed it was just him n not other men. When I came out I knew that I would give guys a try post-op but once I took my hormones they did throw my libido out of wack n I got crazy horny n spent 30 hrs in bed touching myself trying to learn how to masturbate (I'd only done it 3 times n now my erogenous zones were all changed around. I started listening to some adult audio roleplays n realized I was super into the scenarios with guys. Thought about it more n more n so when I joined okcupid I left my options open n got so many straight guys talking to me n went on some dates n ya, dick is pretty sweet but I still think I like vaginas a lil more (I miss vaginas, it's been a few months since my ex n I had our last FWB moment). Currently I have 2 bfs n a transvestite gf so all I've been getting is the D. I have my bf's fleshlight n pocket pussy at my place (doesn't want his brother or parents to find it) but it just doesn't do it for me. I still very rarely masturbate n when I do it's not for long n I don't finish cuz I really need another person or it just isn't fun to me. Funny how it took yrs to convince my friends that I didn't wank it but now that I'm trans if I say that nobody bats an eye, do people still think that girls don't masturbate?
Edit: due to logistical problems thx to covid I haven't had my hormones for a month n my dick is more sensitive again n I've been masturbating more with the pocket pussy, works great :3 still like the D tho so clearly the hormones didn't do it :P
honestly, when I identified as female I was leaning towards using the term lesbian. now as a trans guy I am leaning towards the mlm label,, I just think I always knew I wasn't straight just didn't understand my gender yet, many trans guys I know have had a similar situation
@@abigail5507 yeah, i dont think that has to do with testosterone/transitioning, more of self discovery
Here's a thing that people need to know.
Anything a cis man can do a trans man can do (well, besides the stuff that goes against our anatomy)
A cis man can wear skirts, a trans man can
A cis man can do drag, a trans man can
A cis man can be really feminine, a trans guy can
And guess what? This goes for trans women as well!
I hate when people (even other trans people) invalidate some trans people because they don't fit into the gender roles of the gender they transitioned into. You wouldn't (rather, shouldn't) call a man a girl if he is feminine, why a trans man?
Exactly! For my family its hard enough to accept cishet people going against their gender roles, it really infuriates me, as i am closeted. I hope they open their minds and start to accept trans people cause it feels so shit to be around family members who outright say offrnsive things about the trans community and just not being able to say or do anything.
I mean yeah but no, as a cis guy who is a little feminine if I wore a skirt everyone will make funny of me and my parents would beat me up with with a belt
@Zara Gupta you’ve made 848 comments on this channel, you care way too much about this shit lmao get a life PLEASE
@Zara Gupta you’re right, trans men are biologically women, but they identify as men and are trans so respect that. gender doesn’t = sex by the way. trans men are still men, just not biologically. also, friend, gender is a spectrum- which means that anyone can identify as anything, really. With sex it’s different. You probably think that there’s only 2 sexs, which isn’t actually correct- there are 6 sexs.
Exactly!
I'm not trans, but my oldest friend who I grew up with is (and is very much out), and when my Mum found out initially she was worried that he'd be a different person. I still remember her face as we walked away from having coffee with him for the first time after he was out and on T. She just looked so happy for him because, "He's exactly the same, except now he actually looks comfortable in his body!" I always think of that when people make comments about hormones changing or supressing trans people's personalities.
I agree with you and your mom. The only thing that suppresses my personality as a trans man is bigotry, and not being able to change my profile pic on certain websites due to struggling to resize photo or change it without a computer. I feel like people say something judgemental and then wonder why trans people around them seem more reserved after coming out.
"I'm a bit peachier now" you're fricking adorable, stop it
You have to be so extremely emotional secure to be able to make this kind of video and I just want to tell you congratulations!!
Yesss 💖
It's kinda crazy that when u see trans men, it's almost impossible to imagine them as females. Hopefully its the same for me when I transition 🤞🏻
same here D':
did you come out yet?
Harder for trans girls =/
Especially if they transition after puberty.
Good luck! I hope you have a great transition 😊
@Monica Merino you sound possessed!
Yeah they suffer from body dysphoria. The treatment is to align the body with the mind.
@Monica Merino they were born like that.
Or if you believe in god god made them so.
The only known treatment is to change the body to align with the mind 🤷♀️
He looks like he was a boy all his life....like damn you’d never know
nika _v_18 that was kinda the point ;)
Ana Dot ik I’m just saying
Manna I don’t think it’s disgusting , being in a relationship with a trans isn’t disgusting at all , but I do agree that’s before u kiss or do anything with someone tell them if ur trans , it’s unfair to the partner but I don’t see trans people as disgusting
@@samwallaceee That is a matter of prejudice, people should definitely not have a problem with genre or sexual orientation. It is just something we learnt the wrong way.
Manna well I don’t think they’d do it to deceive plus if it’s serious they would obviously tell their partner unless they’re a complete shit head
Me : I'm happy I don't have any doubts about my gender, I'm a man and nothing in my female appearance will stop me-
Mother : "yOu'Re tOo SeNSitIVe tO Be a mAN"
hope you get the support you deserve
Don't listen to her! I support you!
If u were a doggo, you'd be a 10/10 good boi🐶
Sensitive men are the ones that don't perpetuate toxic masculinity. As a cis-het woman and a survivor of domestic violence, I love seeing a man being in touch with his emotions, and caring about and nurturing the people around him
@Teal Rose Totally agree. My best friend tells me it's like I'm dating a gay friend since my partner is quite in touch with his feelings lmao but I can't imagine been in a healthiest relationship.
In the end it's not like things are femenine or masculine, it's just about being considerate, communicate with others well and just being a good person.
"are you sure you're trans?" "No, I think I may have just imagined having a traditionally female body and presenting as female for 17 years"??? What kind of question is THAT.????
I used to work at a bank call center and we were specifically trained not to assume someone is committing fraud just because their voice sounds to be one gender, but their name is typical for another gender.
The bank i worked for was also ardently pro-trans rights, and transphobia was not tolerated. In fact, transphobia was considered a valid reason to hang up on a customer if they persisted after being told to stop.
That.... Is a really good work place
Not necessarily pro trans - more like they dont want a lawsuit.
@@HandleThiSS88 in any case, I'll take it
Sounds like a bank worth mentioning by name!
Could anyone talk with me. I like to talk like native english speakers. I am tamil
10:23...and it also okay if after questioning it turns out you are cis. That wasn't time wasted, that was time spent in knowing yourself and that's always worth it!
And it's also okay if you turn out trans or even non-binary (:
Basically, it’s ok to be whoever you are, and to question yourself. Time spent questioning yourself is never wasted, especially when it makes you confident in knowing who you are.
The length of this video is blessed
YESH
@Zara Gupta literally shut up nobody cares abt ur opinion, like what did you think was gonna happen I was gonna suddenly realize that ur right and everything I believe suddenly doesn’t matter? Lmao ur not that influential, also the fact that ur calling him Jamie is going against ur point. Have a bad day :)
@@epushzp but id like to add Trans men shouldnt me called with TRANS they are a real man, and anyway why does it matter
Guys...... when his eyebrows are in the right spot he looks like David Tennant. Also your vids are so educational and positive thank you for sharing. But really, David Tennant or am I tripping?
Ohmygoodie finally I know of who he reminds me of
Ikr! Been wondering for so long!
I was literally about to comment that dude, you read my mind.
Very David Tennant. Without the constantly tragic look of trying to save the world from destruction and losing people along the way.
O H MY GOD YOURE R IGHT
Hey Jamie - thank you so much for answering all the invasive and downright rude questions. I know a lot of the people asking them are just being prurient, but for young trans lads and their parents, you are a life-changing fountain of honest information. Kudos.
Jammi, I live in a religious and conservative country and there aren't very many out and proud trans people here. At least there isn't any that I personally know of. I'm not trans myself, but your videos have been something for me to learn from! It's eye-opening on something I have little idea about previously. Thank you for that. If anyone in my life are to be trans, I'd refer them to you.
Don't wanna sound creepy or weird, but you are so, so handsome. And your transition is the best I've ever seen. You are so attractive and confident, I mean...you are such a hot man.
True
Yes he is, and I say that as an aro ace.
@@robertabarnhart6240 he is a mage
Yes, I find him very atractive
this video is so pure, and i’m glad it’s getting attention because you’re just so open and honest and just want to help people understand and share your experience. big love to you x
This has nothing to do with anything, but I was watching the thumbnail thinking "I bet he has a British accent"
Might be the Irish in me, but I know a British man when I see one 😂
I'm from Northern Ireland and I could instantly tell he was British aswell lol
I was like, why does this guy talk about transgender stuff....
...And then after a while, I realized that he is transgender,,,, like🤦♀️
Sorry, just wanna point out transgendered is not a word. He is transgender, not "transgendered"
(No hate tho)
FabulousLemon oh,,, woopsies...
@@viktoriahaldkristensen2337 no problem! And thanks for correcting it :)
@@viktoriahaldkristensen2337 why the fuck would you do this to my poor comma babies
@@sydssolanumsamsys ",,," has a different meaning than "..."! I'm not sure what yet because it creeped into my internet dialect after a friend used it a lot lmao, but I usually mean it to use a different kind of hesitation/pause than three periods.
I am not trans, so i cannot know for sure, but i imagine that videos like this are so important to young trans people who just discovered their true self and are still shy to talk about it and ask questions. And just having google can be a bit overwhelming and impersonal. To have someone who went through the process themself and being so open about it and helping answering such intimate questions (wich is not something everyone can or want to do) is so helpful and you are so kind while doing so, that even for me i feel safe watching your video and trying to remember the information i got, so i can act more informed in the future.
And as a cis watcher i can give the feedback: i think a lot of people who have no contact with the LGBTQ+ community, there is only fear of something they do not understand, because it IS something they do not understand. Of course it should be a given to respect the people around you anyway, but that was never how humans work. Things they do not understand, they tend to fear. In order to lessen the fear of those who are not so open minded themselves, information sometimes can clear up a mystery and transform it into something normal in the world, because they now understand it. And with this i think, a lot of people can be pulled into the group of informed and open minded humans, who then can inform and lessen the fear of other uniformed ones in the future. And human for humann we transform, hopefully, the society from a fearful unknowing one, to a open minded and informed one that can easily understand needs of others and respect them for what they are ( and not having misconception set in the world by hateful people).
You are being kind and a just a wonderful human being with giving something from yourself to make this transformation happen and progress possible.
I enjoy every video i have seen from you so far and i have learned so much already, that i can teach my children, who can already be part of a better generation. From the age of 5 on ,they learned, that there is more than two gender and that gender ist not always, what a docter sees, when a baby is born. The got it right away and never questioned it to this day.
I know this is an old video and you won't see this, but i case you ever do though: thank you for all your patience with the world
when i got my name changed and went to my bank to get it changed on their system. without even saying anything to them about being trans they quietly said to me 'do you want us to change your gender on our system as well?' which made it more clear to me that i was very clearly a guy and have always passed as 1 even to people who havnt really known me before
well u made a bank account as Jenna, later on you show up asking for change as Jhon, how the heck u think ppl will react to that? u do understand that a lot of ppl dont know how to put it without offending in USA, CA, AU, UK? whats your point here?
@@scorpy21 no my name was never jenna or jhon. My point is my bank let me change my gender on their system even tho legally I'm not Male yet and it made me happy and more comfortable
@@scorpy21 I'm sharing my experience nothing bad about doing that
@@Charlieto from what i`m getting from above is you changed your name from Jenna to Jhon and ppl got confused cuz we all know Jhon wont have boobs poping out their shirt as a male. btw those names Jenna and Jhon were made up to distinguish between male and female easier.
also nothing bad about stating u made an account somewhere as male but u came up and asked to change it under a female name.
as for you gender not being legal, well for your sake i do hope the bank doesnt go bankrupt as it will show you as a female in their system.
i dont understand why u find it weird when u say that your name is Jhon but you look like a Jenna and ppl ask you if you wanna change your gender on an account.
one thing for sure regardless of your gender, when you make a bank account you really want to be as accurate as you can be when you talk about paperwork.
bank gets boom and they say they own 10 000 $ to Jenna, but not to Jhon.
@@Charlieto dono if you notice but if i put an "le" at the end of my name that will look 100% as a female name, altho i`m 100% male and surprise i identify as one. hope you see what i mean when it comes to paperwork
I actually have a bit of a story about "does testosterone change your personality". I've been on testosterone for a little over 6 months, and have been in the process of transitioning for over a year. I recently went to see my dad that I haven't seen in over 10 years. He informed me that I have far more confidence in myself and am more outspoken, to the point his wife mentioned that she was surprised that she enjoyed talking to me.
That might just be less dysphoria (but possibly the testosterone).
@@slvsh77 That kinda goes hand in hand. Taking testosterone helps the dysphoria by make the certain attributes that cause the dysphoria to lessen( voice gets deeper, certain bodily functions stop(for me anyway, so far, as he mentioned may appear again), and just overall feeling better and more comfortable in your body). I'm just saying that testosterone helps me personally both mentally and physically. I just got to experience seeing someone who knew me before and saw me as I am now. I'm actually quite proud of my progress.
And to a comment that I actually can't see on the post, but got a notification for. As for empathy and apathy, I used to get so upset over the littlest things around a certain time of month( to the point of Iwas having panic attacks where I couldn't breathe or think, which went into spiral of despair and depression), now however I find that I can think rationally about most things. I myself am not a very aggressive person, but I come from a rather largely female dominated family. Which are extremely aggressive( I take after my dad, using sarcasm and humor to get through most troubles), speaking only of my family, not women in general. I've found that I am less likely to just take people trying to basically manipulate me into doing things that I would have accepted as my fate and done it(I am working on not being a pushover). I grew up in a family that showed love through actions, not physical touch. That being said I hate being touched, I still panic when people get close. I'm working on that, but while testosterone is helping with my mental state, I think that aspect is going to have to be worked on. This is just my experience though
Estrogen causes mood swings. Testosterone evens everything out. It doesn't change your personality neccesarily, but evens you out. At least that's my theory, but I'm pre-t so I am unsure.
My ex had a bit of a rollercoaster with this. She became a lot more confident and outgoing after she came out, it has been noted by both of our families and a lot of friends. Because she had realized how dysphoric she was, it triggered a lot of depression. Her depression pretty much disappeared after bottom surgery, and now she's just doing a lot better for herself. It's kinda why we broke up, she didn't feel like she needed the support of dating someone and it became stifling when I needed more support and she didn't.
I love hearing how it has gone for you, and how things feel/happen/etc. I still have a lot of fears, doubts, and massive dysphoria. Close to 40 and won't be able to transition till I leave where I am and even then, it's a lot of saving to do and hoping wherever I work is accepting. Watching you is calming, and gives me some hope. Thank you so much.
Please do part three - have you always known that you’re a binary trans guy or ever questioned whether you were non binary?
Also could you do a video on passing/ people thinking you’re cis and your feelings on it
Love those!!
He’s cute! It’s awesome that he’s coming out and sharing so much of his personal life.
How amazing are you ! Answering all those personal questions in such a great way.
I 'm Mum to a non binary teenager who has a trans boyfriend ( love them both so much). I find I'm on a huge learning curve and can sometimes say the wrong things unintentionally. They understand though and don't give me too much of a hard time thankfully.
I have often wanted to ask things ( because I'm curious)but rarely do, after all, someone's body, love life etc etc is their own business.
I just love to see my kid happy, surely everyone deserves that.
I love how open you are. I know some of the questions are super personal and awkward, but you take it all in stride and help people to feel more comfortable in their own Journey. I loved when you talked about your pre transition life, and how it is just a part of you that you don't want to erase, the good and the bad.
You may be the most mentally healthy trans guy I have ever seen, and I am grateful to you for showing us all that we can accept what we are, change what we need to, and go on in life in a healthy way. You are an inspiration.
7:02 THAT WAS A PERFECT LIGHTSABER SOUND! i wasnt looking at the screen and i thought you put in an effect
I Found this channel a year ago. As a teacher, I appreciate your sharing information and stories. I have come upon a student recently who is quite young and was born male. This child often comes to school dressed in gender neutral clothing but occasionally has pink sparkly shoes on which I figured was due to having an older sister. However in the heat of the final days of school, this child came to school in a dress with hair braided. It doesn’t mean that this child has made any distinctive decisions about gender at this young age but I was so grateful for my awareness of this. I am also quite proud of the classroom teacher who has been very welcoming in her classroom and has likely addressed some questions from other students. The other students were so accepting in my classroom and that is great. Educators need more information on how to support children who may be diverse in so many ways.
Thank you for this video! Im straight but have been trying to learn more about the LGBTQ+ community and trans is one of the ones ive been having a harder time comprehending!
Thanks for all your informative, comforting and inspiring videos. You have alleviated so many of my concerns and worries. I am a grandmother of a 14-yr-old trans male and am grateful to have learned more about the transition process, how it is different for everybody and it was also nice to catch a glimpse of you living fully as a trans male. You have answered so many of the personal questions I could never ask him or his parents. What are relationships like before and after, what gender are you attracted to? What are the different surgical options and what do they mean? What does taking T do? What about periods? What are some of the emotional/mental issues he might be grappling with? And thanks for reminding me that in the end it comes down to the choices only he can make to achieve what he wants for himself. A lot of these questions are probably answered in books somewhere, but it's so much better to see you talk about actual experiences and not just hypotheticals.
I'm genderfluid and I can say I feel dysphoria most often when I am feeling very fem or very masc but can't seem to get the right clothing to make my outward appearance match my inner self.
Also my hair. My hair is just... I bounce from a masc faux hawk to a fem bob and then back again- I tried fem bob with undercut that did make me feel good on both spectrums, but most of the time I ended up an upset bean in sweats and a beanie.
That word vomit aside, I enjoyed watching this vid and hearing your answers. They just click so well, making all the light bulbs ting. That makes sense, right? Right?
Okay, I'll stop now.
Non binary, can relate on so many levels
This sounds like being a cishet person picking a hairstyle or clothes.
Well as a girl that bounces between tomboy and princes I get u. I just keep mine so long that I can still tie it back, so I feel like a vintage guy with low ponytail, dunno if that makes sense...
@@FlowerTower except it's not
@@mariam-eh1gg except a lot of y’all cisgender
Your story around the 5:20 mark just opened my eyes. As a 34 year old cis woman, I'm young enough to really see the emergence of the LGBTQ acceptance movement - that sounds awful but I cant think of what to call it, because it sounds like we are barely tolerating the LGBTQ which is not at all what I mean, but that's the best way I can think to describe it right after I've woken up. Feel free, ppl, to respond with a better term. So, my dad used to love watching Ellen's first sitcom. I was 7 when it first aired. When she came out, I was 10. He refused to watch her show when she came out and explained to us why. Then my older brother started calling everyone 'queerbait' and the f word, etc. In my religious household, in my elementary and high schools, being LGBTQ was not at all accepted. I knew I had bi feelings from about age 9 before I ever knew what that meant, and I learned to hide that part of myself until my mid 20s although I have still never hooked up with or dated a woman, largely bc of my family. Anyway, I'm saying all this because it has been amazing to see the changes in society although we all have a long way to go. BUT it has also been a very steep learning curve for me, especially because as my religious affiliation waxed, then waned, then waxed and waned again in my early 20s, my thoughts and feelings about all this changed too. Now, I am totally open and totally accepting, but I still make blunders. I mention this because when I clicked on your video, my reaction was the same as the person at that convention: 'You're trans?! No way! You're not, you can't be! Really? Well, you totally pass. I can't believe you're trans! I'd never have known! You look so good!' I mean, maybe I wouldn't react that strongly but I may have said SOME of those things, and while the intention behind my words is innocent, it's still really icky behaviour. My reaction should be, 'Oh yeah? That's cool!' It conveys that I accept you as you are, shows mt interest in what you're saying, but doesn't make this huge deal about a part of yourself that you can't change. Maybe I'm being too analytical but I can see how making such a big deal about the fact that you pass could make not only you uncomfortable but also others who are insecure that they may not pass. Thanks for being open and for continuing to educate those of us who are here to learn!
And sorry for such a long comment, I'm not fully awake yet and couldn't think of a more succinct way to say that!
I find these types of videos interesting. My brother is trans and you’re explaining things in a way it’s easier to understand. I also have on brother that is bi and one other that I assume is heterosexual as I am. I love them all even though we just found out I am not biologically related to any of my “family”. Apparently the woman formally known as my mother got me at a hospital. That’s all she’ll say. She doesn’t want me calling her mom anymore and my brothers kinda feel the same even though we grew up together. I’ve listed my dna results in the registry. It would be cool to know if I have a family. Only thing about me that was true is I’m Puerto Rican, almost 100% instead of Irish too. I’m still there for my transgender brother and let him know that. Having no family, and my soon to be ex-wife walking out on our sons and I put me into a pretty bad depression. Just telling you because although I’ma cisgender heterosexual man, I enjoy your videos.
That really sucks man. It says a lot of your character that you still support your brothers and send nice messages to strangers on the internet when shitty stuff is happening. I hope things will get better soon for you and that you're safe. Be well :)
Lol I just realized the date. Hope you've gotten through that and are safe and well now*
Susana Restrepo Thank you. Even with the stuff that happened, I will always support my brothers. I treat others how I would hope to be treated. Thank you for your kind message.
I hope things have improved for you and don't worry you still have a family :)
I hate that half of my dreams I am a girl. like everybody's like "oh in my dreams I'm a man and it's an escape from reality" while I'm stuck here being a girl in my dreams, not being able to escape to my dreams.
bruh me tho
Ah man I think our dreams are like, representations of things we're anxious about, or old hang ups, yknow? I've been out of school for years but I had a stressful time at school and I still dream about having loads of deadlines and missing them. It's annoying how your brain drags up old shit 🙄 but you will have good dreams mixed with bad ones, too. The more you confront things in your waking life the less there is weighing on your subconscious, I guess
Jamie is so positive about perosnal stuff, all hands on deck - he's teaching us what they should've taught us in school
1) I'd never ask rudely personal questions,, but thank you for sharing this information. 2) I think some people feel more confident when on T because you're treating the dysphoria, and that's the whole point! (Says the cis-het mama of an n.b. on T.)
Have a blessed day! ❤️
Honestly I never have asked questions about transgender but I never knew that I would benefit so much from learning about someone who became themselves.
I’ve always felt that you should be comfortable in your own skin and I’m not about to judge someone when I don’t live their battles.
For a lot of people it’s figuring out a style and attitude that makes them happy and that goes for anyone and everyone even whom makes changes to their gender. But I never realized the hate and negativity and the rude questions that go on top of deciding to be another gender.
Thank you for making this video and showing us how happy you are just being you even when you’re asked rude questions, thank you for answering those rude questions bc I am ignorant about knowing anything about changing gender.
This would be something I’d watch if I was serious about changing genders. Or if I needed to understand more about it.
If you kick me in the vulva I will react like someone with nuts because guess what, IT'S A SENSITIVE AREA lmaoo. Hitting it right on that venus bone thing.. Girl.. I've been curled up on the floor almost crying tears.
not same thing. thats on the pelvic bone so you really have to aim for that. with guys u just have to focus like hit them from under in general area and sharp brain pain will make them fall as soon as you hit that general area and they will cry like babies.
As a curious cis person, I really appreciate your matter of fact approach. It helps me learn so I can be empathetic and kind to others I come accross in real life. Thank you. You are very brave.
Jaime, saw your bottom surgery video, and then this one. You are looking so much healthier and happier here. Hope things continue to be positive for you in your life.
Oh my thank you so much
I've never been very dysphoric about my... bottom parts compared to my chest (ftm), which has caused a lot of stress and anxiety about "faking" being trans. I could physically _feel_ myself relax when you said not all people experience it the same and now I feel like sobbing in relief. Just. Thanks. So much
I recently discovered that I’m trans and your channel has helped a lot. You have helped me figure out that transitioning is something that I want.
I really like these types of videos :) I'm learning a lot and you're not judgemental about the questions. Thank you for always being open and honest ❤ I hope to see a part 3
He's sooo good-looking.....i mean the best transition ever i guess😁😁
How Arin Sees false
@@pinky7716 kinda just want you to shut up
This doesn't really relate to this video, but i was just thinking about it and figured I'd share my thoughts here.
One thing i find interesting about the "bathroom bills" (people must use the bathrooms that match their assigned gender from birth) is that if you are someone who has fully undergone transition and "pass" as your gender, no one notices that you're using the "wrong" bathroom (sorry for all the quotations, i don't know a better way to phrase what I'm thinking). These bills and bans only effect those that are, for a lack of a better phrase, "obviously" trans. It's purely about people's prejudices and ingrained gender norms. You could be sharing a bathroom with a person who is transgender and not even know it, so why does it matter?
I think the idea of separate bathrooms for men and women is a stupid idea in the first place, but that's a whole separate gripe.
Elizabeth Cox Plus it’ll target cis women who look too masculine or cis men who are very feminine. TERFs has already attacked cis women who “look like men” and called security/etc on trans men in states with those laws
I have seen a video going round on reddit where a butch woman had the police called on her when she was just lining up to use the loo. It was horrible
Agree with your main point. Men and women should have separate bathrooms because: 1. women need safe spaces away from men. 2. Men miss the toilet more than women - particularly where there is alcohol served. I'm not sharing with that 3. Urinals are a good idea - however, I do not want to walk into a room where a load of men have their cocks out, nor do I think they would want me to. 4. Girls going through puberty need somewhere away from boys to change their sanitary products. Stalls are not that private.... 5. I have been assaulted by a man in a women's bathroom. If I thought he had a right to be there, I would not have been so on my guard when I spotted him, so that story may have had a different ending.... There are some good reasons for them to be gender neutral, but for me, the above outweigh them.
@@22SeaJay those are very good points
@Speaking Truth yes! I hadn't even considered Muslim women for example - that's a really good point. My old colleague used to sort her hijab out in the loos - she would literally have nowhere to let her hair down, so to speak....
Tbh and no offense, I only see Hiccup
hOLY SHIT THATS WHO HE REMINDS ME OF
He better play Hiccup in the movie or I am out. ❤️😭
OMG now that you said that 🤭🤭🤭
This is seriously what I wanted to say.
H O L Y S H I T-
a lot of these questions seem too private to normally ask someone. which is not to say that people would not be curious about. so ty sfm for being so open about such personal things! education!! 🌈💖
As someone with anxiety I can kind of imagine what dysphoria feels like in the sense that those thoughts and feelings don't always have a rational or logical reason to exist. So I'm saying this hoping it will reassure you though understanding it may not. I have never thought of your hips as curvy or "womanly". I know it's different seeing people in person than on a screen and also with clothes versus not, but that comment genuinely surprised me when you said that's what currently gives you the most dysphoria because to me you just look like a typical skinny/lanky/tall guy. I'd also like to say how proud I am of you and every trans person who has made their transition I think it's one of the bravest things a person can do and for that I salute you. :)
As a 37 year old “cis” woman I appreciate you explaining all this in your videos! I didn’t know anything about being trans before watching your videos and now I feel so much more educated and I appreciate how you answer every question whether it’s completely ridiculous or serious. You still answer them all, that’s so refreshing to see.
Also, I just want you to know that if I had seen you in public or met you in public I would have had no idea you were trans. You are a very attractive man!
I remmeber watching this last year, struggeling with therapists and wantng to give up everything and now im half a year on Testosterone. Watching your Videos gave me so much strengh to continue with everything and I am so glad that I did because im happier now
I think in this and all of your videos you have handled the topic so well. You've been educating while being tasteful, fun and real. I really have enjoyed and appreciated learning about your journey. Much respect.
Damn if he didnt mention it i would even speculate that he was trans, also he looks good.
I would have thought this person was just gay..
if you watch the video he says he doesn't like these types of compliments
It's really easy for ftm
Murdermagictricks excuse me , w h a t
@@vex5839 its easier to go from female to male
Although sometimes the questions are quite personal, I think that your openness and willingness to discuss uncomfortable topics helps de-mystify things and battle stigmas by helping people understand trans individuals. Unfortunately there is still a lot of ignorance and to this day I still hear people confusing it with transvestism (cross-dressing).
I've had a question for you for some time that I don't think is something you've covered before. I know it's a rather intrusive question, nevertheless, I think it's something very important that all trans men may need to think about. Since I assume that a portion of your viewers are trans men, I'd like to broach the topic for discussion.
I'm a cis female who has had endometrial cancer and had to have a hysterectomy because of it. Without regular screening this could have been a life threatening condition for me.
As a trans person with a uterus, have you continued to see a gynecologist for health screenings? If so, is it awkward in the waiting room or dealing with admin personnel? How have you dealt with this and what are your recommendations for trans men in the same situation?
I’m am a trans male but I am only 13 so I haven’t had to go to any of those kinds of visits and I have wondered the same exact thing for when I get older
Yes, they tell you that you should go the gynecologist, because you still can get cancer or other unhealthy things (I dont know about the time after the complete removal of the ""female"" parts in your stomach).
It's the same thing with your chest. Even though you might have had top-surgery, they still tell you that you should go to the checks, if you have Breast Cancer (because you never know if all of the parts are 100% removed (i dont know the word in english)). At least in my country they tell you to go and see a professional. I guess there might be different rules in other countries.
I hope this is what you meant and it helped
I'm a cis female but I live in the UK and use the NHS, which I think Jamie does too. Here the only regular screening we do is a cervical screening every three years. It's usually performed by a Nurse Practioner at your usual GP. We'd only be referred to a gynaecologist if we've already been diagnosed with a gynaecological problem or if we get pregnant.
yeah im trans in the deep south and i have never seen a gynecologist because i've heard horror stories from other local trans men about being harassed and straight up abused and mocked by personell at womens health centers so i'm like welp. if my uterus takes me out it takes me out. its a rlly big problem and whenever we bring it up even in liberal spaces we get accused of making reproductive health issues about men when its a documented fact that it's not only difficult to access (insurance often won't cover it if you've had your gender changed regardless of your anatomy) and if you can access it there's a high chance it'll be extremely psychologically taxing. i can only speak for the southern US though (ive lived in georgia and texas since i started transitioning), idk if it's this bad in other places
I'm an 18 yr old trans guy from the midwest, and I don't know a single trans guy who has ever gone to a gynecologist post transition. It's hard getting any kind of medical attention while trans, due to the fact that many of us have had to become financially independent at a young age and don't have proper insurance. That's not even taking into account how transphobic the american medical system can be, and how dysphoria inducing getting examined is. The last time I had to be inspected by a professional, I literally wanted to run out of the room. So no, to my knowledge it isn't very common, despite there being some evidence that T can raise your risks of endometriosis and possibly cervical cancer, though bc trans research is so rare it isn't very conclusive. I know for a fact I don't ever plan to step foot in a gynecology office unless I'm getting a hysterectomy. If my uteris ganks me, then c'est la vie I suppose
I really appreciate your openness on your channel. As a bisexual woman I have always been accepting of all LGBTQ people. When my son came out as trans at 17 (which I actually asked him about around a year earlier because I was seeing some changes in style and the like) I was able to embrace him for who he is. But, the curiosity and concern remained surrounding aspects of a full transition and it is wonderful to learn about your experience. It helps relieve that mom worry I have for him. Thank you for your bravery.
Thank you for being such an open communicator and helping people in our community understand transgender concerns. I guess I’m what you call a cis woman. I’m not transgender. However, I have friends and people around me who are that I feel should be ok with who ever they feel they are. This video popped up in my feed and I decided I should watch it because, yes this subject is much more discussed than when I was young. I appreciate that you are willing to have an open forum that can help both cis and trans understand what’s happening in the World, so we can be more supportive to one another. Honestly I just learned a few terms I’ve never heard before which I found helpful. As a nurse, we often work with families that are transgender or part of the LGBTQ community that is changing more daily in terms of respectful identification, open mindedness, and parenting identification role preferences. So, thank you for your uplifting forum and being vulnerable to help others. It definitely helps me as a care provider to be more aware and supportive in our community.
You are like if David tennant and josh from jolly/koreanenglishman had a baby. Thank you for this video! You are so open and honest
I dont know what you looked like before your transformation, but DANG! You a handsome man!!!
Good luck for your journey 👍🏻
I’m a cis woman, and I really appreciate that you put out these videos. They are so informative, and enjoyable to watch. Also, you’re adorable. ☺️
As a high school teacher, I’m so glad I found your channel. It’s so helpful and enlightening to hear your experience. Also, I’ve never heard of bottom surgery until today!
I just wanted to thank you for your positivity and your willingness to answer questions and be candid about the answers. You seem very comfortable in your own skin (hard without dysphoria!) and I appreciate the role model you are for your community. Whatever your life experiences, pre- and post-surgery, they have shaped you into a very capable and healthy person. Thanks again.
So as another trans guy, I've experienced days where I ask myself, "Would I be happier if I'd never realized I was trans or started my transition?" The answer is always no. I'd be purely miserable. It's normal and healthy as a trans person to ask yourself questions like this because you have an opportunity then to re-examine and affirm your feelings and decisions as the right ones for you and your future/past happiness. Some people really like to gatekeep about these kinds of feelings, but don't be ashamed to ask yourself hard questions on bad days.
The person asking about faking hurting when getting hit in the crotch confuses me. I am a cis woman and getting hit in the crotch hurts! It's a matter of degree.
ok, as a woman poke a muscle tendon with a niddle after we can talk about getting hit in the balls as a boy
eustacia03 being hit anywhere to an extent hurts 🤷🏽♀️ I didn’t get that question either. I’m a girl. Born a girl and I’ve been kicked in the private before and it hurt. Being kicked anywhere it’s a gender specific question. It can hurt anyone
Well even though being kicked everywhere hurts, testicles are full of sensory nerve endings, more so than vaginas, and they don't have any more structures to take the hit so the pain people with testicles feel when kicked there is very intense. The point on the question was that if he didn't fake, people would be able to tell something's off because, even though I have not experienced it, the anatomy of both male and female genitalia sheds a light to the difference in being kicked in one and the other
I'm mtf and a year and a half hrt, it's so interesting to hear about the effects going the other direction on the spectrum. I wish my nose got smaller though.
Thanks for sharing Jaime . You and your wife are beautiful people and are most definitely helping me through what feels like the darkest and hardest time of my life. I’m 45 FTM and I’ve been married to my wife for 5 years we’ve been together for 8 . We’ve got a son and although I have the love and support of the two of them I’m just starting my journey to change my body into the person I’ve always been and living in what I call Hell ( South Mississippi. USA) saying that transitioning is difficult is an understatement. We are on public healthcare so that’s the only way I could afford to actually start taking Testosterone but they don’t pay for binders or packers or anything like that, so I get called ma’am several times a day 😒 I’m a patient fella but my dysphoria is through the roof. Especially when it happens in front of my son. He’s 9 and since he was in diapers he’s always called me dad and although I was forced to try and explain the situation to him he’s still too young to understand completely. With all that said your videos and Q&A’s have given me inspiration and shown me other ways to think about things 😌So THANK YOU 🙏🏼
You two are a blessing to me !!!!!
Amazing! All these stories are just allowing our minds to open and to embrace so many ways of being and living! Great to see you are happy!
I got a trans charity ad before this video, and that makes me really happy. :)
"Does your nose get bigger on testosterone?" - that's the best one :D
Again...another awesome informative video. I could listen to to talk about such important issues all day.
And sometimes they're very personal issues.
I love so much how you answer the questions honestly and with such ease, without delving too far into your personal life...ie: your private relationship with Shaaba. Some things are just sacred.
Much Love, as always, from Ontario, Canada🍁...Keli💖
I’m a straight female and have 2 friends who are doing this female to male transition. everything I’ve seen on the internet about this has been mind blowing and I’m trying to understand with compassion. kinda shocked I had no idea all this existed and the surgery you guys get. I’ve never actually wanted to ask them what they are going through because I know it can be a sensitive subject for some. 🤯 what you guys go through as “trans” people is kinda astonishing. I will admit , I was once one of those judgmental people. I couldn’t imagine being that way now. People can live there lives how they choose to. Whatever makes you happy and it’s not harming anyone else, hey more power to you! And Kudos to you sir. It takes a lot courage and strength for one to live their life this way and in their truth. Love and light! 🙏🏾✨
I just wanted to say thank you for making these videos. My kid just came out to me as trans yesterday so I'm doing what I can to better understand how he is feeling and learning what I can do to be supportive and help him. Ive been binge watching your videos and I must say you are an absolutely amazing person and these videos have been very informative for me.
As a child who's parents reacted quite poorly and who are not supportive, I love hearing about parents that are. Thank you for being an awesome parent and your son is lucky to have you. =)
the last question is so true about having doubts, for a while I thought I was trans and wanted to transition to a female, after a few years I came to realised that I loved some of the male parts of me, so I came out as Bigender, I now blend both male and female into my looks
Thanks for answering these questions. I have a friend transitioning now and it provides some insight as to what they may experience, especially the crazy questions.
the thing that boggles my mind is that like... Sir. Ma'am. Gentlethem. Getting kicked in the crotch hurts regardless
"Gentlethem" - I'm using that from now on! Thx!
Yeah but I think it's like a WHOLE other thing hurting your testes. Like it will make you feel almost sick or like you'll even pass out. Whereas getting kicked in the vag is just regular pain haha
"Gentlethem" Wowwwwww... I'm gonna use itttttttt thank you for this.....
It's cool knowing that there are other trans guys out there who don't cry as much anymore. Since I started T about 8 months ago, I've only cried once or twice, when I used to cry a lot. I was always afraid I was basing that on bad stereotypes.
I was once given a piece of advice about being trans that really stuck with me.
If you are trans, and you are on or considered hormones or transitioning and feeling doubt about if you are trans or are just an imposter, know that a cis person would at the very least never think about these things and at worst physically recoil in horror at the thought. Doubt doesn’t mean you aren’t trans, doubt means that you are analyzing yourself and asking if this is right, and you are taking the time to understand who you are as a person. Doubt is natural, and a cis person has none because they never had any before, but a trans person will always doubt themself because they aren’t confident in who they are.
With time the doubt will ease, and your confidence will grow, just remember that no one knows you better than you. People only know what you let them know, so don’t let anyone but yourself tell you who you are.
"2 minutes ago"
Me, at myself: W E A K
same
that profile picture hurts my soul
@@foomf_ gee thanks :)
That pfp is the most reliable thing I have seen all day
The harder to cry thing is due to hormones. Women have more of a certain hormone I forget the name, this means that it takes less stimulation to cry, so you being on male hormones means that suddenly it takes more to make you cry.
Science yeah.
Thank you for your candidness! You’re fantastic
Congratulations for finding who you really are and I salute you for your courage.
Tear duct constipation. I love it! Good on you for getting what you need to feel whole AND finding a partner that loves YOU!
"Tear duct constipation" LMAO
this makes it sound like Jamie poops tears lol
Hehheh how Irish is ya. Hehheh
“Tear duct constipation” 🤣🤣🤣 My husband has that! That’s what I’m calling it from now on!
4:37 that “yes, why not?” Looked so wholesome lol
The part about having doubts about being trans really hit me. I'm a cis bi guy and I still have doubts from time to time about my sexualtiy but if I wasn't bi it "wouldn't really matter" in the sense that I don't have to change anything. Having doubts must be so much worse when you are about to transition or in the process or even after it. Mad respect to all you trans folks for being so strong
Thankyou for your content! As hard as it is to some times discuss or ask these questions. It is nice to see someone being so open about these topics as uncomfortable as it is. Cheers to you! Keep it up!
You have such a lovely kind soul.
I would just like to say that as a non-regular viewer (I know, I'm sorry) your face seems fuller than last time
I would never usually comment on someone's weight, but I know this is something you've been wanting to happen
Yeah. Looks great. Healthy. Happy.
I had an experience at the bank when I was trying to open a savings account and the guy was showing me the screen, I saw it still said miss and I just said "that's says miss" and pointed and the guy was like "oh I can change that, sorry, it's obviously a mistake."
Now it says Mr but my bank card has no title on it lol.
Jamie you’re a light to the world. Thank you for the courage
i think this is really amazing that you answer these crazy and sometimes normal questions. It helps a lot of people understand random things about trans life when they lived in a closed off environment. very cool of you to do. very helpful, informative, and sweet of you.