Gezz, that 16 year old kid that confronted his ''dad'' only to find out he wasn't his dad makes me really sad. He hated someone his whole life for a lie.
Thats when you gotta step back and realize that his Narcissistic bitch of a single mother is the real bad guy here. Lied to her kid his entire life over some petty child support payments
@@jamesluqqy3697 I be cautious to people like that. If female & or male has any of the mental conditions. I worry to child or children being like that.
My mom did that to me to be honest, my whole life she told me my dad was this dude named James and I hated him because he wasn’t there. Well, I met my real dad at 14 and she had been keeping it a secret from both of us even though we were in the same town. She got drunk one night and told him. he immediately stepped in as my father, I’ve lived with him since then, even now I’m 21 and crashing at his house while I’m in college. I was so confused about all my feelings and anger that I held onto for so many years to a person that I didn’t know. After I met my real dad all those feelings of hate and anger went to my mom.
@Fnord Fnordington i think its just you fucked up Americans Canada is wonderful cigarettes are legal weed is legal natives sell rollys for $20 for 200 everything is fine here should move
Its the hardest choice they can do. But when they leave they leave the hate behind and life gets better. Those in abusive relationships. It not your fault. And theres no good in their heart.
Ughgh... receiving Abuse is basically my entire life, I got me and my Older brother away from my mother after realising she had been abusing and brainwashing us for 18 years, I'm 24 my brother is 27, I have numerous Mental health problems and my brother is "Normal" for the most part, he just can't break away from the brainwashing and learned behaviour, which basically means I saved myself and my brother from an abusive future but as my brother struggles with change all he knows how to do is give out abuse, alot of people are trying to help the both of us but my brother is ignoring everything everyone is telling him and it's getting real close to that time where I'm just going to have to abandon my brother for the sake of my own sanity and health as He is reflecting the abuse he witnesses my mother giving me. Sad times and I know he won't be able to manage on his own but I have to put myself first at some point otherwise I could end up dead and I'd prefer to avoid suicide... I'm very intelligent but I am an extremely broken person so I struggle with life, Smart thing is not to die though. Suicide isn't the answer for me either, the world has taught me that as 17 times I've walked to go off myself I've always walked into a friend who has no Idea to this day how many times he's saved me and has no Idea how bad I've been. One day when I'm doing much better or even when my friend feels like he's a bad person I'm going to let him know
You saying this just proves how better of a woman you are compared to those cheap people. Heck even if you’re a guy you’re still a better person than them
The one at 7:45. "The blood of the covenant is thicker than the water of the womb." It's TRUE meaning is that the family you choose is stronger than your blood family. It is just misrepresented and people think it means the opposite.
Woah dude... That's awesome to hear that!! This video and all its stories are taking me on the feels train, partly because I went through something similar.
Thank you! Someone said it. It always bothers me when people get this saying wrong and misunderstand its meaning. My dad uses it all the time, telling my sisters that I 'chose water over blood', and I just laugh because even when corrected he just won't have it. The guy never acknowledges he's wrong, and he's always wrong. xD
This has been debunked, the "covenant/womb" bit was added on to a mistranslation. "The traditional proverb is believed to originate from medieval German poet Heinrich der Glîchezære’s 1180 fable epic Reinhart Fuchs (meaning “Reynard the Fox”) in which he states "ouch hoer ich sagen, das sippe blůt von wazzere niht verdirbet", translating to "I also hear it said, kin-blood is not spoiled by water" in English. It’s believed this refers to familial ties not changing due to distance over the seas." www.quora.com/Where-did-the-phrase-The-blood-of-the-covenant-is-thicker-than-the-water-of-the-womb-come-from
I have a pretty depressing story to tell. Basically, around 7 years ago I was just chilling around my house when I hear someone frantically ringing my doorbell. I’m a very paranoid and cautious person so immediately I was freaked out. I checked who it was and turns out it was my middle school crush! Now I haven’t spoken to him since middle school so this is very awkward. I opened the door and let him in, asking stuff that most people would’ve asked in this situation like “What are you doing here?” and “It’s been so long, how are you?”. He was shaking a lot so I asked him what was wrong. He didn’t really say anything at first, but eventually he opened up to me. He tells me about how is life has been shit for how long and that he can’t take it anymore since he has no one to talk to. I started to think the worst, that he might kill himself. He asked to stay for the night and I said yes. I didn’t have a place for guests to stay in since I had lived a pretty solitary life at the time so he slept on the couch. Flash forward a bit to midnight-ish and I hear lots of crashing and rummaging sounds. Once again, me being paranoid thinks someone just broke into my house. I look into my living room and see my friend seemingly looking for something. Now if I was close with him I would’ve went OFF, but I wasn’t so I was concerned about his mental health by now. I approached him and he is shaking like crazy. When I asked what he was doing he turned around to look at me and started sobbing. He walks over and starts hugging me and crying on my shoulder. I was then very uncomfortable but I liked it you know (middle school crush remember). I didn’t know what to do so I just hugged him back. After around a minute or so he stopped crying and tells me he is going to the bathroom. I am very worried now and wait for him on my couch. After how long, he still hasn’t come out. I check and the door’s still locked. I open it with my keys and he’s not on the toilet. I instinctively open my shower curtains and there he is. He had slit his throat with a knife he found somewhere in my kitchen Someone who I haven’t talked to in 10 years had just killed themself in my bathroom. Skipping all the boring stuff about calling 911, if I murdered him, blah blah blah, it ended up with me having to decide what to do with his body. I chose to let him be buried. To this day it still fucks me up whenever I think about it. I could’ve stopped him and he might still be alive today. Where ever you are Henry, I hope your doing okay now.
That last part about "I could've stopped him" No you couldn't have. It's not your fault. You did what anybody would've done. A lot more, actually. I wouldn't have let someone I haven't talked to since middle school sleep on my couch.
Man this makes me very grateful for the awesome family I have, 99% of my parents, sisters, uncle and aunts are the best and I couldn't wish better. Thanks God.
@@cockroach-q9i there has been this uncle on my father's side with alcohol problems and was just generally rude and stuff, but he died around the time I was born. And a nephew who has big time money problems but doesn't want to listen to our family even though they all lend him help, but they won't fully support him until he stops being so stubborn and listens to them. But those are just 2 "rotten" (not even that bad) apples in my family. Either way the nephew is still a nice person overall, just stubborn and in a hella lot of debt. He probably also has alcohol issues but either way, my family overall is awesome.
7:16 I hate when people quote the blood is thicker than water saying because they always do it wrong. The full saying is “The blood of the covenant is thicker than the water of the womb," meaning the bonds you forge by choice are stronger than the ones of family. It literally means the opposite of what most people think it does so when I hear it misquoted it bothers me.
Ay. Blood is thicker than water doesn’t mean “family is stronger than friends.” The full phrase is “the blood of the covenant is thicker than the water of the womb.” Essentially that relationships formed through choice are stronger than those through birth.
natkatmac well technically it is now true, as people are using it like that nowdays What is true cannot be debunked now can it? And language and meanings change So it is nowdays said like that so theres noting to debunk
@@eemelisaurila9940 The 'full phrase' is new, true. What I have beef with is people claiming that it's centuries old and that the short phrase is the butchered one. Look around these video comments for that.
I know this isn’t reddit but I’ll tell my response here : I left my old life 2 years ago and it had been the most difficult but best decision. My father had a tendency for kicking me out and then getting pissed when I would actually leave so he would call the police. They always caught me at school. Well he finally did it during summer and I took that opportunity to get the hell out. I was 15. My mom lived 16 hours away but somehow after about a month I convinced someone to drive me. And even though some negatives have happened I feel like if I hadn’t left he would have bullied me so badly to the brink of death. I’m still not in an amazing state but I just got an apartment with my partner of 8 months and right now I’m feeling good. So I say if you have the opportunity to leave a shit situation fucking grab that bitch by the balls.
When the travel ban is lifted, I will drive 4.5 (10 hour) days in as straight a line as possible (to get home) and still be in the same country never having left it.
*appears offline* *continues playing online* *joins the same For Honor match as me* Me: Oh, looks like you lied, guess I'm going to constantly murder you until you appear online again. *Records the decimation of "Thorn"* (That's a part of his name)
"Blood is thicker than water" means "The blood of the covenant is thicker than the water of the womb." It literally means that the ties we make when we make a commitment to one another are stronger than the ties that are forced upon us by being related.
@サイレントボイス Kind of. The first inscription is from Reynard the Fox from Medieval Germany. "Kin-blood is not spoiled by water." I haven't read the epic so I don't know the context. Though, fun fact, a Navy Commodore used the phrase as his reasoning for helping a British ship during the Second Opium War.
If it weren't for cotton eye joe, I'd been married long time ago, where did you come from where did you go, where did you come from cotton eye joe? I remember his song from chrome web store extension Cat Pet Meow or something like that.
This was (I think?) my favorite song when I was a kid and couldn't understand the lyric at all bcs I hardly spoke a few words of English. :D Not sure if the memory is made up tho… but I sure loved the song haha
TiaHaruka0 that’s exactly what I was thinking. I wanted at least to know the next step, but honestly watching the video just left me more confused than to begin with. I want to believe in the idea that you can start fresh, but honestly I don’t know how realistic it is... kinda sucks
The secret... Getting to the point in your life where you don't care what has to be done... Feeling that anything that could happen from the point you step out the door could not be worse than what would happen (or what you would do to yourself) if you stayed in said situation a moment longer (or ever again). Balls to walls is a terrifying place to put a human being... for both parties engaged.
My daughter got thrown in jail. The cops told me she was a math addict and I told them. Why the hell you thrown her in jail!? She's just a good study, it's unbelievable that people can get arrested for studying. So proud of my lil girl ❤❤❤❤
The title is the thread and the comments are the comments from said thread. The video is exactly what it says it is, people just keep telling adjacent stories that don’t answer the actual question.
I have one and would glad if you read it. :) So this isnt my story but my brothers but we've had a rough couple years since 2015 my mother has been dating an arse hole of a guy which me and my brothers and sister had to deal with for a long time he has physically abused us and mentally scared us as well but one day was a day i dont think i can forget,A chill evening im watching my brother play his video games with his friends enjoying himself as well with my little brother watching too, We're watching him play then my mothers boyfriend calls down my older brother to have him do something he may have forgotten to do as maybe something simple as a chore (dish in the sink,take the trash out etc.) Call him down and....... it went to hell so fast the previous night they had a little argument because they dont get along very well neither of us do soo, but he calls him down to yell at him for something he didnt do and sh*t escalated quickly and (we'll call him bob as my mothers bf) and bob grabs my brother and yanks him into a wall now keep in mind bob is like 35 my brother is 16 huge difference there puts a whole in the wall and continues to bang on my brother while im watching this from the top of my steps from my room and i call 9 1 1 while my mother is trying to get bob of my brother finally hes stops my brother walks outside and just keep walking while he was walking bob took his stuff and tossed it onto the porch (game,clothes,everything) and my brother hasnt been home since lives with his best friend of probably 6 years now and he's been doing amazing since that traumatic night works a part time job gets good money has money saved up for a car almost has his license ready and has a trip to Puerto Rico for his gf family and i really look up to him cuz my father hasnt been much help with the situation and that was abt 3 years ago so dont worry life has been pretty good since thanks for letting me share :)
I was 14 on my way home from school. It was my birthday. I texted my mum il be home after dinner as my aunty was gonna make me dinner with all my cuznz. I never went back home. I just stayed there till i left school. *my mum was in a abusive relationship with my step dad.
@@doublenaut443 nah i never went to that shithole i called home. I moved back with my mum at 17. But the damaged had been done to her from my step dad. She was scary to me. So i left again. And never lived or really talked to her since. She'll leave me drunken msgs but thats about it
I was in a really, REALLY bad relationship with my mother for years. Four years ago i realized i was done with her bullcrap after a huge argument. I was crying and said that I'll go for a walk to cool off. I took only my wallet, phone, charger and nothing else and just never came back, moving to a different city. She didn't even message me after for once.
The Family ones really got me in the feels. My Mother is an Alcoholic and an Abuser that tried to kill me on multiple occasions when I was a toddler- she almost did once but on that day my Dad came home early and saw her drunk with a knife standing over my bed. Honestly, we hear a lot about Shitty Fathers on Media, but there are also Shitty Mothers who shouldn't be allowed to keep a pet rock, let alone a Child.
When I was 24 I got up and walked out of an abusive marriage. Hardest thing to do EVER. Didn't tell him (or pretty much anyone else) where I was. Lived in 6 different places in 10 weeks until I got myself sorted out. He was a narcissistic sociopath. I had what I would consider PTSD from the experience. He called me 7 years later and asked me why I left. I very calmly told him all the things I could think of off the top of my head. After that phone call I started getting better. 10 years on after THAT and I'm doing well and he has left the country.
"Narcissistic Personality Disorder is more common in men than women" "Men only abuse women" Both sayings are completely incorrect in my opinion. Reading these people's experiences, most of the abusers are women, very narcissistic women, and most of the victims are men. I can relate to this. Most women in both my dad's side of the family and my mom's side of the family are narcissistic. My abusers have all been women. As a bisexual man, no male that I've dated treated me like dog shit, but the women I've dated have. Men that are victims never come out to admit it because society expects them to be emotionless. My mother abused both me and dad for so long, and we knew if we stood up for ourselves, we would be the ones in trouble, not her. I only know a few sane women in my life right now, my dad's gf and some friends that are girls. Again this is my opinion, okay?
From what I've read, narcissism is somewhat equally spread throughout the population as a whole, but it tends to show more often in some bloodlines than others simply because people are incapable of standing up for themselves without fear of repercussions. More often than not, abusers are made from narcissists who have found somebody to control, not born independently of them.
you cant say a personality disorder being more/less common in a sex as an "opinion". a statistic is not an opinion. you are using a couple of personal stories to make a very general assumption.
That first story may one day happen to a cousin I know. Some woman told him he's the father and for like 2-3 years he was this kids dad. He moved to find better work opportunities and be closer to family in another state, and to my knowledge stated in contact with the mom and the kid. Well, him moving away and not being around, and her unwillingness to follow him probably lead her to finally reveal he wasn't the father and she got into contact with the real dad. I'm pretty sure the cousins name is on the kids records and if it one day turns out that this new guy isn't the father as well I can see the kid one day looking him up thinking he's the dad who left his mom. Even if still together the kid might make a phone call to talk to his father of 2-3 years. Side note. This whole situation had made adamant about asking any girl I'm with in the future who gets pregnant, girlfriend or wife, for a paternity test. I get its probably insulting to the woman, but I wouldn't back down about this. If the relationship gets serious I'll probably bring it up before any planned or unplanned pregnancy and hope hearing about my cousin won't make them feel I don't trust them. Seriously, I'm not taking any chances.
It’s actually really interesting. It may be because this is how men deal with abuse compared to women, which is why this subreddit has a male focus. But regardless, a lot of the mothers/girlfriends/etc. In this thread sound awful.
Lavish If someone were to comment this about there is a lot of men, they wouldn't be able to hear the end of how it's all feminist BS. Gender really has nothing to do with this, both genders can be equally horrible.
Throne Deathfall actually yes it is, a two minute google search would tell you this. But it’s actually an old quote that actually means that blood shed in battle bonds soldiers more strongly than simple genetics. Even though we commonly use it to suggest the strength of family ties, it doesn't refer to family at all.
My mom lived in California, was in college, worked two jobs and was in a very abusive relationship. Her (obviously now ex) had smashed her table and that was the moment she decided enough was enough. She packed everything she could into her car, drove across the country to NJ to stay with her dad. She got a job, made new friends. Her friends asked her to go out for a night (two weeks into jersey) and that's when she met my dad and never looked back. Its been over 25 years:)
7:30 “My grandma knows my parents are crazy.” Someone with this family dynamic explain why your relatives don’t believe their own mother. In my experience, mothers ALWAYS know which of their kids turned out the craziest.
I was with my friend the day her mother decided to abandon her and her family. We were around 8 or 9 years old and I still remember perfectly when her mom said "I'll go to get a new haircut, I'll get back in a few hours" When it was getting late we started to worry, we spent the rest the day searching in every hairdressing, until all of them closed, asking if they had seen her mother and all of them said no. A few days later they got kicked out of their house (the owners were my friend's aunts, how can you leave your 8 y/o niece without a home??). Years later her mom returned, and told her she left her bc of her drug addiction and promised her that wouldn't happen again. The promise lasted 2 months... My friend hasn't seen her mom ever since But now my friend is happier, her father stopped taking drugs, he got a job and is a really good and tolerant father. And she has a lots of friends and is loved by everyone :) she's really kind-hearted, it's impossible not to love her
The kid that moved to Alberta really hits hard cause I live there and all of these stories seem really far away but it’s crazy thinking how many people live in abusive homes and leave just to be safe.
Yeah, and the original version of that saying is 'the blood of the covenant is thicker than the water of the womb' - meaning the exact opposite of what it means today. The bonds you choose are more important than the ones you're born into.
How did they get the money to escape? I love hearing these stories, but the pain of knowing no one is there to support you or catch you when you fall is soul crushing.
Tbh the thought to run away is very appealing. I have nothing much to look forward to. Thinking about just getting in the car, driving in a direction , walking when the gas runs out, and just do whatever I want until I drop dead.
The brother one is a very good one. Making sure hes okay and what his intentions are and since they weren't to harm himself to let him learn the way he needs to.
I sorta did this. Mom was very abusive/mentally unstable. We were losing our apartment. My grandparents in the Midwest offered to take me in. I told her I was going to live with my grandma after I graduated. Didn’t make it till then. As soon as she found out I was trying to leave, she became 10x more abusive. She would slap/push me if I passed her in the hallway, she would stand in my door way just staring at me refusing to move and trap me there while she screamed at me and called me names. She wouldn’t let me leave the house. Then she would also keep saying “you won’t leave, you’re too stupid to be on your own” and wouldn’t accept it. I told her during this “if you treat me like this, I won’t ever talk to you again when I leave. I’ll cut you off forever.” And she rolled her eyes and didn’t listen. Moving day came and she basically didn’t even say goodbye to me, just sulked. I took a moving van 3 days from the coast to the Midwest. Promptly blocked her number and everywhere else. We didn’t speak for 3 years. Reconnected later for a visit mostly to see my sister and Grandma; she said “you left and never even looked back!” And I said yeah that’s what I said :/ I blocked her number again. Family supports my decision. Sister moved in with me as soon as she was 18. My mom considers me “estranged”. I had to drop out of school my senior year to move early bc of the abuse. Going back to get my diploma this year. :)
I quit heroin and meth, left Bkersfield, CA, and moved to San Diego. Best thing I've ever done w/ my life. EVERYTHING is getting better and better, albeit little by little.
I have a story of my own. I was super depressed and a harmer. I even had my suicide planned for December 13th 2017. And an old friend reconnected with me. He found out my depression had worsened over the years and convinced me to move halfway across the US and live with him and some buddies. I did. I told my mom I was going to spend the weekend with my grandma the next town over (15 min away). I went over there. Dyed my hair, cut it short (not in that order) and had my older sis take me an hour in the opposite direction so I could catch a bus. Why'd I leave? My mom was emotionally abusive and manipulative and had just married a man who kept trying to force me to pay rent when I worked a minimum wage job and already payed for my own food and did chores. Would progressively take my things if I didn't apply for 5 jobs a week. Last straw was when he took the TV out of my room. I was 19. I'm 21 now and I guess me showing I had the balls to up and leave was enough to put them in their place cause now they treat me the same as my sister. (I had to move back to my home state for reasons.)
i wish i was in a situation to where i could leave. My mom gets emotionally and a little verbally abusive. And she drinks at least five beers a night. If i could leave i would. I would do almost anything. but i cant (legally or without causing a scene). props to you all for having balls enough to get out. Always remember all types of abuse are abuse, you are not invalid.
A few months ago I did the light version of "leaving everything behind". I lost my job and on the same evening without telling anyone, took the train to austria (about 650 miles away from my place) and started hiking through the austrian alps. Was a spontaneous decision and went without equipment and without enough money to even buy a ticket to get back home. Was pretty much the worst breakdown i´ve ever had. I was 1000 kilometers away from home, no money, phone almost dead. Had to call my dad at 11am to transfer some money to my account to get something to eat and get a ticket to go back. Had to wait til the next day because the next train home arrived at 10 pm. Had to stay outside for the night, but glady I had enough weed with me to skip some time
I think it's the one with the Abusive Mother... not surprising really. Unlike what they want you to believe, statistically women are more likely to be the aggressor in abusive relationships. But what they want is for the man to hit back and then the media becomes in a uproar and accuse the male. Disgusting really
My dad was in hospital after being attacked and suffering a bleed on the brain. He recovered rather quickly and was allowed out for cigarettes. He's always hated hospitals (related to his mother's death) and whenever he's had to be admitted to hospital, he always ended up running away. This time, he went out for another cigarette and ran away. (He was homeless at the time.) We didn't hear from him for a week and decided to report it to the police. They found out he was back in the hospital in an induced coma. The night he ran away from the hospital, he went back to where he normally slept, A multi story Carpark near the beach, and he ended up having a seizure and passing out. God bless the person who found his body unconscious and called the police, who then called an ambulance. (It's extremely hard to get a hold of police anywhere in Western Australia and you have to pay $900 if you call put an ambulance so nobody does.) He has now almost completely recovered after he suffered a 2nd brain aneurysm and he's heading down a good road. He *is* physcotic now but he takes medication for it as well as anti seizure medication. Quite recently he didn't take his anti physcotic medication, went absolutely crazy and ran away, but ended coming back to the hospital at 5am. He says that a demon possessed him that night. I love telling his story a lot and I'm so proud of the person he came out of the mess as. He's now going dry/sober and life is looking better for him
I walked out on my dad during an argument last year. He and his wife (my step mother) were screaming at me because I used my computer to write stories instead of work (for reference I was 19, and am currently 20). I got so tired of their shit that I just got up from the couch, and walked out the door. I ended up getting a ride from one of the neighbors who saw me sprinting down the block, and I got taken to my friend's house. Currently, I live with her and her family as well. They treat me wonderfully and I finally graduated from community college this past Spring. I hope to move on to University as well. I've spoken to my dad and his wife a couple of times, but now have his number blocked on my phone because he started to harass me about not spending time with him more. Not a long epic saga, but it was quite the experience!
one of my great grandfathers went out for cigarettes once, this was in communist Poland in the 60s. he drove to the ocean next to Poland, rented a boat that would never be returned, and got to germany, where he rented a car and drove to france. he was very poor, and barley survived. he did actually get cigs but he never married, or saw his children again. he did it just to escape communism. it was that bad. he told his kids, that he just couldnt afford to take with him, that he was sorry, and he lived a slightly depressing life in france but at least he wasnt starving. he did go back to poland after communism wasnt a thing in poland anymore, and found out that his kids died in the military and his wife died from starvation. its kinda sad, but at least he was ok. he never gave up on his journey and that really inspired me the first time i heard it. no he is not alive anymore. i never met him, i am too young to have been able to meet him.
I went fishing with my dad this morning. And my mom came by my house and dropped off burgers, baked beans, potatoe salad and hotdogs for me and my wife. I am greatful for them everyday I wake up. Some of these stories crush me. Especially about the one where his father left and committed suicide when he was young.
My father was verbally abusive. Death threats every night, drunken rambles all the time, and guilt shaming me for being sympathetic to my mother who was suicidal because of the terrible abuse he's put her through. One day I packed a bag with the essentials and his the streets of Vegas for about a day before I managed to get my mother to fly in and pick me up for Kentucky. That was in November. I still struggle with murderous thoughts and the wanting to enact a master plan to end his life. I just got my first therapy session 2 days ago.
The guy who left his girlfriend who it always had to be about - i had a friend who was always getting made redundant from her admin jobs - because she could NEVER NEVER take feedback and it was ALWAYS someone else's fault. Eventually I stopped being in contact. Years later I had the chance to tell her exactly why I stopped being a friend. It was great and I THOROUGHLY recommend it!
I started working without my family's permission around the age of sixteen. Wasn't allowed to learn how to drive "until I was eighteen" because my dad didn't trust me to not drive off and never come back. They did the same thing to my sister, but luckily my sister was social enough to have friends teach her. I wasn't so lucky. I was saving up to be able to get out of the house the minute I was eighteen... my mom stole all my money and lied to me about it for two years. My dad was physically and emotionally abusive and I swear my mom lost it due to his abuse. My sister, brother, and I self harmed. I tried to run away and failed. Finally, I sent a text to my grandma saying "I know my mom is your daughter and you love her dearly, but I have to tell you what's going on. I've tried everything I can think of and I need help." I explained everything going on. That my siblings and I haven't had proper food for months because my mom was blowing money off on her own shit instead of getting groceries, that dad refused to do anything about it, etc. That month I left to stay with her until I could get my paperwork again, got a job and into college, and moved my sister and brothers away from them. After that point my mom stopped protecting my dad and justifying his behavior and left as well. They're getting a divorce and my mom is back with my siblings and doing much better. I'm living on my own and due to move out with my boyfriend in a couple of months. It's been two years since I've left and I've never been happier. Even started to go to therapy for my PTSD, my therapist has been great reminding me of who I am past the shit they drilled into me.
My story isn't the exact same as the ones in this video. But I left my dad and his wife just before Thanksgiving during a therapy session. Due to my dad giving my younger brother a concussion, custody changed from my dad to my mom for the first time in over 10 years since they divorced. We had been constantly abused physically, mentally and emotionally from my father nearly our entire lives. It's to the point where I have no self confidence, my brother and I both have depression, and I have severe social anxiety. After the custody change, we were assigned court ordered therapy to talk things out. During one session, my father, mother, brother, therapist and myself were all in the same room. My therapist I think was asking us what we're all thankful for since it was nearly Thanksgiving. I honestly couldn't remember what anyone said until I was spoken to, being asked to give my response. I looked around the room, into my dad's eyes and told him, "You said you could replace me with Dan (half brother) and that you could do it any time you wanted. Feel free to. I'm not going back." And I sprinted from the office into the downstairs bathroom. I nearly cackled with delight from what I did. It wasn't untill I was called by my mom that I left the room and hugged my mom and brother. This was about three years ago, I haven't seen or talked to my dad since and I honestly couldn't be happier, my mind may not be as stable as I wish it was but it's better than when I was there.
Soon it will be 100 years since my mother's Aunt Dessie walked away from her life in East Texas, just in the middle of helping her sister, my grandma get ready for her marriage to my grandfather. Wish like mad we could ask Dessie this question, but no one knows where she ended up. The only trace is a letter she sent some weeks later to her widowed father, looking to clear up some nasty rumors that had gotten started when someone saw a male friend to helping her lift a suitcase. She wanted her dad to know that when she'd left her husband and son, it wasn't for another man - only another life. Apparently she just wasn't content to sit at home with an ordinary man who worked hard all day and returned ready to spend the night and that their own home rather than go out and have a good time. Around 1933, and while there wasn't a lot of money in the country, apparently there was a lot of energy left in Dessie. But that's all we know.
All these people are victims of a narcissistic parent, and are usually the scapegoat of the family. And they were all lucky and strong enough to get out in time. Best thing ever for them!
"Sometimes I see people I used to know, and sometimes they recognize me, but mostly I just keep to myself and spend time with better people than those I left years ago." I think I'm in the middle of one of these sentences right now =(
Imagine thinking youre about to roast your dad, just to find out your mom was actually sleeping around and somehow couldnt find the real biological dad... how upsetting.
My mother was emotionally abusive and probably mentally ill (always saw herself as the victim in everything, was paranoid) but im 18 now and our relationship is better, mostly because I now know exactly how to deal with her, and she knows she can’t scare or do anything to me because I don’t see her as a mother.
Never really left. I still live in the same city as my immediate family. I moved out and stopped talking to them 10 years ago. Only spoke to one of them once since them. No regrets.
Gezz, that 16 year old kid that confronted his ''dad'' only to find out he wasn't his dad makes me really sad. He hated someone his whole life for a lie.
Thats when those ancestry tests can come in handy
Dude the mom is human trash
Thats when you gotta step back and realize that his Narcissistic bitch of a single mother is the real bad guy here. Lied to her kid his entire life over some petty child support payments
@@jamesluqqy3697 I be cautious to people like that. If female & or male has any of the mental conditions. I worry to child or children being like that.
My mom did that to me to be honest, my whole life she told me my dad was this dude named James and I hated him because he wasn’t there. Well, I met my real dad at 14 and she had been keeping it a secret from both of us even though we were in the same town. She got drunk one night and told him.
he immediately stepped in as my father, I’ve lived with him since then, even now I’m 21 and crashing at his house while I’m in college. I was so confused about all my feelings and anger that I held onto for so many years to a person that I didn’t know. After I met my real dad all those feelings of hate and anger went to my mom.
I find the lack of cigarettes in this story disturbing.
Agreed
Fnord Fnordington
Look at the thumbnail.
@Fnord Fnordington And? I see millions of people smoking, the government isnt doing jack shit
@Fnord Fnordington i think its just you fucked up Americans Canada is wonderful cigarettes are legal weed is legal natives sell rollys for $20 for 200 everything is fine here should move
@Fnord Fnordington hey well smoking is --- *you know*
All of those who left their abusers are incredibly strong. Makes me very grateful for my parents being not shitty.
Its the hardest choice they can do. But when they leave they leave the hate behind and life gets better. Those in abusive relationships. It not your fault. And theres no good in their heart.
@The TacomaKid Go away CIA
@@mr.serious707
Hey bud, it's okay to leave an abusive relationship. You don't owe them anything
Ughgh... receiving Abuse is basically my entire life, I got me and my Older brother away from my mother after realising she had been abusing and brainwashing us for 18 years, I'm 24 my brother is 27, I have numerous Mental health problems and my brother is "Normal" for the most part, he just can't break away from the brainwashing and learned behaviour, which basically means I saved myself and my brother from an abusive future but as my brother struggles with change all he knows how to do is give out abuse, alot of people are trying to help the both of us but my brother is ignoring everything everyone is telling him and it's getting real close to that time where I'm just going to have to abandon my brother for the sake of my own sanity and health as He is reflecting the abuse he witnesses my mother giving me. Sad times and I know he won't be able to manage on his own but I have to put myself first at some point otherwise I could end up dead and I'd prefer to avoid suicide... I'm very intelligent but I am an extremely broken person so I struggle with life, Smart thing is not to die though. Suicide isn't the answer for me either, the world has taught me that as 17 times I've walked to go off myself I've always walked into a friend who has no Idea to this day how many times he's saved me and has no Idea how bad I've been. One day when I'm doing much better or even when my friend feels like he's a bad person I'm going to let him know
Yeah but literally everyone on redit lies
Can we get big respect for the boss who set him up for a new job
Yes.
Mega respect.
That's how mafia works
Respeccatory respectation in meganess of the highest order
That was amazing
My dad has been playing hide and seek with me for 18 years but I still can't find him
Maybe under the table
maybe in alabama
maybe in the liquor store?
Maybe at the grocery store, or the park?
maybe he is the best hide and seeker
Sad how many of those are men being abused by women and who are not believed 🙄
Yup. Both parents can be wrecking a family apart.
Lunsch Ski totally agree. If a woman hits a man she should have consequences as well. Violence is not the answer.
LovelyRamirez FamilyChannel ah yes a respectable woman
Yes
You saying this just proves how better of a woman you are compared to those cheap people. Heck even if you’re a guy you’re still a better person than them
The one at 7:45.
"The blood of the covenant is thicker than the water of the womb."
It's TRUE meaning is that the family you choose is stronger than your blood family.
It is just misrepresented and people think it means the opposite.
Woah dude... That's awesome to hear that!! This video and all its stories are taking me on the feels train, partly because I went through something similar.
Thank you! Someone said it.
It always bothers me when people get this saying wrong and misunderstand its meaning. My dad uses it all the time, telling my sisters that I 'chose water over blood', and I just laugh because even when corrected he just won't have it.
The guy never acknowledges he's wrong, and he's always wrong. xD
That's false bro. That was made up after the fact
This has been debunked, the "covenant/womb" bit was added on to a mistranslation.
"The traditional proverb is believed to originate from medieval German poet Heinrich der Glîchezære’s 1180 fable epic Reinhart Fuchs (meaning “Reynard the Fox”) in which he states "ouch hoer ich sagen, das sippe blůt von wazzere niht verdirbet", translating to "I also hear it said, kin-blood is not spoiled by water" in English.
It’s believed this refers to familial ties not changing due to distance over the seas."
www.quora.com/Where-did-the-phrase-The-blood-of-the-covenant-is-thicker-than-the-water-of-the-womb-come-from
where did you hear that? Because it's been debunked.
5:03 Gotta give credit to the boss. It always amazes me to see some unexpected help from others.
12:16
“I know my username doesn’t reflect it, but I’m a Mom of two boys.”
“[deleted]”
Ok.
🔥
this question is from 2015 lol
it was u/sirlongfarts
thank you marinette, very cool
fatima ʕ•ᴥ•ʔ should I ask how you know?
I have a pretty depressing story to tell.
Basically, around 7 years ago I was just chilling around my house when I hear someone frantically ringing my doorbell. I’m a very paranoid and cautious person so immediately I was freaked out. I checked who it was and turns out it was my middle school crush! Now I haven’t spoken to him since middle school so this is very awkward.
I opened the door and let him in, asking stuff that most people would’ve asked in this situation like “What are you doing here?” and “It’s been so long, how are you?”. He was shaking a lot so I asked him what was wrong. He didn’t really say anything at first, but eventually he opened up to me. He tells me about how is life has been shit for how long and that he can’t take it anymore since he has no one to talk to. I started to think the worst, that he might kill himself. He asked to stay for the night and I said yes. I didn’t have a place for guests to stay in since I had lived a pretty solitary life at the time so he slept on the couch.
Flash forward a bit to midnight-ish and I hear lots of crashing and rummaging sounds. Once again, me being paranoid thinks someone just broke into my house. I look into my living room and see my friend seemingly looking for something. Now if I was close with him I would’ve went OFF, but I wasn’t so I was concerned about his mental health by now. I approached him and he is shaking like crazy. When I asked what he was doing he turned around to look at me and started sobbing. He walks over and starts hugging me and crying on my shoulder. I was then very uncomfortable but I liked it you know (middle school crush remember). I didn’t know what to do so I just hugged him back.
After around a minute or so he stopped crying and tells me he is going to the bathroom. I am very worried now and wait for him on my couch. After how long, he still hasn’t come out. I check and the door’s still locked. I open it with my keys and he’s not on the toilet. I instinctively open my shower curtains and there he is.
He had slit his throat with a knife he found somewhere in my kitchen
Someone who I haven’t talked to in 10 years had just killed themself in my bathroom.
Skipping all the boring stuff about calling 911, if I murdered him, blah blah blah, it ended up with me having to decide what to do with his body. I chose to let him be buried.
To this day it still fucks me up whenever I think about it. I could’ve stopped him and he might still be alive today. Where ever you are Henry, I hope your doing okay now.
That last part about "I could've stopped him" No you couldn't have. It's not your fault. You did what anybody would've done. A lot more, actually. I wouldn't have let someone I haven't talked to since middle school sleep on my couch.
SilverSmoke
Thanks for that, this is the first time I’ve told someone this story and knowing that it might’ve not been my fault helps a lot
You did so much more than you know. That’s a fucked thing to go through, but you handled it so much better than anyone could have. Stay strong ✌🏼
You did the best you could and its not your fault
Whos henry? The middle school crush? Im so confused, i thought you said he died, so how could.you wonder where he is or if hes.ok??
Man this makes me very grateful for the awesome family I have, 99% of my parents, sisters, uncle and aunts are the best and I couldn't wish better. Thanks God.
What about the other 1%?
@@cockroach-q9i there has been this uncle on my father's side with alcohol problems and was just generally rude and stuff, but he died around the time I was born. And a nephew who has big time money problems but doesn't want to listen to our family even though they all lend him help, but they won't fully support him until he stops being so stubborn and listens to them. But those are just 2 "rotten" (not even that bad) apples in my family. Either way the nephew is still a nice person overall, just stubborn and in a hella lot of debt. He probably also has alcohol issues but either way, my family overall is awesome.
Same man love my family and I am blessed 👌🏿🤟
Same dude. I've gained a whole new appreciation for my family
Ayoubelk please hug and tell your family you love them, I’m very jealous of what you have. Never take advantage of what you have been blessed with.
My dad is a great magician, he disappeared but he said it was tricky to reappear, I hope he figured it out after 20 years
7:16 I hate when people quote the blood is thicker than water saying because they always do it wrong. The full saying is “The blood of the covenant is thicker than the water of the womb," meaning the bonds you forge by choice are stronger than the ones of family. It literally means the opposite of what most people think it does so when I hear it misquoted it bothers me.
Intresting. Thanks for the info
Is that so? A much cooler quote ngl
Thanks for that info. Very interesting.
I know what you mean, it really bother me too.
Googled it out of curiousity and it has nothing to do with family or relations. Its meaning points to the bonds of soldiers in warfare.
Im glad my dad never did this, he went to buy some milk 13 years ago but he should almost be back
Lolice damn traffic lol 😂 milks gonna be warm
Lolice got some gas and left yo ass
It's obvious why he left you.
Ay. Blood is thicker than water doesn’t mean “family is stronger than friends.” The full phrase is “the blood of the covenant is thicker than the water of the womb.” Essentially that relationships formed through choice are stronger than those through birth.
New fav quote
That's been debunked.
natkatmac well technically it is now true, as people are using it like that nowdays
What is true cannot be debunked now can it? And language and meanings change
So it is nowdays said like that so theres noting to debunk
Ive heard it also rephrased as that tho TBH
@@eemelisaurila9940 The 'full phrase' is new, true. What I have beef with is people claiming that it's centuries old and that the short phrase is the butchered one. Look around these video comments for that.
I know this isn’t reddit but I’ll tell my response here :
I left my old life 2 years ago and it had been the most difficult but best decision. My father had a tendency for kicking me out and then getting pissed when I would actually leave so he would call the police. They always caught me at school. Well he finally did it during summer and I took that opportunity to get the hell out. I was 15. My mom lived 16 hours away but somehow after about a month I convinced someone to drive me. And even though some negatives have happened I feel like if I hadn’t left he would have bullied me so badly to the brink of death. I’m still not in an amazing state but I just got an apartment with my partner of 8 months and right now I’m feeling good. So I say if you have the opportunity to leave a shit situation fucking grab that bitch by the balls.
gl with whatever you doing stranger!
clement to you as well!
Listening to some of these stories really makes me appreciate my situation alot more.
The more serious questions on Reddit do the same for me
Same. I never had to run away except for this one time.
Ikr man Love yall have great lives may we meet again and not know we ever met on youtube
YA PLAYA HATERS YOU SHOULD LOVE YOURSELF BRR HOW ARE YOU EVERYWHERE?!
BTS Kookie What? 😂😂
Americans "I drove 12 hours and was still in the same country"
Me "I drove 12 hours and ended up in Germany (from Manchester, UK)"
Hell, if you are in the right place, you can drive 12 hours and still be in the same state.
undead890 yeah some of our states are bigger than countries. Look at Alaska. Wow. That thing is like 5 small countries combined.
@@qwertyasdf4081 Alaska is smaller than only 15 countries in the world.
undead890 from the top of California to the bottom is a 12 hour drive exactly
When the travel ban is lifted, I will drive 4.5 (10 hour) days in as straight a line as possible (to get home) and still be in the same country never having left it.
Sometimes we just gotta say-" I'm boutta head out"... and walk out of a shithole relationship/ situation we're in
Xbox friend: alright im going offline
*appears offline*
*continues playing online*
*joins the same For Honor match as me*
Me: Oh, looks like you lied, guess I'm going to constantly murder you until you appear online again.
*Records the decimation of "Thorn"* (That's a part of his name)
@@jadsmvs8651 But WHY did he leave? Meow
5 states in 12 hours?!?!? You fast. Or live in the North East.
Antoine Wright any other Northeast boys here besides me?
Pulling Your Leg nah
Yeah
How about 6 in 10 hours? THAT is how you road trip
Antoine Wright north east.
"Blood is thicker than water" means "The blood of the covenant is thicker than the water of the womb." It literally means that the ties we make when we make a commitment to one another are stronger than the ties that are forced upon us by being related.
Source? Google search says otherwise.
@@natkatmac maybe it's just an alternative interpretation
@サイレントボイス Kind of. The first inscription is from Reynard the Fox from Medieval Germany. "Kin-blood is not spoiled by water." I haven't read the epic so I don't know the context.
Though, fun fact, a Navy Commodore used the phrase as his reasoning for helping a British ship during the Second Opium War.
It’d be nice if that’s what it means tbh. Not that I don’t believe I just haven’t heard that before
*Me literally just thinking about the one lyric from Hey Brother by Avicii and y'all are over here with this*
There’s a difference between being blood and family. These people might share your blood, but they aren’t family if they treat you like that.
0:05 and where did you come from, cotton eye joe
If it weren't for cotton eye joe, I'd been married long time ago, where did you come from where did you go, where did you come from cotton eye joe?
I remember his song from chrome web store extension Cat Pet Meow or something like that.
@@Anonymous-xu9ld last time i heard that was when i went to Tennessee lmao
Man, I wanna join the navy.
This was (I think?) my favorite song when I was a kid and couldn't understand the lyric at all bcs I hardly spoke a few words of English. :D Not sure if the memory is made up tho… but I sure loved the song haha
No Man
2:50 was a great line. "Car can't go in reverse. Don't care, I'm only going forward anyway."
Honestly the timing of this video being posted seems like a sign
TiaHaruka0 that’s exactly what I was thinking. I wanted at least to know the next step, but honestly watching the video just left me more confused than to begin with. I want to believe in the idea that you can start fresh, but honestly I don’t know how realistic it is... kinda sucks
The secret... Getting to the point in your life where you don't care what has to be done... Feeling that anything that could happen from the point you step out the door could not be worse than what would happen (or what you would do to yourself) if you stayed in said situation a moment longer (or ever again). Balls to walls is a terrifying place to put a human being... for both parties engaged.
Reddit story: "years"
Every reddit speak bot: "YURS!"
I'm convinced they have an accent.
When your smallish hometown gets mentioned in one. Holy shit that felt weird
Pasco
Or newpot news
I'm like 30 minutes from Pasco, it does seem weird
Bruhhhhh west richland is where im from
Newport news? I'm from a nearby town so that was weird
9:08 I hate it when all of my friends are doing math. Darn mathematicians.
My daughter got thrown in jail. The cops told me she was a math addict and I told them. Why the hell you thrown her in jail!? She's just a good study, it's unbelievable that people can get arrested for studying. So proud of my lil girl ❤❤❤❤
The title is slightly different from the actual video. Still, great video :D
The title is the thread and the comments are the comments from said thread. The video is exactly what it says it is, people just keep telling adjacent stories that don’t answer the actual question.
Went out for cigarettes means leaving without notice and never come back
@@eugenesmells5373 but also it says where did you go and not many said that
@@booty_hunter4207 obviously not everyone can say that
“Went for cigarettes” is an expression for lying about something, going and not coming back.
To everyone who had the courage to leave a bad situation, pat yourself on the back.
*AND KEEP SHINING!*
We'll im about to be part of one of theese types of storys, wish me luck.
Good luck I'm right behind you
You can do it!!1
Gage Boyce good luck buddy.
Good luck, make your life your dream
Good luck, be safe
I have one and would glad if you read it. :)
So this isnt my story but my brothers but we've had a rough couple years since 2015 my mother has been dating an arse hole of a guy which me and my brothers and sister had to deal with for a long time he has physically abused us and mentally scared us as well but one day was a day i dont think i can forget,A chill evening im watching my brother play his video games with his friends enjoying himself as well with my little brother watching too, We're watching him play then my mothers boyfriend calls down my older brother to have him do something he may have forgotten to do as maybe something simple as a chore (dish in the sink,take the trash out etc.) Call him down and....... it went to hell so fast the previous night they had a little argument because they dont get along very well neither of us do soo, but he calls him down to yell at him for something he didnt do and sh*t escalated quickly and (we'll call him bob as my mothers bf) and bob grabs my brother and yanks him into a wall now keep in mind bob is like 35 my brother is 16 huge difference there puts a whole in the wall and continues to bang on my brother while im watching this from the top of my steps from my room and i call 9 1 1 while my mother is trying to get bob of my brother finally hes stops my brother walks outside and just keep walking while he was walking bob took his stuff and tossed it onto the porch (game,clothes,everything) and my brother hasnt been home since lives with his best friend of probably 6 years now and he's been doing amazing since that traumatic night works a part time job gets good money has money saved up for a car almost has his license ready and has a trip to Puerto Rico for his gf family and i really look up to him cuz my father hasnt been much help with the situation and that was abt 3 years ago so dont worry life has been pretty good since thanks for letting me share :)
I'm happy that you shared, it usually makes feel better to talk about such things. Have a good day, both you and your family!
R u still living in the same house as Bob
I was 14 on my way home from school. It was my birthday. I texted my mum il be home after dinner as my aunty was gonna make me dinner with all my cuznz. I never went back home. I just stayed there till i left school.
*my mum was in a abusive relationship with my step dad.
What the hell is a cuznz
@@eldara3 cousins
Wait so you went back home or???????0
@@doublenaut443 nah i never went to that shithole i called home. I moved back with my mum at 17. But the damaged had been done to her from my step dad. She was scary to me. So i left again. And never lived or really talked to her since. She'll leave me drunken msgs but thats about it
@@cryptocruise71 Hope you're good now, wishing you the best!
Couldn't bear my life in America. I felt like I was wasting my life, so one day I bought a ticket and moved to Argentina. Best choice ever
at 18 i moved out of a abusive foster home in Ireland
I havent been back to that house in 4 years and i dont ever want to go back there again
Tereas Downes I live in Ireland so that makes me sad
Dude, I did the exact same thing. Have been living in Argentina since 2002.
I thought I was the only one who wanted to take his rusty pos to Cali and never look back. I needed to hear that story😭😭
I was in a really, REALLY bad relationship with my mother for years. Four years ago i realized i was done with her bullcrap after a huge argument. I was crying and said that I'll go for a walk to cool off. I took only my wallet, phone, charger and nothing else and just never came back, moving to a different city.
She didn't even message me after for once.
"i'm 36, and i'm older than my dad ever was" shit that broke my heart
The Family ones really got me in the feels.
My Mother is an Alcoholic and an Abuser that tried to kill me on multiple occasions when I was a toddler- she almost did once but on that day my Dad came home early and saw her drunk with a knife standing over my bed.
Honestly, we hear a lot about Shitty Fathers on Media, but there are also Shitty Mothers who shouldn't be allowed to keep a pet rock, let alone a Child.
Women are angels fallacy
It's true, good or bad parenting is not a gender issue! It's a human one.
Actually, the one around 8:40 is my boyfriend. And I'm the girl his family was 100% against. :D
Ooohhhh
Lies
When I was 24 I got up and walked out of an abusive marriage. Hardest thing to do EVER. Didn't tell him (or pretty much anyone else) where I was. Lived in 6 different places in 10 weeks until I got myself sorted out. He was a narcissistic sociopath. I had what I would consider PTSD from the experience. He called me 7 years later and asked me why I left. I very calmly told him all the things I could think of off the top of my head. After that phone call I started getting better. 10 years on after THAT and I'm doing well and he has left the country.
"Narcissistic Personality Disorder is more common in men than women"
"Men only abuse women"
Both sayings are completely incorrect in my opinion. Reading these people's experiences, most of the abusers are women, very narcissistic women, and most of the victims are men. I can relate to this. Most women in both my dad's side of the family and my mom's side of the family are narcissistic. My abusers have all been women. As a bisexual man, no male that I've dated treated me like dog shit, but the women I've dated have. Men that are victims never come out to admit it because society expects them to be emotionless. My mother abused both me and dad for so long, and we knew if we stood up for ourselves, we would be the ones in trouble, not her. I only know a few sane women in my life right now, my dad's gf and some friends that are girls.
Again this is my opinion, okay?
From what I've read, narcissism is somewhat equally spread throughout the population as a whole, but it tends to show more often in some bloodlines than others simply because people are incapable of standing up for themselves without fear of repercussions. More often than not, abusers are made from narcissists who have found somebody to control, not born independently of them.
you cant say a personality disorder being more/less common in a sex as an "opinion". a statistic is not an opinion. you are using a couple of personal stories to make a very general assumption.
Yeah it’s kinda a way for them to lie
:(
Dude, these legit made me feel really awful. Each and every one of these people deserve any happiness they found.
That first story may one day happen to a cousin I know. Some woman told him he's the father and for like 2-3 years he was this kids dad. He moved to find better work opportunities and be closer to family in another state, and to my knowledge stated in contact with the mom and the kid. Well, him moving away and not being around, and her unwillingness to follow him probably lead her to finally reveal he wasn't the father and she got into contact with the real dad. I'm pretty sure the cousins name is on the kids records and if it one day turns out that this new guy isn't the father as well I can see the kid one day looking him up thinking he's the dad who left his mom. Even if still together the kid might make a phone call to talk to his father of 2-3 years.
Side note. This whole situation had made adamant about asking any girl I'm with in the future who gets pregnant, girlfriend or wife, for a paternity test. I get its probably insulting to the woman, but I wouldn't back down about this. If the relationship gets serious I'll probably bring it up before any planned or unplanned pregnancy and hope hearing about my cousin won't make them feel I don't trust them. Seriously, I'm not taking any chances.
A real woman should be able to accept that in my opinion. Especially if you tell them your intentions before they ever get pregnant
Thats dumb
This just reminds me that no matter what bad situation you are in, the only one to blame for still being there is yourself
not surprised that many of these are because of abusive women
@Lavish
....what does gender have to do with this
@@kae2818 you always here about a man being abusive but you never here how women can be abusive to men and this brings it to light
It’s actually really interesting. It may be because this is how men deal with abuse compared to women, which is why this subreddit has a male focus. But regardless, a lot of the mothers/girlfriends/etc. In this thread sound awful.
Lavish If someone were to comment this about there is a lot of men, they wouldn't be able to hear the end of how it's all feminist BS. Gender really has nothing to do with this, both genders can be equally horrible.
Women are more likely to abuse their children
7:43 Actually it is but the full quote goes as follows:
"The blood of the covenant is thicker than the water of the womb"
Actually no it doesn't, stop believing shit you read on tumblr
Throne Deathfall actually yes it is, a two minute google search would tell you this. But it’s actually an old quote that actually means that blood shed in battle bonds soldiers more strongly than simple genetics. Even though we commonly use it to suggest the strength of family ties, it doesn't refer to family at all.
Throne Deathfall family is what you make it. If it’s through genetics or friendship. It all depends on the circumstances
Mikasa Ackerman I did the 2 min search, it actually does refer to family, and how being across seas from them doesn’t weaken that bond.
I'll be leaving in a few years tbh
Hideous Hank same, but i’m in no rush, i’m just letting the flow of life do its thing and not worry about what anyone else thinks
@@gunnasintern For me it will be 4 years +/- few months for searching jobs far far away
I agree I have a nice place but idk who is going to sell me out
I'm leaving in a few weeks. I wish you all the best.
@@EricMtuhuru So do we to you!
My mom lived in California, was in college, worked two jobs and was in a very abusive relationship. Her (obviously now ex) had smashed her table and that was the moment she decided enough was enough. She packed everything she could into her car, drove across the country to NJ to stay with her dad. She got a job, made new friends. Her friends asked her to go out for a night (two weeks into jersey) and that's when she met my dad and never looked back. Its been over 25 years:)
7:30 “My grandma knows my parents are crazy.”
Someone with this family dynamic explain why your relatives don’t believe their own mother. In my experience, mothers ALWAYS know which of their kids turned out the craziest.
I was with my friend the day her mother decided to abandon her and her family. We were around 8 or 9 years old and I still remember perfectly when her mom said "I'll go to get a new haircut, I'll get back in a few hours"
When it was getting late we started to worry, we spent the rest the day searching in every hairdressing, until all of them closed, asking if they had seen her mother and all of them said no. A few days later they got kicked out of their house (the owners were my friend's aunts, how can you leave your 8 y/o niece without a home??).
Years later her mom returned, and told her she left her bc of her drug addiction and promised her that wouldn't happen again. The promise lasted 2 months... My friend hasn't seen her mom ever since
But now my friend is happier, her father stopped taking drugs, he got a job and is a really good and tolerant father. And she has a lots of friends and is loved by everyone :) she's really kind-hearted, it's impossible not to love her
What if you don't have a life?
100 Subs No Content Challenge hey. You will get 100 subs.
You probably will just be careful of the women in your life, They can become vipers at a moment's notice
He doesent have a life tho..
We're halfway there boys.
I will help you on your quest
The kid that moved to Alberta really hits hard cause I live there and all of these stories seem really far away but it’s crazy thinking how many people live in abusive homes and leave just to be safe.
Watching and reading threads like this makes me so grateful for the caring supportive family I have
These stories give me hope that I'll be okay when I run away from my abusive family. Thank you for posting this.
I don't even have a life to leave behind
You are not dead
Same
I could leave to a different country and the only person that would know/find out would be my mother
It never has to stay that way. Do something about it.
You always have one to start
Lesson here is that when someone walks away silently, it's generally because they feel unable to explain themselves or have tried and failed.
Imagine spending your whole life trying to find someone just to find them and they're not the person you're looking for
I see *[deleted]* everywhere, meaning that I see this person in every reddit video I watch. This person must have a lot of stories to tell.
"Blood is thicker than water"
You know what else is thicker than water? Shit.
Just because it's thicker, doesn't mean it's better.
Yeah, and the original version of that saying is 'the blood of the covenant is thicker than the water of the womb' - meaning the exact opposite of what it means today. The bonds you choose are more important than the ones you're born into.
Tacita Koe “original version” :’)
Not my shit.
i love reading these and understanding that random strangers can be more genuine kind and happy for you rather than your close ones
How did they get the money to escape? I love hearing these stories, but the pain of knowing no one is there to support you or catch you when you fall is soul crushing.
Man the family stories make me so grateful for my family.
Tbh the thought to run away is very appealing. I have nothing much to look forward to. Thinking about just getting in the car, driving in a direction , walking when the gas runs out, and just do whatever I want until I drop dead.
The brother one is a very good one. Making sure hes okay and what his intentions are and since they weren't to harm himself to let him learn the way he needs to.
as someone who's lived abusive with family all my life and plans to move out soon this was the most motivating and satisfying video i've ever watched.
Don't daydream about it. Sit down and plan things out and make preparations (get a job, save up money, etc.). Best of luck.
I sorta did this.
Mom was very abusive/mentally unstable. We were losing our apartment. My grandparents in the Midwest offered to take me in. I told her I was going to live with my grandma after I graduated. Didn’t make it till then.
As soon as she found out I was trying to leave, she became 10x more abusive. She would slap/push me if I passed her in the hallway, she would stand in my door way just staring at me refusing to move and trap me there while she screamed at me and called me names. She wouldn’t let me leave the house. Then she would also keep saying “you won’t leave, you’re too stupid to be on your own” and wouldn’t accept it.
I told her during this “if you treat me like this, I won’t ever talk to you again when I leave. I’ll cut you off forever.” And she rolled her eyes and didn’t listen.
Moving day came and she basically didn’t even say goodbye to me, just sulked. I took a moving van 3 days from the coast to the Midwest.
Promptly blocked her number and everywhere else. We didn’t speak for 3 years. Reconnected later for a visit mostly to see my sister and Grandma; she said “you left and never even looked back!” And I said yeah that’s what I said :/ I blocked her number again. Family supports my decision. Sister moved in with me as soon as she was 18. My mom considers me “estranged”.
I had to drop out of school my senior year to move early bc of the abuse. Going back to get my diploma this year. :)
Gonna prank my dad when he comes home!
Day 818: Gonna prank my dad when he comes home
I quit heroin and meth, left Bkersfield, CA, and moved to San Diego. Best thing I've ever done w/ my life. EVERYTHING is getting better and better, albeit little by little.
9:41
*"It isn't YOUR choice to move"*
I have a story of my own. I was super depressed and a harmer. I even had my suicide planned for December 13th 2017. And an old friend reconnected with me. He found out my depression had worsened over the years and convinced me to move halfway across the US and live with him and some buddies. I did. I told my mom I was going to spend the weekend with my grandma the next town over (15 min away). I went over there. Dyed my hair, cut it short (not in that order) and had my older sis take me an hour in the opposite direction so I could catch a bus. Why'd I leave? My mom was emotionally abusive and manipulative and had just married a man who kept trying to force me to pay rent when I worked a minimum wage job and already payed for my own food and did chores. Would progressively take my things if I didn't apply for 5 jobs a week. Last straw was when he took the TV out of my room. I was 19. I'm 21 now and I guess me showing I had the balls to up and leave was enough to put them in their place cause now they treat me the same as my sister. (I had to move back to my home state for reasons.)
i wish i was in a situation to where i could leave. My mom gets emotionally and a little verbally abusive. And she drinks at least five beers a night. If i could leave i would. I would do almost anything. but i cant (legally or without causing a scene). props to you all for having balls enough to get out. Always remember all types of abuse are abuse, you are not invalid.
A few months ago I did the light version of "leaving everything behind". I lost my job and on the same evening without telling anyone, took the train to austria (about 650 miles away from my place) and started hiking through the austrian alps. Was a spontaneous decision and went without equipment and without enough money to even buy a ticket to get back home. Was pretty much the worst breakdown i´ve ever had. I was 1000 kilometers away from home, no money, phone almost dead. Had to call my dad at 11am to transfer some money to my account to get something to eat and get a ticket to go back. Had to wait til the next day because the next train home arrived at 10 pm. Had to stay outside for the night, but glady I had enough weed with me to skip some time
Can somebody help me figure out which poster is my dad?
lmao
@@Verschal what if they're not joking.
I think it's the one with the Abusive Mother... not surprising really. Unlike what they want you to believe, statistically women are more likely to be the aggressor in abusive relationships. But what they want is for the man to hit back and then the media becomes in a uproar and accuse the male. Disgusting really
@@CazzyVR what in the god damn hell are you talkin' about
@@CazzyVR the unspoken truth
My dad was in hospital after being attacked and suffering a bleed on the brain. He recovered rather quickly and was allowed out for cigarettes. He's always hated hospitals (related to his mother's death) and whenever he's had to be admitted to hospital, he always ended up running away. This time, he went out for another cigarette and ran away. (He was homeless at the time.) We didn't hear from him for a week and decided to report it to the police. They found out he was back in the hospital in an induced coma. The night he ran away from the hospital, he went back to where he normally slept, A multi story Carpark near the beach, and he ended up having a seizure and passing out. God bless the person who found his body unconscious and called the police, who then called an ambulance. (It's extremely hard to get a hold of police anywhere in Western Australia and you have to pay $900 if you call put an ambulance so nobody does.) He has now almost completely recovered after he suffered a 2nd brain aneurysm and he's heading down a good road. He *is* physcotic now but he takes medication for it as well as anti seizure medication. Quite recently he didn't take his anti physcotic medication, went absolutely crazy and ran away, but ended coming back to the hospital at 5am. He says that a demon possessed him that night. I love telling his story a lot and I'm so proud of the person he came out of the mess as. He's now going dry/sober and life is looking better for him
I walked out on my dad during an argument last year. He and his wife (my step mother) were screaming at me because I used my computer to write stories instead of work (for reference I was 19, and am currently 20). I got so tired of their shit that I just got up from the couch, and walked out the door. I ended up getting a ride from one of the neighbors who saw me sprinting down the block, and I got taken to my friend's house.
Currently, I live with her and her family as well. They treat me wonderfully and I finally graduated from community college this past Spring. I hope to move on to University as well. I've spoken to my dad and his wife a couple of times, but now have his number blocked on my phone because he started to harass me about not spending time with him more. Not a long epic saga, but it was quite the experience!
one of my great grandfathers went out for cigarettes once, this was in communist Poland in the 60s. he drove to the ocean next to Poland, rented a boat that would never be returned, and got to germany, where he rented a car and drove to france. he was very poor, and barley survived. he did actually get cigs but he never married, or saw his children again. he did it just to escape communism. it was that bad. he told his kids, that he just couldnt afford to take with him, that he was sorry, and he lived a slightly depressing life in france but at least he wasnt starving. he did go back to poland after communism wasnt a thing in poland anymore, and found out that his kids died in the military and his wife died from starvation. its kinda sad, but at least he was ok. he never gave up on his journey and that really inspired me the first time i heard it. no he is not alive anymore. i never met him, i am too young to have been able to meet him.
I love these more up beat comedic videos, please keep it up! 😂
yeah lmao fuck those other "comedy" reddit post this is the real shit here
...What?
Wow. I'm glad I came from a loving family. Nothing but love and support in my family.
5:58 Can we get a round of applause for this grandma
I went fishing with my dad this morning. And my mom came by my house and dropped off burgers, baked beans, potatoe salad and hotdogs for me and my wife. I am greatful for them everyday I wake up. Some of these stories crush me. Especially about the one where his father left and committed suicide when he was young.
4:27 hope he thanked that friend like, *a lot*
Yeah
As a father this hurts me. My son is my everything. I can’t ever imagine hurting him like some of these “parents” did to their own children. Ugh !
Hide and seek champion 18 years
My father was verbally abusive. Death threats every night, drunken rambles all the time, and guilt shaming me for being sympathetic to my mother who was suicidal because of the terrible abuse he's put her through. One day I packed a bag with the essentials and his the streets of Vegas for about a day before I managed to get my mother to fly in and pick me up for Kentucky. That was in November. I still struggle with murderous thoughts and the wanting to enact a master plan to end his life. I just got my first therapy session 2 days ago.
My mom went to the grocery store and hasn't been back for 7 years. I guess she still can't find the milk. Ha! I love my mom!
What happen
The guy who left his girlfriend who it always had to be about - i had a friend who was always getting made redundant from her admin jobs - because she could NEVER NEVER take feedback and it was ALWAYS someone else's fault. Eventually I stopped being in contact. Years later I had the chance to tell her exactly why I stopped being a friend. It was great and I THOROUGHLY recommend it!
OP lookin for his dad, also WHERE DID YOU COME FROM WHERE DID YOU GO, WHERE DID YOU COME FROM ABANDONING PERSON
Where did you come from, Where did you go, Where did you come from Cotton Eye Joe
*Banjo banjo banjo*
@@cecilyvincent6173 thank you. You made my day
*Banjo intensifies*
@@chaytonnnn no prob your comment made mind:)
I started working without my family's permission around the age of sixteen. Wasn't allowed to learn how to drive "until I was eighteen" because my dad didn't trust me to not drive off and never come back. They did the same thing to my sister, but luckily my sister was social enough to have friends teach her. I wasn't so lucky. I was saving up to be able to get out of the house the minute I was eighteen... my mom stole all my money and lied to me about it for two years.
My dad was physically and emotionally abusive and I swear my mom lost it due to his abuse. My sister, brother, and I self harmed. I tried to run away and failed. Finally, I sent a text to my grandma saying "I know my mom is your daughter and you love her dearly, but I have to tell you what's going on. I've tried everything I can think of and I need help."
I explained everything going on. That my siblings and I haven't had proper food for months because my mom was blowing money off on her own shit instead of getting groceries, that dad refused to do anything about it, etc.
That month I left to stay with her until I could get my paperwork again, got a job and into college, and moved my sister and brothers away from them. After that point my mom stopped protecting my dad and justifying his behavior and left as well. They're getting a divorce and my mom is back with my siblings and doing much better. I'm living on my own and due to move out with my boyfriend in a couple of months. It's been two years since I've left and I've never been happier. Even started to go to therapy for my PTSD, my therapist has been great reminding me of who I am past the shit they drilled into me.
don't mind me, just looking for my dad here lmao
My story isn't the exact same as the ones in this video. But I left my dad and his wife just before Thanksgiving during a therapy session.
Due to my dad giving my younger brother a concussion, custody changed from my dad to my mom for the first time in over 10 years since they divorced. We had been constantly abused physically, mentally and emotionally from my father nearly our entire lives. It's to the point where I have no self confidence, my brother and I both have depression, and I have severe social anxiety. After the custody change, we were assigned court ordered therapy to talk things out. During one session, my father, mother, brother, therapist and myself were all in the same room. My therapist I think was asking us what we're all thankful for since it was nearly Thanksgiving. I honestly couldn't remember what anyone said until I was spoken to, being asked to give my response. I looked around the room, into my dad's eyes and told him, "You said you could replace me with Dan (half brother) and that you could do it any time you wanted. Feel free to. I'm not going back." And I sprinted from the office into the downstairs bathroom. I nearly cackled with delight from what I did. It wasn't untill I was called by my mom that I left the room and hugged my mom and brother.
This was about three years ago, I haven't seen or talked to my dad since and I honestly couldn't be happier, my mind may not be as stable as I wish it was but it's better than when I was there.
I wish I could give every one of these posters a hug.
I am with you. +1hug to everyone from me.
Soon it will be 100 years since my mother's Aunt Dessie walked away from her life in East Texas, just in the middle of helping her sister, my grandma get ready for her marriage to my grandfather. Wish like mad we could ask Dessie this question, but no one knows where she ended up. The only trace is a letter she sent some weeks later to her widowed father, looking to clear up some nasty rumors that had gotten started when someone saw a male friend to helping her lift a suitcase. She wanted her dad to know that when she'd left her husband and son, it wasn't for another man - only another life. Apparently she just wasn't content to sit at home with an ordinary man who worked hard all day and returned ready to spend the night and that their own home rather than go out and have a good time. Around 1933, and while there wasn't a lot of money in the country, apparently there was a lot of energy left in Dessie. But that's all we know.
This makes me wanna run away though I have no reason to lmao
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All these people are victims of a narcissistic parent, and are usually the scapegoat of the family. And they were all lucky and strong enough to get out in time. Best thing ever for them!
I feel like I just watched a sad AMV. Anyone that’s going through tough times just know that one day it will all get better
"Sometimes I see people I used to know, and sometimes they recognize me, but mostly I just keep to myself and spend time with better people than those I left years ago."
I think I'm in the middle of one of these sentences right now =(
Imagine thinking youre about to roast your dad, just to find out your mom was actually sleeping around and somehow couldnt find the real biological dad... how upsetting.
That kid held a grudge for 16 years only to find out he had been hating the wrong person his entire life.
My mother was emotionally abusive and probably mentally ill (always saw herself as the victim in everything, was paranoid) but im 18 now and our relationship is better, mostly because I now know exactly how to deal with her, and she knows she can’t scare or do anything to me because I don’t see her as a mother.
That all happiness thing just made me wanna leave home
Never really left. I still live in the same city as my immediate family. I moved out and stopped talking to them 10 years ago. Only spoke to one of them once since them. No regrets.