That's exactly how I felt after a perm, but in a hair sarlon. My hair just broke off. And they weren't dyed or anything, they just broke. And just before the wedding. Back then my hair was waist-deep, after that it was really short. My first husband wanted perms for our wedding, my regular hairdresser was against it, his hairdresser implemented it. I ended up Sunday mornings at 7 a.m. with my regular hairdresser, who tried to save what could be saved and preached to a curtain... My advice: if the man thinks your natural hair sucks, you should think the man sucks. Would have saved me a lot of suffering
Woman #2 is truly an inspiration. She has her emotions in check and knows the difference between circumstances that do and don't require a total meltdown. She admits her mistakes at the end and accepts the situation for what it is. And even with the depression she mentions, she still holds it together for her kids and realizes the consequences of letting them see her in freak out mode over this. That is a strong AF woman. Props to her, fr.
The mom keeping it together for her kids while dying inside. I want to hug her. I hope she looks back at this and realizes how strong and beautiful she is.
A woman carries a miracle, or becomes the mother to a miracle. And the world makes her feel scared, incompetent, and worthless. It enrages me that they don't feel like the confident queens they r, because of outside influences.
@@JNMKlover the "world" doesn't make her feel any of that. INDIVIDUALS that hate motherhood and childrearing are what causes her to feel that way. And in today's society, an increasing number of those individuals is female. Mother-shaming and birth-shaming amongst females has become a thing. If you know any feminists out there, congratulate them. This new problem is on them.
Not only you're a talented hairdresser, but also a great person inside and out. I love how you praise women and you look beyond their hair fails. This planet needs more people like you Sir!
I heard a licensed cosmologist say she doesn’t believe that relaxer should be available to the unlicensed public, and I agree with her 100%. Too strong of a chemical to play with.
Restrictions and laws don’t solve anything and wouldn’t stop people from relaxing their hair. I don’t have a license and can buy just about anything a stylist can. It’s everywhere for sale. Apart from that people will find a way. It’s sodium hydroxide that can be bought in many places. There would be videos on recipes everywhere. Yeah will never work. I’m against more laws and restrictions in most things. A few bad apples or dumb ones spoiling our freedoms. No ma’am.
I’m 48 and I haven’t relaxed my hair in decades, but in high school, girls relaxed their own hair and we were perfectly fine! We were not part of the nanny generation where everything has to be legislated. I also dyed my own hair between the ages of 20-40 something. When we were kids, our parents relaxed our hair and nothing happened. The people in the video didn’t have anyone to teach them how to do it right! That’s their problem.
HB isn’t just a hairdresser,. He understands the psychological effect of your self worth and confidence, and how it effects your decisions to desperately make change to your image. What a gem you are HB!!
Thank you for telling us with curly hair that its fine the way it is . A lot of people think its a compliment to say some people look better with their hair straight and its not personally. I love my curls and the only reason I was afraid to embrace them growing up is because people made fun of how big my hair was but now i enjoy how voluminous my curls are because I've learned to embrace my natural .
My hair is super straight (and thin) and people sometimes said it looks like its glued to my head when I use conditioner (it is not sooo untrue ;)). Great to read you like your natural hair :)
All my life I would have killed for naturally curly hair. I love it! Oh, no, honey! Be proud of your hair! Could be like me with this thin, fine stuff that only looks good cut short!
I am the opposite. My hair is very straight and I always wanted curls. I got perms that didn't look good. I accept my hair now the way it is and wear a Bob. Dear greetings
I was taught my natural curls were "unprofessional" and looked too messy. As a kid I just put it in a pony tail. When I was a teen I got a flat iron and fried my hair daily for at least a decade because I thought I had "bad hair". It wasn't until I was in my late 20s that I realized my natural hair is beautiful. I hate I wasted so much time, money, and effort to try to meet someone else's standard of beauty.
@@myqueerplantfamily Please don't hate yourself 🤗, but celebrate yourself for overcoming the old, and loving yourself the way you are for the rest of your life! That's wonderful! 💖 I've had so many classmates tell me my eyebrows are too big and the top corners are ugly that I plucked them all out. Now there are a lot of holes that won't fill up, hmmm... But that was an important experience for me; it has taught me to examine first if I really care about what others don't like about me, or if I can just take that as purely personal opinion of the other that has no meaning to me, such a learning experience is worth a lot! And fortunately there are eyebrow pencils...😁
Pro tip! Do not use relaxer on hair that has been permed, bleached, or vice versa. Your hair will melt! It's the same chemical reaction as Nair (hair remover cream)!!!
Thank you for the tips. Quick and maybe stupid question 😬. If you want to relax your hair don't you have to put the relaxer only on the scalp and not on the lengths?
I really appreciate the perspective you gave on the second woman’s video. No bashing, no insults, but compassion. She was already broken from depression and holding on by a thread to keep it together for her kids. I really hope that she has someone/somewhere to go to let go of what she’s carrying sometimes. That burden is heavy.
Whoever the second women is, is a damn inspiration! What a wonderful mother always thinking of her emotions and reactions in reference to how they’ll impact her kids lives forever. Poor mama. You are so beautiful and show how good moms always think of their kids. I wish my mom was more like u.
When you are depressed or when you feel you are not in control I see a lot of people try to gain control with their hair and end up taking out on their hair ! I'm a hairdresser and watching these videos breaks my heart .
I relapsed and then chose to recover and get it together. Part of relapse for me is that I just don’t give myself love or my hair love. When I decided to crawl out from the bottom of a bottle, I started with a shower, I could not stand touching my hair as it broke off (I am black). So I hopped out of the shower and just started cutting. I buzzed my hair off. The last time I did that was two years ago, before I got sober. For me, it’s kind of a reminder and a way to gain control of myself. A do-over. I want long hair and I loved it when I was sober and I took care of it. This, is a reminder for me. Just a story.
Second girl suffered from post partum depression for a year and she doesn't want her hair to be a reason for her to feel shitty. Black women know their beauty and how to embrace our natural hair (without relaxer) but sometimes the hair tends to be challenging, especially when you're a busy person like a mom or someone that doesn't have time to take care of the hair properly... you're just looking for a simpler way to deal with it on a daily basis. Relaxer are a danger but so are many other products and I'm glad people are more and more educated on the subject !
I have also heard that ethnic hair tangles really bad. Correct me if I am wrong, but does relaxing it make it less maintenance. I remember working next door to a salon and this poor African American kid was crying for 4 hours straight because her hair was severely tangled.
@@Dreamr4life1 it depends… a lot of our hair doesn’t tangle that bad , especially if you keep up with super curly hair … the child probably is tender head and her hair was probably not moisturized
@@Dreamr4life1 it depends on person to person. I’ll admit that a lot of us from the Caribbean don’t know how to care for our hairs so it’s more prone to tangles and breakage
As a black woman who's been relaxed, went to natural, and back to relaxer, most of us with common sense and don't like taking to big of risks, WE KNOW NOT TO DO THIS!! Thank you anyway, hair Buddha
But a lot of you act like your hair is indestructible and only white people can damage their hair. I saw a video of an Italian girl who relaxed her thick wavy hair and there was a lot of black women in the comments scolding her and saying the relaxer "wasn't for her" even though her hair was still perfectly fine and was still thick after the relaxer
Look when I was a young girl I had some SUPER THICK and CURLY ass hair and I’m white. My grandma was a licensed beautician and she relaxed my hair. It doesn’t matter what your race is 🙄
I've seen the first video before, she's lucky she has a gorgeous shaped head because not everyone can rock it bald. Her neck is long and it looks really good on her. The second woman, I feel so much for her, I do understand her not wanting to break down in front of her kids but at the same time being honest with them is good too. This stuff happens, they can learn a lot from watching us make mistakes and learning from them. Regardless, she's gorgeous! 💝
I remember my mum taking me to the hair dressers as a kid for a wash and blow dry as she got her relaxer topped up. The owner of the salon looked at my hair and said to my mum "NEVER relax her hair it is too soft and fine". I am 40 and relaxer has never touched my hair.
So much respect for that second woman! She is absolutely gorgeous, and she is an AMAZING mother! I wish I could hold myself together while have a meltdown inside in front of my kids! SO MUCH RESPECT!!! Now, this baby girl has 3 babies & has been FIGHTING postpartum depression for a whole year, tries to do something nice for herself to feel better & then this happens…. My heart was seriously breaking for her. I wish I could reach through the screen and give her a great big hug! Well done Mama, and the hair will grow back, no worries! ❤️❤️❤️❤️
I watched a video yesterday where a girl went to get her hair bleached. She told the stylist that she got a keratin smoothing treatment. They realized after the bleach got hot, that she had a relaxer on her hair. She didn't know. Thank God they realized before her hair was gone.
I’ve seen that one too… If you don’t know what a keratin treatment is supposed to look like, then, well…they probably called him “smoothing” treatment or “straitening” treatment… relaxers are much cheaper. So if you’re unaware, it’s easy to be mistaken.
So true about the emotional connection and hair. When it goes well, it can give a little positive buzz, controlling something in your life when it feels like it's out of control. But if it doesn't go well, it can make everything worse. Both ladies are beautiful but show how closely self worth and our hair are so closely related. Thanks Hair Buddah.
Don't worry, my hair is growing again after hair loss after giving birth! My hairdresser was kidding my hair full of baby hair, it's almost no chance to keep it in shape, because I have shoulder length hair and few cm of baby hair all around 😂 (anyway I don't care, I love them because I know my hair is growing back)
Ive had postpartum hair loss than went into covid hairloss that went into second covid hair loss I'm absolutely broken 💔 I was very unwell ten years agos and lost all my hair , I have spent ten years growing it back eating right exercising feeling amazing and brave and proud that I won ... Did I ? It doesn't feel like it anymore ,
I really love your uplifting words for these women. However I get the urge to relax curly hair so it's easier to take care of yourself when in a depressive episode. Doesn't necessarily have something to do with confidence or accepting yourself but washing and drying straight hair (and therefore looking kept together) is so much easier than having a curly wash day.
You are so sweet Hair Buddha. I feel so sorry for both the girls. I was bold ( breast cancer) and i hated it. I was so sad, your hair is so important! Both the girls looked great with and without the hair.
These girls are so beautiful, luckily with or without hair! I hope the second girl has someone in her life to help her through her postpartum depression.
My heart was breaking for the second lady, I had PND and I know exactly what she was feeling. She is so beautiful, shave it off, grow it new she is so pretty she can definitely pull anything off.
Congratulations on season 4! Thank you for all the awesome videos on hair fails. Has stopped me from considering doing my hair myself! Much love from North Carolina USA
Two VERY beautiful women, wow! ❤️❤️ Their beautiful faces shine even without hair! 💖 And hair will grow back, no permanent damage to the body has happened! Thank you ladies, for your handsomeness sharing that experience, so we can learn! 🤍
I really felt for the Mama who wanted to feel better by fixing/processing her hair. And despite everything, she is beautiful. The hair is so affected by pregnancy hormones, the best of us struggle with some amount of hair loss or texture change. She was a Fantastic sport though. That beautiful spirit of hers is their hair or no hair. Best wishes to her.
Oh my gosh. This is the first time a Hair Buddha video has made me cry. Those poor women. I hope they both know that bald or not, they are beautiful and they fknd themselves in a better place ASAP. The second lady in particular who was falling apart but trying to stay strong for her children; that alone makes her beautiful, in my opinion. ❤
I really love the message you keep sending to these girls. You are you and you are your best selves. Thank you hair budha for such a wholesome message.
It was absolutely heartbreaking watching that beautiful woman lose all of her hair. I can say she is so lovely that she would look awesome with a buzz cut or even completely bald but that's easy to say. I really respect the courage and strength but she must have pulled deep from inside to not go into a rage and start blaming the product and everyone else. I certainly hope that she posts a video in the future when we are able to see a healthier happier girl who recognizes her beauty definitely learn from her mistakes. She is truly in my prayers.
Honestly I prefer watching HairBuddah’s videos because I like the humanity and trying to give advice instead of bashing. Keep up the great work your videos are great.
The last video is pretty heartbreaking. A lot of people can relate to needing that change. Doing something you perceive as necessary to get through a situation. When it does not go as planned that additional blow can be so rough.
Thank you Hair Buddha for your dedication and advice. I watch other stylist for entertainment, I watch you for your wealth of knowledge and the smiles from your reactions!! I've learned so much and enjoyed every minute, looking forward to many many more videos.
I feel bad for both of them but when the mom came on at the 5:17 mark. My heartbroke for her and I cried. I know what it feels like to be in that dark place, and you pull yourself together just enough. Trying to do the 'self care' thing. She took a gut punch, but I love her resilent spirit! She had beautiful hair even damaged. I hope it grew back even more luscious and beautiful for her💗
You're right on point when you say women often mess with their hair bc they are emotional over something. I also agree, resist the urge to punish your already good hair! Well, I'm 42 and have resisted that urge all my life, every time I had it, and is why I still have long hair. But I really know the urge.
And this is how a new chapter in her life begins. A time she surely won’t forget. But along with the loss of something precious, her hair, she will also gain a lot of memories and knowledge. She will grow.
The girl from the first video is so beautiful even without hair! I know she didn't want to be bald, but sometimes I wonder how some women do not realize they're so beautiful with any any any hairstyle. She may go natural and rock it ❤
The girl in the blue… I can understand her. As a mother we get so occupied with taking care of everybody else and we kind of lose ourselves. So once in a while we would like to show a little self love and make us feel good about ourselves… so I feel bad that it went the way it did for her ….
i know you prefaced the conversation with saying you aren't supposed to talk about it, but it was very important for you to address the subject of the stress hair changes. We see our friends do this, we sometimes do it to ourselves, but you see the aftermath of these stressed hair decisions in your salon probably pretty regularly. As such, you should most definitely speak to this subject, not as a healthcare professional, but as a compassionate person who cares about what is going on under the hair at least as much as you care about the hair processes in general. Thank you for reacting with empathy for what these women are experiencing and not with crass quips or laughter at their mistakes and hair damage. (Not that you ever would!!) I've watched dozens of your videos so far and I think the content you put out is realistic, positive, encouraging, and compassionate, and I thank you for keeping to your high standards and putting out so much quality, helpful content. Gelukkig Niewjaar!
OMG, I cried when the second girl's hair started to fall off :( I wish she's all good and feeling her best now, she's so gorgeous and nice... 🥺❤️ Dry and fine hair is so sh*tty to deal with, no matter the texture
I severely broke my leg and crushed my ankle in summer 2021, requiring three surgeries. Due to the stress and anesthesia, my hair later fell out in clumps. I was growing out a Pixie at the time, but had to have it cut short again. It was demoralizing. I nearly cried for these ladies. Hair DOES grow out, but it is SO important! It’s a part of who we are!
Unfortunately a lot of people do not understand the seriousness of relaxing and perms, this was a very good video to help someone not make these mistakes.
So glad to see you again, Hair Buddha. Always lifts my mood. And struggling with PTSD, depression and anxiety, it's always a nice relief. Thank you. Have a great weekend, Hair Buddha, and friends. 🌞❤️🌈 (Edit) Your set up/decorations look fantastic. Great choice.
Yay Hair Buddha! Always love watching your reaction videos! I am in the middle of losing my hair due to weight loss surgery. It doesn't look to bad, but it feels horrible emotionally. I feel for these lovely women.
One of your videos popped up one day and now I'm hooked! My grandmother grew up in Belgium! Her flemish accent mixed with her New York accent was something to hear. Off topic, just good memories you remind me of!
I like to watch haircut videos. My wife came running into the room with her laptop to show me one of your videos a little bit ago. Had to subscribe. I really like your attitude & how positive you are. I appreciate your videos & the info you provide. Thank you for being here at RUclips.
Oh my, no gloves or Vaseline to protect the hairline and ears?! Stopped relaxing my hair when I was 16 and haven't looked back (I'm 39 now). I've worn locs ever since.
The second girl broke my heart. Anyone who has given birth knows how it feels afterwards. I totally get her wanting to do something to feel better about herself. I wish she had gone out for some pampering by a professional instead. But you are right, Hair Buddha, she is beautiful. Even bald she would be beautiful.
hey Hair Buddha, thank you for your compassion for these two beautiful ladies! You are the best! Hope they are both feeling better! They are so beautiful!!💗💗Congratulations on your season 4!!🎉🥳
The first girl looked sooo good with the very blond short hair - i hope it grows back alright and she doesn't relax it again lol but maybe bleaches it again, but she has such a pretty face, she can probably pull off any haircut.
It's heartbreaking to see this happen. I can't imagine how devasted they feel! Thankfully they're both naturally beautiful women and can rock super short hair. I wanted to give the second woman a big hug! Such a sweet and caring mama. I hope her hair grows back healthy and she regains her confidence. 💗
Thanks Hair Buddha for spreading awareness and great advice! I felt extremely sad 😔 😢for both of them! The positive thing is it will all grow back and they will not make the same mistake again. Love the new lamp with tassels by the way ❤
Thank you for all the info you give on your videos. Congratulations on starting a brand new season. I hope you will be around for many many more season to educate and entertain all of us.
Ok that second video broke my heart. But what a strong momma ❤️ trying so hard to set an example for her kids and keep it together. I hope she is doing well. Seems like a wonderful person who deserves the best!
I don't know how old that second video is but that woman is so naturally gorgeous! I hope she knows that. Changing our outer appearance doesn't teach our kids to love themselves. It's definitely not a bad thing to want to look a certain way to make you feel good, but when you feel good on the inside it shines through the outside. Sending hugs and love to her!
This happened to me post-college. I had virgin brown hair with bleached highlights down almost to my waist. I was tired of straightening my naturally curly hair every day. I bought a relaxer online and failed to read “do not use on bleached hair.” All the highlights and the last several inches of my hair was fried - like wet tissue paper. Went to the salon and had 8-10 inches cut off my hair. It was devastating. Although I did rock a chin-length curly bob for several months. Aphogee, deep conditioning with a heat cap and Frederic Fekkai Glossing Cream brought my hair back to life.
Yay! We're spoiled with another video 💚 I went from my natural hair colour (red) to pitch black as a teenager. I bought a relaxer home for my hair and my mom said no 🤣😒
Good evening 🙏 Hairbudda thank you for another fantastic video 📹 😀 it's heartbreaking to see these hair failures. we can only hope that the girls can see their mistakes they have made with their hair and stay away from the harsh chemicals that only ruined her hair. I also bought the shampoo and conditioner and hair mask that you use in your hair salon on one of your videos 📹 OMG my hair is so beautiful, shiny, and soft. I have salt and pepper natural hair and it's never been so shiny my silver really shines through, so a big thank you for your advice on what's the best shampoo and conditioner to use on your hair to get the best results and no nasty chemicals to get inside your body please keep the videos coming much love ♥️ ❤️ xxx
I had some Red and a Darker colour in my hair before Christmas and Hair Buddha, you are going to love me as i had it done at a professional Salon with an experienced Colourist and with gowns and towels to protect my clothes . It is January and the colours are still bright and fabulous.
Hey Hair Buddha, I’m new to your channel but OMG, I am absolutely LOVING it ❤️. Some of the hair fails you’ve featured are insanely hilarious, and your reactions to them absolutely crease me 😂. I myself would love some advice from you about my own hair. Keep doing what you’re doing, I think you’re amazing and I salute you sir. Love and respect to you 👍🏼🇬🇧
On the first video how did it take so long for her to notice is was falling out? You could see it collecting in the comb.. insane! Thank God for my hairdresser!
You are so right about things being challenging in life and there is this impulsive determination to change your hair... Like that will 'fix' everything. I love your channel :)
Would like to say thank you for all your advice. Both ladies look beautiful no mater what they did. I wish I could do my own hair but I know I’ll mess it up lol. Time goes by fast lol. Look forward to more. Watching from Texas.
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That's exactly how I felt after a perm, but in a hair sarlon. My hair just broke off. And they weren't dyed or anything, they just broke. And just before the wedding. Back then my hair was waist-deep, after that it was really short. My first husband wanted perms for our wedding, my regular hairdresser was against it, his hairdresser implemented it. I ended up Sunday mornings at 7 a.m. with my regular hairdresser, who tried to save what could be saved and preached to a curtain... My advice: if the man thinks your natural hair sucks, you should think the man sucks. Would have saved me a lot of suffering
Glad you dumped his dumb ass!😂
Woman #2 is truly an inspiration. She has her emotions in check and knows the difference between circumstances that do and don't require a total meltdown. She admits her mistakes at the end and accepts the situation for what it is. And even with the depression she mentions, she still holds it together for her kids and realizes the consequences of letting them see her in freak out mode over this. That is a strong AF woman. Props to her, fr.
Props to both. We fr need to stop shaming people for having emotions...
Maybe she’s just too depressed to respond. It happens.
"You're laughing but you're dying inside." Story of my life. 😂😭
The mom keeping it together for her kids while dying inside. I want to hug her. I hope she looks back at this and realizes how strong and beautiful she is.
A woman carries a miracle, or becomes the mother to a miracle. And the world makes her feel scared, incompetent, and worthless. It enrages me that they don't feel like the confident queens they r, because of outside influences.
@@JNMKlover the "world" doesn't make her feel any of that. INDIVIDUALS that hate motherhood and childrearing are what causes her to feel that way. And in today's society, an increasing number of those individuals is female.
Mother-shaming and birth-shaming amongst females has become a thing.
If you know any feminists out there, congratulate them. This new problem is on them.
Not only you're a talented hairdresser, but also a great person inside and out. I love how you praise women and you look beyond their hair fails. This planet needs more people like you Sir!
I heard a licensed cosmologist say she doesn’t believe that relaxer should be available to the unlicensed public, and I agree with her 100%. Too strong of a chemical to play with.
Restrictions and laws don’t solve anything and wouldn’t stop people from relaxing their hair. I don’t have a license and can buy just about anything a stylist can. It’s everywhere for sale. Apart from that people will find a way. It’s sodium hydroxide that can be bought in many places. There would be videos on recipes everywhere. Yeah will never work. I’m against more laws and restrictions in most things. A few bad apples or dumb ones spoiling our freedoms. No ma’am.
Yep
@@TracyD2 She's saying that's the exact problem: you can buy anything a licensed professional can.
NO MORE PROHIBITION. People should EDUCATE themselves before throwing chemicals on their body
I’m 48 and I haven’t relaxed my hair in decades, but in high school, girls relaxed their own hair and we were perfectly fine! We were not part of the nanny generation where everything has to be legislated. I also dyed my own hair between the ages of 20-40 something. When we were kids, our parents relaxed our hair and nothing happened. The people in the video didn’t have anyone to teach them how to do it right! That’s their problem.
HB isn’t just a hairdresser,. He understands the psychological effect of your self worth and confidence, and how it effects your decisions to desperately make change to your image. What a gem you are HB!!
Thank you for telling us with curly hair that its fine the way it is . A lot of people think its a compliment to say some people look better with their hair straight and its not personally. I love my curls and the only reason I was afraid to embrace them growing up is because people made fun of how big my hair was but now i enjoy how voluminous my curls are because I've learned to embrace my natural .
My hair is super straight (and thin) and people sometimes said it looks like its glued to my head when I use conditioner (it is not sooo untrue ;)). Great to read you like your natural hair :)
All my life I would have killed for naturally curly hair. I love it! Oh, no, honey! Be proud of your hair! Could be like me with this thin, fine stuff that only looks good cut short!
I am the opposite. My hair is very straight and I always wanted curls. I got perms that didn't look good. I accept my hair now the way it is and wear a Bob. Dear greetings
I was taught my natural curls were "unprofessional" and looked too messy. As a kid I just put it in a pony tail. When I was a teen I got a flat iron and fried my hair daily for at least a decade because I thought I had "bad hair". It wasn't until I was in my late 20s that I realized my natural hair is beautiful. I hate I wasted so much time, money, and effort to try to meet someone else's standard of beauty.
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Please don't hate yourself 🤗, but celebrate yourself for overcoming the old, and loving yourself the way you are for the rest of your life! That's wonderful! 💖
I've had so many classmates tell me my eyebrows are too big and the top corners are ugly that I plucked them all out.
Now there are a lot of holes that won't fill up, hmmm...
But that was an important experience for me; it has taught me to examine first if I really care about what others don't like about me, or if I can just take that as purely personal opinion of the other that has no meaning to me, such a learning experience is worth a lot!
And fortunately there are eyebrow pencils...😁
It just blows my mind how compassionate and caring HB is 😊
Pro tip! Do not use relaxer on hair that has been permed, bleached, or vice versa. Your hair will melt! It's the same chemical reaction as Nair (hair remover cream)!!!
Thank you for the tips. Quick and maybe stupid question 😬. If you want to relax your hair don't you have to put the relaxer only on the scalp and not on the lengths?
2 weeks
My god, these videos made me want to cry for them. That poor mom who just wanted to feel pretty.
That actually made me cry 😢
I really appreciate the perspective you gave on the second woman’s video. No bashing, no insults, but compassion. She was already broken from depression and holding on by a thread to keep it together for her kids. I really hope that she has someone/somewhere to go to let go of what she’s carrying sometimes. That burden is heavy.
Whoever the second women is, is a damn inspiration! What a wonderful mother always thinking of her emotions and reactions in reference to how they’ll impact her kids lives forever. Poor mama. You are so beautiful and show how good moms always think of their kids. I wish my mom was more like u.
The second lady is beautiful inside and out.. She has tremendous courage to show us everything. Respect. ❤️
When you are depressed or when you feel you are not in control I see a lot of people try to gain control with their hair and end up taking out on their hair ! I'm a hairdresser and watching these videos breaks my heart .
I relapsed and then chose to recover and get it together. Part of relapse for me is that I just don’t give myself love or my hair love. When I decided to crawl out from the bottom of a bottle, I started with a shower, I could not stand touching my hair as it broke off (I am black). So I hopped out of the shower and just started cutting. I buzzed my hair off. The last time I did that was two years ago, before I got sober. For me, it’s kind of a reminder and a way to gain control of myself. A do-over. I want long hair and I loved it when I was sober and I took care of it. This, is a reminder for me. Just a story.
Second girl suffered from post partum depression for a year and she doesn't want her hair to be a reason for her to feel shitty. Black women know their beauty and how to embrace our natural hair (without relaxer) but sometimes the hair tends to be challenging, especially when you're a busy person like a mom or someone that doesn't have time to take care of the hair properly... you're just looking for a simpler way to deal with it on a daily basis. Relaxer are a danger but so are many other products and I'm glad people are more and more educated on the subject !
I have also heard that ethnic hair tangles really bad. Correct me if I am wrong, but does relaxing it make it less maintenance. I remember working next door to a salon and this poor African American kid was crying for 4 hours straight because her hair was severely tangled.
@@Dreamr4life1 it depends… a lot of our hair doesn’t tangle that bad , especially if you keep up with super curly hair … the child probably is tender head and her hair was probably not moisturized
@@Dreamr4life1 it depends on person to person. I’ll admit that a lot of us from the Caribbean don’t know how to care for our hairs so it’s more prone to tangles and breakage
@@Fruity365 thank you for enlightening me 💜
@@solaris5922 thank you for letting me know. Hair types are very vast it seems.
As a black woman who's been relaxed, went to natural, and back to relaxer, most of us with common sense and don't like taking to big of risks, WE KNOW NOT TO DO THIS!! Thank you anyway, hair Buddha
But a lot of you act like your hair is indestructible and only white people can damage their hair. I saw a video of an Italian girl who relaxed her thick wavy hair and there was a lot of black women in the comments scolding her and saying the relaxer "wasn't for her" even though her hair was still perfectly fine and was still thick after the relaxer
@@HostaMahogey Those kind of black people are dumb
Scary thing is those will do it will do it anyway...warning or not...
@@HostaMahogey Wow, you seem super pissed. LOL
Look, girl if you want to put a relaxer in your hair, go ahead. No one is stopping you.
Look when I was a young girl I had some SUPER THICK and CURLY ass hair and I’m white. My grandma was a licensed beautician and she relaxed my hair. It doesn’t matter what your race is 🙄
I've seen the first video before, she's lucky she has a gorgeous shaped head because not everyone can rock it bald. Her neck is long and it looks really good on her.
The second woman, I feel so much for her, I do understand her not wanting to break down in front of her kids but at the same time being honest with them is good too. This stuff happens, they can learn a lot from watching us make mistakes and learning from them. Regardless, she's gorgeous! 💝
I remember my mum taking me to the hair dressers as a kid for a wash and blow dry as she got her relaxer topped up. The owner of the salon looked at my hair and said to my mum "NEVER relax her hair it is too soft and fine". I am 40 and relaxer has never touched my hair.
She is lucky in that her hair was so short that she can grow it back to that length quickly. Imagine if she had way longer!
The first girl, yes. In one month it'll be back to the way it was.
@@onebourbononescotch Yup I said this on seeing the first girl but oh I feel sorry for the next one even more!
I pray she didn’t damage her scalp
Oh my heart! This poor lady. She's so beautiful with her natural curls and the blonde looked cool. I want to give her a hug because her smile is gone.
I felt so bad for that Mom. I know trying to make yourself feel better after any type of depression is hard. I just wanted to hug her.
So much respect for that second woman! She is absolutely gorgeous, and she is an AMAZING mother! I wish I could hold myself together while have a meltdown inside in front of my kids! SO MUCH RESPECT!!! Now, this baby girl has 3 babies & has been FIGHTING postpartum depression for a whole year, tries to do something nice for herself to feel better & then this happens…. My heart was seriously breaking for her. I wish I could reach through the screen and give her a great big hug! Well done Mama, and the hair will grow back, no worries! ❤️❤️❤️❤️
I watched a video yesterday where a girl went to get her hair bleached. She told the stylist that she got a keratin smoothing treatment. They realized after the bleach got hot, that she had a relaxer on her hair. She didn't know. Thank God they realized before her hair was gone.
Here is the link to the video.
I’ve seen that one too…
If you don’t know what a keratin treatment is supposed to look like, then, well…they probably called him “smoothing” treatment or “straitening” treatment… relaxers are much cheaper. So if you’re unaware, it’s easy to be mistaken.
Yes, the Bobby Hair Studio one! That was crazy, she really saved the client's hair.
I watched that video too, it was so scary!
That’s why you should start with a strand test!
So true about the emotional connection and hair. When it goes well, it can give a little positive buzz, controlling something in your life when it feels like it's out of control. But if it doesn't go well, it can make everything worse. Both ladies are beautiful but show how closely self worth and our hair are so closely related. Thanks Hair Buddah.
That second video gave me serious postpartum flashbacks. That was what my hair loss was like after giving birth. My heart just broke for her 😭
Don't worry, my hair is growing again after hair loss after giving birth! My hairdresser was kidding my hair full of baby hair, it's almost no chance to keep it in shape, because I have shoulder length hair and few cm of baby hair all around 😂 (anyway I don't care, I love them because I know my hair is growing back)
Ive had postpartum hair loss than went into covid hairloss that went into second covid hair loss I'm absolutely broken 💔 I was very unwell ten years agos and lost all my hair , I have spent ten years growing it back eating right exercising feeling amazing and brave and proud that I won ... Did I ? It doesn't feel like it anymore ,
@eM you won! Sending you love and light for hope, healing and strength💗💚💙
I really love your uplifting words for these women. However I get the urge to relax curly hair so it's easier to take care of yourself when in a depressive episode. Doesn't necessarily have something to do with confidence or accepting yourself but washing and drying straight hair (and therefore looking kept together) is so much easier than having a curly wash day.
You are so sweet Hair Buddha. I feel so sorry for both the girls. I was bold ( breast cancer) and i hated it. I was so sad, your hair is so important!
Both the girls looked great with and without the hair.
These girls are so beautiful, luckily with or without hair! I hope the second girl has someone in her life to help her through her postpartum depression.
My heart was breaking for the second lady, I had PND and I know exactly what she was feeling. She is so beautiful, shave it off, grow it new she is so pretty she can definitely pull anything off.
"I'm bald, and I didn't bleach and relax my hair... it's natural" XD
Congratulations on season 4! Thank you for all the awesome videos on hair fails. Has stopped me from considering doing my hair myself! Much love from North Carolina USA
Great attitude for a mom to have, good for her
Addicted to your channel nowadays...👍👏
Two VERY beautiful women, wow! ❤️❤️
Their beautiful faces shine even without hair! 💖
And hair will grow back, no permanent damage to the body has happened!
Thank you ladies, for your handsomeness sharing that experience, so we can learn! 🤍
I really felt for the Mama who wanted to feel better by fixing/processing her hair. And despite everything, she is beautiful. The hair is so affected by pregnancy hormones, the best of us struggle with some amount of hair loss or texture change. She was a Fantastic sport though. That beautiful spirit of hers is their hair or no hair. Best wishes to her.
Oh my gosh. This is the first time a Hair Buddha video has made me cry. Those poor women.
I hope they both know that bald or not, they are beautiful and they fknd themselves in a better place ASAP. The second lady in particular who was falling apart but trying to stay strong for her children; that alone makes her beautiful, in my opinion. ❤
Oh my gosh!
I felt terrible for those young ladies. They are both beautiful with or without hair! 😻
Oh. This is not going to end well. Just made it through the first one. I feel bad for her.
Congratulations on 4 seasons! Hope you have so many more!
I really love the message you keep sending to these girls. You are you and you are your best selves. Thank you hair budha for such a wholesome message.
It was absolutely heartbreaking watching that beautiful woman lose all of her hair. I can say she is so lovely that she would look awesome with a buzz cut or even completely bald but that's easy to say. I really respect the courage and strength but she must have pulled deep from inside to not go into a rage and start blaming the product and everyone else. I certainly hope that she posts a video in the future when we are able to see a healthier happier girl who recognizes her beauty definitely learn from her mistakes. She is truly in my prayers.
These 2 women are so beautiful inside & out. Love yourself the way you are! Congratulations on your 4th season!
Honestly I prefer watching HairBuddah’s videos because I like the humanity and trying to give advice instead of bashing.
Keep up the great work your videos are great.
The last video is pretty heartbreaking. A lot of people can relate to needing that change. Doing something you perceive as necessary to get through a situation. When it does not go as planned that additional blow can be so rough.
I am definatley more careful with my hair now,since watching these types of videos. They are literally a hair saver! Thanks for posting!!
Thank you Hair Buddha for your dedication and advice. I watch other stylist for entertainment, I watch you for your wealth of knowledge and the smiles from your reactions!! I've learned so much and enjoyed every minute, looking forward to many many more videos.
I feel bad for both of them but when the mom came on at the 5:17 mark. My heartbroke for her and I cried. I know what it feels like to be in that dark place, and you pull yourself together just enough. Trying to do the 'self care' thing. She took a gut punch, but I love her resilent spirit! She had beautiful hair even damaged. I hope it grew back even more luscious and beautiful for her💗
You're right on point when you say women often mess with their hair bc they are emotional over something. I also agree, resist the urge to punish your already good hair! Well, I'm 42 and have resisted that urge all my life, every time I had it, and is why I still have long hair. But I really know the urge.
And this is how a new chapter in her life begins. A time she surely won’t forget. But along with the loss of something precious, her hair, she will also gain a lot of memories and knowledge. She will grow.
The second girl I watched her follow up vid she ended up shaving it off...looked quite good
Poor lady I feel so sorry for her.
You got your lamp you wanted. I saw you looking at them on your travel channel it looks lovely.
thankyou and they so much, for this one xo.
The girl from the first video is so beautiful even without hair! I know she didn't want to be bald, but sometimes I wonder how some women do not realize they're so beautiful with any any any hairstyle. She may go natural and rock it ❤
The girl in the blue… I can understand her. As a mother we get so occupied with taking care of everybody else and we kind of lose ourselves. So once in a while we would like to show a little self love and make us feel good about ourselves… so I feel bad that it went the way it did for her ….
I want to give that last gal a huge hug!
Respect for the way you comment on these videos! You are one of a kind!
That second woman..My heart broke. "I just wanted to feel good about myself". That hit home.
i know you prefaced the conversation with saying you aren't supposed to talk about it, but it was very important for you to address the subject of the stress hair changes. We see our friends do this, we sometimes do it to ourselves, but you see the aftermath of these stressed hair decisions in your salon probably pretty regularly. As such, you should most definitely speak to this subject, not as a healthcare professional, but as a compassionate person who cares about what is going on under the hair at least as much as you care about the hair processes in general. Thank you for reacting with empathy for what these women are experiencing and not with crass quips or laughter at their mistakes and hair damage. (Not that you ever would!!)
I've watched dozens of your videos so far and I think the content you put out is realistic, positive, encouraging, and compassionate, and I thank you for keeping to your high standards and putting out so much quality, helpful content.
Gelukkig Niewjaar!
I need an hour with you just for the pep talk on self acceptance!
OMG, I cried when the second girl's hair started to fall off :( I wish she's all good and feeling her best now, she's so gorgeous and nice... 🥺❤️ Dry and fine hair is so sh*tty to deal with, no matter the texture
I severely broke my leg and crushed my ankle in summer 2021, requiring three surgeries. Due to the stress and anesthesia, my hair later fell out in clumps. I was growing out a Pixie at the time, but had to have it cut short again. It was demoralizing. I nearly cried for these ladies. Hair DOES grow out, but it is SO important! It’s a part of who we are!
Unfortunately a lot of people do not understand the seriousness of relaxing and perms, this was a very good video to help someone not make these mistakes.
So glad to see you again, Hair Buddha. Always lifts my mood. And struggling with PTSD, depression and anxiety, it's always a nice relief. Thank you. Have a great weekend, Hair Buddha, and friends. 🌞❤️🌈
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Your set up/decorations look fantastic. Great choice.
Thx, hope your feeling better soon
@@hair-buddha, Thank you! 🥰
Same here
@@ginacole777, Sending well wishes. 🫂 🩷
very happy anniversary, fourth season 💪, love Hair Buddha
Yay Hair Buddha! Always love watching your reaction videos!
I am in the middle of losing my hair due to weight loss surgery. It doesn't look to bad, but it feels horrible emotionally. I feel for these lovely women.
I hope your recovery from WL surgery has gone well and I hope it has helped you
One of your videos popped up one day and now I'm hooked! My grandmother grew up in Belgium! Her flemish accent mixed with her New York accent was something to hear. Off topic, just good memories you remind me of!
I like to watch haircut videos. My wife came running into the room with her laptop to show me one of your videos a little bit ago. Had to subscribe. I really like your attitude & how positive you are. I appreciate your videos & the info you provide. Thank you for being here at RUclips.
YOU ARE YOU!! YOU ARE AT YOUR BEST!!!
THIS IS WHY I STOPPED CHEMICALLY PROCESSING MY HAIR!!!!!
#GONATURAL
The second woman was so calm and collected, but also really sad, she is really beautiful with or without hair and I hope she’s doing well now ❤️
❤ such a strong mama… you are beautiful before and after this hair mishap.
Oh my, no gloves or Vaseline to protect the hairline and ears?! Stopped relaxing my hair when I was 16 and haven't looked back (I'm 39 now). I've worn locs ever since.
The second girl broke my heart. Anyone who has given birth knows how it feels afterwards. I totally get her wanting to do something to feel better about herself. I wish she had gone out for some pampering by a professional instead. But you are right, Hair Buddha, she is beautiful. Even bald she would be beautiful.
hey Hair Buddha, thank you for your compassion for these two beautiful ladies! You are the best!
Hope they are both feeling better! They are so beautiful!!💗💗Congratulations on your season 4!!🎉🥳
The first girl looked sooo good with the very blond short hair - i hope it grows back alright and she doesn't relax it again lol but maybe bleaches it again, but she has such a pretty face, she can probably pull off any haircut.
You are such a kind person
The mental strength she is maintaining for her babies is literally inspirational..
It's heartbreaking to see this happen. I can't imagine how devasted they feel! Thankfully they're both naturally beautiful women and can rock super short hair. I wanted to give the second woman a big hug! Such a sweet and caring mama. I hope her hair grows back healthy and she regains her confidence. 💗
Thanks Hair Buddha for spreading awareness and great advice! I felt extremely sad 😔 😢for both of them! The positive thing is it will all grow back and they will not make the same mistake again. Love the new lamp with tassels by the way ❤
Thank you for all the info you give on your videos. Congratulations on starting a brand new season. I hope you will be around for many many more season to educate and entertain all of us.
Ok that second video broke my heart. But what a strong momma ❤️ trying so hard to set an example for her kids and keep it together. I hope she is doing well. Seems like a wonderful person who deserves the best!
I don't know how old that second video is but that woman is so naturally gorgeous! I hope she knows that. Changing our outer appearance doesn't teach our kids to love themselves. It's definitely not a bad thing to want to look a certain way to make you feel good, but when you feel good on the inside it shines through the outside. Sending hugs and love to her!
“Oh you’re laughing but you’re dying inside” 😂😂😂
This happened to me post-college. I had virgin brown hair with bleached highlights down almost to my waist. I was tired of straightening my naturally curly hair every day. I bought a relaxer online and failed to read “do not use on bleached hair.” All the highlights and the last several inches of my hair was fried - like wet tissue paper. Went to the salon and had 8-10 inches cut off my hair. It was devastating. Although I did rock a chin-length curly bob for several months. Aphogee, deep conditioning with a heat cap and Frederic Fekkai Glossing Cream brought my hair back to life.
I agree your hair with the natural curl pattern is stunning ❤
I must say you look marvelous! Love the mustache and beard! Love your videos!
Your videos Always make my day.
Thank you for sharing.
Yay! We're spoiled with another video 💚
I went from my natural hair colour (red) to pitch black as a teenager. I bought a relaxer home for my hair and my mom said no 🤣😒
Isn’t there instructions on the box saying do not use if hair has been bleached?
indeed
On the bright side, her head has a lovely shape and she’s very pretty. She’ll be quite striking once she’s shaved her head.
i love when HB actually shouts at the people fucking up xD
"STOP PULLING IT!"
Good evening 🙏 Hairbudda thank you for another fantastic video 📹 😀 it's heartbreaking to see these hair failures. we can only hope that the girls can see their mistakes they have made with their hair and stay away from the harsh chemicals that only ruined her hair. I also bought the shampoo and conditioner and hair mask that you use in your hair salon on one of your videos 📹 OMG my hair is so beautiful, shiny, and soft. I have salt and pepper natural hair and it's never been so shiny my silver really shines through, so a big thank you for your advice on what's the best shampoo and conditioner to use on your hair to get the best results and no nasty chemicals to get inside your body please keep the videos coming much love ♥️ ❤️ xxx
I had some Red and a Darker colour in my hair before Christmas and Hair Buddha, you are going to love me as i had it done at a professional Salon with an experienced Colourist and with gowns and towels to protect my clothes . It is January and the colours are still bright and fabulous.
She looked so pretty in the head scarf at the end!
Hey Hair Buddha, I’m new to your channel but OMG, I am absolutely LOVING it ❤️. Some of the hair fails you’ve featured are insanely hilarious, and your reactions to them absolutely crease me 😂. I myself would love some advice from you about my own hair. Keep doing what you’re doing, I think you’re amazing and I salute you sir. Love and respect to you 👍🏼🇬🇧
You’ll love it here! Welcome! Tears, laughs and lessons over here! ❤
Ahh, thank you ❤️. I’m loving what I’ve seen so far 👍🏼
@@lynncarter3565 You’re most welcome!
Love the new set! This was hard to watch though, I was crying for them. Hopefully they didn't suffer chemical burns.
The first woman beautiful w/o hair too. The second woman is so strong. I just want to hug them both.
Both of these ladies are so beautiful with or without hair. I hope they found a way to embrace it and wear it with confidence
On the first video how did it take so long for her to notice is was falling out? You could see it collecting in the comb.. insane! Thank God for my hairdresser!
You are so right about things being challenging in life and there is this impulsive determination to change your hair... Like that will 'fix' everything. I love your channel :)
Would like to say thank you for all your advice. Both ladies look beautiful no mater what they did. I wish I could do my own hair but I know I’ll mess it up lol. Time goes by fast lol. Look forward to more. Watching from Texas.