TIPS | 5 THINGS NOT TO SAY TO A PREGNANT WOMAN!
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Im 34 weeks pregnant and someone just told me, "I didnt even know you were pregnant!" Im not sure whether to be offended or complimented. -.-
Compliment for sure!
Oh i guess it could be both people can be so talkative
Ooh yo baby is like 5 now!
Monica Revuelta compliment
awwww your baby is now 5
I was at the mall with one of my old friends who I hadn't seen since I got pregnant and she said did you swallow watermelon seeds 😂😂
10\10
100\100
Wich one do you choose? 50/50 10/10 or 100/100
Omg I would have been so uncomfortable!!
Rude
That is a FANTASTIC idea!! I could do a whole series!
I never knew what not to say to a pregnant woman but now I do
That’s u elle
You guys this is back then when you couldn’t reply to comments unless you wrote a separate message
I love that u commented on your own vid:) love u!❤️
Lol
I always get "are you SURE it's not twins?" I'm at 38 weeks, stomach at 37cm and 28lb gained. I feel like I'm constantly defending my size. Thanks for the videos!
“Are you exercising?”
“Does lifting this spoon count”
ME
Ha! I've been tempted to say "Oh, I'm not pregnant" when people say congratulations. Just to see their reaction!
At a group fitness class, a grandma aged lady asked me, "Are you pregnant or just fat?" I had to reply, "Both."
Wow,that is extremely straight forward
jazzy baskin I know right?
how mean
Congratulations 🎉🎈🎊🍾 on being pregnant
OMG! XD
My mom told me when she was pregnant someone told her " You just ruined your life". And now every time she hers the word ruined and life in the same sentence she cringes ask when ever she tell me this I also have a good laugh
Tammy Yam My grandmother told my mom that my baby is a mistake and she’s so sorry for my child because I have a history of mental health issues and she thinks my daughter is going to be as “messed up” as I am. My mother stood up for me and reminded her my “issues” are because of trauma, not genetics...besides the ocd.
someone had walked up touched the belly and said when it due and i said im not pregnant (i was like 30 weeks) and he just stayed there with his hand on the belly embarrassed and his wife was just stading there Omg what the freak did he just do Omg but then i gave up and said im 30 weeks along and they all just sighed with relive and started laughing
Jamie Scott
lol
Jamie Scott aren't you a man
horse crazy Jamie is a unisex name, so......
Jamie Scott hahahahahahahahajajajahahaja
I'm 15 and i don't wanna be a mom now but i really love this channel!
me too
Petu Espinosa me too
Petu Esp
Petu Espinosa I'm 16 and I don't
Petu Espinosa me too
I told you!! At 37 weeks, I'm entering the sleep hell phase! Congrats on your baby boy...please keep in touch! xx Elle
Now that I've gone past my due date, I get a lot of "Aren't you afraid of still birth?" Who on earth thinks that that's an acceptable thing to say to a pregnant woman?!
Patricia B in France 🇫🇷
Patricia B in France hi
Patricia B in France 🇫🇷
Tf is wrong with ppl???!!!
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I'm only ten and I watch her and people like Dailybumps
im 14
I am 10 I watch daily bumps and whatupsmom and E + J and Cullen and katie
+Zunairah Shahzad sameeeee
+Lookitsskye I know like literally I watched their first vlog and never ever unsubscribed and baby Finley and Oliver are the cutest babies just like miss macey Gaines and Jack on and calvin
+Zunairah Shahzad i haven't watched them right from the start but i have watched them for ages omg do you have kik
You look AMAZING!!! LOL!
hi this is a girl from 7 years in the future!
But... you are ell...
@@areliza2508 r/wooooooooosh
Ha ha ha ha ha ha aha a ab aa babsheu
Hi
This was after my mom had my little sister, but we are half white and half Mexican. Therefore, I came out looking a lot like my mom (white) and my little sister looks a lot like my dad (Mexican) when my mom would nurse my sister in public or when my dad would take me to the bathroom, they got tons of judgmental looks. My mom was once holding my sister and someone actually questioned weather or not it was my moms child while she was nursing. She got these questions so frequently she was once asked in the supermarket (where she had a towel over my sister whilst she was nursing) and the lady saw my sister was way darker than my mom and asked if me and my sister had the same father? My mother, sleep deprived and annoyed, told her I'm not sure...
With my 5th child, my doctor told me I had to have an ultra-sound. I asked why, as I had never had one before. She looked at me and said------what if it doesn't have a head. Had the ultra-sound, head securely attached, got a new doctor.
was the doctor serious? or just joking?
Had you seriously never had an ultrasound in 4 births? That is unusual for modern medicine. Were you at a birth center or with a midwife?
My Doc was an old-time family doc. He delivered my husband and all his siblings and had been my doc since I was 7. He didn't see the need for all that new-fangled stuff.
I have no idea why I'm watching this. I'm not even twenty five. Or in a relationship.
This is a odd Comment since im 23 and my daughter is turning 1 in 15 days
I'm sadly no longer in a relationship, I'm 21 and my baby's gonna be 1 Dec 12 ... Age and status got nothin' to do with it
That's rather an ignorant comment
amy kilbride How so? I'm clearly stating that I'm not pregnant or in a relationship.
1- because when you stated I'm not 25 or in a relationship , just because you may not be 25 doesn't mean you can't/shouldn't be pregnant.
Not every family needs a dad present for that child to be great . Your comment seemed as if that the only time a woman would or should get pregnant if she was over the age of 25 and in a relationship
I TOTALLY should have include this one!!! I feel the same way-- now that I'm still carrying Presley sometimes, I get such disapproving glances.
My top 5 things I can't handle (I'm 41 weeks pregnant right now):
"Where is the baby??" (What kind of question is that?)
"When is the baby coming?" (How am I supposed to know?)
"Are you driving to the hospital yet?" (What?)
"Have you tried _______ to induce labor?" (There's nothing wrong with me, and yes, I have heard of all the old wives tales regarding induction.)
AH! Make it stop!
That only 4 by the way
That was 4
That was four
That's 4
Emily Olson I’ve never heard those...
Are you kidding?! What nerve!! My husband told me I was "wider" with my first pregnancy-- I think he meant it as a compliment but I told him to STAY AWAY from those comments! ;)
Personal favorite was while I was on the train, some random lady just looked at me and said "do you know who the father is?" My eyes where about to pop out their sockets. All I said was, "yea my fiancée.." And continued devouring my banana-chocolate cake and my chocolate shake.. New York City is getting crazier and crazier as I grow up.
You should have said, "Well, I've got it narrowed down to five most likely ones. That's pretty good, right?" :-) Wow!
i am 8 and i watched this
Alexandra W hahahaha.. awesome reply😂😂😂
Roman Skubik im 10
How much have you gained? Your baby will be huge! (I gained 30lbs with both my babies but when you are 5'0" it looks like a lot more) I also heard are you disappointed its a girl? I was like WOW! Are you serious?! You look like you're 5 weeks past your due date! And Are you sure it's not twins?! .... now I remember why I got my tubes tied after my two kids haha!!! People were so mean to me when I was pregnant! :(
well that's no fair! you introduced life onto our planet, and didn't murder anyone in the process! I don't understand why people are mean to pregnant women!
+Sweetnsassy 2920 awww haha! thank you for the sweet words!
+Love Meg well you, and all moms deserve a whole bunch of recognition for their contribution.
meaney
Love Meg why is it your business
Well my ex mother in law used to call me fat when I was pregnant. .she was nit happy seing me eating...of course pregnant woman have food carvings and I just cant say no to fish balls and cheese burger..well that's all is just a memory now..I hope she rest in peace.
😂😂 that last bit cracked me up
+bethany peters its kinda sad...no matter how good you are. .not all people will appreciate you.
+bethany peters okay
She died! ?
So many autocorrects.
A few people announced to me that I would now have to get married, obviously that was the burning important issue for myself and my partner. Also 'remember you have to eat for 2 now' when I had bad morning sickness, that really helped.
I'm 15 weeks pregnant and we're not finding out the gender and the most odd comments I get are the guesses.. Example - Wow, no morning sickness? It must be a boy. Or OMG you're eating another cupcake? Must be a girl.
But the one that annoys me the most are the belly size comments. I am exactly the same size according to me and my doctor and people keep arguing with me that I have a bump. Like, thanks for pointing out my tummy isn't completely flat but I assure you that's the natural curve of my abdomen and it has always looked that way. Awkward.
Kristi Danielle I had an ultrasound tech assure us our baby was a girl at 8 weeks because the heart rate was low... at 16 weeks we found out we’re having a girl. Old wive’s tales should never be used as facts. You’ll know when you see you’re precious bundle and in the mean time don’t be afraid to tell them to zip it. Congrats btw!
I'm in my first trimester still and every time I see someone they comment on how tired I look! how about...you look amazing instead!
So I was about 5 months pregnant when someone said to me, "Wow your huge! Are you having twins? My wife wasn't that big when she was 9 months pregnant." Yep. Thanks dude. I hope he is reincarnated as a woman and has 9 children!
Somewhat related are questions women get to endure when they're don't have kids. "Why not?" "Can't conceive?" "And it's not too late!" Since when is it okay to make my uterus a strangers business.
I am in brith
I was 8 weeks along and my mother in law asked me if I felt the baby kicking. When I looked at her like she was crazy she said "when I was pregnant with your husband I was so skinny I could feel him kick at 8 weeks" ok….. P.S. I literally weighed 129 lbs when I was 8 weeks prego.
When I was in my Freshman year of high school, I still had some fatness on me because I was JUST THEN going through puberty. (I was 13, shut up) And I was just starting my revolutionary growth spurt that brought me from 4'7 to 5'3 within that year. Someone asked me in the locker room if I was pregnant (It is very common for the Freshmen to be these days.) or just fat.. To which I replied with a big, happy grin, "Delightfully chunky, thank you very much." :)
WOOHOO GIRL TAKE IT LIKE A CHAMP 👏👏👏👏👏👏👏
GO GIRL SHOW HIM WHAT IZ!!!
For the life of me I dont know why people (strangers included) think that a pregnant belly is public domain. Hey stranger that I just met touch please my belly lol. One time I was about 30weeks pregnant with my 2nd when a lady came into our office for my colleague but then just started rubbing my belly all over, honestly freaked me out.
Oh Keri, I feel you!! So far, this pregnancy hasn't been as brutal, but the last 3 weeks with Presley, I couldn't sleep in a bed. I'd have to sleep sitting up on a couch...
I'm a pregnant teen mama still in school and I take the bus as free travel and my bus driver constantly comments on the size of my bump -_-
The one I hate the most that my husband and I both got because we have 4 kids. :) "You know what causes this, right??"
My hubby like to turn around the awkwardness and say, "We sure do, and we LOVE it!"
Oh no! Well, at least it wasn't the other way around-- I looked pregnant for at least a month after I gave birth to Presley!
OK, I'm glad that I'm not the only one that gets such variety!! My theory is that it's all in the outfit. Certain tops make me look WAY more pregnant than others.
I started laughing hysterically at this vid... then I started to cry hysterically like at a funeral.... Yea, I'm pregnant. What the heck was that about??
Thank you! It's actually one of Meg's maternity shirt that I borrowed on loan!!
LOL! That's another big one!! I'll add all of these to the description! And thank you so much.
When I was pregnant with my 3rd child I heard "are you having twins? , you so huge" dah! I hate when people were trying to touch my belly so my face was probably saying it for me, and guess what- no one did it after my look.
I'm using my dad's account but my aunt was pregnant with a 4th child and this lady walked up to her and said r u having twins?My aunt got mad.
Thank you Keri and Brooke! Presley is half-Japanese and I get this ALL THE TIME! OK, I have to do one on newborn etiquette now. =)
Absolutely true, I've heard it all. Thanks for giving tops on what to say instead, I need to forward this video to all my family and especially my coworkers
i didnt care when ppl said my belly as huge....and even now at 14 weeks they are doing it again!
Amy Provan j jm
my mom kept eating strawberry cake and thot i was going to be pink
lol 😁
Danielle Heckart howould you think that in your womb and how would you remember thinking that?
Tacami her mom thought that she would be pink
Maryanne Carey I think her mom would.... you know what never mind 😑
My mom is a good mom but she has a new baby
When I was expecting my son, we went to a church function. Halfway through it, a couple of the older ladies in the church motioned for me to come over . . . I was around 38 weeks at the time. They had me stand there and then had their husbands, who they'd been trying to get to go on a diet or at the least stop scarfing down the huge plates of cookies on offer at the event, stand next to me. They started laughing and pointed out that both of the three of us, the pregnant woman had the smallest belly. When they men tried to say they were actually the same size as me, the wives came back with, "Yes, but she's going to lose all hers. What's your excuse?" It was one of the funniest moments in my pregnancy and it was nice knowing that even as huge and far along as I was, I still did not have the biggest belly in the room!
As for the touching - I've never minded people touching my belly with their hands after I reached the point where you could feel the baby move. I did have someone try to lay their cheek against my stomach and that creeped me out a lot, but just laying a hand on my belly to feel the baby kick - and he kicked A LOT - wasn't a big deal as long as they asked first.
DeAnn McBride most don't ask they just do
Something that should be added is to never ask "Are you pregnant?" If the lady is already showing a bump, there is no need to ask, NONE. And at my work at least two people asked me if I was pregnant, a coworker touched my belly. I swear I wanted to die when that happened. I'm not even fat, I'm a virgin, never been kissed, and very much single. Essentially when somebody asks me that when I wear an empire top or babydoll, I feel like they're saying I have a huge belly.
Posted this on my facebook and it's struck up the best conversation! I really like what you say about not commenting on belly size. I think most people expect that a mom wants to hear how small/tiny she is but either way I would feel defensive of da bump!
You've nailed it! I've already dealt with people telling me my bump is either small or like I'm ready to pop, it's rude and insulting either way. I do exercise throughout my pregnancy so it would be nice if more people just said I look great. I can't stand the stories of other People's awful labors and am sick of hearing the sleep now while you can.... IM NOT SLEEPING WELL AT ALL. You're right, with all the back, leg, hip, and heartburn pain as well as peeing often and not finding a comfy position... how am I supposed to enjoy sleep now?! Great video thanks!
I think the worst one I got was at a New Year's Eve party. I was about 8 mo. preggo, wearing a new maternity top, and thought I was looking pretty cute. Then a girl came in and said, "Oh Cher! I didn't recognize you! I was wondering who the fat girl standing by the stove was. hahaha." Yeah. I wasn't laughing. I pretty much just wanted to burst into tears and go home.
I think telling her to shove off would have been a good thing
i'm sure you were looking FABULOUS and she was just jelly ;)
I’m sorry. I bet you looked cute. 🙂
hehe, I always liked being "Huh-uge!" so it never bothered me but I have a friend who was on bed rest for possible failure to thrive in the womb so when people commented on how lucky she was for being tiny it really hurt her. I ran into an employee at Panera Bread that was practically an SNL character with how fast she repeatedly put her foot in her mouth commenting on my belly. Her heart was in the right place so I just laughed it off but MAN that girl obviously had never had kids. ;)
Awe, thank you!! Such a great compliment. =) At least this one is applicable to non-moms too, right?!
When I was 9 months pregnant (or close to popping) I kept getting congratulations and assumptions that I was only like 5 or 7 months pregnant.
Also I'm not aloud to share my labor and delivery story, its too calming and not so extreme as most, its too "fantasy" to believe.
8 hours of labor (6 hours without medicine, 2 hours with)
When I was 9 months pregs with my first this man was staring ay me while eating at my favorite restaurant he made me nervous so me and my husband were about t o pay the check and leave when the waitress told us that man bought my dinner when we thanked him his wife told me he was scared thinking I was going to go any minute him having 3 kids I told him still got some cooking to do thanked him and left
my fav comment with my second was "you look like it could be twins,
are you sure it's not." REALLY!!!!! NO I AM JUST REALLY FAT. THANKS!
Awe, thanks for sharing Marie!! Yes, it does make you feel weird. That said, I just told Connie this (d'oh)!
When my aunt was pregnant, she was actually asked if she was worried about miscarrying like she did 7 years before. The trauma of the miscarriage was one of the reasons why it was so hard for her to get pregnant again. That really scared her because it was already a high risk pregnancy, & she did almost lose him twice. Luckily my cousin is a teen now & totally healthy. That person was lucky my mom, the eldest & very protective, wasn't there because my mom would have screamed at that person & chased them away.
When are you due?
March 12th
(Stares at large belly)
Wow! You have a long way to go!
(My thought: I'm pregnant with twins man but thanks for that)
My sister's neighbor yelled across their street " you have been pregnant forever...are you ever going to have that baby?? My sisters aqward reply was "um yeah, he was born 3 weeks ago"!! They haven't spoken since !!
36 weeks with #2 and the other day I was shopping at Whole Foods and got a "woah you're ready to go" by some lady walking by me. When I was pregnant with my daughter my dad actually pulled the trying to touch the belly so I gave his a nice pat too
Haha! I'd do that to my dad too. Hope all goes well with baby #2 :)
LOL!!! I just love kids... absolutely zero filter!
I think the most uncomfortable comments were when they kept telling us that we made the baby well, and we did a good job making that baby..
im glad you mentioned the people who like to say what they did or didn't do during their pregnancy
People think they know everything sometimes
I was told during my third pregnancy on multiple times wow with a gasp is this a good thing? Or someone will say oh no. I only got one congratulation!
The comment I got when I was pregnant was "you haven't given birth yet"
thank God! a seven second intro and got straight to the point! when I saw another video on the same topic, I waited 13minutes straight for the video to go straight to the point. I would smash the like button for getting straight to the point and not waiting for the last minute just to get to the main topic.
I'm 27 weeks and people tell me all the time that I'm barely showing. I want to throat punch them, 1 because it makes me feel like I'm doing something wrong(even though I'm measuring right on), and 2 because even if they don't think I look it... I feel like a blimp. Since I work with a bunch of 20 something's and teenagers I also have a bunch of people telling me that pregnancy is gross and the idea of a baby moving makes them think of an alien trying to escape.
I love this video! I got all the "You are huge!" comments. The one that hurt the most was "Are you having twins?!" And when I would say no they would continue with "Are you sure?" sheesh. People have no idea how hurtful their comments can be!
Who else is still a kid and watches mom tip videos?
Bc ur not alone (I promise)😏😉
I’m a teen mom and whilst I was pregnant at 16. It was annoying when people said I was too young to give birth.
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I just cat
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I are cat read the words in the middle to see a mesange
Wow cool
Thanks!!
U r beautiful just the way u r
And ur super nice😍😳
Omg I did it I love to set goals😂😂🔥
i just happened to find these videos on youtube.. in my 'recommended' section and OMG i love them!!
im not going to comment so much on what has been said to me but more on the 'touchy feely' people. i HATE being touched, despite being 25 weeks pregnant im so sick of people wanting to touch my bump., so much so iv had a tshirt made to stop people touching me. it happens at the bus stop and at work... and these people touching are STRANGERS! family , friends and medical professionals are people i trust... strangers... are people i dont know therefore dont trust, and i dont know where thier hands have been... *shudder* im almost dreading my little one being born because im worried that people will want to touch.. and il have a huge issue with that,,,(obv fam n friends il be fine with) Does anyone else have these problems?
Why am I not normal...? A normal 14 year old boy would probably watch stupid stuff on RUclips like "dank memes vine compilation" or "epic fails part 7", and then there's me, watching videos for pregnant women when I'm a boy who is not capable to be pregnant and will also not have a wife...😏
If anything, this video is for people who aren't pregnant!
Well, now you know what not to say to pregnant women around you. Also, we already tend to know what we don’t want strangers to say to us, so I think people who aren’t pregnant are the target audience. Don’t get caught up on being “normal” it doesn’t exist and it’s too fun to yourself anyway. :)
If anything your doing what normal people should do - educating yourself on how to respect women
At a party when I was 7 mo pregnant, "Oh Cher! I didn't recognize you. I was wondering who the fat girl by the stove was. hahaha" Yeah, I just about burst into tears and left.
Your top is beautiful! I love this color on you :) And the illustrations are hilarious:D
Wooohoo! This guy said that to me and I was like... if I wasn't taken, LOL! ;)
One thing to never say is. Whose is it? If they don't already know who you're with then why bother.
Oh my goodness I'm 32 weeks and I get almost all of these at least 5 times a day by random strangers
i am nine yrs old!
i heart this channel
Districts Unite im 10
Lol Same I’m way young for this channel
i swear everyone is so much meaner when pregnant, im 16 weeks and everyone says that im to fat or to skinny they also pick at my age because me and my fiance wanted kids younger rather that later I'm 19 and i get so much judgement when i say anything i want to breatfeed and most people i know are discusted that i would do that but oh well my baby my life
At my baby shower with my first, my non-mother/single friend wanted to know if I could get ANY bigger! Yes, I probably could, I just needed another slice of cake. Btw LOVE your stuff!!
Love the comics! they are super adorable and love the top!!
My husband asked me to buy him some chips and pop and bring it to him at work (because he was on an unplanned night shift) and while I was waiting in line to pay for it, a random 50 years old men (or about) came running at me from the door, touched my belly and told me I shouldn't eat those chips and drink that pop that I'm gonna make my baby sugar high and he's never gonna be calm when he's gonna be born. My answer at that moment was looking at him with big eyes and ask him who the F&*( are you?
I would have the exact same response. #rude
i hated people asking to touch my belly. i always told people, "if you want to touch something, rub my feet!" No one ever agreed to rub my feet but it made me feel better than flat out saying NO.
"You must be having a daughter, because they say you lose your looks to a girl."
I could literally write a book.... Worst things said to me while i was pregnant (no particular order): "Were you guys planning on this??", "Do you think you're ready?", "How are you feeling?" (not a bad question, but seriously - I heard this question a ZILLION TIMES A DAY, and most of the pregnancy, I felt like crap, so thanks for asking!), "When are you having the next one?" (hold on, WHAT?!), "What name did you pick?" followed by "Why aren't you telling people the name you picked?", "Have you tried (fill in the blank)?" (STOP with the advice - I have literally read a zillion articles and books about pregnancy - I've tried it all!), "Are you STILL pregnant?!", and one of my LEAST favorite comments - "Welcome to parenthood - get ready for having no life and no free time!" (really? - my new family IS my life and I'm going to LOVE spending all my "free" time with them!). Just stick to saying things like "Wow, you've got to be so excited!" and "Congrats, you'll be a great mom!" :-)
Some one said your gonna pop to my mom when I was in her belly and we was in America
Totally agree with ALL 5! Someone once said to me in the checkout line at the grocery store, "Are you due like, tomorrow??" When I was in my 7th month. I got in my car and cried. LOL. But seriously, how could a comment like that help or encourage ANY pregnant woman? The things people say! And also the fact that perfect strangers think they have a right to comment AT you period, just because you're pregnant. So obnoxious. Rant over. Great video!
When I was going to start maternity leave and a lady told me you are pregnant. I was sad because I never had a baby belly. my daughter was more in my boob area. From this day I always can picture the lady's face. I don't even think she believed me. HaHa
One of the things said to me was, "Of course you feel tired and dizzy; it comes with being pregnant." Geez, talk about empathy! How was I supposed to respond to that?!
You look great
This week!! Maternity Pants Pt. 2!
I didn't appreciate other women telling me there horror labor stories to me while I was pregnant. Keep it to yourself!
Yea like seriously what's up with that? >:| thank you for making the already scary experience even more daunting
The worst thing that someone said to me was an older woman that had to be about 70. I was in Walmart she just walks up to me and say 'You are too young to be pregnant. What are you 16?' I just kept walking. That women followed me about for about 20 mins. I was 7 months a long and 24 with my birthday just around the corner.
I'm guilty I have touched the belly
It’s ok as long as they are ok with it
when I was pregnant a lot of people said these to me and I wish they could have just asked me how I was, now my daughter is 6 months old now, I love the what's up mom's videos
Why are people saying their age?!!!?
To point out that its not just for moms, a lot of their audiance is kids and teens
My Mother in law said "That's not a baby bump, that's a pasta bump!" Wow, thanks!
You live in Yorktown I saw you
Jonathan Ortega
I'm a very busy mom because I'm pregnant with twins right now (28 weeks! ) ,I have one daughter Abby which is 16 years old and two boys George 10 and Jack 4 so I heard everything and went through everything ( I'm 36 today , I started my pregnancy near 20 )